1 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:04,160 You're listening to She Said, what with your host, Alyssa 2 00:00:04,160 --> 00:00:06,120 Harper. Hello sexy people, and welcome 3 00:00:06,120 --> 00:00:08,240 back to she Said. What if you've not been here 4 00:00:08,240 --> 00:00:09,480 before? Then I just want to welcome you 5 00:00:09,480 --> 00:00:12,120 and let you know that this is a space for you to come and grow 6 00:00:12,320 --> 00:00:14,960 to become the best version of yourself, whether we're talking 7 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:18,280 about sex and sexuality or relationships or anything to do 8 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:20,480 with self growth. Again, this is a space for you 9 00:00:20,480 --> 00:00:22,880 to come and get something out of every single episode. 10 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:25,560 Today we're going to be talking about cycle syncing and this is 11 00:00:25,560 --> 00:00:28,080 something that I've now been doing for two years and I've 12 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:31,980 made episodes on before. I interviewed different people 13 00:00:31,980 --> 00:00:34,020 who had amazing things to say on it. 14 00:00:34,020 --> 00:00:36,980 Ellie Blanco was one. We also had Moonley, who is a 15 00:00:36,980 --> 00:00:39,820 period and hormone nutritionist come on and through these 16 00:00:39,820 --> 00:00:43,380 experiences and also reading In the Flow by Alyssa, Vt where we 17 00:00:43,380 --> 00:00:46,260 also then did a book club. All of us together from the She 18 00:00:46,260 --> 00:00:48,260 Said What Podcast group, Facebook page. 19 00:00:48,300 --> 00:00:50,940 I learned through my own experience and through you guys 20 00:00:51,020 --> 00:00:54,420 so much about cycle syncing. And now it's been a while since 21 00:00:54,420 --> 00:00:58,500 all of that went down and it's I've been two years now of me 22 00:00:58,500 --> 00:01:02,500 doing this and I I feel like this is a great time to do an 23 00:01:02,620 --> 00:01:04,700 update. You don't have to listen to any 24 00:01:04,700 --> 00:01:07,260 of those episodes or know at all what I'm talking about right now 25 00:01:07,260 --> 00:01:10,260 to listen to this episode. But I feel like it's really cool 26 00:01:10,260 --> 00:01:13,020 to do something for a long period of time and then really 27 00:01:13,020 --> 00:01:16,580 come down and figure out what actually works, What's going to 28 00:01:16,580 --> 00:01:19,460 make the difference and where can you start today with cycle 29 00:01:19,460 --> 00:01:22,380 syncing to start to make a change When it comes to your 30 00:01:22,380 --> 00:01:26,180 body, your hormones, how you feel, figure out why you might 31 00:01:26,180 --> 00:01:29,780 be experiencing symptoms of PMS cramping, All of those things 32 00:01:29,780 --> 00:01:32,540 that we you have to deal with and ideally get you to a place 33 00:01:32,540 --> 00:01:34,620 where you aren't experiencing those things anymore. 34 00:01:34,780 --> 00:01:39,060 I can tell you that two years ago, I felt like I was crazy. 35 00:01:39,060 --> 00:01:41,940 I felt like one week I was good, the next week I was bad. 36 00:01:42,100 --> 00:01:45,700 Sometimes I could go work out and I could push myself and have 37 00:01:45,740 --> 00:01:47,500 all this energy. And other days I couldn't. 38 00:01:47,700 --> 00:01:49,780 And I didn't know what was wrong with me. 39 00:01:49,780 --> 00:01:51,700 And that was the thing. I thought there was something 40 00:01:51,700 --> 00:01:53,820 wrong with me. I didn't understand that there 41 00:01:53,820 --> 00:01:56,740 were these hormones in my body that were changing week to week 42 00:01:56,940 --> 00:02:00,820 that were bound to change what I wanted to do with my time. 43 00:02:00,820 --> 00:02:04,140 How confident I felt, how my body felt, how much energy I 44 00:02:04,140 --> 00:02:05,620 had. But now that I have that 45 00:02:05,620 --> 00:02:08,259 knowledge, it's completely changed my life and I'm living 46 00:02:08,259 --> 00:02:11,940 so much more fully and in line with what my body is already 47 00:02:11,940 --> 00:02:15,340 naturally wanting me to do. And that has been such a huge 48 00:02:15,340 --> 00:02:18,020 relief. Everything from my body image to 49 00:02:18,020 --> 00:02:21,340 my mental health, to not experiencing as many period 50 00:02:21,340 --> 00:02:24,580 cramps or period symptoms, to even learning how to balance my 51 00:02:24,580 --> 00:02:27,740 work better and manage relationships better, all 52 00:02:27,740 --> 00:02:30,620 because of this one topic. It's completely change my life 53 00:02:30,620 --> 00:02:32,700 and I just want to scream it from the rooftop. 54 00:02:32,700 --> 00:02:34,900 So that's what we're going to be talking about today. 55 00:02:34,980 --> 00:02:42,460 So let's get right into it. Now, as per usual, we're going 56 00:02:42,460 --> 00:02:46,300 to do a quick update on my week. It's just been a really lovely 57 00:02:46,300 --> 00:02:49,380 week. I've spent a lot of time doing 58 00:02:49,380 --> 00:02:52,340 this, doing podcast stuff, doing TikTok, doing Instagram, a lot 59 00:02:52,340 --> 00:02:56,140 of like kind of revamping and just figuring out where I want 60 00:02:56,140 --> 00:02:57,740 to go. I've spent a lot of time 61 00:02:57,740 --> 00:03:01,020 actually internally, which we're going to talk about in today's 62 00:03:01,020 --> 00:03:05,060 episode, but it was leading up to my period, which is when your 63 00:03:05,060 --> 00:03:08,660 hormones are starting to just decrease overall, you're more 64 00:03:08,660 --> 00:03:11,540 likely to not want to, like, push through really hard on 65 00:03:11,540 --> 00:03:13,340 projects or even start new projects. 66 00:03:13,460 --> 00:03:17,140 It's almost the time to finish things up and close things out. 67 00:03:17,380 --> 00:03:19,060 And so that's exactly what I was doing. 68 00:03:19,620 --> 00:03:23,100 And it was great because it meant that by the time I was 69 00:03:23,180 --> 00:03:28,420 experiencing any kind of, like, fatigue or just disinterest in 70 00:03:28,580 --> 00:03:32,100 my life, which happens for me sometimes before my period, I 71 00:03:32,100 --> 00:03:34,780 was able to do that because I got the work done earlier. 72 00:03:34,780 --> 00:03:37,620 And This is why cycle thinking is so powerful. 73 00:03:37,620 --> 00:03:40,700 And I talk about it so much with the people that are close to me. 74 00:03:40,700 --> 00:03:42,700 And I don't want to, you know, talk about it with you guys all 75 00:03:42,700 --> 00:03:44,980 the time. But it's seriously, seriously, 76 00:03:44,980 --> 00:03:48,620 seriously is not only like, oh, this little thing that helped 77 00:03:48,620 --> 00:03:52,860 me, like, it's not like a new, like, matcha or protein powder. 78 00:03:52,860 --> 00:03:55,660 It's not not, like, one thing. It's everything. 79 00:03:55,860 --> 00:03:57,900 It's the framework for how I live. 80 00:03:58,180 --> 00:04:01,020 And now that I understand why my body works the way that it 81 00:04:01,020 --> 00:04:04,220 works, it's so much more empowering to step into the 82 00:04:04,220 --> 00:04:06,700 things that I want to do. Because I know when to push 83 00:04:06,700 --> 00:04:10,180 myself and I know when to rest. And I used to really, really 84 00:04:10,180 --> 00:04:12,660 struggle with that because I'd be like, OK, well, if I don't 85 00:04:12,660 --> 00:04:14,420 push myself, I'm never going to get where I want to be. 86 00:04:14,620 --> 00:04:17,220 And I'm always going to, like, feel like my life is not good 87 00:04:17,220 --> 00:04:19,180 enough and I'm going to feel shit about myself. 88 00:04:19,220 --> 00:04:21,980 And then if I push myself, great, I got the work done. 89 00:04:21,980 --> 00:04:25,220 But then I might be fatigued in the end, are burnt out, or I 90 00:04:25,220 --> 00:04:28,300 didn't enjoy doing the thing as much when I did it in the time 91 00:04:28,300 --> 00:04:30,780 that I was doing it in. And we don't learn about this in 92 00:04:30,780 --> 00:04:32,540 schools, OK, We're going to go right to the topic because I'm 93 00:04:32,540 --> 00:04:33,820 already fucking pissed about this, OK? 94 00:04:33,820 --> 00:04:35,860 We don't learn this shit in schools. 95 00:04:36,100 --> 00:04:38,540 We don't get taught that this is happening to us. 96 00:04:38,620 --> 00:04:42,980 And yes, we might get some education around our periods and 97 00:04:42,980 --> 00:04:47,980 like tampons and like how how not to get STIs and shit like 98 00:04:47,980 --> 00:04:51,300 that, you know? But we're not being taught to 99 00:04:51,340 --> 00:04:54,700 honor our bodies. We're not being taught how much 100 00:04:54,700 --> 00:04:58,300 of a beautiful experience it is to actually get your period. 101 00:04:58,300 --> 00:05:01,900 And the way that we have done that all throughout history and 102 00:05:01,900 --> 00:05:05,560 it connects us to, like, this womanhood and this just 103 00:05:05,560 --> 00:05:08,120 beautiful release. Like, I feel so empowering. 104 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:11,240 But for most of my life, I just saw my period as this 105 00:05:11,240 --> 00:05:13,840 inconvenience. I used to dread getting my 106 00:05:13,840 --> 00:05:16,520 period because it made me feel like I couldn't do certain 107 00:05:16,520 --> 00:05:19,760 things or if I was getting cramps or headaches or whatever. 108 00:05:20,080 --> 00:05:21,840 It was. Hell, it was like, it's like 109 00:05:21,840 --> 00:05:23,600 you're getting sick. It's like once a month you're 110 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:26,320 getting sick. And that's typically how people 111 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:29,080 talk about periods. That's the societal narrative 112 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:32,160 around periods, even from educators in our schools 113 00:05:32,160 --> 00:05:33,680 sometimes. Just to give you a quick 114 00:05:33,840 --> 00:05:36,680 rundown, if you can't really remember what you learned in 115 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:39,480 school or you're not super familiar with how your menstrual 116 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:41,960 cycle works, just going to run you through it super, super 117 00:05:41,960 --> 00:05:43,760 quick. And I want you to think about it 118 00:05:43,760 --> 00:05:47,960 as the four different seasons. So winter is your menstrual 119 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:49,240 phase. That's when you're having your 120 00:05:49,240 --> 00:05:51,360 period. Then you have your follicular 121 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:53,680 phase. That is springtime. 122 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:55,400 That's when we're starting new projects. 123 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:57,640 That's when we're beginning fresh again. 124 00:05:58,040 --> 00:06:02,280 Then you have your ovulation phase, which is when you are 125 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:04,160 ovulating. This is when you are most likely 126 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:06,280 to get pregnant. This is when you're most likely 127 00:06:06,280 --> 00:06:08,920 to have the most energy. This is when you're kind of 128 00:06:08,920 --> 00:06:11,920 you're glowing, you know this is when you should be really 129 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:15,840 getting shit done. OK, so that is summer and then 130 00:06:15,840 --> 00:06:18,880 you've got your luteal phase, which is your pre period. 131 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:22,400 Sorry, your pre period phase. I hit the mic if you guys aren't 132 00:06:22,400 --> 00:06:25,480 watching me. So ovulation is summertime baby. 133 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:27,720 And then we've got your luteal phase. 134 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:30,000 This is fall. This is when we're starting to 135 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:32,400 finish up those projects. Like I was talking about 136 00:06:32,400 --> 00:06:35,200 earlier, This is when we're taking things to a close. 