1
00:00:01,100 --> 00:00:03,800
You're listening to. 
She said what with your host 

2
00:00:03,800 --> 00:00:06,800
Alyssa Harper? 
Hello, sexy people, welcome back

3
00:00:06,800 --> 00:00:08,400
to. 
She said what it is so good to 

4
00:00:08,408 --> 00:00:10,000
be back. 
I've been away for two weeks on 

5
00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:14,000
my little holidays, but I'm back
now better than ever with a 

6
00:00:14,008 --> 00:00:16,700
brand new episode. 
This is five things that I'm 

7
00:00:16,700 --> 00:00:20,000
doing in 2023 to be the best 
version of myself. 

8
00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:23,300
And these are things that 
genuinely worked for me in 2022.

9
00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:27,000
Things that I think I would be 
stupid not to keep doing because

10
00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:29,800
they have really, really helped 
me to actually reach the goals. 

11
00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:33,600
That I have wanted to reach and 
to keep the mindset that I want 

12
00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:37,000
to keep and move forward in a 
way that I am becoming this 

13
00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:38,700
version of myself that I want to
be. 

14
00:00:38,700 --> 00:00:41,400
And so I'm really excited for 
today's episode because I feel 

15
00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:43,700
like it's a really great 
resource for you guys. 

16
00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:47,200
It's so applicable to your life 
like you can apply this right 

17
00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:50,200
away and there's so many little 
bits and little things that you 

18
00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:53,300
can apply over time. 
So it's going to be useful and I

19
00:00:53,300 --> 00:00:55,800
love that for us. 
So let's get right into it. 

20
00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:02,800
Now, of course, I need to give 
you an update on my life because

21
00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:05,400
it feels like it's been so so 
long since I've recorded an 

22
00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:08,500
episode, like I don't know if 
it's just because it became part

23
00:01:08,500 --> 00:01:10,900
of like my routine and I was 
like doing so many episodes and 

24
00:01:10,900 --> 00:01:13,800
whatever, but I just feel so 
weird coming back, I'm like, oh 

25
00:01:13,808 --> 00:01:14,900
my God. 
I feel like I've taken the 

26
00:01:14,900 --> 00:01:17,700
longest break in the world and 
so, I'm so, so happy to be doing

27
00:01:17,700 --> 00:01:20,400
this again. 
Let's go through some 

28
00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:22,900
highlights. 
So, first of all, today I 

29
00:01:22,900 --> 00:01:26,600
reached 300,000 followers on 
Tick Tock, so that's a big 

30
00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:29,200
sleigh. 
Very happy about that one, it's 

31
00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:31,000
just really nice. 
It's really nice to like, feel 

32
00:01:31,000 --> 00:01:34,600
that support and to feel that 
consistent growth and to be 

33
00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:36,800
like, reaching different people 
and having really great 

34
00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:39,800
conversations with people. 
And like, this is my favorite 

35
00:01:39,800 --> 00:01:44,100
part by far of like my job. 
And like, what I do with being a

36
00:01:44,100 --> 00:01:47,100
content creator is like the 
podcast in, like, actually 

37
00:01:47,100 --> 00:01:49,600
talking about things that matter
in a part of that. 

38
00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:51,900
I think because I do the podcast
and because I actually really 

39
00:01:51,900 --> 00:01:54,700
connect with people on a level 
where we're talking about things

40
00:01:54,700 --> 00:01:55,800
that like matter, you know what 
I mean? 

41
00:01:55,800 --> 00:01:59,400
It's not like like not to hate 
on like fashion influencers or 

42
00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:01,800
whatever, but I feel like the 
connection that they would have 

43
00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:04,000
With Their audience isn't the 
same as to the one that I have 

44
00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:07,400
with you guys. 
Like I really feel like I can DM

45
00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:09,800
you guys, and you guys are 
damning me and like telling me 

46
00:02:09,800 --> 00:02:13,000
the most crazy like detailed 
should about your lives. 

47
00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:15,200
And I'm just like it, blows me 
away. 

48
00:02:15,200 --> 00:02:18,500
How comfortable you guys will be
with me and I'm just so thankful

49
00:02:18,500 --> 00:02:21,200
for it, like, it is so, so cool.
Like I literally feel like I 

50
00:02:21,200 --> 00:02:23,600
haven't bajillion friends and 
you guys are just like my best 

51
00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:25,100
friends. 
So I love that. 

52
00:02:25,100 --> 00:02:28,800
And I also love when you guys 
say like, oh, when I listen to 

53
00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:31,200
your podcast it just feels like 
Like we're like on FaceTime 

54
00:02:31,200 --> 00:02:33,800
because that's what I want. 
Like I just want it to be chill.

55
00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:36,300
I want to be fun. 
I want it to be comfortable and 

56
00:02:36,500 --> 00:02:38,600
I feel like of course you know, 
I wanted to be a space where you

57
00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:40,400
learn something and you get 
something out of it. 

58
00:02:40,400 --> 00:02:43,200
Like absolutely. 
But I also just personally I 

59
00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:45,800
listen to podcasts as well, and 
I just feel like it's so nice to

60
00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:49,100
have a comforting space and like
just to have someone that like 

61
00:02:49,100 --> 00:02:51,600
you can feel close with because 
you hear about their life and 

62
00:02:51,600 --> 00:02:53,800
keep updated with them. 
So you have just been feeling 

63
00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:56,100
really, really grateful, I think
taking a break was really good 

64
00:02:56,100 --> 00:02:59,800
for me at the end of the year to
just think about everything that

65
00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:03,200
Kind of built in the last year 
and to really appreciate what's 

66
00:03:03,200 --> 00:03:05,800
been going on in my life and 
it's just been really great. 

67
00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:10,100
So, that was my sleigh, the my 
slaves of the last few weeks. 

68
00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:13,400
What else did Christmas 
Christmas was chill? 

69
00:03:13,700 --> 00:03:18,700
I would say, what made the break
and everything kind of hard was,

70
00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:21,900
I don't have my family, sorry, 
sounded like I was going to 

71
00:03:21,900 --> 00:03:24,400
start crying. 
I wasn't I swear, I don't have 

72
00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:27,900
my family in Australia and I 
visited my family in Canada 

73
00:03:27,900 --> 00:03:31,100
about six months ago and so I 
wasn't Gonna, you know, go back 

74
00:03:31,100 --> 00:03:35,300
again because obviously it's 
very expensive but I think I 

75
00:03:35,300 --> 00:03:37,500
miss them a lot. 
And I've been kind of missing 

76
00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:40,200
just my family like not 
necessarily missing home like I 

77
00:03:40,200 --> 00:03:42,800
just really want to see my 
family so and of course, some 

78
00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:45,700
friends that I have at home as 
well, but that's been a bit sad 

79
00:03:45,700 --> 00:03:47,500
for me, it's been a bit tough to
get through that. 

80
00:03:47,500 --> 00:03:50,800
My mom might be visiting in 
February so hopefully she does 

81
00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:54,100
and then if not that I'm 
definitely going to see them 

82
00:03:54,100 --> 00:03:57,700
like my dad and my mom in either
June or July and I think we're 

83
00:03:57,700 --> 00:03:59,600
meeting them in California. 
Salmon die. 

84
00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:01,700
Is my partner. 
So yeah. 

85
00:04:01,700 --> 00:04:04,500
So hopefully that happens. 
Other than that. 

86
00:04:04,600 --> 00:04:06,600
Oh, oh my God. 
I quit vaping. 

87
00:04:06,600 --> 00:04:09,200
Okay, so here's the tea guys. 
All right? 

88
00:04:09,500 --> 00:04:13,700
A few years ago and by a few 
years ago, I mean like six years

89
00:04:13,700 --> 00:04:19,399
ago when I was 16, I started 
vaping and I finally quit vaping

90
00:04:19,500 --> 00:04:23,000
about two years ago and it was 
like the hardest thing in the 

91
00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:24,900
world. 
But I was so proud of myself and

92
00:04:24,900 --> 00:04:28,500
I even made a podcast episode 
about quitting vaping this is 

93
00:04:28,500 --> 00:04:29,800
probably like my second or 
third. 

94
00:04:29,900 --> 00:04:34,000
Third episode like this was ages
ago and I would have people 

95
00:04:34,000 --> 00:04:36,400
message me and go oh my God like
thank you so much. 

96
00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:40,100
I quit vaping because of you all
this like amazing stuff and I 

97
00:04:40,100 --> 00:04:43,400
thought it was so sweet. 
But after about a year that I 

98
00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:47,800
had quit, I was like I went for 
a full year, you know, Sam again

99
00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:51,300
my partner, he started vaping, 
he comes home, and he's vaping 

100
00:04:51,300 --> 00:04:53,600
because his friends were vaping 
and I was like, oh my God, so 

101
00:04:53,600 --> 00:04:56,800
then it kind of got me back on 
it, which sucked because then I 

102
00:04:56,808 --> 00:05:00,100
was addicted for like another 
year and so I have been Wanting 

103
00:05:00,100 --> 00:05:02,700
to quit for the last like, six 
months. 

104
00:05:02,700 --> 00:05:05,200
Like I remember when I went to 
Canada back in July, I was like,

105
00:05:05,600 --> 00:05:09,500
I was like, I really want to. 
When I go home I'm gonna like, 

106
00:05:09,500 --> 00:05:11,700
you know, detox in Canada. 
And then I was like, oh, that's 

107
00:05:11,700 --> 00:05:13,000
a bad idea. 
I'm going to feel like shit. 

108
00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:15,400
Okay, I'll detox when I come 
home and like, I'll quit when I 

109
00:05:15,407 --> 00:05:18,100
come home and I came back and I 
just couldn't get myself to do 

110
00:05:18,100 --> 00:05:19,000
it. 
Like it's sucked. 

111
00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:22,800
Like I just it was the worst and
I had been writing in, you know,

112
00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:25,800
my little Journal like I swear 
almost every month like okay, 

113
00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:29,800
reduce vaping, they less like, 
you know, use nicotine. 

114
00:05:29,900 --> 00:05:31,700
Unless like I was like, just 
trying to do it less and less 

115
00:05:31,700 --> 00:05:33,400
and less and it just wasn't 
happening, bro. 

116
00:05:33,400 --> 00:05:36,000
And I was like, okay, I just 
need to quit cold turkey because

117
00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:39,300
this is how I did it last time 
and so, I did it. 

118
00:05:39,500 --> 00:05:41,600
I'm seven days. 
No, nicotine. 

119
00:05:41,600 --> 00:05:43,800
Now, and I'm feeling really good
about it and I've been doing it 

120
00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:46,300
as like a series on Tick, Tock, 
as well, to keep me accountable,

121
00:05:46,500 --> 00:05:50,000
which I have to say like because
this is the podcast and I'm 

122
00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:51,400
allowed to be honest with you 
guys on here. 

123
00:05:51,700 --> 00:05:57,500
It's been hard because now that 
I know that people are seeing it

124
00:05:57,500 --> 00:05:59,700
on my social media. 
I'm like I can't quit you. 

125
00:05:59,900 --> 00:06:02,800
I mean, like, I can't like 
potentially quit. 

126
00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:05,600
I can't quit quitting and that 
makes sense. 

127
00:06:05,700 --> 00:06:09,000
I can't cheat, you know, because
if I did, I would have to be 

128
00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:13,300
honest, like, I would never ever
lie to, like my audience. 

129
00:06:13,300 --> 00:06:15,000
I've never done that and I just 
got. 

130
00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:17,200
No, I just couldn't. 
I'm just, I can't lie. 

131
00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:19,500
I've never been able to lie. 
I've like always been so scared,

132
00:06:19,500 --> 00:06:21,900
even like to get in trouble or 
like going to the principal's 

133
00:06:21,900 --> 00:06:23,200
office. 
Oh my God! 

134
00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:24,600
I was always just such a little 
baby. 

135
00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:26,300
Like I cannot be in trouble. 
I can't lie. 

136
00:06:26,300 --> 00:06:27,800
I can't, I just can't. 
Okay. 

137
00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:33,000
My conscience is just too strong
and And so I have to do it and 

138
00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:35,500
it's hard because now that 
video, the first video that I 

139
00:06:35,500 --> 00:06:38,500
posted about vaping has like 
almost two million views and I'm

140
00:06:38,508 --> 00:06:41,000
like, well shit. 
Now, 2 million people saw me say

141
00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:43,900
that I'm not going to vape 
again, so I kind of have to do 

142
00:06:43,900 --> 00:06:45,000
it. 
Well fuck. 

143
00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:48,300
But anyways, so honestly not a 
bad problem to have. 

144
00:06:48,300 --> 00:06:50,800
It's all going to be okay, but 
I'm proud of myself and getting 

145
00:06:50,800 --> 00:06:52,900
through it. 
And that's, that's the update a 

146
00:06:52,900 --> 00:06:55,100
little bit longer than normal, 
but a lot has happened. 

147
00:06:55,100 --> 00:06:58,900
All right, have missed. 
You guys have missed talking and

148
00:06:58,900 --> 00:07:02,400
I'm excited for today. 
Episode because for me I think I

149
00:07:02,407 --> 00:07:05,600
have a lot of little practices 
that I'm like I'm not to toot my

150
00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:09,400
own horn but I've really helped 
myself figure out what things 

151
00:07:09,400 --> 00:07:11,500
really work for me. 
And I've learned how to be 

152
00:07:11,500 --> 00:07:14,300
realistic with setting goals and
I've learned how to like have 

153
00:07:14,300 --> 00:07:16,800
Grace for myself when I'm not 
able to reach those goals. 

154
00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:19,100
And okay, how do I move forward 
when I don't reach those goals? 

155
00:07:19,100 --> 00:07:20,800
Or when I don't do the things 
that I want to be doing in my 

156
00:07:20,800 --> 00:07:25,500
life or are, you know, I come up
short or whatever and it's taken

157
00:07:25,500 --> 00:07:28,100
a long time for me to do that 
because I remember like back in 

158
00:07:28,100 --> 00:07:31,900
the day in high school Never I 
used to wake up every morning 

159
00:07:31,900 --> 00:07:34,100
and as it did my makeup I would 
like listen to a TED talk 

160
00:07:34,100 --> 00:07:36,500
because I was just weird. 
I don't know, but I would like 

161
00:07:36,500 --> 00:07:39,500
listen to motivational shit. 
Like I would always like, try to

162
00:07:39,500 --> 00:07:42,100
be like on my grind to like get 
stuff done and I would be so 

163
00:07:42,100 --> 00:07:44,800
hard on myself, I would always 
feel like I was failing. 

164
00:07:44,900 --> 00:07:46,600
I've always felt like I was 
never good enough. 

165
00:07:47,300 --> 00:07:49,800
I never knew how to, like just 
be okay with myself. 

166
00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:53,200
Like, even when it came to my 
body, it was like, oh I'm never 

167
00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:55,300
going to be at like my ideal 
body. 

168
00:07:55,300 --> 00:07:57,000
It's like of course I'm always 
gonna be able to get better. 

169
00:07:57,000 --> 00:07:59,700
I'm always going to get stronger
or have a lower body. 

170
00:07:59,900 --> 00:08:02,400
Percentage or whatever like I 
was so intense. 

171
00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:06,900
And so crazy with myself and I'm
a very type a person like I can 

172
00:08:06,900 --> 00:08:10,100
be very just like get shit done,
get it done, you know, feel that

173
00:08:10,100 --> 00:08:11,900
motivation? 
Like boom, boom boom. 

174
00:08:11,900 --> 00:08:15,300
I can be very intense and what 
I've learned over the years is 

175
00:08:15,300 --> 00:08:18,000
like the more you're able to 
like slow down and just do 

176
00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:21,000
things intentionally and do 
things with your cup actually 

177
00:08:21,000 --> 00:08:22,500
being full. 
Like, you're just going to get 

178
00:08:22,500 --> 00:08:24,900
so much more out of life and out
of every situation. 

179
00:08:24,900 --> 00:08:27,400
And so, I feel like I'm at a 
really good place right now. 

180
00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:30,600
Genuinely with being able to 
have Things in place that are 

181
00:08:30,600 --> 00:08:33,799
helping me to move forward. 
And so today I'm going to be 

182
00:08:33,799 --> 00:08:36,000
talking about monthly goal 
setting which is something I've 

183
00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:39,200
been doing now, for probably 
almost two years, I would say, 

184
00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:41,700
like, I've been doing it for 
quite a while and be talking 

185
00:08:41,700 --> 00:08:44,400
about visualization and we 
talking about practicing 

186
00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:47,900
gratitude having a routine which
that was actually quite 

187
00:08:47,900 --> 00:08:49,400
interesting. 
And something I've learned a lot

188
00:08:49,500 --> 00:08:51,800
recently about and yeah, I think
that one's Really Gonna help you

189
00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:54,700
guys. 
And then, lastly, recognizing 

190
00:08:54,700 --> 00:08:58,100
what your habits currently are, 
and then kicking the bad habits,

191
00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:00,800
so yeah. 
Going to be going through today.

