1 00:00:07,200 --> 00:00:09,120 Hi, welcome to the latest episode. 2 00:00:09,280 --> 00:00:12,520 Call Me Mistress. I'm your Hostess, Mistress Mia, 3 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:17,560 and today we're going to read a nice little e-mail from Tony. 4 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:23,240 But before we get to that, I will tell you that I have to do 5 00:00:23,240 --> 00:00:28,080 a shout out. One is to Nikki Ellitz. 6 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:31,000 I'm assuming that's the correct way you say your name, Nikki, 7 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:35,560 but I have to tell you that I am always appreciative of your 8 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:39,720 lovely feedback and your sweet little comments left on the 9 00:00:39,720 --> 00:00:43,080 podcast. I truly appreciate your devotion 10 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:47,280 and I I love that you enjoy the episodes as much as I do. 11 00:00:47,320 --> 00:00:51,040 Now for all of my added listeners, I will tell you that 12 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:56,240 I did speak with Baby Tay this morning and Baby Tay told me 13 00:00:56,240 --> 00:01:02,160 that finally, all this time now that has gone by and his lovely 14 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:07,280 aunt finally changed his diaper. Apparently, they were watching a 15 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:13,600 college game with Alabama and Georgia this past weekend and he 16 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:18,440 bet on Alabama and they did, in fact, when and ultimately the 17 00:01:18,440 --> 00:01:20,440 deal was she was to change his diaper. 18 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:23,200 And she, of course, was very ready. 19 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:26,840 She had a basket with all the toiletries set up. 20 00:01:27,440 --> 00:01:31,440 So Needless to say, they had an amazing time. 21 00:01:31,520 --> 00:01:33,720 Now we're going to talk about Tony for a moment. 22 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:39,280 So Tony reached out to me, as he always does, and I'm always 23 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:42,080 happy to read his emails. I'm always happy to listen to 24 00:01:42,080 --> 00:01:45,880 him because I think Tony represents a lot of people, 25 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:48,920 listeners included. Because I think we all struggle 26 00:01:48,920 --> 00:01:54,680 at times with our own identity of what we want and our fetishes 27 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:58,680 are kinks and what we can really do and explore in our regular 28 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:02,040 lives. And it's often difficult that so 29 00:02:02,040 --> 00:02:06,120 many of us have to really limit what we can do because of our 30 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:11,160 relationships or religious beliefs or family or our living 31 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:13,840 situation. So I'm going to read Tony's 32 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:16,320 e-mail. We did an episode about this 33 00:02:16,320 --> 00:02:19,080 last week. So I think it's only appropriate 34 00:02:19,080 --> 00:02:22,000 that we continue so that everyone can kind of get a a 35 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:24,360 good understanding with what Tony's going through. 36 00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:28,360 And he writes. Mistress, thank you again for 37 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:30,480 taking time to respond to my emails. 38 00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:34,320 And thank you for responding directly via the podcast. 39 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:36,960 Hearing your voice does make a difference. 40 00:02:37,560 --> 00:02:40,560 It's so soothing and calming, and I love hearing you talk it 41 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:44,080 through. Your kindness is unmatched. 42 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:47,600 Thank you for being such a caring person and for being 43 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:49,760 there for me. It means the world to me. 44 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:53,320 You're so kind that I'm having a hard time imagining you being a 45 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:56,280 dominant in the dungeon, but I bet there are plenty of people 46 00:02:56,280 --> 00:03:00,880 who can attest to your skills. I love that you love gay porn as 47 00:03:00,880 --> 00:03:04,440 much as I do. I would be so interested to see 48 00:03:04,440 --> 00:03:07,160 what kind of gay porn you enjoy watching. 