1 00:00:08,450 --> 00:00:11,210 Hi, welcome to the latest episode of Call Me Mistress. 2 00:00:11,450 --> 00:00:15,130 I'm your Hostess, Mistress Mia, and I've got with me, Madame. 3 00:00:15,130 --> 00:00:16,850 Liv. Hi, guys. 4 00:00:22,370 --> 00:00:24,930 All right. Well, Liv, that's exciting. 5 00:00:28,050 --> 00:00:30,650 So you need to hear these conversations that Liv and I 6 00:00:30,650 --> 00:00:34,320 have off off camera, off microphone. 7 00:00:34,560 --> 00:00:38,680 Off air. Off air, there you go, we are 8 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:44,440 talking about Dicks and smelly vaginas and all that good stuff. 9 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:48,160 Yummy yummy. After we just had some lunch. 10 00:00:48,160 --> 00:00:53,720 Yummy yummy. Anywho, so we're talking about 11 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:57,680 aftercare today. How do you feel about Aftercare 12 00:00:57,680 --> 00:01:00,160 Live? You know, even vanilla people 13 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:02,160 have aftercare do. Tell. 14 00:01:04,879 --> 00:01:07,440 Like they have aftercare in a way of like they snuggle 15 00:01:07,440 --> 00:01:10,720 afterwards That in a way is an aftercare because if you didn't, 16 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:13,400 they were like, oh, they don't like me or they just use me. 17 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:16,920 It's an aftercare. But that's just sex. 18 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:20,760 So when you do like a hard session on somebody, aftercare 19 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:22,000 could be just, let's talk about it. 20 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:24,600 How do you feel? It could be a physical thing, or 21 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:26,960 you give them a hug, or you rub their face and tell them that 22 00:01:26,960 --> 00:01:31,320 they're OK and you know, or go even deeper. 23 00:01:31,320 --> 00:01:35,360 Some people like to be diapered and like cared a little bit more 24 00:01:35,360 --> 00:01:39,720 for after a session. You know, you say, even after 25 00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:42,800 sex. It's funny because you can tell 26 00:01:42,800 --> 00:01:47,840 that I'm such a Dom because after sex it's like, get the 27 00:01:47,840 --> 00:01:49,840 fuck away from me, I'm going to sleep. 28 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:53,280 You don't give him aftercare. I'm like, well, no, no, no, 29 00:01:53,280 --> 00:01:55,240 because we come at different times usually. 30 00:01:55,840 --> 00:01:58,800 It's interesting because you're not always, you know, synced. 31 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:01,520 Together, yeah. And because it's men and women, 32 00:02:01,560 --> 00:02:02,920 yeah. Exactly. 33 00:02:02,920 --> 00:02:06,440 So it's like, you know, I'll let him get off and have his little 34 00:02:06,440 --> 00:02:10,039 orgasm, you know, and then I'll have mine. 35 00:02:10,039 --> 00:02:14,160 And then it's like, yeah, he's like, do you need to cuddle you? 36 00:02:14,280 --> 00:02:16,720 And I'm like, God no, you're sweaty and hot. 37 00:02:19,360 --> 00:02:22,400 It's funny you lay over there. I mean if that shows dynamic, 38 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:26,360 but what about aftercare is for? For him, for. 39 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:29,680 After the big hard sessions do you do aftercare for that or how 40 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:33,800 do y'all do? So typically, again, I'm very 41 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:37,720 mean, you know, if we do a session, I have them, you know, 42 00:02:37,760 --> 00:02:40,680 weren't where I put them in some bondage scene or whatever 43 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:44,920 afterwards I'm like, OK, clean up, you can get undone now. 44 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:47,760 That's your aftercare? Yeah, I'll. 45 00:02:48,120 --> 00:02:50,080 See you in the other room, slut. You know, maybe. 46 00:02:50,080 --> 00:02:52,800 It's just your style. Of Dom Well, but here's the 47 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:56,640 thing, after we do that, then it's, you know, I go back to 48 00:02:56,640 --> 00:02:59,480 being the housewife. Hey, yeah. 49 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:00,720 Do you want something to eat, honey? 50 00:03:00,720 --> 00:03:02,560 Do you want to watch a movie? Yeah. 51 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:04,360 You know, it's that kind of stuff. 52 00:03:04,360 --> 00:03:06,680 OK. You know, And then if he's been 53 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:09,640 too bratty in the session, I would just like, go finish your 54 00:03:09,640 --> 00:03:12,160 fucking chores. I've heard enough of you today. 