Hi, welcome to the latest episode.
Call Me a Mistress. I'm your Hostess, Mistress Mia,
and today we're going to go over a couple of interesting emails.
So for starters, one of my absolute favorite people is
Tony. Tony wrote me and we'd spoken
right before New Year's Eve. So here we are.
And he wrote me a new letter. He said good morning, Mistress
Mia. I'm so sorry.
I went a little radio silent here.
I've been meaning to message you back.
I love speaking with you on the phone.
It was so nice to be able to have a conversation with you
about things that I usually would never talk about or bring
to light. To actually say something out
loud and get feedback is so great.
Thank you for that. I swear I could talk to you and
pick your brain for hours. What you do is so interesting to
me and I love hearing all the details into how the sausage is
made. I'm sorry to hear your New
Year's Eve plans did not work out.
Sounds like your Sissy got called into work.
I hope you guys get to reschedule and make this a
reality for you. I think you'll have a lot of fun
with them both. Oh, and on my front, New Year's
Eve didn't go as planned either. Honestly, we both lost track of
time. I always make a big dinner every
New Year's Eve. This year was fried calamari,
steak, crab legs, lobster tails and mashed potatoes.
By the time we were done cooking, eating and cleaning it
was nearly the new year. I still have plans to do what we
talked about. I think my wife will really
respond to it. I have tried tying her up before
and played around but not like this and I think she will like
it and like the change up. I will definitely report back to
you and let you know how it went.
One thing I wanted to clarify with you is my feelings of
submission. In the podcast you mentioned I
wanted to be submissive to men. That's not exactly correct.
I've played with men in the past.
You bet. Did I have some fun and really
hot sex and get my ass fucked good?
Absolutely, but if I'm choosing I'd rather be submissive to a
woman and get my ass fucked with a strap on.
For me men were always just the easiest option to be submissive
and scratch that sub itch at the top of the hat.
I can go on grinder and find a man and be fucking within
minutes, or I can go to the local adult store and fuck
around in the booths. The convenience can't be beat
and it's pretty hot knowing that at any moment that it's
available to me every turn. Very tempting, but to be honest
it's not something I'm really seeking out anymore.
Things change. I went to the adult booths
recently and just wanted nothing to do with anyone.
Every once in a while I'll go on Grinder and see if anyone is
close because it does turn me on knowing that the option is there
and so close, but at this point in my life it's not something
really worth pursuing. Don't get me wrong, I still love
gay porn and watch and jerk off to gay porn because it's still
the best porn. My soft spot is still dominant
women. When I see a mistress clad in
leather with a mean look on her face, my knees get weak.
Maybe someday I'll have an opportunity to submit to a pro
Dom again. Never say never, but I will just
have to be content with porn and some webcam girls.
Lately I've been doing the webcam with some Doms.
I enjoy the interaction and love taking orders and being told
what to do. That's why I enjoy poppers and
popper play so much. I can have a Dom give me an
orders to take three hits of poppers and hold my breath for
15 seconds and I get the thrill of following her commands and
the humiliation of it. So enough about me, I always end
up rambling. How has your new year gone so
far? Are you busy in the dungeon?
I hope so. Hopefully we can talk again
soon. I really enjoyed it and thanks
for taking the time as always to speak and to write to me, Tony.
So you know, Tony, I will absolutely apologize because I
thought as well that you really wanted to be submissive to men.
But now I know it's just the, the female aspect of things and,
you know, getting fucked with a strap on, can't say I blame you.
It's absolutely one of my favorite things to do.
You never have to apologize for going radio silent on me.
That's not ever an issue or a thought in my mind.
You know when you can write me or you can call me, It's a
matter of you having your own time.
You have a life. So you know, it was it was a
great conversation. I felt like I'm monopolized a
little bit too much. But I for the listeners, I gave
Tony the advice that his wife wanted to experience her by side
be bisexual. And I told him that he really
should focus on feeling more like a feminine person when
they're in bed together. And I said something like, you
know, tie her up, making it very sensual, making it very erotic.
