1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:03,960 Hello everyone and welcome to another podcast episode of Busy 2 00:00:03,960 --> 00:00:05,680 Glowing up. I am so. 3 00:00:05,680 --> 00:00:08,280 Happy to be back you guys. I know I took a little break 4 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:10,600 from uploading but I am so excited. 5 00:00:10,600 --> 00:00:15,880 For today's episode, I felt really called to do this topic 6 00:00:15,880 --> 00:00:18,160 which is. Going to be focusing all on 7 00:00:18,160 --> 00:00:21,320 becoming the prize, viewing yourself as the main character. 8 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:25,000 I felt intuitively that people just need to hear this right now 9 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:26,880 and that is becoming the version of. 10 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:29,360 Yourself where you are. Putting yourself up on that. 11 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,520 Pedestal where you just have. This energy to you where you 12 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:35,600 don't see. Anybody above you like you just 13 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:38,520 see yourself? As that girl and having this 14 00:00:38,520 --> 00:00:43,000 mindset I find unlocks so many more doors for you, this energy. 15 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:46,840 Is very attractive to. Be around and it feels. 16 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:49,240 Really good for yourself to. Embodying this type of energy. 17 00:00:49,240 --> 00:00:51,320 So in today's episode, we're going to be talking all about 18 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:53,000 how to have that main character energy. 19 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:54,560 How? To view yourself as a. 20 00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:57,920 Prize Obviously, I always talk about relationships, so we're 21 00:00:57,920 --> 00:01:01,400 going to be diving into making sure that in your relationships 22 00:01:01,400 --> 00:01:04,120 that you are putting yourself on that pedestal, viewing yourself. 23 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:06,320 As a prize, because that is also what I. 24 00:01:06,320 --> 00:01:09,040 Teach. In my blueprint and all of my 25 00:01:09,040 --> 00:01:13,040 content, I talk about putting yourself up on that pedestal in 26 00:01:13,040 --> 00:01:16,560 order to get the treatment that you want from your person, in 27 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:19,000 order to have people wrapped around your finger, loving you, 28 00:01:19,360 --> 00:01:21,360 wanting to do the most. For you, because it's always. 29 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:23,720 Going to be when you. Are. 30 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:27,040 Valuing yourself highly, you are pouring. 31 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:30,200 All of that love back. Towards yourself, you're not 32 00:01:30,200 --> 00:01:31,840 putting up anyone on the pedestal. 33 00:01:31,840 --> 00:01:33,680 You're not thinking that anyone is far of your. 34 00:01:33,680 --> 00:01:36,080 Reach are too good for. You you don't entertain any of 35 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:39,240 those thoughts and that as a result, is when everybody in 36 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:41,760 your life is going to. Be obsessed with you. 37 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:44,240 In a good way. OK, so let's. 38 00:01:44,240 --> 00:01:46,600 Get straight into it because I know my audience. 39 00:01:46,600 --> 00:01:50,000 I know what you guys want, so I'm going to tell you. 40 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:53,480 Exactly how to yourself as the prize? 41 00:01:53,480 --> 00:01:56,360 In a relationship where you are putting yourself on a pedestal 42 00:01:56,360 --> 00:01:59,240 and as a result, the man that you are in a relationship with 43 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:00,880 or the person that you are manifesting is. 44 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:02,760 Literally head over heels obsessed with you. 45 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:07,080 And this is not about playing games or following like some 46 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:09,759 strategy to get him to like you. This is all about energy. 47 00:02:09,759 --> 00:02:11,720 I'm never going to sit here and tell you that. 48 00:02:11,720 --> 00:02:14,400 You need to. Say the right things and dress 49 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:18,280 the right way and put on this little act for a man. 50 00:02:18,280 --> 00:02:20,960 To obsess over you. And like you, because that's 51 00:02:20,960 --> 00:02:22,000 just not the. Case. 52 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:23,640 It's quite the opposite, actually. 53 00:02:23,640 --> 00:02:27,440 If you find yourself catering to a man, pleasing him, saying all 54 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:31,000 the right things, trying to. Create this little perfect good. 55 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:35,400 Girl persona where you would do anything to make him happy. 56 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:38,440 That actually can be very repelling to a man so. 57 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:41,640 The way I like to teach it is. Kind of stepping into the energy 58 00:02:41,640 --> 00:02:43,400 where you're just like, this is who I am. 59 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:46,880 Obviously if you view. Yourself like a fucking queen 60 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:49,000 and you know how? Valuable you are. 61 00:02:49,120 --> 00:02:52,480 And you're not? Afraid to say how it is, how 62 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:54,440 you. Feel about certain things and 63 00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:55,760 you're not going to please any man. 64 00:02:56,120 --> 00:03:00,200 You're not going to sit around and try to be this nice girl. 65 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:02,760 It is so attractive to be the type of. 66 00:03:02,760 --> 00:03:06,040 Person that just owns who they are, they're not willing to 67 00:03:06,040 --> 00:03:09,360 change or bend backwards for anyone to make them like them. 68 00:03:09,640 --> 00:03:12,480 It's kind of like either you like me or you don't. 69 00:03:12,480 --> 00:03:14,840 I'm not going to sit here and try to convince you to like me. 70 00:03:15,160 --> 00:03:18,360 This is who I am type of energy, and that's really attractive. 71 00:03:18,360 --> 00:03:22,120 And obviously you want to approach this in like a feminine 72 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:24,080 way, right? You don't want to be trying to 73 00:03:24,080 --> 00:03:26,840 challenge this man and compete with him because that's not what 74 00:03:26,840 --> 00:03:29,040 we're doing here. But it's also finding that 75 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:31,920 balance and being like, I know who I am. 76 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:35,320 I know I'm a valuable woman, I know what I bring to the table. 77 00:03:35,320 --> 00:03:39,200 I know that there are so many men who are highly interested in 78 00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:41,720 me. So honey, you are the lucky 1 to 79 00:03:41,720 --> 00:03:43,320 have me. Here OK, not the. 80 00:03:43,320 --> 00:03:45,840 Other way around. Obviously if you're. 81 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:48,000 In a relationship where your man is treating you really great 82 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:49,160 and. He's like a really great person. 