1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:04,640 This is Charlie Sheen and his number is 5000. 2 00:00:04,640 --> 00:00:08,960 This is Janice Dickinson and her number is 1000. 3 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:13,280 This is Gene Simmons, and his number is 5000. 4 00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:18,040 This is Lamar Odom and his number is 2000. 5 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:22,800 And this is Dan Bilzeron, and his number is 5000. 6 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:25,560 What is this number I'm talking about? 7 00:00:25,840 --> 00:00:29,000 It's the number of people these celebrities have had. 8 00:00:31,320 --> 00:00:34,520 Well, I'm not going to say any more than that, but I do have a 9 00:00:34,520 --> 00:00:37,240 question for you. So here's my big question. 10 00:00:37,320 --> 00:00:42,320 When you think of those five famous people, how happy would 11 00:00:42,320 --> 00:00:44,920 you say they are on a scale of one to 10? 12 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:47,840 In fact, think of any person who has lived a similar kind of 13 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:52,040 lifestyle to those guys and tell me, would you describe them as a 14 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:56,920 stable, peaceful individual, or has their life been marked by 15 00:00:56,920 --> 00:01:00,880 trouble and unhappiness? Yeah, you say that that was one 16 00:01:00,880 --> 00:01:03,080 of your biggest regrets, that you lost Chloe. 17 00:01:03,200 --> 00:01:04,239 Yeah, I lost my. Angel. 18 00:01:07,200 --> 00:01:09,480 Wow, yeah, do. You recognize that, man? 19 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:12,240 Do you know what was going on in Charlie Sheen's head back then? 20 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:15,440 I. Recognize him by. 21 00:01:15,440 --> 00:01:19,240 Name not by character. So it's possible that she's done 22 00:01:19,240 --> 00:01:20,840 with you, Jane. How do you feel about it? 23 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:23,160 Well, I hope not. You hope not. 24 00:01:23,440 --> 00:01:25,520 Please come back, Shannon. You want to come back? 25 00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:29,200 She doesn't. She's she's, she's mad. 26 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:33,600 Listen to me, even the people who wear a poker face and are 27 00:01:33,600 --> 00:01:36,960 good at pretending that they have it all together, they are 28 00:01:36,960 --> 00:01:40,040 also likely having inward struggles. 29 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:43,320 Take for instance, Dan Bilzeron, who we just saw on this list 30 00:01:43,320 --> 00:01:45,480 before. You see, on the surface, it 31 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:49,480 would appear that he is calm, he's cool, he's living his best 32 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:52,240 life now. But when he admitted this in 33 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:56,600 some recent interviews, people could not believe what they were 34 00:01:56,600 --> 00:01:59,200 hearing. I, I had this in my mind when I 35 00:01:59,200 --> 00:02:01,520 was growing up of like how awesome this would be. 36 00:02:01,720 --> 00:02:03,760 I don't know what I kind of landed on was I think it's like 37 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:07,160 better to have a monogamous relationship, strange as that is 38 00:02:07,160 --> 00:02:11,440 going for me. Because I think if you've got 39 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:14,840 two choices, you can just like do whatever you want and you 40 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:17,080 know, be free and like allow the women to be free. 41 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:20,160 Or I think you can find a girl that you enjoy spending time 42 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:22,080 with and that you actually trust each other. 43 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:26,280 This kind of reminds me of what a friend once said to me when I 44 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:29,760 wanted to party at university instead of living a life of 45 00:02:29,760 --> 00:02:33,000 holiness, he said. The problem with everyone on 46 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:37,320 this university campus is they think that everyone else around 47 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:39,200 them is having more fun than them. 48 00:02:39,240 --> 00:02:43,560 But actually, everyone is dealing with the same emptiness 49 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:45,280 inside. I'm going to let you into a 50 00:02:45,280 --> 00:02:48,600 secret. If there was one thing I believe 51 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:51,680 that God has called me to do after winning souls for the Lord 52 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:56,200 Jesus Christ, it would be this. I believe that God wants me to 53 00:02:56,200 --> 00:03:00,520 help men and women walk in victory over this sin that I'm 54 00:03:00,520 --> 00:03:04,720 talking about because for some reason God has shown me just how 55 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:09,080 big of a problem this is. When young men, old men, women 56 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:13,200 and men alike all say to me, I cannot get this thing out of my 57 00:03:13,200 --> 00:03:15,320 life. And you'd be surprised how many 58 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:17,880 people sitting around you in your neighbourhood, at your 59 00:03:17,880 --> 00:03:22,320 church are all struggling but this exact same problem. 