1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,960 Welcome to the Unfuck Your Relationships podcast, the 2 00:00:02,960 --> 00:00:06,200 podcast where we are not just unfucking your love life, but 3 00:00:06,200 --> 00:00:10,040 unfucking your relationship to yourself and your entire life. 4 00:00:10,280 --> 00:00:12,360 Around here. We raise your standards, we 5 00:00:12,360 --> 00:00:15,280 break patterns, we upgrade yourself concept. 6 00:00:15,480 --> 00:00:18,800 We are talking about boundaries, money, shadow work, your 7 00:00:18,800 --> 00:00:21,880 relationship to your body, sex, all of it. 8 00:00:21,880 --> 00:00:24,680 We are covering your entire life baby. 9 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:28,800 Think of this podcast as like Big Sister Energy where I am no 10 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:33,360 fluff, no bullshit, but I am also very open with my heart and 11 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:36,840 I'm going to share all of me with you and that will be able 12 00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:40,240 to transform your entire life through you listening to this 13 00:00:40,240 --> 00:00:43,080 podcast. So if you are ready to stop 14 00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:47,280 settling for the bare minimum and actually be the woman that 15 00:00:47,280 --> 00:00:50,840 you can wake up in the morning and be proud of, you are in the 16 00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:53,440 right place. Let's get into today's episode. 17 00:00:53,840 --> 00:00:55,920 Hello, my loves. Welcome back to the Unfuck Your 18 00:00:55,920 --> 00:00:58,560 Relationships podcast. I'm your host, Michelle Panning, 19 00:00:58,560 --> 00:01:01,800 and this is episode 229. And we're going to talk about 20 00:01:01,800 --> 00:01:06,720 how to make 2026 your most successful year yet. 21 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:11,120 OK, I know we're like coming up at the end of 2025. 22 00:01:11,480 --> 00:01:15,600 You know, we're like mid-december now and it is time 23 00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:18,600 like don't wait till January 1st for you to actually start 24 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:20,680 planning. Like I've started, I started 25 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:22,440 planning like literally a few months ago. 26 00:01:22,600 --> 00:01:26,800 But I want to bring you guys into my world and just give you 27 00:01:26,800 --> 00:01:30,440 some like actual tangible strategies for you to plan for 28 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:34,200 you to have like the most successful, like wealthiest, 29 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:40,840 sexiest, hottest, most loving, best fucking year that you could 30 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:44,920 possibly ever imagine. OK, so First things first, join 31 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:49,760 the Betrates. They are coming up in mid Jan 32 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:53,800 and the end of Jan we have awakening her and awakening him. 33 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:57,360 If you keep repeating the same patterns with yourself, with 34 00:01:57,360 --> 00:02:00,440 yourself, confidence in your sexuality, you are not owning 35 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:02,440 your power. You keep people pleasing. 36 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:06,000 You want to be confident, you want to have be feel connected 37 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:07,760 to your body. You want to have healthy 38 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:09,680 relationships. You want to be able to 39 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:12,440 communicate effectively. You want to be able to follow 40 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:14,440 through on the things that you say that you want to do. 41 00:02:14,680 --> 00:02:16,880 The retreats are where you fucking do that. 42 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:19,760 OK, So the links will be in the description for that. 43 00:02:19,920 --> 00:02:22,040 At the time of recording this, we still have a couple of rooms 44 00:02:22,040 --> 00:02:25,320 left, so hopefully they're still there, but we shall see. 45 00:02:25,640 --> 00:02:29,440 OK, let's get into this one. I want you to claim 2026 as a 46 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:31,000 fresh start. OK? 47 00:02:31,080 --> 00:02:35,640 So 2026 is a blank slate. We do not need to drag in the 48 00:02:35,640 --> 00:02:40,720 same patterns, the same health shit, the same dips and like, 49 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:46,560 you know, like just shitty anxious of wooden loops and, and 50 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:49,000 all of the things that you may have been doing in 2025. 51 00:02:49,640 --> 00:02:52,960 You get to leave that in 2025. Like after you listen to this 52 00:02:52,960 --> 00:02:55,520 podcast, you get to leave that where it is. 53 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:58,600 You do not need to drag it into another year. 54 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:01,400 You have a fresh start. And This is why people love the 55 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:03,760 energy of January 1st. They love a Monday. 56 00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:06,680 They love a Monday because it feels like a fresh start. 57 00:03:06,800 --> 00:03:09,280 But don't let this be another example of where you get to the 58 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:12,880 end of 2026 and you're like, that was the same as 2025 and 59 00:03:12,880 --> 00:03:16,000 2024 and actually same as all the way back to 2012. 60 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:19,400 No, this is the year where we get to do something different #2 61 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:23,600 anchor into self belief. You have to fucking believe that 62 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:25,840 you can do this. You have believe that you can 63 00:03:25,840 --> 00:03:28,920 change even if you have all the evidence in the world to support 64 00:03:28,920 --> 00:03:31,200 that you will not change, that you have not changed, that 65 00:03:31,200 --> 00:03:33,000 you've been doing the same thing since 2012. 