83 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:50,880 Like, obviously you're lucky too, but. 84 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:54,280 Don't spend too too much time saying Oh my God, I'm so lucky 85 00:03:54,280 --> 00:03:55,040 to. Have you? 86 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:56,560 What would I do without? You. 87 00:03:56,840 --> 00:04:00,680 I'd be nothing without you. No no no bestie, remember who 88 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:04,560 you are when you shift yourself concept and start seeing 89 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:07,240 yourself. As the type of girl that. 90 00:04:07,240 --> 00:04:09,840 Walks into a man's life and changes it forever. 91 00:04:10,120 --> 00:04:11,920 Your relationships. Are going to change forever. 92 00:04:11,920 --> 00:04:15,120 I'm telling you right now, the only thing that's getting in 93 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:18,079 your way from that man showing up the way that you want or 94 00:04:18,079 --> 00:04:20,200 attracting the type of men that you want in you to your life. 95 00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:22,480 Treating you like a queen is just your mindset. 96 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:24,920 And when you change that, they change too, because the men in 97 00:04:24,920 --> 00:04:27,040 your life are just a reflection of the way. 98 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:28,720 That you see yourself. It is always. 99 00:04:28,720 --> 00:04:30,440 Going to be that way. I talk a lot about. 100 00:04:30,440 --> 00:04:33,200 This in my blueprint and essentially. 101 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:36,120 If you. Look back on your dating life, 102 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:38,720 your dating patterns, the type of men that you attract. 103 00:04:38,840 --> 00:04:41,080 What are some patterns that you are noticing? 104 00:04:41,080 --> 00:04:44,880 Are you attracting similar types of men where they make you feel 105 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:47,680 a similar type of way? Maybe that's they're always. 106 00:04:47,680 --> 00:04:49,800 Triggering you. They're making you feel anxious. 107 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:52,520 They're making you feel as though you're not. 108 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:54,280 Worthy. Of a loving, committed 109 00:04:54,280 --> 00:04:57,600 relationship. Look into your past 110 00:04:57,600 --> 00:04:59,480 relationships. And see what was the. 111 00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:02,800 Pattern happening there and if you have a pattern happening, 112 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:06,280 thing is you most likely are attracting these types of men 113 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:09,560 based on your current self concept and what you believe you 114 00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:12,840 are deserving and worthy of or you are tracking these types of 115 00:05:12,840 --> 00:05:14,360 men. It's either two things and I 116 00:05:14,360 --> 00:05:16,040 also. Like I go a lot. 117 00:05:16,040 --> 00:05:17,800 More in depth about this in my blueprint, so if you're 118 00:05:17,800 --> 00:05:20,640 interested you can find that in the description. 119 00:05:20,880 --> 00:05:24,360 But essentially it's either one or two things. 120 00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:27,720 It could be yourself concept where you are. 121 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:29,360 Feeling as though. You are not good enough. 122 00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:32,080 That you. Are the problem that 123 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:35,000 relationships just never? Work out for you or you can have 124 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:38,480 a really. Great self concept and be really 125 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:40,800 confident within yourself. You know you're an amazing 126 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:45,000 woman, but you are believing that all the men out there are 127 00:05:45,000 --> 00:05:47,240 cheaters. All the men out there are going 128 00:05:47,240 --> 00:05:48,000 to. Screw you. 129 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:53,960 Over that there is no good men around or that it's just never 130 00:05:53,960 --> 00:05:55,760 going to. Work out you. 131 00:05:55,760 --> 00:06:00,120 Are only going to attract those types of men if you continue to. 132 00:06:00,280 --> 00:06:02,760 Believe that to be true. About men and trust me like. 133 00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:04,040 I used to do this. Too. 134 00:06:04,040 --> 00:06:06,080 And I used to sit there and wonder, like, why am I 135 00:06:06,080 --> 00:06:09,400 attracting these types of men? And then I really sat down with 136 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:12,160 myself and like, my beliefs about men are shit. 137 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:17,360 Like, why am I thinking all of these negative thoughts about 138 00:06:17,360 --> 00:06:19,800 men, thinking that men are terrible, they're not good, 139 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:22,680 they're cheaters. And then I'm expecting for 140 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:28,080 Prince Charming to walk in and be like this amazing guy when I 141 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:30,320 can't even hold that thought in my mind. 142 00:06:30,320 --> 00:06:33,440 I'm so hyper focused on the opposite. 143 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:35,800 The reason why you're attracting those types of men. 144 00:06:36,120 --> 00:06:39,160 Is because. You get more of what you focus 145 00:06:39,160 --> 00:06:41,520 on. You can't attract a great man 146 00:06:41,520 --> 00:06:44,520 into your life if you can't even open your mind up to the. 147 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:47,440 Possibility of that if. You are constantly thinking how 148 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:51,120 hard it is to find love, how hard it is to find a good guy. 149 00:06:51,120 --> 00:06:53,520 If you're on dating apps and you're thinking like all of 150 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:56,560 these guys on these dating apps are crazy and another thing too, 151 00:06:56,560 --> 00:06:58,000 for all my. Girlies out there who? 152 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:00,440 Don't have a specific person there out in the dating world, 153 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:04,520 don't have your mindset. Just locked in on my dream man 154 00:07:04,520 --> 00:07:06,880 that I have to go on a dating app to find him. 155 00:07:07,120 --> 00:07:10,040 Like no you don't. You definitely don't if you can 156 00:07:10,040 --> 00:07:13,600 just entertain the. Thought of what type of? 157 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:17,680 Man that you want and getting into the feeling of having this 158 00:07:17,680 --> 00:07:21,200 man already in your life. Get clear on how this man makes 159 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:23,760 you feel. Imagine already being in a 160 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:26,400 relationship with him and you're going to attract him. 161 00:07:26,400 --> 00:07:29,800 Like the universe just knows exactly when to give you this 162 00:07:29,800 --> 00:07:33,200 man, how to bring him in. And it's crazy because the 163 00:07:33,280 --> 00:07:34,840 amount of. Success stories that like I've. 164 00:07:34,840 --> 00:07:39,960 Heard of a woman doing this and manifesting their dream man. 165 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:43,000 I had this one client reach out to me and she said because she's 166 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:45,000 like watching my content. She was like I was. 167 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:49,480 