60 00:03:22,440 --> 00:03:26,320 Many of you I know have read 100 Pure Thoughts and you will know 61 00:03:26,320 --> 00:03:29,240 exactly why. I have a particular desire to 62 00:03:29,240 --> 00:03:32,560 help people who struggle with this sin because I myself 63 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:34,880 struggled with this sin for many years. 64 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:37,920 My story was this, I'd have victory for a few weeks, 65 00:03:37,920 --> 00:03:40,600 sometimes a few months, and then I'd return again. 66 00:03:40,600 --> 00:03:43,280 A few weeks went by, a few months, and then I'd go back. 67 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:45,440 And this pattern continued and continued. 68 00:03:45,480 --> 00:03:50,120 And I could never get free until I started doing these three 69 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:51,920 things that I'm going to share with you. 70 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:56,880 And by the way, the last one is by far the most powerful, but 71 00:03:56,880 --> 00:04:00,320 it's also the one I wouldn't advise everyone to do. 72 00:04:00,560 --> 00:04:03,440 But hey, just before I share these three tips with you, I 73 00:04:03,440 --> 00:04:07,200 really want you all to know this as I share my story. 74 00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:09,840 Just know I'm not boasting in any way. 75 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:11,920 I am no better a Christian than you. 76 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:15,120 I make big mistakes. You just have to ask my wife to 77 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:18,920 know what kind of a guy I am. I really do mess up still with 78 00:04:18,920 --> 00:04:22,360 many different sins. So please, I'm just sharing my 79 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:25,920 story now in hopes that it might help someone else out there. 80 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:30,000 OK, so #1 you've probably already guessed is exactly what 81 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:33,160 we've just been talking about. The first thing I had to 82 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:37,000 realise, the first thing is I had to truly believe is this. 83 00:04:37,280 --> 00:04:40,680 The enemy had been lying to me. He was whispering in my ear. 84 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:44,440 If I had this sin in all of its fullness, you see, at the time I 85 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:46,720 was only watching it. But if I experienced all the 86 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:49,720 things that those people we've named before, if I experienced 87 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:52,000 what they had experienced, I would be happy. 88 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:54,880 But the reality was it was the complete opposite. 89 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:58,320 You see, if we live in this sin, there is a price to pay. 90 00:04:58,360 --> 00:05:02,000 There is a price to pay for all those people who go against 91 00:05:02,080 --> 00:05:05,040 God's design for marriage, because if you go against the 92 00:05:05,040 --> 00:05:08,760 grain of God's laws, you will get splinters. 93 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:11,560 So over to you. Do you agree with this? 94 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:15,840 Do you agree that if everyone just listened to a very old book 95 00:05:15,840 --> 00:05:19,880 called the Bible and listen to an old king who lived many years 96 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:23,960 ago called Solomon, if we listen to what he had to say, suddenly 97 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:27,560 we doubt what this world has conditioned us to believe, that 98 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:30,680 if we are a man, if we're a woman, we need these things and 99 00:05:30,680 --> 00:05:33,320 we will be happy? Suddenly we doubt it. 100 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:36,680 You see, Solomon had thousands of partners. 