1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,500 On a scale of 1 to 10. How badly do you want to escape 2 00:00:03,500 --> 00:00:05,200 your pornography addiction? One. 3 00:00:05,200 --> 00:00:07,000 Meaning? I don't really care that much 4 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:10,800 Joe and 10 meaning. I cannot live a day longer with 5 00:00:10,800 --> 00:00:14,300 this sin in my life. If the answers 10, would you do 6 00:00:14,300 --> 00:00:16,700 a favor for me? Would you please watch this 7 00:00:16,700 --> 00:00:19,400 video all the way through? I think today? 8 00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:22,700 You're going to hear something new something fresh, that you've 9 00:00:22,700 --> 00:00:24,200 never heard in all of the videos. 10 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:26,600 You've watched in all of the advice, you've heard on how to 11 00:00:26,600 --> 00:00:29,800 overcome this addiction. I think, today could be the day. 12 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:33,100 You hear something new and finally, get this thing out of 13 00:00:33,100 --> 00:00:37,500 your life forever. Okay, watch this, this diagram 14 00:00:37,500 --> 00:00:41,500 in my hand is what I like to call the pornography cycle. 15 00:00:41,800 --> 00:00:45,500 And once you understand each of these phases, you'll finally 16 00:00:45,500 --> 00:00:49,200 understand. Why is you keep going back and 17 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:53,600 back and back again to watching wrong things on the internet? 18 00:00:53,700 --> 00:00:56,300 Okay, firstly, the Temptation. Phase. 19 00:00:56,300 --> 00:00:59,500 Now above all. Remember this, you will have 20 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:03,300 Thing, which will trigger you. You will have a sort of stepping 21 00:01:03,300 --> 00:01:05,900 stone, which will lead you into pornography. 22 00:01:06,100 --> 00:01:09,300 And once you understand this, well, then you've won half the 23 00:01:09,300 --> 00:01:12,400 battle for some people. They might see someone walking 24 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:16,200 down the street and they lost after them, and the image the 25 00:01:16,500 --> 00:01:18,500 picture in their mind, the wrong thoughts. 26 00:01:18,700 --> 00:01:22,100 It draws down into the heart and there's a sort of seed that is 27 00:01:22,100 --> 00:01:26,200 planted and that seed grows over a couple of days, maybe weeks 28 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:29,800 until they keep fighting, they keep fighting these thoughts. 29 00:01:29,900 --> 00:01:33,900 It's and then they crash and they fall into pornography. 30 00:01:33,900 --> 00:01:37,100 Some people that they might be scrolling on Tick-Tock or 31 00:01:37,100 --> 00:01:39,100 Instagram. And again, they see an image, 32 00:01:39,100 --> 00:01:42,500 they see something and the thought sticks in their mind 33 00:01:42,800 --> 00:01:45,900 until the LED away into sexual sin. 34 00:01:45,900 --> 00:01:48,400 For some people. They might live a very stressful 35 00:01:48,400 --> 00:01:50,700 life, their home life might be horrible. 36 00:01:50,800 --> 00:01:53,600 They might be an argument, their work like their career. 37 00:01:53,700 --> 00:01:57,100 They might really struggle and the stress, the mental stress 38 00:01:57,100 --> 00:01:59,800 builds up, and they sort of Lights themselves. 39 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:04,200 Deceived themselves and say, I need this, I need to release and 40 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:07,200 instead of going to the Lord because the Bible says, come to 41 00:02:07,200 --> 00:02:10,900 me all you who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you 42 00:02:10,900 --> 00:02:13,000 rest. Instead of going to the Lord and 43 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:16,900 giving their burdens to him. They go to pornography to sort 44 00:02:16,900 --> 00:02:20,300 of, give them self a release to sort of take the edge off the 45 00:02:20,300 --> 00:02:23,100 stress and give them self a brain massage. 46 00:02:23,100 --> 00:02:26,300 So they can relax for a few hours and some people. 47 00:02:26,300 --> 00:02:29,700 Their trigger point is discouragement depression. 48 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:32,500 They've experienced a source of rejection in life. 49 00:02:32,500 --> 00:02:34,400 They feel like no one loves them. 50 00:02:34,400 --> 00:02:37,300 So, what do they do? They've trained their mind over 51 00:02:37,300 --> 00:02:40,600 many many years to believe that if I go into the world of 52 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:43,700 pornography. I'll receive acceptance love. 53 00:02:43,900 --> 00:02:46,400 They'll be someone there that will make me feel good about 54 00:02:46,400 --> 00:02:48,300 myself. And even though it's a false 55 00:02:48,300 --> 00:02:50,000 world, even though it's a fake World. 