1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:02,280 What's up, guys? My name's Alexis. 2 00:00:02,400 --> 00:00:04,720 And I'm Abby and we're. Your hosts with praises in the 3 00:00:04,720 --> 00:00:06,760 pod. We are so excited to be back in 4 00:00:06,760 --> 00:00:09,800 the studio and just be conversating with one another 5 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:12,120 and updating you a little bit about life. 6 00:00:12,120 --> 00:00:14,040 And it's what's been all going on with us. 7 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:16,320 So we're going to start off in prayer and then we're going to 8 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:17,840 jump right in. So here we go. 9 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:21,520 All right, Lord Heavenly Father, just thank you for today and all 10 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:23,720 of your many blessings. Dear God, thank you for the 11 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:26,920 opportunities that you just continue to give us that we just 12 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:28,920 get to share what you have done in our lives. 13 00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:32,040 Lord God, we just pray that you continue to use us. 14 00:00:32,040 --> 00:00:35,360 You continue to lead and guide us, and you've got you just 15 00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:37,600 always speak through US, Lord God. 16 00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:41,400 We may not always come prepared and know exactly what all this 17 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:44,440 is going to entail, Lord God, but we know that you live inside 18 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:46,720 of us and you are the ultimate podcaster. 19 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:50,440 You're the ultimate person to just be able to share what all 20 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:52,320 you have done and what all you're going to do and what 21 00:00:52,320 --> 00:00:54,600 you've just laid on our hearts and you've continued to teach 22 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:56,320 us. Lord God, we pray that you speak 23 00:00:56,320 --> 00:00:59,720 to us and through US today and let this episode glorify you and 24 00:00:59,720 --> 00:01:02,040 Jesus name I pray. Amen. 25 00:01:02,040 --> 00:01:04,959 And I almost messed up the ending right there, but it's OK. 26 00:01:05,280 --> 00:01:07,440 I fold it through. You can't mess it up. 27 00:01:07,440 --> 00:01:09,280 I know. But sometimes when you're 28 00:01:09,280 --> 00:01:12,080 recording prayers, it's kind of like, does that come off right? 29 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:14,120 And then I listen to it back. I'm like, oh, that wasn't bad. 30 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:15,280 Yeah. So, yeah. 31 00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:17,200 Well, what's been going on with you, girl? 32 00:01:17,560 --> 00:01:23,760 Yeah, so a little life update. I am now 25 weeks pregnant. 33 00:01:23,760 --> 00:01:30,200 So yeah, getting over the hub coming into soon the third 34 00:01:30,400 --> 00:01:33,320 trimester, so. Greg earlier, he was like, Abby 35 00:01:33,320 --> 00:01:35,760 never post on Snapchat. I was like, she doesn't have 36 00:01:35,760 --> 00:01:38,000 Snapchat. And he's like, where did I see 37 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:41,000 that picture at then? Because you posted on your story 38 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:44,040 earlier for Facebook saying that you were wearing your maternity 39 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:47,040 jeans. And he was like, oh, I've never 40 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:49,560 seen her post. I was like, I know I got rid of 41 00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:51,520 Snapchat. And then a lot of people think I 42 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:55,080 still have Instagram, but I thought I deactivated my 43 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:57,560 Instagram. I don't think you ever need it. 44 00:01:58,160 --> 00:02:00,600 I don't think it's ever deleted necessarily. 45 00:02:00,640 --> 00:02:01,760 I'm just not. You're just not. 46 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:04,400 Active. Yeah, not active on it. 47 00:02:04,400 --> 00:02:08,000 So not a whole lot of social media in my life. 48 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:09,960 Yeah, really. Other than just Facebook. 49 00:02:09,960 --> 00:02:12,440 I was talking about that today because I'm preparing a message 50 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:15,960 and it's like for high schoolers and I'm kind of talking about 51 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:20,200 how we idolize our phones and idolize that's good social media 52 00:02:20,200 --> 00:02:23,600 and stuff like that. And I guess I had never thought 53 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:29,720 about like an idol being like a feeling or a form of something. 54 00:02:29,920 --> 00:02:31,120 I don't know how to really word this. 55 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:34,480 Obviously I'm still working on the message, but. 56 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:36,520 Like this is good practice. Yeah, this is good. 57 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:39,880 Practice right now, but I talk a lot about social media media 58 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:44,760 and, you know, controlling people's perception of us like 59 00:02:44,760 --> 00:02:49,080 we're not Yeah, like we're we're showing them what they want to 60 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:53,480 see and not truly who we are. And so like today I was like, 61 00:02:53,480 --> 00:02:54,920 you know what? I'm going to post just a the 62 00:02:54,920 --> 00:02:57,480 picture on Instagram. I never do that because usually 63 00:02:57,480 --> 00:03:01,400 now we post and it's like that perfect post, the perfect 64 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:03,880 picture, like we don't want it. And I was like, I'm just going 65 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:07,760 to throw a random photo up there that I like and be like, hey 66 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:09,760 y'all, this is an authentic post. 67 00:03:09,960 --> 00:03:12,480 I didn't know if y'all know this like whatever, but yeah, I've 68 00:03:12,480 --> 00:03:14,600 been working on that. That was something big that. 69 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:20,480 You know, the phones is a become a huge thing, like just even me 70 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:23,640 and Dexter realizing how much it controls our time. 71 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:27,280 You know what it what we do with our time when we are on our 72 00:03:27,280 --> 00:03:30,320 phones, just everything around our phones is like, Oh my gosh, 73 00:03:30,320 --> 00:03:32,000 you just can't get away from it. Almost. 74 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:34,440 You know what I mean is, is that another thing that you've picked 75 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:37,840 up that's become a habit and another thing that it's almost 76 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:40,240 like it can become a stronghold, kind of like we just talked 77 00:03:40,240 --> 00:03:43,280 about that we're doing a Bible study right now in our life 78 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:45,760 group called Rooted in the past week. 79 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:49,400 We literally just went over strongholds in our life and 80 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:51,920 things that like we still struggle with as Christians, 81 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:54,360 right? Because you say yes to Jesus 82 00:03:54,560 --> 00:03:57,560 doesn't just mean that everything is just hunky Dory 83 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:01,640 going to go away, be super easy and sin has ultimately 84 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:03,520 completely left your life. It hasn't. 85 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:08,160 This is a walk that is ongoing and something that we will 86 00:04:08,160 --> 00:04:11,000 continue to strive to be more Christ like throughout the rest 87 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:12,520 of our life. It's going to be something that 88 00:04:12,520 --> 00:04:16,200 we have to continue to do. But these strongholds, man, 89 00:04:16,279 --> 00:04:19,959 like, and, and what's so crazy is, you know, we're sitting 90 00:04:19,959 --> 00:04:23,160 there and we're in a group of people that are so diverse. 91 00:04:23,200 --> 00:04:26,600 So you got us, you know, just a few years into our walk. 92 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:30,080 And then you've got women in there that's been walking with 93 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:32,920 Jesus 20 years. And you know, you got a pastor 94 00:04:32,920 --> 00:04:37,160 in there who's been, you know, walking with them now almost 20 95 00:04:37,160 --> 00:04:40,360 years, over 20 years. Anyways, what I'm meaning is it, 96 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:43,880 it's been a long time, but we all are still shouldn't have 97 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:47,200 struggles. We all run into new struggles on 98 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:51,000 a day-to-day basis. So it is so important to though 99 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:55,720 recognize those strongholds and like try to be more aware of 100 00:04:55,720 --> 00:05:00,040 them and pray about them or pray for God to reveal, reveal them 101 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:02,440 in your life. Like you're saying about the 102 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:06,520 phone becoming an idol. I mean, for the longest time, 103 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:10,520 how long can you go and realize and not even realize it's an 104 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:12,160 issue? You know what I mean? 105 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:14,720 You're just on a day-to-day. This is what I do. 106 00:05:14,880 --> 00:05:17,280 This is my habit. The first thing I do when I wake 107 00:05:17,280 --> 00:05:20,200 up in the morning is what? Look at my phone. 108 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:24,080 You get on your phone and you jump on that before like setting 109 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:30,520 that standard of Nope, it's the word first, my legit Bible, not 110 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:33,240 just my Bible on my phone. You know what I mean, setting 111 00:05:33,240 --> 00:05:36,480 the standard there. But you get in this habit, then 112 00:05:36,480 --> 00:05:40,680 it becomes like a stronghold and it is hard to kind of release 113 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:43,160 that from your life. Yeah, with. 114 00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:48,280 The like being on the phone, I was thinking last night about 115 00:05:48,280 --> 00:05:51,000 how I listen to this Christian Kane message of passion. 