1 00:00:05,120 --> 00:00:08,039 Well, good morning North Live. Thank you for coming out this 2 00:00:08,039 --> 00:00:10,800 morning. If you're new to North Live, we 3 00:00:10,800 --> 00:00:14,280 want to just welcome you. My name is Jace and I'm jumping 4 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:18,560 in for my husband Kurt, who fell and hurt his arms. 5 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:21,440 So we were coming back from Texas. 6 00:00:21,440 --> 00:00:24,960 And so last night he basically let me know that I needed to 7 00:00:24,960 --> 00:00:28,920 teach today. OK, I, I, I, we pulled it 8 00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:32,040 together, the Holy Spirit and I, and it's OK. 9 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:35,560 So it's going to be OK. But listen, we literally pulled 10 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:38,840 up here at 8:00 AM this morning. This is my traveling outfit. 11 00:00:38,840 --> 00:00:41,560 Thank you. And so this is how much we love 12 00:00:41,560 --> 00:00:43,520 y'all because. We got, you know, we wanted to 13 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:45,520 be. Here we made it happen, but. 14 00:00:45,520 --> 00:00:47,920 Pray for. Kurt, he's in a lot of pain. 15 00:00:48,480 --> 00:00:51,080 He really hurt himself. And the funniest thing is it was 16 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:55,080 the last day in Texas and of all places to fall on ice. 17 00:00:55,080 --> 00:00:56,120 Texas. I'm like. 18 00:00:56,120 --> 00:00:59,360 Really. Kurt so sad, he's in a sling, he 19 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:02,000 can't use his arm. Like it's really sad. 20 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:05,480 So just pray for him for quick recovery because he really is 21 00:01:05,480 --> 00:01:08,800 missing being here this morning. OK, well, let me pray for us 22 00:01:08,800 --> 00:01:11,840 before we dive into it. And you know, as I was praying 23 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:14,880 about God, what do I put together for tomorrow? 24 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:18,720 In these few hours, I felt like God really laid on my heart to 25 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:21,760 speak on parenting. And I think we're going to be 26 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:24,240 talking about parenting. We're going to touch a little 27 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:28,600 bit on each season of parenting. It should be good, but I let's 28 00:01:28,600 --> 00:01:30,560 pray. Let's pray and ask the Father to 29 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:34,080 help us navigate through this. Father, thank you so much that 30 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:38,480 you are the best parent in this whole world and in the whole 31 00:01:38,480 --> 00:01:41,760 Galaxy and universe. God, you are so good. 32 00:01:41,760 --> 00:01:44,960 And we just pray God that you would just relate your heart to 33 00:01:44,960 --> 00:01:47,880 us this morning. God help us to become more like 34 00:01:47,880 --> 00:01:51,520 you, God, and to learn how to love our children the way you 35 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:53,880 love. US Father, the way you have 36 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:58,000 patience for us, the way you teach us God and bring us up. 37 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:03,040 Lord, we pray for just an anointing, a fresh anointing on 38 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:06,320 us as parents this morning. God anoint this message. 39 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:09,680 Holy Spirit, come take your liberty and teach us. 40 00:02:09,960 --> 00:02:13,800 In Jesus name we pray, Amen. OK, well, I. 41 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:17,120 Just want to start by. Saying that, I'm not speaking on 42 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:20,600 parenting up. Here because I figured this out. 43 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:24,840 OK, I am. Speaking on parenting from a 44 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:30,840 place of a lot of failure, OK, and just letting you know that 45 00:02:31,200 --> 00:02:34,520 God is with us through it all. As we are learning, you know, a 46 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:39,160 lot of us didn't have great parents to help us or not great 47 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:42,320 parents, but godly parents to help us navigate to what it 48 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:45,200 might look like to raise children that are Christ 49 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:48,320 centered, right? And so we're going to be leaning 50 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:51,000 into the Holy Spirit. If you're at all like me, that 51 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:52,520 has been my journey is to say God. 52 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:55,920 Teach me how to be a parent because I don't have a clue what 53 00:02:55,920 --> 00:02:58,960 I'm doing. So I want you to know that that 54 00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:01,720 I'm not coming from a place of. I got this figured out. 55 00:03:01,720 --> 00:03:03,080 I'm the most. Amazing parents. 56 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:05,360 I'm here teaching. No, not at all. 57 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:10,680 And I want to remind you of something parents did you know 58 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:13,560 that your children are born little butt heads? 59 00:03:14,560 --> 00:03:15,760 Did you? Did you? 60 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:19,760 Know that when they're born, they're not saved yet. 61 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:22,960 It's so funny because the second they can. 62 00:03:22,960 --> 00:03:27,160 Crawl you can. Figure it out pretty fast that 63 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:30,920 they're pretty self-centered and selfish little cutie patooties. 64 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:35,280 And you know, and, and so God is helping us, the whole goal. 65 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:36,920 Here's, here's some of the goals. 66 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:39,920 Guys, Let me read this to you. Well, no, let me wait for that. 67 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:44,120 It's, it's funny because it's the second, like even my 68 00:03:44,120 --> 00:03:45,960 grandkids, right? And I'm going to mention them 69 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:49,000 quite a bit today because, you know, I raised a kid who's 30 70 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:51,160 years old, but these are. Brand new. 71 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:52,720 Fresh. Baked ones, right? 72 00:03:53,000 --> 00:03:56,600 So we're kind of relearning things all over again, and we're 73 00:03:56,600 --> 00:03:59,120 learning new things that I didn't know. 74 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:01,320 So it's kind of fun, but it's so funny. 75 00:04:01,320 --> 00:04:03,680 Because, you know, Ezra is barely two years old. 76 00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:06,640 And there's no way in heck he wants to share. 77 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:10,240 There's no way in heck that he wants to obey or listen. 78 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:13,840 And so it's just funny to watch them like live their little 79 00:04:13,840 --> 00:04:17,800 lives in their little flesh. And, and just and just know that 80 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:21,600 God has entrusted us with these beautiful lives to help them to 81 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:24,880 navigate them towards the heart of the Father. 82 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:28,480 And you know. With that said, I want to say 83 00:04:28,480 --> 00:04:34,880 two things. The world hates children so much 84 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:37,560 so that they literally want to kill them while they're still in 85 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:41,480 our womb. The world hurts children. 86 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:46,200 There is a lot of settings that the things that we see nowadays 87 00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:51,600 of children being abandoned, of children being harmed and God is 88 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:53,400 very. Clear how he feels. 89 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:56,720 About that, he says it's better for you to wrap our thing around 90 00:04:56,720 --> 00:04:58,400 your neck. Go kill yourself, OK? 91 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:01,120 Go go jump. Take yourself out before you 92 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:05,000 hurt. One of these little ones God has 93 00:05:05,240 --> 00:05:08,800 made, He's protective of his children and he has made us to 94 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:12,800 be protective of his children. But God loves children and 95 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:18,800 children church are a gift from God, OK, In our lives, we are to 96 00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:22,360 steward them. We are to help them to grow in 97 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:24,680 the Lord. Let's look at. 98 00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:28,240 Psalms 127 three where the Bible says it says behold. 99 00:05:28,720 --> 00:05:32,480 The children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the. 100 00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:38,560 Womb a reward, and I want to say that's true for the planned and 101 00:05:38,560 --> 00:05:44,840 the unplanned children. No child, regardless of how life 102 00:05:44,840 --> 00:05:51,320 has become to be is a mistake because God knew our stories 103 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:55,560 before He ever actually knit us together physically in our 104 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:57,760 mother's womb. He knew us. 105 00:05:57,760 --> 00:05:59,520 Stories He called us for purpose. 