55 00:03:14,440 --> 00:03:16,600 It's that kind of shit. Depending on cuz if you're being 56 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:19,080 bratty in the middle of the session, yeah, be treated like 57 00:03:19,080 --> 00:03:20,560 that afterwards. That makes sense. 58 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:22,880 Yeah, but that means your session still going. 59 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:28,560 Yeah, You know, and this is something we do every day. 60 00:03:28,560 --> 00:03:32,320 And it's not some little, you know, acting ploy each day. 61 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:34,640 You know, there's certain aspects like, you know, if it's 62 00:03:34,640 --> 00:03:37,600 his day to make coffee in the morning, you know, he'll make 63 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:40,840 coffee in the morning, He'll bring me coffee, you know, but 64 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:43,920 I'll do the same thing for him, you know, because I feel like, 65 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:45,640 hey, I got to take care of my sub, man. 66 00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:47,080 You know, I take my little slave boy. 67 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:49,880 I got to say, hey, you know, it's time to get up and go to 68 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:51,760 work and do all those things. And I'm. 69 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:54,160 I'm supportive, you know? Yeah, I feel like. 70 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:57,640 Dom should be. Absolutely, absolutely. 71 00:03:58,080 --> 00:04:00,520 Because you got to nurture and, you know, care for them. 72 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:06,480 So I do that, but to me it's like, you know, I do aftercare 73 00:04:06,800 --> 00:04:10,240 all the time with how I nurture and baby him because I do, I 74 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:13,040 baby him. And as it depends on the type of 75 00:04:13,040 --> 00:04:15,320 Dom, like you said, if you're if that shows normal dynamic of 76 00:04:15,320 --> 00:04:17,720 already bathing, some people don't have that. 77 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:20,560 So they need that small bit of babying afterwards. 78 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:24,760 Yeah, cuddle being held that be saying you're all right because 79 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:26,080 you did. I just beat the shit out of you. 80 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:27,400 Yeah. You know, I got you. 81 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:29,480 You're OK, You're safe, you know? 82 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:32,160 You know, and I've been in the dungeon and we've done it with 83 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:35,760 strangers over the years. But you know, there's a lot of 84 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:39,040 times there's different, different ways that people have 85 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:44,000 their own ending. So if a guy has had a scene and 86 00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:49,400 he's done, a lot of times it's OK where he's just like, OK, I'm 87 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:51,160 done, want to go get my clothes on? 88 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:52,880 Boom boom boom. Yeah, they run out. 89 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:54,920 And they run out and it's kind of like, oh. 90 00:04:55,360 --> 00:04:57,600 Charles says it's a post. Come. 91 00:04:58,360 --> 00:05:00,560 What did he say? Clarity. 92 00:05:00,720 --> 00:05:02,840 Yes, come, come, clarity. Especially when I'm new. 93 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:04,280 Exactly. I don't know what to do. 94 00:05:04,280 --> 00:05:05,440 Let me get out. Yes. 95 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:06,600 What the fuck? This happened. 96 00:05:07,880 --> 00:05:10,640 You know, they freak out like, oh, God, I'm in the dungeon. 97 00:05:10,640 --> 00:05:12,080 What am I doing? I gotta get home. 98 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:15,880 Yeah, it's one of those. And. 99 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:17,120 And they run off and they forgot. 100 00:05:17,200 --> 00:05:19,080 They forget to close the gate. Yeah. 101 00:05:19,080 --> 00:05:24,240 It's like, motherfucker, so we have those and then we have 102 00:05:24,240 --> 00:05:26,520 others where they're just like, they're chill. 103 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:28,880 They want to sit on the couch, they want to talk. 104 00:05:29,440 --> 00:05:32,800 And I'll say, and sometimes they're speechless and I'll say, 105 00:05:32,800 --> 00:05:34,360 well, well, here, sit down for a minute. 