1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:07,500 And we're getting getting there. Almost through Ephesians now. 2 00:00:10,600 --> 00:00:12,800 Of course, we'll be taking a couple weeks break from 3 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:16,000 Ephesians next week. Is going to be Mike Mills. 4 00:00:16,500 --> 00:00:18,700 Is it Mike next week? Yeah, Mike is next week. 5 00:00:18,700 --> 00:00:21,500 Mike Mills is going to be ministering the word next week 6 00:00:21,500 --> 00:00:24,000 and then Bowden Dean's will be the week after that. 7 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:27,200 So, we'll take a break from a fusion, for a couple weeks. 8 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:31,200 And then we'll pick it back up when we get back in chapter 6. 9 00:00:31,600 --> 00:00:36,900 But this morning I am going to read to you from verse 21 of 10 00:00:36,900 --> 00:00:40,700 chapter 5 and we're going to read through verse 6 of chapter 11 00:00:40,700 --> 00:00:42,400 9. I'm going to take that whole 12 00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:45,100 passage and read it to you but then I'm basically just going to 13 00:00:45,100 --> 00:00:52,200 teach on the portion in chapter 5 so we're in 5:21 that's why I 14 00:00:52,208 --> 00:00:56,900 left us off last week. He's saying submitting to one 15 00:00:56,900 --> 00:01:01,600 another out of reverence for Christ wives submit to your own. 16 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:04,900 Husband's as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the 17 00:01:04,900 --> 00:01:07,800 wife even as Christ is the head of the church. 18 00:01:07,900 --> 00:01:11,400 His body and is himself its savior. 19 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:16,800 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should 20 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:19,000 submit in everything to their husbands. 21 00:01:19,600 --> 00:01:23,400 Husbands. Love your wives as Christ loved 22 00:01:23,400 --> 00:01:27,500 the church and gave himself up for her that he might sanctify 23 00:01:27,500 --> 00:01:31,500 her having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 24 00:01:31,700 --> 00:01:36,300 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor 25 00:01:36,500 --> 00:01:40,500 without spot or wrinkle or any such thing that she might be 26 00:01:40,500 --> 00:01:45,400 holy and without blemish in the same way husband should love 27 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:49,300 their wives, as their own bodies, he who loves his wife, 28 00:01:49,300 --> 00:01:52,900 loves himself for no one ever hated his own flesh, but 29 00:01:52,900 --> 00:01:56,400 nourishes, it and cherishes Is it just as Christ does the 30 00:01:56,400 --> 00:01:59,000 church? Because we are members of his 31 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:03,300 body, therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and 32 00:02:03,300 --> 00:02:07,400 hold fast to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. 33 00:02:08,199 --> 00:02:11,600 This mystery is profound and I am saying that it refers to 34 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:15,800 Christ and the church. However, Let each one of you 35 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:20,900 love his wife as himself and let the wife see that she respects 36 00:02:20,900 --> 00:02:25,500 her, husband children obey, your parents in the Lord, Lord for 37 00:02:25,500 --> 00:02:28,400 this is right. Honor your father and mother 38 00:02:28,900 --> 00:02:31,700 this is the first commandment with a promise that it may go 39 00:02:31,700 --> 00:02:33,900 well with you. And that you may live long in 40 00:02:33,900 --> 00:02:39,400 the land fathers, do not provoke your children to anger but bring 41 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:43,500 them up in the discipline and the instruction of the Lord Bond 42 00:02:43,500 --> 00:02:47,600 servants obey your Earthly masters with fear and trembling 43 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:51,800 with a sincere heart as you would Christ, not in the way of 44 00:02:51,800 --> 00:02:56,600 eyeservice as people Pleasers. But As Bond Servants of Christ 45 00:02:56,800 --> 00:03:00,700 doing the will of God from the heart, rendering service with a 46 00:03:00,700 --> 00:03:05,300 good will as to the Lord and not to man knowing that, whatever 47 00:03:05,300 --> 00:03:08,900 good anyone does. This he will receive back from 48 00:03:08,900 --> 00:03:12,300 the Lord, whether he is a bond servant or he is free. 49 00:03:12,900 --> 00:03:18,200 Masters do the same to them. And stop your threatening 50 00:03:18,700 --> 00:03:22,500 knowing that he who is both their master and yours is in 51 00:03:22,500 --> 00:03:25,400 heaven, and that there is no partiality with him. 52 00:03:26,100 --> 00:03:28,300 Let's pray. God, we thank you for your word. 53 00:03:28,300 --> 00:03:31,400 We thank you for the instruction that you give us for household 54 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:36,700 for marriage for for fatherhood, for employment, for every 55 00:03:36,700 --> 00:03:40,500 possible distinction in the world that we could come up and 56 00:03:40,500 --> 00:03:43,400 face where to do it. All for the love of God, what to 57 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:46,200 do at all, from a place of glorifying, the Lord Jesus 58 00:03:46,200 --> 00:03:48,200 Christ. Do it all out of reverence for 59 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:50,400 you. Lord God, I pray for light and 60 00:03:50,400 --> 00:03:53,300 Revelation to come today. I pray that your word would do, 61 00:03:53,300 --> 00:03:56,600 what it is been sent to do that. It would cut to the heart, that 62 00:03:56,600 --> 00:04:00,200 it would bring the clarity. This this scripture that sharper 63 00:04:00,200 --> 00:04:03,400 than any two-edged sword. It can divide between the soul 64 00:04:03,500 --> 00:04:06,300 and the spirit Lord. I pray that you would tear down 65 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:11,000 the trees that have been established in our lives, false 66 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:15,500 Doctrine, bad, teaching, popular Theory, and that we would pick 67 00:04:15,500 --> 00:04:18,100 up this. Fresh seed, this thing, that's 68 00:04:18,100 --> 00:04:22,400 true, and good and beautiful to glorify you to enjoy your best 69 00:04:22,400 --> 00:04:24,200 in our marriages, and in our households. 70 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:27,200 So that the world would have a good picture, a clear picture of 71 00:04:27,200 --> 00:04:29,900 Christ in his church. We thank you for it in Jesus 72 00:04:29,900 --> 00:04:31,300 name. Amen. 73 00:04:33,200 --> 00:04:37,500 So preaching on marriage headship and submission. 74 00:04:37,700 --> 00:04:40,200 One of the things that happens with these kinds of sermons, 75 00:04:40,300 --> 00:04:43,000 these sermons usually die, the death of a thousand, apologies 76 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:46,600 before they ever get started, the pastor will get started on 77 00:04:46,600 --> 00:04:50,200 these passages and he has to backtrack and he will undo 78 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:53,800 everything that the scripture is about to do. 79 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:56,700 So the scripture says some things that are very plain and 80 00:04:56,700 --> 00:05:01,000 that are very explicit, but a pastor may feel some discomfort, 81 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:03,500 he may feel some tension, where's Come from. 82 00:05:03,500 --> 00:05:05,400 I think sometimes it can come from ignorance. 83 00:05:05,500 --> 00:05:07,300 I think other times it can come from cowardice. 84 00:05:07,500 --> 00:05:10,300 I've certainly been guilty of both so I'm not throwing stones 85 00:05:10,300 --> 00:05:13,800 but I'm identifying honestly in these other passages as we've 86 00:05:13,800 --> 00:05:16,000 come through Ephesians. It's been pretty simple. 87 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:19,000 I've been able to just say, hey, here's the verse and here's what 88 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:20,600 it means. And everybody's like, yeah, 89 00:05:20,700 --> 00:05:22,000 here's the verse. And here's what it means or by 90 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:24,200 goes. Yeah however why will I do it 91 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:26,200 differently today? While do it differently today? 92 00:05:26,300 --> 00:05:29,000 Because the passages were looking at have been have been 93 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:31,500 Twisted many times. They've been misunderstood many 94 00:05:31,500 --> 00:05:34,000 times and they've been misapplied He times this is a 95 00:05:34,008 --> 00:05:38,100 new phenomenon definitely when the past 100 Years of Western 96 00:05:38,100 --> 00:05:40,500 culture but it's the only culture that you and I have 97 00:05:40,500 --> 00:05:43,100 known as the only one that we've been around I've only been 98 00:05:43,100 --> 00:05:44,300 around with in the past hundred years. 99 00:05:44,300 --> 00:05:46,000 I think that's true for everybody in here as well. 100 00:05:46,500 --> 00:05:51,400 So understanding that I am going to I am gonna be a little bit 101 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:53,200 more detailed. I'm going to answer some 102 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:55,500 question marks that I think are going to be above your heads. 103 00:05:55,700 --> 00:06:00,700 I think there's going to be some some lines and some things that 104 00:06:00,700 --> 00:06:02,900 are going to come up for you as I teach them this, you go. 105 00:06:03,200 --> 00:06:06,300 What about what would that mean? And I want to answer some of 106 00:06:06,308 --> 00:06:09,400 that and answer some objections. So you have confidence Clarity 107 00:06:09,500 --> 00:06:11,300 and belief that God's word is good. 108 00:06:11,500 --> 00:06:14,800 So you're not going to get any apologies from me. 109 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:17,700 Except for one the one apology you're going to get from me on 110 00:06:17,700 --> 00:06:21,800 this sermon is that I have overcorrected actually. 111 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:24,700 So because what I do for my work and for those who don't know, I 112 00:06:24,708 --> 00:06:28,300 have a coaching practice where I work with husbands and some of 113 00:06:28,300 --> 00:06:31,400 what I do in that is I'm talking about headship, I don't spend 114 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:32,800 much time talking about submission. 