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All right, so this morning, 
we're talking about the s word 

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but it's not a four, letter 
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We're finishing our series 
called ecstatically married. 

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So for those of you joining us 
for the first time, we don't 

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want today to be jarring to you.
So I'll give a little bit of 

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introductory had. 
We've had weeks to prepare 

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ourselves for this conversation 
to steal ourselves and go. 

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He's going to say it multiple 
times during this sermon, but 

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throughout this series called 
ecstatically married. 

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We did it. 
We did. 

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What is a man we did? 
What is a woman we Did it. 

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What is a husband? 
What is a wife? 

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What is marriage? 
We did headship. 

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We did submission. 
And then today, we're finishing 

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the series talking about sex. 
So, I'm going to be honest, I'm 

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going to be frank, I'm obviously
not going to be graphic and 

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we're going to talk about God's 
good design. 

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God's intention for sex and 
marriage and what it would, what

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it would look like to be 
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So I don't think today is going 
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be exhaustive. 
We're not going to go. 

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As far as we could. 
We could obviously do whole 

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marriage Siri we could do a 
whole series talking just about 

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sex in different parts of God's 
design as it pertains to it. 

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So this is a surface level just 
a quick Over. 

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But my hope and expectation is 
that the word is still going to 

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encourage you. 
It's still going to bless you as

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still going to open up 
conversation for husbands and 

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wives. 
And I've even prayed for singles

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who would be in attendance today
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If they would be refreshed, they
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good design. 
That they would be teachers for 

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others as as the situations 
would as they would have 

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opportunity to do so. 
So I'll tell you this, when it 

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comes to sex, there is Most 
definitely a sacred privacy for 

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the marriage bed. 
And this is one way that we keep

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the marriage bed undefiled by 
not broadcasting things. 

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That ought not be broadcast. 
And yet we have often been in 

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the other ditch by saying 
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the church it can easily be 
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Hey, that's a necessary evil and
just y'all figure it out like 

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I'm too uncomfortable to talk to
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uncomfortable about it. 
It's the whole joke like where 

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do babies come from? 
Go ask your mother. 

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The last your father well 
unfortunately in all the go ask 

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somebody else. 
The enemy in the world system 

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has been has been more than 
happy to answer every question 

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with lies. 
So in the vacuum that we've 

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created, Satan has been happy to
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sexuality in in the earth and 
the church should be the primary

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voice for truth in everything 
that happens. 

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So we don't want to be in either
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We don't want to publicize 
things, that ought not be 

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publicized and at the same time,
I'm we don't want to be silent 

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on things when they should be 
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There's a wise approach, so the 
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and the over-sexualization of 
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The world is literally, when I 
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system as opposed to God's 
kingdom the world system. 

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The one that Satan's kingdom, 
where he's raining temporarily 

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with limited power and limited 
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But the world is busy, 
literally, making sex robots, 

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more lifelike, and the church, 
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the Pastor said sex in his 
sermon, then we found it, deeply

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inappropriate, like we've got 
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progress here, and we got to be 
able to go farther so that we 

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can help people and say what 
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good and say what's his 
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So again we won't go too far 
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should boldly and joyfully 
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The principles of God's word 
pertaining to sex, sex is the 

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distinguishing factor of 
marriage. 

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There's this one thing that you 
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So well, I've got this. 
Marriage isn't just about sex. 

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Nobody said it was and yet 
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is to be present so well. 
Marriage is friendship, okay? 

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Well marriage. 
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Is that marriage? 
Is this okay? 

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But everything you just listed, 
I can also have elsewhere. 

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I can have friendship. 
I can have partnership. 

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I can have camaraderie. 
I can have team I can have any 

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of Other thing you could come up
with, I could find pieces and 

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portions of that outside of 
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But there's still this one thing
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one place as the Lord intended, 
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So we don't want to make little 
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We want to make much of what the
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little with the Lord makes a 
little of, but sex is important.

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It's the one thing that you were
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marriage. 
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go, we know that sex is for 
children, sex is for expressing 

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love. 
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It's for protection from sexual 
Temptation, and it is also for 

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pleasure. 
Now, I want to also say, as I go

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through this message, as I'm 
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talking about normative 
circumstances, normative 

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circumstances, just like I 
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headship and submission. 
I was saying, hey, I'm 

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describing normative 
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So like, I'm not speaking to the
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we're talking to the general 
Norm, so keep In mind that I'm 

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not going to be speaking to 
every possible extreme and every

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possible scenario. 
You going well what about or 

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what about? 
That's perfect for the Q&A. 

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That's exactly what the the Q 
and A line is forced to send 

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that information in and we're 
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we need to cover. 
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add just before we dig in 
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sexual abuse is significant and 
it is a profound issue that 

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needs to be addressed. 
So it's not something that I'm 

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going to be able to dive into 
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But I'm going to say, it's an 
obvious wickedness, it's an evil

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that has been committed against 
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Salman childhood some and 
adulthood, but it can often bear

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scars with it. 
It can bring shame along with it

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as people have been sinned 
against and unfortunately, it 

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can hinder the renewal of their 
own mind so it can bring with 

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it. 
A lot of baggage, a lot of push 

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and pull a misunderstanding. 
So as I'm talking about all this

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stuff, just know that anyone 
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that, just know that I'm tender 
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towards that. 
But if you're saying man, you 

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just said that so callous. 
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Well, Not, we're not going to be
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All the possibilities. 
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about the broad. 
Good design that the Lord has 

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for sex in marriage. 
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So I'm going to start off in 
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It's where we've been going for 
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Genesis in the beginning, we see
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We see the Lord's intention 
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Verses 18 through 24. 
The Pinnacle of creation is not 

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the animals, it's not the Stars,
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humanity. 
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crown, the final Crown is is 
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read, man, and woman, being 
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Then the Lord God said it is not
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alone. 
I will make him a helper fit for

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him. 
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God, formed every beast of the 
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heavens and brought them to the 
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them. 
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Living creature. 
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The man gave names to all the 
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heavens and every beast of the 
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But for Adam, there was not 
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So the Lord God caused a deep 
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while he slept, he took one of 
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with flesh. 
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taken from the man he made into 
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man. 
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is bone of my bones and Flesh of
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She shall be called woman 
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of, man. 
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father and mother and hold fast 
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become one flesh. 
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both naked and they were not 
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One flesh, this is sexual 
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This is what's taking place 
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This is the understanding of one
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The idea is that we are the most
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We can possibly be The most 
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body are joining together in the
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body teaches us. 
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that wasn't on accident. 
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Men are stronger than women, 
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I'm it doesn't matter who gets 
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No, that was a purpose that was 
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as protector provider leader. 
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woman, women are beautiful. 
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fire, and a life-giver. 
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he designed the male and female 
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us something. 
They tell us some obvious 

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things, it feels a little bit 
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obvious and it's not accidental 
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He said, yeah, well, that's kind
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That's kind of like this. 
Yeah, exactly the physical we've

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said, before it images, the 
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spiritual, or not, the physical 
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Mmm. 
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author of all things. 
He was the designer and all 

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these things are to be United as
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and divorced from one another. 
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He made everything, he calls it 
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woman, he says, this is very 
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Woman is here, man. 
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together. 
This is all very good. 

