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Oh great, she logs on and 
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fucking police car. 
It's casualty central. 

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Anyway, let's crack on. 
OK, I don't know if I'm getting 

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a little sick, but I'm going to 
drink the pain away. 

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That should be the tagline. 
Hello and and welcome to Drinks 

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at the Bar, a podcast where we 
breakthrough the 4th wall and 

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discuss everything about dance 
and the theatre industry. 

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My name is Paul James Rooney, a 
dancer, choreographer and dance 

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teacher based in Copenhagen and 
I am your host of Drinks at the 

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Bar. 
Today I'm joined by not only my 

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regular guest host, but by my 
best friend Damien Lee Sterk. 

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Hi everybody, I'm Damien Lee 
Sterk, director of the Dancers 

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Studio London, classical ballet 
teacher and actor with the Royal

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Ballet. 
Here we will discuss everything 

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from hearing backstage stories, 
touring shenanigans, to deeper 

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issues like body image training,
the reality of being a freelance

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dancer, and much more. 
With guest professionals, we are

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here to share our knowledge, 
experience, and help you with 

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any questions or problems you 
may have about dance and 

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navigating the dance world. 
Hello, Denise. 

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Hi darling, how are you? 
I'm good, thank you. 

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I've been in rehearsals with 
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So we've started already 
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things for My Fair Lady, which 
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of February. 
So James and I are in the studio

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creating stuff before. 
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ready for when everybody starts 
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in the studio with a friend. 
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No, it's not working, but it's 
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isn't it? 
It's lovely. 

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It's lovely and it's, you know, 
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each other like, you know, like 
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So you can giggle and you can 
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It's just a nice like we said 
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like a safe place. 
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It's a really, you know, safe 
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idea and it's completely fine. 
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I'm really happy to be back in 
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So yeah, how about you? 
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the Limbury with the Ossipova 
performances like I, which I 

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will cherish for cherish for the
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finished the last two weeks of 
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Ballet. 
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wrapped up. 
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workshops of my own with the 
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then it's time to get into the 
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Try not to eat too many quality 
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That will happen. 
Not the top is because my mum 

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won't let me and just enjoy 
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guilty about, you know, having 
some time off and and and 

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stuffing my face. 
Oh fantastic. 

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The usual. 
Well cheers love. 

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I have myself a lovely Tanqueray
London dry gin and tonic. 

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Oh lovely, I have a vodka tonic 
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Purely medicinal. 
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I thought, I thought, why not? 
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I have a late start tomorrow and
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know, relieve the muscles. 
Well, cheers love. 

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I was swallowing. 
Cheers. 

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All right. 
RESPECT. 

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Today we're talking about 
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it. 
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different subjects that we've 
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know, the season and on 
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about, you know, especially back
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respect from the bosses or the 
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and all of that and respect had 
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of stuff. 
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should just Crouch a subject 
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delicate, but I think it needs 
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And I'm not pretending to be a 
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in the world. 
I am also, I have made mistakes 

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in my past. 
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I'm not the Dalai Lama, but I'm 
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I'm trying to be a better 
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discussion about respect within 
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bubble and where we work. 
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think of off the top of my head 
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works in the building. 
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we've briefly spoken about this 
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some seasoned dancers as well to
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the building and they are the 
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world and not have respect for, 
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cleaning the corridor or 
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said ballet dancer is walking 
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I, we all deserve respect. 
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very good at that, especially 
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I'm not saying that I always 
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I think I'm very good at walking
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everybody, whether it is a 
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whether it is a stage manager, 
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manager is my boyfriend, whether
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alien to someone working in that
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already, probably feels a little
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not at home first. 
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next to nothing, being all 
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and having their bubble that 
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not less than or treated less 
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treating people. 
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example, cleaners, technicians, 
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performers at work. 
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I mean, and it's interesting 
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cleaner as an example because 
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House only a few days ago and 
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room. 
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you? 
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mentioned, he said, oh, I'm so 
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cleaner. 
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before, but I was like, of 
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Like, why wouldn't I? 
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feeling that you get. 
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for a non dancer like you've 
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Within an environment where we 
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comfortable within our own 
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tactile and in a group scenario 
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And if your role is not dancing 
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doesn't mean that your your role
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the director for that matter. 
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play and they do require 
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responsibility. 
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appreciate just how much how 
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When you're younger, you tend to
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and self absorbed. 
We all go through that and 

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certainly within a dance 
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things to think about and your 
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repertoire, putting on a 
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everything is right. 
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capacity, in all fairness, to be
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your peripheral vision. 
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walk past a cleaner or a 
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the cafe that morning and, and 
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I have moved into more leading 
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Yeah, you, I think you, you 
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honing in those skills because 
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people around you, they all 
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million times. 
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hierarchy, it's respect. 
It all boils down to respect. 

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environment longer, you do feel 
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We've all experienced it. 
It feels like a second home. 

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responsibility rather than 
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feel like you are superior 
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particularly in the classical 
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much absorbed with this 
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better the higher you are. 
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world and. 
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It's a a very slippery slope 
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with kindness and fairness. 
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level of maturity and experience
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saying hello to the cleaner is 
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hello to the director if you 
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the corridor. 
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you're a decent human being? 
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soon as you might feel that 
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in that rehearsal room or in 
that ballet or in that 

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production or whatever it is. 
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day, it's just a ballet. 
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Life is what we're actually 
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And that cleaner coming to work,
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doing a solo in your show or 
make is not in your production 

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or whatever it is. 
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and that cleaner is still 
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your life and deserves. 
Respect. 

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to the bigger picture. 
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to say good morning. 
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And it really does make a 
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It really does make a difference
and I love what you've mentioned

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in a previous episode. 
Which seems which sounds like a 

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Danish tradition. 
Where is it when you're leaving?

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Oh yeah. 
Takfri Afton. 

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Yeah. 
Thank you for the evening. 

