1 00:00:13,200 --> 00:00:15,400 What's up, guys? My name's Alexis, your host of 2 00:00:15,400 --> 00:00:18,440 Praises in the Pod, and I'm so excited to be back in the studio 3 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:21,920 with Lindsay Walker. But this time her husband Joey 4 00:00:21,920 --> 00:00:26,240 is entering the chat, and so we're super excited about that. 5 00:00:26,760 --> 00:00:30,040 We actually recorded your episode like 2 months ago. 6 00:00:30,400 --> 00:00:33,000 It's been a while, so I'm I'm going to have to catch up a 7 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:36,320 little bit myself, but we're going to start off in prayer and 8 00:00:36,320 --> 00:00:37,320 then we're going to jump right in. 9 00:00:37,320 --> 00:00:39,880 So here we go. Lord, Heavenly Father, just 10 00:00:39,880 --> 00:00:42,440 thank you for today and all of your many blessings. 11 00:00:42,440 --> 00:00:44,920 Dear God, thank you for this space that we get to come and 12 00:00:44,920 --> 00:00:48,680 talk about your goodness and your faithfulness that you have 13 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:52,520 led and and just guided us through all of the things that 14 00:00:52,520 --> 00:00:54,120 we have encountered in our lives. 15 00:00:54,120 --> 00:00:58,040 Lord God, we just pray that our story, our testimony and what 16 00:00:58,040 --> 00:01:00,760 you've done in our lives brings people closer to you. 17 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:04,720 We pray that they see the light of you through US and let us be 18 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:07,080 a vessel for you today. Lord God, speak to us and 19 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:08,960 through us and let this episode glorify you. 20 00:01:09,200 --> 00:01:10,760 In Jesus name I pray. Amen. 21 00:01:11,120 --> 00:01:12,560 Amen. All right. 22 00:01:12,720 --> 00:01:16,760 So yeah, it's been a while. It's been a it has yes and the 23 00:01:16,760 --> 00:01:18,240 episode still hasn't even come out. 24 00:01:18,240 --> 00:01:22,320 I think it's like next month I think and then y'alls will come 25 00:01:22,320 --> 00:01:24,600 out on the 22nd I believe. Don't. 26 00:01:25,080 --> 00:01:27,320 Anyway, when y'all listen to this it'll be out, you know, 27 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:28,880 except. Right, they won't know any 28 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:31,520 different. Yes, so Joey, we talked to 29 00:01:31,520 --> 00:01:35,560 Lindsay previously and we just want to hear about you because 30 00:01:35,560 --> 00:01:40,320 we see y'all doing great Kingdom work now together and just being 31 00:01:40,320 --> 00:01:44,360 a equally yoked marriage and stuff and just I want to see 32 00:01:44,360 --> 00:01:47,440 what that looks like for y'all. Like what did what did your life 33 00:01:47,440 --> 00:01:51,640 look like growing up? So early on I grew up, I got 34 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:54,760 with this is me, my sister, my mom and dad and and we were just 35 00:01:54,760 --> 00:01:56,800 living in Warner Robins. But church wasn't a part of our 36 00:01:56,800 --> 00:01:59,320 life or anything like that. And then sometime around like 7 37 00:01:59,320 --> 00:02:02,560 years old, my grandma decided it was time to start going to 38 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:04,720 church. And so she started taking us 39 00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:06,840 there. But it wasn't, it wasn't like a 40 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:10,199 staple in our life. It was like, I mean, it was AI 41 00:02:10,199 --> 00:02:14,320 guess a faith foundation, but a very, very minor one, just 42 00:02:14,320 --> 00:02:16,240 learning who God was and things like that. 43 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:19,560 But it wasn't, it wasn't something that was like a major 44 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:21,160 part of my life. Like I didn't, I didn't want to 45 00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:22,040 go. I was just there because my 46 00:02:22,040 --> 00:02:24,960 grandma made me. Yeah, well, you know, that's 47 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:27,400 drastically different than how you for. 48 00:02:27,640 --> 00:02:31,680 Because we see like you're what is like your dad's a Deacon, I 49 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:32,920 think. No, he's a pastor. 50 00:02:32,920 --> 00:02:33,560 He is a pastor. Yeah. 51 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:36,560 He's a favorite pastor. Has he always been when we were 52 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:38,880 in school? Y'all see? 53 00:02:38,880 --> 00:02:40,520 It's been a while. I remember. 54 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:42,760 OK. So I knew that he was, you know, 55 00:02:42,760 --> 00:02:45,080 very big in the church, but I didn't know he was a pastor 56 00:02:45,080 --> 00:02:46,000 girl. So that's different. 57 00:02:46,200 --> 00:02:49,040 But yeah, like, you know, you grew up in church with a huge 58 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:51,720 foundation and y'all are there every time the door open. 59 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:54,200 And then, you know, for Joey, it wasn't like that. 60 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:54,840 Different. Yeah. 61 00:02:54,920 --> 00:02:57,520 It was. It was Sunday mornings every 62 00:02:57,520 --> 00:03:00,240 once in a while and then Shoney's for breakfast and that 63 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:01,200 was about it. Yeah. 64 00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:05,320 So going for high school or middle school and high school, 65 00:03:05,320 --> 00:03:08,880 did you face a lot of like struggles in that time? 66 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:11,680 I didn't know I was struggling. I thought I was cool. 67 00:03:11,680 --> 00:03:13,600 I thought I was chilling. Like everything was great. 68 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:16,520 Like I was popular and, and I was doing everything I could to 69 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:18,160 be the cool guy and the funny guy. 70 00:03:18,160 --> 00:03:21,480 And that's really kind of what have the Lord confronted me 71 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:24,360 later on in life of like, I was doing all this stuff and I was 72 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:26,280 even the nice guy sometimes, like depending on who I was 73 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:29,280 hanging around. And but it was really all just 74 00:03:29,280 --> 00:03:32,160 prideful stuff of who I could get to like me, and it was all 75 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:34,200 about me. Yeah, it's so funny when we 76 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:37,480 think about like, just because you're cool when school or the 77 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:39,720 jokester and all this like you don't realize how bad you're 78 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:42,520 struggling, but truly like you're just wanting to fit in. 79 00:03:42,880 --> 00:03:47,240 You just want the attention. Like it's like you don't get it 80 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:49,440 until later on and you're like, I was just trying to fill a 81 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:50,680 void. And you look back and you're 82 00:03:50,680 --> 00:03:52,400 just like, Oh my gosh, what a mess. 83 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:56,200 Yeah, so when do y'all meet specifically? 84 00:03:56,600 --> 00:04:00,720 We met my second first year teaching. 85 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:03,920 Technically we met your first year teaching because I was 86 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:06,520 student teaching that year. Yeah, we were both teaching at 87 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:09,840 Huntington Middle School, OK, And we met in the copy. 88 00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:11,800 We met in the copy room and she wanted to talk to me. 89 00:04:12,560 --> 00:04:14,440 Whatever. She. 90 00:04:14,480 --> 00:04:16,120 She. Came up to me and was telling me 91 00:04:16,120 --> 00:04:19,240 all about all the things and here's how to do work to copier 92 00:04:19,240 --> 00:04:22,320 and all this and. She's like totally not my 93 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:25,080 personality because I am very, I am not outgoing. 94 00:04:25,080 --> 00:04:27,800 I'm very much to myself. But I walked in and I saw he had 95 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:31,000 a Georgia college name tag on. That's where I went to school. 96 00:04:31,280 --> 00:04:34,000 I was like, oh, he's all good. People yeah, I sparked up 97 00:04:34,000 --> 00:04:37,320 conversation and. She's a great conversationalist. 98 00:04:38,320 --> 00:04:40,400 So that's where it hit it. Off. 99 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:42,320 That's where it kind of started, yeah. 100 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:44,920 And then he came. I coached softball there. 101 00:04:45,360 --> 00:04:47,800 But at that point I wasn't. I was just student teaching, so 102 00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:49,480 I didn't have a job there. I didn't know if I was going to 103 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:50,760 work there. Yeah, right, right. 104 00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:52,640 Did you know you wanted to move back home? 105 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:55,000 Oh, yeah, I knew I wanted to be here. 106 00:04:55,000 --> 00:04:58,200 And the goal was ultimately to get onto the north side of town, 107 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:00,120 into the baseball program, just because that's where I, you 108 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:02,000 know, grew up. And you played baseball, OK. 109 00:05:03,440 --> 00:05:06,640 Yeah, so he, I coached and he came and asked if I needed help 110 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:10,600 coaching and I was like, sure. Yep. 111 00:05:10,960 --> 00:05:12,480 So. That's kind of starts. 