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It is very encouraging to hear 
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experienced or extended love 
this week. 

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That's a good thing. 
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to the church calendar or the 
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I just say that this particular 
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lot of space for sentimentality 
about love last Tuesday. if you 

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have any kids or A significant 
other you would know is 

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Valentine's and you might be 
like my little friend in grade 2

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who wrote dear Oscar on so many 
of his Valentine's that his mama

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was like we're about to run out 
of cards for your friends. 

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Now he loved himself and he 
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going to be something in his box
at school, so he kept writing 

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cards to himself and there were 
supposed to be for his friends. 

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There was also may be a treat 
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Cards. 
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yourself, you get four pieces of
chocolate, it's not a bad thing.

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Then tomorrow is Family Day and 
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You think we'll family. 
We could all go. 

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Hmm But we all have that cousin 
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some of you where you're trying 
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from your parents and that's not
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And then we have friends who've 
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And so, family day is 
particularly brutal. 

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Craig and I have a friend and 
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anniversary of when his wife 
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three children. 
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And then Tuesday's a weird day 
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Carnival is celebrated and 
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Celebration and fun and then if 
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have to eat pancakes Tuesday 
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very decadent. 
You're having buttery bread with

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syrup and chocolate chips and 
fruit and because come Wednesday

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you're going to sacrifice for 
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Okay, so let's look at all the 
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We have syrupy relational, love 
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And because we don't know how to
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Well, we have teenage girls at 
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around, and giving everybody 
flowers because they knew that 

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they weren't going to get any 
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Anybody else to feel that 
loneliness, we have people who 

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want a day where everybody's 
going, oh, it's family day are 

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feeling bitter, pain and then in
trying to remember the sacrifice

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of Jesus and to walk with him in
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At least where I'm from. 
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gooey pancakes right before cuz 
sacrifice his heart. 

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We have a lot of messed-up ideas
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that comes into then are 
important relationships. 

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So I was like, Oh, Ellen, you're
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week so then I Googled best 
relationships. 

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Okay, I encourage you to do it. 
When you get it. 

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Well, the list there were some 
web TV things and I didn't know 

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mall. 
So I went of all time because I 

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wanted something that I could. 
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Eve. 
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and Eve as a model relationship 
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early and so my huh. 
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relationship after relationship,
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castration. 
So joint suicide, I was like, 

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why does Me when our pictures of
important relationships are like

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in the top 50, I think it was 
like, 36 were dysfunctional like

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profoundly dysfunctional. 
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trouble. 
If this is what you put up and 

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say that's what love looks like.
So we're going to go to a space 

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that you know. 
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think about love for a few 
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You can read along with me if I 
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of angels, but do not have love 
all only a resounding gong, or a

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clanging cymbal. 
If I have the gift of Prophecy 

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and can fathom all Mysteries, 
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And if I have faith that can 
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love, I am nothing. 
If I give all I possess to the 

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poor and give over my body to 
hardship that I may boast but do

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not. 
Not have love I gain. 

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Nothing love is patient. 
Love is kind. 

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It does not envy. 
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It is not proud. 
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others. 
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not easily angered. 
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Love does not Delight in evil, 
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always protects. 
Always trusts always hopes 

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always perseveres Love, Never 
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But where there are prophecies, 
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tongues, they will be stilled 
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will pass away for we know in 
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But when completeness comes, 
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I was a child, I talked like a 
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I thought like a child. 
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became a man. 
I put away the ways of childhood

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behind, And me for now we see 
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then we shall see face to face. 
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shall know fully even as I am 
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And now these three remain 
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But the greatest of these is 
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Now, have you ever heard that 
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wedding? 
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I had time for these kinds of 
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I actually cross stitched Verses
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gussied up to a friend for a 
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know that this expression of 
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think it's well, it's important 
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passage for us to look at what 
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break it to you but it is not 
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It is Christian Community. 
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I bet you can count of chapter 
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They chapters 12 through 14 form
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complete idea is, hey, you 
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You are not using all your gifts
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But for your own, patting 
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attention and guess what? 
You're a body that works 

