1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,640 There's another video that on the Internet that's just going 2 00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:05,720 viral at the moment of a little girl going down a slide, and 3 00:00:05,720 --> 00:00:09,800 this man runs to catch the child as it falls off the slide and 4 00:00:09,800 --> 00:00:12,920 catches it in the nick of time. I remember hearing Andrew Tate's 5 00:00:12,920 --> 00:00:15,920 at one of his good friends saying this, and it still angers 6 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:18,000 me to this day. And he said, you know, I don't 7 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:20,880 cook any meals. I just laugh at the Uber driver 8 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:23,680 on his little bike pedaling, getting me some pizza, you know, 9 00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:25,120 and I'm here making all this money. 10 00:00:25,120 --> 00:00:27,480 And he's, you know, and I just give him my money and then take 11 00:00:27,480 --> 00:00:29,040 my food. Maybe this is even a little 12 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:32,040 controversial. I do believe that if you can 13 00:00:32,119 --> 00:00:39,760 learn some kind of martial art perhaps, or boxing, OK, If I put 14 00:00:39,760 --> 00:00:43,520 a sheet of paper in front of you and I said, write a list of 15 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:47,720 names of the first alpha males that you think of, names that 16 00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:51,600 people think are leaders, strong men in the world, who might you 17 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:54,800 put on that list? Well, when I asked the Internet 18 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:57,880 what it thought were these names, these are the names it 19 00:00:57,880 --> 00:01:00,600 gave me. So for the previous generation, 20 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:04,680 the older generation, they said names like Clint Eastwood, John 21 00:01:04,680 --> 00:01:07,920 Wayne, Steve McQueen, you remember him, the king of cool, 22 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:12,880 Sean Connery, James Bond. And then when I asked it, OK, 23 00:01:12,880 --> 00:01:16,560 what are some names for this generation, who do you think was 24 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:18,360 the first name that came to mind? 25 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:24,120 Andrew Tate, then we had Conor McGregor, Dwayne Johnson, and 26 00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:27,520 then Donald Trump actually is someone who would be seen as a 27 00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:31,080 strong alpha male leader. Now that might be what the world 28 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:34,960 says is what a real man looks like, but what is the kind of 29 00:01:34,960 --> 00:01:39,520 man that God is looking for? Well, before I show you 5 30 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:42,840 things, 5 qualities that every godly man should have. 31 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:47,480 First, if you've never joined us on this channel, this is my 32 00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:50,480 coffee channel. And if you've not seen yet, 33 00:01:50,480 --> 00:01:52,680 we've got these mugs in the Lord's grace. 34 00:01:53,000 --> 00:01:56,160 We've just decided to make some of these, mainly for the reason 35 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:59,800 if this is sitting on your desk and you see off the curb, it's a 36 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:03,240 kind of reminder to pray for us. Or maybe it might be a 37 00:02:03,240 --> 00:02:06,640 conversation opener where you could show a friend some of our 38 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:10,080 videos, particularly if they're an unbeliever or evangelistic 39 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:12,040 videos. And what we're doing now, 40 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:15,480 because I drink coffee on this channel every week, we're going 41 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:18,560 to put faces here of people who have bought the mugs. 42 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:22,880 So if you'd like to be on the video, just buy one of the mugs. 43 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:27,000 I'll send you an e-mail over and we'll put some faces here right 44 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:35,880 as I'm doing the coffee now. When I was growing up, I 45 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:39,400 remember quite distinctly there was quite a pressure on girls, 46 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:43,000 especially because there was models like supermodels like 47 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:46,400 Kate Moss. There was a shop called Topshop 48 00:02:46,400 --> 00:02:49,760 that opened up and they'd have high fashion catwalk models that 49 00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:52,880 were all really super skinny. And there was a real pressure on 50 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:56,280 girls to to be like that. And there still is a great 51 00:02:56,280 --> 00:03:00,560 pressure on on young girls today to, to be like the Instagram 52 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:03,840 models that they see. But I'll tell you something. 53 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:07,480 I think the pressure, can I say this, you might not agree with 54 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:10,120 this, maybe this is even a little controversial, but I 55 00:03:10,120 --> 00:03:13,000 think actually we've flipped places. 56 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:17,400 And I think the pressure now is on young men, men, the Gen. 57 00:03:17,400 --> 00:03:21,440 ZS, you know, kids that are born in, you know, 2002 thousand and 58 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:24,520 five around that generation. I think there's a tremendous 59 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:29,080 pressure for them to be like an Andrew Tate or a Hamza or an 60 00:03:29,080 --> 00:03:31,480 Alex Hormozi. And if you're watching this now 61 00:03:31,480 --> 00:03:34,360 and you've never heard of these guys is all you need to know is 62 00:03:34,360 --> 00:03:38,200 these are guys who are rich, they're strong, they're 63 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:42,200 charismatic, they get the girls. And that is what the world is 64 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:44,080 saying. You need to have a fast car, you 65 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:47,840 need to have a deep voice, you need to have lots of money, and 66 00:03:47,840 --> 00:03:50,440 that will make you into a real man. 67 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:54,440 Now, some of these things that we've talked about, the finding 68 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:57,240 of themselves, if you've got a deep voice, I'm not criticizing 69 00:03:57,240 --> 00:03:59,280 you. If you've got a nice car, 70 00:03:59,640 --> 00:04:02,880 there's no problem in that. But what is it that God is 71 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:06,320 looking for and what is it that every Christian man should be 72 00:04:06,320 --> 00:04:10,080 seeking to do to try and be as godly as possible? 