At first manifesting a specific person and I got him back but I 168 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:52,600 ended up changing like myself concept realizing I deserve 10 169 00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:55,600 times more and guess what? The perfect man walked into her 170 00:07:55,600 --> 00:07:57,680 life and she's happier than ever. 171 00:07:57,680 --> 00:08:00,560 You guys. Keep your mindset open and. 172 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:03,720 This is where the self. Concept work comes in like. 173 00:08:03,720 --> 00:08:05,520 Get clear what type of. A woman are. 174 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:07,920 You How do you see yourself? What do you believe that you 175 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:09,080 are? Deserving of. 176 00:08:09,320 --> 00:08:12,320 Set that bar up. High, I know I got. 177 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:16,840 Sidetracked with what I was. Saying, but that is so important 178 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:19,880 you guys what you are focused on the. 179 00:08:19,880 --> 00:08:23,080 Beliefs that you have about. Yourself and towards men is 180 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:25,840 going to dictate. How they show up? 181 00:08:25,880 --> 00:08:30,360 And what type of men that you have in your life if you want to 182 00:08:30,360 --> 00:08:33,159 be the prize in your relationships and you want men 183 00:08:33,159 --> 00:08:34,760 to. View you as like. 184 00:08:34,760 --> 00:08:36,559 Holy shit I'm. So lucky to have. 185 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:38,520 Her I'm going to do anything I can to keep. 186 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:39,200 Her. You. 187 00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:42,440 Need to embody that energy. So you need to get clear right 188 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:44,120 now. How am I showing up in my 189 00:08:44,120 --> 00:08:47,360 relationships? Am I obsessing over men? 190 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:50,960 Am I the one that is doing everything for them? 191 00:08:50,960 --> 00:08:52,480 Am I going out of my way for them? 192 00:08:52,480 --> 00:08:57,360 Am I trying to please men or am I grounded in knowing what I 193 00:08:57,360 --> 00:09:00,680 deserve for a man? Am I grounded in knowing how 194 00:09:00,680 --> 00:09:04,360 valuable I am? I'll give you an example on how 195 00:09:04,360 --> 00:09:07,800 you can shift this dynamic completely between you and your 196 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:10,920 man and have him viewing you. As the prize you are. 197 00:09:10,920 --> 00:09:13,760 Going to start giving yourself reasons on why. 198 00:09:13,760 --> 00:09:18,000 He's so lucky to have you. When you do this, you are 199 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:21,640 programming your subconscious mind, you are completely 200 00:09:21,640 --> 00:09:25,800 changing your identity and this is going to completely boost 201 00:09:25,800 --> 00:09:27,920 your self esteem and it's not going to feel. 202 00:09:27,920 --> 00:09:31,360 Forced whatsoever or you're. Playing this act of I'm trying 203 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:33,120 to be the prize, but I don't actually. 204 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:36,040 Feel that way? If you can successfully convince 205 00:09:36,040 --> 00:09:39,520 yourself and give yourself reasons why this man is the 206 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:43,920 lucky 1 to have you and why. You are so special. 207 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:47,240 You are going to see. Your entire relationship dynamic 208 00:09:47,240 --> 00:09:50,960 shift between you and him. I have done a 180 with myself 209 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:54,640 concept so I know exactly what. It feels like to be. 210 00:09:54,640 --> 00:09:56,920 In relationships. Where you feel like you're. 211 00:09:56,920 --> 00:10:01,080 Not being respected, you're not being valued, you're not getting 212 00:10:01,080 --> 00:10:03,080 the treatment that you deserve. And. 213 00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:06,800 You are just so tired of it. You are ready to be. 214 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:09,360 Be treated like a queen, right? Like you see other people. 215 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:11,640 Being in these loving relationships and being so. 216 00:10:11,640 --> 00:10:14,040 Happy and you're just like. Fuck, like why can't I have 217 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:15,040 that? I'm here. 218 00:10:15,040 --> 00:10:16,800 To tell you like you. Can't have that. 219 00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:22,000 Everyone is deserving of love. I once had someone comment on my 220 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:25,360 Instagram post saying well you know what? 221 00:10:25,520 --> 00:10:28,440 God, it just. Doesn't intend for everyone to 222 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:31,400 have a loving relationship. Like some people are just placed 223 00:10:31,400 --> 00:10:35,840 on this earth to experience extremely hard relationships. 224 00:10:36,360 --> 00:10:39,520 And I was like. Oh my God, like it breaks. 225 00:10:39,520 --> 00:10:43,760 My heart to see someone. Post that because at a core 226 00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:46,480 level like we are. Creating a reality. 227 00:10:46,480 --> 00:10:48,000 The people in our life. We have. 228 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:50,960 Attracted them into our life based on who we are being. 229 00:10:51,280 --> 00:10:54,440 At some level. They energetically matched our 230 00:10:54,440 --> 00:10:56,440 energy. Because you will not attract 231 00:10:56,440 --> 00:11:00,200 someone into your life that is not on the same vibration as 232 00:11:00,200 --> 00:11:01,720 you. It's just not going to work. 233 00:11:02,080 --> 00:11:05,280 You won't be able to be in a relationship with someone that 234 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:09,880 is just not on your same frequency when you hold a belief 235 00:11:09,880 --> 00:11:12,400 that I don't. Deserve to be happy. 236 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:16,440 That my relationships are hard. My story is that I never get 237 00:11:16,440 --> 00:11:19,200 what I want in relationships. My story is that men always 238 00:11:19,200 --> 00:11:21,960 treat me like shit. That I am the girl that just 239 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:23,400 never. Gets to. 240 00:11:23,400 --> 00:11:27,960 Experience the love that she wants because that's just the 241 00:11:27,960 --> 00:11:29,600 way it is in my life. That's So what I'm. 242 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:30,960 Used to. That's what I've. 243 00:11:30,960 --> 00:11:33,760 Experienced for years and years and that's just how it's been 244 00:11:33,760 --> 00:11:36,720 for me, that. Story right there is the. 245 00:11:36,720 --> 00:11:39,400 Problem and when I. Decided to ditch that. 246 00:11:39,400 --> 00:11:44,200 Story for myself and say I am so fucking done attracting these 247 00:11:44,200 --> 00:11:46,920 types of relationships I am. So tired. 248 00:11:47,040 --> 00:11:50,040 Of having all of this stress when it comes. 249 00:11:50,040 --> 00:11:52,160 To relationships like I. Want it to be easy. 250 00:11:52,480 --> 00:11:55,280 I want to just get whatever I want in relationships. 251 00:11:55,440 --> 00:11:57,800 I don't want to have to work hard for it. 252 00:11:58,120 --> 00:12:01,200 I started to go. Inward and realize holy shit I 253 00:12:01,200 --> 00:12:05,400 am so amazing and I have done a disservice to. 254 00:12:05,400 --> 00:12:10,880 Myself all these years by. Not loving myself enough by not 255 00:12:10,920 --> 00:12:15,040 having my standards high enough. Because why was I letting? 