112 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:13,880 For free. What'd? 113 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:15,280 You say so did them years for free. 114 00:05:15,920 --> 00:05:18,640 For sure. So you, that's how y'all's 115 00:05:18,640 --> 00:05:21,680 friendship basically started. And then what? 116 00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:23,880 Like when does it actually become more? 117 00:05:23,880 --> 00:05:27,240 When does it look like it could become more for either of you? 118 00:05:28,120 --> 00:05:30,240 I think we kind of talked about it a little bit. 119 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:32,840 So let's hear Joey's PM. Love to hear her. 120 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:38,920 So from my point of view, we're initially, I'm just going to, I 121 00:05:38,920 --> 00:05:42,000 mean, obviously she's an incredibly beautiful woman. 122 00:05:42,320 --> 00:05:44,400 And so but I'm just going to coach because I want to coach. 123 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:47,120 When I when I signed on to teach at Huntington, they had me coach 124 00:05:47,120 --> 00:05:50,160 at track because baseball wasn't open and I don't know about 125 00:05:50,160 --> 00:05:51,720 track. So I want to bat and a ball. 126 00:05:52,360 --> 00:05:55,240 And so I'm like, I'll go help softball just to kind of get my 127 00:05:55,240 --> 00:06:00,440 fix And through coaching with Lindsay, just kind of we kind of 128 00:06:00,440 --> 00:06:02,240 hit it off really as really, really good friends. 129 00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:04,800 Like we like all the same things, love all the same stuff. 130 00:06:04,800 --> 00:06:09,480 And as the season progressed, I, I just like, hey, I might try to 131 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:12,720 pursue this. And so after the season, really, 132 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:14,440 I mean, it was not a thing at all. 133 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:17,760 And then I just asked her on a date and she brought her sister. 134 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:22,320 Oh OK dear, I told you I friendzoned them at first. 135 00:06:22,920 --> 00:06:24,600 You did. So did you? 136 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:27,680 Did you know at that point like you knew that she wanted to 137 00:06:27,680 --> 00:06:30,200 friend zone you or you were just like? 138 00:06:31,360 --> 00:06:34,960 I was just like, all right, so you're obviously going to bring 139 00:06:34,960 --> 00:06:36,240 your sister because you're not sure. 140 00:06:36,240 --> 00:06:40,400 But I also knew her personality was very, very, I need to 141 00:06:40,400 --> 00:06:42,560 analyze this. I need to make sure this box is 142 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:44,560 good and this box is good. It's hard to know her 143 00:06:44,560 --> 00:06:46,240 personality just from being friends with her. 144 00:06:46,240 --> 00:06:48,120 And so I was like, well, this kind of makes sense. 145 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:52,200 It's it's fun. When now what are your 146 00:06:52,200 --> 00:06:55,160 hesitations more so we kind of already talked about it, but 147 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:58,080 just in case people haven't listened like why are you trying 148 00:06:58,080 --> 00:07:00,760 to make sure these boxes are checked and what boxes exactly? 149 00:07:00,760 --> 00:07:02,960 Yeah, so at. That point in my life, I knew, 150 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:06,080 OK, the next person that I date seriously, like I'm looking to 151 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:09,880 marry, you know, and so obviously I'm looking to marry a 152 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:13,240 godly man and a man that can, you know, lead our family 153 00:07:13,240 --> 00:07:16,880 spiritually. And as far as he, I didn't know 154 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:18,520 exactly where he stood spiritually yet. 155 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:23,240 And so that kind of had to be, as he would say, analyzed or 156 00:07:23,240 --> 00:07:26,480 explore just to see, you know, what is his faith? 157 00:07:26,680 --> 00:07:28,000 What does that look like for him? 158 00:07:28,000 --> 00:07:29,840 He had told me a little bit of his story. 159 00:07:30,080 --> 00:07:34,360 And so I just, I needed to see, you know, did he at this point, 160 00:07:34,360 --> 00:07:36,000 I wasn't going to date somebody that couldn't leave me 161 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:38,920 spiritual. And so that was the hesitation 162 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:42,960 for a long time. And I invited him to start 163 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:47,960 coming to church with me. And so I would say that we were 164 00:07:47,960 --> 00:07:51,400 friends for. A year, yeah, I mean. 165 00:07:51,440 --> 00:07:54,080 It was a while. From the start to like not the 166 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:57,160 not the pursuant part, but yeah, I would say so probably. 167 00:07:57,160 --> 00:08:00,200 Where is your walk spiritually at that first year of 168 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:03,720 friendship? It's it's saved with 0 169 00:08:03,720 --> 00:08:07,040 discipleship almost. I mean I'm I would pray 170 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:09,800 regularly every day. I mean I had AI would talk to 171 00:08:09,800 --> 00:08:11,960 the Lord every day. But like my biblical 172 00:08:11,960 --> 00:08:16,320 understanding of anything was very small, very minor. 173 00:08:16,600 --> 00:08:17,920 Yeah, who? OK. 174 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:21,360 So is she open and honest about this with you from the job? 175 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:22,960 Like, hey, you're not spiritually there. 176 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:26,040 So she would never say it that quite that bluntly, but there's 177 00:08:26,040 --> 00:08:29,840 a lot of questions to be asked and and I would answer him as 178 00:08:29,840 --> 00:08:32,679 honestly as I could with the knowledge that I had. 179 00:08:32,720 --> 00:08:36,760 You know, the Lord is in my life and and I have a relationship 180 00:08:36,760 --> 00:08:40,039 with him, but I don't know what I don't, I don't know what that 181 00:08:40,039 --> 00:08:42,840 even means. And and I had been that way for 182 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:47,000 quite a while, honestly. I love how like you are so 183 00:08:47,080 --> 00:08:50,080 confident and like, no, I'm going to marry godly man. 184 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:52,320 And I'm not swaying. I'm not like I need someone to 185 00:08:52,320 --> 00:08:56,160 leave me spiritually because sometimes us as girls, we really 186 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:58,600 want that person, right? And they say that they're saved, 187 00:08:58,600 --> 00:09:00,920 but they're not discipled. They don't know how to, they 188 00:09:00,920 --> 00:09:02,480 don't know how to lead a family and all this. 189 00:09:02,480 --> 00:09:05,280 And we're like, it's OK, it's OK. 190 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:07,720 But then we get in these situations and we're like, we're 191 00:09:07,720 --> 00:09:12,000 mad, but we needed them to grow. We needed them to seek the Lord 192 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:13,640 and stuff like that. Not saying that you sought the 193 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:15,880 Lord because of Lindsay. No, no, no, no, I get it. 194 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:18,720 Look, I had some growing up to do and and thankfully there was 195 00:09:18,720 --> 00:09:21,040 people around that were able to, I was able to do that, I mean. 196 00:09:21,160 --> 00:09:23,440 Yeah. So tell us a little bit about 197 00:09:23,640 --> 00:09:26,880 how you were discipled. Did did you find men that just 198 00:09:26,880 --> 00:09:28,880 poured into you? Did you start reading? 199 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:29,680 What? What did that? 200 00:09:29,680 --> 00:09:32,920 Disciples? Was like, it was a lot of time 201 00:09:32,920 --> 00:09:36,040 with the Lord of the Word, a lot of that Mister Jimmy, her dad 202 00:09:36,640 --> 00:09:38,600 poured into me a lot. He's got two really good 203 00:09:38,600 --> 00:09:41,480 friends, Mr. Carl and Mr. Darrell, who I spent a lot of 204 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:44,440 time with early on just kind of picking their brains and asking 205 00:09:44,440 --> 00:09:47,000 questions. And that's a. 206 00:09:47,200 --> 00:09:49,640 Lot of questions. Yeah, I'm a I'm a talker and I'm 207 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:51,400 a question asker. I just want to know everything. 208 00:09:51,400 --> 00:09:53,400 I'm the best Jeopardy player you've ever seen in your life. 209 00:09:55,280 --> 00:09:58,960 But I just, I just wanted to, I couldn't get enough. 210 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:02,680 Once I found out that there was more information to be had other 211 00:10:02,680 --> 00:10:04,840 than just all right, me and the we're going to talk every day. 212 00:10:05,760 --> 00:10:09,680 And so that was really it. It was kind of like just really 213 00:10:09,680 --> 00:10:14,440 eye opening and, and really it was really refreshing to it. 214 00:10:15,080 --> 00:10:18,640 It kind of put it kind of put flesh to bones that I had of 215 00:10:18,640 --> 00:10:21,360 what my understanding was of what it looked like to be a 216 00:10:21,360 --> 00:10:23,480 godly man. You know, my dad's an awesome 217 00:10:23,480 --> 00:10:28,040 dude and, and he's taught me a lot of really great things, but 218 00:10:28,040 --> 00:10:30,920 like being able to dive into our Heavenly Father and what he had 219 00:10:30,920 --> 00:10:33,200 for me was just even more than that. 220 00:10:33,640 --> 00:10:37,000 That's good. That's good because we can learn 221 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:39,360 so much from our parents. Like we look at Lindsay's life 222 00:10:39,360 --> 00:10:42,600 and you know, you were taught at a young age how to read your 223 00:10:42,600 --> 00:10:44,560 Bible, how to pray, how to do these things. 224 00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:47,600 So it's so important that we find these people that can pour 225 00:10:47,600 --> 00:10:50,760 into us that are more mature than us, that can pour in and 226 00:10:50,760 --> 00:10:55,320 then we can pour out, you know, So what, what's the changing 227 00:10:55,320 --> 00:10:57,320 moment? When when do y'all figure out 228 00:10:57,320 --> 00:11:01,200 like, OK, like you grow for about a year and then tell us a 229 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:03,160 little bit about that that. 