Do sensory play things where she's not going to feel your,
your hair, your chest hair or your facial hair or anything
like that. It's really just about her
feeling a softer side and, you know, feeling as if she is with
a female more so than a male. And I know it's difficult.
I mean, it's not like an easy to ask like whoo, I can feel manly.
But it's little things that you can do.
It's the sensory play. It's, you know, having her feel
very having her feel things very softly and you know, the candle
burning and make it much more sensual and and feminine.
I think that's something that she probably wants.
And that was our conversation. We talked a little bit about
that and we talked a few other things, but you know, overall
was a great conversation. I know you talk about the
concept of, you know, being a man, how easy it is to go on
grinder. I've gone on Grinder as a Dom
because there's a lot of guys like you who want to see a Dom.
They don't really think about the resources in order to get a
Dom. And you know, I'll go on there
and I'll look at locals and that kind of thing.
A lot of men are flakes though. They get really horned up.
They start playing with themselves.
They go on Grinder and before they come to actually meet you,
they've already gotten off. They're done.
So it's really a hit or miss because you never know if
there's flakes or what have you. You just don't.
Now, here locally, there is a lot of, like, bear men.
And, you know, they're fifties, 60s, early 70s even.
And they all get together at this guy's apartment.
He always posted on Fetlife. And he's like, Oh yeah, you
know, here's the gay orgy. And he's even posted pictures.
I'm like, fuck yeah, Grandpa, get that Dick.
I mean, you know, whatever floats his boat with that.
I think it's great. Whatever makes him happy.
And you mentioned the whole things with the poppers.
When a Dom tells you to do poppers, well, we've had
bisexual guys that have come to do like anal play and that kind
of stuff and they bring their poppers and I'll hold the
poppers for them, you know, while they had their mask on or
why they have their, their hands, you know, in cuffs or
whatever. And I'm just like, here it is,
sniff it, sniff it. To me, it's stinks.
I don't like the smell of it, but I'm like, you know, in a
session, go ahead and do it, you know, just sniff it.
It's funny because the reaction and their response is, you know,
they relax and it's, you know, they think it's hot and erotic
and they love it. So now I'm there, you know, go
ahead and snort it and, you know, get all hot and bothered.
Whatever floats your boat. But let's see, there was
something else I saw, always saw the poppers.
And then, yeah, an e-mail about the whole concept with Grinder.
I had this kid and he was probably, gosh, he was 24 going
on 14. He was just like a little man
child. He annoyed the shit out of me
and he came to me and told me that when he was growing up, his
mother would tie him up in the garage with a collar and leash
on and act as if he was a dog. And she would do that for
punishment. And I was like, wow, your mother
is a medical professional and she would treat her son like a
rabid dog or something crazy because she would put a collar
and leash on him and put the collar and leash on outside in
the garage and tie him up in the garage for punishment.
Yeah, I couldn't fathom that. But she also coddled him so much
that here he is, you know, 2425 years old, acting like he's a 14
year old child. And, you know, he gets fired
from his jobs because he's sexually inappropriate with Co
workers or he's made sexual innuendos that are, again,
inappropriate. And the kid has just struggled.
And when he came over, I think at the second or third time, he
brought his girlfriend. And his girlfriend is not
dominant. She's very much a switch or even
more so submissive. And he was just like, Mr. Smea,
I want you to teach her how to be dominant.
And I was like, look, if she doesn't want to be dominant,
it's not going to happen. And this girl was like, I can't
do it. I, I don't have it in me to be
like that. You know, I can play a little
bit, but I can't take it to the next level.
And that's something that he wanted.
So when that relationship failed and it did, it was like 9 months
into it and that was it. When that failed, he was like,
he couldn't find a woman or, you know, a young lady in early 20s
to even play with because, you know, they wanted dominant
males. They didn't want this kid who,
you know, was into puppy play or sysification.
