This is Keith Keith believes that fooling around at parties
kissing different girls, at nightclubs and even losing, his
virginity is no big deal. This is why he is wrong.
You see we've been deceived into believing, it's just a casual
hookup but the reality is there's never a clean tear in
fact, a part of that person will always remain with you and a
part of you will always remain with that person.
Let me introduce you to one of the most wicked men in the Bible
and man called a mom. Now, Armand was the King's son,
but he had a total Obsession for another woman who lived in the
palace a woman called Tamar. This Obsession, it wasn't pure,
it wasn't wholesome, like Romeo and Juliet.
No, it was filthy, it was wicked.
It was corrupt and because Hammond dwelt on this fantasy
day after day eventually. It's unhinged his mind and made
him very ill. One of his friends, a man called
John adapt. Now, the Bible says that John
adapt was a crafty mirjana. Dab said to his friend, I'm on
what is wrong with you? I've noticed you're losing
weight. Tell me what is eating you up
and so am I Man told him his obsession, he told him all of
his heart. So jonadab said, don't worry
about it. We can sort out.
Here is my scheme, that I've conjured up, what you need to do
is you need to go to your bed and you need to pretend that
you're very sick, then send for the king and say to the king, I
want you to send tame our to me, ask her to prepare a meal for me
and let her feed me with her very hand Amman, followed the
deceptive scheme precisely and so he faked his own illness he
called for the king and said, Would you send tame our to me to
feed me with her very hand? Tame are obeyed, the Kings
wishes and came in with a batch full of cakes that she baked
herself at first am on said I refuse to eat these cakes until
everyone else is out of the room.
So again the servants are paid and they left, Tamar and Armand,
totally alone. Once they were alone, I'm on
said, calm. Tamar come feed me with your
very hand and to tame our began to walk over to where I'm on.
As she got closer, and then grabbed her and said, come lie
with me, come lie with me, tame, our and tame our cried out at
the top of her voice. No, do not do such a disgraceful
thing. If you do this, you would bring
shame on us for the rest of our lives, but the sad reality, is
this one. Sexual sin has been ignited.
It does not listen to reason. It is blind to all the
consequences is all it cares about is getting Sing its Phil,
then and this one act, this very act that her mom was about to
do, would ruin the rest of his life.
But he did not care because he was filled with filthy desire.
You can probably imagine what happened next because a man was
bigger because he was Stronger. He forced himself on Tamar and
stole the one thing that was precious to her her virginity,
but my dear friends, there is something which makes this story
even more disturbing, and it's this, Is Tamar was a man's
sister. Look, why do I tell you about a
man? And Tamar, I do it to remind you
that when you commit sexual sin three things die.
The Bible says, then when desire has conceived, it gives birth to
sin and sin when it is full-grown brings forth death.
The first thing to die was am on and temas relationship.
I mean, think about it. How could they go back to any
sense of normality? Brother and sister after what a
man had done. And yet to this very day, what
is the thing that the devil is using more than anything else to
destroy the family home. He's using sexual sin, sexual
sin has blown so many families to Pieces, you've got men and
women, you've committed adultery, the family home has
been broken, you've got men and sometimes women in secret
watching wrong filthy, things on the internet.
And what has this done? Is created a barrier in the
home, a coldness, a hard. Nurse in the heart and the devil
is rubbing his hands together, knowing that this one tool
unlocks, all the pain and the trauma that goes on for
Generation after generation, John Owens said be killing sin
or it will kill you. And my question to you is have
you mastered the art of killing sin or are you letting sin kill
you? Now, I know the men who are
watching this video right now, you are repulsed by this story
of what am on. Did to tame our?
Can I say this I believe Many men in the 21st century
resembles. Something of a man's character.
Okay, they wouldn't go to these great horrific lamps that he
went to to get what he wanted, but I do believe that many men
do go to Great Lengths, and they will even manipulate women to
get what they want. How many times have you heard
that a woman? A girl say this.