'D be that'd be, I guess, more 230 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:05,280 for her to ask. Her I guess my perspective on 231 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:10,000 that is, you know, at this point in my walk with Christ, I had 232 00:11:10,000 --> 00:11:13,600 been diving into the word, I don't know for almost 10 years 233 00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:18,760 and I felt like in just a year he almost. 234 00:11:18,760 --> 00:11:22,520 Caught up with me like. He, I'm telling you, he just, he 235 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:27,720 soaked it up like a sponge. And so we were having a lot of 236 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:30,040 godly conversations, spiritual conversations. 237 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:34,560 He was sharing his faith, his family. 238 00:11:34,560 --> 00:11:37,640 I remember one time specifically his mom told me, like, you've 239 00:11:37,640 --> 00:11:39,240 changed him so much. And I'm in my head, I'm 240 00:11:39,240 --> 00:11:42,080 thinking, I haven't changed him. Like this is the work of the 241 00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:44,080 spirit. I can't do it, you know, and 242 00:11:44,560 --> 00:11:50,360 just just to see that and you know, it was it clicked it all 243 00:11:50,480 --> 00:11:52,600 it. And so it just went from there. 244 00:11:52,840 --> 00:11:56,680 Wow. So in this time period, it's not 245 00:11:56,680 --> 00:11:59,400 like you're necessarily doing it for Lindsay, but did she like 246 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:02,920 push you to want to grow because of the questions? 247 00:12:02,920 --> 00:12:06,160 How was that? I don't think it was she pushed 248 00:12:06,160 --> 00:12:08,120 me to want to grow. I think it was more of like an 249 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:12,520 access like she, she opened up this tiny window and it, and it 250 00:12:12,520 --> 00:12:15,600 wasn't she, she didn't have to push me like I just wanted it, 251 00:12:15,600 --> 00:12:20,600 you know, whether we had worked out or not, the the Lord was in 252 00:12:20,600 --> 00:12:22,040 front of me. And if that relationship's not 253 00:12:22,040 --> 00:12:24,240 paramount anyway, then none of the other stuff matters anyway. 254 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:28,800 And so I mean, I, I remember even specifically thinking like 255 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:33,440 when she was kind of that pursuant part was dragging on, I 256 00:12:33,440 --> 00:12:36,960 remember thinking like, if this doesn't work out, I got to make 257 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:38,520 a decision, Am I going to be planted here or not? 258 00:12:38,520 --> 00:12:40,400 I'm going to be planted here. And so like a second was going 259 00:12:40,400 --> 00:12:43,080 to be my home, whether me and Lindsay stayed were just friends 260 00:12:43,080 --> 00:12:48,040 or if we were more than that. And so I so I think it was she 261 00:12:48,040 --> 00:12:51,040 kind of opened the door, but I don't think it was necessarily 262 00:12:51,040 --> 00:12:53,080 like her questions that pushed me. 263 00:12:53,080 --> 00:12:56,080 It was more the Holy Spirit kind of driving the train and like we 264 00:12:56,080 --> 00:12:59,000 we got to, we got to grow up. And that was, that was part of 265 00:12:59,000 --> 00:13:02,920 it too. He, he was prime and ready. 266 00:13:02,920 --> 00:13:07,080 He was just waiting on, he needed, like you said, access. 267 00:13:07,080 --> 00:13:09,080 He needed to know what do I do next? 268 00:13:09,080 --> 00:13:14,240 You know, and I think part of the reason why it took me so 269 00:13:14,240 --> 00:13:18,720 long to get there was because I, I was like, OK, you know, I'm, 270 00:13:19,000 --> 00:13:21,200 I'm, I analyze everything. So I think through everything. 271 00:13:21,440 --> 00:13:25,200 I'm like, is, is this genuine or is he really trying to just 272 00:13:25,200 --> 00:13:29,120 pursue me? And so after, you know, a year 273 00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:31,560 plus, I'm like, OK, he's he loves Lord. 274 00:13:31,560 --> 00:13:34,920 Like this is genuine. And so, yeah. 275 00:13:35,160 --> 00:13:38,480 I just love that so much. I just do. 276 00:13:38,480 --> 00:13:41,200 I'm like, Oh my gosh. Because most of the time people 277 00:13:41,200 --> 00:13:43,920 are just waiting for an invite. They're just waiting on that act 278 00:13:43,960 --> 00:13:46,080 like the access, like what you're talking about window to 279 00:13:46,080 --> 00:13:49,520 be open, like maybe they got saved, but they don't know what 280 00:13:49,520 --> 00:13:51,440 to do. I think this is like a common 281 00:13:51,440 --> 00:13:54,320 thing that's like now, now say now what? 282 00:13:54,320 --> 00:13:55,920 Or something like that. Like people said that what's up? 283 00:13:56,280 --> 00:13:59,720 And it is so true. Like we let people get saved and 284 00:13:59,720 --> 00:14:01,800 then what does the disciples should not let them. 285 00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:04,640 Lord, that is not what I meant. We don't let them. 286 00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:08,040 We just guide them right and give give these opportunities. 287 00:14:09,080 --> 00:14:11,840 It's just not the it's not the finish line, right? 288 00:14:11,840 --> 00:14:13,000 That's right. The starting point of a 289 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:15,040 sanctification, sanctification process. 290 00:14:15,040 --> 00:14:18,680 And and so that's one reason I'm so passionate about working in 291 00:14:18,680 --> 00:14:21,120 youth now at our church is like, I'm not going to let that happen 292 00:14:21,120 --> 00:14:24,440 to other kids. And not that not that it let it 293 00:14:24,440 --> 00:14:26,160 happen. I'm I'm sure I could have been 294 00:14:26,160 --> 00:14:30,440 more adamant about pursuing what it was supposed to be, but I 295 00:14:30,440 --> 00:14:31,560 just thought it was a finish line. 296 00:14:31,560 --> 00:14:33,320 Like, all right, cool, check that box. 297 00:14:33,360 --> 00:14:35,880 But again, knowing the, the my faith background checking the 298 00:14:35,880 --> 00:14:39,920 box was what it was. And in my mind anyway, I didn't 299 00:14:39,920 --> 00:14:43,240 understand the fullness and the richness of what was available 300 00:14:43,240 --> 00:14:46,160 to me if I could, if I just would, dive in. 301 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:50,480 That is true, That is true, because it's taste and see right 302 00:14:50,480 --> 00:14:54,840 and we need people to taste and see the goodness of God and once 303 00:14:54,840 --> 00:14:59,280 they do, it opens up a whole new where like you can't get enough 304 00:14:59,520 --> 00:15:04,600 such a glory yes and So what does life look like once y'all 305 00:15:04,600 --> 00:15:08,640 start dating? I love how y'all if y'all are 306 00:15:08,640 --> 00:15:10,280 not watching if y'all are not watching. 307 00:15:10,280 --> 00:15:12,920 Lindsay's eyes kind of looked up and was like, well, this is you. 308 00:15:13,440 --> 00:15:18,640 Sally, I mean, Lindsay's a very private person anyway, so as 309 00:15:18,640 --> 00:15:21,400 when, so when we dated, it was a we're not going to let the 310 00:15:21,400 --> 00:15:23,240 students know type thing, alias school. 311 00:15:23,240 --> 00:15:24,840 Working together. You're still working together, 312 00:15:24,840 --> 00:15:28,440 So that was that. But then it was, it was really 313 00:15:28,440 --> 00:15:31,520 just kind of dating to get married, right? 314 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:33,480 I mean, it was dating to see if that's where we were headed, 315 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:35,800 where we had, we both assumed. I don't know if you know this, 316 00:15:35,800 --> 00:15:37,560 but I'm like substantially older than her. 317 00:15:37,800 --> 00:15:39,920 OK, didn't know that. Yeah, didn't know that. 318 00:15:40,120 --> 00:15:41,920 Yeah. I not that you're not, not that 319 00:15:41,920 --> 00:15:43,600 you're not young and beautiful girl. 320 00:15:43,600 --> 00:15:46,280 I just didn't know that. Yeah, I am 7 1/2 years older 321 00:15:46,280 --> 00:15:46,840 than her. Yeah. 322 00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:52,840 So it we're at a point in both of our lives where it's not like 323 00:15:52,840 --> 00:15:54,600 we're like, if we're if we're not gonna get, if we're not at 324 00:15:54,600 --> 00:15:56,000 least considering getting married, this is. 325 00:15:56,200 --> 00:15:59,200 Yes, wasting time. And so it was, it was really 326 00:15:59,200 --> 00:16:02,440 about getting to know each other best that way and get into and 327 00:16:02,440 --> 00:16:05,520 having the conversations really early of, you know, what does it 328 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:09,160 look like to raise a family? What does it look like to live 329 00:16:09,160 --> 00:16:12,560 in the same town as both of our families and, and spend the time 330 00:16:12,560 --> 00:16:17,120 with them and that and the financial stuff and, and I know 331 00:16:17,200 --> 00:16:18,920 this is, I know a lot of this is about marriage. 332 00:16:18,920 --> 00:16:20,440 So I'll just side note here real quick. 333 00:16:20,440 --> 00:16:22,680 I know I can look at the camera, talk about these things before 334 00:16:22,680 --> 00:16:25,800 you get married. Period, Joey, Period. 335 00:16:25,840 --> 00:16:30,760 Yes, talk about it. And so it, it was really that 336 00:16:30,760 --> 00:16:33,200 and just kind of growing closer and closer to each other, really 337 00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:35,480 pursuing the Lord. And I know you've probably seen 338 00:16:35,480 --> 00:16:38,120 the depiction like as you both grow closer to the Lord, you 339 00:16:38,120 --> 00:16:40,560 grow closer to each other and and. 340 00:16:40,760 --> 00:16:42,280 I haven't. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. 