73 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:14,440 So here are 5 qualities that I think God wants every single 74 00:04:14,440 --> 00:04:16,320 Christian man to have in their life. 75 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:21,200 And guys, as I say this, please know you know me by now. 76 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:24,840 I'm not going to set myself up as some example because I'm 77 00:04:24,840 --> 00:04:28,360 learning all of this too. And well, I will share some 78 00:04:28,360 --> 00:04:31,680 personal things of where I've totally got this wrong in this 79 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:34,720 video. So number one, it's this. 80 00:04:35,560 --> 00:04:40,880 I think a godly man needs to be quiet, needs to be calm. 81 00:04:50,520 --> 00:04:55,280 One thing my wife will tell you is she hates it when I'm driving 82 00:04:55,280 --> 00:04:58,520 in the car. And you know, my work, I work a 83 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:01,320 lot on my own. Literally just one day a week I 84 00:05:01,320 --> 00:05:04,280 go out St. preaching and then the rest of the week I'm writing 85 00:05:04,280 --> 00:05:08,200 messages, editing videos. It's quite a lonely job. 86 00:05:08,200 --> 00:05:10,320 It's not as glamorous as it looks. 87 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:13,560 Being a Christian, YouTube, it can be pretty difficult work at 88 00:05:13,560 --> 00:05:17,960 times and I'm on my own a lot and I'm get stressed and I get 89 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:21,440 worried and we'll get in the car and then as soon as the door 90 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:24,960 shuts, I'll tell Emma. So this has happened and what do 91 00:05:24,960 --> 00:05:27,000 you think about this and what should I do about this? 92 00:05:27,280 --> 00:05:31,960 And I'll just burden all of my worries, all of my concerns, and 93 00:05:31,960 --> 00:05:35,000 I'll just throw them. I'll dump them on Emma and leave 94 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:38,280 them for her. Now isn't that a selfish thing 95 00:05:38,280 --> 00:05:40,960 to do? Because the Bible tells us that 96 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:44,880 the woman is the weaker vessel. Yes, physically she's weaker, 97 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:49,560 but also in in a mindset, emotionally, she hasn't got the 98 00:05:49,560 --> 00:05:51,640 same strength. We are made differently. 99 00:05:51,880 --> 00:05:53,840 And again, I'm going to talk a bit a little bit about that 100 00:05:54,040 --> 00:05:56,120 later, but we are made differently, aren't we? 101 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:59,280 And it's wrong for me to just pour out all of these things. 102 00:05:59,280 --> 00:06:02,320 Now, I'm not saying never do this with your wife. 103 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:07,840 Never do this because there is a time and a place, but as a man, 104 00:06:08,760 --> 00:06:11,680 we've got to learn what it is to stay calm. 105 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:16,160 We've got to learn what it is to to to really live this book out 106 00:06:16,480 --> 00:06:21,040 and to cast all of our cares on him for he careth for you. 107 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:25,840 And if it is a big issue, of course you want to share that 108 00:06:25,840 --> 00:06:27,800 with your wife. You don't want to keep secrets. 109 00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:32,120 But I'm also going to say there are times to also have godly men 110 00:06:32,120 --> 00:06:34,480 around you and to share these things with them. 111 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:39,640 So if you are like me and you struggle to be calm, what can we 112 00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:43,480 do about that? Well, obviously you need to make 113 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:47,760 sure that you're not always live in a separate world on the 114 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:49,720 computer. You're not always surrounding 115 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:53,400 yourself with, you know, high stimulating things. 116 00:06:53,400 --> 00:06:58,240 So if you're watching television crime dramas or you're watching, 117 00:06:58,240 --> 00:07:02,120 you know, lots and lots of boxing or MMA, you know, all of 118 00:07:02,120 --> 00:07:06,040 this stuff is putting cortisol into your body and it's raising 119 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:07,320 these levels. And then you're working a 120 00:07:07,320 --> 00:07:10,080 stressful job and then you've got your family and then you've 121 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:12,320 got all these different pressures, church, all these 122 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:15,960 things that are around you. You need to just take things 123 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:20,520 back and just go back to basics. One of the best things I like to 124 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:24,360 do when I go on holiday is I do not go on my phone at all. 125 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:26,640 I don't go on the Internet at all. 126 00:07:26,720 --> 00:07:30,280 So have seasons, have time where it's just quiet. 127 00:07:30,640 --> 00:07:34,880 Have times where you just have a nice warm cup of Joe just with 128 00:07:34,880 --> 00:07:38,760 your Bible, no screens. Just stay calm. 129 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:43,800 But it's not just being calm that's important. 130 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:47,880 It's also important for men of God to be quiet. 131 00:07:49,280 --> 00:07:53,360 Now, my pastor, one of the things I most admire about him 132 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:59,960 is he has a real gentleness, but he's also so careful with what 133 00:07:59,960 --> 00:08:03,040 he says. Emer actually used an example 134 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:04,560 the other night. She said. 135 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:08,360 I won't name my pastor's name, but there was a time where I 136 00:08:08,360 --> 00:08:11,520 knew I was going to go into a situation where I might be 137 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:15,160 tempted to say some things, some rude things back to someone else 138 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:19,000 who was going to be rude to me. And she said, what would a name 139 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:22,720 the pastor do? He'd just be quiet and he'd just 140 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:26,520 walk away if it got heated. And that's what I, I need to 141 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:29,160 learn to do more. I'm someone who, you know, I 142 00:08:29,160 --> 00:08:31,520 speak my mind. I wear my heart on my sleeve all 143 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:33,720 the time. Let me give a Bible verse for 144 00:08:33,720 --> 00:08:36,440 you. Proverbs 10, verse 19. 