256 00:12:15,040 --> 00:12:18,480 This happen, Why was I letting? This slide, you know it's. 257 00:12:18,480 --> 00:12:20,320 Also, that's where the accountability comes in. 258 00:12:20,320 --> 00:12:21,240 You need to be. Like. 259 00:12:21,600 --> 00:12:25,400 OK, you know what, that version of myself, I'm completely 260 00:12:25,640 --> 00:12:28,960 killing her off. And that is step one to shifting 261 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:31,680 yourself concept. As you guys know, I am a 262 00:12:32,480 --> 00:12:33,720 manifestation coach. I. 263 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:38,200 Teach you how to shift. Yourself concept to manifest 264 00:12:38,720 --> 00:12:41,760 anything that you want in relationships specifically. 265 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:44,120 That's what I like to. Focus on when it comes to 266 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:47,000 shifting yourself concept, you need to get clear on who you are 267 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:50,120 being right now and what things. About you, are you? 268 00:12:50,160 --> 00:12:53,400 Ready to change because you know that that version of. 269 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:55,280 Yourself has expired like she's. Done. 270 00:12:55,560 --> 00:12:57,200 You're done being that type of girl. 271 00:12:57,760 --> 00:13:03,080 For example, low effort men. You are so done dealing with men 272 00:13:03,080 --> 00:13:06,360 who don't show up in the. Way that you deserve. 273 00:13:06,360 --> 00:13:08,280 You want men? To buy you flowers. 274 00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:12,240 And open doors and take you on expensive dates. 275 00:13:12,480 --> 00:13:15,160 Good. I love that That's the. 276 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:18,040 Only thing you're going to settle for and if it's anything 277 00:13:18,040 --> 00:13:20,960 less you're just not going to talk to them anymore because you 278 00:13:20,960 --> 00:13:23,200 know your worth and value in order to become the. 279 00:13:23,200 --> 00:13:26,400 Prize you need to love. Yourself more than you love. 280 00:13:26,400 --> 00:13:30,280 Anybody else you will always put yourself first before. 281 00:13:30,280 --> 00:13:35,040 Any man you love yourself too much to allow a man to make you. 282 00:13:35,040 --> 00:13:37,400 Feel less. You just simply won't allow 283 00:13:37,400 --> 00:13:40,000 that. And this is what happens when 284 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:43,320 you spend a lot of time working on yourself, doing the inner 285 00:13:43,320 --> 00:13:45,800 work, doing the self concept work. 286 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:49,120 You are going to view yourself as. 287 00:13:49,480 --> 00:13:52,280 You know. I have invested so much time 288 00:13:52,280 --> 00:13:58,800 into myself that I simply refuse to let someone disturb my peace, 289 00:13:59,080 --> 00:14:03,320 to destroy what I have spent so much time working on. 290 00:14:03,880 --> 00:14:06,720 Like for me personally, I have spent so much time working on 291 00:14:06,720 --> 00:14:09,720 myself that if a man were to show up into my life and pull 292 00:14:09,720 --> 00:14:13,280 something that is crossing my boundary, you're gone, you're 293 00:14:13,280 --> 00:14:15,480 cut out. It's just silly for me to 294 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:18,000 entertain Someone Like You because I know my worth and 295 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:20,720 value. It just doesn't match my energy. 296 00:14:20,720 --> 00:14:23,560 Simple. As the secret is to view. 297 00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:28,160 Yourself as someone that is extremely valuable, extremely 298 00:14:28,400 --> 00:14:30,600 irreplaceable. If you see yourself. 299 00:14:30,600 --> 00:14:33,400 As a type of woman like I know I am. 300 00:14:33,400 --> 00:14:37,240 So rare that. When men come across me. 301 00:14:37,440 --> 00:14:40,520 They will do. Anything to have me like I'm the 302 00:14:40,520 --> 00:14:42,800 type of girl. That is so easy to. 303 00:14:42,840 --> 00:14:45,600 Fall in love with. And The thing is, I started 304 00:14:45,680 --> 00:14:49,480 viewing myself this way and naturally every single man 305 00:14:49,800 --> 00:14:52,680 telling me, Oh my God, I am falling in love with. 306 00:14:52,680 --> 00:14:55,000 You like so fast and it was crazy. 307 00:14:55,000 --> 00:14:56,720 And the reason? Why is because I? 308 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:59,480 Love myself so much. That it's like, who wouldn't? 309 00:14:59,880 --> 00:15:02,240 Want to love you? You know it's all about your 310 00:15:02,240 --> 00:15:04,400 energy. OK, if you love yourself like. 311 00:15:04,400 --> 00:15:06,840 Genuinely, the men in your life are going to. 312 00:15:06,840 --> 00:15:10,040 Love you too, because. It's your energy that's coming 313 00:15:10,040 --> 00:15:11,720 off. This is unconscious. 314 00:15:11,720 --> 00:15:14,200 You guys. This isn't about strategy 315 00:15:14,200 --> 00:15:16,560 because, you know, energy does not. 316 00:15:16,560 --> 00:15:19,480 Lie if you are. In an energetic. 317 00:15:19,480 --> 00:15:24,760 State where you are just. A aura of love. 318 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:27,440 Unconsciously, people are going to feel. 319 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:29,480 It. They're not going to be able to 320 00:15:29,480 --> 00:15:31,400 understand. Why they feel this way? 321 00:15:31,400 --> 00:15:32,960 Around you. But they're going to. 322 00:15:32,960 --> 00:15:36,080 Have that vibe around you. O this is also. 323 00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:39,160 Like when it comes to manifesting a specific person. 324 00:15:39,520 --> 00:15:41,520 OK. It's not about strategy. 325 00:15:41,920 --> 00:15:45,200 It's never been about strategy, and that's why, like so many. 326 00:15:45,200 --> 00:15:46,480 People, they get caught up. Like why? 327 00:15:46,480 --> 00:15:49,400 Is nothing working. I did this, I did this, but what 328 00:15:49,400 --> 00:15:50,160 is? Your energy. 329 00:15:50,160 --> 00:15:51,960 Like right now. Like, are you desperate? 330 00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:53,920 What is your feeling state right now? 331 00:15:53,920 --> 00:15:56,200 Because that's what matters. I don't care if you affirmed. 332 00:15:56,200 --> 00:16:00,280 For like 3 days straight. What is your energy? 333 00:16:00,280 --> 00:16:02,360 Like, right now, because that's what's repelling him. 334 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:04,520 That's why he's not here. Because a lot of people. 335 00:16:04,520 --> 00:16:06,600 Think, Oh my God, I want this person to reach out. 336 00:16:06,600 --> 00:16:10,080 I want this guy to do this. Say this, say that, but the only 337 00:16:10,080 --> 00:16:12,680 reason. Why he's not showing up right 338 00:16:12,680 --> 00:16:15,600 now in the way that you want is probably because your own energy 339 00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:17,240 is holding him back. And when you make that little. 340 00:16:17,240 --> 00:16:20,000 Shift he's going to show. Up in the way that you want. 341 00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:21,600 He's going to be blowing up your phone. 342 00:16:21,600 --> 00:16:24,720 I see it happen all the time. It really is that simple. 