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Yeah, I love that. 
I love that. 

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I think it's really, really 
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And it's just common decency, 
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I mean, but also we can be, we 
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missing those moments, you know?
And I, I believe I have 

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mentioned this story in the 
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3042. 
So it's hard, it's hard to keep 

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track of all the episodes, but 
there was one occasion where I 

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was assisting the make up, the 
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international tour of a 
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a performer and which is 
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story. 
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early because we were setting up
the make up room and making sure

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everything was ready. 
And a dancer walked in and I was

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one of the first people that she
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And the first thing came that 
came out of her mouth wasn't, 

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oh, hi, morning. 
How you know, how was breakfast 

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all, you know, whatever it was, 
there's no bin in my dressing 

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room. 
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It sent me over the edge because
I was, I was thinking why is she

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asking me? 
Like, I'm not even the person 

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that would sort that out for 
you. 

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So what? 
Because she was so oblivious to 

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kind of, you know, the roles 
that we all play within that 

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environment, that because I was 
a non dancer in that moment, it 

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didn't matter what I'm a person.
And I did, I learnt, you know, a

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big lesson in that moment. 
Be of awareness because it's 

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very easily done. 
And I don't think, you know, she

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meant anything by it really. 
And I don't believe, I like to 

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believe it wasn't an, a personal
attack, you know, to say, well, 

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you're not dancing in this 
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You're, you're part of the other
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But I don't think it was not 
calculated at all. 

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But it did make me realise that 
we have to be very careful with 

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how we prevent ourselves within 
that industry because we're all 

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contributing. 
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they're very strict in what they
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There's no overflow. 
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you would help. 
You know, I think I said 

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something like, I have no idea, 
it's my first day as it is 

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yours, but maybe I can ask so 
and so to help. 

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Or why don't you go and ask the 
company manager? 

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You know why? 
Don't you bugger off. 

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Why don't you take this paper 
cup and fill your boots? 

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But it it's, it's awareness. 
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someone else, it's a great thing
to mirror that and ask yourself,

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oh gosh, have I been guilty of 
that? 

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Because I'm pretty certain we 
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Exactly. 
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I'm not sitting here on my high 
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been disrespectful or I've 
never, you know, whatever 

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exactly what you said. 
It is something that comes with 

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age and something that comes 
with maturity. 

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It really does. 
And that's why, you know, one of

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the reasons why I want to 
discuss it on the podcast is to 

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hopefully instill instill 
something that we've learned 

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later in life to people that are
just graduating so you don't 

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make the same mistakes that I 
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And for me saying saying hello 
to keep on saying cleaner, but 

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whoever saying hello to someone 
who works in the building that I

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don't usually see. 
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back and that little smile that 
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chemical reaction in your body 
and make you feel better. 

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Like not saying that it's a 
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you're doing it to make yourself
feel better for someone smiling 

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at you. 
But like it is, you know, we're 

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humans, we we love interaction 
with people and just having 

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that, you know, positive start 
to a day, you giving something 

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out positive to the world and 
them giving something positive 

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back is just great for your day 
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And it costs nothing, right? 
You know, I mean, good manners. 

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It costs absolutely nothing. 
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somebody feel recognized, 
they're worth, you know, for the

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job that they're facilitating in
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morning or good afternoon or, 
you know, how are you? 

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I think it really is. 
It's priceless. 

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And I would hope that I would 
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am I, whether you're a stranger 
or I've seen you for the 10th 

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time that week, it's still. 
Every day of my life for the 

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past 10 years. 
At breakfast, in the dressing 

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room, on stage in the green 
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Hotel bar, breakfast club. 
Another club, another club, but 

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I think you know, if you're, if 
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know, believe it or not, I am 
not. 

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You might laugh at this, but I'm
not a confrontational person. 

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Same. 
I'm not either. 

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Only when pressed. 
No, I don't. 

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I don't. 
I don't search for that 

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interaction. 
Oh, I hate conflict. 

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Child of divorce here cannot. 
I don't like it, I don't enjoy 

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it and much rather things run 
smoothly. 

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But sometimes, you know, in 
certain cases you do need to be 

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able to voice how you're 
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So it can be misconstrued if 
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like you're the type of person 
that doesn't even feel 

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comfortable saying hello to a 
complete stranger or the cleaner

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or the persons running the cafe 
or the person who you see at 

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staged or five to seven times a 
week because you're not 

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comfortable with that 
interaction. 

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I think that's OK. 
But my advice would be try and 

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hone those skills where you can 
open yourself up to at least 

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engage and make eye contact with
the people around you. 

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But if you're the type of person
that's selectively, you know, if

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you're that, if you find that 
you're the type of person that 

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gets a kick out of, you know, 
living in that hierarchical 

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world, then you need to have a 
conversation with yourself. 

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Because actually making other 
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less than is all about the 
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behaviour and not about the 
recipient of that, of that 

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behaviour. 
So I think, you know, it's good 

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to get a grasp of how you're 
presenting yourself within the 

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workplace, but it's also, it's 
also great to have an 

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understanding of how you're 
presenting yourself in life. 

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And we've spoken about this, you
know, before. 

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Yes. 
That takes growth. 

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And I'm pretty certain that when
I was a young dancer, I was so 

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involved in my life as a dancer 
that I probably didn't make eye 

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contact with the person serving 
me in the cafe or signing in a 

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stage door. 
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culpability and growth is what 
we're trying to instill with our

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with our audiences. 
Yeah, Nolessness. 

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Something that I've experienced 
as a teacher and lots of the 

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time I think is not done through
trying to be rude, but kind of 

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jumping back to what we just 
spoke about. 