56 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:52,800 They have told themselves. There is a guarantee that when I 57 00:02:52,808 --> 00:02:57,600 go onto these images, I will feel better about myself and do 58 00:02:57,600 --> 00:02:59,500 they feel better about themselves? 59 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:04,300 Maybe temporarily, but when it's all over, all these feelings of 60 00:03:04,300 --> 00:03:07,300 hurt and self-loathing come back. 61 00:03:07,400 --> 00:03:10,900 Hey, now some people this phase doesn't even exist. 62 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:14,500 They're not even tempted anymore because the Habit is so deeply 63 00:03:14,500 --> 00:03:17,200 ingrained on their minds. They're not even tempted 64 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:19,700 anymore. They just run to the pornography 65 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:23,100 all the time in their lives and they promised themselves. 66 00:03:23,100 --> 00:03:25,300 One day. I'll stop, but they never do, 67 00:03:25,500 --> 00:03:27,600 unless they really do take action. 68 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:31,300 So, here's the big question, which Which one are you? 69 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:34,800 Are you going to pornography to try and self-soothe to take the 70 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:38,100 edge of stress off life? Or are you more of the man or 71 00:03:38,100 --> 00:03:40,800 woman who fights and fights against it? 72 00:03:40,800 --> 00:03:44,400 And one image gets in front of your eyes and it grows and you 73 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:47,000 end up clicking on images. Whatever it is. 74 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:50,000 No, your trigger because once, you know, your trigger, you are 75 00:03:50,008 --> 00:03:52,700 a lot stronger to fight against this thing. 76 00:03:52,700 --> 00:03:54,800 The second phase of the pornography cycle. 77 00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:55,700 We're going to come back to this. 78 00:03:55,700 --> 00:03:59,500 In a moment is the ritual phase. The ritual phase is basically 79 00:03:59,500 --> 00:04:03,700 this You, if you are addicted to pornography, have certain 80 00:04:03,700 --> 00:04:07,200 rituals that you follow religiously before you watch 81 00:04:07,200 --> 00:04:09,900 pornography. And after you watch pornography, 82 00:04:09,900 --> 00:04:12,400 perhaps you make sure that the house is empty. 83 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:15,400 Perhaps just hearing the front door closer knowing that you're 84 00:04:15,400 --> 00:04:19,300 all alone is enough to trigger you to think, actually, maybe I 85 00:04:19,300 --> 00:04:22,400 could go and watch wrong things on the internet right now. 86 00:04:22,500 --> 00:04:25,300 Perhaps you go to a different room in the house. 87 00:04:25,300 --> 00:04:28,900 Maybe you turn the lights off. Maybe you open up a new tab, 88 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:31,500 whatever it is. It's actually you might think 89 00:04:31,500 --> 00:04:36,400 it's trivial but it is actually so important to identify because 90 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:39,400 once you realize what these rituals are, there is a chance 91 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:43,000 to break them and break this habit, this addiction which has 92 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:46,800 become a pattern and your brain and your body is got so used to 93 00:04:46,800 --> 00:04:50,400 following this robotic motion over these many years. 94 00:04:50,500 --> 00:04:53,100 And that leads us on to the sin phase. 95 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:55,900 You can probably imagine what happens in this phase. 96 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:59,800 This is when the devil has you, where he wants you, you are now, 97 00:05:00,100 --> 00:05:03,700 Watching wrong things on the internet and probably doing 98 00:05:03,700 --> 00:05:07,000 wrong things to yourself committing sins that, you know, 99 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:08,900 you should not be committing right now. 100 00:05:08,900 --> 00:05:11,300 Let me tell you something embarrassing about myself. 101 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:15,900 I remember, when I used to spend hours and hours on pornography. 