66 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:35,480 So what? So what? 67 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:37,720 I don't care if you are 97 years old. 68 00:03:38,080 --> 00:03:41,520 It is never too late to change your behavior and that starts 69 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:45,880 with you believing that you can. Even if it's point 1% like I 70 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:49,400 talked about in a couple of episodes ago, it could be .1% 71 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:51,680 that you believe. And then you start to anchor 72 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:56,440 into the the identity of OK, well, if I let's say that you 73 00:03:56,440 --> 00:03:59,880 want to meet the love of your life this year or you want to 74 00:03:59,880 --> 00:04:03,160 have like the most incredible relationship, OK, cool. 75 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:06,000 If I was already in the most incredible relationship of my 76 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:09,720 life, how do I then show up which then goes to the next 77 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:14,960 thing which is behavior. OK, so I believe that I can have 78 00:04:15,040 --> 00:04:17,040 this relationship. Even if it's point 1%. 79 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:19,519 I'm going to let that self belief grow over time. 80 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:22,840 OK, I believe that I can have this amazing relationship. 81 00:04:23,440 --> 00:04:26,240 How do I need to identify if I am in a healthy relationship? 82 00:04:26,400 --> 00:04:28,240 Well, I'm someone who communicates. 83 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:33,040 I'm honest, I have integrity, I'm vulnerable, I am open, I'm 84 00:04:33,040 --> 00:04:36,440 kind, I am loving, I am thoughtful. 85 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:38,280 OK, great. These are all the things. 86 00:04:38,480 --> 00:04:41,400 Now, what behaviors go along with those things? 87 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:47,480 Well, I plan things for my partner or I allow myself to 88 00:04:47,520 --> 00:04:51,840 receive and I say thank you. I stop criticizing. 89 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:54,920 I actually start leaning into appreciation. 90 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:57,480 Great. From there comes your results. 91 00:04:58,240 --> 00:05:03,800 Self belief, identity, behavior results, repeat process or rinse 92 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:06,200 and repeat. Third, I want you to reflect on 93 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:10,040 2025 like a grown woman, OK? We're all adults here. 94 00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:13,400 I love you. Let's look at this objectively 95 00:05:13,520 --> 00:05:16,040 so you don't have to look at Oh my God, it was such a shit year. 96 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:18,920 If it was right, You don't have to look at, oh, you know, I 97 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:22,000 could look at, Oh my God, I went through a breakup this year and, 98 00:05:22,280 --> 00:05:24,760 and my business felt really heavy and it was hard. 99 00:05:24,760 --> 00:05:28,280 And you know, I, I hired people in my team and then that went to 100 00:05:28,280 --> 00:05:30,520 shit and like, I could look at that or I could be like, what 101 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:33,720 did I learn? Oh my God, One I like learned 102 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:36,520 how to choose myself. I learned how to have really 103 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:38,200 difficult conversations with team members. 104 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:42,760 I learned how to move quickly to make make decisions effectively 105 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:44,960 when something wasn't working. I was like, OK, cool. 106 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:48,800 Nope, this isn't a fit. Next I ended friendships that 107 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:51,360 were no longer aligned. Like there were so many things 108 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:54,560 that I learned. OK, I learned to what did they 109 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:57,840 say? A hire slow, fire fast, right? 110 00:05:57,880 --> 00:05:59,680 OK, cool. I learned that lesson. 111 00:05:59,800 --> 00:06:03,480 So it's actually being very, very objective about what did I 112 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:08,440 do well and what do I need to improve on without going into a 113 00:06:08,440 --> 00:06:11,240 shame spiral. I'm looking at how I'm showing 114 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:14,000 up in my relationship right now and I'm thinking, OK, cool. 115 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:15,240 There's some things that I need to work on. 116 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:17,640 This is a different dynamic. There's some things that I need 117 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:19,440 to work on that I haven't ever had to work on before. 118 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:21,520 OK, cool. Rather than going, my God, I 119 00:06:21,520 --> 00:06:24,200 can't believe this is even a problem. 120 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:26,800 No, it's OK, cool. I can see that this is a 121 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:28,240 problem. I could see that this could get 122 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:30,480 into a bigger problem if I don't address it now. 123 00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:32,440 So these are the things that I'm going to be working on. 124 00:06:32,720 --> 00:06:35,360 I'm going to stop counting numbers because there's a lot 125 00:06:35,360 --> 00:06:36,840 and I'm going to get sidetracked. 126 00:06:37,200 --> 00:06:40,080 So from there, I want you to create a vision. 127 00:06:40,200 --> 00:06:44,480 If you future project yourself into December 31st, 2026. 128 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:46,800 Who are you? How do you feel? 129 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:49,840 What have you accomplished? How have you shown up? 130 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:52,400 Like what does your life actually look like? 131 00:06:52,400 --> 00:06:55,240 What house do you live in? Do you have pets? 132 00:06:55,480 --> 00:06:57,640 Like who is around you? What can you see? 133 00:06:57,640 --> 00:06:59,160 What can you hear? What are you? 134 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:01,200 What can you touch? What can you smell? 