116 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:52,800 Like I love the beginning of the year. 117 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:57,760 I love Christian Kane and that is like unshakable devotion. 118 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:00,680 People text me and ask me and message me all the time and 119 00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:03,000 they're like, what is a devotion that you recommend? 120 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:05,000 And it's Unshakable by Kristen Kane. 121 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:07,840 And it is one that I just continuously go back to. 122 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:11,120 Like I try so many other devotions and I'm like oh this. 123 00:06:11,440 --> 00:06:14,880 Is going to. Be good Unshakable is top notch. 124 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:19,400 But she had this message and she's like where we lay in bed 125 00:06:20,120 --> 00:06:23,000 and as soon as our alarm goes off, we reach for our phone. 126 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:25,200 Half the time our Bible is sitting right there, but we're 127 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:28,080 watching past our Bible to get on the phone. 128 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:32,840 And then we wonder why, You know, we face all these like 129 00:06:32,840 --> 00:06:34,480 insecure feelings and all the stuff. 130 00:06:34,480 --> 00:06:37,680 It's it's because we're jumping instantly on social media, that 131 00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:41,920 first moment of us being awake and already comparing ourselves 132 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:46,320 to others, already letting the enemy just just really pour in 133 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:49,160 these negative core beliefs about ourselves and like making 134 00:06:49,160 --> 00:06:51,560 them like more known because you're looking at everybody 135 00:06:51,560 --> 00:06:53,200 else. And then at the end of the 136 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:55,440 night, like the end of the day, you lay back down, You're like, 137 00:06:55,440 --> 00:06:58,160 Oh, let me give God what's left in my cup. 138 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:00,800 And I was like, man, that was so good. 139 00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:02,280 So I went back and watched that message today. 140 00:07:02,600 --> 00:07:06,640 And then also I was saying earlier about like idols in our 141 00:07:06,640 --> 00:07:11,320 life being like feelings and what I meant by that I'd never 142 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:17,160 thought of control, success, pride, those things being idols 143 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:19,600 in your life. And that is also one thing that 144 00:07:19,600 --> 00:07:23,240 I'm trying to dive into because I'm like, wow, controlling the 145 00:07:23,240 --> 00:07:26,040 narrative is a thing. Like we want to control it. 146 00:07:26,040 --> 00:07:29,160 We want to do all those things and we want to control stuff so 147 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:33,640 much that that becomes an idol. And I know for me, like success 148 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:37,240 was truly an idol for me. Like I wanted a title. 149 00:07:37,240 --> 00:07:39,840 That was one of the reasons why I wouldn't quit my job to do 150 00:07:39,840 --> 00:07:42,120 full time ministry at first because I'm like, I'm going to 151 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:45,360 give up my career job where I have a good title, like I make 152 00:07:45,360 --> 00:07:49,160 good money and all this stuff and people think I'm successful. 153 00:07:49,160 --> 00:07:52,440 But then if I quit my job and I'm like trying to figure out 154 00:07:52,440 --> 00:07:54,840 what God has for me, it doesn't look like I'm successful. 155 00:07:55,520 --> 00:07:59,760 And like, that was such an idol in my life, was having that 156 00:07:59,760 --> 00:08:03,840 perception perceived on me of like, ohh, she knows what she's 157 00:08:03,840 --> 00:08:05,320 doing. Like she's got it together. 158 00:08:05,320 --> 00:08:06,880 Like she's successful. Yeah. 159 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:09,560 And I've just been really. That's a really good topic to 160 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:13,080 talk about because a lot of times we think idols are 161 00:08:14,080 --> 00:08:17,280 something more on the outside, horrible, physical, tangible, 162 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:20,080 and it's not OK. So here's the thing that I've 163 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:23,960 noticed on this side of Christ is once you give up the things 164 00:08:23,960 --> 00:08:27,680 that people can see that you struggle with the alcohol, OK, 165 00:08:27,680 --> 00:08:30,160 that's gone. Smoking, that's gone. 166 00:08:30,240 --> 00:08:33,640 We can't see that her doing that anymore, right? 167 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:39,320 So then whatever else it may be that you're, you're, you have an 168 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:42,640 idol or you lust over or you have sinful desires that people 169 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:46,240 were able to see. Now on this side, it's like 170 00:08:46,240 --> 00:08:50,040 we're dealing with internal, internal strongholds. 171 00:08:50,320 --> 00:08:53,200 Meaning like what you're talking about, the controlness, like 172 00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:56,680 even anxiety, worry, That's where I really struggle. 173 00:08:58,000 --> 00:09:05,800 And you know, the selfishness, even the desire to want what 174 00:09:05,800 --> 00:09:09,760 others have can be an idol and a sin in your life. 175 00:09:09,840 --> 00:09:13,440 And so those are things that nobody can really see that 176 00:09:13,440 --> 00:09:15,080 you're struggling with on the outside. 177 00:09:15,080 --> 00:09:17,360 And you can look like everything is perfect and everything's 178 00:09:17,360 --> 00:09:20,000 going great in your life. And, and here you are. 179 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:22,040 You really have these strongholds and things that you 180 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:24,640 struggle with. And pride is a big one. 181 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:29,720 And like, BC that was my that success and pride, I feel like 182 00:09:29,720 --> 00:09:33,800 they really go hand in hand. But pride, I was so prideful and 183 00:09:33,800 --> 00:09:37,560 I knew it and I embraced it. Like I would be like, I'm good 184 00:09:37,560 --> 00:09:39,640 at this. And I'm the bet, like, you can't 185 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:43,520 teach me anything. And so, like, now I know that 186 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:47,600 that is a stronghold in my life. And I think the change, the 187 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:52,240 turning moment of that was acknowledging the problem. 188 00:09:52,240 --> 00:09:54,520 Yeah. Like, I still struggle with 189 00:09:54,520 --> 00:09:59,680 pride, but now I continuously am like, seek me, search me, prune 190 00:09:59,680 --> 00:10:03,840 me and get rid of all the pride. Like, make sure that I'm saying 191 00:10:03,840 --> 00:10:05,680 you, you, you instead of me, me, me. 192 00:10:06,040 --> 00:10:10,200 And like, you know, like I was talking about this in my message 193 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:13,960 today of like this podcast, I know it's from God, right? 194 00:10:13,960 --> 00:10:17,280 Like I know that God placed it on my heart to start this, to 195 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:21,320 steward this and all this. But if I allow it, because it 196 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:24,480 has started becoming successful, it has started getting views. 197 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:29,800 If I push into that and I lean into that, like it will become a 198 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:33,920 problem where now I'm idolizing the podcast instead of I'm 199 00:10:33,920 --> 00:10:36,440 idolizing the mission of the podcast. 200 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:41,080 And so like I always am having one who started yes, exactly. 201 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:44,040 Like he keeping the main thing, the main thing. 202 00:10:44,080 --> 00:10:46,760 It doesn't matter. Like just the first month I 203 00:10:46,760 --> 00:10:49,800 started, I was like if one person listens or thousands of 204 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:51,840 women listen, like it does not matter. 205 00:10:52,120 --> 00:10:54,200 And sometimes like I will catch myself. 206 00:10:54,200 --> 00:10:57,440 I'm like, man, like I was thinking so much about that and 207 00:10:57,440 --> 00:11:00,720 I the heart posture was off or something like it's just 208 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:02,680 something that you always have to work on. 209 00:11:02,680 --> 00:11:04,880 Yeah, it is. It's it's going to be a 210 00:11:05,160 --> 00:11:08,160 continuous battle literally until we leave this earth. 211 00:11:08,160 --> 00:11:12,440 So I feel like because like what you're saying, you know, letting 212 00:11:12,440 --> 00:11:16,800 that be an idol or we're doing it for the main reason how? 213 00:11:16,800 --> 00:11:19,120 And it's like I would have to ask myself or you would have to 214 00:11:19,120 --> 00:11:21,960 ask yourself, because for me, I don't, you know, this is like 215 00:11:21,960 --> 00:11:26,880 your baby. But would it really hurt if I 216 00:11:26,880 --> 00:11:30,880 lost or not as many people watch or like one day I went from a 217 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:33,680 lot of people seeing this and knowing I'm reaching people and 218 00:11:33,680 --> 00:11:37,360 or knowing really the Lord is reaching people, not me, but to 219 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:40,320 nothing, you know, where would my heart stand be? 220 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:43,320 Would I still be as motivated? Would I still push as hard? 221 00:11:43,320 --> 00:11:45,920 Would I still, you know, and I think I'm not saying you 222 00:11:45,920 --> 00:11:47,200 wouldn't. I'm just saying we have to 223 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:49,160 examine our heart in those ways, right? 