341 00:16:42,280 --> 00:16:45,040 So the the idea is if you're if, if you if you're chasing the 342 00:16:45,040 --> 00:16:48,440 Lord here and so is your spouse, You're also getting closer 343 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:52,040 together as you get there. I have never you're like you 344 00:16:52,040 --> 00:16:55,440 said that so like y'all know what I'm talking about No, the 345 00:16:55,440 --> 00:16:58,080 triangle I have seen the triangle right, but I've never 346 00:16:58,080 --> 00:17:00,840 heard like what's the triangle more so but. 347 00:17:01,280 --> 00:17:03,040 Yeah, you. And so that's really what we 348 00:17:03,040 --> 00:17:04,839 were doing, just chasing the Lord together. 349 00:17:05,800 --> 00:17:07,359 What was that book we walked through? 350 00:17:08,200 --> 00:17:11,160 I can't remember either. It was a book we walked through 351 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:12,400 together just to really did y'all. 352 00:17:12,400 --> 00:17:14,400 Just do it together or we just did it together. 353 00:17:14,400 --> 00:17:17,359 Yeah, yeah. Did y'all do marriage counseling 354 00:17:17,359 --> 00:17:19,119 and stuff? We did, Pastor Jim Perdue did 355 00:17:19,119 --> 00:17:22,240 the marriage counseling for us and, and that was really 356 00:17:22,240 --> 00:17:24,920 awesome. And, and he was really big on 357 00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:28,079 the conversations and making sure everything is laid out 358 00:17:28,079 --> 00:17:31,400 ahead of time. That way when you get into the 359 00:17:31,400 --> 00:17:33,400 marriage you don't have those problems. 360 00:17:33,400 --> 00:17:36,360 Yeah, how long were y'all dating before you got engaged? 361 00:17:38,200 --> 00:17:39,720 A year and a half. OK. 362 00:17:40,520 --> 00:17:45,120 And I, I had heard somebody say one time, you know, as a single 363 00:17:45,120 --> 00:17:49,480 person living for the Lord, you have your own ministry and 364 00:17:49,480 --> 00:17:52,000 marriage. One of the purposes of marriage 365 00:17:52,000 --> 00:17:56,080 is to find someone else that where when your ministries come 366 00:17:56,080 --> 00:17:57,640 together, you're more effective for the Lord. 367 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:03,080 And so I felt that with him, we just have a lot of the same 368 00:18:03,080 --> 00:18:07,160 interests we have and even in his coaching and just how much 369 00:18:07,160 --> 00:18:09,520 we love sports, just to see how God's kind of brought those two 370 00:18:09,520 --> 00:18:10,880 things together. Yeah, it's really cool. 371 00:18:11,120 --> 00:18:13,760 But Joy, I think you should tell her how we got engaged. 372 00:18:14,400 --> 00:18:15,680 You think I should tell the whole story? 373 00:18:16,920 --> 00:18:18,080 We want to hear it. Go ahead. 374 00:18:18,080 --> 00:18:20,800 OK, so it's. Really unconventional. 375 00:18:22,520 --> 00:18:25,120 Lindsay hates surprises, and I love surprises. 376 00:18:25,320 --> 00:18:29,320 Really like very opposite personality, a light but so 377 00:18:29,320 --> 00:18:30,720 different. Yes, yes. 378 00:18:31,200 --> 00:18:33,400 Our personalities are very different, our interests are 379 00:18:33,400 --> 00:18:37,640 very alike. And so I am very spontaneous 380 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:39,760 and, and I like to get things I like to. 381 00:18:39,960 --> 00:18:41,640 We could do something right now and it'd be totally different 382 00:18:41,640 --> 00:18:43,600 than what we planned on doing. And, and that would drive her 383 00:18:43,600 --> 00:18:45,920 crazy. And so anyway, we're going down 384 00:18:45,920 --> 00:18:48,400 to Florida and, and with her family on their vacation. 385 00:18:48,400 --> 00:18:50,360 And I already know I'm going to ask the question. 386 00:18:50,360 --> 00:18:53,360 I asked her dad's permission like the day before we left, OK, 387 00:18:53,520 --> 00:18:56,760 I, I was pretty confident Mr. Jimmy was going to say yes, OK. 388 00:18:58,200 --> 00:19:01,240 And so, but like her sister, Katie and I had already worked 389 00:19:01,240 --> 00:19:03,920 out this plan where like we were going to go, they like to go for 390 00:19:03,920 --> 00:19:06,040 walks on the beach anyway. And so we're going to do that. 391 00:19:06,040 --> 00:19:08,120 And I was going to ask her out there and it was going to and 392 00:19:08,120 --> 00:19:09,760 they were her whole family was going to be there and there's 393 00:19:09,760 --> 00:19:14,400 going to be awesome. And we get there and, and it's 394 00:19:14,400 --> 00:19:17,160 me, Lindsay, Katie and her parents. 395 00:19:18,120 --> 00:19:23,600 And I go down to the car to go get more stuff because I'm the, 396 00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:27,360 I'm the young man there loading the car. 397 00:19:27,360 --> 00:19:31,160 I'm unloading the car and I and her ring has been stuffed in my 398 00:19:31,160 --> 00:19:34,120 suitcase and she has never unloaded my suitcase before and 399 00:19:34,120 --> 00:19:35,960 has never unloaded my suitcase since. 400 00:19:36,480 --> 00:19:39,160 But tell tell them why I unloaded your suitcase. 401 00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:42,080 She's going to say it was because I'm very particular by 402 00:19:42,080 --> 00:19:44,120 the way my clothes look, and so she was trying to make sure that 403 00:19:44,120 --> 00:19:46,840 my stuff wasn't he. Spent all this time ironing his 404 00:19:46,840 --> 00:19:50,080 clothes like the night before. He don't have her iron. 405 00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:52,680 So I was like, OK, he's still unloading. 406 00:19:52,680 --> 00:19:55,200 Let me just like, hang those shirts up for them because he 407 00:19:55,200 --> 00:19:58,680 spent all this time ironing. And so I come back up and and 408 00:19:58,680 --> 00:20:01,120 this, this is, this is how holy she is. 409 00:20:01,120 --> 00:20:02,840 She can't even fix the mess she made. 410 00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:05,920 It's sitting on top of all the clothes, the ring box, 411 00:20:05,920 --> 00:20:08,360 everything. She just drops it and runs. 412 00:20:08,880 --> 00:20:15,840 Oh my God, yeah, I panicked. And so now I am, like, trying to 413 00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:18,840 figure out how to salvage this whole thing because I am adamant 414 00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:21,320 about this being a big moment that we can tell everybody 415 00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:24,800 forever. And so I'm out there talking to 416 00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:25,800 Katie. These are romantic. 417 00:20:25,960 --> 00:20:26,560 I'm not. Yeah. 418 00:20:27,000 --> 00:20:29,120 I'm out there talking to Katie. What do we do now? 419 00:20:29,120 --> 00:20:31,520 I don't understand what I I got to come up with a new plan. 420 00:20:31,520 --> 00:20:35,200 And in the meantime, Katie's husband Lance, who is now 421 00:20:35,200 --> 00:20:38,600 probably my best friend, she is on the phone with him and I 422 00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:41,680 don't know him yet like that and he's dying laughing, making fun 423 00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:42,880 of me. And I'm just like this guy. 424 00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:50,160 Shout out Lance and so I'm out on the balcony and and I'm 425 00:20:50,160 --> 00:20:52,400 looking around. I'm just scanning trying to like 426 00:20:52,560 --> 00:20:55,000 how did my life get here now where I can't even pull this 427 00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:58,680 together and Lindsay comes out there and says, all right, when 428 00:20:58,680 --> 00:21:00,680 you going to ask me right now? Right, let's do it. 429 00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:03,960 Let's do it. And I'm like, no, not at all 430 00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:06,440 like I got. Actually, not even this strip. 431 00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:07,760 Yeah, it might not even happen now. 432 00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:11,280 And then the the she hit me with a quote that I will never forget 433 00:21:11,280 --> 00:21:13,760 in my life. And she said, all right, well, 434 00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:15,960 when you get ready to do it and you put your big boy pants on 435 00:21:15,960 --> 00:21:17,000 you, come on in here. I'll be waiting. 436 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:20,520 Gosh. That is Lindsay. 437 00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:26,280 That is Lindsay. And so I go into the room and, 438 00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:29,360 and meanwhile I have we're not married. 439 00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:33,320 I have my own individual room and it is a child's room. 440 00:21:33,560 --> 00:21:35,960 It is a a bed about the size of this couch. 441 00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:41,640 It is raised up. It's got like this plastic 442 00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:45,040 dolphin on the wall and this like table on the other side of 443 00:21:45,040 --> 00:21:47,040 the room where you can color and stuff like that. 444 00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:49,760 And I hadn't got the color in yet. 445 00:21:49,760 --> 00:21:52,440 But so I'm sitting in there on the bed and I'm just like, what 446 00:21:52,440 --> 00:21:54,120 do I do? And she comes in and she's like, 447 00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:56,240 my stomach's going to hurt the whole trip. 448 00:21:56,240 --> 00:21:58,080 If you don't ask me. I got right here, this door 449 00:21:58,080 --> 00:21:59,640 right now. I'm going to be nervous the 450 00:21:59,640 --> 00:22:01,600 whole I'm going. To be on edge the whole trip. 451 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:05,400 I'm drinking out you. You got to ask me right now. 452 00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:08,840 As I'm holding it and I'm like, all right, well, I mean, I'll 453 00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:10,880 ask you, but I'm not getting down on this hard floor with the 454 00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:13,920 sand on it. And she said yes, you are. 455 00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:19,080 I was like, yeah, you are. And so I did and, and, and so I 456 00:22:19,080 --> 00:22:22,600 asked her and, and I said and she said yes. 457 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:25,680 And, and I told her that when she told the story to other 458 00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:27,760 people, she better tell them that I proposed to her at the 459 00:22:27,760 --> 00:22:34,440 beach in front of dolphins. And so and, and, and so she 460 00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:37,640 said, yes, we had our moment. We went and took very fake 461 00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:39,360 engagement pictures later that were great. 