106 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:37,600 I'll get you a bottle of water, you know, just kind of process 107 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:39,280 things. We don't have to talk about it, 108 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:41,560 you know. You can write me an e-mail later 109 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:44,080 and let me know how you feel, you know? 110 00:05:44,600 --> 00:05:46,440 I guess you just fill out your sub at the time. 111 00:05:46,520 --> 00:05:48,160 Yeah, because. Exactly. 112 00:05:48,160 --> 00:05:49,480 They want to run out, let them run out. 113 00:05:49,520 --> 00:05:51,880 They want to sit down top. Absolutely. 114 00:05:51,880 --> 00:05:53,760 Sometimes you can tell when they want to be a little bit babied 115 00:05:53,760 --> 00:05:56,680 and coddled a little bit. You can kind of get get it. 116 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:58,400 Absolutely. Sometimes I miss it though. 117 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:01,080 They want that. But a lot of times people like I 118 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:03,600 want to hug on my way out. Like needing to be. 119 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:08,040 Cuddled at the end, yeah, like like taken care of for a second 120 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:11,640 after a hard session. Well, and you know, cuddling is 121 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:14,600 a thing. You know, it is in some people 122 00:06:14,600 --> 00:06:16,240 it's a fetish. It is a fetish for. 123 00:06:16,240 --> 00:06:18,360 People like the ABDL's. You like to be cuddled. 124 00:06:18,680 --> 00:06:20,560 They like that. They love to be, you know, 125 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:23,200 nurtured and pampered. And, you know, a lot of people 126 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:25,880 just don't really get to experience that even in their 127 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:27,400 childhood. It's so sad. 128 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:28,960 I know. Well, I mean, you know how I am. 129 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:30,560 Yeah. I'm over there hugging people, 130 00:06:32,440 --> 00:06:34,280 but with some of my babies, I'm really like, I don't actually 131 00:06:34,280 --> 00:06:35,760 hug them. I'm just rubbing their face, 132 00:06:35,760 --> 00:06:38,120 which is what I do with my kids. I just kind of like associate 133 00:06:38,320 --> 00:06:41,640 them as my child. Yeah, maybe if I was a more 134 00:06:41,640 --> 00:06:43,760 snuggly mom, maybe I would snuggle them more, but I just 135 00:06:43,760 --> 00:06:46,160 treat them like my child. Yeah, rubbing their face. 136 00:06:46,200 --> 00:06:48,440 Do like a face trace? Yeah, you said you're not a big 137 00:06:48,440 --> 00:06:49,680 hugger. I'm not. 138 00:06:49,880 --> 00:06:51,720 Yeah, I'm not. And some people will ask me for 139 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:52,920 a hug on the way out. Yeah. 140 00:06:53,600 --> 00:06:57,480 Or can I touch your butt? Please let me just let me touch 141 00:06:57,480 --> 00:07:00,040 it one time. Oh my God. 142 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:03,640 They do that, but that's that's a fucking prize piece right 143 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:04,440 there. They love it. 144 00:07:04,440 --> 00:07:09,280 An asset for sure. It is imposition the ass. 145 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:16,240 Oh, goodness, yeah, we've, you know, we did that Hot video too, 146 00:07:16,360 --> 00:07:18,080 and I think I'm going to make another one. 147 00:07:18,400 --> 00:07:22,240 But it's you pulling off those those stockings as pantyhose off 148 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:25,080 your butt. And there's something about it. 149 00:07:25,080 --> 00:07:29,600 It is I mean it sent Charles like, you know, wow, he's like 150 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:32,000 that. That is the the money piece 151 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:33,840 right there and like it was awesome. 152 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:35,960 That's a great. Picture like the lighting on it. 153 00:07:36,240 --> 00:07:40,000 Yeah, but I did like. It well, we need to redo another 154 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:42,240 one and we'll do change up the lighting, yeah. 155 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:47,080 Yeah, get some tripods. Absolutely, absolutely. 156 00:07:47,400 --> 00:07:52,040 I think too, we need, yeah, the tripod light and I think we need 157 00:07:52,040 --> 00:07:53,560 to do the lights around the room. 158 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:56,160 Oh, I know. She talked about the Yeah, like 159 00:07:56,160 --> 00:07:58,160 what I gave you. Yeah, we got 2 sets. 160 00:07:58,160 --> 00:08:00,920 That's what we need to do. Sounds good we can get. 161 00:08:00,920 --> 00:08:06,600 That going, Oh yeah. So go back to the topic. 