343 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:27,520 I feel like I keep getting sidetracked with. 344 00:16:27,760 --> 00:16:31,520 What I'm trying to say. But to view yourself as the 345 00:16:31,520 --> 00:16:33,240 prize? You need to. 346 00:16:33,400 --> 00:16:36,680 First, like I said before. You need to know and recognize 347 00:16:36,680 --> 00:16:39,600 that. You are very rare. 348 00:16:39,600 --> 00:16:42,840 To come by okay, and this is. True as well if. 349 00:16:42,840 --> 00:16:45,360 You are looking for like a masculine man. 350 00:16:45,360 --> 00:16:49,960 A masculine man is going to recognize when a woman is 351 00:16:50,400 --> 00:16:54,000 different, where she stands out from others, and it's not going 352 00:16:54,000 --> 00:16:56,800 to be about her appearance. It's always going to be. 353 00:16:57,000 --> 00:17:00,960 Stemming down to her energy and the way that you have energy 354 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:05,000 that stands out is by creating this love within yourself, doing 355 00:17:05,000 --> 00:17:07,839 the inner work and creating really strong. 356 00:17:07,839 --> 00:17:09,520 Beliefs about yourself where you. 357 00:17:09,520 --> 00:17:11,839 Genuinely believe that you. Are that girl? 358 00:17:12,319 --> 00:17:13,720 People easily fall in love with you. 359 00:17:13,720 --> 00:17:17,040 You are so magnetic that when a man is around you, he. 360 00:17:17,040 --> 00:17:20,440 Feels like his best self. And as a result, he wants to. 361 00:17:20,440 --> 00:17:23,920 Show up as his best self. He wants to do nice things for 362 00:17:23,920 --> 00:17:26,560 you because it feels so fucking good for him to treat. 363 00:17:26,560 --> 00:17:30,480 A goddess like you like. That's the thing, when you're 364 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:35,240 with the right man, he's going to do everything he can. 365 00:17:35,520 --> 00:17:39,800 To make you happy because. It brings him joy and for those 366 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:43,440 who are wanting to change the way their man is currently 367 00:17:43,440 --> 00:17:46,040 showing up like. Yes, of course you can. 368 00:17:46,040 --> 00:17:48,040 Change the way someone is showing up, because again, this 369 00:17:48,040 --> 00:17:50,320 is all like an internal thing, changing yourself concept, 370 00:17:50,320 --> 00:17:52,040 changing the beliefs. That you have about yourself. 371 00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:56,680 But this is also going to come with realizing, holy shit. 372 00:17:56,880 --> 00:17:59,120 OK, you know what? This guy is so lucky. 373 00:17:59,120 --> 00:18:01,600 To have me like I've always been the prize. 374 00:18:01,600 --> 00:18:04,640 I know I have so many options. I know that there. 375 00:18:04,640 --> 00:18:06,400 Are. So many other men out. 376 00:18:06,400 --> 00:18:10,000 There, that would be. Able to give me absolutely 377 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:12,600 anything and everything I wanted, buy me nice things, 378 00:18:12,600 --> 00:18:16,280 spoil me, treat me like a queen so I know my worth and value. 379 00:18:16,280 --> 00:18:17,760 OK, I know I have plenty of options so. 380 00:18:17,760 --> 00:18:19,680 This guy right here. I am choosing him. 381 00:18:19,680 --> 00:18:24,160 He is so lucky and you need to recognize as a woman the man 382 00:18:24,160 --> 00:18:27,040 that you are. With says a lot about. 383 00:18:27,040 --> 00:18:31,000 Him OK like bestie him being seen in public. 384 00:18:31,000 --> 00:18:34,000 With a girl like you. Is a flex for him. 385 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:38,000 You're the type of. Girl that a man brings out in 386 00:18:38,000 --> 00:18:40,600 public and they're like, Oh my God, everyone's like. 387 00:18:40,600 --> 00:18:43,640 How did this guy get this girl? Like what is he doing? 388 00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:46,800 Remind yourself on who? You are OK if you. 389 00:18:46,800 --> 00:18:49,000 Are wanting to be the prize in your relationship you need. 390 00:18:49,000 --> 00:18:52,680 To see yourself as. The celebrity, OK, And he is 391 00:18:52,680 --> 00:18:53,960 your fan? I don't know. 392 00:18:53,960 --> 00:18:55,520 Why? But this helps. 393 00:18:55,520 --> 00:18:59,440 You know, just viewing the man that you are with being your 394 00:18:59,440 --> 00:19:02,400 ultimate fan, he's just willing to do anything to make you 395 00:19:02,400 --> 00:19:05,200 happy. He loves being around you. 396 00:19:05,280 --> 00:19:09,080 You giving him your attention is enough for him. 397 00:19:09,280 --> 00:19:11,800 That's all you need to do in order for him to. 398 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:15,640 Be like obsessing over you because you just are that girl. 399 00:19:16,040 --> 00:19:20,400 You being with him is an ego boost for him, so him simply 400 00:19:20,400 --> 00:19:24,400 being in your energy being. Able to call you his. 401 00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:26,800 Girl is enough. The girls who have. 402 00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:31,520 Their man obsessing over them all have this one similar thing. 403 00:19:31,800 --> 00:19:34,640 They are more concerned with themselves than they are with 404 00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:39,000 that man because they know that they have so many options. 405 00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:40,880 They know. That. 406 00:19:41,160 --> 00:19:44,240 This man that they chose to be their man. 407 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:49,640 Is lucky because they have. Tons of other men who are 408 00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:53,640 willing to give them the same thing or even better, she 409 00:19:53,640 --> 00:19:55,280 doesn't. Worry does this guy like? 410 00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:56,480 Me. Am I good enough? 411 00:19:56,480 --> 00:19:59,600 Do I make him happy? That's not even the concern in 412 00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:02,280 her mind because she's so focused on herself, because it's 413 00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:04,840 inevitable. Like, obviously this man loves 414 00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:07,280 her. Obviously this guy is obsessing 415 00:20:07,280 --> 00:20:08,920 over. Her, she's the type of girl 416 00:20:08,920 --> 00:20:10,080 that. Every man wants. 417 00:20:10,080 --> 00:20:12,760 So this guy is lucky. Period. 418 00:20:12,960 --> 00:20:14,880 I want you to view. Yourself that way. 419 00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:19,600 And it doesn't matter what his title is, even if your man is a 420 00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:25,160 billionaire or a very well known celebrity, I don't care. 421 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:28,920 He's fucking lucky because the moment that you start putting 422 00:20:28,920 --> 00:20:32,760 him up on the pedestal and saying wow, he's so dreamy, I'm 423 00:20:32,760 --> 00:20:34,400 so. Lucky to have a guy like. 424 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:36,200 This in my life. He treats me. 425 00:20:36,200 --> 00:20:38,480 So great, I've never. Had this type of. 426 00:20:38,480 --> 00:20:41,520 Treatment in my life. No no, no bestie, you start 427 00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:45,200 normalizing that. I always get treated like a 428 00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:47,640 queen by men. It's normal for men to buy me 429 00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:51,840 expensive gifts like So what? I'm not going to put this guy on 430 00:20:51,840 --> 00:20:53,160 a pedestal. Because he. 431 00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:56,120 Took me out on a fancy day or he does all these nice things for 432 00:20:56,120 --> 00:20:58,200 me because guess what? Like there's hundreds of other 433 00:20:58,200 --> 00:20:59,840 men that would do the same for me because I'm just. 434 00:20:59,840 --> 00:21:04,040 That type of girl. And that type of mindset is what 435 00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:07,000 gets a man hooked. OK, Because men like a little 436 00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:09,720 challenge. Don't be the nice. 437 00:21:09,720 --> 00:21:12,200 Girl, that's like. Oh my God, I want. 438 00:21:12,200 --> 00:21:15,880 To just be your girl, I'll do. Anything to have you like, no, 439 00:21:16,600 --> 00:21:18,560 no Sir. Like you have to prove yourself 440 00:21:18,560 --> 00:21:23,160 to me because I'm not just going to let anybody into my life. 441 00:21:23,160 --> 00:21:28,960 Okay, you have to prove. To me that you are going to be a 442 00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:31,720 value of me. I'm not here to waste my time. 443 00:21:31,720 --> 00:21:33,760 The girl that sees. Herself as the prize. 