192
00:09:00,800 --> 00:09:02,600
Okay. 
Wait, let's do it number one, 

193
00:09:02,600 --> 00:09:04,900
starting with monthly goal 
setting. 

194
00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:07,900
So like I said, I've been doing 
this for probably about two 

195
00:09:07,900 --> 00:09:10,600
years at the start of every 
single month. 

196
00:09:10,700 --> 00:09:13,600
I take out my little Journal. 
I always just have a plain 

197
00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:16,400
Journal. 
No dots, no lines, no nothing, 

198
00:09:16,400 --> 00:09:20,700
that drives me crazy. 
You lined journals ill. 

199
00:09:20,900 --> 00:09:24,400
No, no, there's no chance and I 
write down my journals. 

200
00:09:24,400 --> 00:09:27,500
I literally write just the month
at the top and then I'll start 

201
00:09:27,500 --> 00:09:29,600
writing down, thanks and I write
goals. 

202
00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:33,700
Or like everything, so it can be
like, career-wise, or maybe for 

203
00:09:33,700 --> 00:09:35,300
you, that could be, like, 
school. 

204
00:09:35,300 --> 00:09:39,300
I know, I used to like have 
school-type goals as well for 

205
00:09:39,300 --> 00:09:40,800
things to my mental health as 
well. 

206
00:09:40,800 --> 00:09:44,100
So I'm not just doing things 
too. 

207
00:09:44,300 --> 00:09:47,800
I guess achieve things from 
like, what I think I should be 

208
00:09:47,800 --> 00:09:50,900
achieving, but it also is just 
for me and what I want for my 

209
00:09:50,900 --> 00:09:52,000
life. 
So, again, like my mental 

210
00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:54,800
health, in something for me, 
from a mental health, that makes

211
00:09:54,800 --> 00:09:57,100
my mental health, a lot better 
is going outside more. 

212
00:09:57,200 --> 00:10:00,200
And so I've learned for example,
if I was going to Down. 

213
00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:02,400
Go outside more. 
Well, that's not going to do 

214
00:10:02,400 --> 00:10:04,900
anything for me, you know 
because who had the end of the 

215
00:10:04,908 --> 00:10:07,300
month who's to say, I went 
outside more, how would I know? 

216
00:10:07,500 --> 00:10:10,400
And so one thing I'll say here 
is we have to be specific. 

217
00:10:10,400 --> 00:10:13,600
So all right go to the beach 
three times per week, for 

218
00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:15,700
example, right? 
So it's like giving an actual, 

219
00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:18,700
here's what I'm going to do, 
it's not just like oh I want to 

220
00:10:18,700 --> 00:10:20,200
do this thing more, it's like, 
no. 

221
00:10:20,200 --> 00:10:22,000
Okay. 
But what are you going to do? 

222
00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:24,600
You have to be specific. 
Another one that I wrote down 

223
00:10:24,600 --> 00:10:28,200
was a journal every day and so 
that really helps me as well 

224
00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:29,600
helps me to just get my thoughts
out. 

225
00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:33,700
And I think sometimes when I 
don't journal and I'm going 

226
00:10:33,700 --> 00:10:36,400
through stuff in my life, I just
will start to feel like I'm 

227
00:10:36,400 --> 00:10:38,400
going a bit crazy. 
Like it's like all living in my 

228
00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:41,500
brain and I haven't had a chance
to like, get it out and 

229
00:10:41,500 --> 00:10:43,800
especially when it's things that
I wouldn't want to say to 

230
00:10:43,800 --> 00:10:46,000
anyone. 
Or I would be embarrassed by or 

231
00:10:46,000 --> 00:10:49,200
shameful about, or whatever. 
These very honest thoughts. 

232
00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:51,700
You know, that I don't think are
great to be having or whatever, 

233
00:10:51,700 --> 00:10:53,900
but it's just what I'm 
experiencing when I'm able to 

234
00:10:53,900 --> 00:10:56,400
journal it. 
It's just such a safe release 

235
00:10:56,400 --> 00:11:00,100
and it just allows me to be real
with myself and to And that I'm 

236
00:11:00,100 --> 00:11:02,700
having certain thoughts and I 
feel like that released then 

237
00:11:02,700 --> 00:11:04,600
helps me to not have those 
thoughts. 

238
00:11:04,600 --> 00:11:07,900
Like it actually helps me to be 
like, okay, I can put this here 

239
00:11:07,900 --> 00:11:10,800
and I can walk away from it and 
I can recognize that that's 

240
00:11:10,800 --> 00:11:14,000
where I'm at and I'm going to do
what I can to move forward from 

241
00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:15,500
here. 
So journaling is amazing. 

242
00:11:15,500 --> 00:11:16,700
I just recommend it to 
everybody. 

243
00:11:16,700 --> 00:11:19,300
It is so so good for you. 
Anyways, I'll write down things 

244
00:11:19,300 --> 00:11:22,400
about my physical health and I 
would say this is a big one 

245
00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:25,100
where you need to be realistic 
because people will make the 

246
00:11:25,100 --> 00:11:27,300
craziest fucking goals for 
themselves when it comes to 

247
00:11:27,300 --> 00:11:29,200
their physical health. 
Like feel like I want to work 

248
00:11:29,200 --> 00:11:32,300
out every single Cool day, I 
want to lose ten pounds this 

249
00:11:32,300 --> 00:11:35,300
week, like people just psychotic
and it just doesn't work. 

250
00:11:35,300 --> 00:11:36,800
And then people are always so 
disappointed. 

251
00:11:36,800 --> 00:11:38,900
And the reason I say this is 
because I used to do this shit 

252
00:11:38,900 --> 00:11:40,700
to. 
Okay, so, it's not just not 

253
00:11:40,700 --> 00:11:43,600
saying everyone's dumb and I'm 
amazing but it's true. 

254
00:11:43,600 --> 00:11:48,200
People do this all the time and 
especially, because we see a lot

255
00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:53,000
of, like, like goals and people 
doing this on social media. 

256
00:11:53,200 --> 00:11:57,000
You'll see a lot of like, lose 
10 pounds in one week using this

257
00:11:57,000 --> 00:11:59,700
protein powder. 
So it's, it kind of makes your I

258
00:11:59,800 --> 00:12:01,800
mean think that that is 
possible. 

259
00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:04,200
And so you think, well they can 
do it so can I and it's like 

260
00:12:04,200 --> 00:12:06,100
well they probably actually 
didn't do it and that's probably

261
00:12:06,100 --> 00:12:08,400
actually not what happened and 
that actually is wouldn't be 

262
00:12:08,408 --> 00:12:10,800
healthy under any circumstances 
to lose weight that quickly. 

263
00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:14,300
So like don't do that. 
And I mean, anyways with the 

264
00:12:14,300 --> 00:12:17,400
physical health, I would say you
have to be realistic and so for 

265
00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:21,100
me, say, I want to start a go to
sleep earlier or I want to start

266
00:12:21,100 --> 00:12:23,500
like waking up earlier, which 
obviously means, I then need to 

267
00:12:23,500 --> 00:12:25,400
go to sleep earlier. 
If I'm going to get enough sleep

268
00:12:25,700 --> 00:12:28,800
instead of writing down like go 
to sleep every single night by 9

269
00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:32,100
p.m. 
A psycho not that psychotic if 

270
00:12:32,100 --> 00:12:34,700
you like that then I love that 
for you but I can't be doing 

271
00:12:34,700 --> 00:12:35,800
that. 
All right, just tell me. 

272
00:12:35,900 --> 00:12:40,500
Oh, all right down go to sleep 
at 11 p.m. five days a week, 

273
00:12:40,700 --> 00:12:43,200
right? 
So what that allows me is maybe 

274
00:12:43,200 --> 00:12:45,700
two days a week where I go out 
and I have a bit more of like a 

275
00:12:45,700 --> 00:12:49,000
night with friends or whatever, 
then it's like, okay, I can just

276
00:12:49,000 --> 00:12:50,300
stay up. 
Late, are in, it's fine. 

277
00:12:50,300 --> 00:12:52,300
Or if like, salmon, I end up 
like just staying a blatant. 

278
00:12:52,300 --> 00:12:54,000
Like, watching a movie, you're 
having a nice time. 

279
00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:56,700
And not feeling like I have to 
force myself to go to bed early.

280
00:12:56,700 --> 00:13:00,600
You know, it's more about what 
you do 80% of the I'm and what 

281
00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:04,600
you do somewhat consistently 
rather than getting yourself to 

282
00:13:04,600 --> 00:13:07,200
do something every single day. 
If it genuinely just doesn't fit

283
00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:09,500
with what you're doing because 
the problem is, if you write 

284
00:13:09,500 --> 00:13:12,400
down all, I'm going to go to bed
every single night at 11 p.m. 

285
00:13:12,400 --> 00:13:14,700
Even if you think that's 
somewhat achievable and then you

286
00:13:14,700 --> 00:13:17,200
don't do it on like two nights a
week, then you're going to feel 

287
00:13:17,200 --> 00:13:19,400
disappointed in yourself. 
So let's just start with a 

288
00:13:19,408 --> 00:13:22,800
realistic goal and maybe 
eventually you will go to sleep 

289
00:13:22,800 --> 00:13:25,000
every single night at 11 p.m. 
because you're like, I just get 

290
00:13:25,000 --> 00:13:28,000
tired at that time and I can't 
not go to sleep at that time. 

291
00:13:28,300 --> 00:13:29,600
Then that would be great and I 
do. 

292
00:13:29,700 --> 00:13:32,800
Dude, I did find that that's 
happened for me as well when I 

293
00:13:32,800 --> 00:13:35,900
was teaching Pilates, really 
early at like, 6:00 a.m. on 

294
00:13:35,900 --> 00:13:38,800
like, two days a week, was it? 
Yes. 

295
00:13:38,800 --> 00:13:41,500
Two days a week that I was 
teaching that early, I was like,

296
00:13:41,500 --> 00:13:44,800
well, I can't be getting up at 5
a.m. to days a week and then 

297
00:13:44,800 --> 00:13:48,700
like 9:00 p.m. 9:00 a.m. on all 
the other days, like my brain is

298
00:13:48,700 --> 00:13:50,600
gonna be fucked, that's gonna be
horrible. 

299
00:13:50,900 --> 00:13:54,700
And so I ended up like just 
bringing my whole sleep schedule

300
00:13:54,700 --> 00:13:56,500
a lot earlier. 
And I was going to sleep every 

301
00:13:56,500 --> 00:13:59,400
night at like 9:30 10:00. 
And this was like, a few months 

302
00:13:59,400 --> 00:14:01,200
ago And I was doing a pretty 
consistently. 

303
00:14:01,200 --> 00:14:04,000
Obviously some days not that 
early, but pretty consistently 

304
00:14:04,200 --> 00:14:06,700
and yeah, it actually was really
good because then I got used to 

305
00:14:06,700 --> 00:14:08,200
my body. 
Got used to it and I actually 

306
00:14:08,200 --> 00:14:09,600
started wanting to fall asleep 
earlier. 

307
00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:12,100
Anyways. 
So trust me, sleep is one that 

308
00:14:12,400 --> 00:14:16,800
you have to be a bit like, like 
not stubborn. 

309
00:14:16,800 --> 00:14:17,300
What's the word? 
You have? 

310
00:14:17,300 --> 00:14:20,600
To be a bit like a hard-ass on 
yourself at the start kind of 

311
00:14:20,608 --> 00:14:22,600
force yourself to do it. 
Maybe throw some melatonin in 

312
00:14:22,608 --> 00:14:24,100
there. 
Just give yourself that extra 

313
00:14:24,100 --> 00:14:28,400
love, you know, you deserve it. 
But definitely, like push 

314
00:14:28,400 --> 00:14:30,800
yourself at first because your 
He needs to get used to it and 

315
00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:32,700
then it will be so much easier 
over time. 

316
00:14:33,100 --> 00:14:36,000
And last but not least, when it 
comes to things that you want to

317
00:14:36,000 --> 00:14:39,600
be writing down for your goals. 
What you want to do is also 

318
00:14:39,600 --> 00:14:42,700
after you've thought about the 
very obvious things like eat 

319
00:14:42,700 --> 00:14:47,100
sleep, exercise, career, mental 
health, all those things like 

320
00:14:47,100 --> 00:14:49,800
the very obvious kind of bubbles
that you would think about. 

321
00:14:49,800 --> 00:14:52,800
I want you to then step back and
think about is there anything 

322
00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:56,100
that I've been saying that I'm 
going to do but I'm just not 

323
00:14:56,100 --> 00:14:58,600
making time for it. 
I think we all have these things

324
00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:01,500
like you think. 
Going to paint that like canvas 

325
00:15:01,500 --> 00:15:04,100
you bought a few months ago or 
you're finally going to finish 

326
00:15:04,100 --> 00:15:06,900
this book that you started 
reading on your vacation. 

327
00:15:06,900 --> 00:15:09,800
Or, you know, you're finally 
going to like make that recipe 

328
00:15:09,800 --> 00:15:12,100
that you like print it out and 
like, put on your fridge. 

329
00:15:12,100 --> 00:15:15,000
Like that kind of shit actually 
sit there and think about what 

330
00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:18,900
those things are for you because
it is so exciting when we 

331
00:15:18,900 --> 00:15:21,200
actually complete those like, 
little tasks and even if it 

332
00:15:21,200 --> 00:15:24,300
doesn't take a lot of effort, 
it's sometimes harder for us to,

333
00:15:24,300 --> 00:15:27,200
like, put time aside to do those
things because we think, well, 

334
00:15:27,200 --> 00:15:30,900
you know, this isn't making me 
any money or This isn't like 

335
00:15:31,300 --> 00:15:34,900
serving anybody like it's just 
like a fun thing I want to do 

336
00:15:35,000 --> 00:15:38,500
but if you don't prioritize time
to do the fun things that you 

337
00:15:38,500 --> 00:15:42,200
want to do just for you just to 
live life just to enjoy your 

338
00:15:42,200 --> 00:15:47,000
life and maybe learn and just, 
you know, live then you're not 

339
00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:51,100
going to give yourself time to 
do it, and I find people will 

340
00:15:51,100 --> 00:15:53,300
prioritize. 
Sometimes in this is, especially

341
00:15:53,300 --> 00:15:55,900
me, when you're like, type, A 
get it done, you know, very 

342
00:15:55,900 --> 00:15:58,700
motivated, but like, kind of 
driven, you know, all those 

343
00:15:58,700 --> 00:16:01,500
things. 
Don't leave yourself space to 

344
00:16:01,500 --> 00:16:03,700
just live. 
Look, you really don't leave 

345
00:16:03,700 --> 00:16:07,600
yourself time to like soak up 
what life is about, which it's 

346
00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:11,000
not about, you know, like 
metrics and work and getting all

347
00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:13,900
these things done all the time. 
Sometimes it's about like, 

348
00:16:13,900 --> 00:16:17,500
sitting there in zoning out and,
like, reading or painting, or 

349
00:16:17,500 --> 00:16:19,700
singing, or playing an 
instrument and, like, really, 

350
00:16:19,700 --> 00:16:22,500
just, like soaking up the 
creative juices, you know what I

351
00:16:22,508 --> 00:16:24,300
mean? 
It's just so important that 

352
00:16:24,300 --> 00:16:26,100
you're actually taking time to 
do those things. 

353
00:16:26,300 --> 00:16:29,400
And if you're someone like me, 
like you're similar to me, where

354
00:16:29,400 --> 00:16:31,900
you Find it hard to like, 
actually plan to do that. 

355
00:16:31,900 --> 00:16:34,500
Then this would be a great time 
for you to add that in. 

356
00:16:34,900 --> 00:16:38,700
And so I literally Wrote Paint 
the canvas that I bought six 

357
00:16:38,700 --> 00:16:40,700
months ago on my thing for this 
month. 

358
00:16:40,700 --> 00:16:43,900
So Allah, I'm going to do that 
and another one is I'll always 

359
00:16:43,900 --> 00:16:46,200
have topics that I like really 
want to become educated on. 

360
00:16:46,500 --> 00:16:48,700
I'll think of things and I'm 
like, oh, that's so interesting.