115 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:34,500 Cuz we say we can't control your wife. 116 00:06:34,500 --> 00:06:38,100 So let's just focus on you, bro. But I do teach the scriptures a 117 00:06:38,100 --> 00:06:40,200 lot in that work. And I talked about how a husband 118 00:06:40,200 --> 00:06:42,800 is the head of his wife and I do it without apology and I do it 119 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:45,500 with love and I do it with Clarity and explain what that 120 00:06:45,500 --> 00:06:47,200 means. But if you were to look at my 121 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:49,900 Facebook account, you would think this guy has no other 122 00:06:49,900 --> 00:06:52,700 thoughts in his brain, except for things that pertain to 123 00:06:52,700 --> 00:06:55,700 headship submission and we'll call it intimacy and marriage 124 00:06:56,000 --> 00:06:58,100 because those are the things that I do through my coaching, 125 00:06:58,100 --> 00:07:00,500 practice, you think John Michael just walks around and does 126 00:07:00,500 --> 00:07:02,600 nothing except thinking about these things? 127 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:05,400 It's not true. It's just that Facebook is 128 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:07,900 where, you know, I run my business and that's where I do 129 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:10,800 the marketing for that and it's where I'm reaching out to help 130 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:12,800 more men. So if you look at my Facebook 131 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:15,400 profile, you got man, this guy he has no other thoughts to 132 00:07:15,400 --> 00:07:17,900 think. But when I'm pastoring my 133 00:07:17,900 --> 00:07:19,800 church, that's a totally different thing. 134 00:07:20,100 --> 00:07:22,700 When I'm shepherding you and the full Council, the word of God 135 00:07:22,900 --> 00:07:26,500 and not just pet Doctrine. Then that was my fear and that 136 00:07:26,500 --> 00:07:28,000 was the overcorrection that I made. 137 00:07:28,900 --> 00:07:32,600 I've only preached once in about in over a year and a half on 138 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:35,000 Mary Ridge and that hasn't served you. 139 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:38,500 Well, that was an overcorrection on my part to say I don't want 140 00:07:38,500 --> 00:07:41,900 to preach on this because I don't want them to think that 141 00:07:41,900 --> 00:07:44,700 this is that this is like my thing that I talk about all the 142 00:07:44,700 --> 00:07:45,500 time. Okay. 143 00:07:45,500 --> 00:07:48,400 Well, that's great pastor but in doing so you didn't talk about 144 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:52,400 it at all except for once in the first six months and your Merit. 145 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:54,400 The marriage is in this church need that help. 146 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:57,000 How do you know that? Because I know that everyone in 147 00:07:57,000 --> 00:07:59,500 the church is a human being, and I know that everyone in this 148 00:07:59,500 --> 00:08:02,800 church, most likely hasn't received wonderful. 149 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:05,800 Teaching on the scriptures pertaining to marriage. 150 00:08:05,900 --> 00:08:08,100 Why? Well, because I hadn't and I had 151 00:08:08,100 --> 00:08:11,000 and I looked long and hard to find it and I still don't come 152 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:13,500 across a great teaching on marriage all the time. 153 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:16,900 So I think it's a very difficult thing to come across but that's 154 00:08:16,900 --> 00:08:18,800 my apology. I have overcorrect and said I'm 155 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:21,000 going to avoid this because I don't want them thinking like 156 00:08:21,000 --> 00:08:24,100 that's my thing or like where the headship church or something 157 00:08:24,100 --> 00:08:27,200 like that, where the bible church and we love the whole 158 00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:29,000 thing and we want to apply the whole thing. 159 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:32,799 So what we're gonna do when we finish the book of Ephesians, 160 00:08:32,900 --> 00:08:36,200 And we're going to do a marriage Series so there will be things 161 00:08:36,200 --> 00:08:37,500 that I say today that you probably go. 162 00:08:37,500 --> 00:08:39,000 I'd like to hear more about that. 163 00:08:39,100 --> 00:08:42,299 Rightfully so search the scriptures continue to dig 164 00:08:42,299 --> 00:08:44,800 deeply and make sure that what I'm teaching you what I'm saying 165 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:47,500 to you is true if I can't show it to you from the scriptures, 166 00:08:47,500 --> 00:08:49,100 you got no business believing it. 167 00:08:49,300 --> 00:08:51,700 If I can't show you from the scriptures you got no business 168 00:08:51,700 --> 00:08:55,300 living in it. But if I can That's something 169 00:08:55,300 --> 00:08:57,100 that we'll have to face. That's something you have to go. 170 00:08:57,100 --> 00:08:59,900 Well, wait a second, I'm picking up something good. 171 00:08:59,900 --> 00:09:01,300 Right? So the other point, I want to 172 00:09:01,308 --> 00:09:03,600 make is, you're not going to hear any bad news today. 173 00:09:04,100 --> 00:09:07,200 Nothing. No husband, no wife, no child, 174 00:09:07,300 --> 00:09:10,400 no employee, no boss. You will not hear one ounce of 175 00:09:10,408 --> 00:09:12,700 bad news today. Anything that you hear about 176 00:09:12,700 --> 00:09:15,300 submission as a wife, will not be bad news for you. 177 00:09:15,300 --> 00:09:17,300 It will be good news. Anything you hear about the 178 00:09:17,308 --> 00:09:20,400 burden of headship as a husband, it will not be bad news for you. 179 00:09:20,500 --> 00:09:23,500 It will be good news for you. This is the Lord's good design 180 00:09:23,500 --> 00:09:26,300 for marriage. So why does it feel like you got 181 00:09:26,300 --> 00:09:29,200 a little bit of an ax to grind? Because I've got a big tree to 182 00:09:29,200 --> 00:09:32,200 chop down. It's a giant tree that has to be 183 00:09:32,200 --> 00:09:33,800 chopped down. It is an idol. 184 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:36,300 It is false, it is damaged, marriages. 185 00:09:36,500 --> 00:09:39,000 People are hurting people don't even know that they're hurting. 186 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:40,900 We have men and women in marriages, who go. 187 00:09:41,100 --> 00:09:44,000 Well, this has been functional long enough, functional is 188 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:46,000 different from thriving and God's best. 189 00:09:46,300 --> 00:09:50,800 So God is Not intending that people would be just married or 190 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:53,600 even, we're happily married. I want you to be ecstatically, 191 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:54,800 married. I want your marriage. 192 00:09:54,900 --> 00:09:57,700 Judge to thrive and I'm and I know that the way to do that is 193 00:09:57,700 --> 00:09:59,300 going to be a way that's countercultural. 194 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:03,700 So this is a plague that's not just in culture but it's also in 195 00:10:03,700 --> 00:10:06,000 the church, these misunderstandings pertaining to 196 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:08,600 the verses were getting into. So now I'm going to start to 197 00:10:08,600 --> 00:10:11,700 unpack these things for you. We're in verse 21. 198 00:10:12,700 --> 00:10:16,400 Yeah, boxers going. We're in verse 21 submitting to 199 00:10:16,400 --> 00:10:18,000 one another out of reverence for Christ. 200 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:20,700 So last week, I could have scooped that in and included it 201 00:10:20,700 --> 00:10:22,900 with the passage that we were in, but of course it connects to 202 00:10:22,900 --> 00:10:26,000 both, we know this letter was written all at So let's look at 203 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:28,700 verse 20 giving. Thanks always for everything to 204 00:10:28,700 --> 00:10:30,100 God, the father in the name of our Lord. 205 00:10:30,100 --> 00:10:33,400 Jesus Christ submitting to one another out of reverence for 206 00:10:33,400 --> 00:10:35,600 Christ. So when we connect this 207 00:10:35,600 --> 00:10:38,100 statement, to the previous statements and the previous 208 00:10:38,100 --> 00:10:40,800 teaching that he was giving about life in the church, we 209 00:10:40,800 --> 00:10:43,300 understand who that he's saying, no one should be stubborn. 210 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:44,900 To destroy the Peace of the church. 211 00:10:44,900 --> 00:10:47,500 That was the idea. Hey, submitting to one another 212 00:10:47,500 --> 00:10:49,600 out of reverence for Christ. What does he mean by that? 213 00:10:49,700 --> 00:10:51,100 He's not saying that. We don't have serious 214 00:10:51,100 --> 00:10:53,300 conversations when we have disagreement or we have 215 00:10:53,300 --> 00:10:55,600 friction, that's important. That's a needed thing. 216 00:10:55,600 --> 00:10:58,400 Hey, I'm concerned about this but there's not a stubborn and 217 00:10:58,400 --> 00:11:00,100 it's to it. That's the spirit with which 218 00:11:00,100 --> 00:11:02,400 verse 21 is applying to the previous verses. 219 00:11:02,700 --> 00:11:06,900 But now verse 21, obviously also leads us to verse 22 and it 220 00:11:06,900 --> 00:11:09,000 leads us to things that go beyond it. 221 00:11:09,100 --> 00:11:12,400 And I want you to know that verse 21 is preparation for 222 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:16,400 verse. 22 is not problematic. So what do you mean by that? 223 00:11:16,400 --> 00:11:19,100 John Michael. Well, here's here's the popular 224 00:11:19,300 --> 00:11:21,600 misinterpretation of what's happening in these verses and 225 00:11:21,600 --> 00:11:24,800 I'm going to end there will be there's nothing up my sleeves. 226 00:11:25,000 --> 00:11:27,400 Be no trickery today or gymnastics with the Bible. 