If you haven't yet heard her message to all women, you're
missing out. I was raised by a single mother,
I went to college, I got my degree in statistics which is a
male dominated field, I got my job at Visa and at the age of 24
I bought my home in the Bay Area which is an expensive market to
purchase a home. It just proves to you that I
worked my butt off to get what I had.
After I bought my home, I proceeded to remodel the home
with my own two hands using YouTube tutorials.
So like literally I did not need a man, I did the manly work.
I scraped to popcorn ceiling, I put in a full laminate floor.
I learned how to use a table saw and not cut off all 10 fingers,
right. So like I proved it.
I did the thing. I proved that I can live this
life without a man. And I'm telling you it is not
fulfilling because at the end of the day, I was sitting in an
empty home absolutely miserable that I was alone.
So I need a man to fulfill my greatest potential in life,
which is to become a mother. There is nothing that's better
than becoming a mother and having that legacy.
And when you find the right man who wants to have that legacy as
well, you will want to submit to him.
A couple of weeks ago, I made a video on five major differences
between an alpha male and a man of God.
And in the video I said, listen guys, I've done these videos in
the past and I'm perhaps not the best person in the world to talk
about these things. I kind of have a picture of mind
of certain Christian men that I think, oh, they do a great
message on this. And I think, is this really my
calling? But I did it anyway.
And I said I might even delete the video at the end, but all of
you said don't delete the video. And then I asked you, would you
like me to do a video about what we should be looking for in the
Bible of what a woman of God is, who is a woman of God as the
scripture describes it. And I kind of regret making that
statement because the comments section was basically unanimous.
And please make this video, Joe. So I have done it today.
This is I've done some studying. But again, I'm just a little bit
wary thinking, I hope what I'm saying doesn't get
misunderstood. And it's very difficult to, to
pitch it to Christians because on one side you've got this idea
of in Christianity of the trad wife, you know, the traditional
wife who stays at home, looks after her children.
That's one side. But then on the other side, at
the other extreme, you've got the Christian women who like
what we're talking about the the boss girl, the boss babe who is
very independent and she does all of this and she has her own
ways. So let's get to work, shall we?
Now, if you've never been on this channel before, this is my
coffee channel. It's very different to my main
channel, Off the Curve Ministries.
And we just basically drink coffee together and look at
Bible verses. It's really that simple.
And some of you might have noticed in both the channels
I've got these new mugs, I have to keep emphasizing this.
I know you trust me anyway, but this isn't a money making
scheme. It's literally just a way so
that, you know, you can remember to pray for the ministry and
just kind of, I just think it's kind of cool because some
friends made this for me and people are asking can I get one
of them? So we are actually selling them
at the moment if you want to get a copy.
And we've also asked people if you want to take a picture of
yourself with the mug. I'll send you an e-mail once you
buy the mug. If you take a picture of it,
we'll put you up here in the channel.
And one brother even did a very short video.
So even if you do a video, we'll put you here at this moment now
on the channel. Hey, Joe, I got your cup.
Coffee day is pretty good in this cup.
OK, have you got your coffee or your hot beverage ready?
Well, let's talk about it now. Just before I come to the first
difference, I think it is important for you all to know.
Again, please don't misunderstand me when we're
talking about a boss babe, a boss girl, an alpha female,
somebody who's very independent. They have their own business.
They they run things themselves. They're kind of like, I don't
need any man. I can do everything myself.
Just please do know I am by no way saying that Christian women
cannot work. Here's a little secret for you.
For many years, Emma funded my ministry when I was just doing
St. preaching and working at churches.
We didn't have enough money to to bring home the bacon if you
like. And Emma, you know, worked very
hard in a school and provided for us if you like.
Even though I did have a salary, it just wasn't enough to to
cover everything. So please don't ever think that
that's what I'm trying to say. You know, this is 1 where you
know, there is a stereotype we get in our heads.
And actually I'm going to share some verses of you of women of
women who worked in the Bible. If you've got a Bible there, you
will need Proverbs 31 open because we're looking at that an
awful lot today. Proverbs 31, verse 16, it says
she considers a field and buys it from her prophets.
