1 00:00:07,880 --> 00:00:10,600 Welcome to the Unfuck Your Relationships podcast. 2 00:00:10,920 --> 00:00:13,600 I'm Michelle Panning, your host. Mindset. 3 00:00:13,600 --> 00:00:17,400 And embodiment coach and mentor trigger queen and founder of the 4 00:00:17,400 --> 00:00:21,280 Connected Woman program. Think of me as your new. 5 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:23,280 Ride or die. That's going to help you unfuck 6 00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:26,920 your relationships with love, sex, business, and money. 7 00:00:27,280 --> 00:00:31,640 And just so you know, I absolutely will not be blowing 8 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:33,360 smoke up your ass just to make you feel better. 9 00:00:34,240 --> 00:00:35,840 I just wanted to let you in on that. 10 00:00:36,240 --> 00:00:38,320 So this is a space where I'm going to be helping you have 11 00:00:38,320 --> 00:00:41,640 high as fuck standards for the way that you lead your life and 12 00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:42,800 business. I'm going to. 13 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:46,280 Be sharing, thought provoking. Conversations potent and direct 14 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:49,240 truth bombs and I'm going to take you behind the scenes of my 15 00:00:49,240 --> 00:00:54,240 life and the lessons that I'm learning so you don't have to I 16 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:56,960 genuinely want the women who come into my world through 17 00:00:56,960 --> 00:00:59,800 listening to this podcast to have it all because I don't 18 00:00:59,800 --> 00:01:02,200 believe in settling for mediocrity because. 19 00:01:02,920 --> 00:01:05,080 That's just not a reality in my world. 20 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:06,760 And I don't think it has to be a. 21 00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:09,160 Reality in your world either, so strap. 22 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:12,520 Yourself in, get comfy and. Let's fucking go. 23 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:21,640 Hello, my loves. Welcome back to the Unfuck Your 24 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:24,720 Relationships podcast. I'm your host, Michelle Panning, 25 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:33,080 and this is episode 199. I was just speaking to my team 26 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:38,200 member and I was saying I can't believe that next week will be 27 00:01:38,360 --> 00:01:43,040 200 episodes. I have never missed a week. 28 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:46,840 I have never missed an episode. The only times where we do not 29 00:01:46,840 --> 00:01:50,960 put out an episode is American Thanksgiving and Christmas only 30 00:01:50,960 --> 00:01:55,560 because my team is in America and they take those two weeks 31 00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:59,640 off. That's been the only reason why 32 00:01:59,640 --> 00:02:02,160 there are no episodes at American Thanksgiving. 33 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:04,400 I'm not even American, I'm Canadian, but I live in 34 00:02:04,400 --> 00:02:09,720 Australia and Christmas, so yay go me for being so fucking 35 00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:13,120 consistent. This has been literal years of 36 00:02:13,120 --> 00:02:16,080 my life. And yeah, I'll get more into it 37 00:02:16,080 --> 00:02:18,720 next week because I'm sure it'll be a very sentimental episode. 38 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:22,600 I have something really, really, really fucking excited, exciting 39 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:26,280 plan for you guys for next week, which is it's going to be a 40 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:29,440 whole vibe. So make sure you listen to next 41 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:32,440 week's episode, but also listen to this episode. 42 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:36,040 Yeah, I have some really cool things planned for you guys, 43 00:02:36,080 --> 00:02:38,840 which is exciting. So thanks for being here and 44 00:02:38,840 --> 00:02:41,720 thanks for listening to 199 episodes. 45 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:44,120 I love seeing your comments on Spotify. 46 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:47,320 I love seeing your reviews on Apple Podcasts. 47 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:51,640 And please, I know people say this, but like truly, please 48 00:02:51,640 --> 00:02:56,000 take 2 seconds out of your day to leave a five star review, a 49 00:02:56,000 --> 00:02:59,840 rating on Spotify, leave a comment, leave a review on Apple 50 00:02:59,840 --> 00:03:03,280 podcast because it does help get the word out there to more 51 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:04,680 people. And like, I'm trying to heal 52 00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:06,200 some fucking relationships, guys. 53 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:11,080 Like the more women we help heal, the more men we help heal 54 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:14,480 and the more people we help heal and the less trauma there is. 55 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:18,480 So let's all work together to make that happen to UN fuck 56 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:20,080 everyone's relationships. Yeah. 57 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:28,360 OK, so I want to get into today's episode, which is really 58 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:33,000 about when you feel like you're doing all the things and not 59 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:37,000 getting anywhere. You're still self sabotaging. 60 00:03:37,360 --> 00:03:40,800 You're still, you know, overthinking every text. 61 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:45,040 You're still afraid of conflict. You're still going into, you 62 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:49,840 know, autopilot or shutting down or feeling stuck in your life or 63 00:03:49,840 --> 00:03:52,560 in your relationships. And it's like, what? 64 00:03:52,560 --> 00:03:55,080 Why? I've read all the books, I've 65 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:59,240 journaled, I've done the EFT tapping, I've done breath work. 66 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:05,600 I can quote Gaboormate and the wizard Liz, you know, like, it's 67 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:07,880 like my life depends on it. So why? 68 00:04:07,880 --> 00:04:11,360 Why am I still and love? Why am I unclear in my purpose? 69 00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:14,600 Why am I burnt out even though I've done all the work? 70 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:17,279 And this is really what we're going to be diving into today. 