135 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:04,840 What can you taste? Actually turn up all your senses 136 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:07,960 and make it real. This is how you are going to 137 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:11,680 actually anchor into the end result of it already being done. 138 00:07:11,720 --> 00:07:14,000 OK, that we call this A5 Senses Reality. 139 00:07:14,360 --> 00:07:18,680 And then from there, I want you to actually anchor into why does 140 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:22,040 this even matter? Why does this matter to you? 141 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:26,040 Had a conversation with a private client the other day 142 00:07:26,040 --> 00:07:27,880 around. She was saying that she also 143 00:07:27,880 --> 00:07:31,320 wants to implement the habit of discipline in 2026. 144 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:34,320 And I was like, OK, cool. How would you be showing up? 145 00:07:34,720 --> 00:07:36,080 Right? And it was something, I can't 146 00:07:36,080 --> 00:07:38,920 remember exactly what it said, but like, you know, if I was 147 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:40,480 disciplined, I'd be following through on the things that I 148 00:07:40,480 --> 00:07:45,640 said. I was like, does that feel 149 00:07:45,640 --> 00:07:49,600 compelling to you, right. Does that feel compelling? 150 00:07:49,600 --> 00:07:51,320 Like why, why is this important to you? 151 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:53,960 Because like you should be disciplined so that you can get 152 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:56,520 the things that you want. And I'm kind of I'm, I'm 153 00:07:56,520 --> 00:08:00,520 exaggerating, right? And I was like, babe, you need 154 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:05,760 to find a why that doesn't push you to do the things that you 155 00:08:05,760 --> 00:08:09,360 want to do. It pulls you to do the things 156 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:14,480 that you must do when things go from being should do that too. 157 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:18,360 I must do that because it is so fucking important to me. 158 00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:24,200 Willpower is no longer an issue right When you must make your 159 00:08:24,200 --> 00:08:27,800 relationship work, you end up showing up differently than Oh 160 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:30,000 well, I should do something for my partner. 161 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:31,920 We should do a relationship check in. 162 00:08:32,120 --> 00:08:35,440 It becomes wow, I know that my relationship is this make or 163 00:08:35,440 --> 00:08:36,960 break. I will show up. 164 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:40,760 I must, right? So that's something that I want 165 00:08:40,760 --> 00:08:42,559 you to think about. Why is this important to you? 166 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:46,880 This is why people wait until their relationship is like 167 00:08:46,880 --> 00:08:50,360 they're on the brink of divorce before they come see me, or they 168 00:08:50,360 --> 00:08:52,760 just went through a really traumatic breakup again and then 169 00:08:52,760 --> 00:08:54,600 they're like, OK, fine. I'm going to join the connected 170 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:57,600 woman. Why are we waiting until life 171 00:08:57,600 --> 00:09:01,560 gets so fucking bad and you are so miserable for you to do 172 00:09:01,560 --> 00:09:04,080 anything about it? Well, there's a good reason for 173 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:08,120 that because the pain has become so significant that your why has 174 00:09:08,120 --> 00:09:12,920 dialed up to A to 1000, right? That it feels so deeply 175 00:09:12,920 --> 00:09:15,520 uncomfortable that you feel you have no choice to move. 176 00:09:15,680 --> 00:09:20,000 It's same reason why some people don't choose to eat healthy 177 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:23,680 until they've had triple bypass surgery, right? 178 00:09:24,600 --> 00:09:29,320 And so it's like that I need you to find know why that feels 179 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:32,760 really compelling. And something also that that 180 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:35,760 will drive you is to find something outside of yourself as 181 00:09:35,760 --> 00:09:37,680 well. You can absolutely be driven, 182 00:09:37,960 --> 00:09:41,320 you know. So for me, it's like I, yeah, 183 00:09:41,320 --> 00:09:43,520 I'm driven by like wanting to have a fucking hot body. 184 00:09:43,720 --> 00:09:47,560 I'm also driven by, I have a lot of back pain and I want to be 185 00:09:47,560 --> 00:09:52,440 able to wake up in the morning and feel mobile and flexible and 186 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:56,200 strong and fit. I want to be able to like walk 187 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:58,680 up the stairs and not feel fucking gassed, right? 188 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:01,800 I want to be the person who is like going on my hot girl walks 189 00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:04,560 and that is that feels exciting to me for you. 190 00:10:04,720 --> 00:10:07,720 So many people say I'm willing to die for my children, but are 191 00:10:07,720 --> 00:10:10,040 you willing to live for them? Are you willing to put in the 192 00:10:10,040 --> 00:10:13,640 work to fix your marriage? Are you willing to show them 193 00:10:13,640 --> 00:10:16,320 what it looks like to actually be confident in your body? 194 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:22,040 Are you willing to, you know, put in the work to change your 195 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:24,120 eating habits? I don't know what it is, right? 196 00:10:25,240 --> 00:10:27,360 Even this podcast studio that I'm recording in, she was 197 00:10:27,360 --> 00:10:30,120 telling me about another woman who records her podcast here who 198 00:10:30,760 --> 00:10:33,320 I'm pretty sure she said she like has a full time job, she 199 00:10:33,320 --> 00:10:35,400 has three kids and I'm pulling inside of my ass. 200 00:10:35,400 --> 00:10:39,680 She's like got a full time job, has three kids and like does 201 00:10:39,840 --> 00:10:42,400 other things. And then she also comes in here 202 00:10:42,400 --> 00:10:44,240 to record her podcast at 3:00 in the morning. 