462 00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:40,480 Yeah. And reacted. 463 00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:44,200 Everything's worked out in her favor ever since. 464 00:22:44,360 --> 00:22:45,200 I love that of. Course. 465 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:48,320 Oh yeah, absolutely. I love that because not 466 00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:50,200 everything goes as planned, right? 467 00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:52,400 Like life. We know that especially on this 468 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:55,360 side of Christ, you know, things don't go as planned and y'all 469 00:22:55,360 --> 00:22:56,680 make the most of it. And I love that. 470 00:22:56,680 --> 00:22:59,640 It's still beautiful, hilarious story. 471 00:22:59,840 --> 00:23:02,000 Hilarious, everybody. Everybody seems to get more 472 00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:05,360 tickled than I do, but. Yeah, so it's so mad. 473 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:11,480 So I love how you also said this is going to go open up a little 474 00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:14,080 another door. OK, You had a different room. 475 00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:18,360 OK, That is very big. So y'all set boundaries when 476 00:23:18,360 --> 00:23:19,960 y'all were dating. Can we talk about those 477 00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:21,680 boundaries? Yeah, absolutely. 478 00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:23,320 Thank you. Yeah, go ahead. 479 00:23:23,320 --> 00:23:25,400 Tell us a little bit about the boundaries that y'all set. 480 00:23:27,360 --> 00:23:28,720 Well, you're not married till you're married. 481 00:23:29,280 --> 00:23:32,640 So you don't you don't Playhouse, you know, that's a 482 00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:35,000 that is safe. Like even even when we were 483 00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:38,480 engaged, we bought a house together and I lived there. 484 00:23:38,480 --> 00:23:42,160 She did not move in until the day we were married, like that 485 00:23:42,160 --> 00:23:45,720 night. And so it was just we tried to 486 00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:47,240 be as biblical as possible with it. 487 00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:54,400 I mean, we would if if we went on vacation that we never slept 488 00:23:54,400 --> 00:23:56,720 in the same bed or not, we'd go on, we went on a few cruises. 489 00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:58,640 We were in separate bed. I mean, none of that stuff 490 00:23:58,640 --> 00:24:00,320 would. It just wasn't a thing. 491 00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:05,360 Did y'all like like these guardrails of like because did 492 00:24:05,360 --> 00:24:07,400 you have your own house or did you live with people when you 493 00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:10,400 were dating? OK, but like you didn't stay the 494 00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:14,480 night you didn't like after a certain hour it's like, hey, we 495 00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:16,440 got to go on home like all this stuff. 496 00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:21,240 And so y'all set these and were y'all always kind of with other 497 00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:23,800 people in the dating when y'all were dating? 498 00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:28,680 Especially early on, yeah, as we as we got closer to like the 499 00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:31,400 engagement part, there would be some time where we would be 500 00:24:31,400 --> 00:24:34,080 separate, but it was be even be like, it would be like, hey, 501 00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:36,320 where at her parents house or, or where? 502 00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:38,680 At I lived with my parents, yeah, so and he lived with 503 00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:43,400 people. So very rarely were were we ever 504 00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:45,160 like in the house by ourselves, you know what I'm saying? 505 00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:47,760 It's just so important. Yes, yes. 506 00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:50,960 And that, that helped a lot. And we're very involved in our 507 00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:52,600 church. He was in small group, I was in 508 00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:53,720 small group. And so just having 509 00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:56,000 accountability too. Yes, because there's so many 510 00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:58,200 times they're like, well, we can just hang out, you know, like 511 00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:00,720 whatever. But when you're one-on-one, like 512 00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:03,160 there's just not accountability there. 513 00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:07,400 It is a slippery slope. And so I always love when we get 514 00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:11,800 these conversations going of set the guardrails further than what 515 00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:13,680 you think. Like just in case. 516 00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:15,440 In case you do hit it, you can still get. 517 00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:18,960 You ain't even close, you know? I talked to my 8th grade boys 518 00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:22,160 about like when Daniel's in captivity and how like he's 519 00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:24,680 willing to change his name, but he's not willing to eat the food 520 00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:26,560 right. So you have to have something 521 00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:30,000 set up ahead of time. You have to pre prepare for the 522 00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:31,960 moments because if not, you're going to make the wrong 523 00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:33,560 decision. That's good. 524 00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:36,960 Did y'all have those conversations kind of early on? 525 00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:40,040 Oh, yeah, that part of walking through the book, I, I think it 526 00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:41,560 was a mingling of souls or something like that. 527 00:25:41,560 --> 00:25:42,440 What you name of the book? Yeah. 528 00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:45,200 And, and it was, and it was really walking through like, 529 00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:48,640 like, like Song of Solomon and like, what does it look like to 530 00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:52,280 like love somebody godly or in a godly way? 531 00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:55,680 And, and it was very early on we talked about, we're not going to 532 00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:57,600 do this. This is OK, this is not OK, this 533 00:25:57,600 --> 00:26:00,000 is OK, This is not OK. And, and it was, and it was more 534 00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:02,200 organic anyway. It was because both of us wanted 535 00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:03,320 to be respectful to the Lord and to. 536 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:06,520 The other persons, right. That's so important, that's so 537 00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:09,440 important. And you know, living together 538 00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:13,680 before marriage, it like there's people that are listening to 539 00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:17,720 this that are probably in this season and just like if you are 540 00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:20,240 playing house, why not make it official? 541 00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:25,840 You know, why continuously, you know, disobey what the Lord's 542 00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:28,000 calling us to do. If y'all are together and y'all 543 00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:31,440 are living together and y'all are seeking, you know, this life 544 00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:33,880 together, just go ahead and get married, you know? 545 00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:36,480 You know, I, I don't know. Do you know Josh Howerton is the 546 00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:37,360 pastor? I do not. 547 00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:39,040 Is that y'all's new pastor? No, no, no, no. 548 00:26:39,040 --> 00:26:41,760 He's, he's a, he's, I mean, he's a pastor at a big church and 549 00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:44,520 they just had, he just preached a sermon on this like 3 weeks 550 00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:46,960 ago and like 2 weeks later they had like this massive marriage 551 00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:49,680 thing at their church where they married like 52 couples. 552 00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:52,000 What he? Preached. 