71 00:04:17,640 --> 00:04:21,839 This is really for the woman who is a high achiever. 72 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:25,440 And you can look at that in the very literal sense of you're a 73 00:04:25,440 --> 00:04:29,240 high achiever in your career and you know, maybe you're climbing 74 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:31,640 the corporate ladder or you're an entrepreneur and you own your 75 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:35,840 own business, whatever it is, or just a high achiever. 76 00:04:35,840 --> 00:04:38,320 And like you have high standards for your life. 77 00:04:38,320 --> 00:04:41,920 You're very on top of your fitness and your nutrition, and 78 00:04:42,280 --> 00:04:45,280 you have high standards in your relationships and all of the 79 00:04:45,280 --> 00:04:47,200 things. And you're very self aware. 80 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:50,000 Maybe you've been in therapy for a long time, but you're still 81 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:52,960 self abandoning. This is for the woman who's done 82 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:56,800 all the right things, quote UN quote, the right things, but 83 00:04:56,800 --> 00:04:58,800 still feels like something's off. 84 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:02,560 And so we're going to talk about why mindset work and therapy 85 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:06,880 isn't just isn't enough and what you actually need to do to feel 86 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:11,160 that juicy aliveness again and be able to actually open your 87 00:05:11,160 --> 00:05:15,760 heart, right. So again, this is some this is 88 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:20,200 this archetype of the woman who's self aware but stuck is 89 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:23,240 something I see all the time. So at the time of recording this 90 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:25,520 that we had our first call for the connected Woman's Day. 91 00:05:25,840 --> 00:05:28,720 And this is something that I get everyone to do an intro video, 92 00:05:28,720 --> 00:05:31,240 like a welcome video in the Telegram group. 93 00:05:31,640 --> 00:05:34,240 And a theme that was coming up so much was perfectionism, 94 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:36,600 right? Of I've recorded this five times 95 00:05:37,080 --> 00:05:39,680 or I was putting this off. I didn't want to do it. 96 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:41,440 I was rehearsing what I was going to say. 97 00:05:41,440 --> 00:05:44,160 I have notes so that I don't forget what I'm going to say. 98 00:05:44,600 --> 00:05:47,880 And there's there's this fear of getting things wrong. 99 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:49,960 There's this fear of not being enough. 100 00:05:49,960 --> 00:05:54,640 There's this fear of, you know, being seen a certain way. 101 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:57,960 And that plays out in relationships all the time 102 00:05:58,120 --> 00:06:03,680 because we don't want to share the truth of how we're actually 103 00:06:03,680 --> 00:06:07,840 feeling because we're so especially, you know, you're 104 00:06:07,840 --> 00:06:10,960 into personal development. You're trying to be more quote 105 00:06:10,960 --> 00:06:14,760 UN quote conscious. So you're reading all the books. 106 00:06:14,760 --> 00:06:18,000 You're maybe you maybe done a coaching program or two. 107 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:22,560 You can give great advice to your friends, but can't fucking 108 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:26,360 take it yourself, right? You're maybe you're not a hot 109 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:30,040 mess anymore, but you're certainly not thriving, right? 110 00:06:30,040 --> 00:06:33,040 You know your patterns, but you're still repeating them. 111 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:36,880 Why, why, why, why? It's because you're 112 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:41,600 intellectually aware of your wounds and your patterns, but 113 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:44,760 you're still emotionally reacting from them. 114 00:06:45,160 --> 00:06:49,440 So they haven't actually been healed at the root. 115 00:06:49,440 --> 00:06:53,920 And This is why people will loop in therapy for years and years 116 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:58,680 and years, because they're just talking about their problems. 117 00:06:59,120 --> 00:07:01,440 They're talking about their patterns. 118 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:06,080 Oh and my anxious attachment is because when I was 4 these 119 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:09,360 things happened and my mom did this and my dad wasn't present 120 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:12,560 and all those things and those things matter 100%. 121 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:15,560 You could be right on the money that that is where you're 122 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:19,240 anxious attachment stemmed from. Or This is why I'm avoided 123 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:23,280 because I felt engulfed and smothered by my caretaker when I 124 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:25,920 was a child. That could be 100% true. 125 00:07:25,920 --> 00:07:29,880 I don't doubt that it is, but you're still doing it because 126 00:07:30,120 --> 00:07:32,600 you're intellectualizing the wound. 127 00:07:32,680 --> 00:07:37,840 You're intellectualizing the pattern rather than actually 128 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:42,440 going into what you feel around it. 129 00:07:42,440 --> 00:07:47,000 It's like people can talk about like trauma with no. 130 00:07:47,480 --> 00:07:50,800 Like, what am I trying to say? Like, no, it feels like there's 131 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:54,280 like no emotion there. Now, sometimes it's because 132 00:07:54,440 --> 00:07:57,760 you've actually integrated the trauma, but more often than not 133 00:07:57,840 --> 00:08:01,520 it's because you've actually had to disconnect from the feeling 134 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:04,320 of it and you've gone into your logical. 135 00:08:04,320 --> 00:08:06,880 Mind. And tried to make sense of it or 136 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:10,960 tried to disassociate from it. And so you can talk about, oh, 137 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:13,720 and this is where that came from, but you're not actually 138 00:08:13,720 --> 00:08:18,120 feeling the somatic, somatic meaning from the body, right of 139 00:08:18,120 --> 00:08:21,200 the body. You're not actually feeling the 140 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:23,200 wound. And so then it keeps coming up 141 00:08:23,200 --> 00:08:26,440 over and over and over. And this is where you get into 142 00:08:26,440 --> 00:08:28,440 relationships and you're like, what the fuck? 143 00:08:28,440 --> 00:08:31,240 I don't get it. I'm an intelligent, high 144 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:35,440 achieving, you know, got her shit together woman. 