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The truth is this God's God 
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It's all his idea. 
Every part of It everything that

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happens, the sights, The Sounds,
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was his idea. 
God loves sex and the devil 

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hates sex. 
We mean by that, I thought the 

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devil loves sex. 
No, no. 

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The devil is just a pervert, God
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context, and Its Right Place. 
God says, I love it, it's very 

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good, it's the right thing. 
At the right time, it is a 

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beautiful gift that I given to 
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And we think well Satan is the 
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Satan is the one who exposes 
things that ought not be exposed

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the world's System perverts 
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So God says, I've got something 
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True and beautiful. 
And Satan says, well then I'll 

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twist it. 
God says this is sacred for the 

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marriage bed. 
Satan says I'll put it all over 

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the Internet. 
God says this is pure and holy 

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and there's a there's a there's 
a modesty. 

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No in the marriage bed. 
No no modesty needed but it's 

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the modesty is the fact that 
it's contained within the 

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marriage bed. 
It's contained within the 

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marriage and Satan says then 
I'll expose it everywhere. 

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So that's that's what we mean 
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its proper context and Satan 
Sit. 

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This is God's jurisdiction. 
Our Father built this. 

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He owns it. 
He built every body part at 

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creation. 
He's not embarrassed by any of 

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it, it all belongs to him and 
therefore, it belongs to his 

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children. 
The church, we are the ones who 

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are the one. 
We're the only ones who can tell

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anybody the truth about this 
because God gave us this gift. 

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It's ours. 
So we shouldn't sit back and 

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it's kind of like, a worldly 
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make kids. 
No, no, this belongs to God, 

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this belongs. 
To his people will teach, you 

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will instruct you and the in the
sacred Beauty, we won't go 

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beyond where we need to but we 
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Either will say here's the right
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This is what it looks like. 
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So, what do we see about? 
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together and what is Satan 
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Satan wants everyone except 
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together. 
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combination. 
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everything else is perversion. 
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everything else is Brokenness. 
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So the devil can only pervert 
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Evil sex is a necessary good. 
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you're just doing this because 
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your mouth from this moment 
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guilty of it, it should never 
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even enter your mind. 
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because you want sex is like 
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caught doing something wrong 
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hand in the cookie jar. 
You just, what want this 

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spiritual emotional and physical
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and made vows to guilty. 
You caught me, I'm I under 

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arrest like what, which which 
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you know? 
But again, that that shows are 

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wrong thinking about you just 
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because a lot of the work that I
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stuff and talking about sex, 
Marriage. 

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I often times get objections. 
And why you talking about sex 

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and I said, brother sister, 
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interestingly enough brother? 
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I'm talking about family 
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conversations and marriage. 
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trapped because they know where 
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Great conversations are good, 
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Of course, I would say, amen. 
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it in my brother, though, that 
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sex? 
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I shouldn't Something in him is 
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something naughty and his mind, 
there's something, there's 

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something inappropriate, and 
it's not true. 

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Now, there's an inappropriate 
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of it. 
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in the future. 
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something on a spectrum. 
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I mean, there's people who say 
I've already sending this 

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sermon, you know, so you can't 
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have to stay sensitive to the 
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be wise. 
Help me to talk about this in a 

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way that's wise in a way, that's
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That's wholly. 
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also in a way that's just honest
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I mean, literally we're adults. 
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these conversations privately 
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biblically so there were not 
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mysteriously combining ideas 
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All right I got off of my point 
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never say something like Just 
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because again you're acting like
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So like I said, you know, I'm 
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Yes of wanting God's spiritual 
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our marriage, but there are 
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approaches towards sex, three 
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sex with. 
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treated as gross, or we can 
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Those are Typical. 
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combination of three sex as a 
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doubt we've turned it into an 
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Like my whole life is about sex.
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urges, that's a bad clip. 
That's going to get you someday 

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on the podcast, like, I'm 
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This is where sex is idolized or
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This is where sex is ultimately 
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and you are at slave, you don't 
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You don't have compassion for 
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You're not. 
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You exclusively after the 
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time in this case of sex, and 
this is where it's the ultimate,

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it is the ultimate expression of
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normative. 
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never married and Jesus didn't 
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expression on the earth so it is
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Paul taught. 
He said, hey, I wish everybody 

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was like me. 
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marry than to burn with passion.
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funny. 
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for marriage. 
Paul's going, you know what? 

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It's great. 
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the Lord, but absolutely 
marriage is a protection against

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sexual immorality. 
So God, we could treat it as a 

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god, a false. 
God, we could treat it as gross.

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This is where sex is shameful. 
It's naughty. 

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It's just inappropriate. 
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It's this unfortunate necessity 
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and it's just You know, just to 
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absolute minimums. 
Whenever I have to or we can see

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it the way God sees it, that sex
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gratitude and with joy. 
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a place open the gift and that 
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in marriage, it should be fully 
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So there's a time and a place 
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you've gotten to that time and 
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richly enjoyed, because it's 
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And this is the perspective that
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renewing our minds towards it in
this very message. 

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So I'm gonna have you turned to 
Song of Solomon? 

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You thought I was inappropriate?
I'm just about I'm just about to

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read out loud to you and it's 
about to get way worse. 

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Psalms Proverbs Ecclesiastes 
Song of Solomon. 

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So throughout different Jewish 
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The Song of Solomon and not it 
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But there was times and places 
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allowed to read this portion of 
the Bible, Because it was so 

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obvious. 
What was being described? 

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It was so plain. 
It was so obviously explicit as 

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to what was taking place as 
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fruit. 
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passionate love being expressed 
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here. 
The Bible is are rated in case 

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you hadn't noticed. 
So Song of Solomon and I'm just 

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going to take a couple 
selections here. 

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What is my point? 
What is my motive here? 

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My motive is to steal just show 
you and convince you that sex is

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good. 
Sex is good. 

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Well in the right place. 
Yeah. 

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Well that's what we're talking 
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We're only talking about its 
design. 

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Yeah, that's that's all we have 
in mind. 

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Here we reject sexual 
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sexual expression outside of a 
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immorality. 
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It's adultery. 
Jesus said, if I've lusted, then

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I've committed adultery. 
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likely guilty of sexual sin that
makes us, I could feel shame 

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there except that we don't, 
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cleanse and we want to pursue 
Holiness. 