106 00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:03,880 He made us for eternity. He made us to love him, to know 107 00:06:03,880 --> 00:06:07,560 him and to be with him, to dwell with him, not just on this 108 00:06:07,560 --> 00:06:11,040 earth, but eternally. We are his. 109 00:06:11,680 --> 00:06:15,000 And I love that idea, you know, And it took me a minute as a 110 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:20,000 brand new mom to realize that my child, my children are not mine. 111 00:06:21,680 --> 00:06:26,280 God has entrusted your children to you, trusting you to raise 112 00:06:26,280 --> 00:06:31,000 them and to point them towards Him and to give them back to 113 00:06:31,040 --> 00:06:34,160 Him. And what a beautiful gift not 114 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:36,640 only that children are, but that we get. 115 00:06:37,480 --> 00:06:41,280 To play such an amazing part. I mean, think about it like God 116 00:06:41,280 --> 00:06:43,360 could have been like, and we would have never known the 117 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:45,880 difference. Like, you know, I mean, what's 118 00:06:45,880 --> 00:06:48,840 normal now is that they grow in our bellies and then we give 119 00:06:48,840 --> 00:06:51,600 them birth. But how, how many of you, OK 120 00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:54,200 guys, you're going to think I'm weird, but like how many of you 121 00:06:54,200 --> 00:06:56,600 have all these alternate thoughts that you think things 122 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:58,080 through? Like what if we didn't have 123 00:06:58,080 --> 00:07:00,520 noses that would look normal then or. 124 00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:04,160 You know what if babies were born in cocoons and God, you 125 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:08,840 could have done that. Somebody reminded me recently 126 00:07:08,840 --> 00:07:12,800 that even when your child is 3040 fifty years old, their DNA 127 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:14,040 still lives inside of. You. 128 00:07:14,760 --> 00:07:19,000 As a mother, like there's this connection that never goes away. 129 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:22,120 It's a whole next level and I think God. 130 00:07:22,120 --> 00:07:23,600 Did that on purpose. Right. 131 00:07:23,720 --> 00:07:26,160 How many of you have this like? Supernatural intuition. 132 00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:30,400 Something is off with your kid. Went yeah, exactly right. 133 00:07:30,400 --> 00:07:34,600 I had a few of those phone calls with Jasmine when she was a 134 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:37,880 teenager and it was 12 the clock and she was supposed to be with 135 00:07:37,880 --> 00:07:40,160 her dad and I'll be calling. I'm like, girlfriend, where you 136 00:07:40,320 --> 00:07:41,520 at? What you doing, girl? 137 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:46,960 Why do I feel this flag? And she's like, oh, Mama, Hey, 138 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:49,200 Mama. OK, I'm going to leave this 139 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:52,960 party. Right now I'm like, you are so 140 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:57,640 God has given us great intuition to help our children and guide 141 00:07:57,640 --> 00:07:59,880 them well. OK, here's the goal. 142 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:02,320 Of being a parent. Let's just simplify this today. 143 00:08:02,320 --> 00:08:04,560 Can we do that? Number one? 144 00:08:04,800 --> 00:08:09,280 Keep them alive, people. That's the number one goal. 145 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:12,680 OK, I don't know about you, but when I brought Jasmine home. 146 00:08:14,120 --> 00:08:16,600 I really do hate to say this because I don't want you to hate 147 00:08:16,600 --> 00:08:18,840 me, but she did. Sleep the first night all the 148 00:08:18,840 --> 00:08:21,160 way through the night. She did. 149 00:08:21,160 --> 00:08:22,840 It's weird. She loves to. 150 00:08:22,840 --> 00:08:25,720 Sleep like even my grandkids, they will sleep for our naps. 151 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:29,760 Man, it's crazy. So she got home, but I didn't 152 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:30,880 sleep. Why? 153 00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:32,640 Because I was like, are you alive? 154 00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:34,840 Are you breathing? Like we need to do this here. 155 00:08:35,159 --> 00:08:37,880 Make sure the air is coming out every hour. 156 00:08:37,880 --> 00:08:39,600 So I'm like, are you alive? Are you breathing like? 157 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:42,120 Because she didn't wake up. And honestly? 158 00:08:42,120 --> 00:08:44,560 Guys, when I think. Back of the time, I'm amazed she 159 00:08:44,560 --> 00:08:47,200 survived because you know how you're not supposed to have 160 00:08:47,200 --> 00:08:49,360 anything in like the cribs and stuff like that? 161 00:08:49,360 --> 00:08:51,880 We didn't know that Gen. X over here. 162 00:08:52,240 --> 00:08:55,720 Like I had five blankets on her. Filled with bears. 163 00:08:55,960 --> 00:08:59,920 I mean, I'm like, Lord, what a miracle that you survived my 164 00:08:59,920 --> 00:09:02,840 child through all of that. So for those who have babies, 165 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:04,360 you know, you're not supposed to do that. 166 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:06,520 They suffocate. OK, so. 167 00:09:07,240 --> 00:09:09,560 Number one, keep them alive. They're going to climb, they're 168 00:09:09,560 --> 00:09:11,560 going to go crazy, especially when they're toddlers. 169 00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:16,280 Just keep them alive, people. And then number. 2 Is this Help 170 00:09:16,280 --> 00:09:20,480 them see how much God loves them. 171 00:09:21,320 --> 00:09:25,480 Help them teach them to see that God loves them. 172 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:30,920 Remember, they're not saved yet. There's a story of Samuel when 173 00:09:30,920 --> 00:09:32,640 he was serving. Is it Elijah? 174 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:34,040 No. What is what? 175 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:36,120 What is the guy's name that he was serving under? 176 00:09:37,240 --> 00:09:40,880 Eli, thank you, Pastor Bob. Like when he was serving under 177 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:43,000 Eli and the Bible. Talks about this. 178 00:09:43,000 --> 00:09:44,760 I did have a scripture but I don't know what happened. 179 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:49,000 Oh, there it is now. The boy Samuel was ministering 180 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:52,320 to the Lord in the presence of Eli, and the word of the Lord 181 00:09:52,320 --> 00:09:54,600 was rare in those days. There was no freaking. 182 00:09:54,640 --> 00:09:56,040 Vision and isn't there another one? 183 00:09:56,040 --> 00:09:57,400 Isn't there like a three seven as well? 184 00:09:57,640 --> 00:10:03,080 Now Samuel did not yet know the Lord, and the word of the Lord 185 00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:05,000 had not yet been. Revealed to him. 186 00:10:05,240 --> 00:10:07,680 Isn't that something? Here is a little. 187 00:10:07,680 --> 00:10:10,880 Boy who's not saved yet, He's serving in the House of the 188 00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:13,200 Lord, right? God has not. 189 00:10:13,200 --> 00:10:16,400 Revealed himself yet to him and so often I feel like. 190 00:10:16,640 --> 00:10:18,200 That's the truth with our. Kids. 191 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:22,040 Just know that everything that they're learning from you, 192 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:25,560 everything that they're doing. There is a purpose for that and 193 00:10:25,560 --> 00:10:28,280 the goal is for them to know God. 194 00:10:28,560 --> 00:10:32,320 OK and then the last one I want to say this, so help them, OK, 195 00:10:32,360 --> 00:10:35,760 keep them alive, help them see how God loves them, help them 196 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:41,320 fall in love with God, OK. And the third one is help them 197 00:10:41,320 --> 00:10:46,320 walk in their God-given purpose for their lives and that. 198 00:10:46,400 --> 00:10:49,200 You know, it's so funny because I feel like if you know your 199 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:51,240 children, you. Kind of already see where their 200 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:53,200 giftings are. I mean not. 201 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:55,040 Pull on do. You agree with that? 202 00:10:55,280 --> 00:10:57,320 You. See if they have a desire for 203 00:10:57,320 --> 00:11:00,320 this area or that area. You you just know how the 204 00:11:00,320 --> 00:11:04,280 Goddess even early on you can already see where their 205 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:06,880 interests. Are and what God might have for 206 00:11:06,880 --> 00:11:10,200 them one day. And as we're still in toddler 207 00:11:10,200 --> 00:11:13,120 years here, I want to just say this to you toddler parents. 208 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:16,200 Good job. Good. 209 00:11:16,200 --> 00:11:19,840 Job of hanging in there with your babies and your toddlers it 210 00:11:19,840 --> 00:11:22,080 is look. I've forgotten how much work 211 00:11:22,080 --> 00:11:25,480 that is. It might be maybe the most 212 00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:29,120 challenging years possibly in a childhood I think. 213 00:11:29,120 --> 00:11:31,960 Would you guys agree with that? Dose that had toddlers doesn't 214 00:11:31,960 --> 00:11:33,760 make it easier the older they get. 215 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:39,520 Thinks, thinks does it till they're teenagers and then 216 00:11:39,520 --> 00:11:43,880 things shift again a little bit. OK, But I feel like toddlers 217 00:11:43,880 --> 00:11:47,520 especially, there's so much patience required. 218 00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:49,840 There's so much love required. There's so much. 219 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:53,960 Even discipline required. And we're going to touch on that 220 00:11:53,960 --> 00:11:57,520 just a little bit, but fold those parents with little babies 221 00:11:57,520 --> 00:11:59,960 and little tardos. I mean, when, when I get to 222 00:11:59,960 --> 00:12:02,560 Texas, let's say this is the child. 223 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:07,560 It's literally my, my, my kids are like at the door, like hi 224 00:12:07,640 --> 00:12:09,120 here. OK, we're out. 225 00:12:09,920 --> 00:12:11,960 They're tired, they're exhausted. 226 00:12:12,200 --> 00:12:14,640 They're ready for me to come in and do the laundry and take care 227 00:12:14,640 --> 00:12:17,200 of the babies because it's a lot of work. 228 00:12:17,960 --> 00:12:20,520 And you know, one thing that I appreciate on a whole next level 229 00:12:20,520 --> 00:12:22,600 is I only had one child to raise. 230 00:12:23,080 --> 00:12:25,680 Having multiple children. Whoa, that's a whole nother 231 00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:27,360 thing. OK. 232 00:12:27,800 --> 00:12:30,760 It's like it's overwhelming because I mean, I'm learning as 233 00:12:30,760 --> 00:12:33,720 a grandma how to do that. It's like this one peed and this 234 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:36,120 one pooped and this one is hungry and this one is crying. 