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Like actions do matter and 
sometimes you might not be doing

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something on purpose. 
You might be in your own world, 

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but how you come across to 
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difference. 
And for me, for example, it 

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happened the other day. 
I was teaching and it was a 

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short routine we did across the 
floor and I said every group 

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does it twice, right? 
So we do it twice and then the 

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next group starts and the next 
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And it happened a couple of 
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One of the dancers fucked up or 
fell off the pirouette or 

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whatever it was, and then just 
kind of walked across the rooms 

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like shoulders forward a bit. 
I know it's not a visual medium.

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This is a podcast, kind of like 
teenager E, like, you know, that

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kind of slumped over kind of 
thing. 

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And I let everybody go across 
the room and then I stopped the 

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music and I was like, guys, you 
need to realize that your body 

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language is really rude towards 
me. 

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I know you're, you're, I'm 
guessing it's nothing towards 

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me. 
I'm because I'm an amazing 

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teacher. 
No, I'm, I'm guessing it's not 

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me. 
I'm guessing you're frustrated 

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with yourself that you made a 
mistake or you're frustrated 

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that you fell over or you're 
frustrated that you couldn't 

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pick up the exercise, whatever 
it is. 

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But when I say we do, each group
does it twice and you choose not

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to do it twice and you choose to
just walk across the studio 

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slumped over like a kind of 
angry teenager that kind of 

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says, excuse my language, fuck 
off to the teacher. 

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You know what I mean? 
It really does feel like you're 

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walking across the room and 
sticking your middle finger up 

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at me like because you're on 
purpose, choosing not to do what

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I said. 
And and then obviously I, you 

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know, I said this to the class 
and they straight to like, Oh, 

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no, it's not what I meant to 
say. 

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And I give you the benefit of 
the doubt and I already know 

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that that's not what you meant, 
but that's what comes across. 

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So my point being is that you 
have to be really aware of your 

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actions and your how you're 
coming across because it can be 

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very easily misconstrued. 
You can't live in your little 

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world and only be thinking about
what you're doing because what 

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you're portraying and what 
you're conveying with your body 

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language might be coming across 
very, very, very rude. 

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And in that situation, it was a 
proper, it was a proper time 

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that I could actually, you know,
use an example in real time and 

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use it as a, as a learning tool 
and be like, guys right here. 

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This is this is not good. 
It's rude to me. 

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It's rude to your fellow 
dancers. 

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Be aware of how you're you're 
acting in a classroom. 

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Yeah, it's interesting, isn't 
it? 

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You know, the way we may present
ourself in a class because I can

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imagine, you know, and as a 
professional dancer, you're so 

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wrapped up in doing the 
exercise, you're just focusing 

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on yourself. 
And quite rightly so. 

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If you're a considerate dancer, 
you'd also be checking your 

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peripheral vision and not 
getting in anybody's way. 

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But but in that moment, as a 
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responsibility is to get through
the exercise right. 

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They the dancer doesn't even 
have time to consider why you've

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asked for each group to go twice
along the room. 

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It's not just for, you know, 
shits and giggles. 

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It's so they get 2 attempts at 
doing the exercise because you. 

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Didn't make the exercise long 
enough. 

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OK, I want to say this twice 
because. 

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Oh, I thought it was longer than
it was. 

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Do it twice. 
Oh my God. 

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Oh my God. 
I made it four times and then 

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face the back wall and do it 
without the mirrors. 

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No, you know they don't have the
capacity to. 

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Well, they also can't read your 
mind. 

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They don't understand why you've
asked to see it twice. 

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So again, it's not they're not 
attacking you or disrespecting 

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you rather because they've only 
done it once. 

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But the way they presented 
themselves has kind of cocked up

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your flow of the reason why I've
asked for it twice is so you can

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have two attempts at it, get it 
into your bodies before we go to

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the other side. 
And it again. 

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It all boils down to awareness 
and and and etiquette. 

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But something so simple to read 
as I'm frustrated. 

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Therefore I can't even consider 
doing it a second time. 

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It's just habit and practice and
reshuffling how we react to 

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those situations. 
So the next time, hopefully 

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after that conversation that you
had with your group of dancers, 

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that person may think, oh, I'm 
not going to I'm, I am going to 

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do it twice. 
I remember that conversation. 

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I'm going to have another 
attempt because hopefully the 

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second attempt will be 
productive and they'll be like, 

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Oh my God, and feel much better 
about themselves rather than 

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quitting. 
They can't. 

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And also as I start to spiral, 
you know, they can't. 

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They also you can't quit on 
stage. 

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You can't just walk off if 
something goes wrong. 

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So why would you do it in a 
studio scenario? 

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So it's just about, you know, 
awareness. 

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Yeah, because that's also what 
we're teaching in the in the 

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classroom as well. 
And I say it many times in the 

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classroom, you know, you have 
these teachers, back in the day,

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you had these teachers who would
just go finish, finish, finish. 

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And you they'd never say why. 
They'll just say finish, you 

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know, OK, Danish, Swedish, 
Icelandic. 

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No, they'll be like screaming, 
like hold the ending of the 

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pirouette or whatever it is. 
Don't just walk across the room.

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And I, I know what the reason 
is. 

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But I, it's 2025. 
I tell my students why, You 

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know, I'm saying you have to 
make that double pirouette work 

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because if there's an audience 
watching this, you would have to

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make that work. 
You wouldn't, like you just 

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said, walk off during a show. 
You have to make the dance, the 

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pirouette, the the routine, 
whatever is, you have to make it

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work. 
We're spiralling. 

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Yeah, we're spiralling. 
We've now gone into the realm of

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teaching, but if we if we're 
able, if we're able to bring it 

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back, we are discussing respect.
And so we're just we just happen

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to be kind of sidebarring into a
category of respect within the 

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studio between the the student 
and the teacher. 

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But it still boils, excuse me, 
still boils down to to respect 

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and awareness. 
And this isn't the first time 

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I've said awareness 300 times in
an but it's relevant. 

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So you. 
Know it's relevant. 

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According to us. 
No, but you know, body language 

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and everything really really 
does matter. 