227 00:11:27,500 --> 00:11:30,900 Everything's going to be plain basic reading comprehension so 228 00:11:30,900 --> 00:11:35,000 submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ wives 229 00:11:35,100 --> 00:11:38,700 submit to your own husband's as to the Lord is the instruction 230 00:11:38,700 --> 00:11:42,100 that's brought here. So some misread this and they 231 00:11:42,100 --> 00:11:44,500 say wives submit to your own husband's and as the Lord but 232 00:11:44,500 --> 00:11:46,800 they instantly go. But it says submit one to 233 00:11:46,800 --> 00:11:48,500 another. Yeah. 234 00:11:49,100 --> 00:11:53,100 Right it does it does say that. But let's ask ourselves what 235 00:11:53,100 --> 00:11:55,300 does this mean? There's an understanding Sanding 236 00:11:55,300 --> 00:11:58,300 that has been missed in our in our eagerness to dodge 237 00:11:58,300 --> 00:12:00,500 submission. Number one, we've misunderstood 238 00:12:00,500 --> 00:12:02,700 submission. And we have, we have treated the 239 00:12:02,700 --> 00:12:06,300 word submission as a synonym for oppression, and that is not 240 00:12:06,300 --> 00:12:07,300 true. That is not good. 241 00:12:07,300 --> 00:12:10,900 That is not accurate. That is not biblical, but it's 242 00:12:10,900 --> 00:12:13,600 how often times our modern ears can receive it. 243 00:12:13,700 --> 00:12:18,200 So what's happening in verse 21 and verse 22. 244 00:12:18,300 --> 00:12:21,800 He's showing us in the coming passage, what submission looks 245 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:25,600 like in the household he's saying submit To another. 246 00:12:26,900 --> 00:12:32,800 Specifically, for example, in the household wives, you submit 247 00:12:32,800 --> 00:12:37,900 two husbands children, you submit to parents servants. 248 00:12:37,900 --> 00:12:41,500 You submit two masters, this is the context of what's happening 249 00:12:41,500 --> 00:12:44,900 in verse 21. Verse 21 has been treated, like 250 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:47,500 the AHA gotcha for something that, hang on. 251 00:12:47,500 --> 00:12:50,600 Why do you even want to got you? This is good news, by the way, 252 00:12:50,800 --> 00:12:52,900 submission, and headship and all that applies. 253 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:55,800 It's all good news. We wouldn't want to wiggle out 254 00:12:55,800 --> 00:12:57,500 of it. We want to get More deeply into 255 00:12:57,500 --> 00:13:00,600 it and understand it. So submitting to one another. 256 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:02,700 Well, I think it means that one submits to the other. 257 00:13:02,900 --> 00:13:04,600 Well, let's test that theory for a second. 258 00:13:05,000 --> 00:13:07,000 I think everybody, I think you're supposed to submit to me 259 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:08,900 and I'm supposed to submit to you, really. 260 00:13:09,100 --> 00:13:11,200 So let's follow through those passages wives submit to 261 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:15,600 husband's surely next, then he's going to say and husbands submit 262 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:19,900 two wives but he doesn't, and then he says children obey your 263 00:13:19,900 --> 00:13:21,100 parents in the Lord. Okay. 264 00:13:21,100 --> 00:13:23,000 Well, following our theory of verse 21. 265 00:13:23,200 --> 00:13:27,500 Now, of course, he would have to say, Parents parents, you know, 266 00:13:27,700 --> 00:13:30,800 obey your children in the Lord kids would love that, right? 267 00:13:31,500 --> 00:13:34,800 Except that, you wouldn't accept that you wouldn't because it 268 00:13:34,800 --> 00:13:37,000 wouldn't be good or true or healthier beautiful. 269 00:13:37,200 --> 00:13:40,700 Hey, servants obey your masters and don't forget verse 21 270 00:13:41,500 --> 00:13:45,200 Masters also obey your servants. That's not, what's happening. 271 00:13:45,200 --> 00:13:48,400 There's not this back and forth. Its submit one to another. 272 00:13:48,500 --> 00:13:51,600 Here's what that looks like. So the Holy Spirit through Paul 273 00:13:51,600 --> 00:13:53,900 is saying, hey, when I say submit to one another, here's 274 00:13:53,900 --> 00:13:55,900 what that means here. Is how that looks. 275 00:13:55,900 --> 00:13:58,500 He's not teaching a you submit to me, I submit to you 276 00:13:58,500 --> 00:14:00,200 perspective. He is teaching. 277 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:02,800 Hey certain people submit to certain people. 278 00:14:03,300 --> 00:14:05,800 The hierarchy that follows in the following passages, make 279 00:14:05,800 --> 00:14:09,500 that obvious. Now the question that I suspect 280 00:14:09,500 --> 00:14:12,900 is coming up for some of you as are we talking about value or we 281 00:14:12,908 --> 00:14:15,200 talking about dignity? Are we talking about worthiness? 282 00:14:15,600 --> 00:14:17,900 No, not at all. What's being described here as 283 00:14:17,900 --> 00:14:20,600 an authority structure? It's not at this person is more 284 00:14:20,600 --> 00:14:24,100 valuable than this person. Every mother in the room already 285 00:14:24,100 --> 00:14:27,200 knows that. Every mother looks to her 286 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:31,000 children and doesn't see them as valueless, although they have 287 00:14:31,100 --> 00:14:34,800 less Authority than she has her Authority, is a means to bless 288 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:37,300 them her authorities and means to provide for them her 289 00:14:37,300 --> 00:14:39,700 authorities. A means to care for them, right? 290 00:14:39,900 --> 00:14:41,700 We understand that this is simple stuff. 291 00:14:41,700 --> 00:14:44,700 We don't question the worth of a child when the Holy Spirit 292 00:14:44,700 --> 00:14:48,300 through Paul says you know, children obey your parents in 293 00:14:48,300 --> 00:14:50,100 the Lord. No Christian believes that 294 00:14:50,100 --> 00:14:53,400 children are worthless just the opposite so mother's you would 295 00:14:53,400 --> 00:14:56,800 die for your children, right? We believe that are so valuable 296 00:14:56,900 --> 00:15:00,500 that we would gladly die for somebody who has less, not less 297 00:15:00,500 --> 00:15:03,600 worth, but just less Authority than us. 298 00:15:05,900 --> 00:15:08,600 We would gladly do so. So this is not a value 299 00:15:08,600 --> 00:15:10,400 structure. This is the most important. 300 00:15:10,400 --> 00:15:12,600 This is the next important. This is the next important 301 00:15:12,600 --> 00:15:13,800 actually, just the opposite is true. 302 00:15:13,800 --> 00:15:17,600 We see an umbrella at the top taking the brunt of the weather. 303 00:15:17,600 --> 00:15:20,200 We see a smaller umbrella, receiving covering and a smaller 304 00:15:20,200 --> 00:15:22,900 umbrella. So the child at the bottom, gets 305 00:15:22,900 --> 00:15:24,800 the most blessing. I'm covered by Mommy. 306 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:26,800 I'm covered by Daddy. I'm covered by Christ. 307 00:15:27,400 --> 00:15:29,500 What a joy? What a blessing to live in this. 308 00:15:29,600 --> 00:15:31,900 And this beautiful green house that's been given to me. 309 00:15:32,200 --> 00:15:34,300 This is a thriving place that has been created. 310 00:15:34,500 --> 00:15:38,100 Of Love out of devotion. The problem is some of you when 311 00:15:38,100 --> 00:15:40,800 you hear these verses and you see submit you're going. 312 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:44,800 Oh so I just and you're jumping to a place and you're hearing 313 00:15:44,800 --> 00:15:46,900 things that the scripture doesn't say and you're hearing 314 00:15:46,900 --> 00:15:48,500 things that I haven't said so that's the other thing. 315 00:15:48,500 --> 00:15:50,500 I'm going to ask you to do, listen to what I say this 316 00:15:50,500 --> 00:15:52,700 morning and don't hear things that I didn't say. 317 00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:55,300 And again we're going to take the full marriage series. 318 00:15:55,300 --> 00:15:58,600 We're going to get super zoomed in, maybe overly practical and 319 00:15:58,600 --> 00:16:02,000 some stuff to really make all this very, very clear. 320 00:16:02,000 --> 00:16:04,300 So that everybody sees what were describing is. 321 00:16:04,400 --> 00:16:09,000 When when when, when when not a value structure but it is an 322 00:16:09,000 --> 00:16:11,100 authority structure, it is a hierarchy. 323 00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:15,200 I don't like that word. I'm sorry, I don't know what to 324 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:17,400 say. Hierarchy is the Lord's design. 325 00:16:17,400 --> 00:16:19,300 It was his idea. It's not evil. 326 00:16:19,300 --> 00:16:22,800 Again, submission is not a synonym for oppression 327 00:16:23,100 --> 00:16:25,100 submission, is not a synonym for tyranny. 328 00:16:25,300 --> 00:16:27,000 These are not interchangeable words. 329 00:16:29,000 --> 00:16:31,000 So, have you ever seen someone in Authority? 330 00:16:31,100 --> 00:16:34,400 Who was a harsh or unkind, or demanding were extreme? 331 00:16:34,800 --> 00:16:37,100 Maybe a boss. Maybe a pastor. 332 00:16:37,100 --> 00:16:39,000 Maybe a parent. May be a police officer. 333 00:16:39,000 --> 00:16:42,000 May be a husband, have you? I have. 334 00:16:42,600 --> 00:16:43,600 Yeah. Of course you have. 335 00:16:43,900 --> 00:16:47,900 Well what is that? That's called sin and we reject 336 00:16:47,900 --> 00:16:51,200 it. We don't project it onto the 337 00:16:51,200 --> 00:16:55,300 scriptures we just reject it. Well, I know somebody who I'm I 338 00:16:55,300 --> 00:16:57,300 reject that sin. That's that's wicked. 339 00:16:57,400 --> 00:17:00,300 It's on. Septuple God forbids it. 340 00:17:00,900 --> 00:17:02,500 Yeah. Well I think you got God forbids 341 00:17:02,500 --> 00:17:04,900 this end. So now back to the word which is 342 00:17:04,900 --> 00:17:07,099 good and safe and true and beautiful well yeah. 343 00:17:07,099 --> 00:17:10,800 But I know me too me too. I've heard it and seeing it and 344 00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:14,300 so again will reject that and will embrace the good and the 345 00:17:14,300 --> 00:17:17,200 true. Yeah well I just I'm starting to 346 00:17:17,200 --> 00:17:20,400 sense that you're actually rejecting the scripture with the 347 00:17:20,400 --> 00:17:24,900 guise of doing it in wisdom, but it's not wisdom, it's not good, 348 00:17:25,099 --> 00:17:27,599 it's not helpful, it looks very worldly. 349 00:17:28,099 --> 00:17:30,700 I find it very strange and I get very nervous. 350 00:17:30,800 --> 00:17:33,500 Anytime the church is in lockstep with the world in any 351 00:17:33,500 --> 00:17:36,500 particular teaching or doctrine when the church and the world 352 00:17:36,500 --> 00:17:40,100 have agreement on something I get super super nervous why in 353 00:17:40,108 --> 00:17:46,000 the world are we comfortable with this but it results show up 354 00:17:46,100 --> 00:17:47,700 because a good Christian marriage. 