444 00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:35,360 Is not going to deal. With bullshit. 445 00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:39,720 The second that a man starts showing up in a way that. 446 00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:42,880 Is disrespectful to her he's. Crossing her boundaries. 447 00:21:43,080 --> 00:21:45,880 Or he's just. Simply not doing it enough. 448 00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:50,240 She's gonna leave like she's not gonna stick around because she 449 00:21:50,240 --> 00:21:54,240 knows that she can have better. Men do it all the time. 450 00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:57,480 Men have an abundance mindset when it comes to women. 451 00:21:57,760 --> 00:22:00,320 They believe that they have. So many options. 452 00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:02,720 There's so many women out there where women are a little 453 00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:05,520 different and it's time to change that. 454 00:22:05,520 --> 00:22:09,240 Women, they see one man. With a few qualities. 455 00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:12,480 That they like and they're like, Oh my God, you know what? 456 00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:13,640 I really like this about this guy. 457 00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:17,400 He has a really great job. He's like very attractive, but. 458 00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:19,240 You know, he's a little hot and cold. 459 00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:22,480 He's not really putting in a lot of effort to me, but he still 460 00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:24,600 takes me out on dates here and there, so I'm going to keep him 461 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:26,640 around. Bestie, why are you keeping this 462 00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:27,960 man around? Do you think this is the only 463 00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:33,120 man that is wealthy and good looking that is going to date 464 00:22:33,120 --> 00:22:35,320 you? No, you have plenty of other 465 00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:38,600 options. There's no reason to settle and 466 00:22:38,600 --> 00:22:40,960 just. Take bits and pieces except. 467 00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:43,960 Bread crumbs. Because he has a few qualities 468 00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:46,240 that you really like. A lot of women I see, they 469 00:22:46,240 --> 00:22:48,720 overlook it and they're like, well, you know. 470 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:51,760 He has a great job. And he takes me out on nice 471 00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:56,040 dates, but he doesn't want to commit to me and so we've been 472 00:22:56,040 --> 00:22:57,400 in a situation. Ship for two. 473 00:22:57,400 --> 00:23:00,320 Years and it's just not going anywhere, but I want him to 474 00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:02,360 change. OK, let's get this man to 475 00:23:02,360 --> 00:23:06,320 change, but that's going to require you to take your energy 476 00:23:06,320 --> 00:23:07,880 back here and have to step away from him. 477 00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:10,080 Well, actually, no, I'm not ready for that. 478 00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:13,040 I don't want to be mean. That's the thing though. 479 00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:16,480 If you are afraid to step away. From a man and you're going to 480 00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:18,720 show him that you're going to stick around no matter what, 481 00:23:18,920 --> 00:23:22,760 he's going to keep showing up the same way men are very simple 482 00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:24,960 and they're going to test you they're going to. 483 00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:27,560 See how hard they have to work for you if. 484 00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:29,400 You're showing him that he doesn't have to work hard for 485 00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:31,400 you and you're going to stick around then. 486 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:34,080 Why would he go the? Extra mile for you when you're 487 00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:36,840 already accepting the bare minimum or. 488 00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:40,440 Just less than what you deserve. You don't believe that there's 489 00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:42,920 other men out there that's going to do more. 490 00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:45,520 For you, so you are. Sticking with this man because 491 00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:48,080 you think this is the best that you're going to get and that's 492 00:23:48,080 --> 00:23:50,360 the problem when you shift your mindset and. 493 00:23:50,360 --> 00:23:53,400 Believe that you have an. Abundance mindset when it comes 494 00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:56,240 to men, it's. A lot easier to see yourself as 495 00:23:56,240 --> 00:23:58,840 the prize. You know, so if you're like in a 496 00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:03,840 situation that I just described in my example, if you want this 497 00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:05,960 man, you can have them like, I'm not saying that. 498 00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:08,840 You have to leave. Him, you know you, you want what 499 00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:09,640 you want. And that's. 500 00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:12,880 Totally OK, I support it. I will help you get whatever you 501 00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:16,040 want but that means you need to trust the process and you need 502 00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:19,520 to be OK to drop the nice girl act and be like, you know what, 503 00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:21,960 I'm going to stick by my boundaries. 504 00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:24,320 You know I deserve better and I'm not afraid to walk away. 505 00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:29,520 I'm telling you right now, men find it highly attractive when 506 00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:32,520 you are able to stand your grounds with them and set up 507 00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:35,920 boundaries, but not in a bitchy way in a. 508 00:24:35,920 --> 00:24:38,280 Way where you're just very. Calm. 509 00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:41,680 But you're very. Clear with what you mean. 510 00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:45,040 They absolutely love it. And it's going to make him think 511 00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:47,600 about you all the time. He's like, wow. 512 00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:49,880 Like this girl, she respects herself. 513 00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:52,280 She values herself. You know what it's. 514 00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:53,480 Actually. Really. 