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And it matters also at work, you
know, it's not just you know, 

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between a, a teacher and A and a
student. 

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It also is towards your 
colleagues. 

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Like how you are coming across 
really can change somebody's day

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or experience of, you know, the,
the working hours or whatever it

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may be. 
So as we just mentioned, every 

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job within that company, that 
production is important, every 

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company is important, every size
production is important. 

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I hope things are different 
nowadays, but I know way back 

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when some of the larger schools 
that are maybe feeder schools 

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into specific companies train 
their students to have a job. 

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Their aim is to have a job in 
that specific company and that 

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is great. 
That is, you know, that is why 

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that school is there. 
You know, it's given funding by 

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the government to create dancers
for a said company. 

451
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:21,960
However, it does instill in, it 
does instill a, a feeling in 

452
00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:26,560
some of these students or 
dancers that if I'm not in that 

453
00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:31,280
company, other companies are 
less than your smaller touring 

454
00:25:31,280 --> 00:25:34,800
companies, your Vienna Festival 
ballets, your Tivoli. 

455
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:36,760
What I've worked out, I've 
experienced it myself from 

456
00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:40,200
dancers in bigger companies 
that, oh, you're not in. 

457
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:44,600
Insert big company name here. 
I am less than I am. 

458
00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:49,080
Yeah, it's a nothing job. 
It's not a proper dance company.

459
00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:52,640
And I'm sure I had that feeling 
when I was at ballet school and 

460
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:55,520
had that slight feeling towards 
smaller companies. 

461
00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:57,480
I thought, oh, I want to be in 
this. 

462
00:25:57,880 --> 00:26:03,560
Everything else is crap, but I 
will say that I feel very lucky 

463
00:26:04,360 --> 00:26:08,680
to have learned straight away 
that this is the wrong mindset 

464
00:26:08,680 --> 00:26:13,800
because my best friend became a 
dancer at Disneyland Paris and 

465
00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:18,640
straight away I learnt, you 
know, hands on that that's just 

466
00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:22,120
as hard a job, just as good a 
just as hard a job to try and 

467
00:26:22,120 --> 00:26:25,360
get just, you know, any job in 
this industry is hard to get. 

468
00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:29,640
So you know what I mean? 
Every single job is deserves 

469
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:33,640
respect, and just because you're
in big ballet company, that 

470
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:37,040
person in Disneyland Paris being
a dancer is not less than you, 

471
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:38,360
and that job is not less than 
you. 

472
00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:42,000
Also, that person working at 
Disneyland Paris might not even 

473
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:43,760
want to be in a big ballet 
company. 

474
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:46,880
Just because you were in that 
big ballet company and you 

475
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:51,040
wanted to be there doesn't mean 
that everybody else does, and 

476
00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:54,120
also doesn't mean that their job
or their small company or their 

477
00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:59,920
whatever do you want to describe
that job is less than yours just

478
00:26:59,920 --> 00:27:01,800
because it's not a big 
prestigious name. 

479
00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:06,640
And I think, I mean I feel that 
that is learnt behaviour and 

480
00:27:06,640 --> 00:27:10,320
that that's instilled in US 
during our training through 

481
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:15,240
generations within the industry.
And what I mean by that is we're

482
00:27:15,240 --> 00:27:19,000
conditioned to think if you 
don't make it into the top 

483
00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:23,720
company, then you have a lesser 
worth, even though you're still 

484
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:27,520
dancing because that's just the 
way we've been conditioned. 

485
00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:33,880
And I think the, the point that 
you're making or certainly that 

486
00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:38,920
I'm, I'm taking from what you've
just said is that every dancer 

487
00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:43,120
matters. 
And it shouldn't matter which 

488
00:27:43,120 --> 00:27:47,280
company you're with or which 
production or whether it's a 

489
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:51,040
touring show, a resident 
company, a huge national company

490
00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:55,760
or a very intimate 6 dancer 3 
performance scenario. 

491
00:27:56,680 --> 00:28:01,400
But that also has to come from 
our from our own mental health 

492
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:07,360
and self respect, I think. 
And again, as you get older, 

493
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:11,040
hopefully you've learnt those 
life lessons where you do learn 

494
00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:14,920
to respect your worth. 
And I think when you respect 

495
00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:17,040
yourself, it doesn't, it 
doesn't. 

496
00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:19,920
And it shouldn't matter how 
other people perceive you. 

497
00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:23,960
Now that's easier said than 
done, you know, certainly when I

498
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:28,320
left my performing career really
without an unofficial 

499
00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:31,320
retirement, I never said I'm 
never dancing again. 

500
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:37,280
I just had this transition of, 
well, really performing into and

501
00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:41,400
teaching and then predominantly 
teaching, stepping back onto the

502
00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:45,000
stage from time to time, but 
then into acting. 

503
00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:48,440
And when I entered that world of
ballet, and this is very 

504
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:54,040
specific to ballet acting, I 
returned to a world that was so 

505
00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:57,920
familiar to me but completely 
different at the same time. 

506
00:28:57,920 --> 00:29:03,280
And it took me, it took me a 
long time to settle with myself 

507
00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:07,480
that it was OK, Like I'm OK, 
It's OK to be a part of this 

508
00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:12,240
world but not dancing. 
But in the beginning, I felt 

509
00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:14,760
guilt. 
And I suppose I felt guilt 

510
00:29:14,800 --> 00:29:18,520
because I was worried that 
people wouldn't respect me for 

511
00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:22,400
acting in a ballet company when 
I should have been dancing. 

512
00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:27,320
But that's on me because my 
interpretation was, well, if 

513
00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:29,480
you're not dancing in a ballet 
company, then is it? 

514
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:31,440
You know what? 
What are you doing? 

515
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:32,400
You know? 
Yeah. 

516
00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:35,440
And I had to retrain my brain to
go hang on a second. 

517
00:29:35,440 --> 00:29:37,640
We all contribute to this 
performance. 