224 00:11:49,160 --> 00:11:52,480 We have to ask ourselves those questions to make sure where is 225 00:11:52,480 --> 00:11:57,320 our alignment at in making sure sure it's not, you know, your 226 00:11:57,320 --> 00:12:00,400 desires and where what your heart is wanting because that 227 00:12:00,400 --> 00:12:04,680 takes over so easily our needs and our desires. 228 00:12:04,680 --> 00:12:08,800 And you know, and we even push that on other people like around 229 00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:11,280 US versus what he's desiring for our life. 230 00:12:11,320 --> 00:12:14,400 Well, like. In the end, like I'm trying to 231 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:16,440 come up with the conclusion and I'm like, let's take an 232 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:18,360 inventory. Like, let's take a moment and 233 00:12:18,360 --> 00:12:20,320 you reflect on your life. Yeah. 234 00:12:20,320 --> 00:12:23,480 And like, what are you putting above God like? 235 00:12:23,520 --> 00:12:27,240 And I have Charmel. Her episode comes out at this 236 00:12:27,240 --> 00:12:30,360 point when it when this episode comes out, it's already come 237 00:12:30,360 --> 00:12:32,760 out. But I had Charmel on recently 238 00:12:32,760 --> 00:12:35,160 and she's talking about how at one point she put her husband 239 00:12:35,160 --> 00:12:37,240 over God. Like she was putting her 240 00:12:37,240 --> 00:12:42,040 marriage and and all of that family dynamic over God where 241 00:12:42,040 --> 00:12:45,160 like, yeah, you know, you're doing everything around the 242 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:47,960 house and that's serving the Lord and all the stuff. 243 00:12:47,960 --> 00:12:51,440 But at the end of the day, are you really focusing on your 244 00:12:51,440 --> 00:12:55,160 relationship with the Lord or you just saying, you know, you 245 00:12:55,160 --> 00:12:58,280 know, this is to glorify him, but you're not, you know, 246 00:12:58,280 --> 00:13:00,240 seeking. Him and a lot of times our minds 247 00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:02,560 can get so twisted because we're doing those things. 248 00:13:02,560 --> 00:13:05,280 Because I'm like that too, you know, I'm doing all of the 249 00:13:05,280 --> 00:13:06,000 things. I'm. 250 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:07,840 I'm being a Good Wife. I'm cleaned up today. 251 00:13:08,040 --> 00:13:11,120 I've done all these things. But it's really because I 252 00:13:11,120 --> 00:13:13,360 desired an outcome in the end. Yeah. 253 00:13:13,360 --> 00:13:15,520 And that's where control comes in my life. 254 00:13:15,520 --> 00:13:18,920 So I really struggle with control in controlling 255 00:13:18,920 --> 00:13:21,880 situations. And I'm, you know, controlling 256 00:13:21,880 --> 00:13:26,120 how outcomes happen. And now I've learned that you 257 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:29,160 can't control nothing. But I still do try to. 258 00:13:30,440 --> 00:13:35,880 But it's really because of a desire that I'm seeking, you 259 00:13:35,880 --> 00:13:39,320 know, I'm seeking it to go a certain way where, you know, if 260 00:13:39,320 --> 00:13:42,600 my house is clean, if Sutton stuff is packed up, her lunch is 261 00:13:42,600 --> 00:13:44,240 made, everything's in perfect order. 262 00:13:44,360 --> 00:13:47,200 We have the schedule for tomorrow, like and I'm serving 263 00:13:47,200 --> 00:13:50,600 those things and making sure I'm controlling everything. 264 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:54,040 Oh yeah, I might be living a good godly what being being a 265 00:13:54,040 --> 00:13:58,720 good godly wife, but no, really that's control and things that I 266 00:13:58,720 --> 00:14:02,080 have above him because really, I'm not saying Lord, you've got 267 00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:04,240 this. Whatever happens tomorrow, I'm 268 00:14:04,240 --> 00:14:06,320 good with. It's really me saying no, I'm 269 00:14:06,320 --> 00:14:09,920 controlling the outcome. When I, I've talked about this 270 00:14:09,920 --> 00:14:13,400 before on a personal episode of mine and it's like talking about 271 00:14:13,720 --> 00:14:16,160 Mary and Martha. Is that right? 272 00:14:16,600 --> 00:14:18,400 Is it Mary? I know it's Martha, but it's. 273 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:21,480 I think it's Mary and Martha. Let me Fact Check. 274 00:14:22,160 --> 00:14:24,040 Hang on. Yeah, I'm gonna, I'm gonna come 275 00:14:24,040 --> 00:14:24,840 back to that. Hang on. 276 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:25,880 Yeah, it is. Yeah. 277 00:14:25,880 --> 00:14:27,480 OK, Martha. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 278 00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:30,080 OK. Mary just sat and listened to 279 00:14:30,080 --> 00:14:30,880 Jesus. Yes. 280 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:34,200 Yes. Like one time I was doing an 281 00:14:34,200 --> 00:14:37,040 episode by myself and I was talking about Mary and Martha. 282 00:14:37,040 --> 00:14:39,320 Like, you can do all the right things. 283 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:42,280 You can make sure your house is clean, you're serving and you 284 00:14:42,280 --> 00:14:46,200 know, trying to see about your husband and your family and all 285 00:14:46,200 --> 00:14:51,000 of these things, but you need to be like Mary and make sure that 286 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:53,640 the main thing's the main thing. Like when Jesus was in the 287 00:14:53,640 --> 00:14:57,440 house, she just sat there and listened and just spent time 288 00:14:57,440 --> 00:14:59,680 with him. And Martha was still trying to 289 00:14:59,680 --> 00:15:02,240 serve him, run around doing all of this stuff. 290 00:15:02,480 --> 00:15:06,520 But he even said like Martha, Martha, like be more like your 291 00:15:06,520 --> 00:15:09,560 sister. Sit down and just spend time 292 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:12,240 with me. And I keep thinking, I saw this. 293 00:15:12,240 --> 00:15:15,520 I think my friend Taylor, we went to dinner with Taylor the 294 00:15:15,520 --> 00:15:18,640 other night, but she shared this and she's like, I think it was 295 00:15:18,640 --> 00:15:23,000 like Jesus sitting at a table and he's just waiting for you to 296 00:15:23,000 --> 00:15:25,200 sit down. Like he's always there. 297 00:15:25,560 --> 00:15:29,520 And like you're like, oh, the kids crying, the kids crying. 298 00:15:30,480 --> 00:15:32,040 Let me go, Let me go take care of her. 299 00:15:32,040 --> 00:15:34,520 I'll be right back. And then like hours come by and 300 00:15:34,520 --> 00:15:37,280 then she's like, OK, OK, OK. Like I got a few minutes, like 301 00:15:37,280 --> 00:15:38,280 let me talk. And he's like. 302 00:15:38,280 --> 00:15:39,520 Yeah. And then you're in your car and 303 00:15:39,520 --> 00:15:43,720 you're on the way to drop them off at school, or they care and 304 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:45,920 you're trying to worship, and then they start crying or they 305 00:15:45,920 --> 00:15:48,440 want to listen to their songs. So you're like, OK, hold on, 306 00:15:48,480 --> 00:15:50,320 Jesus, I'm going to, you know, get back to you. 307 00:15:50,640 --> 00:15:52,800 And you really do that all throughout the day. 308 00:15:52,800 --> 00:15:54,640 Yeah. But then it was really like, 309 00:15:54,760 --> 00:15:57,400 I've been right in at the end of it, it says, you know, like 310 00:15:57,400 --> 00:16:00,160 Jesus is talking and saying, I've been right here the whole 311 00:16:00,160 --> 00:16:03,080 time, you know, and I'm not going anywhere. 312 00:16:03,280 --> 00:16:05,720 You just come to me whenever you're ready, pretty much. 313 00:16:06,240 --> 00:16:07,760 Yeah, I just thought that was so good. 314 00:16:07,760 --> 00:16:11,280 Like when they do those little visuals, like something clicks 315 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:17,320 to me because sometimes like Jesus was A and is a real man, 316 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:19,360 right? Like 100%. 317 00:16:19,360 --> 00:16:23,720 But because we never saw him with for our eyes, sometimes it 318 00:16:23,720 --> 00:16:27,240 is hard to fathom. And I'm not doubting, I'm not 319 00:16:27,240 --> 00:16:31,040 saying that in any way, but like just seeing those pictures and 320 00:16:31,040 --> 00:16:34,120 thinking of Jesus sitting at a table waiting for me to come and 321 00:16:34,120 --> 00:16:36,680 talk to him and spend time with him like that. 322 00:16:36,680 --> 00:16:39,560 Just like itches something in my brain. 323 00:16:39,560 --> 00:16:46,280 Like it makes it feel like I don't know, but it does that 324 00:16:46,280 --> 00:16:49,320 sound like I'm contradicting at in any way. 325 00:16:49,320 --> 00:16:51,880 Like I don't know and I'm not trying to. 326 00:16:51,880 --> 00:16:57,040 I just like to think of things like that with the the stuffed 327 00:16:57,040 --> 00:16:58,520 animal. And he's like, give me the 328 00:16:58,520 --> 00:17:02,240 stuffed animal that made me have a picture in my mind of me 329 00:17:02,240 --> 00:17:05,319 actually holding on to something that I don't want to let go. 330 00:17:05,319 --> 00:17:07,760 But God has some. Nothing so much bigger for me, 331 00:17:08,400 --> 00:17:10,359 yeah. No, those visuals definitely 332 00:17:10,359 --> 00:17:13,920 help because we, because we're just so stuck in our ways 333 00:17:13,920 --> 00:17:17,680 sometimes, You know, we're just so stuck in what we see every 334 00:17:17,680 --> 00:17:20,520 day, what we do. And so we need something to kind 335 00:17:20,520 --> 00:17:23,839 of sit us back and go, oh, you are right here. 336 00:17:24,160 --> 00:17:26,240 Oh, Lord, you've been here the whole time. 337 00:17:26,599 --> 00:17:28,840 You are real. Your spirit is in me. 338 00:17:28,840 --> 00:17:34,320 And I need to tap into that. Yeah, you know so I didn't you 339 00:17:34,320 --> 00:17:37,840 know strongholds man, this is what it's come down to Y'all 340 00:17:37,840 --> 00:17:41,320 really see what we struggle with that's for sure, because it's 341 00:17:41,320 --> 00:17:46,400 not easy doing this walk and I hope nobody thinks that about me 342 00:17:46,400 --> 00:17:49,320 or and and that's where I had to talk with Dexter about the other 343 00:17:49,320 --> 00:17:51,240 night. You know, when we talk in life 344 00:17:51,240 --> 00:17:54,240 group and stuff and we start talking about things are open up 345 00:17:54,240 --> 00:17:59,200 and anytime I say something I'm like man, I don't want which you 346 00:17:59,200 --> 00:18:00,840 can't. You wouldn't think this about 347 00:18:00,840 --> 00:18:02,760 me. I hope 'cause I don't ever want 348 00:18:02,760 --> 00:18:05,640 anybody to think some of like people like us just have it all 349 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:07,200 together. Absolutely not. 350 00:18:07,320 --> 00:18:10,480 You know, don't think that about me. 351 00:18:10,480 --> 00:18:13,600 OK, look. We I struggle. 352 00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:16,960 Man, so yes, what you about is hang on, 'cause I was about to 353 00:18:16,960 --> 00:18:20,680 say something, OK, so the other night we're on the way to life 354 00:18:20,680 --> 00:18:23,280 group, right? And if you've been following 355 00:18:23,280 --> 00:18:24,880 along, me and Greg joined a life group. 