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If you haven't yet heard her 
message to all women, you're 

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missing out. 
I was raised by a single mother,

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I went to college, I got my 
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male dominated field, I got my 
job at Visa and at the age of 24

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I bought my home in the Bay Area
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purchase a home. 
It just proves to you that I 

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worked my butt off to get what I
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After I bought my home, I 
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with my own two hands using 
YouTube tutorials. 

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So like literally I did not need
a man, I did the manly work. 

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I scraped to popcorn ceiling, I 
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I learned how to use a table saw
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right. 
So like I proved it. 

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I did the thing. 
I proved that I can live this 

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life without a man. 
And I'm telling you it is not 

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fulfilling because at the end of
the day, I was sitting in an 

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empty home absolutely miserable 
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So I need a man to fulfill my 
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which is to become a mother. 
There is nothing that's better 

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than becoming a mother and 
having that legacy. 

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And when you find the right man 
who wants to have that legacy as

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well, you will want to submit to
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A couple of weeks ago, I made a 
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between an alpha male and a man 
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And in the video I said, listen 
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the past and I'm perhaps not the
best person in the world to talk

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about these things. 
I kind of have a picture of mind

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of certain Christian men that I 
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message on this. 
And I think, is this really my 

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calling? 
But I did it anyway. 

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And I said I might even delete 
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you said don't delete the video.
And then I asked you, would you 

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like me to do a video about what
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Bible of what a woman of God is,
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scripture describes it. 
And I kind of regret making that

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statement because the comments 
section was basically unanimous.

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And please make this video, Joe.
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This is I've done some studying.
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wary thinking, I hope what I'm 
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misunderstood. 
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pitch it to Christians because 
on one side you've got this idea

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of in Christianity of the trad 
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wife who stays at home, looks 
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That's one side. 
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the other extreme, you've got 
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what we're talking about the the
boss girl, the boss babe who is 

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very independent and she does 
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So let's get to work, shall we? 

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Now, if you've never been on 
this channel before, this is my 

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coffee channel. 
It's very different to my main 

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channel, Off the Curve 
Ministries. 

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And we just basically drink 
coffee together and look at 

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Bible verses. 
It's really that simple. 

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And some of you might have 
noticed in both the channels 

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I've got these new mugs, I have 
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I know you trust me anyway, but 
this isn't a money making 

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scheme. 
It's literally just a way so 

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that, you know, you can remember
to pray for the ministry and 

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just kind of, I just think it's 
kind of cool because some 

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friends made this for me and 
people are asking can I get one 

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of them? 
So we are actually selling them 

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at the moment if you want to get
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And we've also asked people if 
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yourself with the mug. 
I'll send you an e-mail once you

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buy the mug. 
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we'll put you up here in the 
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And one brother even did a very 
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So even if you do a video, we'll
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on the channel. 
Hey, Joe, I got your cup. 

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Coffee day is pretty good in 
this cup. 

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OK, have you got your coffee or 
your hot beverage ready? 

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Well, let's talk about it now. 
Just before I come to the first 

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difference, I think it is 
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Again, please don't 
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talking about a boss babe, a 
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somebody who's very independent.
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They they run things themselves.
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Just please do know I am by no 
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For many years, Emma funded my 
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We didn't have enough money to 
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like. 
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hard in a school and provided 
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Even though I did have a salary,
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cover everything. 
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that's what I'm trying to say. 
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know, there is a stereotype we 
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And actually I'm going to share 
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women who worked in the Bible. 
If you've got a Bible there, you

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will need Proverbs 31 open 
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awful lot today. 
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she considers a field and buys 
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She plants a vineyard. 
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makes linen garments and sells 
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merchants. 
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has got a business. 
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So yes, women can work. 
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And me and Emma have even 
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another point in my ministry, 
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And we both say of course. 
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listening to me right now who 
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Perhaps you are a single parent 
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well or all kinds of different 
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I want you to know you are doing
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God and He is pleased all of 
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OK difference #1 The difference 
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girl, the alpha female versus 
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a real emphasis on the external.
Again, let's look at Proverbs 31