518
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:41,640
And now I can separate. 
And also I remind myself that I 

519
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:43,760
danced professionally for 25 
years. 

520
00:29:43,760 --> 00:29:47,880
It's like it's OK, you know? 
And I, I now perceive this as a 

521
00:29:47,880 --> 00:29:51,080
reward, as a treat. 
You know, I get to be on stage 

522
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:53,200
surrounded by phenomenal 
dancers. 

523
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:57,440
I'm still contributing in, in 
this way, but I'm not dancing. 

524
00:29:57,600 --> 00:30:00,200
But that's OK. 
But it took me a long time. 

525
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:04,920
I really had a hard time finding
myself, you know, standing on 

526
00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:07,680
stage, not dancing, thinking, Oh
my God, all these people are 

527
00:30:07,680 --> 00:30:10,000
going to be thinking, well, he's
classically trained, so why is 

528
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:12,960
he not dancing? 
But that, that was entirely on 

529
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:15,400
me. 
That's not to say that there are

530
00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:20,200
people that had those thoughts, 
but that's, again, that's 

531
00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:23,120
through their understanding or 
lack of, you know, lack of 

532
00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:25,800
maturity and understanding, you 
know, the evolution of the 

533
00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:27,360
dancer. 
You can't dance forever. 

534
00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:37,120
But I certainly had to work on 
myself to to find the balance of

535
00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:40,360
respect for myself. 
But that was from what was 

536
00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:43,200
instilled in me as a dancer, 
that if you're not aiming for 

537
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:46,960
the best and at the very, very 
top, then what's your worth? 

538
00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:50,000
And also, I mean, you saying 
that you had to find it within 

539
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:52,240
yourself because you thought 
people would be looking at you 

540
00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:56,520
and thinking that way, probably 
because you, well, you know, 

541
00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:59,120
there's not specific people I'm 
talking about, but you know that

542
00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:02,320
dancers in the industry and the 
scores do teach you to think 

543
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,720
like that. 
You do you. 

544
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:07,080
And again, like we said about, 
you know, walking through the 

545
00:31:07,080 --> 00:31:09,240
pseudo and not saying hello to 
the cleaner because you're so 

546
00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:12,680
focused on yourself. 
Like you also know that those 

547
00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:15,520
dancers are thinking about 
themselves and think about their

548
00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:20,200
performance and all of that. 
And there is that fine line of 

549
00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:23,960
working on yourself and being 
professional and concentrating 

550
00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:27,440
so much on what you're doing 
that it becomes you are the most

551
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:31,680
important person in the room and
it's not your job is important 

552
00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:35,880
and what you are giving is 
important, but it's not more 

553
00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:41,200
important than somebody else. 
And it's that balancing act of 

554
00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:47,240
making it important for you, but
it's not more important than 

555
00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:50,400
somebody else. 
Yes, yeah, you've hit the nail 

556
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:53,920
on the head there. 
Because the reality is that, you

557
00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:57,280
know, as we've, we've mentioned,
when, when you're working on a 

558
00:31:57,280 --> 00:31:59,480
production, you don't really 
have the capacity to think about

559
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:03,120
anything else. 
So the reality is, you know, the

560
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:06,080
people in that room that I was 
so concerned were looking at me 

561
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:08,240
thinking, Oh my God, like, what 
is he doing? 

562
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:11,000
He's just walking around acting.
He's not even dancing. 

563
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:13,760
They, they weren't. 
The reality is they won't even. 

564
00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:16,640
They don't have the capacity to 
even think about me because 

565
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:19,480
they're so busy and consumed by 
what they're having to do. 

566
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:24,080
However, those dancers not 
saying hello to you gives you, I

567
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:27,520
mean, if that happened, give 
that gives you also an 

568
00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:32,680
impression that dancer being so 
self absorbed or so concentrated

569
00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:36,520
on what they're doing that it 
takes away their ability to even

570
00:32:36,520 --> 00:32:39,200
say hello to the actor who's 
also in the scene with them. 

571
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:41,960
That's when it's dangerous and 
that's when it's rude. 

572
00:32:41,960 --> 00:32:44,680
And that's when that's what we 
need to change. 

573
00:32:45,000 --> 00:32:47,120
Yes, yes. 
Exactly. 

574
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:50,400
That because it's exactly what 
we've been saying throughout 

575
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:54,960
every single episode, is that it
should be important to you, 

576
00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:57,680
dancing should be important to 
you, and you should really work 

577
00:32:57,680 --> 00:32:58,960
hard. 
And it should be. 

578
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:04,400
Yeah, it should be important, 
but it shouldn't consume. 

579
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:08,800
No, and I think just one other 
point I'd like to make is that, 

580
00:33:08,880 --> 00:33:13,120
you know, more recently working 
with a different company in in 

581
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:15,840
the same capacity, but in 
unfamiliar territory. 

582
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:22,920
Again, for me, I was a little 
bit concerned that the senior 

583
00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:29,440
management didn't even 
acknowledge the actors within 

584
00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:33,000
the studio. 
And I was a little because to me

585
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:36,480
just, and again, it's, it's, 
it's hard to balance because at 

586
00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:39,920
the same time I'm thinking, 
listen, they've got so many 

587
00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:42,040
things that they need to 
accomplish within a short amount

588
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:43,640
of time. 
They don't have the capacity to 

589
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,240
think about every single person.
Of course not. 

590
00:33:46,480 --> 00:33:51,240
But I would imagine that if 
there are new people in your 

591
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:57,280
usual environment, you might 
consider at least saying hello 

592
00:33:57,280 --> 00:34:03,560
and welcome and welcome. 
And for me, I just felt like I 

593
00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:05,000
can get on with it. 
I know what to do. 

594
00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:06,720
I've been in this business a 
long time. 

