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The most delicate thing. 
You own is your heart. 

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God has created your heart to be
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love so very easily. 
So every time you enter into a 

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relationship, this happens every
time you make a memory with 

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someone this happens every time 
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Cry sing dance kiss someone 
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This starts to happen to your 
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you're fortunate, you'll walk 
down an aisle and you'll look at

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your future husband. 
A future wife and you'll give 

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them the most precious gift you 
own, you'll give them your 

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heart. 
So my question to you is do you 

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want to give them a full heart 
or are you quite contented to 

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just give them a piece of your 
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And that is why we should never 
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Your non-Christian friends. 
They might say, it's only a 

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date. 
It's only a kiss but actually 

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know, the Bible says do not 
awaken love until it is ready. 

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So here are five warning signs. 
Five red flags. 

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That God might be protecting you
from a bad relationship. 

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Number one, they are floods now,
perhaps I'm wrong about this. 

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So I'm going to ask the your 
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Now, you tell me, do you think 
there is ever such a thing as 

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innocent flirting over? 
See you personally. 

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I don't think there ever is, you
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When we flirt, we give the 
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impression that were attracted 
to them. 

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So, as we said earlier that the 
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ARCA. 
It begins to open up and we give

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that person a false hope that 
were interested in them. 

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If the person you know, the 
person you're interested in if 

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they really do enjoy, getting 
attention of the opposite sex. 

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I'm saying just be very very 
careful because everything in 

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our life grows, whatever we 
Harbor in our hearts, it will 

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grow into something bigger. 
And that flirting can often grow

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into something much much bigger 
that can lead to cheating and 

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adultery in marriage further 
down the line. 

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Let me let you into a secret. 
Some of my closest friends don't

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agree with me on this matter, 
but I'm going to say it anyway, 

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because I believe the Lord has 
placed this on my heart. 

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I personally don't think is a 
good idea for a man to be close 

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friends of a woman who he is, 
not in a relationship with. 

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I just think you're opening up 
the hearts too many different 

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issues. 
Perhaps you disagree with me on 

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this one, but it is interesting 
that Billy Graham. 

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The Evangelist. 
He promised he vowed that he 

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would never ever be caught 
spending any time. 

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E time alone with another woman 
other than his wife. 

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And in, an era where there was 
so many scandals with evangelist

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with famous preachers to this 
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Billy Graham still has a clean 
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And so, I try to live like that 
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suggest to you that you are only
seen alone with the person that 

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you would desire to be with for 
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Red flag. 
Number two is sometimes God will

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reveal to you. 
That this person actually has a 

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nasty aside to them, their 
abusive. 

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Older aggressive. 
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the most unhappy marriages are 
the marriages that are filled 

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with point-scoring, with 
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And with aggression. 
The Apostle. 

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Peter was not playing games. 
When he wrote this, do not let 

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your adornment be merely 
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Arranging the hair wearing gold 
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rather. 
Let it be the hidden person of 

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the heart, with The 
Incorruptible beauty of a gentle

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and quiet. 
Wyatt Spirit. 

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Now, let me tell you something. 
It is important to be physically

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attracted to the person. 
You're going to marry. 

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I'm very physically attracted to
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If I'm being completely honest 
with you, right now, but at the 

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same time, please please, 
please, listen to me. 

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It doesn't matter how many 
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looks are not the most important
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Some of you will ignore this 
piece of advice and you will 

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just be layered with your eyes 
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Say and you'll run into a 
marriage and you'll marry a 

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person who does not have The 
Godly traits. 

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You see the most beautiful 
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which are clothed with 
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Those are the marriages? 
Which God blesses? 

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And I'll tell you something if 
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man or an angry or abusive woman
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those frown lines start to 
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they won't look as attractive as
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So if God does show you a 
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really is. 
Like, remember once the dating 

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mask is revealed a new enter 
into a church and you marry that

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person. 
It's only going to get worse and

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worse and worse. 
So think very very wisely. 

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Whether this is a person you 
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life with and really that leads 
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If they don't fear, God, can I 
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If you find a woman who fears 
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Ring on that finger straight 
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The Bible says, this charm is 
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but a woman who fears the Lord, 
she shall be praised before Emma

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and I got married, we chose a 
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are very, very dear to us. 
It was a pastor and his wife and

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they told us their story of how 
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They went to Bible College when 
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old and every night they would 
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together and the Man actually 
Said I fell in love with my 

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wife, when I heard her prey, 
isn't that beautiful? 

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And I'll tell you something, 
when I look at marriage is 

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around me. 
I still cannot think of a more 

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beautiful marriage than that 
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I'm telling you about right now,
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I've also got another friend and
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long time. 
And I remember, once we're on a 

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mission together and he looked 
at me and he said, Joe, your 

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wife must know, some other 
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might be able to marry. 
Perhaps. 