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verse 30. 
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to me right now, which I expect 
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memorise this verse. 
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got a wife yet, this should be 
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on. 
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passing, but a woman who fears 
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So here the Proverbs is saying 
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You know, there there are women 
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charming, they're funny, they 
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front. 
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you where they want, once 
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their finger, they soon change. 
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who are very beautiful. 
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meaning it's fleeting. 
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tomorrow. 
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women alike, we look in the 
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getting deeper wrinkles. 
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It's like, you know, all the 
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can hear as you're going down. 
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We're all winding down. 
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and again, I should have looked 
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got on video, but I think the 
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Hebel, or the word that means 
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The original word, in other 
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And it's kind of true, isn't it?
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because of makeup, because of 
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on Instagram, because of all the
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You know, it's it's not like it 
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had one woman and she you know, 
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everyone can be beautiful. 
Every man can be, you know, in 

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one sense beautiful and you're 
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well, Joe, come on, tell me what
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I don't know how to be and I 
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you can see right before you. 
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saying, don't focus on those 
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It says, but a woman who fears 
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That's what the godly woman 
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She fears God. 
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She doesn't fear the approval of
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you look great today, or those 
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She doesn't worry about all of 
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My greatest priority is to know 
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fear him as my maker. 
Now I know exactly what some of 

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you are thinking you're saying, 
Joe, it's all very easy for you 

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to say that. 
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I'm trying to meet the right 
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But it does seem like all these 
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about is looks. 
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their Instagram and I see who 
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just all worldly women. 
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just want to say this. 
They're not the men that you 

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want to to find. 
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I think he'd look at your Bible 
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your Bible. 
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about this, but I personally 
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of highlighters in the Bible 
where you've highlighted 

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passages or there's a passage 
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notes and you scribbling those. 
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women should be concentrating 
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how much time are they spending 
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I think, you know, this verse is
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and it's one Peter chapter 3, 
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merely outward arranging the 
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fine apparel. 
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person of the heart with the 
incorruptible beauty of a gentle

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and quiet spirit which is very 
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So hear the Bible saying, you 
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outward appearance and your hair
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and your jewellery, but 
concentrate on a gentle and 

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quiet spirit. 
Now again, this could be so 

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easily misinterpreted. 
You know, it is the Bible saying

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here, women cannot have 
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Women must just be silent. 
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They must be docile and passive.
No, it's not saying that, but it

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is given when we look at the 
Proverbs and we look at 

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Scripture in the whole weight of
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God, she isn't chaotic, she 
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She she isn't wild and unruly, 
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She's got a gentleness about 
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She cares. 
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examples of that. 
Perhaps a mother, a grandmother,

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a lady at church who's just, 
they're gentle, they're quiet, 

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they've still got a mouth, 
they're still very well spoken. 

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Some of them very confident, 
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though, confident in God, but 
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the Lord God. 
But again, I just want to before

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we move on, I just do want to 
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some of you'll be saying, but 
these Christian men is, it's all

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they seem to care about is, is 
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Well, I could be wrong about 
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from myself, I'll admit, I think
when you are a younger man in 

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your early 20's, the first thing
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I'm not saying it's right, it's 
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sometimes, and I do believe 
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every, the whole part of if 
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godly character that just shines
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who truly knows the Lord, when 
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know, a woman who prays to the 
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intimately. 
That can't be faked that that 

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that is more precious than 
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whoever is Miss Universe. 
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woman who who loves the Lord. 
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it, don't you, as those women in
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that just speaks volumes to all 
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girl, the alpha female, she's 
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Now I want to talk about this a 
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understood where I was coming 
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It all marries together. 
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loud and rebellious. 
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You see here we see in the 
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woman who is a very sinful 
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If you read all the Proverbs 7 
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unruly, her feet are never at 
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You know, that's what the women 
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can't stay at home. 
They don't want to be at home. 

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They don't want to build a home 
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They want to get out. 
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They want everyone to hear their
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it implies she's angry as well. 
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with, you know, gossip or even, 
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It shows us that as men and 
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disciplined. 
Just tell me in the comments 

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section if I'm sharing too many 
Bible verses with you. 

