1 00:00:13,040 --> 00:00:14,800 What's up, guys? My name's Alexis. 2 00:00:15,000 --> 00:00:17,000 And I'm Abby. And we're your host with praises 3 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:20,400 in the pod. We are excited, but also don't 4 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:23,440 really know where this is going to go, to be very frank with 5 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:24,760 you. But it's OK. 6 00:00:24,760 --> 00:00:27,440 The Lord's going to lead in God and speak to us and through us. 7 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:29,680 And it's going to be spirit LED. So here we go. 8 00:00:29,840 --> 00:00:31,480 We're going to start off in prayer and then we're going to 9 00:00:31,480 --> 00:00:32,360 jump right in. So here we go. 10 00:00:32,920 --> 00:00:36,280 Lord Heavenly Father, just thank you for this morning. 11 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:39,480 Thank you for who you are and what you've done in our lives. 12 00:00:39,480 --> 00:00:42,320 Lord God, thank you that you blessed us with another day to 13 00:00:42,320 --> 00:00:46,360 be lights and vessels for you. We pray that our life glorifies 14 00:00:46,360 --> 00:00:48,160 you. We pray that we push people 15 00:00:48,160 --> 00:00:50,800 closer to Christ and not just further away from you. 16 00:00:50,800 --> 00:00:53,920 We pray that. We get to give. 17 00:00:53,920 --> 00:00:58,400 People hope, we pray that today that you just go before us, that 18 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:00,840 you open all the doors that need to be open and shut all the 19 00:01:00,840 --> 00:01:03,800 doors that need to be shut. We pray that you always speak to 20 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:06,840 us, you always speak through US and let this episode glorify 21 00:01:06,840 --> 00:01:09,160 you. In Jesus name I pray, Amen, 22 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:11,280 Amen. Amen. 23 00:01:11,280 --> 00:01:15,680 So let's get it poppin. So you, you tried to beat me. 24 00:01:15,800 --> 00:01:17,080 You tried to beat me for the punt. 25 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:22,960 So last month I think you were like, every time you start with 26 00:01:22,960 --> 00:01:27,440 me, you're like, not this time. You celebrated, you and Greg 27 00:01:27,440 --> 00:01:29,120 celebrated something exciting this week. 28 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:31,480 Yes. So actually right now it's 29 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:33,840 March, but this episode comes out in May. 30 00:01:33,840 --> 00:01:38,960 So in March, my husband celebrated his one year sobriety 31 00:01:39,080 --> 00:01:41,480 March. What was it? 32 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:44,160 No, today's not even the 8th. No, it was like the third. 33 00:01:44,280 --> 00:01:46,320 The third, yeah. The third, yes. 34 00:01:47,200 --> 00:01:49,560 Yes. And so that's super exciting. 35 00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:53,080 Like a year ago, I would have never thought that we would be 36 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:54,680 celebrating that, you know what I'm saying? 37 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:59,240 Because I talk about suddenly all the time and just how it 38 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:01,680 happened. I never in a million years would 39 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:04,520 have dreamed that he would be a year sober. 40 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:07,280 Wow. You know, and it's just like, at 41 00:02:07,280 --> 00:02:10,120 one point, I know probably like our parents were like, she's 42 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:11,760 never going to be a year sober. She's never. 43 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:15,160 And, you know, for me to look at Greg the same way that people 44 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:17,920 probably used to look at me, and I didn't really see hope at that 45 00:02:17,920 --> 00:02:23,160 time because I was so blinded, you know, but just knowing that 46 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:28,760 God stands firm, you know, he is faithful and he's good, and he 47 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:32,960 delivered Greg truly. It's it's when somebody says 48 00:02:33,920 --> 00:02:37,320 they're never going to change. Yeah, If you had that with him, 49 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:39,400 like he is never going to give up drinking. 50 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:42,480 There's no like you could not see the light at the end of the 51 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:44,000 tunnel. Well, we've talked about this 52 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:48,960 before, even with me like or, and you probably, but we always 53 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:51,360 said like, I'm never going to quit smoking cigarettes. 54 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:54,920 Yeah, I am not giving that up. Like I might could quit 55 00:02:54,920 --> 00:02:56,080 drinking, but I'm not giving that up. 56 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:58,960 And that's how kind of how like I thought Greg's perception of 57 00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:02,080 alcohol was too. And even if you talk to him, he 58 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:05,240 pretty much would say like it was was never on his radar to 59 00:03:05,240 --> 00:03:06,680 quit. You know it's. 60 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:12,520 So crazy how a substance like that, at that point in time, you 61 00:03:12,520 --> 00:03:14,440 can't envision your life without it. 62 00:03:15,200 --> 00:03:18,840 And then God comes in and now you can't envision your life 63 00:03:18,840 --> 00:03:22,720 with it. Yes, so completely will change 64 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:25,520 your habits, your heart, your desires. 65 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:28,160 He can do that, and He can do it in an instance. 66 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:31,560 No doubt because and then Michelle, she's in our life 67 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:35,840 group and Michelle in, she was asking him at the end. 68 00:03:35,840 --> 00:03:37,600 She was like, you know. Well, that's what I was going to 69 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:38,720 ask you about. How was it? 70 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:40,040 Y'all celebrated him? Yeah. 71 00:03:40,200 --> 00:03:42,800 Yes, and so like we had a little cake and stuff and then y'all 72 00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:45,880 brought him a gift and like Michelle was like Greg, what 73 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:48,520 does it feel like to be, you know, a year sober? 74 00:03:48,520 --> 00:03:52,480 Like do you still and be honest? Like do you still like struggle 75 00:03:52,480 --> 00:03:55,360 with it and all this? And he was like, no like it 76 00:03:55,360 --> 00:03:59,200 feels normal once I be sober. And I was like oh fuck, I'm 77 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:01,400 gonna cry. Like what? 78 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:05,880 Like it's just so, I don't know, it's just so mind blowing. 79 00:04:05,880 --> 00:04:08,120 Like I'm really speechless. Even though I've said a lot of 80 00:04:08,120 --> 00:04:10,520 words. I'm very, I'm, I'm very 81 00:04:10,520 --> 00:04:13,520 speechless to what God has done in our lives this year. 82 00:04:13,720 --> 00:04:14,800 That's amazing. Yeah. 83 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:19,360 Annielle, marriage, yes, that's truly He can do it, no doubt. 84 00:04:19,680 --> 00:04:21,560 And hopefully that gives so many people hope. 85 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:24,080 Yes, and that is my biggest prayer. 86 00:04:24,080 --> 00:04:27,080 And, you know, last month I kind of talked about, you know, how I 87 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:29,000 write the book. And at this point when this 88 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:33,240 comes out, it will be out. And I just hope my biggest 89 00:04:33,280 --> 00:04:38,680 prayer for that book is that it gives women hope that you're in 90 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:43,160 that sticky marriage that it seems like it was the easier to 91 00:04:43,160 --> 00:04:44,840 get a divorce. It would be easier to get a 92 00:04:44,840 --> 00:04:47,920 divorce because that crossed my mind many of times too, like 93 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:51,280 Lord, and I wrestled with the Lord really bad. 94 00:04:51,280 --> 00:04:54,040 I'm like, God, I've surrendered my life to you. 95 00:04:54,360 --> 00:04:57,840 I've surrendered and I'm doing this, I'm doing ministry. 96 00:04:57,840 --> 00:05:01,840 I'm crying out to you. How do you want me to be this 97 00:05:01,840 --> 00:05:06,440 miserable in my marriage? Like, do you not have better for 98 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:09,400 me? You know, like, I wrestled bad 99 00:05:09,400 --> 00:05:13,360 with that. And so, you know, the longer 100 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:17,080 that I stuck it out and then when it changed, I'm like, oh, 101 00:05:17,440 --> 00:05:21,360 you did have a plan, you know. So I just pray that, you know, 102 00:05:21,360 --> 00:05:25,600 my story gives other women, women hope above all else. 103 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:30,360 Not just me and being a child of addicts or my addiction or any 104 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:33,000 of this, but like those women that are in these unequally 105 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:36,320 yoked marriages or your husband's an addict or, you 106 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:38,640 know, all of this stuff. I pray that it does give women 107 00:05:38,640 --> 00:05:40,640 hope. And stuff. 