595
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:10,760
I'm going to make your life or 
lives easier by just getting on 

596
00:34:10,760 --> 00:34:14,639
with what I know I need to do. 
But if only one out of five of 

597
00:34:14,639 --> 00:34:19,960
you has said hello and welcome, 
it tells me. 

598
00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:22,560
It almost tells me everything I 
need to know about that person's

599
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:27,960
character. 
I think without going down a 

600
00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:33,480
rabbit hole of old school 
people, there is there is that 

601
00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:38,800
feeling sometimes that the old 
school people have probably been

602
00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:43,719
told at some point in the modern
day that you need to start being

603
00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:46,440
more friendly, more 
approachable, more whatever. 

604
00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:50,360
And that thought is a or then I 
have to do a big thing about it.

605
00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:55,080
No simple thing right there. 
We wouldn't have to take hours 

606
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:57,040
out of our day to be like, this 
is Damien. 

607
00:34:57,040 --> 00:34:58,960
Damien, where are you from? 
Say hello to everybody. 

608
00:34:59,240 --> 00:35:02,000
Literally you standing in the 
studio and being like, hey 

609
00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:04,840
everyone, just before we start, 
we've got 6 new actors joining 

610
00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:06,480
us today. 
Welcome guys. 

611
00:35:06,840 --> 00:35:09,760
That's it. 
That's all, that's all you need 

612
00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:13,160
to do and it makes a difference.
Just like we saying, you know, 

613
00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:15,000
it's not even high to the 
cleaner sometimes. 

614
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:18,720
It's just a smile, like, hey, 
guys, welcome. 

615
00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:21,120
If you need any help, just let 
us know across the studio. 

616
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:22,720
That's it. 
That's all you need to do. 

617
00:35:23,200 --> 00:35:24,880
It's just welcoming. 
It's just warming. 

618
00:35:24,880 --> 00:35:29,800
It's just, yeah, just respect. 
Yeah, and I think we know we're 

619
00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:32,400
all guilty of it. 
Like we've mentioned, no matter,

620
00:35:32,720 --> 00:35:36,680
no matter what role you're 
playing, either on stage or on 

621
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:41,000
the other side of the stage, we 
can all be kind of locked in and

622
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:44,240
not be aware of how our 
behaviour makes other people 

623
00:35:44,240 --> 00:35:45,960
feel. 
And I think that, you know, the 

624
00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:49,040
take away is just open your eyes
a little bit within the 

625
00:35:49,040 --> 00:35:53,480
environment around you and and 
let's all just get along 

626
00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:56,720
because, you know, being in a 
company or a part of a 

627
00:35:56,720 --> 00:35:59,240
production is, is a 
collaboration. 

628
00:35:59,680 --> 00:36:03,640
And again, I've said a million 
times, it's not about that. 

629
00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:06,840
I don't respect you more because
you have a senior role. 

630
00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:10,280
I respect you if you can show 
the same amount of respect to 

631
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:13,160
every single person that you 
that you meet. 

632
00:36:13,720 --> 00:36:17,560
And that does take some life 
lessons and some and some time 

633
00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:18,840
in the biz. 
It does. 

634
00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:22,160
Yes it does. 
I need to lay off the vodka 

635
00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:29,080
because it's like a truth serum.
One thing I'll just say here as 

636
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:33,160
well, you know, jumping on the 
body language train and how 

637
00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:36,600
others perceive you. 
I have an example that happened 

638
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:41,040
and I was in a production where 
we were trying out the floor for

639
00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:44,840
a production and we all came 
down from our rehearsal to get 

640
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:50,080
on stage to try the floor. 
And one of the dancers stood 

641
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:52,840
there and said it's not going to
work. 

642
00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:57,160
It's too slippery and all of us 
are trying stuff out. 

643
00:36:57,320 --> 00:37:01,400
And I went over and I said, 
would you like to try such and 

644
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:03,520
such a section? 
Because I danced with you. 

645
00:37:03,560 --> 00:37:06,880
Let's try out. 
And they said I was down here 

646
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:08,720
earlier. 
I've tried it already. 

647
00:37:08,720 --> 00:37:11,840
It's not not going to work. 
And I took them aside and I 

648
00:37:11,840 --> 00:37:15,040
said, I know what you mean. 
And you came down here earlier. 

649
00:37:15,240 --> 00:37:18,400
But it's showing. 
It's your, your body language 

650
00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:21,520
and your actions. 
You've got to show firstly the 

651
00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:25,240
other dancers, but you've also 
got to show the stage manager, 

652
00:37:25,480 --> 00:37:28,680
the production leader, the 
choreographer that you were 

653
00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:32,400
trying. 
The floor you, it's again, it's 

654
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:36,320
you standing there with your 
hands on your hips saying it's 

655
00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:39,560
not going to work is rude and 
disrespectful to everybody. 

656
00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:43,800
We all come down here to try 
this floor to get the best, you 

657
00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:46,680
know, to solve the problem. 
Whether you've tried it or not 

658
00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:50,360
before is not the point because 
what you're doing right now is 

659
00:37:50,360 --> 00:37:55,560
coming across disrespectful. 
So you also have to, you know, 

660
00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:58,400
in that situation, it's play the
game, try the floor again. 

661
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:00,760
Try the floor again. 
Exactly. 

662
00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:02,560
Play the and play with. 
No. 

663
00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:06,480
There are certain rules and 
regulations and and and 

664
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:09,880
behavioural patterns. 
Like you said, you need to be 

665
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:12,680
able to show the department 
that's taking care of the floor.

666
00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:16,640
It's just you, just it's, it's 
communication, isn't it 

667
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:20,240
communication also how you 
deliver that communication with 

668
00:38:20,240 --> 00:38:22,440
respect, please. 
Exactly. 

669
00:38:22,560 --> 00:38:25,120
You know, all of us know this 
floor is bad. 

