1 00:00:00,900 --> 00:00:18,300 Genesis chapter 2. Genesis 2 verse 16 and the Lord. 2 00:00:18,300 --> 00:00:20,800 God commanded. The man saying you may surely 3 00:00:20,800 --> 00:00:23,400 eat of every tree of the garden but of the tree of the knowledge 4 00:00:23,400 --> 00:00:26,100 of Good and Evil. You shall not eat for in the day 5 00:00:26,100 --> 00:00:28,500 that you eat of it. You shall surely die. 6 00:00:28,900 --> 00:00:30,300 Then the Lord God said, it's not good. 7 00:00:30,300 --> 00:00:33,100 That the man should be alone and I will make him a helper fit for 8 00:00:33,100 --> 00:00:35,400 him. Now, out of the ground, the Lord 9 00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:37,500 God, formed every beast of the field and every bird of the 10 00:00:37,500 --> 00:00:40,600 heavens and brought them to the man, to see what he would call 11 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:43,800 them, and whatever the man called every living creature. 12 00:00:43,900 --> 00:00:46,800 Sure, that was its name. The man gave names to all the 13 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:50,000 livestock to all the birds of the heavens and to every beast 14 00:00:50,000 --> 00:00:52,800 of the field. But for Adam, there was not 15 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:56,300 found a helper fit for him. So the Lord God caused a deep 16 00:00:56,300 --> 00:01:00,100 sleep to fall upon the man and while he slept took one of his 17 00:01:00,100 --> 00:01:03,500 ribs and closed up its place with flesh and the rib that the 18 00:01:03,500 --> 00:01:07,300 Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought 19 00:01:07,300 --> 00:01:11,000 her to the man, then he said this at. 20 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:13,800 Last is bone of my bones and Flesh of My Flesh. 21 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:15,700 Rush. She shall be called woman 22 00:01:15,900 --> 00:01:17,400 because she was taken out of, man. 23 00:01:18,100 --> 00:01:21,200 Therefore. A man shall leave his father and 24 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:26,000 mother and hold fast to his wife and they shall become one flesh. 25 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:28,800 And the man and his wife were both naked and they were not 26 00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:31,100 ashamed. God, we thank you for your true 27 00:01:31,100 --> 00:01:32,900 word. This is not a myth. 28 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:36,300 This is not just a general idea. These were literal people 29 00:01:36,300 --> 00:01:38,400 according to your scriptures, according to the Lord Jesus 30 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:40,600 Christ. This is the history of mankind 31 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:43,900 as you designed it, and as you intended it, so, build faith in 32 00:01:43,908 --> 00:01:46,500 our hearts today, not just for what happened, but for what 33 00:01:46,500 --> 00:01:49,500 should be happening now. Show us and reveal to us. 34 00:01:49,800 --> 00:01:53,000 How your word lights up? Our life In This Moment? 35 00:01:53,200 --> 00:01:56,600 How in the year 2023? You have relevant truth. 36 00:01:56,600 --> 00:01:58,600 That will bless us, that will grow us. 37 00:01:58,700 --> 00:02:02,200 That will help us to enjoy your ideals so that we can be who 38 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:04,400 you've called us to be. And so that you would receive 39 00:02:04,400 --> 00:02:06,400 glory and that your kingdom would be represented. 40 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:09,600 Well, just like we prayed for your kingdom to come and your 41 00:02:09,600 --> 00:02:12,400 will to be done here on Earth as it is in heaven, God make it. 42 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:15,800 So in our marriages, make it. So in our households, make us 43 00:02:15,800 --> 00:02:19,200 men and women who are strong in faith. 44 00:02:19,700 --> 00:02:22,300 Who are strong in conviction and who are wise in their 45 00:02:22,300 --> 00:02:25,500 application of your word. So bless us and strengthen us 46 00:02:25,500 --> 00:02:27,400 all through it in Jesus name, we thank you. 47 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:31,800 Amen. Marriage is the Bedrock. 48 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:34,700 It is the it is the foundation stone for civilizations. 49 00:02:34,700 --> 00:02:37,300 The first thing that the Lord starts with, he begins with it 50 00:02:37,300 --> 00:02:38,600 right away in Genesis, what do we do? 51 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:40,100 How do we start building civilization? 52 00:02:40,300 --> 00:02:42,800 We see he didn't start with the civil magistrate of the 53 00:02:42,800 --> 00:02:45,400 government's as we reference, then we see that he didn't start 54 00:02:45,400 --> 00:02:49,200 with the church or establishing his his law. 55 00:02:49,300 --> 00:02:51,500 Now he did have law with Adam but that's this isn't the 56 00:02:51,500 --> 00:02:53,600 starting point. Necessarily as far as an 57 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:55,200 authority structure, it's the family. 58 00:02:55,500 --> 00:02:57,200 It's the household. This is the building block for 59 00:02:57,200 --> 00:02:59,700 all civilization. Even if you're an Fever. 60 00:02:59,700 --> 00:03:02,700 Even if you didn't like or what you wanted to pretend the Bible 61 00:03:02,700 --> 00:03:05,200 wasn't true marriage is a good and right thing. 62 00:03:05,300 --> 00:03:07,100 So we encourage marriage for everybody. 63 00:03:07,100 --> 00:03:08,900 We want to see non-believers Mary, why? 64 00:03:09,100 --> 00:03:11,400 Because it's still the right thing for the right reason. 65 00:03:11,700 --> 00:03:14,000 If you love someone, you want, what's best for them. 66 00:03:14,300 --> 00:03:16,500 So whether or not they're loving and following the Lord, we would 67 00:03:16,500 --> 00:03:19,300 still say we want people to marry because it's good for them 68 00:03:19,300 --> 00:03:22,100 and it's still the Lord's, will it's still a way for them to 69 00:03:22,300 --> 00:03:27,100 practice the devotion and image and pick and and and bring a 70 00:03:27,100 --> 00:03:29,200 physical expression to the spiritual truths. 71 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:31,800 Lord has everything that's happening in the world. 72 00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:33,800 Should always be bringing God's glory in that way. 73 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:38,500 We see he does this right away, just like we saw with man, man, 74 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:42,300 his perfect expression finds itself right away and being a 75 00:03:42,300 --> 00:03:44,200 husband. The same is true for a wife, 76 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:46,300 will get there in a few minutes. But let's notice something else, 77 00:03:46,300 --> 00:03:50,100 about Eve whenever Eve is created, she is never without a 78 00:03:50,108 --> 00:03:53,400 covering, right away? A woman goes from her father, 79 00:03:53,500 --> 00:03:57,500 and she is given to her husband. Her father, brings her to her 80 00:03:57,500 --> 00:03:59,200 husband. We still do this in our wedding. 81 00:03:59,300 --> 00:04:02,800 Ceremonies and it's supposed to represent and symbolize what's 82 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:05,500 actually taking place. It's not supposed to be just an 83 00:04:05,508 --> 00:04:08,100 entry empty tradition, often times. 84 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:10,300 There have been many reasons, a lot of issues. 85 00:04:10,300 --> 00:04:12,400 A lot of semiotic ignorance on our parts. 86 00:04:12,500 --> 00:04:15,100 So they've been many many reasons where a father may have 87 00:04:15,100 --> 00:04:17,800 just walked his daughter down, the aisle exclusively as a 88 00:04:17,808 --> 00:04:20,000 tradition, because that's what you do in a wedding ceremony. 89 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:22,700 But ideally, it's picturing saying I really have been 90 00:04:22,700 --> 00:04:25,200 blessing and covering her. That could look different ways, 91 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:29,200 but it still means she knows, and he knows this man is mine. 92 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:32,800 Offering a woman as a man as her covering as a gift, as a 93 00:04:32,808 --> 00:04:36,500 blessing, as a protection. And then he sang who gives this 94 00:04:36,500 --> 00:04:39,500 woman to be married to this man. And it's a very new and modern 95 00:04:39,500 --> 00:04:42,200 thing where he says her mother and I but the ancient thing 96 00:04:42,200 --> 00:04:46,000 would be I do I do her head, her covering her father. 