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I mean just tell They only have 
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They don't even have to be a 
full Christian and we might kind

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of laugh at that but there are 
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I think. 
Think like that on a 

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subconscious level as long as 
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Christian. 
As long as they sort of read 

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their Bible, once every couple 
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I'm just so desperate to get 
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But really, there is nothing. 
As I said earlier, there is 

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nothing more important than who 
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But hey now, let's just be 
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Another if you did want to marry
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Bake. 
Christian, it wouldn't be hard 

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to find, just go into one of our
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There's a sort of social 
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through the church where we have
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in the church. 
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They love the morals, the values
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don't love the Christ, who saved
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Christ and call themselves 
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did tell a very, very shocking 
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And it was filled with wheat, 
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these tears. 
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tears looked exactly the same. 
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identical. 
And you couldn't tell the 

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difference. 
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that, the Harvest will come and 
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put into barns but the tears 
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an unquenchable fire. 
And that story is a picture of 

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the church because in the Pew 
next to you our people Who might

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not even know the Lord Jesus 
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Okay, they're identical to you. 
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But at the very heart that 
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There is no repentance and there
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died for Sinners. 
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So here's the answer. 
You all want to know. 

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Tell us Joe. 
How do we know if this person is

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actually a True born-again 
Believer, but it's very very 

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simple. 
Jesus also said this once out of

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the abundance of the heart. 
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So, what you and I have to do is
listen, very, very carefully to 

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their conversations. 
Do they love to speak about the 

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Lord? 
Jesus Christ? 

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If you talk about the Savior to 
their eyes, light up or do they 

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glaze over, when you want to 
read the Bible, or pray with 

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them to they get excited, or do 
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because you want someone who has
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for the Lord Jesus Christ. 
And maybe a listen to this now. 

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And as I'm preaching it, I 
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challenging my own. 
Pirate thinking, do I often 

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speak of the Savior? 
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that we get that heart of 
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We keep turning back to the 
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God. 
We keep believing on the gospel,

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keep believing on the Savior and
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number 4, sometimes your 
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might be very, very concerned 
that this person isn't the right

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person for you at all. 
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love is blind and for those of 
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you know exactly what 
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And don't see anything but the 
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not necessarily the worst thing 
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But sometimes our friends and 
our family members might see 

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things which we've totally 
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But at the same time, remember 
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family members. 
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sometimes there might be mothers
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children that no one in the 
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Okay, so, take all of that into 
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you to a man called Samson. 
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I fell in love with an 
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A Philistine woman and his 
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Severely warned him, not to 
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This is what they said. 
Is there no woman among the 

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daughters of your brethren, or 
among my people that you must go

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and get a wife from the 
uncircumcised Philistine, 's for

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Samson ignored them. 
He went his own way, and he kept

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running after these Philistine, 
women all the way through his 

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life until eventually. 
It led to Death, because he was 

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so proud that he would not 
listen to the voice of his 

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parents. 
But let me give you something 

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else to think about. 
Not only are we to listen to 

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what our parents say. 
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their parents say. 
This person you're interested 

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in. 
Do they respect their mom and 

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their dad? 
How do they treat their friends?

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Are? 
They always gossiping and 

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stabbing them in the back or do 
they love them and they're loyal

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because remember this, how they 
treat, the people who are 

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closest to them. 
Them is how they will one day, 

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treat you. 
And lastly red flag. 

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Number five, which really is 
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Christian men is an 
unwillingness to work. 

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Proverbs. 24 verse 27 says this 
prepare your outside work, make 

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it fit for yourself in the field
and afterwards, build your 

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house. 
So what does that verse mean, 

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Joe? 
Well, I think it means this. 

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You've got this idea of here, 
are these farmers and their 

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livelihood is their crops, their
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Hard in their fields and their 
planting many, many seeds, and 

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they know the Harvest is coming.
They know that soon. 

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They'll have food on the table. 
So once the field is sorted out,

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then they can go in and they can
build their home and have a 

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family. 
The Bible also says this, if a 

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man will not work, he shall not 
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And if there's a man that you've
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he's not willing to work. 
And if you're a man listening to

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this right now and you love 
playing on video games all day, 

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you can't. 
Get up at a reasonable time. 

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You're lazy. 
You don't have any 

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responsibilities. 
How can the good Lord? 

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Give you the biggest 
responsibility. 

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A daughter of Christ. 
Now men before you, hang your 

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head in shame and feel totally 
embarrassed. 

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Let me tell you something 
embarrassing about myself. 

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I've got a fess up and be 
totally truthful with you right 

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now. 
I, when I proposed to Emma, 

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didn't have a job, and the Lord 
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within a week, my old The former
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rang me up and said Joe would 
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And I said, of course, I will. 
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money so that I can get married 
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way. 
So don't panic too much. 

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I'm just saying to you that we 
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take these responsibilities. 
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And remember it is a total 
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relationship. 
It is a total privilege to get 

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married and to become one with 
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You've got one more moment. 
Would you mind just listening to

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this as a Christian YouTuber? 
There are certain videos that 

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really do matter to you and that
the Lord particularly lays a 

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message on your heart and you 
want it to reach as many people.

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One of them is this video right 
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All about, saving yourself for 
marriage and I prayed to the 

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Lord Lord. 
Would you let 1 million people 

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watched this video saved and 
unsaved? 

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I want the world to hear this 
message and in his Mercy. 

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A, he really did answer that 
prayer. 

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So if you've not seen it, please
go and watch it now, and if you 

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God bless you all. 
And thank you for watching.