356 00:18:24,960 --> 00:18:28,200 We go together, yes. Craig and Alexis are. 357 00:18:28,240 --> 00:18:31,200 That's another life update. Craig and Alexis are in our life 358 00:18:31,200 --> 00:18:33,040 group. They're both doing rooted with 359 00:18:33,040 --> 00:18:34,720 us. Yeah, it's been great. 360 00:18:34,720 --> 00:18:38,080 It was great on the way there like we're we're, you know, 361 00:18:38,080 --> 00:18:40,920 whatever. And I'm an early person, OK, 362 00:18:40,920 --> 00:18:45,960 Like I get everywhere so early and I can't help it but and Greg 363 00:18:45,960 --> 00:18:50,240 is a very on time late person. So you can see the battle that's 364 00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:53,200 already about to form. And then he wants to try to get 365 00:18:53,200 --> 00:18:57,040 there a new way. We we're going to test out a new 366 00:18:57,040 --> 00:18:58,760 way to get. Out on the day that you're kind 367 00:18:58,760 --> 00:19:00,000 of running late. Yeah. 368 00:19:00,600 --> 00:19:03,440 And so then he's like, do I turn right here? 369 00:19:04,120 --> 00:19:07,000 I don't know. I wouldn't have chose to come 370 00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:08,720 this way on a day we're running late. 371 00:19:09,040 --> 00:19:12,800 And so this what starts it. Like we're we, you know how you 372 00:19:12,880 --> 00:19:15,360 always hear about families fighting on the way to church 373 00:19:15,440 --> 00:19:17,560 and then you get out of the car. Good morning. 374 00:19:18,200 --> 00:19:19,440 Good morning. We're glad. 375 00:19:19,640 --> 00:19:21,600 Glad you're here. Like whatever. 376 00:19:22,120 --> 00:19:24,200 That was nice, just got done throwing down. 377 00:19:24,200 --> 00:19:27,080 Yes. And so like, as soon as we're 378 00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:30,320 about to pull up, he's like, I'm just going to drop you off and. 379 00:19:31,000 --> 00:19:34,960 Like I'm dead. In that moment, I knew that it 380 00:19:34,960 --> 00:19:40,120 was spiritual warfare, like I knew that there was like tension 381 00:19:40,120 --> 00:19:44,200 brewing so that this moment and this car ride could truly 382 00:19:44,200 --> 00:19:47,000 distract us from what God was going to do that night. 383 00:19:47,440 --> 00:19:49,880 And there's so many times that we're on the way to church, 384 00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:52,800 we're on the way to all these things and we start fighting 385 00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:55,600 with our spouse and our kids and all this and the spiritual 386 00:19:55,600 --> 00:19:57,760 warfare begins. And we have to remember that 387 00:19:57,760 --> 00:20:01,600 it's not against flesh and blood like Ephesians 6, like it truly 388 00:20:01,600 --> 00:20:06,480 is not like it's the. It's everything that in a 389 00:20:06,480 --> 00:20:09,800 spiritual realm. Yeah, going on, absolutely, 390 00:20:09,800 --> 00:20:12,640 because once you walk into church now, you're going to be 391 00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:15,160 distracted by that argument. You're going to be thinking 392 00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:16,640 about it. You're not paying attention to 393 00:20:16,640 --> 00:20:18,320 what? You're focused on somebody other 394 00:20:18,320 --> 00:20:21,520 than you yourself. And yeah, you need to do because 395 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:25,720 mostly he's deterred your mindset from you and your 396 00:20:25,720 --> 00:20:28,120 relationship with the Lord and where it needs to go to 397 00:20:28,120 --> 00:20:29,840 everything that that other person did wrong. 398 00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:33,640 Yes, exactly. So I acknowledge it and I'm 399 00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:35,640 like, you know what I knew in that moment. 400 00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:37,240 So I just went ahead and start praying. 401 00:20:37,240 --> 00:20:40,320 I'm like, Lord, please do not let this man just drop me off 402 00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:42,680 like he needs to come like all this. 403 00:20:42,680 --> 00:20:46,080 So I get out of the car and he he my husband is so stubborn. 404 00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:48,880 Y'all like I'm not even playing and he's like, no, I'm not 405 00:20:48,880 --> 00:20:50,680 getting out. Thank God. 406 00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:52,960 Thank you God. He sent Pat out. 407 00:20:53,720 --> 00:20:56,120 Pat walks out of the house and comes. 408 00:20:56,160 --> 00:20:57,440 Wondering why he was outside and. 409 00:20:57,800 --> 00:21:00,040 He never meets us out in the driveway, you know what I'm 410 00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:02,360 saying? So like God truly did send Pat 411 00:21:02,360 --> 00:21:04,360 to come get Greg because as soon as Pat. 412 00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:08,600 Comes. Out Greg's like, hey, we were 413 00:21:08,600 --> 00:21:15,720 just parking and like it was good, but then like I just took 414 00:21:15,720 --> 00:21:19,320 off like I'm like, Pat, you can handle this man Like I am not. 415 00:21:19,560 --> 00:21:21,120 I'm not even gonna sit here like whatever. 416 00:21:21,120 --> 00:21:23,800 And then later on he was like, I know something was going on. 417 00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:28,560 What's so funny is that night too, we because like, we just do 418 00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:30,160 life with each other, with these people. 419 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:32,760 We're so real. Like there's nothing to hide. 420 00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:34,400 And there was another couple in there. 421 00:21:34,800 --> 00:21:37,760 I think once Alexis said that her and Greg had a little tip, 422 00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:40,440 they were like, oh, y'all did. And then everybody's like we did 423 00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:42,840 too. I know everybody did and it was 424 00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:47,160 such a good night too. And just think like if we would 425 00:21:47,160 --> 00:21:51,600 have let those distractions get a in our way, like how just 426 00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:53,560 bland that conversation, we wouldn't have got much. 427 00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:59,960 But when you when you walk into like any place like that, you 428 00:21:59,960 --> 00:22:03,000 need to be open. Truly leave your baggage at the 429 00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:06,160 door and just be ready to receive and hear from Christ. 430 00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:09,200 You know, because it's gonna happen. 431 00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:12,640 Yeah, it's gonna happen. And it will really change your 432 00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:16,400 walk with him because when you become, you know, sheltered or 433 00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:22,120 you become not open anymore and not ready to receive any kind of 434 00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:27,200 just, I would just even say consultation like from others 435 00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:30,600 that, you know, was given from the Lord to help you. 436 00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:34,280 You shut yourself off from that. And how do you grow? 437 00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:36,200 Yeah. How do you keep growing anymore? 438 00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:38,920 You know what I mean? And I'm when you were talking 439 00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:42,360 about you and Greg and kind of used to have to step back and 440 00:22:42,360 --> 00:22:45,040 realize that's what I brought up that night about like me and 441 00:22:45,040 --> 00:22:48,720 Dexter and not saying that we get it right every time. 442 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:53,040 But once we realize that in our marriage that we're not fighting 443 00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:56,960 each other. We're fighting spiritual battles 444 00:22:57,480 --> 00:23:01,720 in this world and is trying to make us fight each other and 445 00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:04,920 split apart our home, man. It changed everything for us to 446 00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:07,880 when we do get in those arguments because we've gotten 447 00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:11,120 some pretty big, pretty bad arguments. 448 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:15,560 And you really have to take a step back and ask yourself, 449 00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:19,520 like, am I really fighting my husband or my spouse on this? 450 00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:23,440 Or how do we not fight each other? 451 00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:26,840 Learn to grow with each other and learn each other's 452 00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:29,480 personalities and the differences in each other and 453 00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:33,720 fight the actual problem. And now you know, our focus is 454 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:37,640 on that and not on trying to fix or change the other person. 455 00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:40,400 But there's only the Lord can change him and only the Lord can 456 00:23:40,400 --> 00:23:42,920 change me. And if I take my focus over here 457 00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:46,080 to him, I'm, I'm already gone. I'm lost now. 458 00:23:46,080 --> 00:23:48,920 The Lord can't work on my heart because I'm so focused on him. 459 00:23:49,360 --> 00:23:51,920 So that was such a good conversation to have that night 460 00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:53,560 too. Just everything about that 461 00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:55,000 night. What we're talking about really 462 00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:58,360 right now are strongholds, things that we really struggle 463 00:23:58,360 --> 00:24:00,880 with. It's like real raw life on this 464 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:02,960 side of Jesus. Exactly. 465 00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:05,680 And there's so many times that when I do get in those heated 466 00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:08,520 situations or whatever, like I do always feel like it's me and 467 00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:09,920 gets great. You know what I'm saying? 