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Does it ever get better? 
That question is something to 

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hold on to, a glimmer of hope, 
but also a source of doubt. 

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When you're going through a 
rough patch, it can feel 

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impossible to see the light at 
the end of the tunnel. 

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It can feel like the weight of 
the world will never lift. 

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However, I'm here to tell you it
absolutely can and will get 

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better. 
The key time self-care patients.

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Today we're going to dive into 
what better really means, why 

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time heals all and how to take 
care of yourself while you're 

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struggling. 
My name is Ethan Jewell and 

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welcome back to Feel Your 
Feelings. 

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Before we start, I want to 
remind you I'm not a doctor. 

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I'm not a psychiatrist or a 
professional in the mental 

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health industry whatsoever. 
I'm a normal person who, just 

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like you, has experienced some 
big feelings and wants to start 

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raw conversations to raise real,
relatable mental health 

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awareness. 
So thank you so much for tuning 

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in and let's feel some feelings 
now. 

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If you're having a hard time and
have been struggling for weeks, 

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months, maybe even years, you 
might find yourself asking, does

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it ever get better? 
Does the weight you carry ever 

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get lighter? 
Will sleep ever come easy again?

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Will life be enjoyable again? 
The truth is, the way that life 

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gets better isn't some magical 
transformation that happens 

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overnight. 
Instead, it's a gradual process,

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and a lot of that process 
involves showing up for 

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yourself, even when it gets 
hard. 

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Many people have this idea that 
better means everything will be 

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sunshine and rainbows and you'll
never struggle again. 

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But better doesn't mean perfect.
It doesn't mean that you'll 

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magically wake up one day and 
never struggle with your mental 

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health ever again. 
That's an unrealistic 

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expectation to hold. 
It'll only lead to 

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disappointment and more 
struggle. 

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What better means is that the 
dark days may not disappear 

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entirely, but there'll be fewer 
and farther between. 

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This journey isn't about finding
some magical cure that makes you

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instantly better. 
Instead, it's about redefining 

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what better looks like for you. 
It's about progress, not 

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perfection. 
It's about giving yourself grace

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and patience. 
Time to feel, reflect and hurt. 

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Space to feel all of your 
feelings without guilt or shame.

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Getting better isn't a magical 
cure. 

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It's taking care of yourself 
until it gets easier. 

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This progress is showing up for 
yourself, taking care of 

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yourself, saying no to 
commitments when you're 

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struggling, loving yourself 
through it all and being 

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prepared and expecting things to
get harder before they get 

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easier. 
Because an unfortunate truth 

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about mental health is that it 
isn't a linear line upward. 

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Getting better has its ups and 
downs. 

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You'll have good days, bad days,
and everything between, and 

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that's OK. 
That doesn't mean you're not 

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learning and improving. 
It means that you're human and 

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you're living through a full 
range of emotions that you can 

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experience. 
Progress happens all throughout 

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that range and is often 
invisible. 

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Even on days where you fall back
into old habits or face 

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difficult feelings, you are 
still progressing. 

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It just takes time. 
Time is a crucial factor in 

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healing your mental health. 
As you give yourself time to 

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grow, you become stronger and 
more equipped to handle life's 

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challenges. 
Of course, you can't do nothing 

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and expect that growth to 
happen, but if you at least try,

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put an effort and give yourself 
time, you will see slow growth 

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in healing. 
Time allows for reflection, 

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perspective, and learning. 
You can reflect and learn about 

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who you are and what you need to
heal. 

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When we consider or think about 
healing often we think we need 

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to have it all figured out 
before we start to get better. 

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But that isn't true. 
We have to just dive head 1st 

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and try and try and throw 
ourselves at it over and over 

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again and we may not see 
progress right away. 

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Think about how plants grow day 
by day. 

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They get a little bit stronger, 
but the progress isn't always 

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visible at first. 
You'll develop new coping 

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mechanisms as you learn more 
about yourself. 

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If you allow yourself to feel 
your feelings, you'll learn what

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makes you feel better. 
What once felt overwhelming 

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becomes more manageable with 
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As you continue to take care of 
yourself, giving yourself that 

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space to understand your ability
to handle difficult emotions 

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grows. 
Time is crucial to your mental 

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health growth, but you have to 
spend that time in a productive 

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way by taking care of you. 
Things don't just get better 

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instantly, but with time. 
Through consistent care for 

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yourself, you'll slowly unlock 
coping mechanisms and knowledge 

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about your mental health. 
You'll find it easier to hold 

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on, and then one day it won't be
so bad. 

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For some, it never truly goes 
away. 

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You just have to be nice to 
yourself until it gets easier. 

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So lean on others. 
Stick to a routine to reach out 

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to professionals, reach out to 
friends, be kind to yourself. 

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So does it ever get better? 
The answer is yes, but maybe not

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in the way we sometimes hope. 
It doesn't happen overnight, but

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you will one day wake up and 
find it all a little bit easier,

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a little more manageable. 
The dark days may not disappear 

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entirely, but they will get 
easier to navigate. 

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If you are struggling right now,
it's OK to take it one day at a 

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time. 
You're doing better than you 

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think, and by showing up for 
yourself every day with a small 

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act of care or love, you're 
already on the path of healing. 

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Keep going, keep taking care of 
yourself, and let time do its 

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work. 
It will get better. 

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There's no magical cure. 
Give yourself space and time 

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until it gets a little bit 
easier. 

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That's going to wrap it up for 
today's episode. 

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Thank you so much for tuning in.
If you need help feeling your 

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feelings, you should check out 
my music on all platforms under 

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the name of Ethan Jewel and I 
almost guarantee it'll make you 

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cry. 
Also shoot me a message on my 

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Instagram at Jewel Boy with an I
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you thought about today's 
episode. 

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So thank you so much for being 
here, Thank you for 

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understanding that it will get 
better. 

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And as always, thank you for 
feeling your feelings. 

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I'll see you next time.