145 00:08:35,919 --> 00:08:39,280 And yet when it comes to relationships, I fall apart. 146 00:08:39,640 --> 00:08:42,320 I see it all the time. This has been a theme of the 147 00:08:42,919 --> 00:08:45,000 women of the videos that I was watching. 148 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:46,760 I was like, again, a theme of perfectionism. 149 00:08:47,200 --> 00:08:51,360 And also this theme that people kept saying, I'm so good when 150 00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:55,880 I'm single, but as soon as I get into a relationship, I spiral. 151 00:08:56,040 --> 00:08:58,080 Like I lose myself. I'm an entirely different 152 00:08:58,080 --> 00:08:59,880 person. Why is that? 153 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:04,000 Because when you get into a relationship, all your shit 154 00:09:04,000 --> 00:09:08,000 comes up when you're single. I fell into this trap in I think 155 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:10,680 2020, you know, we were on lockdown. 156 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:13,960 I lived in Melbourne, which had some of the harshest lockdowns 157 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:16,160 in the world. We were in lockdown. 158 00:09:16,360 --> 00:09:20,000 I was single. I wasn't dating guys. 159 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:22,320 I was thriving. They were like, how are you 160 00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:26,040 doing living alone? And I was like, this is ideal 161 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:27,120 for me. I love this. 162 00:09:27,840 --> 00:09:31,560 And so I really thought, you know, and I during that time, 163 00:09:31,560 --> 00:09:35,480 like I ended up moving to QLD, still single, lived in my own 164 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:39,080 place and I was like, I am thriving, like I'm so happy. 165 00:09:39,400 --> 00:09:43,120 Then I got into a relationship and slowly things started to 166 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,280 fall apart. Why? 167 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:47,840 Why was I thriving when I was single? 168 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:51,880 One, because I was taking good care of myself for sure, but 169 00:09:51,880 --> 00:09:55,360 also there was nothing triggering me. 170 00:09:55,680 --> 00:09:59,640 I'm in my house by myself, where, you know, if there's 171 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:02,560 mess, it's because of me. But my house is like always 172 00:10:02,560 --> 00:10:04,600 clean. Everything's exactly the way 173 00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:07,320 that I want it. No one's making noise, no one's 174 00:10:07,320 --> 00:10:09,520 bothering me when I don't want to be bothered. 175 00:10:09,920 --> 00:10:14,640 So nothing was triggering my wounds, my abandonment wounds, 176 00:10:14,840 --> 00:10:19,520 rejection, you name it, right? This thing of like needing to be 177 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:21,840 in control. I was sweet. 178 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:24,040 Then when you get into a relationship. 179 00:10:24,240 --> 00:10:27,440 Your wounds are triggered. And so then your inner child 180 00:10:27,440 --> 00:10:31,360 starts to run the show while your adult self is trying to 181 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:34,440 mindset your way out of it. You're trying to do positive 182 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:38,400 thinking and affirmations and journaling and a million fucking 183 00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:42,160 journal prompts on how to get to the root of the thing and what's 184 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:45,240 where did this come from? It doesn't actually matter, 185 00:10:45,480 --> 00:10:49,560 right? And what happens is it's like 186 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:54,080 you know your worth, but you still shrink when a man pulls 187 00:10:54,080 --> 00:10:58,080 away. Or you know your boundaries, but 188 00:10:58,360 --> 00:11:02,200 every time you go to go speak, your boundary feels like your 189 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:05,040 throat is closing, right? Get that lump in your throat and 190 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:08,440 it's like, like, I can't actually say the thing, right? 191 00:11:08,640 --> 00:11:12,400 Or you say that you want more. You may even get the courage to 192 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:15,520 say to your partner, you know, this isn't good enough. 193 00:11:15,560 --> 00:11:17,600 I want more. I want this. 194 00:11:17,600 --> 00:11:19,680 I want, this is my desire. Those are my needs. 195 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:23,520 But your actions still show that you don't believe that you're 196 00:11:23,520 --> 00:11:27,600 worthy of it, right? And so we want to kind of 197 00:11:27,880 --> 00:11:31,440 honestly agitate the pain. And this is what I said in this 198 00:11:31,440 --> 00:11:37,080 first call was over these next 8 weeks or whatever the however 199 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:41,480 long the course is, I'm like, I'm purposely agitating you so 200 00:11:41,480 --> 00:11:43,720 that more shadows come to the surface, right? 201 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:47,400 It's that famous quote by Carl Jung, which is until you make 202 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:50,360 the unconscious conscious, it will rule your life and you will 203 00:11:50,360 --> 00:11:54,200 continue to call it fate. So This is why in shadow work we 204 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:59,080 want to agitate all your shit to come to the surface so that we 205 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:02,680 can make it conscious and you can actually start to then work 206 00:12:02,680 --> 00:12:05,800 at it. All right, my loves. 207 00:12:05,800 --> 00:12:08,800 I want to talk to you for a quick second before we get back 208 00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:11,320 to the episode. I want to talk to you about the 209 00:12:11,320 --> 00:12:14,880 experience formerly known as the Connected Woman Experience. 210 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:17,800 So this is a 12 month group mentoring experience where you 211 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:21,400 dial in on all things love, confidence, sex, money, 212 00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:25,760 embodiment, sexuality, sensuality, pleasure, just 213 00:12:25,840 --> 00:12:29,280 fucking loving yourself. This is a space where you really 214 00:12:29,280 --> 00:12:31,600 get to fall in love with yourself at the deepest levels. 