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But I just these, these have all
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So just look at Proverbs 11 
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something that I really do want 
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gold in a swine snout. 
So is a lovely woman who lacks 

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discretion. 
Now that is one of the most, I 

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don't know what to say, feisty 
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And when I was younger, I asked 
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I don't understand what it 
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You know, just like a jewel in a
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woman without discretion. 
And he said, now I'm not going 

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to name the name because I don't
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there was a judge on Britain's 
Got Talent and he said, you 

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know, on the outer appearance, 
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But the way she speaks to those 
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at all. 
She can say some really mean, 

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some really cruel things, and 
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saying here. 
You know, you've got this 

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beautiful jewel, this beautiful 
Pearl, this loveliness, and you 

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put it on a pig snout. 
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saying is if God has graced a 
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she doesn't have that inner 
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that inner love, that peace. 
It's just like that picture just

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so it's so I'm fitting. 
It doesn't look right. 

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It shouldn't be there at this 
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I would like to share this with 
you, my wife. 

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As I said, this isn't about 
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because I am abundantly grateful
for my wife's strong opinions. 

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You know, anyone who's met my 
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woman. 
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you can't be confident in a 
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That's not my message at all 
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able to see as we're looking at 
Scripture. 

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But my wife's opinions have 
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You know, when they say behind 
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better woman or whatever the 
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I'm not saying I'm a great man 
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But you know, some of the graces
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definitely come from Emma. 
And we're on, we're at this 

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stage in our marriage now after 
10 years where we can kind of we

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know exactly what each other are
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So last Sunday I was preaching 
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my first head in my first sort 
of section of my message. 

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I said, Emma, well, she gave me 
her opinion. 

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She said, Yep, you rushed that 
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You were worrying about 
something and you had your hands

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in your pockets too much. 
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exact same things I was thinking
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And she just knew. 
And many times she's just helped

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me in various ways where I've 
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argument or a situation. 
She said, Joe, no, you cannot 

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say that. 
Or Joe, you cannot do this with 

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my YouTube channel. 
Joe, you need you. 

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You can't put that online. 
She has helped me and put sense 

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into me where I've needed the 
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And I'd like to think hopefully 
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for her. 
That's why it's so beautiful 

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when you're married. 
You've got to help me. 

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Who? 
Who helps you? 

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But I will say this, there is 
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sometimes when we're in an 
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Emma will have some really good 
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it's like she's flattened me. 
You know, I've got nothing to 

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say here. 
You were 100% right. 

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But I will end up arguing back 
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Emma, it's not what you said 
that's wrong, but it's the way 

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you say it. 
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married or if you're single, but
you live at home or whatever. 

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Just just bear that in mind. 
We love men, love to hear their 

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wives opinions. 
I really do think most men would

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agree. 
Hit the like button or let me 

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know in the comments section if 
you've been helped by your wife.

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But it's knowing the way you 
speak. 

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Be gentle, be gracious, have 
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things and listen as as it could
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a woman right in the comments 
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Of course, it could be the 
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Men, you might have a great 
opinion, you might have a great 

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pointer to your wife or to 
someone in your work, but it's 

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the way you say it. 
Let that be a lesson for us all 

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#3 the worldly woman promotes 
sin. 

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The woman of gods is very 
different to the worldly woman. 

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She isn't interested in getting 
involved with gossip. 

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But the worldly woman says, come
on, what is the gossip? 

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Tell us, have a bit of fun. 
The the woman of gods. 

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She doesn't let bitterness eat 
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Someone wronged her all those 
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She, it may still be painful to 
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forgive the woman of God. 
She doesn't lose her temper. 

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She doesn't fly off the handle 
over the slightest thing, but 

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she knows to how to hold her 
tongue. 

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She knows how to control her 
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The woman of God, she's modest. 
She understands. 

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OK, yes, when men look, it is 
their responsibility. 

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Men shouldn't be looking. 
Men shouldn't be. 

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Men should be careful with their
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But she also knows that woe to 
the ones by which the sin comes.

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Woe if I've made anyone to 
stumble by the way I've dressed 

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The woman of God. 
She doesn't lie. 