101 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:39,400 He had gold power. And what did he say? 102 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:42,440 After experiencing everything that we could ever imagine we 103 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:47,240 might want, he said this. Whatever my eyes desired, I did 104 00:05:47,240 --> 00:05:51,400 not keep from them, and I did not withhold my heart from any 105 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:55,320 pleasure. And indeed, all was vanity and a 106 00:05:55,320 --> 00:05:58,640 grasping for the wind. There was number prophets under 107 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:01,640 the sun. OK #2 The next piece of advice 108 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:05,120 that I would suggest to you is that you join an accountability 109 00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:07,120 group. I can't explain this fully, but 110 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:11,400 when you decide to bring this sin out into the open, the day 111 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:15,720 you confess this sin to not only God, but to a brother or sister 112 00:06:15,720 --> 00:06:20,400 in Christ, that is also the day when this sin grows weaker and 113 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:24,400 weaker in your life. The seed of unholiness grows in 114 00:06:24,400 --> 00:06:28,840 the dark, but the seed of holiness grows when you bring it 115 00:06:28,840 --> 00:06:33,000 out into the light. Now please don't misunderstand 116 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:34,600 me. I don't recommend that you go 117 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:36,400 around telling everyone about this. 118 00:06:36,400 --> 00:06:39,560 In fact, the Bible shows us that one of the worst things, one of 119 00:06:39,560 --> 00:06:41,720 the strongest men, well I actually believe he was the 120 00:06:41,720 --> 00:06:44,120 strongest man who ever lived, a man called Samson. 121 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:48,600 The stupidest thing he did was he told someone all that was in 122 00:06:48,600 --> 00:06:52,760 his heart and this person wasn't trustworthy and as soon as they 123 00:06:52,760 --> 00:06:55,520 found out, they told his secrets to the world. 124 00:06:55,680 --> 00:07:00,280 We too ought to be very careful that we don't tell everything to 125 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:02,960 everyone. We only tell the people we can 126 00:07:02,960 --> 00:07:05,480 trust. However, I do recommend that you 127 00:07:05,480 --> 00:07:09,120 do share this with a few close friends who you can pray with, 128 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:12,320 who you can discuss what kind of week you've had and you can just 129 00:07:12,520 --> 00:07:14,840 share. You can just carry each other's 130 00:07:14,840 --> 00:07:18,560 struggles with one another. I almost hesitate to say this 131 00:07:18,560 --> 00:07:22,080 because it does sound very immature and even a little 132 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:25,480 worldly, and I think some of you might see me differently after I 133 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:27,600 share this. But something that helped me 134 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:31,240 gain the momentum I needed to get to the place where I am now 135 00:07:31,520 --> 00:07:34,760 is coincidentally two other friends of mine who were in my 136 00:07:34,760 --> 00:07:38,240 accountability group. We all fell on the exact same 137 00:07:38,240 --> 00:07:40,560 day. So all three of us fell on the 138 00:07:40,560 --> 00:07:42,960 same date. So we decided to do something. 139 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:46,400 I know it sounds silly, but we decided to start a pact. 140 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:50,560 And in our pact, we sort of set ourselves a little competition. 141 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:53,240 I can't believe I'm telling you this right now, but we decided 142 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:56,800 to say, right, let's see which of us will fall 1st. 143 00:07:57,200 --> 00:08:00,880 And as wrong and as foolish as this sounds, because of our egos 144 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:03,880 and because we started checking in with one another every few 145 00:08:03,880 --> 00:08:06,360 days and asking each other, what have you watched this week? 146 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:09,920 Suddenly we didn't want to be the one to break the pack. 147 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:12,440 We didn't want to ruin it for the other guys in the group. 148 00:08:12,440 --> 00:08:15,400 So we did everything we could to stop ourselves. 149 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:18,760 And as time went on, we stacked up the days, the weeks, the 150 00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:22,960 months, and we became men that we never thought we would ever 151 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:25,680 become because of this silly little pact. 152 00:08:25,920 --> 00:08:28,560 Now, this is all obviously in the Lord's grace. 153 00:08:28,560 --> 00:08:31,840 And it wasn't us just, you know, being all in the ego, being all 154 00:08:31,840 --> 00:08:33,280 trying to be the man and all of that. 155 00:08:33,280 --> 00:08:35,400 It was obviously all the Lord's grace. 