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to the show today. 
I really want to say again, I am

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always so appreciative of all 
your support, all your kind 

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words, all your amazing emails 
and all of your wonderful 

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reviews about the podcast. 
So I'm going to bring up a 

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really interesting topic we're 
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Well, I'm going to talk about 
and you're going to listen to my

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crazy rant on a few things, but 
I want to tell you that I was 

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checking my my ratings for the 
show. 

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And again, I couldn't be 
happier. 

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And they have ranked me #1 
nationally for the number one 

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spot for BDSM podcasts. 
They have ranked me #1 for the 

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best dominatrix podcast show, 
and that was not only 

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nationally, but globally. 
And so honestly, I couldn't have

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been here without all my 
listeners and all the people 

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that support me now. 
They get that information 

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through Apple, through Spotify, 
through any forum that you 

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listen to my podcast. 
So I think right now it's on 

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probably 15 or 20 music hosts 
and you know, podcast hosts, 

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that kind of thing. 
And you know, they, they base it

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on how many listens, the 
reviews, all those things. 

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And every country in the 
sexuality genre. 

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I'm in the top 100. 
And I don't know if you all know

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this, but there are a ton to 
compete with. 

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And I'm just fortunate enough 
that I, I'm well liked and I'm, 

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again, I'm very gracious to 
that. 

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I don't take any of that for 
granted. 

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And again, I wouldn't have those
ratings if it weren't for you, 

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my listeners and my fans. 
Now I will say that with good 

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followers and fans, there's a 
few haters and that's OK. 

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And I'm not here to, you know, 
bust anyone's balls or out them 

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for being cunts. 
But I will say there's been one 

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that is always kind of stuck 
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Years ago, he started writing me
and telling me about his 

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childhood and his horrible 
father and his mother that 

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tolerated the verbal abuse and 
the alcoholism and, and now how 

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he's very submissive. 
He obviously is a service sub. 

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He is a people pleaser and you 
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marriage and you know, he 
struggles with his own mental 

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health issues. 
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obviously listen to the show, 
you know that I worked in mental

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health for years and I have the 
utmost compassion for anyone 

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with mental health disorders. 
I think that, you know, therapy 

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is always the best Ave. to take 
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helping, I think the other aids 
are medication. 

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And this specific gentleman, he 
hasn't been very gentlemanly to 

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me. 
You know, for the longest time, 

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he was my biggest fan. 
And I was planning on meeting 

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him to do a session. 
And, you know, I told him, I 

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said, you know, I'd even do the 
session for free. 

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And I knew he was financially 
struggling. 

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I mean, not everyone can afford 
a dominatrix, you know? 

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And I was more than happy to see
him. 

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However, I'd even made the 
specific arrangements when I was

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traveling upstate that I was 
going to stop at a, you know, at

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a halfway point in his and near 
his city. 

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But my husband, who, you know, 
if you got a good spouse and you

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want to keep the marriage happy,
sometimes you just have to pass 

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by your spouse. 
And my spouse said, look, no one

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is going to take your time or 
mine in this venture for you to 

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do a free session. 
And so, you know, I had to tell 

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this person, Hey, I can't do it.
You know, I can, I can give you 

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a discount and I can do a nice 
session for you still. 

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And I can do, you know, a lot in
an hour's time. 

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You know, we could do the scene.
It's bondage, little discipline,

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you know it. 
I could really bring his his 

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insight to seeing a Dom on the 
next level. 

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I think I have that that 
capability of doing that 

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because, you know, I, I enjoy 
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people that come a very far 
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So I must be doing something 
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This person, he finds time in 
his life to update his review of

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the podcast and of course if he 
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would. 
But he updates it every six 

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months give or take. 
And he has said horrible things 

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about myself and my Co hosts and
some of the Toms and the Tungen.

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And yet he has that one personal
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Now keep in mind, I've done 
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I am not a vindictive person. 
I'm not a spiteful person. 

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I am telling you all this 
because I want a truce, Steve. 

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I know you have a hard on for me
and that's fine. 

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There's men with actual hard ONS
for me all the fucking time. 

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They can't listen to my voice in
the gym around their wives at 

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work. 
And that's OK. 