553 00:26:52,480 --> 00:26:54,920 On cohabitation. And he was like, if you're going 554 00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:57,400 to do it, let's do it. And then. 555 00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:02,480 Dang, so let's go right now. It is. 556 00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:06,320 And you know, it's just, it's a hard line because I never want 557 00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:09,960 to come off condemning in any way if I never want people to be 558 00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:12,480 like they're trying to, you know, make me feel bad or 559 00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:14,360 whatever. And I'm not like, I just want 560 00:27:14,360 --> 00:27:17,640 you to do what's right with the Lord and. 561 00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:21,320 And there's so much freedom there, and that's why, you know, 562 00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:23,200 'cause we've experienced it, we want you to. 563 00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:26,280 Experience absolutely because me and my husband we live together 564 00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:31,680 prior not don't condone. Now that was BC and so I you 565 00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:35,400 know and I wanted to get married for so long prior and my mom 566 00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:38,280 would always say why would he buy the cow when he gets the 567 00:27:38,280 --> 00:27:41,640 milk for pray you know all this stuff and I'm like now it makes 568 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:44,840 a lot of sense back then I'm like you're just being old like 569 00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:47,760 you're so outdated you don't even understand people do this. 570 00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:50,400 You got to you got to you know live with somebody before you 571 00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:54,720 and that's not it because if you're building this foundation 572 00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:58,360 when y'all come together and the Lord truly is the center, it's 573 00:27:58,360 --> 00:28:00,760 going to it's going to work. You know it's going to be hard 574 00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:02,160 still. He is the foundation. 575 00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:04,800 Yeah, exactly. And he blesses obedience. 576 00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:10,280 Yes, period. Yeah, so going from that, what 577 00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:13,480 what? I don't want to say what advice, 578 00:28:13,720 --> 00:28:19,920 but where would y'all like to go talking to married couples More 579 00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:22,960 so because at the end I'm going to ask you my 3 questions and 580 00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:24,480 that is advice. So you might want to give it 581 00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:26,400 there. But like what is some stuff that 582 00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:30,240 you would want young couples, older couples that are, you 583 00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:32,480 know, trying to have the Lord first? 584 00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:36,240 What are some advice and things that y'all have done to tell 585 00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:39,840 them I rambled right there I'm. Well, I would say, I would say 586 00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:43,240 first and foremost, have a relationship with the Lord and 587 00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:45,800 make sure that's solid. Like it's OK to have a season of 588 00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:50,240 singleness. Mine was very long and and in 589 00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:53,480 that I got closer to the Lord and, and got to know who I was 590 00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:55,560 because I've got to know whose I was. 591 00:28:56,000 --> 00:29:01,920 And so like, that was a big deal for me was being in a position 592 00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:05,280 to be the man, the godly man that a spouse would need, that 593 00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:08,280 Lindsay would need. And so I would say that first 594 00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:11,680 and foremost is make sure that you are rooted and that you are 595 00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:16,200 growing. Yeah, and I would say too young 596 00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:20,760 married couple get involved in church and have that community 597 00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:25,360 of, you know, accountability and you know, the best thing I can 598 00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:29,160 do for Joey and my family is spend time with the Lord, right 599 00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:30,640 and grow in my relationship with him. 600 00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:33,880 And, you know, get your family in church. 601 00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:36,480 You know, even if it's the two of you, you guys are a family 602 00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:41,720 get evolved and you know, seek counsel and advice from older 603 00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:45,760 couples and have older couples in your life that can give you 604 00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:48,280 that advice and walk alongside you. 605 00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:53,200 I think that's important. I recently went and have like a 606 00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:56,440 little brunch with like 5 different brides that are 607 00:29:56,440 --> 00:30:01,840 getting married and one of the things that I think I've learned 608 00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:06,920 in marriage, I've learned the hard way is just to communicate 609 00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:10,680 communication, yes, and just to communicate your needs because I 610 00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:15,080 think as women, we think that our culture tells us that men 611 00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:17,240 should be able to read our minds and I'm. 612 00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:19,920 Not good at it. If he really loves you then he 613 00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:21,680 can read your mind. Like, that's so false. 614 00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:24,600 That's not true. And, you know, or you think, 615 00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:26,680 well, we've been together, you know, for almost 10 years now. 616 00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:27,960 You should be able to know what I'm thinking. 617 00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:29,240 You should know what to say in this moment. 618 00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:31,520 And like, they don't. That's putting too much on them. 619 00:30:31,800 --> 00:30:34,400 It is go. Ahead guys, don't pay attention 620 00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:35,840 to that much stuff, I'll be honest with you. 621 00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:38,480 But like, she'll wear a shirt and I'll be like, that's a nice 622 00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:39,400 shirt. You're like, yeah, I've worn it 623 00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:41,560 like 12 times, like. Oh, it's not new. 624 00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:44,240 Yeah. Oh, OK, So ladies, we don't know 625 00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:45,320 what you're thinking. Ever. 626 00:30:45,400 --> 00:30:48,440 Yeah. And so I have learned just to 627 00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:53,240 communicate my expectations, I guess, instead of having 628 00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:57,480 expectations in my mind that I think he's going to meet, that 629 00:30:57,480 --> 00:30:59,840 he might not meet, not necessarily his fault. 630 00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:03,560 I just have to communicate to him what I am expecting or what 631 00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:06,440 I want or what I need, and vice versa, too. 632 00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:10,120 And so I think that's one big thing that that I've learned and 633 00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:12,920 that the Lord has convicted me of and shown me. 634 00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:15,320 Yeah. And to and one last thing kind 635 00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:18,280 of tying into that would be find other godly friends. 636 00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:23,200 Yeah, people that you want your kids to grow up around, who 637 00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:26,800 might have kids their age so that they can have, I'm not 638 00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:29,120 saying everybody has to have nothing but godly friends. 639 00:31:29,120 --> 00:31:31,960 We should certainly be solemn like to other kids to have a 640 00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:33,960 group of friends that they can lean on to hold them 641 00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:36,280 accountable. And when things get difficult, 642 00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:39,120 then they have some people that can run back to to to do life 643 00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:43,040 with. No doubt when you said not just 644 00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:45,360 you know your Christian friends like you need to be teaching 645 00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:48,160 other people about the Lord. You need to be showing shining 646 00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:49,920 that. I was that kid kid that got 647 00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:54,640 chased down by friends in high school and so my kids will never 648 00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:56,440 not know those kids. Absolutely. 649 00:31:56,640 --> 00:31:59,880 I think about that for me and Lindsay, because she truly was a 650 00:31:59,880 --> 00:32:03,760 light to me in high school. You and your sister and just all 651 00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:05,880 these other people. And I'm like, I remember 652 00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:08,920 thinking like wow, y'all got it going on, you know, y'all are 653 00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:12,720 close to the Lord and here I am out and on a Friday night, you 654 00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:15,320 know, like all this stuff. And just like I just, you 655 00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:18,920 planted so many seeds that I never even knew were seeds until 656 00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:22,280 this at this point. And like it's just you never 657 00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:24,960 know where you're throwing and tossing those seeds. 