49 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:12,200 I love women who enjoy gay porn and enjoy by men. 50 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:16,040 If you're interested, I would love to share with you a gay 51 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:18,080 Bondage Twitter account that I follow. 52 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:20,560 They do excellent work with Bondage. 53 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:24,160 You may enjoy it. I love your mom too by the way. 54 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:26,440 It always cracks me up when you talk about her. 55 00:03:26,640 --> 00:03:29,880 Also your story about your doctor friend who would go to 56 00:03:29,880 --> 00:03:31,840 glory holes with you on the phone. 57 00:03:31,920 --> 00:03:36,280 It was so hot. I love encouraged by play a lot. 58 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:38,920 I know we talked about forced by play before. 59 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:42,840 I love thinking of that. He was sucking cock at your 60 00:03:42,840 --> 00:03:45,880 command. It was a form of tribute to you, 61 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:48,760 by him. I have to know, were you 62 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:53,640 flattered by what he was doing? I've been mulling my submission 63 00:03:53,640 --> 00:03:56,680 options over in my head since listening to the podcast. 64 00:03:57,240 --> 00:04:00,040 It's clear to me now that my wife is not a Dom. 65 00:04:01,160 --> 00:04:03,960 We had an interesting conversation just last evening. 66 00:04:04,600 --> 00:04:08,400 I've known for quite a while now that my wife's old roommate from 67 00:04:08,400 --> 00:04:11,240 when she was 21 had a boyfriend who was a sub. 68 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:16,279 She used to tell me that her roommate would dawn for him and 69 00:04:16,279 --> 00:04:18,959 she would tell me how her roommate would tell her about 70 00:04:19,360 --> 00:04:21,600 her pegging him and other things. 71 00:04:22,079 --> 00:04:25,440 Just by chance we got into a conversation about humiliation 72 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:29,600 and verbal humiliation. Long story short, we were 73 00:04:29,600 --> 00:04:33,280 talking about how certain men and women like that being 74 00:04:33,280 --> 00:04:35,960 degraded and talked down to being insulted. 75 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:39,120 She said she doesn't think she could ever do that. 76 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:43,560 She said she would feel so bad about it and she would also feel 77 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:46,760 disconnected by it. Sigh. 78 00:04:48,040 --> 00:04:51,840 I understand her. We can only do what we feel 79 00:04:51,840 --> 00:04:54,640 comfortable doing. I would never force something 80 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:59,320 like that on someone I love. That being said, I would not 81 00:04:59,320 --> 00:05:02,480 feel comfortable finding someone on Fetlife to be submissive to. 82 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:07,000 I think that would not really be appropriate given my situation. 83 00:05:07,880 --> 00:05:11,480 I would consider a pro Dom. I like that there's no feelings 84 00:05:11,480 --> 00:05:15,200 involved and it can be planned and scheduled and expectations 85 00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:19,080 set. My only problem is there's not a 86 00:05:19,080 --> 00:05:21,200 lot of pro Dom options where I am. 87 00:05:22,280 --> 00:05:25,960 I know of one, maybe 2. Also, it's tough to get out and 88 00:05:25,960 --> 00:05:29,120 find the time. My wife doesn't keep me on a 89 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:32,200 tight leash even though I'd love to be collared. 90 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:36,680 But if I'm not at work I'm usually home with our son. 91 00:05:37,200 --> 00:05:40,560 It'd be odd if I was gone for hours, but there are times where 92 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:44,760 that may be possible. I've been considering a virtual 93 00:05:44,760 --> 00:05:46,840 dominant. There are plenty of Doms online 94 00:05:46,840 --> 00:05:49,200 who will do some kind of virtual play. 95 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:51,880 I think that might be a good middle ground for me. 96 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:55,960 My only hesitation is I really don't know what to expect from 97 00:05:55,960 --> 00:05:58,640 that. I've done popper breath play 98 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:01,760 with Dominic Cam models before, but obviously that's pretty 99 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:04,000 quick. It's something I want to look 100 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:06,120 into. I think it might help. 101 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:09,120 We will see. Thank you again for taking the 102 00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:12,760 time to speak to me and to let me go through these feelings and 103 00:06:12,760 --> 00:06:16,600 thoughts with you. I just love that you'd like to 104 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:20,320 share this kinky world with everyone, that you accept people 105 00:06:20,320 --> 00:06:23,120 with open arms. I'm so appreciative what you do 106 00:06:23,120 --> 00:06:25,120 for the BDSM community as a whole. 