215 00:12:31,960 --> 00:12:35,920 I want you to think how much Kanye West loves Kanye West. 216 00:12:36,280 --> 00:12:39,280 Like that kind of vibe minus all the narcissism. 217 00:12:39,920 --> 00:12:43,000 And for an entire year you will have access to me as your 218 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:44,520 mentor. And every month. 219 00:12:44,760 --> 00:12:46,960 We'll have three calls together, so we'll have. 220 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:49,920 A group coaching call where you can get my direct feedback on 221 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:53,160 your personal situation. I do not do that anywhere 222 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:54,920 outside of my one to one coaching. 223 00:12:55,240 --> 00:12:57,320 We will also have an embodiment call where you can actually 224 00:12:57,320 --> 00:12:59,840 embody the shit that you're learning, not just have it sit 225 00:12:59,840 --> 00:13:03,240 in that noggin of yours. And we will also have a mystery 226 00:13:03,240 --> 00:13:06,040 call where we will have guest speakers and other fun and spicy 227 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:07,520 shit. Because I just cannot help 228 00:13:07,520 --> 00:13:09,240 myself. Truly I cannot. 229 00:13:09,880 --> 00:13:13,480 And not only that, you get instant access to the vault 230 00:13:13,480 --> 00:13:16,720 which includes basically my entire product suite, so you can 231 00:13:16,800 --> 00:13:20,280 instantly binge all the content and Start learning from day one. 232 00:13:20,320 --> 00:13:24,080 Like fucking buy Netflix. You get access to the connected 233 00:13:24,080 --> 00:13:28,360 woman awakening her for at school, main character energy 234 00:13:28,680 --> 00:13:32,480 swipe right, savage men, money, magnetism, like everything 235 00:13:32,760 --> 00:13:36,600 everything OK, and you'll also get access to anything that I 236 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:40,480 decide to run live within your year inside the experience. 237 00:13:41,120 --> 00:13:43,880 You will also have a Telegram group chat. 238 00:13:43,880 --> 00:13:45,880 Where you can connect. With the other women you can 239 00:13:45,880 --> 00:13:48,840 brag and take up space. That is like my favorite chat. 240 00:13:48,920 --> 00:13:50,560 Thread to. Be in where the women are just 241 00:13:50,560 --> 00:13:52,600 celebrating each other and celebrating themselves. 242 00:13:52,880 --> 00:13:56,000 You can ask me questions as they arise in real time. 243 00:13:56,360 --> 00:13:59,280 All the things. This really is a container where 244 00:13:59,280 --> 00:14:02,360 we're focused on movement, momentum and actually moving the 245 00:14:02,360 --> 00:14:03,200 needle. In your life. 246 00:14:03,520 --> 00:14:06,440 And I totally get that it can be scary to invest in yourself like 247 00:14:06,440 --> 00:14:09,120 this, especially if you're used to putting the focus on other 248 00:14:09,120 --> 00:14:11,720 motherfucker. But you but at what point are 249 00:14:11,720 --> 00:14:14,560 you planning on shifting that? Like are you going to be 79? 250 00:14:14,560 --> 00:14:18,480 Being like one day I will invest in the experience, one day I 251 00:14:18,480 --> 00:14:20,680 will invest in myself. Like no. 252 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:25,800 At what point do you decide that you are worthy and deserving of 253 00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:30,480 investing into yourself? So if you are ready, come join 254 00:14:30,480 --> 00:14:33,040 us. And if you are shitting your 255 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:36,000 pants and all of the stories are coming up, I can't afford it. 256 00:14:36,080 --> 00:14:37,960 Maybe next year. A year is a long time. 257 00:14:38,080 --> 00:14:40,280 I don't know if I can commit. What if I don't get results? 258 00:14:40,400 --> 00:14:42,400 What if it's too much? What if I'm overwhelmed? 259 00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:45,120 What if I don't like it? That's an even bigger sign to 260 00:14:45,120 --> 00:14:48,160 come join us. So I would love to see you 261 00:14:48,160 --> 00:14:50,120 inside the experience. The link will be in the 262 00:14:50,120 --> 00:14:51,960 description. If you have any questions at 263 00:14:51,960 --> 00:14:55,920 all, you can always e-mail us at contact@michellepanning.com or 264 00:14:55,920 --> 00:14:58,600 just DM me on Instagram at Michelle Panning and I am. 265 00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:01,160 Happy to answer any. Questions we can go back and 266 00:15:01,160 --> 00:15:03,120 forth and voice notes let me know. 267 00:15:03,160 --> 00:15:05,440 And I cannot wait to see you inside the experience. 268 00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:11,160 Let's get back to the episode Now here's the thing, right? 269 00:15:11,440 --> 00:15:15,840 So many of you listening have incredible awareness. 270 00:15:16,360 --> 00:15:19,360 So many women who come into my world are like, and this and 271 00:15:19,360 --> 00:15:21,840 this and this and that and they're so self aware, right? 272 00:15:22,360 --> 00:15:28,880 But mindset without embodiment or awareness without embodiment 273 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:31,800 is mental fucking gymnastics, OK? 274 00:15:31,840 --> 00:15:35,320 It will not work. And it is honestly mental 275 00:15:35,320 --> 00:15:39,000 masturbation. And I see it all the time where 276 00:15:39,000 --> 00:15:43,720 people are just getting off on their wounds over and over and 277 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:45,880 over. And you may become actually 278 00:15:45,880 --> 00:15:52,480 addicted to your own wounds because you find comfort in 279 00:15:52,480 --> 00:15:56,720 chaos. You find comfort in discomfort. 280 00:15:57,040 --> 00:15:59,200 And if a part of you is going, Michelle, you don't know what 281 00:15:59,200 --> 00:16:00,720 the fuck you talk about. You don't know me. 282 00:16:01,520 --> 00:16:06,480 Settle down. Tell your ego to just for a 283 00:16:06,480 --> 00:16:09,920 second, OK, You can come back to her in a SEC. 284 00:16:10,400 --> 00:16:13,760 Try that on. Am I actually comfortable with 285 00:16:13,760 --> 00:16:16,080 chaos? Am I comfortable with 286 00:16:16,320 --> 00:16:18,040 discomfort? Right. 287 00:16:18,360 --> 00:16:23,680 And are you comfortable? Maybe not consciously, but are 288 00:16:23,680 --> 00:16:28,240 you unconsciously comfortable with being dysregulated all the 289 00:16:28,240 --> 00:16:29,560 time? Right. 290 00:16:29,920 --> 00:16:35,280 Nervous system dysregulation is why you keep freezing in a hard 291 00:16:35,280 --> 00:16:39,400 conversation or you get really defensive if someone offers you 292 00:16:39,400 --> 00:16:41,800 a piece of feedback, you're like, why are you criticizing 293 00:16:41,800 --> 00:16:43,040 me? Right? 