145 00:08:38,440 --> 00:08:43,919 In the multitude of words, there wanteth not sin, but he that 146 00:08:43,919 --> 00:08:50,160 refraineth his lips is wise. So when you're speaking all the 147 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:53,720 time, when you've got verbal and I won't say that, you know that 148 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:55,720 what words come in next. When you're just speaking all 149 00:08:55,720 --> 00:08:58,640 the time, sin's just near, isn't it? 150 00:08:58,880 --> 00:09:01,080 It's so easy. You slip up, you say stupid 151 00:09:01,080 --> 00:09:02,720 things you say. Why did I say that? 152 00:09:03,440 --> 00:09:07,200 But if you hold back your words, if you choose your words 153 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:10,840 carefully, if you are known as a man of few words, that is not a 154 00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:14,320 bad thing at all. It's good to hold things back 155 00:09:14,600 --> 00:09:18,160 because if you read the the book of Proverbs, it constantly goes 156 00:09:18,160 --> 00:09:21,200 back to this man who who restrains his lips, who's quiet 157 00:09:21,200 --> 00:09:26,800 and he's seen as wise, the man of gods. 158 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:31,160 He doesn't discuss certain topics, some things he knows 159 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:34,320 this isn't a wise thing to talk about and he will just say, if 160 00:09:34,320 --> 00:09:37,000 there's gossip at work, I'm sorry, I don't want to think 161 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:38,880 about that. I I don't want to entertain 162 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:42,840 this. The man of gods, He isn't there 163 00:09:42,840 --> 00:09:47,520 to have a silly, cheap laugh over unclean things that God 164 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:50,040 hates. He will have a laugh, He will 165 00:09:50,040 --> 00:09:54,920 have a joke, but he knows a time to laugh and a time to be 166 00:09:54,920 --> 00:09:57,720 silent. And the man of God, as I was 167 00:09:57,720 --> 00:10:01,880 saying earlier, is he doesn't repay evil for evil. 168 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:05,920 If someone should we say the word disses you, or if someone 169 00:10:06,200 --> 00:10:10,320 puts you down or embarrasses you, the thing inside of us, 170 00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:13,720 inside of the flesh, we want to say, well, I can say this about 171 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:15,480 that person. I can say that about this 172 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:18,200 person. And I've noticed this, but that 173 00:10:18,200 --> 00:10:22,560 isn't the way of the Christian. No, Jesus says don't repay evil 174 00:10:22,560 --> 00:10:25,560 for evil, but repay evil for good. 175 00:10:25,880 --> 00:10:29,000 We must be like that in in the Scriptures, following the word 176 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:33,360 of God, that we must be gentle with our words and very careful 177 00:10:33,560 --> 00:10:45,290 of what we say. Before I move on to #2 someone 178 00:10:45,290 --> 00:10:48,770 just came to my mind, someone who I think is a good example of 179 00:10:48,930 --> 00:10:51,730 an alpha male who's on this earth today. 180 00:10:52,330 --> 00:10:56,050 If you've ever watched the YouTube Dry Creek Wrangler, he's 181 00:10:56,050 --> 00:11:00,800 an American guy. He's someone who's, I like him, 182 00:11:00,800 --> 00:11:03,160 basically. But what did he say that came to 183 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:05,680 our mind? He said that actually the most 184 00:11:05,680 --> 00:11:08,480 dangerous man in the room is the quietest man. 185 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:10,480 And I think there's a lot of truth on that. 186 00:11:10,640 --> 00:11:16,960 So just chew on that thought for a minute #2A man of gods must be 187 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:20,880 a protector. He must protect those around him 188 00:11:21,120 --> 00:11:24,120 who are weaker. I've got a Bible verse for you. 189 00:11:24,120 --> 00:11:27,920 If you've got a Bible there, turn to Ephesians 5 verse 25. 190 00:11:28,120 --> 00:11:33,240 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church 191 00:11:33,480 --> 00:11:37,000 and gave himself for it. Now why did I share that verse 192 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:38,760 with you? I'll tell you why. 193 00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:42,200 Who is the perfect example of a leader? 194 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:44,760 I mean, I don't even like this word alpha male, but I'm just 195 00:11:44,760 --> 00:11:46,200 using it because it's a common term. 196 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:49,480 But who is the alpha male? Well, it's the alpha and the 197 00:11:49,480 --> 00:11:53,520 Omega, the Lord Jesus Christ. He is our example. 198 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:57,000 So why is it we're called to protect? 199 00:11:57,400 --> 00:12:00,400 Well, have you considered this? Here we are. 200 00:12:00,480 --> 00:12:02,720 We are the bride. We are weak. 201 00:12:02,840 --> 00:12:05,480 If you're the strongest man watching this now, you are weak 202 00:12:05,720 --> 00:12:07,920 compared to the spiritual forces out there. 203 00:12:08,640 --> 00:12:12,280 And here we are. The devil lunges for us, He goes 204 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:16,720 for us, He wants to take us out, but the Lord Jesus Christ, he 205 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:18,960 stands in the way and he protects us. 206 00:12:19,200 --> 00:12:22,440 He lays down his life for the bride of Christ, for the church, 207 00:12:22,840 --> 00:12:27,480 and he dies for us. And that is using an example for 208 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:31,960 us as husbands to look after our wives, that if anyone should 209 00:12:31,960 --> 00:12:35,640 ever come after our wife, we must stand in the way. 210 00:12:35,960 --> 00:12:38,240 Now, you might not be the strongest guy in the room. 211 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:41,760 I'm certainly not the strongest guy in the room, but God knows 212 00:12:41,800 --> 00:12:43,880 your hearts. And if you're willing to 213 00:12:43,880 --> 00:12:47,480 literally lay down your life for your wife, if 10 men come for 214 00:12:47,480 --> 00:12:50,040 you and there's no point, that you've got no chance, you're 215 00:12:50,040 --> 00:12:54,440 still called to stand in between your wife and those men, your 216 00:12:54,440 --> 00:12:57,640 children, because you are called to protect them. 217 00:12:58,520 --> 00:13:01,960 And we're also called to protect those who are weaker around us. 218 00:13:02,640 --> 00:13:05,480 We're called to be caring, to love people. 219 00:13:05,960 --> 00:13:08,400 You see a woman and she's struggling to pick her walking 220 00:13:08,400 --> 00:13:12,000 stick up off the floor. You should help her. 221 00:13:12,920 --> 00:13:15,560 You see that man and he's, he's on his own. 222 00:13:15,560 --> 00:13:18,720 And you get the idea. We should be trying to be 223 00:13:19,080 --> 00:13:21,480 caring. And that's something that 224 00:13:21,480 --> 00:13:24,440 sometimes you won't always see with these, you know, alpha 225 00:13:24,440 --> 00:13:26,360 males that we hear about in the media. 