107 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:28,200 You make it easier for people like me who have certain 108 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:30,640 feelings and don't know what to do with it. 109 00:06:30,760 --> 00:06:34,160 I know what you do is not easy and there are plenty of 110 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:36,800 headaches and daily struggles with what you deal with. 111 00:06:37,320 --> 00:06:40,040 I just hope you know that you are loved and appreciated for 112 00:06:40,040 --> 00:06:42,840 what you do. I hope you enjoy doing it as 113 00:06:42,840 --> 00:06:44,880 much as I enjoy hearing about it. 114 00:06:45,480 --> 00:06:51,320 All the best, Tony. I mean, how could you not love 115 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:53,000 this man? He is the sweetest. 116 00:06:53,000 --> 00:06:59,240 Tony, I just adore you. So I'm going to go back and 117 00:06:59,240 --> 00:07:03,560 break down things as we process the e-mail that you've written 118 00:07:03,560 --> 00:07:05,240 to me. So nice. 119 00:07:05,320 --> 00:07:07,640 You know, your compliments are always so kind and I truly 120 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:11,280 appreciate that. You know, I just try to be 121 00:07:11,280 --> 00:07:14,560 helpful to people. I feel like if I can be one of 122 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:20,480 those people that help other people through their process of 123 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:24,280 finding themselves or finding their kinks and what they really 124 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:29,160 enjoy, and I'm happy to do it. I think it's it's so uplifting, 125 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:33,320 it's so rewarding and I really can't think of something better 126 00:07:33,320 --> 00:07:36,600 that I'd really like to do. I've always been in one of those 127 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:41,480 positions in life where I've always helped people and it's 128 00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:46,480 always been my passion. Now I think that I'll answer 129 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:49,600 your first question and that was what kind of gay porn do I like? 130 00:07:52,320 --> 00:07:58,000 Please share your gay Your Gay Bondage Twitter account with me. 131 00:07:58,920 --> 00:08:04,720 I think I'm always looking for good gay porn, but my favorites 132 00:08:04,720 --> 00:08:11,000 are like the Big Bear guys that like to fuck young submissive 133 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:18,480 virgin boys. I think, I think it's really 134 00:08:18,480 --> 00:08:20,920 hot. I don't know what it is, but I 135 00:08:20,920 --> 00:08:24,480 have this one particular favorite porn where it's this 136 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:29,280 this bigger man. He's probably late 50s and he's 137 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:34,240 always fucking these young twinks and they're usually bent 138 00:08:34,240 --> 00:08:38,000 over or, you know, they're on their back, but they're always 139 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:40,600 calling him daddy and begging for his cock. 140 00:08:40,600 --> 00:08:42,600 And of course, you know, he's got a nice fat Dick. 141 00:08:42,600 --> 00:08:46,600 He really does. But it's just really hot. 142 00:08:46,600 --> 00:08:50,800 I I just can't explain it. I don't know why I like it, but, 143 00:08:51,400 --> 00:08:53,840 you know, they say this kind of thing is genetic. 144 00:08:54,440 --> 00:08:56,480 But yeah, my mom is a fucking hoot. 145 00:08:56,600 --> 00:08:59,960 My mom is super funny. I don't even know if she 146 00:08:59,960 --> 00:09:04,360 realizes I talk about her on the podcast because there's so many 147 00:09:04,360 --> 00:09:08,520 episodes, honestly, that I don't want her hearing about my past. 148 00:09:09,400 --> 00:09:13,840 But I think she kind of knew about my sex addiction after my 149 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:16,560 first divorce. And so she was really 150 00:09:16,560 --> 00:09:19,000 understanding about it. She was just like, really? 