156 00:08:35,559 --> 00:08:38,840 But it's all I can say is this was actually a very powerful 157 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:41,720 method that helped me stop watching things that I 158 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:44,400 shouldn't. And yes, I know it does sound a 159 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:47,720 little off the wall, or should I say a little off the curb. 160 00:08:47,760 --> 00:08:51,120 But if you yourself have tried everything else, maybe, just 161 00:08:51,120 --> 00:08:54,960 maybe, me and my friends, silly little method that might just 162 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:57,680 work for you and your friends too. 163 00:08:57,840 --> 00:09:00,920 Now everyone, please listen to me. 164 00:09:00,960 --> 00:09:04,880 What I'm about to say next is potentially the most serious 165 00:09:04,880 --> 00:09:09,040 thing I've ever shared in all 400 videos I've made on this 166 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:11,480 channel over a period of eight years. 167 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:16,120 So if you are an impulsive person, or if you lack the fear 168 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:18,200 of God, would you do a favour for me? 169 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:21,840 Would you leave this video right now? 170 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:26,480 Because I don't want to be held responsible for what might 171 00:09:26,480 --> 00:09:29,720 happen to you if you rush into doing what I did. 172 00:09:30,400 --> 00:09:33,480 So if you're still here, very briefly, I'm going to share with 173 00:09:33,480 --> 00:09:38,040 you three things you should do before you resort to this final 174 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:41,360 option. Firstly, I want you to wait at 175 00:09:41,360 --> 00:09:45,880 least three months before you try this final option. 176 00:09:45,920 --> 00:09:49,120 And we need to try every other possibility like prayer, 177 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:52,960 fasting, accountability groups. Get rid of all the devices you 178 00:09:52,960 --> 00:09:57,080 have before you finally go to this final last resort. 179 00:09:57,320 --> 00:09:59,960 Try everything. Because for me personally, I 180 00:09:59,960 --> 00:10:03,800 actually spent a few years at least dwelling on whether I 181 00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:08,840 should go to this next big step. Secondly, please speak to a 182 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:11,400 pastor. Speak to someone at your church 183 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:14,720 who is an old and mature Christian in the faith or a 184 00:10:14,720 --> 00:10:16,760 local group of believers that you know. 185 00:10:16,760 --> 00:10:19,880 Pick out a few people that you respect, you love, and they care 186 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:23,520 about you and tell them that you are considering doing this. 187 00:10:23,560 --> 00:10:26,480 And just make sure after talking with these other people that 188 00:10:26,480 --> 00:10:30,640 this really is right for you in your particular situation. 189 00:10:30,920 --> 00:10:36,280 And thirdly, and by far most importantly, do not, and I 190 00:10:36,280 --> 00:10:40,840 repeat do not make this decision straight after you've fallen 191 00:10:40,840 --> 00:10:43,160 into sin. If you make this decision in the 192 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:46,200 heat of the moment, you might spend the rest of your life 193 00:10:46,200 --> 00:10:49,080 regretting it. No, this decision has to be made 194 00:10:49,080 --> 00:10:51,480 when you're really thinking straight, you're thinking 195 00:10:51,480 --> 00:10:55,320 clearly, and you've prayed about it for a long period of time. 196 00:10:55,320 --> 00:11:00,760 So what is the final thing I did to ensure that I will never 197 00:11:00,760 --> 00:11:04,880 return to this sin again? I made a vow to God. 198 00:11:04,880 --> 00:11:09,160 I hope you can see my sincerity and I hope you can hear from the 199 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:12,880 advice that I've just given you that this is not a decision to 200 00:11:12,880 --> 00:11:15,520 be taken lightly. And at some point, I really do 201 00:11:15,520 --> 00:11:18,680 hope I've got the chance to to do a deeper Bible study with you 202 00:11:18,760 --> 00:11:20,880 on the seriousness of taking a vow. 203 00:11:20,920 --> 00:11:24,640 But it's all I can say right now, just in this moment, is if 204 00:11:24,640 --> 00:11:30,080 you break this vow, something very, very bad might happen to 205 00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:32,720 you. And that is why I am determined 206 00:11:32,760 --> 00:11:35,800 in the Lord's grace to never break this vow. 207 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:38,800 Going back to this sin. For me right now, it's not an 208 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:43,600 option because if I break this vow, I honestly don't know what 209 00:11:43,600 --> 00:11:47,200 would happen to me. And I knew that when I made the 210 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:49,280 vow. And that is what I believe God 211 00:11:49,280 --> 00:11:51,200 was calling me to do in that moment. 