226 00:13:26,680 --> 00:13:29,000 They're not doing those gentle, kind things. 227 00:13:29,280 --> 00:13:32,160 It's all about them. Do I have permission to get 228 00:13:32,160 --> 00:13:36,040 really practical now? I actually think more of those 229 00:13:36,040 --> 00:13:40,240 men, particularly if you're an average Joe like me, we need to 230 00:13:40,240 --> 00:13:43,800 learn to be a bit stronger. If you like me and you sat at a 231 00:13:43,800 --> 00:13:47,120 desk all day. God has given us muscles for a 232 00:13:47,120 --> 00:13:50,760 reason, our muscles. I truly do believe this, even 233 00:13:50,760 --> 00:13:53,720 though I don't see any sin or anything wrong in doing the work 234 00:13:53,720 --> 00:13:56,560 that we're doing with technology, But I do believe 235 00:13:56,560 --> 00:13:59,200 we'd all be way happier if we lived. 236 00:13:59,680 --> 00:14:02,560 Here's another alpha male for you, like Charles Ingalls. 237 00:14:02,760 --> 00:14:06,560 If we just lived on a, on a farm self-sufficient and we get our 238 00:14:06,560 --> 00:14:10,280 crop and we all spend time at church on Sunday coming together 239 00:14:10,280 --> 00:14:12,440 chatting, we didn't have all this technology. 240 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:16,240 I think we'd be way happier. But we do live in this world. 241 00:14:16,240 --> 00:14:19,400 And as the Bible says, we were made for such a time as this. 242 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:22,680 But that doesn't change the fact that God has given us, you know, 243 00:14:22,680 --> 00:14:25,840 fingers, finger muscles, muscles in our arms. 244 00:14:25,840 --> 00:14:29,920 You know, in your 20s, you know, your muscles are never stronger 245 00:14:30,000 --> 00:14:34,160 then, you know, as we get older, you know, sometimes different 246 00:14:34,160 --> 00:14:36,080 things are better as we get older. 247 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:40,200 But your muscles at the 20s, they have this, this power in 248 00:14:40,200 --> 00:14:44,760 them, this stretchiness in them. And I'm not in my 20s anymore, 249 00:14:44,760 --> 00:14:47,560 as you can tell. But we need to keep working 250 00:14:47,560 --> 00:14:49,480 these muscles that God has given us. 251 00:14:49,560 --> 00:14:51,520 That's what I'm basically trying to say. 252 00:14:52,120 --> 00:14:58,320 And I do believe that if you can learn some kind of martial art 253 00:14:58,320 --> 00:15:02,040 perhaps or boxing. Personally, I like to go on my 254 00:15:02,040 --> 00:15:06,200 punch bag twice a day. I used to box when I was when I 255 00:15:06,200 --> 00:15:08,160 was younger and it's just something I'll pick back up 256 00:15:08,160 --> 00:15:11,880 again and just for fun. It's just good for your health, 257 00:15:11,880 --> 00:15:13,720 isn't it? Because you know, again, when we 258 00:15:13,720 --> 00:15:16,360 look at the Bible, the men of the Bible, they were warriors. 259 00:15:16,360 --> 00:15:20,440 They were strong men. Now, here's the thing, if we are 260 00:15:20,520 --> 00:15:23,680 trying to be stronger, if we are trying to know that, OK, 261 00:15:23,680 --> 00:15:28,240 something went wrong, I would at least do my best to fight for my 262 00:15:28,480 --> 00:15:31,520 wife and children. Are we always going to look for 263 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:33,760 a fight then? No. 264 00:15:34,240 --> 00:15:37,400 I love this example. When I was 19 years old, I was 265 00:15:37,400 --> 00:15:41,600 preaching in the open air and there was an older evangelist 266 00:15:41,600 --> 00:15:44,080 there, a guy called Mickey. He was actually American and 267 00:15:44,080 --> 00:15:47,400 he'd come over from the States to do some beach missions with 268 00:15:47,400 --> 00:15:51,000 us. And he said, if I ever got 269 00:15:51,000 --> 00:15:54,680 punched in the face in the open air, I said, would you punch him 270 00:15:54,680 --> 00:15:57,840 back? He said, no, I'd actually praise 271 00:15:57,840 --> 00:16:01,480 the Lord and say, Lord God, thank you that you've let me 272 00:16:01,920 --> 00:16:05,520 take that for you that I've, I've taken that bit of, of 273 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:07,240 hatred in your name. Thank you. 274 00:16:07,280 --> 00:16:09,840 I praise your name for that. I'm blessed because of that. 275 00:16:10,720 --> 00:16:14,120 But on the flip side, he said, however, if someone came for my 276 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:18,080 wife and my children, I would do everything within my power to 277 00:16:18,080 --> 00:16:20,560 protect them. I think you get what I'm trying 278 00:16:20,560 --> 00:16:23,120 to say here. But again, there needs to be a 279 00:16:23,120 --> 00:16:26,080 word of caution. Some people physically, they 280 00:16:26,080 --> 00:16:31,520 can't do much and for whatever reason it might be, you can't 281 00:16:31,520 --> 00:16:34,480 protect. And the Lord knows that. 282 00:16:34,480 --> 00:16:36,680 But it's inside of your heart of hearts. 283 00:16:36,920 --> 00:16:39,200 Is there a self preservation where you're looking after 284 00:16:39,200 --> 00:16:41,360 yourself? You know where it's, if there 285 00:16:41,360 --> 00:16:44,640 was a water bottle there and your wife needs a drink and you 286 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:46,760 need a drink, are you the one who's going to take it all? 287 00:16:47,080 --> 00:16:48,880 You understand what I'm trying to say there? 288 00:16:49,560 --> 00:16:52,360 It doesn't have to be, you know, this strong macho man. 289 00:16:53,320 --> 00:16:55,760 Are we, are we doing it on the micro level? 290 00:16:55,760 --> 00:17:01,160 At the same time #3 the man of gods should at all costs be 291 00:17:01,160 --> 00:17:08,960 seeking to be selfless. And on that note, would anyone 292 00:17:08,960 --> 00:17:13,560 like some of my coffee? But you know what I'm trying to 293 00:17:13,560 --> 00:17:15,200 say here. You know, there's a, there's a 294 00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:16,000 problem. Isn't that? 295 00:17:16,000 --> 00:17:19,839 As I named some of those alpha males before, the issue with a 296 00:17:19,839 --> 00:17:23,560 lot of those alpha males is they are selfish, they're self 297 00:17:23,560 --> 00:17:25,560 censored. They want they want to build 298 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:28,760 their Kingdom, they're following, they want to build 299 00:17:28,760 --> 00:17:31,320 their muscles, they want to build their strength. 300 00:17:31,720 --> 00:17:34,040 It's all about them. It's all about their money, 301 00:17:34,040 --> 00:17:37,520 their bank account. And yet they don't care about, 302 00:17:37,680 --> 00:17:39,640 you know, the random person on the street. 303 00:17:39,640 --> 00:17:43,480 I remember hearing Andrew Tate's one of his good friends saying 304 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:46,120 this and it still angers me to this day. 305 00:17:46,120 --> 00:17:49,000 And he said, you know, I don't cook any meals. 