Hi, welcome to the latest episode of Call Me Mistress.
I'm your Hostess, Mistress Mia, and I've got with me, Madame.
Liv. Hi, guys.
All right. Well, Liv, that's exciting.
So you need to hear these conversations that Liv and I
have off off camera, off microphone.
Off air. Off air, there you go, we are
talking about Dicks and smelly vaginas and all that good stuff.
Yummy yummy. After we just had some lunch.
Yummy yummy. Anywho, so we're talking about
aftercare today. How do you feel about Aftercare
Live? You know, even vanilla people
have aftercare do. Tell.
Like they have aftercare in a way of like they snuggle
afterwards That in a way is an aftercare because if you didn't,
they were like, oh, they don't like me or they just use me.
It's an aftercare. But that's just sex.
So when you do like a hard session on somebody, aftercare
could be just, let's talk about it.
How do you feel? It could be a physical thing, or
you give them a hug, or you rub their face and tell them that
they're OK and you know, or go even deeper.
Some people like to be diapered and like cared a little bit more
for after a session. You know, you say, even after
sex. It's funny because you can tell
that I'm such a Dom because after sex it's like, get the
fuck away from me, I'm going to sleep.
You don't give him aftercare. I'm like, well, no, no, no,
because we come at different times usually.
It's interesting because you're not always, you know, synced.
Together, yeah. And because it's men and women,
yeah. Exactly.
So it's like, you know, I'll let him get off and have his little
orgasm, you know, and then I'll have mine.
And then it's like, yeah, he's like, do you need to cuddle you?
And I'm like, God no, you're sweaty and hot.
It's funny you lay over there. I mean if that shows dynamic,
but what about aftercare is for? For him, for.
After the big hard sessions do you do aftercare for that or how
do y'all do? So typically, again, I'm very
mean, you know, if we do a session, I have them, you know,
weren't where I put them in some bondage scene or whatever
afterwards I'm like, OK, clean up, you can get undone now.
That's your aftercare? Yeah, I'll.
See you in the other room, slut. You know, maybe.
It's just your style. Of Dom Well, but here's the
thing, after we do that, then it's, you know, I go back to
being the housewife. Hey, yeah.
Do you want something to eat, honey?
Do you want to watch a movie? Yeah.
You know, it's that kind of stuff.
OK. You know, And then if he's been
too bratty in the session, I would just like, go finish your
fucking chores. I've heard enough of you today.
It's that kind of shit. Depending on cuz if you're being
bratty in the middle of the session, yeah, be treated like
that afterwards. That makes sense.
Yeah, but that means your session still going.
Yeah, You know, and this is something we do every day.
And it's not some little, you know, acting ploy each day.
You know, there's certain aspects like, you know, if it's
his day to make coffee in the morning, you know, he'll make
coffee in the morning, He'll bring me coffee, you know, but
I'll do the same thing for him, you know, because I feel like,
hey, I got to take care of my sub, man.
You know, I take my little slave boy.
I got to say, hey, you know, it's time to get up and go to
work and do all those things. And I'm.
I'm supportive, you know? Yeah, I feel like.
Dom should be. Absolutely, absolutely.
Because you got to nurture and, you know, care for them.
So I do that, but to me it's like, you know, I do aftercare
all the time with how I nurture and baby him because I do, I
baby him. And as it depends on the type of
Dom, like you said, if you're if that shows normal dynamic of
already bathing, some people don't have that.
So they need that small bit of babying afterwards.
Yeah, cuddle being held that be saying you're all right because
you did. I just beat the shit out of you.
Yeah. You know, I got you.
You're OK, You're safe, you know?
You know, and I've been in the dungeon and we've done it with
strangers over the years. But you know, there's a lot of
times there's different, different ways that people have
their own ending. So if a guy has had a scene and
he's done, a lot of times it's OK where he's just like, OK, I'm
done, want to go get my clothes on?
Boom boom boom. Yeah, they run out.
And they run out and it's kind of like, oh.
Charles says it's a post. Come.
What did he say? Clarity.
Yes, come, come, clarity. Especially when I'm new.
Exactly. I don't know what to do.
Let me get out. Yes.
What the fuck? This happened.
You know, they freak out like, oh, God, I'm in the dungeon.
What am I doing? I gotta get home.
Yeah, it's one of those. And.
And they run off and they forgot.
They forget to close the gate. Yeah.
It's like, motherfucker, so we have those and then we have
others where they're just like, they're chill.
They want to sit on the couch, they want to talk.
And I'll say, and sometimes they're speechless and I'll say,
well, well, here, sit down for a minute.