97 00:04:46,200 --> 00:04:49,400 I am giving her I'm saying I'm her protector, her provider, her 98 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:52,000 leader. Now this man is and it breaks a 99 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:54,800 Father's Heart and at the same time like Gordon and Linda, it's 100 00:04:54,800 --> 00:04:56,200 the right thing at the right time. 101 00:04:56,200 --> 00:05:00,600 It's and it's yes, it's good and it can be difficult but its the 102 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:03,900 Lords will so that everyone is blessed and receiving his best. 103 00:05:03,900 --> 00:05:06,500 So it's not just to be an empty tradition, but it's the point to 104 00:05:06,500 --> 00:05:10,200 something good and beautiful. As we said, a husband and wife 105 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:13,200 are their own family. We see a husband and wife should 106 00:05:13,200 --> 00:05:15,400 cling to one another, they should leave their father, and 107 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:17,800 mother husband, and wife, or their own family, right away 108 00:05:18,300 --> 00:05:20,200 their own family. It's not when they have kids, 109 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:22,700 they become family, a husband and wife become a family. 110 00:05:22,700 --> 00:05:25,100 And in that moment, but we love our parents do. 111 00:05:25,100 --> 00:05:26,300 Absolutely. We do. 112 00:05:26,500 --> 00:05:27,900 We should honor your father and mother. 113 00:05:27,900 --> 00:05:31,100 Absolutely, you should. And that will never change and 114 00:05:31,100 --> 00:05:33,900 yet their headship in there covering that role does change. 115 00:05:34,000 --> 00:05:36,500 That role does look different. This is where all the young all 116 00:05:36,500 --> 00:05:38,600 the young couples like yeah, send it. 117 00:05:38,600 --> 00:05:41,400 And all the other couples are like, be careful and you don't 118 00:05:41,400 --> 00:05:44,000 go too far with that because that's the Temptation, like we 119 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:46,500 want our, we want our children clothes and the children saying, 120 00:05:46,500 --> 00:05:48,600 hey, we should have some Independence here. 121 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:51,900 We navigate that with wisdom as we honor our father and mother 122 00:05:52,100 --> 00:05:54,100 but we rejoice in the fact that a husband and wife come 123 00:05:54,100 --> 00:05:56,300 together, right away as their own family. 124 00:05:57,100 --> 00:05:59,700 Women were made, we see right away to be wives, just like a 125 00:05:59,708 --> 00:06:03,300 man was made to be a husband. A woman was made to be a wife. 126 00:06:03,500 --> 00:06:07,500 A woman's natural design, is to be a wife, the design of woman 127 00:06:07,500 --> 00:06:10,200 Helper, life-giver beautifier and glorify. 128 00:06:10,200 --> 00:06:14,400 ER, it Finds Its perfect expression as a wife and mother 129 00:06:14,500 --> 00:06:16,500 right away. This is the duh, this is the 130 00:06:16,500 --> 00:06:18,600 obvious. This is a man is to protect and 131 00:06:18,600 --> 00:06:21,600 provide and Lead, who his wife and children? 132 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:24,500 That's you get to give your masculinity as your gift. 133 00:06:24,500 --> 00:06:28,000 A woman is to be the helper. The life Giver in the beautifier 134 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:29,600 will. Who am I supposed to support in 135 00:06:29,608 --> 00:06:32,000 this, your husband, your household, your children. 136 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:33,600 This is the good thing to rejoice in. 137 00:06:33,900 --> 00:06:36,100 So this is the starting point, but now we're going to go to 138 00:06:36,100 --> 00:06:43,000 Ephesians chapter 5, Ephesians chapter 5. 139 00:06:44,300 --> 00:06:48,300 I'm going to read a couple of sections here so you'll be able 140 00:06:48,300 --> 00:06:51,300 to hop around with me. We're skipping over husbands, 141 00:06:51,300 --> 00:06:53,800 they had their turn last week, ladies is going to feel very 142 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:56,500 one-sided today. That's because it is just like 143 00:06:56,500 --> 00:06:59,200 last week was today will be as well. 144 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:03,700 There will be correction and there will be encouragement. 145 00:07:04,000 --> 00:07:12,800 What we all need at all times. Ephesians 5:22 through 24 wives 146 00:07:12,900 --> 00:07:15,800 submit to your own. Husband's, as to the Lord, for 147 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:17,400 the husband is the head of his wife. 148 00:07:17,400 --> 00:07:21,100 Even as Christ is the head of the church, his body and is 149 00:07:21,100 --> 00:07:22,800 himself. It's savior. 150 00:07:23,300 --> 00:07:27,700 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should 151 00:07:27,700 --> 00:07:30,400 submit in everything to their husbands. 152 00:07:30,400 --> 00:07:32,400 And then you can look also at verse 33. 153 00:07:33,400 --> 00:07:36,600 However, Let each one of you love his wife as himself. 154 00:07:37,000 --> 00:07:39,900 And let the wife see that she respects her husband. 155 00:07:40,700 --> 00:07:44,400 So we were given household household codes here by pole. 156 00:07:44,700 --> 00:07:47,300 Peter does the same thing. We got multiple places in the 157 00:07:47,308 --> 00:07:50,100 New Testament where I told you before in Genesis we get all 158 00:07:50,100 --> 00:07:53,900 good Doctrine but it's in seed form, it's not the tree fully 159 00:07:53,900 --> 00:07:56,600 sprouted. Like it's the orange seed but 160 00:07:56,600 --> 00:07:58,300 you don't have an orange to eat yet. 161 00:07:58,500 --> 00:08:01,700 So so you have to be careful. You don't want to just take 162 00:08:01,700 --> 00:08:03,100 something in Genesis and run with it. 163 00:08:03,100 --> 00:08:04,600 You go, hang on. That will be proven out 164 00:08:04,600 --> 00:08:06,600 throughout the rest of the scriptures, you might. 165 00:08:06,700 --> 00:08:09,300 I think it means that okay then that needs to be proven out 166 00:08:09,300 --> 00:08:10,500 through the rest of the scriptures. 167 00:08:10,500 --> 00:08:13,100 We let everything be established in the mouth of two or three 168 00:08:13,100 --> 00:08:16,300 Witnesses so we want we want the whole Bible to tell us the 169 00:08:16,300 --> 00:08:17,700 truth. I don't want to take off running 170 00:08:17,700 --> 00:08:19,400 with one verse. I'm going to say what is the 171 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:21,400 whole of scripture, really? Teach not? 172 00:08:21,400 --> 00:08:24,000 Do you have a verse for that? But what does the word of God 173 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:25,400 teach? What does the word of God 174 00:08:25,400 --> 00:08:27,200 reveal? But in the New Testament, we get 175 00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:30,700 explicitly plane on. What what is often called 176 00:08:30,700 --> 00:08:33,000 household codes? What does it look like for 177 00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:36,600 husband wife children servants? And here are these household. 178 00:08:36,700 --> 00:08:40,600 Codes have been explicitly laid out servants are told to obey. 179 00:08:40,900 --> 00:08:43,100 Now, why in the world would servants have to be reminded to 180 00:08:43,100 --> 00:08:44,100 obey? Well, maybe because they're 181 00:08:44,100 --> 00:08:47,700 tempted to disobey, right? This is obvious stuff. 182 00:08:47,700 --> 00:08:50,500 Children are told to honor their father and mother why in the 183 00:08:50,500 --> 00:08:52,700 world would you have to tell children honor their father and 184 00:08:52,700 --> 00:08:55,300 mother? Gee golly, I wonder well, it's 185 00:08:55,300 --> 00:08:57,900 because obviously, they're tempted to dishonor and to 186 00:08:57,900 --> 00:09:00,900 disobey their father and mother, husbands are told to love their 187 00:09:00,900 --> 00:09:04,800 wives and be gentle with them. Why in the world would a husband 188 00:09:04,800 --> 00:09:06,600 have to be told to love his wife and be gentle. 189 00:09:06,700 --> 00:09:10,500 Her, I can't imagine. It's obvious. 190 00:09:10,600 --> 00:09:13,200 It's because we have a temptation to not do those 191 00:09:13,200 --> 00:09:15,300 things. And then wives are told to 192 00:09:15,300 --> 00:09:18,700 submit and respect their husbands submit to and respect 193 00:09:18,700 --> 00:09:22,000 their husbands. And the word respect is actually 194 00:09:22,400 --> 00:09:24,400 the word, reverence would be more accurate. 195 00:09:24,400 --> 00:09:27,700 We, there's a lot of words that are used there, that the modern 196 00:09:27,700 --> 00:09:29,700 translations, who said, we're not going to touch that with a 197 00:09:29,708 --> 00:09:31,400 10-foot pole. But it's hip. 198 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:34,500 It's almost always, it's almost always that word respect. 199 00:09:34,500 --> 00:09:37,400 And that passage almost always Throughout the New Testament. 