203 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:46,040 And then she edits them all herself. 204 00:10:47,000 --> 00:10:49,840 That is because I would assume for that woman, this the her 205 00:10:49,840 --> 00:10:53,400 podcast is a absolute must. She was like, I have something 206 00:10:53,400 --> 00:10:56,480 to say and the world needs to hear it that I fuck with. 207 00:10:56,600 --> 00:11:00,600 I admire that so much. For me, I was really like, do 208 00:11:00,600 --> 00:11:02,160 you know what? I'm actually not feeling 209 00:11:02,160 --> 00:11:04,840 fulfilled in my life. What would feel really fucking 210 00:11:04,840 --> 00:11:07,120 good for me giving back. Cool. 211 00:11:07,200 --> 00:11:10,600 So the other day I'm waiting for my like working with children 212 00:11:10,600 --> 00:11:14,720 certificate, but I applied to be a volunteer for like a domestic 213 00:11:14,720 --> 00:11:18,440 violence charity because that is something that I'm really 214 00:11:18,440 --> 00:11:20,720 passionate about having experienced it myself. 215 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:24,600 And also so many of my clients have experienced domestic 216 00:11:24,600 --> 00:11:28,120 violence on some level, whether it's in relationships or when 217 00:11:28,120 --> 00:11:30,920 they were a child or whatever. It's something I feel really, 218 00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:33,560 really passionate about and that feels so good for. 219 00:11:33,560 --> 00:11:37,200 It's actually selfish for me to to give me a sense of 220 00:11:37,200 --> 00:11:42,240 fulfillment and purpose. And that why drives me so much. 221 00:11:42,240 --> 00:11:44,440 So you need to anchor into your why. 222 00:11:44,440 --> 00:11:48,200 If you are going to instill habits or goals or whatever, you 223 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:51,080 need to have a why behind it. You need to have a reason. 224 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:55,360 From there, follow the 1% rule. You do not need to overhaul your 225 00:11:55,360 --> 00:11:58,720 entire life overnight. And if you are stuck in your ego 226 00:11:58,960 --> 00:12:01,960 and you are perfectionist, you are going to want to do that. 227 00:12:02,640 --> 00:12:06,080 You're going to want to be like, right, I'm a raw vegan now and 228 00:12:06,240 --> 00:12:09,280 I'm never going to get angry again in my relationship ever. 229 00:12:09,280 --> 00:12:12,520 I'm never going to have a moment of reactivity and all my 230 00:12:12,520 --> 00:12:15,360 friendships out the window. I'm starting from scratch and 231 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:18,320 I'm getting a whole new wardrobe and I'm going to be the hottest, 232 00:12:18,320 --> 00:12:20,240 wealthiest, best version of myself ever. 233 00:12:21,040 --> 00:12:23,880 Great. OK, then three days go by and 234 00:12:23,880 --> 00:12:26,200 you're like, Oh my God, I can't keep this up. 235 00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:28,160 You know, it's the person who goes from living like a 236 00:12:28,320 --> 00:12:30,680 completely sedentary life to being like, I'm going to get 237 00:12:30,680 --> 00:12:35,200 25,000 steps a day. You're not, you may eventually, 238 00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:38,000 but you're not gonna like that's not sustainable. 239 00:12:38,160 --> 00:12:42,520 So it's being about, it's being 1% better than you were 240 00:12:42,960 --> 00:12:44,640 yesterday. That's it. 241 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:48,920 Just 1% better. How can you show up just a 242 00:12:48,920 --> 00:12:53,040 little bit differently today? It's really that age-old thing 243 00:12:53,040 --> 00:12:56,640 that people say where people overestimate what they can do in 244 00:12:56,640 --> 00:13:00,160 a year and underestimate what they can do in one or two 245 00:13:00,160 --> 00:13:03,200 decades. And that really is a thing. 246 00:13:03,520 --> 00:13:07,360 Think big. Like think fucking big. 247 00:13:07,480 --> 00:13:12,840 OK, so many of us just have the tiniest little dreams because we 248 00:13:12,840 --> 00:13:14,960 already think, oh, well, I'm not going to be able to do it. 249 00:13:14,960 --> 00:13:19,520 Think big, but start small. OK, so if you want to become 250 00:13:21,560 --> 00:13:24,440 really, really, really, you know, fit and healthy and all 251 00:13:24,440 --> 00:13:26,400 the things, it starts with one workout. 252 00:13:26,600 --> 00:13:30,640 If you want to start a habit of reading every single day, well, 253 00:13:30,640 --> 00:13:34,520 maybe it's not, you know, OK, I'm going to finish one book a 254 00:13:34,520 --> 00:13:36,000 week. Maybe you're like, I'm going to 255 00:13:36,000 --> 00:13:39,640 read 5 pages every day. I'm going to read one page or 256 00:13:39,640 --> 00:13:43,640 I'm going to read for 1-10 minutes a day when it's money, 257 00:13:43,840 --> 00:13:45,920 OK, I'm going to choose to look at my bank account. 258 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:49,560 You know, I'm going to have one difficult conversation. 259 00:13:49,680 --> 00:13:53,520 It doesn't have to be overhauled overnight, but these small, 260 00:13:53,520 --> 00:13:57,880 repeatable actions will indeed shift your entire life. 261 00:13:57,920 --> 00:14:00,080 Like you will look back in a year's time and be like, Oh my 262 00:14:00,080 --> 00:14:02,560 God, I can't believe how far I've actually come. 263 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:06,120 If you're the woman who has consumed all of my podcast 264 00:14:06,120 --> 00:14:09,680 episodes and other podcasts, and you've read the self help books 265 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:13,920 and you have done little master classes and you've dabbled here 266 00:14:13,920 --> 00:14:17,000 and there, but you still keep repeating the same patterns in 267 00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:20,720 your love life and in friendships and in money and all 268 00:14:20,720 --> 00:14:23,760 of the things. And you're like, fuck, why do I 269 00:14:23,760 --> 00:14:26,720 keep doing this? I need to put you on to 270 00:14:26,720 --> 00:14:29,680 something that is the awakening retreats. 271 00:14:29,880 --> 00:14:34,480 They're happening in January 2026, and they are the place 272 00:14:34,480 --> 00:14:37,720 where you get to actually transcend this behavior and 273 00:14:37,720 --> 00:14:39,960 finally get to do something different. 274 00:14:40,280 --> 00:14:42,640 So your first retreat is going to be awakening her. 275 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:46,320 And this is where you are connecting to your feminine 276 00:14:46,320 --> 00:14:50,560 energy, your pleasure, your devotion, your joy, your 277 00:14:50,560 --> 00:14:54,360 ecstasy, your rage, your grief, all of these pieces. 