355 00:17:47,700 --> 00:17:49,800 Oftentimes looks like a good worldly marriage. 356 00:17:51,900 --> 00:17:54,500 We all know people who are not Believers and they love each 357 00:17:54,500 --> 00:17:56,600 other. You know that you know but you 358 00:17:56,608 --> 00:17:58,400 know non believers who love One another. 359 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:00,500 They've got a good marriage. Praise God for it. 360 00:18:00,900 --> 00:18:02,000 That's a blessing. Thank. 361 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:05,200 We're thankful that they do. But why don't Christian 362 00:18:05,200 --> 00:18:09,500 marriages look like 500 miles above and beyond to 363 00:18:09,500 --> 00:18:11,300 non-believers man? Should we not sure they're not 364 00:18:11,300 --> 00:18:14,000 be any difference? Well, this works for us. 365 00:18:14,700 --> 00:18:18,900 Well I don't we want God's best. Can't we continue to contend For 366 00:18:18,900 --> 00:18:20,200 What? The Lord Has intended. 367 00:18:20,300 --> 00:18:22,700 So we don't read in the scripture children obey your 368 00:18:22,700 --> 00:18:25,300 parents and reply when you got to be careful with that verse 369 00:18:25,300 --> 00:18:27,100 because some parents have abused their children. 370 00:18:27,700 --> 00:18:30,300 No, nobody says that I've never heard of Christians, say that, 371 00:18:30,500 --> 00:18:33,800 no, we reject that Sim, but we don't reject God's word. 372 00:18:34,100 --> 00:18:36,800 And the same way we shouldn't do that for any other biblical 373 00:18:36,800 --> 00:18:41,300 instruction because God's will is good for everyone who gives 374 00:18:41,300 --> 00:18:44,100 his commands to. It's good, it's good, it's good. 375 00:18:44,100 --> 00:18:47,300 Well I don't feel that yet that I can respect that, I can 376 00:18:47,300 --> 00:18:50,800 appreciate your feelings will follow as you walk in obedience 377 00:18:50,800 --> 00:18:53,500 to the word of God, there is much to be blessed by there's 378 00:18:53,500 --> 00:18:57,100 much to enjoy. It's still going, thank you. 379 00:18:57,900 --> 00:19:01,000 So we reject the Sim, but we don't reject God's word. 380 00:19:01,200 --> 00:19:03,400 And in the same way, we don't reject, we don't want to reject 381 00:19:03,400 --> 00:19:06,000 his scripture. For any other instruction, God's 382 00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:08,100 will is good for everybody who gives his commands to. 383 00:19:08,300 --> 00:19:12,000 So, a husband takes the same perspective, no Godly husband 384 00:19:12,000 --> 00:19:15,000 thinks left less of his wife because of his position of 385 00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:17,200 authority over her. And the same way, just like, 386 00:19:17,200 --> 00:19:20,700 Mama's a mama's, would you die for your babies and go like 387 00:19:20,900 --> 00:19:22,500 right now? Come at me, bro. 388 00:19:22,600 --> 00:19:25,800 I'm like, no, you don't have to right now, in the same way, The 389 00:19:25,800 --> 00:19:28,200 Godly husband says, I lay down my life. 390 00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:33,300 Like of course. Duh gladly like this is what men 391 00:19:33,300 --> 00:19:35,400 fantasize. About is what I fantasize about. 392 00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:38,800 My could I be the hero and like die and make something happen to 393 00:19:38,800 --> 00:19:42,300 protect my family? So, I do this, and I have 394 00:19:42,300 --> 00:19:45,600 authority over Natalie, but I'm not worth more than Natalie. 395 00:19:45,800 --> 00:19:47,400 I'm not more valuable than Natalie. 396 00:19:47,800 --> 00:19:49,100 The Lord doesn't look at me and go. 397 00:19:49,100 --> 00:19:52,900 He's more important than her, but the Lord does say, one of 398 00:19:52,900 --> 00:19:56,000 you is an authority in the household, but it's interesting. 399 00:19:56,000 --> 00:19:58,000 The scripture doesn't say that the husband is the head of the 400 00:19:58,000 --> 00:20:00,500 household. Do you notice that? 401 00:20:00,600 --> 00:20:03,000 That's a, that's a, that's a, that's a line that we've added 402 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:05,600 in lately. That's that's a modern thing 403 00:20:05,600 --> 00:20:07,600 that the scripture doesn't say husband's head of the household. 404 00:20:07,600 --> 00:20:09,700 Oh, where's that? Passage do things in Ephesians 5 405 00:20:09,700 --> 00:20:11,000 actually says something different. 406 00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:13,100 And it actually is a husband's head of household. 407 00:20:13,200 --> 00:20:14,700 Someone else is the head of the household. 408 00:20:15,000 --> 00:20:18,200 His name is Christ because the husband has a head as well. 409 00:20:18,700 --> 00:20:22,600 The husband is the head of, you're not gonna like this Oprah 410 00:20:22,800 --> 00:20:25,700 or whoever else husband's head of the wife. 411 00:20:26,300 --> 00:20:27,900 I don't know how I feel about that. 412 00:20:28,300 --> 00:20:31,100 God didn't ask you. You didn't ask me either but I 413 00:20:31,108 --> 00:20:34,400 know his ways are good parents as head of the children. 414 00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:36,300 Well, that's okay. Oh, that one's fine. 415 00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:38,700 All right, that one's fine. So we see the blessing in the 416 00:20:38,708 --> 00:20:41,300 goodness there. Nothing changes when it comes to 417 00:20:41,300 --> 00:20:43,100 the husband level. It's good. 418 00:20:43,200 --> 00:20:45,900 It's true, it's beautiful. It's intended to be a blessing 419 00:20:46,100 --> 00:20:47,400 and a covering. Why? 420 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:49,600 Well, because husbands have the heaviest burden. 421 00:20:50,300 --> 00:20:53,500 So a husband loves his wife and he doesn't Lord his authority 422 00:20:53,500 --> 00:20:54,900 over her and go. Ha, ha. 423 00:20:54,900 --> 00:20:56,800 I have the power because that's what Authority is. 424 00:20:56,800 --> 00:20:59,100 By the way, Authority is not a dirty word. 425 00:20:59,300 --> 00:21:01,600 Word and Authority means power, the power to, what? 426 00:21:01,900 --> 00:21:04,300 Well, the scripture defines that for us, essentially to say 427 00:21:04,300 --> 00:21:08,300 authority over your wife, which I husband has means you have 428 00:21:08,300 --> 00:21:11,700 what you have the power to do, what's best for her? 429 00:21:12,500 --> 00:21:14,900 That's it. That's what the power is for. 430 00:21:14,900 --> 00:21:17,800 That's what the purpose of Jesus has power, is Jesus has power 431 00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:20,200 over the church, right? What does he use his power for 432 00:21:20,700 --> 00:21:22,800 to do? What's best for the church? 433 00:21:24,100 --> 00:21:27,400 Mama's. You have power over those babies 434 00:21:28,100 --> 00:21:32,100 and what do you do with it? You use it to bless them and to 435 00:21:32,100 --> 00:21:34,400 serve them, this is the gift of your leadership. 436 00:21:34,400 --> 00:21:36,800 You literally give your life to your baby's. 437 00:21:37,300 --> 00:21:40,600 In the same way, a husband gives his life to his wife. 438 00:21:40,700 --> 00:21:45,400 This is the purpose of power. So we run to the extremes of 439 00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:47,300 well, I got to be careful, I don't want to be, I don't want 440 00:21:47,300 --> 00:21:50,000 to be some Tyrant. Well, the scripture forbids that 441 00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:51,300 brother, you don't have to worry about that. 442 00:21:51,300 --> 00:21:53,700 Ditch, love your wife as Christ loves the church. 443 00:21:54,500 --> 00:21:59,200 So you can get images of Saddam Hussein out of your mind because 444 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:01,700 this is the overcorrection that the church is often made. 445 00:22:01,700 --> 00:22:03,700 I don't want to be some Tyrant, right? 446 00:22:03,700 --> 00:22:06,800 So what you're going to do is choose total passivity, and by 447 00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:09,300 the way, there will always be ahead in a marriage. 448 00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:12,700 And when the husband chooses not to do it, the wife is tempted, 449 00:22:12,700 --> 00:22:15,400 she doesn't have to, but a wife is going to be very tempted to 450 00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:18,400 fill that vacuum. And then she will start to live 451 00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:20,400 as the husband. Functionally speaking. 452 00:22:20,900 --> 00:22:24,200 And then they persuade themselves, go, it's 50. 453 00:22:24,500 --> 00:22:27,000 Well, he might believe that, but she and I know better. 454 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:31,100 She and I know that she's actually leading well and the 455 00:22:31,100 --> 00:22:33,800 burdens then begin to come on top of her because culture tells 456 00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:37,200 her you can do it, girl, you're powerful, you can do anything. 457 00:22:38,100 --> 00:22:40,600 Well, can't she do some things she can, but that doesn't mean 458 00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:43,200 that she should, there's things I could I could have Elijah 459 00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:45,500 thing to do. The he could, maybe capably 460 00:22:45,500 --> 00:22:49,000 execute, but there's things that bird that there's burdens that 461 00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:51,800 are not meant for his shoulders. Yet, there's things that are not 462 00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:53,600 designed for him someday, he'll be a man. 463 00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:55,900 And that'll be different. But this is where the church 464 00:22:55,900 --> 00:22:57,900 still, doesn't even yet believe that there is a difference 465 00:22:57,900 --> 00:22:59,700 between a man and a woman functionally. 466 00:23:00,300 --> 00:23:02,500 We say it mockingly. There's a difference between a 467 00:23:02,508 --> 00:23:04,700 man and a woman. Are you gonna do is you check 468 00:23:04,700 --> 00:23:06,800 down below the will below the waist. 