162 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:12,560 The topic is aftercare. So what is aftercare for you? 163 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:17,480 Like if you're doing a scene and it's you that is the submissive, 164 00:08:17,760 --> 00:08:19,720 what do you like to have done for you? 165 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:26,800 I definitely cuddled a lot more kissed and almost feel like in a 166 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:31,480 sexy way, like like like almost like when you kissed your wife 167 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:33,200 and you're about to Make Love type of feeling. 168 00:08:33,280 --> 00:08:37,039 Yeah, that soft kisses on the neck and making you feel like I 169 00:08:37,039 --> 00:08:39,720 still care about you. I still think you're pretty even 170 00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:40,840 though now you're black and blue. 171 00:08:41,559 --> 00:08:44,240 Like like just feeling like still cared for. 172 00:08:44,280 --> 00:08:47,360 Like just because I hurt you doesn't mean I hate you. 173 00:08:47,560 --> 00:08:50,360 OK, well, I know a lot of people are just like, give me 174 00:08:50,360 --> 00:08:53,360 chocolate, give me cuddles, you know? 175 00:08:54,040 --> 00:08:54,800 Yeah. Well, I mean it. 176 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:57,760 I mean how he makes me feel cared for is different. 177 00:08:57,760 --> 00:09:00,640 Like how you said, like just making dinner for him that day 178 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:03,280 and making sure I bring the plate to him and just small 179 00:09:03,280 --> 00:09:07,680 things like that. I feel like he does do it, but I 180 00:09:07,680 --> 00:09:11,160 feel like we need a little bit more like snuggle time get 181 00:09:11,320 --> 00:09:14,800 people need don't understand the level of what physical contact 182 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:20,880 can do for a person. Yeah, it it brings out dopamine, 183 00:09:21,280 --> 00:09:24,360 relaxes you, it lowers your your blood pressure and your heart 184 00:09:24,360 --> 00:09:27,240 rate. So I mean, there's it's all very 185 00:09:27,240 --> 00:09:31,280 healthy positive. Honestly, I'm just letting 186 00:09:31,280 --> 00:09:33,160 people know that you're in the dungeon right now. 187 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:34,960 I am I. Am in the dungeon. 188 00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:38,480 Well I made I made one of my Subs cry, remember? 189 00:09:38,520 --> 00:09:40,000 Oh my. Goodness to tell. 190 00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:43,560 I kissed him on the cheek and I told him I was like, you're OK, 191 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:45,800 you're safe. And that kind of pulled him back 192 00:09:46,520 --> 00:09:48,400 because, you know, he went too far in his brain. 193 00:09:48,680 --> 00:09:54,080 So it's like maybe sometimes not being in your full subspace and 194 00:09:54,080 --> 00:09:56,880 getting the punishment it, it's actually really hard on the 195 00:09:56,880 --> 00:09:59,880 brain because the subspace is almost like almost like a coping 196 00:09:59,880 --> 00:10:02,560 mechanism maybe. I'm not really sure but if 197 00:10:02,560 --> 00:10:05,280 you're not in it and you get a punishment, it's like more 198 00:10:05,280 --> 00:10:07,920 hurtful. Not just like pain wise. 199 00:10:07,920 --> 00:10:11,120 I mean the pain probably is more unbearable, but like just in 200 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:13,640 your brain you're just like you can't understand it the same. 201 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:17,720 Maybe because he felt at the time that he was really relaxed 202 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:22,080 and the scene and he wasn't really in that moment thinking 203 00:10:22,080 --> 00:10:27,360 about why he lets you take control and why he's put himself 204 00:10:27,360 --> 00:10:29,120 in that position to have control. 