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She doesn't let her friends, you
know, like, tell her, come on, 

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it doesn't matter. 
Your husband will never know 

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where you've been tonight. 
Just just come out with us. 

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But the worldly woman does. 
The worldly woman's jealous. 

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She's competitive. 
She always wants to be the best,

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to be the top dog, the alpha 
female. 

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But the woman of God says, no, 
I'm happy as long as God is 

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happy with me. 
I've only got my eyes on the 

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judge. 
We're back in Proverbs. 

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Proverbs 7, verse 21. 
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caused him to yield. 
With her flattering lips, she 

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seduced him. 
Now, when I talk about the 

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worldly woman promoting sin, 
this is actually very different 

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from the the whole kind of boss 
girl mentality. 

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I'm thinking of a particular 
kind of woman. 

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And actually I've got a very 
specific example, but I'm not 

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going to name her. 
If you know she is, you know she

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is. 
If you don't, I'd rather protect

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you from knowing about this 
woman. 

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And I wouldn't want to give her 
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she's got way more viewers than 
than me. 

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But there is a woman online, 
maybe in the last 12 months, but

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particularly the last few 
months, who's gone very viral 

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and she's just making great 
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literally is the, the, the 
modern day picture of this woman

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in Proverbs 7 who, who her feet 
lead down to death. 

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You know, she, she has many 
guests there and they eat and 

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dine with her. 
And those guests were strong 

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men. 
But those men are going down to 

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Sheol. 
They're going down to the grave.

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And this woman, she'll post 
things online about her ventures

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of how she's done this and she 
promotes sin as if saying we're 

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now in 2025, this is what the 
modern woman should be like. 

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We've got freedom now. 
No more judgement. 

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All this, you know, all this 
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And I can be who I want to be 
and I can make lots of money and

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I can make all of these men, you
know, leave their their their 

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wives, leave their girlfriends, 
you know, make a shame of their 

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children, make a shame inside 
their hearts. 

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And she makes it all seem like 
it's fun, but she doesn't 

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realise that she will reap what 
she sows and she does. 

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She doesn't realise that God is 
watching old friends. 

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Maybe, just maybe there's an 
unbeliever listening to me right

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now. 
And you may have some of that 

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mindset. 
Just know God will not be 

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mocked. 
And if I could challenge all of 

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us, you know, if you're a young 
man and you're attracted to 

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these things, or if you're a 
young woman and you are tempted 

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by these things, please read 
Proverbs 7 and know a woman of 

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God. 
She's the one who will be 

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praised. 
She's the one who will leave a 

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lasting impression because this 
woman and the women of this 

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world who promote sin, they'll 
soon be forgotten. 

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As we said, beauty is fleeting. 
What will this woman be like in 

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30 years time when there's a 
younger model on the scene? 

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Even 10 years time when all 
these men have? 

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I don't want to speak. 
It's shameful to speak of these 

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things publicly, but you 
understand what I'm trying to 

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say. 
We're all ticking by, but the 

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soul lives on and on and on. 
And that's why you'd be very 

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wise to honour Jesus with your 
youth #4 the boss girl, the boss

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babe. 
Her identity is built in her 

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possessions, her car, her 
designer handbag, her money, the

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holiday she goes on the 
vacation, she goes on the 

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people. 
And she spends time with the, 

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the boyfriend that she has who's
also, you know, a trophy really 

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muscly. 
And he's got lots of money. 

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That's often what these women of
the world build themselves into.

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That's what they they hold 
highly in great esteem is their 

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identity is in wealth and and 
possessions. 

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But let's contrast that with the
woman of God. 

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Look at Proverbs and 14 verse 
one with me. 

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The wise woman builds her house,
but the foolish pulls it down 

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with her hands. 
I find that and very, very 

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challenging verse there. 
So here you are. 

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You've got this wise woman and 
she builds a house. 

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She cares about her children. 
You know, you marry it together 

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with Proverbs 31. 
She dresses her children in the 

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finest clothing. 
She cares for them. 