468 00:24:09,920 --> 00:24:15,640 Like it's us, but really it should be US versus everything 469 00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:16,160 else. Yeah. 470 00:24:16,360 --> 00:24:20,080 And we need to keep that like in mind every single time we do get 471 00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:21,800 in those arguments, you know, like. 472 00:24:22,360 --> 00:24:24,600 It is so hard because you're like, why can't they just be 473 00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:26,240 like this? Why can't they just do they? 474 00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:29,520 Not ruin my mind. So that's what happened to me 475 00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:33,640 and Dexter the other night was we realized how different our 476 00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:37,560 personalities were. And I want him to be more like 477 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:43,080 me and he wants me to be more like him, where I'm more control 478 00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:46,200 freak, anxiety, worry, going to have it this way, do it this 479 00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:48,760 way. And he's just chill, calm, you 480 00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:52,280 know, calm as a cucumber. Nothing gets him. 481 00:24:52,360 --> 00:24:55,480 I'm in a tiff and so I'm like, but you're not going to get 482 00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:57,080 anything done. It's not going to get done on 483 00:24:57,080 --> 00:25:00,840 time because he is so calm and he's over here like this. 484 00:25:01,120 --> 00:25:04,200 She's crazy. And so we're trying to make each 485 00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:08,760 other like the other person. God did not design him like me 486 00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:11,240 and God did not design me like him. 487 00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:15,160 So it would be a never ending battle our whole entire life to 488 00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:18,200 try to make each other like each other and we wouldn't get 489 00:25:18,200 --> 00:25:20,600 anywhere. So we've got to learn now. 490 00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:24,920 We're teammates and I'm going to to embrace how God made you and 491 00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:27,640 you're going to embrace how he made me and we're going to try 492 00:25:27,640 --> 00:25:31,360 to work this thing out together. I could not imagine truly being 493 00:25:31,360 --> 00:25:33,160 married to someone that's just like me. 494 00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:39,120 I can, I would like physically be fist fighting like I'm not 495 00:25:39,120 --> 00:25:41,400 really, but you know, like truly. 496 00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:44,600 I just know that I'm a lot. I know that I am. 497 00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:47,720 I'm very controlling. I'm like crazy about my time. 498 00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:51,200 I'm crazy about these certain things and I just couldn't 499 00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:54,280 imagine. Yeah, so, so it's it's you know, 500 00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:55,400 it's good. Yeah. 501 00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:59,120 I'm you're not with right that they're opposites. 502 00:25:59,120 --> 00:26:02,120 Because it does balance you out. It brings some of those 503 00:26:02,120 --> 00:26:07,800 extremes, yes, you know, because one thing I always talk about 504 00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:11,800 personalities, like always recommend you find out more 505 00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:16,960 about your personality. But before Christ, your purse. 506 00:26:17,120 --> 00:26:19,800 God does not change your personality once you come to 507 00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:23,760 Christ, right? Teaches you a healthy boundary 508 00:26:24,040 --> 00:26:27,040 of your personality. So my personality is the exact 509 00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:32,400 same after I came to Christ as it was before, but before it was 510 00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:37,720 too extreme. Yeah, like it was the like as 511 00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:42,160 far D and as far red as you can possibly imagine. 512 00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:45,640 And so now God is trying to balance out those other 513 00:26:45,640 --> 00:26:48,760 personalities like, 'cause there's four quadrants, your D, 514 00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:51,640 your I, your S, your C, or your red, your yellow, your green or 515 00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:54,120 your blue. And so all of those are starting 516 00:26:54,120 --> 00:26:56,720 to become more balanced and he's trying to bring them down and 517 00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:59,280 try to like, mellow you out. And so like for next year, y'all 518 00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:02,680 are complete opposite. So it's teaching you to maybe, 519 00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:07,400 you know, be more, you know, calm, cool and collected cool as 520 00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:08,160 a. Cucumber. 521 00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:12,920 Yeah, I don't know if that's ever going to happen, but no, it 522 00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:16,160 is so true because even I think about like my parents or just 523 00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:18,720 even Pat and Page up here the other night, think about how 524 00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:21,960 polar opposite personalities they are and my parents 525 00:27:22,360 --> 00:27:26,000 completely personality difference with my dad. 526 00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:29,920 I mean, Oh my word, 90 to nothing and yeah, and she's just 527 00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:33,840 like snail and you got like super fast race car. 528 00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:35,040 I don't know. I. 529 00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:38,080 Do not know how to explain that, but snail and race car is pretty 530 00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:42,800 good because your mom is just like it is what it is, yeah. 531 00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:47,120 Not, not, not Mike. So we're all just trying to, you 532 00:27:47,120 --> 00:27:50,240 know, run this race together. And the only way we can run this 533 00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:54,280 race together is realizing we're on the same side of Jesus. 534 00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:58,000 We're all teammates with him. You know, he's our main coach. 535 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:03,640 And if we follow our coach and follow him, then yeah, our team, 536 00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:06,600 our whole team collectively. And the biggest We'll succeed. 537 00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:08,480 Is. Realizing that you're never 538 00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:11,960 truly going to arrive until called home. 539 00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:16,160 Like you're there's always going to be more that you need to 540 00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:18,280 learn. And one, me and Eric were 541 00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:22,560 talking about this other day, like one of the biggest, like I 542 00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:26,000 would say, is it an insult or like something that would truly 543 00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:29,480 hurt me the most is someone telling me that I'm unteachable. 544 00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:33,320 Yeah. Like being unteachable used to 545 00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:36,800 be like, I know everything. I don't need you to teach me. 546 00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:40,680 Like, that's such a brag. But now in the in the states 547 00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:43,240 that I'm in now, knowing that someone thinks that I'm 548 00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:46,000 unteachable is like, that's the ultimate hurt. 549 00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:48,920 Like, that is so like, that's hard to hear. 550 00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:52,640 And so just knowing that you can always do better at something. 551 00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:55,400 You're always learning, you're always growing and you fully 552 00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:58,320 never arrive. That's such a good concept to 553 00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:01,800 like, really hold. On to yeah, for sure. 554 00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:05,280 I think we've got to keep that in mind because if if we get 555 00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:09,720 stuck and we think we know best about a certain situation, then 556 00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:11,720 that just automatically says we probably don't. 557 00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:15,400 Yeah, you know, absolutely. Because you, you weren't open to 558 00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:18,480 trying to learn anything else. But that's good. 559 00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:20,120 That's good. What else really? 560 00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:23,320 Good. I need to, you know, what's life 561 00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:26,000 update with you was you got a lot going on. 562 00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:27,680 You got a lot coming up. Yeah. 563 00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:29,360 You know what? It's like that. 564 00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:33,400 Another idol that I convicted myself about today while I was 565 00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:38,760 working on my message. Busyness can be an idol and I'm 566 00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:43,840 like man, like as I'm fighting all this. 567 00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:47,480 I'm so glad we're on this topic because this is a huge topic of 568 00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:51,040 mine that we have a discussion in mine and Dexter's household. 