137 00:06:35,400 --> 00:06:38,440 We're potentially having a little bit less energy in this 138 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:40,720 time. This is especially towards the 139 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:44,720 end where you might start to experience some PMS symptoms. 140 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:47,160 And of course, then we go right back into our menstrual phase. 141 00:06:47,280 --> 00:06:50,760 So those are your 4 phases. The reason I love the seasons 142 00:06:50,760 --> 00:06:55,000 analogy is because it helps you to remember how to treat your 143 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:57,520 body and how to think of your body in all of these different 144 00:06:57,520 --> 00:07:00,280 phases. Like I said, summer ovulation, 145 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:03,360 energy, feeling good. That's when you want to go for 146 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:05,560 that job interview. That's when you want to go on 147 00:07:05,560 --> 00:07:08,120 that date. Anything that you can do to 148 00:07:08,160 --> 00:07:11,200 really get all the beautiful, like, juices out of your 149 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:14,300 ovulation phase is so, so important. 150 00:07:14,340 --> 00:07:17,780 Often during your period or even just before your period, you 151 00:07:17,780 --> 00:07:20,300 don't have as much energy. Maybe you don't have as much 152 00:07:20,300 --> 00:07:23,380 patience, You're not feeling as social, and that's totally fine. 153 00:07:23,380 --> 00:07:25,460 That's a time for you to rebuild. 154 00:07:25,620 --> 00:07:29,100 And I think The thing is, we're taught, oh, we can do everything 155 00:07:29,100 --> 00:07:30,860 that a man can do. You know, you can push through 156 00:07:30,860 --> 00:07:32,780 your period, Just act like you don't have it. 157 00:07:32,980 --> 00:07:36,380 And I get the sentiment in that, in being like, we can do 158 00:07:36,380 --> 00:07:38,460 anything that a man can do. Yes. 159 00:07:38,940 --> 00:07:42,100 But when you're aware of what your body is doing and you start 160 00:07:42,100 --> 00:07:46,220 working in a cyclical nature, you get so much more out of your 161 00:07:46,220 --> 00:07:49,700 life rather than trying to just pretend that you're not living 162 00:07:49,700 --> 00:07:52,380 in a female body. If you are on any kind of 163 00:07:52,380 --> 00:07:56,980 hormonal birth control, then you likely don't have a period and 164 00:07:56,980 --> 00:07:58,420 some people don't like to say it that way. 165 00:07:58,420 --> 00:08:01,420 So I mean that with all respect, it just means that you're not 166 00:08:01,580 --> 00:08:04,940 having ovulation, which means that when you do bleed, say 167 00:08:04,940 --> 00:08:07,580 you're on the pill, for example, when you switch into that sugar 168 00:08:07,580 --> 00:08:11,340 pill for your period week, it's more of a shedding rather than 169 00:08:11,340 --> 00:08:14,220 your actual period. If you want to know more about 170 00:08:14,220 --> 00:08:17,950 how all of this really works deeply, feel free to go back to 171 00:08:17,950 --> 00:08:20,710 the episodes that I mentioned at the start of today's episode. 172 00:08:20,950 --> 00:08:23,430 It was Episode 19 with Ellie Blanco. 173 00:08:23,430 --> 00:08:26,030 That was part one. And then we did a Part 2, which 174 00:08:26,030 --> 00:08:28,670 was a Q&A where we talked a little bit more about different 175 00:08:28,670 --> 00:08:31,470 forms of birth control and some of the questions that you guys 176 00:08:31,470 --> 00:08:32,830 had for us. That's episode. 177 00:08:32,830 --> 00:08:36,650 Yeah, 22 with Ellie Blanco. And then episode 28 is the one 178 00:08:36,650 --> 00:08:39,650 that's specific to food and that was one with Moon Lee, who was 179 00:08:39,650 --> 00:08:41,610 the hormone and period nutritionist. 180 00:08:41,610 --> 00:08:44,169 So again, if you guys want to go back and find those, feel free. 181 00:08:44,410 --> 00:08:47,370 That's all I'm going to say about kind of how your period 182 00:08:47,370 --> 00:08:49,170 works. Now I'm going to talk to you 183 00:08:49,170 --> 00:08:53,890 about those different seasons, those different phases, and how 184 00:08:53,890 --> 00:08:57,130 I've been able to completely like revamp my life with 185 00:08:57,210 --> 00:09:01,410 exercise, food, my mental health, slash self-care 186 00:09:01,410 --> 00:09:05,610 practices that I do my work, and then my relationships and sexual 187 00:09:05,610 --> 00:09:10,770 life and how those have all become so much better since I've 188 00:09:10,770 --> 00:09:13,570 started cycle syncing, starting out with exercise. 189 00:09:13,730 --> 00:09:17,250 Now I know, and this is how my body works. 190 00:09:17,250 --> 00:09:19,490 I should say this is a little disclaimer overall before I go 191 00:09:19,490 --> 00:09:21,650 through my points is that this is how it works from my body 192 00:09:21,970 --> 00:09:24,650 generally. These things that I mention do 193 00:09:24,650 --> 00:09:29,410 align with how other people describe their hormonal cycles 194 00:09:29,730 --> 00:09:32,130 and it's same for anybody who's in a female body. 195 00:09:32,770 --> 00:09:36,010 It does obviously change how long overall your menstrual 196 00:09:36,010 --> 00:09:39,090 cycle is and how long you're in different phases and whatnot. 197 00:09:39,210 --> 00:09:40,530 It's different to every single person. 198 00:09:40,530 --> 00:09:43,410 So just know that this isn't going to 100% line up to you, 199 00:09:43,690 --> 00:09:47,450 but these are the common things and if there is anything in here 200 00:09:47,450 --> 00:09:50,250 that's a little bit out of the norm, then I will flag that with 201 00:09:50,250 --> 00:09:52,770 you, just so you know. But starting with exercise, I 202 00:09:52,770 --> 00:09:55,890 know that I'm going to have the most energy, I'm gonna feel the 203 00:09:55,890 --> 00:09:59,410 strongest, and I'm gonna be the least likely to experience any 204 00:09:59,410 --> 00:10:01,570 kind of injury, even if it's minor. 205 00:10:01,570 --> 00:10:03,770 Like, you know when you stretch a little bit too far and you're 206 00:10:03,770 --> 00:10:05,530 just like, oh, I felt that the next day. 207 00:10:05,810 --> 00:10:09,440 I know that that's least likely to happen when I'm ovulating, so 208 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:12,880 you better know that when I'm ovulating, my ass is working 209 00:10:12,960 --> 00:10:13,480 out. Okay. 210 00:10:13,680 --> 00:10:15,760 I'm at Pilates, I'm going advanced springs. 211 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:19,000 I'm pushing it because I know that I can and I know that 212 00:10:19,000 --> 00:10:22,120 that's not going to take energy out of me for the rest of my 213 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:24,920 day. Whereas if I'm on my period, I 214 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:28,020 don't exercise at all in the way that I do. 215 00:10:28,020 --> 00:10:31,740 When I'm ovulating, I mostly focus on like yin, yoga, 216 00:10:32,020 --> 00:10:35,140 stretching, going on walks. And that's exactly what I've 217 00:10:35,140 --> 00:10:37,900 been doing literally today. Went on a walk yesterday, went 218 00:10:37,900 --> 00:10:41,140 on a walk down to the beaches and everything and did a nice 219 00:10:41,140 --> 00:10:44,700 stretch Like that is what I am focusing my energy on. 220 00:10:44,860 --> 00:10:47,140 I'm not trying to push, I'm not trying to build muscle. 221 00:10:47,140 --> 00:10:49,860 And here's the thing, right? I used to, especially when I was 222 00:10:49,860 --> 00:10:52,900 a Pilates instructor, because you're really often encouraging 223 00:10:52,900 --> 00:10:55,880 people like push yourself, you know, go that extra 10% and you 224 00:10:55,880 --> 00:10:59,320 start to do that for yourself as well, which is great to a 225 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:02,960 certain extent, but you don't always want to push through. 226 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:05,880 Some people love to do certain exercise on their period and 227 00:11:05,880 --> 00:11:07,560 then find that it really helps them. 228 00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:10,840 Sometimes I'll do like a little bit of matte Pilates, like a few 229 00:11:10,840 --> 00:11:13,640 days ago when I was kind of like PMS ING and I was like not 230 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:16,240 feeling my best. I did a stretch and for whatever 231 00:11:16,240 --> 00:11:18,440 reason I felt a little bit of extra energy and I was like, 232 00:11:18,440 --> 00:11:20,920 let's do like a little AB workout and it was like 15 233 00:11:20,920 --> 00:11:22,760 minutes. It wasn't anything crazy. 234 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:24,920 Lots of little breaks, lots of water. 235 00:11:25,160 --> 00:11:27,240 But it just made me feel good, so I did it. 236 00:11:27,520 --> 00:11:30,600 And this is the best thing is you start to learn to become 237 00:11:30,600 --> 00:11:32,160 intuitive with your body as well. 238 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:34,480 So maybe sometimes on your period you'll be like, whoa, I 239 00:11:34,480 --> 00:11:37,000 actually have a little more energy and you'll push yourself 240 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:40,320 a little bit more. But it doesn't feel like a push 241 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:43,720 that's coming from an external source, like, oh, I should do 242 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:45,800 this. Or if my boyfriend can go to the 243 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:49,240 gym today, why can't I? It comes from learning to know 244 00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:51,720 your body, and of course that comes with time. 245 00:11:51,880 --> 00:11:55,440 But cycle syncing was absolutely I can tell you the way that I 246 00:11:55,440 --> 00:11:56,960 got to this place in the 1st place. 247 00:11:57,200 --> 00:12:01,680 I actually love exercise now, and I've always really liked, 248 00:12:01,680 --> 00:12:03,360 like I always used to go to the gym. 249 00:12:03,560 --> 00:12:07,660 But I think it often felt like I liked it because I knew that I 250 00:12:07,660 --> 00:12:10,500 was doing something good for me, because I felt like I should do 251 00:12:10,500 --> 00:12:13,540 it. And even though I liked it, it's 252 00:12:13,540 --> 00:12:17,100 still at its core came from a place of, well, I want to look 253 00:12:17,100 --> 00:12:19,140 this way and I do want to feel good. 254 00:12:19,260 --> 00:12:20,860 So I'm going to push myself to do it. 255 00:12:21,020 --> 00:12:24,540 And it was like every other day, or it was like 3 * a week and I 256 00:12:24,540 --> 00:12:28,340 would have these types of goals and it just isn't how my body 257 00:12:28,340 --> 00:12:30,980 functions. Some weeks I don't have energy 258 00:12:30,980 --> 00:12:34,360 to go to the gym or go to Pilates or whatever it is three 259 00:12:34,360 --> 00:12:36,360 times a week. I mean, I don't go to the gym at 260 00:12:36,360 --> 00:12:38,160 all anymore. I haven't been to a gym in 261 00:12:38,320 --> 00:12:40,160 years. I only do Pilates now. 262 00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:43,560 I do reformer Pilates and because I am an instructor as 263 00:12:43,560 --> 00:12:46,160 well, I'm qualified in mat and reformer. 264 00:12:46,160 --> 00:12:49,240 So I'll go to reformer when I'm feeling like, Oh yeah, energy. 265 00:12:49,240 --> 00:12:52,680 Let's fucking go ovulating. And then I'll do mat often just 266 00:12:52,680 --> 00:12:56,080 at home or like take my mat and go to the beach or something. 