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You know, for those of you who 
homeschool your children, I 

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could get emotional when I think
of this, but mothers who, who, 

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who, who spend time teaching 
their children, educating them, 

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00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:54,640
you know, teaching them how to 
learn and write, You know, 

445
00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:59,320
mothers who nurse their own 
children with their, with their 

446
00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:00,880
breasts. 
They, they feed their own 

447
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:02,560
children. 
They, they love them. 

448
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:04,280
They, they just build that 
house. 

449
00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:07,240
They care for their husband. 
They, they, they look at what 

450
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:09,800
meals are going to be the best 
meals that the husband's going 

451
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:11,840
to like, but also he's going to 
nourish his body. 

452
00:25:12,360 --> 00:25:15,440
These are women that, that, that
literally make the world go 

453
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:19,320
round and they, they do a 
wonderful job and they build the

454
00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:21,640
home. 
But then you've got this, this 

455
00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:25,680
woman on the flip side, who 
tears it down. 

456
00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:28,800
Perhaps she's got a home, but 
she's always nagging and she's 

457
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:30,480
always getting angry at her 
husband. 

458
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:33,440
Or perhaps you know, her 
children. 

459
00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:35,320
She doesn't spend time with her 
children. 

460
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:38,160
She just sends them off or puts 
them in front of their iPad or 

461
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:41,000
on a phone and doesn't doesn't 
do her responsibility. 

462
00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:45,520
She's always out of the house or
she causes so much friction or 

463
00:25:45,520 --> 00:25:47,160
arguments. 
If she's not married in the 

464
00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:49,680
home, she tears it down with her
own hands. 

465
00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:52,000
That's what the woman of the 
world does. 

466
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:56,480
But the woman of God, she, she 
builds that home and the woman 

467
00:25:56,480 --> 00:26:00,120
of God, she doesn't need her 
identity and possessions and 

468
00:26:00,120 --> 00:26:03,760
money and success and how it 
looks, you know, keeping up with

469
00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:05,880
the Joneses having this 
beautiful house. 

470
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:10,400
Well, let's look at Proverbs 31 
and verse 28. 

471
00:26:10,880 --> 00:26:12,800
Well, firstly, just remember 
this as we're turning there. 

472
00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:17,720
Proverbs 31 verse 28, Just know 
her identity isn't in the Lord 

473
00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:23,440
Jesus Christ. 
As that song goes, I am who you 

474
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:28,360
say I am and we believe that who
who does Jesus say I am? 

475
00:26:28,360 --> 00:26:33,080
He says I'm forgiven, I'm 
restored, I'm loved, I'm special

476
00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:36,800
because Christ died for me. 
I'm made in the image of God and

477
00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:39,520
the woman of God finds her 
identity in those things. 

478
00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:48,560
OK, Proverbs 31, verse 28, it 
says her children rise up and 

479
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:52,680
call her blessed. 
Her husband also and he praises 

480
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:56,080
her. 
There's so much I could say on 

481
00:26:56,080 --> 00:27:01,480
this. 
The woman of God, her children, 

482
00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:06,600
that is her reward at the end. 
If you're a mother, if you're a 

483
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:11,440
wife, when you've inputted into 
those children, when the rest of

484
00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:14,040
the world have been going on 
fancy holidays, when the rest of

485
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:16,040
the world have been living for 
themselves. 

486
00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:18,920
This boss girl's built her 
business and she's made herself 

487
00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:20,560
amazing. 
And she said I don't need any 

488
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:23,320
man, I don't need any any 
children. 

489
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:27,280
I'm just going to be for myself.
OK, that might be her reward. 

490
00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:31,800
But the woman of God, the mother
of God, she's her reward is her 

491
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:34,720
children. 
When they say, mum, thank you 

492
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:39,280
for raising me in a godly home, 
thank you for telling me about 

493
00:27:39,360 --> 00:27:41,600
Jesus. 
Thank you for setting a godly 

494
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:46,040
example to me. 
And the husband, he praises her.

495
00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:50,480
He realises what a gem he's got 
in, in his wife who really does 

496
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:54,960
honour him and love him and 
support him and helps him to be 

497
00:27:54,960 --> 00:28:00,200
the best man that he could be. 
But if you are a husband and you

498
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:03,320
have got a great wife or you 
know, you've got a wife who 

499
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:07,520
loves you, you know, I think we,
we'd all say none of us are 

500
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:09,320
great husbands. 
None of us are great wives. 