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We want to continue to see God's
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So, in Song of Solomon, we have 
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Well, one of them. 
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Solomon and his bride loving one
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We see this is, this is 
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It's written to. 
And from you can read its, it 

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will be he and then, it'll be 
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their love to one another and 
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called its Song of Solomon. 
It's not a math equation, it's 

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not calculus. 
It is beautiful masculine to 

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feminine poetry and love. 
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We have, she is speaking to the 
groom, while the King was on his

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couch minority gave forth its 
fragrance. 

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My beloved is to me a sachet of 
myrrh that lies between my 

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breasts. 
My beloved is, to me, a cluster 

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of henna blossoms in The 
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guilty. 
So as you can see body parts 

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already being described here, 
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And all this is seen is a 
beautiful gift. 

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We're expressing this love 
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In Chapter 2 verses 3 through 7.
She speaking again, she said as 

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an apple tree among the forest 
of apples, so is my beloved 

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among the young men with great 
Delight, I sat in his shadow and

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his fruit was sweet to my taste.
He brought me to the banqueting 

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house and His Banner Over Me. 
Was love. 

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Sustain me with raisins. 
Refresh me with apples. 

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For, I'm sick with love, his 
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his right. 
Right hand, Embraces me. 

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I Adore You O Daughters of 
Jerusalem by the gazelles of the

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dose of the field that you not 
stir up or awaken love until it 

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pleases. 
I'm going to keep reading. 

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I don't think you're 
uncomfortable enough. 

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Yet Chapter 4 verses 1 through 7
now. 

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Now he's speaking to his bride 
behold. 

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You are beautiful my love 
behold. 

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You are beautiful. 
Your eyes are doves behind your 

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Veil. 
Your hair is like a flock of 

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goats. 
These are not pick up lines that

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I recommend. 
I don't think they've all aged. 

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Well, but at the time I think it
was the right thing. 

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Your wife comes home. 
I got my hair done. 

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Wow, babe. 
It's like a flock of goats like 

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that's not what Natalie wants to
hear. 

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What? 
She's come back from the salon? 

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I don't think babe. 
You look like a goat. 

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I love it. 
I love it. 

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Your teeth are like a flock of 
Shoring use babe. 

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Your teeth are like sheep that 
have come up from the washing 

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all of which bear twins. 
Maybe I guess when she comes 

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home from the dentist, you know 
you're just like wow hey the 

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really pearly white like just 
beautiful. 

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Notice Psalm is making his way 
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They all bear Twins. 
And not one of them has lost its

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young, your lips are like a 
Scarlet, thread and your mouth 

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is lovely. 
Your cheeks are like halves of a

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pomegranate behind your Veil. 
Your neck is like the Tower of 

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David built built in rows of 
stone on it. 

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Hang a thousand Shields. 
All of them Shields of Warriors,

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your two breasts are like two 
fawns twins of a gazelle that 

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graze among the lilies until the
day breathe And the Shadows 

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flee. 
I will go away to the mountain 

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of myrrh and to the hill of 
Frankincense. 

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So he's saying you got these two
Twin Peaks. 

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I'm going to go to both 
mountains. 

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Like again, just it says, what 
it says, it's obviously 

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describing. 
But again, it's beautiful, it's 

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poetic it's loving. 
It's, it's compassionate. 

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There's vulnerability here. 
Verse 7, you are altogether, 

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beautiful my love. 
There is no flaw in you. 

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Come with me from Lebanon. 
My Bride. 

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Come with me from Lebanon. 
So, I recommend reading Song of 

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Solomon in the context of 
understanding the marital love, 

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the sexual love. 
It's being expressed between a 

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husband and a wife here as a way
because the word of God is 

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powerful and sharper than any 
two-edged sword. 

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You should study and receive and
instruction, and in the whole 

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counsel of the word of God and 
all these things are intended to

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bless us. 
So, if you haven't read the Song

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of Solomon over your marriage 
bed and over you and your spouse

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together then do. 
So I feel a little bit strange 

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with that and I I can understand
that that's a common thing. 

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That's probably a little bit of 
the Sexes. 

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Gross thing. 
Like we have to kind of close 

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the door, make sure the Lord's 
not watching, you know, like 

453
00:22:52,300 --> 00:22:54,500
make sure he's not aware of 
what's going on in here. 

454
00:22:54,700 --> 00:22:57,400
And in fact, just the opposite 
happens in The Song of Solomon, 

455
00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:02,000
the Lord tells the couple he 
says drink drink enjoy one. 

456
00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:05,300
Another like have added. 
This is a this is a banquet 

457
00:23:05,300 --> 00:23:08,200
Feast that I prepared for you. 
This is a spiritual gifts. 

458
00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:10,300
I've given to you, this is a 
physical gift, I've given to 

459
00:23:10,308 --> 00:23:11,800
you. 
This is an emotional gift I've 

460
00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:14,000
given to you enjoy. 
Drink deeply. 

461
00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:17,600
Is the right thing at the right 
time and the right place, it's 

462
00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:19,100
Rich. 
It's beautiful. 

463
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:23,600
Sex is more like poetry than it 
is calculus Song of Solomon. 

464
00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:27,000
Shows us that it's more of a 
dance than it is a transaction. 

465
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:29,700
It's a song and it's not an 
equation. 

466
00:23:29,900 --> 00:23:33,200
So this book is romantic and it 
is sexually obvious. 

467
00:23:33,200 --> 00:23:36,400
A whole book of the Bible that 
has been dedicated to sexual 

468
00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:38,100
love. 
There's no mention of making 

469
00:23:38,100 --> 00:23:42,600
babies here, although that's a 
primary mention of of the sexual

470
00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:46,600
expression in Genesis Multiply, 
that's an important good and 

471
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:49,500
godly thing to do, but the Lord 
didn't have to make pleasure 

472
00:23:49,500 --> 00:23:52,400
connected with it but he did. 
So there's no mention of making 

473
00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:54,400
babies here but lots of obvious 
passion. 

474
00:23:55,300 --> 00:23:57,500
So what do we see? 
When we see that sex is for 

475
00:23:57,500 --> 00:24:00,600
pleasure, there are body parts. 
There are nerve endings, that 

476
00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:03,300
are specifically created. 
They have no other purpose, 

477
00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:07,300
other than pleasure, they don't 
accomplish anything other than 

478
00:24:07,900 --> 00:24:09,100
that. 
Feels wonderful, that's 

479
00:24:09,100 --> 00:24:12,000
delightful. 
This is a good gift from God. 

480
00:24:12,300 --> 00:24:14,500
What else do we know about sex? 
Well, we know that, There is an 

481
00:24:14,500 --> 00:24:16,900
emotional bond that's created. 
We know there's an emotional 

482
00:24:16,900 --> 00:24:20,200
bond, that brings a great 
comfort to a marriage even when 

483
00:24:20,300 --> 00:24:23,100
everybody's not all hot and 
bothered, even when everybody's 

484
00:24:23,100 --> 00:24:26,200
not really excited to race to 
the bedroom together, we see. 