235 00:12:36,440 --> 00:12:40,120 Like just to navigate. And I can't even imagine if you 236 00:12:40,120 --> 00:12:41,280 have more than two children like. 237 00:12:41,280 --> 00:12:42,840 Wow. Kudos to you guys. 238 00:12:43,120 --> 00:12:45,560 Amazing. But I want you to remember one 239 00:12:45,560 --> 00:12:47,440 thing during those difficult years. 240 00:12:48,800 --> 00:12:53,040 They're only small. For five years, you have five 241 00:12:53,040 --> 00:12:56,920 years of little children of sort, and then things shift 242 00:12:56,920 --> 00:13:00,440 again. So even though it is hard, just 243 00:13:00,440 --> 00:13:04,440 know, don't. Don't rush it because you're 244 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:06,440 sleepless. Don't rush it because it's 245 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:08,000 difficult. Don't rush it because you're 246 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:11,520 running out of patience. Embrace the mass. 247 00:13:11,560 --> 00:13:14,440 Embrace the chaos. Because. 248 00:13:14,440 --> 00:13:16,560 Soon they're not going to cuddle you like that. 249 00:13:16,560 --> 00:13:18,120 Anymore they they're going to they're. 250 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:20,480 Going to be on is that. True, it is so. 251 00:13:20,480 --> 00:13:21,840 Hard right? They'll they'll give you a 252 00:13:21,840 --> 00:13:23,960 cuddle here and there, but not to that. 253 00:13:23,960 --> 00:13:25,320 Level where they're. Stuck. 254 00:13:25,680 --> 00:13:29,880 With you and have no choice but to cuddle you for hours. 255 00:13:31,080 --> 00:13:32,520 There was this fun little video I saw. 256 00:13:32,560 --> 00:13:36,920 It's called cat. It was called Nap Nap. 257 00:13:36,920 --> 00:13:39,440 What is it called? Never mind, I'm just. 258 00:13:39,640 --> 00:13:41,400 I'll show it to you sometime. Another but this. 259 00:13:41,400 --> 00:13:44,160 Lady who is? Trapped by the napping baby and 260 00:13:44,160 --> 00:13:45,800 she has this whole song about being trapped. 261 00:13:45,920 --> 00:13:47,520 Nap trapped. That's the song. 262 00:13:47,600 --> 00:13:48,560 Look it up. It's awesome. 263 00:13:49,080 --> 00:13:51,560 OK, so 5. Years they go so. 264 00:13:52,240 --> 00:13:54,840 Fast and those. First five years are. 265 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:59,760 So important of that time spent with your young children. 266 00:14:00,120 --> 00:14:03,840 I think even when we don't remember things as young 267 00:14:03,840 --> 00:14:06,360 children, I think emotionally we do. 268 00:14:06,840 --> 00:14:11,240 I think there's an emotional understanding when there is a 269 00:14:11,240 --> 00:14:13,800 deeper bond with people and when there is not, right. 270 00:14:13,800 --> 00:14:16,320 So even though you don't physically remember, I think 271 00:14:16,320 --> 00:14:19,080 sometimes just knowing that we're building trust with our 272 00:14:19,080 --> 00:14:21,160 children for those five years, you're building their 273 00:14:21,160 --> 00:14:25,280 confidence, you're building that security that that is in you in 274 00:14:25,280 --> 00:14:28,440 those five years and and. They're all hard. 275 00:14:28,480 --> 00:14:32,800 They're hard years, but they're. So, so, so important. 276 00:14:34,520 --> 00:14:36,560 Yes, it's a time where patients will be tested. 277 00:14:36,560 --> 00:14:40,120 It's a time when you will learn how to best discipline your 278 00:14:40,120 --> 00:14:42,280 children. And so undisciplined. 279 00:14:42,280 --> 00:14:44,920 This is always such a strange thing to talk about, but let's 280 00:14:44,920 --> 00:14:47,880 do it anyways. Proverbs 1324. 281 00:14:47,880 --> 00:14:50,200 What does it say? Whoever spares the rod hates his 282 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:53,680 son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him. 283 00:14:54,440 --> 00:14:58,120 And now, first of all, one thing that Kurt, you know, shared with 284 00:14:58,120 --> 00:15:02,160 me this morning is that the rod, it's not like something. 285 00:15:02,320 --> 00:15:06,640 To beat with the rod of a shepherd was to lead, to lead 286 00:15:06,640 --> 00:15:07,600 the sheep. Right. 287 00:15:07,840 --> 00:15:09,960 It wasn't like. To beat the sheep. 288 00:15:09,960 --> 00:15:11,760 OK, it was to. Lead the sheep. 289 00:15:12,160 --> 00:15:14,840 And so now, but I'm not saying to not discipline your children, 290 00:15:14,840 --> 00:15:18,400 OK, and I want to what I want to say on this is I think for some 291 00:15:18,400 --> 00:15:20,920 of us, it's a little bit harder to do that than others, 292 00:15:21,480 --> 00:15:24,440 especially if you have a traumatic past of how you were 293 00:15:24,440 --> 00:15:26,320 disciplined as a child. OK. 294 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:28,480 And that was my. Story. 295 00:15:28,480 --> 00:15:33,680 I think that lines were crossed. Of how I was disciplined and so 296 00:15:33,680 --> 00:15:37,360 I was really worried because I'm still learning as a mom like I 297 00:15:37,360 --> 00:15:41,240 don't have these parents this community at this point to teach 298 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:47,040 me how to do it well right. So I am worried at this point to 299 00:15:47,040 --> 00:15:51,320 do it, but Jasmine's dad was very good at this. 300 00:15:51,520 --> 00:15:53,400 OK, My daughter's dad, my ex-husband. 301 00:15:54,080 --> 00:15:55,840 And for those that. Do not know. 302 00:15:55,840 --> 00:15:58,520 Kurt and I are mixed. We're mashed family. 303 00:15:58,720 --> 00:16:00,320 What is it called? Blended. 304 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:01,120 That's the one. Mixed. 305 00:16:01,120 --> 00:16:02,040 Blended. Mashed. 306 00:16:02,040 --> 00:16:05,960 Yes, all mashed up. There we are. 307 00:16:06,320 --> 00:16:07,760 Shake for you, baby. Shake, shake. 308 00:16:07,800 --> 00:16:13,120 OK, so, so he was really good at it, you know, And so I was 309 00:16:13,120 --> 00:16:17,840 disciplining her in a different way than he did because I didn't 310 00:16:17,840 --> 00:16:20,800 know my limits. Of somebody that had trauma with 311 00:16:20,800 --> 00:16:23,480 it, right? So, so he did it. 312 00:16:23,720 --> 00:16:27,200 But what I loved about it is he never, he did it so well, guys. 313 00:16:27,440 --> 00:16:30,640 He never disciplined her in the midst of anger. 314 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:35,520 And there's a fine line there. Because if you if you take too 315 00:16:35,520 --> 00:16:38,920 long of a time to come back to the discipline, the kid will not 316 00:16:38,920 --> 00:16:40,600 know what they did wrong to begin with. 317 00:16:41,120 --> 00:16:44,760 And he gets in the house, you agree, but like, but what he did 318 00:16:44,760 --> 00:16:46,640 is he just walked. He's like, he basically said, 319 00:16:46,640 --> 00:16:49,080 hey, Jazz, I'm about to discipline you. 320 00:16:49,080 --> 00:16:51,960 Give me about a minute. He'll be coming back. 321 00:16:51,960 --> 00:16:54,880 We'll take care of this. And then he would explain to her 322 00:16:54,880 --> 00:16:57,960 before he disciplined her, why he's doing that. 323 00:16:59,200 --> 00:17:03,000 And he would discipline her. And he would then say that he 324 00:17:03,000 --> 00:17:05,359 forgave her and he would love. Her. 325 00:17:05,800 --> 00:17:09,240 And he would love on her. There's nothing worse than to 326 00:17:09,240 --> 00:17:12,400 discipline a child and then let it like there's double 327 00:17:12,560 --> 00:17:15,400 punishment, right, If you discipline a child and the 328 00:17:15,400 --> 00:17:19,480 discipline really, if if you feel so LED to do a little butt 329 00:17:19,480 --> 00:17:22,319 spanking And Kurt told me not to say spanking, but it is what it 330 00:17:22,319 --> 00:17:25,640 is. Kurt, you know, I you know 331 00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:28,920 that's, I know he's like, do. Not judge the word spanking. 332 00:17:28,920 --> 00:17:34,360 I'm like, OK, I'll try. Just flew out disciplining them 333 00:17:34,600 --> 00:17:36,480 when we're disciplining them, I think. 334 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:39,000 We just have to realize this one thing and this is what God 335 00:17:39,000 --> 00:17:41,400 showed me. I didn't discipline Jasmine for 336 00:17:41,400 --> 00:17:44,120 maybe the first three years because she was getting a little 337 00:17:44,120 --> 00:17:47,120 spoiled right? And the Lord was just like 338 00:17:47,120 --> 00:17:51,880 saying, Jace, how does spoiled milk taste in your mouth? 339 00:17:53,800 --> 00:17:57,400 If if. If you allow her to get spoiled, 340 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:02,440 she will be disgusting, a nasty taste in the mouth of people. 341 00:18:03,960 --> 00:18:05,840 It will not be a refreshing thing. 342 00:18:06,880 --> 00:18:09,560 Don't you want her to be a big glass of water? 343 00:18:10,080 --> 00:18:13,400 Refreshing, pointing people to me. 344 00:18:14,520 --> 00:18:17,000 I was like, yeah. I do because sometimes I think 345 00:18:17,080 --> 00:18:20,800 the word spoiled has also some positive ideas when I would 346 00:18:20,800 --> 00:18:25,000 think like that person is loved and cared for and shopped for 347 00:18:25,000 --> 00:18:26,160 and you know what I'm saying Like. 348 00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:31,120 It has this beautiful feeling, but I had to realize that oh OK, 349 00:18:31,120 --> 00:18:34,560 God, I do have to if I love my child if I want them to turn out 350 00:18:34,560 --> 00:18:37,400 well. I have to discipline them and 351 00:18:37,400 --> 00:18:40,800 now discipline does change and it looks different, I think, as 352 00:18:40,800 --> 00:18:41,960 your children. Grow. 353 00:18:42,320 --> 00:18:45,760 And the only person I think that's the best person to tell 354 00:18:45,760 --> 00:18:48,760 you how to do it with each kid individually is the holy. 355 00:18:48,760 --> 00:18:52,160 Spirit. Because God made those kids, and 356 00:18:52,160 --> 00:18:54,440 what works for one is not going to work for the other. 357 00:18:54,440 --> 00:18:57,560 Is that true? There's no such thing as like. 358 00:18:57,560 --> 00:19:01,520 In law, this is how it's going to go for 1-2 and three Nah. 359 00:19:02,360 --> 00:19:05,640 They're going to be Nah, Nah, that doesn't work for me, Mama, 360 00:19:06,800 --> 00:19:08,360 we. Got to figure it out. 361 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:11,600 And we got to lean. Into the Holy Spirit. 362 00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:14,360 And that's just what I did as a young mother. 363 00:19:14,360 --> 00:19:17,280 I leaned into the Holy Spirit and I said, please help me. 364 00:19:17,400 --> 00:19:18,760 I don't have a clue what I'm doing. 365 00:19:19,120 --> 00:19:22,560 Let's look at John 1426 here. What does it say? 366 00:19:22,560 --> 00:19:26,960 But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my 367 00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:29,280 name. He will teach you all things, 368 00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:35,560 how many things, even parenting. Right all things and bring to 369 00:19:35,560 --> 00:19:39,760 your remembrance all. That I have said to you and I 370 00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:41,800 just love that. And the Holy Spirit has been 371 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:48,000 such a presence, such tangible, tangible presence in my life 372 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:50,800 when it comes especially to parenting. 