102 00:05:16,100 --> 00:05:19,300 I would be looking just literally for such a long time 103 00:05:19,400 --> 00:05:23,700 for the Perfect Image, the perfect glance the perfect sort 104 00:05:23,700 --> 00:05:27,400 of perfection, and beauty and I would spend so much time trying 105 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:29,700 to find it, but I never found it. 106 00:05:29,900 --> 00:05:33,300 It why? Because my heart was designed 107 00:05:33,300 --> 00:05:36,300 for something bigger. I was designed for a greater 108 00:05:36,300 --> 00:05:38,600 Beauty. Not a beauty that could be found 109 00:05:38,600 --> 00:05:42,200 on any pornographic website. No, it was designed for the 110 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:47,200 beauty of the Lord Jesus Christ because he alone can satisfy our 111 00:05:47,200 --> 00:05:49,800 souls. And the final part of the 112 00:05:49,800 --> 00:05:52,900 pornography cycle is the shame phase. 113 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:57,100 This is the part where you realize literally a second. 114 00:05:57,100 --> 00:06:01,700 After you committed the sin, you realize You've been cheated, 115 00:06:01,700 --> 00:06:04,100 you're angry. You're annoyed at yourself. 116 00:06:04,100 --> 00:06:07,300 You knew when you started this. It would not satisfy. 117 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:10,900 You knew that only hope and peace can be found in the Lord 118 00:06:10,900 --> 00:06:13,100 God. And yet you have gone back to 119 00:06:13,100 --> 00:06:16,300 this same sin again and you feel guilty. 120 00:06:16,500 --> 00:06:19,300 You feel shameful. You feel disgusted that you're 121 00:06:19,300 --> 00:06:24,400 just this week person who keeps returning to the same sin over 122 00:06:24,500 --> 00:06:26,700 and over again. Now, remember I said, I'd come 123 00:06:26,700 --> 00:06:29,700 back to the ritual stage. Well, think about this. 124 00:06:29,800 --> 00:06:31,600 This. Just like you have rituals that 125 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:33,900 you follow before you watch pornography. 126 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:37,000 There are also things that you do every single time. 127 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:39,600 After you've watched pornography for me. 128 00:06:39,700 --> 00:06:41,500 I remember when I was at University. 129 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:44,600 I wasn't actually watching much pornography then, but I was 130 00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:48,200 sleeping with my girlfriend as a backslidden Christian. 131 00:06:48,400 --> 00:06:51,700 And I remember, I would take what I've now called, Shame 132 00:06:51,700 --> 00:06:54,700 showers. I'd get in the shower and I just 133 00:06:54,700 --> 00:06:58,900 sort of scrub my body sometimes I'd cry, but it was almost as if 134 00:06:58,900 --> 00:07:02,900 I was trying to scrub Away the sin because I was so annoyed. 135 00:07:02,900 --> 00:07:08,100 I was so upset at myself that I kept committing this sin over 136 00:07:08,100 --> 00:07:12,600 and over again, and that's how the pornography addict lives. 137 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:16,700 They just follow this cycle over and over again because they feel 138 00:07:16,700 --> 00:07:18,800 shame. The only way they can self 139 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:21,000 soothe themselves. The only way they can cope with 140 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:24,100 their shame is by going back to the sin. 141 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:28,900 And this repeats itself day after day, week, after week, 142 00:07:28,900 --> 00:07:31,100 year, after year. Year until one day, the 143 00:07:31,100 --> 00:07:35,200 pornography addicts says enough is enough. 144 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:39,800 And today this very day. I want that to be the day for 145 00:07:39,800 --> 00:07:43,200 you where you say enough is enough. 146 00:07:43,300 --> 00:07:44,700 So talk to me. Joe. 147 00:07:44,900 --> 00:07:48,100 How do I overcome my pornography addiction? 148 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:51,700 Well, there's actually one word that I think will really change 149 00:07:51,700 --> 00:07:55,100 your mind and I don't think many preachers ever talk about this, 150 00:07:55,400 --> 00:07:57,400 but we're actually going to look at science a little bit. 151 00:07:57,400 --> 00:08:00,400 Now if you want to see a more spiritual way of Attacking 152 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:02,600 pornography. Here's a video here and I'll 153 00:08:02,600 --> 00:08:04,400 give you a link to it at the end of the video. 154 00:08:04,500 --> 00:08:07,600 But right now I want to look at the science behind it. 155 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:09,900 And there's one word. I want you to think about and 156 00:08:09,900 --> 00:08:14,000 it's this word dopamine. I'm not a scientist, but from my 157 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:17,600 understanding dopamine is a chemical that your brain 158 00:08:17,600 --> 00:08:21,500 releases. Every time you do an activity is 159 00:08:21,500 --> 00:08:25,300 sort of rewards you by giving you a feeling of pleasure. 