to the show today. I really want to say again, I am
always so appreciative of all your support, all your kind
words, all your amazing emails and all of your wonderful
reviews about the podcast. So I'm going to bring up a
really interesting topic we're going to talk about.
Well, I'm going to talk about and you're going to listen to my
crazy rant on a few things, but I want to tell you that I was
checking my my ratings for the show.
And again, I couldn't be happier.
And they have ranked me #1 nationally for the number one
spot for BDSM podcasts. They have ranked me #1 for the
best dominatrix podcast show, and that was not only
nationally, but globally. And so honestly, I couldn't have
been here without all my listeners and all the people
that support me now. They get that information
through Apple, through Spotify, through any forum that you
listen to my podcast. So I think right now it's on
probably 15 or 20 music hosts and you know, podcast hosts,
that kind of thing. And you know, they, they base it
on how many listens, the reviews, all those things.
And every country in the sexuality genre.
I'm in the top 100. And I don't know if you all know
this, but there are a ton to compete with.
And I'm just fortunate enough that I, I'm well liked and I'm,
again, I'm very gracious to that.
I don't take any of that for granted.
And again, I wouldn't have those ratings if it weren't for you,
my listeners and my fans. Now I will say that with good
followers and fans, there's a few haters and that's OK.
And I'm not here to, you know, bust anyone's balls or out them
for being cunts. But I will say there's been one
that is always kind of stuck out.
Years ago, he started writing me and telling me about his
childhood and his horrible father and his mother that
tolerated the verbal abuse and the alcoholism and, and now how
he's very submissive. He obviously is a service sub.
He is a people pleaser and you know, he's in a horrible
marriage and you know, he struggles with his own mental
health issues. And for those of you who
obviously listen to the show, you know that I worked in mental
health for years and I have the utmost compassion for anyone
with mental health disorders. I think that, you know, therapy
is always the best Ave. to take and I think when that is
helping, I think the other aids are medication.
And this specific gentleman, he hasn't been very gentlemanly to
me. You know, for the longest time,
he was my biggest fan. And I was planning on meeting
him to do a session. And, you know, I told him, I
said, you know, I'd even do the session for free.
And I knew he was financially struggling.
I mean, not everyone can afford a dominatrix, you know?
And I was more than happy to see him.
However, I'd even made the specific arrangements when I was
traveling upstate that I was going to stop at a, you know, at
a halfway point in his and near his city.
But my husband, who, you know, if you got a good spouse and you
want to keep the marriage happy, sometimes you just have to pass
by your spouse. And my spouse said, look, no one
is going to take your time or mine in this venture for you to
do a free session. And so, you know, I had to tell
this person, Hey, I can't do it. You know, I can, I can give you
a discount and I can do a nice session for you still.
And I can do, you know, a lot in an hour's time.
You know, we could do the scene. It's bondage, little discipline,
you know it. I could really bring his his
insight to seeing a Dom on the next level.
I think I have that that capability of doing that
because, you know, I, I enjoy what I do and there's a lot of
people that come a very far distance to see me.
So I must be doing something right now.
This person, he finds time in his life to update his review of
the podcast and of course if he could give me zero stars he
would. But he updates it every six
months give or take. And he has said horrible things
about myself and my Co hosts and some of the Toms and the Tungen.
And yet he has that one personal attack against me.
Now keep in mind, I've done nothing to this man.
I am not a vindictive person. I'm not a spiteful person.
I am telling you all this because I want a truce, Steve.
I know you have a hard on for me and that's fine.
There's men with actual hard ONS for me all the fucking time.
They can't listen to my voice in the gym around their wives at
work. And that's OK.
And since I know obviously that if you continue to have this
hard on for me to keep updating your negative review and you
keep trying to drop me from having a five star review,
you're only hurting yourself. You seriously are hurting
yourself. You know, I was planning on
taking a trip to Virginia, which I'm not a real big fan of
Virginia, but I have to go through fucking Virginia.
And you know, I could have said, hey, I'll meet you for coffee,
you know, and if you're willing to take this truce, I'm even
willing to talk to you on the phone or, you know, even Zoom
with you. I have no problems with that.
What I do have a problem with is someone being malicious against
me on a continual basis. Now, his last review is always,
you know, is known thing one sub, two Doms, and that's always
his screen name. Now this man went to the lengths
of trying to tell me that he was dead via his fate, his excuse me
via his daughter's fake e-mail address pretending to be his
daughter. That I would be devastated by
the loss of a man I've never met and barely know.
I only know his tragedies in his life and my heart goes out to
him for that. I know that we have all had
horrific experiences in our life, some far worse than
others, but for the most part, there's people that have
struggled far worse than we have.