485
00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:30,200
David and Bathsheba after their 
baby dies, the scripture says 

486
00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:34,000
and David went into her to 
comfort her and you could you 

487
00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:35,700
could also tell that story a 
different way. 

488
00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:40,000
Hey, the baby just died. 
Can we do it now but that's not 

489
00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:43,100
what was happening at all. 
Now, could things be done, 

490
00:24:43,100 --> 00:24:44,400
selfishly? 
Absolutely. 

491
00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:48,600
They can be done selfishly but 
things can be done lovingly and 

492
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:50,300
there's a time and a place, 
right? 

493
00:24:50,300 --> 00:24:52,900
There's an appropriateness to 
that but this married this 

494
00:24:52,900 --> 00:24:55,500
couple was experiencing the 
bond, the Comfort. 

495
00:24:55,500 --> 00:24:57,400
We need one another. 
We just need to be close. 

496
00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:00,600
We're sad. 
We just need to be well, I'm not

497
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:03,100
up for that right now. 
Well, that they weren't, I don't

498
00:25:03,100 --> 00:25:05,800
think either of them was 
particularly probably fired up 

499
00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:08,900
like they probably were. 
Unfortunately when their Affair 

500
00:25:08,900 --> 00:25:12,900
begin, when their Affair began, 
But in this moment, they're 

501
00:25:12,900 --> 00:25:14,400
coming together. 
And they're saying, let's let's 

502
00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:16,700
Comfort one another in this 
moment of sadness. 

503
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:19,900
So we see that there is a 
pleasure to sex, but we see that

504
00:25:19,900 --> 00:25:22,100
there's a comfort to sex. 
It's not always gonna be 

505
00:25:22,100 --> 00:25:25,300
fireworks, said I was going to 
be, this is the most amazing 

506
00:25:25,300 --> 00:25:27,800
thing that we've ever done the 
the best it's ever been. 

507
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:30,500
But have we loved one another? 
Have we cared for one another 

508
00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:33,000
are we being compassionate? 
Or we being loving? 

509
00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:36,800
Or we being vulnerable, but sex 
is not exclusively physical. 

510
00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:40,100
If it was, we'd have no problem 
with our spouse. 

511
00:25:40,100 --> 00:25:42,900
Sharing this gift with Else like
it was a handshake. 

512
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:46,100
So the world acts, like they 
say, they treat it and they talk

513
00:25:46,100 --> 00:25:49,300
like well it's just, it's just 
that like we're just mammals 

514
00:25:49,500 --> 00:25:52,500
like, we're just animals doing 
things, but it's not true and we

515
00:25:52,500 --> 00:25:54,600
know it. 
Well can you prove it out? 

516
00:25:54,600 --> 00:25:58,700
Well, nature proves it out. 
Like this is a truth that we 

517
00:25:58,700 --> 00:26:01,500
hold to be self-evident. 
This is a self-evident truth and

518
00:26:01,500 --> 00:26:04,900
I'm going to make myself Dumber 
by pretending it's not already 

519
00:26:04,900 --> 00:26:07,400
obvious. 
We know this to be true. 

520
00:26:07,900 --> 00:26:10,300
We a handshake is a surface 
level thing. 

521
00:26:10,500 --> 00:26:14,500
A hug goes, Farther, a kiss goes
farther, but then the act of 

522
00:26:14,500 --> 00:26:17,800
marriage. 
A husband inserts himself into 

523
00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:20,500
his wife's body. 
This is graphic. 

524
00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:24,600
This is explicit and God says is
very good in the context of 

525
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:26,100
marriage. 
This is a beautiful thing. 

526
00:26:26,100 --> 00:26:28,900
That's the to literally becoming
one flesh. 

527
00:26:28,900 --> 00:26:31,900
Two separate bodies. 
Have actually literally joined 

528
00:26:31,900 --> 00:26:34,600
together and they have sealed 
the Covenant, they made the 

529
00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:37,900
Covenant vows they stood before 
God and the witnesses and they 

530
00:26:37,900 --> 00:26:41,400
made the Covenant vows and they 
said I'm forsaking all others. 

531
00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:45,600
Devoted to you and my sexual 
life is your sexual life and my 

532
00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:47,800
body is no longer mine but it's 
now yours. 

533
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:50,500
But then sealing the marriage 
covenant happens by. 

534
00:26:50,500 --> 00:26:54,200
Hey, let's go consummate this 
thing now, now we've made the 

535
00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:57,700
vows and now we're the two were 
going to become one flesh. 

536
00:26:57,900 --> 00:27:00,100
Literally. 
We're going to join so that 

537
00:27:00,100 --> 00:27:04,000
there's no separation. 
We can't get any closer than in 

538
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:06,400
the sexual expression. 
In the Lord says, it's very 

539
00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:08,600
good. 
It's all very good. 

540
00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:12,500
We should note here that the 
whole Bible is about Jesus, the 

541
00:27:12,500 --> 00:27:14,200
whole Bible is about Christ in 
the church. 

542
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:17,100
So there was some who would say 
No, No Song of Solomon is only 

543
00:27:17,100 --> 00:27:19,600
about Christ in the church. 
It's a picture of Christ and his

544
00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:21,700
bride. 
Well, first of all, yes, it most

545
00:27:21,700 --> 00:27:24,900
definitely is about Christ and 
his bride just like David and 

546
00:27:24,900 --> 00:27:29,200
Goliath is about Jesus defending
us where the where the terrified

547
00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:32,200
Israelites but the one righteous
one Rises up and defeats our 

548
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:35,800
enemy just like Moses and Israel
points to Christ in the church. 

549
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:37,700
But those things were still 
literally there. 

550
00:27:37,900 --> 00:27:39,400
There's things still literally 
happened. 

551
00:27:39,700 --> 00:27:43,300
Moses was real, David was real. 
Solomon is why for real and the 

552
00:27:43,300 --> 00:27:47,500
Holy Spirit Soul, good and saw 
fit to make it into the Canon of

553
00:27:47,500 --> 00:27:51,500
scripture, this design in this 
explanation of sexual expression

554
00:27:51,700 --> 00:27:53,900
between a husband and wife. 
So it's not one or the other, 

555
00:27:53,900 --> 00:27:56,700
it's both and but we look at 
what's written. 

556
00:27:56,700 --> 00:27:59,900
And we say, God, you're good. 
Help us to learn, help us to 

557
00:27:59,900 --> 00:28:02,900
grow, renew our minds with your 
way, with your words. 

558
00:28:03,100 --> 00:28:06,100
The problem with Renewing, Your 
Mind is the enemy is also trying

559
00:28:06,100 --> 00:28:09,000
to unrwa new it constantly. 
We don't get to the place where,

560
00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:11,400
where, oh, I'm finished now. 
Well, unfortunately, you still 

561
00:28:11,500 --> 00:28:13,700
I'll live in the world and 
there's still an enemy and 

562
00:28:13,700 --> 00:28:16,100
they're still demonic attack and
they're still fleshly 

563
00:28:16,100 --> 00:28:18,900
Temptation. 
So the renewing, the Mind 

564
00:28:18,900 --> 00:28:21,600
process isn't a finish line that
we're ever going to cross. 