He told me, he loved me. And as soon as he got what he
wanted, he dumped me and would have nothing to do with me
anymore. My dear friends, the sad reality
is many men, use love as a way to access a woman's body, but
many women use their bodies as a way to access a man's heart.
And, you know, as well as I do that.
That is not the way God designed it.
God created this Oneness this intimacy as a precious gift and
it is a beautiful thing to be one flesh of another person.
The only place this intimacy can flourish is, within the walls.
Marriage. Hey, let's go back to our story.
The moment that Armond achieved. His fantasy is the same moment
that oddly enough, he grew very, very angry.
You see, in his mind, he pictured, this fantasy played it
out in his mind over and over again.
But the reality was very, very different to what he'd been
thinking over in his mind. So, what did he do?
He grew bitter and angry with Tamar.
He was actually repulsed by her and threw her out of his sight.
He bolted the door and said, I want nothing to do Do with you
and left that poor girl out there totally ashamed and
totally broken. That's what sin does.
It spins this slide, this exaggerated and phatak, massive
huge, big juicy, pleasure. And yet when we experience it,
it leaves us rather flat some rather empty.
I wonder, are you addicted to watching imp your images on the
internet? Did you know this psychology
tells us those people? You spend the most time addicted
to watching these Things on their phone on their computer.
Those same people are the most irritable people in life and
often have a short fuse because they become so selfish and so
self-centered. So here's a gentle warning to
the unmarried if you believe that sleeping with your
boyfriend or girlfriend will make them, love you more or make
your relationship, go up to the next level.
I want to tell you something, it will probably kill the
relationship because very often when we introduced things into
our relationships which should only only be introduced in the
walls of marriage. It very often makes, one of the
people run a million miles away because it did not play out the
way they imagined it and maybe just maybe there's someone
watching and they're confused. Why has he stopped texting me?
Why has he shut me out of his life?
Why is he dumped me? Why is he blocked me on social
media or perhaps this might just be the reason why the second
thing which sexual sin kills is? It kills your reputation?
Remember how I told you that a man was King song.
Well one day I'm on had the right to sit on the throne of
David. He had the right to be king over
Israel and who knows in Biblical history, we might have known him
as a mighty man of Valor, one of the great Kings but instead what
was his Destiny instead? What life did he choose?
He chose to be a fool and now everyone sees him as one of the
most wicked man in all of the Bible a number of years ago.
When I used to work in schools, there was a young man who is
very gifted at teaching and Was so gifted, in fact that he was
going to get promoted, he was going to become one of the head
teachers. One of the principles of the
school that this young man had a weakness.
He loved running off with different women.
He ran off with different women in the school.
He went to parties and he put his pictures all over social
media and everyone knew him that he loved the women.
He loved the ladies. So, how did the school react?
While they simply could not trust him with this higher
responsibility? A my dear friend, it's not just
Men Who That reputation women also can lose that reputation.
Okay, perhaps they're not hurt physically but many women are
hurt emotionally. There are many women who to this
very day years and years ago. They were scarred years and
years ago, someone hurt them who they made themselves vulnerable
to and they spread rumors about their body in the locker room.
They tore that woman's body to pieces and all of the men.
All the friends laughed about it.
Perhaps more recently, they saw a picture of you They sense it
around the whole of the school around all of their friendship
group and you were totally ashamed.
My dear friends. It's not true.
The rhyme that goes like this sticks and stones may break my
bones. But words will never hurt me.
Listen guys, you can break your leg and it will one day, he'll,
but if someone breaks your heart very rarely does it actually.
Heal. Okay, we move on from the pain,
but the scar Still Remains and the third thing to die.
Is you two years later? A man is drunk.
In the palace again. He's showing that he's a man who
lacks self-control. He wasn't a man who could have
one or two drinks? No, he had to drink the whole
bottle. Temas brother, a man called
Absalom was very, very angry. Her, what animal did those two
years previous? So he had his servants come and
seek revenge. So while this man was staggering
around drunk. Absalom had a man struck down
and killed and that brings us to tame our although she was
totally innocent. Isn't in this, she suffered
because of a mans in and although she did not die.