And so Steve, I'm, I have no problem with the fact of telling
you that I have no problem doing the truce.
Easy peasy. You know, if you want a titty
pic, I'll send you a titty pic for fun.
But this should end this whole thing.
You leaving negative reviews, it's petty.
It's really beneath you. And you're a man in your 50s who
is married with two children and you have your own issues.
And you know, the thing of it is, does it really affect me?
No, because I just got, again, good pods, million pods, several
forums for podcast ratings. I'm number one.
And there's a reason behind that.
And that's because I'm good at my podcast and I have really
amazing fans that support me. And I'm calling a truce because
it's the adult thing to do. And although I've never done
anything malicious against you and I never will, I think it's
only right to clear the air and have a good conscience to do the
right thing. And before you gave me rave
reviews, now they're scathing and bitter as you called me
bitter and old. I just turned 49.
I don't feel 49 and I'm blissfully happy.
I'm very sorry for that if that offends you.
But I live the fucking dream, I really do.
And why? Because I've made the right
choices and I've always tried to put good out in my life to
others. I've sacrificed a lot of things
for the sake of others. I've ran a homeless shelter.
I have cared for the elderly. I have continued to help friends
and family at their times of need.
And I'll continue to do so. To me, I have been very selfless
and I will continue to be that selfless individual.
Now if you choose to continue, you know every couple months
writing me negative reviews, so be it.
But if you continue to be malicious like this and waste
your time, you can go ahead. Keep doing that.
I will give you some information to a lovely Dom who is fucking
nuts and you know, you can pair up with her and you can talk all
the shit you want to about me with her.
She'd love it. And yeah, I'm sure you have a
blast. You know, I have no problem with
that. I really don't.
I just find it interesting and sad because I'm doing this
honestly, because the reviews, they don't really affect me.
But what affects me is knowing that someone has such a fucking
hard on for me for almost 4 years that they're willing to
continue to update their fucking miserable review of me, you
know? And like I said, I'll be nice.
I can talk to you on the phone. I can say, hey, I wiped my hands
off all this and we can move forward as acquaintances, you
know, in the kink lifestyle. We can talk kink.
You can tell me your problems. I'll listen.
We can exchange emails on occasion.
I'm good with that too. You know, I just feel like I
deal with enough bullshit every fucking day.
And although my life is blissful on so many levels, like amazing
husband, great family, good friends, you know, a nice sweet
little Sissy with a sexy little ass that I get to spank and fuck
and do whatever the fuck I want. And so I can't complain about
that. But you know, this past week,
someone who really thought it would be OK to yell and bitch at
me at one point in my own home just because he was having a
rough day, It just doesn't bode well with me.
And then he thinks that, you know, because he lives a
dysfunctional life and he thinks it's cool that he can give me a
shit apology where subconsciously he makes enough
grammatical errors in this set apology that you can see the
underlying subconscious true feeling of how he feels towards
me is all one big fucking facade.
And I'm not a fake ass bitch. I have no need to be a fake ass
bitch. I am a dominatrix who can be a
fucking bitch in that dungeon if you want me to be, or I can be
the kindest fucking person you need me to be.
I'm genuine, I'm real, I'm not a malicious bitch and I'm not
stupid. So I see right through bullshit
all day long and that's why I will cut ties with you if you
fuck me over. So for me to come to this
conclusion of I'm going to give you a truce, it's only because
you suffer with mental health issues and I feel sorry for you
that you would feel compelled to continue to update your review
on the podcast. It's sad.
So you can either be a man and have some, you know, integrity
on some level, or you can be a cunt and you can continue to be
miserable. And you can be at that point in
your life where you're, I think you're what, 54 now?
That you'll never meet me. I'll never speak with you.
You won't get a titty picture of me.
And yeah, you'll live your life in Virginia still hating me,
still still feeling miserable, and knowing that as you said in
your last review, Oh, this podcast used to be great and now
it sucks so bad. NIA used to be fun and cheery.
Now she just sounds old and bitter.
I guess karma has a way of making things right, huh?
Well, like I said, Steve, if you think that my life and karma has
gotten me, you are sadly mistaken.
Now feel so much better. Just want to get that out
because, you know, a lot of people would tell me and they'd
give me the advice. Mia, don't be bothered by that.
You know, there's a bunch of haters, and I've had my share,
But you know, when this person is mentally struggling and he
makes it his sole goal to try to disparage me and the podcast.
And the thing of it is, it's not just me.