565
00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:23,700
It's a life that we're going to 
keep living. 

566
00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:25,600
It's a walk that we're going to 
keep walking. 

567
00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:27,600
So this is important. 
It's not man. 

568
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,200
I heard A good sermon one time 
that you need. 

569
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:32,500
Fresh manna that was yesterday's
man. 

570
00:28:32,500 --> 00:28:34,500
That that's not going to keep 
until tomorrow. 

571
00:28:34,900 --> 00:28:38,100
And this goes with all of our 
lives, this is why you must feed

572
00:28:38,100 --> 00:28:41,400
on and love the Bible. 
This is why you must continue. 

573
00:28:41,500 --> 00:28:43,900
To read your Bible and love 
God's word. 

574
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:52,800
So, the truth is, there's a lot 
of mystery here in sex, but we 

575
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:55,300
recognize that there are depths 
to intimacy. 

576
00:28:56,300 --> 00:28:59,800
And as we said before the 
physical images, the spiritual 

577
00:29:00,700 --> 00:29:04,400
and its proper context. 
Sex has been called spiritual 

578
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:06,800
warfare. 
I heard somebody say that. 

579
00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:08,300
That way. 
One time again it's one of those

580
00:29:08,300 --> 00:29:10,100
things will can you prove that 
you have inverse of that? 

581
00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:14,700
No but I know it's true. 
I've seen I've Perience. 

582
00:29:14,700 --> 00:29:17,300
I've heard testimony of just 
where the bond of a husband and 

583
00:29:17,300 --> 00:29:19,500
wife was a protection and a 
blessing. 

584
00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:22,100
So even knowing that sex is a 
spiritual warfare. 

585
00:29:22,100 --> 00:29:25,000
That's taking place a blessing 
for the body of Christ. 

586
00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:27,900
A blessing for marriage. 
When it comes to sexuality. 

587
00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:31,300
The marriage bed has everything 
that you need and nothing that 

588
00:29:31,300 --> 00:29:34,700
you don't need. 
Everything that you need in 

589
00:29:34,700 --> 00:29:37,800
sexuality, can be fully found in
fully expressed in the marriage 

590
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:40,700
bed. 
But the truth is this sex is a 

591
00:29:40,700 --> 00:29:43,600
fire. 
Sex is a passionate fire which 

592
00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:46,200
is why she gives the warning. 
He or she says, Daughters of 

593
00:29:46,200 --> 00:29:49,200
Jerusalem so she's with her 
husband now but she's saying I'm

594
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:52,900
warning, you young sisters to 
the virgin's to her to her 

595
00:29:52,900 --> 00:29:54,800
virgin friends who would have 
been celebrating her marriage. 

596
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:57,400
She's saying don't awaken love 
before its time. 

597
00:29:58,600 --> 00:30:01,300
Don't put the wrong place, the 
wrong thing in the wrong place. 

598
00:30:01,300 --> 00:30:03,600
If I was to build a fire right 
here in this room, that's the 

599
00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:07,100
wrong thing in the wrong place. 
We lit a building on fire. 

600
00:30:07,100 --> 00:30:09,200
We've destroyed something. 
But if I build a fire in the 

601
00:30:09,208 --> 00:30:11,700
fireplace or in the wood stove, 
what have we done? 

602
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:14,100
We've warned the home. 
We can cook on it. 

603
00:30:14,300 --> 00:30:16,500
It's the proper thing. 
Sex is a fire. 

604
00:30:17,300 --> 00:30:19,600
You can be warmed by, or you can
be burned by it. 

605
00:30:20,100 --> 00:30:22,900
Can a man, take a fire into his 
chest and not be burned. 

606
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:27,200
Can you pick up sex with with 
your hands and not be burned by 

607
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:27,700
it? 
No. 

608
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:29,800
What does that referencing? 
Well, that's referencing sexual 

609
00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:32,600
immorality. 
I can't I can't experience 

610
00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:34,500
sexual immorality in my life and
not bear. 

611
00:30:34,500 --> 00:30:37,700
The scars that come from it. 
There's wounds, there's damage 

612
00:30:37,700 --> 00:30:39,500
and there's consequence that 
comes from that. 

613
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:43,900
But if sex is in the fireplace, 
if the fire is, sorry if the 

614
00:30:43,900 --> 00:30:47,000
fires in the fireplace, then it 
can warm your home. 

615
00:30:47,100 --> 00:30:50,300
It can cook your food. 
Fire can bring good memories, 

616
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:53,500
but if fire isn't in the right 
place, it can destroy a home. 

617
00:30:53,600 --> 00:30:56,400
It can destroy a forest or it 
can destroy a city. 

618
00:30:57,800 --> 00:30:59,900
It's a fire. 
Where is it going to be one of 

619
00:30:59,900 --> 00:31:02,000
the marriage bed. 
That's the fire we want. 

620
00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:05,200
Praise God for it but outside of
it is destructive. 

621
00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:09,800
The fireplace is marriage, 
everywhere else is sinful and 

622
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:13,900
destructive sexual immorality, 
lust adultery pornography 

623
00:31:13,900 --> 00:31:18,600
homosexuality and Beyond are all
picking up fire with your bare 

624
00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:22,200
hands. 
So sex is a very important part 

625
00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:23,600
of marriage. 
But like we said, it's not the 

626
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:28,300
only part, but we also need to 
say that if a husband or wife is

627
00:31:28,300 --> 00:31:32,500
interested in them in their 
spouse sexually, then they're 

628
00:31:32,500 --> 00:31:36,300
going to show their expression 
of love in every other our area 

629
00:31:36,300 --> 00:31:38,400
of life as well. 
It's not going to just show up 

630
00:31:38,400 --> 00:31:40,700
in one area. 
It's the wrong thing to do to 

631
00:31:40,700 --> 00:31:43,600
pursue your wife. 
Only at the moment of I'm 

632
00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:45,600
interested in you and I'd like 
to take you to the bedroom. 

633
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:47,800
Well y-you just said it's 
physical, its spiritual and it's

634
00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:50,200
emotional. 
Well, it is, and that's true. 

635
00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:53,400
And that makes sense. 
And yet a man who loves his wife

636
00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:55,900
is always going to be pursuing 
her in other ways as well. 

637
00:31:56,300 --> 00:31:58,200
So a husband is to pursue his 
wife. 

638
00:31:58,200 --> 00:32:02,700
Continually wife is to pursue 
her husband continually, but 

639
00:32:02,700 --> 00:32:05,500
it's true that there is such a 
thing as a sex drive. 