294 00:16:43,240 --> 00:16:48,160 Or nervous system dysregulation is also why you sabotage when 295 00:16:48,160 --> 00:16:51,120 love gets good, right? You're like, I'm bored. 296 00:16:51,120 --> 00:16:53,120 I'm going to pick a fight. And that might not be a 297 00:16:53,120 --> 00:16:57,480 conscious decision, but you're like, I'm this is feeling too 298 00:16:57,480 --> 00:16:59,680 safe. This is feeling boring. 299 00:16:59,720 --> 00:17:02,920 I'm a stir some shit up. This is nervous system 300 00:17:02,960 --> 00:17:06,560 regulation is why you feel you can't receive without feeling 301 00:17:06,560 --> 00:17:08,640 like you're now indebted to this person. 302 00:17:09,200 --> 00:17:15,040 It's why you feel off when life looks good on paper because you 303 00:17:15,040 --> 00:17:19,839 can't out think trauma. I'll say that again. 304 00:17:20,400 --> 00:17:25,520 You cannot out think trauma. Trauma lives in the body and 305 00:17:25,520 --> 00:17:28,720 trauma is just undigested life experience. 306 00:17:28,720 --> 00:17:33,040 OK, yes, we have big tea traumas, you know, assault, 307 00:17:33,560 --> 00:17:40,080 poverty, homelessness, war, you know, any type of abuse that 308 00:17:40,080 --> 00:17:41,920 you've experienced. Those are all big tea traumas. 309 00:17:42,120 --> 00:17:46,360 But you have little tea traumas that for someone else to, to me 310 00:17:46,560 --> 00:17:49,560 could be actually really dysregulating. 311 00:17:49,560 --> 00:17:52,000 And for somebody else, they could take it in their stride. 312 00:17:52,240 --> 00:17:56,360 So don't trauma compare me like, oh, people have it so much 313 00:17:56,360 --> 00:17:58,600 worse. Like that's not actually helpful 314 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:01,680 if you've experienced trauma, but it does. 315 00:18:01,680 --> 00:18:06,640 It lives in the body, which is why embodiment is so important. 316 00:18:06,720 --> 00:18:11,240 It's not just about writing affirmations or journaling on it 317 00:18:11,280 --> 00:18:15,960 or or understanding why you are in the way that you are. 318 00:18:16,360 --> 00:18:19,600 It's not. Yes, mindset work is important. 319 00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:24,040 This is why I would, you know, if I had to sum up what I do, I 320 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:27,360 would say a mindset, an embodiment mentor in love, sex, 321 00:18:27,360 --> 00:18:30,200 and relationships because mindset is important as well. 322 00:18:30,480 --> 00:18:32,040 Right. So there's top down. 323 00:18:32,280 --> 00:18:35,920 Which is from the mind into the body. 324 00:18:35,920 --> 00:18:39,520 I'm really like simplifying it. And then there's bottom up, 325 00:18:39,520 --> 00:18:45,520 which is like body to the mind. OK, so it's for the purpose of 326 00:18:45,520 --> 00:18:47,880 this podcast, it's not your thinking that's the problem, 327 00:18:47,880 --> 00:18:51,480 it's your wiring. It's the actual relationship 328 00:18:51,480 --> 00:18:55,960 blueprint that is in your cellular DNA. 329 00:18:56,200 --> 00:19:00,800 And This is why those embodiment practices are so key and so 330 00:19:00,800 --> 00:19:04,480 crucial. I can't tell you, I'd say 331 00:19:04,480 --> 00:19:10,440 honestly, maybe 60% of the women who joined the Connected Woman 332 00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:14,120 were like, I've been listening to you since 2021, since 2022, 333 00:19:14,120 --> 00:19:17,280 like years, years. And they're like, and I keep 334 00:19:17,480 --> 00:19:19,160 doing the same thing. Why? 335 00:19:19,160 --> 00:19:23,680 Because there's no embodiment and what can happen, He's 336 00:19:23,720 --> 00:19:27,760 getting stuck in this trap of a quote UN quote healing 337 00:19:27,800 --> 00:19:31,800 aesthetic. OK, so you've got, you know, 338 00:19:31,800 --> 00:19:34,880 you're going on your hot girl walks, you've perfected your 339 00:19:34,880 --> 00:19:38,760 routine. You're asking ChatGPT for its 340 00:19:38,800 --> 00:19:40,800 reflections and all of the things. 341 00:19:40,800 --> 00:19:44,480 And you know what? Help me decode this guy's texts 342 00:19:44,480 --> 00:19:48,000 and help me understand my anxious or avoidant or 343 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:51,520 disorganized attachment style. You know, maybe you're making 344 00:19:51,520 --> 00:19:54,640 good money. Whatever it is, you're doing the 345 00:19:54,640 --> 00:19:59,080 things, but your nervous system is still waiting for the other 346 00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:02,960 shoe to drop because you're, you know, you've heard me talk about 347 00:20:03,360 --> 00:20:06,000 clock it, own it, clean it up. And if you haven't before, I'll 348 00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:08,280 explain it briefly. Clock it. 349 00:20:08,400 --> 00:20:12,080 So have the awareness. See the pattern. 350 00:20:12,280 --> 00:20:17,680 Oh, wow, I'm doing this thing. OK, cool. 351 00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:21,960 Clock it, own it. So take responsibility for that 352 00:20:21,960 --> 00:20:25,120 pattern. I am choosing to continue to do 353 00:20:25,120 --> 00:20:27,640 this pattern and then clean it up. 354 00:20:27,640 --> 00:20:31,160 And this is where people get stuck is the cleaning it up and 355 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:35,920 choosing differently, right? So you can say and tell me all 356 00:20:35,920 --> 00:20:38,560 the live long day about how you're self worthy and deserving 357 00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:42,040 of a great relationship, but if you continue to go back to that 358 00:20:42,040 --> 00:20:45,240 emotionally unavailable fuck wit, sorry, that's not in 359 00:20:45,240 --> 00:20:47,920 alignment with someone who believes that they're worthy and 360 00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:51,280 deserving of love. It simply is not. 361 00:20:51,280 --> 00:20:53,200 And I hate to be the bearer of bad news. 362 00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:54,520 I actually don't. I thrive on it. 363 00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:59,040 It's a it's a kink of mine. But like truly, you have to 364 00:20:59,040 --> 00:21:03,320 think, is this in alignment with the woman that I say that I want 365 00:21:03,320 --> 00:21:04,640 to be? Right. 366 00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:06,520 Oh, I'm going to go on this healing journey. 367 00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:08,040 OK, Well, you're going to actually have to do things 368 00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:10,040 differently. You're going to have to actually 369 00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:11,920 embody the woman that you want to become. 