108 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:43,320 Well, that's awesome. So we're going to talk about 109 00:05:43,720 --> 00:05:48,160 kind of things, yeah. OK, kind of not really that, but 110 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:51,640 on Facebook, you know, I posted and I was like, what do you all 111 00:05:51,640 --> 00:05:53,920 want to hear us talk about? And I thought this would be like 112 00:05:53,920 --> 00:05:58,840 a easier, a funner, maybe not as like scripturally based or 113 00:05:58,840 --> 00:06:00,800 anything like that. Just a conversation of our 114 00:06:00,800 --> 00:06:06,800 things that we do, we love, we read, we listen to XYZ. 115 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:12,840 Yeah, because that helped me. When I started this walk, I 116 00:06:12,840 --> 00:06:15,040 would always listen to what other people started with, like 117 00:06:15,280 --> 00:06:16,680 where did you start in the Bible? 118 00:06:16,680 --> 00:06:19,360 And then somebody would tell me what they started with or what 119 00:06:19,360 --> 00:06:22,080 chapter they started with, or they told me what devotional 120 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:24,560 they read. And that's kind of how it 121 00:06:24,560 --> 00:06:26,520 started, that snowball effect for me. 122 00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:29,040 Yeah, I'm hoping that it does that for others. 123 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:34,400 For sure, because there is so many times like we don't know 124 00:06:34,400 --> 00:06:38,760 where to start and it seems very unattainable, unreachable. 125 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:43,040 We we look at a Bible, right and it's so thick and you're like, 126 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:44,920 what am I supposed to be reading? 127 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:48,960 And so just some practical that is one of my biggest things. 128 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:52,080 Like my ministry is built on practicality. 129 00:06:52,320 --> 00:06:55,840 Like I don't want people to feel overwhelmed. 130 00:06:55,840 --> 00:06:58,560 Like this is truly just about a relationship with Jesus, you 131 00:06:58,560 --> 00:07:02,160 know, and what we've done. So what would you recommend if 132 00:07:02,320 --> 00:07:04,560 if you're sitting down with someone that just came to 133 00:07:04,560 --> 00:07:06,680 Christ, what are some of the things that you're wanting to 134 00:07:06,680 --> 00:07:08,320 talk about? Like if somebody told me they 135 00:07:08,320 --> 00:07:11,160 wanted to start reading the Bible like they've never read 136 00:07:11,160 --> 00:07:14,440 the Bible before. I've always I started in John. 137 00:07:15,120 --> 00:07:18,400 Oh. OK, yeah, I started in the book 138 00:07:18,400 --> 00:07:21,320 of John. I mean, he was the disciple that 139 00:07:21,320 --> 00:07:26,000 Jesus loved. And from his point of view, it 140 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:29,080 just kind of gives you the whole account of who Jesus is because 141 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:31,640 that's what this is all about is starting that relationship with 142 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:34,680 Jesus. And so I started in John to kind 143 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:38,400 of learn about the where the word comes from, his description 144 00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:42,680 of Jesus and his relationship with him, and then from there 145 00:07:42,760 --> 00:07:44,480 kind of staying in the New Testament. 146 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:45,920 So. Oh. 147 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:46,840 Yeah. Facts. 148 00:07:47,520 --> 00:07:49,320 You're staying in the New Testament. 149 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:51,600 From there you could read like Luke's account. 150 00:07:51,880 --> 00:07:54,960 He was a physician and Dr. at the time. 151 00:07:54,960 --> 00:08:01,280 So he's got a lot of more factual based things that he 152 00:08:01,280 --> 00:08:05,720 wrote and kind of fact checked things back then and made sure. 153 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:09,800 So that's his account, but kind of staying right there in the 154 00:08:09,800 --> 00:08:12,400 New Testament. And then I love Galatians 155 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:15,520 learning how to have a relationship with the Spirit 156 00:08:15,880 --> 00:08:20,880 because he's explaining to the people at the time that lived by 157 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:24,360 the law, not, you know, we don't live by the law anymore, and 158 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:28,520 then explaining how to kind of have more of a relation with 159 00:08:28,640 --> 00:08:31,240 Jesus versus just following the law of Moses. 160 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:34,440 So regulations is good. You tell me what? 161 00:08:34,440 --> 00:08:37,679 Some of yours? Well, you know, I didn't start 162 00:08:37,679 --> 00:08:40,600 with John. I did start with Matthew. 163 00:08:40,600 --> 00:08:42,120 And then I worked for the Gospels. 164 00:08:42,120 --> 00:08:45,760 But I mean I had to do that multiple times because. 165 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:49,320 Start there and you can stay there honestly because hate and 166 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:52,840 John for a long time. Because I could read a sentence 167 00:08:52,840 --> 00:08:54,440 and it didn't make a look of sense. 168 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:56,640 And then I'd read a chapter, I'd read a book. 169 00:08:56,640 --> 00:09:00,280 I would like. I started very, very small at 170 00:09:00,280 --> 00:09:03,800 first, right? Like, ah, yes, I well, one, let 171 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:07,400 me say this, let me say this. I have been reading Unshakeable 172 00:09:07,400 --> 00:09:10,200 by Kristen Kane for going on three years now. 173 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:12,920 Oh wow. So my mom gave it to me when I 174 00:09:12,920 --> 00:09:15,680 first came to Christ. I started reading it and it is a 175 00:09:15,720 --> 00:09:17,880 very good devotion. I think you read it out too, 176 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:19,240 don't you? I started it. 177 00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:26,640 And so it just seems very, I don't know how to say it. 178 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:30,640 It's like it's very beginner level like, but then also the 179 00:09:30,640 --> 00:09:34,160 more that I read it, I'm like it's still good for me today and 180 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:37,160 where I am today. So literally every year I start 181 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:39,920 back up works. So it's a devotion and she uses 182 00:09:39,920 --> 00:09:40,960 a verse each more. Yeah. 183 00:09:40,960 --> 00:09:45,000 And the way she breaks down the verse and relates it to real 184 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:49,160 life aspects makes it so relatable and for you to 185 00:09:49,160 --> 00:09:51,480 understand exactly what that verse means. 186 00:09:51,480 --> 00:09:53,600 That's how it's helped me a time, no doubt. 187 00:09:53,680 --> 00:09:56,960 And. With that I did. 188 00:09:57,080 --> 00:09:59,360 This is one of the ways that I started to 'cause I tried to 189 00:09:59,360 --> 00:10:01,720 read the Gospels all the way through and out. 190 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:07,760 And if I feel like I'm not progressing and I can like check 191 00:10:07,760 --> 00:10:10,280 stuff off, not making it a checkbox, if I feel like I'm 192 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:12,640 struggling to do that, I kind of get a little burnout. 193 00:10:13,040 --> 00:10:16,440 So what I started to do my early days is I would read the 194 00:10:16,440 --> 00:10:18,280 devotion in whatever scripture it was. 195 00:10:18,280 --> 00:10:19,960 I would read the book of the Bible. 196 00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:23,680 Like I would read that book like I would read that chapter. 197 00:10:24,320 --> 00:10:26,480 And I felt like that was good because there's so many times 198 00:10:26,480 --> 00:10:31,400 that we do read the scripture, but we don't have context for 199 00:10:31,400 --> 00:10:33,560 it. Like we don't know the pre and 200 00:10:33,560 --> 00:10:36,600 the post. So me, I would read that 201 00:10:36,600 --> 00:10:38,640 Scripture, I'd read the devotion, and then I'd go into 202 00:10:38,640 --> 00:10:40,560 the Bible and I'd read the whole book. 203 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:43,200 Not the book, the chapter. Yeah. 204 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:48,560 So what I did is well, well, I downloaded the Holy Bible app. 205 00:10:49,240 --> 00:10:52,360 People don't know about that. Well, did you you version? 206 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:58,760 Yes you version Holy Bible app and I made sure to put it 207 00:10:59,160 --> 00:11:02,080 because there's so many different versions of the Bible 208 00:11:02,080 --> 00:11:07,680 but I read it in the NLT so not living translation is where I 209 00:11:07,680 --> 00:11:10,320 started. Yeah, see, I do the NIV, but I 210 00:11:10,320 --> 00:11:16,320 will, I I'll move around me too. I, I typically like my physical 211 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:20,080 Bible is NIV. So 90% of the time I am reading 212 00:11:20,200 --> 00:11:26,520 NIV but there's some translation or there's NLT with some verses 213 00:11:26,520 --> 00:11:32,160 that I feel like just are easier for me to understand and so if 214 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:35,720 I'm talking to someone sometimes I will reference NLT. 215 00:11:35,880 --> 00:11:39,080 Yes, to me it's just easier to comprehend. 