I'll get you a bottle of water, you know, just kind of process
things. We don't have to talk about it,
you know. You can write me an e-mail later
and let me know how you feel, you know?
I guess you just fill out your sub at the time.
Yeah, because. Exactly.
They want to run out, let them run out.
They want to sit down top. Absolutely.
Sometimes you can tell when they want to be a little bit babied
and coddled a little bit. You can kind of get get it.
Absolutely. Sometimes I miss it though.
They want that. But a lot of times people like I
want to hug on my way out. Like needing to be.
Cuddled at the end, yeah, like like taken care of for a second
after a hard session. Well, and you know, cuddling is
a thing. You know, it is in some people
it's a fetish. It is a fetish for.
People like the ABDL's. You like to be cuddled.
They like that. They love to be, you know,
nurtured and pampered. And, you know, a lot of people
just don't really get to experience that even in their
childhood. It's so sad.
I know. Well, I mean, you know how I am.
Yeah. I'm over there hugging people,
but with some of my babies, I'm really like, I don't actually
hug them. I'm just rubbing their face,
which is what I do with my kids. I just kind of like associate
them as my child. Yeah, maybe if I was a more
snuggly mom, maybe I would snuggle them more, but I just
treat them like my child. Yeah, rubbing their face.
Do like a face trace? Yeah, you said you're not a big
hugger. I'm not.
Yeah, I'm not. And some people will ask me for
a hug on the way out. Yeah.
Or can I touch your butt? Please let me just let me touch
it one time. Oh my God.
They do that, but that's that's a fucking prize piece right
there. They love it.
An asset for sure. It is imposition the ass.
Oh, goodness, yeah, we've, you know, we did that Hot video too,
and I think I'm going to make another one.
But it's you pulling off those those stockings as pantyhose off
your butt. And there's something about it.
It is I mean it sent Charles like, you know, wow, he's like
that. That is the the money piece
right there and like it was awesome.
That's a great. Picture like the lighting on it.
Yeah, but I did like. It well, we need to redo another
one and we'll do change up the lighting, yeah.
Yeah, get some tripods. Absolutely, absolutely.
I think too, we need, yeah, the tripod light and I think we need
to do the lights around the room.
Oh, I know. She talked about the Yeah, like
what I gave you. Yeah, we got 2 sets.
That's what we need to do. Sounds good we can get.
That going, Oh yeah. So go back to the topic.
The topic is aftercare. So what is aftercare for you?
Like if you're doing a scene and it's you that is the submissive,
what do you like to have done for you?
I definitely cuddled a lot more kissed and almost feel like in a
sexy way, like like like almost like when you kissed your wife
and you're about to Make Love type of feeling.
Yeah, that soft kisses on the neck and making you feel like I
still care about you. I still think you're pretty even
though now you're black and blue.
Like like just feeling like still cared for.
Like just because I hurt you doesn't mean I hate you.
OK, well, I know a lot of people are just like, give me
chocolate, give me cuddles, you know?
Yeah. Well, I mean it.
I mean how he makes me feel cared for is different.
Like how you said, like just making dinner for him that day
and making sure I bring the plate to him and just small
things like that. I feel like he does do it, but I
feel like we need a little bit more like snuggle time get
people need don't understand the level of what physical contact
can do for a person. Yeah, it it brings out dopamine,
relaxes you, it lowers your your blood pressure and your heart
rate. So I mean, there's it's all very
healthy positive. Honestly, I'm just letting
people know that you're in the dungeon right now.
I am I. Am in the dungeon.
Well I made I made one of my Subs cry, remember?
Oh my. Goodness to tell.
I kissed him on the cheek and I told him I was like, you're OK,
you're safe. And that kind of pulled him back
because, you know, he went too far in his brain.
So it's like maybe sometimes not being in your full subspace and
getting the punishment it, it's actually really hard on the
brain because the subspace is almost like almost like a coping
mechanism maybe. I'm not really sure but if
you're not in it and you get a punishment, it's like more
hurtful. Not just like pain wise.
I mean the pain probably is more unbearable, but like just in
your brain you're just like you can't understand it the same.
Maybe because he felt at the time that he was really relaxed
and the scene and he wasn't really in that moment thinking
about why he lets you take control and why he's put himself
in that position to have control.
Oh, well, we, we talked about why and we've, we've, we've went
over it several times. So we don't.
Put it back. Up.