670
00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:29,880
All of us, you know, but we're 
showing that we're trying out of

671
00:38:29,880 --> 00:38:31,800
respect. 
They have, they have done 

672
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:36,680
something to the floor. 
It is now up to for you is out 

673
00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:40,520
now your job to respect their 
work and see if they have solved

674
00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:42,240
the problem. 
Yeah, you know what I mean? 

675
00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:44,320
Yeah. 
You know, and I think we are in 

676
00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:48,640
show business and sometimes we 
are expected to lean into this 

677
00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:54,120
kind of diva behaviour. 
But there's a time and a place. 

678
00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:58,440
And I think if for example, you 
know, that person has been 

679
00:38:58,440 --> 00:39:02,840
allowed to get away with that 
kind of delivery or interaction,

680
00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:08,440
then he or she hasn't learnt, 
you know, any, any new behaviour

681
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:12,040
of how to interact with the 
people within her, her 

682
00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:13,840
profession or his profession, 
right. 

683
00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:17,680
So, but you also back to 
responsibility and aware 

684
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:22,640
self-awareness and, and read the
room and read the scenario and 

685
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:27,320
just be a little bit more 
present and don't be the one 

686
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:31,440
who's causing all the fuss when 
you know, life's too short. 

687
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:34,320
And like you said at the 
beginning of this episode, it's 

688
00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:36,800
it's Just Dance. 
Yes, we love it. 

689
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:40,960
Yes, we respect it. 
Yes, most of us live for it. 

690
00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:45,040
However, there are bigger things
going on and we just need to 

691
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:49,240
have a bit more of, of of a 
balance and consideration, don't

692
00:39:49,240 --> 00:39:50,080
we? 
Yeah. 

693
00:39:50,200 --> 00:39:54,120
And I think what you said there 
about the diva thing, I think 

694
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:59,200
it's good to be aware of people 
are expecting you to be a diva. 

695
00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:03,520
So try and not be that. 
Try and prove the dress of the 

696
00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:06,400
wig department and the stage 
manager, the techie, the whoever

697
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:10,600
in the theatre that actually, 
just like many things from 

698
00:40:10,680 --> 00:40:12,240
ballet school, we've been taught
wrong. 

699
00:40:12,240 --> 00:40:16,040
You've also been taught wrong. 
We are not Divas, we are not all

700
00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:17,640
like this. 
We are actually human beings. 

701
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:20,040
All we're doing is dancing and 
at the end of the day we're all 

702
00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:21,960
going to go to the pub together 
and we're all the same. 

703
00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:24,240
We're all human. 
Like, you know, it's also 

704
00:40:24,240 --> 00:40:27,640
teaching the other departments 
that aren't the performers, that

705
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:33,400
actually we're not Divas, we are
also human and can be, can be 

706
00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:35,440
nice. 
Amen. 

707
00:40:36,760 --> 00:40:43,440
However, no, I'm joking. 
I will say that you know exactly

708
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:47,120
what you said about having to 
teach yourself acceptance to for

709
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:50,800
being an actor in a ballet 
company and not being a dancer. 

710
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:54,720
It is a lot of retraining your 
own brain because I found myself

711
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:59,560
trying to talk up jobs that I've
done, like like for example, 

712
00:40:59,560 --> 00:41:01,720
let's just say Tivoli, for 
example, you know, it's a small 

713
00:41:01,720 --> 00:41:04,320
ballet company that no one has 
ever heard of outside of 

714
00:41:04,640 --> 00:41:07,680
Scandinavia or whatever. 
It's become more and more well 

715
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:09,840
known the past couple of years, 
which is great. 

716
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:14,680
I remember when I would write it
on my CV or when someone would 

717
00:41:14,680 --> 00:41:18,160
ask me what I was doing, instead
of just saying, oh, I'm at a 

718
00:41:18,160 --> 00:41:20,520
ballet company in Tivoli Gardens
in Copenhagen. 

719
00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:24,600
I would find myself like saying,
oh, I'm at Tivoli Ballet Theatre

720
00:41:24,640 --> 00:41:26,720
where you know, we do 
Bonneville. 

721
00:41:26,720 --> 00:41:31,400
We do, you know, trying to make 
the company, trying to upsell 

722
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:35,000
the company instead of some, you
know, battling the self demons 

723
00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:37,720
of myself like, oh, you're in a 
small ballet company pool. 

724
00:41:37,720 --> 00:41:39,720
You didn't make it or whatever. 
It's not a proper ballet 

725
00:41:39,720 --> 00:41:43,560
company. 
So it is a lot of self respect 

726
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:46,560
like you said as well for me 
when you know, in those jobs. 

727
00:41:47,320 --> 00:41:51,120
I remember I took it off my CV 
straight away when I did the job

728
00:41:51,120 --> 00:41:52,840
because I was embarrassed about 
it. 

729
00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:56,120
There's a company called Spirit.
They did Spirit of the Dance, 

730
00:41:56,120 --> 00:42:01,320
which was kind of like a touring
copycat, sorry of her 

731
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:03,200
Riverdance. 
And then they also had one 

732
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:05,480
called Spirit of Broadway. 
And I did Spirit of Broadway. 

733
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:08,280
It's Auk tour, basically 
performance, doing a mega mix of

734
00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:11,040
musicals. 
And I didn't tell anybody that I

735
00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:13,520
did it. 
I took off my CV straight away 

736
00:42:13,760 --> 00:42:20,360
because it was beneath me in my 
head and it's so toxic and wrong

737
00:42:20,360 --> 00:42:24,800
for me to have thought that 
because I learnt a lot from that

738
00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:27,120
job. 
It was my first touring job. 

739
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:30,400
It taught me how to tour. 
It taught me how to get on with 

740
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:32,880
the show when someone's injured 
and you know, all that kind of 

741
00:42:32,880 --> 00:42:35,160
stuff that we spoke about before
about, you know, joining a, a 

742
00:42:35,400 --> 00:42:39,000
company when you're young. 
And I just wish I didn't have 

743
00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:42,720
that self deprecating or, you 
know, feel that I was less than 

744
00:42:42,720 --> 00:42:48,320
because I was in this air quotes
shitty little job that wasn't a 

745
00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:50,480
proper musical or a proper dance
company. 