373 00:19:52,840 --> 00:19:55,880 And you know, let's move on to a little bit older children, OK? 374 00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:57,240 We're just going to keep moving forward. 375 00:19:57,240 --> 00:20:01,560 There is OK parents, if you have 910 eleven year olds, you know, 376 00:20:01,560 --> 00:20:04,760 7 year olds, whatever. It will say that there is 377 00:20:04,760 --> 00:20:08,160 nothing greater that will turn your children away from the Lord 378 00:20:08,280 --> 00:20:14,160 than saying one thing and doing another. 379 00:20:15,560 --> 00:20:17,720 You want to lose your children quickly. 380 00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:22,680 That's all it takes. If you are living a hypocrite. 381 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:24,640 Hypocrite. How do you say hip? 382 00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:27,480 That's a hard word in English life. 383 00:20:27,760 --> 00:20:31,800 Your children. I don't they they will know they 384 00:20:31,800 --> 00:20:34,760 will know the difference. They were going to watch you and 385 00:20:34,760 --> 00:20:38,240 the things that you say and the things that you do are going to 386 00:20:38,360 --> 00:20:40,560 they're going to matter. It's going to matter. 387 00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:44,040 So please be careful church to not do that. 388 00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:45,960 Be careful. Let your yes be yes. 389 00:20:46,000 --> 00:20:50,120 Let your know, be know that your children see that what you say 390 00:20:50,120 --> 00:20:53,240 you mean, what you promise you. Fulfill, right? 391 00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:56,680 And what you don't want, it doesn't happen. 392 00:20:57,920 --> 00:21:01,440 Your life is the biggest witness in your children's life. 393 00:21:02,960 --> 00:21:06,280 And you know, I think sometimes we underestimate when that 394 00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:09,360 starts. It starts very young. 395 00:21:09,960 --> 00:21:12,160 It starts very young. OK, Let me see this picture of 396 00:21:12,160 --> 00:21:14,040 my grandchildren. Look how young this starts. 397 00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:18,120 They watch us. These are my grandbabies. 398 00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:20,880 Look how cute they are. Look at the cheeks. 399 00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:23,320 Look at those eyes. But. 400 00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:25,960 And there's Tyler with his sexy shorts back there. 401 00:21:25,960 --> 00:21:30,160 I'm sorry about that. OK, sorry Tyler, if you see 402 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:34,120 that, but but here they are. Did we tell them to do that? 403 00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:38,560 Did we tell them to sing, to want to sing to Jesus? 404 00:21:39,120 --> 00:21:41,880 Did we tell them to to to want to do this? 405 00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:44,360 No, we did not. They watched their parents do 406 00:21:44,360 --> 00:21:45,560 it. They watched their grandparents 407 00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:46,840 do it. So they want to. 408 00:21:47,320 --> 00:21:48,200 So what? They asked. 409 00:21:48,200 --> 00:21:51,280 For for Christmas was worship. But they really meant as 410 00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:53,160 instruments and things to make worship, right? 411 00:21:53,520 --> 00:21:56,560 But they wanted worship. And so they're going to watch 412 00:21:56,560 --> 00:21:58,480 that. And I love this little story. 413 00:21:58,480 --> 00:22:03,000 This was kind of fun. My friend Josh van der Clark, he 414 00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:07,320 had like 5 kids and they were like 7 or 8 years old or 415 00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:10,320 something like that. And they had this hot tub 416 00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:13,800 upstairs in their house. The kids were in the hot tub. 417 00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:16,720 A guest came over like their friend with a little boy and 418 00:22:16,720 --> 00:22:20,200 they were in the hot tub. And this little boy runs into 419 00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:23,080 the house. He's like, I got baptized and 420 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:25,160 everybody was like OK, what does that mean? 421 00:22:25,320 --> 00:22:27,920 So Sam goes over to talk to his little 7 year old. 422 00:22:27,920 --> 00:22:30,040 She's like, he's like, why is this? 423 00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:32,080 Little boy saying he got. Baptized, you know? 424 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:34,800 And Avery says. Well, he said he. 425 00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:39,400 Wanted to get baptized so I asked you make Jesus your Lord 426 00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:42,720 and Savior and he said yes. And then she said, OK, well, I 427 00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:44,640 baptized you in the name of the Son and the Father and the Holy 428 00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:46,040 Ghost, and then I baptized. Him. 429 00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:49,240 And. And the the Father of the Son 430 00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:51,600 goes well, is that legit? And he goes, well, they did 431 00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:52,840 everything the Bible says to do so. 432 00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:58,320 I guess it's done. He's like, if you hang out with 433 00:22:58,320 --> 00:23:01,800 my kids, you might get baptized. So, but why? 434 00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:05,000 Why are they? Why are they doing that? 435 00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:07,880 How do they know how to do that? Because they're sponges. 436 00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:11,400 Our children are sponges, incredible sponges. 437 00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:15,480 And they watch us at home. They watch us at home, guys. 438 00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:20,520 Yeah, let's look. At James 122 through 24 really 439 00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:27,240 quick be doers of the word and not hearers only deceiving 440 00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:31,400 yourselves, right. So to be doers to show our 441 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:35,000 children. So listen, our children, they 442 00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:37,800 will. Where did I write that down? 443 00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:39,960 We can OK, let me start with this. 444 00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:44,360 We cannot force our children to love God, but we can expose them 445 00:23:44,360 --> 00:23:47,680 to people and experiences that increase the likehood of 446 00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:50,080 spiritual growth. Amen. 447 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:55,440 We can be selective with what we put in front of their eyes. 448 00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:58,360 We can create. Spaces of worship. 449 00:23:58,360 --> 00:24:02,680 To encounter His presence in our home, setting the culture in our 450 00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:05,440 home. To experience His glory and His 451 00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:09,000 mercy. Your children will become what 452 00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:12,320 they see, not what they are told. 453 00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:16,680 Let me say that one more time. Your children will become what 454 00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:21,000 they see you doing at home, not what you tell them to do at 455 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:22,200 home. OK? 456 00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:23,840 They're going to watch us like that. 457 00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:29,880 And I want to touch a little bit on. 458 00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:32,800 Go a little bit. Deeper with that actually and 459 00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:36,520 talk about cultural Christianity versus Christ centered 460 00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:40,640 Christianity, OK and why that is important as parents. 461 00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:46,520 You know, in my country, when I went to school in Germany, we 462 00:24:46,520 --> 00:24:51,680 would there was Bosnians and like Serbians and Croatians and 463 00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:53,240 we. All were like under Yugoslavia. 464 00:24:53,240 --> 00:24:54,400 Sort of. So we all. 465 00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:56,120 Were like in the same class, right? 466 00:24:56,360 --> 00:25:00,440 But during like religious classes, we all separated. 467 00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:03,520 So the Muslims would go into their class, the Catholics would 468 00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:05,800 go in their class and the Orthodox would go in their own 469 00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:08,480 class, right? And we would learn stuff, but it 470 00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:11,600 was so funny because the Muslims were culturally Muslims. 471 00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:14,040 They were not actually practicing Muslims back then. 472 00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:18,160 Like it was like if you were born in Bosnia, you're just kind 473 00:25:18,160 --> 00:25:20,920 of like a Muslim, right? It's just, it's just instantly 474 00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:23,640 that's your religion then because you were born a Bosnian. 475 00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:27,080 You know what, guys? There's a lot of Americans like 476 00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:30,120 that too. There's a lot of cultural 477 00:25:30,120 --> 00:25:34,160 Americans that will come to church once in a while. 478 00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:39,280 They will, you know, come to the festival, give once in a while, 479 00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:43,960 you know, they will prioritize sports and school things and 480 00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:45,440 this and that. And then come Sunday, they're 481 00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:47,600 going to say to their kids, do you guys feel like going to 482 00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:51,720 church this Sunday? Again? 