278 00:14:54,360 --> 00:14:57,720 So you get to live in totality of the woman that you are. 279 00:14:57,960 --> 00:15:00,480 And also where you're going to have an opportunity to heal your 280 00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:03,080 relationship with women. Because the more I work with 281 00:15:03,080 --> 00:15:07,440 women, the more I realize how many women have felt betrayed by 282 00:15:07,440 --> 00:15:10,680 other women almost more than they have felt betrayed by men. 283 00:15:11,120 --> 00:15:14,480 And you're really focusing on healing your relationship to 284 00:15:14,480 --> 00:15:18,480 yourself, to your body, to your sexuality, to your joy, to your 285 00:15:18,480 --> 00:15:21,080 confidence, to your insecurities, all of the things. 286 00:15:21,400 --> 00:15:23,640 And then your second retreat is awakening him. 287 00:15:23,840 --> 00:15:26,760 And this is where we're anchoring into your masculine 288 00:15:26,760 --> 00:15:28,960 energy. So your relationship to 289 00:15:28,960 --> 00:15:32,800 responsibility and integrity, following through on the things 290 00:15:32,800 --> 00:15:36,600 that you say that you're going to do, discipline, discernment, 291 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:40,040 direction, all of these things, and healing your relationship 292 00:15:40,200 --> 00:15:44,040 with men, as well as then bringing this into a focus of 293 00:15:44,040 --> 00:15:46,360 how do you then bring this into relationships? 294 00:15:46,480 --> 00:15:49,520 So everything that you learned at awakening her and about 295 00:15:49,840 --> 00:15:53,240 expansion and emotional expression and all these things, 296 00:15:53,400 --> 00:15:57,040 how do you then hold that containment and bring that into 297 00:15:57,200 --> 00:15:59,600 your romantic relationships and your friendships? 298 00:15:59,840 --> 00:16:01,880 And that is really the focus of awakening him. 299 00:16:01,920 --> 00:16:04,560 You can choose to do either or, but I've designed them to go 300 00:16:04,560 --> 00:16:08,600 together as a pair and that is what most women who have decided 301 00:16:08,600 --> 00:16:11,000 to do the retreats are have chosen to do. 302 00:16:11,200 --> 00:16:13,880 I do want to say these are the last retreats that I'm going to 303 00:16:13,880 --> 00:16:16,320 be running. If you've been saying I'll go to 304 00:16:16,320 --> 00:16:18,840 the next one or when you come to the States, I'll do it. 305 00:16:18,880 --> 00:16:20,280 I'm never running one of the states. 306 00:16:20,280 --> 00:16:23,360 I can tell you that right now and I'm not running more 307 00:16:23,360 --> 00:16:25,520 retreats in the future. This is your time. 308 00:16:25,520 --> 00:16:28,040 Make a fucking holiday out of it, come to Australia. 309 00:16:28,200 --> 00:16:30,600 Most of the women who have signed up are coming from the 310 00:16:30,800 --> 00:16:34,280 US, which is very cool. DM me on Instagram if you have 311 00:16:34,280 --> 00:16:36,960 any questions, otherwise the link will be at the description. 312 00:16:37,120 --> 00:16:39,760 I cannot wait to see you there. Let's get back to the episode. 313 00:16:40,120 --> 00:16:44,000 If you want to make 2026 your most successful year yet, the 314 00:16:44,000 --> 00:16:48,480 biggest piece of advice I can give you is to be very selective 315 00:16:48,480 --> 00:16:50,600 with the people you have around you. 316 00:16:50,880 --> 00:16:54,600 The people you surround yourself with will make or break your 317 00:16:54,600 --> 00:16:56,880 success. They will either be there to 318 00:16:56,920 --> 00:16:59,720 celebrate you and encourage you and be so happy about the 319 00:16:59,720 --> 00:17:02,680 changes that you are making, or they're the friend who secretly 320 00:17:02,760 --> 00:17:05,480 he hates you and will try to bring you down because you are 321 00:17:05,480 --> 00:17:07,680 reflecting all their gaps towards them. 322 00:17:08,280 --> 00:17:10,359 Those are not the kind of people that you want in your life. 323 00:17:10,760 --> 00:17:14,480 You want people who are encouraging you or at the very 324 00:17:14,480 --> 00:17:16,560 least just being like cool babes. 325 00:17:16,560 --> 00:17:18,920 Like I know you've got your stuff to focus on. 326 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:21,839 I'm here when you're ready to connect. 327 00:17:22,200 --> 00:17:24,560 I've had friends like that where, you know, I was doing a 328 00:17:24,560 --> 00:17:28,480 really intense course and I was like, for the next month, I'm 329 00:17:28,480 --> 00:17:31,080 going to be unavailable. And my friends were like, cool, 330 00:17:32,320 --> 00:17:35,680 see you in a month. OK, amazing. 331 00:17:35,880 --> 00:17:37,800 No one was like, Oh my God, that's So what do you mean? 332 00:17:37,800 --> 00:17:39,560 What, what, what kind? Of course is it? 333 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:41,480 No, not that we don't have time for that. 334 00:17:41,680 --> 00:17:44,440 So be very selective and discerning about the people that 335 00:17:44,440 --> 00:17:47,720 you have in your world. Be selective with your energy. 336 00:17:48,120 --> 00:17:53,640 Your energy is a currency. Don't deplete that currency. 337 00:17:54,720 --> 00:17:56,840 It's very important that you protect your energy. 338 00:17:57,360 --> 00:18:01,320 Next, I want you to focus on progress over perfection. 339 00:18:01,400 --> 00:18:04,520 If you are aiming for perfection, you are going to be 340 00:18:04,520 --> 00:18:10,000 sorely fucking disappointed. What I focus on is that 1% 341 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:12,840 better and how can I be proud of myself? 342 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:21,760 So for instance, when I'm at the gym and I'm doing RDLSIRDLS, 343 00:18:21,920 --> 00:18:26,720 kill me. Not as bad as Bulgarian split 344 00:18:26,720 --> 00:18:28,680 squats but that's another thing for another day. 345 00:18:29,840 --> 00:18:32,200 But RDL is like do you know how many times it goes through my 346 00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:34,080 mind? No one is going to know. 347 00:18:34,080 --> 00:18:38,480 My coach isn't going to know. If I only do 9 reps instead of 348 00:18:38,480 --> 00:18:43,080 12, I would know. I would know. 349 00:18:43,440 --> 00:18:46,880 So you best believe because I'm like well I'm not a cheater. 350 00:18:47,720 --> 00:18:51,320 You best believe I ain't cheating on a single fucking 351 00:18:51,320 --> 00:18:53,120 Rep. I'm doing all 12. 