200 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:40,000 Go look it up for yourself, refers to Fear With Fear and 201 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:42,400 Trembling as to God and the modern writers will. 202 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:46,000 Actually, let's go. So every other occasion It Was 203 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:48,100 Fear and in this occasion, it's this. 204 00:09:48,100 --> 00:09:51,800 Well I can understand why we would make that change but we 205 00:09:51,800 --> 00:09:54,100 can't do it because we're afraid of people, we should do it 206 00:09:54,108 --> 00:09:55,600 because we want to be more accurate. 207 00:09:55,700 --> 00:09:58,000 That's the thing that's the motive, that's the reason. 208 00:09:58,300 --> 00:10:02,100 So we want to understand that a husband is not God and yet the 209 00:10:02,100 --> 00:10:04,400 Holy Spirit still saw fit to use the same kind of word. 210 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:07,400 So a wife is not to fear her husband in the the same way 211 00:10:07,400 --> 00:10:09,900 necessarily that we would fear God because the husband is not 212 00:10:09,900 --> 00:10:13,100 God and yet there is certainly a reverence that the Lord wanted 213 00:10:13,100 --> 00:10:15,800 to communicate their. So husbands are not God, we're 214 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:18,500 not confusing our information here or mixing up with the 215 00:10:18,500 --> 00:10:21,500 passage says, but we understand their wife is to reverence her 216 00:10:21,500 --> 00:10:23,300 husband. Now why in the world would a 217 00:10:23,308 --> 00:10:25,000 wife has to be told these things. 218 00:10:26,700 --> 00:10:30,100 I can't imagine, of course, it's because this is her temptation 219 00:10:30,100 --> 00:10:32,000 as well. So each of these different 220 00:10:32,000 --> 00:10:35,200 commands are given to different people, but they're all given to 221 00:10:35,200 --> 00:10:36,800 bless everybody. Involved. 222 00:10:36,800 --> 00:10:39,700 The household codes as they're called are a blessing to 223 00:10:39,700 --> 00:10:42,700 everyone. It's win, win win, win win. 224 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:45,000 We understand that. With our children all the time, 225 00:10:45,100 --> 00:10:47,900 we tell our children all the time, like if you just knew, if 226 00:10:47,900 --> 00:10:51,000 you just understood, like all I'm after, here is your best. 227 00:10:51,100 --> 00:10:54,300 Everything I do, everything I say, it's always for your good. 228 00:10:54,400 --> 00:10:57,600 I have no motive apart. From your thriving life. 229 00:10:57,900 --> 00:10:59,600 A loving husband says that to his wife. 230 00:10:59,600 --> 00:11:03,600 I have no motive apart from you thriving, you being blessed, you 231 00:11:03,600 --> 00:11:06,500 enjoying God's very best and you walking in the in the highest 232 00:11:06,500 --> 00:11:10,500 pleasures of the Lord. So this is good news and wives 233 00:11:10,600 --> 00:11:13,600 have an addition to that, they have an incredible motive that's 234 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:16,500 laid out here where husband's get to show everyone how Jesus 235 00:11:16,500 --> 00:11:20,000 loves the church wives, get to show everyone how the church 236 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:25,400 submits to Christ. Ephesians 5:24 again. 237 00:11:28,200 --> 00:11:30,400 Now, as the church submits to Christ. 238 00:11:30,600 --> 00:11:32,500 So how do you think the church submits to Christ? 239 00:11:33,500 --> 00:11:35,800 That's the way that wives are supposed to submit to their 240 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:40,400 husbands. In everything as he puts it. 241 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:44,600 So wives have this motive where they get to preach the gospel 242 00:11:44,700 --> 00:11:48,500 through their behavior, this instruction is for you, but it's 243 00:11:48,500 --> 00:11:51,300 not only for you. There's more happening here at 244 00:11:51,300 --> 00:11:52,900 stake than just your own marriage. 245 00:11:53,100 --> 00:11:56,600 Well, we function like this, or we like to function like that or 246 00:11:56,600 --> 00:11:59,300 my husband's personality or my personality. 247 00:12:00,100 --> 00:12:03,500 When I'm talking personalities, we're talking God's best God's 248 00:12:03,500 --> 00:12:04,900 ideals. We're talking about what is 249 00:12:04,900 --> 00:12:08,700 actually best for everybody. Not not what my what not, what 250 00:12:08,700 --> 00:12:11,600 I'm personally tempted to not what I would personally. 251 00:12:11,800 --> 00:12:13,300 Prefer but will God really wants? 252 00:12:13,300 --> 00:12:17,000 What God really believes is best in nose is perfect for for human 253 00:12:17,000 --> 00:12:19,800 flourishing and for his glory. So there's more Happening Here 254 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:22,900 than just what we think. Or what we prefer our marriage 255 00:12:22,900 --> 00:12:24,500 is supposed to be all about Jesus. 256 00:12:25,000 --> 00:12:27,900 So if our marriage is all about Jesus, people should be able to 257 00:12:27,900 --> 00:12:29,600 look in your life. They should be able to look at a 258 00:12:29,600 --> 00:12:32,500 Christian wife and go. That is the picture of how the 259 00:12:32,500 --> 00:12:34,700 church submits to Christ. There's a beauty, there's a 260 00:12:34,700 --> 00:12:38,400 trust, there's a surrender. So why is, if you ever wonder 261 00:12:38,400 --> 00:12:40,000 about your submission to your husband? 262 00:12:40,300 --> 00:12:42,600 You should ask yourself. How does the church submit to 263 00:12:42,600 --> 00:12:45,800 Christ? Then in the same way, submit and 264 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:47,600 everything? Your husband just like a husband 265 00:12:47,600 --> 00:12:49,700 could do. How am I loving my wife? 266 00:12:49,700 --> 00:12:51,700 Well, how does Christ loved the church, brother? 267 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:55,600 What's that look like okay. Well, that's how to love your 268 00:12:55,600 --> 00:12:57,400 wife. That's the picture, that's the 269 00:12:57,400 --> 00:13:00,500 starting point. So what does a good wife look 270 00:13:00,500 --> 00:13:02,000 like or what is a bad wife? Look? 271 00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:05,500 Like the scripture tells us a lot about both and I'm going to 272 00:13:05,508 --> 00:13:07,000 read this to you. I'm not gonna have you. 273 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:08,700 Follow me and flip around everywhere. 274 00:13:08,700 --> 00:13:10,800 You can certainly make note of these and if you can keep up, 275 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:13,700 you're welcome to. But in Proverbs 12, verse 4, 276 00:13:14,000 --> 00:13:18,000 scripture says, an excellent wife is the crown of her 277 00:13:18,000 --> 00:13:20,700 husband. Exactly what Gordon was talking 278 00:13:20,700 --> 00:13:23,100 about. Earlier a crown on his head. 279 00:13:23,800 --> 00:13:26,500 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband but she who 280 00:13:26,500 --> 00:13:30,200 brings shame is like rottenness in his bones. 281 00:13:30,800 --> 00:13:36,200 We got two extremes, the crown of her husband glorious, gold 282 00:13:36,300 --> 00:13:40,600 rare Metals, precious metals, beautiful gemstones, glorifying 283 00:13:40,600 --> 00:13:45,300 and magnifying, making much of, or just the opposite Decay and 284 00:13:45,300 --> 00:13:47,100 sucking out his very source of life. 285 00:13:48,700 --> 00:13:53,400 As a crown brings gladness and Beauty in the same way, a wife 286 00:13:54,000 --> 00:13:57,900 magnifies her husband's Authority, First Corinthians, 287 00:13:57,900 --> 00:14:01,800 11, 7 says, tells us. That woman is the glory of man. 288 00:14:02,400 --> 00:14:03,800 So what else can we understand from this? 289 00:14:03,800 --> 00:14:07,300 And these scriptures are often cited by commentaries and even 290 00:14:07,300 --> 00:14:10,400 in cross-references they always say hey if you're here, you this 291 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:12,900 this connects directly to this passage, this connects to this 292 00:14:12,900 --> 00:14:15,300 passage. So this idea of crowning is the 293 00:14:15,300 --> 00:14:17,800 idea of glorifying woman is the glory of man. 294 00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:21,100 What does that? Well, your Radiance blesses and 295 00:14:21,100 --> 00:14:24,100 glorifies your husband, like a magnificent Crown. 296 00:14:24,100 --> 00:14:25,600 Adorns. The king who wears it. 297 00:14:25,700 --> 00:14:28,700 An excellent wife, enhances her husband. 298 00:14:30,100 --> 00:14:33,500 Every man knows that's the case. Wives are to be a glorious 299 00:14:33,500 --> 00:14:38,200 manifestation of the very best of their husbands and they are 300 00:14:38,200 --> 00:14:40,700 to bring their husbands, their own very best. 301 00:14:42,900 --> 00:14:46,200 So the idea of the crown on the king, is he still a king without 302 00:14:46,200 --> 00:14:49,800 the crown? Well sure, but he's glorified by 303 00:14:49,800 --> 00:14:51,300 it. He is magnified by it. 304 00:14:51,400 --> 00:14:55,800 A wife is a force multiplier. She makes a man more than he is 305 00:14:56,000 --> 00:14:59,600 on his own. So what can a wife do? 306 00:14:59,600 --> 00:15:01,800 What should she apply herself to? 307 00:15:01,800 --> 00:15:05,200 How do I be his crown? We should find ways to support 308 00:15:05,200 --> 00:15:07,600 and get creative to accomplish your husband's Mission. 