483 00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:55,600 I know I'm stuffy. I'm going Curtis, right? 484 00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:59,440 But but it's truth what we represent. 485 00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:02,840 What? What we prioritize, what we make 486 00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:06,000 most important in our lives, That is, we cannot expect our 487 00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:09,480 children to want to love God if we're not loving him first, 488 00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:13,600 right? And our children know the 489 00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:16,200 difference between religion and relationship. 490 00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:21,160 They know it. And this is not to put anybody 491 00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:23,680 down, like everybody has their journey of how they're coming to 492 00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:25,400 God and where they're at in their journey. 493 00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:30,280 It's not to put anybody down in that way, but it is like a wake 494 00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:34,880 up call to say what? Are we prioritizing in our 495 00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:36,720 homes, in our lives, with our children? 496 00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:41,400 Because whatever we prioritize and wherever we put the body of 497 00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:43,680 Christ, right? And it doesn't have to be N life 498 00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:44,880 church. It could just be the body of 499 00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:47,600 Christ in general. The way we talk about church in 500 00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:51,720 our homes, the way we talk about pastors and brothers and sisters 501 00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:54,560 in in Christ at home, it matters. 502 00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:58,480 It will catch up. Sooner or later if you go home 503 00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:00,280 and your five year old is there and you're like wow. 504 00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:02,160 Curry was really sucky this morning. 505 00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:04,680 What was that message all about? Right? 506 00:27:05,360 --> 00:27:08,400 It matters. They hear that right? 507 00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:12,080 So. Get alone on date night and let 508 00:27:12,080 --> 00:27:16,200 it RIP, right? So, but, but here's what we want 509 00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:22,120 to teach our children. We want our children, we want to 510 00:27:22,120 --> 00:27:26,200 help our children by prioritizing the things that 511 00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:28,040 matter to God. OK? 512 00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:30,600 We want to teach them. We want to prioritize how to 513 00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:32,240 serve. We want to teach them how to 514 00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:34,200 serve. We want to teach them how to 515 00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:36,680 give. We want to teach them early on. 516 00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:39,160 The sooner you can get in there, the better. 517 00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:44,640 OK, how to forgive? I remember, you know, if I made 518 00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:47,400 a mistake and my daughter was three years. 519 00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:50,280 Old the Holy Spirit. Taught me early on ask her for 520 00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:55,040 forgiveness and it shapes things guys. 521 00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:57,040 So it's OK to say, you know what honey? 522 00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:01,880 Mommy was a bit harsh. There I was, you know what, 523 00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:06,240 mommy was saying this about this person and that was not OK. 524 00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:10,320 That was called gossip. I'm sorry I did that. 525 00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:13,560 Will you forgive me? And it's so funny because when 526 00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:15,680 they're little, they're like, no, you're like, yes, you're 527 00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:18,680 going to forgive me. Now. 528 00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:26,360 But we teach them right, we teach them forgiveness, we teach 529 00:28:26,360 --> 00:28:31,640 them how to give, we teach them how to serve the body of Christ, 530 00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,480 the Church of God. Those things matter, guys. 531 00:28:34,640 --> 00:28:37,520 Listen, when this world goes down, if this world goes 532 00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:41,640 downhill, you're going to need the body of Christ. 533 00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:46,400 You're not going to run to the friends you made at the hockey 534 00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:49,000 game. You're going to need the body of 535 00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:50,640 Christ. You're going to need the church 536 00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:55,400 to make it through it. So honoring God in that way is 537 00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:59,920 important. So yeah, so just culturally, 538 00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:03,720 let's let's ask the Lord what it looks like to. 539 00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:06,800 Really love him with all of our hearts so that we can teach our 540 00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:09,520 children true relationship with the Lord. 541 00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:14,960 There is a scripture for that. Let's see, it's, I believe it's 542 00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:18,000 Deuteronomy 6, four through 9. But I don't think we have that 543 00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:21,440 up there, do we? And basically, what oh do we 544 00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:23,240 hear? O Israel, the Lord, our God, the 545 00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:25,040 Lord is one. OK, let's keep going. 546 00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,880 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all 547 00:29:28,880 --> 00:29:30,200 your soul and with all your might. 548 00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:33,000 Let's keep going. And these words that I command 549 00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:34,560 you today shall be on your heart. 550 00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:39,440 You shall teach them diligently to your children and shall talk 551 00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:42,200 of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the 552 00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:45,120 way, and when you lie down and when you rise. 553 00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:48,360 Are we talking about these things only when we go to church 554 00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:50,880 on Sunday? Hey, what was the message in 555 00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:53,360 kids church today? Let's have a quick conversation 556 00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:59,440 about that. Or are we making God our whole 557 00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:01,680 life? I'm not talking about adding 558 00:30:01,680 --> 00:30:03,640 God. To your life like he's salt and 559 00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:07,360 pepper. I'm talking about God is your 560 00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:11,840 life. It's not a add on to your 561 00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:15,600 American life. We have this, we do this, we go 562 00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:18,080 here, we do that and we are believing in God and go to 563 00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:20,400 church. No, that's that's all wrong, 564 00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:23,720 right? Let me see that last part again, 565 00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:26,720 at least. When is the last verse that 566 00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:28,760 there was up there? You shall bind them as a sign, 567 00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:30,920 OK? You shall teach them diligently 568 00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:33,440 to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your 569 00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:36,480 house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and 570 00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:38,440 when you rise. And what that could easily look 571 00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:41,680 like is that everything we do with our children leads. 572 00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:45,240 Back to this. If they won a game, it's like 573 00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:47,360 wow. Praise God, God give you the. 574 00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:49,640 Strength to do that. If they lost the game, it's 575 00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:52,560 like, you know what? I love how you honored God in 576 00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:57,600 that loss, how you, how you honored him on that field, even 577 00:30:57,600 --> 00:30:59,760 though you lost. Like thank you for doing that. 578 00:30:59,760 --> 00:31:02,400 You were so kind. You were celebrating, you 579 00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:05,960 opposing, right? We're teaching them every step 580 00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:11,760 of the way, God's way. That's what it means to carry 581 00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:15,560 him, to make him the center of a whole world, our whole lives. 582 00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:20,320 This pastor Greg Rachelle was sharing this and I could really 583 00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:23,880 relate to this because Jasmine also kind of did that. 584 00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:27,480 Did I ever have to tell? And we just going back to did we 585 00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:30,160 ever have to show these kids how to do worship or want worship? 