160 00:08:25,300 --> 00:08:29,100 Dopamine is the reason why eating a bar of chocolate feel 161 00:08:29,100 --> 00:08:31,700 so good. Good dopamine is the reason why 162 00:08:31,700 --> 00:08:35,100 we have millions of drug addicts, all around the world 163 00:08:35,100 --> 00:08:38,700 because every time they take these drugs, it releases 164 00:08:38,799 --> 00:08:41,200 dopamine in their brains dopamine. 165 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:45,200 Is even the reason why you are probably addicted to your 166 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:49,100 smartphone because every time you hear this noise, you get a 167 00:08:49,108 --> 00:08:52,900 little dopamine hit with the expectation of getting a message 168 00:08:52,900 --> 00:08:56,700 or gaining a new follower on one of your social media platforms, 169 00:08:56,700 --> 00:08:59,100 but here's the terrifying reality. 170 00:08:59,300 --> 00:09:02,800 There is no No substance on Earth that gives you a bigger 171 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:06,600 dopamine hit than pornography. Let me repeat that. 172 00:09:06,600 --> 00:09:11,100 There is no substance on Earth. That releases a bigger dopamine 173 00:09:11,100 --> 00:09:13,700 hit than pornography. Why is that? 174 00:09:13,700 --> 00:09:15,500 Well, let's go back to the drug addicts. 175 00:09:15,500 --> 00:09:17,900 You can only snore. So much cocaine. 176 00:09:17,900 --> 00:09:20,900 If you're an alcohol, you can only drink so much alcohol 177 00:09:20,900 --> 00:09:24,000 before you eventually pass out. You can only eat so much 178 00:09:24,000 --> 00:09:27,600 chocolate before, you're sick or your full, there's only so much 179 00:09:27,600 --> 00:09:31,300 you can take and so the dopamine In will eventually start but a 180 00:09:31,308 --> 00:09:36,400 man or a woman can sit on their computer for hours, even days at 181 00:09:36,400 --> 00:09:40,600 a time and watch pornographic image after pornographic image 182 00:09:40,600 --> 00:09:45,000 and keep releasing dopamine over hours and hours, but here is 183 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:49,100 perhaps the even scarier true? Very sadly, many people are 184 00:09:49,100 --> 00:09:54,000 exposed to pornography as a teenager in childhood basically 185 00:09:54,000 --> 00:09:55,900 and the day. They first, see that 186 00:09:55,900 --> 00:09:59,300 pornographic image. They get a huge dopamine here. 187 00:09:59,300 --> 00:10:02,700 They Huge release of pleasure and excitement. 188 00:10:02,700 --> 00:10:06,000 And that image might actually be quite mild. 189 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:08,000 Now, don't misunderstand me when I say that. 190 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:10,600 But you know what, I mean, might be quite mild, might be quite 191 00:10:10,700 --> 00:10:15,200 soft core in terms of pornography, And yet when that 192 00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:20,300 boy or that girl, grows up into adulthood, if they keep watching 193 00:10:20,500 --> 00:10:24,700 pornographic image and they keep watching more and more of this 194 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:29,200 filth on the internet, suddenly. They need more graphic things. 195 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:34,000 Or vile things. More exciting, bigger different 196 00:10:34,000 --> 00:10:38,800 weird things to raise the levels of dopamine until they have 197 00:10:38,800 --> 00:10:44,000 started to watch some really, really scary dark deprave 198 00:10:44,000 --> 00:10:47,000 things. Now all pornography is depraved. 199 00:10:47,000 --> 00:10:50,500 But you know what, I'm trying to say dopamine won't give you the 200 00:10:50,500 --> 00:10:54,500 same hit when you started as when you are now in this 201 00:10:54,500 --> 00:10:57,800 further, long heavy addiction. I do hear what, some of you are 202 00:10:57,808 --> 00:11:02,700 saying some of you saying but Joe Wasn't dopamine created by 203 00:11:02,700 --> 00:11:06,900 God if God made the human brain. And the Brain releases dopamine 204 00:11:06,900 --> 00:11:10,700 didn't God, create dopamine and you're absolutely right. 205 00:11:10,700 --> 00:11:13,300 Dopamine is actually a beautiful thing. 206 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:18,200 God said, therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and 207 00:11:18,200 --> 00:11:22,300 be joined to his wife and they shall become one flesh. 208 00:11:22,300 --> 00:11:27,100 He see sexual intercourse in the walls of marriage is a beautiful 209 00:11:27,100 --> 00:11:29,700 thing and God has given it as a gift. 210 00:11:30,100 --> 00:11:32,700 You see sex is actually a wonderful thing. 