309 00:15:07,800 --> 00:15:10,800 He is the king to borrow from that example. 310 00:15:10,900 --> 00:15:13,900 In Proverbs, if, if I'm his crown, what would it look like? 311 00:15:13,900 --> 00:15:15,700 Well, it's the opposite of the modern language. 312 00:15:15,700 --> 00:15:18,500 Well, I know the Bible says, the husband is the head but I'm the 313 00:15:18,500 --> 00:15:22,100 neck. Oh, ultimately saying I'm gonna 314 00:15:22,100 --> 00:15:25,600 control him and get my way and do what I want as opposed to 315 00:15:25,900 --> 00:15:29,400 being the crown adorns. Learning and enjoying the 316 00:15:29,400 --> 00:15:32,400 authority and the blessing of the kings kingdom participating 317 00:15:32,400 --> 00:15:36,300 in it, but not being the king, not being the neck, not being 318 00:15:36,300 --> 00:15:38,800 the one who is manipulating and controlling the king. 319 00:15:40,100 --> 00:15:42,300 So what should you do? You want to help your husband 320 00:15:42,400 --> 00:15:45,400 accomplish his mission? You want to get creative and 321 00:15:45,400 --> 00:15:48,700 find ways to help him expand and do the things that God has 322 00:15:48,700 --> 00:15:50,600 called them to do? Well, my husband doesn't have a 323 00:15:50,608 --> 00:15:52,800 mission. Might be the quick rebuttal. 324 00:15:53,300 --> 00:15:54,900 Well then here's what you do as a wife. 325 00:15:54,900 --> 00:15:59,000 You submit to him by telling him that you want to support him in 326 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:03,300 his vision for the family. And for the household, ask him 327 00:16:03,300 --> 00:16:07,400 how you can do that. That will put the appropriate 328 00:16:07,400 --> 00:16:11,700 pressure on him and it will show him that you are not leading. 329 00:16:13,100 --> 00:16:16,000 God is going to set some of you, women free, just with that idea 330 00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:17,900 and itself to go well how do I get him to? 331 00:16:17,900 --> 00:16:20,100 How do I get him to? How do I get him to, you don't 332 00:16:20,100 --> 00:16:25,100 get him to, you don't be free. It's not your burden, he has a 333 00:16:25,100 --> 00:16:28,500 head and you're not it. I want to be a beautiful crown 334 00:16:28,500 --> 00:16:31,000 and now you're learning how you submit and defer to him. 335 00:16:31,000 --> 00:16:33,500 Hey I want to support your vision for this household. 336 00:16:33,500 --> 00:16:35,100 What does that instantly do inside of a man? 337 00:16:35,600 --> 00:16:39,900 Oh vision for household like so she hasn't just disrespected him 338 00:16:39,900 --> 00:16:41,600 in any way. She's honored him. 339 00:16:41,600 --> 00:16:44,400 She has put herself Him. Which by the way you see all 340 00:16:44,400 --> 00:16:46,900 through the scriptures when someone comes to a King other 341 00:16:46,900 --> 00:16:51,000 men coming to the king going oh King live forever, okay? 342 00:16:51,000 --> 00:16:53,800 Like even with I disagree with him, you see a difference, you 343 00:16:53,800 --> 00:16:57,000 see a respect, you see an honor, David saying, we're going to 344 00:16:57,000 --> 00:17:00,800 take a census, we're going to do a survey and joab's going they 345 00:17:00,800 --> 00:17:02,600 all the Servants of the Kingdom be yours forever. 346 00:17:02,600 --> 00:17:04,300 May they multiplied a thousand times. 347 00:17:05,900 --> 00:17:10,300 So even man-to-man, we see submission, I'm too good for 348 00:17:10,300 --> 00:17:11,800 that. Then you're too good to be like 349 00:17:11,800 --> 00:17:15,500 Jesus who Fitted to the will of the father who laid down his own 350 00:17:15,500 --> 00:17:20,000 life to glorify someone else. Everybody gets to be like Jesus. 351 00:17:21,000 --> 00:17:23,700 Husbands, get to be like Jesus in the fact that they love, man. 352 00:17:23,700 --> 00:17:25,200 I'm getting ahead. I'm preaching a few weeks, 353 00:17:25,200 --> 00:17:27,599 sermons away. You look what you all are doing, 354 00:17:28,500 --> 00:17:30,600 but this is good news. We all get to be like Christ in 355 00:17:30,600 --> 00:17:33,400 this way, but we're, but as a wife, you don't want to be the 356 00:17:33,400 --> 00:17:36,700 wife who is controlling you want to be the wife, who is yielding 357 00:17:36,800 --> 00:17:38,800 and showing him. I'm deferring to you. 358 00:17:38,900 --> 00:17:42,500 I'm trusting in you. You don't need to be the man of 359 00:17:42,508 --> 00:17:46,100 the house anymore. Ladies, you get to be the wife. 360 00:17:47,900 --> 00:17:49,900 So what am I supposed to do? What you're supposed to create, 361 00:17:49,900 --> 00:17:52,500 a leadership void. And that example, anyway, create 362 00:17:52,500 --> 00:17:54,600 a leadership void for him to fill. 363 00:17:54,800 --> 00:17:57,200 What if he doesn't? Well, that's the Temptation. 364 00:17:57,200 --> 00:17:59,500 That is the fear. That's the fear that often 365 00:17:59,500 --> 00:18:02,600 times, can lead you to then your next step of trying to control 366 00:18:02,900 --> 00:18:04,900 trying to force something to happen. 367 00:18:05,300 --> 00:18:08,100 But what if he doesn't? Well you're a woman of God who 368 00:18:08,100 --> 00:18:10,000 acts at the future and we're going to see this together here 369 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:12,600 in a few minutes. You walk by faith and not by 370 00:18:12,600 --> 00:18:15,000 sight. You trust God and you dwell 371 00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:18,400 securely. You're like Sarah who honored 372 00:18:18,400 --> 00:18:21,000 her husband Abraham and you don't fear anything that is 373 00:18:21,000 --> 00:18:23,900 frightening. These are the commands to wives 374 00:18:23,900 --> 00:18:24,800 is the command. Why? 375 00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:27,300 Because the Lord knows that Temptation submission is 376 00:18:27,300 --> 00:18:29,600 difficult, headship is difficult. 377 00:18:29,600 --> 00:18:32,600 Everybody's got challenges and in their own flesh. 378 00:18:32,700 --> 00:18:34,700 There's some tations that come along with it and let the little 379 00:18:34,700 --> 00:18:36,800 and yet the Lord says you can do this. 380 00:18:37,000 --> 00:18:39,800 You can do this. Be like Sarah, who didn't fear 381 00:18:39,800 --> 00:18:42,900 anything that was frightening. Well, there's plus Sarah had a 382 00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:46,000 lot of crazy stuff happen. Her husband. 383 00:18:46,500 --> 00:18:50,800 Made a lot of stupid mistakes, really bad stuff. 384 00:18:51,200 --> 00:18:55,600 Like it's hard to hard to Fathom how Abraham made some of the 385 00:18:55,600 --> 00:18:58,800 decisions that he did. But the scripture that same 386 00:18:58,800 --> 00:19:01,700 passage and Peter says she deferred to him submitting to 387 00:19:01,708 --> 00:19:06,500 him even calling him Lord. What else are we told to do? 388 00:19:06,500 --> 00:19:09,600 What else do we see a wife? Does a wife is to not bring him 389 00:19:09,600 --> 00:19:11,200 shame. None of you want to be 390 00:19:11,200 --> 00:19:12,800 rottenness in your husband's bones. 391 00:19:13,300 --> 00:19:16,300 Why not? Because you're a life-giver It's 392 00:19:16,300 --> 00:19:19,400 the opposite of what your God designed nature is. 393 00:19:19,400 --> 00:19:22,300 And yet, it's with the flesh would still be tempted to why 394 00:19:22,500 --> 00:19:26,100 most likely most of the time. It's because of fear, oftentimes 395 00:19:26,100 --> 00:19:28,900 that fear can become a stronghold and it becomes an 396 00:19:28,900 --> 00:19:32,000 operating system for a woman. It's the operating system that 397 00:19:32,000 --> 00:19:35,000 she doesn't even know she has. It's like the person who's used 398 00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:37,500 Windows their whole life on their computer, they don't even 399 00:19:37,500 --> 00:19:39,300 know. Windows is an operating system. 400 00:19:39,600 --> 00:19:43,200 They can't fathom anything else. It's just, it's computers, 401 00:19:43,200 --> 00:19:45,200 right? Well actually, you're operating 402 00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:46,200 in a system, right? Right now. 403 00:19:46,300 --> 00:19:48,000 No, no. This is just the way things are 404 00:19:48,200 --> 00:19:52,800 maybe, but maybe not many wives have put on an operating system, 405 00:19:53,100 --> 00:19:54,700 and they don't even recognize that. 406 00:19:54,700 --> 00:19:57,400 This operating system is controlled, they don't recognize 407 00:19:57,400 --> 00:19:59,600 his operating system is, is built from a plate. 408 00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:02,200 A stronghold of fear where they're trying to, what can I 409 00:20:02,208 --> 00:20:04,000 do? How can I manipulate? 