586 00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:33,720 Same with the Bible. Like did I ever say to my 587 00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:37,240 daughter read the Bible? You have to read the Bible? 588 00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:40,720 No, How did she read the Bible? She watched me do it. 589 00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:43,560 She watched her dad do it, she watched her aunt do it, she 590 00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:48,520 watched friends in church do it, and she just did it right. 591 00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:52,440 So so the. Culture that you said it 592 00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:56,840 matters, church, it matters. And I want to also say with 593 00:31:56,840 --> 00:32:02,000 this, it's OK if you're not OK in front of your kids as well, 594 00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:06,680 because even in the midst of that, it's OK to say, well, I, 595 00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:09,200 I'm not, I'm not there yet with God. 596 00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:13,040 I don't know if I fully love God with all my heart. 597 00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:14,240 I don't know how to get there right. 598 00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:18,520 I'm I'm on my own journey. It's OK to be. 599 00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:22,560 Broken in front of your kids, guys, because even in dad, we 600 00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:26,080 teach them, we teach them how to turn to the Lord. 601 00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:28,760 We teach them how to be honest. We teach them how to be 602 00:32:28,760 --> 00:32:30,880 transparent with one another, right? 603 00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:35,160 We teach them that God is not going to reject us because we're 604 00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:39,200 broken in some way or, you know, don't have it all together. 605 00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:42,640 And of course, we don't share everything with our children. 606 00:32:42,800 --> 00:32:46,240 I mean, obviously use wisdom, but it's OK to say, you know 607 00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:50,920 what, Mama is not OK right now. Why not mom? 608 00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,840 Because Mom is hurting. There's some things that happen, 609 00:32:53,840 --> 00:32:57,800 and Mom is hurting. How about can you pray for Mama? 610 00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:02,720 Can you pray for my heart? Even in those moments, we teach 611 00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:09,600 our children how to respond. Well, you know, I'm a Gen. 612 00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:10,320 Xer. How many Gen. 613 00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:12,520 XS are in this room? Few. 614 00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:13,960 Wow. That's it, Really. 615 00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:17,320 That's all what's happening to us, guys. 616 00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:20,560 It's crazy. I will say that growing up. 617 00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:25,480 In our time was very different than everybody raising kids 618 00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:28,240 right now. This is a different world, guys. 619 00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:29,520 It's not. Is that true? 620 00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:32,040 It's different and it's different because of this guys. 621 00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:36,600 But just this in their hands, they have instant access to 622 00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:41,440 everything evil in this world. They can watch wars live on 623 00:33:41,440 --> 00:33:43,520 here. They can watch pornography right 624 00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:48,560 here anytime they want, OK? It's a different world. 625 00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:50,320 It creates different. But here's the thing, here's a 626 00:33:50,320 --> 00:33:53,600 beautiful thing. Instead of being fearful about 627 00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:57,080 that, the beautiful thing is that God picked you as a parent 628 00:33:57,080 --> 00:34:01,480 knowing in this season that. This is how the world. 629 00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:06,200 Would be he didn't entrust Gen. Xers with this season because we 630 00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:10,639 grey like but he is entrusting you millennials, right? 631 00:34:10,800 --> 00:34:15,480 He's entrusting you young Gen. Zers with this generation to 632 00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:18,600 raise your kids well in this time, in this season. 633 00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:22,960 And that's something guys, that is something, you know, and I 634 00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:26,360 will say, like we used to be kicked out in the morning and 635 00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:28,400 said, come back at night. Just stay alive and don't kill 636 00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:29,880 no one, right? So. 637 00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:34,199 But I mean, that's, you know, we drank from like the water 638 00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:37,920 thingy, like what's it called? Hosts, you know, not this. 639 00:34:38,199 --> 00:34:40,800 I mean, it was a different world, guys. 640 00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:43,679 It's so different now. It's so much harder. 641 00:34:43,679 --> 00:34:47,120 And we have to be diligent. We have to be diligent with this 642 00:34:47,120 --> 00:34:48,520 season so. What I want to? 643 00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:53,080 Say for those that have older kids and especially those teens 644 00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:56,840 you're going to hate me that have these here get all up in 645 00:34:56,840 --> 00:35:02,640 their business, parents. If the world is saying but what 646 00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:03,600 about? Privacy. 647 00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:05,520 It's like. Be quiet, world. 648 00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:09,760 All you want to do is separate them from us so you can have 649 00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:12,760 your way. That's all the world wants to 650 00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:15,040 do. So do not sacrifice your 651 00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:19,960 children at the altar of being politically correct to please 652 00:35:19,960 --> 00:35:23,640 the world. You get to go into this. 653 00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:27,360 You get to have their passwords. You get to control this. 654 00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:31,000 There's so many predators, There's so much evil out there. 655 00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:36,280 They're not emotionally. Balanced, yet to be able to 656 00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:38,040 handle. Oh, I'm not. 657 00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:40,160 I'm 50 years old. I can't handle. 658 00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:41,680 Emotionally, everything that's on here. 659 00:35:43,840 --> 00:35:46,960 If you fall in a ditch, you get cleaned up, but there's some of 660 00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:49,280 the stuff that you can see you cannot on see. 661 00:35:50,240 --> 00:35:54,160 It's stuck in here. So we are the guardians. 662 00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:57,920 We are the protectors to protect and guard their hearts and 663 00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:02,720 parents don't feel. Bad to not give them this 664 00:36:02,720 --> 00:36:06,000 privacy. When they're old enough, that's 665 00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:08,720 different. But I mean, if I had a kid right 666 00:36:08,720 --> 00:36:11,400 now, I'd be like, look, I'm seeing every text that's coming 667 00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:13,080 to you. I'm seeing every picture that's 668 00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:15,720 coming to. You let your friends know. 669 00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:19,480 I'm right there with you girl. Whatever they send you, I will 670 00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:22,040 see. Let them know. 671 00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:24,800 And you know, Paul showed me something really cool on his 672 00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:26,080 phone. If you have an iPhone, there 673 00:36:26,080 --> 00:36:31,360 actually is a way to control all of that. 674 00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:34,440 So. I don't know how that all works, 675 00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:35,640 it's something worth looking into. 676 00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:38,680 But you can control how long they're on there with what What 677 00:36:38,680 --> 00:36:43,120 websites are blocked? But guys even said even with 678 00:36:43,120 --> 00:36:47,240 that said, it's still so sneaky. They will show up in kids. 679 00:36:47,240 --> 00:36:51,120 Games it will be wrapped up in safe environment type of things 680 00:36:51,440 --> 00:36:53,920 just to kid to get to our kids. Have you? 681 00:36:53,920 --> 00:36:57,440 I mean it when we were little kids, guys, have you ever seen 682 00:36:57,440 --> 00:37:02,000 of a 910 year old having anxiety attacks or depression or like, 683 00:37:02,040 --> 00:37:06,840 you know, suicidal thoughts or I mean, that wasn't a thing, guys. 684 00:37:06,960 --> 00:37:10,520 It's different now. The world is trying to confuse 685 00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:12,840 our children. They're trying to rob them from 686 00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:15,880 us and we have got to go in with force. 687 00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:21,320 Amen church, Amen. You know, and and I just want to 688 00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:23,320 say this, this is really important. 689 00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:29,080 Before I touch a little bit on the older kids, just start. 690 00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:32,720 Speaking life and blessings over your children. 