352 00:18:53,200 --> 00:18:55,600 Even if I need to lower the weight, even if I need to do 353 00:18:55,600 --> 00:18:58,880 whatever, I am doing it till failure. 354 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:02,920 And that is the thing. It's like progress, not 355 00:19:02,920 --> 00:19:06,280 perfection, right? By the end of it, like, yeah, 356 00:19:06,280 --> 00:19:11,680 I'm, I'm like, and I make sure that my form is always correct. 357 00:19:11,680 --> 00:19:14,840 But it's like, you know, I'm looking at other people and the 358 00:19:14,840 --> 00:19:18,880 weight that they have on the barbell doing RDLS and I'm a lot 359 00:19:18,880 --> 00:19:20,280 lighter. And I'm like, OK, but I'm a 360 00:19:20,280 --> 00:19:24,640 beginner and over time I have progressed a lot, which is 361 00:19:24,640 --> 00:19:26,600 amazing. And that's really all that you 362 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:28,760 can ask for. It's not about the perfect time, 363 00:19:28,760 --> 00:19:31,880 the perfect plan, the perfect whatever, blah, blah, blah. 364 00:19:31,960 --> 00:19:34,160 Start now. Let it be fucking messy. 365 00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:38,960 Let it be what it is. And just people spend so much 366 00:19:38,960 --> 00:19:42,800 time planning and planning and planning and planning and not 367 00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:45,920 actually executing. And The thing is knowledge is 368 00:19:45,920 --> 00:19:49,080 potential power. Execution is actual power. 369 00:19:49,200 --> 00:19:51,880 So when we actually do the things, and this is what I say, 370 00:19:51,880 --> 00:19:54,880 you know, I say all the time, clock it, own it, clean it up. 371 00:19:55,720 --> 00:19:58,760 It's all well and good that you clock it and that you own it. 372 00:19:59,360 --> 00:20:03,960 But if you don't clean it up, nothing's going to change. 373 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:06,640 And the cleaning it up is I'm going to, I'm just going to do 374 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:07,760 it. I'm going to do it messy. 375 00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:09,480 I'm going to do it weird. I'm going to do it. 376 00:20:09,720 --> 00:20:11,560 If it's hard, I'm going to do it. 377 00:20:12,080 --> 00:20:14,680 I'm going to make the hard choice and in 2026, I want you 378 00:20:14,680 --> 00:20:17,920 to celebrate every win, every win. 379 00:20:17,920 --> 00:20:21,320 This is something that I'm actually still trying to get 380 00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:23,840 better at, right? It's very easy for me to focus 381 00:20:23,840 --> 00:20:25,920 on what's not working. I'm a Virgo, guys. 382 00:20:25,920 --> 00:20:28,720 It's very easy for me to look at like, Nope, this is wrong, this 383 00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:30,000 is wrong, this is wrong, this is wrong. 384 00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:33,400 Be very negatively geared, but it's important to celebrate the 385 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:35,440 wins. And will you fail? 386 00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:38,000 Yes. You will learn so much from 387 00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:40,600 failure. OK, beautiful. 388 00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:44,560 And if you're successful and you're a high achiever and 389 00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:48,160 you're particularly if you're an entrepreneur, you probably know 390 00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:50,520 that you learn more from failure than you do from success. 391 00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:55,000 But don't let that be at the cost of celebrating your wins. 392 00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:58,240 So even in a relationship, people thrive. 393 00:20:58,360 --> 00:21:02,000 Your partner will thrive on appreciation, not criticism. 394 00:21:02,240 --> 00:21:05,840 So the more that you can find those glimmers of this is 395 00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:07,040 working. I love this. 396 00:21:07,040 --> 00:21:09,720 That's amazing. Yes, Oh, I want more of this. 397 00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:11,840 Yes, yes, yes. We did that really well. 398 00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:14,120 I'm so proud of how we navigated that conversation. 399 00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:16,640 I'm so proud of how I'm showing up in this relationship. 400 00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:20,800 I'm so proud of, you know, saying I needed more time during 401 00:21:20,800 --> 00:21:24,360 sex. I'm that celebrate the fucking 402 00:21:24,360 --> 00:21:26,240 wins. The next thing I would tell you 403 00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:29,600 if you wanted to make 2026 your best year yet and your most 404 00:21:29,600 --> 00:21:33,080 successful year yet is to invest in yourself all year long. 405 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:37,600 So that could be investing in books, coaching courses, 406 00:21:38,000 --> 00:21:42,640 personal development, whatever it is, bodywork, actually 407 00:21:42,640 --> 00:21:46,360 understanding that you are your best investment, you are your 408 00:21:46,360 --> 00:21:48,800 safest investment. People want to buy a house and 409 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:53,240 I'm like, yeah, I get that. But also like what I would make 410 00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:55,840 on a return in a house, I could literally make in my business 411 00:21:56,560 --> 00:21:59,000 tenfold. So it actually makes sense that 412 00:21:59,000 --> 00:22:01,360 I would invest in me and my business. 413 00:22:01,360 --> 00:22:04,640 And also I was talking about this with my best friend a 414 00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:08,960 little while ago and she was like, she, she loves AI and like 415 00:22:09,480 --> 00:22:11,760 getting predictions and like science and breaking things 416 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:12,880 down. And she was like, OK, my 417 00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:18,360 predictions are that with the rise of AI, people are going to 418 00:22:18,360 --> 00:22:22,200 become more and more and more reliant on it for connection and 419 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:24,000 therapy. She was saying how someone that 420 00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:26,800 she knows is like, yeah, I use it to text my friends. 