1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:03,440 Hello my loves and welcome to another podcast episode of Busy 2 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:05,760 Glowing up. I'm so excited to be back. 3 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:08,640 Thank you so much for all of your DMS that you guys have been 4 00:00:08,640 --> 00:00:10,880 sending me and all the comments that you've been leaving and 5 00:00:10,880 --> 00:00:14,520 rating the podcast 5 stars. I am so grateful for all of you 6 00:00:14,520 --> 00:00:18,600 and I'm so happy that you are enjoying the podcast. 7 00:00:18,600 --> 00:00:22,840 So today we're going to be talking all about becoming the 8 00:00:22,840 --> 00:00:27,240 dream girl that every man looks at and is like wow she is 9 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:30,160 different from all the other women I have met. 10 00:00:30,400 --> 00:00:34,640 There is a few main characteristics that a man looks 11 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:39,240 for in a woman that when he sees it he automatically thinks wow 12 00:00:39,240 --> 00:00:42,080 she's different from any woman I have ever seen. 13 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:46,560 So today I'm going to be sharing all of the secrets with you guys 14 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:50,200 on how to embody this energy so that you can start attracting 15 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:52,440 high quality men. So the men in your life, they 16 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:55,560 raise up to your standards. They start doing more for you 17 00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:59,240 because what happens is when you shift within yourself. 18 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:03,440 Yourself concept, which is what I talk about on a daily basis, 19 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:07,400 is when you level up within yourself, naturally what starts 20 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:11,400 to happen is the men in your life, they start to see you as 21 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:14,640 higher than them. If you're stuck over some guy 22 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:18,120 that you're obsessing over and you're putting him on a pedestal 23 00:01:18,120 --> 00:01:22,760 and you see him as this person that is unattainable to have 24 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:24,440 that it's so hard to get his attention. 25 00:01:24,440 --> 00:01:27,120 And whatever you're going through right now, when you 26 00:01:27,160 --> 00:01:30,120 start to do this process, you're going to start to notice really 27 00:01:30,120 --> 00:01:32,120 quick that he's going to be the one pursuing you. 28 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:34,280 He's going to be the one chasing after you because this is all an 29 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:36,480 energetic shift that we are going to be making. 30 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:41,160 Starting off, the biggest thing you need to do is first identify 31 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:43,360 what this version of you looks like. 32 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:47,080 Write this down. Ask yourself who is the version 33 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:51,000 of you that your dream man would want to date? 34 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:54,840 What does your man's or dream man? 35 00:01:55,040 --> 00:01:57,440 Whether you have like a current man in your life that you're 36 00:01:57,440 --> 00:02:01,480 interested in or you are wanting to manifest a Newman into your 37 00:02:01,480 --> 00:02:03,600 life, a high value man, a provider man. 38 00:02:03,840 --> 00:02:06,840 Ask yourself what would his version of a dream girl look 39 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:10,320 like and get really clear. Does she go to the gym? 40 00:02:10,560 --> 00:02:12,480 Does she prioritize her mental health? 41 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:15,520 Does she go after her goals? Is she ambitious? 42 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:17,320 How does she speak about herself? 43 00:02:17,320 --> 00:02:20,280 How does she view herself? Does she criticize herself and 44 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:23,040 tell herself that she's good enough and that she's not worthy 45 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:25,560 or that she's not pretty? Of course not. 46 00:02:25,800 --> 00:02:28,240 This woman knows she's a badass bitch. 47 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:30,560 She knows that she has plenty of options. 48 00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:34,400 She knows that she is a blessing. 49 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:37,760 Every man that encounters her, she brings so much value into 50 00:02:37,760 --> 00:02:40,160 his life. Men love being around her 51 00:02:40,160 --> 00:02:45,560 because her presence is so magnetic that this man, he feels 52 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:48,680 his best self around her. He wants more. 53 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:51,600 Need to tap into this dream girl energy. 54 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:56,880 Dream girl energy means that you don't put any man on a pedestal. 55 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:02,000 You don't see any man as out of your league or not good enough 56 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:04,120 or you're not worthy of having them. 57 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:07,400 You have to have an abundance mindset and know that you can 58 00:03:07,400 --> 00:03:12,160 have any man that you want and that having a man in your life 59 00:03:12,160 --> 00:03:14,080 that you're interested in obsessing over you is the 60 00:03:14,080 --> 00:03:18,120 easiest thing ever. I'm giving you the steps on how 61 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:21,080 to become this version. And it's up to you to really 62 00:03:21,080 --> 00:03:24,600 implement and show up as this version of yourself and dedicate 63 00:03:24,600 --> 00:03:30,400 yourself to no longer going into old habits and laser focused on 64 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:33,360 becoming this new version. And I want to make it clear that 65 00:03:33,360 --> 00:03:36,360 you're not doing this for any man. 66 00:03:36,560 --> 00:03:39,320 You're doing this for yourself because you owe it to yourself. 67 00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:42,880 You only have one life and you deserve to spend this life 68 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:45,800 loving yourself, putting yourself up on that pedestal, 69 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:51,040 and having men adore you and love you for who you are. 70 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:54,960 I still want you to be your authentic self around these men 71 00:03:54,960 --> 00:03:57,800 because a man can easily sense when you're inauthentic or 72 00:03:57,800 --> 00:04:00,960 you're trying to be something you're not, or you're trying to 73 00:04:00,960 --> 00:04:03,560 do and say the right things to get him to like you. 74 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:07,640 It's very inauthentic and it's fake and it is very repelling. 75 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:11,240 I'm giving you these steps so that you have a clear vision of 76 00:04:11,240 --> 00:04:15,320 what this dream girl energy looks like and then I want you 77 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:20,120 to incorporate it into who you are already and start showing up 78 00:04:20,320 --> 00:04:24,640 as this 2.0 version of yourself. Number one. 79 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:27,320 She gives herself all the validation she needs. 80 00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:31,280 If a man is inconsistent or does not provide reassurance, doesn't 81 00:04:31,280 --> 00:04:34,440 put an effort, makes her feel unsafe or question her worth and 82 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:38,240 value, she pulls back her energy and she reaffirms to herself her 83 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:41,480 worth and value. She uses affirmations to tell 84 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:46,360 herself this can be used right in any point in time, whether 85 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:51,040 you're in a relationship with a man, you are in the early stages 86 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:57,200 of dating a man, or you are in a situation ship and no contact 87 00:04:57,200 --> 00:05:01,280 situation. Whenever you are feeling shaken 88 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:03,680 with your worth and value, you're overthinking. 