746
00:42:50,480 --> 00:42:54,640
It was some touring, touring 
cheesy show that I thought was 

747
00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:57,720
less than. 
So it's given my I, I wasn't 

748
00:42:57,720 --> 00:43:00,080
respecting myself. 
Yeah, I mean, that's easily 

749
00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:02,840
done. 
It's very easily done because 

750
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:05,800
we're we're so conditioned to 
feel that way. 

751
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:09,000
But I think, you know, if 
there's any advice that I can 

752
00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:14,400
give younger, the younger 
dancers now is to embrace you 

753
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:18,040
can acknowledge your worth. 
And if you've chosen a job, 

754
00:43:18,040 --> 00:43:21,480
whether it's because it was the 
only job that was available and 

755
00:43:21,480 --> 00:43:24,320
you had to take it to keep the 
money coming in to pay your 

756
00:43:24,320 --> 00:43:29,480
rent, or whether it was a really
selective career choice. 

757
00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:32,920
The respect in the way you 
present yourself. 

758
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:37,480
Because if you say to someone, 
oh, I'm doing, yeah, I'm, I'm 

759
00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:39,880
not doing that much. 
I'm just doing like a it's a 10 

760
00:43:39,880 --> 00:43:43,400
week UK tour, but it's with a 
really small company and people.

761
00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:47,920
You're then fueling the stigma 
that comes behind not working 

762
00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:52,800
for a mega mega, what one may 
consider a Class A company. 

763
00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:56,240
But if you say, Oh my God, I'm 
doing an amazing tour with 

764
00:43:56,880 --> 00:44:01,240
whatever insert tall name here 
and you deliver it in a way that

765
00:44:01,240 --> 00:44:04,000
shows that you're proud of your 
work and what you're doing. 

766
00:44:04,360 --> 00:44:07,480
And sometimes you may not feel 
proud about taking that job. 

767
00:44:07,680 --> 00:44:11,160
But if you present it in a way 
you then you extinguish the 

768
00:44:11,160 --> 00:44:14,720
power that the other person or 
the other people that may relish

769
00:44:14,720 --> 00:44:17,120
the fact that you're not doing 
as well. 

770
00:44:17,400 --> 00:44:20,600
Because let's face it, we've all
been in that scenario where 

771
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:25,880
we've bumped into somebody, you 
know, at Pineapple Dance Studios

772
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:28,880
or in an open class. 
And you know, one of the first 

773
00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:31,240
questions is, oh, So what are 
you doing at, you know, what are

774
00:44:31,240 --> 00:44:34,120
you doing right now? 
What you know, and you feel like

775
00:44:34,360 --> 00:44:38,920
under so much pressure if you're
not working, I think we just 

776
00:44:38,920 --> 00:44:42,120
have to be feeling a bit more 
empowered. 

777
00:44:42,120 --> 00:44:46,240
And that that comes from working
on ourselves and learning to 

778
00:44:46,240 --> 00:44:50,680
respect ourselves and, and also 
respecting other people, you 

779
00:44:50,680 --> 00:44:52,800
know, because we can't really 
control other people's 

780
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:55,720
behaviour, but we can certainly 
take responsibility for how we, 

781
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:59,760
you know, deliver our 
interactions with, with people 

782
00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:03,200
within our business, our 
vocation, you know, because 

783
00:45:03,200 --> 00:45:04,800
friends wouldn't do that to one 
another. 

784
00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:09,800
It's more those that you kind of
see around town or, or you know,

785
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:13,240
city to city, you know, that are
interested, but they're only 

786
00:45:13,240 --> 00:45:16,280
really interested because 
they're probably feeling settled

787
00:45:16,280 --> 00:45:17,680
and they have something at the 
moment. 

788
00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:19,520
So they're quite willing to ask 
you. 

789
00:45:19,520 --> 00:45:21,160
Oh, So what are you doing right 
now? 

790
00:45:21,720 --> 00:45:23,480
Yeah, because they want you to 
ask them. 

791
00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:25,840
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 
So they can turn around to be 

792
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:29,640
like, Oh, well, I'm the face of 
Paul Mitchell's new No More 

793
00:45:29,640 --> 00:45:33,760
Tears shampoo. 
Well, that was a body double for

794
00:45:33,760 --> 00:45:37,920
Catherine Zeta Jones, and in 
drama beat that. 

795
00:45:41,960 --> 00:45:45,400
So I really do hope that we are 
making a difference. 

796
00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:46,640
You're. 
Not making a difference right 

797
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:51,040
now. 
So I really do hope that that 

798
00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:53,720
makes a difference. 
If you are listening then Please

799
00:45:53,720 --> 00:45:56,680
remember to smile and say good 
morning to the cleaner you walk 

800
00:45:56,680 --> 00:45:59,160
past in the theatre every 
morning and then I'll be happy. 

801
00:45:59,800 --> 00:46:02,640
Totally, and like we've said 
many, many times, it takes a 

802
00:46:02,640 --> 00:46:07,680
village and the real show is 
backstage, so give everyone the 

803
00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:11,440
respect they deserve. 
Even Jessica. 

804
00:46:12,360 --> 00:46:14,760
Not Jessica. 
Depends how I'm feeling up on 

805
00:46:14,760 --> 00:46:18,920
that particular day. 
Well, Denise, I respect you and 

806
00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:21,600
love you lots. 
And I respect you, and I love 

807
00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:24,520
you lots too. 
Right. 

808
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:27,760
Take care sweetheart, and thank 
you everybody for listening to 

809
00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:29,760
another episode of Tricks at the
Bar. 

810
00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:32,120
Bye everybody, Bye.