370 00:21:12,200 --> 00:21:14,600 Are you prepared to do that? And this is where people get 371 00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:16,680 stuck. Because if you got really 372 00:21:16,680 --> 00:21:19,560 fucking honest with yourself, the answer is no for the 373 00:21:19,560 --> 00:21:23,200 majority of people. Because there's this fear of, 374 00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:25,080 well, who am I going to be on the other side of that? 375 00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:29,120 If I actually choose to do an embodiment practice, whatever, 376 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:31,960 what's going to happen that looks, it's going to feel 377 00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:33,320 stupid. It's going to feel silly. 378 00:21:33,320 --> 00:21:34,800 I'm not going to know what to say. 379 00:21:35,120 --> 00:21:38,040 What if other people get it more than I do? 380 00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:40,160 Or what if I can't feel anything? 381 00:21:40,160 --> 00:21:42,960 Or what if I feel too much and then I shut down, right? 382 00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:48,200 And embodied transformation looks like, you know, doing 383 00:21:48,200 --> 00:21:50,440 things differently. So that could, that could look 384 00:21:50,440 --> 00:21:55,280 like not needing quote UN quote closure from your ex to move on 385 00:21:55,640 --> 00:21:59,160 or feeling safe in your body when someone disagrees with you. 386 00:21:59,520 --> 00:22:02,280 Just because someone disagrees with you doesn't mean that you 387 00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:05,280 are going to die, right? You're not going to die. 388 00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:08,440 Even though it can feel like that in our nervous system, it's 389 00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:13,200 building our capacity to be with big sensations, to be with big 390 00:22:13,200 --> 00:22:15,640 things. This is this is where people get 391 00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:19,520 stuck in their healing journey is that they think that once I 392 00:22:19,520 --> 00:22:26,400 do enough healing work, I will never feel angry or sad or 393 00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:33,120 guilty or shameful or any of those feelings ever again. 394 00:22:33,120 --> 00:22:36,400 And I'm going to be like happiness level 10 out of 1024 395 00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:38,280 seven. That's not what happens. 396 00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:42,000 You're still going to experience anger and frustration and shame 397 00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:47,280 and guilt and sadness and grief and all of the things, but you 398 00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:49,760 will have the capacity to deal with that. 399 00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:52,200 So those things don't spin you out. 400 00:22:52,200 --> 00:22:55,240 Someone cuts you off in traffic and you're not giving them the 401 00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:59,160 finger. You're like, OK, cool, right, 402 00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:02,920 You know you can start to embody transformation looks like 403 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:07,840 staying in your aliveness and your turn on even when things 404 00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:11,120 are uncertain. You don't get totally freaked 405 00:23:11,120 --> 00:23:13,480 out in spiral because things are changing. 406 00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:19,200 You actually welcome change and you can regulate after rejection 407 00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:23,680 or perceived abandonment and you stop taking people leaving your 408 00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:27,800 life or people quote UN quote rejecting you as there's 409 00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:31,440 something wrong with me. I'm not good enough or I'm too 410 00:23:31,440 --> 00:23:34,600 much right. And this is the shadow, the part 411 00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:38,760 of you that thinks that love is earned, that if love is taken 412 00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:41,080 away, it's because you did something wrong, that you are 413 00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:44,200 always the problem. And I get two types of women 414 00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:46,600 that I see in my world. And so you'll know which one you 415 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:48,440 are. You either take no 416 00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:51,520 responsibility and everything is everyone else's fault. 417 00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:53,760 It's your mom's fault, your dad's fault, your cousin's 418 00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:58,000 fault, your boyfriend's fault, your dog's fault, traffic, the 419 00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:02,280 government, God, you name it. Everything is everybody else's 420 00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:04,160 fault and you take no responsibility. 421 00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:08,840 Or you're the complete opposite and everything is your fault. 422 00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:11,880 And you believe that if you can just fix yourself that 423 00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:14,080 everything would be hunky Dory in your life, that you would 424 00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:16,440 never encounter discomfort ever again. 425 00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:20,360 You know who you are, and neither one of those are bad or 426 00:24:20,360 --> 00:24:22,880 wrong. It's just about doing the 427 00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:27,240 embodiment to come into equilibrium or that middle 428 00:24:27,240 --> 00:24:28,480 ground. So if you're the person who 429 00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:31,480 takes no responsibility, it's about helping you to start to 430 00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:33,160 take some responsibility for your life. 431 00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:36,440 That's actually a very powerful position to be in when you start 432 00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:38,760 to take responsibility. If you've listened to my first 433 00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:42,680 podcast episode, you'll know my crying on the kitchen floor 434 00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:46,280 moment where I had my come to Jesus moment and was like, is it 435 00:24:46,280 --> 00:24:48,840 possible that I am contributing to the demise of my 436 00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:50,400 relationships? Because that had never crossed 437 00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:52,600 my mind, because I was the person who blamed every Tom, 438 00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:55,200 Dick and Harry for the way my life was. 439 00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:57,880 Yeah. So if you're that person and 440 00:24:57,880 --> 00:24:59,960 it's about learning to take responsibility for your life, 441 00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:02,920 because if you take responsibility, you're now in a 442 00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:06,160 position of power because you can change. 