205 00:10:29,520 --> 00:10:34,280 Oh, well, we, we talked about why and we've, we've, we've went 206 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:36,360 over it several times. So we don't. 207 00:10:36,360 --> 00:10:37,160 Put it back. Up. 208 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:41,280 But in general, like communication is what we came 209 00:10:41,280 --> 00:10:43,480 back down to. It's like communication and not, 210 00:10:43,480 --> 00:10:46,040 yeah, not leaving somebody out. Like if I'm helping you through 211 00:10:46,040 --> 00:10:48,440 a trauma and not knowing that there was a trauma I'm helping 212 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:50,960 you through, Yeah. How am I supposed to know to be 213 00:10:50,960 --> 00:10:55,000 careful with this subject? Well, and, and that brings me to 214 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:58,720 the next point is that, you know, people who have been 215 00:10:58,720 --> 00:11:02,440 traumatized, they come to us for the reason that they can 216 00:11:02,440 --> 00:11:06,880 reenact, they're seen in their mind under their own control, 217 00:11:07,040 --> 00:11:12,520 and they can be released from that, that that feeling of, of 218 00:11:12,520 --> 00:11:17,960 torment or upset. Guilt, yes, or pain that they. 219 00:11:18,040 --> 00:11:20,600 Yeah, that they have their own control and it's they're 220 00:11:20,600 --> 00:11:23,720 experiencing it in a way that they can. 221 00:11:23,760 --> 00:11:25,280 Yeah, like what you said like release it. 222 00:11:25,400 --> 00:11:28,960 Yeah. And, you know, it's so hard for 223 00:11:28,960 --> 00:11:32,720 a lot of people to let go of the things that they've had to 224 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:36,080 endure in their life. And so, you know, for the 225 00:11:36,240 --> 00:11:40,040 average guy that comes in and they just want, you know, a 226 00:11:40,040 --> 00:11:43,080 regular scene because they've never experienced BDSM. 227 00:11:43,080 --> 00:11:46,320 It's more than likely they've never really thought too much of 228 00:11:46,320 --> 00:11:50,640 it and they really probably haven't experienced any type of 229 00:11:50,640 --> 00:11:52,760 trauma. So it's kind of like they're 230 00:11:52,760 --> 00:11:55,840 like, oh, OK, we're done. All right, great meeting you. 231 00:11:56,560 --> 00:11:58,440 You know, I'll call you when I'm in town again. 232 00:11:58,800 --> 00:12:01,000 It's one of those. I mean, you can tell when people 233 00:12:01,000 --> 00:12:03,720 have had problems and they just want to experience it. 234 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:06,360 Exactly. As you see, the regulars are 235 00:12:06,400 --> 00:12:08,640 somebody that's they need it more, which means they have 236 00:12:08,640 --> 00:12:09,800 something they're trying to work through. 237 00:12:10,360 --> 00:12:12,080 Exactly. They've planned for it, they 238 00:12:12,080 --> 00:12:17,600 thought about it. So yeah, I think it's, I think 239 00:12:17,600 --> 00:12:21,120 it's pretty interesting. But I know that when I ask 240 00:12:21,120 --> 00:12:24,480 people, you know, about certain things, their trauma or their 241 00:12:24,480 --> 00:12:27,880 experiences and what they've had to endure, you know, a lot of 242 00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:32,200 times they don't want to connect that with the BDSM that we do. 243 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:35,560 But I feel like. Almost accepting it is is the 244 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:37,640 healing process. Almost absolutely. 245 00:12:37,640 --> 00:12:40,560 You have to bring those two together in your mind and then 246 00:12:40,560 --> 00:12:44,200 it becomes fun. You changed your trauma into 247 00:12:44,200 --> 00:12:48,280 something that's more lively in something easier to endure for 248 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:50,160 everyday life. Absolutely and. 249 00:12:50,280 --> 00:12:52,960 I've worked through some stuff, just working here. 250 00:12:52,960 --> 00:12:57,400 The Dom, yeah, I'm, I mean spending time here as a Dom. 251 00:12:58,400 --> 00:13:00,600 Right. Well, and you, you told me, you 252 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:02,320 said, you know, this is so empowering. 253 00:13:03,520 --> 00:13:06,640 Help me as a parent. Yeah, there's structure 254 00:13:06,640 --> 00:13:09,440 involved. Help me just get things more in 255 00:13:09,440 --> 00:13:11,400 order in my head. That's great. 256 00:13:11,400 --> 00:13:14,840 Mm hmm, that's great. It's almost like you can 257 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:18,000 compartmentalize different things and like you said, 258 00:13:18,000 --> 00:13:19,800 organize your thoughts and everything. 259 00:13:19,840 --> 00:13:22,920 It's more relaxing. Yeah, I can believe it. 260 00:13:23,720 --> 00:13:26,720 Well, you know, Charles always says it is your medicine. 261 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:29,160 Yeah, you know. And how my sub says is. 262 00:13:29,240 --> 00:13:31,480 This is your church? Yeah, that's true. 263 00:13:31,880 --> 00:13:33,880 You know, when you told me that, I thought, you know, that's what 264 00:13:33,880 --> 00:13:36,680 Brie always used to say. The dungeon was her church. 265 00:13:38,200 --> 00:13:40,240 It brings think. About the healing process, it 266 00:13:40,240 --> 00:13:43,440 makes sense. Though, yes, like yes indeed. 