658 00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:27,200 You never know where they're going to stick and land and all 659 00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:29,000 this stuff. So it is important to not just 660 00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:33,200 be in those, you know, friend groups that are just seeking the 661 00:32:33,200 --> 00:32:36,720 Lord, but also now don't be running and everything, but 662 00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:39,240 still pouring into other people, right? 663 00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:41,120 Yeah, it is so. You're the influencer, you're 664 00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:43,400 not being influenced. No doubt because I there's a, 665 00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:45,600 there's a fine line sometimes because I work at the church, 666 00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:47,960 you work at your church in FCA and all this stuff. 667 00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:52,240 It's like a bubble, right? And sometimes I'm like, hang on, 668 00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:55,280 I'm around all these people that already know the Lord, Like 669 00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:57,640 where am I doing the Lord's work? 670 00:32:57,640 --> 00:33:01,840 If I'm just around people, that right, you know, yeah, we're 671 00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:04,520 sharpening each other's iron, but we need to be sharing. 672 00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:07,960 It can get, it can make life seem easy because you're 673 00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:11,200 surrounded by people who are just like minded as you. 674 00:33:11,440 --> 00:33:14,520 And then like, I'll venture off into Northside High School and 675 00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:16,600 it'll, it's a totally different world there. 676 00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:19,920 And so even, like, I'll come home to just talk about stories 677 00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:22,440 from school and it'll blow Lindsay's mind, but she's been 678 00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:24,920 at the church all day. And that's one of the reasons 679 00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:28,920 because I work at Mercer too, like taking photos of the sports 680 00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:31,760 and stuff. And, and I'm, I was in the 681 00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:34,760 dugout and just around some of the teams and stuff and I'm 682 00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:40,000 like, Oh my gosh, like I, I'm so like unaware of how people talk 683 00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:42,560 and stuff now. And I'm like, wait a minute, the 684 00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:45,320 songs, everything. I'm like, can I tell you all 685 00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:48,320 about Jesus? Which, you know, it's just a 686 00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:52,320 great opportunity because I have had so many conversations there 687 00:33:52,320 --> 00:33:55,480 because on my camera bag, like I have like Jesus is King and the 688 00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:57,680 praises and the pot and they're like, what are the stickers on 689 00:33:57,680 --> 00:33:59,120 your bag? And so it's just a great 690 00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:02,880 conversation, you know, So yeah, we're going to get ready to shut 691 00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:03,880 it down. OK? 692 00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:08,199 But I asked three questions. Typically y'all kind of did give 693 00:34:08,199 --> 00:34:10,239 advice, but if y'all want to talk some more advice, that's 694 00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:12,840 perfectly fine. But maybe you wanted to talk 695 00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:16,520 about something very specific when you came here and I haven't 696 00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:21,880 gave you the opportunity to kind of do so or advice to whoever, 697 00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:23,600 wherever, whatever you want to talk about. 698 00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:26,440 Or what's something that God's revealed to you more recently? 699 00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:30,440 OK, so when I say revealed to you more recently, like the 700 00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:34,639 light bulb went off, like I know the other day I was, oh, hang 701 00:34:34,639 --> 00:34:35,960 on. I actually do really want to 702 00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:40,000 read this because this is mine. I never give my own eyes 703 00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:41,800 revealed to me, but I would love to. 704 00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:44,239 OK, hang on one second, one second. 705 00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:48,679 OK. So the other day I did a live 706 00:34:48,679 --> 00:34:53,360 podcast and with our young adults at Southside and one of 707 00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:55,280 the conversations we're having with suicide. 708 00:34:55,719 --> 00:35:01,640 And that is something that I struggle understanding when 709 00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:05,000 people talk to me about, like, I struggle because I always go 710 00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:06,880 with that. The light in the dark, they 711 00:35:06,880 --> 00:35:10,120 can't mix. And so if you're saved, how how 712 00:35:10,120 --> 00:35:13,200 are you having these thoughts? You know, like, and it's so not 713 00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:15,520 correct, right? Like I'm not taking away from 714 00:35:15,520 --> 00:35:17,520 their thoughts. I just can't understand. 715 00:35:18,120 --> 00:35:21,680 And so one of our leaders texted me and he said or he said it out 716 00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:24,120 loud and then he texted it to me and he said people say that 717 00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:26,960 light and darkness can't coincide each other, but with 718 00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:30,160 suicide and self harm, it's not trying to get the darkness out 719 00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:31,920 of you. You're fighting to get out of 720 00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:34,440 the darkness. And I thought that was so good 721 00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:39,000 in a light bulb truly did click for me because I'm like, wait, 722 00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:41,040 the darkness isn't necessarily inside. 723 00:35:41,040 --> 00:35:44,560 Like you're in the darkness and you can't get out, like you're 724 00:35:44,560 --> 00:35:46,240 trying to fight to get out of it. 725 00:35:46,240 --> 00:35:48,880 And so that is something that I've been wanting to share on 726 00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:50,560 here and I haven't got. So there we go. 727 00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:52,840 That way you said that because I was just having a similar 728 00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:54,560 conversation like last week. Really. 729 00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:56,440 Yeah, that's why I said that. But that's. 730 00:35:56,800 --> 00:35:58,320 Cool. OK, I think you should tell. 731 00:35:58,560 --> 00:36:00,000 Because I think this is cool. Sorry. 732 00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:03,520 Go ahead, girl. Tell about how you got saved 733 00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:05,960 through FDA and like that full circle yes, that's. 734 00:36:07,560 --> 00:36:12,080 Yeah, absolutely. So growing up in I went to 735 00:36:12,080 --> 00:36:15,760 Northern high School and has we got ahead again and trying to be 736 00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:20,320 all things, all people for myself selfishly, I've got my, 737 00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:23,480 my good friends, my bad friends and my, my hooligan friends and 738 00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:27,040 all these things. And my, my, I had some friends 739 00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:32,040 that from baseball that went to FCA regularly and would invite 740 00:36:32,040 --> 00:36:33,280 me all the time. And I didn't want to come 741 00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:35,840 because it was too early in the morning and I didn't want to get 742 00:36:35,840 --> 00:36:36,920 to school till right when it started. 743 00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:43,600 But then when it we've got to be junior year, I'm 171617 years 744 00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:45,640 old now and I don't, I don't have a car because my dad said I 745 00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:47,000 can't have a car till I can buy it myself. 746 00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:49,640 And and I don't want to ride a bus. 747 00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:51,480 They some of my friends like, well, I'll take you to school, 748 00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:53,320 man, but you're coming to FCA period. 