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together and the way you work 
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to honor. 
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Guess what is in the environment
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So when you get to worship and 
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competition of who's speaking in
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louder, who's getting the more 
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Is that the medium of love and 
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So that's chapters 12 through 14
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chapter 13, I think we take the 
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chapter 13 and we put it into 
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like, whoo, these are tall 
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live up to it with one other 
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But we are called to this kind 
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Christian Community, where there
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this to people who are in 
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were being proud and who were 
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happening who weren't looking 
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And that's where the call to 
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hard. 
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Let me tell you, he takes some 
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in chapter 12. 
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tongues, without love, what are 
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You are nothing. 
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me if you're speaking in 
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what's going to happen, If you 
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knowledge, but you're 
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without love. 
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And if you have faith that moves
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love what happens? 
Woo me, I don't understand this 

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one, but if you are generous you
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You might even cause it was in 
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day, sell yourself to be a 
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to be generous, but you're not 
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What do you have? 
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good action should be enough for
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We are very busy people. we are 
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we are pursuing better gifts, 
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Christian kingdom, Sometimes at 
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And all that effort and all that
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And sometimes we think, well, 
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problem with busy seasons is 
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we have another season that's 
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And before you know, it We're in
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love, not because you are not, 
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because we're too busy to stop. 
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Now these Verses 4 through 7. 
There are 15 verbs in three 

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verses and so in English it's 
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But these are all present 10th 
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Because you know what, at the 
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know this love is action. 
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love you at night but I I never 
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I never listened to a silly 
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I never read a book, I never 
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I never nurtured them. 
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their school events. 
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Have any any substance behind 
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No. 
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Okay, love is patient. 
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long-suffering. 
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This is why we only try it with 
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us wants to suffer. 
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Pain sucks and if you're going 
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The lovely thing is that we know
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this way. 
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the chapter later. 
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Children of Israel have gone and
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Moses up God's. 
Let the LED them out of slavery.

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There in the desert, Moses has 
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face, to get the 10 commandments
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They burned all their jewelry 
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the Egyptians and made a golden 
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Now that calf hadn't been there 
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they do? 
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need something. 
And so they created Moses comes 

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down, you know, the story. 
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He had a fit. 
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He broke the tablets. 
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an expression of Love? 
Now what he God didn't like how 

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Moses handled it but he was like
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broke those tablets Moses is 
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And while he is meeting with the
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made, I want you to hear what he
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Moses, proclaiming the Lord, the
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gracious, God slow to anger 
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faithfulness. 
Maintaining love to thousands 

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and forgiving Whitney. 
Goodness, rebellion and sin yet.

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He does not leave the guilty 
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children and their children for 
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third and fourth generation. 
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So when we are called by Paul, I
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that verse that that is 
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13 that love true. 
Love Suffers long, love acts 

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kindly. 
Now that part I think we know 

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kids know, we know, it does not 
envy. 

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They all that's just hard, 
that's hard and environment. 

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Like I thought about this, 
sometimes, when you look at 

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academic Journal articles and 
you want to get more people 

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reading your Journal article, 
I'm like y'all that she's grown 

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up Facebook. 
That is a same thing. 

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I need more like, so I can 
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at this. 
And that's just, that's a 

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different form of social media. 
It doesn't mean that your ideas 

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weren't having and then I think 
oh I'm less than and so then 

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this temptation comes Now does 
not envy starts us off on a list

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of negatives. 
It's what love isn't because 

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sometimes we Define things by 
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what? 
It's not and in the middle. 

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There's a whole list of doesn't 
boast. 

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Isn't proud know what's the 
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One is bragging and one is 
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Love doesn't dishonor others and
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there's any of these isn't. 
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the hardest one because frankly,
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much as I love Craig O'Brien, we
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30 years. 
If there wasn't some good things

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in it for me. 
Lick frankly, I wouldn't have 

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gotten married like it's not 
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there is a certain amount there 
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people but that's not what this 
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It is when you start to use 
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can look like putting cute or 
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media Pages. 
It can look like oh we're going 

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to do this together. 
Yeah we can do this together but

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let's be clear. 
This is your goal and not mine 

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or ours self-seeking in the 
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like we You say this is the 
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group, or this is the vision for
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vision for our church. 
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people look good. 
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the motivation for things that 
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This love is not easily angered,
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And this is another thing that's
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to get to it with the rejoices 
with the truth. 