267 00:13:43,560 --> 00:13:47,280 You know, people associate BDSM with, like, the devil or, you 268 00:13:47,280 --> 00:13:49,280 know, I think it's literally the pain. 269 00:13:50,000 --> 00:13:52,680 Yeah, I do think it's pain. OK, yeah, I understand. 270 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:55,680 Yes, we got pain involved, but some people need it. 271 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:57,960 Yeah, and it doesn't always have to be though. 272 00:13:58,000 --> 00:13:59,480 Who? Did I talk to, I think it was 273 00:13:59,480 --> 00:14:04,840 still PO saying that, you know, as you get older, you you don't 274 00:14:04,840 --> 00:14:06,280 have nobody telling you what to do. 275 00:14:06,280 --> 00:14:10,200 So you have no real consequences, you know, have no 276 00:14:10,640 --> 00:14:13,240 like structure. So having this kind of gives you 277 00:14:13,240 --> 00:14:15,480 back that structure. So if you have like a really 278 00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:18,480 strict parent or you know, parent figure and then you're 279 00:14:18,480 --> 00:14:20,920 going through this, you're like you're able to, I don't know, 280 00:14:20,920 --> 00:14:24,360 release it in a way like, OK, I need structure. 281 00:14:24,360 --> 00:14:26,400 I'm not giving myself structure, structure. 282 00:14:26,880 --> 00:14:29,160 My parents did. Now I need it again. 283 00:14:29,320 --> 00:14:31,360 I'm not getting things done. I'm not taking going to the 284 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:33,680 doctor when I need to be. I'm taking my medicine when I 285 00:14:33,680 --> 00:14:35,200 need to be. So it needs to be structured. 286 00:14:36,520 --> 00:14:38,520 Yeah, and that's. What we provide for. 287 00:14:38,520 --> 00:14:40,800 Some of them, you know, and that's where parents don't 288 00:14:40,800 --> 00:14:43,240 realize how they fuck up so bad too. 289 00:14:44,200 --> 00:14:48,360 You know, people don't even realize how bad they can fuck 290 00:14:48,360 --> 00:14:51,040 their. Kids because it makes it hard to 291 00:14:51,040 --> 00:14:53,640 function in the real world. It does. 292 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:57,680 It does when they try to control every aspect of their kids life. 293 00:14:57,680 --> 00:14:59,680 It makes it where the kids can't do it for themselves. 294 00:14:59,680 --> 00:15:02,600 Exactly. It's such a way where they are 295 00:15:02,600 --> 00:15:05,040 now here. Yeah, yeah. 296 00:15:05,960 --> 00:15:09,680 I took care of a lady years ago when we had an assisted living 297 00:15:09,680 --> 00:15:14,440 facility and she was fairly young. 298 00:15:14,520 --> 00:15:21,160 She was like 5455 years old and she came in because she had 299 00:15:21,240 --> 00:15:27,080 literally nowhere to go. Her father was very prominent in 300 00:15:27,080 --> 00:15:30,120 his job. He made a ton of money, 6 301 00:15:30,120 --> 00:15:35,920 figures all his life, all his career, and they adopted this 302 00:15:35,920 --> 00:15:39,640 woman when she was a child. She said she was probably two or 303 00:15:39,640 --> 00:15:43,240 three years old when she was adopted by them and they chose 304 00:15:43,240 --> 00:15:47,120 to not adopt anyone else. But they kept her and raised her 305 00:15:47,120 --> 00:15:52,920 and loved her as their own and they controlled every aspect of 306 00:15:52,920 --> 00:15:57,040 her life. Now when they finally passed, 307 00:15:57,120 --> 00:16:02,280 she was in her 40s and here I was meeting her and she was like 308 00:16:02,280 --> 00:16:04,560 5455 years old, something like that. 309 00:16:04,960 --> 00:16:08,640 Anyway, she'd gotten all this money that her parents left her 310 00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:13,800 and it was like $6 million. And let me tell you, she went 311 00:16:13,800 --> 00:16:17,160 through that $6 million in less than five years. 312 00:16:18,240 --> 00:16:23,040 And we have no idea how she spent it, what she spent it on 313 00:16:23,040 --> 00:16:26,520 because she let the house go into foreclosure. 314 00:16:26,520 --> 00:16:30,280 She lost this beautiful four bedroom, 5 bath house. 315 00:16:32,320 --> 00:16:37,760 I mean, she had nothing. She owned nothing but a used old 316 00:16:37,760 --> 00:16:41,720 car. And then I walked into the house 317 00:16:41,800 --> 00:16:48,960 and I was like, holy shit, it was so crammed full with junk 318 00:16:49,200 --> 00:16:53,280 and shit she's bought that it was literally coming out of the 319 00:16:53,280 --> 00:16:54,720 windows. That's wild. 320 00:16:54,720 --> 00:16:57,440 In the back 'cause. She was so suffocated that this 321 00:16:57,440 --> 00:17:00,320 was her letting loose. Yeah, freaking 40 something 322 00:17:00,320 --> 00:17:02,320 years old. Yes, and you can't even control 323 00:17:02,320 --> 00:17:03,520 it. Couldn't control it. 324 00:17:04,720 --> 00:17:07,440 Because, you know, like whenever college even shows that they're 325 00:17:07,440 --> 00:17:09,440 crazy, whenever they move out of the house and they have 326 00:17:09,440 --> 00:17:10,440 structure. Yeah. 327 00:17:10,680 --> 00:17:13,720 Or if you don't let your kids dye their hair when they're 328 00:17:13,720 --> 00:17:17,400 younger and they go crazy looking like their 30s dye in 329 00:17:17,400 --> 00:17:19,760 their hair crazy colors. Which is fine, but I'm just 330 00:17:19,760 --> 00:17:21,440 saying like. Yeah, it's because. 