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And since I know obviously that 
if you continue to have this 

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hard on for me to keep updating 
your negative review and you 

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keep trying to drop me from 
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you're only hurting yourself. 
You seriously are hurting 

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yourself. 
You know, I was planning on 

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taking a trip to Virginia, which
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Virginia, but I have to go 
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And you know, I could have said,
hey, I'll meet you for coffee, 

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you know, and if you're willing 
to take this truce, I'm even 

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willing to talk to you on the 
phone or, you know, even Zoom 

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with you. 
I have no problems with that. 

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What I do have a problem with is
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me on a continual basis. 
Now, his last review is always, 

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you know, is known thing one 
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his screen name. 
Now this man went to the lengths

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of trying to tell me that he was
dead via his fate, his excuse me

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via his daughter's fake e-mail 
address pretending to be his 

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daughter. 
That I would be devastated by 

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the loss of a man I've never met
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I only know his tragedies in his
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him for that. 
I know that we have all had 

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horrific experiences in our 
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others, but for the most part, 
there's people that have 

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struggled far worse than we 
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And so Steve, I'm, I have no 
problem with the fact of telling

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you that I have no problem doing
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Easy peasy. 
You know, if you want a titty 

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pic, I'll send you a titty pic 
for fun. 

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But this should end this whole 
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You leaving negative reviews, 
it's petty. 

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It's really beneath you. 
And you're a man in your 50s who

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is married with two children and
you have your own issues. 

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And you know, the thing of it 
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No, because I just got, again, 
good pods, million pods, several

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forums for podcast ratings. 
I'm number one. 

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And there's a reason behind 
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And that's because I'm good at 
my podcast and I have really 

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amazing fans that support me. 
And I'm calling a truce because 

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it's the adult thing to do. 
And although I've never done 

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anything malicious against you 
and I never will, I think it's 

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only right to clear the air and 
have a good conscience to do the

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right thing. 
And before you gave me rave 

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reviews, now they're scathing 
and bitter as you called me 

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bitter and old. 
I just turned 49. 

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I don't feel 49 and I'm 
blissfully happy. 

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I'm very sorry for that if that 
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But I live the fucking dream, I 
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And why? 
Because I've made the right 

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choices and I've always tried to
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others. 
I've sacrificed a lot of things 

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for the sake of others. 
I've ran a homeless shelter. 

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I have cared for the elderly. 
I have continued to help friends

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and family at their times of 
need. 

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And I'll continue to do so. 
To me, I have been very selfless

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and I will continue to be that 
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Now if you choose to continue, 
you know every couple months 

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writing me negative reviews, so 
be it. 

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But if you continue to be 
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your time, you can go ahead. 
Keep doing that. 

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I will give you some information
to a lovely Dom who is fucking 

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nuts and you know, you can pair 
up with her and you can talk all

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the shit you want to about me 
with her. 

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She'd love it. 
And yeah, I'm sure you have a 

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blast. 
You know, I have no problem with

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that. 
I really don't. 

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I just find it interesting and 
sad because I'm doing this 

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honestly, because the reviews, 
they don't really affect me. 

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But what affects me is knowing 
that someone has such a fucking 

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hard on for me for almost 4 
years that they're willing to 

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continue to update their fucking
miserable review of me, you 

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know? 
And like I said, I'll be nice. 

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I can talk to you on the phone. 
I can say, hey, I wiped my hands

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off all this and we can move 
forward as acquaintances, you 

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know, in the kink lifestyle. 
We can talk kink. 

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You can tell me your problems. 
I'll listen. 

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We can exchange emails on 
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I'm good with that too. 
You know, I just feel like I 

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deal with enough bullshit every 
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And although my life is blissful
on so many levels, like amazing 

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husband, great family, good 
friends, you know, a nice sweet 

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little Sissy with a sexy little 
ass that I get to spank and fuck

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and do whatever the fuck I want.
And so I can't complain about 

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that. 
But you know, this past week, 

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someone who really thought it 
would be OK to yell and bitch at

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me at one point in my own home 
just because he was having a 

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rough day, It just doesn't bode 
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And then he thinks that, you 
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dysfunctional life and he thinks
it's cool that he can give me a 

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shit apology where 
subconsciously he makes enough 

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grammatical errors in this set 
apology that you can see the 

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underlying subconscious true 
feeling of how he feels towards 

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me is all one big fucking 
facade. 