She plants a vineyard. And then verse 24, it says she
makes linen garments and sells them and supplies sashes for the
merchants. So in other words, this woman
has got a business. She's an entrepreneur, if you
like. She's very industrious.
She is making money, you know, and she's providing for a
family. We've also got Lydia in the
Bible who was a seller of purple cloth which was very expensive.
So yes, women can work. Hope that's clear.
And me and Emma have even chatted about if there comes
another point in my ministry, would she go back to work?
And we both say of course. And there's some women who are
listening to me right now who are struggling massively.
Perhaps you are a single parent or you know your husband's not
well or all kinds of different things and you're working hard.
I want you to know you are doing a wonderful work for the Lord
God and He is pleased all of your labours.
OK difference #1 The difference from the worldly woman, the boss
girl, the alpha female versus the the godly woman is there is
a real emphasis on the external. Again, let's look at Proverbs 31
verse 30. If there are any men listening
to me right now, which I expect there will be, you need to
memorise this verse. If you're single and you haven't
got a wife yet, this should be your verse that you should dwell
on. Charm is deceitful and beauty is
passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
So here the Proverbs is saying charm is deceitful.
You know, there there are women of the world out there who are
charming, they're funny, they can capture, but it's all the
front. You know that once they've got
you where they want, once they've got you wrapped around
their finger, they soon change. And then there are also women
who are very beautiful. It says here beauty is passing,
meaning it's fleeting. It's here today, but it's gone
tomorrow. You know, all of us, men and
women alike, we look in the mirror and every day we're
getting deeper wrinkles. If you're a man, you're losing
more hair. The greys are coming through.
You know, we're just, we're drooping.
We're all getting older, aren't we?
Let's be honest. You know, I remember hearing a
comedian, an older comedian saying when he walks down the
stairs, it's like a musical instrument.
It's like, you know, all the creaks and everything that you
can hear as you're going down. We're all getting older, aren't?
We're all winding down. But I actually heard somewhere,
and again, I should have looked at the original Hebrew before I
got on video, but I think the word might be hebel.
Hebel, or the word that means common, it's vain.
The original word, in other words, it's beauties everywhere.
And it's kind of true, isn't it? You know, everywhere you look
because of makeup, because of filters on, on, on Snapchats or
on Instagram, because of all the technology and all the things we
can do right now, beauty is really common.
You know, it's it's not like it was 100 years ago where you you
had one woman and she you know, she turned heads now now
everyone can be beautiful. Every man can be, you know, in
one sense beautiful and you're handsome and you're saying,
well, Joe, come on, tell me what the secrets are.
I don't know how to be and I don't know the secrets ever, as
you can see right before you. But the point is this, the Bible
saying, don't focus on those things.
It says, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
That's what the godly woman does.
She fears God. She doesn't fear man.
She doesn't fear the approval of of those men who will say, oh,
you look great today, or those other women at work that she
might be trying to be competitive with her at school.
She doesn't worry about all of that, She fears God.
My greatest priority is to know God deeply, inwardly, and to
fear him as my maker. Now I know exactly what some of
you are thinking you're saying, Joe, it's all very easy for you
to say that. But here I am as a single woman
and I'm trying to attract another man.
I'm trying to meet the right man.
But it does seem like all these Christian men is all they care
about is looks. You know, some of them, I go on
their Instagram and I see who they're following and it's it's
just all worldly women. Well, if that's you, sister, I
just want to say this. They're not the men that you
want to to find. Do you know something that I
think a godly Christian man would find very attractive?
I think he'd look at your Bible and you'd see how well worn is
your Bible. Some people are a bit sensitive
about this, but I personally quite like it when there's lots
of highlighters in the Bible where you've highlighted
passages or there's a passage that's well thumbed or there's
notes and you scribbling those. I think that's something that
women should be concentrating more on is how how many notes,
how much time are they spending in the words rather how much
time do they have to spend looking in the mirror?