361
00:16:48,700 --> 00:16:51,700
And I would love to hear more 
about that or like learn more 

362
00:16:51,700 --> 00:16:55,100
about that but you don't really 
set set set aside time of for 

363
00:16:55,100 --> 00:16:57,500
it, you know. 
So I'll even write down like 

364
00:16:57,500 --> 00:17:01,200
become educated on this thing. 
And then I'll just take some 

365
00:17:01,200 --> 00:17:06,599
time like maybe an hour, or 
maybe like a few minutes every 

366
00:17:06,599 --> 00:17:07,900
day. 
Like I'll Google a little 

367
00:17:07,900 --> 00:17:09,700
something, something about that 
topic. 

368
00:17:09,800 --> 00:17:12,700
And I'll just become somewhat 
educated on like a random topic 

369
00:17:12,700 --> 00:17:15,700
that I think is kind of cool, 
and it's just cool, it just like

370
00:17:16,000 --> 00:17:17,500
you learn stuff. 
And then you don't realize how 

371
00:17:17,500 --> 00:17:20,200
much it just helps you in 
conversations and, you know, you

372
00:17:20,200 --> 00:17:21,900
just are, you're just fucking 
interesting. 

373
00:17:21,900 --> 00:17:24,700
You just become an interesting 
person and you just enjoy 

374
00:17:24,700 --> 00:17:27,400
learning like I fucking love 
learning and I feel like we need

375
00:17:27,400 --> 00:17:29,500
to not give learning such a bad 
rep. 

376
00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:32,200
Because learning is dope like 
it's fun. 

377
00:17:33,200 --> 00:17:35,500
All right, coming up to how 
we're going to do this. 

378
00:17:35,500 --> 00:17:37,500
So like I said you're going to 
write it all down. 

379
00:17:37,900 --> 00:17:40,100
What is most important here is 
that you're also creating 

380
00:17:40,100 --> 00:17:42,900
systems that support your goals.
So writing down goals is 

381
00:17:42,900 --> 00:17:45,600
amazing, we love that for you, 
but if you aren't actually 

382
00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:48,400
planning how you're going to let
complete those goals, then 

383
00:17:48,400 --> 00:17:50,400
there's no like purpose in doing
it in the first place. 

384
00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:51,900
I could just not going to 
happen, you know? 

385
00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:56,200
For example if you want to 
exercise three days a week, what

386
00:17:56,200 --> 00:17:58,000
are you going to do to make that
happen? 

387
00:17:58,100 --> 00:18:00,600
Are you just going to get to the
end of week and Hopefully, I 

388
00:18:00,600 --> 00:18:03,200
went three times, you know, are 
you just going to randomly throw

389
00:18:03,200 --> 00:18:05,800
it in when you have time? 
No, because you're not going to 

390
00:18:05,800 --> 00:18:07,800
do it. 
All right, so what do you do? 

391
00:18:07,800 --> 00:18:11,100
Maybe you can plan the classes 
beforehand, right? 

392
00:18:11,600 --> 00:18:13,800
You can like book them in. 
So like, if you have to cancel 

393
00:18:13,800 --> 00:18:16,800
it, you're actually having to go
into like your gyms app and like

394
00:18:16,800 --> 00:18:19,100
cancel the classes. 
Like that's a really helpful 

395
00:18:19,100 --> 00:18:21,300
one. 
I do that and that does it for 

396
00:18:21,300 --> 00:18:22,600
me every single. 
We got to start the week. 

397
00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:24,000
I just look okay. 
When am I going to go to 

398
00:18:24,000 --> 00:18:25,900
Pilates? 
I booked my three classes. 

399
00:18:25,900 --> 00:18:27,300
Boom, boom were out. 
That's it. 

400
00:18:27,300 --> 00:18:29,500
Done easy. 
You know, I'll do that. 

401
00:18:29,600 --> 00:18:31,900
At another one, you can do. 
If you don't like book classes, 

402
00:18:31,900 --> 00:18:34,500
you just go to a gym is finding 
like a gym, buddy. 

403
00:18:34,500 --> 00:18:37,500
Who wants to do the same thing 
as you and having that 

404
00:18:37,500 --> 00:18:39,300
motivation to go with somebody 
else? 

405
00:18:39,300 --> 00:18:41,900
Can be a lot of fun. 
I just don't want you to 100% 

406
00:18:41,900 --> 00:18:44,900
rely on that because sometimes, 
you know, obviously, your 

407
00:18:44,900 --> 00:18:47,900
schedule isn't going to line up,
line up 100% with that person, 

408
00:18:47,900 --> 00:18:50,700
and then you will use that as an
excuse to not go. 

409
00:18:50,800 --> 00:18:53,800
So you better be knowing 
yourself on this one and don't 

410
00:18:53,800 --> 00:18:57,100
rely on just that, okay, another
thing you can do is if you keep 

411
00:18:57,100 --> 00:18:59,500
a personal calendar, which oh my
God. 

412
00:18:59,700 --> 00:19:01,800
I hope you do because if you 
don't, what the fuck, how are 

413
00:19:01,800 --> 00:19:03,600
you doing your life? 
Actually don't understand. 

414
00:19:03,700 --> 00:19:06,200
Like, when I talk to people and 
they're like, yeah, oh I forgot.

415
00:19:06,200 --> 00:19:08,000
And I have these plans on 
Thursday night and this and this

416
00:19:08,000 --> 00:19:10,400
and this and I know that they 
either just keep it in there 

417
00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:13,300
like notes or they just don't 
keep schedule. 

418
00:19:13,300 --> 00:19:15,700
I'm like, holy shit. 
First of all congratulations on 

419
00:19:15,700 --> 00:19:18,200
your memory because I am like a 
fish, I could never. 

420
00:19:18,800 --> 00:19:21,300
Anyways, my other example on 
this is like, say you want to 

421
00:19:21,308 --> 00:19:23,800
finish a book write and you 
write down finish a book. 

422
00:19:23,800 --> 00:19:25,600
I love that for you but there's 
no way you're going to do it 

423
00:19:25,600 --> 00:19:28,300
unless you create a plan. 
So maybe you want to read 15 

424
00:19:28,300 --> 00:19:32,400
minutes per day Maybe you want 
to set aside two, afternoons in 

425
00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:35,200
your week, where you just going 
to spend that time like reading 

426
00:19:35,200 --> 00:19:36,900
and really digging into that 
book. 

427
00:19:36,900 --> 00:19:38,800
You know, obviously, I don't 
know your schedule looks like, 

428
00:19:38,900 --> 00:19:41,400
but maybe that's going to be two
evenings, right? 

429
00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:43,200
Whatever you want to do. 
However, you think it's going to

430
00:19:43,200 --> 00:19:45,800
work best for you. 
Make sure you actually set out 

431
00:19:45,800 --> 00:19:48,800
like specific amounts of time 
and when you're going to do it, 

432
00:19:48,800 --> 00:19:50,400
so you can actually create that 
system. 

433
00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:52,300
That's going to support your 
goal. 

434
00:19:52,300 --> 00:19:54,000
All right? 
Last but not least. 

435
00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:56,800
I want to talk about why it's 
important to be setting these 

436
00:19:56,800 --> 00:19:59,500
goals. 
I think, for me at least it's a 

437
00:19:59,700 --> 00:20:03,300
Lyra marker to see whether or 
not I'm moving in the right 

438
00:20:03,300 --> 00:20:06,000
direction and it's not always 
that, I reach the goal. 

439
00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:08,800
Sometimes I end up falling a 
bit, short of the goal, but at 

440
00:20:08,800 --> 00:20:10,700
least I can go. 
Okay, well, I did a pretty good 

441
00:20:10,700 --> 00:20:12,300
job. 
And like I did this, right, I 

442
00:20:12,308 --> 00:20:15,600
did this right and then you can 
actually go and figure out what 

443
00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:18,100
you need to change to make that 
goal then happen. 

444
00:20:18,100 --> 00:20:20,900
So like maybe you said, you 
know, you want to finish a book 

445
00:20:20,900 --> 00:20:23,100
and you didn't finish it but you
got three quarters of the way 

446
00:20:23,100 --> 00:20:24,300
through. 
It's okay. 

447
00:20:24,700 --> 00:20:30,000
Well right now I'm reading 15 
minutes per day and I actually 

448
00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:33,000
feel like that's a lot of 
reading for me, that is enough 

449
00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:34,800
reading for me. 
And I don't care if I read 

450
00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:38,100
slowly because I'm enjoying this
book, maybe you can actually sit

451
00:20:38,100 --> 00:20:39,500
there and go. 
Okay, technically, I didn't 

452
00:20:39,500 --> 00:20:41,800
complete the goal, but I'm 
actually happy with how this 

453
00:20:41,800 --> 00:20:46,400
went and then maybe on your next
month setting of your goals. 

454
00:20:46,500 --> 00:20:49,700
Instead of writing finish a 
book, you can just write 15 

455
00:20:49,700 --> 00:20:53,000
minutes per day or 15 minutes 
four times a week or whatever 

456
00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:56,300
you want to make it you know. 
So you can be specific and sit 

457
00:20:56,300 --> 00:20:58,100
there and actually think what do
I want? 

458
00:20:58,100 --> 00:21:00,900
You know, you don't have to 
Fleet anything even saying that 

459
00:21:00,900 --> 00:21:02,700
Oka, I want to read one book a 
month. 

460
00:21:02,700 --> 00:21:05,600
Well, books are different sizes,
you know, some books, you want 

461
00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:08,200
to read slower some books, you 
need to put down and like 

462
00:21:08,300 --> 00:21:12,300
process it like it's okay to 
have goals that are so specific 

463
00:21:12,300 --> 00:21:15,200
to like what would be the 
general like rule of thumb? 

464
00:21:15,200 --> 00:21:17,200
You know what I mean? 
Just do what works for you. 

465
00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:20,100
And I think of another reason 
why I really like it is because 

466
00:21:20,500 --> 00:21:23,800
it's kind of like a chance for 
you to manifest if you will and 

467
00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:26,500
if you're not into manifesting I
would just call this like 

468
00:21:26,700 --> 00:21:29,400
putting it in the Forefront of 
your mind, right? 

469
00:21:29,500 --> 00:21:31,800
Right? 
So if you sit there and you go, 

470
00:21:31,900 --> 00:21:36,400
okay, I'm going to become 
someone who exercises regularly,

471
00:21:36,400 --> 00:21:37,800
this is going to be something 
that I'm going to do. 

472
00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:40,300
You don't go to work out 3 days 
a week, that's, you know, 

473
00:21:40,300 --> 00:21:41,700
someone who exercises, that's 
amazing. 

474
00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:44,000
If you have that in the front of
your mind and then you're out 

475
00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:47,000
talking to a friend at a bar. 
And they're saying, oh, this is 

476
00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:49,200
what I did today. 
Oh, and I did this Boxing class 

477
00:21:49,200 --> 00:21:52,200
and whatever you as someone who 
knows that you are someone who 

478
00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:54,500
exercises you can go. 
Oh, that's really interesting. 

479
00:21:54,500 --> 00:21:56,500
I've never tried boxing and they
go. 

480
00:21:56,500 --> 00:21:57,400
Wow! 
Oh my God! 

481
00:21:57,400 --> 00:22:00,500
We should go together sometime 
and it just Because you have it 

482
00:22:00,500 --> 00:22:02,200
in your brain. 
That like, that is something 

483
00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:03,900
that you do. 
That is something that's part of

484
00:22:03,900 --> 00:22:05,500
your goals. 
It's in the Forefront of your 

485
00:22:05,500 --> 00:22:08,200
mind, you will naturally see 
those things come up in 

486
00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:12,400
conversations more and that you 
actually like get more from that

487
00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:14,500
as well. 
Like the people around, you will

488
00:22:14,500 --> 00:22:17,400
start to reflect those things. 
Got really feel like everything 

489
00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:21,700
is a mirror and the more that 
you have in your brain, these 

490
00:22:21,700 --> 00:22:22,800
are things that I'm going to be 
doing. 

491
00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:24,900
These are things that I'm 
completing, these are the goals 

492
00:22:24,900 --> 00:22:26,800
that are on my brain. 
You know, these are things, I'm 

493
00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:29,300
working towards if you actually 
know what those things are. 

494
00:22:29,500 --> 00:22:33,800
You are so much more likely to 
get these things and that's why 

495
00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:35,000
I'm going to go into 
visualization. 

496
00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:38,500
Now, visualization is number 
two, I have a whole episode on 

497
00:22:38,500 --> 00:22:40,500
this. 
So if you want to listen to like

498
00:22:40,500 --> 00:22:43,900
me, really get all we with it. 
Then listen to that specific 

499
00:22:43,900 --> 00:22:47,400
episode because it's just a few 
back and it's it's good. 

500
00:22:47,400 --> 00:22:50,900
If you are into this kind of 
stuff because visualization has 

501
00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:53,800
changed my life. 
Let me tell you it absolutely 

502
00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:58,600
has like I grew up religious as 
a Christian not a Christian 

503
00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:00,000
anymore, don't go. 
Anymore. 

504
00:23:00,300 --> 00:23:04,200
But I was very very into that 
whole life and it's so I want 

505
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:06,500
you to know that I understand 
the whole religion thing. 

506
00:23:06,500 --> 00:23:10,200
Like I've used to be very much 
like a holy spirit person and 

507
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:12,600
like, you know, believed all 
that and that's fine. 

508
00:23:12,900 --> 00:23:15,900
And if you if you do I love that
for you, whatever works for you 

509
00:23:15,900 --> 00:23:17,000
best. 
Do you like, you know, do what 

510
00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:20,400
works for you. 
But I learned that I didn't want

511
00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:23,900
to connect it to any type of 
spirituality anymore, not 

512
00:23:23,900 --> 00:23:25,600
spirituality any kind of 
religion, I guess. 

513
00:23:25,900 --> 00:23:28,600
But I really still like the idea
of spirituality and believing 

514
00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:32,000
that there was something. 
Going Beyond just the physical 

515
00:23:32,000 --> 00:23:35,200
like I've always felt like very 
intuitive and I've always felt 

516
00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:38,700
like you know there's so many 
might just circumstances that 

517
00:23:38,700 --> 00:23:41,400
I'm like how did that happen? 
Or why did that happen? 

518
00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:44,800
You know, I just really feel 
like there is something and so 

519
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:48,900
for me visualization is a really
beautiful tool that I can use to

520
00:23:48,900 --> 00:23:53,000
get the things that I think that
I want in life, you know and for

521
00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:57,600
example like maybe about a year 
ago I was working in Hospitality

522
00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:01,800
still my following Is probably 
around like hmm. 

523
00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:05,200
Maybe like 50,000 or something 
like obviously wasn't doing 

524
00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:07,800
social media is like my job, I 
thought it was cool because like

525
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:11,100
people were somewhat invested in
what I was doing but like I just

526
00:24:11,100 --> 00:24:15,500
wasn't I wasn't thinking the big
at this time and I mean I wasn't

527
00:24:15,500 --> 00:24:18,700
really thinking I was going to 
be doing a lot with it. 

528
00:24:18,700 --> 00:24:22,300
Like I had the podcast, you 
know, things were kind of slowly

529
00:24:22,300 --> 00:24:25,000
becoming a thing but you know, 
wasn't doing that much and I was

530
00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:28,200
working hospitality and I was so
frustrated because working like 

531
00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:33,400
40 hours a week at least and 
doing these like 10 hours shifts

532
00:24:33,400 --> 00:24:36,100
in a restaurant. 
My feet were killing me like 

533
00:24:36,100 --> 00:24:40,600
leaves sweaty as fuck. 
So stressed it was like the 

534
00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:43,500
busiest restaurant in the world,
so dramatic. 

535
00:24:43,500 --> 00:24:46,600
But I'd been working Hospitality
for seven years or six years six

536
00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:50,200
or seven years at that point, I 
was just so tired of it and I 

537
00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:52,500
was also trying to do all my 
Social Media stuff on top of it.

538
00:24:52,500 --> 00:24:55,900
I was also training to become a 
Pilates instructor and I was 

539
00:24:55,900 --> 00:25:00,000
just doing so much and remember,
feeling so overwhelmed, but I Go

540
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:03,000
on my brakes and I would go sit 
in the park when I'm you know in

541
00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:05,900
the middle of this 10-hour 
shift, I'd go sit in the park, 

542
00:25:05,900 --> 00:25:08,200
I'd like get myself some food 
quickly and I would sit there 

543
00:25:08,300 --> 00:25:12,100
and sit there with my journal 
and I would just like write down

544
00:25:12,100 --> 00:25:14,700
things that I wanted. 
I would write down the life that

545
00:25:14,700 --> 00:25:16,800
I wanted. 
Like I would know that I was 

546
00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:20,300
experiencing a life that was 
really stressful and was 

547
00:25:20,300 --> 00:25:24,200
completely throwing out like my 
hormones and my mental health 

548
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:27,600
and was just fucking me up but I
knew I needed to make money and 

549
00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:29,300
I knew I was kind of stuck in 
that situation. 