469 00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:09,600 That's very clever church. But functionally, in a 470 00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:13,000 household, most of the time, the church still doesn't believe in 471 00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:15,900 theory on Doctrine and paper. We say, there's a difference 472 00:23:15,900 --> 00:23:18,500 between a man and a woman and he say, well, what would that look 473 00:23:18,500 --> 00:23:20,900 like in marriage and like, well, you know, I think, in most 474 00:23:20,900 --> 00:23:23,900 things can just kind of, you know, We don't know. 475 00:23:23,900 --> 00:23:25,700 We have no conviction. We get me only mouth on this 476 00:23:25,700 --> 00:23:26,800 stuff. What does it husband's 477 00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:28,500 responsibility? Most of the church. 478 00:23:28,500 --> 00:23:31,900 Can't tell you protect providing lead like Christ. 479 00:23:32,800 --> 00:23:36,200 Most the church won't dare say a wife is made to be her husband's 480 00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:40,700 help and and to serve him and Christ together on their mission 481 00:23:40,700 --> 00:23:43,600 of God together. Can you show me that? 482 00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:46,200 I'm going to walk you through from Genesis to Revelation when 483 00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:49,000 we do our marriage series? And again, you'll be, you'll be 484 00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:53,600 able to see verse by verse, like I said nothing fancy just 485 00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:55,300 reading comprehension kind of stuff. 486 00:23:55,700 --> 00:23:57,800 Do we have any other verses we do? 487 00:23:58,000 --> 00:23:59,500 You are the in the New Testament? 488 00:23:59,500 --> 00:24:02,600 They are. So we'll start in the garden and 489 00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:04,400 we'll see all this stuff in seed form. 490 00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:07,700 And again, all with blessing, if it seems like again, it seems 491 00:24:07,700 --> 00:24:10,500 like he's got an ax to grind. It's the axe needs to be sharp 492 00:24:10,500 --> 00:24:13,700 because the tree is really big. I had to cut it down in my own 493 00:24:13,700 --> 00:24:17,800 life first and get the log out of my own eye and then I can 494 00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:21,800 help others to do the same. So we make the mistake. 495 00:24:21,800 --> 00:24:25,300 I said, when we see submission as a synonym for oppression, one 496 00:24:25,300 --> 00:24:28,800 who submits to another is not less and value or Worth, or 497 00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:31,300 dignity the way to see this most quickly. 498 00:24:31,400 --> 00:24:34,900 And most obviously is to look to Jesus. 499 00:24:36,500 --> 00:24:43,200 Jesus equal to the father in essence equal in value, co-equal 500 00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:45,700 and coeternal, always and forever. 501 00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:48,900 God Almighty. Jesus Christ. 502 00:24:49,100 --> 00:24:52,800 Yet, he was submitted enrolled to the father. 503 00:24:53,300 --> 00:24:58,000 Even the Trinity has hierarchy, which a my mess with our 504 00:24:58,000 --> 00:24:59,900 theology, a little bit, their weight, their equal, right? 505 00:24:59,900 --> 00:25:04,000 Yes, co-equal and coeternal. And yet still, there's hierarchy 506 00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:07,200 in the trinity. Because hierarchies, not bad. 507 00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:09,900 There's a father. Come on people like let's be 508 00:25:09,900 --> 00:25:12,700 honest about what's plainly. There, there's the father and 509 00:25:12,700 --> 00:25:16,600 there's a son and the son says I don't do the will of me of my 510 00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:20,700 own but I did the will of the one who sent me submission of 511 00:25:20,700 --> 00:25:24,200 the Lord Jesus Christ, Jesus Christ, kneeling and bleeding, 512 00:25:24,500 --> 00:25:28,000 sweating blood in the garden praying father, not my will. 513 00:25:28,900 --> 00:25:33,500 But your will be done. My sister's, you're not better 514 00:25:33,500 --> 00:25:36,300 than Jesus. You're not higher than Jesus. 515 00:25:36,600 --> 00:25:39,300 And you are deeply, loved and protected by Jesus. 516 00:25:39,700 --> 00:25:42,500 So the Lord's will for you and submission is not one of 517 00:25:42,500 --> 00:25:45,100 Oppression. Yeah, but I've seen and I reject 518 00:25:45,100 --> 00:25:49,900 that entirely abuse is wicked unacceptable and has no place in 519 00:25:49,900 --> 00:25:53,500 a Christian household, Wicked unacceptable, which is why we 520 00:25:53,500 --> 00:25:55,900 have a means of dealing with it as well in the scriptures. 521 00:25:56,300 --> 00:26:00,500 So there's no tolerance for it. No tolerance for abuse, zero 522 00:26:00,500 --> 00:26:03,600 tolerance, for harassment zero, tolerance for harshness. 523 00:26:03,900 --> 00:26:05,400 We're still on women. Why are you spending so much 524 00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:07,400 time on women? Okay, let's be honest for a 525 00:26:07,408 --> 00:26:09,300 second. Do I need to spend a lot of time 526 00:26:09,300 --> 00:26:12,100 on children obey your parents? Am I gonna get a lot of 527 00:26:12,108 --> 00:26:14,100 questions and push and it's really confusing. 528 00:26:14,100 --> 00:26:15,700 What do you think that meant in the Greek? 529 00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:18,200 What do you think about the Greek transliteration of the 530 00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:20,400 Hebrew Aramaic? At the Council of Crimea? 531 00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:22,000 How do you think they handled that one? 532 00:26:22,100 --> 00:26:25,300 There's not a lot of postulating regarding that. 533 00:26:25,300 --> 00:26:27,700 Husbands love your wives. Who's ready to fight over that 534 00:26:27,700 --> 00:26:28,800 one, right? Right? 535 00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:30,000 This room. I don't know if that really 536 00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:31,600 means what you think. It means that was written to a 537 00:26:31,600 --> 00:26:34,700 time and people in a place know that we don't really hear that 538 00:26:34,700 --> 00:26:37,300 kind of stuff wives submit to your husband's slow down 539 00:26:37,300 --> 00:26:39,700 Preacher, Man. You gotta understand. 540 00:26:39,700 --> 00:26:41,400 Okay. You know what it was was is 541 00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:43,200 okay. See you know what I mean? 542 00:26:43,300 --> 00:26:46,500 Like Ephesus was a time and the people and you know, so just you 543 00:26:46,508 --> 00:26:48,900 know, the Bible's complicated you know think God's ways are 544 00:26:48,908 --> 00:26:51,600 mysterious when did we get so spiritual? 545 00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:54,400 How do we get to accomplish man? Everything else is like servants 546 00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:57,400 obey Masters kids, obey parents. Husbands love your wives wives. 547 00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:02,300 Watch it. Watch it thin ice, mr. 548 00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:08,200 Father, not my will, but yours be done. 549 00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:11,500 This is what submission looks like and this is the Christian 550 00:27:11,500 --> 00:27:14,900 wives posture towards her husband wives, get to be like 551 00:27:14,900 --> 00:27:18,600 Jesus and that they submit to their husbands, husband's get to 552 00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:21,600 be like Jesus and that they lay down their lives for their 553 00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:26,100 wives. Verses 23 and 24. 554 00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:28,100 Like man, we didn't make many have made it too far. 555 00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:30,400 We're gonna start moving, it will start moving a little more 556 00:27:30,400 --> 00:27:33,700 quickly here. Verses 23 and 24. 557 00:27:34,300 --> 00:27:37,900 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the 558 00:27:37,900 --> 00:27:41,800 head of the church. His body and his himself, it's 559 00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:43,800 savior. Now as the church submits to 560 00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:46,900 Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their 561 00:27:46,900 --> 00:27:49,200 husbands. And he kind of sends this point 562 00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:52,600 home multiple times here in like two sentences like to and 563 00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:56,100 uncomfortable degree. Would you agree for the husband 564 00:27:56,100 --> 00:27:59,700 is the head of the white or first he said submit to your own 565 00:27:59,700 --> 00:28:03,100 husband's like submit to my husband like unto who on glad 566 00:28:03,100 --> 00:28:05,600 you asked Madame as unto the Lord. 567 00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:10,200 Oh okay. Why will the husband is the head 568 00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:12,400 of the wife? Like, what? 569 00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:15,700 Like Christ is the head of the church so to the degree. 570 00:28:15,700 --> 00:28:17,500 You think Jesus should submit to the church? 571 00:28:17,500 --> 00:28:19,900 Is the degree that her husband should submit to his wife. 572 00:28:21,100 --> 00:28:22,400 I don't think he should submit to the church. 573 00:28:22,500 --> 00:28:26,000 Welcome to the point. The husband is the head of his 574 00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:28,900 wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body and his 575 00:28:28,900 --> 00:28:31,600 himself at savior. Now, as the church submits to 576 00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:35,800 Christ Paul, we get it. Okay, so also wives should 577 00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:39,700 submit It and what in everything to, who to their husbands. 578 00:28:40,700 --> 00:28:45,000 So like I said, husbands are not the head of the household and, 579 00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:47,200 you know, there's I think there's been a lot of language. 