501
00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:12,800
We, we're, you know, we've all, 
none of us are perfect. 

502
00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:15,600
But you know you, if your wife 
loves you and she's doing her 

503
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:20,880
best, tell her, praise her like 
this verse says, if you're a 

504
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:23,760
child and, and you've grown up, 
or if you are just a young 

505
00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:30,000
person listening and your mother
looks after you, she's loved 

506
00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:31,760
you. 
She's helped you as much as she 

507
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:35,600
could. 
Tell her, bless her, praise her,

508
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:39,200
thank God for her in your 
prayers and and let her know 

509
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:44,400
that you care. 
It's very sad when we grow up, 

510
00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:48,600
we go to university and then we 
lose touch of our parents. 

511
00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:51,480
I think one of the most precious
things is when you can become 

512
00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:55,280
best friends with your parents. 
As you get older, don't forget 

513
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:58,360
your parents who imputed so much
into you, made such great 

514
00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:01,200
sacrifices. 
They could have done so many 

515
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:04,840
things, made so much more money,
set up so many side businesses, 

516
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:08,520
but they sacrificed so much 
because you mattered to them. 

517
00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:12,320
Make sure that's the same. 
I would like to just apologize 

518
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:15,600
at this point before we get to 
#5 I do know that this has been 

519
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:18,360
very lopsided. 
It's been very aimed at mothers 

520
00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:21,120
and wives, and I'm sorry about 
that. 

521
00:29:21,120 --> 00:29:23,880
I will have to try and do 
another message, particularly 

522
00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:27,560
for single women, but we are 
going to come to that just right

523
00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:33,400
now in #5 So the fifth thing, 
the 5th difference between the 

524
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:38,320
woman of God and the boss babe 
is self-reliance. 

525
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:40,800
It's this idea. 
It's me first. 

526
00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:43,280
No one else is going to care 
about me. 

527
00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:44,960
So I'm going to look after 
myself. 

528
00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:50,680
It's all about me, me, me. 
Let me turn to second Timothy 

529
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:55,080
chapter 3, Second Timothy 
chapter 3, and verses one to 

530
00:29:55,080 --> 00:29:57,000
two. 
Now, this is aimed at both men 

531
00:29:57,000 --> 00:29:59,960
and women. 
So we know the context, but know

532
00:29:59,960 --> 00:30:04,120
this, that in the last days, 
perilous times will come, for 

533
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:08,160
men will be lovers of 
themselves, lovers of money, 

534
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:12,880
boasters, proud. 
You see, there is a generation, 

535
00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:17,760
and I think we've all seen it 
before, of people who are lovers

536
00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:20,080
of themselves. 
They're lovers of selfie. 

537
00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:22,400
They're always taking pictures 
of themselves. 

538
00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:25,480
They love the way they look in 
the mirror or they stare at 

539
00:30:25,480 --> 00:30:27,760
themselves in the mirror and 
they're so vain. 

540
00:30:27,760 --> 00:30:30,920
And the Bible says that this is 
going to come in the end times. 

541
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:34,200
We're going to see more and more
people who love themselves. 

542
00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:38,000
And that's really what the boss 
babe epitomizes. 

543
00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:40,600
It's about me. 
Look at me. 

544
00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:44,200
I love myself. 
It's about me and my Kingdom. 

545
00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:46,200
But the woman of God isn't like 
that. 

546
00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:49,400
The one of God isn't always 
taking selfies, isn't always 

547
00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:52,080
looking in the mirror. 
And again, just no, it's, 

548
00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:53,960
there's nothing wrong with 
taking the odd selfie. 

549
00:30:53,960 --> 00:30:56,920
I'm not saying that, you know, 
it's OK to to take pictures of 

550
00:30:56,920 --> 00:30:59,920
yourself, but just make sure 
there's balance there. 

551
00:30:59,920 --> 00:31:04,000
Make sure that you are making 
sure that God is on the throne 

552
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:06,680
and you're not trying to to 
build your own Kingdom. 