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Does it say love never gets 
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No. 
I know people I have been in 

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conversation with a very good 
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if you do not agree with me, you
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a friend. 
I like, but if I love you as a 

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friend and I see that you 
leaving, your husband is 

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actually hurtful, would I not be
a worse friend to not ask you to

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at least think twice. 
So when we say it's not easily 

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angered, it does it mean we 
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friends are saying. 
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Community, where actually 
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Old to speak, truth to one 
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And that it is loving to not 
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There is a loving demeanor and 
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Okay. 
Now y'all if we can conquer this

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next, what love does you are on 
the road to emotional maturity. 

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It says it love being the, it 
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This isn't a term for 
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Okay. 
Keeping a book of all the wrong 

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things and you're like well I 
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So well I'm sure not doing that.
Oh but have you do you have a 

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place and every time you go by 
that coffee shop, you think hmm.

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That's where they said that. 
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at that. 
She has a new cross necklace but

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you know, how she really treats 
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Hmm. 
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Is Uncle Bob Uncle Bob Owen 
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Hmm. 
That's keeping a record of 

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wrongs. 
I am not suggesting you don't 

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have boundaries, if Uncle Bob 
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don't need to give Uncle Bob 
money but you don't have to list

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the 23 other times. 
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his kids, when your parents are 
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fees. 
Keeping a record of wrongs means

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that that person's violation of 
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Is keeping you hostage, the term
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If you just break it down, is re
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I would have told you, I'm not a
bitter person in general, that's

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true. 
Oh, but Lord, have mercy on me 

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and I say that in the truest of 
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them and we feel, you know, why?
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relationships really are 
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So when you hurt my heart, 
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I don't always know how to heal.
And in community, when we choose

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to refill, Andre feel Andre feel
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wrongs. 
Love is not going to flourish. 

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Hopefully, you all have not had 
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go to the physiotherapist, and 
you say, oh man, my lower back 

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is killing me. 
Yeah, this is still drives me 

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crazy. 
I'm telling you I'm hurting here

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and you're touching my foot and 
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And I'm like, why you do that? 
What hurts is here? 

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Fix it? 
I'm paying good money for this 

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to be fixed, but here's well 
Glory. 

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Here's what I learned, 
everything's dropping. 

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Here's what I've learned. 
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it probably means you started 
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something somewhere else. 
And so where the pain shows up 

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is not the source and in love 
that it has been hurt. 

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It may show up and we may miss 
the source and that's where the 

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spirit of Jesus is going to have
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But we have to acknowledge that 
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self-seeking because we're hurt 
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we're a little bit angry. 
Or we sure have a list 

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internally of the recorded 
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Now, here's another thing that 
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love does not Delight in evil 
when you like, well, of course, 

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we're a Christian Community. 
Of course, we do not Delight in 

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evil, but you know what, have 
you not been in this 

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conversations? 
Well, if you love me, you'll 

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agree with me. 
I was talking. 

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Someone asked me a view about a 
moral issue and they didn't 

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agree. 
They said well, I have lots of 

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friends who fought I was like, 
well, I also have lots of 

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friends. 
It's not about who I love and 

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know it's about. 
You ask me, is that action? 

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A wise Godly action. 
And so, their assumption was 

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that in loving somebody who does
that action, I have to love that

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action. 
And this is saying I can love 

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you so much without loving those
actions. 

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And then we come back to the 
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Okay? 
Those of you that are like 

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structured nerds or English 
nerds, I want you to realize 

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these three verses have an A a 
BB and an A. 

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So we start off with a positive 
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with the Positive verbs. 
What is what does love do it 

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rejoices with the truth. 
Now, this isn't just a little 

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bit, that's sweet. 
Oh, that's nice. 