89 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:06,720 It's time for you to go all in on self concept. 90 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:11,440 That is the number one time for you to do the self concept work. 91 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:13,960 And what I mean by self concept work is I don't want you to get 92 00:05:13,960 --> 00:05:15,840 like too confused with how this really works. 93 00:05:15,920 --> 00:05:20,120 Self concept is just telling yourself and reaffirming who you 94 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:25,720 are choosing to identify with a certain framework of beliefs. 95 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:28,240 You don't have to believe these affirmations right off the 96 00:05:28,240 --> 00:05:30,680 start, right? If you are someone that has a 97 00:05:30,680 --> 00:05:35,200 really low self worth, you have a negative self talk. 98 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:37,640 You don't think highly of yourself, None of that matters. 99 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:41,480 But you have to choose to tell yourself now, in this present 100 00:05:41,480 --> 00:05:43,080 moment, that you are worthy of love. 101 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:46,680 That you are incredible, That you are a high value woman. 102 00:05:46,840 --> 00:05:49,960 That you bring so much value to the table that any man would 103 00:05:49,960 --> 00:05:52,160 dream of having a woman like you. 104 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:54,640 That you are the dream girl. So when you find yourself 105 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:58,080 stressed in that situation, the fastest way to step into that 106 00:05:58,080 --> 00:06:01,760 next level version of yourself, this high value woman, is to 107 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:03,600 start reaffirming your worth and value. 108 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:07,800 I don't chase after any single man because I know that I have 109 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:12,600 plenty of other men that would be going above and beyond to be 110 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:15,360 with me right now. If this man isn't stepping up to 111 00:06:15,360 --> 00:06:18,160 the plate, I have no problem dismissing him and pulling my 112 00:06:18,160 --> 00:06:21,680 energy back from this because I know that I don't have to chase 113 00:06:21,680 --> 00:06:24,720 after no man. I don't have to work for love. 114 00:06:25,400 --> 00:06:27,760 Love comes to me naturally and if I'm not getting that from a 115 00:06:27,760 --> 00:06:31,960 man, I'm going to go and find another man because I know that 116 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:37,600 I can have whatever I want #2. She trusts men have the best 117 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:40,280 intentions towards her until proven otherwise. 118 00:06:40,280 --> 00:06:44,680 If that's the case, I get it. If you are stuck in a pattern of 119 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:48,840 always dating inconsistent men or you're in situation ships 120 00:06:48,840 --> 00:06:52,000 where men don't want to commit or that they hurt you or they 121 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:56,320 cheat on you, that's now in grade in yourself concept where 122 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:58,160 you somewhere in yourself concept. 123 00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:02,080 Now you have beliefs of men are cheaters. 124 00:07:02,080 --> 00:07:04,120 Men hurt me. There's no good men out there. 125 00:07:04,120 --> 00:07:07,280 I struggle to find a man that I have a good connection with. 126 00:07:07,280 --> 00:07:11,080 It's really hard for me to connect with men. 127 00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:14,600 Even though it's not playing in your mind 24/7. 128 00:07:14,600 --> 00:07:17,760 Trust me, deep down it's there because you wouldn't be 129 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:21,640 experiencing poor treatment and poor behavior and inconsistency 130 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:24,240 from men if you didn't have these beliefs, right? 131 00:07:24,240 --> 00:07:26,760 Because This is why self concept is so important. 132 00:07:26,760 --> 00:07:31,320 This isn't just like some little spell, love spell or method 133 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:34,120 whatever. This is how you're creating your 134 00:07:34,120 --> 00:07:37,120 reality and there is science backed behind this. 135 00:07:37,160 --> 00:07:41,440 Read the book Psycho Cybernetics if you want to understand how 136 00:07:41,640 --> 00:07:46,800 yourself perception, how yourself image dictates what you 137 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:48,760 attract into your life, the people you attract, the 138 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:51,160 treatment you receive and everything. 139 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:54,400 This is life changing you guys. And this isn't just for women 140 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:56,400 only. I know I have some men in my 141 00:07:56,400 --> 00:07:59,880 audience. Same thing goes for you. 142 00:07:59,960 --> 00:08:02,960 You have to have a good mindset around women. 143 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:04,560 You have to have good beliefs around women. 144 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:07,240 If you're telling yourself that all women are bad and you can't 145 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:11,160 find a good woman nowadays and they're just not interested in 146 00:08:11,160 --> 00:08:13,080 you, you're going to continue to attract that. 147 00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:15,680 So be careful with what you are telling yourself because 148 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:19,800 yourself talk creates your reality and the patterns are 149 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:22,720 going to keep repeating for you. And the same situations are 150 00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:26,520 going to keep happening until you make the conscious effort to 151 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:30,040 change within yourself, to change your beliefs, your 152 00:08:30,040 --> 00:08:33,640 pattern of thinking. And my favorite way of doing 153 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:36,960 this is killing off the old version of you. 154 00:08:36,960 --> 00:08:39,919 It's pretty much you're just going to have this mental 155 00:08:39,919 --> 00:08:42,520 conversation within yourself where you're telling yourself 156 00:08:43,080 --> 00:08:46,880 the old version of me that accepted poor treatment that was 157 00:08:46,880 --> 00:08:49,680 always stuck in these shitty dating patterns with men. 158 00:08:49,680 --> 00:08:52,720 I'm killing off that version of myself and I will never put 159 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:55,920 myself in a position again with a man that makes me feel not 160 00:08:55,920 --> 00:08:59,360 good enough or that I have to chase or be in my masculine 161 00:08:59,360 --> 00:09:01,280 energy. I am not that type of woman. 162 00:09:01,280 --> 00:09:04,680 I am a high value woman and I will never settle for less 163 00:09:04,680 --> 00:09:08,120 again. And then you now choose to tell 164 00:09:08,120 --> 00:09:10,360 yourself the new story. I love men. 165 00:09:10,520 --> 00:09:13,560 Men respect me. I have a great experience with 166 00:09:13,560 --> 00:09:16,400 men. You can revise your entire life 167 00:09:16,400 --> 00:09:18,040 story with men and tell yourself. 168 00:09:18,280 --> 00:09:20,520 I always attracted great men into my life. 169 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:23,200 I always had a great relationship with men. 170 00:09:23,640 --> 00:09:26,480 All of my exes, they were good to me. 171 00:09:27,160 --> 00:09:30,120 And I know how hard it is to tell yourself that, especially 172 00:09:30,120 --> 00:09:33,720 when your exes were terrible. But if you don't get to a place 173 00:09:33,720 --> 00:09:38,840 where you can forgive and move on from your past and the hurt 174 00:09:38,840 --> 00:09:41,360 that you've experienced in your relationships, you're going to 175 00:09:41,360 --> 00:09:43,920 carry it on with you into new relationships. 