Physically, she died inside the Bible says, she put ashes on her
head and she walked across the palace morning for a virginity
that now, she was no longer like the daughters of Israel.
What about you, what about me? Well, I believe the Bible
teaches this for the man or woman who refuses to repent from
sexual sin. I'm not talking about making
mistakes. I'm not talking about falling
into sin occasionally. Talking about a lifestyle where
this person is saying, I'm having this sin, I'll have God
as well, but I want this sin, I want this sin and I will not let
go of it. No matter how much I am told to
repent. Well, I think the Bible is
clear. It says, you might not die
physically but you will die spiritually.
And there is a second death that awaits all of those who refuse
to turn from their sins and would choose Darkness, rather
than light. The Book of Revelation says, but
the Cowardly unbelieving abominable murderers.
Murderers sexually, immoral Sorcerers idolaters and all
liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire
and brimstone, which is the second death.
Does that sound harsh? I don't mean to sound harsh.
I don't mean to sound like I'm hitting you over the head with a
stick because the man looking at you right now is a dreadful
Sinner and I believe I probably messed up a lot worse than many
of you watching this video but I just want to tell you though.
We may have lost our virginity though.
We may. I have played the field though.
He may have done shameful things that were embarrassed of the
Lord can forgive us. And if we come to the Cross, God
can make us as pure as his son, the Lord Jesus Christ.
About a year ago, I was preaching on the streets of
England. When a woman in her 60s told me,
I want you to stop preaching and she just would not let it go.
She kept persisting, the I must stop preaching.
So eventually, I actually, did I stop preaching, and I entered
into a conversation. Sensation with her.
She told me what her occupation was.
She was a lady of the night and I really did do my best.
I tried to show the love of Christ.
I tried to share the gospel but it just seemed like there was
this barrier this stubbornness and I couldn't break through a
point. There was a point where I broke
through. I remember, once we were talking
about her grandchildren and I said, I'm sure your
grandchildren. Love you to pieces and a
tenderness filled her eyes, but then the next moment, again, she
was angry. She was aggressive as I The
conversation I went away feeling very discouraged thinking,
there's a lost person and have I really told her about the
Savior, have a really shown her that this great big God sent his
son to bleed and die on a cross to save her.
So I said to my friend, who is an experienced evangelist?
What would you do instead? What would you say?
Instead, this is what he said. I'd say this.
Joel tell her that Jesus can restore her dignity.
Petit. My dear friend, I want to say
the exact same thing to you. It doesn't matter who you are.
It doesn't matter what you've done.
Does it matter how many people you've been with?
Jesus Christ can restore your dignity today when he went to
the Cross, he took all of our shame.
All of our impurity, all of our playing the field, all of the
wrong things we've done. And on the cross, he suffered
there and that blood that was shed, can wash away can scrub
away? All of our sins just like For a
man who's covered in dirt stands in a fast-flowing river.
He'll be washed clean. So the blood of the Lord, Jesus
Christ, washes away, all of our sins and makes this clean.
And then the precious Lord, Jesus, who died was buried on
the third day. He rose from the dead and that
means that anyone who's had a terrible past.
If they put their trust in the Lord Jesus Christ, they can be
certain of one thing. They have a wonderful future in
him. And my question to you is, have
you Put your trust in the Lord. Jesus Christ.
Perhaps all you've known in your life is rejection.
Perhaps all you've known your life is people walking away from
you and leaving you alone. Well I want to point you to the
man, the son of man, the Lord Jesus Christ, who will always
remain faithful and he will never leave you nor forsake you,
so commit your life to him now and I promise you, although
you'll let him down. I've let him down many times, he
will never let you down. I must ask you this though.
I wonder if you're watching this video now and you're in a
relationship with an unbeliever or perhaps you just want to know
more about dating as a Christian.
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