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But it's like, yes, I love you 
so much. 

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So much that we're going to live
in reality, that's where 

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Integrity starts. 
I come from a culture where you 

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better. 
You better show up pretty And I 

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don't mean just how your groom, 
but you show up with your good 

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attitude and you smile. 
Now, you may have just been in 

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the car fighting with your 
parents and your brother and 

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his, Hi, how are you? 
And it's not purposefully Fake 

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it? 
Well it is fake but it's more 

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that the culture is you show 
good. 

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I'm not talking about this here.
It's rejoicing with the truth 

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and when the truth is hard, 
you're still rejoicing. 

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The ra truth that a friend might
not pass a term. 

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A truth that a friend, just lost
a baby there is that's not 

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pleasant. 
But the thing is, is that it is 

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the truth and that is the space 
we're going to share Now love 

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always protects that word 
protects his kind of cool. 

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Put your hands up like a little 
roof. 

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Okay, this part of Love. 
Is it gives you? 

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It's actually the word for roof.
It's going to bear away the 

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snow, and the rain, and the 
hail, and it's going to put 

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something over and bear that 
stuff. 

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We can learn to do that, more 
and more for one another Then 

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love, always trusts. 
Now this was a tricky piece for 

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me. 
Still is in some ways by Nature,

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I'm kind of trusting. 
I was also a volunteer chaplain 

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in a juvenile detention center, 
when I was younger and I really 

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loved those teams. 
I trusted them but I also 

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learned that when I was going to
play dominoes I've had my back 

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at the wall so that if the 
dominoes game became emotional, 

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there wasn't a kid behind me 
that was in for for murder, 

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okay? 
So why do I tell you that? 

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And I'm like, I'm not 
exaggerating. 

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I trusted those kids. 
In that, they were very honest. 

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But I also trusted that they had
habits and they had broken this.

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That had not yet, been dealt 
with and so I had a to be in a 

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safe place while I trusted. 
How we play dominoes? 

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And so why do I tell you? 
That is I want you to trust here

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that is that you're going to 
believe the best about people 

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but not at the expense of 
wisdom. 

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It's okay to sit in a space 
where you can see everything. 

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When, you know, the people that 
you are with, don't always know 

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what to do with strong emotion. 
And so trust is Hope seeing the 

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best, but it's not being 
gullible or denying reality. 

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Love always hopes. 
Now, why could I sit with these 

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kids? 
It was an 11 year old in, for 

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rape. 
Like this was these children, 

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had done, some rough stuff, but 
I knew a resurrected Jesus who 

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could affect change. 
So when somebody hopes up hurts 

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us, and we can lose hope 
especially when we're keeping 

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that accounting that record of 
wrongs we can give up And love. 

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Always hopes. 
Not because we can fix some of 

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the Brokenness in our friends 
lives. 

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Because we know a wide who is 
resurrected and he has got power

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to resurrect wholeness and 
wellness and loving kindness. 

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And then love always perseveres.
I want to give up on love and 

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some people sometimes. 
There are sometimes we're loving

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somebody else costs a lot. 
It costs so much in energy. 

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So much in figuring out what's 
Discerning what's the right 

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level of trust that the 
persevering is just easier to 

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give up sometimes. 
But that's not what love does. 

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And here is the Peace. 
Love, Never Fails, it endures, 

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everything else, these other 
gifts that they people in 

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Corinthian, Corinth were so 
excited about the prophecies, 

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the tongues, the knowledge, that
all of that was going to pass 

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away, And many, most of the 
things that we spend our day 

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hours going after will help 
other humans, but they're going 

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to pass away. 
But what last, when completeness

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comes now, that verb is 
maturity. 

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It's also into X completeness, 
like Jesus, coming back. 

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This is like when it all comes 
together, what's going to be 

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there? 
Everything else passes away, but

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love. 
Now if you've been around kids a

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little bit kids, have this thing
where baby talk is how they 

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talk, and then they, Outgrow 
baby talk, but when they want to

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be cute or get their way they 
occasionally revert to baby 

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talk. 
Now, as a parent, you might be 

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fooled around the first time but
a second kid, you're like if you

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want it, use your words. 
It's just not cute anymore. 