267 00:12:56,320 --> 00:12:59,360 And I'll do that when it's a slower season for me or like a 268 00:12:59,400 --> 00:13:03,200 slower phase. And I love it because now I love 269 00:13:03,200 --> 00:13:05,040 movement. I move my body every day. 270 00:13:05,040 --> 00:13:06,800 Don't get me wrong. It's not like I have these big 271 00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:08,480 periods where I'm like, not doing anything. 272 00:13:08,680 --> 00:13:11,600 I move my body every day. But it's like I'm dancing in my 273 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:14,120 kitchen as I'm making my breakfast and it's making me go, 274 00:13:14,120 --> 00:13:16,000 oh, my back does feel kind of tight. 275 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:18,840 I should do a stretch, then I'll go do a stretch after I have 276 00:13:18,840 --> 00:13:19,720 breakfast. You know what I mean? 277 00:13:19,720 --> 00:13:22,920 Like, I'm constantly moving, even on these days where I'm out 278 00:13:22,920 --> 00:13:25,080 of the house for most of the days and I'm busy and I'm doing 279 00:13:25,080 --> 00:13:26,760 a lot. I'll still come home at the end 280 00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:29,800 of the day and I can feel that my body needs movement. 281 00:13:29,920 --> 00:13:33,480 And that's another thing, like intuitively you just start to 282 00:13:33,480 --> 00:13:36,240 feel it. Like even right now I'm sitting 283 00:13:36,240 --> 00:13:39,720 up straight and I'm present in my body. 284 00:13:39,840 --> 00:13:43,400 Like I'm aware if I'm stressed now because I'll feel that my 285 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:45,960 shoulders are up to my ears where I'm sitting here with my 286 00:13:45,960 --> 00:13:49,840 shoulders down and relaxed. And in theory, like I am using 287 00:13:49,840 --> 00:13:51,840 somewhat core muscles to sit up straight. 288 00:13:51,840 --> 00:13:54,680 And I'm aware of all these things and it makes my life 289 00:13:54,680 --> 00:13:56,760 better. Having better posture makes you 290 00:13:56,760 --> 00:13:59,400 feel better. Having a body that you feel good 291 00:13:59,400 --> 00:14:03,000 in makes you feel better. And I feel so good in my body 292 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:04,680 now. And the only the only reason I 293 00:14:04,680 --> 00:14:07,800 feel so good in my body is because I stopped pushing myself 294 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:11,560 so hard. Like I would say I exercise now 295 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:14,160 way less than I did two years ago. 296 00:14:14,200 --> 00:14:17,760 And at the time when I thought about exercising less, the fear 297 00:14:17,760 --> 00:14:21,040 was, well, then I'm going to lose certain muscle definition. 298 00:14:21,040 --> 00:14:23,240 Oh, I'm going to gain weight. And those things are obviously 299 00:14:23,240 --> 00:14:25,640 not bad. It's just for me, it didn't 300 00:14:25,640 --> 00:14:28,440 align with my goals. I didn't know that I could 301 00:14:28,440 --> 00:14:32,000 exercise less and feel even better until I understood the 302 00:14:32,000 --> 00:14:34,040 science behind what my body was doing. 303 00:14:34,520 --> 00:14:37,120 And if you want to hear more about this specifically in the 304 00:14:37,120 --> 00:14:40,800 flow by LSVT, there's a really, really great section where she 305 00:14:40,800 --> 00:14:44,360 talks about exercise and she can explain to you really properly 306 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:48,960 like what the studies show on how the female body works and 307 00:14:49,000 --> 00:14:52,120 why it's so important to move your body in this way. 308 00:14:52,120 --> 00:14:54,240 But there you go. That's how I do exercise. 309 00:14:54,360 --> 00:14:58,200 The biggest thing that I would say that is like the best thing 310 00:14:58,200 --> 00:15:01,360 that I've gotten out of all this is I never feel bad for not 311 00:15:01,360 --> 00:15:04,000 exercising. I never feel like I let myself 312 00:15:04,000 --> 00:15:06,440 down. I listen to my body and that is 313 00:15:06,440 --> 00:15:08,480 what I do. And if I've listened to my body 314 00:15:08,480 --> 00:15:12,240 that day and it's told me, you don't want to go and push like 315 00:15:12,240 --> 00:15:15,680 crazy, you want to do a stretch, you want to do yen Yoga, you 316 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:19,280 want to literally lay on your mat and not do anything for 10 317 00:15:19,280 --> 00:15:21,130 minutes. That's what I do. 318 00:15:21,370 --> 00:15:25,010 And I will never feel bad again about not doing an exercise or 319 00:15:25,010 --> 00:15:28,050 not doing a workout or not pushing to a certain point. 320 00:15:28,210 --> 00:15:30,690 Even when I go to classes, sometimes I'll go to a 321 00:15:30,690 --> 00:15:33,970 beginner's class instead if I'm not feeling as good, or if it's 322 00:15:33,970 --> 00:15:37,250 PMS luteal phase or if it's on my period. 323 00:15:37,370 --> 00:15:39,410 Sometimes I'll still want to go to a class because I just really 324 00:15:39,410 --> 00:15:41,490 want to get out and I want to get that nice flow through my 325 00:15:41,490 --> 00:15:43,450 body. Go to beginner's class, I'll 326 00:15:43,450 --> 00:15:45,810 choose the lighter weights and I'll have the instructor come up 327 00:15:45,810 --> 00:15:47,730 to me and go. Alyssa, let's add that. 328 00:15:47,730 --> 00:15:49,450 Push up in and I'll go no thank you. 329 00:15:49,450 --> 00:15:52,330 Like I I will have boundaries for myself and I would really 330 00:15:52,330 --> 00:15:53,930 encourage you to do that as well. 331 00:15:53,930 --> 00:15:58,570 OK, let's talk about food now with food, a lot of people when 332 00:15:58,570 --> 00:16:02,250 it comes to cycle thinking, they will tell you to eat very 333 00:16:02,250 --> 00:16:05,370 specific foods in different phases of your cycle. 334 00:16:05,490 --> 00:16:10,210 And you can absolutely do that and it will absolutely optimize 335 00:16:10,370 --> 00:16:14,460 your hormones. But for a lot of us, it's hard 336 00:16:14,700 --> 00:16:18,060 to consider like, okay this week I need to eat blueberries, then 337 00:16:18,060 --> 00:16:20,380 next week I need to have beats. Then next week. 338 00:16:20,460 --> 00:16:23,260 Like it is difficult. So let's think back to the 339 00:16:23,260 --> 00:16:25,540 seasons because this is going to be so much more helpful for you. 340 00:16:25,940 --> 00:16:30,980 Think of ovulation, summertime baby, okay, lighter foods, 341 00:16:31,340 --> 00:16:33,020 salads. You're usually not going to 342 00:16:33,020 --> 00:16:36,980 crave red meats, heavy food as much. 343 00:16:37,060 --> 00:16:40,100 It's usually easier in this phase as well to not be having 344 00:16:40,100 --> 00:16:44,300 so many, like cravings for say, like salty food or fatty foods. 345 00:16:44,540 --> 00:16:46,460 And I would take advantage of that if I were you. 346 00:16:46,460 --> 00:16:49,620 Because if you want to eat something good, then why not eat 347 00:16:49,620 --> 00:16:51,340 something good? Like, have you ever had that 348 00:16:51,340 --> 00:16:53,340 where you're about to choose? Maybe you're like on Uber Eats 349 00:16:53,340 --> 00:16:56,500 or something and you're like, honestly, I don't even want like 350 00:16:56,500 --> 00:16:58,020 a burger. I don't even, I kind of just 351 00:16:58,020 --> 00:17:00,740 want like sushi or I just kind of want something that's a 352 00:17:00,740 --> 00:17:04,500 little bit lighter. I always try to do that if I'm 353 00:17:04,500 --> 00:17:07,540 feeling that because I know that that's actually my body saying 354 00:17:07,540 --> 00:17:09,700 to me I need this kind of nutrition. 355 00:17:09,859 --> 00:17:11,619 I need something that's going to make me feel good. 356 00:17:11,819 --> 00:17:15,300 And if I have a time when it's perform my period and I want a 357 00:17:15,300 --> 00:17:17,540 fucking burger, I'm a have that burger. 358 00:17:17,540 --> 00:17:20,420 That's the thing. Like I will always allow myself 359 00:17:20,420 --> 00:17:22,180 to basically do what I want to do. 360 00:17:22,460 --> 00:17:25,220 And this is the thing, this isn't hard. 361 00:17:25,380 --> 00:17:29,150 This is actually easier. And I think people often don't 362 00:17:29,150 --> 00:17:32,630 want to adopt new things like this because it all feels like 363 00:17:32,630 --> 00:17:34,150 so much. And we're being bombarded 364 00:17:34,150 --> 00:17:38,270 constantly from social media and like ads and all of these other 365 00:17:38,270 --> 00:17:41,070 things, telling us how to do things to just like make us 366 00:17:41,070 --> 00:17:43,950 skinny and make us pretty and it's going to make us happy and 367 00:17:43,950 --> 00:17:47,720 it's fucking bullshit. But this is not, this is real. 368 00:17:47,720 --> 00:17:51,280 Like, this is just you listening to your body intuitively, and 369 00:17:51,280 --> 00:17:55,160 it's actually easier than if you were to try to do the same thing 370 00:17:55,160 --> 00:17:58,520 every single day with food. I like to focus on having 371 00:17:58,640 --> 00:18:04,090 protein, fat and and fiber in every meal and to consider that 372 00:18:04,090 --> 00:18:07,890 just overall in my day, say for example in the morning I'm going 373 00:18:07,890 --> 00:18:10,530 to cook up some eggs. I can go okay. 374 00:18:10,810 --> 00:18:13,610 There is some protein that's great. 375 00:18:13,810 --> 00:18:16,690 And then I'll go okay. Let's add in a piece of my 376 00:18:16,690 --> 00:18:18,610 gluten free toast. It doesn't have to be gluten 377 00:18:18,610 --> 00:18:20,130 free. That's just me because my body 378 00:18:20,170 --> 00:18:23,960 just hates gluten. So piece of my toast, we've got 379 00:18:23,960 --> 00:18:26,480 some fiber in there, A little 5 grain gluten free toast. 380 00:18:26,480 --> 00:18:28,520 Yum Yum, Yum. OK we've got that. 381 00:18:28,680 --> 00:18:31,360 And then you think fat. OK you're going to get some fat 382 00:18:31,360 --> 00:18:34,440 out of that yolk in your egg. But maybe not enough. 383 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:37,160 Maybe we want even more to balance those hormones. 384 00:18:37,360 --> 00:18:39,800 Let's add in maybe half an avocado. 385 00:18:39,960 --> 00:18:42,960 OK, now we're starting to get a better balance. 386 00:18:42,960 --> 00:18:44,400 And again I'm not a nutritionist. 387 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:46,360 This is not exactly what you should have for breakfast every 388 00:18:46,360 --> 00:18:49,040 day and of course every day is going to be different, remember. 389 00:18:49,080 --> 00:18:53,280 But I find if you just focus on those three things, protein, fat 390 00:18:53,580 --> 00:18:56,940 and fiber, you're going to be so much better off in balancing 391 00:18:56,940 --> 00:18:59,820 your hormones and balancing your blood sugar levels so that you 392 00:18:59,820 --> 00:19:01,900 can have the energy that you need in your day. 393 00:19:02,020 --> 00:19:06,500 You can keep your mind feeling more positive because your body 394 00:19:06,500 --> 00:19:08,940 is getting what you want, so naturally your mental health is 395 00:19:08,940 --> 00:19:11,180 going to be better. And this is a huge one for me. 396 00:19:11,420 --> 00:19:14,380 I find if I get halfway through my day and I haven't eaten 397 00:19:14,380 --> 00:19:17,740 properly, I know like I'm in the worst mood. 398 00:19:17,740 --> 00:19:19,700 I feel down. I don't have energy. 399 00:19:19,700 --> 00:19:22,420 I don't want to do anything with my evening, and it always 400 00:19:22,420 --> 00:19:25,180 reinforces that belief, me of OK, Alyssa, let's just be more 401 00:19:25,180 --> 00:19:27,820 mindful tomorrow. Let's be more mindful, of 402 00:19:27,820 --> 00:19:30,020 course, drinking lots of water as well. 403 00:19:30,020 --> 00:19:33,580 I try to have two liters a day, but it's a bit all over the 404 00:19:33,580 --> 00:19:35,580 place because I'll be having a cup here and a cup there and a 405 00:19:35,580 --> 00:19:37,580 water bottle over there. So I'm always doing my best with 406 00:19:37,580 --> 00:19:40,780 that and trying to get better at it, But lots of water every day. 407 00:19:40,980 --> 00:19:44,060 And a little bonus tip as well, if you guys aren't already doing 408 00:19:44,060 --> 00:19:47,300 this, please, Oh my God, stop having coffee on an empty 409 00:19:47,300 --> 00:19:50,630 stomach. I did this for years, all 410 00:19:50,630 --> 00:19:53,670 through high school especially and little trigger warning, 411 00:19:53,670 --> 00:19:57,750 eating disorder warning here. I knew that coffee and caffeine 412 00:19:57,750 --> 00:20:00,510 would curb my appetite and so for me it was the perfect thing. 