550
00:25:29,500 --> 00:25:31,900
At the time. 
But I was slowly working towards

551
00:25:31,900 --> 00:25:34,700
the things that I wanted to do 
and that was like, social media,

552
00:25:34,700 --> 00:25:39,100
of course, which is funny 
actually just to, you know, go 

553
00:25:39,100 --> 00:25:42,800
on a little tangent here, I 
literally would make Tik toks on

554
00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:47,600
the bus, on the way to work, and
it was like a 45-minute bus for 

555
00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:50,500
something there and back. 
So I like spent, you know, 

556
00:25:50,500 --> 00:25:53,800
almost 2 hours by the end of the
day like just getting to and 

557
00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:58,000
from work, this is ridiculous. 
Like what the fuck was I doing? 

558
00:25:58,000 --> 00:25:59,900
This is so stressful, even just 
thinking, About this. 

559
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:03,000
I would make talks on the bus 
would make tick-tocks on my 

560
00:26:03,100 --> 00:26:06,200
lunch break at the end of my 
little manifesting moment and I 

561
00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:09,200
would make tick-tocks, like when
I would come home from work, if 

562
00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:11,700
if I did just like a short lunch
shift or in the morning before 

563
00:26:11,700 --> 00:26:14,700
work, like I literally was 
posting three tick-tocks every 

564
00:26:14,700 --> 00:26:17,600
single day for like, two months 
straight and I was like the time

565
00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:20,300
that I grew on Tick, Tock the 
most and it was just insane. 

566
00:26:20,300 --> 00:26:23,700
Like, I was so insane about 
getting the things that I 

567
00:26:23,700 --> 00:26:25,200
wanted, but I was like, I don't 
care. 

568
00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:27,400
I just want to do it. 
Like I want this to be my life. 

569
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:29,300
I don't want to keep working in 
hospitality. 

570
00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:30,400
E. 
I'm going crazy. 

571
00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:33,100
Like I just want to build these 
things that I want to build and 

572
00:26:33,100 --> 00:26:34,900
I want to help people and I want
to talk about the things that 

573
00:26:34,900 --> 00:26:37,400
matter, you know, I just felt 
like I needed the work that I 

574
00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:39,800
was doing to have purpose and 
like have a meaning to me. 

575
00:26:40,100 --> 00:26:43,000
And so I would sit there and I 
would just write out, you know, 

576
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:47,100
different things like literally 
specific individual situations 

577
00:26:47,100 --> 00:26:49,300
that I wanted to be in. 
Like I would, this is so 

578
00:26:49,300 --> 00:26:52,100
embarrassing now. 
But I literally right down like 

579
00:26:52,500 --> 00:26:55,800
you know one of my favorite 
Brands is going to email me and 

580
00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:57,700
ask me to like collaborate or 
whatever. 

581
00:26:57,700 --> 00:26:59,300
Like you know, just little 
things. 

582
00:26:59,500 --> 00:27:03,000
Or I'm going to get a job 
teaching Pilates and someone's 

583
00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:07,700
going to say how much they love 
my classes, like it sounds now 

584
00:27:07,700 --> 00:27:10,200
coming out of my mouth a little 
bit, like, self-centered, or 

585
00:27:10,208 --> 00:27:12,000
whatever. 
It doesn't need to be though. 

586
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:15,100
I just, and I don't mean it to 
be that way, but it was just 

587
00:27:15,100 --> 00:27:17,800
like I wanted to picture the 
life that I wanted to have. 

588
00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:20,100
I wanted to picture scenarios 
that I wanted to be. 

589
00:27:20,100 --> 00:27:24,200
And and I am telling you almost 
all of these things have 

590
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:27,800
happened in my life that I have 
written down, like when you 

591
00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:31,600
visualize what you want, It for 
yourself, they just naturally 

592
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:34,500
come to you, like they really do
just start to flow into your 

593
00:27:34,500 --> 00:27:37,400
life and whether you want to say
that's because manifesting works

594
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:41,800
or you know the universe is 
hearing you or God is hearing 

595
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:43,900
you or whatever the fuck 
whatever however you want to 

596
00:27:43,900 --> 00:27:46,500
like make it make sense in your 
brain. 

597
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:48,600
I totally respect you and I love
that for you. 

598
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:53,500
But all I know is that doing 
this is going to help you for 

599
00:27:53,500 --> 00:27:56,400
whatever reason because I've 
seen it over and over and over 

600
00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:58,400
and that's why I've been doing 
this stuff for years and I've 

601
00:27:58,408 --> 00:28:02,400
been focusing on Journaling and 
visualization and gratitude and 

602
00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:04,800
goals, and all this stuff, 
because it fucking works, bro. 

603
00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:07,500
Like it just works. 
Alright, so don't ask me why, 

604
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:09,700
but just do it, I'm telling you.
And if you want to hear more 

605
00:28:09,700 --> 00:28:12,300
about this than just go, listen 
to my visualization episode 

606
00:28:12,300 --> 00:28:14,800
because things can get a little 
bit spooky if you want them to 

607
00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:18,600
wait, one more thing I wanted to
add here is I feel like if 

608
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:21,200
you're acting as if things are 
going to happen then you 

609
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:24,000
naturally prepare for them and 
you naturally talk about them 

610
00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:26,000
and this is similar to what I 
was saying earlier about. 

611
00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:29,500
How if you talk about things of 
people they're more likely Lee 

612
00:28:29,500 --> 00:28:32,300
to actually help you out. 
So say for example you're like 

613
00:28:32,300 --> 00:28:36,700
oh I've been wanting to do more 
like photo shoots or like say 

614
00:28:36,700 --> 00:28:38,900
you're an artist and you want to
put out like an album you like 

615
00:28:38,900 --> 00:28:41,200
okay I think you putting up this
album and probably going to be 

616
00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:43,600
putting up music in January and 
you always tell people yeah I'm 

617
00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:45,600
putting out music in January all
this is what I've been working 

618
00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:46,700
on. 
You're showing your friends 

619
00:28:46,700 --> 00:28:47,600
things. 
You're showing them a little 

620
00:28:47,600 --> 00:28:49,700
Clips you starting to promote it
on social media. 

621
00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:52,300
You know, you're doing these 
things to like show that this is

622
00:28:52,300 --> 00:28:55,900
what you're going to be doing 
and so naturally If someone 

623
00:28:56,300 --> 00:28:59,000
knows someone who's a producer 
or they know someone who's a 

624
00:28:59,008 --> 00:29:01,600
photographer, Refer or whatever 
in your talking about, you 

625
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:03,900
talking to them about, you know,
what you want to do, and they 

626
00:29:03,900 --> 00:29:05,200
can see that you're passionate 
about it. 

627
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:06,300
They can see that you care about
it. 

628
00:29:06,300 --> 00:29:08,200
They can see that you're going 
to put all this effort into it. 

629
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:12,100
They are more likely to go. 
All I actually have a cousin 

630
00:29:12,100 --> 00:29:15,200
who's a photographer or, you 
know, I've heard that this 

631
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:17,900
thing's really helpful, or I 
follow this person who talks 

632
00:29:17,900 --> 00:29:22,800
about how to, you know, grow on 
social media, as a artist, or 

633
00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:24,900
whatever. 
You know, people just will want 

634
00:29:24,900 --> 00:29:26,700
to be helpful. 
People will be want to be 

635
00:29:26,700 --> 00:29:28,500
useful. 
And if you don't tell people 

636
00:29:28,500 --> 00:29:31,100
about the things that, That you 
want then they can't help you 

637
00:29:31,100 --> 00:29:33,200
with them. 
And I actually saw a really, 

638
00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:37,200
really beautiful video this week
by Dylan Mulvaney. 

639
00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:40,500
I think it is. 
And they're a really really 

640
00:29:40,500 --> 00:29:44,900
beautiful Tik Tok ER who is 
trans and she talks about like 

641
00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:47,700
all these different things to do
with basically just her life 

642
00:29:47,700 --> 00:29:49,600
like if you ever seen the videos
on Tick-Tock where she comes up 

643
00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:53,600
and she's like it's day a 75 of 
being a girl or whatever. 

644
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:58,100
Anyway, she's super sweet, love 
her videos and she did a vision 

645
00:29:58,100 --> 00:30:01,700
board and she We posted like 
it's like he's so cute. 

646
00:30:01,700 --> 00:30:05,200
Is this little cut out on this 
board and she put them all up on

647
00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:06,700
the board. 
And she went through and she 

648
00:30:06,700 --> 00:30:09,200
explained all the things that 
she wants to do this year and it

649
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:11,400
was so cool. 
Seeing someone at that level it,

650
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:14,400
she was like a bajillion 
followers and, you know, has 

651
00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:16,500
done a really amazing things in 
the last year. 

652
00:30:16,500 --> 00:30:18,900
Like just insane. 
Like her career has shot up, 

653
00:30:18,900 --> 00:30:22,100
just insane. 
And I thought it was so cool 

654
00:30:22,100 --> 00:30:24,600
because she was saying that she 
was like, share with people what

655
00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:26,400
you want to do. 
Like don't be embarrassed by 

656
00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:30,100
having goals, don't be 
embarrassed by wanting a A life 

657
00:30:30,100 --> 00:30:31,700
that is bigger and better than 
what you want. 

658
00:30:31,700 --> 00:30:36,000
Like don't feel like small by 
recognizing that you're not 

659
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:39,700
where you want to be right now 
because it's so much better to 

660
00:30:39,700 --> 00:30:42,600
meet someone who is saying I 
want to do all these things and 

661
00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:44,000
they're passionate and they're 
excited. 

662
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:47,400
Then to meet someone who tries 
to Puff themselves up in their 

663
00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:50,400
current situation like acting 
like what they're doing is so 

664
00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:54,700
cool right now because like fuck
that like outage I'm like where 

665
00:30:54,700 --> 00:30:57,100
are you growing? 
Then if you are acting that way 

666
00:30:57,100 --> 00:30:59,700
you know what are you doing? 
And I think we see these People 

667
00:30:59,700 --> 00:31:01,900
all the time. 
Like if you've ever worked in 

668
00:31:01,900 --> 00:31:05,100
like Hospitality, for example it
is a classic example of like 

669
00:31:05,100 --> 00:31:07,400
you're working with someone and 
there's like a manager who's 

670
00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:11,200
just like an asshole to 
everybody because they Power 

671
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:13,700
Trip on thinking that what 
they're currently doing. 

672
00:31:13,700 --> 00:31:16,600
Is so cool but deep down they're
like, you know, I didn't 

673
00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:19,000
actually do the things that I 
wanted life or like, this isn't 

674
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:20,600
what I want, or I'm just in this
position. 

675
00:31:20,600 --> 00:31:22,900
But I actually want to open my 
own restaurant and you see it in

676
00:31:22,900 --> 00:31:24,600
people and you see it in every 
industry. 

677
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:27,300
But I saw this all the time and 
people and it used to just like,

678
00:31:27,300 --> 00:31:29,200
grind my gears because I was 
like, bro. 

679
00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:32,200
Get a fucking life like 
genuinely for your sake, get a 

680
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:35,100
life, like it's the figure out 
what's going to make you feel 

681
00:31:35,100 --> 00:31:38,000
good and like work towards those
things and don't be embarrassed 

682
00:31:38,100 --> 00:31:39,600
by not being where you want to 
be. 

683
00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:41,800
Like most of us are not where we
want to be. 

684
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:43,600
That's called that because it's 
kind of how it works. 

685
00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:45,700
You know what I mean? 
We're all growing towards things

686
00:31:45,700 --> 00:31:49,400
were all like trying to move 
forward in our careers or get 

687
00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:53,900
that degree or like work out the
Kinks in that relationship or 

688
00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:55,700
you know, build your friend 
group or whatever. 

689
00:31:55,700 --> 00:31:59,200
We all have things that we want 
to be better at or do better at 

690
00:31:59,500 --> 00:32:01,300
Or grow. 
And that's awesome. 

691
00:32:01,300 --> 00:32:03,100
Like, that's something that you 
should tell people and share 

692
00:32:03,100 --> 00:32:08,600
with people, and be aware of not
like be scared of because if you

693
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:12,500
are already at a place where 
you're like, holding yourself 

694
00:32:12,500 --> 00:32:15,100
back and being like, Oh, you 
know, I would like this book. 

695
00:32:15,100 --> 00:32:17,200
I don't need it, bro. 
You're not going to fucking get 

696
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:18,300
it. 
You're not gonna get it. 

697
00:32:18,300 --> 00:32:20,500
You can't. 
You can't be thinking that way. 

698
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:22,600
You have to be, okay, with being
like, it's okay. 

699
00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:27,700
I'm, I'm low, like I'm small. 
I'm, I'm like barely at the 

700
00:32:27,700 --> 00:32:30,000
start of my journey, you know, 
I'm at the Very start of my 

701
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:31,100
career. 
This is nothing. 

702
00:32:31,100 --> 00:32:33,900
Like you need to have that 
mindset or you're going to get 

703
00:32:33,900 --> 00:32:35,700
stuck and you're going to get 
complacent in, you're going to 

704
00:32:35,708 --> 00:32:38,300
get comfortable. 
Anyways, that was a bit of tough

705
00:32:38,300 --> 00:32:42,500
love for you, but it's true. 
So number three is practicing 

706
00:32:42,500 --> 00:32:44,100
gratitude. 
Oh my God. 

707
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:47,400
Okay, gratitude is one of those 
things that if you have not done

708
00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:49,800
this before as a practice you 
look at it and you think it's 

709
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,900
dumb I get it. 
Okay you think it's a bit lame? 

710
00:32:52,900 --> 00:32:54,600
You're like how is that going to
help me? 

711
00:32:54,800 --> 00:32:58,500
I understand I can be bit 
negative but this is going to 

712
00:32:58,508 --> 00:33:01,000
make me more Positive like 
writing down on a piece of paper

713
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:03,000
like a few things. 
That's a good about my life. 

714
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:05,100
Like, whatever I get that. 
My life is good. 

715
00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:06,400
Okay? 
Stop okay. 

716
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:07,700
Just try it. 
Promise me. 

717
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:09,300
Okay. 
You're going to do it because 

718
00:33:09,500 --> 00:33:12,500
gratitude has helped me. 
So, so, so so so much. 

719
00:33:12,500 --> 00:33:15,600
Like I am someone where I've 
struggled with anxiety. 

720
00:33:15,700 --> 00:33:18,200
I've struggled with depression, 
I've struggled with these 

721
00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:22,200
automatic negative thoughts. 
Thank you to my therapist for 

722
00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:26,700
teaching me that. 
And I've really needed to weed 

723
00:33:26,700 --> 00:33:30,700
out the negativity and sometimes
It's not just weeding out the 

724
00:33:30,700 --> 00:33:34,100
negative thoughts, but you need 
to, like, fill those spaces with

725
00:33:34,100 --> 00:33:37,400
positive thoughts and you can 
seem so basic. 

726
00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:41,400
It can seem so rudimentary but 
it really is helpful this year, 

727
00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:44,700
I'm actually doing the 5-minute 
Journal which is like super 

728
00:33:44,700 --> 00:33:47,100
popular. 
If you follow any like wellness 

729
00:33:47,100 --> 00:33:50,100
girly on Instagram or techtalk 
that bitch has that journal, 

730
00:33:50,100 --> 00:33:51,900
okay you're going to see them 
everywhere now. 

731
00:33:51,900 --> 00:33:54,500
Now that I've said it you're 
going to see them and so sweet, 

732
00:33:54,500 --> 00:33:56,700
my friend Faith, if you guys 
don't know if a that she's my 

733
00:33:56,700 --> 00:34:00,500
bestie she's so cute and she Got
it for me, for Christmas. 

734
00:34:00,500 --> 00:34:02,400
And so we're actually doing it 
together, which is really cute 

735
00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:04,900
because, like, some days. 
It'll give you a little prompt 

736
00:34:05,200 --> 00:34:08,600
and it will be like, here's a 
little motivation, quote right 

737
00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:11,400
over for the day and we'll go, 
we text each other be like lol, 

738
00:34:11,400 --> 00:34:13,500
the prompted, a was so funny or 
like that thing reminded me of 

739
00:34:13,500 --> 00:34:15,600
you and it's really cute. 
So do with a friend, that's a 

740
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:18,000
really good idea for you guys. 
Thanks faith for the idea 

741
00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:20,699
anyways with gratitude 
specifically. 