421 00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:29,200 Like, she'll receive a text message from a friend and then 422 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:31,120 put it into chat. And then chat will be like, 423 00:22:31,120 --> 00:22:33,160 here's how I would respond, and then she'll respond to her 424 00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:36,080 friends. That is fucking crazy to me. 425 00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:38,440 Like, we have lost all human connection. 426 00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:41,800 So people will become more and more reliant on chat. 427 00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:47,440 And then that will create even more of a loneliness epidemic. 428 00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:52,560 And the relationship coaching industry is going to boom. 429 00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:56,960 And I'm like, yay, right. But the reason that I share that 430 00:22:56,960 --> 00:23:00,120 is because your relationships are your most valuable asset 431 00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:02,040 outside of your relationship with yourself. 432 00:23:02,080 --> 00:23:04,760 It is your most valuable asset, your relationships. 433 00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:07,840 And so you can focus on all the external things like, yeah, 434 00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:10,320 invest in your business, invest in, you know, different things, 435 00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:13,680 but also you need to be investing in your relationships 436 00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:17,200 because your relationships have the biggest influence out of 437 00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:22,920 everything on your bank account, your health, your stress levels, 438 00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:26,560 your sleep, everything. It has such a big influence. 439 00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:31,240 So if you are not willing to attend to your relationships, if 440 00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:32,960 that is not important to you, and that could be your 441 00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:36,000 friendships, your, your romantic relationship, your love life, 442 00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:39,800 whatever. I don't know what to tell you it 443 00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:42,440 it may or may not be important to you, but I'm telling you 444 00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:44,480 relationships. They have done studies on this. 445 00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:48,320 It is the most influential aspect of our lives. 446 00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:51,360 And with that, start now, not later. 447 00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:54,520 Again, let it be messy. You could be listening to this 448 00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:58,480 in it could be January 1st, it could be April 2026, it could be 449 00:23:58,480 --> 00:24:00,880 October 2026, it could be fucking 2028. 450 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,400 I don't know. But when you are listening to 451 00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:07,040 this start now, what is the point in delaying and being 452 00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:10,480 like, oh, but I'm going to wait for the perfect circumstances of 453 00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:13,760 when I do this. And you know, people say, oh, 454 00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:17,920 after I've finished moving or after I do this or after I turn 455 00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:22,840 30, after my Saturn's return is finished or after this or when 456 00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:25,720 the perfect circumstances, or I know I said that it was when I 457 00:24:25,720 --> 00:24:28,880 had 10K in my bank account, but actually I need it to be 50K in 458 00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:31,000 my bank account or when I'm earning this amount of money. 459 00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:35,920 What's the point? Because you've been saying I'm 460 00:24:35,920 --> 00:24:38,000 going to start for the last six years. 461 00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:43,960 And so it's like, OK, cool. Recognizing there is no perfect 462 00:24:43,960 --> 00:24:46,800 time. I'm going to start now. 463 00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:49,720 I'm going to start with what I have and I'm going to execute 464 00:24:49,960 --> 00:24:52,320 immediately. The second to last thing that I 465 00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:56,840 want to share with you is if you want to make 2026 your most 466 00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:59,680 successful year yet, you need to embody it. 467 00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:01,320 Don't just mindset your way through it. 468 00:25:01,440 --> 00:25:05,240 So affirmations and future projecting and writing down your 469 00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:10,120 goals is all beautiful, but if you don't have the nervous 470 00:25:10,120 --> 00:25:14,120 system to match those big dreams and those big goals, you're 471 00:25:14,120 --> 00:25:21,040 going to get very stuck or well, and or you could also get those 472 00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:23,800 things would then be deeply unfulfilled because you're 473 00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:26,440 disconnected from your body. You can't actually receive the 474 00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:28,720 love. You can't receive what it feels 475 00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:32,840 like to be abundant and wealthy. You can't receive, you know, you 476 00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:35,320 don't have the embodied confidence, even though you got 477 00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:38,680 the body of your dreams. And so embodiment is where your 478 00:25:38,680 --> 00:25:42,000 next level actually resides and that's where it lives. 