306 00:17:49,000 --> 00:17:52,000 I just laugh at the Uber driver on his little bike pedaling, 307 00:17:52,280 --> 00:17:55,040 getting me some pizza, you know, and, and I'm here making all 308 00:17:55,040 --> 00:17:57,320 this money and he's, you know, and I just give him my money and 309 00:17:57,320 --> 00:18:01,440 then take my food. That isn't the way of a strong 310 00:18:01,440 --> 00:18:04,320 man should not be thinking like that in any shape or form. 311 00:18:04,600 --> 00:18:06,960 A strong man should be wanting to, to help that man. 312 00:18:06,960 --> 00:18:09,840 And if you know these tools and these ideas, you should be 313 00:18:09,840 --> 00:18:11,560 helping him. You should want to see this 314 00:18:11,560 --> 00:18:15,000 person who's bringing you food every day to, to better himself. 315 00:18:15,240 --> 00:18:19,000 A strong man should, should look at the needs of others and and 316 00:18:19,000 --> 00:18:22,200 it should break them to pieces because the Lord has blessed 317 00:18:22,200 --> 00:18:25,080 them and yet these others are are struggling. 318 00:18:25,320 --> 00:18:29,600 The man of God, I believe will attract a woman of God. 319 00:18:30,240 --> 00:18:35,320 And I didn't realise this until a few weeks ago actually, just 320 00:18:35,320 --> 00:18:40,080 how much women are attracted to selflessness, you know, to 321 00:18:40,080 --> 00:18:45,040 sacrifice. Now I, I do many, many things 322 00:18:45,040 --> 00:18:46,440 wrong. OK, so I'm just going to give 323 00:18:46,440 --> 00:18:48,880 you an example here. And I'm not boasting anyway. 324 00:18:48,880 --> 00:18:51,840 It's just it's really stuck in my mind because my wife taught 325 00:18:51,840 --> 00:18:54,040 me something I had no idea about. 326 00:18:54,040 --> 00:18:56,360 And it is true men and women are very different. 327 00:18:56,360 --> 00:18:59,320 And I just, I thought one thing completely opposite and she 328 00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:03,960 thought the other. But as you know, recently me and 329 00:19:03,960 --> 00:19:08,520 Emma have have gone through a loss and it's been a tough time. 330 00:19:09,360 --> 00:19:14,000 And the first time we took our little boy Samuel swimming, who 331 00:19:14,000 --> 00:19:17,840 went to the swimming lesson, and it was the first week we'd been 332 00:19:17,840 --> 00:19:20,680 back and they'd actually moved us to a different pool. 333 00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:24,160 And in this swimming pool, the children can't touch the bottom 334 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:27,680 with their feet. So the swimming teachers at this 335 00:19:27,680 --> 00:19:30,240 end, doing something with a class, and she'd set Samuel off 336 00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:33,520 to do a backstroke, okay, on his back. 337 00:19:34,160 --> 00:19:37,240 And Sam started to panic because there was a sort of row of 338 00:19:37,560 --> 00:19:41,240 floats that he'd swam into an angle and he wasn't moving 339 00:19:41,240 --> 00:19:42,200 anywhere. So here he is. 340 00:19:42,200 --> 00:19:44,040 He's not moving, he's not going anywhere. 341 00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:45,760 And he's starting to think, where am I? 342 00:19:45,760 --> 00:19:49,320 So he flips over onto his belly and then realises I'm here. 343 00:19:49,320 --> 00:19:51,480 And then he flips over onto his side and then I'm here. 344 00:19:51,480 --> 00:19:54,560 And then he starts to panic. And here the swimming teacher 345 00:19:54,560 --> 00:19:58,080 is, is, is at the other end. And we honestly, it wasn't her 346 00:19:58,080 --> 00:20:00,280 fault. And I'm just want to make that 347 00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:03,040 completely clear. But she was at this end. 348 00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:06,320 And me and Emma are watching Sam and he's panicking and he's 349 00:20:06,320 --> 00:20:09,320 worrying and, and I'm saying to him, it's going to be OK, it's 350 00:20:09,320 --> 00:20:12,440 OK, it's OK. And then it went on and on. 351 00:20:12,440 --> 00:20:15,280 And then I'm thinking this isn't good at all and Emma's like 352 00:20:15,280 --> 00:20:16,200 this. What's going to happen? 353 00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:17,960 Emma's real. No, this isn't good. 354 00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:21,720 All that and then next thing I know, fully clothed, I've jumped 355 00:20:21,720 --> 00:20:26,000 into the water in jeans, in my shirt and I'm soaking wet and 356 00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:30,840 I've paused Samuel up and I apologise to someone teacher. 357 00:20:30,840 --> 00:20:33,080 It was actually quite a nice moment. 358 00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:35,880 And she sent sent us a card because we explained our 359 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:38,080 situation. I said I think this is probably 360 00:20:38,080 --> 00:20:41,400 just an overreaction with everything that's happened. 361 00:20:41,400 --> 00:20:47,920 But there I was, now I was humiliated and here I am soaking 362 00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:51,160 wet with all these other mums. I'm the only dad there and I'd 363 00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:53,640 only gone to the swimming lesson just to support Emma because 364 00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:55,600 we're getting back into activities. 365 00:20:55,840 --> 00:21:00,000 All these mums are there and I'm, I'm in my genes and, and 366 00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:03,040 I'm just sat on the sideline. So I'm kind of thinking, what do 367 00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:06,280 I do here? Then one of the people at the 368 00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:09,200 swimming pool says to me, there's hair dryers in there. 369 00:21:09,200 --> 00:21:11,560 So I go out and I get the hair dryer. 370 00:21:11,560 --> 00:21:15,040 I try to dry myself as good as possible. 371 00:21:15,760 --> 00:21:19,480 And I said, Emma, that was just so embarrassing, wasn't it? 372 00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:23,360 And Emma turned to me and said, I've never been more attracted 373 00:21:23,360 --> 00:21:27,800 to you my entire life. So, well, I'll have to jump in 374 00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:30,360 the swimming pool more. You see, I didn't understand 375 00:21:30,360 --> 00:21:33,240 this situation In my mind. I thought, this just looks like, 376 00:21:33,240 --> 00:21:36,320 you know, you're overthinking you being over the top. 377 00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:38,920 There's another video that on the Internet that's just going 378 00:21:38,920 --> 00:21:42,280 viral at the moment of a little girl going down a slide and this 379 00:21:42,280 --> 00:21:46,080 man runs to catch the child as it falls off the slide and 380 00:21:46,080 --> 00:21:49,080 catches it in the nick of time. And of course, all these women 381 00:21:49,080 --> 00:21:51,880 are just saying this is amazing, you know, So what? 382 00:21:52,120 --> 00:21:54,640 What am I trying to say? The long way around it is 383 00:21:55,720 --> 00:21:58,880 sacrifice is something that women really appreciate. 384 00:21:59,080 --> 00:22:01,200 And why is that? Because inside every woman's 385 00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:05,200 heart they have a desire to meet the ultimate man of sacrifice, 386 00:22:05,360 --> 00:22:08,720 the Lord Jesus Christ. That's who every woman really, 387 00:22:09,480 --> 00:22:12,400 if you're watching this and you're single, that's who who 388 00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:14,360 you need in your life more than anyone. 