443 00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:09,120 If you're the person who overly takes responsibility for every 444 00:25:09,120 --> 00:25:12,360 other motherfucker, well, it's about learning to take 445 00:25:12,360 --> 00:25:16,000 responsibility for yourself and give responsibility back to 446 00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:19,720 other people. And again, you can't mindset 447 00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:23,600 your way through this. You have to feel this. 448 00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:27,400 Yeah. And so it's not about becoming 449 00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:31,440 someone new. It's about remembering who you 450 00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:34,720 were before the world told you who to be. 451 00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:38,440 Small, soft, silent. More feminine. 452 00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:42,040 Less feminine, High achieving. Relax. 453 00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:45,880 Whatever the fuck. It's about you coming home to 454 00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:50,920 you and actually feeling that and building the capacity to 455 00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:54,240 make those decisions to, to make different decisions, right? 456 00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:58,560 Because otherwise, if I, if I'm having a conversation with you 457 00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:02,760 and you're in an obviously terrible relationship and it's 458 00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:05,360 just, let's just say it's very clear that you guys should break 459 00:26:05,360 --> 00:26:06,760 up. You guys tried and tried and 460 00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:08,200 tried for six years and it's not working. 461 00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:10,400 Whatever. If you come to that conclusion 462 00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:12,520 and you're like, OK, I'm going to leave. 463 00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:17,600 If you have not done the embodiment, it is going to take 464 00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:24,680 every bit of willpower within you to leave because you're 465 00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:28,840 still stuck in the trap of believing what I just said 466 00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:30,920 previously. Love is earned. 467 00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:33,720 I don't deserve it. I'm not worthy. 468 00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:36,160 What if I never find someone ever again? 469 00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:37,520 What if I'm alone? What? 470 00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:41,320 What if this is so common? What if he ends up being the 471 00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:44,120 perfect partner for the next girl he's with? 472 00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:50,920 I can assure you he won't be. He won't be OK. 473 00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:54,080 You know, I've even had those thoughts. 474 00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:57,640 I've had those thoughts. But if you are not embodying it, 475 00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:03,400 you're going to rely on sheer willpower to overcome all those 476 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:06,120 that that mind shatter all of those stories. 477 00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:13,960 If you're embodying worthiness and deservingness, yes, it's 478 00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:17,240 still going to require willpower because leaving a relationship 479 00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:21,400 is never easy, right or or completely transforming your 480 00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:24,200 relationship dynamic isn't the easiest thing in the world 481 00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:26,080 either. But when it's coming from a 482 00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:31,600 space of embodied worthiness and and deservingness, it is so much 483 00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:34,080 easier to make different choices. 484 00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:38,280 So to give you an example from my own life, when I went through 485 00:27:38,280 --> 00:27:44,960 a breakup a few years ago, back in 2021, I think maybe like 486 00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:47,480 January 2022, I don't know. It doesn't matter. 487 00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:52,920 I, I was not fully embodied and there's always room to embody 488 00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:56,360 more, right? But when we split up, it took 489 00:27:56,720 --> 00:28:03,960 everything in me not to reach out until I started to actually 490 00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:06,800 believe that I was worthy and deserving of more. 491 00:28:07,120 --> 00:28:11,880 And then he we he would reach out to me and it felt like I was 492 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:16,640 Teflon, like it wouldn't. I was like, no, and it wasn't 493 00:28:16,640 --> 00:28:20,720 required of like no, Oh God, I want to respond, but I know this 494 00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:23,320 isn't good for me. It was just like, absolutely 495 00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:28,880 not. No, you know, And so it's a very 496 00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:33,440 different energy and it makes the whole experience so, so, so 497 00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:35,800 different. And everything starts to shift. 498 00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:40,040 When I started to embody real, a real sense of worthiness and 499 00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:43,800 deservingness, my business took off, my love life took off, my 500 00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:46,880 friendships took off, my relationship with my body took 501 00:28:46,880 --> 00:28:48,400 off. Like everything started to 502 00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:52,280 really, really fall into place. And that was what, four years 503 00:28:52,280 --> 00:28:57,200 ago, three years ago. And now I feel like that times 504 00:28:57,200 --> 00:29:05,040 100 * 100, you know, I just feel so content in the woman that I 505 00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:06,600 am, in the woman that I'm becoming. 