216 00:11:39,280 --> 00:11:43,520 That's where I started. But I so I started in, you can 217 00:11:43,520 --> 00:11:47,520 start in the Gospels. I started in John and then 218 00:11:48,040 --> 00:11:51,720 reading a Proverbs every morning because there's 31 Proverbs. 219 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:55,400 So I started doing that too. Every morning read a Proverbs 220 00:11:55,440 --> 00:11:59,160 chapter 1, chapter 2 on day 2, whatever day you start, you can 221 00:11:59,160 --> 00:12:03,720 start the first day of the month and then trying to read a Psalms 222 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:06,280 with that. So those two were the 2 old 223 00:12:06,280 --> 00:12:11,960 Testaments I started with. No, I don't I don't do it like 224 00:12:13,080 --> 00:12:14,960 in in that order. Makes sense. 225 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:17,640 I just kind of started there like I was started in John. 226 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:19,880 But I did read a Proverbs every morning. 227 00:12:20,520 --> 00:12:24,120 So if you want, you know it's just. 228 00:12:24,960 --> 00:12:26,560 And you can do it every two months. 229 00:12:26,560 --> 00:12:28,640 I know women that do it every single month. 230 00:12:28,680 --> 00:12:30,400 They start right back over. Yes, I did. 231 00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:34,680 I just keep reading. I've only done it once, but I do 232 00:12:34,680 --> 00:12:37,800 know women that regularly do it. And I think it's something that 233 00:12:37,800 --> 00:12:42,080 you can instill in your quiet time every single day. 100% 234 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:46,880 starting with the probs proverbs and then you can kind of throw 235 00:12:46,880 --> 00:12:48,800 in a psalms. I thought you were throwing some 236 00:12:48,800 --> 00:12:49,720 slang in there. I was. 237 00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:56,680 I was like, hey, girl. But yeah, I, I my biggest thing 238 00:12:56,680 --> 00:13:01,480 was when I first wanted to start reading scripture, I wanted to 239 00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:03,600 sit down. And I thought that I was going 240 00:13:03,600 --> 00:13:06,240 to have to be like these other women that you hear that they 241 00:13:06,240 --> 00:13:08,600 spend an hour in their quiet time of day. 242 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:12,960 And I'm like, so I'll read and I'll read and I'll read. 243 00:13:13,040 --> 00:13:15,400 And I'm like, I can't do this every day. 244 00:13:15,680 --> 00:13:18,480 Like I would do it for what, a week and maybe a few days? 245 00:13:18,480 --> 00:13:20,800 And I'm like, OK, I'm done. Like I read enough. 246 00:13:21,000 --> 00:13:25,200 I read enough for a while. It's not about that consistency 247 00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:28,040 and everything in your life is important. 248 00:13:28,520 --> 00:13:31,120 I think Pastor Matt, I might have already said this on here. 249 00:13:31,120 --> 00:13:32,960 I don't know. I have a lot of conversations, 250 00:13:32,960 --> 00:13:36,080 OK, But Pastor Matt said this in one of our staff meetings the 251 00:13:36,080 --> 00:13:40,120 other day. He said two people are racing to 252 00:13:40,120 --> 00:13:44,000 finish line, OK? One person is going to go as 253 00:13:44,000 --> 00:13:47,160 hard as they can on the days that they feel great, right, 254 00:13:47,640 --> 00:13:49,160 trying to get into that finish line. 255 00:13:49,360 --> 00:13:53,640 The second person is going to be consistently going that same 256 00:13:53,640 --> 00:13:55,840 amount every single day. No matter if they don't feel 257 00:13:55,840 --> 00:13:58,320 good, they feel good. Like it's raining, it's pouring, 258 00:13:58,320 --> 00:14:00,080 like whatever. They're going to be consistent. 259 00:14:00,280 --> 00:14:04,080 The one that makes it to the finish line first is the person 260 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:06,440 that was consistent because you're going to get burned out. 261 00:14:06,440 --> 00:14:08,680 There's going to be days that you don't feel like doing it. 262 00:14:08,680 --> 00:14:10,840 There's going to be days that like you're sick and all this 263 00:14:10,840 --> 00:14:15,640 stuff to show up, you know, keep showing up for your faith, keep 264 00:14:15,640 --> 00:14:18,960 showing up for God, keep showing up for that relationship, just 265 00:14:18,960 --> 00:14:20,480 like you do in your marriage, right? 266 00:14:20,480 --> 00:14:24,680 Like sometimes are hard, sometimes are hard, but you got 267 00:14:24,680 --> 00:14:26,760 to show. Up it takes consistency for 268 00:14:26,760 --> 00:14:29,240 sure, but yeah, that's kind of how it started in the Bible. 269 00:14:29,640 --> 00:14:34,360 The You version, holy app, those chapters, Proverbs a day is a 270 00:14:34,360 --> 00:14:36,080 good place to really start, no doubt. 271 00:14:37,360 --> 00:14:42,680 And then really the last two years, Dexter and I went hard on 272 00:14:42,680 --> 00:14:45,560 a marriage devotional that was so good. 273 00:14:45,560 --> 00:14:49,200 It's called Love Language Minute by Gary Chapman. 274 00:14:49,760 --> 00:14:50,880 I think I've seen y'all read this. 275 00:14:51,160 --> 00:14:55,680 Is it on your kiddie table? Yeah, yeah, so good. 276 00:14:56,040 --> 00:15:01,800 It really helped us understand each other's love languages and 277 00:15:01,800 --> 00:15:04,720 how it's important he operates how I operate. 278 00:15:06,040 --> 00:15:08,240 But. And now we know, like he will 279 00:15:08,240 --> 00:15:14,800 know her love tank is empty. You know, I'm more of like, I, I 280 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:16,200 won't quality time. Yeah. 281 00:15:16,320 --> 00:15:19,520 So like, if I feel like you're with me, but you're not with me, 282 00:15:20,040 --> 00:15:23,000 then I was why did why were we even hanging out? 283 00:15:23,160 --> 00:15:24,840 I just feel like that time was empty. 284 00:15:25,120 --> 00:15:27,440 So it didn't do anything for me emotionally. 285 00:15:27,600 --> 00:15:30,240 So he'll know that. Or acts of service like helping 286 00:15:30,240 --> 00:15:33,400 around the house, helping with the kids, doing certain things 287 00:15:33,400 --> 00:15:36,800 is my other one. And I know what his is. 288 00:15:36,800 --> 00:15:41,120 So now he knows, you know, oh, I've been gone or haven't been 289 00:15:41,120 --> 00:15:44,240 as available or haven't been as available emotionally for her. 290 00:15:44,240 --> 00:15:47,000 Her love tank is empty because his is feeling empty. 291 00:15:47,320 --> 00:15:50,520 And So what happened, what was happening was I wasn't feeling 292 00:15:50,520 --> 00:15:52,160 his love tank because mine wasn't getting filled. 293 00:15:52,160 --> 00:15:54,760 And we didn't know how to do that with Christ in the center 294 00:15:54,760 --> 00:15:57,760 of it and understanding each other and that whole devotion 295 00:15:57,760 --> 00:15:59,760 right there with the word. Yeah. 296 00:15:59,840 --> 00:16:03,360 I mean, it did something for us. We did it two times in a row, 297 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:06,880 like started over the next year because it was that good. 298 00:16:07,120 --> 00:16:10,720 So I highly recommend that marriage devotional figure each 299 00:16:10,720 --> 00:16:12,360 other out. That is important. 300 00:16:12,400 --> 00:16:15,200 Love languages and personalities because I talk about 301 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:17,480 personalities all the time. But they're both. 302 00:16:17,480 --> 00:16:22,200 They go hand in hand for me. But love languages is so 303 00:16:22,200 --> 00:16:24,920 important because. Of that what you're talking 304 00:16:24,920 --> 00:16:28,680 about, like you won't be able to love if you don't feel loved. 305 00:16:28,720 --> 00:16:33,440 And like, no, I'm not saying it's transactional, but you're 306 00:16:33,440 --> 00:16:34,720 going to have to pick up the slack. 307 00:16:34,720 --> 00:16:38,240 You got to recognize where you're falling short for your 308 00:16:38,240 --> 00:16:40,200 own self. And then especially in a 309 00:16:40,200 --> 00:16:43,160 marriage, you know, friendship kind of too, but more so kind 310 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:45,080 of. Getting the viewpoint off of 311 00:16:45,080 --> 00:16:50,280 you, you, you, I started to understand what is Dexter need 312 00:16:50,280 --> 00:16:55,600 and seeing that when I was giving him what he needed and he 313 00:16:55,600 --> 00:16:58,280 was able to do it for me because his he was full. 314 00:16:58,640 --> 00:17:03,120 Then I was full and it just became this mutual kind of 315 00:17:03,120 --> 00:17:07,240 relationship that blossomed and all because of the word and and 316 00:17:07,240 --> 00:17:10,920 helping us learn to truly love each other and love Christ 1st 317 00:17:10,920 --> 00:17:14,040 and put him first. It changed that marriage 318 00:17:14,040 --> 00:17:19,119 devotional did a lot for us. Did your love language change? 319 00:17:19,160 --> 00:17:20,880 Yes. Yeah, I know. 320 00:17:20,920 --> 00:17:22,800 Every single time I say something, I'm always like, hang 321 00:17:22,800 --> 00:17:25,119 on, I got to counteract it. You know the Lord first. 322 00:17:26,000 --> 00:17:27,839 Yeah, I know what you're talking about. 323 00:17:27,839 --> 00:17:30,000 Do you feel like your love language has changed? 324 00:17:30,000 --> 00:17:32,240 Over the years, yes. Yeah. 325 00:17:32,240 --> 00:17:34,240 What do you think it used to be versus now? 326 00:17:36,440 --> 00:17:40,360 Probably more gifts used to be my like I was literally. 