I think, you know, this verse is coming on any topic about beauty
and it's one Peter chapter 3, One Peter chapter 3, verses 3 to
4. Do not let your adornment be
merely outward arranging the hair, wearing gold or putting on
fine apparel. Rather, let it be the hidden
person of the heart with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle
and quiet spirit which is very precious in the sight of God.
So hear the Bible saying, you know, don't worry about your
outward appearance and your hair and how you're arranging things
and your jewellery, but concentrate on a gentle and
quiet spirit. Now again, this could be so
easily misinterpreted. You know, it is the Bible saying
here, women cannot have opinions.
Women must just be silent. They must never speak.
They must be docile and passive. No, it's not saying that, but it
is given when we look at the Proverbs and we look at
Scripture in the whole weight of it, it's saying the woman of
God, she isn't chaotic, she isn't loud and outspoken.
She she isn't wild and unruly, just shouting all the time.
She's got a gentleness about her.
She cares. And I'm sure we can all think of
examples of that. Perhaps a mother, a grandmother,
a lady at church who's just, they're gentle, they're quiet,
they've still got a mouth, they're still very well spoken.
Some of them very confident, confident not in themselves
though, confident in God, but they're so used, so precious by
the Lord God. But again, I just want to before
we move on, I just do want to emphasize this again, I know
some of you'll be saying, but these Christian men is, it's all
they seem to care about is, is the outward appearance.
Well, I could be wrong about this, but from my friends and
from myself, I'll admit, I think when you are a younger man in
your early 20's, the first thing you do look for is looks.
I'm not saying it's right, it's just that the way men think
sometimes, and I do believe you've got to be attracted to
every, the whole part of if you're a man or a woman, you
want to be attracted to your spouse.
But I do believe as you get older and the right men and the
right men, even as young men will see the biggest thing is
godly character that just shines through when there is a woman
who truly knows the Lord, when there is a woman who prays, you
know, a woman who prays to the Lord Jesus and knows Jesus
intimately. That can't be faked that that
that is more precious than Ruby's, more precious than
whoever is Miss Universe. It is so beautiful to see a
woman who who loves the Lord. And even in older women, you see
it, don't you, as those women in prayer meetings and they pray to
God. It's, it's a beautiful thing
that just speaks volumes to all of God's people #2 the boss
girl, the alpha female, she's very loud.
Now I want to talk about this a bit more, just so that you
understood where I was coming from when I read 1 Peter chapter
3. So I've got another proverb
here. As I said, when you look at the
whole of Scripture, it all, it all matches together.
It all marries together. So Proverbs 7 verse 11, she was
loud and rebellious. Her feet would not stay at home.
You see here we see in the Bible, it's talking about a
woman who is a very sinful woman.
If you read all the Proverbs 7 and it says she's loud, she's
unruly, her feet are never at home, she's always out of the
house. There's a restlessness there.
You know, that's what the women of the world, they, they, they
can't stay at home. They don't want to be at home.
They don't want to build a home and a family.
They want to get out. They want to have fun.
They want everyone to hear their opinions and, and what they've
got to say. I think that's what it's trying
to say. Also, when it says loud, I think
it implies she's angry as well. She has no restraint over a
spirit. And again, if you read Proverbs
7, she's lacking self-control in one area.
You'll often find somebody's lacking self-control in other
areas, whether that is with their temper or whether it is
with, you know, gossip or even, you know, greed.
It shows us that as men and women, we really must be
disciplined. Just tell me in the comments
section if I'm sharing too many Bible verses with you.
But I just these, these have all just come to me.
So just look at Proverbs 11 verse 22, because this is
something that I really do want to share with you as a ring of
gold in a swine snout. So is a lovely woman who lacks
discretion. Now that is one of the most, I
don't know what to say, feisty Bible verses out there.
And when I was younger, I asked my dad, what does it mean?
I don't understand what it means.
You know, just like a jewel in a pig snout is so a beautiful
woman without discretion. And he said, now I'm not going
to name the name because I don't think that's the best thing, but
there was a judge on Britain's Got Talent and he said, you
know, on the outer appearance, she's very, very beautiful.