691 00:37:32,720 --> 00:37:35,200 Guys, this is so important. And this is one of the things 692 00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:37,800 that the Holy Spirit taught me when Jasmine would go. 693 00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:40,040 And you know what? It's also OK just to be 694 00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:43,320 completely unhinged before the Lord in front of your kids. 695 00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:45,200 They're going to think it's normal, OK? 696 00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:47,960 Because if that's all they've ever seen, I mean, my kid has 697 00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:50,080 seen me going. In the name of Jesus, you can. 698 00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:55,080 You know, praying us up a storm in my house, battling in the war 699 00:37:55,240 --> 00:37:58,800 or, you know, getting on my face and weeping or whatever, or 700 00:37:58,800 --> 00:38:01,840 worshipping on my knees. Those were normal things for my 701 00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:05,120 kids to see. So don't be ashamed to show the 702 00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:10,680 raw, beautiful worship or the pain or the pressing into God. 703 00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:12,520 Show your children, include them. 704 00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:14,960 They may look like they may look at you like you're crazy at 705 00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:17,560 first. But it will become their norm. 706 00:38:18,720 --> 00:38:21,040 That is what's going to become their normal one day. 707 00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:24,520 So one of the. Things that I did, and I really 708 00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:27,920 feel like this has made a huge difference in Jasmine. 709 00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:31,280 I really do. Every night I went into her 710 00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:34,520 room, you guys, there was like on her door frame. 711 00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:38,880 I'm not lying. It was this thick of oil because 712 00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:41,440 every night I would take oil. And just anoint her. 713 00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:44,120 Doorpost. And I would say. 714 00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:46,560 God, I would pray for her. Husband one day. 715 00:38:47,720 --> 00:38:50,560 I would pray for her protection, physically, spiritually, 716 00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:54,640 emotionally. I would ask the Lord to put the 717 00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:57,440 blood of Christ around her room or. 718 00:38:57,440 --> 00:39:00,640 Dreams her mind. I would pray that he would call 719 00:39:00,640 --> 00:39:03,080 her with purpose, that he would give her dreams, some physic 720 00:39:03,080 --> 00:39:08,120 visions. We've got a war for our children 721 00:39:08,840 --> 00:39:12,320 more than ever because this is not the time to be passive. 722 00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:17,160 If you step back, the world will gladly. 723 00:39:17,520 --> 00:39:22,960 Gladly take them. And I just want to say the 724 00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:27,080 Scripture, it's so beautiful. Can we look up at the next 725 00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:31,720 scripture? I think it's Isaiah 54. 726 00:39:32,800 --> 00:39:34,640 Train up a child in the way he should go. 727 00:39:34,640 --> 00:39:37,560 Even when he's old, he will not depart from it. 728 00:39:38,240 --> 00:39:40,560 And I think that's so important because I think sometimes there 729 00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:44,160 are seasons when our children stray. 730 00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:46,760 But I think. I. 731 00:39:46,760 --> 00:39:49,400 Think this is the kind of promises that you can pray over 732 00:39:49,400 --> 00:39:52,800 your children, right? You can go over there and just 733 00:39:52,960 --> 00:39:55,400 speak prophetically. God, thank you that when I am 734 00:39:55,400 --> 00:40:00,760 training up Jasmine in the way that she should go, even when 735 00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:05,280 Jasmine is old God, she will not depart from you. 736 00:40:06,840 --> 00:40:08,880 I don't care what comes her way. I don't care where she. 737 00:40:08,880 --> 00:40:10,920 Gets drawn to I. Don't care what it looks. 738 00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:13,080 Like I don't care how cold she seems. 739 00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:18,840 This is what I'm standing on, God, I'm believing. 740 00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:22,680 I have faith, God, that you are true to your word. 741 00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:26,840 This is a promise and the thing that we also want to teach our 742 00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:28,080 children. You know, there's a scripture 743 00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:30,400 that talks about obey your parents, children, so that they 744 00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:35,200 may go well with you and that you may have long life. 745 00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:38,280 That's a promise from the Lord, kids. 746 00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:44,880 When you obey your children, your your, your, your parents. 747 00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:49,760 When you submit to your parents, you honor God, and God honors 748 00:40:49,760 --> 00:40:54,400 that, even when it's hard. When you honor your parents, I 749 00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:58,080 don't care if you're 30. Years old, 50 years old, 12 750 00:40:58,080 --> 00:41:01,720 years old, 15 years old. It will go well with. 751 00:41:01,720 --> 00:41:06,560 You when you honor your parents, when you obey your parents. 752 00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:09,680 And God has all these beautiful and why do we do that? 753 00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:13,960 We're not asking for obedience because we want control, right? 754 00:41:14,240 --> 00:41:17,080 When I want my daughter to obey me, it's because I believe in 755 00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:20,120 the word of. God and I want her to have a. 756 00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:24,560 Long life and I want. Her life to go well and to be 757 00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:29,400 blessed. If I love her, that's what I 758 00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:32,880 would want for her. That is why it's not out of 759 00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:36,640 control. It's from stewardship. 760 00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:40,840 From a heart of love that wants to see my kid prosper. 761 00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:45,080 So parents start looking in the word of God for those promises 762 00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:49,160 that you can speak daily over your children. 763 00:41:50,240 --> 00:41:53,360 They matter in the spirit realm. How often do I think like? 764 00:41:53,360 --> 00:41:56,920 God, if you opened up our. Eyes in the spirit realm. 765 00:41:57,440 --> 00:42:02,000 What would we see? I bet you there's holy wars all. 766 00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:05,600 Around us. I don't just bet, I know that. 767 00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:10,000 There's angels, there's demonic, there is. 768 00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:13,880 Just a whole. World that we don't see that 769 00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:17,360 there's a war going on for our souls and for our children's 770 00:42:17,360 --> 00:42:23,080 souls. So yes, so speak life over your 771 00:42:23,080 --> 00:42:25,240 children, prophecy over your children. 772 00:42:25,240 --> 00:42:30,520 Let them hear you prophecy over them so that word goes deep into 773 00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:33,440 their hearts. Pray over their children. 774 00:42:33,720 --> 00:42:37,600 Pray over their spouses. You don't want some guy or some 775 00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:40,240 girl to come in and lead them astray, right? 776 00:42:41,080 --> 00:42:43,320 Happens. Start praying now. 777 00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:45,360 God, thank you for my son-in-law. 778 00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:47,880 Think of you only. Thinking that he's going to love 779 00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:50,080 you, think of you protecting. Him even now, wherever he's a 780 00:42:50,080 --> 00:42:52,840 little boy somewhere out there, God just teach him. 781 00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:57,120 I don't know what kind of family he's born into God, but I pray 782 00:42:57,120 --> 00:43:00,680 you get a hold of him. Lord, get a hold of her. 783 00:43:00,680 --> 00:43:04,040 Lord speak into her life, bless her life. 784 00:43:04,040 --> 00:43:07,520 God start speaking that over your children, pray over their 785 00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:12,080 spouses, prophecy over them. And then I just want to lastly 786 00:43:12,480 --> 00:43:16,840 touch just a little bit of the parents that have adult 787 00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:18,640 children. How many of those do we have in 788 00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:20,520 this room? OK, few. 789 00:43:22,240 --> 00:43:27,920 Isn't it such a strange transition going from parenting. 790 00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:31,200 A 30 year old does not want to be parented anymore, guys. 791 00:43:33,560 --> 00:43:37,760 And I tell you, this is still uncharted waters for me because 792 00:43:38,320 --> 00:43:39,360 you know, I'm in the midst of it. 793 00:43:39,360 --> 00:43:43,920 I'm learning how to do this now with a 31 year old daughter and 794 00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:46,720 a 35 year old son-in-law. It's crazy. 795 00:43:48,040 --> 00:43:51,000 And I will say in the beginning it was really difficult for me. 796 00:43:51,160 --> 00:43:54,360 I did not know. How to do boundaries well with 797 00:43:54,360 --> 00:43:56,040 that? Because she was my kid. 798 00:43:57,280 --> 00:44:00,840 And I barely knew Tyler, I met him like 3 times because he 799 00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:02,840 lived in Texas. And so I I. 800 00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:05,320 Was like, who am I giving my kid to here? 801 00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:08,680 I know you love God and all, but like, I don't know you, you 802 00:44:08,680 --> 00:44:12,680 know, and. So the first six. 803 00:44:12,680 --> 00:44:15,680 Months when they got married, it was a little difficult trying to 804 00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:18,600 figure out this new rhythm. Letting go, letting your 805 00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:21,760 children go and cleave to their spouses, right? 