151 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:25,200 How many is that today? But she's, she's funny. 152 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:28,040 She was a devout Catholic. She's always been a very devout 153 00:09:28,040 --> 00:09:32,120 Catholic, but extremely non judgmental. 154 00:09:32,120 --> 00:09:37,440 She really has zero filter, which is fucking hilarious. 155 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:43,280 She is, she's 85. She just turned 85 last month. 156 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:48,920 And she's extremely passive aggressive, which is funny at 157 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:53,160 times. Other times we don't always have 158 00:09:53,160 --> 00:09:56,480 the best relationship when she is very passive aggressive. 159 00:09:56,640 --> 00:10:02,240 But as far as porn goes, I think she likes fucking hot Cowboys 160 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:04,680 fucking. And that's again why she loves 161 00:10:04,680 --> 00:10:08,920 Brokeback Mountain. She loves Christian Gray. 162 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:13,520 She's just, she's a hoot. I could go on about that, but I 163 00:10:13,520 --> 00:10:15,960 will. I'll go on to your next 164 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:20,720 question, which was, Oh, my doctor friend, my doctor friend 165 00:10:20,720 --> 00:10:24,480 of Fort Lauderdale. This guy was sexy as fuck. 166 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:28,880 Really not my type of guy. He's he's bald, which is cool. 167 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:31,720 I've I've fucked a lot of bald men's who with the shaved head 168 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:34,480 don't mind that at all. Sexy as fuck. 169 00:10:34,920 --> 00:10:37,880 He's one of those guys. He shaves head to toe, just 170 00:10:37,960 --> 00:10:40,080 fucking hot. But then he had a full on beard 171 00:10:40,080 --> 00:10:41,800 mustache. I really don't get into the 172 00:10:41,800 --> 00:10:45,760 beard, but mustaches I can do. I can do all day long. 173 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:51,040 But this doctor was so sexy. Oh my God. 174 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:55,120 So here he would leave the ER, he would call me and he'd be 175 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:57,600 like, Mistress, I got to go to the glory hole. 176 00:10:59,680 --> 00:11:04,280 And you know, at times I'm questioning was he smoking 177 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:07,880 crack? Because this is before vape 178 00:11:07,880 --> 00:11:10,400 pens. But man, he would, he would 179 00:11:10,400 --> 00:11:11,760 really fucking choke on something. 180 00:11:11,760 --> 00:11:14,480 He was sucking. I was assuming he was smoking 181 00:11:14,480 --> 00:11:17,800 crack. I, you know, it's just, it was 182 00:11:17,920 --> 00:11:21,280 one of those things at the time, you don't, you don't think about 183 00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:25,280 it because you're sitting back and, you know, I'm on the phone 184 00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:28,440 sometimes I would get to see him, you know, we'd get on 185 00:11:28,440 --> 00:11:31,320 webcam together on Skype. But he was just a really super 186 00:11:31,320 --> 00:11:33,720 cool guy. But yeah, I think that it was a 187 00:11:33,720 --> 00:11:35,880 tribute to me. I think that in a lot of ways he 188 00:11:35,880 --> 00:11:38,280 was kind of like my long distance cup because I would 189 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:43,320 tell him about my extensive sex life with multiple people and if 190 00:11:43,320 --> 00:11:47,440 he had been in town, we had talked about meeting and we just 191 00:11:47,440 --> 00:11:49,640 it was one of those things, you know, it's a big distance. 192 00:11:49,640 --> 00:11:52,800 It was never, you know, direct flights where I was or where he 193 00:11:52,800 --> 00:11:55,360 was and that and he worked 50 hours a week. 194 00:11:55,360 --> 00:11:58,160 So, but Needless to say, he went to glory holes. 195 00:11:58,160 --> 00:12:03,080 I would walk him through it and he would be like, he gets so 196 00:12:03,080 --> 00:12:05,280 nervous about it. And I was just like, come on, 197 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:07,120 Jason, come on baby, you can do it. 198 00:12:07,120 --> 00:12:08,960 You can have sucked that big cock for me. 199 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:12,800 And yeah, he would go in, he would tell me all about it. 200 00:12:12,800 --> 00:12:15,320 And you know, I told him I'm like, I don't care if it's white 201 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:18,200 or black, just see who's got the biggest, fucking hottest, 202 00:12:18,200 --> 00:12:20,280 juiciest cock. And we talked about it. 203 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:22,840 It was great. And I was, yes, I was very 204 00:12:22,840 --> 00:12:26,240 flattered by him doing it because it was his passion. 