211 00:11:32,800 --> 00:11:36,600 You're watching this video right now because of sex you're alive 212 00:11:36,600 --> 00:11:40,800 right now because of sex, I'm sorry to put it so bluntly but 213 00:11:40,800 --> 00:11:44,700 it's true, isn't it? And God gives us dopamine when a 214 00:11:44,700 --> 00:11:46,900 married couple have intercourse with one. 215 00:11:46,900 --> 00:11:51,400 Another dopamine is released. But you see the devil has 216 00:11:51,400 --> 00:11:55,800 exploited dopamine because he knows that dopamine is released 217 00:11:55,800 --> 00:11:59,700 when a man or woman have sex inside of marriage its release. 218 00:11:59,800 --> 00:12:03,100 East, he's tricked Millions, perhaps even billions of people 219 00:12:03,100 --> 00:12:06,600 around the world that when they watch pornography the human 220 00:12:06,600 --> 00:12:11,500 brain thinks it is having sex. So it releases dopamine. 221 00:12:11,500 --> 00:12:15,100 When you watch pornography, you are watching the devil's, 222 00:12:15,100 --> 00:12:18,600 television network and he is got millions of people around the 223 00:12:18,600 --> 00:12:22,200 world deceiving themselves as they're clicking on images, 224 00:12:22,400 --> 00:12:24,600 thinking that they are having sex. 225 00:12:25,000 --> 00:12:29,000 But of course, they know they're not and the devil knows they're 226 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:31,600 not. The human brain cannot tell the 227 00:12:31,600 --> 00:12:36,300 difference and that's why pornography is so addictive. 228 00:12:36,600 --> 00:12:39,600 So, how do you know, if pornography has messed up, your 229 00:12:39,600 --> 00:12:42,700 dopamine receptors in your brain, but one of the signs is 230 00:12:42,700 --> 00:12:45,900 this, do you ever feel like when you're in a conversation with 231 00:12:45,900 --> 00:12:48,600 other people? Everyone else is engaged but you 232 00:12:48,600 --> 00:12:51,700 feel totally bored. Do you struggle to concentrate 233 00:12:51,700 --> 00:12:54,000 on your studies? Because did you know this the 234 00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:57,400 brain will release dopamine when you're working on a project, the 235 00:12:57,408 --> 00:12:59,700 brain will release dopamine when you're watching a movie. 236 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:02,700 Movie, do you struggle to sit down and watch a movie? 237 00:13:03,000 --> 00:13:07,500 Do you feel like you've sort of got ADHD, kind of symptoms that 238 00:13:07,500 --> 00:13:11,200 is a sign that your dopamine receptors are all off and the 239 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:14,900 only time you might feel comfort and you might feel safe is when 240 00:13:14,900 --> 00:13:18,300 you're watching pornography. That's how you know, you're in a 241 00:13:18,300 --> 00:13:21,300 total mess. But here's something positive to 242 00:13:21,300 --> 00:13:24,700 remember, when you overcome your pornography addiction, and 243 00:13:24,700 --> 00:13:28,400 notice how I use the word when the Bible says, we are dead to 244 00:13:28,400 --> 00:13:31,700 our sins, and I believe you, Really can get free from this. 245 00:13:31,700 --> 00:13:34,600 If you really want to, you can get free from this addiction. 246 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:38,400 But when you finally come off pornography, your dopamine 247 00:13:38,400 --> 00:13:41,900 receptors will go back to normal and your brain can heal itself. 248 00:13:41,900 --> 00:13:44,600 So you can enjoy time with your family. 249 00:13:44,600 --> 00:13:48,500 You can enjoy a movie, a phone call isn't boring anymore and 250 00:13:48,500 --> 00:13:51,200 you're not scrolling through your phone as, as your friends 251 00:13:51,200 --> 00:13:53,600 talking to, you know, you're able to listen and concentrate. 252 00:13:53,600 --> 00:13:57,200 So, just remember that everything can go back to normal 253 00:13:57,200 --> 00:14:00,700 and you can enjoy the small blessings that God gives us that 254 00:14:00,700 --> 00:14:03,000 really make up life. So let me give you a couple of 255 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:05,200 tips on how you can reset your brain. 256 00:14:05,400 --> 00:14:07,800 One of the things you want to think about doing is what's 257 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:11,400 called a dopamine detox. So all these things which give 258 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:15,400 you big dopamine hits, you want to rub draw from them completely 259 00:14:15,600 --> 00:14:19,300 and try and let your brain go back to normal natural levels. 260 00:14:19,500 --> 00:14:21,400 We're just having a drink of water. 