176 00:09:44,200 --> 00:09:47,400 You can find your dream man who checks off all your boxes. 177 00:09:47,720 --> 00:09:50,400 But if you're still carrying those old wounds and old 178 00:09:50,400 --> 00:09:54,400 beliefs, you're going to self sabotage your relationship. 179 00:09:54,400 --> 00:09:56,080 And I see it happen all the time. 180 00:09:56,480 --> 00:09:59,240 And that's why a lot of people, they try to manifest their ex 181 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:00,960 back. You know, it's not always the 182 00:10:01,280 --> 00:10:03,360 acts that they're manifesting back that was at fault. 183 00:10:03,360 --> 00:10:06,880 It's actually, you know, you took your shadows with you and 184 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:09,000 you started to project that onto that other person. 185 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:13,840 So if maybe you were cheated on in the past with your ex or you 186 00:10:13,840 --> 00:10:18,680 just had a really bad experience in a past relationship, the 187 00:10:18,680 --> 00:10:22,200 chances are you may project that onto this next person. 188 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:24,400 You're going to assume that it's going to be similar situation, 189 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:26,080 that he's going to do the same thing, and then he's going to 190 00:10:26,080 --> 00:10:29,280 cheat on you. This pours through your energy 191 00:10:29,320 --> 00:10:31,520 and then yourself talk starts to change. 192 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:33,400 And then you're telling yourself, he's going to leave 193 00:10:33,400 --> 00:10:35,280 me, he's going to cheat on me, he's going to hurt me, he's 194 00:10:35,280 --> 00:10:38,080 going to find someone else. And guess what he does because 195 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:40,880 you manifested that to happen based on yourself talk. 196 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:43,320 This stuff is extremely powerful stuff. 197 00:10:44,080 --> 00:10:48,280 It's not just some sort of love spell or a little trick to get 198 00:10:48,280 --> 00:10:51,800 someone to fall for you. This dictates your reality in 199 00:10:51,800 --> 00:10:55,840 all areas of your life, right? I've worked with a lot of women 200 00:10:55,840 --> 00:10:59,480 who they are so beautiful, they're so successful. 201 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:03,120 But the only thing like they have really great beliefs when 202 00:11:03,120 --> 00:11:07,440 it comes to their self concept. They're they have a really great 203 00:11:07,440 --> 00:11:10,840 beliefs when it comes to their job and their success. 204 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:14,000 They have a really good beliefs around their health and fitness. 205 00:11:14,160 --> 00:11:18,560 But when it comes to men, they have a really poor beliefs 206 00:11:18,560 --> 00:11:21,720 around that. They think that men are out 207 00:11:21,720 --> 00:11:24,040 there to hurt them, that it's really hard for them to find 208 00:11:24,040 --> 00:11:28,080 someone that they're always going to be cheated on, that 209 00:11:28,080 --> 00:11:30,480 they're going to be left, they're going to be abandoned 210 00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:35,080 and they continue to attract that because their reality is 211 00:11:35,080 --> 00:11:38,760 just going to their brains are programmed to give them more and 212 00:11:38,760 --> 00:11:41,920 more of that because that's what they are entertaining in their 213 00:11:41,920 --> 00:11:44,680 mind. And here's one thing I want you 214 00:11:44,680 --> 00:11:46,400 to understand. You can have a perfect self 215 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:49,240 concept. You can you can see yourself as 216 00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:51,720 their dream girl and I am so amazing. 217 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:57,000 I am incredible. Men love me all of that. 218 00:11:57,840 --> 00:12:02,640 But if you also believe that, you know, eventually men leave 219 00:12:02,640 --> 00:12:04,640 me. They don't want to commit to me. 220 00:12:04,640 --> 00:12:08,320 They find someone else, they're going to cheat on me. 221 00:12:08,400 --> 00:12:12,440 They find themselves stuck in these patterns for years, for 222 00:12:12,440 --> 00:12:16,880 decades, attracting these exact experiences that they are 223 00:12:16,880 --> 00:12:19,240 assuming and playing out in their mind. 224 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:23,520 And it is not until they make a conscious decision of whatever 225 00:12:23,520 --> 00:12:26,240 happened in the past. I am leaving that in the past. 226 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:28,720 Because I'm leaving that old identity, that version myself 227 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:30,360 behind. Because I know that we are 228 00:12:30,520 --> 00:12:33,200 constantly shape shifting. We are always changing. 229 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:37,360 And I no longer have to label myself as someone that 230 00:12:37,360 --> 00:12:39,760 experiences these things. As a matter of fact, I can 231 00:12:39,760 --> 00:12:42,400 choose to have a completely different experience with men 232 00:12:42,680 --> 00:12:44,560 and choose to believe a completely different set of 233 00:12:44,560 --> 00:12:47,040 beliefs. Therefore, I'm going to attract 234 00:12:47,040 --> 00:12:49,680 and find more and more of that in my reality. 235 00:12:50,480 --> 00:12:54,240 Only then is when they start to attract these great men that 236 00:12:54,400 --> 00:12:58,320 want to do the most for them, that are genuine men. 237 00:12:58,640 --> 00:13:00,600 They make their intentions clear. 238 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:05,120 They provide safety for her and she doesn't worry anymore. 239 00:13:05,120 --> 00:13:08,720 So going back to my second point, this next level version 240 00:13:08,720 --> 00:13:11,920 of yourself, she has to trust that men have the best 241 00:13:11,920 --> 00:13:17,000 intentions towards her until they do something to change 242 00:13:17,000 --> 00:13:19,680 that, right? You have to go into it trusting 243 00:13:19,680 --> 00:13:22,160 and believing. This is something that everyone 244 00:13:22,160 --> 00:13:25,640 must do. People that go into marriage, 245 00:13:25,640 --> 00:13:29,920 they get married, they don't know if one day their partner is 246 00:13:29,920 --> 00:13:33,600 going to do something to hurt them or not, but they choose to 247 00:13:33,600 --> 00:13:36,800 believe that that's not going to be an experience for them and 248 00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:40,000 therefore it isn't. Or people that they go in with 249 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:43,000 the mindset of something bad is going to happen, they're going 250 00:13:43,000 --> 00:13:45,720 to hurt me, they end up experiencing it. 251 00:13:46,120 --> 00:13:50,160 You're shooting yourself in the foot by dating a man and then 252 00:13:50,280 --> 00:13:54,600 entertaining the story of he's going to do something to hurt me 253 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:57,760 and I'm going to get hurt and I'm going to end up alone. 254 00:13:58,520 --> 00:14:00,720 Don't do that. Please don't do that. 255 00:14:01,760 --> 00:14:05,960 And here's another thing, if you don't trust men, you're going to 256 00:14:05,960 --> 00:14:10,640 be doing behaviors that signal that you are insecure and it's 257 00:14:10,640 --> 00:14:12,080 going to pour out through your energy. 258 00:14:12,080 --> 00:14:14,480 And then the man is going to pick up on that insecurity 259 00:14:14,480 --> 00:14:16,440 within you. And you never want to be 260 00:14:17,520 --> 00:14:20,640 insecure around a man because that instantly puts him up on 261 00:14:20,640 --> 00:14:23,280 the pedestal. It makes you not feel good about 262 00:14:23,280 --> 00:14:25,200 yourself. You degrade yourself and 263 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:28,040 yourself worth. And ultimately that's not dream 264 00:14:28,040 --> 00:14:31,000 girl energy. A dream girl, she never feels 265 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:32,960 jealous or intimidated by anyone. 