389 00:22:14,520 --> 00:22:18,640 But again, just know that again, this isn't about the jumping and 390 00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:21,320 swimming pools level. This is about the micro level. 391 00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:24,160 Don't be always trying to self preserve. 392 00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:27,720 You know, look after your needs. She's not meeting my needs. 393 00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:31,400 No, if you've taken a wife and even if it's tough, you are 394 00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:35,920 called to lay down your life as Christ laid down his life for 395 00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:38,720 the church. You are called to give yourself 396 00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:41,560 up and to love her even when things are difficult. 397 00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:44,920 You're not called to be greedy. Always want him more and more 398 00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:48,520 for yourself and and living in two separate worlds like we can 399 00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:51,000 often do him. You know, your wife might be on 400 00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:53,520 a phone and you're on your laptop or you're reading a book. 401 00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:59,320 No, spend time together and be near to your wife and sacrifice 402 00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:03,360 yourself even when you don't feel like doing the homework 403 00:23:03,360 --> 00:23:06,840 with your children or you don't feel like, you know, taking the 404 00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:09,240 bins out. It's all about a life of 405 00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:12,920 sacrifice. That's what men of God do #4 the 406 00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:17,720 man of God is disciplined. This is so, so important. 407 00:23:18,120 --> 00:23:21,880 Just turn in your Bibles to Colossians 3, verse 23. 408 00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:32,960 And whatsoever you do, do it heartily as to the Lord and not 409 00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:36,680 to men. You see, as a man of gods, you 410 00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:39,520 are called to be the provider for your family. 411 00:23:39,800 --> 00:23:44,480 You are called to work hard. And whether you aren't married 412 00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:47,960 or you are married, you're still called to do everything you can, 413 00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:49,680 whatever your hand full of, to do. 414 00:23:49,920 --> 00:23:54,200 Do with all your might. Work for your heavenly master, 415 00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:56,560 not your earthly master. God is watching you. 416 00:23:56,920 --> 00:23:59,600 And this is a quality we should all be seeking to do. 417 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:04,840 So let's get really practical. What time do you wake up at in 418 00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:08,680 the morning? What time do you go to bed at? 419 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:12,360 Do you read your Bible? Are you a man of prayer? 420 00:24:12,360 --> 00:24:15,720 Have you got a disciplined quiet time that happens every day? 421 00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:19,160 These are things that a man of God must have the non 422 00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:22,880 negotiables. And again, I, I get so busy and 423 00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:25,960 I've struggled with it to to maintain that before I had this 424 00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:28,560 YouTube channel. It was I used to be, you know, 425 00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:30,280 do it. I'll be honest, I used to do a 2 426 00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:34,240 hour quiet time in the mornings. I wasn't Christian work so I had 427 00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:38,600 that luxury. But once real really, you know, 428 00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:42,600 high pressured work came up, it was difficult to maintain that. 429 00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:46,240 So I'm not judging anyone in any shape or form, but I am saying, 430 00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:48,320 guys, we've got to get this right. 431 00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:51,400 Even just this week my dad was saying if you don't do your 432 00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:54,680 quiet time first thing in the morning, the very first thing 433 00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:57,000 you do before you eat, it won't happen. 434 00:24:57,080 --> 00:25:00,440 It's so very often if you leave it till later in the day, it 435 00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:03,080 won't get done. Now, I know we're all wired 436 00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:06,880 differently and if that's you, that's great if you can do it 437 00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:10,760 consistently, but I'm just saying we need to be 438 00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:13,400 disciplined, don't we? Now, if there's any Single 439 00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:17,000 Ladies watching this video, do you know, let me let you into a 440 00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:20,400 little tip how you can find the right man for you who's going to 441 00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:23,240 be a provider. If you're dating a man and 442 00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:26,600 you're interested in him, but you're not married yet, why 443 00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:30,480 don't you go and ask his boss what's he like at working? 444 00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:33,760 Come on, be honest with me. Is he a hard worker? 445 00:25:34,360 --> 00:25:35,920 Because your boss will tell you the truth. 446 00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:38,320 Well, his boss will tell the truth, won't they? 447 00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:42,760 And if they are a hard worker, you know, you've got, you've got 448 00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:47,280 yourself a Gemini, ladies. You see, I think too many of 449 00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:50,360 those men, we go to bed with too much energy. 