327 00:17:40,360 --> 00:17:43,400 Going to say that. For myself too, I really I'll, I 328 00:17:43,400 --> 00:17:47,920 used to love like if they got me something or bought me, you 329 00:17:47,920 --> 00:17:52,480 know, a pretty jewelry or purse or like it made it just made me 330 00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:55,320 feel like loved. I'm like, why you spend that 331 00:17:55,320 --> 00:17:57,720 money? On I'm like I don't need 332 00:17:57,760 --> 00:18:00,400 nothing, I will. Then stop buying. 333 00:18:00,440 --> 00:18:04,600 It But you know Greg used to always buy flowers for the 334 00:18:04,600 --> 00:18:06,160 house. Always, right. 335 00:18:06,600 --> 00:18:09,120 I'm talking about every single week we had new fresh flowers in 336 00:18:09,120 --> 00:18:10,760 the house. It wasn't like it was a gift for 337 00:18:10,760 --> 00:18:12,200 me. He just loved them being in the 338 00:18:12,200 --> 00:18:13,520 house. And I would always be like, 339 00:18:13,520 --> 00:18:15,120 there's such a waste of money, like I don't want them. 340 00:18:15,480 --> 00:18:18,640 And then it's funny because eventually they stopped and I 341 00:18:18,640 --> 00:18:22,800 was like, hold on, wait, are the flowers going to come back? 342 00:18:24,480 --> 00:18:27,640 But like, that is one thing that I just laugh about just because 343 00:18:27,640 --> 00:18:31,920 used to I love stuff. Then they just, it just shifts 344 00:18:32,240 --> 00:18:34,440 and now I am more of a quality time. 345 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:36,600 It doesn't have to be necessarily quality. 346 00:18:36,600 --> 00:18:38,800 I just like time. I like to be in people's 347 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:43,840 presence and words of affirmation for me, that's big. 348 00:18:43,840 --> 00:18:47,320 But I can't determine if the words of affirmation is truly a 349 00:18:47,320 --> 00:18:49,440 love language to me or it feeds my pride. 350 00:18:49,440 --> 00:18:52,360 I'm not sure. We're still working on that I'm. 351 00:18:52,400 --> 00:18:56,520 Still trying to discern which one it is, you know, but I 352 00:18:56,520 --> 00:18:59,640 figured out eventually. I have to have quality time. 353 00:19:00,000 --> 00:19:03,640 I have to feel like you want to be there with me. 354 00:19:04,200 --> 00:19:06,920 The other night we me and Dexter has been crazy. 355 00:19:06,920 --> 00:19:09,520 It's like he's bathing Sutton or I'm bathing Sutton. 356 00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:11,800 We're doing the baby. One of us is, you know, trying 357 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:14,480 to feed her rocker, get her down, then getting sat and down 358 00:19:14,480 --> 00:19:17,040 and cleaning up the kitchen from dinner is just been, you know, 359 00:19:17,040 --> 00:19:20,400 trying to get in a rhythm, a rhythm with two kids. 360 00:19:21,400 --> 00:19:25,280 And we sat down finally, once they were both down and he had 361 00:19:25,280 --> 00:19:28,280 the TV on and was watching something with fishing and I sat 362 00:19:28,280 --> 00:19:30,680 down and was finally eating some of my dinner. 363 00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:32,760 We were sitting in the living room, not even at the table. 364 00:19:33,800 --> 00:19:37,160 And I looked at him and I said, can we talk? 365 00:19:37,280 --> 00:19:39,880 Like, just talk? Yeah, like, just hang out. 366 00:19:40,320 --> 00:19:43,960 I said, I feel like I had to, like, hang out with you in a 367 00:19:43,960 --> 00:19:46,400 week. I literally we have not talked. 368 00:19:46,400 --> 00:19:49,880 So I mean that he knows that. So he turned off the TV and he 369 00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:53,200 starts telling me about people he's working with, you know, for 370 00:19:53,360 --> 00:19:56,000 work, how that went. And I'm telling them kind of 371 00:19:56,000 --> 00:19:58,040 about my work. And then we're just talking. 372 00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:01,160 And it just made me feel like I've. 373 00:20:01,360 --> 00:20:04,040 I missed my husband. I need to spend time with you. 374 00:20:04,040 --> 00:20:05,760 I don't want to just feel like a roommate. 375 00:20:05,760 --> 00:20:07,720 Yeah. So to me, it's super important. 376 00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:09,280 I want to know, like, where's your mind at? 377 00:20:09,280 --> 00:20:11,920 What are you thinking about? What's heavy on your heart? 378 00:20:11,920 --> 00:20:14,160 And let's talk about it. And sometimes that probably 379 00:20:14,160 --> 00:20:16,120 drives him crazy because he'd rather just sit there and watch 380 00:20:16,120 --> 00:20:16,880 fishing. Yeah. 381 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:20,080 What have y'all had? Have y'all had like time? 382 00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:23,360 Like out without the kids, yet without both of them. 383 00:20:23,520 --> 00:20:27,680 No, no, we're we'll get there eventually. 384 00:20:29,280 --> 00:20:30,320 I get that. Yeah. 385 00:20:30,320 --> 00:20:31,800 He's so super fresh. So. 386 00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:36,760 So what are like practical things? 387 00:20:36,880 --> 00:20:39,080 What else? Like take out the Bible, take 388 00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:41,280 out devotion? Like, what else are you kind of 389 00:20:41,280 --> 00:20:44,640 like encouraging someone to do as a new believer in Christ? 390 00:20:45,520 --> 00:20:49,560 Definitely worship music changed a lot for me. 391 00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:54,200 Yeah, 'cause even now when I don't listen to worship music, 392 00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:57,080 something just feels off, like if I'm in the car and the 393 00:20:57,080 --> 00:20:59,920 radio's on and it's playing, you know, like country. 394 00:20:59,920 --> 00:21:03,760 Like I still listen to other types of music sometimes, but I 395 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:07,440 I don't really. I don't yeah, but worship music 396 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:10,640 did a lot for me. Well, just listen to the words 397 00:21:10,640 --> 00:21:16,320 and them pulling from the Bible like a lot of songs or from 398 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:19,240 verses in the Bible. So that helped me understand 399 00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:21,840 some of what the word meant as well. 400 00:21:22,120 --> 00:21:24,080 Like I remember the song Red Letters. 401 00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:26,480 Yeah, for me, who sings that song, I can't even. 402 00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:28,400 Remember, it was David. Crowder, David Crowder. 403 00:21:28,400 --> 00:21:30,080 Yeah, maybe. Yeah. 404 00:21:30,080 --> 00:21:32,880 Red letters. Is it David Crowder or did I 405 00:21:32,880 --> 00:21:36,480 just add that? But it sounds right I. 406 00:21:36,560 --> 00:21:40,320 Don't know if that. But it's so weird. 407 00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:44,080 This was years ago when I listened to this song because I 408 00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:46,160 didn't really understand what the red letters in the Bible 409 00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:48,440 meant and it was when Jesus spoke. 410 00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:51,640 And so that song opened my eyes to that. 411 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:54,280 So worship music is good as well to it. 412 00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:56,640 Was Crowder, by the way? It was, yeah. 413 00:21:57,080 --> 00:21:58,120 And well. To that song. 414 00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:02,320 Just like once you start listening to it and then you 415 00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:06,960 listen to other music, you see how much other genres and other 416 00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:10,920 music artist and all this is glamorizing A sinful life. 417 00:22:11,360 --> 00:22:14,600 Like if you turn to 90 or I don't know what station y'all 418 00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:18,360 have, but like if you go to like country music right there, drink 419 00:22:18,360 --> 00:22:20,960 my drinking beer, sitting on tailgate and talking about 420 00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:27,000 women, you know, all this stuff. And that can't be fueling your 421 00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:31,040 mind to be closer to Christ. Like it's going to pull you 422 00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:34,440 further because it's going to make you think about worldly 423 00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:36,760 thing, right, instead of heavenly things. 424 00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:41,600 And so I just started noticing there was a big shift when I 425 00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:44,280 started listening to just worship music and filling my 426 00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:45,560 mind with that. Yes. 427 00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:48,200 And you know what's so much fun is like when you love a song so 428 00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:51,360 much and you you haven't heard the scripture that defines the 429 00:22:51,360 --> 00:22:53,000 song, like what the songs made out of it. 430 00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:54,720 And then you're listening to the song, then it glisten. 431 00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:56,280 I'm like, wait. Yeah, same I. 432 00:22:56,640 --> 00:22:59,160 Know. This one, a lot of worship music 433 00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:00,600 has done that for me. Yeah. 434 00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:03,880 Like I'll say what song has gotten me through this last 435 00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:06,520 season, it's been my number one song. 436 00:23:06,520 --> 00:23:10,320 Is still Waters by it? Is it Lyanna Crawford? 