266 00:14:32,960 --> 00:14:36,840 So that means you trust a man, you're not checking his social 267 00:14:36,840 --> 00:14:41,000 media following, you're not entertaining stories of when 268 00:14:41,000 --> 00:14:44,000 he's not talking to me, he's talking to other girls or he's 269 00:14:44,000 --> 00:14:46,640 doing something shady behind my back. 270 00:14:46,640 --> 00:14:50,680 He's he's going to hurt me. She doesn't like to feel 271 00:14:50,680 --> 00:14:52,760 stressed. So she's not going to go out and 272 00:14:52,760 --> 00:14:56,480 do behaviors like checking his social media and stressing about 273 00:14:56,480 --> 00:14:58,240 a man. That's just going to make her 274 00:14:58,240 --> 00:15:03,760 energy even more drained and she's going to be more stressed 275 00:15:03,760 --> 00:15:05,560 out. And when you are operating this 276 00:15:05,560 --> 00:15:08,120 way, he doesn't have to know. He feels it. 277 00:15:08,240 --> 00:15:13,080 He energetically feels it. This is how people who are, you 278 00:15:13,080 --> 00:15:17,040 know, being ghosted or in no contact when they shift their 279 00:15:17,040 --> 00:15:19,920 energy, their self concept, that's when the man starts 280 00:15:19,920 --> 00:15:22,440 pouring into her. That's when he starts giving her 281 00:15:22,440 --> 00:15:25,400 more attention. That's when he's like, oh damn, 282 00:15:25,400 --> 00:15:26,720 there's something different about her. 283 00:15:27,160 --> 00:15:30,280 You don't have to go posting on your stories or trying to get 284 00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:32,600 back at him. There's no reason to do that. 285 00:15:32,600 --> 00:15:36,880 One, you are able to just do it by simply shifting your energy 286 00:15:36,880 --> 00:15:39,040 and obviously it's going to be great because it feels good for 287 00:15:39,040 --> 00:15:43,760 you too. Going into #3 this dream girl is 288 00:15:43,760 --> 00:15:47,320 the type of woman that is not intimidated by any other woman. 289 00:15:47,520 --> 00:15:50,360 She believes no other woman compares to her because she is 290 00:15:50,360 --> 00:15:52,520 extremely grounded in her worth and value. 291 00:15:52,520 --> 00:15:54,720 She sees herself as irreplaceable. 292 00:15:54,800 --> 00:15:59,360 She embodies dream girl energy. She already knows what a dream 293 00:15:59,360 --> 00:16:02,560 girl looks like for a man. She knows that. 294 00:16:02,640 --> 00:16:06,080 And here's the truth. The truth is that men struggle 295 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:10,600 to find these types of women. A high value woman who's 296 00:16:10,600 --> 00:16:13,440 integrated in her feminine energy, who has done the inner 297 00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:17,000 work, right self concept is inner work, who is soft, yet at 298 00:16:17,000 --> 00:16:19,760 the same time she's independent where she's regulated. 299 00:16:19,920 --> 00:16:22,280 Her emotions aren't all over the place. 300 00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:25,880 I'm telling you right now from I've spoken to many men around 301 00:16:25,880 --> 00:16:30,400 this topic and they all say the same thing that it's really hard 302 00:16:30,560 --> 00:16:32,640 for them to find a woman like this. 303 00:16:32,720 --> 00:16:35,720 So the second they do, they're like, I'm ready to put a ring on 304 00:16:35,720 --> 00:16:40,080 it because that this woman is rare and I know if I screw up, 305 00:16:40,440 --> 00:16:42,640 I'm never going to find a woman like her ever again. 306 00:16:43,520 --> 00:16:46,600 When you show up as a high value woman like this, every single 307 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:50,120 man, he's going to be doing absolutely everything to win you 308 00:16:50,120 --> 00:16:54,040 over because he knows naturally, there's plenty of other men that 309 00:16:54,040 --> 00:16:57,920 are competing to win you over. This type of woman, she knows 310 00:16:57,920 --> 00:17:01,840 that if a man does something one time to disrespect her or cross 311 00:17:01,840 --> 00:17:04,119 her boundaries, she's not afraid to walk away. 312 00:17:04,520 --> 00:17:07,720 And the. This instantly makes him 313 00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:10,760 obsessed with her. And he's going to try to make it 314 00:17:10,760 --> 00:17:12,520 up. He's going to try to do 315 00:17:12,520 --> 00:17:15,240 absolutely everything he can to get her back and win her over 316 00:17:15,240 --> 00:17:19,800 because he knows losing a woman like that is detrimental. 317 00:17:19,839 --> 00:17:26,079 He has an immense fear of losing you going into point #4 she is 318 00:17:26,079 --> 00:17:29,240 the type of woman who makes her man's life easier. 319 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:35,480 Men want a woman that makes his life a lot easier. 320 00:17:35,960 --> 00:17:39,200 The thing is, be hard to get and easy to be with. 321 00:17:39,760 --> 00:17:42,880 When you're in the dating stages, you should definitely 322 00:17:42,880 --> 00:17:46,920 not be overly accessible. Saying yes to everything. 323 00:17:47,040 --> 00:17:50,160 It's late at night and he says let's hang out or he plans out a 324 00:17:50,160 --> 00:17:52,880 date that's pretty low quality, like a coffee date. 325 00:17:53,080 --> 00:17:56,840 And you say, yeah, let's do it. No, that's instantly diminishing 326 00:17:56,840 --> 00:18:01,440 your value and you want to make it seem like you have plenty of 327 00:18:01,440 --> 00:18:04,440 options when you're in the early stages of dating. 328 00:18:04,520 --> 00:18:07,560 Don't be that girl that doesn't have a roster. 329 00:18:07,600 --> 00:18:13,560 Like you can't just be going on a date with a man one time and 330 00:18:13,560 --> 00:18:15,480 being like, I'm committed to him. 331 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:18,480 That's it. This is the man I want because 332 00:18:18,800 --> 00:18:22,640 how is he going to win you over like that when like you already 333 00:18:22,920 --> 00:18:25,840 decided that he won you over by him simply existing? 334 00:18:27,040 --> 00:18:31,240 That's not dream girl energy especially also like here's the 335 00:18:31,240 --> 00:18:33,280 thing about situation ships. For all my girl, he's in 336 00:18:33,280 --> 00:18:36,000 situation ships and I've spoken to men about this too. 337 00:18:36,560 --> 00:18:40,720 And here's what they told me. If he's in a situation ship, he 338 00:18:40,720 --> 00:18:43,040 has other options, right? Because guess what? 339 00:18:43,040 --> 00:18:44,960 Situation ship means there's no commitment. 340 00:18:45,680 --> 00:18:47,120 You're not the only girl he's talking to. 341 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:48,800 I'm sorry to break the truth to you. 342 00:18:49,080 --> 00:18:52,080 So if you're in a situation ship right now for months on end, not 343 00:18:52,080 --> 00:18:55,720 getting commitment and this is the only man that you're talking 344 00:18:55,720 --> 00:18:59,440 to and you're only committed to him and you're treating him like 345 00:18:59,480 --> 00:19:03,560 he's your boyfriend and all that, except there's no label on 346 00:19:03,560 --> 00:19:06,000 it. You need to lay down the hammer 347 00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:08,560 with him and say, hey, it's either you commit to me or I'm 348 00:19:08,560 --> 00:19:10,440 out. Because a high value woman does 349 00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:13,480 not just stick by the sidelines and waits for a man to commit to 350 00:19:13,480 --> 00:19:16,520 her when he's ready. She communicates her boundaries. 351 00:19:16,760 --> 00:19:19,600 And I made a podcast episode on that. 352 00:19:20,040 --> 00:19:21,680 So you can definitely check that out. 353 00:19:22,080 --> 00:19:24,760 This is going to help you immensely when it comes to 354 00:19:25,160 --> 00:19:28,560 establishing boundaries and the right man. 355 00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:30,760 He's going to be like, yeah, I'm in. 356 00:19:30,960 --> 00:19:35,400 I'm going to commit to you. And if he's not wanting to 357 00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:38,280 commit and he's like, yeah, well, I'm just not ready for 358 00:19:38,280 --> 00:19:41,320 anything right now. And, you know, maybe in a few 359 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:44,800 months. Major Ick, like what? 360 00:19:44,800 --> 00:19:47,040 What about that is giving masculine energy? 