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And I'm not a fake ass bitch. 
I have no need to be a fake ass 

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bitch. 
I am a dominatrix who can be a 

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fucking bitch in that dungeon if
you want me to be, or I can be 

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the kindest fucking person you 
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I'm genuine, I'm real, I'm not a
malicious bitch and I'm not 

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stupid. 
So I see right through bullshit 

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all day long and that's why I 
will cut ties with you if you 

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fuck me over. 
So for me to come to this 

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conclusion of I'm going to give 
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you suffer with mental health 
issues and I feel sorry for you 

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that you would feel compelled to
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on the podcast. 
It's sad. 

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So you can either be a man and 
have some, you know, integrity 

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on some level, or you can be a 
cunt and you can continue to be 

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miserable. 
And you can be at that point in 

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your life where you're, I think 
you're what, 54 now? 

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That you'll never meet me. 
I'll never speak with you. 

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You won't get a titty picture of
me. 

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And yeah, you'll live your life 
in Virginia still hating me, 

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still still feeling miserable, 
and knowing that as you said in 

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your last review, Oh, this 
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it sucks so bad. 
NIA used to be fun and cheery. 

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Now she just sounds old and 
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I guess karma has a way of 
making things right, huh? 

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Well, like I said, Steve, if you
think that my life and karma has

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gotten me, you are sadly 
mistaken. 

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Now feel so much better. 
Just want to get that out 

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because, you know, a lot of 
people would tell me and they'd 

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give me the advice. 
Mia, don't be bothered by that. 

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You know, there's a bunch of 
haters, and I've had my share, 

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But you know, when this person 
is mentally struggling and he 

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makes it his sole goal to try to
disparage me and the podcast. 

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And the thing of it is, it's not
just me. 

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It's the fact that you take 
something that to me is a 

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beautiful thing, reaching out 
to, you know, millions of people

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daily that enjoy the things that
I say about BDSM and kink and 

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sex and relationships. 
You take all those great things 

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where it's so taboo to even talk
about and so many people can't 

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talk about it, and you discredit
me and disparage that one thing 

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because you're pissed off that I
didn't see you for free. 

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And you go to great lengths to 
fake a death your own lie, 

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pretend to be your daughter and 
pretend to be unmarried living 

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with your brother, and all these
things that aren't true. 

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And I feel bad for you, I really
do. 

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Like I said, life is not easy 
for anyone in this existence. 

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I could write a book about my 
own experiences. 

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We've all suffered heartbreak, 
we've all suffered many things. 

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And there's people every day 
that listen to this podcast 

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because it makes their life a 
little brighter. 

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So if you're willing to piss on 
other people and disparage what 

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I do, shame on you. 
After that, if you don't come to

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this truce, I don't feel sorry 
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So now after that little rant. 
I'm going to tell you it's time 

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to talk bondage. 
It's time to talk things that 

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are fun and light and sexual, 
and that's what we do in BDSM 

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now. 
The sexual aspect is for favored

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partners and levels of intimacy 
that you share with special 

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people. 
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something cathartic and 
beautiful and there was a lovely

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lady who wrote me a comment on 
fat and she said that it was so 

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great that I talked about 
therapeutic BDSM and how 

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cathartic it can be to someone 
who has struggled and suffered 

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with abuse and past trauma in 
their life. 

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And I think we've all been to 
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something to hold on to. 
I was recently speaking with a 

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friend of mine who I met in the 
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and he's struggling in his own 
way because something that he's 

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gone through has been a horrible
marriage and a woman that 

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continues to make his life 
miserable on a lot of levels has

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affected his time here at the 
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And that in itself reminded me 
of good old Steve. 

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You know, it's interesting that 
as individuals, we always have 

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choices. 
We can choose to do the right 

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thing, or we can choose to do 
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thing. 
I think that I always try to do 

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the right thing, but you know, 
when you're in a horrible 

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marriage and you're in a life 
that you're unhappy with taking 

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it out on others, it never goes 
well. 

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Or when you're insecure and you 
have feelings about a specific 

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person you think impacts your 
life and it really doesn't. 

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It's all about your insecurity. 
It's one of those times where 

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you have to step back and really
make the right choice in all of 

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this. 
Like I said, I don't have ill 

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will for Steve. 
I don't have ill will for people

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that feel compelled to out me to
my family who does not know that

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I'm a dominatrix, who feels that
calling me all these horrible 

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names on social media, they 
think it might better their life

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situation or life that they 
fucked up. 