But in general, like communication is what we came
back down to. It's like communication and not,
yeah, not leaving somebody out. Like if I'm helping you through
a trauma and not knowing that there was a trauma I'm helping
you through, Yeah. How am I supposed to know to be
careful with this subject? Well, and, and that brings me to
the next point is that, you know, people who have been
traumatized, they come to us for the reason that they can
reenact, they're seen in their mind under their own control,
and they can be released from that, that that feeling of, of
torment or upset. Guilt, yes, or pain that they.
Yeah, that they have their own control and it's they're
experiencing it in a way that they can.
Yeah, like what you said like release it.
Yeah. And, you know, it's so hard for
a lot of people to let go of the things that they've had to
endure in their life. And so, you know, for the
average guy that comes in and they just want, you know, a
regular scene because they've never experienced BDSM.
It's more than likely they've never really thought too much of
it and they really probably haven't experienced any type of
trauma. So it's kind of like they're
like, oh, OK, we're done. All right, great meeting you.
You know, I'll call you when I'm in town again.
It's one of those. I mean, you can tell when people
have had problems and they just want to experience it.
Exactly. As you see, the regulars are
somebody that's they need it more, which means they have
something they're trying to work through.
Exactly. They've planned for it, they
thought about it. So yeah, I think it's, I think
it's pretty interesting. But I know that when I ask
people, you know, about certain things, their trauma or their
experiences and what they've had to endure, you know, a lot of
times they don't want to connect that with the BDSM that we do.
But I feel like. Almost accepting it is is the
healing process. Almost absolutely.
You have to bring those two together in your mind and then
it becomes fun. You changed your trauma into
something that's more lively in something easier to endure for
everyday life. Absolutely and.
I've worked through some stuff, just working here.
The Dom, yeah, I'm, I mean spending time here as a Dom.
Right. Well, and you, you told me, you
said, you know, this is so empowering.
Help me as a parent. Yeah, there's structure
involved. Help me just get things more in
order in my head. That's great.
Mm hmm, that's great. It's almost like you can
compartmentalize different things and like you said,
organize your thoughts and everything.
It's more relaxing. Yeah, I can believe it.
Well, you know, Charles always says it is your medicine.
Yeah, you know. And how my sub says is.
This is your church? Yeah, that's true.
You know, when you told me that, I thought, you know, that's what
Brie always used to say. The dungeon was her church.
It brings think. About the healing process, it
makes sense. Though, yes, like yes indeed.
You know, people associate BDSM with, like, the devil or, you
know, I think it's literally the pain.
Yeah, I do think it's pain. OK, yeah, I understand.
Yes, we got pain involved, but some people need it.
Yeah, and it doesn't always have to be though.
Who? Did I talk to, I think it was
still PO saying that, you know, as you get older, you you don't
have nobody telling you what to do.
So you have no real consequences, you know, have no
like structure. So having this kind of gives you
back that structure. So if you have like a really
strict parent or you know, parent figure and then you're
going through this, you're like you're able to, I don't know,
release it in a way like, OK, I need structure.
I'm not giving myself structure, structure.
My parents did. Now I need it again.
I'm not getting things done. I'm not taking going to the
doctor when I need to be. I'm taking my medicine when I
need to be. So it needs to be structured.
Yeah, and that's. What we provide for.
Some of them, you know, and that's where parents don't
realize how they fuck up so bad too.
You know, people don't even realize how bad they can fuck
their. Kids because it makes it hard to
function in the real world. It does.
It does when they try to control every aspect of their kids life.
It makes it where the kids can't do it for themselves.
Exactly. It's such a way where they are
now here. Yeah, yeah.
I took care of a lady years ago when we had an assisted living
facility and she was fairly young.
She was like 5455 years old and she came in because she had
literally nowhere to go. Her father was very prominent in
his job. He made a ton of money, 6
figures all his life, all his career, and they adopted this
woman when she was a child. She said she was probably two or
three years old when she was adopted by them and they chose
to not adopt anyone else. But they kept her and raised her
and loved her as their own and they controlled every aspect of
her life. Now when they finally passed,
she was in her 40s and here I was meeting her and she was like
5455 years old, something like that.
Anyway, she'd gotten all this money that her parents left her
and it was like $6 million. And let me tell you, she went
through that $6 million in less than five years.
And we have no idea how she spent it, what she spent it on
because she let the house go into foreclosure.
She lost this beautiful four bedroom, 5 bath house.
I mean, she had nothing. She owned nothing but a used old
car. And then I walked into the house
and I was like, holy shit, it was so crammed full with junk
and shit she's bought that it was literally coming out of the
windows. That's wild.
In the back 'cause. She was so suffocated that this
was her letting loose. Yeah, freaking 40 something
years old. Yes, and you can't even control
it. Couldn't control it.