410 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:07,000 How can I, how can I use, how can I use my influence in the 411 00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:08,000 bedroom to get them? To do? 412 00:20:08,000 --> 00:20:10,300 What I want? How can I nag him enough to get 413 00:20:10,300 --> 00:20:12,600 him to go my direction? How can I get him to? 414 00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:14,900 Because they don't understand the freedom and the surrender 415 00:20:15,100 --> 00:20:18,400 and the Holy Spirit work that will happen in her husband as 416 00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:21,100 she defers to him. They haven't been told the truth 417 00:20:21,100 --> 00:20:24,400 about the power of actually being a woman because it's 418 00:20:24,400 --> 00:20:26,000 different from the power of being a man. 419 00:20:26,200 --> 00:20:28,600 Women are told to be powerful. And yet, they're told to be 420 00:20:28,600 --> 00:20:32,700 powerful by acting like a man, and it makes them miserable. 421 00:20:32,700 --> 00:20:34,900 It's a heavy burden, and it makes me miserable. 422 00:20:34,900 --> 00:20:36,600 It's rottenness in a man's bones. 423 00:20:38,100 --> 00:20:40,500 But the good news is, women are powerful. 424 00:20:40,500 --> 00:20:43,800 When they behave like women, when they act like a feminine 425 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:46,400 surrendered wife, it's a beautiful thing. 426 00:20:46,500 --> 00:20:49,100 So what you want to do is create that leadership void but you 427 00:20:49,100 --> 00:20:51,600 don't want to bring him. Shame you seek to bring him 428 00:20:51,600 --> 00:20:56,200 honor even if I don't think he's honorable especially if you 429 00:20:56,200 --> 00:21:00,000 don't think he's honorable honorable because first this is 430 00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:03,300 the will of God. But second honoring a husband 431 00:21:03,300 --> 00:21:06,600 gives him the very best chance of living up to that Crown. 432 00:21:07,500 --> 00:21:11,000 That's it. As best chance, I tell men, this 433 00:21:11,100 --> 00:21:14,100 all the time, in the counseling work that I do. 434 00:21:14,400 --> 00:21:15,900 How do I get her to? How do I get her to? 435 00:21:15,900 --> 00:21:19,300 How do I get it brother? You can't get her to, you can't, 436 00:21:19,500 --> 00:21:22,900 you lead with strength and love you leader, with compassion, 437 00:21:22,900 --> 00:21:25,700 with responsibility and an authority that shows her that 438 00:21:25,700 --> 00:21:28,000 you're doing, what you believe is best for everybody. 439 00:21:28,500 --> 00:21:29,700 That's what you're doing brother. 440 00:21:29,900 --> 00:21:33,300 What if what, if what if, hey all we can do is walk in our 441 00:21:33,300 --> 00:21:35,400 obedience. But brother, this is her best 442 00:21:35,400 --> 00:21:38,500 chance at submission. This is her As chance at 443 00:21:38,500 --> 00:21:40,300 maturity. This is our best chance at 444 00:21:40,300 --> 00:21:42,300 growth. What if she nothing is a 445 00:21:42,300 --> 00:21:44,500 guarantee. You don't get to control her. 446 00:21:44,500 --> 00:21:47,400 She gets to cast her own vote and the same thing needs to be 447 00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:49,700 said to wives, you don't get to control him. 448 00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:53,700 It is not an absolute guarantee and yet it is it is his best 449 00:21:53,700 --> 00:21:56,100 chance at Living. What if I'm this beautiful 450 00:21:56,100 --> 00:21:59,100 wonderful crown and he never, oh no, what if you walk in 451 00:21:59,100 --> 00:22:01,700 obedience to the Lord? Oh no. 452 00:22:01,700 --> 00:22:05,100 What if I do all this loving God and maturing as a woman of God 453 00:22:05,100 --> 00:22:07,700 and that in itself is its own reward. 454 00:22:07,900 --> 00:22:11,900 Sister that in itself is the blessing of God on your life and 455 00:22:11,900 --> 00:22:15,200 he is still accountable to his head and he is accountable to 456 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:17,500 his head. And that is a fearful thing. 457 00:22:17,900 --> 00:22:20,100 We'll talk about that when we talk about headship, when we 458 00:22:20,100 --> 00:22:22,000 talk about submission and next couple weeks. 459 00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:26,500 So, especially if you don't think he's honorable, especially 460 00:22:26,500 --> 00:22:28,600 if you don't think he's respectable, I've heard many 461 00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:30,800 wives over the years. I know I'm supposed to respect 462 00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:32,400 my husband, but what if he's not respectable? 463 00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:36,300 But I've never once in my entire life, had a husband asked me, I 464 00:22:36,300 --> 00:22:37,700 know I'm supposed to love my wife. 465 00:22:37,900 --> 00:22:40,800 What if she's not lovable, I just haven't heard it. 466 00:22:40,900 --> 00:22:43,400 Maybe there's some dude who said it, there probably is, but we've 467 00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:46,600 got the passage plainly written. Love your wife, respect your 468 00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:49,700 husband and husband's like, yeah, I need to, and I was like, 469 00:22:49,700 --> 00:22:53,400 but hang on now. I feel like there needs to be 470 00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:56,100 some disclaimer here. Like, well, the Lord didn't. 471 00:22:56,600 --> 00:23:00,200 So, let's continue. What does it look like to honor 472 00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:02,900 him? Do you brag on him, or do you 473 00:23:02,900 --> 00:23:05,900 mock him? Do you celebrate him or do you 474 00:23:05,900 --> 00:23:08,400 condemn him? Do you defer to him? 475 00:23:08,500 --> 00:23:12,000 Or do you oppose him? Are you crowning him, or are you 476 00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:15,900 being wrought in his bones? Scripture says in Proverbs 21 477 00:23:15,900 --> 00:23:20,000 verse 9, it is better to live in a corner of the Housetop than a 478 00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:21,700 house shared with a quarrelsome wife. 479 00:23:22,100 --> 00:23:23,800 Okay, you would think we would get the point, right? 480 00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:26,500 Well, he says it again, in 21 verse 19. 481 00:23:26,500 --> 00:23:29,500 It's better live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and 482 00:23:29,500 --> 00:23:31,400 fretful woman. Okay, we got it. 483 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:35,500 No, no, there's more 27:15. Mean, a continual dripping on a 484 00:23:35,500 --> 00:23:38,000 rainy day and of coral, some wife are alike. 485 00:23:39,100 --> 00:23:42,100 Well, I'm not quarrelsome. I just know the right way to do 486 00:23:42,100 --> 00:23:46,500 things and he doesn't, I'm not quarrelsome. 487 00:23:46,500 --> 00:23:49,100 I'm just trying to help. I'm not foolish. 488 00:23:49,100 --> 00:23:52,400 He just won't. Listen, I'm not difficult. 489 00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:54,300 He just doesn't see what needs to happen. 490 00:23:54,500 --> 00:23:58,000 I'm not always right. He just doesn't think every 491 00:23:58,000 --> 00:23:59,400 man's blood pressure is rising right now. 492 00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:02,600 As I'm here as I'm saying these things, he feels the bone, rot 493 00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:05,200 is look good. Get it out. 494 00:24:06,100 --> 00:24:09,300 So as a wife, as a woman, you have particular Temptations. 495 00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:13,100 You have particular Temptations for sins, like fear, like 496 00:24:13,100 --> 00:24:16,400 control like manipulation, like rebellion and like not being 497 00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:19,000 content. These are particular towards you 498 00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:21,500 men have sins that are particular towards them and 499 00:24:21,500 --> 00:24:23,300 we're all capable of all of them. 500 00:24:23,500 --> 00:24:26,200 And yet there are some that we're going to have a proclivity 501 00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:29,800 towards but these are sins to be shunned because there's 502 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:31,600 something beautiful to be pursued. 503 00:24:31,700 --> 00:24:34,500 Just like we talked before in Ephesians, we It off the old 504 00:24:34,500 --> 00:24:36,800 man. That's a real Temptation and yet 505 00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:38,800 we've got to put off that old man and what do we do? 506 00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:41,800 We've got to put on the new. So what does it look like to 507 00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:43,400 honor? What does it look like to bless? 508 00:24:43,700 --> 00:24:47,100 Well, honor is not a neutral thing, a crown is not a neutral 509 00:24:47,100 --> 00:24:48,700 thing. A crown is a radiant thing. 