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If you're a teacher with little 
kids, you're like, when you can 

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ask me in your usual voice, I'm 
happy to listen to your request.

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Okay, but you know what else 
happens? 

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This happens. 
We have immature speech, we have

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immature, thoughts, and we 
reason immaturely. 

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And if we just camp out there, 
we don't learn to love the way 

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God has loved us or called us to
love and we stay juvenile. 

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I am not saying that Paul was 
calling the church in Corinth to

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an easy. 
He life. 

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He was calling them to a 
wholesome, fulsome mature, love 

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and a mature way of relating to 
one another and he is calling 

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through the centuries to us. 
To accept and grow into that 

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completeness. 
Again, I come back to why is it 

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that we only seem to handle this
passage for one-on-one 

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significant other relationships?
I think verse 12 gives a little 

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insight. 
We can't see clearly. 

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What's going to happen when we 
learn to love this way? 

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And it's very hard work and it's
very risky and we really crave 

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being known. 
And so we think if I can just 

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risk it with this person, I'll 
be known and I will know them. 

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But what Paul is saying is 
there's going to be a time where

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we see the Lord face to face, 
there is going to be a time 

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where we are fully known but 
that's not now. 

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Even in the happiest. 
And frankly, most joyful of 

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marriages, I am delighted with 
Greg O'Brien. 

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There are things he does that. 
I do not understand. 

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And at this point, I think 
probably not going to ever I 

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love him. 
But I am not fully known or 

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fully know. 
And we need to seek the father's

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face trusting. 
He fully knows us. 

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And if he's calling us or since 
he's calling us to this kind of 

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love, he's going to give us what
we need to help grow into that. 

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And now these three remain 
faith, hope, and love. 

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But the greatest of these is 
love. 

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This triumphant is throughout 
the New Testament, New 

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Testament. 
If you want other verses with 

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it, let me know and I'll just 
send you the full list. 

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They think it was an early part 
of Christian liturgy. 

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I am speaking to Brothers and 
Sisters in Christ who are highly

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competent in so many arenas. 
But our competencies will not 

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last. 
But the love of God will. 

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And so in the midst of trying to
find a life partner and trying 

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to figure out how to be yourself
and honor your parents and in 

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trying to understand the 
sacrificial Love Of Christ. 

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May you receive all of the love,
he has for you. and then extend 

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that love and when it is hard to
be long suffering and kind and 

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rejoicing in truth and 
protecting and trusting and 

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hoping and persevering in love, 
then put a pause on the busyness

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and all these other important 
skills, you're developing and go

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sit with the one who does fully 
know you. 

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And receive back from him. 
The love that he has. 

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Because you cannot extend what 
you have not received. 

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Let's pray. 
Heavenly Father, you have loved 

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us so well we do not understand 
your love. 

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We probably don't even have a 
full glimpse of how painfully we

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have not loved you back at 
times. 

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I pray that we would be a people
who would humbly confess to you 

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our sentimentality. 
And Lord, we want bad, chocolate

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and red heart boxes, sometimes 
rather than deep relationships 

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that call us out to be forgiving
and the call us out to be 

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truth-telling. 
You have protected us and you 

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have hope in us and you have 
persevered and loving us. 

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And so Jesus, we just say help 
us because we don't love that 

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way. 
But we would like to because we 

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understand that what's done in 
Love Last that this is the 

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medium of the Christian Life 
that this is the water we swim 

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in that this is the currency of 
your kingdom. 

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And so make us people who love 
broadly and as a community and 

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on this campus and in this city 
and in our places of origin, and

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in this World, we want to be the
hands and feet of Jesus but 

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Lord, we've gotten hurt and it 
makes it harder. 

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So fill us up with you and your 
loving spirit. 

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When Jesus name, amen. 
Let's stand in worship. 

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Let's stand in worship.