742
00:34:20,699 --> 00:34:23,500
It's just a section of that 
Daily Journal five-minute 

743
00:34:23,500 --> 00:34:25,500
journal. 
In that journal specifically if 

744
00:34:25,500 --> 00:34:27,600
you guys are curious, I'll just 
tell you what it is. 

745
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:31,900
It gives you Like I said, a 
quote or a little challenge at 

746
00:34:31,900 --> 00:34:34,800
the top and then it will tell 
you to write down things that 

747
00:34:34,800 --> 00:34:36,300
you're grateful for like three 
things. 

748
00:34:36,500 --> 00:34:38,600
It'll ask you to write down 
three things that would make 

749
00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:39,500
today. 
Great. 

750
00:34:39,500 --> 00:34:42,600
Which I really like and then 
you're like affirmation for the 

751
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:44,900
day like your thing that you're 
going to say to encourage 

752
00:34:44,900 --> 00:34:47,600
yourself basically throughout 
the day that's the morning and 

753
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:49,300
then five minutes at night as 
well. 

754
00:34:49,300 --> 00:34:52,199
You write down three things that
made today great. 

755
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:55,300
And then I forget what the last 
thing is. 

756
00:34:56,900 --> 00:34:59,200
I forgot the last one is, but 
basically that's it. 

757
00:34:59,300 --> 00:35:01,700
Just a little journal to keep 
you up and to keep you motivated

758
00:35:01,700 --> 00:35:03,600
and to check in on your mental 
health. 

759
00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:06,500
And I think it's just really 
really really healthy and really

760
00:35:06,500 --> 00:35:09,000
good for you. 
Anyways gratitude specifically 

761
00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:14,300
something that I started doing 
in lockdown because oh my God 

762
00:35:14,300 --> 00:35:16,500
guys I'm so sorry. 
We're going to take a pause. 

763
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:19,100
I just need to tell you this my 
dad literally just sent me a 

764
00:35:19,107 --> 00:35:20,900
text. 
He's so cute. 

765
00:35:21,100 --> 00:35:23,500
He just said congratulations on 
one week. 

766
00:35:23,500 --> 00:35:26,000
Vape free. 
And on reaching 300 thousand 

767
00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:32,400
followers on tick, dog. 
Oh my God, guys, I love him. 

768
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:35,800
He's so cute. 
I'm see. 

769
00:35:35,800 --> 00:35:38,900
You knows vaping is something. 
I struggled with literally all 

770
00:35:38,900 --> 00:35:41,100
the way since high school. 
Funny story, actually, we're 

771
00:35:41,100 --> 00:35:44,400
taking another tangent is the 
day that I left Canada to move 

772
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:46,900
to Australia. 
I told myself I was going to 

773
00:35:46,900 --> 00:35:48,900
quit on that day moving to 
Australia. 

774
00:35:48,900 --> 00:35:51,600
Like I'm telling you guys, this 
has been a whole asssss like 

775
00:35:51,900 --> 00:35:54,100
thing in my life like it's been 
present for a very long time. 

776
00:35:54,500 --> 00:35:57,400
I said I was going to quit on 
that day and I left my vape 

777
00:35:57,400 --> 00:36:00,400
inside the house and I literally
brought my Eggs out in my mom 

778
00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:01,900
and my dad. 
We're going to be taking me to 

779
00:36:01,900 --> 00:36:04,300
the airport and we're like all 
getting in the car. 

780
00:36:04,300 --> 00:36:09,900
Again, my papers inside, I start
getting anxious stressing out 

781
00:36:09,900 --> 00:36:13,800
and I'm like, I need to go back 
inside and I need to go see Max 

782
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:17,600
one more time, my dog who I was 
obsessed with in love with and 

783
00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:20,400
so sad to be leaving and I was 
like I need to see Max one more 

784
00:36:20,408 --> 00:36:22,500
time. 
So I went inside alone and went 

785
00:36:22,500 --> 00:36:24,100
inside. 
Picked up my dog, I was just 

786
00:36:24,100 --> 00:36:26,100
crying my little eyes out. 
I was obsessed. 

787
00:36:26,100 --> 00:36:29,000
I was so sad to be leaving him 
by then. 

788
00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:31,900
End up having like basically an 
anxiety attack sort of freaking 

789
00:36:31,900 --> 00:36:34,400
the fuck out and was like, I 
need my babe, I knew my baby. 

790
00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:37,000
When it got my vape and then 
went back to the car. 

791
00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:39,000
Imagine my parents just sitting 
there, casually waiting for me 

792
00:36:39,008 --> 00:36:40,600
in the car like nothing's going 
on. 

793
00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:42,000
I'm in the car, I'm in the 
house. 

794
00:36:42,000 --> 00:36:45,000
Having a goddamn anxiety attack 
holding my dog, my dog's. 

795
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:48,100
Like what the fuck? 
Vaping aggressively like a 

796
00:36:48,100 --> 00:36:50,900
psycho? 
Then I come back to the car just

797
00:36:50,900 --> 00:36:53,800
like vaping and then I get in 
the car and my parents are like,

798
00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:57,400
are you okay? 
I'm like no. 

799
00:36:57,800 --> 00:36:59,100
Anyways. 
So I kept the baby. 

800
00:36:59,300 --> 00:37:01,800
The way through we're going to 
go back to what the podcast is 

801
00:37:01,800 --> 00:37:03,700
actually about today. 
So sorry about that. 

802
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:05,100
I told you guys have another in 
a while. 

803
00:37:05,100 --> 00:37:06,600
All right, I'm feeling a little 
bit Rusty. 

804
00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:11,200
I started doing this in lockdown
and I feel like doing gratitude,

805
00:37:11,300 --> 00:37:13,700
just really helps you to clear 
out all the bullshit and helps 

806
00:37:13,700 --> 00:37:16,700
you to focus on the good stuff 
and often we forget how good our

807
00:37:16,700 --> 00:37:19,800
lives are you know it's so easy.
So so so so so easy to get 

808
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:21,700
complacent. 
Even you know, when you start a 

809
00:37:21,707 --> 00:37:24,700
new job, six months later at the
start you were like this is so 

810
00:37:24,700 --> 00:37:26,100
fun. 
This is so fresh and so crazy. 

811
00:37:26,100 --> 00:37:28,400
Oh my God, I'm so proud of 
myself six months later you like

812
00:37:28,900 --> 00:37:31,300
I'm just Like board, you know? 
Like, I just want something like

813
00:37:31,300 --> 00:37:33,100
that, challenges me. 
It's like bitch. 

814
00:37:33,100 --> 00:37:35,800
You felt so challenged, like six
months ago, like, just relax, 

815
00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:39,200
like, just enjoy, not being 
under stress, 24/7. 

816
00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:41,200
Like, I think it's gonna be 
okay, you know, sometimes we 

817
00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:44,800
just do that and we get so used 
to wanting there to be like 

818
00:37:45,000 --> 00:37:46,600
something exciting. 
All something happening all 

819
00:37:46,607 --> 00:37:48,900
something new, a new 
relationship, but Baba, you 

820
00:37:48,900 --> 00:37:51,200
know, we jump from relationship 
to relationship. 

821
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:52,400
We always want to have 
butterflies. 

822
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:54,200
We always want to have that new 
friend. 

823
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:57,100
We always want to have that new 
like Vice, that new drug, that 

824
00:37:57,100 --> 00:37:58,600
new drink, that new, whatever, 
like we are. 

825
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:02,600
So, Prone to like wanting to 
have these like dopamine hits 

826
00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:05,100
and like wanting all this good. 
Amazing, crazy stuff all the 

827
00:38:05,100 --> 00:38:07,500
time that when things are just 
like good and consistent. 

828
00:38:07,500 --> 00:38:10,300
And like, we have a regular like
consistent, release of like 

829
00:38:10,300 --> 00:38:12,000
serotonin and things are like, 
fine. 

830
00:38:12,100 --> 00:38:13,800
We get fucking bored. 
Is that just me? 

831
00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:15,100
I don't know. 
But I think a lot of people get 

832
00:38:15,100 --> 00:38:18,700
like that. 
And gratitude for me, helps me 

833
00:38:18,900 --> 00:38:20,700
to go, oh my God, my life is so 
good. 

834
00:38:20,700 --> 00:38:21,900
What the fuck am I complaining 
about? 

835
00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:24,500
That's why I do it. 
Literally, that is why I do it. 

836
00:38:24,700 --> 00:38:27,800
And I think it also helps you to
become genuinely grateful and 

837
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:30,700
like genuinely thankful for 
Going on in your life which 

838
00:38:30,700 --> 00:38:33,800
helps other areas of your life 
and this is another like branch 

839
00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:36,600
and reason as to why I do 
gratitude, is it helps your 

840
00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:38,100
relationships? 
Like imagine you're sitting 

841
00:38:38,100 --> 00:38:39,800
there at the end of the day and 
you're going. 

842
00:38:39,800 --> 00:38:42,000
Well, I'm so thankful that I 
hung out with my friend today 

843
00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:44,400
like that was something that was
so fun that really made my day a

844
00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:47,300
good day you're more likely then
to go text your friend and say 

845
00:38:47,300 --> 00:38:49,600
hey I had a really nice time 
hanging out with you like love 

846
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:51,300
you so much. 
Thanks for being there for me. 

847
00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:53,300
You know, you're so much more 
likely to do that and that 

848
00:38:53,300 --> 00:38:56,200
strengthens your relationships 
or maybe you hang out with 

849
00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:58,800
someone for the first time and 
you have a nice time, you go 

850
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:00,600
home, you go. 
That was nice and maybe, you 

851
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:03,300
know, in a regular scenario you 
want really think about again, 

852
00:39:03,400 --> 00:39:04,900
maybe you wait for them to 
message you. 

853
00:39:04,900 --> 00:39:07,300
You don't really, you know care,
you wouldn't reflect but at the 

854
00:39:07,300 --> 00:39:09,400
end of the day you sat down and 
you said I'm going to do my 

855
00:39:09,408 --> 00:39:11,100
gratitude and you sit there and 
you write down. 

856
00:39:11,100 --> 00:39:13,200
Wow, I actually really enjoyed 
this person's company and we 

857
00:39:13,200 --> 00:39:17,000
like weirdly, hit it off really 
quickly and so you then go 

858
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:19,700
message them and say, hey, by 
the way, love hanging out with 

859
00:39:19,700 --> 00:39:21,600
you, would absolutely love to 
hang out with you like next 

860
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:23,600
weekend. 
If you're around or, you know, 

861
00:39:23,700 --> 00:39:25,500
we should make plans to go do 
that thing that we talked about 

862
00:39:25,500 --> 00:39:27,700
wanting to do together, like, 
you know, when you said we 

863
00:39:27,700 --> 00:39:29,200
should do some boxing, I want to
go. 

864
00:39:29,300 --> 00:39:32,000
Go box with you. 
So you know I mean there's just 

865
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:34,900
more opportunity for you to 
reflect and actually strengthens

866
00:39:34,900 --> 00:39:37,600
your relationships. 
And like I said earlier, when it

867
00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:40,600
comes to your job and whatever, 
I think it really does, give you

868
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:44,700
a better like job satisfaction 
rate if you will especially when

869
00:39:44,700 --> 00:39:47,300
things start to become boring 
and exciting and we're just 

870
00:39:47,300 --> 00:39:50,400
like, it's just like it's just 
consistent, it's whatever. 

871
00:39:50,500 --> 00:39:54,100
But you can actually take that 
it's consistent and be like, oh 

872
00:39:54,100 --> 00:39:57,200
it's great it's consistent. 
Its security its safety you 

873
00:39:57,200 --> 00:39:59,200
know, it's job security is 
financials. 

874
00:39:59,300 --> 00:40:00,700
Ability. 
And those are things that I 

875
00:40:00,707 --> 00:40:02,800
should be so grateful for 
because maybe at one time I 

876
00:40:02,808 --> 00:40:05,400
didn't have that. 
And that is something that I can

877
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:08,000
really reflect on and be like, 
wow, I'm actually so grateful 

878
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:10,100
for that, you know, it really 
just helps you. 

879
00:40:10,100 --> 00:40:13,000
It makes you feel better about 
yourself your life if it makes 

880
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:15,600
you feel more motivated because 
the better you feel about your 

881
00:40:15,600 --> 00:40:17,500
current situation. 
The more likely you're going to 

882
00:40:17,700 --> 00:40:20,800
believe that good things are 
coming to you and that good 

883
00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:24,500
things are going to keep coming 
and if you are in a shitty spot.

884
00:40:24,500 --> 00:40:28,000
Like if you are going through 
some hard stuff right now, it 

885
00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:30,600
helps you to not. 
Make that your whole life, it 

886
00:40:30,600 --> 00:40:31,600
helps you to go. 
Okay. 

887
00:40:31,600 --> 00:40:33,600
Well, you know what? 
Yes, I'm going through a 

888
00:40:33,600 --> 00:40:37,000
horrible breakup and I feel like
hell and this is the worst thing

889
00:40:37,000 --> 00:40:38,800
that's ever happened to me and 
this is probably the worst I've 

890
00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:41,500
ever felt in my life. 
You can still go. 

891
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:45,000
Okay but you know what, I'm 
really enjoying the summer or 

892
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:47,600
I'm really enjoying this 
friendship that I have or I'm 

893
00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:50,600
really enjoying my job right now
or I'm feeling really motivated 

894
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:53,800
to work on this thing or this is
going to teach me something, 

895
00:40:53,800 --> 00:40:55,300
right? 
It's going to help you to change

896
00:40:55,300 --> 00:40:57,200
your mindset on how you feel 
about The Break-Up. 

897
00:40:57,200 --> 00:40:59,900
Oh maybe this is actually a 
chance for me to learn A lesson 

898
00:41:00,100 --> 00:41:03,300
or maybe this is a chance for me
to finally be single and work on

899
00:41:03,300 --> 00:41:08,300
healing XYZ from my childhood or
from high school or whatever. 

900
00:41:08,300 --> 00:41:09,600
You know. 
I mean it really just helps you 

901
00:41:09,600 --> 00:41:12,400
to step out of your situation 
and not feel so shit about 

902
00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:16,700
yourself which we all need and 
we are on to number 4 which is 

903
00:41:16,700 --> 00:41:21,000
having a routine specifically 
that requires as little 

904
00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:25,400
decision-making as possible. 
So the reason I point that out 

905
00:41:25,400 --> 00:41:29,000
in want to make that very clear 
is because the point of having a

906
00:41:29,008 --> 00:41:33,200
row teen is so that you don't 
have to decide every single day.

907
00:41:33,800 --> 00:41:36,100
What you're going to do first, 
when you're going to do your 

908
00:41:36,100 --> 00:41:39,400
skincare or if you're going to 
do your skincare, you know, when

909
00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:42,400
you're going to eat it whether 
or not, you're going to drink 

910
00:41:42,400 --> 00:41:45,100
water before you even have your 
coffee, like what you're going 

911
00:41:45,100 --> 00:41:48,200
to do before bed, all these 
things like these little 

912
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:50,400
decisions. 
If you do not have a routine 

913
00:41:50,600 --> 00:41:53,500
you're probably not going to be 
optimizing those times of your 

914
00:41:53,500 --> 00:41:57,200
life and although, you know, you
can just chill and have a good 

915
00:41:57,200 --> 00:41:59,100
time. 
I also feel like having routine 

916
00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:02,500
Is nice because then when you do
go away from it or you do have a

917
00:42:02,500 --> 00:42:03,500
night where you just like, fuck 
it. 

918
00:42:03,500 --> 00:42:05,800
I'm not doing the whole 
journaling bullshit. 

919
00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:07,300
I just want to go and take talk,
I feel like shit. 

920
00:42:07,300 --> 00:42:10,100
That's fine, you know? 
I mean you can do that but when 

921
00:42:10,100 --> 00:42:12,100
you do that every single night, 
it's really not going to help 

922
00:42:12,100 --> 00:42:13,000
you. 
It's really not gonna help your 

923
00:42:13,000 --> 00:42:14,600
mental health. 
And remember, this isn't about 

924
00:42:14,600 --> 00:42:17,000
like being the best person in 
the world. 