413 00:20:00,510 --> 00:20:03,030 In the morning I was like, who needs breakfast when I can just 414 00:20:03,030 --> 00:20:05,190 have a coffee? It's going to give me energy. 415 00:20:05,350 --> 00:20:08,110 It's going to stop me from wanting to eat early on in the 416 00:20:08,110 --> 00:20:10,150 day. So I can like extend that period 417 00:20:10,150 --> 00:20:11,750 a little bit longer to like lunch. 418 00:20:11,790 --> 00:20:14,270 Oh my God, so fucking bad. Feel so sad. 419 00:20:14,270 --> 00:20:17,790 I want to hug old me. That is so sad And. 420 00:20:18,190 --> 00:20:19,950 I just thought it was perfect. I thought was the best thing and 421 00:20:19,950 --> 00:20:20,910 it took no time. No. 422 00:20:20,910 --> 00:20:21,270 Ever. Right. 423 00:20:21,270 --> 00:20:23,790 So I was like, this is perfect. Wrong, wrong. 424 00:20:23,790 --> 00:20:26,350 Fucking wrong. Okay, you have a coffee on an 425 00:20:26,350 --> 00:20:28,710 empty stomach, your cortisol shoots up. 426 00:20:28,830 --> 00:20:31,750 That is your stress hormone. That is going to fuck the whole 427 00:20:31,750 --> 00:20:33,430 system. It fucks the whole thing. 428 00:20:33,550 --> 00:20:36,510 It throws everything off. If your cortisol is high, then 429 00:20:36,510 --> 00:20:39,170 all of your other hormones, they're all over the place, OK? 430 00:20:39,290 --> 00:20:42,210 We don't want that. It can cause so many digestion 431 00:20:42,210 --> 00:20:45,370 issues and it literally can change your whole day. 432 00:20:45,690 --> 00:20:47,530 And I'm going to be really honest with you guys. 433 00:20:47,690 --> 00:20:51,930 I got into a habit of doing this again, not because of not 434 00:20:51,930 --> 00:20:54,050 wanting to have an appetite or anything like that at all. 435 00:20:54,130 --> 00:20:56,570 But I got into a habit of it because it kind of became my 436 00:20:56,570 --> 00:20:59,130 morning routine when I started working from home at the start 437 00:20:59,130 --> 00:21:01,290 of this year because I'd get up in the morning. 438 00:21:01,450 --> 00:21:03,410 It was like the thing that I kind of looked forward to 439 00:21:03,410 --> 00:21:05,850 because obviously you feel nice having a coffee. 440 00:21:05,850 --> 00:21:08,490 And making a coffee for me just felt like, you know, out of my 441 00:21:08,490 --> 00:21:10,370 routine. So I'd get up and I'd turn on my 442 00:21:10,370 --> 00:21:12,490 coffee machine. Then I'd go, like, wash my face, 443 00:21:12,490 --> 00:21:14,490 brush my teeth, whatever, and I'd come out and I'd want to 444 00:21:14,490 --> 00:21:16,690 make my coffee. And so I kept doing that. 445 00:21:16,690 --> 00:21:19,490 And it was bad. Like, I would have, like, my, 446 00:21:19,850 --> 00:21:22,970 this is so TMI. My stomach would hurt and my 447 00:21:22,970 --> 00:21:26,330 digestion would go crazy, OK? And it was terrible. 448 00:21:26,330 --> 00:21:29,050 And I was doing it so much. And then finally I was like, OK, 449 00:21:29,050 --> 00:21:30,370 Alyssa, you know how bad this is for you? 450 00:21:30,370 --> 00:21:31,890 What the fuck are you doing? Stop. 451 00:21:31,890 --> 00:21:33,490 We're going to make it a new goal. 452 00:21:34,050 --> 00:21:37,390 This is like a few months ago. Let's make it a new goal that 453 00:21:37,390 --> 00:21:39,310 every morning we're going to wake up and we're going to eat 454 00:21:39,310 --> 00:21:41,230 something. Wait a bit. 455 00:21:41,270 --> 00:21:43,910 OK, wait, wait a bit. Wait, wait. 456 00:21:44,070 --> 00:21:47,510 Let yourself digest a little and then have your coffee. 457 00:21:47,670 --> 00:21:49,670 Because sometimes you'll realize that you don't even need the 458 00:21:49,670 --> 00:21:51,830 coffee once you're up and you're doing your day and you're like, 459 00:21:51,830 --> 00:21:54,350 oh shit, I didn't have a coffee today, or oh, I think I can 460 00:21:54,350 --> 00:21:57,150 actually go decaf. Like it gives you that space to 461 00:21:57,190 --> 00:21:59,070 just ask yourself if you need it. 462 00:21:59,230 --> 00:22:01,350 And of course, coffee is not the end of the world. 463 00:22:01,430 --> 00:22:03,550 It's not the worst thing. I have a coffee every single 464 00:22:03,550 --> 00:22:04,790 day. Like I'm not saying, well 465 00:22:04,790 --> 00:22:08,430 basically every single day. I'm not saying it is bad at all, 466 00:22:08,630 --> 00:22:10,630 but it's how you take things into your body. 467 00:22:10,830 --> 00:22:13,470 Like anything. It's moderation and it's also 468 00:22:13,470 --> 00:22:15,150 timing. Specifically with this one. 469 00:22:15,310 --> 00:22:18,510 Just quickly going back to the seasons analogy before we move 470 00:22:18,510 --> 00:22:21,990 on. Again, we had spring follicular. 471 00:22:22,370 --> 00:22:24,090 You're starting to get that energy back. 472 00:22:24,210 --> 00:22:27,050 Maybe this is a good time for you to learn how to cook a new 473 00:22:27,050 --> 00:22:29,010 recipe. Like, think about it that way. 474 00:22:29,170 --> 00:22:31,730 You're bringing in new things and you have that little bit of 475 00:22:31,730 --> 00:22:33,810 extra energy. You're usually feeling like you 476 00:22:33,810 --> 00:22:35,610 want a little bit of, like lighter foods. 477 00:22:35,610 --> 00:22:37,130 You're feeling a little bit better. 478 00:22:37,170 --> 00:22:39,170 As long as you're staying balanced, awesome. 479 00:22:39,450 --> 00:22:41,930 Then we're going into the ovulation phase again. 480 00:22:42,050 --> 00:22:44,330 You're going to have less cravings and you're going to 481 00:22:44,330 --> 00:22:47,810 want lighter foods likely. So take advantage of that and 482 00:22:47,810 --> 00:22:51,570 try to get in that nice, healthy, balanced situation 483 00:22:51,570 --> 00:22:54,770 while you have to make it happen as you go into your ludial 484 00:22:54,770 --> 00:22:56,770 phase. I'm not saying that you just 485 00:22:56,970 --> 00:23:00,050 drop everything and let yourself go and just eat whatever you 486 00:23:00,050 --> 00:23:02,770 want and not think about fueling your body. 487 00:23:02,770 --> 00:23:05,770 Because of course it's it's not about the shame connected to 488 00:23:05,770 --> 00:23:09,520 eating, like unhealthy, quote UN quote food or fatty food or 489 00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:11,160 whatever. It's not bad. 490 00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:14,280 Like no food is bad. And again, if this is an issue 491 00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:16,640 for you, where you're sitting here like this is really hard 492 00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:19,520 for me though, like, this is a topic I need to hear more on. 493 00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:22,560 I have an episode, it's probably like my second episode or 494 00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:23,960 something. It's really, really early on, 495 00:23:24,200 --> 00:23:26,760 but it's about intuitive eating and that can help you a little 496 00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:29,960 bit more in this area. But with your luteal phase, what 497 00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:33,760 I'm saying is that you start to decrease in energy, so you're 498 00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:35,720 probably not going to want to cook as much. 499 00:23:35,720 --> 00:23:37,960 Like, this is just me. And again, I should speak more 500 00:23:37,960 --> 00:23:43,400 on my side of things, but I'm less likely to want to cook as 501 00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:46,120 much. I usually just want, like warmer 502 00:23:46,120 --> 00:23:48,400 foods. And remember, this is fall time, 503 00:23:48,400 --> 00:23:50,880 OK? We are leading into winter. 504 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,400 We're getting into that phase where we just want to chill the 505 00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:56,560 fuck out, OK? So I'm wanting to have more like 506 00:23:56,560 --> 00:23:59,800 soups, more red meat, kind of like heavier. 507 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:02,520 I'm usually eating more overall and throughout the day. 508 00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:06,280 And I'm OK with that, because rather than seeing every day is 509 00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:10,280 this like perfect balance, I see it as a cycle and so it all 510 00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:12,920 makes sense to me. My favorite thing actually to 511 00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:15,840 make, and this is the thing I know how to make it so it's easy 512 00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:20,510 for me, is borscht, which is like this Ukrainian soup that my 513 00:24:20,510 --> 00:24:23,830 Baba used to make growing up. And it's like a beet soup. 514 00:24:23,830 --> 00:24:26,270 It doesn't sound good, but I tell you, like, it's so fucking 515 00:24:26,270 --> 00:24:27,870 good. Like, it's so good and it's 516 00:24:27,870 --> 00:24:30,830 very, like nostalgic for me. And I know that beets are just 517 00:24:30,830 --> 00:24:33,190 really, really great for your hormones. 518 00:24:33,310 --> 00:24:36,670 There's so many good things in beets, like the vitamins, it's 519 00:24:36,670 --> 00:24:38,710 so light. I know that I'm not going to be 520 00:24:38,710 --> 00:24:41,230 having any gluten with it. Like, it is just perfect. 521 00:24:41,230 --> 00:24:43,670 Like, I just love it so much and it just feels good. 522 00:24:43,790 --> 00:24:46,990 So I always make that like in my luteal phase or in my menstrual 523 00:24:46,990 --> 00:24:48,750 phase, but that's just something that works for me. 524 00:24:48,910 --> 00:24:50,790 And this is the thing. You're going to find specific 525 00:24:50,790 --> 00:24:53,150 foods that you just love at certain times and then you're 526 00:24:53,150 --> 00:24:55,270 going to get used to it and then it gets easier. 527 00:24:55,270 --> 00:24:58,950 You can always go quick Google, search different foods for the 528 00:24:58,950 --> 00:25:02,070 different phases of your cycle, print it out, put it on your 529 00:25:02,070 --> 00:25:04,790 fridge and just get in the habit of looking at that every so 530 00:25:04,790 --> 00:25:06,270 often. Or maybe before you do that 531 00:25:06,270 --> 00:25:08,670 grocery shop on that week, you just look at it quickly and 532 00:25:08,670 --> 00:25:10,910 maybe choose two items that you're going to get off of it. 533 00:25:11,110 --> 00:25:14,190 There's a lot of easy ways to do this without it being a really 534 00:25:14,190 --> 00:25:16,510 big thing to put in your life. That's going to take up a lot of 535 00:25:16,510 --> 00:25:17,230 time. All right. 536 00:25:17,230 --> 00:25:18,710 That's all I'm going to say about food. 537 00:25:18,830 --> 00:25:21,510 Let's move on. We're going to talk now about 538 00:25:21,510 --> 00:25:23,910 work. I have the privilege to be able 539 00:25:23,910 --> 00:25:26,310 to create my own schedule, which is amazing. 540 00:25:26,550 --> 00:25:28,710 And I'm very grateful for that. And that is because of you guys. 541 00:25:28,710 --> 00:25:33,670 So thank you, because I love it, but a lot of people don't. 542 00:25:33,670 --> 00:25:36,470 Of course, a lot of people are working 9:00 to 5:00 or their 543 00:25:36,470 --> 00:25:38,150 schedules all over the place. Like, I used to work in 544 00:25:38,150 --> 00:25:41,310 hospitality, and when I used to teach Pilates, Oh my God, it was 545 00:25:41,310 --> 00:25:43,070 all over the place. Because sometimes I was teaching 546 00:25:43,230 --> 00:25:45,470 in the afternoon, sometimes I was teaching at 6:00 AM. 547 00:25:45,630 --> 00:25:48,350 So it's crazy. And I definitely had to to 548 00:25:48,390 --> 00:25:52,310 understand how to create my schedule around already having 549 00:25:52,310 --> 00:25:54,470 the schedule. So I want to focus on that 550 00:25:54,590 --> 00:25:56,950 people say if you can't change your 9:00 to 5:00, then change 551 00:25:56,950 --> 00:26:01,070 your 5 to 9 and that can be 5:00 AM to 9:00 AM or 5:00 PM to 9:00 552 00:26:01,070 --> 00:26:02,910 PM, right. It's both those times that you 553 00:26:02,910 --> 00:26:04,630 have time to shift things around. 