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They think that what I have not 
done in their life effects them,

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but it hasn't. 
You know, as a Dom, I don't like

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bondage on myself. 
I feel constricted. 

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I feel isolated, suffocated. 
I feel it's exhausting. 

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There's nothing about it that I 
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other people. 
And that's why when I was 

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thinking about doing this 
episode, I thought, in life, we 

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have bonds that control us. 
It's controlling our lives in a 

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physical way that makes things 
miserable for us. 

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You know when you hold back 
someone from what they really 

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want to do, you're hurting 
yourself, you're hurting the 

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relationship. 
And you know when you create 

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double standards for yourself 
and in your relationship, create

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double standards when you don't 
see the harm that you create for

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your partner, you won't have a 
relationship long. 

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You won't have a successful 
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And so my friend who has 
struggled with having a very 

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difficult marriage for a very 
long time, it's been very hard 

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for him. 
And so when people come to us in

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the dungeon and they want 
bondage, bondage correlates to 

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inner struggles. 
And it correlates primarily at a

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point in your life where it's 
prepubescent growing up, usually

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with an alcoholic father or an 
abusive parent. 

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And bondage brings that level of
security to you. 

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And it can be as soon as you're,
you know, 1213 years old, you 

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want to be tied up or you want 
to be confined in a little space

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because it's that safe space 
that no one can hurt you. 

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And again, people have had to 
struggle that way as they do 

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today. 
And so when people come to the 

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dungeon, I love to do Saran wrap
bondage. 

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I love to wrap them up like 
they're my special little 

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butterfly. 
And I provide them with a little

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cocoon and I do the session and 
I talk to them and I tell them 

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that everything is going to be 
OK and we're going to get 

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through this. 
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I'll do whatever they want. 
Sometimes it can be spankings or

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electrical play or smoking. 
They can be all those things. 

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My little cupcake that I just 
met, we did Saran wrap bondage 

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and it's always a beautiful 
thing because at the end I cut 

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them out of their cocoon and 
they come out of their shell as 

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a butterfly, a new beginning. 
And to me, that is what the 

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level of BDSM that you can 
create with someone. 

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Now, you can call it a mind fuck
or you can simply call it a 

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cathartic session of 
realization. 

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And it's about realizing who you
are and what you want in this 

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life, what you want to 
experience. 

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You know, you have to bring 
meaning to your life. 

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You have to find purpose. 
Finding purpose with malicious 

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intent, you'll accomplish 
nothing. 

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You'll accomplish an anger 
eating away at your soul, and it

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will do nothing but make you 
better and miserable. 

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So when people come to the 
dungeon and they want to explore

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bondage, sometimes they want to 
get in the back bed. 

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I know when I was speaking with 
Layla London a few weeks ago, 

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she was like, I don't know, when
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it's like really fucking freaks 
her out. 

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But I told her, I said, you get 
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second skin. 
It has air holes right at your 

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mouth and your nose, and you're 
laying there and you turn on the

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vacuum and it encases you in a 
way that is giving you one big 

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hug, as a lot of people like to 
refer it as. 

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And I've known people to get in 
that back bed and they fall 

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asleep and it's probably the 
best sleep they get for two or 

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three hours. 
I know my good friend Wes, it's 

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his birthday. 
Happy birthday, Wes. 

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He loves the back bed. 
He loves it so much. 

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He's ordering me a new one 
because mine has seen better 

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days. 
It's gotten so much use and 

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there's been so many people to 
enjoy it. 

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But you know, if you're at home 
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that's OK. 
You know, I don't always suggest

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rope for beginners, but I always
suggest Saran wrap. 

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Saran wrap is that lovely 
plastic feeling of just sheer 

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comfort for a lot of people that
have had troubling experiences. 

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And when they get in that Saran 
wrap, they feel secure and they 

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know that when I'm with them, 
they're safe. 

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And that's something to me very 
special. 

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When you're in this lifestyle, 
you need to always look for a 

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Dom who has your best interest. 
And if you don't go to a Dom and

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you decide to play with someone,
you need to make sure that their

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best interest is with you, that 
you have their best interests as

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well. 
And it's a mutual balance of 

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things. 
And so people who are inclined 

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to do rope, you know, really 
educate yourself on it. 

