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Welcome to the Unfuck Your 
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All right, now let's get into 

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today's episode. 
Hello, my loves. 

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Welcome back to the Unfuck Your 
Relationships podcast. 

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I'm your host, Michelle Panning,
and this is episode 235. 

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Let's talk about abandonment 
wounds. 

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And before you switch this off 
because you're like, yeah, yeah,

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yeah. 
I know. 

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I've done therapy. 
I know my attachment style. 

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Stay with me for a second, OK? 
Most women with abandonment 

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wounds, which there's a lot of 
you are not actually healing 

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them. 
You're just managing them 

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better, right? 
You're self aware, you can 

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explain your patterns, you know 
why they are like why you are 

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the way that you are. 
But the wound is still running 

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the show and it shows up as 
obsessing when someone slightly 

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pulls away or there's a little 
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relationship or connection. 
It could be panic when 

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communication changes even 
slightly. 

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Could be over giving, over 
explaining, staying in 

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relationships that feel like 
fucking shit because being alone

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feels worse. 
And the real kicker is that most

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women with abandonment wounds 
are not actually scared of being

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alone. 
What they're actually afraid of 

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is being emotionally left while 
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I don't know if you've ever felt
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could feel I've felt lonelier 
sitting next to, you know, a 

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partner or a friend or whoever 
in the past than I did being on 

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my own, right. 
So you can absolutely feel it's 

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like that, that age-old tale of 
like I'm surrounded by people, 

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but I feel completely alone. 
And that is what their deepest 

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fear is, right? 
So let's get something straight.

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An abandonment wound is not you 
being dramatic, you being needy,

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you being too much, whatever it 
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It's think of it as like a 
nervous system injury, right? 

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It forms when connection was 
inconsistent, when love was 

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unpredictable, when care came 
and went and was kind of hot and

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cold and you never knew if 
someone would be there 

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emotionally, physically, 
whatever it is. 

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So your nervous system at some 
point learned I have to stay 

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alert, I have to attach harder. 
I have to keep the connection 

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alive at all costs. 
Not because you're weak, but 

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because at one point in your 
life, connection equaled 

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survival. 
And that information doesn't 

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just leave your body because you
grow up. 

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And here's the part that most 
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The core wound isn't people 
leave me. 

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Listen to this one. 
The core wound isn't people 

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leave me. 
The core wound is I leave myself

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to keep people. 
I'm going to say that again, the

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core wound isn't people leave 
me. 

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The core wound is I leave myself
to keep people. 

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And this is the part that stings
because women with abandonment 

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wounds are often incredible 
partners. 

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You probably feel very, very 
deeply or maybe highly 

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intuitive. 
You're emotionally intelligent, 

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but you pay for connection with 
self betrayal. 

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If you're listening to this 
thinking, why does it sound like

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she's literally in my head, then
it is time that you joined the 

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connected woman. 
This is the work that completely

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rewires how you show up in your 
love life. 

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If you're in a relationship, 
this is how you stop repeating 

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the same patterns over and over 
again. 

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You stop lashing out, you stop 
shutting down, and you turn 

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things around to the point where
your partner actually falls in 

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love with you all over again. 
And if you're single, this is 

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how you stop choosing the same 
person in a different body and 

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actually attract someone who is 
emotionally available, ready, is

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obsessed with you, and can meet 
you from the very beginning. 

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This is the end of I know 
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This is the point where these 
patterns are stopped for good. 

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If you know you're ready for 
this work, you know what to do. 

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The link will be in the 
description. 

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Join the Connected woman today. 
Let's get back to the episode. 

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I've seen this so many times and
I've coached at this point 

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thousands of women through this 
exact same thing. 

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And they're like, I'm just so 
afraid of being left. 

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I'm so afraid of being left. 
And I'm like, but the very thing

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that you are afraid of you do to
yourself on a daily basis. 

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You are so afraid of this man or
this woman leaving you, but you 

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leave yourself to keep said man 
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So your deepest fear of 
abandonment is happening on a 

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fucking daily basis. 
So these women who were like, 

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like I said, like deep feelers, 
like emotionally intelligent, 

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all these things, they say yes 
when they mean no. 