554 00:26:04,630 --> 00:26:08,030 And so I want you to first kind of acknowledge what is your free 555 00:26:08,030 --> 00:26:10,990 time in the week and what are you, what time are we talking 556 00:26:10,990 --> 00:26:13,150 about here that you're going to be changing what you're doing. 557 00:26:13,150 --> 00:26:16,870 You can use cycle syncing to manage like different projects, 558 00:26:16,870 --> 00:26:18,150 different things that you're working on. 559 00:26:18,470 --> 00:26:23,990 For me, for example, say I'm working on a TikTok about 5 560 00:26:23,990 --> 00:26:26,470 things I didn't know about sex in high school. 561 00:26:26,470 --> 00:26:31,300 OK, that's a one of my tik toks. So for example, I when I'm first 562 00:26:31,300 --> 00:26:34,460 done my period and I'm in my follicular phase, I will sit 563 00:26:34,460 --> 00:26:37,380 there and brainstorm ideas. This is what I feel the most 564 00:26:37,380 --> 00:26:39,540 creative. This is when I feel like I'm I 565 00:26:39,540 --> 00:26:42,660 like to brainstorm. I enjoy the idea of sitting 566 00:26:42,660 --> 00:26:45,460 there and coming up with ideas that might not be that good and 567 00:26:45,460 --> 00:26:48,820 like working outside of that layer of what I know already, 568 00:26:48,820 --> 00:26:51,260 you know works for me. Or I enjoy creating or whatever, 569 00:26:51,500 --> 00:26:54,960 branching out and finding that out outside layer where I'm 570 00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:58,360 asking more questions and potentially asking questions 571 00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:01,400 that could trigger huge things in the next month. 572 00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:04,440 But it's important for me to take that time to expand past 573 00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:06,880 what I'm already doing in my follicular phase is when I 574 00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:10,240 absolutely love to do that. It's also when I love to like, 575 00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:14,080 write and like I said, explore things a little bit. 576 00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:15,880 So that's what I'm doing in my follicular phase. 577 00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:20,200 Then when I'm ovulating, I'm more likely to want to go and 578 00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:24,600 sit and, like, make that TikTok and talk about that thing that I 579 00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:28,400 really want to get into and be on camera and have a lot of 580 00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:31,840 energy and push myself to do that extra bit of work. 581 00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:35,280 This is the phase where I know that I can push myself. 582 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:38,200 So if I'm sitting on the couch and I'm going, oh, like I didn't 583 00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:40,880 really want it today and like, oh, I'm just not feeling, I'll 584 00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:41,640 go. You know what, Alyssa? 585 00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:43,600 You are right now you have the energy. 586 00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:45,120 And usually I don't have to do this. 587 00:27:45,120 --> 00:27:47,920 I will say, like, usually this is a natural flowing thing now 588 00:27:48,120 --> 00:27:50,680 where it's like I can't sit on the couch and just do nothing 589 00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:52,560 because my brain is like, let's fucking go. 590 00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:55,680 Like shit is happening. And so I'll usually spend that 591 00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:59,400 time to create as much as possible, challenge myself, do 592 00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:03,320 things that scare me a little bit more, and it feels easier 593 00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:06,680 because my body is already wanting those experiences and 594 00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:11,280 being attracted to new things. Then in my luteal phase, that's 595 00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:14,360 what I'm like editing, right? Let's say that's what I'm kind 596 00:28:14,360 --> 00:28:16,840 of like editing. That's when I'm looking at 597 00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:19,280 everything that I have created. What did I like? 598 00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:20,960 What worked? What didn't work? 599 00:28:20,960 --> 00:28:23,960 What did you guys like? I'm usually trying to finish up 600 00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:27,960 projects and take things to a close so that by the time I get 601 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:31,640 to my period, I'm able to relax a little bit more and I'm not 602 00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,800 feeling stressed because I have this big To Do List and 603 00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:36,960 literally no energy to get it done. 604 00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:39,320 And then of course, like I just said then, my menstrual phase is 605 00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:42,160 when I'm usually trying to rest. And I'm not like taking a week 606 00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:43,760 off here, guys, OK, there's no days off. 607 00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:45,520 No, there's there's, there's definitely days off. 608 00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:48,480 Please have days off. But I'm not taking the whole 609 00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:50,800 week off. But I'm definitely slowing down. 610 00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:54,600 Like right now me doing a podcast episode, this in my 611 00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:58,040 brain is like something that I'm definitely doing, that takes 612 00:28:58,040 --> 00:29:00,240 energy that I obviously love to do. 613 00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:02,840 But you know, I got to get up and do the hair and do the 614 00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:06,320 makeup and do the setup and do this, have the script ready and 615 00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:08,640 do this and do that and work through everything. 616 00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:11,240 And it's definitely something that like takes energy. 617 00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:14,080 And when I'm done it, I'm like, like, OK, like, but I'm only 618 00:29:14,080 --> 00:29:16,040 doing this today, just so you guys know. 619 00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:19,440 OK, so today I'm not pushing myself to OK, we're going to 620 00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:21,480 make these videos. We're going to do these emails. 621 00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:22,880 We're going to reach out to this person. 622 00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:23,720 We're going to do this. This. 623 00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:26,040 No bitch. OK, we are doing this. 624 00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:28,160 This morning I went on a walk. You know what I mean? 625 00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:30,960 Tonight I'm going to go watch the sunset with a few friends. 626 00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:34,760 Like it's it's chill time. And I get to do that because 627 00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:39,170 earlier this week and the week before that, I was pushing 628 00:29:39,170 --> 00:29:41,290 myself. And that's why it feels so good. 629 00:29:41,450 --> 00:29:44,290 And I actually get to allow myself rest and it helps my 630 00:29:44,290 --> 00:29:47,770 mental health so much. And of course, like most people, 631 00:29:47,770 --> 00:29:51,290 if you aren't creating your schedule day-to-day, you can 632 00:29:51,290 --> 00:29:56,530 change that five to 95 AM to 9:00 AM or 5:00 PM to 9:00 PM 633 00:29:56,900 --> 00:29:59,860 When it comes to projects in your home or things that you've 634 00:29:59,860 --> 00:30:03,100 been wanting to do outside of the work that you already do in 635 00:30:03,100 --> 00:30:05,380 your regular life. Maybe you have like a little 636 00:30:05,380 --> 00:30:08,300 side project, whether that's like creative or it's like a 637 00:30:08,300 --> 00:30:12,430 little side hustle situation. Whatever it is, start to plan 638 00:30:12,430 --> 00:30:15,870 around the phases of your cycle when it comes to those projects 639 00:30:15,870 --> 00:30:20,270 because it makes your life so much easier, especially if you 640 00:30:20,270 --> 00:30:23,110 are someone who struggles to slow down. 641 00:30:23,110 --> 00:30:26,710 And I think this is a lot of us. We feel guilt in taking rest. 642 00:30:26,910 --> 00:30:28,630 We always feel like we should be doing something. 643 00:30:28,630 --> 00:30:31,710 There's always more to do and we have people telling us from all 644 00:30:31,710 --> 00:30:34,990 different angles how to do things and how to be the best 645 00:30:35,030 --> 00:30:36,990 individual, you know, be the best version of yourself. 646 00:30:36,990 --> 00:30:38,030 And I get that. We talk about that on the 647 00:30:38,030 --> 00:30:39,630 podcast, obviously. Yes, we want to be the best 648 00:30:39,630 --> 00:30:41,870 versions of ourselves. But like, we have so many people 649 00:30:41,870 --> 00:30:45,350 telling us how to do that all the time, and we often find 650 00:30:45,350 --> 00:30:49,870 ourselves feeling so burnt out. But rest is so necessary. 651 00:30:49,870 --> 00:30:52,710 And if your cup is not filled, then you're not going to have 652 00:30:52,710 --> 00:30:55,990 anything to give to anyone else. And what you want is really for 653 00:30:55,990 --> 00:30:59,070 your cup to be overflowing so you're never filling and 654 00:30:59,070 --> 00:31:00,310 emptying and filling and emptying. 655 00:31:00,310 --> 00:31:03,910 No, you're keeping it full and overflowing because you're doing 656 00:31:03,910 --> 00:31:07,550 things in an intuitive way that makes sense for you and what 657 00:31:07,550 --> 00:31:09,710 your body actually wants at that time. 658 00:31:09,710 --> 00:31:11,550 Now we're just going to take a second to talk about the sponsor 659 00:31:11,750 --> 00:31:15,230 of today's episode, Be Educated. 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Or you can go to the description 698 00:33:03,950 --> 00:33:05,950 of today's episode and you can click the link. 699 00:33:06,030 --> 00:33:07,230 All right, Let's get back to the episode. 700 00:33:07,230 --> 00:33:10,190 All right. Let's talk about sex, babies, 701 00:33:10,190 --> 00:33:12,630 sex and relationships. This is a big one. 702 00:33:12,630 --> 00:33:16,550 Like, this is one that I never really thought you could cycle 703 00:33:16,550 --> 00:33:18,030 sync. Like, I don't really understand 704 00:33:18,030 --> 00:33:20,870 it. But now let me tell you I know. 705 00:33:20,870 --> 00:33:22,870 OK? Because when you ovulate, this 706 00:33:22,870 --> 00:33:26,110 is when your body is most likely to get pregnant. 