331 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:23,160 It's whenever it's the right age. 332 00:17:23,160 --> 00:17:25,720 Exactly. It's about self-expression, yes. 333 00:17:26,079 --> 00:17:28,119 And getting to know yourself. Yes. 334 00:17:28,119 --> 00:17:30,800 Because now you're getting to know yourself at 30-40 years old 335 00:17:31,400 --> 00:17:33,800 and you're not liking yourself because of this and this and 336 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:35,440 this. Yeah, Get to know yourself while 337 00:17:35,440 --> 00:17:37,720 you're younger and able. Can stabilize your own emotions. 338 00:17:39,480 --> 00:17:42,440 You know, I was having this conversation with one of my Subs 339 00:17:42,440 --> 00:17:46,600 and it was interesting because he was up here doing a session 340 00:17:46,600 --> 00:17:50,760 and you had Poe downstairs doing a session. 341 00:17:50,800 --> 00:17:54,720 And afterwards, after they both left, I said, you know, Liv, 342 00:17:55,080 --> 00:17:56,960 they both went to the same church. 343 00:17:57,960 --> 00:18:01,040 And I mean, we're not going to tell who is who. 344 00:18:01,040 --> 00:18:03,800 But my point of it is they both brought up the church they went 345 00:18:03,800 --> 00:18:08,920 to. So that leads into how the 346 00:18:08,920 --> 00:18:12,200 conformity of religion just fucks people. 347 00:18:12,360 --> 00:18:14,440 Yeah, with all the issues. That's why I. 348 00:18:14,440 --> 00:18:17,080 Feel like when people want to introduce it to their kids, and 349 00:18:17,080 --> 00:18:18,720 I'm not going to speak on everybody, I'm just saying like 350 00:18:18,720 --> 00:18:21,400 for myself, I want to introduce God to my kids. 351 00:18:21,440 --> 00:18:23,920 I want to introduce some more of a spiritual level, not a 352 00:18:23,920 --> 00:18:26,000 religion. Exactly because there's. 353 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:29,480 So many different religions, yes, you know, So it's like, let 354 00:18:29,480 --> 00:18:32,040 me introduce this spiritually and then you choose your 355 00:18:32,040 --> 00:18:34,040 direction. I'm not going to choose your 356 00:18:34,040 --> 00:18:35,960 direction for you because you don't know where you're going to 357 00:18:35,960 --> 00:18:37,200 go. And it's just, you know, it's 358 00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:41,520 just like one big rabbit hole. Religion is so gosh, it's so 359 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:42,760 frustrating. We're. 360 00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:45,960 Human, we make mistakes, and maybe those mistakes are being 361 00:18:45,960 --> 00:18:48,320 pointed out at church and making you feel like a Sinner. 362 00:18:48,320 --> 00:18:52,640 Or maybe you're just, you're sending in yourself and then 363 00:18:52,640 --> 00:18:54,120 you're listening to all these things and you feel like a 364 00:18:54,120 --> 00:18:55,960 hypocrite there. Yeah, when that's not what 365 00:18:55,960 --> 00:18:57,960 church is about. Churches is like a doctor's 366 00:18:57,960 --> 00:18:59,560 office. We're not going there because 367 00:18:59,560 --> 00:19:01,160 we're perfect. We're going there because we 368 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:03,200 need a little help. Exactly. 369 00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:07,000 We'll say that for another episode, but I will say going 370 00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:08,600 back to the concept of aftercare. 371 00:19:09,480 --> 00:19:11,240 We're on. I don't even know what subject 372 00:19:11,240 --> 00:19:13,200 we were on you. Were on, yeah, aftercare. 373 00:19:16,280 --> 00:19:19,960 But the point of it is when, when you had yours down in the 374 00:19:19,960 --> 00:19:24,760 junction, I had mine up here. It was I would ask him little 375 00:19:24,760 --> 00:19:27,840 different things about church. I'm like, well, what did you 376 00:19:27,840 --> 00:19:30,800 have to do, you know? And it was just some of the 377 00:19:30,800 --> 00:19:35,560 things he told me. It was like, wow, you know, and 378 00:19:35,560 --> 00:19:38,240 I'm thinking, you know, and how does your mother treat you? 379 00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:41,040 And he's like, well, his mom's cold. 380 00:19:41,080 --> 00:19:43,000 They really don't have a great relationship. 381 00:19:43,400 --> 00:19:47,480 She's never been a very affectionate person. 382 00:19:47,520 --> 00:19:52,720 She's always found his faults before she did anything, you 383 00:19:52,720 --> 00:19:55,520 know, And I'm thinking, yeah, This is why you want to dress up 384 00:19:55,600 --> 00:19:58,240 as a Sissy maid. This is why you want to be 385 00:19:58,240 --> 00:20:01,560 called demeaning names and. Emasculated. 