261 00:14:21,500 --> 00:14:24,900 Even gives you a sense of pleasure and thankfulness if you 262 00:14:24,900 --> 00:14:27,300 like. So, how do we do that? 263 00:14:27,300 --> 00:14:31,700 Well, I think it's brilliant. If you Get away on a short-term 264 00:14:31,700 --> 00:14:34,400 mission trip or if you can go away with your family on a 265 00:14:34,400 --> 00:14:38,900 vacation, have a time away where perhaps you leave all of your 266 00:14:38,900 --> 00:14:41,700 electronic devices. You have no time when you have 267 00:14:41,700 --> 00:14:44,500 minimal time on the internet, get away. 268 00:14:44,800 --> 00:14:48,400 And just spend some time with people, that will really help 269 00:14:48,400 --> 00:14:51,900 your brain have a couple of weeks chance to heal. 270 00:14:52,100 --> 00:14:55,500 And then when you come back from your break away, make sure 271 00:14:55,500 --> 00:14:59,500 you're really self-aware of all of the triggers and think right. 272 00:14:59,500 --> 00:15:01,100 Wow. Now, I've had this time away 273 00:15:01,100 --> 00:15:03,100 now. I've had a chance my brain to 274 00:15:03,100 --> 00:15:05,500 heal. I must not now fall back into 275 00:15:05,500 --> 00:15:09,300 the same habits because my brain already feels so much better, 276 00:15:09,400 --> 00:15:12,500 and so much clearer now, I've been away from pornography. 277 00:15:12,500 --> 00:15:16,200 Another great thing to do to help your brain heal is to 278 00:15:16,200 --> 00:15:19,700 radically transform your life in every area. 279 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:23,200 What you need to remember is this cold turkey will produce 280 00:15:23,200 --> 00:15:26,900 results, but it won't produce lasting results for you to 281 00:15:26,900 --> 00:15:30,400 really Break Free. You need to replace your Old bad 282 00:15:30,400 --> 00:15:33,500 habit of watching? Pornography with a new habit. 283 00:15:33,500 --> 00:15:36,200 Look, it's a bit like this. I don't know if you like hiking 284 00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:39,000 in the mountains. Well, I personally do for anyone 285 00:15:39,000 --> 00:15:42,800 who goes hiking or walking often, you'd be foolish not to 286 00:15:42,800 --> 00:15:45,600 follow the path. There's very often a really 287 00:15:45,600 --> 00:15:49,400 well-trodden path and, you know, just follow that path and you'll 288 00:15:49,400 --> 00:15:52,300 get to your destination. But have you ever noticed that 289 00:15:52,300 --> 00:15:55,100 sometimes you'll get the really well-trodden path. 290 00:15:55,400 --> 00:15:58,800 And then they'll be another path that just veers off where if you 291 00:15:58,800 --> 00:16:03,500 like them or and eccentric Walkers or the more and stubborn 292 00:16:03,500 --> 00:16:06,900 walkers have gone their own way and they've carved out A New 293 00:16:06,900 --> 00:16:08,300 Path. It's not as deep. 294 00:16:08,300 --> 00:16:11,700 It's not as firm as the other one, but it is starting to leave 295 00:16:11,700 --> 00:16:13,800 its Mark. Well, that's what you've got to 296 00:16:13,800 --> 00:16:17,100 see the brain. Like you see your brain now has 297 00:16:17,100 --> 00:16:21,800 a really deep path which leads instantly to pornography that is 298 00:16:21,800 --> 00:16:24,600 a path that has been well trodden and you've gone to it 299 00:16:24,600 --> 00:16:28,300 many many times, but just like if all the Walkers stop walking 300 00:16:28,300 --> 00:16:31,500 on the well-trodden path And then use this other path that 301 00:16:31,500 --> 00:16:34,700 veers off. Eventually, grass will cover up 302 00:16:34,700 --> 00:16:38,100 the well-trodden path. And this new one will grow. 303 00:16:38,500 --> 00:16:41,300 That's what you need to do with your mind. 304 00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:46,200 You need to set a new habit, a new hobby, maybe a new project, 305 00:16:46,200 --> 00:16:50,100 something new, which replaces the old habit, and then your 306 00:16:50,100 --> 00:16:52,400 brain gets used to go into that place. 307 00:16:52,700 --> 00:16:55,500 At first, you will meet a lot of resistance because your brain 308 00:16:55,500 --> 00:17:00,100 doesn't like big changes but eventually once you set that New 309 00:17:00,100 --> 00:17:03,200 habit in place. It will be harder for your brain 310 00:17:03,200 --> 00:17:05,800 to return to the old habit of pornography. 311 00:17:06,300 --> 00:17:09,800 Does that make sense? So, here are some ideas perhaps. 312 00:17:10,400 --> 00:17:12,300 I don't know. Maybe you'd there's a sport that 313 00:17:12,300 --> 00:17:15,099 you'd love to try and play. Maybe that could be your new 314 00:17:15,099 --> 00:17:17,300 hobby. Perhaps, there's a language. 315 00:17:17,300 --> 00:17:20,000 You'd like to learn. Maybe you just need to really, 316 00:17:20,000 --> 00:17:23,900 really focus on your work or on tidying your house and doing up 317 00:17:23,900 --> 00:17:28,000 your house manually, whatever it is think of a project think of 318 00:17:28,000 --> 00:17:29,600 something which you're passionate about. 319 00:17:29,700 --> 00:17:32,400 Out, which you can get excited about and let that be the thing. 