925
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:19,400
This is this is for you like all
these things are just to make 

926
00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:21,500
your life better. 
So if you're sitting here going 

927
00:42:22,100 --> 00:42:24,500
I don't want it. 
Like I just I could never be 

928
00:42:24,500 --> 00:42:26,600
that person who has like a 
full-on routine bubble bubble 

929
00:42:26,600 --> 00:42:27,800
butt. 
Like that's fine. 

930
00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:29,200
If it's not you then it's not 
you. 

931
00:42:29,300 --> 00:42:31,400
You but it's all going to help 
you. 

932
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:33,100
These are all just things to 
help you, you know? 

933
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:37,000
So anyways, I want to say first 
of all that having a routine 

934
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:40,000
doesn't mean it has to be the 
same every single day and like 

935
00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:43,000
I've talked about in so many 
episodes now, cycle sinking is 

936
00:42:43,500 --> 00:42:46,000
the best thing in the world, if 
you don't cycle sink, then get 

937
00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:48,600
on that shit. 
That's obviously, if you have a 

938
00:42:48,600 --> 00:42:53,400
menstrual cycle to sync to, and 
it just means that in the 

939
00:42:53,408 --> 00:42:55,600
different phases of your cycle, 
you're going to be doing 

940
00:42:55,600 --> 00:42:57,500
different things, so you're 
probably going to have more 

941
00:42:57,500 --> 00:42:59,200
motivation, more energy around 
off. 

942
00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:02,300
Nation and you probably gonna 
have a little bit less energy 

943
00:43:02,300 --> 00:43:04,900
around your period or leading up
to your period when you're 

944
00:43:04,900 --> 00:43:07,600
potentially experiencing like 
PMs and things like that. 

945
00:43:07,700 --> 00:43:11,500
And at the point of Cycles 
thinking and having a routine 

946
00:43:11,500 --> 00:43:13,800
when it comes to cycle syncing 
is because you start to know 

947
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:16,600
what works for you. 
So for me, for example, I know 

948
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:20,100
that for about three days before
my period, every single month, I

949
00:43:20,100 --> 00:43:21,500
kind of want to kill someone, 
you know. 

950
00:43:21,500 --> 00:43:23,600
And that sometimes that someone 
is me. 

951
00:43:23,700 --> 00:43:26,300
All right. 
And so, I am not going to be 

952
00:43:26,300 --> 00:43:28,000
completing any shit at that 
time. 

953
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:30,600
I'm not gonna be able to do any 
of Of my like, collaboration 

954
00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:32,600
type of work. 
I'm not going to be recording 

955
00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:34,900
any episodes. 
I'm not going to, I'm just, I'm 

956
00:43:34,900 --> 00:43:36,200
not going to be fun. 
Trust me. 

957
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:39,100
You guys don't wanna hang out 
with me when I'm like that and 

958
00:43:39,100 --> 00:43:43,100
so I make sure to get things 
done at different times and get 

959
00:43:43,100 --> 00:43:45,500
them done earlier. 
So I'm avoiding that time. 

960
00:43:45,500 --> 00:43:48,600
So I'm not having to push myself
when I really feel like my 

961
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:52,100
lowest to, then create things. 
When I am not feeling like I'm 

962
00:43:52,100 --> 00:43:54,300
able to create things because 
that means that I'm not going to

963
00:43:54,308 --> 00:43:56,200
be putting out the content, I 
want to be putting out. 

964
00:43:56,200 --> 00:43:58,700
I'm not going to be feeling like
as motivating and fun, and 

965
00:43:58,700 --> 00:44:01,900
amazing. 
As I normally am on the podcast,

966
00:44:01,900 --> 00:44:03,400
just kidding. 
But you know what I'm saying? 

967
00:44:03,400 --> 00:44:05,400
I'm not going to feel like 
myself and I want to be able to 

968
00:44:05,408 --> 00:44:09,100
bring my fun self that I 
normally am, but I don't want to

969
00:44:09,100 --> 00:44:11,800
have to do that when I feel like
shit because that's just not fun

970
00:44:11,800 --> 00:44:14,700
for anybody involved, you know? 
And so it's really important to 

971
00:44:14,700 --> 00:44:18,000
recognize the patterns that you 
have consistently and cycle 

972
00:44:18,000 --> 00:44:20,100
thinking is going to help you a 
lot with that. 

973
00:44:20,100 --> 00:44:21,900
If you want to hear more about 
that, of course, go listen to 

974
00:44:21,900 --> 00:44:23,300
it. 
One of my other episodes because

975
00:44:23,500 --> 00:44:27,000
there's a lot to say about it. 
The last one that I just did was

976
00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:29,100
really, really good and I 
interviewed the sick. 

977
00:44:29,300 --> 00:44:31,800
Vocal coach. 
She is so cute and so funny, we 

978
00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:33,900
love her. 
Her name is nam actually, and 

979
00:44:34,100 --> 00:44:36,300
that episode was really great 
like that I've gotten really, 

980
00:44:36,300 --> 00:44:37,500
really good feedback from that 
one. 

981
00:44:37,500 --> 00:44:40,200
And it's just really simple and,
like, easy to apply. 

982
00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:43,200
And so go listen to that if you 
want to learn more. 

983
00:44:43,800 --> 00:44:46,100
So I thought I would share with 
you my morning and my night 

984
00:44:46,100 --> 00:44:48,300
routine. 
It's very basic, very simple 

985
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:52,400
something that you can use if 
you want to, but it's just for 

986
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:54,800
me what I do. 
And it's been working pretty 

987
00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:57,300
well for me, recently. 
And I've always found routine 

988
00:44:57,300 --> 00:44:59,600
starts just so helpful. 
Like like I said, You in high 

989
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:01,500
school. 
I used to wake up, go to the 

990
00:45:01,500 --> 00:45:05,100
bathroom, wash my face, like, do
my little skincare moment. 

991
00:45:05,100 --> 00:45:07,800
Go to my bedroom, put find the 
Ted Talk. 

992
00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:09,800
That I was going to listen to 
like there's a playlist of them 

993
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:13,600
so just find a random one. 
Click on it, put set up my phone

994
00:45:13,700 --> 00:45:15,800
beside by little like makeup 
light. 

995
00:45:15,900 --> 00:45:19,400
Turn on my makeup light, do my 
makeup wearing the exact same 

996
00:45:19,400 --> 00:45:21,000
robe sitting in the exact same 
chair. 

997
00:45:21,000 --> 00:45:23,400
I did this every single morning 
for like four years, I swear to 

998
00:45:23,400 --> 00:45:26,800
God, and it was so good. 
And then I would go back to the 

999
00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:28,400
other side of my bedroom, where 
all my clothes were. 

1000
00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:31,500
And then I would pick out an 
outfit and I would make sure I 

1001
00:45:31,508 --> 00:45:33,800
feel good and then I went 
upstairs and then I would make 

1002
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:35,500
my coffee. 
So, as I was doing makeup, I 

1003
00:45:35,500 --> 00:45:37,800
would drink my water because I 
tried not to drink my coffee 

1004
00:45:37,800 --> 00:45:40,000
right away. 
Then I'll go upstairs, then I 

1005
00:45:40,008 --> 00:45:42,100
would bring my coffee and I'll 
take my coffee to school with 

1006
00:45:42,100 --> 00:45:43,400
me. 
And if I had time, I would make 

1007
00:45:43,400 --> 00:45:46,300
breakfast there or if I didn't, 
then I would just like pick up 

1008
00:45:46,300 --> 00:45:50,900
something on the way or if I 
didn't have that then I would 

1009
00:45:50,900 --> 00:45:54,400
wait until like my kind of like 
morning break to eat, which I 

1010
00:45:54,408 --> 00:45:56,600
tried not to do. 
But anyways that was my high 

1011
00:45:56,600 --> 00:45:59,200
school routine but now this is 
my morning routine. 

1012
00:45:59,400 --> 00:46:03,300
So first of all, wake up, I'm 
not letting myself have coffee 

1013
00:46:03,300 --> 00:46:04,700
right away. 
This is something I've been 

1014
00:46:04,700 --> 00:46:08,800
doing now for probably, like 
maybe like a year or so pretty 

1015
00:46:08,800 --> 00:46:11,500
consistently. 
And I know it has been fucked on

1016
00:46:11,500 --> 00:46:14,400
my body. 
I automatically this is so TMI, 

1017
00:46:14,500 --> 00:46:18,100
but literally makes me have to 
go to the toilet right away. 

1018
00:46:18,100 --> 00:46:19,600
Like I'll take one sip of 
coffee. 

1019
00:46:19,600 --> 00:46:22,400
Boom, we're out of here. 
It's just not good, not to 

1020
00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:24,200
mention that. 
I was also vaping this whole 

1021
00:46:24,200 --> 00:46:27,200
past year as well. 
Bad vibes all around bad vibes. 

1022
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:29,100
Vaping also does that to your 
body. 

1023
00:46:29,200 --> 00:46:32,300
So vaping plus the coffee right 
away in the morning, horrible 

1024
00:46:32,300 --> 00:46:36,300
cocktail, horrible morning, 
horrible like release of 

1025
00:46:36,300 --> 00:46:38,000
dopamine, but in like, the worst
way. 

1026
00:46:38,200 --> 00:46:40,900
Also, like having coffee on an 
empty stomach shoots up your 

1027
00:46:40,900 --> 00:46:42,600
cortisol. 
If you didn't know this cortisol

1028
00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:45,500
is your stress hormone and so it
literally can stress you out for

1029
00:46:45,500 --> 00:46:47,500
the whole day. 
Just based off that one coffee 

1030
00:46:47,500 --> 00:46:50,200
on an empty stomach, it also 
fucks with your gut health, 

1031
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:53,200
which then fucks with, like your
skin and your mood, and your 

1032
00:46:53,200 --> 00:46:55,600
energy and everything. 
It is like the worst thing. 

1033
00:46:55,700 --> 00:46:58,500
And I only really learned this 
recently how bad it actually is.

1034
00:46:58,500 --> 00:47:00,600
I always knew it. 
I guess I could tell in my body 

1035
00:47:00,600 --> 00:47:03,400
that my body was like, please 
stop fucking doing this, but I 

1036
00:47:03,400 --> 00:47:06,800
didn't realize that it was a 
concretely, like known bad thing

1037
00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:08,600
to do. 
Anyways, so we're not doing that

1038
00:47:08,600 --> 00:47:12,400
anymore. 
Number one, I drink water or 

1039
00:47:12,500 --> 00:47:15,000
I'll have, like, I usually have 
some water right away, but then 

1040
00:47:15,000 --> 00:47:18,400
I also drink this like collagen 
powder, it's from college & Co, 

1041
00:47:19,100 --> 00:47:20,600
I'm almost out of it now. 
Actually. 

1042
00:47:20,600 --> 00:47:22,700
I need to buy more or like maybe
try a different one. 

1043
00:47:22,700 --> 00:47:24,900
I don't really know because I 
have to order that one, but I've

1044
00:47:24,900 --> 00:47:27,900
been taking collagen because my 
skin has been going a little bit

1045
00:47:27,900 --> 00:47:30,600
crazy and call Legend just helps
to. 

1046
00:47:30,600 --> 00:47:32,900
I think like speed up the 
recovery of your skin if that 

1047
00:47:32,900 --> 00:47:37,200
makes sense like reproduce. 
That's not the word but like the

1048
00:47:37,400 --> 00:47:39,800
the cells turnover of cells, you
don't talk about it. 

1049
00:47:39,800 --> 00:47:42,600
Does that it, like, speeds up. 
So it's quite good for you. 

1050
00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:45,100
And collagen actually helps with
a lot of other things as well, 

1051
00:47:45,900 --> 00:47:50,500
like bone health and like Muscle
Recovery in a bunch of random 

1052
00:47:50,500 --> 00:47:53,200
shit as well. 
And so I just I like it. 

1053
00:47:53,200 --> 00:47:55,700
I like how it tastes. 
I like the little powders and it

1054
00:47:55,700 --> 00:47:58,300
helps me to feel like I'm 
drinking something that is a 

1055
00:47:58,300 --> 00:48:01,200
drink, but it's Coffee. 
And so, I have that first of 

1056
00:48:01,200 --> 00:48:05,000
all, and then I try to eat 
something like small. 

1057
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:08,100
Like, maybe I'll bring like a 
banana back to bed with me. 

1058
00:48:08,100 --> 00:48:10,800
Yes, we are going back to bed. 
Also, my morning routine is a 

1059
00:48:10,808 --> 00:48:11,600
little bit fucked. 
Okay. 

1060
00:48:11,800 --> 00:48:13,600
If you don't like it, then I 
don't care. 

1061
00:48:14,100 --> 00:48:15,900
And then I'll try to bring like 
maybe a little banana back to 

1062
00:48:15,908 --> 00:48:18,700
bed with me, but I struggle to 
eat right away in the morning. 

1063
00:48:18,700 --> 00:48:21,600
So sometimes I'll just go back 
with my little water, /, 

1064
00:48:21,600 --> 00:48:23,900
college, and drink whatever. 
I did that morning, then I go 

1065
00:48:23,900 --> 00:48:26,400
into my bed and I do my 
five-minute Journal because I'm 

1066
00:48:26,400 --> 00:48:28,200
still waking up. 
Okay, when I first wake up, I'm 

1067
00:48:28,200 --> 00:48:31,000
like a goddamn zombie. 
Like I am non-existent I am not 

1068
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:32,900
actually here. 
Okay so I do my five-minute 

1069
00:48:32,900 --> 00:48:35,800
journal in that kind of wakes up
my brain a little bit without 

1070
00:48:35,800 --> 00:48:38,600
like I'm not having to complete 
any task, you know. 

1071
00:48:38,600 --> 00:48:40,300
I mean I'm not like doing my 
makeup, I'm not making 

1072
00:48:40,300 --> 00:48:41,500
decisions. 
I'm literally just like, 

1073
00:48:41,500 --> 00:48:45,300
writing, and chilling and waking
up then from there, I will get 

1074
00:48:45,300 --> 00:48:47,900
up it all tidy around my bedroom
area. 

1075
00:48:48,000 --> 00:48:50,700
If I for some reason, left 
clothes or whatever on the 

1076
00:48:50,700 --> 00:48:54,100
floor, the night before, which I
try not to do, but sometimes it 

1077
00:48:54,100 --> 00:48:55,700
happens depending on what my 
knight looked like. 

1078
00:48:55,700 --> 00:48:59,100
If I was tired or just being 
lazy, it happens. 

1079
00:48:59,600 --> 00:49:02,400
So clean up and I'll make my 
bed, which is a new thing that 

1080
00:49:02,400 --> 00:49:03,800
I've been doing, it makes me 
feel very bougie. 

1081
00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:07,000
It makes me feel like a cute 
Wellness girly, and I think it 

1082
00:49:07,008 --> 00:49:08,800
just makes it nice because, you 
know, that you're doing 

1083
00:49:08,800 --> 00:49:11,000
something for future. 
You, you know, I mean, like, you

1084
00:49:11,000 --> 00:49:13,300
know, you're resetting for 
future you and that's amazing. 

1085
00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:18,300
So I do that and then I will 
then go eat if I hadn't eaten 

1086
00:49:18,300 --> 00:49:20,100
anything. 
So then like, I'll really force 

1087
00:49:20,100 --> 00:49:22,600
myself to eat because I used to 
be really, really bad with 

1088
00:49:22,600 --> 00:49:24,600
eating breakfast. 
Like I would never eat breakfast

1089
00:49:24,900 --> 00:49:28,100
and I would just get like to a 
certain part of my day and I 

1090
00:49:28,107 --> 00:49:32,600
would be having like stupidly 
starving and it just was so bad 

1091
00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:34,100
for me. 
But I have actually noticed this

1092
00:49:34,100 --> 00:49:37,400
week now that I'm not vaping. 
I, my appetites coming back. 

1093
00:49:37,400 --> 00:49:38,800
Yay! 
Finally! 

1094
00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:41,900
Because my appetite was so low 
for so long and it was really 

1095
00:49:41,900 --> 00:49:44,500
frustrating because people 
always think like, oh, low 

1096
00:49:44,500 --> 00:49:46,400
appetite so good. 
It's going to help you be like 

1097
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:48,200
skinny, like no actually fuck 
off. 

1098
00:49:48,200 --> 00:49:49,900
Having a healthy appetite is 
important. 

1099
00:49:49,900 --> 00:49:52,600
Like if you don't have a healthy
appetite, that's bad, that's 

1100
00:49:52,600 --> 00:49:55,000
there's some going on in your 
body and it needs to be sorted 

1101
00:49:55,100 --> 00:49:58,000
and I had like, no appetite. 
So I never wanted to eat and I 

1102
00:49:58,000 --> 00:50:00,800
never like wood. 
Motivated hook myself, anything 

1103
00:50:00,800 --> 00:50:01,900
because I was like, I'm not even
hungry. 