569 00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:52,920 Yeah, I. Love being busy. 570 00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:56,600 I thrive on being busy. I love to keep my schedule 571 00:29:56,600 --> 00:30:01,360 booked up, booked and loaded, you know, and that is such an 572 00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:04,000 idol and so. I and the devil wants you. 573 00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:06,560 And the devil wants you to be busy. 574 00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:09,760 Absolutely. And I was having a conversation 575 00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:12,600 with somebody somebody recently and they're like, do you think 576 00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:15,400 that you want to be busy all the time because you just don't want 577 00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:18,240 to be still in here? God, what he's trying to say to 578 00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:21,040 you and you know, trying to convict you or you don't want to 579 00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:25,240 deal with past like emotions and stuff like that. 580 00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:28,560 And I was like, no. And then today I'm like, man, 581 00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:31,360 maybe that is one of the reasons why I'm always busy, but. 582 00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:34,480 Like, 'cause I just like when I think of busyness, I just think 583 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:38,480 of Jesus saying, come to me, all you who are weary, I yoke is 584 00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:42,640 light and not burdensome. And it's like, if that is Him 585 00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:47,320 and that is his yoke that we would carry with Him, how can 586 00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:50,400 busyness and stress and all of that stuff that's so heavy be of 587 00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:58,440 Christ, you know, and in that constant distraction mindset of 588 00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:04,320 busyness, does that make sense? It does it, but it's so hard for 589 00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:08,760 me to kind of fathom not being busy because I love being busy. 590 00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:14,080 Like it's not like somebody that is just booking their time and 591 00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:17,240 they hate it. Like I love tasks. 592 00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:19,760 Like that's my personality. I'm task driven. 593 00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:24,840 I love to check a box and I love to reach a goal and stuff like 594 00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:27,040 that. And so it's hard for me to 595 00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:32,560 understand truly that this is almost a sin in my life and an 596 00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:36,160 idol of being busy when it's something that I really enjoy 597 00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:38,840 doing. But I guess everybody enjoys sin 598 00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:42,280 and sin looks good, you know, until you try to break free from 599 00:31:42,280 --> 00:31:44,320 it and you realize you're in bondage. 600 00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:47,600 So here I go convicting myself some more. 601 00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:50,480 Y'all, This is literally what my mind does all the time. 602 00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:53,440 Like I'm talking to myself. I talk things out loud and then 603 00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:56,520 light bulbs just go off and I'm like, oh, that makes sense. 604 00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:58,120 That makes sense, that makes sense because. 605 00:31:58,120 --> 00:32:00,560 You're getting discernment from from him. 606 00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:03,760 Yeah, but it is hard. Like, that is one thing that 607 00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:08,680 Dexter and I really struggle with because he and I love being 608 00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:10,480 busy. It's not that I love being busy. 609 00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:13,920 I like making a list every night of everything I got to do the 610 00:32:13,920 --> 00:32:16,840 next day, and then I erase it as I do it. 611 00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:19,880 And to me, that accomplishment, that feeling is great. 612 00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:23,920 It's so satisfactory and you feel good about yourself. 613 00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:26,320 But it's pleasure. But yourself, that was another. 614 00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:30,480 And that was another yes, that you can because then you become 615 00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:35,640 looking inward that, oh, I was able to accomplish this home 616 00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:37,320 girl. You couldn't accomplish none of 617 00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:39,760 that if it wasn't for the Lord in your life and probably 618 00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:42,520 putting all of these things in place and in order for you to 619 00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:45,080 get them done. So First off, it had nothing to 620 00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:47,600 do with you. So you it can put you in that 621 00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:50,600 mindset of you, you, you, you, you are good at accomplishing 622 00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:52,320 this. But I love having those tasks to 623 00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:56,640 check off. But like Dexter, like he's he's 624 00:32:56,640 --> 00:32:59,080 like in a stage where he wants to say yes to everything. 625 00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:04,960 OK, so you know F3 yes, 4:00 in the morning, great Serving at 626 00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:08,760 the church yes what do you need yes You know, and I'm in a stage 627 00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:12,200 like I'm a mom, I have a kid, you know, sudden baseball, 628 00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:14,720 soccer. Signing her up for this yes oh, 629 00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:17,040 ballerina yes let's get her in ballerina. 630 00:33:17,040 --> 00:33:19,120 I'm like. This too much. 631 00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:21,760 This too much. I am. 632 00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:26,480 Tired. We do a lot and it's not like 633 00:33:26,480 --> 00:33:28,400 none of it isn't serving the Lord. 634 00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:31,080 It's not like not, you know, we're just choosing all of these 635 00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:34,600 things to self-serve. But it can turn into that. 636 00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:38,120 And it's like so crazy how the devil works because he is so 637 00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:40,200 sneaky and you don't even realize it. 638 00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:45,680 And what started happening was we were doing so much things in 639 00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:48,600 our marriage, like we obviously weren't spending as much time 640 00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:51,600 together. We were rushing in the mornings 641 00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:55,280 or he had this going on and we were skipping our, you know, 642 00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:57,920 being in the word. And things just got so off 643 00:33:57,920 --> 00:34:00,400 balance. And that's when I realized that 644 00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:05,680 busyness lifestyle is exactly where the devil on it is because 645 00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:10,639 he had he had us, he had us focused on everything else. 646 00:34:10,639 --> 00:34:15,280 And so I think it took like a weekend of maybe Sutton was sick 647 00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:18,440 or something happened and we just had the slowest weekend. 648 00:34:18,639 --> 00:34:21,080 And we spent that morning doing our devotion. 649 00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:24,600 We spent that morning reading our word together and just like 650 00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:29,000 resetting and the peace, yeah, that we got from it. 651 00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:33,639 Just it was an answered prayer. It was like, no, this is this is 652 00:34:33,639 --> 00:34:38,000 what we really needed to see that this is the kind of yoke 653 00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:40,320 that he gives us. This is where he wants us. 654 00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:43,679 This is the kind of mindset that we need to be on, which is, you 655 00:34:43,679 --> 00:34:48,000 know, focused on him solely and not get so focused on this busy 656 00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:52,199 lifestyle because we get so focused on living earth side and 657 00:34:52,199 --> 00:34:55,000 we forget about what's the most important thing and that's 658 00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:58,480 eternity. And that's the only place our 659 00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:02,040 mindset really should be. But I'm so focused on what is 660 00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:05,040 tomorrow going to bring us. Is this going to make me? 661 00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:07,960 Oh my gosh, I'm looking forward to this this weekend and I'm 662 00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:13,600 stuck living, you know, only a few years on this earth, and 663 00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:16,480 that's going to be gone. And I need to be focused on my 664 00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:20,160 eternity with my King and and how I'm focused on him. 665 00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:23,600 I I don't know. I did this so long ago. 666 00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:25,640 Like I heard this so so long ago. 667 00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:27,760 I don't know when it what happened, but it's like we 668 00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:30,600 schedule our lives so much out. We're always looking for the 669 00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:32,520 next thing. We're always counting down. 670 00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:35,880 Like say you have a trip to Disney in 45 days. 671 00:35:36,240 --> 00:35:38,080 We're like, count. Oh, they're one a day, They're 672 00:35:38,080 --> 00:35:40,440 one a day. Like we're constantly counting 673 00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:42,400 all the way up. And then once it gets there, we 674 00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:44,760 pick something else. Now, Oh, my birthday's in. 675 00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:47,920 What's crazy is when it gets there and you're living in the 676 00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:52,080 moment, it's not even living up to the moment. 