361 00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:49,520 You have to get to a place where you're just like men like that 362 00:19:49,520 --> 00:19:52,800 turn me off. There is nothing about that that 363 00:19:52,800 --> 00:19:56,200 makes me want to entertain that. And that's another thing that 364 00:19:56,200 --> 00:19:57,600 happens with the self concept work. 365 00:19:57,600 --> 00:20:01,160 When you raise your standards, your value, a lot of the time 366 00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:03,320 the men that you're entertaining that are just kind of low 367 00:20:03,320 --> 00:20:05,040 quality, you're going to be turned off by them. 368 00:20:05,240 --> 00:20:07,320 I have a lot of clients that they start doing the self 369 00:20:07,320 --> 00:20:09,520 concept work and they're trying to manifest a specific person 370 00:20:09,520 --> 00:20:11,680 back. Yeah, they get him back, but 371 00:20:11,680 --> 00:20:15,880 then she's kind of like, no, I'm not too interested in him 372 00:20:15,880 --> 00:20:17,280 anymore. Actually, I think I can do 373 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:19,760 better than him, to be honest. He's not all that. 374 00:20:19,760 --> 00:20:22,440 I don't know why I was putting him on this pedestal and seeing 375 00:20:22,440 --> 00:20:25,120 him as this really special individual. 376 00:20:25,120 --> 00:20:27,480 He's just a regular schmagular guy. 377 00:20:28,360 --> 00:20:32,040 It's not the guy that changed. It was her perception of him. 378 00:20:32,280 --> 00:20:36,400 This is why if you want a man to obsess over you, you have to 379 00:20:36,400 --> 00:20:40,960 change your perception of yourself and then also of him. 380 00:20:40,960 --> 00:20:44,360 You can't view him as he's higher up than you and that he's 381 00:20:44,360 --> 00:20:47,160 this really great person and all that. 382 00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:51,280 A high value woman. She does not fantasize about a 383 00:20:51,280 --> 00:20:55,200 man and how incredible he is and how great he is and thinks how 384 00:20:55,200 --> 00:20:58,840 no other man compares to him. There's no reason to act that 385 00:20:58,840 --> 00:21:00,320 way. And the people that find it 386 00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:03,840 really hard to have the man that they want obsessing over them 387 00:21:03,840 --> 00:21:07,440 and treating them like the prize, it is all something they 388 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:11,360 share in common. They create this fantasy, the 389 00:21:11,360 --> 00:21:17,000 story of him in their mind of how great he is and how special 390 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:20,680 he is and how much of value he brings into her life and how 391 00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:22,920 life is so much better with him in it. 392 00:21:22,920 --> 00:21:26,800 And now that he's not there, a part of it, she feels so lonely 393 00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:29,520 and sad. I want you to think really hard 394 00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:32,080 about this. Tell me, what did he provide for 395 00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:35,200 you that you can't provide for yourself or that another man 396 00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:38,640 can't provide you with? You're telling yourself, oh, 397 00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:41,600 it's because I can't find a connection with anyone else. 398 00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:44,320 I've never had a love like this before. 399 00:21:44,480 --> 00:21:46,520 That's not true. It's only true because you're 400 00:21:46,520 --> 00:21:48,680 setting that limitation in your mind. 401 00:21:48,680 --> 00:21:53,280 There are billions of people on this earth and you think that 402 00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:56,440 there's only going to be one person that you're going to have 403 00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:59,360 a loving connection with. Here's the thing, every single 404 00:21:59,360 --> 00:22:01,480 person you date, you're going to have a different love 405 00:22:01,480 --> 00:22:03,560 connection. You think right now this person 406 00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:07,120 that's ghosting you and being inconsistent and unsure about 407 00:22:07,120 --> 00:22:10,640 you, that person you're so hung up on is the best love you're 408 00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:13,040 going to have. The truth is that you are so 409 00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:16,320 caught up on this one man that is preventing you from finding a 410 00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:18,840 man that's willing to come into your life and love you like 411 00:22:18,840 --> 00:22:22,200 you've never been loved before. Trust me, you think that this 412 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:24,800 man is the best you're going to have and that is just far from 413 00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:27,360 the truth. You need to work on your mindset 414 00:22:27,360 --> 00:22:30,720 around men if this is how you feel about your situation 415 00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:33,880 because thinking like this is keeping you stuck. 416 00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:36,240 It's keeping you stuck because that's not how you're going to 417 00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:37,920 get this man to change whatsoever. 418 00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:40,120 That's not how you're going to get the man you want obsessing 419 00:22:40,120 --> 00:22:42,160 over you. And that's also not how you're 420 00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:45,160 going to attract your dream man or a high value man into your 421 00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:47,600 life that gives you Princess treatment. 422 00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:51,080 Trust me. Second, I raised my standards 423 00:22:51,080 --> 00:22:53,960 and myself concept and what I believe I deserve. 424 00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:58,200 I attracted my man who I'm now with, and he literally goes 425 00:22:58,200 --> 00:23:01,280 above and beyond for me, for me just existing. 426 00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:04,960 Like he plans a vacation for us every single month and we go on 427 00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:07,320 vacation every single month because we can. 428 00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:11,320 And I'm only sharing this with you because I want you to know 429 00:23:11,520 --> 00:23:13,320 that that is available for you too. 430 00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:17,040 There's nothing stopping you from having that, except for you 431 00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:22,600 putting yourself in this limitation, this bar that is 432 00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:26,040 telling you no. I can't be happy until I have 433 00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:29,040 this man. I can't be happy until this man 434 00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:33,760 makes me feel good about myself. No more seeking validation from 435 00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:35,920 other men. And trust me, the second that 436 00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:39,120 you let that man go and you're no longer spending your whole 437 00:23:39,120 --> 00:23:42,440 day worried about him or you're trying so hard to get him to 438 00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:45,440 want you and like you and you just stop with that energy, 439 00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:48,480 trust me, he's going to be chasing after you, but you're 440 00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:51,480 probably going to love yourself too much to the point that 441 00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:53,920 you're just like, I deserve better and I'm going to go find 442 00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:56,040 better. And I genuinely want that for 443 00:23:56,040 --> 00:23:58,720 everyone. I totally got sidetracked there. 