They weren't interested in that. And then he couldn't meet anyone
in the vanilla world because he would be inappropriate and he
would get in trouble. And so he couldn't develop
relationships at work in a normal setting because he
couldn't behave properly. And then he just had this little
idea that he thought, well, I'm just going to go on grinder and
maybe I can just find somebody to play with.
Because he tried dating sites didn't work and he didn't want
to do anything vanilla. He wanted to find this female
Dom and blah, blah, blah. But he kind of had a personality
just kind of off putting. Again, he was very demanding on
his girlfriend and, you know, they broke up for that reason.
And so then he got on grinder and he messaged me when it first
happened. He's like, yeah, you know, I met
this this guy in his car in the parking lot and next thing you
know, I'm sucking his Dick. And I was like, OK, so you know,
no judgement, but it's like I I just, you know, when you don't
even say that you're bi or, you know, you really want to explore
anything. And you know, to me, there's
some slutty women out there and you can find them, but you got
to have game. And, you know, he just did not
have any game and he wasn't really offering anything because
he wouldn't act like an adult. So last thing I heard, you know,
he got on hormones, now he wants to be a woman.
Now he's growing titties. And, you know, it's like, OK, I
don't know. It's it's one of those things,
you know, so many people probably wouldn't like my
opinion on that. But you know, maybe if you don't
have game, maybe you just have to switch teams for that reason.
I don't know. I haven't been in that position.
You know, I've played, you know, with both teams and all three
teams, I should say trans, female, male doesn't matter.
I mean, people are people, but I think if you have an off putting
personality and you can't connect in a normal setting,
then you need to take some social cues or, you know, take
some classes on social interaction.
I mean there are such things, but I don't know.
As long as she, her, they, whatever they're, you know, live
their best life. However it may be.
It is what it is. Funny story.
So you talk about poppers and this is again, I do these
things. I don't judge.
I really don't give a fuck. People all make their choice and
what they do, and that's life, you know, we all make our own
choices and the things that we do.
So I can't judge anyone for that.
You know, I had this people take the free liberty to think that
they're so fucking special. And honestly, we're all the same
people. It doesn't matter.
But this, this asshole decides that he's going to write me
because he thinks that I want to hear him come.
And he says, oh, your voice is so sexy, Mistress.
Man, you know, I love your podcast, but I want to hear you
come and I want to come. And I'm like, yeah, how much you
want to pay me to do phone sex? Yeah, I'm not going to be coming
on the phone. I'll walk you through it and
I'll tell you what a little bitch you are for a week.
You know, we can do some fun role play, but don't write me a
fucking e-mail and say something effective.
I want to come for you, you know?
I know you want to hear me come. I'll even send a video or
picture. No, no, I'm not this little kink
dispenser. It's just, it's so annoying.
It really is. And then I had this other guy
and he writes me all the fucking time.
And he should realize that if I don't respond to his stupid
emails because he's like, hey mistress, were you wearing
panties? Hey mistress, do you like
pantyhose? Hey, what's your opinion on
this? And I'm thinking annoying.
So I've had to block some people.
It's just the fact of life. It is what it is.
Let's see, you know, Tony asked how my year was going.
My year has been weird, and there's been a few issues that
have come up. Yeah.
You know, you have those people in your life that you've never
met that make assumptions on what you do, and then they judge
you for it. And then they put you in social
media platforms and yeah, yeah, you know, you try to explain to
people if you're a dominatrix, you're not fucking people.
No, we're not hookers and people just associate BDSM in the
wrong, the wrong context of of human sexuality.
So yeah, I was talking to Layla London on The Curious Girl, and
we're actually going to be doing another interview tomorrow.
And you know, she is, she's a cool lady.
She has a great show. And, you know, we talked in
great lengths and we really talked about a lot.
And on this this next show, she's going to ask me.
I talked to her about being able to read people and know what
they like sexually when I see a person when I talk to them.
And yeah, I have that, that weird little thing that I can do
and just kind of read people just from my own experiences.
But sometimes I just want to block that out.