But the way she speaks to those contestants, it's just not kind
at all. She can say some really mean,
some really cruel things, and that's what the Scripture's
saying here. You know, you've got this
beautiful jewel, this beautiful Pearl, this loveliness, and you
put it on a pig snout. And that's what the Bible's
saying is if God has graced a woman with physical beauty, but
she doesn't have that inner discretion, that inner kindness,
that inner love, that peace. It's just like that picture just
so it's so I'm fitting. It doesn't look right.
It shouldn't be there at this point.
I would like to share this with you, my wife.
As I said, this isn't about women not having opinions
because I am abundantly grateful for my wife's strong opinions.
You know, anyone who's met my wife will know she's a confident
woman. And I'm not in any way saying
you can't be confident in a woman of God.
That's not my message at all here, as I think you've been
able to see as we're looking at Scripture.
But my wife's opinions have helped me so, so much.
You know, when they say behind every great man is an even
better woman or whatever the phrase is.
I'm not saying I'm a great man in any way.
But you know, some of the graces that you might see in me have
definitely come from Emma. And we're on, we're at this
stage in our marriage now after 10 years where we can kind of we
know exactly what each other are thinking.
So last Sunday I was preaching at church and I said my first,
my first head in my first sort of section of my message.
I said, Emma, well, she gave me her opinion.
She said, Yep, you rushed that too much, Joe.
You were worrying about something and you had your hands
in your pockets too much. And I'm like, these are all the
exact same things I was thinking in my own head.
And she just knew. And many times she's just helped
me in various ways where I've had maybe a dispute or an
argument or a situation. She said, Joe, no, you cannot
say that. Or Joe, you cannot do this with
my YouTube channel. Joe, you need you.
You can't put that online. She has helped me and put sense
into me where I've needed the most.
And I'd like to think hopefully I've been able to do the same
for her. That's why it's so beautiful
when you're married. You've got to help me.
Who? Who helps you?
But I will say this, there is something I do say to Emma
sometimes when we're in an argument.
Emma will have some really good points, really good points where
it's like she's flattened me. You know, I've got nothing to
say here. You were 100% right.
But I will end up arguing back with her because I'll say this,
Emma, it's not what you said that's wrong, but it's the way
you say it. And I don't know if you're
married or if you're single, but you live at home or whatever.
Just just bear that in mind. We love men, love to hear their
wives opinions. I really do think most men would
agree. Hit the like button or let me
know in the comments section if you've been helped by your wife.
But it's knowing the way you speak.
Be gentle, be gracious, have discretion when you share these
things and listen as as it could be easily applied before we get
a woman right in the comments section.
Of course, it could be the opposite way round.
Men, you might have a great opinion, you might have a great
pointer to your wife or to someone in your work, but it's
the way you say it. Let that be a lesson for us all
#3 the worldly woman promotes sin.
The woman of gods is very different to the worldly woman.
She isn't interested in getting involved with gossip.
But the worldly woman says, come on, what is the gossip?
Tell us, have a bit of fun. The the woman of gods.
She doesn't let bitterness eat her up.
Someone wronged her all those years ago.
She, it may still be painful to her, but she slowly learns to
forgive the woman of God. She doesn't lose her temper.
She doesn't fly off the handle over the slightest thing, but
she knows to how to hold her tongue.
She knows how to control her spirit and doesn't get angry.
The woman of God, she's modest. She understands.
OK, yes, when men look, it is their responsibility.
Men shouldn't be looking. Men shouldn't be.
Men should be careful with their eyes.
But she also knows that woe to the ones by which the sin comes.
Woe if I've made anyone to stumble by the way I've dressed
The woman of God. She doesn't lie.
She doesn't let her friends, you know, like, tell her, come on,
it doesn't matter. Your husband will never know
where you've been tonight. Just just come out with us.
But the worldly woman does. The worldly woman's jealous.
She's competitive. She always wants to be the best,
to be the top dog, the alpha female.
But the woman of God says, no, I'm happy as long as God is
happy with me. I've only got my eyes on the
judge. We're back in Proverbs.