It's the fact that you take something that to me is a
beautiful thing, reaching out to, you know, millions of people
daily that enjoy the things that I say about BDSM and kink and
sex and relationships. You take all those great things
where it's so taboo to even talk about and so many people can't
talk about it, and you discredit me and disparage that one thing
because you're pissed off that I didn't see you for free.
And you go to great lengths to fake a death your own lie,
pretend to be your daughter and pretend to be unmarried living
with your brother, and all these things that aren't true.
And I feel bad for you, I really do.
Like I said, life is not easy for anyone in this existence.
I could write a book about my own experiences.
We've all suffered heartbreak, we've all suffered many things.
And there's people every day that listen to this podcast
because it makes their life a little brighter.
So if you're willing to piss on other people and disparage what
I do, shame on you. After that, if you don't come to
this truce, I don't feel sorry for you anymore.
So now after that little rant. I'm going to tell you it's time
to talk bondage. It's time to talk things that
are fun and light and sexual, and that's what we do in BDSM
now. The sexual aspect is for favored
partners and levels of intimacy that you share with special
people. Now the other part of BDSM is
something cathartic and beautiful and there was a lovely
lady who wrote me a comment on fat and she said that it was so
great that I talked about therapeutic BDSM and how
cathartic it can be to someone who has struggled and suffered
with abuse and past trauma in their life.
And I think we've all been to that point to where we need
something to hold on to. I was recently speaking with a
friend of mine who I met in the Tunge in almost a year ago now,
and he's struggling in his own way because something that he's
gone through has been a horrible marriage and a woman that
continues to make his life miserable on a lot of levels has
affected his time here at the dungeon.
And that in itself reminded me of good old Steve.
You know, it's interesting that as individuals, we always have
choices. We can choose to do the right
thing, or we can choose to do the malicious, mean, vintictive
thing. I think that I always try to do
the right thing, but you know, when you're in a horrible
marriage and you're in a life that you're unhappy with taking
it out on others, it never goes well.
Or when you're insecure and you have feelings about a specific
person you think impacts your life and it really doesn't.
It's all about your insecurity. It's one of those times where
you have to step back and really make the right choice in all of
this. Like I said, I don't have ill
will for Steve. I don't have ill will for people
that feel compelled to out me to my family who does not know that
I'm a dominatrix, who feels that calling me all these horrible
names on social media, they think it might better their life
situation or life that they fucked up.
They think that what I have not done in their life effects them,
but it hasn't. You know, as a Dom, I don't like
bondage on myself. I feel constricted.
I feel isolated, suffocated. I feel it's exhausting.
There's nothing about it that I enjoy, but I like to do it to
other people. And that's why when I was
thinking about doing this episode, I thought, in life, we
have bonds that control us. It's controlling our lives in a
physical way that makes things miserable for us.
You know when you hold back someone from what they really
want to do, you're hurting yourself, you're hurting the
relationship. And you know when you create
double standards for yourself and in your relationship, create
double standards when you don't see the harm that you create for
your partner, you won't have a relationship long.
You won't have a successful marriage.
And so my friend who has struggled with having a very
difficult marriage for a very long time, it's been very hard
for him. And so when people come to us in
the dungeon and they want bondage, bondage correlates to
inner struggles. And it correlates primarily at a
point in your life where it's prepubescent growing up, usually
with an alcoholic father or an abusive parent.
And bondage brings that level of security to you.
And it can be as soon as you're, you know, 1213 years old, you
want to be tied up or you want to be confined in a little space
because it's that safe space that no one can hurt you.
And again, people have had to struggle that way as they do
today. And so when people come to the
dungeon, I love to do Saran wrap bondage.
I love to wrap them up like they're my special little
butterfly. And I provide them with a little
cocoon and I do the session and I talk to them and I tell them
that everything is going to be OK and we're going to get
through this. And through the session.
I'll do whatever they want. Sometimes it can be spankings or
electrical play or smoking. They can be all those things.
My little cupcake that I just met, we did Saran wrap bondage
and it's always a beautiful thing because at the end I cut
them out of their cocoon and they come out of their shell as
a butterfly, a new beginning. And to me, that is what the
level of BDSM that you can create with someone.
Now, you can call it a mind fuck or you can simply call it a
cathartic session of realization.
And it's about realizing who you are and what you want in this
life, what you want to experience.
You know, you have to bring meaning to your life.
You have to find purpose. Finding purpose with malicious
intent, you'll accomplish nothing.
You'll accomplish an anger eating away at your soul, and it
will do nothing but make you better and miserable.
So when people come to the dungeon and they want to explore
bondage, sometimes they want to get in the back bed.
I know when I was speaking with Layla London a few weeks ago,
she was like, I don't know, when you talk about that back bed,
it's like really fucking freaks her out.