320 00:17:32,400 --> 00:17:36,300 You focus, your mind on rather than giving all of this time, 321 00:17:36,300 --> 00:17:40,200 procrastinating, watching sinful things on the internet. 322 00:17:40,200 --> 00:17:43,500 I'll tell you something else, which is so, so important in 323 00:17:43,500 --> 00:17:47,200 breaking the chains of this addiction is fasting. 324 00:17:47,400 --> 00:17:50,600 If you subscribe to this YouTube channel, you know, I really do 325 00:17:50,600 --> 00:17:53,600 believe in fasting and prayer and in my own life. 326 00:17:53,600 --> 00:17:56,000 I've seen it conquer. Great sends. 327 00:17:56,000 --> 00:17:59,400 You see the disciples once approached Jesus and said, why 328 00:17:59,400 --> 00:18:01,500 is it? We couldn't cast out this demon, 329 00:18:01,500 --> 00:18:06,200 But You, O, Lord could, and Jesus responded by saying this 330 00:18:06,200 --> 00:18:09,900 demon will only leave through prayer and fasting. 331 00:18:10,200 --> 00:18:12,400 And sometimes there are dark things. 332 00:18:12,400 --> 00:18:16,200 There are dark sins, which have clung to us for years and years. 333 00:18:16,400 --> 00:18:20,600 And the only way they can leave is through prayer and fasting. 334 00:18:20,900 --> 00:18:24,500 So if you've not yet seriously fasted and sought the Lord's 335 00:18:24,500 --> 00:18:29,000 face for him to deliver you of this sin or mayor gently suggest 336 00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:32,000 today should Be the day. You start a fast before the 337 00:18:32,000 --> 00:18:32,700 Lord. Now. 338 00:18:32,700 --> 00:18:35,600 I've spoken a lot already and I want to say to you, if you've 339 00:18:35,600 --> 00:18:38,200 watched this long. Thank you for being so gracious 340 00:18:38,500 --> 00:18:41,900 to listen to what I've got to say, but there's one more thing 341 00:18:42,100 --> 00:18:45,700 that I really feel the Lord would want me to drive home 342 00:18:45,700 --> 00:18:49,800 right now. And it's this, I believe there's 343 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:51,800 someone watching this video right now. 344 00:18:52,100 --> 00:18:55,800 And the reason you keep going back to pornography over and 345 00:18:55,800 --> 00:18:59,400 over again. It's for this one reason. 346 00:19:00,200 --> 00:19:05,100 You hate yourself, you really, really hate yourself. 347 00:19:05,100 --> 00:19:08,900 And if we go back to the pornography cycle, we see the 348 00:19:08,900 --> 00:19:14,500 shame fuels, everything that happens from this cycle because 349 00:19:14,500 --> 00:19:18,900 you feel rubbish about yourself because you are disgusted with 350 00:19:18,900 --> 00:19:23,200 yourself because perhaps you've had rejection or terrible trauma 351 00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:27,200 in the past. It's LED you into this wicked 352 00:19:27,200 --> 00:19:31,000 sin, and it's got a hold of you. My dear friends. 353 00:19:31,000 --> 00:19:35,600 I remember when I was really bad with watching things on the 354 00:19:35,600 --> 00:19:37,700 internet. There was a bridge that I used 355 00:19:37,700 --> 00:19:41,500 to walk across very often and the thoughts, I won't share them 356 00:19:41,500 --> 00:19:43,200 with you. But the thoughts I used to think 357 00:19:43,200 --> 00:19:49,200 about how I could hurt myself was all, because I was so angry 358 00:19:49,200 --> 00:19:52,300 and so disgusted at myself, for this sin. 359 00:19:52,300 --> 00:19:56,700 I kept committing and sometimes preachers say this about this 360 00:19:56,700 --> 00:20:01,200 ministry, people have said to me, you're Other Christians in 361 00:20:01,200 --> 00:20:03,300 their sin, you're not being hard enough. 362 00:20:03,300 --> 00:20:06,400 You're not being harsh enough. He needs to be more brutal with 363 00:20:06,400 --> 00:20:09,100 people, and please don't misunderstand me. 364 00:20:09,300 --> 00:20:12,300 There is a time to be brutal. There is a time to rebuke 365 00:20:12,300 --> 00:20:16,800 someone very hard line in the face, but I don't believe when 366 00:20:16,800 --> 00:20:19,000 it comes to sexual sin like this. 367 00:20:19,200 --> 00:20:21,400 It's appropriate. Why? 368 00:20:21,700 --> 00:20:25,100 Because the person who's committing sexual sin is already 369 00:20:25,100 --> 00:20:29,500 broken, and I can tell you right now is the grace of God. 370 00:20:29,900 --> 00:20:33,900 That sets people free, you can shout at people, you can get 371 00:20:33,900 --> 00:20:37,300 angry at them, but that will just lead them further and 372 00:20:37,300 --> 00:20:41,200 further into this addiction, and I'm in danger now of boasting. 373 00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:46,300 But everyday, I pray to the Lord, I beg God for all of the 374 00:20:46,300 --> 00:20:48,600 subscribers that I have on my channel. 375 00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:52,000 I plead with God, please. If there are any of them who are 376 00:20:52,000 --> 00:20:55,300 struggling with repetitive sin. If there are any who are in 377 00:20:55,300 --> 00:20:59,000 pure, please help them to walk the path of Purity. 