444 00:23:58,920 --> 00:24:03,000 But going back to what I was saying is that a man wants a 445 00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:06,960 woman that is hard to get where there's other men competing for 446 00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:08,440 her. She's highly desired by other 447 00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:11,560 men. She has options and he wants to 448 00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:15,480 win her over, right? When you trigger a man to fight 449 00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:18,760 for you and work hard for you, he's going to value you more. 450 00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:22,240 He's going to be like, holy shit, I am lucky to have this 451 00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:24,640 girl. I feel so special to have this 452 00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:27,720 girl. Having this girl and having her 453 00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:31,240 go out with me. Everyone's like wow, he's so 454 00:24:31,240 --> 00:24:33,120 lucky. Like what did he do to win a 455 00:24:33,120 --> 00:24:36,080 girl like this? That's the type of energy you 456 00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:39,560 want to have and then you want to be easy to be with. 457 00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:44,960 So this means that you are worry free when you're with him. 458 00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:48,720 You're not anxious, you're not stressed, your body language is 459 00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:52,080 not all like arms crossed and shy. 460 00:24:52,680 --> 00:24:54,440 You are just your authentic self. 461 00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:57,200 You're playful with him, you joke around with him, you're 462 00:24:57,200 --> 00:25:00,360 flirty with him. You know how to make him feel 463 00:25:00,360 --> 00:25:03,560 good when he's around you. And I'm going to be teaching 464 00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:07,400 this in my upcoming program. If you're interested, you can 465 00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:11,920 download my free master class and then that way you can be on 466 00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:14,920 my e-mail list for when that launches. 467 00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:18,240 Because I'm going to be going off about stepping into your 468 00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:22,080 feminine energy, really embodying this self concept and 469 00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:25,560 understanding how men fall in love with you so that you can be 470 00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:28,280 his dream girl. When you have the ability to 471 00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:31,480 make a man feel good when he's around you and make him feel 472 00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:34,680 like his best self, he's going to want to put a ring on it. 473 00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:40,120 Like straight up, if you make him feel better about himself 474 00:25:40,120 --> 00:25:43,400 when he's with you. And that's not all by just 475 00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:46,200 complimenting him and putting him on a pedestal. 476 00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:50,120 It's just you have this energy and this energy is attained 477 00:25:50,120 --> 00:25:52,840 through self concept work. You just embody this. 478 00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:54,800 It's just who you are at a core level. 479 00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:58,040 He's going to be like, wow, I just want to be with her all the 480 00:25:58,040 --> 00:26:00,880 time because her energy, her feminine energy, it just makes 481 00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:02,760 me feel so good. I feel like a man when I'm 482 00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:05,160 around her. Men love that stuff going into 483 00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:08,280 #5 She has an abundance mindset when it comes to men. 484 00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:10,680 She knows there is plenty of high value men who are willing 485 00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:14,760 to give her everything and want to commit to her instantly 486 00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:17,760 because she knows she has a lot of value. 487 00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:20,160 She knows she has a lot to offer and she knows what she's 488 00:26:20,160 --> 00:26:22,800 deserving of. That means she'll never place a 489 00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:24,640 man on a pedestal. And if a man does something 490 00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:27,560 that's disrespectful or not aligned with what she wants, she 491 00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:30,640 has no problem removing herself from the situation. 492 00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:34,360 She has no problem walking away. And she doesn't necessarily 493 00:26:34,360 --> 00:26:37,160 like, don't go telling a man if you do this, I'm going to leave 494 00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:40,160 you or, you know, if you hurt me, I'm going to break up with 495 00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:42,360 you or I'm going to, I'm going to get revenge. 496 00:26:42,360 --> 00:26:43,720 It's not dream girl energy, right? 497 00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:46,400 Silence speaks louder than words, right? 498 00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:51,240 So you just are, you believe. And here's the thing, men mirror 499 00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:55,200 back to you who you are. So if you just naturally uphold 500 00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:59,440 these standards for yourself, of you believe that you're 501 00:26:59,440 --> 00:27:01,720 deserving of a man that goes above and beyond for you. 502 00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:03,240 You're just used to Princess treatment. 503 00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:06,360 You're used to a man going above and beyond for you. 504 00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:09,320 It's just ingrained in your subconscious mind, yourself 505 00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:14,000 concept of having amazing relationships and men doing the 506 00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:16,960 most for me is normal for me. So, you know, if you can't 507 00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:18,480 provide that for me, guess what man? 508 00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:19,720 I'm going to go find another one. 509 00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:21,680 I'm going to find a different man that's going to provide that 510 00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:23,800 for me. You don't have to go tell him 511 00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:25,560 that. It just, it seeks out through 512 00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:27,840 your energy and the way that you carry yourself, the way that you 513 00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:32,080 speak, he's just going to automatically know that you 514 00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:34,960 know, he can't mess with you. He can't. 515 00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:39,240 He sees how much you love yourself and how much you value 516 00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:41,600 yourself. So he knows that he has to show 517 00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:44,040 up as his best self around you every single time because you're 518 00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:45,920 not the type of woman that's going to tolerate it, that 519 00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:48,320 you're not just going to accept poor treatment. 520 00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:52,160 That's just not who you are. You have to love yourself so 521 00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:55,840 much to the point that you would never hold on to a man that 522 00:27:56,080 --> 00:28:00,560 makes you feel less, that treats you poorly. 523 00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:04,360 And this takes a lot, you know, it's a lot of women. 