506 00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:09,560 And I know that that is available for you as well. 507 00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:14,080 But that did not happen until I started doing embodiment, right? 508 00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:17,320 And so this is where the experience comes in. 509 00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:21,400 OK, so if you don't know, the experience is my 12 month group 510 00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:24,200 mentoring program. And this is not another 511 00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:27,680 information dump, OK? This is not another course that 512 00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:31,880 you forget to log into whilst you have all the courses and all 513 00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:33,600 the education that you could possibly want. 514 00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:36,360 Everything on feminine energy, emotional intelligence, 515 00:29:36,640 --> 00:29:40,400 relationships, self worth, sexuality, sensuality, 516 00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:42,560 everything that you could possibly want, right? 517 00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:46,960 This is a mentorship. This is a full body identity 518 00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:50,960 recalibration calibration, OK? It's the integration that you 519 00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:57,040 have been fucking craving. It is my highest touch level 520 00:29:57,200 --> 00:29:58,920 container. I don't know if that sentence 521 00:29:58,920 --> 00:30:00,800 made sense, but you know what I mean right? 522 00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:06,720 So we have 3 calls a month where we do an embodiment session, OK, 523 00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:10,680 we have a group coaching call and then we have a mystery call. 524 00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:13,040 So it could be a guest speaker, it could be a workshop, it could 525 00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:16,840 be whatever I'm sensing the group is is meeting. 526 00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:18,680 Yeah. And this is where we're doing 527 00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:22,440 deep nervous system rewiring and not shadow integration. 528 00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:24,800 And you're getting real time support. 529 00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:27,600 You're getting real time reflections, truth bones and 530 00:30:27,600 --> 00:30:33,200 embodiment practices to rewire who you are at your core, to 531 00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:36,400 come home to yourself to remember, right? 532 00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:40,840 And the women in the experience show up. 533 00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:43,520 Show the fuck up. They walk into rooms like they 534 00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:47,520 fucking own them, right? They attract secure, loving 535 00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:49,560 partners without having to chase. 536 00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:54,160 They lead in life and business without burning out or bending 537 00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:58,040 over backwards. And they're women who feel sexy 538 00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:01,720 and clear and calm and powerful in their bodies, right? 539 00:31:02,240 --> 00:31:05,080 So if you're listening to this and thinking, holy fuck, she's 540 00:31:05,080 --> 00:31:09,560 in my head as per usual, I am. I am because I was you. 541 00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:12,960 And This is why I created the experience, because I've coached 542 00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:16,840 hundreds and hundreds of women just like you, and I built the 543 00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:20,520 experience for you. So if you're ready to actually 544 00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:25,120 feel the confidence that you've been pretending to have, join us 545 00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:29,960 inside the experience, OK? Self-awareness is step one and 546 00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:33,120 the experience is what you do when you're ready for the real 547 00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:37,720 thing. And you can take that and sit on 548 00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:41,640 it for another two years or you can choose to do something 549 00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:43,400 different. So the link will be in the 550 00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:49,960 description and I will see you next week for episode 200. 551 00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:53,800 I love you. Have a beautiful day or night 552 00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:55,840 wherever you are, and I will talk to you next week. 553 00:31:56,200 --> 00:32:00,960 Bye, guys. Thank you so much for tuning 554 00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:02,960 into the Unfuck Your Relationships podcast. 555 00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:06,240 I hope this episode has sparked something for you and has helped 556 00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:09,200 you to unfuck your relationships just a little bit more. 557 00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:12,240 Please remember that you actually do get to have it. 558 00:32:12,240 --> 00:32:15,840 All in life in. Love and in business, if you 559 00:32:15,840 --> 00:32:18,240 love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you 560 00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:21,560 never miss a future episode and leave a review to help me reach 561 00:32:21,640 --> 00:32:25,160 more badass and bitches just like yourself who want to unfuck 562 00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:27,720 their relationships so they too can have it all. 563 00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:30,160 Don't forget to take a screenshot, share it on your 564 00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:33,800 Instagram stories and tag me at Michelle Panning and I will see 565 00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:36,720 you back here in the next. Episode see ya.