205 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:29,680 It was my passion. And of course, I would send him 206 00:12:29,680 --> 00:12:34,440 dirty pics and videos of my, of my multiple partners. 207 00:12:34,440 --> 00:12:38,600 And you know, the whole concept of penetration or oral sex. 208 00:12:38,600 --> 00:12:41,920 I have, you know what, Tony, I'm going to send you a nice picture 209 00:12:41,920 --> 00:12:44,240 of a cock in my mouth and you're going to fucking love it. 210 00:12:45,120 --> 00:12:49,400 So then you talk about mulling over your submission. 211 00:12:49,400 --> 00:12:51,800 So I think you're absolutely right. 212 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:55,440 I think that was kind of looking at the side of you not spending 213 00:12:55,440 --> 00:12:57,760 money on somebody. So maybe you wouldn't be so 214 00:12:57,760 --> 00:13:00,080 invested. But I think you're right. 215 00:13:00,080 --> 00:13:02,760 Maybe just keeping it with a level of professionalism is 216 00:13:02,760 --> 00:13:05,480 fine. Now again, I am happy to do do 217 00:13:05,480 --> 00:13:08,000 this with you. If you ever just want to sit on 218 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:11,760 the phone and you want to do FaceTime or if you want to get 219 00:13:11,760 --> 00:13:15,040 on Telegram or something like that or Kik, I'll sit there with 220 00:13:15,040 --> 00:13:17,960 you and we'll talk about it. We'll come up with some scenes 221 00:13:17,960 --> 00:13:20,240 or scenarios. If you were my long distance 222 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:24,000 sub, I would tell you, you need to lay everything out that you 223 00:13:24,000 --> 00:13:27,200 want to use in that session. I still think you need to go 224 00:13:27,200 --> 00:13:30,280 back to journaling. Even if it's writing an e-mail 225 00:13:30,280 --> 00:13:32,080 to me, that to me that's journaling. 226 00:13:32,080 --> 00:13:35,800 That is a form of time stamp of what you're doing and how you're 227 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:38,080 feeling. So feel free just to e-mail me 228 00:13:38,080 --> 00:13:41,320 and we'll, we'll talk about it. I think it's very clear, you 229 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:43,520 know, you and I have had multiple conversations about 230 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:47,480 this, that your wife is indeed not a Dom. 231 00:13:47,560 --> 00:13:50,680 You know, she can't can't cater to what you want. 232 00:13:50,680 --> 00:13:54,000 Therefore, I always feel like men that come to see us in the 233 00:13:54,000 --> 00:13:56,720 dungeon, I don't feel like they're cheating on their wives. 234 00:13:56,720 --> 00:14:00,400 I think we're doing their wives a huge service because there's a 235 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:03,160 lot of wives that don't want to humiliate their husbands. 236 00:14:03,160 --> 00:14:05,880 They don't want to see their husbands dress up. 237 00:14:05,880 --> 00:14:08,440 That is such a huge turn off for a lot of women. 238 00:14:08,520 --> 00:14:11,760 I think that therefore it's really not a form of cheating. 239 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:15,120 I think it's a beautiful thing that you can act out your own 240 00:14:15,120 --> 00:14:18,040 kinks and if that's something you enjoy and you're not hurting 241 00:14:18,040 --> 00:14:21,320 your wife, it's something that is completely separate from her. 242 00:14:21,320 --> 00:14:23,480 And it's not as if you're fucking some woman. 243 00:14:23,480 --> 00:14:26,120 It's not that you're fucking some dude or you're getting 244 00:14:26,120 --> 00:14:28,080 fucked. So I really don't see that 245 00:14:28,080 --> 00:14:30,800 there's an issue with it. That's really all that it boils 246 00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:35,600 down to is doing what fits you best, what you feel comfortable 247 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:39,640 doing because there are multiple types of virtual play. 248 00:14:39,720 --> 00:14:44,440 I know I have my one Sissy slave and you know he's an hour and a 249 00:14:44,440 --> 00:14:47,960 half away and there's times where he'll turn on his camera 250 00:14:47,960 --> 00:14:50,680 and I will make him fuck his own ass. 251 00:14:50,680 --> 00:14:54,040 I will have him on his knees facing the corner. 252 00:14:54,040 --> 00:14:57,600 I will have him tell me all of the ways that he disappointed me 253 00:14:57,600 --> 00:14:59,280 for the week. It's just really what your 254 00:14:59,280 --> 00:15:02,800 expectations and what your hopes are and what you can accomplish 255 00:15:02,800 --> 00:15:05,760 in that period of time. I'll comment as well on your 256 00:15:05,760 --> 00:15:08,840 last paragraph, you know, about what I do for the community. 