524 00:28:04,360 --> 00:28:06,760 They struggle to leave a man. They say, yeah, I'm going to 525 00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:08,280 leave. But they they don't have it in 526 00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:12,080 them to leave because they're scared, because they are so 527 00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:15,080 caught up with the thought of what if this is love? 528 00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:16,720 What if this is the best I'm going to get? 529 00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:19,160 What if I won't find anyone after that and I'll be lonely 530 00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:21,520 for the rest of my life? You got to get to a place where 531 00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:23,840 you're like, I'd rather be alone than deal with a piece of shit 532 00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:25,680 like that. Never again. 533 00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:29,240 And when you love your independence, you love yourself, 534 00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:31,720 you enjoy spending quality time with yourself. 535 00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:36,520 Leaving someone that disrespects you or hurts you, it's not going 536 00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:38,760 to be hard for you because you love yourself too much. 537 00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:42,760 Going into number six, she has no problem communicating her 538 00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:44,920 needs with a man and what she requires from him. 539 00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:47,280 She doesn't do it in a demanding way. 540 00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:50,800 She knows how to communicate her needs in a neutral way. 541 00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:54,920 She doesn't demand or guilt trip if he's been inconsistent with 542 00:28:54,920 --> 00:29:01,920 her or he just did something that was disrespectful, she's 543 00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:05,160 going to bring it up in a way that is just very 544 00:29:05,160 --> 00:29:08,320 straightforward of, hey, you know, I don't really like that 545 00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:10,800 you said that. I don't appreciate that. 546 00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:13,760 And that's just not something that I want to continue to carry 547 00:29:13,760 --> 00:29:17,200 further in our relationship. Or if he's being inconsistent, 548 00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:19,720 ask him, hey, is everything OK? I've noticed a change in your 549 00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:24,800 energy and then you tell him that, you know, consistency is 550 00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:27,880 something that you require and don't go telling a man after 551 00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:30,480 like 2 dates that you need consistency because that's too 552 00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:31,920 early. And I'm going to go in this in 553 00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,640 my feminine energy course, all of this stuff. 554 00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:37,560 But if you are just getting to know someone and you are already 555 00:29:37,560 --> 00:29:40,760 like checking your phone of like he hasn't texted me in a few 556 00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:44,840 days and you know, why is he not texting me or planning our next 557 00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:46,640 date? You need to calm down bestie. 558 00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:49,800 You need to chill. I love you, but that is stemming 559 00:29:49,800 --> 00:29:52,920 from anxious attachment. If this man is a stranger, he 560 00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:56,800 doesn't owe anything to you. And if you have other men in 561 00:29:56,800 --> 00:29:58,560 your life, you have other options. 562 00:29:58,640 --> 00:30:01,520 You wouldn't be so hung up on this one man if he texted you or 563 00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:03,720 not. You would have the mindset of if 564 00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:06,440 he texts me, cool. If he doesn't, that's fine too. 565 00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:10,240 Like there's no need to be in this like worry chasing energy 566 00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:13,000 because it's just diminishing your own feminine energy. 567 00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:16,360 It's stressing you out and it's continued to perpetuate this 568 00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:19,960 situation of where you feel like he's not texting you. 569 00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:21,400 That's where your focus is going. 570 00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:24,880 You're more focused on why isn't he reached out, Why isn't he 571 00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:26,160 doing this? Why isn't he doing that? 572 00:30:26,160 --> 00:30:27,640 And you're going to keep getting more of that. 573 00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:30,800 If you can just let that go, know how to regulate yourself 574 00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:34,360 and be non reactive to what he is or isn't doing, you're never 575 00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:36,080 going to struggle. Like that's just the truth 576 00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:38,920 because you're in this unbothered state where no man's 577 00:30:38,920 --> 00:30:42,720 presence can make or break you. That's when you call your energy 578 00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:43,920 back. That's when you have power and 579 00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:46,960 that's when you're extremely magnetic and desirable to men. 580 00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:51,480 If you're really early into it dating and you know it would be 581 00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:54,960 a red flag if he's texting you every day and calling you every 582 00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:58,560 day, in my opinion, like a high value man, he just doesn't work 583 00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:02,200 that way, especially when he's busy, he's successful, he has a 584 00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:06,280 high demand job. Men also they wonder like how 585 00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:09,840 often should I text her? You know men, they don't want to 586 00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:13,040 come across desperate either. So if he's not texting you every 587 00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:15,480 day, maybe it's because he doesn't want to seem desperate 588 00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:18,760 too, but give him space because the more space you give him, the 589 00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:20,240 more he has time to think about you. 590 00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:23,760 If you're in his face and always accessible to him, when, when is 591 00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:26,120 he going to have the time to think about you and admire you? 592 00:31:26,920 --> 00:31:29,400 You're not giving him space. So be comfortable with giving a 593 00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:32,080 man space. Men fall in love with you. 594 00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:36,800 The more that you can, you know, just allow him to miss you and 595 00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:38,720 you're not always bombarding him. 596 00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:40,760 And that also comes in with your energy too. 597 00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:43,000 If you're, you don't have to say anything, even if you're not 598 00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:45,840 texting him, but you're in this desperate energy of like, why 599 00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:47,360 isn't he texting me? Why isn't he called me? 600 00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:51,160 That's just going to make him not want to text you and call 601 00:31:51,160 --> 00:31:53,920 you like, because unconsciously, like he feels that energy from 602 00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:55,440 you. I don't know how else to explain 603 00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:57,240 it. He picks up on that energy and 604 00:31:57,240 --> 00:31:59,880 he can feel it just like when he can pick up on that energy. 