Like, I don't really want to see that with people, you know?
But then sometimes I look at celebrities and you look at them
and you're thinking, oh, I wonder what he likes in bed.
Oh, yeah. You know, it's kind of like, oh,
Channing Tatum, he looks like he wants to be put in panties and,
you know, for me to sit on his face.
So that kind of thing is kind of fun just to think about.
Oh, goodness. Let's see.
Oh, when I was thinking about the whole popper thing.
So yeah, that kind of brought this up.
It was kind of funny, but years ago when I was doing phone sex,
you know, I did it in college after college and and I did it
because it was so easy. You know, you log into your
account. Of course, I had a landline.
It worked out great. But you log into your account
and it pops up, it pops up what kind of genre you're going to be
doing. And so like it would be like
college girl cheerleader and then it would be urban.
So, you know, you could do like a Jamaican accent or a black
type accent. Then they had country girl.
You know, everything was very stereotypical.
Because they wanted those, the stereo role plays.
And then they had trans, you know, so I did all these voices
which I can mimic a lot of voices and it's fun to do it.
I didn't have an issue with it, but I had this one guy and he
would always call me and funny thing, one of their genres was
not a voice. It was being a dominant and it
would say BDSM. And I was like, Oh, my favorite.
And so this guy would call me and he was a movie producer.
And I thought, oh, how cool is this?
You know? So he told me who he was and,
you know, I looked him up and everything.
And then ultimately we talked after and, you know, I gave him
my own, my own phone number. And, you know, we talked
thereafter and he was, he was really cool.
He would send me gifts and that kind of thing.
But he was a coke addict. He loved crack cocaine.
And so, you know, he's going to do it regardless.
But, you know, he'd call me and he'd want to play with himself.
And you know, a lot of times when people are under the
influence like that, they'll get what we call cold Dick so they
don't get a hard on or they, you know, they, they keep trying to
play with themselves and nothing happens.
And so when he called me, he didn't have an issue cause a lot
of people just don't have an issue.
They don't get the cold Dick. But he'd call me and I would
hear him in his car going up to his dealer, getting fucking
drugs, breaking out his crack pipe.
And, you know, here Tony's innocent telling me, Oh yeah,
yeah, Loveland, you know, these girls will tell me, oh, use my
poppers, you know, So it's like, oh, snort the poppers.
Well, this guy was fucking smoking crack, OK?
And he would say, Mistress, how many, how many puffs do I need
to get? Oh my God, just do 2 puffs, you
know, then I'd hear him, you know, like the fucking lighter
and do the pop crack pie. But I was like, this is what my
life has come to. What the fuck am I doing?
No judgement. So don't judge me.
You know, people are going to do them regardless.
And it's it's a horrible, horrible addiction.
Drug addictions, awful alcoholism, horrible.
I mean, it's just, it's so sad when addictions take over your
life. And ultimately it consumed him.
But it's sad because he was a very nice guy.
He had all these, you know, great qualities and he's a super
cool guy. He really was.
So we had an interesting week. I'll just jump off that topic.
So I see this very passable cross dresser and he comes to
see me once or twice a month and, and he came into the
dungeon and we always do like extreme bondage.
And you know, he walks around and, you know, I put him on a
collar and leash and, you know, make him do little things around
the dungeon. And it's, it's sweet, it's
really cool. He's a super nice guy.
And we just talk about different things he's done and I'll
usually give him a task to do. So last week I told him to, I
told him to go to Victoria's Secret and get measurement for a
bra and be sure to take his, his little gel insert titties with
them so that they could measure his cup.
It was so cute. And he's such a cute guy too.
Such a cute guy. But yeah, we had a great time.
We really did. We we talked, we did, we did
some rope play and we did a few different things.
But yeah, you know, you just got to love the crossdressers.
You really do. One of my crossdressers is going
to be leaving and moving across country and I don't know when
I'll see him. Now he's, you know, pushing
6263. Doesn't look it.
But yeah, I'll miss him while he's gone.