640
00:32:06,100 --> 00:32:10,500
And God has given the sex drive 
to us and generally a man is 

641
00:32:10,500 --> 00:32:12,200
going to have a higher sex drive
than a woman. 

642
00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:15,600
We're saying some things that 
are common knowledge here and 

643
00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:18,600
again, I'm speaking in 
generalizations, but this drive 

644
00:32:18,600 --> 00:32:22,300
is for us as men, not something 
to be apologize for not 

645
00:32:22,300 --> 00:32:25,300
something to be ashamed of, but 
allowing us to drive. 

646
00:32:25,300 --> 00:32:28,300
Not just directly in a straight 
line towards sex, but to drive 

647
00:32:28,300 --> 00:32:30,400
us to be the man that our wives 
would want to be with. 

648
00:32:30,400 --> 00:32:34,000
Anyway, allow your sex drive 
Brothers to be something that 

649
00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:37,400
fuels you to say, let me bless. 
My wife and every way possible 

650
00:32:37,500 --> 00:32:39,600
and in the same way, a wife is, 
so why have a sex drive as well?

651
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:41,800
Praise God, that's a good and 
wonderful thing. 

652
00:32:41,900 --> 00:32:45,000
But it's also again to be fuel 
for your tank to say, how can I 

653
00:32:45,000 --> 00:32:49,500
pursue my husband in every way? 
How do we have this Rich bond in

654
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:52,300
in all of our marriage? 
So that the marriage bed, just 

655
00:32:52,300 --> 00:32:56,300
becomes the obvious expression 
rather than this is a nightmare.

656
00:32:56,500 --> 00:32:58,800
But maybe we can, at least go to
the bedroom and enjoy one 

657
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:00,200
another. 
That's not what we're after 

658
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:01,800
here. 
What we're after is, there's 

659
00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:05,900
this Rich Bond and of course. 
And of course this too and of 

660
00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:07,800
Course, this, at any given 
moment, we could go in this 

661
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:10,600
direction because there's such 
the Baseline of Health. 

662
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:13,900
There's such the Assumption of 
love, and it's so obvious, and 

663
00:33:13,900 --> 00:33:16,400
so present all the time. 
Well, we don't always get that, 

664
00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:17,700
right. 
He didn't always get that right.

665
00:33:17,700 --> 00:33:18,700
She didn't always get that 
right. 

666
00:33:18,700 --> 00:33:21,300
Oh, it sounds like you married, 
a human being just like the rest

667
00:33:21,300 --> 00:33:23,500
of us. 
Which is why we offer Grace, 

668
00:33:23,500 --> 00:33:25,400
which is why we offer kindness. 
This is why we offer 

669
00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:27,500
forgiveness. 
And which is why we also need to

670
00:33:27,700 --> 00:33:31,100
make plain our desires. 
Hey Especially for a wife. 

671
00:33:31,100 --> 00:33:33,300
Hey, here's what I'm feeling. 
Here's what I'm feeling. 

672
00:33:33,300 --> 00:33:35,300
Hey, I'm feeling a little 
forgotten today. 

673
00:33:35,500 --> 00:33:37,200
Oh, okay. 
Now he can choose to do 

674
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:39,500
something with that. 
Now, he can actually step into 

675
00:33:39,500 --> 00:33:41,900
that go. 
Hey, I love you, I miss you. 

676
00:33:41,900 --> 00:33:43,800
I'm sorry, I've been out of it. 
I've been, I've been focused on 

677
00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:46,000
work rather than accusing him 
and judging him ladies. 

678
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:49,300
Remember like we talked about in
the submission sir, your this 

679
00:33:49,300 --> 00:33:52,300
you're awful, you're too much. 
All these things like now, here 

680
00:33:52,300 --> 00:33:54,600
we go. 
Who can who can win this fight 

681
00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:57,400
instead of, here's what I'm 
feeling or the husband in the 

682
00:33:57,400 --> 00:33:59,500
same way? 
Hey, hey, beautiful, I got plans

683
00:33:59,500 --> 00:34:00,200
for you. 
Later. 

684
00:34:00,700 --> 00:34:02,300
Well, I don't know. 
I don't know if I'm feeling it. 

685
00:34:02,300 --> 00:34:04,600
Okay, well then, then we can 
work towards this together 

686
00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:06,100
because this is a priority for 
us. 

687
00:34:06,500 --> 00:34:09,600
A wife is not to be the keeper 
of this ex-husband is not to be 

688
00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:12,500
the secret of the sex. 
God is The Giver of the Sexes to

689
00:34:12,500 --> 00:34:14,300
marriage. 
There's not one who says, well 

690
00:34:14,500 --> 00:34:17,300
I'll hold it and if you jump 
through the Hoops properly, then

691
00:34:17,300 --> 00:34:20,800
perhaps I shall reward you. 
This is a sin to be repented of 

692
00:34:21,300 --> 00:34:23,800
it is common. 
It's in every sitcom you've ever

693
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:28,000
seen and it is the it is the 
Baseline assumption for marriage

694
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:32,000
in the west and it's sinful It 
should be repented of I kind of 

695
00:34:32,007 --> 00:34:33,699
like that because I was away. 
I was holding power. 

696
00:34:33,900 --> 00:34:36,900
I bet you did and you should 
repent of it because it's not 

697
00:34:36,900 --> 00:34:39,500
surrender. 
It's not submission again. 

698
00:34:39,500 --> 00:34:41,600
A husband and wife should be 
eager to please one another. 

699
00:34:41,800 --> 00:34:45,400
You can express your desire but 
you should also receive pleasure

700
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:48,199
by giving pleasure, we're just 
talking more practically here. 

701
00:34:48,500 --> 00:34:51,800
This is a, this is something 
that some couples forget about, 

702
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:54,500
there's a selfishness that can 
come into place like, well, I 

703
00:34:54,500 --> 00:34:57,900
got what I was interested in. 
Well, your spouse is your 

704
00:34:57,900 --> 00:34:59,800
priority as well, like you 
should enjoy. 

705
00:34:59,900 --> 00:35:02,300
Oi and have a great, have a 
great time with your spouse. 

706
00:35:02,300 --> 00:35:04,900
And yet, you should be all in 
for whatever your spouse 

707
00:35:04,900 --> 00:35:07,500
interests, and desires are the 
same thing would go with 

708
00:35:07,500 --> 00:35:09,300
frequency. 
What should our frequency be? 

709
00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:13,300
I'm not going to be the referee 
and your bedroom, but are both 

710
00:35:13,300 --> 00:35:17,400
spouses satisfied are both 
spouses happy with where things 

711
00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:19,500
are. 
Well, this one is but this one 

712
00:35:19,500 --> 00:35:21,000
isn't. 
Okay, well, the one who isn't 

713
00:35:21,000 --> 00:35:23,400
then we want to bring them to a 
place of satisfaction and 

714
00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:25,600
desire. 
We want to give and welders, 

715
00:35:25,700 --> 00:35:28,600
it's not that simple. 
I understand that literally I do

716
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:31,900
this stuff for a living and I 
Way farther into the weeds, a 

717
00:35:31,900 --> 00:35:34,900
lot of times. 
And so I'm not naive. 