580 00:28:47,200 --> 00:28:48,700 Things that have happened, we said husband's head of the 581 00:28:48,700 --> 00:28:53,700 householder, husband's the we continue to weaken the the 582 00:28:53,700 --> 00:28:56,300 language of scripture. Like, scripture uses words, like 583 00:28:56,300 --> 00:29:00,100 ruler in different places, Sarah calls, Abraham, Lord, you know, 584 00:29:00,100 --> 00:29:02,800 all kinds of stuff where we kept softening that stuff because 585 00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:05,200 we're not comfortable with it. So, we had to modernize it. 586 00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:07,100 So we say, Well, the husband's not the head of the White 587 00:29:07,100 --> 00:29:08,500 House's, the head of the household. 588 00:29:08,500 --> 00:29:11,300 That's a little more palatable, it's a little too strong. 589 00:29:11,300 --> 00:29:14,600 Still I tell you what the husband's the spiritual leader. 590 00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:16,900 Okay. So you just brought his 591 00:29:16,900 --> 00:29:18,800 leadership into exclusively one dimension. 592 00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:22,500 Who's the everything else later? Wait, I bet I can guess, but the 593 00:29:22,500 --> 00:29:24,400 husband is the spiritually. That's still a little bit too 594 00:29:24,400 --> 00:29:25,800 much. I know what I like the 595 00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:29,300 husband's, the servant, leader, servant leader, we've totally 596 00:29:29,300 --> 00:29:31,500 gutted him of all authority. At this point, he doesn't have 597 00:29:31,500 --> 00:29:34,900 any power to do anything that could potentially make anyone 598 00:29:34,900 --> 00:29:37,200 disagree with them. So now he's just the servant 599 00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:39,700 leader. We like that Melvin, enjoy your 600 00:29:39,700 --> 00:29:42,700 new title, you're the servant leader, and this is the role 601 00:29:42,700 --> 00:29:46,000 that we want you to walk in. Now I'm actually okay with the 602 00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:50,100 phrase servant leader as long as we understand it to mean that 603 00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:53,500 you're using your leadership. To serve. 604 00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:58,100 But if we're using servant leader as to say, it's like a 605 00:29:58,100 --> 00:30:02,600 clever title for like, you know, obedient man child. 606 00:30:02,700 --> 00:30:04,900 Then then that would be a different category altogether. 607 00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:07,100 Why do I say this will? Because Jesus served us with his 608 00:30:07,100 --> 00:30:10,100 strength. But Jesus isn't above washing 609 00:30:10,100 --> 00:30:14,800 feet though, is he No, he's not. And yet our, the gospels filled 610 00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:18,100 with Jesus foot-washing ministry or the gospels filled with 611 00:30:18,100 --> 00:30:21,500 Jesus's gift, that only Jesus could give preaching teaching 612 00:30:21,500 --> 00:30:24,000 and healing. Jesus served us from his 613 00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:26,700 strength did Jesus serve. He didn't come to serve, but he 614 00:30:26,700 --> 00:30:28,900 came to serve. He didn't come to be served, but 615 00:30:28,900 --> 00:30:32,100 he came to serve. That's what he said. 616 00:30:32,100 --> 00:30:35,400 He said I came to serve, so make no mistake husband's. 617 00:30:35,500 --> 00:30:39,200 We are to serve but it looks different potentially from what 618 00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:42,300 we've been told it looks like you serve with Your strength. 619 00:30:42,300 --> 00:30:45,400 You serve with your blessing, you serve with what you've been 620 00:30:45,400 --> 00:30:47,300 given? Jesus gave us his best. 621 00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:49,500 Well, I'm not above doing anything else. 622 00:30:49,500 --> 00:30:53,000 Of course not, you shouldn't be Jesus, wasn't, we're not, but 623 00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:55,600 are you moving the, biggest rocks, the direction of your 624 00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:59,000 family, the protection of your family, the provision of your 625 00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:02,900 family in every area, not just one, the emotional needs of your 626 00:31:02,908 --> 00:31:06,500 family, it's a heavy load to be this kind of provider. 627 00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:09,100 So, let's keep going to verse 25. 628 00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:13,600 Verses 25 through 30 husbands, love your wives as Christ loved 629 00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:17,100 the church and gave himself up for her that he might sanctify 630 00:31:17,100 --> 00:31:20,500 her. Having cleansed her by the 631 00:31:20,500 --> 00:31:23,100 washing of water with the word so that he might present the 632 00:31:23,100 --> 00:31:26,700 church to himself in splendor without spot or wrinkle or any 633 00:31:26,700 --> 00:31:30,200 such thing that she might be holy and without blemish in the 634 00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:34,600 same way. So he told wives hey submit to 635 00:31:34,608 --> 00:31:36,500 the submit your husband like who? 636 00:31:36,500 --> 00:31:40,100 Like he's Jesus. Okay, husbands love your wives. 637 00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:42,300 Eyes. Like who like your Jesus. 638 00:31:42,700 --> 00:31:44,600 You know Jesus loves you. Yeah, that's crazy. 639 00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:46,400 Yeah. Welcome to the point, buddy. 640 00:31:46,900 --> 00:31:50,800 Like that's your High Calling be Jesus and the same way husband's 641 00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:52,600 should love their wives as their own bodies. 642 00:31:52,900 --> 00:31:55,900 He who loves his wife, loves himself for no one ever hated 643 00:31:55,900 --> 00:31:58,200 his own flesh, but nourishes, it and cherishes a. 644 00:31:58,500 --> 00:32:01,900 As Christ does the church for we are members of his body. 645 00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:06,000 Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved and gave himself up 646 00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:07,400 for her. I'm glad we got the easy 647 00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:12,000 assignment, right guys? Now, we know if somebody has to 648 00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:15,900 die, it's us. Everybody knows this little boys 649 00:32:15,900 --> 00:32:18,700 know this from an early age. Like the boy goes down in the 650 00:32:18,700 --> 00:32:20,200 girl goes free. This is good. 651 00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:21,500 And right. And true and beautiful. 652 00:32:21,500 --> 00:32:24,100 It's part of the Lord's design. Does that mean men are 653 00:32:24,100 --> 00:32:26,000 worthless? Because you would think? 654 00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:29,000 So, right, when the person who dies be less valuable than the 655 00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,800 person who gets to live, this person's Expendable, it would 656 00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:33,400 seem, but it's just, it's not the case. 657 00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:37,300 It's just a roll, it's a role and it's assignment value is all 658 00:32:37,300 --> 00:32:39,700 the same. Worth is all the same dignity 659 00:32:39,700 --> 00:32:41,000 and all the same is all the same. 660 00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:42,500 And yet there's a particular role. 661 00:32:42,700 --> 00:32:45,600 There's a particular thing that This is my part and I want to 662 00:32:45,608 --> 00:32:49,500 play it, this is my part, this is my role, this is my job and 663 00:32:49,500 --> 00:32:52,000 the Lord has assigned it. I am the protector, I am the 664 00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:54,100 provider, I am the leader, then do it. 665 00:32:54,100 --> 00:32:57,300 Well, do it for the glory of God and do it for the good of those 666 00:32:57,300 --> 00:32:59,300 who you are leading and who you're responsible for. 667 00:33:00,500 --> 00:33:03,300 So we think about that, if it's time to take a bullet, I'm the 668 00:33:03,300 --> 00:33:06,000 one to take the bullet. But what does this look like for 669 00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:08,900 the for the regular Monday? I haven't had to take any 670 00:33:08,900 --> 00:33:12,100 bullets for Natalie yet. I'm happy to, but it's unlikely 671 00:33:12,100 --> 00:33:14,700 that it's going to happen. So what would it really look 672 00:33:14,700 --> 00:33:18,200 like for me to lay down my life for my wife on the regular? 673 00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:21,700 How does this play out on a consistent basis? 674 00:33:21,900 --> 00:33:25,000 When there's not, you know, my fantasy of 100 ninjas attacking 675 00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:27,900 the house and I've got to defend the family, you know? 676 00:33:27,900 --> 00:33:33,000 And it's just me and like a, like a Crocodile Dundee knife, 677 00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:36,400 you know, I'm just like making stuff happen not likely going to 678 00:33:36,400 --> 00:33:38,800 happen. So how can I actually walk this 679 00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:43,000 out Faithfully on a regular Tuesday or a regular Wednesday? 680 00:33:44,500 --> 00:33:49,300 It looks like we lovingly and joyfully give or strength, or 681 00:33:49,300 --> 00:33:52,800 protection, or provision in our leadership, as our service to 682 00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:54,700 our wives. That's what it looks like. 683 00:33:54,700 --> 00:33:58,300 It looks like leading really, really, really well. 684 00:33:58,700 --> 00:34:02,400 This is part of the executive. Example that you see when in our 685 00:34:02,500 --> 00:34:05,700 in our culture. Why does a man kneel to propose? 686 00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:09,699 He gets down on one knee? Not as to say Almighty goddess, 687 00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:11,199 will you? Please take me. 688 00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:13,500 That's not the perspective of what's happening. 689 00:34:13,500 --> 00:34:16,900 What's supposed to be happening is here's this masculine 690 00:34:16,900 --> 00:34:19,699 strength. Here's this masculine Glory, 691 00:34:19,699 --> 00:34:21,500 there's a feminine Glory. There's a masculine Glory. 692 00:34:21,500 --> 00:34:23,699 Here's his masculine strength as masculine Glory. 