515 00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:57,400 Rare to come by a woman like this so I don't know what the 516 00:24:57,400 --> 00:25:00,240 fuck I've been doing all this time but I I need to clean up my 517 00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:03,560 ACT because this woman actually makes me want to be my better 518 00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:04,880 self. And that's also how you win a 519 00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:06,360 man's. Heart over when you are. 520 00:25:06,360 --> 00:25:09,800 Able to make him show up as his best self because you simply 521 00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:12,240 won't allow him into your. Life if he's just. 522 00:25:12,240 --> 00:25:16,040 Showing up in a way that you know that you don't want, you 523 00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:18,920 don't deserve. You need to put yourself first. 524 00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:22,520 And a lot of people that are putting their person that they 525 00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:25,280 want on a pedestal. They're not thinking about. 526 00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:28,120 What they want. I work with a lot of clients and 527 00:25:28,120 --> 00:25:31,160 I see they're thinking, but this about him, this about him, this. 528 00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:35,400 What do you want though? Like tell me right now what you 529 00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:38,640 want in your dream man and how you want him to make you feel 530 00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:40,200 and the things that you want him to. 531 00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:42,760 Do they're like? Wow, you know what? 532 00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:44,520 I actually haven't thought about this in a while. 533 00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:47,680 Like I've been just so focused on him that I haven't even taken 534 00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:50,280 a second to realize what do I want? 535 00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:53,000 How do I want to be treated? Because I've just. 536 00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:56,640 Been so focused on the outcome, manifesting him, getting him 537 00:25:56,640 --> 00:26:00,640 back, what do I want? And then it makes them. 538 00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:03,400 Realize. Wait, this guy is? 539 00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:06,720 Not what I want right now. So why am I so focused on 540 00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:10,400 entertaining him? I deserve so much more and this 541 00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:12,720 version of him. I don't even want to associate 542 00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:14,800 myself with him. So that's. 543 00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:18,120 Where we get started? And working on our self concept, 544 00:26:18,120 --> 00:26:19,680 you know, getting clear. How? 545 00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:22,120 Do you want men to show up for you? 546 00:26:22,120 --> 00:26:25,080 What does your dream man look? Like then get hyper focused. 547 00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:28,520 On that version, the way that that man makes you feel and then 548 00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:30,080 it makes you detach from that person. 549 00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:31,560 You're no longer putting them on a pedestal. 550 00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:33,600 You're no longer thinking about them all day, and you're just 551 00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:35,800 like, no, actually, I'm going to be selfish for once and put 552 00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:37,440 myself first. What do I want? 553 00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:39,320 How do I want to be treated? You know what? 554 00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:41,440 This guy is not showing up in the way that I want. 555 00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:43,760 I don't care. I'm not going to entertain him 556 00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:46,560 until he does. And that's when he changes. 557 00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:48,080 That's when he comes running back. 558 00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:49,880 That's when he's like, Oh my God. 559 00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:52,560 I'm so sorry. What can I do? 560 00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:54,440 To have you back. You are my dream. 561 00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:57,280 Girl, I love you so. Much like it happens all the 562 00:26:57,280 --> 00:27:01,120 time when you are very grounded in your worth and value. 563 00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:04,200 It's going to be really hard for you to get. 564 00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:08,880 Triggered by a man, especially when he's like doing something 565 00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:10,720 that is crossing your boundaries. 566 00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:13,200 Because you simply. Just won't entertain it. 567 00:27:13,440 --> 00:27:17,360 You'd be like, oh, you're. Going to show up and think that 568 00:27:17,360 --> 00:27:18,800 you can. Say this to me or. 569 00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:22,000 You think that you can just text me whenever you want but not be 570 00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:24,040 consistent with me? Guess what? 571 00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:26,080 I'm not going to entertain that when you see. 572 00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:28,800 Yourself as a prize, you're. Also not going to be threatened 573 00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:31,240 by other women. Or if. 574 00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:34,440 He's talking to other. People like if you are freshly 575 00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:38,680 dating stages or you're a. Third party situation, you're 576 00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:41,360 not going to be giving a fuck. Who he talks to because you're 577 00:27:41,360 --> 00:27:43,760 just like, well, he's. Missing out on me. 578 00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:45,440 I'm not too worried what he's doing. 579 00:27:46,120 --> 00:27:48,920 He can talk to any girl he wants, but he's going to realize 580 00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:51,200 she ain't me. You're not going to find better 581 00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:53,120 than me. Like I'm not too worried out 582 00:27:53,120 --> 00:27:55,080 here. And you're also grounded. 583 00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:56,960 And I have plenty of other options. 584 00:27:56,960 --> 00:28:00,000 I have so many men. Who are? 585 00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:03,440 Wanting to Take Me Out. That are like literally. 586 00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:06,400 Obsessing over me. Why am I going to worry right 587 00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:08,320 now? I have plenty of options. 588 00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:11,360 I know how amazing I am. I know. 589 00:28:11,360 --> 00:28:14,000 That I live in this. Guy's mind rent free. 590 00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:16,960 I'm not going to spend too much time worrying about what he's 591 00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:20,280 doing or who he's talking to. That's the least of my concerns. 