707 00:33:26,430 --> 00:33:31,230 Unfortunately, because you are also feeling your most, you just 708 00:33:31,230 --> 00:33:34,350 you're you're ready to go, OK? You're more likely to want to 709 00:33:34,350 --> 00:33:36,230 have sex. You're more likely to want to 710 00:33:36,230 --> 00:33:40,230 try things sexually as well. You feel the most confident. 711 00:33:40,230 --> 00:33:43,350 You are the most radiant. Those pheromones are popping, 712 00:33:43,350 --> 00:33:46,550 like you are glowing. People just are attracted to you 713 00:33:46,550 --> 00:33:50,630 and it's the best time for you to go on a first date. 714 00:33:50,670 --> 00:33:54,470 It's the best time for you to maybe try on like new lingerie 715 00:33:54,470 --> 00:33:57,670 or try a new toy or do something that feels out of the norm 716 00:33:57,670 --> 00:34:01,350 because you have that extra bit of confidence and it's just so 717 00:34:01,350 --> 00:34:04,030 useful. And I will say on the flip side 718 00:34:04,030 --> 00:34:07,560 of this or on the more like kind of it's not that we have 719 00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:10,159 favorite phases of our period, obviously we should love them 720 00:34:10,159 --> 00:34:12,600 all. But ovulation is just like I'm 721 00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:15,280 the hottest bitch I've ever been when I'm ovulating, OK, that's 722 00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:17,159 just how it feels. Then your lytical phase for a 723 00:34:17,159 --> 00:34:18,600 second, you're like, wait, I'm kind of ugly. 724 00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:21,040 Like you just kind of have a moment where you're like, you 725 00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:24,080 know, and obviously you know, the better we are with 726 00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:26,360 regulating our hormones, the less we're going to feel these 727 00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:30,360 negative effects of like PMS and period symptoms and everything 728 00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:32,080 else. It's a work in progress, OK? 729 00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:34,960 We're always working towards better health and feeling more 730 00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:37,639 in tune with our bodies. So as I said, I haven't 731 00:34:37,639 --> 00:34:40,480 completely gotten rid of every single period symptom. 732 00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:43,280 Like 2 days ago I had a little bit of cramps. 733 00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:45,920 It wasn't bad. It didn't really stop my day or 734 00:34:45,920 --> 00:34:47,120 anything. It used to. 735 00:34:47,120 --> 00:34:50,080 I will tell you that it used to be really, really bad, but I 736 00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:53,040 don't have it at all. Nearly as bad, like I would say 737 00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:56,400 before my period, cramps would get up to, I don't know, like a 738 00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:59,680 seven or eight, like waking up in the middle of the night 739 00:34:59,680 --> 00:35:02,520 crying, having my partner, like waking him up and being like, 740 00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:05,800 can you massage me, please. Putting on like those period 741 00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:09,400 cramping, like little machine things, like having to do a lot 742 00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:12,800 of that. I don't have to do anything 743 00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:14,720 really anymore. I never have to do heat pack 744 00:35:14,720 --> 00:35:16,400 anymore. Like I used to do all of this 745 00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:17,600 shit. I used to have all of these 746 00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:20,120 symptoms. I'm telling you guys, I don't 747 00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:21,960 take anything. I'm not taking. 748 00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:23,520 I mean, maybe I should be, I don't know. 749 00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:25,920 But I'm not taking any supplements right now. 750 00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:29,990 I'm not doing anything other than just living in tune with 751 00:35:29,990 --> 00:35:33,390 how my body wants me to live. And of course there's so many 752 00:35:33,390 --> 00:35:36,270 factors, so it's hard to say this is the thing that did it. 753 00:35:36,470 --> 00:35:39,950 But for example, maybe I was on my period two years ago and I 754 00:35:39,950 --> 00:35:42,150 would force myself to do a workout because I was telling 755 00:35:42,150 --> 00:35:44,910 myself I had to do it. Do that in the morning, then I 756 00:35:44,910 --> 00:35:46,790 have no energy in the rest of the day. 757 00:35:46,990 --> 00:35:49,550 Maybe I'm not really eating properly or thinking about what 758 00:35:49,550 --> 00:35:52,030 foods I'm putting into my body by the evening. 759 00:35:52,030 --> 00:35:54,870 If I have cramps, that doesn't surprise me now. 760 00:35:55,310 --> 00:35:58,190 Like, for example, I would wake up with cramps and instead of 761 00:35:58,190 --> 00:36:01,470 having an nice amount of water and getting that fat, protein, 762 00:36:01,470 --> 00:36:04,510 fiber situation in my body, it was like, I wake up, I feel like 763 00:36:04,510 --> 00:36:05,950 shit. Oh my God, I have cramps. 764 00:36:06,150 --> 00:36:07,550 Let's have a coffee. That's going to make me feel 765 00:36:07,550 --> 00:36:09,630 better and wrong. It's going to dehydrate you and 766 00:36:09,630 --> 00:36:10,830 it's going to make your cramps worse. 767 00:36:11,030 --> 00:36:12,670 I just didn't know any of this shit. 768 00:36:12,790 --> 00:36:15,550 And this is what pisses me the fuck off is we're not taught 769 00:36:15,550 --> 00:36:16,830 this. Like, why are we not taught 770 00:36:16,990 --> 00:36:20,350 this? If this was the experience for 771 00:36:20,350 --> 00:36:23,150 men bitch, you better know that we would have had a whole last 772 00:36:23,150 --> 00:36:24,830 subject about it. Don't even get me started. 773 00:36:24,830 --> 00:36:26,030 Don't even get me started. OK? 774 00:36:26,030 --> 00:36:29,300 Anyways, I was going to say earlier and I got on a tangent 775 00:36:29,300 --> 00:36:33,860 again that on the flip side, as I'm experiencing any kind of 776 00:36:33,860 --> 00:36:37,100 negative symptoms like cramps or a little bit of like 777 00:36:37,100 --> 00:36:40,860 irritability, that's one for me. I don't get well, I guess I do 778 00:36:40,860 --> 00:36:43,620 get a bit, you know, down a little bit more depressed, but a 779 00:36:43,620 --> 00:36:45,100 little bit, you know, just lower. 780 00:36:45,100 --> 00:36:47,660 When it comes to my mental health, something I've learned 781 00:36:47,860 --> 00:36:52,980 is to not have big conversations within my relationships in this 782 00:36:52,980 --> 00:36:57,480 phase just because I'm a little bit more bare bones. 783 00:36:57,640 --> 00:37:00,640 It's like a no BS zone. And what I'm going to tell you 784 00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:04,000 is if you relate to this, you can use this. 785 00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:08,320 So instead now of when I want to blow up on my partner because 786 00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:10,480 he's driving me fucking mad, even though he's actually just 787 00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:13,280 sitting there, like breathing, you know, or just made a little 788 00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:15,800 mistake, you know, forgot to get milk on the way home. 789 00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:18,840 And here I am, blowing my fucking head off because I'm all 790 00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:21,040 pissed at him. Instead of doing that, I 791 00:37:21,080 --> 00:37:23,200 recognize okay. In this phase, I'm probably 792 00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:25,400 going to be a little bit more irritable, so I'm going to keep 793 00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:28,160 myself in check. I'm going to be more mindful of 794 00:37:28,160 --> 00:37:30,840 what I'm saying, what conversations are coming up. 795 00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:33,920 If for some reason I'm finding one of my friends really 796 00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:37,480 bothering me or something is just seeming off, I have grace 797 00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:40,420 for the situation and I go look, might not be them. 798 00:37:40,420 --> 00:37:42,020 Let's just choose to move on from it. 799 00:37:42,220 --> 00:37:45,540 I'm better at recognizing the things that I might be feeling 800 00:37:45,820 --> 00:37:50,060 so that I can prepare and I can respond in better ways. 801 00:37:50,140 --> 00:37:54,100 Now you can use this by instead of letting it out on other 802 00:37:54,100 --> 00:37:58,020 people using like a journal. If something comes up for you 803 00:37:58,020 --> 00:38:01,180 and you're like, I've actually realized that I don't feel very 804 00:38:01,180 --> 00:38:04,900 happy about the situation. I don't like my job or I'm not 805 00:38:04,900 --> 00:38:07,340 happy living where I'm living or whatever it is. 806 00:38:07,660 --> 00:38:10,720 Write it down. Be really real with yourself. 807 00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:12,720 Let what's happening in your body. 808 00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:15,440 Bring up those emotions. Bring up those feelings. 809 00:38:15,440 --> 00:38:17,560 Bring up those thoughts. Write them down. 810 00:38:17,680 --> 00:38:20,800 Don't commit to any of those thoughts, but let them sit there 811 00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:25,430 and revisit it later after your period, because then you can 812 00:38:25,430 --> 00:38:28,230 look at it and you can ask yourself like, are these things 813 00:38:28,230 --> 00:38:30,550 true or not? Sometimes you might have just 814 00:38:30,550 --> 00:38:33,310 not been feeling great and you might have been like kind of 815 00:38:33,350 --> 00:38:37,270 over exaggerating or catastrophizing the situation. 816 00:38:37,270 --> 00:38:39,950 Sometimes that happens, but sometimes you look back to it 817 00:38:39,950 --> 00:38:41,430 and there's actually truth in it. 818 00:38:41,590 --> 00:38:45,590 Sometimes it's like, wait, yeah, I actually don't really love my 819 00:38:45,590 --> 00:38:49,310 job. And it took me being mindful in 820 00:38:49,310 --> 00:38:53,060 that PMS to bring that out and write that down in the 1st 821 00:38:53,060 --> 00:38:55,700 place. Now that I'm past my period and 822 00:38:55,700 --> 00:38:58,580 I have the emotions to sit here and deal with this a little bit 823 00:38:58,580 --> 00:39:01,820 better, I can sit here and go, OK, whoa, what is it that I 824 00:39:01,820 --> 00:39:04,020 don't like about my job? Is there anything that I can do 825 00:39:04,020 --> 00:39:07,180 to change this right now? If not, how can I work towards 826 00:39:07,180 --> 00:39:10,980 changing it? So for me, I see that period, 827 00:39:11,260 --> 00:39:14,460 the PMS period, I should say it's actually your Ludial phase. 