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They have really great books 
about rigging. 

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They have great books about 
shibari and learning to how to 

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do knots and ties. 
And you know, you don't always 

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need to have a pair of safety 
shears just in case. 

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But in every community, there's 
always rigors. 

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And so it's always finding that 
perfect rigor to help you have 

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that perfect experience and to 
make it special for you. 

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And you know, I'm not a big rope
person. 

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I'll use them in a scene. 
You know, you like anything you 

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do bondage, you have to really 
be very careful and where your 

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placement is. 
You don't want to put anything 

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on joints. 
You don't want any loss of blood

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flow. 
You want to be conscious of 

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where you put those ropes. 
My thing that I always enjoy is 

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chains and shackles and 
handcuffs. 

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Just metal in general. 
I think it is erotic. 

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I think it's permanent. 
It's hard to break and I do love

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permanence. 
I do love to feel those cold 

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metal chains against skin. 
It's such an erotic feeling that

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yeah, it gets me wet real 
fucking quick. 

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I love it. 
I had someone bent over my 

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surgical table and it's fucking 
cold steel. 

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And his legs were shackled and 
chained to the table and his 

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arms were extended over it. 
And I fucked the shit out of him

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with my strap on and I enjoyed 
every minute of it. 

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And I said to him, if you only 
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Right now. 
Life is too short not to 

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experience things that you want,
like BDSM. 

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As long as you're not hurting 
anyone or hurting yourself in a 

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harmful way, you need to live 
your best life. 

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You need to be happy and find 
happiness. 

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Now I will say there's one 
really great guy and we 

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communicate via e-mail. 
He's in Australia and he sent me

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a few videos that I did a nice 
compilation. 

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You can find it on the Call Me 
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You can watch it. 
It's bondage in quicksand. 

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He loves it. 
He loves submerging himself in 

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quicksand and crawling back out.
He, he wears the swim trunks, 

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but he's got a hard on 
underneath. 

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He loves it. 
And with the quicksand, he said 

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it just swallows you up and he 
loves it. 

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He just, there's no other words 
that describes, he said, how it 

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feels. 
I don't recommend just a novice 

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going out and finding a 
quicksand hole and sliding in. 

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You won't know your strength or 
your capabilities and getting 

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out, especially if you sink 
yourself down entirely too deep.

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Now he's used to it. 
He makes videos and he smokes 

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cigarettes and he said that he 
would love for me to be there. 

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And I'm going to tell you right 
now, when I go to Australia, I'm

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going to meet the man. 
I'm going to go to a lovely 

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little beach, and I'm going to 
watch him submerge himself into 

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quicksand. 
And I'll be happy to blow in his

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face from a distance because I'm
not sinking myself into 

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quicksand. 
But again, listeners, I know 

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this isn't my usual kind of 
episode, but I think that you 

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all can sympathize with someone 
who struggles with mental 

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health. 
And I think you can sympathize 

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with with people that struggle. 
And I think that putting life in

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perspective and what is 
important to you and how you 

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feel about yourself, it's, it's 
the most important thing, how 

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you feel on the outlook of life 
and being happy. 

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And you know, where there's 
negative, there's always 

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positive. 
So I hope that we can call it a 

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truce, Steve, and move forward. 
I think the last two years of 

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being angry with me for nothing 
has done nothing for you. 

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Now I will say as well, over the
weekend I did the session where 

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I did tie someone up in Roe 
bondage and it was erotic and 

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fun and he was in defeat. 
So I was happy to shove my foot 

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in his mouth until he gagged and
I might have let him throw open 

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his mouth just a little. 
I have size 9 shoe. 

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It wasn't an easy swallow for 
him, but then again, I didn't 

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care and neither did he. 
I think that through bondage, 

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through compassion and 
understanding and communication 

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and all that we do in this 
lifestyle is critical and 

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finding that love towards 
yourself and to others is always

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what is most important. 
So go with love, be happy, find 

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yourself and find yourself in 
kink and what makes your world 

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go around. 
All right, so until then, this 

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has been the latest episode of 
Call Me Mistress. 

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Thank you to all my loyal fans, 
I love you all.