749 00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:57,120 Dang, so pridefully because I don't want to be on a bus. 750 00:36:57,120 --> 00:36:59,400 I go. So it's funny how the Lord uses 751 00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:04,040 my pride to get me into FCA and then I start hearing about like 752 00:37:04,040 --> 00:37:07,640 grace and redemption and all this stuff that I hadn't really 753 00:37:07,640 --> 00:37:11,080 known much about. And, and then Fast forward, I 754 00:37:11,080 --> 00:37:13,520 know we're cutting it short, but Fast forward a year of being 755 00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:15,600 involved in FCAI ain't sitting in the back no more. 756 00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:18,640 I'm kind of moving my way up to the front and, and I'm and I'm 757 00:37:18,760 --> 00:37:20,920 just soaking in what they're talking about, but I don't, I 758 00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:23,160 kind of understand it because I have the faith background of who 759 00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:25,960 Jesus was and I understand salvation, but I don't know what 760 00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:28,440 that looks like in this, in this area. 761 00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:33,520 And we go to the South side thing and the Lord just wrecks 762 00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:35,360 my life right there in the best way possible. 763 00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:39,280 I, I give my life to the Lord of this event and, and then Fast 764 00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:42,560 forward through all the things. Now I'm the FCA leader at 765 00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:44,400 Northside High School. Yeah. 766 00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:48,800 And so, so the so the Lord uses my pride to put me in a place to 767 00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:51,600 bring me to my knees to surrender my life to him. 768 00:37:51,960 --> 00:37:55,160 And now I have the same opportunity to share the same 769 00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:59,520 Jesus with the same group of kids at, at Northside. 770 00:37:59,520 --> 00:38:04,320 And, and so it's just really God's grace in my life is I, I 771 00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:06,800 just look back to the, to the crazy kid I was. 772 00:38:06,800 --> 00:38:10,040 I'm just like, man, if, and, but now I get to talk to those kids 773 00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:12,880 everyday, those same kids who were me and I get to tell them 774 00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:15,080 like, like perfection is not a thing. 775 00:38:15,080 --> 00:38:20,840 Well, for one person it was and, and, and for so long I thought 776 00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:22,680 there was like this standard to me. 777 00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:24,520 And I knew I could never meet that standard. 778 00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:28,000 And so I just kind of rejected religion in general. 779 00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:32,960 And so now the Lord's given me the opportunity to share and be 780 00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:37,480 a light in a in a dark place. How crazy one invite or not even 781 00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:39,040 really an invite. It's like, dude, if you're going 782 00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:42,240 to ride with me, you're kind of sad and then you don't even 783 00:38:42,240 --> 00:38:46,440 really like surrender that day, that month, that that whatever, 784 00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:49,320 it's like later down the line, but you continuously kept going. 785 00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:52,560 Wow, you know, and. I just and it's and the dudes 786 00:38:52,560 --> 00:38:55,840 that I'll shout him out. Joseph Bentz, he was he just 787 00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:58,320 stayed on me consistently, persistently. 788 00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:02,560 We've been since elementary school and and he got me there 789 00:39:02,560 --> 00:39:04,760 and he kept me there and amazing. 790 00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:06,960 And now we get to hang out in heaven forever, Amy. 791 00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:09,720 I love that. Yes, so cool. 792 00:39:09,720 --> 00:39:11,040 What do you want to share, Lindsay? 793 00:39:11,720 --> 00:39:15,680 Gosh, I feel like recently the Lord has just, and it's so 794 00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:21,200 basic, but he's just been reminding me that the world's 795 00:39:21,200 --> 00:39:23,480 just so crazy. The world's crazy right now. 796 00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:27,160 It's crazy all the time and our lives are crazy. 797 00:39:27,160 --> 00:39:30,480 You know, he's coaching. I'm mom of two toddlers. 798 00:39:30,480 --> 00:39:33,440 It's just crazy. And it's easy to get lost in the 799 00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:35,680 shuffle. We serve at church a lot. 800 00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:37,280 You know, we just have so much going on. 801 00:39:37,920 --> 00:39:41,600 God just keeps reminding me, like Lindsay, the only thing 802 00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:43,520 that matters in this life is what you do with Jesus. 803 00:39:43,920 --> 00:39:49,200 And so I just feel like every day I'm just reminding myself or 804 00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:52,320 he's reminding me of that. And it's really just keep the 805 00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:57,440 main thing, the main thing and that, but I'm tempted to be 806 00:39:57,760 --> 00:40:03,640 tired or have a short fuse with my kids or with Joey or just 807 00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:08,240 whatever it might be. God just reminds me like, keep 808 00:40:08,240 --> 00:40:11,520 the main thing, the main thing, like, and you don't have to get 809 00:40:11,520 --> 00:40:15,240 all the things done, you know, like just keep the main thing, 810 00:40:15,240 --> 00:40:17,000 the main thing. And that is what you do with 811 00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:19,520 Jesus is what matters. And I try to keep that at the 812 00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:21,440 forefront of the, of my mind for my kids too. 813 00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:23,200 And that's what I've kind of started praying for them 814 00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:25,560 recently. It's just that. 815 00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:30,000 Or would you reveal yourself to them and when you do what they 816 00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:32,440 be obedient? Because what I do with Jesus, 817 00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:35,480 what they do with Jesus, is all that really matters in this 818 00:40:35,480 --> 00:40:37,720 life. My mom said this more recently. 819 00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:40,920 If I you're talking about the main thing. 820 00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:46,560 OK, so the main thing, right? If a good thing becomes the main 821 00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:51,360 thing, it's a bad thing. And so we can do all this stuff 822 00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:54,120 for the Lord. We can sit on this podcast and 823 00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:57,480 all this stuff, but if he's not the main thing, then 824 00:40:57,480 --> 00:41:00,480 everything's a bad thing. And so just keeping him at the 825 00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:02,120 forefront. And you started that sentence 826 00:41:02,120 --> 00:41:03,600 with actually like, it's so basic. 827 00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:08,160 And sometimes we got to go back to the back and a lot of people, 828 00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:11,080 just like Joey said, salvation came and he didn't know what 829 00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:13,120 else to do. Some people been walking, you 830 00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:15,440 know, trying to figure out what to do and we got to teach them 831 00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:19,000 the basics and the basic is keep the main thing, the main thing, 832 00:41:19,360 --> 00:41:21,160 ask Jesus Christ. Absolutely. 833 00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:25,040 All right guys, y'all got any last remarks, final thoughts? 834 00:41:25,200 --> 00:41:28,280 Final thoughts, thanks for having us all here is awesome. 835 00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:30,280 Come back anytime. Oh my God. 836 00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:33,280 It's a privilege to be here and it's a privilege to see your 837 00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:37,280 story. It's truly, I love Ephesians 838 00:41:37,280 --> 00:41:38,720 320. God can do more than you can 839 00:41:38,720 --> 00:41:41,560 ask, think, or ever imagine. And like, I just see that in 840 00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:43,920 your life. Girl, that's the first page of 841 00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:48,160 my book, really. I didn't like the scream in the 842 00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:50,280 mic, y'all, And that's crazy. That's what we were just talking 843 00:41:50,280 --> 00:41:51,160 about, really. Yeah. 844 00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:55,320 I love the book and then cool, that's the first fight anyway 845 00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:57,760 y'all that's awesome. Anyway, this has been absolutely 846 00:41:57,760 --> 00:41:59,240 great. If y'all have any marriage 847 00:41:59,240 --> 00:42:02,240 questions I'm pretty sure that they would be open to their DMS. 848 00:42:02,280 --> 00:42:05,080 Like y'all sign in, you know, female, female, male, male. 849 00:42:06,520 --> 00:42:10,520 We are not perfect, but yes. They, you know, we just can tell 850 00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:13,400 y'all what we've done, what not to do, what to do, you know 851 00:42:13,400 --> 00:42:15,800 stuff like that. Just what helped you know. 852 00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:18,960 So anyway, I hope you guys enjoyed this as much as I have 853 00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:21,000 Make sure you stay tuned. Stay blessed and we'll see you 854 00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:22,640 guys later. Bye bye.