693 00:34:24,199 --> 00:34:27,500 But I'm showing you, even though I could Tower above you, I'm 694 00:34:27,500 --> 00:34:30,000 showing you that I want to use all of this. 695 00:34:30,300 --> 00:34:33,100 Serve you. I want to use all of this to 696 00:34:33,100 --> 00:34:35,300 bless you. This is a picture of what I'm 697 00:34:35,300 --> 00:34:38,500 promising to do for you. I'm not going to become your 698 00:34:38,500 --> 00:34:40,500 obedient child. Don't misunderstand this 699 00:34:40,500 --> 00:34:42,600 posture. But this is to say, is there a 700 00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:45,500 hardness about me? Yes, I'm a man and not a woman. 701 00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:48,600 Is there a strength to me? Yes, I'm a man, and not a woman. 702 00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:50,400 There's a calling, and there's a particular thing. 703 00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:53,699 But I'm telling you, I will put all my hardness to the world. 704 00:34:53,699 --> 00:34:56,400 And I want to point on my softness, towards you, and be 705 00:34:56,600 --> 00:34:59,100 gentle and understanding and providing for you. 706 00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:02,600 Will you You be, my wife, will you submit to me and join me in 707 00:35:02,600 --> 00:35:05,300 this Mission, I want to love you and live happily ever after with 708 00:35:05,300 --> 00:35:07,400 you. That's the posture and she said, 709 00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:10,700 yes. So that's a lot there. 710 00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:14,800 But our symbols matter symbols mean, things, the wedding 711 00:35:14,800 --> 00:35:16,400 ceremonies. There's a lot happening in a 712 00:35:16,408 --> 00:35:18,500 wedding, Sarah, we do this and this happens that there's 713 00:35:18,500 --> 00:35:21,000 meaning behind the, there's purpose behind these things, but 714 00:35:21,000 --> 00:35:22,900 this is what's supposed to be happening without all the 715 00:35:22,900 --> 00:35:24,100 strength. I've got all this power. 716 00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:26,100 I hope he's not bad. Yeah, ladies, that's why you get 717 00:35:26,100 --> 00:35:29,900 to pick who you marry like you get to pick who you submit to. 718 00:35:30,300 --> 00:35:32,100 You get to choose. Well, I don't want to say it to 719 00:35:32,108 --> 00:35:34,200 him, didn't I don't, and don't marry him. 720 00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:37,400 If you can't trust him and admire him and look up to him 721 00:35:37,500 --> 00:35:39,100 and join him in a mighty mission for God. 722 00:35:39,100 --> 00:35:44,700 Then don't but after you do, This is the command to you 723 00:35:44,700 --> 00:35:47,100 husband. So this is what it looks like. 724 00:35:47,100 --> 00:35:50,100 I'm taking this Lord. Help me to lead, my family will 725 00:35:50,100 --> 00:35:53,700 help me to love and take all of what you put in me to Shepherd 726 00:35:53,700 --> 00:35:56,900 into bless. It's not as self-serving thing 727 00:35:56,900 --> 00:35:59,900 it, except that there is an element of that. 728 00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:02,700 And here's what I mean, Jesus does. 729 00:36:02,700 --> 00:36:06,000 All of this. It says he does this so that he 730 00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:09,900 might present the church to himself what I thought he did it 731 00:36:09,900 --> 00:36:14,100 because I'm so amazing. Well, it's both and God loves 732 00:36:14,100 --> 00:36:16,400 you. He really loves you and he is 733 00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:19,700 big on his glory. He is all about his glory. 734 00:36:19,700 --> 00:36:22,800 God really loves you. And Jesus wants to present a 735 00:36:22,808 --> 00:36:25,700 beautiful bride to himself husband's. 736 00:36:25,700 --> 00:36:28,600 You want a beautiful wife, you want to present your beautiful 737 00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:32,300 wife to yourself. But Brothers, you beautify your 738 00:36:32,300 --> 00:36:35,900 wife, when you love her like, Jesus loves the church. 739 00:36:36,700 --> 00:36:40,200 Generally speaking, show me a wife, who is a withering flower 740 00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:44,300 and I will show you a neglectful husband, who is either And 741 00:36:44,300 --> 00:36:48,900 tyrannical or distant and passive or we are back and forth 742 00:36:48,900 --> 00:36:51,400 between the two. I go from one end, and I'm like, 743 00:36:51,400 --> 00:36:53,600 I'm mad. I'm grumpy, I'm total passive 744 00:36:53,600 --> 00:36:56,600 until frustration builds, and then I'm adding grumpy again. 745 00:36:57,300 --> 00:37:00,500 This is the Tyranny that makes a woman terrified of a man. 746 00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:03,000 This is the Tyranny that makes a woman feel insecure. 747 00:37:04,100 --> 00:37:06,400 I want him to be stable and strong and loving, yes. 748 00:37:06,900 --> 00:37:08,700 But I want to do it the way I want him to do it. 749 00:37:08,700 --> 00:37:10,000 Well, welcome to submission sister. 750 00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:12,200 He's gonna do it the way he believes is right, and good and 751 00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:15,000 true, and beautiful. But yes, he is to do it. 752 00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:18,900 He is to pursue it. But generally speaking show me a 753 00:37:18,900 --> 00:37:22,200 wife who is flourishing and I will show you a husband who has 754 00:37:22,200 --> 00:37:26,100 lovingly become her Greenhouse joyfully, laying down his life, 755 00:37:26,100 --> 00:37:29,600 bearing the greatest burdens of sun, and rain, and wind, and Ice 756 00:37:29,700 --> 00:37:33,100 using his god-given hardness for the world, and his gentleness, 757 00:37:33,100 --> 00:37:37,000 for his garden, but you get to enjoy the garden. 758 00:37:37,300 --> 00:37:39,300 Whoever planted a garden in. Didn't want to eat the fruit out 759 00:37:39,300 --> 00:37:41,600 of it. That's dumb. 760 00:37:41,900 --> 00:37:44,900 So in the same way, you want to care for your wife, well and you 761 00:37:44,908 --> 00:37:47,900 get to enjoy who she is. The same is true for a wife 762 00:37:48,300 --> 00:37:50,600 wife, as you honor and respect your husband. 763 00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:55,300 You get to enjoy the the man that you're helping to cultivate 764 00:37:55,300 --> 00:37:57,900 the man that you're serving. You're going, it's making a 765 00:37:57,900 --> 00:38:00,300 difference in him. God has put incredible influence 766 00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:02,900 in the hands of a wife. He's put incredible influence in 767 00:38:02,900 --> 00:38:05,500 the hands of a husband. Both have incredible influence 768 00:38:05,700 --> 00:38:08,300 to bless, which is why the scriptures tell us that even an 769 00:38:08,300 --> 00:38:12,300 unbelieving husband can be one with Out a word. 770 00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:20,000 That's if that's not power, if that's not power I don't know 771 00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:23,600 what you think power is. You could win a man who's an 772 00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:26,500 unbelieving husband if he's to had already gotten married, he 773 00:38:26,500 --> 00:38:28,900 could be won without a word. Why? 774 00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:31,800 Because he, because he can see the incredible Godly conduct of 775 00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:35,200 his wife and even that has influence on him and is 776 00:38:35,200 --> 00:38:39,000 cultivating him, that's power. That's beautiful. 777 00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:41,500 So, there is a feminine power, but it's not masculine. 778 00:38:41,700 --> 00:38:43,800 That's not a masculine assignment to that woman. 779 00:38:44,000 --> 00:38:45,200 Here's how to tell him. How to do it? 780 00:38:45,200 --> 00:38:48,900 No, it's a feminine guide that that helps him to grow in the 781 00:38:48,908 --> 00:38:50,800 same way. There's a masculine guidance, 782 00:38:50,900 --> 00:38:53,600 they comes from a husband. So you enjoy the benefits of 783 00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:55,100 your garden. You plant a garden because you 784 00:38:55,100 --> 00:38:57,300 want to eat its fruit, even Natalie. 785 00:38:57,400 --> 00:39:00,600 She washed our babies when they were little babies because she 786 00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:03,200 wanted to smell them, she wanted to do. 787 00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:04,500 They smell so good. After I wash him. 788 00:39:04,700 --> 00:39:07,100 Didn't you wash your babies because you wanted to clean them 789 00:39:07,100 --> 00:39:08,600 and you just want to be a good mother? 790 00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,700 Okay here. Oh yeah, she did that too. 791 00:39:12,000 --> 00:39:14,200 She wanted her babies clean and she just really want to smell it 792 00:39:14,200 --> 00:39:15,800 again. Did They need another bath, 793 00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:18,100 probably not. But she wanted to put lotion on 794 00:39:18,100 --> 00:39:20,000 her doll baby and she wanted to play with him. 795 00:39:20,100 --> 00:39:23,200 If the love is reciprocal, and this isn't a wicked thing. 796 00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:27,300 So, in the same way husband, be of good cheer, because as you 797 00:39:27,300 --> 00:39:31,400 care for your wife, well, you're also presenting your bride to 798 00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:35,600 yourself. Husbands like Christ himself. 799 00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:39,100 They want to care for their wife because they love her and she's 800 00:39:39,100 --> 00:39:43,200 a part of him and also we want her best. 801 00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:46,300 So we are to nourish and cherish our wives. 802 00:39:46,500 --> 00:39:48,700 Why would he tell husband's nourish and cherish your wives? 803 00:39:48,800 --> 00:39:49,800 Oh, I don't know. Maybe it's something. 804 00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:51,100 We're not super good at on her own. 805 00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:53,500 Why would he tell kids obey your parents? 