450 00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:53,800 Again, as I said, God designed us to be toil and to be 451 00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:56,880 labouring hard in the fields, to be working hard. 452 00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:00,840 But if we're not going to bed exhausted, if we're not going to 453 00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:04,480 bed like the, the cloth, if you like, just totally wrung out of 454 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:06,240 energy. I've, I've given everything to 455 00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:08,080 my work. I've given everything to the 456 00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:09,760 Lord. I've given everything to my 457 00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:10,960 wife. I've spent time with my 458 00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:13,040 children. I've, I've done the jobs around 459 00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:14,320 the house. I've, I've done everything. 460 00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:17,040 If we're not going to bed with all, you know, there's a 461 00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:19,280 problem, isn't there? If we're just scrolling on the 462 00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:21,800 Internet or watching Netflix for hours and hours and we're laying 463 00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:25,000 awake and we're not falling asleep, there could be a reason 464 00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:27,480 for that, that we're not working hard enough. 465 00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:32,000 Proverbs 14, verse 23. Would you turn there with me 466 00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:38,520 please? In all labour there is prophets. 467 00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:42,360 But the talk of the lips tendeth only to penury. 468 00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:46,400 Penury means poverty. So did you hear that? 469 00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:47,840 You heard it from the word of God? 470 00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:52,440 In all labour there is prophet. You might think clearing this 471 00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:56,560 drain, it's just so boring and it can wait another few months. 472 00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:59,480 But the Bible says in all labour there's profit. 473 00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:03,000 You might think, ah, doing, doing this work for the church. 474 00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:05,840 You know, I'm the treasurer for the church and I'm, I'm doing 475 00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:08,920 all of these taxes and oh, it's just seems so mundane. 476 00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:12,720 In all labour there is profit doing the dishes. 477 00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:15,680 I'm a man, I don't need to wash the dishes. 478 00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:17,360 We don't have a dishwasher at our house. 479 00:27:17,360 --> 00:27:20,320 We we do it manually. But I'm a man, I don't need to 480 00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:21,760 do that. That's a woman's job. 481 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:25,040 Well, as Billy Graham's wife once said, I think her name was 482 00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:29,600 Ruth Graham, she put a little plaque over the kitchen sink and 483 00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:33,880 said divine worship is given here twice a day and that was 484 00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:36,280 for Billy and for the other men of the house to know. 485 00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:38,840 No, you also are called to wash dishes. 486 00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:41,680 Why? Because in all labour there is 487 00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:46,240 profit in all the mundane things we do as men, as men of God. 488 00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:50,400 It doesn't have to be strong and conquering kingdoms and building 489 00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:54,720 empires and you know, gaining all this money on cryptocurrency 490 00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:57,200 or whatever it is you're doing, it doesn't have to be all of 491 00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:59,440 that. You can give glory to God in the 492 00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:02,240 mundane things. And often that's often where we 493 00:28:02,240 --> 00:28:05,240 find ourselves giving the most glory to God, where we're just 494 00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:08,800 gleaning wheats in a field, just doing the little things here and 495 00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:11,280 there what our heavenly Father sees. 496 00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:15,680 OK, lastly #5 our fifth and final attributes are 497 00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:21,600 characteristic of a godly man is a godly man is faithful. 498 00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:27,240 Proverbs 20 verse 6 says most men will proclaim everyone his 499 00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:32,000 own goodness. But a faithful man who can find, 500 00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:38,560 A faithful man who can find. And really, that's the one thing 501 00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:41,200 I want to be left ringing in your ears. 502 00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:45,360 We see all these men. We see all these strong men, but 503 00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:50,880 a faithful man who can find you see, the Bible says that's rare. 504 00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:56,520 It is rare to find a loving, loyal man, a man who sees the 505 00:28:56,520 --> 00:28:59,120 Lord Jesus Christ as his greatest example. 506 00:28:59,840 --> 00:29:03,280 You know, the Lord Jesus Christ, he was a gentle shepherd, He 507 00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:07,920 shepherded people's hearts, but he also LED, He was a leader. 508 00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:11,440 And when the going got tough, he was the one who said, I'll carry 509 00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:14,240 the can, I'll take it. So whether you're married or 510 00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:19,080 not, would people say about you, you are a loyal person? 511 00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:23,080 Are you faithful? Do you gossip about your friends 512 00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:26,400 behind their back? Can your friends trust you of 513 00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:30,760 information or are you known for just spreading it around your 514 00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:33,880 wife? Do you protect your wife? 515 00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:36,560 Again, we're not just always talking about being physical 516 00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:38,560 here. Do you protect your wife when 517 00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:42,280 others are putting her down? Maybe even your own family? 