437 00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:11,840 I don't know who what her name is. 438 00:23:11,840 --> 00:23:17,600 Still Waters, Psalm 23. Oh my goodness, that song has 439 00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:21,040 been like my saving grace. And then just reading that verse 440 00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:22,600 with it, what she's talking about. 441 00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:25,880 But and now there's a story with this song. 442 00:23:26,120 --> 00:23:29,480 So I started listening to it when I started having all my 443 00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:33,920 issues in my pregnancy and just listen to it every single 444 00:23:33,920 --> 00:23:36,640 morning. Repeated that burst over my 445 00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:41,240 anxiety every single morning. So when Lily got RSV and was in 446 00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:46,520 the hospital, there was one day that I came home to shower. 447 00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:49,280 Dexter was like, OK, you've been up for like 2 days straight. 448 00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:51,480 You've got to go home. You need a shower. 449 00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:53,280 You need to like try to get some rest. 450 00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:55,880 I'll stay up here at the hospital while you go do that. 451 00:23:55,880 --> 00:23:59,760 And I'm like, OK, so I got home, did what I needed to do, packed 452 00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:01,840 my bag because we knew we were going to be staying there. 453 00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:03,880 I didn't know how long we were going to be there for. 454 00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:07,320 But on the way to the hospital, I mean, I didn't have anything 455 00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:10,360 playing in my car. Because when I'm distraught like 456 00:24:10,360 --> 00:24:14,400 this, I'll just sit in silence and my thoughts will just run 457 00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:17,200 crazy, run rampant. Like I'm just sitting there in 458 00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:19,080 silence and I'm thinking all of the worst. 459 00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:21,160 I'm crying. I'm like, Oh my gosh, seeing 460 00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:25,640 your child hooked up to all of those machines and just 461 00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:28,440 everything that she was hooked up to had me in a mess. 462 00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:33,120 So I'm like, OK, Lord, I'm just going to worship you right now. 463 00:24:33,120 --> 00:24:37,360 Like I just want to be in your presence because I, I don't want 464 00:24:37,360 --> 00:24:41,040 to be in this worldly presence. Like this is not forever. 465 00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:44,280 This life is not forever. I don't want to get caught up in 466 00:24:44,280 --> 00:24:46,320 my anxiety of this. I just want to be in your 467 00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:49,840 presence. So I turned on the radio like it 468 00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:51,800 was my I don't even think my car plate was hooked up. 469 00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:54,200 That was a mess. You actually use your car play. 470 00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:55,280 I do. I use car play. 471 00:24:55,640 --> 00:25:00,920 So I turn on on and like one O 2 five, our Christian Caleb and 472 00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:04,760 still waters was all and I just started bawling crying because 473 00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:10,640 it was affirmation to him from him saying to me, you know, no 474 00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:13,800 matter what valley you're in, I'm still right here with you 475 00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:16,920 and it let me know like he sees me. 476 00:25:17,280 --> 00:25:19,920 So it that song has done a lot for me. 477 00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:24,000 If you struggle with anxiety. Yeah, there's so many ways that 478 00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:27,200 God can talk to you. Like it's not just through 479 00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:29,200 Scripture. And I know some people always, 480 00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:31,480 you know, push like that's how he communicates. 481 00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:35,760 But you know, he communicates through other people. 482 00:25:36,120 --> 00:25:39,240 He communicates through work like song, worship. 483 00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:41,800 He communicates through all these different avenues. 484 00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:45,280 And so the more that you are seeking him, the more that you 485 00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:48,800 are. Seek me with your whole heart, 486 00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:51,560 and you will find me. Yes, like if you're giving him 487 00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:55,520 more opportunities where he will be found then it'll be good. 488 00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:58,000 You know you'll know, you'll hear from him. 489 00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:01,080 Yes, I kind of lost my train of thought because I just realized 490 00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:03,080 my lamps were off. Sorry y'all. 491 00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:06,400 Yes. And the one behind you. 492 00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:11,720 Sorry, but yeah. Love that song. 493 00:26:12,120 --> 00:26:14,480 What's we know what your favorite song is? 494 00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:17,480 What's like a favorite? What a beautiful name, yes? 495 00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:21,360 What's the favorite book that you've read for what is like a 496 00:26:21,360 --> 00:26:26,760 book that you recommend? So this is not well, I have a 497 00:26:26,760 --> 00:26:28,800 few, I have a few. Let's let's. 498 00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:33,040 Tell you, let's preface this. Me and you are sitting up here 499 00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:36,240 talking about books that we've. That's right. 500 00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:38,800 And I have to read all the time because my pastor loves to read 501 00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:41,080 and he encourages us to read and then he gives his book. 502 00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:44,480 Said that before he's like he'll he'll want you to read and I'm 503 00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:46,680 not a. Reader yeah, you're you got to 504 00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:51,640 learn how to read. OK, so I would truly recommend 505 00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:55,680 Gospel by Willie Robertson. I have recommended that book and 506 00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:59,680 so many people and it's trying to train your mind how to tell 507 00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:03,240 people about the Lord, how to share the gospel, how to share 508 00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:07,560 your testimony, how to share and be confident and not just like 509 00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:10,160 overwhelm people to the point of like, I know this. 510 00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:13,280 I know that because he says in there he was like, nobody cares 511 00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:15,640 about how much you care until they know you care. 512 00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:18,000 I think that's something along the lines. 513 00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:21,640 And so I just always recommend that it's a really easy read. 514 00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:23,920 I mean, he's, you know, pretty much I wouldn't say if he's a 515 00:27:23,920 --> 00:27:25,600 redneck, you know, but he's a duck hunter. 516 00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:29,320 He's a he's a countryman. And so, you know, it's it's not 517 00:27:29,360 --> 00:27:33,120 a very hard read. Basically what I'm saying. 518 00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:37,360 I love that book, but then the second book that really, really 519 00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:42,400 push me into putting people first is Fans First by the 520 00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:45,640 Savannah Bananas, like the owner of the Savannah Bananas. 521 00:27:46,120 --> 00:27:49,200 And so this is all about marketing. 522 00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:51,800 OK, hear me out. Don't check out yet. 523 00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:54,600 It's all about marketing yourself and marketing your 524 00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:55,840 brand and marketing these things. 