510 00:24:48,900 --> 00:24:52,700 It's powerful and it's active. The church isn't neutral. 511 00:24:52,700 --> 00:24:55,900 When it comes to the Lord Jesus, he rebukes the church and 512 00:24:55,900 --> 00:24:58,400 Revelation saying we should be hot or we should be cold, 513 00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:00,000 otherwise we're disgusting to him. 514 00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:02,700 Sounds like rottenness in his bones. 515 00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:06,400 Oh, I should not be neutral when it comes to her husband. 516 00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:10,300 She should actively seek his good and the good of his 517 00:25:10,300 --> 00:25:13,200 household. No Godly wife. 518 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:14,800 Like we said, wants to be riding his bones. 519 00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:16,500 Why? Because you are a life-giver, 520 00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:18,900 it's What You're Made For That is your true identity. 521 00:25:18,900 --> 00:25:20,800 You go huh? There's a freedom there, there's 522 00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:23,700 a blessing there. There is an utter relief to the 523 00:25:23,700 --> 00:25:26,800 surrender of a wife. So, what does this look like? 524 00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:30,600 It looks like encouraging him. No husband has ever complained 525 00:25:30,600 --> 00:25:34,100 of being over encouraged. I don't think any wife has ever 526 00:25:34,100 --> 00:25:36,400 either. No, man is ever said, my wife. 527 00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:39,000 Builds me up too much, but would a man. 528 00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:42,300 Want men want to be impressive. We want to impress. 529 00:25:42,300 --> 00:25:46,600 You be impressed, find a way to be impressed. 530 00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:48,200 Well, I wish he would. I know. 531 00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:51,000 I know you wish, and I know you've got standards and I know 532 00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:53,900 you've got expectations, but be impressed with what he's given. 533 00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:57,400 He wants to give you more, he loves you, he probably feels 534 00:25:57,400 --> 00:26:00,200 condemnation and guilt and weight that he hasn't been able 535 00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:02,500 to do more yet, and he thinks he should be farther. 536 00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:04,400 Along. He feels all these things. 537 00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:06,100 All the men are thinking. Yeah. 538 00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:08,200 Of course. She's thinking yeah but I just 539 00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:11,100 wish I would just be happy when be happy now. 540 00:26:11,900 --> 00:26:16,800 Be content be pleased, be impressed, be blessed. 541 00:26:17,100 --> 00:26:19,400 We love to give to you. We want to give to you. 542 00:26:19,500 --> 00:26:22,000 We want to give you the whole wide world. 543 00:26:24,300 --> 00:26:26,100 So be thankful, be an encourager. 544 00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:32,700 Find Opportunities find ways to learn how to be impressed with 545 00:26:32,700 --> 00:26:35,300 him admire him. This is one way that you bring 546 00:26:35,300 --> 00:26:39,700 him life, a discouraged. Husband many, a discouraged 547 00:26:39,700 --> 00:26:43,200 husband has been resurrected by the words of a kind and faithful 548 00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:45,900 wife. You're looking at one of them, 549 00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:51,300 not gonna cry. Gordon, cried, I'm not going to 550 00:26:51,308 --> 00:26:53,300 cry even though I'm tempted to cry. 551 00:26:54,100 --> 00:26:55,500 So, I can't tell any stories right now. 552 00:26:55,900 --> 00:26:58,900 Many of discouraged husband can be resurrected by the words of a 553 00:26:58,908 --> 00:27:02,500 kind and faithful wife if that's not power. 554 00:27:02,500 --> 00:27:07,300 I don't know what is that's more powerful than a corner office. 555 00:27:12,900 --> 00:27:16,100 Let's turn to Proverbs chapter 31. 556 00:27:30,100 --> 00:27:33,400 The beautiful picture of the High Calling, one of the 557 00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:35,400 greatest things, it's one of my greatest Joys. 558 00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:37,400 One of the things that lights me up the most when I'm doing the 559 00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:40,400 coaching is when I'm just trying to get across to guys, the 560 00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:44,800 bigness in the high calling and the Majesty of being the captain 561 00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:48,500 of their ship with the family Captain as we call it, and it 562 00:27:48,500 --> 00:27:51,100 all that goes into the leadership and the pleasure that 563 00:27:51,100 --> 00:27:52,600 they're going to experience because that's the thing they 564 00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:54,500 don't yet know. They've only been told that it's 565 00:27:54,500 --> 00:27:56,100 a burden. And they're only thinking about 566 00:27:56,100 --> 00:27:58,400 it as a checklist, like, I got a clock in at work. 567 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,500 I got a clock in with my wife. I got a clock in with the kids. 568 00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:03,200 Everybody wants a piece of me. And so it's this perspective 569 00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:05,700 where this guy is like living life as an employee of 570 00:28:05,700 --> 00:28:09,200 everything and everybody and said of the captain or the king 571 00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:12,500 of it all and enjoying the pleasure of rulership and 572 00:28:12,500 --> 00:28:15,100 recognizing that he gets to cultivate and create good fruit 573 00:28:15,100 --> 00:28:18,200 and all of it, and it's a switch and when he gets it, everything 574 00:28:18,200 --> 00:28:20,500 becomes exciting. I love talking a wives, in the 575 00:28:20,500 --> 00:28:23,500 same way to say, you've been lied to, and there's so much 576 00:28:23,500 --> 00:28:27,400 Beauty pleasure, and reward. ORD available to you, as you're 577 00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:30,600 able to embrace this here. So here in Proverbs, we've had 578 00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:35,400 letters from a father to his son, and we've continued to get 579 00:28:35,400 --> 00:28:38,800 words of the king here in Proverbs 31. 580 00:28:38,800 --> 00:28:42,600 The words of King Lemuel and Oracle that his mother taught 581 00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:45,200 him. So this was actually taught to a 582 00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:48,300 King by his mother and now of course he's continuing to pass 583 00:28:48,300 --> 00:28:52,200 this on to his son were in Proverbs, 31 verses 10 through 584 00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:55,700 30, one is what will read the woman who fears Here's the Lord, 585 00:28:55,700 --> 00:28:59,600 is the heading but verse 10 reads, and excellent wife, who 586 00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:04,200 can find she is far more precious than Jewels. 587 00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:07,100 So, I'm what am I just a crown? I'm just decorations. 588 00:29:07,100 --> 00:29:09,800 No, it's just a comparison. You're worth far more than 589 00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:11,500 rubies. You're worth far more than 590 00:29:11,500 --> 00:29:13,000 Jewels. You're worth far more than 591 00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:15,600 precious metals. You're worth far more than just 592 00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:17,500 your physical Beauty, although you are physically. 593 00:29:17,500 --> 00:29:20,600 Beautiful And that's a good thing and it's not to be 594 00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:25,000 apologize for or hidden away. What else do we know about her? 595 00:29:25,200 --> 00:29:29,800 The heart of her husband trusts in her and he will have no lack 596 00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:34,000 of gain. Wow, richness Life, Health. 597 00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:38,300 In this man's life, she does him good and not harm all the days 598 00:29:38,300 --> 00:29:41,600 of her life. She seeks wool and flax and 599 00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:44,800 works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the 600 00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:47,000 merchant. She brings her food from afar 601 00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:50,300 she Rises while it is yet. Night and provides food for her 602 00:29:50,300 --> 00:29:52,700 household and portions for her maidens. 