386 00:20:01,840 --> 00:20:04,880 You know This is why you want to be reminded that your Dick is a 387 00:20:04,880 --> 00:20:11,160 little turtle. I love, I love him so much 388 00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:13,120 though you. Gotta love him. 389 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:16,520 He's a little giggle whenever you get on to him or something. 390 00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:18,480 It's so funny. He's so cute. 391 00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:19,360 He's so cute. That's. 392 00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:22,680 Funny, yes. Absolutely. 393 00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:24,520 Special place in our heart for a little. 394 00:20:24,760 --> 00:20:29,280 Absolutely, Justin, you are a little fucking slutty whore who 395 00:20:29,280 --> 00:20:33,160 has nothing but a little Dick and you're completely worthless 396 00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:38,040 and. He loves it. 397 00:20:38,040 --> 00:20:40,080 He loves it. His Dick will never satisfy a 398 00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:42,600 real woman. Like you know, he's at a loss. 399 00:20:42,640 --> 00:20:46,760 A man or a man, No and all he's good for a sucking Dick. 400 00:20:47,120 --> 00:20:50,240 That's it. Maybe not even. 401 00:20:50,240 --> 00:20:52,000 Having we need to. Teach him better. 402 00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:58,680 God he sucks at sucking Dick. Yeah, he really you think it's 403 00:20:58,680 --> 00:21:02,840 pretty self-explanatory, but. God, I've seen, you know, I 404 00:21:02,840 --> 00:21:06,280 always used to say, Oh yeah, you know, the, the trans people 405 00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:09,040 really know how to suck Dick. And I still think I'm right with 406 00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:11,040 that. I think trans people have it 407 00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:13,320 down pat. I mean, because they have a 408 00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:15,480 Dick, you would think they would know, but see, he's his too 409 00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:16,440 small. Yeah, no the. 410 00:21:16,440 --> 00:21:21,560 Genetic males know exactly how to suck Dick, but these other 411 00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:27,440 guys who aren't trans, who aren't cross dressers, who are 412 00:21:27,440 --> 00:21:32,640 just he is a cross dresser, but even long time cross dresser, a 413 00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:34,840 lot of these people do not know how to suck Dick. 414 00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:38,200 It's crazy. Well, we had to learn. 415 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:42,440 Yeah, you have to learn, but yeah, sometimes it takes them a 416 00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:46,520 long time and a lot of Dicks. So let's line them up one day 417 00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:49,040 next week. Any volunteers? 418 00:21:49,080 --> 00:21:53,320 Oh my God that be a cool video. Just VIX and then yes, training. 419 00:21:53,440 --> 00:21:55,000 Yes, line them up. Oh my God. 420 00:21:55,480 --> 00:22:08,480 Fuck yeah. All right, so Liv did have an 421 00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:12,360 idea before we close out this episode and it was erotica. 422 00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:17,640 So if you like to write erotic stories, feel free. 423 00:22:18,120 --> 00:22:23,240 We had a gentleman a few weeks ago and I've already read his 424 00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:26,080 story on one of the bedtime stories. 425 00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:28,880 It was a little Horror Story, but it was a little love story 426 00:22:28,880 --> 00:22:31,960 how he met his his wife and it was a true story. 427 00:22:32,320 --> 00:22:33,640 It was very sweet. Yeah. 428 00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:37,040 But she turned his ass into a motherfucking pony. 429 00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:40,560 Yeah. Yeah. 430 00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:44,560 So if you have a cool story you want us to read it, by all 431 00:22:44,560 --> 00:22:46,800 means, make it good and send it in. 432 00:22:46,800 --> 00:22:50,200 And I'll pull it together and read it on a bedtime story. 433 00:22:51,480 --> 00:22:54,400 All right. So live until then. 434 00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:56,520 This has been the latest episode of. 435 00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:01,960 Call me Mistress, you go. And get that lingo.