Proverbs 7, verse 21. With her enticing speech, she
caused him to yield. With her flattering lips, she
seduced him. Now, when I talk about the
worldly woman promoting sin, this is actually very different
from the the whole kind of boss girl mentality.
I'm thinking of a particular kind of woman.
And actually I've got a very specific example, but I'm not
going to name her. If you know she is, you know she
is. If you don't, I'd rather protect
you from knowing about this woman.
And I wouldn't want to give her any more exposure, even though
she's got way more viewers than than me.
But there is a woman online, maybe in the last 12 months, but
particularly the last few months, who's gone very viral
and she's just making great ghosts of sin where she, she
literally is the, the, the modern day picture of this woman
in Proverbs 7 who, who her feet lead down to death.
You know, she, she has many guests there and they eat and
dine with her. And those guests were strong
men. But those men are going down to
Sheol. They're going down to the grave.
And this woman, she'll post things online about her ventures
of how she's done this and she promotes sin as if saying we're
now in 2025, this is what the modern woman should be like.
We've got freedom now. No more judgement.
All this, you know, all this tolerance, it's wonderful.
And I can be who I want to be and I can make lots of money and
I can make all of these men, you know, leave their their their
wives, leave their girlfriends, you know, make a shame of their
children, make a shame inside their hearts.
And she makes it all seem like it's fun, but she doesn't
realise that she will reap what she sows and she does.
She doesn't realise that God is watching old friends.
Maybe, just maybe there's an unbeliever listening to me right
now. And you may have some of that
mindset. Just know God will not be
mocked. And if I could challenge all of
us, you know, if you're a young man and you're attracted to
these things, or if you're a young woman and you are tempted
by these things, please read Proverbs 7 and know a woman of
God. She's the one who will be
praised. She's the one who will leave a
lasting impression because this woman and the women of this
world who promote sin, they'll soon be forgotten.
As we said, beauty is fleeting. What will this woman be like in
30 years time when there's a younger model on the scene?
Even 10 years time when all these men have?
I don't want to speak. It's shameful to speak of these
things publicly, but you understand what I'm trying to
say. We're all ticking by, but the
soul lives on and on and on. And that's why you'd be very
wise to honour Jesus with your youth #4 the boss girl, the boss
babe. Her identity is built in her
possessions, her car, her designer handbag, her money, the
holiday she goes on the vacation, she goes on the
people. And she spends time with the,
the boyfriend that she has who's also, you know, a trophy really
muscly. And he's got lots of money.
That's often what these women of the world build themselves into.
That's what they they hold highly in great esteem is their
identity is in wealth and and possessions.
But let's contrast that with the woman of God.
Look at Proverbs and 14 verse one with me.
The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down
with her hands. I find that and very, very
challenging verse there. So here you are.
You've got this wise woman and she builds a house.
She cares about her children. You know, you marry it together
with Proverbs 31. She dresses her children in the
finest clothing. She cares for them.
You know, for those of you who homeschool your children, I
could get emotional when I think of this, but mothers who, who,
who, who spend time teaching their children, educating them,
you know, teaching them how to learn and write, You know,
mothers who nurse their own children with their, with their
breasts. They, they feed their own
children. They, they love them.
They, they just build that house.
They care for their husband. They, they, they look at what
meals are going to be the best meals that the husband's going
to like, but also he's going to nourish his body.
These are women that, that, that literally make the world go
round and they, they do a wonderful job and they build the
home. But then you've got this, this
woman on the flip side, who tears it down.
Perhaps she's got a home, but she's always nagging and she's
always getting angry at her husband.
Or perhaps you know, her children.
She doesn't spend time with her children.
She just sends them off or puts them in front of their iPad or
on a phone and doesn't doesn't do her responsibility.
She's always out of the house or she causes so much friction or
arguments. If she's not married in the
home, she tears it down with her own hands.
That's what the woman of the world does.
But the woman of God, she, she builds that home and the woman
of God, she doesn't need her identity and possessions and
money and success and how it looks, you know, keeping up with
the Joneses having this beautiful house.