603 00:29:52,700 --> 00:29:56,000 For her servants. She considers a field and she 604 00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:58,800 buys it very oppressed woman here, right? 605 00:29:58,900 --> 00:30:00,800 She is considering property and buying it. 606 00:30:01,300 --> 00:30:03,400 Yeah, not that. Not the narrative that we would 607 00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:06,000 hear in the modern day. Why? 608 00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:07,500 Because the heart of her husband, trusts her. 609 00:30:07,500 --> 00:30:09,200 Why? Because she's such a faithful 610 00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:12,200 and trustworthy Crown. She's so obviously supportive 611 00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:13,800 and doing good for his household. 612 00:30:14,700 --> 00:30:17,700 With the fruit of her hands, she plants a Vineyard. 613 00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:21,200 She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms 614 00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:23,100 strong. She perceives that her 615 00:30:23,108 --> 00:30:26,100 merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at 616 00:30:26,100 --> 00:30:28,200 night. She puts her hands to the 617 00:30:28,200 --> 00:30:31,300 distaff in her hands to hold the spindle. 618 00:30:31,800 --> 00:30:35,000 She opens her hand up to the poor and reaches out her hands 619 00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:37,600 to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for 620 00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:41,600 her household for all her household are closed in Scarlet. 621 00:30:41,700 --> 00:30:43,800 Her whole household is wearing designer clothing. 622 00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:49,500 Not to make a fashion statement but because of her diligent work 623 00:30:49,500 --> 00:30:52,300 and wealth that she has contributed to her household. 624 00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:54,800 She makes bed coverings for herself. 625 00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:57,300 Her clothing is fine, linen and purple. 626 00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:01,000 Her husband is known in the gates and when he sits among the 627 00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:04,500 Elders of the land, she makes linen garments and sells them. 628 00:31:04,700 --> 00:31:06,800 She delivers sashes to the merchant. 629 00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:13,000 Strength and dignity or her clothing and she laughs at the 630 00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:16,800 time to come. This is like Sarah, not fearing 631 00:31:16,800 --> 00:31:18,700 anything that is frightening. What about? 632 00:31:18,700 --> 00:31:20,200 I laugh? At the days to come says The 633 00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:22,400 Godly woman, says The Godly wife. 634 00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:24,400 Why? Because I have a heavenly 635 00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:27,300 father, I trust him. And, as I walk in obedience to 636 00:31:27,300 --> 00:31:30,600 him, he cares for me. She opens her mouth with wisdom 637 00:31:30,700 --> 00:31:33,300 and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. 638 00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:37,800 She Looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat 639 00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:40,600 the bread of idleness. Her children, rise up, and call 640 00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:43,400 her blessed. Her husband also, and he Praises 641 00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:46,000 her many women have done excellently. 642 00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:50,400 He says, but you surpass them all charm. 643 00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:53,700 Is deceitful, and beauty is fleeting or beauty is vain. 644 00:31:54,100 --> 00:31:57,500 But a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. 645 00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:00,600 Give her the fruit of her hands and let her works. 646 00:32:00,600 --> 00:32:03,000 Praise her in the gates. Hallelujah. 647 00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:05,600 As exactly what Gordon was doing with Linda earlier. 648 00:32:06,100 --> 00:32:08,700 Let the work let the work that she's done the fruit speaks for 649 00:32:08,700 --> 00:32:10,600 itself Of. Look at her husband. 650 00:32:11,300 --> 00:32:14,500 Look at her husband in the same way I can say to a I can say, 651 00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:16,600 let me look at your wife and that'll tell me how yours a 652 00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:18,400 husband and say look at the husband! 653 00:32:18,500 --> 00:32:21,800 That'll tell me some. Does he live on the rooftop that 654 00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:24,500 communicates something that does he like wandering in the desert 655 00:32:24,500 --> 00:32:27,600 for long stretches of time? That might communicate 656 00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:32,500 something? But this Godly wife, what a rich 657 00:32:32,500 --> 00:32:36,300 rich blessing. She brings turn to Titus Chapter 658 00:32:36,300 --> 00:32:38,600 2 over to the New Testament again. 659 00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:53,200 Titus 2 verse 3. We got another set of household 660 00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:57,200 codes here in the New Testament, more instruction, more 661 00:32:57,200 --> 00:32:58,800 breakdown. Just a lot of the repeating 662 00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:00,400 stuff. Husbands are always told the 663 00:33:00,500 --> 00:33:03,200 love wives are always told to submit and respect. 664 00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:08,800 And the connection is always made so that the Lord gets glory 665 00:33:09,100 --> 00:33:13,000 and so that the word of God doesn't suffer blasphemy, or 666 00:33:13,000 --> 00:33:16,800 rebuke Titus Chapter 2. So you're going to find First 667 00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:19,200 Timothy, second, Timothy and Titus. 668 00:33:24,600 --> 00:33:30,400 Titus 2 verse 3. Older women likewise are to be 669 00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:34,100 reverent and behavior, not slanderers or slaves, too much 670 00:33:34,100 --> 00:33:37,200 wine. They are to teach what is good 671 00:33:37,300 --> 00:33:40,700 and so train, the young women. So what are you supposed to do 672 00:33:40,700 --> 00:33:42,500 as an older man? You're supposed to train the 673 00:33:42,500 --> 00:33:44,000 younger men. What are you supposed to do as 674 00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:45,500 an older woman? You're supposed to train the 675 00:33:45,500 --> 00:33:48,800 younger women and what exactly are you supposed to train them 676 00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:51,000 in? If you're a woman older, women 677 00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:53,500 are to train the younger women to love their husbands and 678 00:33:53,500 --> 00:33:57,100 children to be self-controlled and pure working at home. 679 00:33:57,200 --> 00:34:00,800 Home, kind and submissive to their own husbands, why? 680 00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:03,600 So that the word of God may not be revealed. 681 00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:07,100 This is profound. So we see when we combine 682 00:34:07,100 --> 00:34:10,300 proverbs 31, the very specific, the very practical. 683 00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:13,400 When we combine Titus to the very specific, the very 684 00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:15,900 practical. We get this detailed instruction 685 00:34:15,900 --> 00:34:19,000 to Christian wives. What are they supposed to be? 686 00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:22,000 What we see this woman is a reverent woman as opposed to 687 00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:25,500 what as opposed to a loud woman as opposed to a foolish woman, 688 00:34:26,300 --> 00:34:29,100 she's not into the Momi wine culture of Instagram. 689 00:34:30,300 --> 00:34:34,000 She's a sober woman and she wear his dignity and strength as her 690 00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:37,800 clothing. She's not a busybody, she's not 691 00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:41,600 a gossip, she loves her husband, and she loves her children. 