828 00:39:14,740 --> 00:39:17,660 I see it as like a no bullshit zone. 829 00:39:17,820 --> 00:39:21,460 It's a chance for me to figure out what what are the potential, 830 00:39:21,460 --> 00:39:24,500 like pain points or things in my life that just aren't working 831 00:39:24,500 --> 00:39:28,140 anymore, and not commit to making changes right there and 832 00:39:28,140 --> 00:39:31,260 then, potentially if they're emotional decisions, but to look 833 00:39:31,260 --> 00:39:34,340 at it later and reflect. And I always get so much more 834 00:39:34,340 --> 00:39:36,860 out of that experience, especially when it is tied to 835 00:39:36,860 --> 00:39:39,420 relationships. So instead of having that big 836 00:39:39,660 --> 00:39:42,660 explosive conversation about not being happy in a relationship 837 00:39:42,660 --> 00:39:46,050 anymore or whatever it is, you know, having that conversation 838 00:39:46,050 --> 00:39:49,890 later, but maybe letting some of those thoughts that came up 839 00:39:49,890 --> 00:39:54,210 during that PMS period inform you on how you might still be 840 00:39:54,210 --> 00:39:56,370 feeling within a, you know, a week or so. 841 00:39:56,840 --> 00:39:58,240 OK. And lastly, and this is my 842 00:39:58,240 --> 00:40:00,920 favorite one, so This is why I've saved it till the end, is 843 00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:06,520 my mental health and myself care and how much better my mental 844 00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:09,040 health is now that I've started doing this. 845 00:40:09,040 --> 00:40:12,800 Like before I started cycle thinking I thought I was fucking 846 00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:15,320 crazy. I thought I was crazy because I 847 00:40:15,320 --> 00:40:18,720 was like I'm happy for a week and then I feel like shit for a 848 00:40:18,720 --> 00:40:22,440 few days and then I feel great for a few days and then I feel 849 00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:25,520 shit for like a week and a half. Like it was fucked and I just 850 00:40:25,520 --> 00:40:28,160 didn't know why. And that was so frustrating 851 00:40:28,160 --> 00:40:29,880 because I was like, what do I do? 852 00:40:29,880 --> 00:40:33,400 Like at one point I went on to antidepressants, which if you 853 00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:35,600 are on antidepressants, I fucking love that for you. 854 00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:37,720 If you are loving it, good for you. 855 00:40:37,720 --> 00:40:40,280 Do whatever you need to do. But I didn't have a great 856 00:40:40,280 --> 00:40:44,340 experience with it. And I felt like sometimes, and 857 00:40:44,340 --> 00:40:46,140 and I didn't know this at the time, but in different phases of 858 00:40:46,140 --> 00:40:48,060 my cycle or whatever else, I'd be really, really happy. 859 00:40:48,140 --> 00:40:49,900 And then certain ones I'd be really, really low. 860 00:40:50,100 --> 00:40:53,860 And for me, antidepressants just kind of like brought that whole 861 00:40:53,860 --> 00:40:57,180 thing into like a medium ground. And then I was always just a bit 862 00:40:57,180 --> 00:41:00,900 like apathetic, which at least I wasn't having panic attacks all 863 00:41:00,900 --> 00:41:03,140 the time. That was kind of sly, but being 864 00:41:03,140 --> 00:41:06,380 apathetic kind of bad because it just made me depressed overall. 865 00:41:06,660 --> 00:41:09,580 So for me, it didn't really do what I needed it to do. 866 00:41:09,580 --> 00:41:12,860 So I had, I went off of that. But then I was left back at like 867 00:41:13,230 --> 00:41:15,150 the beginning again, and I didn't know what to do with 868 00:41:15,150 --> 00:41:18,230 myself. And I was so fucking frustrated, 869 00:41:18,230 --> 00:41:24,070 like it was impossible to try to keep any kind of, like daily 870 00:41:24,070 --> 00:41:27,070 habit or anything like that. And it's funny to me now because 871 00:41:27,070 --> 00:41:29,430 at the time I used to be like, OK, every day is going to look 872 00:41:29,430 --> 00:41:30,750 like this. I'm going to have this morning 873 00:41:30,750 --> 00:41:34,400 routine, this evening routine. The thing is that sometimes our 874 00:41:34,400 --> 00:41:37,160 mornings look different in different phases. 875 00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:38,800 You might need a different morning. 876 00:41:38,960 --> 00:41:42,120 When I'm ovulating, you know that I'm waking up earlier. 877 00:41:42,240 --> 00:41:45,720 I'm putting in my Pilates gear. I'm like making myself a good 878 00:41:45,720 --> 00:41:47,880 meal. I'm going to Pilates, I'm 879 00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:49,880 walking home, maybe I'm getting some groceries. 880 00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:53,640 I've got the energy to do shit. So then I come home, I eat 881 00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:56,160 again. I then have my coffee, I take a 882 00:41:56,160 --> 00:41:58,280 shower. I do all this content stuff. 883 00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:01,880 I have energy and I'm eating it up sometimes. 884 00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:06,080 My morning routine, when I'm not feeling as good, or I'm PM ING, 885 00:42:06,080 --> 00:42:09,560 or I'm on my period or whatever, looks like me waking up and 886 00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:13,600 slowly starting my day eating something small. 887 00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:16,200 Hello, everybody. Just jumping in really quickly 888 00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:19,440 to tell you that I did lose the audio from my mic for the last 889 00:42:19,600 --> 00:42:22,840 7:00-ish minutes of the episode. So if it sounds a bit cursed, 890 00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:24,560 that's why. But you can still understand it. 891 00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:25,720 OK, back to the episode. Bye bye. 892 00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:29,680 Going back to bed, reading my book for a little bit, you know, 893 00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:34,820 doing some nice skin care, Then I have my coffee, then I'll do 894 00:42:34,820 --> 00:42:38,100 something. Maybe I'll go on a walk, or I'll 895 00:42:38,100 --> 00:42:43,100 go see a friend, or I'll do work or whatever it is, But I won't 896 00:42:43,380 --> 00:42:47,340 push myself to get into my day because that's not what I need 897 00:42:47,340 --> 00:42:49,620 in that phase. And that's totally fine. 898 00:42:49,780 --> 00:42:53,740 Now, when I don't feel my best, it's a very quick thing that 899 00:42:53,740 --> 00:42:55,780 happens. But I can literally go on to my 900 00:42:55,780 --> 00:42:58,820 period tracking app, go, Oh yeah, about to get my period in 901 00:42:58,820 --> 00:43:00,260 five days. OK, that makes sense. 902 00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:02,680 That's it. Instead of sitting there like I 903 00:43:02,680 --> 00:43:05,880 used to and go, why am I so depressed right now? 904 00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:08,160 Oh, I just feel so bad about my life. 905 00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:11,000 Oh, let's have all these negative thoughts trail through. 906 00:43:11,160 --> 00:43:13,240 Oh, yeah, I'm not good enough. Oh, yeah. 907 00:43:13,240 --> 00:43:15,120 I'm not going in the direction I want to be going in. 908 00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:17,040 Oh, yeah. I don't have enough friends. 909 00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:19,880 All these negative things, pouring, pouring, pouring. 910 00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:23,000 And I sit there and I go. I would literally like, 911 00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:26,500 catastrophize the whole thing to the point of being like, wow, I 912 00:43:26,500 --> 00:43:29,860 am now depressed. I am 100% depressed all the 913 00:43:29,860 --> 00:43:31,580 time. It just wasn't true. 914 00:43:31,780 --> 00:43:35,500 I was letting myself sit in these horrible feelings because 915 00:43:35,500 --> 00:43:39,780 I didn't understand the very basic, very simple reason as to 916 00:43:39,780 --> 00:43:41,540 why I might not have been feeling good. 917 00:43:41,820 --> 00:43:44,580 Now in that moment, I go, Oh yeah, period. 918 00:43:44,580 --> 00:43:48,620 In a few days, OK, what can I do today to give back to my body, 919 00:43:48,660 --> 00:43:53,060 know the things, and I'm able to go about my life without feeling 920 00:43:53,300 --> 00:43:55,780 like there's something horribly wrong with me. 921 00:43:55,980 --> 00:43:58,820 And I think that's the most important thing. 922 00:43:58,820 --> 00:44:01,380 And the best thing that I've gotten out of cycle thinking 923 00:44:01,460 --> 00:44:06,940 overall is the fact that I just understand why I feel the way I 924 00:44:07,140 --> 00:44:11,140 feel, so I don't have to overanalyze everything and be so 925 00:44:11,140 --> 00:44:13,940 upset all the time. If something is going wrong, I 926 00:44:13,980 --> 00:44:16,660 just get it. I go, oh, that makes sense. 927 00:44:16,660 --> 00:44:18,980 OK, how can I give back to myself? 928 00:44:19,340 --> 00:44:23,020 And that even serves as a reminder to go, oh, yeah, let's 929 00:44:23,020 --> 00:44:24,820 realize what part of my cycle I'm in right now. 930 00:44:25,100 --> 00:44:28,500 OK, my period is coming. Oh, great, OK, Yeah, I should be 931 00:44:28,500 --> 00:44:30,220 trying to finish up this project right now. 932 00:44:30,420 --> 00:44:32,020 You know, what? If I do have that little bit of 933 00:44:32,020 --> 00:44:34,580 energy, If I can now be motivated by the fact that my 934 00:44:34,580 --> 00:44:37,380 period's coming and I want to chill, then maybe we will get 935 00:44:37,380 --> 00:44:40,420 this one thing done. And it helps me to make sense 936 00:44:40,660 --> 00:44:44,580 and plan in a way that feels like I'm honoring my body rather 937 00:44:44,580 --> 00:44:47,200 than going against it. And personally, this is just my 938 00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:49,640 experience. I find PMS to be kind of like 939 00:44:49,640 --> 00:44:52,640 the worst thing for me, like my boobs are a bit sore. 940 00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:55,480 I'm usually a bit more irritable once I get my period. 941 00:44:55,480 --> 00:44:57,800 I'm usually pretty good, like my first day of my period. 942 00:44:57,800 --> 00:45:00,520 Maybe I'm a bit like, OK, well, my body's doing a lot right now. 943 00:45:00,760 --> 00:45:03,600 But then it kind of starts to slowly go away and I'm feeling a 944 00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:05,400 bit better. And that's why I kind of love to 945 00:45:05,400 --> 00:45:07,400 get my period because it feels like a release. 946 00:45:07,400 --> 00:45:09,600 It's like my body is like, filled up. 947 00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:11,160 Literally. It literally is. 948 00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:13,760 It's like filled up and I'm like, Oh my God, like my boobs 949 00:45:13,760 --> 00:45:15,480 hurt. Please, I'll go through my first 950 00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:17,960 day of my period and my boobs are like, deflated again. 951 00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:20,520 They feel fine. I feel like I can breathe okay, 952 00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:22,960 things are a bit better. Maybe I have a tiny bit of 953 00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:24,880 cramps, but I feel like I've got that release. 954 00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:29,100 And once I started leaning into that idea of release, I realized 955 00:45:29,100 --> 00:45:31,700 how much even. And we can go into getting a 956 00:45:31,700 --> 00:45:33,260 bit. Woo, woo if you want, but like 957 00:45:33,260 --> 00:45:36,700 even energetically for me, I see it as a chance to literally 958 00:45:36,700 --> 00:45:40,740 release things from my body. So at least one day out of the 959 00:45:40,740 --> 00:45:44,860 days on a Mama period, I love to sit down and write down things 960 00:45:44,860 --> 00:45:48,300 that maybe happened that month or thoughts that came up in that 961 00:45:48,300 --> 00:45:51,590 month. Things that don't hold an energy 962 00:45:51,590 --> 00:45:53,630 that I want to carry into my next month. 963 00:45:53,670 --> 00:45:57,310 Like maybe I had a fight with somebody, or maybe I felt bad 964 00:45:57,310 --> 00:46:00,270 about a situation or something didn't go the way I wanted to go 965 00:46:00,270 --> 00:46:02,390 or whatever it was, I will sit there. 