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You stay quiet when when 
something hurts, you'll soften 

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your needs to avoid being too 
much and center everybody else's

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feelings over your own. 
That's the wound, not the 

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anxiety, not the panic, not the 
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It's the self abandoned men. 
Let's talk about triggers for a 

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second, right? 
Because these go hand in hand 

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when someone doesn't text back 
or when you notice a tone 

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change, like a change in 
someone's tone when plans aren't

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fully confirmed, when someone 
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bit of distance in the 
relationship and suddenly you're

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like, I'm not OK. 
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My chest is tight. 
I feel like I'm about to be 

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rejected. 
That reaction is not about now. 

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And this is something I go into 
very deeply inside the connector

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woman, we have an entire module 
on triggers, right? 

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It's an old emotion being 
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So your nervous system isn't 
responding to someone hasn't 

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replied, right? 
It's responding to this feels 

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like I'm about to be left and 
I'm not going to survive that. 

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And yeah, I get it. 
That sounds dramatic. 

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But biologically, that fear was 
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As a child, abandonment did 
equal danger, right? 

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If you got abandoned when you 
were two months old, you're 

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going to die. 
And so that nervous system that 

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fight or flight still lives in 
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It lives in our nervous system. 
So your nervous system hasn't 

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quite caught up to the fact that
you are grown now that actually,

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and this is the catch 22 about 
an abandonment wound, you can't 

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actually be abandoned by another
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You actually can't. 
You can, you can be left. 

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You cannot, but you cannot be 
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So your nervous system hasn't 
quite caught up to the fact that

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you're, you're grown up now. 
And this is foundational because

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every time the abandonment wound
activates, you need to make this

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distinction. 
I'm triggered, but I am not 

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unsafe or I am triggered and I 
am safe. 

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This is not about survival. 
This is about connection. 

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Your nervous system doesn't know
the difference until you teach 

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it the difference. 
And you don't teach it by 

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forcing yourself to calm down or
gaslighting yourself or telling 

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yourself don't be so anxious. 
You teach it through repetition 

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and emotional proof, right? 
Repetition and emotional proof. 

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So what does this mean? 
Let's get practical for a 

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second, right? 
Because I will say this over and

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over and over again, healing 
doesn't happen just by 

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understanding. 
It's all well and good that you 

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can tell me your triggers and 
where they came from and why 

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they're there in the childhood 
wound that they're associated 

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to. 
And this thing that happened 

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when you were seven years old 
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Great, right? 
But healing doesn't happen by 

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understanding. 
It happens by doing something 

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different when the trigger hits.
So first, name the feeling, 

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don't suppress it, right? 
Not I shouldn't feel this way, 

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but OK. 
I feel anxious, I feel scared, I

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feel rejected, I feel abandoned.
Right when you name it, you stop

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being so inside of it, if you 
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Second clock the story that your
mind is telling you so ask 

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yourself what meaning am I 
giving this right now? 

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Usually it's like I'm not 
important, I don't matter, I'm 

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about to be left, I'm not 
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Whatever it is, put it on paper 
if you want to get it the fuck 

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out of your head, right? 
So put it on paper, voice note 

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yourself, say it out loud, 
whatever you need to do, just 

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get it out. 
All of these stories of what 

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you're making it mean and then 
3rd question the fuck out of it,

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right? 
Not let me think positively, but

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can I actually know that this is
true, right? 

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So for instance, I'm not 
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Can you actually know that that 
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Because most abandonment stories
are just recycled bullshit from 

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your childhood. 
Feelings are not facts, right? 

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So these stories that we create,
they're not factuals. 

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So then, sorry, factuals is not 
a word. 

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They're not factual. 
They are not facts, right? 

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4th, find proof, real proof that
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I want you to look at who shows 
up for you, who has stayed, who 

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has proven consistency. 
Our brain often needs evidence, 

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not necessarily affirmations. 
The combination of those two. 