Well, let's look at Proverbs 31 and verse 28.
Well, firstly, just remember this as we're turning there.
Proverbs 31 verse 28, Just know her identity isn't in the Lord
Jesus Christ. As that song goes, I am who you
say I am and we believe that who who does Jesus say I am?
He says I'm forgiven, I'm restored, I'm loved, I'm special
because Christ died for me. I'm made in the image of God and
the woman of God finds her identity in those things.
OK, Proverbs 31, verse 28, it says her children rise up and
call her blessed. Her husband also and he praises
her. There's so much I could say on
this. The woman of God, her children,
that is her reward at the end. If you're a mother, if you're a
wife, when you've inputted into those children, when the rest of
the world have been going on fancy holidays, when the rest of
the world have been living for themselves.
This boss girl's built her business and she's made herself
amazing. And she said I don't need any
man, I don't need any any children.
I'm just going to be for myself. OK, that might be her reward.
But the woman of God, the mother of God, she's her reward is her
children. When they say, mum, thank you
for raising me in a godly home, thank you for telling me about
Jesus. Thank you for setting a godly
example to me. And the husband, he praises her.
He realises what a gem he's got in, in his wife who really does
honour him and love him and support him and helps him to be
the best man that he could be. But if you are a husband and you
have got a great wife or you know, you've got a wife who
loves you, you know, I think we, we'd all say none of us are
great husbands. None of us are great wives.
We, we're, you know, we've all, none of us are perfect.
But you know you, if your wife loves you and she's doing her
best, tell her, praise her like this verse says, if you're a
child and, and you've grown up, or if you are just a young
person listening and your mother looks after you, she's loved
you. She's helped you as much as she
could. Tell her, bless her, praise her,
thank God for her in your prayers and and let her know
that you care. It's very sad when we grow up,
we go to university and then we lose touch of our parents.
I think one of the most precious things is when you can become
best friends with your parents. As you get older, don't forget
your parents who imputed so much into you, made such great
sacrifices. They could have done so many
things, made so much more money, set up so many side businesses,
but they sacrificed so much because you mattered to them.
Make sure that's the same. I would like to just apologize
at this point before we get to #5 I do know that this has been
very lopsided. It's been very aimed at mothers
and wives, and I'm sorry about that.
I will have to try and do another message, particularly
for single women, but we are going to come to that just right
now in #5 So the fifth thing, the 5th difference between the
woman of God and the boss babe is self-reliance.
It's this idea. It's me first.
No one else is going to care about me.
So I'm going to look after myself.
It's all about me, me, me. Let me turn to second Timothy
chapter 3, Second Timothy chapter 3, and verses one to
two. Now, this is aimed at both men
and women. So we know the context, but know
this, that in the last days, perilous times will come, for
men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money,
boasters, proud. You see, there is a generation,
and I think we've all seen it before, of people who are lovers
of themselves. They're lovers of selfie.
They're always taking pictures of themselves.
They love the way they look in the mirror or they stare at
themselves in the mirror and they're so vain.
And the Bible says that this is going to come in the end times.
We're going to see more and more people who love themselves.
And that's really what the boss babe epitomizes.
It's about me. Look at me.
I love myself. It's about me and my Kingdom.
But the woman of God isn't like that.
The one of God isn't always taking selfies, isn't always
looking in the mirror. And again, just no, it's,
there's nothing wrong with taking the odd selfie.
I'm not saying that, you know, it's OK to to take pictures of
yourself, but just make sure there's balance there.
Make sure that you are making sure that God is on the throne
and you're not trying to to build your own Kingdom.
And also there's something that I think we've also got from the
world. And it's this sense of I'm going
to love myself first. I can't love anyone unless I
love myself first. What absolute nonsense.
Where, where have we got that from?
That's nowhere in the, in the Scripture.
The Bible tells us to deny ourselves.
The Bible tells us to to that we are to to lay down our lives
just as Christ laid down his life.
We're told to to, you know, to take up our cross.
Daily we see that the perfect act of love when the Lord Jesus
Christ didn't love himself first.