So the other thing I'm going to bring up is I have a cross
dresser and I actually posted a video of him on Fetlife last
night, and he has a KED shoe fetish.
And he brought me a pair of KED's years ago and he started
coming to see me when he was like a sophomore in college and
just cute, adorable, cute, adorable guy.
I, I can't even describe how cute he is, but yeah, so he, I
think the first session that we ever did, you know, he's wearing
heads. He wants to dress like a
cheerleader. And I'm like, you're a Sissy.
I think you want a cock in your mouth.
He's like, no, no, no, no, not me, not me.
Well, I was right. And now here it's been, you
know, almost 10 years, and now he wants to have a Sissy party
with Keds as a theme so that he's going to get Keds for all
the attendees. Yeah, you just tell me your shoe
size. You tell me your shoe size, and
he'll get you a pair of Keds. So it's going to be interesting.
He wants to do a few different things and yeah, probably do
like lunch and Sissy and stuff like that around the pool and
make him walk in his little kids and we'll make him do cute
little tasks. It'll be really, it'll be quite
fun and that's what he wants to do.
So I'm looking forward to that. But I posted a video of him and
I was like, yeah, people comment he wants humiliation,
degradation, tell him he's weak and pathetic.
But in the video he's he's hitting his Dick with one of his
kids. I adore him.
He's so fucking cute. And I interviewed him as well a
few months back and he's on the episode of Whitney.
And but, yeah, we talked about different things.
And, yeah, it was interesting, Yeah.
But I haven't been too exciting in this episode.
I'm kind of losing my voice. I'm getting over a cold.
So I don't look my best. I don't feel my best.
So bear with me. But yeah.
So aside from that, happy Monday.
And I hope you all have a wonderful, fabulous week.
And yeah, as Tony had asked me how's my, my year going?
It's been, it's been interesting.
I'm having a birthday this month and that should be a lot of fun.
My husband's working on a lovely slave bed for me.
It's going to be a convertible bed where you lift the foot
board and he's going to have two compartments, one for him and
one for my Sissy slave. So we'll see how that goes and
I'm really looking forward to it.
He's going to have it padded on the inside and they'll they'll
be a like foam mattress and both of them.
So they'll both be very comfortable and they'll be
proper ventilation. And then that way they can sleep
in there and I can do whatever I want on top of the bed.
So when that's finally finished, I will be posting pictures of
that and might even do a little video to show you how fucking
cool it's going to be. So I'm looking forward to it.
But until then, I appreciate all of you.
You know, I'm always happy to take a valid e-mail with valid
questions. Not about your orgasms, not that
I really want to hear you come. That's not my goal.
You know, if you're cute and young and you're local, I might
play with you in the dungeon for some fun.
That's always good. But if you're going to be gross
and appropriate, you have to question yourself.
Is this why I'm single? Or is this why my wife will not
play with me because I act like a cock sucker?
Yeah. So men respect women.
Just be respectful. You know, women are not Bros.
You know, they can be hoes, but they're not fucking Bros.
They're not. They're for your entertainment.
Maybe submissive women are, but myself being a dominant female,
being a dominatrix, yeah, my, my little goal in life is not to
hear all these men have orgasms, whether it's via phone or see a
picture or even a fucking video. Just not my, my thing, you know?
But but yeah, if you have some interesting ideas on what you
want to talk about or if you want me to reach out to someone
to interview, I'm always happy to do that.
One of my friends reached out a couple months back and he's
like, why don't you interview, you know, the woman who fucked
what is 1000 men? Bonnie Blue, I think her name of
it is. But I reached out to her and at
that time it was like the same day she ended up getting
arrested. So I haven't looked that up.
I haven't seen the outcome on that.
So yeah, the crazy things we do, but I'm looking forward talking
to Layla tomorrow and outside of that, that's it.
Easy peasy. So if yeah, we'll see how your
year goes. And I wish all of you the best.
And until then, this has been the latest episode of Call Me
Mistress.