525 00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:59,080 Sure. It teaches you to think outside 526 00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:01,800 of the box to put people first. That's good. 527 00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:04,120 And what are we called to do? We're called to love our 528 00:28:04,120 --> 00:28:06,760 neighbor. We're called to God people, you 529 00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:09,880 know, like that is what it is to be a Christian. 530 00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:14,160 And so when I was reading that book, yes, I had ideas coming 531 00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:17,920 out the wazoo for praises and the pod, the church, this that 532 00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:23,600 all of all of the things. But I realized if God's first 533 00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:27,600 and I need to put people always up there with him, not with him, 534 00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,760 but you know, right under him, like I need to put them at the 535 00:28:30,760 --> 00:28:34,160 top of my priority list and loving them well and going out 536 00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:37,240 of my way to to be a good friend to people. 537 00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:40,320 So I recommend fans first to everybody. 538 00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:44,040 That is something that I'm trying to work on is loving 539 00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:47,640 others more because what is it in second John when he talks 540 00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:51,040 about you can have all the faith in the world, but without love, 541 00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:55,280 you have nothing. And so for me, that's where I've 542 00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:57,160 kind of been at like what you're talking about. 543 00:28:57,160 --> 00:29:00,360 So I want to read that book, but I just feel like I've been so 544 00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:04,320 consumed with our life and our kids and just everything that's 545 00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:06,000 going on. I haven't done anything for 546 00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:07,760 anybody else. That's why I really wanted to do 547 00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:11,120 something for Greg, because I just want to be able to give 548 00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:15,120 back to others and love others because that's more feeling than 549 00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:19,280 anybody doing something for you. Yeah, it's great when somebody 550 00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:23,080 does something for you or brings you a gift, but it don't last 551 00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:25,600 but so long. When you feel other people's 552 00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:30,240 lives and you love on them and you disciple them, it fills you 553 00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:34,680 way more. Yes, but I had, I think you 554 00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:37,920 might have recommended it to me. Don't give it a seat at the 555 00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:39,520 table. Yeah, I'm like looking at my 556 00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:42,040 books because I'm like. Whatever, I see that the table 557 00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:44,560 is good. And then brokenness. 558 00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:47,960 Oh, and Nancy the Moss. Yes, I remember you used to talk 559 00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:51,560 about like that, but they don't give the enemy a seat at the 560 00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:56,560 table. Yes, that one is a great book. 561 00:29:56,680 --> 00:30:01,640 It took me a long time to finish it because because it's not it's 562 00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:06,760 a Louis is very theologian, OK. Like he goes into depth about 563 00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:08,880 things and he explains things and stuff. 564 00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:11,160 And it took me a long time. It was a great book, but I had 565 00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:12,760 to put it down for a little bit and then I came back. 566 00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:18,080 Not knocking it, still a great book, but that book that was 567 00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:20,920 good. There is many times where I have 568 00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:24,560 picked up a book and I come back to it and I come back to it at 569 00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:28,640 like the perfect time. Like I see why I never completed 570 00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:31,480 that book and Don't Give the enemy the Seat at the Table did 571 00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:32,920 that for me. Yeah, yeah. 572 00:30:32,920 --> 00:30:34,240 I don't know. I like that when I read it 573 00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:35,880 through. Same for The Brokenness. 574 00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:39,200 I wrote a book a long time ago by Andy Stanley. 575 00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:42,520 And I know there's some controversy around Andy Stanley, 576 00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:46,600 but this book was good and it was called Be the Person You're 577 00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:49,000 Looking For is Looking For. Yeah. 578 00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:52,160 And it was a great. It was more about dating a 579 00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:55,040 dating book. So if you're not married, that 580 00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:58,360 is a good read as far as learning how to be more Christ 581 00:30:58,360 --> 00:31:02,360 like and selfless. And you become once you become 582 00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:08,440 the person that you're looking for, the person you're looking 583 00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:12,640 for will just it's, it's, it's almost like you are in that same 584 00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:16,600 arena with them. So they kind of explain that 585 00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:18,280 what I'm trying to explain because I'm losing. 586 00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:22,440 Well, this is what I'm thinking. You're if you want somebody 587 00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:24,760 that's fit, Yeah. Well, if you start working out 588 00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:27,480 and you're going to the gym, you're going to be around people 589 00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:29,600 that are, yeah, more than likely fit, yeah. 590 00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:32,920 Or, and on that same path, yeah, as you. 591 00:31:33,240 --> 00:31:36,520 So it kind of works the same. Way one of the things that Matt 592 00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:40,280 also says is I don't know if it was Matt, I don't know who told 593 00:31:40,280 --> 00:31:43,800 me this, but you know, we look at humble people. 594 00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:45,960 What do we love about humble people? 595 00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:49,720 Like the humility of them, how they don't make things about 596 00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:53,840 themselves, how they're also as you about your life, about these 597 00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:57,280 things, be what you love about them. 598 00:31:57,320 --> 00:32:02,720 Aspire to be what you see in other people like, don't just 599 00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:06,680 love it about them. Push yourself to be more like. 600 00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:09,240 That right exactly. So that's kind of like with that 601 00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:13,280 book by Andy Stanley and the, and one of the things that I 602 00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:16,680 always say too is do for one what you wish you could do for 603 00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:18,640 all. And that's what Andy Stanley 604 00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:21,560 says as well. And he, you know, is basically 605 00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:25,520 saying, no, I can't go to coffee with every single girl that 606 00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:29,080 wants to go to coffee, you know, but that one that desperately 607 00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:32,200 needs to and is crying. And it's like, I need some 608 00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:34,880 advice. Do it like go out of your way 609 00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:37,240 for that one person. You can't do it for every single 610 00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:40,960 person that comes in your path, but you will be able to do it 611 00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:44,600 for the one. And that one life, that one seed 612 00:32:44,600 --> 00:32:47,040 that you plant, you don't know what can come from that. 613 00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:50,720 What can blossom from it? I'll say this, before I 614 00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:55,080 surrendered my life to Christ, I specifically remember this was 615 00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:58,160 back in my single days when I was still drinking, party and 616 00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:00,920 doing whatever saying I want him. 617 00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:06,640 I want a good Christian man. Girl I want I want a girl. 618 00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:09,320 I want a man that will like take me to church. 