677 00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:55,280 Leading up to the moment was more satisfactory than being in 678 00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:58,760 the moment most of the time, so you're always chasing that next 679 00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:00,600 thing. And even when we're in that 680 00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:04,440 moment, like where are you truly in that moment? 681 00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:06,720 Because half the time you're recording that moment that 682 00:36:06,720 --> 00:36:08,560 you're actually in that you were looking forward to. 683 00:36:08,560 --> 00:36:11,320 Like I was watching the Snapchat the other day of like this 684 00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:14,880 concert or whatever, and it was like people were recording it, 685 00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:16,600 right? Well, now you're not even like, 686 00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:19,600 really in the moment because you're watching your screen into 687 00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:21,360 the moment. And it was just another 688 00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:23,960 idolizing thing, Yeah, that I was thinking about. 689 00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:27,800 Once he once he really starts, you know, you're going through 690 00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:30,400 the sanctification process because I think that's forever 691 00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:34,160 and you're getting discernment from the Lord and you're walking 692 00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:36,440 around others that are doing the same thing. 693 00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:40,920 It is crazy what your mind starts to be opened up to that 694 00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:45,760 you see in your life more than you even see it like used to. 695 00:36:45,760 --> 00:36:48,880 I could so easily focus on somebody elses life and they 696 00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:51,240 need to change that. They need to be doing that. 697 00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:54,080 But really like what you're going through, what I go 698 00:36:54,080 --> 00:37:00,480 through, constantly striving to be different, to be set apart, 699 00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:05,080 to be more like him. It's like takes over and you 700 00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:08,200 can't even focus on somebody else and what they need to do or 701 00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:10,880 what's going on in their life because you're so focused on 702 00:37:10,880 --> 00:37:15,120 making sure you're rightly related. 703 00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:20,040 Aligned exactly. Yeah, because there is so many 704 00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:24,080 times that you are constantly. We talked about this before, 705 00:37:24,080 --> 00:37:27,880 like the sins that we struggled with before are different like 706 00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:31,120 we still have different we still are working on our sins, but now 707 00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:34,200 they look different. So you're constantly needing to 708 00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:37,560 work on something, you know? So just because I'm not 709 00:37:37,560 --> 00:37:40,360 drinking, smoking, vaping, cussing, doing all that stuff 710 00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:43,560 anymore, there's still those pride issues plus stuff like 711 00:37:43,560 --> 00:37:46,040 that that's going to come up that you're going to have to 712 00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:48,880 work on. So instead of focusing on 713 00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:51,920 someone else's life, truly look in the mirror and be like, God, 714 00:37:51,920 --> 00:37:54,200 what, what are we trying to work on today? 715 00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:56,320 I. Loved that about our Rooted this 716 00:37:56,320 --> 00:38:01,640 past week was writing out a prayer for the Lord to search 717 00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:06,080 your heart and it's almost like a thing I want to start doing 718 00:38:06,080 --> 00:38:10,960 every morning that I'm spending time with him is seek me Lord, 719 00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:14,680 help me to see what are my struggles today. 720 00:38:14,720 --> 00:38:16,520 What are my struggles going to be? 721 00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:19,680 Help me to give them over to you, but reveal them to me so 722 00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:21,360 then I can learn to give them over to you. 723 00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:25,480 That just really opened my eyes. It was kind of like a aha 724 00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:27,000 moment. Like I never do that. 725 00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:30,640 Like I never really asked Lord to search my heart. 726 00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:34,040 Where am I really struggling? Because sometimes I think I know 727 00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:37,520 where I'm struggling and it might be something totally 728 00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:39,440 different and he's going to reveal to me or something 729 00:38:39,440 --> 00:38:41,360 totally different that's going to happen in my life. 730 00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:46,280 And so that just I I want to start incorporating that more. 731 00:38:46,720 --> 00:38:48,280 That's good. That is good. 732 00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:49,680 Yeah. I've gotten a lot from Rooted. 733 00:38:49,800 --> 00:38:52,600 I really like Rooted. Me and Dexter, he asked that the 734 00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:54,600 other night on the way home if you liked it. 735 00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:57,880 Now he's like, do you feel like you're getting a lot out of it? 736 00:38:57,960 --> 00:39:03,880 And I was like, yes, like a ton is getting me out of my comfort 737 00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:06,600 zone, you know, because sometimes we can just get in our 738 00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:10,280 comfort zone. And I loved, I love listening to 739 00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:13,360 Phillip Anthony Mitchell. He's just so good. 740 00:39:14,240 --> 00:39:16,520 I haven't found anything bad about home yet. 741 00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:23,560 But when he was mentioning our like generation where we're at 742 00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:27,200 in the church, just getting up, going to church, being in our 743 00:39:27,200 --> 00:39:29,880 routine, going to lunch after, and that's all we're looking 744 00:39:29,880 --> 00:39:32,400 forward to. And yeehaw, we did our Jesus 745 00:39:32,400 --> 00:39:36,000 today and it's good. It's going to, you know, lead to 746 00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:38,720 destruction. Like we're in a battle every day 747 00:39:38,720 --> 00:39:40,480 really on this side of Christianity. 748 00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:43,360 And I think we just saw that recently, you know, what's 749 00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:48,520 really with what has been going on, but that, gosh, we cannot 750 00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:51,960 stay there. Like that is not where we can 751 00:39:52,440 --> 00:39:56,440 settle and be happy with and be satisfied with and be like, oh, 752 00:39:56,440 --> 00:39:59,480 our life is great. We go to church on Sunday and 753 00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:04,520 then we go eat or you know, like we are at a constant battle so. 754 00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:07,400 Yeah, I just, I just I would recommend. 755 00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:09,160 Getting me out of my comfort zone is what I'm saying. 756 00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:13,000 Like, you know, just flipping the script from going to church 757 00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:16,360 and doing the checking your boxes, doing anything same 758 00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:20,640 things over and over to like, OK, no, now I'm really seeing 759 00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:22,800 how what it takes to be a disciple of Jesus. 760 00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:26,240 Which I mean, rooted is like a national thing. 761 00:40:26,240 --> 00:40:28,520 Like it's all over. We got it from a different 762 00:40:28,520 --> 00:40:29,600 church. I can't even remember what 763 00:40:29,600 --> 00:40:31,400 church it is. I think it was the one that does 764 00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:35,560 CR to Saddleback. I may be wrong, but like all all 765 00:40:35,560 --> 00:40:37,200 kind of churches are doing it right now. 766 00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:40,640 We're like it's a big, huge national thing where people are 767 00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:44,240 teaching how to do rooted. So then when you incorporate it 768 00:40:44,240 --> 00:40:48,800 into your church, like it, you're truly getting rooted in a 769 00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:52,240 group. It's promoting trying to do life 770 00:40:52,240 --> 00:40:55,440 with other Christians because so many times we're just 771 00:40:55,440 --> 00:40:57,800 comfortable going to church, getting there right before the 772 00:40:57,800 --> 00:41:00,600 sermon starts, leaving right after worship and the altar 773 00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:03,760 call, and not getting in a godly community. 