966 00:46:02,470 --> 00:46:05,980 I'll write those things down and I'll try to detach myself from 967 00:46:05,980 --> 00:46:08,180 any, like, negative beliefs I have around those things. 968 00:46:08,180 --> 00:46:11,340 Like say something didn't work out, like something with my job 969 00:46:11,340 --> 00:46:13,900 didn't work out or something just didn't go as planned. 970 00:46:14,140 --> 00:46:15,700 And I don't feel that good about it. 971 00:46:15,700 --> 00:46:18,060 And I've noticed I still have feelings around that. 972 00:46:18,380 --> 00:46:20,980 Writing it down and then releasing any kind of negative 973 00:46:20,980 --> 00:46:24,260 belief, like, oh, I'm not good enough because that thing didn't 974 00:46:24,260 --> 00:46:26,060 work or I didn't get that opportunity. 975 00:46:26,060 --> 00:46:28,260 So I'm never going to get another opportunity, anything 976 00:46:28,260 --> 00:46:30,210 like that. I'll write it down, you know, 977 00:46:30,210 --> 00:46:34,010 that doesn't affect future opportunities for me or this 978 00:46:34,050 --> 00:46:37,530 upcoming month or this upcoming cycle has so much in store for 979 00:46:37,530 --> 00:46:39,210 me. And it'll reinforce that it's 980 00:46:39,210 --> 00:46:42,290 actually a bit of a turning point for me and it is so 981 00:46:42,290 --> 00:46:45,450 powerful. It's so like, I could cry, like 982 00:46:45,810 --> 00:46:51,130 the way that I love my body and my life and how I'm able to live 983 00:46:51,290 --> 00:46:56,380 so much more now because I feel like a sense of of control, but 984 00:46:56,380 --> 00:47:00,180 not the type of control where you're grasping at straws and 985 00:47:00,380 --> 00:47:03,540 trying to make things happen. No, like, it's just a comfort 986 00:47:03,740 --> 00:47:07,100 and a piece and it's intuitive and you're in tune and it feels 987 00:47:07,100 --> 00:47:09,220 right. I know when to push myself, but 988 00:47:09,220 --> 00:47:12,340 I also know when to be gentle with myself, even when it comes 989 00:47:12,340 --> 00:47:15,180 to my body. If I look at my body one day in 990 00:47:15,180 --> 00:47:17,980 the mirror and I'm like, oh, I look super bloated, or I just 991 00:47:17,980 --> 00:47:19,660 look like I have all this water retention. 992 00:47:19,660 --> 00:47:21,540 Or like, I just look like what is going on? 993 00:47:21,540 --> 00:47:23,620 Like, I just don't feel like I look great. 994 00:47:24,120 --> 00:47:25,600 Cycle. Look at my little app. 995 00:47:26,320 --> 00:47:28,440 OK, that makes sense. Sometimes I'll even get 996 00:47:28,440 --> 00:47:30,320 notifications where I'll be like, you're going to feel a 997 00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:33,120 little bit bloated today, or you might be experiencing this 998 00:47:33,120 --> 00:47:36,600 symptom. It just makes me realize that 999 00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:40,560 those are normal things and that your body is changing all the 1000 00:47:40,560 --> 00:47:43,120 time. And that's totally OK. 1001 00:47:43,240 --> 00:47:46,720 I have so much more grace for myself now, and I don't see 1002 00:47:46,720 --> 00:47:49,840 myself every day as having to show up as the best version of 1003 00:47:49,840 --> 00:47:53,120 myself, the most social version of myself, the most confident, 1004 00:47:53,120 --> 00:47:54,880 most beautiful. I can't do that. 1005 00:47:55,080 --> 00:47:57,320 Sorry, but I actually can't do that. 1006 00:47:57,560 --> 00:48:00,680 I'm not going to be the best version of myself every day. 1007 00:48:00,920 --> 00:48:03,760 I want to work towards it. I always want to be showing up 1008 00:48:03,760 --> 00:48:06,680 as the version of that me that like I want to show up as. 1009 00:48:06,800 --> 00:48:11,640 But if that looks like rest, or that looks like not going out 1010 00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:14,880 for drinks really late one night on a Wednesday with all your 1011 00:48:14,880 --> 00:48:16,880 friends, even though you feel like you should and you feel 1012 00:48:16,880 --> 00:48:19,480 like you're going to have FOMO, and it actually comes back to 1013 00:48:19,480 --> 00:48:21,840 you learning to respect your body and giving back to your 1014 00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:24,800 body because you're in a phase where your body needs that rest. 1015 00:48:24,800 --> 00:48:27,640 Like that's actually showing up for yourself and that's actually 1016 00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:29,000 being the best version of yourself. 1017 00:48:29,320 --> 00:48:31,800 That's great. And that's what we want to work 1018 00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:34,040 towards. Overall, I hope today's episode 1019 00:48:34,040 --> 00:48:36,200 gave you a bit of an understanding of the four 1020 00:48:36,200 --> 00:48:39,160 different phases of your cycle, how to see it as different 1021 00:48:39,160 --> 00:48:42,880 seasons and how to prioritize your life in a way that makes 1022 00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:45,600 sense around the seasons. I love this way of living. 1023 00:48:45,600 --> 00:48:48,160 I have to say that this is not a fad. 1024 00:48:48,160 --> 00:48:51,520 This is not something that I'm just going to do right now. 1025 00:48:51,520 --> 00:48:54,560 This has literally prepared me for my whole whole life. 1026 00:48:54,760 --> 00:48:57,360 I remember when I first started sickle singing, I was like, how 1027 00:48:57,360 --> 00:48:58,800 the fuck did I not know this sooner? 1028 00:48:58,800 --> 00:49:00,960 Like, it made me mad and it still makes me mad. 1029 00:49:01,160 --> 00:49:03,120 But I'm just so grateful to do this now. 1030 00:49:03,120 --> 00:49:06,840 I'm so grateful to feel good in my body and to not experience 1031 00:49:06,840 --> 00:49:09,440 all those crazy period symptoms I used to have. 1032 00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:12,200 Like I used to get headaches and like I said, I was using the hot 1033 00:49:12,200 --> 00:49:15,880 water bottle, using the ice, using all of these things just 1034 00:49:15,880 --> 00:49:19,240 to really try to Band-Aid what was really going on in my body. 1035 00:49:19,240 --> 00:49:24,340 And now that I'm building my life and feeding my body, when 1036 00:49:24,340 --> 00:49:27,860 it comes to everything, food, of course, the exercise and how I'm 1037 00:49:27,860 --> 00:49:30,220 exchanging energy with people and what I'm putting my time and 1038 00:49:30,220 --> 00:49:32,900 effort into in a way that actually is in line with my 1039 00:49:32,900 --> 00:49:37,020 body, I'm so much happier. I'm so much more productive 1040 00:49:37,300 --> 00:49:40,060 because I'm doing what makes sense for my body. 1041 00:49:40,180 --> 00:49:45,510 No one tells you that you can work out less and eat more and 1042 00:49:45,510 --> 00:49:48,950 look and feel better if you just know how to do it properly. 1043 00:49:49,150 --> 00:49:52,750 And my last little point on this is like, who would be, I guess, 1044 00:49:52,750 --> 00:49:55,030 marketing this? Who's the one putting up ads for 1045 00:49:55,030 --> 00:49:56,670 us to learn this shit? Nobody. 1046 00:49:56,670 --> 00:49:58,070 You know. What are the ads? 1047 00:49:58,270 --> 00:50:02,160 They're these quick fix products, these like one 1048 00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:05,600 individual powder or one individual vitamin or one 1049 00:50:05,600 --> 00:50:08,560 individual workout plan that's meant to solve all your 1050 00:50:08,560 --> 00:50:10,720 problems. And unfortunately, some of these 1051 00:50:10,720 --> 00:50:13,440 things are actually just a balance of all these different 1052 00:50:13,440 --> 00:50:15,640 parts of our life. There isn't a quick fix. 1053 00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:17,800 And yes, you can use supplements. 1054 00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:21,200 Of course, use the protein powders, do the workout plan if 1055 00:50:21,200 --> 00:50:23,320 that's what's going to help you. There's nothing wrong with 1056 00:50:23,320 --> 00:50:25,720 having those things of course they're great. 1057 00:50:25,720 --> 00:50:29,160 But their addition this what we're talking about today. 1058 00:50:29,360 --> 00:50:31,600 This is the baseline. This is what we should be 1059 00:50:31,600 --> 00:50:34,640 figuring out first before we add in everything else. 1060 00:50:34,760 --> 00:50:35,920 Thank you guys so much for listening. 1061 00:50:35,920 --> 00:50:37,200 I hope that you like today's episode. 1062 00:50:37,200 --> 00:50:39,360 I hope you learned something especially if you've been 1063 00:50:39,360 --> 00:50:42,440 listening to my podcast for you know the last two years or 1064 00:50:42,440 --> 00:50:45,120 however long we've been doing this now and you've heard those 1065 00:50:45,120 --> 00:50:47,400 original episodes. And hopefully this is a nice 1066 00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:51,160 little update for you to maybe re inspire you to get back into 1067 00:50:51,200 --> 00:50:54,000 it if you kind of got a little bit lost along the way. 1068 00:50:54,000 --> 00:50:57,320 Because like I said, I've done that with certain things as well 1069 00:50:57,320 --> 00:51:00,200 and I've come back to it and it's obviously a journey. 1070 00:51:00,200 --> 00:51:02,320 I just want to thank you guys so much for listening to She Said 1071 00:51:02,320 --> 00:51:04,120 what? And joining the Facebook group 1072 00:51:04,120 --> 00:51:07,440 that she said what podcast group for updates and just a little 1073 00:51:07,440 --> 00:51:09,520 bit of community. It's like an opportunity to meet 1074 00:51:09,520 --> 00:51:11,400 like minded people. So feel free to come join us on 1075 00:51:11,400 --> 00:51:13,240 there if you aren't already on there with us. 1076 00:51:13,520 --> 00:51:16,040 And if you guys want to find me on Instagram or TikTok, it is 1077 00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:19,640 Alyssa Taylor Harper and I will link that below in the show 1078 00:51:19,640 --> 00:51:21,000 notes. So I want to thank you guys for 1079 00:51:21,000 --> 00:51:23,520 all the beautiful messages I've been receiving recently about my 1080 00:51:23,520 --> 00:51:26,760 episodes about sexuality and bisexuality in particular. 1081 00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:30,520 I did have somebody actually reached out and I don't know if 1082 00:51:30,520 --> 00:51:34,080 I should say her name right now if she want me to, but she came 1083 00:51:34,080 --> 00:51:37,440 out on Instagram this week because of the podcast and it 1084 00:51:37,440 --> 00:51:40,240 was a huge thing for me. And I get messages like that all 1085 00:51:40,240 --> 00:51:44,290 the time, but I think, like, seeing somebody's face like lit 1086 00:51:44,290 --> 00:51:46,890 up and smiling and she had this little cake and it said bye on 1087 00:51:46,890 --> 00:51:49,370 it and it was so cute. And I was like, Oh my God, like 1088 00:51:49,570 --> 00:51:51,970 I was literally in tears and I was just like, This is why I do 1089 00:51:51,970 --> 00:51:54,010 what I do. It's for you guys. 1090 00:51:54,210 --> 00:51:56,130 And if you guys have any questions you want to talk about 1091 00:51:56,130 --> 00:51:57,890 anything, please feel free to DM me. 1092 00:51:57,890 --> 00:52:00,170 And I'm always happy to chat with you guys. 1093 00:52:00,170 --> 00:52:02,570 And if you guys have any requests on like future 1094 00:52:02,570 --> 00:52:05,370 episodes, future topics, maybe you want to see me like 1095 00:52:05,370 --> 00:52:08,450 interview somebody or you want to see me go into like more the 1096 00:52:08,530 --> 00:52:10,810 interview route I'm doing this for. 1097 00:52:10,810 --> 00:52:13,490 Y'all like this is for you. So you let me know. 1098 00:52:13,650 --> 00:52:15,810 As always, thank you for being here and I will see you guys in 1099 00:52:15,810 --> 00:52:16,730 the next episode. Bye. 1100 00:52:17,290 --> 00:52:17,570 Bye guys.