806 00:39:53,700 --> 00:39:55,300 I don't know. Maybe they're gonna have a 807 00:39:55,308 --> 00:39:58,300 tendency to sin against that. Why would he tell servants obey 808 00:39:58,300 --> 00:39:59,200 your masters? I don't know. 809 00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:01,800 Maybe there was a tendency to disobey that. 810 00:40:01,900 --> 00:40:03,900 Why would he tell wives submit to your Simmons, I don't know, 811 00:40:03,900 --> 00:40:06,900 maybe there's a temptation to try and rule over them and to 812 00:40:06,908 --> 00:40:11,200 try and dictate to them rather than submit to them, basic 813 00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:12,800 reading comprehension kind of stuff here. 814 00:40:14,300 --> 00:40:16,700 Haven't done any tricks. Haven't gotten fancy today. 815 00:40:17,900 --> 00:40:20,300 So marriage is the picture verse 32. 816 00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:24,900 This mystery is profound and I am saying that it refers to 817 00:40:24,900 --> 00:40:28,000 Christ and the church everything is describing. 818 00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:32,100 I mean we haven't even scratched the surface on anything today. 819 00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:38,600 But the mystery of marriage sets said the beauty of submission, 820 00:40:38,600 --> 00:40:40,800 the beauty of headship aside for a moment, the mystery of 821 00:40:40,800 --> 00:40:44,600 marriage is beautiful period. The Lord invented marriage to 822 00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:47,700 show us Christ in the church. It wasn't the other way around 823 00:40:47,900 --> 00:40:51,000 Christ in the church is always first in the heart of God, that 824 00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:54,700 was his first priority and he says, I want marriage to show 825 00:40:54,700 --> 00:40:56,500 the world. This is supposed to preach the 826 00:40:56,500 --> 00:40:58,500 gospel. The world should be able to look 827 00:40:58,500 --> 00:41:01,800 into your marriage and say, if that's the gospel, sign me up 828 00:41:01,800 --> 00:41:03,600 for that. Look at the devotion. 829 00:41:03,600 --> 00:41:06,900 Look at the love. Look at the joy in the sacrifice 830 00:41:06,900 --> 00:41:09,300 that he has for her. They should be able to say, look 831 00:41:09,300 --> 00:41:10,700 at the submission, look at the honor. 832 00:41:10,700 --> 00:41:12,300 Look at the respect, she has for him. 833 00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:15,600 They're both thriving. They're both secure him walking 834 00:41:15,600 --> 00:41:17,900 in The Godly. Masculine her enjoying the Godly 835 00:41:17,900 --> 00:41:21,200 feminine and we do it all out of reverence for Christ. 836 00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:24,400 It's all a part of our Christian worship. 837 00:41:24,400 --> 00:41:27,000 In God's kingdom is seen in our lives. 838 00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:30,200 When we obey God's word. Let all of this draw you to 839 00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:32,600 worship. You've lost nothing. 840 00:41:33,100 --> 00:41:36,100 You've lost nothing. Nothing again, back to our 841 00:41:36,108 --> 00:41:39,300 analogy of the gas station, burrito versus the Feast of the 842 00:41:39,300 --> 00:41:40,600 Lord is provided. Yeah. 843 00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:43,300 Well, I'm familiar with the gas station burrito, fair enough, 844 00:41:43,700 --> 00:41:47,100 fair enough, but come to the table of the Lord by faith, 845 00:41:47,500 --> 00:41:51,200 because there is a rich feast, and there is better, there is 846 00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:54,200 better, there is higher, there is more, there is a Grace, there 847 00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:56,100 is a blessing, there is a reward. 848 00:41:57,100 --> 00:41:59,100 Every parent has had that conversation with their kids. 849 00:41:59,100 --> 00:42:02,800 You like I'm doing what's best? If you will rest in it and trust 850 00:42:02,800 --> 00:42:07,000 it, you will Thrive under it. A foolish child doesn't see that 851 00:42:07,700 --> 00:42:09,500 a foolish. Christian doesn't see a lot of 852 00:42:09,508 --> 00:42:13,700 things, but let these things draw you to worship. 853 00:42:13,700 --> 00:42:15,700 This is the Lord's. Good design. 854 00:42:15,700 --> 00:42:19,300 God's kingdom is right side up. Even if everything else is 855 00:42:19,300 --> 00:42:22,800 upside down. So, like I said, there's a lot 856 00:42:22,800 --> 00:42:25,100 more to say, and we're going to say we're going to do a full 857 00:42:25,100 --> 00:42:27,900 series on marriage. We're going to Go through and 858 00:42:27,900 --> 00:42:30,300 get very detailed, it's going to be a blessing, I'm looking 859 00:42:30,300 --> 00:42:34,000 forward to it. But in the meantime continue to 860 00:42:34,000 --> 00:42:36,800 take this honest approach toward scripture, continue to take the 861 00:42:36,800 --> 00:42:39,200 book for what it says and know that God has something good 862 00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:40,900 there. And whenever I come up against 863 00:42:40,900 --> 00:42:43,100 something go, I'm not so sure about that. 864 00:42:43,300 --> 00:42:45,700 That's okay, you can take that to the Lord, Lord help me walk 865 00:42:45,700 --> 00:42:47,600 this out. Show me what this means. 866 00:42:47,700 --> 00:42:50,200 I got questions. I've got concerns, we're not 867 00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:52,800 minimizing any kind of honesty. We're not shutting down 868 00:42:52,800 --> 00:42:56,100 questions, but we're saying, let's, let's make our default. 869 00:42:56,100 --> 00:42:59,700 Assumption Obedience. And then expect that as we walk 870 00:42:59,700 --> 00:43:01,700 by faith, the Lord is going to guide us. 871 00:43:01,800 --> 00:43:04,900 The Lord is going to lead us because Church the world needs 872 00:43:04,900 --> 00:43:07,400 this picture. The world needs this picture, 873 00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:09,400 the world needs to be able to look at Christian household and 874 00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:12,400 go. Wow, that's beautiful, that's 875 00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:15,200 beautiful, that's beautiful. What is that all about? 876 00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:16,500 How do y'all do that? Why do y'all do that? 877 00:43:16,500 --> 00:43:19,300 Well, it's Jesus in the church and here's how it works. 878 00:43:19,300 --> 00:43:21,500 And here's how we try and apply and we don't do any of it 879 00:43:21,500 --> 00:43:23,300 perfectly, but we're trying to do it faithfully. 880 00:43:23,300 --> 00:43:25,900 And yeah, if you see any blessing here, it's because it's 881 00:43:25,900 --> 00:43:28,000 just the Lord's way. We didn't invent any of this. 882 00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:31,400 This is real old news this. What I've shared with you today 883 00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:36,500 is literally, as old as time, it started in the garden and it's 884 00:43:36,500 --> 00:43:40,100 going to continue forever as we joyfully submit to the Lord 885 00:43:40,100 --> 00:43:43,100 Jesus Christ, for who he is for what he's done. 886 00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:45,000 Let's do that now. God, we love you. 887 00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:51,500 We worship you and we thank you for Jesus for his head of the 888 00:43:51,500 --> 00:43:54,300 whole church. Jesus were thankful for your 889 00:43:54,300 --> 00:43:56,700 model as you submit to the father. 890 00:43:57,100 --> 00:44:01,900 So husband's submit to you. So wives submit to husband's, so 891 00:44:01,900 --> 00:44:06,800 children submit to parents so workers and employees submit to 892 00:44:06,800 --> 00:44:10,700 bosses and leaders. So we submit to all kinds of 893 00:44:10,700 --> 00:44:14,200 authority structure God and we do it out of reverence for 894 00:44:14,200 --> 00:44:16,400 Christ. Not because the authority is 895 00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:20,500 perfect or deserving but because we love you and your will and 896 00:44:20,500 --> 00:44:22,700 your ways. I ask that you would bring light 897 00:44:22,700 --> 00:44:26,800 and Nation into our marriages into our households so that we 898 00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:29,300 would walk in your best that we would walk in your highest. 899 00:44:29,500 --> 00:44:32,600 They would walk in your most beautiful God help us as 900 00:44:32,600 --> 00:44:36,900 husbands to grow. Help us as husband's to take the 901 00:44:36,900 --> 00:44:41,100 active stance of blessing of protecting of providing and of 902 00:44:41,100 --> 00:44:44,900 leading to look around our household and not say, how can I 903 00:44:44,900 --> 00:44:47,800 establish my authority but to look around our household and 904 00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:51,600 say what would be best for the people that I love so much? 905 00:44:51,700 --> 00:44:54,600 And then to take action, And those things that is what the 906 00:44:54,608 --> 00:44:57,300 headship of Christ looks like, what would be best for those 907 00:44:57,300 --> 00:45:01,100 that I love and now I'll go take action on those things. 908 00:45:01,500 --> 00:45:04,900 And I pray for wives Lord, that they would be able to submit 909 00:45:04,900 --> 00:45:08,000 themselves and enjoy the beauty of the submission that they 910 00:45:08,000 --> 00:45:12,300 would submit to their husbands as unto the Lord and enjoy the 911 00:45:12,300 --> 00:45:14,700 peace. That comes enjoy, the surrender 912 00:45:15,300 --> 00:45:18,500 of realizing that they don't have to carry certain burdens. 913 00:45:19,000 --> 00:45:21,900 And that ultimately the burden rests on their husbands 914 00:45:21,900 --> 00:45:23,500 shoulders and this is A good thing. 915 00:45:23,500 --> 00:45:26,100 This is a blessing for them so that everyone can Thrive, 916 00:45:26,500 --> 00:45:29,500 everyone has equal value and equal worth and your eyes and in 917 00:45:29,508 --> 00:45:33,300 your sight Lord. Help us to apply these things 918 00:45:33,300 --> 00:45:37,400 with wisdom. With Clarity and was Revelation 919 00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:41,600 in Jesus name. And now the Lord bless you and 920 00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:44,600 keep you the Lord, make his face shine down upon you and be 921 00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:47,100 gracious to you. The Lord lift up his countenance 922 00:45:47,100 --> 00:45:50,600 upon you and give you great. Peace in Jesus name. 923 00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:51,500 Amen.