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Chef's kiss, right? 
And then fifth, meet the need 

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yourself first. 
So this is where the wound 

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actually heals. 
Ask yourself, what do I need 

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right now? 
Is it reassurance, safety, 

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comfort, grounding? 
And instead of outsourcing that 

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to someone else, you give it to 
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And this is how you stop 
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Here's the uncomfortable truth. 
Abandonment wounds don't heal 

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just because someone stays. 
They heal because you do, right?

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Abandonment wounds don't heal 
because someone stays. 

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They heal because you do. 
There's this misconception of 

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like, oh, if I could just get 
someone and they never leave me,

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then I'll never feel this again.
That's not true. 

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Because as I said, you can be in
a conversation with someone and 

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still feel emotionally 
abandoned, right? 

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But The thing is, you don't 
leave yourself. 

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Because every time you choose 
yourself, every time you soothe 

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your own system, every time you 
choose to not chase or beg or 

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overexlain or collapse, you send
a new message to your nervous 

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system. 
I'm here. 

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I won't leave you. 
You're safe with me. 

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That's the reprogramming. 
Not intellectually, but 

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somatically, right? 
Somatically meaning like of the 

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body, emotionally and repeatedly
until this wound is healed. 

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And then, you know, 
inconsistency, like until this 

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wound is healed, inconsistency. 
It feels familiar, right? 

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Emotional unavailability. 
It feels magnetic. 

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That push pull feels like 
intensity and chemistry and all 

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of the things, right? 
Not because you consciously want

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chaos. 
I don't know, maybe you do, who 

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knows, Maybe you're a glutton 
for punishment, but because your

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nervous system is trying to 
resolve that old injury, right? 

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It's like, imagine you had this,
like right now, I've got this 

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fucking massive bruise. 
I, I fell or like walked into 

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something the other day and I've
got this massive bruise on my 

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thigh. 
And every time that I just 

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lightly touch it, it hurts, 
right? 

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So you can imagine if I touch my
other leg, I can squeeze my leg 

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and that doesn't hurt. 
But having an abandonment wound 

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is like having a massive fucking
bruise that anytime someone 

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doesn't have to punch you in the
bruise for it to hurt, they just

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have to lightly graze over it. 
And it's like, Ouch, ah, and 

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it's triggered, right? 
And so that's your nervous 

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system trying to resolve that 
old injury. 

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And that's exactly why knowing 
better isn't enough. 

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You have to become someone. 
You have to become the woman who

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no longer abandons herself. 
And This is why the connected 

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woman exists, right? 
My signature program. 

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Not to make you secure on the 
surface, but to heal the root of

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why connection feels so fucking 
unsafe in your body in the first

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place. 
So inside the connector wound, 

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we heal abandonment wounds 
properly. 

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We stop self abandonment 
patterns, We rewire anxious 

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attachment responses and avoid 
an attachment stuff. 

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Yeah. 
We build self trust, emotional 

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safety and secure relating. 
So you don't have to white 

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knuckle your way through dating 
or lose yourself in 

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relationships or panic every 
time there's a little bit of 

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space in your relationships. 
So the Connected Woman starts in

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February. 
And if this episode felt 

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personal, it's because it is. 
I have designed them that way. 

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All right, guys, thank you for 
hanging out with me today. 

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I love you and I will see you 
next week. 

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All right, my love, let what 
landed today actually land 

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because this podcast is not just
here to inspire you. 

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It is here to change you, your 
standards, your patterns, your 

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life. 
And if you are done living on 

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autopilot, you're done 
shrinking. 

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You're done repeating the same 
fucking shit over and over. 

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Let this be your reminder. 
You are built for more. 

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Unfucking your life is a choice 
you make every single day. 

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And if you want to go deeper, 
come hang out with me on 

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Instagram at Michelle Panning 
because that is where I share 

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all of the raw stuff, the real 
time shifts that I'm having in 

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my life and everything that I am
doing to raise my own standards 

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to in life and in love. 
I love you. 

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I believe in your next level. 
Go and fuck your life, babe.