No, he he'd made himself nothing and went to the cross.
That's what real love looks like.
So don't think you have to love yourselves to to be able to love
other people. No, women, let me just sort of
finish with this final verse and we are going to have to finish
in Proverbs 31. As you can see, it's just such a
precious, precious chapter of Scripture.
Proverbs 31 verse 29. Many daughters have done well,
but you excel them or you see whether you're single or not.
I said I was going to try and share a little bit more with
single women. Whether you're single or not,
you're a daughter. You had a mother, you had a
father. Perhaps you don't know your
mother or your father, but you are a daughter and if you're
saved, you're a daughter of the most high God.
And the question needs to be asked, are you excelling?
Are you excelling for the Lord Jesus?
Are you in the word? Are you praying?
Are you using your gifts that God has given you not to advance
your own Kingdom, but to advance his Kingdom?
That's what's so vital. And just to say again, if there
is anyone who's single listening, I actually do get the
whole idea of being a boss babe in one reality, because some of
you, you've had fathers who I've just not acted like fathers in
any way, shape or form. You maybe have been orphans.
You've had no parents or you've had men who you trusted.
You trusted them with everything.
You couldn't have given them more.
You tried this whole way of of being this, you know, gentle and
dare I say submissive woman. You tried all of these things
and yet where did it get you? He went off with another woman
or he left you and you think, well, I'm just going to serve
myself because that's all you can trust at the end of the day.
If that's you, please hear me. I understand.
I don't want to diminish from the pain you're going through
and and know this. There is absolutely nothing
wrong with being single and saying the Lord is the only man
for me, the Lord Jesus, he is the only man for me.
There is nothing wrong with that.
That's a wonderful thing. So you can give yourself, what I
am saying is be that daughter who excels, that daughter who
gives herself up for the church, who spreads the gospel, who
reads the Word, who is caring, who uses her gifts not for
herself, but to extend the name of the Lord Jesus Christ.
That's the message here. Come on then tell me how I did.
Did I make a complete mess of it?
One person actually in the previous video said why is it
always men who are giving messages on how a woman of God
should be? And I completely understand that
and that's why I was very hesitant to do this message
today. But tell me, what did you think?
Again, as I've said with with any video, if I get it wrong
because I'm just a man with clay feet, all men have clay feet, I
am more than happy to to delete the video.
So if enough of you tell me this was nonsense, Joe, you missed
the mark here. I'm okay with that.
I know some of you say, oh, you're hiding away from the
truth for you. I'm just saying, I'm saying I
can get things wrong and I know that for a fact, mainly because
of my wife showing me things and just older godly men showing me
things. So anyway, it's just lovely to
be accountable. It's lovely to have these
coffees with you. And I would just very briefly as
a little diversion, I really would value a little bit of
prayer at the moment, just feeling a bit the whole thing
with our daughter Anna, as you know, who was sadly lost in in
February. It's kind of caught with me a
little bit in a different way. And I'm just, I did a lot of, if
you've seen my off the curb channel, I did a lot of videos
kind of finding relief in activity.
And now I'm just getting a bit tired and struggling with
motivation. I'm feeling resources are, are
wearing out time and yeah, other things.
I'm just looking at what's going to happen in the future and
those kind of things. So just please do pray for us.
Please pray for this ministry. And you know, I was meant to do
Zoom meetings every month with a newsletter.
And I'm sorry, just because of time.
It's, it's, I'm really struggling to find that time.
And then on top of that to do Evangelism St. evangelism every
week. I do that every week.
And that's a big priority. And then we've got, of course,
we've got this coffee channel, we've got the off the Curb
channel shorts, we've got a Spanish channel that we try to
oversee. There's a lot going on and a lot
of it is me kind of doing it all in the background.
So just pray for me, pray for my family, especially because I
want to be there and be a man of gods and support my wife and my
children through this time. And just, yeah, I just value
your prayers. I really do need them.
And if anyone else has got some prayer requests, just leave it
in the comments section. Thank you so much.
I really did enjoy this coffee. God bless you all.