718
00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:37,400
So I don't want you to think 
that was just an idealistic 

719
00:35:37,400 --> 00:35:40,600
pitch, and this guy doesn't have
any grasp on reality, and 

720
00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:42,400
there's a lot of details, 
there's a lot of factors, 

721
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:45,900
they're all of which we have a 
way forward through all of, 

722
00:35:45,900 --> 00:35:49,400
which can be overcome, all of 
which can be overcome. 

723
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:50,900
How can you say that? 
So confidently? 

724
00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:54,500
Because I know my God, I know 
who he is, and I know what he's 

725
00:35:54,500 --> 00:35:57,700
intended for you. 
This series is not an idealistic

726
00:35:57,700 --> 00:35:59,700
pitch of, hey, you know what I 
knocked. 

727
00:35:59,900 --> 00:36:01,300
It out of the park and you can 
too. 

728
00:36:01,300 --> 00:36:03,800
Why? 
Because I didn't, because I 

729
00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:08,300
didn't and many haven't. 
But after sin, there comes 

730
00:36:08,300 --> 00:36:10,600
repentance. 
And it's after my sin and 

731
00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:14,100
ignorance that I started to grow
and started to see God's best. 

732
00:36:14,100 --> 00:36:18,300
And I've seen it in many others,
but circumstances aside God has 

733
00:36:18,300 --> 00:36:21,300
a path forward. 
So no matter where you are, no 

734
00:36:21,300 --> 00:36:25,100
matter where you are in your 
sex, life in your marriage, you 

735
00:36:25,100 --> 00:36:27,400
can always find the next PATH 
forward. 

736
00:36:27,400 --> 00:36:31,100
But again, this is done with a 
focus on How can I be a giver? 

737
00:36:31,500 --> 00:36:34,300
How can I care for the person 
that I love so much? 

738
00:36:34,500 --> 00:36:36,100
Is their sin that I need to 
repent of. 

739
00:36:36,300 --> 00:36:39,100
Like we said, this fire of 
fornication, it all has to be 

740
00:36:39,100 --> 00:36:41,300
repented of. 
We can't minimize it. 

741
00:36:41,900 --> 00:36:44,100
It's, it's prevalent in our 
culture. 

742
00:36:44,200 --> 00:36:47,800
It's prevalent in the church, 
it's not, it's not exclusively 

743
00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:50,400
with men, either. 
It's it happens with men. 

744
00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:53,200
It happens with women. 
Pornography is damaging, and 

745
00:36:53,200 --> 00:36:55,200
destroying people's brains 
literally. 

746
00:36:55,500 --> 00:36:57,400
It's damaging people's marriage 
beds. 

747
00:36:57,600 --> 00:37:00,300
All these things are sins to be,
to be brought About to be 

748
00:37:00,300 --> 00:37:03,000
exposed to be confessed. 
Well, I don't want to do that 

749
00:37:03,100 --> 00:37:06,400
because of the shame, except 
that Christ will forgive and 

750
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:09,700
that Christ brings Grace. 
So there's a lot more that we 

751
00:37:09,700 --> 00:37:12,900
could say. 
But what we want to do is, we 

752
00:37:12,900 --> 00:37:15,100
want to understand the 
principles, the principles are 

753
00:37:15,300 --> 00:37:18,300
God, made it, he calls it good. 
So we also call it very good. 

754
00:37:18,500 --> 00:37:20,900
It's not a gift that wives gives
a husbands or give their 

755
00:37:20,900 --> 00:37:23,000
husbands give two wives. 
It's a gift that God has given 

756
00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:25,400
to marriage. 
We can pursue it with joy. 

757
00:37:25,500 --> 00:37:28,300
We can pursue it with freedom 
and we can navigate any other 

758
00:37:28,300 --> 00:37:30,600
roadblocks along the way. 
Well, I've got Abuser, I've got 

759
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:31,900
these triggers. 
Hey we're going to be 

760
00:37:31,908 --> 00:37:33,200
compassionate towards one 
another. 

761
00:37:33,500 --> 00:37:35,500
You got the safest place you're 
ever going to find in the 

762
00:37:35,508 --> 00:37:38,700
marriage bed in the marriage. 
Covenant, I'm with you, I'm for 

763
00:37:38,700 --> 00:37:42,800
you to the end. 
But honey husband wife, let's 

764
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:45,800
move forward. 
Ford for doesn't mean 100 miles 

765
00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:47,700
an hour. 
Don't be afraid. 

766
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:51,400
Ford can mean, let's take our 
foot off, the brake, our foots, 

767
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:54,600
been on the brake, potentially 
I'm giving an example here. 

768
00:37:54,900 --> 00:37:57,700
Maybe we haven't even started 
the car in some of our cases. 

769
00:37:58,300 --> 00:38:01,200
They were going to, uh, it's 
it's this, it's this thing that 

770
00:38:01,200 --> 00:38:04,500
we've just, we've put aside, we 
stop talking about it or we just

771
00:38:04,500 --> 00:38:07,300
don't we only fight about it. 
I want you to have real Freedom 

772
00:38:07,300 --> 00:38:09,400
here. 
I want you to have real 

773
00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:11,400
breakthrough because I know the 
Lord. 

774
00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:13,600
On the other side of it has a 
lot of help and a lot of Hope 

775
00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:16,600
for you. 
To close it out. 

776
00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:19,900
Obviously everything that the 
Lord is designed is always a 

777
00:38:19,900 --> 00:38:24,300
picture of Christ in the church.
And there are some who are who 

778
00:38:24,300 --> 00:38:27,700
would Rage Against the idea that
that the sexual expression is a 

779
00:38:27,708 --> 00:38:31,400
reference to the New Birth. 
Honestly, I can't unsee it. 

780
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:35,400
It's hard for me to not see the 
obvious design of What the Lord 

781
00:38:35,400 --> 00:38:40,000
Has Done in the act of sex and 
in the act of how the Lord would

782
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:42,700
fill his people and give them 
new life. 

783
00:38:42,900 --> 00:38:44,900
And the way a man would do the 
same thing. 

784
00:38:45,100 --> 00:38:48,700
His wife like to not make that 
connection seems to me like, 

785
00:38:48,900 --> 00:38:51,100
difficult to, not to not draw 
those lines. 

786
00:38:51,300 --> 00:38:53,900
And yet, at the same time, we 
never want to sexualize our 

787
00:38:53,900 --> 00:38:55,900
relationship with the Lord, 
anything like that would be 

788
00:38:55,900 --> 00:38:58,800
demonic and we would reject that
entirely, that would be utter 

789
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:00,900
nonsense. 
Foolishness and disgusting. 