774 00:41:03,960 --> 00:41:08,480 And so that's pushing you to really getting a group of people 775 00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:12,680 share your hurts, your habits, your hang ups, your strongholds 776 00:41:12,680 --> 00:41:17,760 and all this so that you can grow and learn more and be just 777 00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:21,400 more vulnerable because there ain't, there's nothing worse 778 00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:24,200 than a group being in a group and you're the only one 779 00:41:24,200 --> 00:41:26,080 vulnerable and nobody else's like that. 780 00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:28,360 He says anything, nobody really plugs in. 781 00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:31,480 But when you really get in a group and you trust these people 782 00:41:31,480 --> 00:41:35,000 and you say like, look, I'm struggling with this or like 783 00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:37,040 this is something. That's not going to go outside 784 00:41:37,040 --> 00:41:38,280 of the group. Exactly. 785 00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:41,120 That is what's so important and I think that's what I love about 786 00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:45,800 our group is like, it is like very known, like we can talk 787 00:41:45,800 --> 00:41:48,360 about things and it's going to be there so. 788 00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:52,760 Yeah, no, I that has really, I think it's even helped our group 789 00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:56,680 open up more because, you know, we've been going with some 790 00:41:56,680 --> 00:41:58,920 people and I haven't ever heard their story. 791 00:41:58,920 --> 00:42:00,840 They probably have never heard my story. 792 00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:04,640 So doing that and sharing that and learning how to be really 793 00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:08,920 vulnerable in front of those people and in front of Christ to 794 00:42:09,120 --> 00:42:13,400 show him like, I'm doing this because I love you so much. 795 00:42:13,400 --> 00:42:17,920 You deserve my obedience. You deserve this from me. 796 00:42:17,920 --> 00:42:21,600 To share that with others and them to see how much you have 797 00:42:21,600 --> 00:42:24,040 changed my life. Yeah, and see how much you are 798 00:42:24,040 --> 00:42:28,440 doing in my life and give even people that you think are in 799 00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:32,480 your Christian group hope still. Yeah, you know, we all need it. 800 00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:35,240 We're all not there yet. Just because they do follow 801 00:42:35,240 --> 00:42:37,920 Jesus doesn't mean they don't need, they're not at a point in 802 00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:40,920 their life that they need hope or they're struggling. 803 00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:46,160 So it's been so eye opening and it has been such a good program 804 00:42:46,240 --> 00:42:49,480 that's definitely really getting us out of our comfort zone. 805 00:42:49,760 --> 00:42:50,960 But I like it. Picasso. 806 00:42:51,040 --> 00:42:53,320 Yeah, I like it too. It's been fun. 807 00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:56,520 It's just going to, we got to continue on that path. 808 00:42:56,680 --> 00:42:59,320 Yeah, that's that's something that's big to me. 809 00:42:59,720 --> 00:43:01,480 Yeah. Because I wonder what it looks 810 00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:04,360 like this is more just us talking at this point. 811 00:43:04,880 --> 00:43:08,920 I wonder what it kind of looks like after we finish rated. 812 00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:11,520 Like, are we just going to go back to our messages or is there 813 00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:13,520 a way that we can just start another study? 814 00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:17,560 Yeah, that'd be cool if we. I'm sure we will have that 815 00:43:17,560 --> 00:43:21,240 discussion. I like doing studies for sure, 816 00:43:21,440 --> 00:43:24,880 especially diving more into the word because we have learned so 817 00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:29,280 much even on the strongholds that we just did, which is the 818 00:43:29,280 --> 00:43:30,720 conversation we're having has been. 819 00:43:30,720 --> 00:43:35,760 So I've opening to me just about the small things that can be in 820 00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:38,720 your life because I always just picture the big things. 821 00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:44,080 But yes, even that desire of having what other people have or 822 00:43:44,160 --> 00:43:47,840 you know, money just. Think I mean strongholds too, 823 00:43:47,840 --> 00:43:51,840 like it's, it's so important. And that's what we talked about 824 00:43:51,840 --> 00:43:56,400 in our group about sharing your stronghold with someone that you 825 00:43:56,400 --> 00:44:02,480 trust and like and it helps you. It gives you freedom in saying 826 00:44:02,480 --> 00:44:06,040 it out loud instead of just letting it sit and salt and 827 00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:08,720 wallow in your mind and consume you. 828 00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:12,480 Now you just saying it, you're breaking free. 829 00:44:12,520 --> 00:44:16,200 Yeah, that is one thing. OK, I learned too from see, we 830 00:44:16,200 --> 00:44:22,920 learned so much from this, but I need somebody to go to, to talk 831 00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:27,200 to about things that I struggle with and I need to get them out 832 00:44:27,200 --> 00:44:30,480 and say them. So like, you know, somebody that 833 00:44:30,480 --> 00:44:33,760 doesn't have somebody that they can go to that can give them 834 00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:37,000 good, you know, Godly advice and discernment. 835 00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:41,360 I think that now I see how important it is, you know, not 836 00:44:41,360 --> 00:44:44,320 just even in our doing it in our group, but having somebody 837 00:44:44,320 --> 00:44:47,200 one-on-one that you can call like I am really struggling with 838 00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:49,400 this. It's like I can't get freedom 839 00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:52,560 from it. Here's where my heart is. 840 00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:56,040 And having like, not just an accountability partner, but just 841 00:44:56,040 --> 00:44:59,760 having somebody that can help you through those times and give 842 00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:02,000 you the discernment you need during that time. 843 00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:05,240 And you know that God's going to give them the words to say to 844 00:45:05,240 --> 00:45:08,920 you is I was like, man, I don't have that. 845 00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:13,240 Like I don't do that enough to release that, to release my 846 00:45:13,240 --> 00:45:17,560 struggles because I do have so many internally, mentally that I 847 00:45:17,560 --> 00:45:20,640 struggle with. And I think mental battles is 848 00:45:20,640 --> 00:45:25,800 huge. So many people struggle when it 849 00:45:25,800 --> 00:45:30,240 comes to mental just struggles. Oh, I mean, there's the whole 850 00:45:30,240 --> 00:45:32,440 slew list of them that you can think of. 851 00:45:32,440 --> 00:45:36,440 But having is freeing. I'm just going to say that 852 00:45:36,440 --> 00:45:40,320 absolutely it's freeing when you really have a struggle and you 853 00:45:40,320 --> 00:45:44,440 finally get it off of your chest and you tell somebody like that 854 00:45:44,440 --> 00:45:47,600 deep raw, this is where I'm really struggling. 855 00:45:47,600 --> 00:45:50,160 Like this is where I'm really having anxiety and this is what 856 00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:51,720 it's about. This is where it started. 857 00:45:52,040 --> 00:45:53,480 I don't know how to get rid of it. 858 00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:56,000 And you really opened up to somebody about it. 859 00:45:56,240 --> 00:45:58,040 Yeah. So if somebody, if you haven't 860 00:45:58,040 --> 00:46:01,440 ever opened up to somebody, do that and release that. 861 00:46:02,400 --> 00:46:06,240 Yeah, yeah, it's important and I need to do more of that. 862 00:46:06,680 --> 00:46:08,080 Yep. All right. 863 00:46:08,280 --> 00:46:13,280 You got anything else? No any more life updates on you? 864 00:46:14,000 --> 00:46:16,280 I ain't got nothing. I ain't got a thing. 865 00:46:16,280 --> 00:46:18,880 I just been busy, y'all. I'm gonna stop though. 866 00:46:18,880 --> 00:46:21,360 I'm gonna work on that. We're going to at least set. 867 00:46:22,000 --> 00:46:23,240 My. Day or something? 868 00:46:23,240 --> 00:46:28,280 My thing is, my biggest thing is I don't realize that the things 869 00:46:28,280 --> 00:46:31,960 that I say yes to end up being around the exact same time. 870 00:46:33,240 --> 00:46:35,920 I like. I say yes to all this stuff and 871 00:46:35,920 --> 00:46:39,280 then they end up always being like the exact same week. 872 00:46:39,280 --> 00:46:42,200 And I'm like, I was I was did nothing last week. 873 00:46:42,200 --> 00:46:45,440 It couldn't have been last week. So that is I need to do better 874 00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:47,120 about a calendar. It's all right though. 875 00:46:47,120 --> 00:46:49,080 It's all right. It's just blocked the time off. 876 00:46:49,080 --> 00:46:50,840 Like no, this is just going to be. 877 00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:52,960 One thing on a week and say I'm good. 878 00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:55,040 That's the only thing I can have that week. 879 00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:58,440 I bet Greg would love that. He'd be like please. 880 00:46:58,440 --> 00:47:00,480 Yeah. All right, guys, we. 881 00:47:00,480 --> 00:47:02,480 Thank you for listening to our Stronghold. 882 00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:08,040 Whole life, yeah, just all of the above, just random things we 883 00:47:08,040 --> 00:47:11,960 got going on. So yeah, let us know what you 884 00:47:11,960 --> 00:47:15,200 think, give us a review, make sure you like and write and all 885 00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:17,640 of that other good stuff. We appreciate each and every one 886 00:47:17,640 --> 00:47:20,240 of our listeners. Y'all are such a blessing to our 887 00:47:20,240 --> 00:47:23,960 lives and we just pray that this ultimately grows you closer to 888 00:47:23,960 --> 00:47:27,520 the Lord and just helps that fire continue to burn. 889 00:47:27,560 --> 00:47:29,600 Yeah, yeah. And if you don't feel like a 890 00:47:29,600 --> 00:47:32,640 part of something, I hope this makes you feel like a part of 891 00:47:32,640 --> 00:47:35,840 something that you can listen to us and you can reach out anytime 892 00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:38,560 and and talk to us so. Yeah, sounds good. 893 00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:41,160 All right, guys. Well, stay tuned, stay blessed 894 00:47:41,160 --> 00:47:42,960 and we'll see you guys later. Bye.