1104
00:50:01,900 --> 00:50:03,300
Why the fuck would I cook myself
something? 

1105
00:50:03,500 --> 00:50:05,700
So I'd wait till I was starving.
And then I would just like order

1106
00:50:05,700 --> 00:50:08,300
ubereats and then eat like shit,
which would also make my gut 

1107
00:50:08,300 --> 00:50:11,500
health worse after, especially 
my coffee in my vape, you know, 

1108
00:50:11,500 --> 00:50:13,600
I mean, like, I was absolutely 
cursing my body before. 

1109
00:50:13,800 --> 00:50:16,400
So, I'm very happy that my 
appetites coming back and I'm 

1110
00:50:16,400 --> 00:50:18,900
motivated to eat more. 
And today, I literally made 

1111
00:50:18,900 --> 00:50:21,100
myself like a nice little 
breakfast right away, and I did 

1112
00:50:21,100 --> 00:50:23,500
this, and it felt so good, and I
felt so accomplished. 

1113
00:50:23,500 --> 00:50:26,500
So that's my morning the night 
time. 

1114
00:50:26,800 --> 00:50:29,000
It's very short. 
I just literally do my skincare 

1115
00:50:29,000 --> 00:50:30,200
routine. 
Teen and I pointed out 

1116
00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:32,700
specifically here. 
That one of my goals is to not 

1117
00:50:32,700 --> 00:50:34,700
pick my face. 
I don't know if anyone else 

1118
00:50:34,700 --> 00:50:36,100
struggles with this. 
Maybe this is a bit 

1119
00:50:36,100 --> 00:50:39,400
embarrassing, I don't know. 
Um, but I pick my face all the 

1120
00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:41,700
time and like, if I had pimples,
I'm always wanting to poke at 

1121
00:50:41,700 --> 00:50:44,100
them and I always make it way 
worse, and I always just like 

1122
00:50:44,100 --> 00:50:46,600
hate myself after for it. 
Like you just get like hyper 

1123
00:50:46,600 --> 00:50:49,700
fixated on like your face and 
you just poke poke and then it 

1124
00:50:49,700 --> 00:50:52,200
just makes you crazy, you know, 
I mean, so I'm trying to not do 

1125
00:50:52,200 --> 00:50:54,500
that anymore. 
So my skincare and then I just 

1126
00:50:54,500 --> 00:50:57,000
put reset, which is like putting
away laundry and actually 

1127
00:50:57,000 --> 00:51:00,300
tidying Myspace and like making 
sure does Room and like the 

1128
00:51:00,700 --> 00:51:03,200
dining table and everything is 
like reset for the next day. 

1129
00:51:03,400 --> 00:51:06,000
So when I come out I'm like, oh,
I'm ready to like get work done 

1130
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:08,400
and I'm ready to like, you know,
do the things I need to do 

1131
00:51:08,500 --> 00:51:11,000
because otherwise it just sucks 
when you wake up and 

1132
00:51:11,000 --> 00:51:13,400
everything's a mess and you're 
like just takes you so much 

1133
00:51:13,400 --> 00:51:15,000
longer to get into the flow of 
things, you know. 

1134
00:51:15,100 --> 00:51:18,500
So I try to tidy up and then of 
course I do my five-minute 

1135
00:51:18,500 --> 00:51:20,700
Journal. 
So that's my nighttime routine. 

1136
00:51:21,000 --> 00:51:23,700
And there's some things I would 
say that are on here. 

1137
00:51:23,700 --> 00:51:26,500
That are not. 
I don't write down but they're 

1138
00:51:26,500 --> 00:51:29,800
obvious to me. 
So I try not to go on my IPhone 

1139
00:51:29,800 --> 00:51:32,000
right before bed. 
Sometimes I'll actually read 

1140
00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:35,000
before bed, which I think I want
to add that to like my nighttime

1141
00:51:35,000 --> 00:51:37,700
routine, but right now, I'm just
trying to take it slowly and 

1142
00:51:37,700 --> 00:51:40,000
putting in one thing at a time. 
And I'm not forcing myself to 

1143
00:51:40,000 --> 00:51:43,200
like start this random crazy 
routine out of nowhere. 

1144
00:51:43,400 --> 00:51:46,400
Like, I'm slowly building it up 
and I think that's really 

1145
00:51:46,400 --> 00:51:49,200
important and something that I 
would recommend doing because as

1146
00:51:49,200 --> 00:51:52,100
much as we all want to be like 
the best version of ourselves. 

1147
00:51:52,100 --> 00:51:56,300
Like if you randomly sit down 
and you say, okay, I'm going to 

1148
00:51:56,600 --> 00:52:00,300
do this, this, this, this, this,
this fucking Our routine every 

1149
00:52:00,300 --> 00:52:02,500
morning and every night. 
There's just no way, it's going 

1150
00:52:02,500 --> 00:52:04,400
to be way too intimidating, it's
going to stress you out and then

1151
00:52:04,400 --> 00:52:06,200
you're not going to do it. 
You're gonna be like, wow, I 

1152
00:52:06,200 --> 00:52:08,500
really can't change, I suck, but
you don't suck. 

1153
00:52:08,600 --> 00:52:12,000
You just overwhelmed yourself. 
So add things in one at a time. 

1154
00:52:12,000 --> 00:52:15,200
Like, I am going to add that 
reading in a little bit later 

1155
00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:18,200
and something else that I 
haven't written down. 

1156
00:52:18,200 --> 00:52:20,900
I just noticed for my morning 
routine is, I don't go on my 

1157
00:52:20,900 --> 00:52:24,000
phone or social media for at 
least the first half hour of my 

1158
00:52:24,000 --> 00:52:26,200
day. 
And that again, has to do with 

1159
00:52:26,200 --> 00:52:29,200
like, dopamine release and 
basically, having like a 

1160
00:52:29,300 --> 00:52:31,800
Dopamine morning, which if you 
haven't seen this, like, trend 

1161
00:52:31,800 --> 00:52:35,000
on Tick Tock, it's amazing. 
And it really talks about how, 

1162
00:52:35,100 --> 00:52:37,600
if you do things are like really
high, dopamine right away in the

1163
00:52:37,600 --> 00:52:39,900
morning, it kind of like 
basically fuck up the way your 

1164
00:52:39,900 --> 00:52:42,400
dopamine releases throughout the
day, which can just make you 

1165
00:52:42,400 --> 00:52:44,800
feel like depressed and anxious 
and not how you want to be 

1166
00:52:44,808 --> 00:52:46,500
feeling. 
And so it's just not great for 

1167
00:52:46,500 --> 00:52:48,500
you. 
Obviously blue light and all 

1168
00:52:48,500 --> 00:52:50,500
that shit is not great for you 
before bed. 

1169
00:52:50,600 --> 00:52:53,200
And so I really just get like to
give myself at least a half 

1170
00:52:53,200 --> 00:52:56,300
hour, an hour would be amazing, 
but at least a half hour on 

1171
00:52:56,300 --> 00:52:59,600
either end before I go to bed. 
And when I wake up to just Be on

1172
00:52:59,600 --> 00:53:01,900
my phone especially because I 
work on my phone too. 

1173
00:53:01,900 --> 00:53:05,100
So I'll just like I had have 
such a bad habit of wanting to 

1174
00:53:05,100 --> 00:53:07,500
wake up and like go to my emails
and like see if this person has 

1175
00:53:07,500 --> 00:53:10,300
responded and like you know 
check on this video or do this 

1176
00:53:10,300 --> 00:53:12,500
or do that and read comments and
then I just get into like a 

1177
00:53:12,500 --> 00:53:14,700
whole spiral and I could just be
sitting there working for the 

1178
00:53:14,700 --> 00:53:17,100
next like eight hours if I 
wanted to you know. 

1179
00:53:17,100 --> 00:53:20,700
So I try to set some boundaries 
especially because of what I do.

1180
00:53:21,400 --> 00:53:23,700
So just to finish out talking 
about routines I want to talk 

1181
00:53:23,700 --> 00:53:27,100
about why it's important to have
a routine because I feel like we

1182
00:53:27,100 --> 00:53:28,500
all could go. 
Oh yeah, makes sense. 

1183
00:53:28,500 --> 00:53:29,500
It's helpful. 
Ever. 

1184
00:53:29,600 --> 00:53:32,900
But there is a book called 
Atomic habits. 

1185
00:53:33,100 --> 00:53:35,700
And what's who's it by? 
I'm trying to member now. 

1186
00:53:36,400 --> 00:53:39,100
Oh well, I don't know, it's like
something green. 

1187
00:53:39,200 --> 00:53:42,000
Anyways, Atomic habits is like a
very popular popular book. 

1188
00:53:42,000 --> 00:53:44,500
I'll link it below. 
If you guys haven't heard of it 

1189
00:53:44,500 --> 00:53:46,800
or you haven't read it, I would 
recommend it so much. 

1190
00:53:46,800 --> 00:53:49,500
It really did help me and 
something that he talks about in

1191
00:53:49,500 --> 00:53:53,500
it is habit stacking and 
basically, what he's saying is 

1192
00:53:53,500 --> 00:53:56,500
you ready have this regular 
routine, but it's easier to add 

1193
00:53:56,500 --> 00:53:59,000
in little things than it is to 
just like, start a whole new 

1194
00:53:59,000 --> 00:54:00,200
routine. 
Kind of like what I was saying 

1195
00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:01,900
earlier. 
So, for example, if you're 

1196
00:54:01,900 --> 00:54:04,900
someone who every morning you 
got up, you go make yourself a 

1197
00:54:04,900 --> 00:54:06,600
coffee at your coffee machine. 
And that's the first thing 

1198
00:54:06,607 --> 00:54:07,800
you're drinking. 
And you don't want to be doing 

1199
00:54:07,800 --> 00:54:08,900
that. 
You're like, I need to at least 

1200
00:54:08,908 --> 00:54:11,100
have one glass of water before I
have my coffee. 

1201
00:54:11,100 --> 00:54:15,800
Then what you can do is put like
a water glass on the coffee 

1202
00:54:15,800 --> 00:54:18,900
machine or beside the coffee 
machine every night before bed 

1203
00:54:18,900 --> 00:54:21,100
or you can just have it like 
live there, you know, I mean, 

1204
00:54:21,100 --> 00:54:23,400
you have some sort of things, 
some sort of plan like that. 

1205
00:54:23,400 --> 00:54:27,100
So then in the morning, just as 
you normally, would you go get 

1206
00:54:27,100 --> 00:54:29,300
coffee? 
But that glass is going to A 

1207
00:54:29,300 --> 00:54:31,300
trigger you to go, oh, shit. 
I need to have a glass of water 

1208
00:54:31,300 --> 00:54:33,000
before I have my coffee. 
So then you go. 

1209
00:54:33,100 --> 00:54:35,300
You feel at that glass, drink a 
glass of water, and then you're 

1210
00:54:35,300 --> 00:54:36,900
going to feel a lot better 
having that coffee. 

1211
00:54:36,900 --> 00:54:40,200
And so, I would just recommend 
doing that, like, adding in 

1212
00:54:40,200 --> 00:54:43,300
little bits, and not 
overwhelming yourself. 

1213
00:54:43,400 --> 00:54:45,200
And I think as well. 
I kind of talked about this 

1214
00:54:45,200 --> 00:54:49,700
earlier, but with a routine, it 
helps you to form a mindset of 

1215
00:54:49,700 --> 00:54:52,500
like, okay, this is who I am. 
It's not just like tomorrow 

1216
00:54:52,500 --> 00:54:53,900
morning. 
I'm going to try to get myself 

1217
00:54:53,900 --> 00:54:55,500
to work out, you know, or 
tomorrow morning. 

1218
00:54:55,500 --> 00:54:58,700
I'm going to try to get myself 
to make myself breakfast. 

1219
00:54:58,700 --> 00:55:01,000
It's like, no. 
I am someone who eats breakfast 

1220
00:55:01,000 --> 00:55:02,900
every morning. 
I can't go without my breakfast.

1221
00:55:02,900 --> 00:55:05,100
You know. 
You create this like mindset of 

1222
00:55:05,200 --> 00:55:07,100
this is who I am not just 
something. 

1223
00:55:07,100 --> 00:55:08,900
I'm trying to get myself to do, 
you know? 

1224
00:55:09,100 --> 00:55:11,700
And when you use language, like,
oh yeah, I'm trying to get 

1225
00:55:11,700 --> 00:55:14,300
myself to go to the gym, three 
days a week, like, how on 

1226
00:55:14,300 --> 00:55:16,500
motivating is that, you know, I 
mean, that's not good for you, 

1227
00:55:16,508 --> 00:55:18,500
that's not going to help you. 
Whereas, if you say like, oh 

1228
00:55:18,500 --> 00:55:20,200
yeah, I go to the gym, three 
days a week. 

1229
00:55:20,300 --> 00:55:23,100
Like I like to stay active. 
That's you confirming. 

1230
00:55:23,100 --> 00:55:26,100
That that's who you are and is a
part of your identity and you're

1231
00:55:26,100 --> 00:55:27,800
much more likely to follow 
through with it because you're 

1232
00:55:27,800 --> 00:55:30,300
not constantly going. 
Well, I'm not really good enough

1233
00:55:30,300 --> 00:55:31,600
for this but I'm trying to be 
better. 

1234
00:55:31,700 --> 00:55:33,300
You're going. 
This is who I am and like I'm 

1235
00:55:33,300 --> 00:55:34,900
capable. 
I'm fully capable of doing this 

1236
00:55:34,900 --> 00:55:38,200
and I feel like that actually 
genuinely helps and when you 

1237
00:55:38,207 --> 00:55:41,200
have a routine around it it just
makes sense in your more likely 

1238
00:55:41,200 --> 00:55:44,200
to want to do it in your body. 
It's going to get so much more 

1239
00:55:44,200 --> 00:55:46,200
comfortable with doing it. 
It's going to Crave it more. 

1240
00:55:46,200 --> 00:55:48,300
You know, when you don't 
exercise for a few days, you're 

1241
00:55:48,300 --> 00:55:50,700
going to suddenly feel all stiff
and you can be like, oh, I just 

1242
00:55:50,700 --> 00:55:52,800
need to like go on a run or need
to stretch or whatever. 

1243
00:55:52,800 --> 00:55:56,300
You'll feel it in your body, you
know, if you like, Heather 

1244
00:55:56,300 --> 00:55:58,900
aren't eating enough or you're 
eating like unhealthy foods that

1245
00:55:58,908 --> 00:56:01,500
are You feel tired and sluggish.
It's like, whoa, this is out of 

1246
00:56:01,508 --> 00:56:03,700
my routine. 
I'm feeling different because 

1247
00:56:03,700 --> 00:56:06,300
I'm not doing what I normally 
do, which is what I want to be 

1248
00:56:06,300 --> 00:56:07,900
doing. 
And so your body, and 

1249
00:56:07,900 --> 00:56:10,700
everything, really starts to get
comfortable with this new way of

1250
00:56:10,700 --> 00:56:12,900
living. 
And then it's easier to keep it 

1251
00:56:12,900 --> 00:56:14,100
up. 
And that's why routines are 

1252
00:56:14,100 --> 00:56:16,400
really, really helpful. 
Whereas if every week you're 

1253
00:56:16,400 --> 00:56:18,600
going on, I should go to the 
gym, three days a week bottle, 

1254
00:56:18,600 --> 00:56:20,900
you know, like only want to go 
oh, it's such a stretch. 

1255
00:56:20,900 --> 00:56:23,100
Oh, and you're constantly 
complaining then. 

1256
00:56:23,100 --> 00:56:25,100
Obviously, you're not going to 
want to do it, you know what I 

1257
00:56:25,107 --> 00:56:26,700
mean? 
So if you like, have it in like,

1258
00:56:26,700 --> 00:56:29,500
oh, you know, I go Tuesday, 
Thursday, and Today. 

1259
00:56:29,700 --> 00:56:32,300
And I go with my friend on 
Tuesdays and Thursdays at you 

1260
00:56:32,300 --> 00:56:34,400
should go alone and Saturdays. 
I usually let myself have a 

1261
00:56:34,400 --> 00:56:36,800
sleeping so I don't go in till 
like 12:00 but yeah, that's it, 

1262
00:56:36,800 --> 00:56:39,200
you know, you kind of just like 
know what's going to happen and 

1263
00:56:39,207 --> 00:56:41,300
it makes you feel good about 
yourself and it really confirms 

1264
00:56:41,300 --> 00:56:43,600
like who you are and makes it a 
part of who you are. 