790
00:39:00,900 --> 00:39:03,300
So there's there's nothing in 
scripture taught that way and 

791
00:39:03,300 --> 00:39:06,600
yet everything that the Lord has
done, I'm closing with this, my 

792
00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:09,400
point is, everything comes back 
to Jesus. 

793
00:39:09,700 --> 00:39:13,300
So as we keep first things 
first, as we are people who love

794
00:39:13,300 --> 00:39:16,400
the Lord, as we were people who 
Of his word as we were, people 

795
00:39:16,400 --> 00:39:19,700
who are humble and submitted to 
him, people of the table of God,

796
00:39:19,700 --> 00:39:22,300
who come to him for forgiveness,
who come to him for help, who 

797
00:39:22,300 --> 00:39:25,800
come to him for, Hope who come 
to him for guidance, we can find

798
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:28,500
a path forward here because the 
Lord has given it to his people.

799
00:39:28,900 --> 00:39:30,300
We no longer need to be 
confused. 

800
00:39:30,300 --> 00:39:33,000
We no longer need to be ashamed.
Well, I still don't know what it

801
00:39:33,008 --> 00:39:35,100
looks like. 
Well then that's what that's 

802
00:39:35,100 --> 00:39:37,000
what we want to do with our Q&A 
Service as well. 

803
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:39,800
That's why we want to take time 
to say, I want you to try to 

804
00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:41,300
stump me, you're going to try to
stop me. 

805
00:39:41,300 --> 00:39:44,400
I hope but you're going to fail 
because the Lord has a path 

806
00:39:44,400 --> 00:39:46,200
forward. 
Always knows what to do. 

807
00:39:46,700 --> 00:39:49,200
So please keep sending questions
into the text line. 

808
00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:52,700
We've only had like three come 
in so far and they're good 

809
00:39:52,700 --> 00:39:55,500
questions but still not the 
volume and I know you've got 

810
00:39:55,500 --> 00:39:58,000
more questions. 
So I want to go as far as we can

811
00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:00,100
and get into everything because 
you're going, will you? 

812
00:40:00,100 --> 00:40:01,800
You avoided this? 
I have an intended to avoid 

813
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:04,400
anything so I don't want to 
skirt around anything that you 

814
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:06,000
may be stumped on or struggling 
with. 

815
00:40:06,200 --> 00:40:08,300
Hey Pastor, here's what's up. 
Can you speak to this? 

816
00:40:08,300 --> 00:40:09,800
Can you speak to that and 
Natalie? 

817
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:12,700
And I are looking forward to 
doing that but again, everything

818
00:40:12,700 --> 00:40:15,900
comes back to Jesus as we put 
him first, It's in our marriage,

819
00:40:15,900 --> 00:40:19,000
it brings a couple closer 
together, but no, the may know 

820
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:21,200
that the marriage bed is a good 
gift to your marriage. 

821
00:40:21,300 --> 00:40:23,900
It's something to be enjoyed and
it's something to be cultivated 

822
00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:26,000
Heavenly Father, we thank you 
for your word. 

823
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:28,500
We thank you for your good 
design of marriage. 

824
00:40:28,500 --> 00:40:30,400
We thank you for your good 
design of sex inside of 

825
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:33,800
marriage. 
It is a fire that is intended to

826
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:35,800
warm. 
It is intended to heal. 

827
00:40:35,900 --> 00:40:40,000
It is intended to bless so Lord,
we ask that you would make us a 

828
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:43,500
people who have Clarity make us 
of people of Holiness. 

829
00:40:43,700 --> 00:40:47,100
Make us a people of delight so 
that we would enjoy your best 

830
00:40:47,100 --> 00:40:49,700
and your highest that we would 
unwrap the gift appropriately 

831
00:40:49,900 --> 00:40:51,600
and that we would enjoy it in 
the right place. 

832
00:40:51,600 --> 00:40:54,300
The right time for the right 
reasons, help us to engage in 

833
00:40:54,300 --> 00:40:56,400
this. 
Spiritual is physical and this 

834
00:40:56,400 --> 00:41:00,000
emotional joy that you've 
provided for your creation and 

835
00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:02,100
Lord help us to continually 
drawing nearer to you. 

836
00:41:02,500 --> 00:41:05,500
You have made us new, you have 
filled your people Lord, with 

837
00:41:05,500 --> 00:41:08,800
new life, you have given us. 
Desires. 

838
00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:11,900
You help us to want the right 
things for the right reasons. 

839
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:14,600
So I pray for the marriages in 
this church. 

840
00:41:14,900 --> 00:41:18,400
As we close out this series for 
every marriage represented here,

841
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:23,300
present insult Church in this 
day and for all those who even 

842
00:41:23,300 --> 00:41:26,900
be listening to this marriage 
Series in the future, I plead 

843
00:41:26,900 --> 00:41:31,100
the blood of Jesus over them. 
God, I ask that you would 

844
00:41:31,100 --> 00:41:32,900
protect them from the attacks of
the enemy. 

845
00:41:34,100 --> 00:41:36,400
He wants to destroy the 
marriages in the church. 

846
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:39,800
He doesn't want them to 
represent Christ and his bride. 

847
00:41:40,700 --> 00:41:43,300
He doesn't want married people 
to enjoy your good gift of sex. 

848
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:47,600
Lord, I pray that you would open
our eyes, you would draw us to 

849
00:41:47,600 --> 00:41:50,600
repentance where it's needed. 
And you would give us wisdom. 

850
00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:55,000
Make us a people of compassion, 
fill us with an ultimate love 

851
00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:58,300
for our spouses. 
That husbands would love wives 

852
00:41:58,300 --> 00:42:01,800
like Christ loves the church 
that wives would submit to and 

853
00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:04,600
respect their husbands like the 
church does to Christ. 

854
00:42:05,300 --> 00:42:09,400
Glorify your name through it all
preach Your Truth through our 

855
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:13,500
lives in every way possible and 
help us to be living sacrifices 

856
00:42:13,500 --> 00:42:16,400
who lay down on your own. 
Later and say It's All For Your 

857
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:19,200
Glory, may it be a sweet Aroma 
to you Lord. 

858
00:42:19,900 --> 00:42:21,600
We thank you for it in Jesus 
name. 

859
00:42:22,500 --> 00:42:26,200
And now the Lord bless you and 
keep you the Lord, make his face

860
00:42:26,200 --> 00:42:28,300
shine down upon you and be 
gracious to you. 

861
00:42:29,000 --> 00:42:31,500
The Lord lift up his countenance
upon you and give you great. 

862
00:42:31,500 --> 00:42:34,600
Peace in Jesus name. 
Amen. 

863
00:42:36,100 --> 00:42:36,900
Miss Natalie, you got