619 00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:14,320 Girl, I want. I want. 620 00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:17,400 One that's just AI need. I just wanted a good man. 621 00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:22,640 Or, you know, just, yeah, when we were young even, how was I 622 00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:27,040 going to find that when I was not there? 623 00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:31,880 So that book, when I read that book, it opened my eyes to say 624 00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:36,920 I'm not that. So how would I ever find that? 625 00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:41,480 And live with that and live that out with somebody if I'm not 626 00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:43,840 even that person. So learning to be humble and 627 00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:45,840 more Christ like. And it obviously took us a 628 00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:49,800 while, but I specifically, I, I did, I wanted a good Christian 629 00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:52,120 man. And here I was living. 630 00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:54,840 I ain't even a. Christian man insight. 631 00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:59,720 I ain't a Christian man insight. And they ain't at the places 632 00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:01,520 they were not. At the places. 633 00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:05,080 And my, my Nana always told my mom this like, if you want to be 634 00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:06,800 a doctor, you're going to hang out with doctors. 635 00:34:06,800 --> 00:34:08,960 If you want to be a drug addict, you'll hang out with drug 636 00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:11,880 addicts. You are who you hang around. 637 00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:17,440 So if you want to be a living a very Christian and holy life 638 00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:22,840 that's pleasing to the Lord, change your surroundings, change 639 00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:26,080 your habits, change what you're doing on a daily basis. 640 00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:29,840 Stop hanging around with people that aren't wanting the same 641 00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:31,920 things as life. You know, if you want a good 642 00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:34,760 Christian man, don't go to church just to find the 643 00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:37,040 Christian man. But you ain't going to find them 644 00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:39,239 at the bar. No, you ain't going to find them 645 00:34:39,320 --> 00:34:41,800 at. The bar got to live it out, not 646 00:34:41,800 --> 00:34:46,840 just go to church on Sundays. Did you write down what they 647 00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:49,600 said at the well about Habit by Moth? 648 00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:56,280 What my mom said. No, Pastor Gabe's wife, Jessica, 649 00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:59,080 she said something. Habits won't change the God we 650 00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:02,760 serve, but the God we serve can change our habits. 651 00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:03,480 That's. Good. 652 00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:07,280 So I thought that was really good because he can, once you, 653 00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:11,160 you truly surrender your life, he can change those habits and 654 00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:16,200 lead you to the man that you're looking for or the woman that 655 00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,680 you were looking for if you're looking for a Christian woman. 656 00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:22,520 You know, just sitting on Jessica for a minute because I 657 00:35:22,520 --> 00:35:25,800 went and had coffee with her to kind of discuss this much, well, 658 00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:32,080 for March and I just love her. I, I love her and I love that 659 00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:36,560 first time I heard her speak. Wow, She's very impactful. 660 00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:42,400 Yes, I love their church and I love her heart for the for women 661 00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:47,800 specifically because she's like, their altar calls are so 662 00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:50,320 powerful to me. Like they're, they flood every 663 00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:53,080 single time I've been at a women's event, like the altars 664 00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:55,760 are flooded with women. And there's so many times that 665 00:35:55,760 --> 00:35:58,880 we'd be, we come complacent. You know, we're like, yeah, 666 00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:01,240 we're going through a hard time, but we don't go to that altar to 667 00:36:01,240 --> 00:36:04,240 pray. And so one of the wells that I 668 00:36:04,240 --> 00:36:07,400 went to, she said, even if you feel like you're not there, get 669 00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:11,440 on your knees. Like even if you don't feel the 670 00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:14,240 presence of the Lord right now, even if you don't feel like 671 00:36:14,240 --> 00:36:17,040 you're walking strongly, you know, as strong as you once 672 00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:19,160 were, get on your knees and crowd to him. 673 00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:24,360 Like there's open, there's something that's like a wall 674 00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:27,960 breaking when you truly do go to the altar and give it to him. 675 00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:32,120 And I just really loved how she said that because I did that 676 00:36:32,720 --> 00:36:35,560 after that, well, for about 2-3 weeks, like I was just going 677 00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:39,280 consistently to like for CR and Sundays and everything, I was 678 00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:43,400 just going to the altar because I was like, you just got to be 679 00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:46,640 submissive to the Lord, you know, and she just has great 680 00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:48,480 wisdom, so. Yes, she does. 681 00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:50,720 Yeah, for sure. She was great, but not about 682 00:36:50,720 --> 00:36:57,520 habits was so good, so true. And there's no way you and I 683 00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:01,440 would be here talking about all of the books that we've read and 684 00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:06,360 worship songs and books of the Bible if he didn't change that 685 00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:10,360 for us, if he didn't completely change our world. 686 00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:13,520 And it wasn't us deciding, oh, these are the things we were 687 00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:16,520 going to do. It started with us surrendering 688 00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:19,440 first through the Lord, surrendering our hearts over to 689 00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:22,040 him. And then those desires changed. 690 00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:24,880 And he plays people in our lives to help give us the advice to 691 00:37:24,880 --> 00:37:27,840 start where we started. And so that's kind of what this 692 00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:30,240 episode is about is here's where we started. 693 00:37:30,240 --> 00:37:33,360 Here's how we kind of got on the path that we're on now. 694 00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:37,000 Take what you want from it and and let the Lord you know. 695 00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:39,840 Place on your heart where to start after hearing this. 696 00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:43,200 Yes. Have you seen the imagery of 697 00:37:43,360 --> 00:37:47,640 like the coffee cup or whatever and then the water's running and 698 00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:50,560 then it cleaves it out. And so like, that is so 699 00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:54,240 encouraging to me. And so anytime you know a new 700 00:37:54,240 --> 00:37:56,840 believer or maybe you're trying to figure it out and you're 701 00:37:56,840 --> 00:38:01,120 like, my life is still dirty, just keep walking it out. 702 00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:03,920 Just keep walking it out. Keep spending time with the 703 00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:06,680 Lord, keep doing these little things because the longer it 704 00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:12,000 does, he purifies you as you go. Me three years ago when I first 705 00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:14,920 started walking with the Lord, I probably could not have sit that 706 00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:18,960 sat down and had a conversation like off the RIP like this. 707 00:38:18,960 --> 00:38:22,040 You know what I'm saying? I mean, even if you go back and 708 00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:27,880 listen to the 1st 10 episodes, they are are so almost scripted 709 00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:31,200 because I didn't know how to lead a conversation. 