257 00:15:08,840 --> 00:15:11,280 Honestly, I feel like I'm just here to help. 258 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:14,720 I think that we're all here to value and appreciate one 259 00:15:14,720 --> 00:15:18,280 another. And I think that we're here to 260 00:15:18,280 --> 00:15:22,080 appreciate ourselves in the community, what we can offer 261 00:15:22,080 --> 00:15:26,320 other people and that we come judgment free and that we come 262 00:15:26,320 --> 00:15:30,600 to explore and express and enjoy ourselves in our life and what 263 00:15:30,600 --> 00:15:34,040 really makes us happy. You know, my husband told me 264 00:15:34,040 --> 00:15:38,120 over the weekend, he told me that I was kind of explaining to 265 00:15:38,120 --> 00:15:41,160 him the situation with one of my submissives. 266 00:15:41,160 --> 00:15:46,520 And I said, you know, my one Sissy slave, he is one of those 267 00:15:46,520 --> 00:15:48,920 people that struggle with substance abuse. 268 00:15:48,920 --> 00:15:52,080 And there's a lot of people that I've come across that have 269 00:15:52,080 --> 00:15:55,360 issues with substance abuse. And it goes back to, you know, 270 00:15:55,360 --> 00:15:58,880 addiction, addictive personalities and people that 271 00:15:58,880 --> 00:16:02,160 are in the kink lifestyle aside from their own addictions. 272 00:16:02,400 --> 00:16:04,640 You know, not all people have that struggle. 273 00:16:04,640 --> 00:16:08,320 But even if you're in the lifestyle, I think that, you 274 00:16:08,320 --> 00:16:10,560 know, Liv PO, we've all talked about this. 275 00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:15,120 It's about self acceptance. And my husband told me that I 276 00:16:15,120 --> 00:16:21,320 define people by their kinks. And I'm like that's I don't find 277 00:16:21,320 --> 00:16:25,240 that complimentary. I said I don't define people by 278 00:16:25,240 --> 00:16:28,400 their kinks. I define people for who they are 279 00:16:28,400 --> 00:16:31,480 and what they are and what they bring to the table as an 280 00:16:31,480 --> 00:16:33,960 individual. What can they offer people in 281 00:16:33,960 --> 00:16:37,680 relationships? And I think that their kinks 282 00:16:37,680 --> 00:16:41,640 don't define them. I think they make their kink and 283 00:16:41,640 --> 00:16:44,880 their kink makes them in a sense, but it doesn't define 284 00:16:44,880 --> 00:16:48,080 them as individuals. Just like your job, your 285 00:16:48,160 --> 00:16:49,560 profession, it doesn't define you. 286 00:16:49,560 --> 00:16:54,080 But I was telling him that my slave has a lot of resistance 287 00:16:54,080 --> 00:16:57,440 and a lot of crossdressers that I have, you know, had in my 288 00:16:57,440 --> 00:17:00,000 life. They have had resistance about 289 00:17:00,000 --> 00:17:04,119 what they want and they hate the follow through a lot of times 290 00:17:04,119 --> 00:17:06,520 with what they have to do in order to accomplish what they 291 00:17:06,520 --> 00:17:09,359 truly want. My view of what I would love to 292 00:17:09,359 --> 00:17:14,000 see for him is to be a 24/7 Sissy slave, but everyone has 293 00:17:14,000 --> 00:17:17,359 the resistance to some point in what they want in their kink 294 00:17:17,359 --> 00:17:19,560 lifestyle. You know, one of my slaves, he 295 00:17:19,560 --> 00:17:23,480 talks about wanting to be confined and be in his padded 296 00:17:23,480 --> 00:17:28,640 closet and you know, only have certain access to certain things 297 00:17:28,680 --> 00:17:33,680 like food and capabilities of using the bathroom outside of 298 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:36,760 wearing a depend or wearing a catheter. 299 00:17:36,760 --> 00:17:41,280 So ultimately, Tony, I think we define ourselves and what we 300 00:17:41,280 --> 00:17:43,640 truly want to make ourselves happy. 301 00:17:44,280 --> 00:17:49,360 And if you are unable to attain your level of happiness with 302 00:17:49,360 --> 00:17:55,040 submission and what you truly want, then your life as a whole 303 00:17:55,040 --> 00:17:58,560 will be less than and you won't find that complete happiness. 304 00:17:58,560 --> 00:18:03,840 So on that, I will leave you those words, whether I'm right, 305 00:18:03,840 --> 00:18:05,760 whether I'm wrong, you be the judge. 306 00:18:06,360 --> 00:18:09,280 You have to decide for yourself what you want and what's truly 307 00:18:09,280 --> 00:18:12,680 going to make you happy. Until then, thank you for 308 00:18:12,680 --> 00:18:14,400 listening. Thank you again for all your 309 00:18:14,400 --> 00:18:17,360 support. I truly appreciate all of my 310 00:18:17,360 --> 00:18:23,200 fans and their loyalty and to devotion to the podcast. 311 00:18:23,880 --> 00:18:28,600 So until then, this has been the latest episode of Call Me 312 00:18:28,600 --> 00:18:29,360 Mistress.