Because, you know, like whenever college even shows that they're
crazy, whenever they move out of the house and they have
structure. Yeah.
Or if you don't let your kids dye their hair when they're
younger and they go crazy looking like their 30s dye in
their hair crazy colors. Which is fine, but I'm just
saying like. Yeah, it's because.
It's whenever it's the right age.
Exactly. It's about self-expression, yes.
And getting to know yourself. Yes.
Because now you're getting to know yourself at 30-40 years old
and you're not liking yourself because of this and this and
this. Yeah, Get to know yourself while
you're younger and able. Can stabilize your own emotions.
You know, I was having this conversation with one of my Subs
and it was interesting because he was up here doing a session
and you had Poe downstairs doing a session.
And afterwards, after they both left, I said, you know, Liv,
they both went to the same church.
And I mean, we're not going to tell who is who.
But my point of it is they both brought up the church they went
to. So that leads into how the
conformity of religion just fucks people.
Yeah, with all the issues. That's why I.
Feel like when people want to introduce it to their kids, and
I'm not going to speak on everybody, I'm just saying like
for myself, I want to introduce God to my kids.
I want to introduce some more of a spiritual level, not a
religion. Exactly because there's.
So many different religions, yes, you know, So it's like, let
me introduce this spiritually and then you choose your
direction. I'm not going to choose your
direction for you because you don't know where you're going to
go. And it's just, you know, it's
just like one big rabbit hole. Religion is so gosh, it's so
frustrating. We're.
Human, we make mistakes, and maybe those mistakes are being
pointed out at church and making you feel like a Sinner.
Or maybe you're just, you're sending in yourself and then
you're listening to all these things and you feel like a
hypocrite there. Yeah, when that's not what
church is about. Churches is like a doctor's
office. We're not going there because
we're perfect. We're going there because we
need a little help. Exactly.
We'll say that for another episode, but I will say going
back to the concept of aftercare.
We're on. I don't even know what subject
we were on you. Were on, yeah, aftercare.
But the point of it is when, when you had yours down in the
junction, I had mine up here. It was I would ask him little
different things about church. I'm like, well, what did you
have to do, you know? And it was just some of the
things he told me. It was like, wow, you know, and
I'm thinking, you know, and how does your mother treat you?
And he's like, well, his mom's cold.
They really don't have a great relationship.
She's never been a very affectionate person.
She's always found his faults before she did anything, you
know, And I'm thinking, yeah, This is why you want to dress up
as a Sissy maid. This is why you want to be
called demeaning names and. Emasculated.
You know This is why you want to be reminded that your Dick is a
little turtle. I love, I love him so much
though you. Gotta love him.
He's a little giggle whenever you get on to him or something.
It's so funny. He's so cute.
That's.
Funny, yes. Absolutely.
Special place in our heart for a little.
Absolutely, Justin, you are a little fucking slutty whore who
has nothing but a little Dick and you're completely worthless
and. He loves it.
His Dick will never satisfy a
real woman. Like you know, he's at a loss.
A man or a man, No and all he's good for a sucking Dick.
That's it. Maybe not even.
Having we need to. Teach him better.
God he sucks at sucking Dick. Yeah, he really you think it's
pretty self-explanatory, but. God, I've seen, you know, I
always used to say, Oh yeah, you know, the, the trans people
really know how to suck Dick. And I still think I'm right with
that. I think trans people have it
down pat. I mean, because they have a
Dick, you would think they would know, but see, he's his too
small. Yeah, no the.
Genetic males know exactly how to suck Dick, but these other
guys who aren't trans, who aren't cross dressers, who are
just he is a cross dresser, but even long time cross dresser, a
lot of these people do not know how to suck Dick.
It's crazy. Well, we had to learn.
Yeah, you have to learn, but yeah, sometimes it takes them a
long time and a lot of Dicks. So let's line them up one day
next week. Any volunteers?
Oh my God that be a cool video. Just VIX and then yes, training.
Yes, line them up. Oh my God.
Fuck yeah. All right, so Liv did have an
idea before we close out this episode and it was erotica.
So if you like to write erotic stories, feel free.
We had a gentleman a few weeks ago and I've already read his
story on one of the bedtime stories.
It was a little Horror Story, but it was a little love story
how he met his his wife and it was a true story.
It was very sweet. Yeah.
But she turned his ass into a motherfucking pony.
Yeah. Yeah.
So if you have a cool story you want us to read it, by all
means, make it good and send it in.
And I'll pull it together and read it on a bedtime story.
All right. So live until then.
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