692 00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:45,000 She self-controlled. And therefore she's trusted by 693 00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:47,800 her husband. She submissive to her husband 694 00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:52,199 and she's kind to him. She's diligent and she's not 695 00:34:52,199 --> 00:34:55,600 lazy. She's a producer and she's not a 696 00:34:55,608 --> 00:34:57,400 consumer. What else? 697 00:34:57,400 --> 00:35:00,900 Is she she is not afraid. Praise God. 698 00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:03,400 What a creature. What a crown. 699 00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:07,200 What a woman. This is the kind of woman that 700 00:35:07,500 --> 00:35:10,700 the speaker of the writer of Proverbs there was saying, son, 701 00:35:10,700 --> 00:35:13,900 this is what you're looking for. You read Proverbs all throughout 702 00:35:13,900 --> 00:35:17,000 lady wisdom and the foolish woman are compared and 703 00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:20,000 contrasted over and over again. Run away from this. 704 00:35:20,500 --> 00:35:23,000 This is what you're looking for, run away from this. 705 00:35:23,100 --> 00:35:26,100 This is what you're looking for. But of course, he says an 706 00:35:26,100 --> 00:35:31,600 excellent wife, who can find Let it not be said, and the Church 707 00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:35,300 of Jesus, that we who can find a great husband, who loves this 708 00:35:35,300 --> 00:35:38,000 way, who can find a great wife, who loves this way, will he need 709 00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:39,800 to be in a church. That's where you're going to 710 00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:40,900 find a husband. That's where you're going to 711 00:35:40,908 --> 00:35:43,600 find a wife. Because the standards of the 712 00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:46,900 church represent, Jesus, and the church, we're always 713 00:35:46,900 --> 00:35:49,400 representing who he is and what he's done. 714 00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:53,400 And what his will is, the obvious theme Here, is that a 715 00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:57,500 good wife builds up, she blesses, she supports her 716 00:35:57,500 --> 00:36:00,600 husband and her household does the cliff notes. 717 00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:04,700 That's the short version. Proverbs 14 one says a wise 718 00:36:04,700 --> 00:36:07,700 woman, builds her home but a foolish woman. 719 00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:09,500 Tears, it down with her own hands. 720 00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:14,500 I'm not tearing it down. I'm just Is our temptation, but 721 00:36:14,500 --> 00:36:17,800 the good news ladies is women have power and their design. 722 00:36:19,100 --> 00:36:22,900 In their role as Helper and a Godly wife, like I said, is a 723 00:36:22,900 --> 00:36:26,000 force multiplier. So Force, multiplier is used a 724 00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:28,200 lot of times whenever you're thinking about combat, or 725 00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:31,000 conflict man-on-man fist on fist. 726 00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:32,700 All right. We, it's just you versus me. 727 00:36:32,700 --> 00:36:34,500 We'll see what happens. You put on a baseball bat. 728 00:36:34,500 --> 00:36:36,100 All right. That's a force multiplier. 729 00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:38,000 You just change the rules of the game. 730 00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:41,300 More can be accomplished now than could have been before. 731 00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:44,100 Okay, you pull out a firearm. Alright, that is another, that's 732 00:36:44,100 --> 00:36:47,400 a, the epitome of a force multiplier. 733 00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:50,400 So, that now, Allah, More can be accomplished than could be 734 00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:52,500 accomplished before. This is what a wife is. 735 00:36:52,700 --> 00:36:55,100 A Godly wife, is a force multiplier for the life of her 736 00:36:55,100 --> 00:36:59,100 husband, to say, I can bless. I can expand, I can do more. 737 00:36:59,200 --> 00:37:02,100 I'm going to help this man, but I'm not going to do it by being 738 00:37:02,100 --> 00:37:03,900 his mother. I'm going to do it by being his 739 00:37:03,900 --> 00:37:08,900 wife. She makes a man more than he 740 00:37:08,900 --> 00:37:13,200 was, she makes a home more than it was she makes life more than 741 00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:15,900 it was. And with her beautiful obedience 742 00:37:16,000 --> 00:37:19,700 she shows the world and the church, how to follow and 743 00:37:19,700 --> 00:37:23,700 glorify our great God and Savior Jesus because she is always 744 00:37:23,700 --> 00:37:25,800 showing everybody. This is what it looks like. 745 00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:28,300 This is what it looks like, husband gets to say, here's how 746 00:37:28,300 --> 00:37:30,700 Jesus loves the church and wife says, here's how the church 747 00:37:30,700 --> 00:37:32,500 response to the Lord Jesus Christ. 748 00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:35,800 We're all preaching these marriages is good in his riches, 749 00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:40,000 they can and should be They're going to come to an end and they 750 00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:43,400 were always pointing to the perfect marriage of Christ and 751 00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:46,400 his bride. Hallelujah, it's good to be a 752 00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:49,100 wife, ladies. If you're a wife, it's good to 753 00:37:49,100 --> 00:37:52,600 be a wife. Enjoy your role walk in it, 754 00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:57,600 fully repent when necessary and continue to glorify God as you 755 00:37:57,600 --> 00:38:00,000 obey his word towards your husband, Heavenly Father. 756 00:38:00,300 --> 00:38:02,300 We thank you so much for your ways that are perfect. 757 00:38:02,300 --> 00:38:05,000 Your ways that are true. We thank you for the right side 758 00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:06,900 up Kingdom in this upside down World. 759 00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:09,400 Continue to establish your will and your way. 760 00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:13,100 God, make the marriages in this church continued to thrive as 761 00:38:13,100 --> 00:38:15,600 husband's Love Like Jesus as wives. 762 00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:19,208 Submit like the church. And as everybody wins, this is a 763 00:38:19,216 --> 00:38:21,900 win-win scenarios. Where we get to preach the 764 00:38:21,900 --> 00:38:25,100 gospel with our actions. In addition, to our words, I 765 00:38:25,100 --> 00:38:27,200 plead the blood of Jesus over these households. 766 00:38:27,300 --> 00:38:31,300 Over these marriages And over the loved ones that were 767 00:38:31,300 --> 00:38:34,400 thinking about the ones that we want to bless the ones that were 768 00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:38,600 responsible for educating and training, the ones who we want 769 00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:41,300 influence in their lives, for the marriages that we have in 770 00:38:41,300 --> 00:38:44,500 mind right now, who we know are missing out on your very best 771 00:38:44,900 --> 00:38:46,300 God. We lift them up to you right 772 00:38:46,300 --> 00:38:47,800 now. And we ask that you would bring 773 00:38:47,800 --> 00:38:51,300 a Revival in our households. Start with us, get the log out 774 00:38:51,300 --> 00:38:54,100 of our own eye. Help us to walk in obedience to 775 00:38:54,100 --> 00:38:56,600 you. Help us to glorify your name and 776 00:38:56,600 --> 00:38:58,900 please you and all that we do. We love you. 777 00:38:58,900 --> 00:39:01,400 Lord. We thank you for helping us in 778 00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:06,200 Jesus name and now the Lord bless you and keep you the Lord, 779 00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:08,900 make his face shine down upon you and be gracious to you. 780 00:39:09,500 --> 00:39:12,300 The Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you great. 781 00:39:12,300 --> 00:39:15,200 Peace in Jesus name. Amen. 782 00:38:55,300 --> 00:38:57,900 Help us to glorify your name and please you and all that we do. 783 00:38:58,300 --> 00:38:59,400 We love you. Lord. 784 00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:04,000 We thank you for helping us in Jesus name and now the Lord 785 00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:07,600 bless you and keep you the Lord, make his face shine down upon 786 00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:10,800 you and be gracious to you. The Lord lift up his countenance 787 00:39:10,800 --> 00:39:14,300 upon you and give you great. Peace in Jesus name. 788 00:39:14,700 --> 00:39:15,200 Amen.