592 00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:22,920 I'm so focused on myself. You need to stop. 593 00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:26,040 Giving your energy to people that are not deserving of it. 594 00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:29,440 Someones going to do things behind your back or. 595 00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:31,280 Disrespect you? Stress you out. 596 00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:34,000 If a man is stressing you out, don't give him your energy. 597 00:28:34,600 --> 00:28:37,280 Like no, babe, you really think you're gonna act like this? 598 00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:39,400 And I'm gonna. Allow you to. 599 00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:43,280 Stress me out and ruin my day? No, no you're not. 600 00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:45,200 I'm going to have actual great time. 601 00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:46,480 I'm going to go hang out with my friends. 602 00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:49,880 I'm going to go focus on me. I'm going to go improve myself. 603 00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:54,280 While you get to sit. Back and realize that you're 604 00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:55,920 missing out on an amazing person like me. 605 00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:57,840 So that's OK. Like I'll give you space, I'll 606 00:28:57,840 --> 00:28:59,920 let you. Make the decision for yourself 607 00:28:59,920 --> 00:29:01,840 and realize how much you fucked up. 608 00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:03,640 Honestly, like sometimes you just. 609 00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:05,480 Need to have that savage mindset. 610 00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:09,800 I'm really pivoting more to just giving you that confidence boost 611 00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:12,320 because I know what it. Feels like to be like. 612 00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:15,880 On the opposite end and being down, really sad, really 613 00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:20,760 stressed out and sometimes you just need someone to instill 614 00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:22,520 into your mind and remind you on who. 615 00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:25,640 The fuck you are like bestie, you are so. 616 00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:28,520 Fucking amazing. Look at yourself in the mirror. 617 00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:30,160 He is. So lucky to have. 618 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:31,440 You. Why are you putting him on a 619 00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:32,920 pedestal? Why are you stressing out about 620 00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:34,280 him? Why are you letting this man 621 00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:36,320 ruin your day? You know what a man should be 622 00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:37,640 making your life. Easier so if. 623 00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:39,000 He's not making your life. Easier. 624 00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:40,520 What good is he? He around to you? 625 00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:44,600 What value does he bring to you? OK, you are simply 626 00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:46,840 irreplaceable. He's never gonna find someone 627 00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:48,640 else like you and you confidently. 628 00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:51,320 Sit with that. And trust the process, whether 629 00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:53,880 you believe in God or the universe, whatever you believe 630 00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:54,920 in, trust. That. 631 00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:58,480 The universe is not gonna take something away from you that's 632 00:29:58,480 --> 00:30:00,440 meant for you. That's where you just. 633 00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:05,040 Realize I know that I can have amazing love in my life. 634 00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:09,400 I love myself so fucking much that I'm not going to have 635 00:30:09,400 --> 00:30:11,240 someone in my life that is giving me the. 636 00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:14,440 Opposite of that. Trust that the universe will. 637 00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:18,320 Either give you this. Relationship or even better and 638 00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:20,320 be. Detached with that have an. 639 00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:23,520 Abundance mindset when it comes to love, when it comes to 640 00:30:23,520 --> 00:30:27,480 relationships that you can have it all, but the most important 641 00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:30,160 part is being content with. Yourself. 642 00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:34,320 Because if you are. Trying to go into relationships 643 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:35,840 with. Your cup half. 644 00:30:35,840 --> 00:30:41,680 Full or half empty, whatever you are looking at on that 645 00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:45,080 perspective, it's going to be. Really hard to ever. 646 00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:48,280 Feel fulfilled because if someone can be giving you 100% 647 00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:51,360 of their love but you still don't fully love yourself, 648 00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:54,720 you're always going to be manifesting some sort of problem 649 00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:57,400 in your relationship. And it's stemming from a hurt 650 00:30:57,400 --> 00:30:58,800 self concept. And that's why it's really 651 00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:03,080 important to look within, do the inner work so then you don't 652 00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:06,040 have to deal with bullshit. You know, this was a longer 653 00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:10,320 episode and I feel like I kind of went on a little rant here 654 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:14,640 and there, but I just. Felt so-called to talk about 655 00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:17,120 this topic, so I really hope for. 656 00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:19,440 Those who are listening that this hit home. 657 00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:22,560 That you picked up. Some Nuggets of wisdom. 658 00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:27,240 Make sure to follow me on Instagram at Liv Marima if you 659 00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:31,480 aren't already and also if you are interested in downloading 660 00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:34,200 the Love Manifestation blueprint, which is my program 661 00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:36,360 where I. Teach you how to shift. 662 00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:40,520 Yourself concept and attract the most amazing loving 663 00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:43,440 relationships. We have girls manifesting the 664 00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:48,200 most amazing things inside, so make sure to check that out in 665 00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:51,440 the description and make sure. 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