479 00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:45,400 And that is really the work that we do inside, you know, the 480 00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:48,000 retreats, the experience, the connected woman, all of those 481 00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:50,160 spaces. It's why I focus so heavily on 482 00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:53,200 embodiment because I'm like, I know that between mindset and 483 00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:59,520 shadow work and embodiment, that is the really the trifecta that 484 00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:02,680 actually helps you transcend to the next level. 485 00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:07,880 And finally, again, if you want to make 2026 your most 486 00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:14,640 successful year yet, you need to become the woman who has high 487 00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:18,320 standards. Self worth is not just yelling I 488 00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:23,040 deserve more. It's showing up like you do. 489 00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:26,080 It's showing up like you deserve more. 490 00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:29,720 It's showing up like you have high levels of self respect. 491 00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:33,040 It's showing up like you have a strong work ethic. 492 00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:36,680 It's showing up like you give a shit about your relationships. 493 00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:40,360 It's showing up like you care about your friends and your your 494 00:26:40,360 --> 00:26:44,760 family and your partner. It's showing up like you care 495 00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:48,800 about yourself. That is out of everything that I 496 00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:51,280 have said, let that be your take away. 497 00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:56,680 If you want 2026 to be the year that everything changes, filter 498 00:26:56,680 --> 00:27:00,720 it through this question. If I loved myself truly and 499 00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:03,200 deeply, what choice would I make here? 500 00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:07,240 Because I can guarantee there would be so many things that you 501 00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:11,080 would either start doing and there would be so many things 502 00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:14,920 that you stop doing and you would stop entertaining 503 00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:19,520 different relationships and patterns and behaviors because 504 00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:23,120 you would know this is not a loving choice towards myself. 505 00:27:24,120 --> 00:27:25,600 So that is what I've got for you. 506 00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:28,480 If you want to make 2026 your best year yet, your most 507 00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:31,800 successful year yet, the year where you are so loved and 508 00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:34,640 cherished and you have self respect and self worth, come 509 00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:36,680 join me inside the Connected Woman. 510 00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:42,000 We are running our last live round in January and after that 511 00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:45,000 it will be self study. So if you want to come do it 512 00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:47,680 with me and you want to do it live, that is the place to do 513 00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:49,640 it. We still, I'm, I'm not sure at 514 00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:51,840 the time of recording this, we still have a couple of spots for 515 00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:55,200 the retreats. So if you're ready, let's 516 00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:58,120 fucking go. It is really the space where you 517 00:27:58,120 --> 00:28:01,280 collapse 10 years of therapy into two separate weekends. 518 00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:02,880 So that is what I've got for you. 519 00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:05,640 I love you guys. I'm so fucking excited to roll 520 00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:07,840 into 2026 with you guys. We've still got a couple of 521 00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:11,040 weeks left, but I'm so excited. I hope you have a beautiful 522 00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:12,040 week. I love you. 523 00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:14,480 Talk to you next week and next week's episode. 524 00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:16,120 Bye. All right, my love. 525 00:28:16,120 --> 00:28:18,680 Thank you so much for listening today's podcast episode. 526 00:28:19,120 --> 00:28:21,160 Take what resonates and leave the rest. 527 00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:25,160 There is no obligation, but you do have a responsibility to 528 00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:27,160 yourself to actually do the work. 529 00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:30,040 So implement what you have learned here. 530 00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:33,840 Let this episode be a reminder that you are built for more. 531 00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:35,480 You are not built for the bare minimum. 532 00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:38,720 You are not built for mediocre. You are meant to live a big 533 00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:42,600 beautiful old life and if you want to go deeper, come follow 534 00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:44,880 me over on Instagram at Michelle Panning. 535 00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:46,240 The link will be in the description. 536 00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:49,720 That is where I share all the behind the scenes content and 537 00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:53,960 you will get to follow me and my journey as I raise my standards 538 00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:57,000 alongside you. So I love you, I believe in your 539 00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:59,640 next level and I will see you in the next episode. 540 00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:02,080 Now go unbuck your life, babe.