553
00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:11,120
And also there's something that 
I think we've also got from the 

554
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,280
world. 
And it's this sense of I'm going

555
00:31:13,280 --> 00:31:17,080
to love myself first. 
I can't love anyone unless I 

556
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:20,800
love myself first. 
What absolute nonsense. 

557
00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:22,320
Where, where have we got that 
from? 

558
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:24,000
That's nowhere in the, in the 
Scripture. 

559
00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:25,880
The Bible tells us to deny 
ourselves. 

560
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:29,440
The Bible tells us to to that we
are to to lay down our lives 

561
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:31,400
just as Christ laid down his 
life. 

562
00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:34,680
We're told to to, you know, to 
take up our cross. 

563
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:38,320
Daily we see that the perfect 
act of love when the Lord Jesus 

564
00:31:38,320 --> 00:31:40,320
Christ didn't love himself 
first. 

565
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:43,400
No, he he'd made himself nothing
and went to the cross. 

566
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:45,240
That's what real love looks 
like. 

567
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:48,520
So don't think you have to love 
yourselves to to be able to love

568
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:54,320
other people. 
No, women, let me just sort of 

569
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:57,440
finish with this final verse and
we are going to have to finish 

570
00:31:57,440 --> 00:32:01,400
in Proverbs 31. 
As you can see, it's just such a

571
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:05,200
precious, precious chapter of 
Scripture. 

572
00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:23,120
Proverbs 31 verse 29. 
Many daughters have done well, 

573
00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:29,160
but you excel them or you see 
whether you're single or not. 

574
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:31,840
I said I was going to try and 
share a little bit more with 

575
00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:35,200
single women. 
Whether you're single or not, 

576
00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:38,400
you're a daughter. 
You had a mother, you had a 

577
00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:41,240
father. 
Perhaps you don't know your 

578
00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:45,440
mother or your father, but you 
are a daughter and if you're 

579
00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:48,440
saved, you're a daughter of the 
most high God. 

580
00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:52,280
And the question needs to be 
asked, are you excelling? 

581
00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:54,760
Are you excelling for the Lord 
Jesus? 

582
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:57,360
Are you in the word? 
Are you praying? 

583
00:32:57,680 --> 00:33:01,400
Are you using your gifts that 
God has given you not to advance

584
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:05,280
your own Kingdom, but to advance
his Kingdom? 

585
00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:09,120
That's what's so vital. 
And just to say again, if there 

586
00:33:09,120 --> 00:33:12,840
is anyone who's single 
listening, I actually do get the

587
00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:17,320
whole idea of being a boss babe 
in one reality, because some of 

588
00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:22,240
you, you've had fathers who I've
just not acted like fathers in 

589
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:26,760
any way, shape or form. 
You maybe have been orphans. 

590
00:33:26,760 --> 00:33:31,040
You've had no parents or you've 
had men who you trusted. 

591
00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:33,000
You trusted them with 
everything. 

592
00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:34,280
You couldn't have given them 
more. 

593
00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:37,880
You tried this whole way of of 
being this, you know, gentle and

594
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:41,400
dare I say submissive woman. 
You tried all of these things 

595
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:44,880
and yet where did it get you? 
He went off with another woman 

596
00:33:45,160 --> 00:33:49,760
or he left you and you think, 
well, I'm just going to serve 

597
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:53,280
myself because that's all you 
can trust at the end of the day.

598
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:56,920
If that's you, please hear me. 
I understand. 

599
00:33:56,960 --> 00:33:59,480
I don't want to diminish from 
the pain you're going through 

600
00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:02,160
and and know this. 
There is absolutely nothing 

601
00:34:02,160 --> 00:34:05,120
wrong with being single and 
saying the Lord is the only man 

602
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:08,040
for me, the Lord Jesus, he is 
the only man for me. 

603
00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:09,120
There is nothing wrong with 
that. 