605 00:31:59,880 --> 00:32:02,800 When you call your energy back, you focus on yourself. 606 00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:04,520 You love yourself. You do yourself concept work. 607 00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:08,040 You do the inner work. And he's like, I'm like thinking 608 00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:09,640 about her. You know, there's something 609 00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:11,320 mysterious about her. I like her. 610 00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:13,120 She has like this good energy to her. 611 00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:16,400 This is all an energetic thing. This is not strategy. 612 00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:21,760 This is not playing games, this is mastering yourself and your 613 00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:25,400 emotions so that you can positively attract the 614 00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:28,200 experiences that you want. When it comes to your loving 615 00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:32,480 relationships, always remember that you need to be pulling your 616 00:32:32,480 --> 00:32:36,680 energy back when you feel like you're overextending yourself 617 00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:39,120 where you were overly focused on a man. 618 00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:44,280 That's what you have to pour in on all yourself concept and 619 00:32:44,280 --> 00:32:46,280 reinforce your beliefs and values. 620 00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:49,560 So a great way to start implementing this and having 621 00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:54,480 actionable steps is grabbing a piece of paper and writing down 622 00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:58,760 so that it's clear for you. Write down who is the version of 623 00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:03,920 you your dream man would want to date and see as his dream girl. 624 00:33:04,400 --> 00:33:08,040 Ask yourself what does the dream girl look like for your dream 625 00:33:08,040 --> 00:33:12,320 man? What type of woman would he see 626 00:33:12,320 --> 00:33:15,240 and be like? Wow she is just everything I 627 00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:18,200 could have ever asked for. How does she act? 628 00:33:18,360 --> 00:33:21,280 How does she show up? How does she act around Herman? 629 00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:25,200 How does she talk about herself? How does she conversate with 630 00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:27,560 him? How does she make him feel? 631 00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:31,760 And then also get clear with yourself concept of who do I 632 00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:35,200 need to become in order to become the version of myself 633 00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:39,840 that naturally has the love that she wants, that has men 634 00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:43,640 obsessing over her, that she sees herself as the dream girl. 635 00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:47,000 What does the dream girl or dream version of myself really 636 00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:49,200 look like? Write it down on paper. 637 00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:53,440 Get clear on what needs to shift, what you need to start 638 00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:55,760 embodying, and then you have to become it. 639 00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:58,160 Life is a mirror. The men in your life are a 640 00:33:58,160 --> 00:34:01,080 mirror and they're going to mirror back this energy when you 641 00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:04,880 become your own dream girl. And then you also become the 642 00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:08,280 dream version that your dream man wants. 643 00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:14,080 They're going to instantly start to perceive you in that way and 644 00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:17,280 show up as they would for their dream girl, right? 645 00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:21,920 A man that sees his dream girl, he's going to treat her like the 646 00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:23,679 love of his life. He's going to go above and 647 00:34:23,679 --> 00:34:26,600 beyond for this type of woman. He's not just going to overlook 648 00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:31,280 her. Also write down what are her 649 00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:35,040 standards, what are her boundaries, what does she expect 650 00:34:35,040 --> 00:34:38,239 from men and what does she believe she deserves? 651 00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:41,120 What are things that she would never entertain? 652 00:34:42,280 --> 00:34:45,960 How does she establish boundaries and communicate her 653 00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:49,760 needs? And then another great way to do 654 00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:55,239 this is by going on YouTube and searching self concept sleep 655 00:34:55,239 --> 00:35:00,080 affirmation tape or dream girl affirmations, sleep affirmation 656 00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:02,800 tape and listen to these affirmations while you sleep. 657 00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:05,680 And they're naturally going to impress your subconscious mind 658 00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:09,160 with these new beliefs. And then you're going to just 659 00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:11,840 start to wake up in the morning and you're going to feel like 660 00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:13,280 this version. Eventually you're just going to 661 00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:16,520 become this version and you're going to notice yourself start 662 00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:19,680 to think and feel and show up very differently on a day-to-day 663 00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:22,680 basis. Thank you so much for listening, 664 00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:24,760 you guys. It was so much fun for me to 665 00:35:24,760 --> 00:35:28,600 make this episode. I really hope that you picked up 666 00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:33,120 a lot of Nuggets from this. This work is seriously life 667 00:35:33,120 --> 00:35:37,000 changing and I want you all to become your own dream girl. 668 00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:40,360 You deserve it. You only live once in this 669 00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:44,720 lifetime and you deserve to show up as your best self and feel 670 00:35:44,720 --> 00:35:47,440 the most confident and magnetic version of yourself. 671 00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:53,560 So definitely implement these steps, try it out, give yourself 672 00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:58,240 the chance to really sink into this new self concept. 673 00:35:58,560 --> 00:36:02,760 And I'm so excited for how things are going to turn out for 674 00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:05,200 you. Remember, you're not doing this 675 00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:07,440 for anyone. You're doing this for yourself 676 00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:12,000 because you owe it to yourself to feel confident and good about 677 00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:14,320 yourself. Once again, thank you to 678 00:36:14,320 --> 00:36:17,280 everybody who is rating the podcast 5 stars. 679 00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:21,680 I really appreciate it. And feel free to send me a DM on 680 00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:25,640 Instagram at Live Marima and tell me what you think. 681 00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:27,760 I'd love to hear your guys''s feedback. 682 00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:31,000 Thank you so much for listening and I will see you in the next 683 00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:31,640 episode.