710 00:38:31,200 --> 00:38:35,840 I didn't know how to ask people these digging questions and 711 00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:37,520 trying to talk about their testimony. 712 00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:39,480 I was still learning how to share my own testimony. 713 00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:43,200 So that's just encourage like if someone's listening to this and 714 00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:45,520 they're like, oh, I could never, you know, have an open 715 00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:48,040 conversation like this. I didn't think so either. 716 00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:49,640 You know, you didn't think so either. 717 00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:51,440 I mean, you didn't even wanted to come on. 718 00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:54,800 I didn't. My girl was like, no, I'm not 719 00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:57,280 coming on to share about my hurts, habits and hang ups. 720 00:38:57,280 --> 00:39:00,160 OK, No, I'm good. That took a lot of convincing. 721 00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:01,800 I think that was like what, episode 6? 722 00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:04,080 I think you were six and Dexter was 7 you. 723 00:39:04,080 --> 00:39:06,200 Were like, OK, you're going to come on and do your testimony. 724 00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:10,240 And I was like, no, I'm not. Yeah, no, that's not for me. 725 00:39:10,240 --> 00:39:12,160 I'm not. Congrats on whatever you got 726 00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:15,920 going on, but no. So, you know, just be open, say 727 00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:20,840 yes, the things become comfortable being uncomfortable. 728 00:39:21,120 --> 00:39:22,960 You know, it's easier said than done. 729 00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:25,560 It is so struggle. And I hope that when people 730 00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:27,840 listen to this, because sometimes I do feel like we say 731 00:39:27,840 --> 00:39:30,440 a lot of the same things. Yeah, again. 732 00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:33,440 But I'm like, you can never hear it too many times. 733 00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:35,560 How many times did it take you to hear something before you 734 00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:38,400 actually believed it? I think a statistics in sales is 735 00:39:38,400 --> 00:39:40,800 like someone has to say something 9 times before they 736 00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:43,520 actually purchase it, you know, or they have to hear it or 737 00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:44,000 whatever. I. 738 00:39:44,000 --> 00:39:46,320 I mean, that's the. Is it? 739 00:39:46,320 --> 00:39:47,480 Is it? Is it 9? 740 00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:50,000 There's probably a lot more at. Once in her body. 741 00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:54,040 I'm dead. I'm I'm a dead, blah, blah. 742 00:39:55,720 --> 00:40:00,680 No, But yeah. So you never know when you're 743 00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:02,920 going to say something that actually sticks. 744 00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:06,680 You never know when you're going to be planting a seed with 745 00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:09,600 someone or watering it where something actually blossoms. 746 00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:13,760 So that's just, you know what I would say, keep walking it out, 747 00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:16,160 keep telling people about Jesus because you never know when it's 748 00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:20,080 going to be beneficial. Yeah, and keep discipling. 749 00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:23,360 That's what we are. We're disciples of Jesus Christ 750 00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:24,840 and learning to be more like Him. 751 00:40:24,840 --> 00:40:29,880 So the more you are focused on that, the more easier it will 752 00:40:29,880 --> 00:40:33,800 become to help disciple others because you're learning how to 753 00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:36,720 disciple yourself. And that's what he does. 754 00:40:36,720 --> 00:40:40,400 You know, we all have our own things that he works on within 755 00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:44,680 ourselves for it to be used to help others. 756 00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:47,080 Yeah. So you have things about you 757 00:40:47,360 --> 00:40:50,360 that he's worked on in books that he's placed in your life 758 00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:53,160 and scripture he's placed in your life to share with others 759 00:40:53,160 --> 00:40:54,800 in. Same thing for me. 760 00:40:55,840 --> 00:40:57,000 Cool. Well, awesome. 761 00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:58,360 I think that was pretty much about it. 762 00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:02,800 I think that was good doing great all right guys, I hope you 763 00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:06,120 enjoyed this Oh my gosh hang on this is going to be the first 764 00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:08,960 episode that comes out since I got this new so we are 765 00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:15,480 officially A5O1C3, a true nonprofit ministry by the IRS. 766 00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:18,000 Thank you Jesus for IRS. Yes. 767 00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:21,200 And so I kind of want to say a little bit about what that means 768 00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:25,800 because, yeah, I have been funding this, you know, with 769 00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:27,960 some sponsorships here and there and stuff like that. 770 00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:33,000 But for the most part, you know, it's, it costs to do this. 771 00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:37,880 And so like if you do feel led to give monthly one time, 772 00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:40,720 whatever that looks like, this can be a write off on your taxes 773 00:41:40,720 --> 00:41:43,640 now. So praise the Lord, please reach 774 00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:44,760 out to me. You can visit 775 00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:48,160 praisesinthepod.com to get more information about partnerships, 776 00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:51,160 partnership, partnership, sponsorships, whatever. 777 00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:54,920 Please do so. But above all else, please be in 778 00:41:54,920 --> 00:41:59,480 prayer about, you know, the podcast and the women that this 779 00:41:59,480 --> 00:42:02,400 is helping and growing and pushing closer to Christ. 780 00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:04,560 Maybe you can't give financially, but you can be in 781 00:42:04,560 --> 00:42:08,960 prayer that is freely given. So please be in prayer about 782 00:42:08,960 --> 00:42:10,920 that and then like, share and comment. 783 00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:14,440 Because it's not only healing for the viewers, I think it is 784 00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:18,880 healing and helping disciple the women and just anybody like come 785 00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:20,640 on here and share their testimony. 786 00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:24,560 It is healing. There is there is a number of 787 00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:27,840 women that we have talked to after they gave their testimony 788 00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:31,120 and how hard it was for them to get up on the platform and do 789 00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:33,080 it. But after they did it, what it 790 00:42:33,080 --> 00:42:38,720 did to their heart, it truly is the Lord working in their life 791 00:42:38,720 --> 00:42:42,400 still and helping others. So yes, 100% be praying about 792 00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:47,240 this, but also if it's you ever feel led to give to as well too. 793 00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:50,600 So we can continue this process and continue to disciple women 794 00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:52,920 and continue to let them share their story. 795 00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:56,360 Is is impactful. Yes, most definitely. 796 00:42:56,520 --> 00:42:57,280 Thank you. That was great. 797 00:42:57,960 --> 00:43:00,760 All right, guys, I hope you enjoyed this as much as I have. 798 00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:04,000 Have a great day. A blessed day. 799 00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:06,360 Stay tuned, stay blessed, and we'll see you guys later. 800 00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:07,400 Bye.