378 00:20:59,400 --> 00:21:02,800 I don't Just say messages that Comfort people into their sin 379 00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:06,000 and make them more addicted. Just because that tickles there 380 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:10,400 is no, I can tell you right now. I want every single one of these 381 00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:14,400 people to walk in Holiness, because that's what God calls us 382 00:21:14,400 --> 00:21:17,000 to do. So if you are watching 383 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:20,300 pornography, if you are addicted, I want to tell you 384 00:21:20,300 --> 00:21:23,700 something. God, still loves you. 385 00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:27,700 God's love is unconditional. It's not anything to do with 386 00:21:27,700 --> 00:21:29,400 what we do. He loves us. 387 00:21:29,900 --> 00:21:34,700 Because he loves us and Jesus Christ on the cross. 388 00:21:34,700 --> 00:21:39,300 He died for pornography addicts. He died for sexual Sinners. 389 00:21:39,500 --> 00:21:43,200 He died for liars, for deceivers on the cross. 390 00:21:43,400 --> 00:21:47,200 Jesus Christ was punished and you need to remember that. 391 00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:51,400 He took the shame of our sin and carried it on the cross. 392 00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:55,700 So it's gone forever more. So I plead with you if there's 393 00:21:55,700 --> 00:21:59,800 anyone watching today who has not yet, received that love. 394 00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:03,000 Lord, Jesus Christ. Remind yourself. 395 00:22:03,300 --> 00:22:07,100 God loves me. And Jesus died for me, and come 396 00:22:07,100 --> 00:22:11,000 to the cross and get that forgiveness, that only Jesus can 397 00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:14,900 give you and let your sins be washed away and dwell in the 398 00:22:14,900 --> 00:22:19,000 forgiveness and righteousness of God, because anyone who's been 399 00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:22,300 born of God is declared righteous. 400 00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:25,600 And the god of the universe is a merciful god. 401 00:22:25,700 --> 00:22:28,400 I don't know if there's anyone who's American watching this. 402 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:31,800 Well, in fact, I do, I do know, there's many people who are 403 00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:34,100 American watching this because that's the majority of my 404 00:22:34,100 --> 00:22:36,800 audience, but I don't know if there's anyone who lives near 405 00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:39,600 Niagara River. I've heard that at Niagara 406 00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:44,100 River, there's a point and it was once called The Point Of No 407 00:22:44,100 --> 00:22:46,300 Redemption or the point of no return. 408 00:22:46,300 --> 00:22:51,400 And when a ship went past this point, it would go right over 409 00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:53,300 the waterfall. And that was it. 410 00:22:53,300 --> 00:22:56,100 There was no return, but very, very occasionally. 411 00:22:56,100 --> 00:23:00,400 There was a ship one or two ships and a gust of And once 412 00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:04,500 said, gone past the point of no return, the ship was saved, and 413 00:23:04,500 --> 00:23:09,000 the people were kept safe, but I want to tell you right now, 414 00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:12,700 anyone who's listening, anyone who is watching this video 415 00:23:12,700 --> 00:23:13,500 right? Now. 416 00:23:14,100 --> 00:23:17,500 You've not yet gone past the point of no return. 417 00:23:17,700 --> 00:23:20,300 God has given you breath in your lungs. 418 00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:23,100 There is an opportunity to repent today. 419 00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:27,100 And right now I want to tell you you really can get free from 420 00:23:27,100 --> 00:23:28,800 this sin. So don't lose. 421 00:23:28,800 --> 00:23:31,700 Hope go. God is love and God can carry 422 00:23:31,700 --> 00:23:35,500 your shame and take it away from you and deliver you and give you 423 00:23:35,500 --> 00:23:38,400 Victory from this sin. Now, as promised here is the 424 00:23:38,400 --> 00:23:41,200 video that I told you about that is more dealing with the 425 00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:44,100 spiritual side of how to overcome sexual sin. 426 00:23:44,300 --> 00:23:47,400 If you'd like to watch it. 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