604
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:12,520
That's a wonderful thing. 
So you can give yourself, what I

605
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:16,800
am saying is be that daughter 
who excels, that daughter who 

606
00:34:17,040 --> 00:34:20,880
gives herself up for the church,
who spreads the gospel, who 

607
00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:24,600
reads the Word, who is caring, 
who uses her gifts not for 

608
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:29,159
herself, but to extend the name 
of the Lord Jesus Christ. 

609
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:33,679
That's the message here. 
Come on then tell me how I did. 

610
00:34:34,639 --> 00:34:36,400
Did I make a complete mess of 
it? 

611
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:39,520
One person actually in the 
previous video said why is it 

612
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:43,320
always men who are giving 
messages on how a woman of God 

613
00:34:43,320 --> 00:34:45,960
should be? 
And I completely understand that

614
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:49,480
and that's why I was very 
hesitant to do this message 

615
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:51,719
today. 
But tell me, what did you think?

616
00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:55,159
Again, as I've said with with 
any video, if I get it wrong 

617
00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:59,680
because I'm just a man with clay
feet, all men have clay feet, I 

618
00:34:59,680 --> 00:35:02,520
am more than happy to to delete 
the video. 

619
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:05,200
So if enough of you tell me this
was nonsense, Joe, you missed 

620
00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:07,280
the mark here. 
I'm okay with that. 

621
00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:09,520
I know some of you say, oh, 
you're hiding away from the 

622
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:11,960
truth for you. 
I'm just saying, I'm saying I 

623
00:35:11,960 --> 00:35:15,400
can get things wrong and I know 
that for a fact, mainly because 

624
00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:20,120
of my wife showing me things and
just older godly men showing me 

625
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:22,120
things. 
So anyway, it's just lovely to 

626
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:24,160
be accountable. 
It's lovely to have these 

627
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:27,440
coffees with you. 
And I would just very briefly as

628
00:35:27,440 --> 00:35:30,120
a little diversion, I really 
would value a little bit of 

629
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:35,360
prayer at the moment, just 
feeling a bit the whole thing 

630
00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:40,200
with our daughter Anna, as you 
know, who was sadly lost in in 

631
00:35:40,200 --> 00:35:42,480
February. 
It's kind of caught with me a 

632
00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:46,760
little bit in a different way. 
And I'm just, I did a lot of, if

633
00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:49,200
you've seen my off the curb 
channel, I did a lot of videos 

634
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:53,000
kind of finding relief in 
activity. 

635
00:35:53,240 --> 00:35:55,840
And now I'm just getting a bit 
tired and struggling with 

636
00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:57,920
motivation. 
I'm feeling resources are, are 

637
00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:01,400
wearing out time and yeah, other
things. 

638
00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:04,600
I'm just looking at what's going
to happen in the future and 

639
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:06,960
those kind of things. 
So just please do pray for us. 

640
00:36:06,960 --> 00:36:10,640
Please pray for this ministry. 
And you know, I was meant to do 

641
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:14,080
Zoom meetings every month with a
newsletter. 

642
00:36:14,080 --> 00:36:16,280
And I'm sorry, just because of 
time. 

643
00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:18,800
It's, it's, I'm really 
struggling to find that time. 

644
00:36:20,160 --> 00:36:24,160
And then on top of that to do 
Evangelism St. evangelism every 

645
00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:25,360
week. 
I do that every week. 

646
00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:28,960
And that's a big priority. 
And then we've got, of course, 

647
00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:30,960
we've got this coffee channel, 
we've got the off the Curb 

648
00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:34,680
channel shorts, we've got a 
Spanish channel that we try to 

649
00:36:34,720 --> 00:36:37,120
oversee. 
There's a lot going on and a lot

650
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:39,880
of it is me kind of doing it all
in the background. 

651
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:43,760
So just pray for me, pray for my
family, especially because I 

652
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:48,440
want to be there and be a man of
gods and support my wife and my 

653
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:51,600
children through this time. 
And just, yeah, I just value 

654
00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:53,200
your prayers. 
I really do need them. 

655
00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:57,120
And if anyone else has got some 
prayer requests, just leave it 

656
00:36:57,120 --> 00:36:59,560
in the comments section. 
Thank you so much. 

657
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:02,120
I really did enjoy this coffee. 
God bless you all.