212 00:11:51,360 --> 00:11:56,960 So I really would recommend, don't make a vow without much 213 00:11:56,960 --> 00:11:59,640 prayer, without much consideration, without knowing 214 00:11:59,640 --> 00:12:02,960 that the Lord is also calling you to do this, because the 215 00:12:02,960 --> 00:12:08,160 Bible says in Ecclesiastes 5 verse five, it is better not to 216 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:11,440 make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it. 217 00:12:11,720 --> 00:12:15,720 In other words, it's not a sin not to make a vow, and a vow 218 00:12:15,760 --> 00:12:19,160 should only be made if you are absolutely certain you can 219 00:12:19,160 --> 00:12:21,520 fulfill it. And if you have made a vow in 220 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:26,800 the past and you've broken it, well, friends, do not play games 221 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:30,520 with the living Gods. Keep your vows because you might 222 00:12:30,520 --> 00:12:34,560 have forgotten you made a vow, but the Lord hasn't forgotten 223 00:12:34,640 --> 00:12:38,040 and He will require it from you. He wants you to keep it. 224 00:12:38,040 --> 00:12:41,400 He wants you to keep your word. So take all of that into your 225 00:12:41,400 --> 00:12:43,960 mind and then please never forget. 226 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:47,360 The most important lesson, the most important lesson when we're 227 00:12:47,360 --> 00:12:51,680 trying to overcome sin is this. We cannot do it without Jesus. 228 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:56,160 All of what I've just said is totally pointless unless you've 229 00:12:56,160 --> 00:12:59,800 come to the cross, unless you've come to the Lord Jesus Christ 230 00:12:59,840 --> 00:13:03,880 and had your sins washed away. So can I ask you, have you met 231 00:13:04,120 --> 00:13:06,920 the risen Lord? Have you come to Him no matter 232 00:13:06,920 --> 00:13:09,800 who you are, no matter what you've done, no matter how many 233 00:13:09,800 --> 00:13:14,120 times you fail the living God? Did you know we have an advocate 234 00:13:14,120 --> 00:13:19,200 with the Father, the Lord Jesus Christ, who in our place died so 235 00:13:19,200 --> 00:13:22,040 that we can be forgiven. And if we come to him, he'll 236 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:25,880 wash away all of our sins, past, present, and future. 237 00:13:26,040 --> 00:13:29,200 Perhaps you're watching this video right now and you're not 238 00:13:29,200 --> 00:13:33,000 yet a Christian, but you do want this thing out of your life. 239 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:36,560 What would I say to you? I'd say you need to come to 240 00:13:36,560 --> 00:13:40,960 Jesus Christ 1st and know that 2000 years ago, your debt, your 241 00:13:40,960 --> 00:13:45,320 sin was laid on him and he died there so that sin can be removed 242 00:13:45,320 --> 00:13:48,840 from your account and so that you can start to walk in victory 243 00:13:48,960 --> 00:13:52,360 if you want it, if you want it. Because the Lord Jesus Christ 244 00:13:52,360 --> 00:13:56,160 has risen from the dead. The Bible says that we are dead 245 00:13:56,160 --> 00:13:58,680 to sin. And that means we have a power 246 00:13:58,680 --> 00:14:01,320 to say no to sin. We have a power to choose to 247 00:14:01,320 --> 00:14:04,520 walk in righteousness because Christ's righteousness has been 248 00:14:04,520 --> 00:14:07,640 given to us as a gift. That doesn't mean we're perfect, 249 00:14:07,880 --> 00:14:11,360 as I've said many times before and make a mess often, but it 250 00:14:11,360 --> 00:14:14,480 does mean in God's eyes we're perfect because we've been 251 00:14:14,480 --> 00:14:17,440 covered with a cloak of righteousness, the Lord Jesus 252 00:14:17,440 --> 00:14:20,760 Christ righteousness, and all of our sins been dealt with and 253 00:14:20,760 --> 00:14:22,880 been buried at the bottom of the ocean. 254 00:14:23,000 --> 00:14:25,640 I wonder now for those of you tune in regularly, did you know 255 00:14:25,640 --> 00:14:28,200 that I actually wrote a book on this exact theme? 256 00:14:28,240 --> 00:14:31,280 I don't talk about it too much because I know many of you are 257 00:14:31,280 --> 00:14:34,200 tired of Christian preachers always trying to sell you 258 00:14:34,200 --> 00:14:36,440 things. But if you would like a copy of 259 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:39,520 my book called 100 Pure Thoughts, you can actually get 260 00:14:39,520 --> 00:14:44,880 it totally free on the Bible app you version if you search purify 261 00:14:44,880 --> 00:14:49,680 your mind series by Joe Kirby, you'll get basically 75% of it 262 00:14:49,680 --> 00:14:52,160 totally free. But if you are a little old 263 00:14:52,160 --> 00:14:55,600 school like me and you want a paper copy where you can also 264 00:14:55,600 --> 00:15:00,120 find them on my website on off the curb.co.uk. 265 00:15:00,240 --> 00:15:03,160 And if you're not much of A reader, which I'm guessing see 266 00:15:03,160 --> 00:15:05,520 many of you aren't because you're on YouTube, well, you 267 00:15:05,520 --> 00:15:08,440 probably need to check this video out right now. 268 00:15:08,920 --> 00:15:10,520 I think that will help you too.