806 00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:24,520 Building their own families, building their own lives. 807 00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:27,600 It is weird. You're no longer parenting them, 808 00:44:27,600 --> 00:44:29,520 but you're also not their girlfriend because you're their 809 00:44:29,520 --> 00:44:31,960 mom, you know? And that's one of the things I 810 00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:34,240 always said to Jasmine, like, what is one of the things I 811 00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:36,640 always said when you were growing up? 812 00:44:37,000 --> 00:44:39,440 And she said you always said I'm not your girlfriend, I'm your 813 00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:42,960 mom. You only got 1 of me, right? 814 00:44:43,760 --> 00:44:46,600 You can have many girlfriends, but you got one of me. 815 00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:52,480 And so I think what's interesting with that is that 816 00:44:52,680 --> 00:44:55,160 it's not quite a girlfriend, right? 817 00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:59,040 It's not parenting anymore. Pam, what would you? 818 00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:00,720 Say it is. What? 819 00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:05,560 Do you have an idea, Pam? Like if it's not parenting, if 820 00:45:05,560 --> 00:45:08,840 it's not mothering, would you think it's friendship? 821 00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:12,720 I'm just curious for those that have kids that are 30 some years 822 00:45:12,720 --> 00:45:15,040 old. What do you think? 823 00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:20,880 Oh no, sorry. But for those that know who 824 00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:23,360 knows Bob, what does it look like? 825 00:45:27,000 --> 00:45:36,040 A passive mentor like that? No, you cannot, nor can you, nor 826 00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:38,960 can you discipline or take care of their children, right? 827 00:45:38,960 --> 00:45:41,040 Those are their children. You did your part already. 828 00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:43,160 So what? So here's what I want to say 829 00:45:43,160 --> 00:45:44,760 with that. Here's the thing that I did. 830 00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:49,040 What I said was, OK, Tyler, you and me, let's go out for coffee. 831 00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:52,880 My son-in-law, Baghdad. And we sat down and I said, what 832 00:45:52,880 --> 00:45:58,360 can I do to win your trust? And he said, if I see you honor 833 00:45:58,520 --> 00:46:02,400 our marriage more than your own relationship with your daughter, 834 00:46:03,000 --> 00:46:07,640 I think that would win my trust. And I was like, OK, I can see 835 00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:09,560 that. Because he didn't want to be on 836 00:46:09,560 --> 00:46:10,680 the outskirts. Is that fair? 837 00:46:10,680 --> 00:46:24,840 Son in There was no longer this thing 838 00:46:24,840 --> 00:46:28,400 where I'm like I need time with my daughter I've got to fit in 839 00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:32,920 time with you Jasmine somewhere right this pressure but Tyler 840 00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:37,240 whatever right but I need time with my daughter when I started 841 00:46:37,240 --> 00:46:41,400 saying hey guys, I'm here every time I'm here every day if. 842 00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:47,480 You want go on dates, go build your relationship, go work it 843 00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:49,560 out, go have fun. You don't have to worry. 844 00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:53,880 I'm here right when that started happening. 845 00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:59,360 I think that's when Tyler became my son as much as my daughter 846 00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:04,080 was my daughter because it was no longer son-in-law daughter 847 00:47:04,320 --> 00:47:07,600 right now. These were my kids and I honored 848 00:47:07,600 --> 00:47:12,280 their marriage to form my own relationship with my daughter's 849 00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:16,080 life. And so so I just want to say 850 00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:19,480 that you guys, I know it's hard. Like I said, I don't have much 851 00:47:19,480 --> 00:47:23,240 to say on this subject because I'm navigating and I'm learning, 852 00:47:23,600 --> 00:47:28,000 but it did win his heart over. I did win my son in law's heart 853 00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:31,560 over and I'm learning still how to do that even with my 854 00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:34,640 grandkids. It's just it's a strange but 855 00:47:34,640 --> 00:47:38,040 also guys for those give your parents grace. 856 00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:41,760 It's their. First time to doing this stuff, 857 00:47:42,440 --> 00:47:46,640 they've never done it before. They're learning when to not 858 00:47:46,640 --> 00:47:51,360 cross a boundary with your kids or when not to say something 859 00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:54,920 that is off or different that you're doing than what they did. 860 00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:59,480 Your dad, your mom, right? But give them a little bit more 861 00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:02,760 grace. But set those boundaries also 862 00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:04,760 where it says Mom. Here's this. 863 00:48:04,840 --> 00:48:08,640 Here's the non negotiables. This is not where, this is what 864 00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:11,320 we're not doing this, but you're welcome over here. 865 00:48:11,480 --> 00:48:16,280 It's OK to set those boundaries but also extend grace to them. 866 00:48:17,840 --> 00:48:21,480 I think we're at the last scripture here, Isaiah 5413. 867 00:48:22,320 --> 00:48:25,520 Let's see what it says. I think it was the last. 868 00:48:25,520 --> 00:48:28,680 One, you showed it already, but let's, let's, let's see it 869 00:48:28,680 --> 00:48:30,400 again. All your children shall be 870 00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:34,160 taught by the Lord and grace shall be the peace of your 871 00:48:34,160 --> 00:48:36,600 children. Isn't that beautiful? 872 00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:41,040 It's another beautiful thing to speak over your kids, and I just 873 00:48:41,040 --> 00:48:45,160 want to end with that and just say, you know, the Lord loves 874 00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:48,440 our children more than we could ever love them. 875 00:48:50,920 --> 00:48:53,840 The Lord loves our children more than we could ever love them. 876 00:48:54,120 --> 00:48:57,440 When we're worried, when we're fearful, you know, it's such a 877 00:48:57,440 --> 00:49:00,720 good reminder to always give them back to the Lord. 878 00:49:00,880 --> 00:49:03,600 Because when I worry, when I fear over my grandkids or my 879 00:49:03,600 --> 00:49:08,040 grandchildren or my children or whatever, it's so amazing to be 880 00:49:08,040 --> 00:49:12,680 able to release them and say, God, you made them, you know 881 00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:16,480 them, you love them, you have the best for them. 882 00:49:16,800 --> 00:49:20,680 So I give them back to you there never been mine to give back 883 00:49:20,680 --> 00:49:24,440 ANYWAYS to, but I have to tell myself that so that I could 884 00:49:25,280 --> 00:49:30,440 navigate through the trauma of releasing all over again. 885 00:49:31,760 --> 00:49:33,800 Guys, I want to pray for you really quick and we're going to 886 00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:35,680 end right here. Thank you so much. 887 00:49:36,120 --> 00:49:39,880 Thank you for giving me grace this morning. 888 00:49:39,880 --> 00:49:42,560 Like I said, this message was put together within three hours 889 00:49:43,120 --> 00:49:45,720 and God is good. So I hope you got something out 890 00:49:45,720 --> 00:49:47,200 of it. Did you get something out of it? 891 00:49:47,840 --> 00:49:53,720 All right, good praise God. OK, well, Lord, I just pray for 892 00:49:53,720 --> 00:49:57,960 every parent in this room, no matter how old our children are. 893 00:49:58,000 --> 00:50:02,240 And God, we just pray for such supernatural season as we're 894 00:50:02,240 --> 00:50:05,400 walking through this new season in our culture and it's just 895 00:50:05,400 --> 00:50:09,640 getting harder in this world that we just pray for a deeper 896 00:50:09,640 --> 00:50:13,680 anointing as parents, God, as grandparents, Lord. 897 00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:16,880 To be able to navigate through these. 898 00:50:16,880 --> 00:50:20,680 Waters Lord, that are so uncharted and God we just pray 899 00:50:20,680 --> 00:50:23,360 over our children. God, we give them back to you 900 00:50:23,360 --> 00:50:26,240 today. God, our 30 some year olds, 40 901 00:50:26,240 --> 00:50:28,520 some year old children, our grandchildren, our little 902 00:50:28,520 --> 00:50:31,520 children and our future children. 903 00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:36,640 God, we give them to you, Lord. We thank you, God, that your 904 00:50:36,640 --> 00:50:40,640 plan is best over them. We pray for protection over 905 00:50:40,640 --> 00:50:44,600 their minds, over their hearts, over them physically right now. 906 00:50:44,600 --> 00:50:48,960 God, in Jesus name, Lord, we break every generational curse 907 00:50:48,960 --> 00:50:52,120 over them in the name of Jesus. God, we thank you that our 908 00:50:52,120 --> 00:50:55,960 children will not suffer with addiction like some people in 909 00:50:55,960 --> 00:50:57,680 our family. We thank you God, our children 910 00:50:57,680 --> 00:51:01,600 will not suffer from witchcraft like some of our past did. 911 00:51:01,920 --> 00:51:05,160 God, we thank you, Lord. God, that you. 912 00:51:05,400 --> 00:51:09,600 You can do new things, God, we pray for new things in our 913 00:51:09,600 --> 00:51:12,760 children, in our future children, God, protect their 914 00:51:12,760 --> 00:51:16,840 spouses, protect their lives, protect them at school, protect 915 00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:20,600 them at sports. God and teach them to love you 916 00:51:20,880 --> 00:51:23,720 and to know you. And Father, we pray the same for 917 00:51:23,720 --> 00:51:26,680 our hearts. God that in this next season you 918 00:51:26,680 --> 00:51:30,680 would fill our hearts to really know you, to really love you and 919 00:51:30,680 --> 00:51:34,960 serve you and God that just by doing so, our children will be 920 00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:37,400 in aspired to go deeper with you. 921 00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:42,400 And we ask it all in Jesus mighty name, Amen. 922 00:51:43,120 --> 00:51:44,920 So Kurt is not here to give you.