518 00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:45,400 That can so often happen. Do you protect her? 519 00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:48,920 Are you prepared to lay down your life, lay down your 520 00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:53,760 reputation for your wife? Are you a loyal person? 521 00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:57,640 I'll tell you something that most men need to repent of, and 522 00:29:57,640 --> 00:30:00,880 it's this. You can be really unfaithful to 523 00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:04,320 your wives late at night. I think you know what I'm 524 00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:06,360 talking about. There you are. 525 00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:10,800 Maybe your wife's in bed or the house is empty and you're all 526 00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:14,080 alone on the Internet. Are you faithful? 527 00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:18,040 Do you take your marriage vows seriously in that moment? 528 00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:21,360 Are you faithful to your God? If you're not married with that 529 00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:25,400 same exact thing I'm talking about, are you a faithful man? 530 00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:28,680 Are you loyal to the one who died for you? 531 00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:31,760 And, and though these things, you know, we're not, we don't 532 00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:35,280 believe in workspace salvation, but we are called to repent. 533 00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:37,640 We are called to turn from our sins. 534 00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:41,840 And are you going to say this one who died for me, he's so 535 00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:44,800 precious to me. I can't watch that stuff. 536 00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:49,720 I want to be faithful. Principles are really, really 537 00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:52,200 important. And in a society that doesn't 538 00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:55,760 care about principles, you and I more than ever need to get them 539 00:30:55,760 --> 00:31:00,000 drilled deep into us. I have shared this story before, 540 00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:03,680 this illustration before on this channel, but if you've not heard 541 00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:05,480 it, I want to share it again with you. 542 00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:09,000 You know the story well of David and Bathsheba. 543 00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:13,200 And David had got himself into a real mess, hadn't he? 544 00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:16,720 He'd taken another man's wife, and here it was. 545 00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:18,680 Everyone was going to find out about it. 546 00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:24,400 So David tried to get rid of Bathsheba's husband, Uriah, and 547 00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:30,040 he tried to get Uriah to well, he got him to drink a lot, 548 00:31:30,040 --> 00:31:32,480 didn't he? So here he is Uriah, he's he's 549 00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:37,320 out of his mind, he's dulled his senses after drinking so much. 550 00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:42,080 And what happens? David says I want you now to go 551 00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:45,120 home to your wife, spend some time with your wife. 552 00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:50,520 But Uriah said no, how can I do that when my men, because he was 553 00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:52,680 a soldier, he was a captain of the army. 554 00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:58,560 How can my men, while they are out in battle, how can I go home 555 00:31:58,560 --> 00:32:00,560 and just relax and chill out with my wife? 556 00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:03,240 No, I need to be with my men. I have duty. 557 00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:06,680 I have principal. And so here he is, this man 558 00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:11,320 who's intoxicated, he's been drinking a lot, and he's got 559 00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:15,320 more principles than the king of all of Israel. 560 00:32:15,960 --> 00:32:17,840 He says, no, I'm not going to do that. 561 00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:24,800 So if you do have principles, ultimately they they do go deep. 562 00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:28,400 And even at times when life throws different things at you, 563 00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:31,520 they'll be there. And I hope that these principles 564 00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:36,720 to be quiet, to be calm, to be a protector, to be selfless, to be 565 00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:41,560 disciplined and to be faithful. I hope that these principles go 566 00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:44,120 deep into us and they're not shaken. 567 00:32:46,720 --> 00:32:48,240 I hope you've enjoyed your coffee. 568 00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:50,880 It's been a bit of a different video today. 569 00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:54,680 I would like to do one on talking about a godly woman. 570 00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:58,520 But if you think I've said too much nonsense in this, because I 571 00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:01,000 did actually again, I'll let you into another secret. 572 00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:04,560 I made one of these videos years ago and and people said you got 573 00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:07,400 this so so wrong Joe, you shouldn't speak on these things 574 00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:09,680 and I thought do you know what they're probably right. 575 00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:13,080 So if I've got it wrong again today, let me know I'm more than 576 00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:16,240 happy to delete this video as well as I deleted that that one 577 00:33:16,240 --> 00:33:19,440 about it was in 2019. I'm happy to do that. 578 00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:22,320 Let me know. But if you did find it helpful 579 00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:25,560 and you'd like me to talk to you about what it is to be a woman 580 00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:28,960 of God from now I see the scripture laid out. 581 00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:32,400 Thank you so much for joining me for coffee, and I hope we'll see 582 00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:35,200 you again very soon. Click subscribe if you want to 583 00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:37,960 have another cup of Joe with me. God bless you all.