But I told her, I said, you get in that back bed and it's a
second skin. It has air holes right at your
mouth and your nose, and you're laying there and you turn on the
vacuum and it encases you in a way that is giving you one big
hug, as a lot of people like to refer it as.
And I've known people to get in that back bed and they fall
asleep and it's probably the best sleep they get for two or
three hours. I know my good friend Wes, it's
his birthday. Happy birthday, Wes.
He loves the back bed. He loves it so much.
He's ordering me a new one because mine has seen better
days. It's gotten so much use and
there's been so many people to enjoy it.
But you know, if you're at home and you don't have a back bed,
that's OK. You know, I don't always suggest
rope for beginners, but I always suggest Saran wrap.
Saran wrap is that lovely plastic feeling of just sheer
comfort for a lot of people that have had troubling experiences.
And when they get in that Saran wrap, they feel secure and they
know that when I'm with them, they're safe.
And that's something to me very special.
When you're in this lifestyle, you need to always look for a
Dom who has your best interest. And if you don't go to a Dom and
you decide to play with someone, you need to make sure that their
best interest is with you, that you have their best interests as
well. And it's a mutual balance of
things. And so people who are inclined
to do rope, you know, really educate yourself on it.
They have really great books about rigging.
They have great books about shibari and learning to how to
do knots and ties. And you know, you don't always
need to have a pair of safety shears just in case.
But in every community, there's always rigors.
And so it's always finding that perfect rigor to help you have
that perfect experience and to make it special for you.
And you know, I'm not a big rope person.
I'll use them in a scene. You know, you like anything you
do bondage, you have to really be very careful and where your
placement is. You don't want to put anything
on joints. You don't want any loss of blood
flow. You want to be conscious of
where you put those ropes. My thing that I always enjoy is
chains and shackles and handcuffs.
Just metal in general. I think it is erotic.
I think it's permanent. It's hard to break and I do love
permanence. I do love to feel those cold
metal chains against skin. It's such an erotic feeling that
yeah, it gets me wet real fucking quick.
I love it. I had someone bent over my
surgical table and it's fucking cold steel.
And his legs were shackled and chained to the table and his
arms were extended over it. And I fucked the shit out of him
with my strap on and I enjoyed every minute of it.
And I said to him, if you only knew how wet you made my pussy.
Right now. Life is too short not to
experience things that you want, like BDSM.
As long as you're not hurting anyone or hurting yourself in a
harmful way, you need to live your best life.
You need to be happy and find happiness.
Now I will say there's one really great guy and we
communicate via e-mail. He's in Australia and he sent me
a few videos that I did a nice compilation.
You can find it on the Call Me Mistress channel on YouTube.
You can watch it. It's bondage in quicksand.
He loves it. He loves submerging himself in
quicksand and crawling back out. He, he wears the swim trunks,
but he's got a hard on underneath.
He loves it. And with the quicksand, he said
it just swallows you up and he loves it.
He just, there's no other words that describes, he said, how it
feels. I don't recommend just a novice
going out and finding a quicksand hole and sliding in.
You won't know your strength or your capabilities and getting
out, especially if you sink yourself down entirely too deep.
Now he's used to it. He makes videos and he smokes
cigarettes and he said that he would love for me to be there.
And I'm going to tell you right now, when I go to Australia, I'm
going to meet the man. I'm going to go to a lovely
little beach, and I'm going to watch him submerge himself into
quicksand. And I'll be happy to blow in his
face from a distance because I'm not sinking myself into
quicksand. But again, listeners, I know
this isn't my usual kind of episode, but I think that you
all can sympathize with someone who struggles with mental
health. And I think you can sympathize
with with people that struggle. And I think that putting life in
perspective and what is important to you and how you
feel about yourself, it's, it's the most important thing, how
you feel on the outlook of life and being happy.
And you know, where there's negative, there's always
positive. So I hope that we can call it a
truce, Steve, and move forward. I think the last two years of
being angry with me for nothing has done nothing for you.
Now I will say as well, over the weekend I did the session where
I did tie someone up in Roe bondage and it was erotic and
fun and he was in defeat. So I was happy to shove my foot
in his mouth until he gagged and I might have let him throw open
his mouth just a little. I have size 9 shoe.
It wasn't an easy swallow for him, but then again, I didn't
care and neither did he. I think that through bondage,
through compassion and understanding and communication
and all that we do in this lifestyle is critical and
finding that love towards yourself and to others is always
what is most important. So go with love, be happy, find
yourself and find yourself in kink and what makes your world
go around. All right, so until then, this
has been the latest episode of Call Me Mistress.
Thank you to all my loyal fans, I love you all.