1265
00:56:44,200 --> 00:56:46,000
Okay. 
Last but not least, we have 

1266
00:56:46,000 --> 00:56:49,400
recognizing what your habits are
and kicking bad habit. 

1267
00:56:49,400 --> 00:56:52,600
So I think we typically think we
need to add to our lives, to 

1268
00:56:52,600 --> 00:56:56,500
make it better, but often we 
forget that we also need to take

1269
00:56:56,500 --> 00:57:00,100
away things and if we keep 
adding without Taking away, we 

1270
00:57:00,100 --> 00:57:03,800
can get stuck in this limbo 
where, like, change isn't really

1271
00:57:03,800 --> 00:57:06,300
happening or sometimes we're 
even worse off. 

1272
00:57:06,300 --> 00:57:08,800
Like, for example, if you said 
to yourself, I want to start 

1273
00:57:08,800 --> 00:57:10,300
waking up early every single 
day. 

1274
00:57:10,300 --> 00:57:11,900
I want to wake up early. 
I want a book about fucking 

1275
00:57:11,900 --> 00:57:15,000
Sunrise, oh my God. 
Yes, bitch, but you aren't going

1276
00:57:15,000 --> 00:57:17,600
to bed earlier. 
Then you actually end up worse 

1277
00:57:17,600 --> 00:57:19,400
off because you're getting less 
sleep. 

1278
00:57:19,400 --> 00:57:22,400
And then we all know that having
a lack of sleep is just shit 

1279
00:57:22,400 --> 00:57:25,900
house for your brain, for your 
energy, for your mood, for your 

1280
00:57:26,300 --> 00:57:29,000
ability, to learn your ability 
to store information. 

1281
00:57:29,200 --> 00:57:31,700
For your memory, literally 
everything. 

1282
00:57:31,700 --> 00:57:34,100
Okay? 
You know, for your immunity for 

1283
00:57:34,100 --> 00:57:36,300
your body, all of it. 
You need sleep. 

1284
00:57:36,300 --> 00:57:38,500
You need need sleep. 
Actually, I'm going to make an 

1285
00:57:38,500 --> 00:57:41,100
episode on sleep soon because 
I've been thinking about this a 

1286
00:57:41,100 --> 00:57:42,000
lot. 
And I have a lot of 

1287
00:57:42,000 --> 00:57:44,100
conversations with people about 
it, and someone actually asked 

1288
00:57:44,100 --> 00:57:46,500
me to make an episode about it. 
So I'm gonna do that because 

1289
00:57:46,500 --> 00:57:49,700
sleep is like 
kih-kih-kih-kih-kih to you. 

1290
00:57:50,300 --> 00:57:54,200
So you need to figure out what 
the bad habit is. 

1291
00:57:54,200 --> 00:57:57,100
Potentially, that is stopping 
you from going to bed, early. 

1292
00:57:57,200 --> 00:57:59,000
Because, maybe you're actually 
fine at getting yourself. 

1293
00:57:59,200 --> 00:58:02,100
Wake up, if you had enough sleep
right, like there's nothing 

1294
00:58:02,100 --> 00:58:04,800
wrong with waking up early. 
The reason waking up early is 

1295
00:58:04,800 --> 00:58:06,800
usually hard for people is 
because they didn't give himself

1296
00:58:06,800 --> 00:58:08,200
enough sleep. 
So obviously, you're going to be

1297
00:58:08,200 --> 00:58:09,600
tired. 
Obviously you're gonna feel like

1298
00:58:09,600 --> 00:58:11,400
you're dragging yourself out of 
bed, you know? 

1299
00:58:11,600 --> 00:58:13,700
And especially if it's a new 
routine, probably gonna be 

1300
00:58:13,700 --> 00:58:16,000
harder on your body because your
body is just getting used to it.

1301
00:58:16,200 --> 00:58:19,200
And so, what's that thing that's
stopping you from going to bed 

1302
00:58:19,200 --> 00:58:22,000
early? 
Is it your routine of going on 

1303
00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:25,400
your phone for an hour on 
Tick-Tock scrolling in the dark 

1304
00:58:25,400 --> 00:58:26,900
before you. 
Fall asleep? 

1305
00:58:26,900 --> 00:58:30,700
Maybe maybe it's watching. 
Flicks before bed and like 

1306
00:58:30,700 --> 00:58:33,900
wanting to watch like a whole 
bunch of episodes of your show. 

1307
00:58:34,100 --> 00:58:37,700
Maybe it's like you live with a 
roommate or a partner or 

1308
00:58:37,700 --> 00:58:40,800
something, and it's like their 
schedule and you actually need 

1309
00:58:40,800 --> 00:58:42,900
to go and say to them. 
Hey I'm going to start going to 

1310
00:58:42,900 --> 00:58:45,000
bed at this time. 
Just you know, I need you to 

1311
00:58:45,000 --> 00:58:49,100
like respect that or try to go 
to bed earlier or try to like be

1312
00:58:49,100 --> 00:58:51,800
quiet or coming to bed and just 
understand that like, I really 

1313
00:58:51,800 --> 00:58:54,100
want to make this a part of my 
bubba, bubba bubba and explain 

1314
00:58:54,100 --> 00:58:56,400
to them, why it actually matters
to you and whatever, you know, 

1315
00:58:56,700 --> 00:58:59,000
you to figure out what is 
actually holding you back. 

1316
00:58:59,300 --> 00:59:01,600
And this is just one example, 
but I think it's really 

1317
00:59:01,600 --> 00:59:06,100
important and I would say, like 
I said, step one, like recognize

1318
00:59:06,100 --> 00:59:09,700
your habits, like actually sit 
down, take a piece of paper, I 

1319
00:59:09,700 --> 00:59:13,000
encourage you to do this today 
at some point, just sit down, 

1320
00:59:13,000 --> 00:59:15,500
this will take you five minutes.
Think about what are my habits 

1321
00:59:15,500 --> 00:59:18,400
that I do every single day? 
What are the things that I'm 

1322
00:59:18,400 --> 00:59:20,800
just doing all the time? 
Good and bad, right? 

1323
00:59:20,900 --> 00:59:23,600
So if it is going on your phone 
for an hour, write that shit 

1324
00:59:23,600 --> 00:59:26,100
down. 
Do not lie to yourself, right? 

1325
00:59:26,100 --> 00:59:29,000
Don't bullshit. 
Okay, this is this is step one. 

1326
00:59:29,100 --> 00:59:31,000
This is just figuring out. 
What are we even doing right 

1327
00:59:31,000 --> 00:59:32,200
now? 
Like, you know, then we're going

1328
00:59:32,200 --> 00:59:34,400
to work out the Kinks, but right
now, we need to figure out 

1329
00:59:34,500 --> 00:59:36,400
what's going on. 
And if you're noticing them 

1330
00:59:36,400 --> 00:59:38,200
every day, I'm getting really 
hungry by lunchtime because I 

1331
00:59:38,207 --> 00:59:39,600
haven't eaten anything. 
Okay, great. 

1332
00:59:39,700 --> 00:59:43,500
Write it down, maybe you have 
something like I had an 

1333
00:59:43,500 --> 00:59:45,800
addiction to vaping. 
Write that down. 

1334
00:59:45,900 --> 00:59:48,700
All right, write down all the 
things that maybe are going on. 

1335
00:59:48,700 --> 00:59:51,200
That are consistent that you 
don't like, but you can also 

1336
00:59:51,200 --> 00:59:53,400
write down, of course, things 
that are consistent that you do 

1337
00:59:53,400 --> 00:59:55,600
like and give yourself a little 
pat on the back because we love 

1338
00:59:55,600 --> 00:59:58,700
that for you and like I said 
earlier, following this theme of

1339
00:59:58,700 --> 01:00:01,400
not Too crazy at the star in 
kind of like working your way 

1340
01:00:01,400 --> 01:00:05,000
into creating these habits and 
these plans and the routines is 

1341
01:00:05,200 --> 01:00:07,900
instead of creating this big 
beautiful idealistic morning 

1342
01:00:07,900 --> 01:00:11,000
routine, start with one thing 
that you're going to take away 

1343
01:00:11,000 --> 01:00:13,100
or one thing that you're going 
to shorten. 

1344
01:00:13,100 --> 01:00:15,400
So for example, maybe you 
literally go on your phone for 

1345
01:00:15,400 --> 01:00:17,400
one full hour every night before
bed. 

1346
01:00:17,400 --> 01:00:19,500
And you know, you do it and you 
hate that you do it and you know

1347
01:00:19,500 --> 01:00:21,400
that affects your sleep. 
But you're like, it's okay. 

1348
01:00:21,400 --> 01:00:23,500
It's my time to unwind. 
Like, I love it, I enjoy it. 

1349
01:00:23,500 --> 01:00:25,100
That's, that's great. 
You know, that's fine. 

1350
01:00:25,500 --> 01:00:28,500
Don't feel like you have to go. 
Okay, I'm deleting to talk off 

1351
01:00:28,500 --> 01:00:30,600
my phone. 
Like whoa, you know I mean it's 

1352
01:00:30,600 --> 01:00:33,900
gonna be okay, take it down to 
30 minutes before bed, take it 

1353
01:00:33,900 --> 01:00:36,000
down to maybe then 15 minutes 
before bed. 

1354
01:00:36,000 --> 01:00:39,400
Slowly Chip Away. 
There is no reason that you need

1355
01:00:39,400 --> 01:00:43,300
to plunge yourself into the 
goddamn deep end and spin 

1356
01:00:43,300 --> 01:00:45,300
yourself out, all right? 
Because you're gonna go for a 

1357
01:00:45,300 --> 01:00:47,300
week of it and then you're going
to go I Mystic talk you're going

1358
01:00:47,300 --> 01:00:49,200
to download it and then you'll 
be right back into your old 

1359
01:00:49,200 --> 01:00:52,500
routine because your brain loves
routine, it loves patterns, it 

1360
01:00:52,500 --> 01:00:56,100
loves narrative, it loves 
consistency and you have like 

1361
01:00:56,100 --> 01:00:59,000
Pathways in your brain that are 
not set in stone. 

1362
01:00:59,200 --> 01:01:03,600
They're very like firm and it 
takes a while to get yourself 

1363
01:01:03,600 --> 01:01:05,800
out of those Pathways. 
And, you know, people say it 

1364
01:01:05,800 --> 01:01:07,900
takes 21 days to break a habit 
or whatever. 

1365
01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:11,100
It takes time, like, it does 
take time your brain needs to 

1366
01:01:11,100 --> 01:01:12,900
create this General 
understanding of like, this is 

1367
01:01:12,900 --> 01:01:14,700
who I am. 
This is what we're doing, you 

1368
01:01:14,700 --> 01:01:15,900
know, this is what my life looks
like. 

1369
01:01:15,900 --> 01:01:17,800
This is what I do every night. 
Totally normal for me to go on 

1370
01:01:17,800 --> 01:01:19,500
my phone for only 10 minutes, 
you know. 

1371
01:01:19,700 --> 01:01:22,600
But you need to do that over 
time and give yourself Grace as 

1372
01:01:22,600 --> 01:01:26,300
you go through it. 
And like I said, do kind of one 

1373
01:01:26,300 --> 01:01:28,700
thing at a time. 
So if you're like okay. 

1374
01:01:29,100 --> 01:01:30,300
I want to be on my phone all the
time. 

1375
01:01:30,300 --> 01:01:32,700
I also want to quit vaping. 
I also want to start reading 

1376
01:01:32,700 --> 01:01:34,200
every night before bed. 
This is me, by the way. 

1377
01:01:34,700 --> 01:01:37,200
I also want to be like, have a 
whole new cleaning schedule 

1378
01:01:37,200 --> 01:01:39,600
where I clean my flat and I keep
it like perfectly clean all the 

1379
01:01:39,600 --> 01:01:41,300
time. 
And I really want to like, do 

1380
01:01:41,300 --> 01:01:43,700
this, do this, do this. 
Create this content do this, 

1381
01:01:44,100 --> 01:01:48,200
like amazing, love ever me, but 
I cannot do that all on day one.

1382
01:01:48,200 --> 01:01:51,400
I cannot do that all on January 
1st, there's no way and I will 

1383
01:01:51,400 --> 01:01:53,200
burn out. 
I will throw myself into the 

1384
01:01:53,207 --> 01:01:57,600
deep end and I will die. 
So, don't do that, take it bit 

1385
01:01:57,600 --> 01:01:59,800
by bit, and you're going to be 
Amazing. 

1386
01:02:00,000 --> 01:02:01,600
Don't just think about the 
things that you want to add to 

1387
01:02:01,600 --> 01:02:03,100
your life. 
But also both think about the 

1388
01:02:03,100 --> 01:02:05,900
things that you want to take 
away things that just aren't 

1389
01:02:05,900 --> 01:02:08,600
making you better. 
And this isn't to say that you 

1390
01:02:08,600 --> 01:02:10,200
don't like these things. 
Okay. 

1391
01:02:10,400 --> 01:02:13,400
Let me just tell you right now. 
I like vaping. 

1392
01:02:13,400 --> 01:02:14,800
I like it. 
Okay. 

1393
01:02:14,800 --> 01:02:17,100
Obviously, I like it or I 
wouldn't have done it. 

1394
01:02:17,100 --> 01:02:20,000
Like, I was addicted to it 
because I liked how it felt, I 

1395
01:02:20,000 --> 01:02:23,000
liked what it was doing for me, 
like, you know, that's how you 

1396
01:02:23,000 --> 01:02:25,900
get into something. 
It's okay that you like the 

1397
01:02:25,900 --> 01:02:27,800
thing. 
It's okay that you like and 

1398
01:02:27,800 --> 01:02:31,700
Italy scrolling on your phone. 
So K that you like, like, laying

1399
01:02:31,700 --> 01:02:34,400
in the dark with a bright screen
and you just fucking like it, 

1400
01:02:34,400 --> 01:02:35,200
okay? 
I get that. 

1401
01:02:35,200 --> 01:02:38,000
You like it, but if you know 
that it doesn't make you better.

1402
01:02:38,000 --> 01:02:41,000
If you know that it's holding 
you back or it's causing you to 

1403
01:02:41,000 --> 01:02:43,800
have worse sleep or it's causing
you to have negative mental 

1404
01:02:43,800 --> 01:02:46,800
health effects or it's causing 
you to have physical, unhealthy 

1405
01:02:46,800 --> 01:02:50,500
effects or whatever it is. 
You are worth taking those 

1406
01:02:50,500 --> 01:02:52,400
things away. 
You know what I mean there is a 

1407
01:02:52,400 --> 01:02:56,400
certain level of self-respect 
that you want to have and as 

1408
01:02:56,400 --> 01:02:58,900
much as I want myself to have 
fun. 

1409
01:02:59,100 --> 01:03:02,000
I want to indulge and I want to 
experience life and I want to do

1410
01:03:02,000 --> 01:03:05,400
all the fun things. 
I want to respect myself enough 

1411
01:03:05,400 --> 01:03:08,800
to take away the things that are
causing me harm or holding me 

1412
01:03:08,800 --> 01:03:11,800
back and that's hard that 
self-control. 

1413
01:03:11,900 --> 01:03:13,700
And I don't have the best self 
control. 

1414
01:03:13,700 --> 01:03:15,400
I never have. 
Okay, I've always been a little 

1415
01:03:15,400 --> 01:03:16,400
bit wild. 
I've always liked. 

1416
01:03:16,400 --> 01:03:17,800
Let myself go. 
Have a good time. 

1417
01:03:17,800 --> 01:03:22,000
That's how I like to be, but 
being fun and letting yourself 

1418
01:03:22,000 --> 01:03:25,500
have fun and like experience 
life is different to letting 

1419
01:03:25,500 --> 01:03:28,700
yourself like derail yourself 
and having so little 

1420
01:03:28,700 --> 01:03:30,600
self-respect. 
Respect that you don't care if 

1421
01:03:30,600 --> 01:03:33,500
you're hurting your body or your
mental health or whatever. 

1422
01:03:33,900 --> 01:03:36,400
I want you to start to treat 
yourself like a friend, like a 

1423
01:03:36,400 --> 01:03:39,400
good friend that you really care
about and when you're thinking 

1424
01:03:39,400 --> 01:03:42,400
about what kind of advice you 
want to take in the things that 

1425
01:03:42,400 --> 01:03:45,100
you want to start implementing. 
Think about things that you 

1426
01:03:45,100 --> 01:03:47,300
would want your best friend to 
start doing for themselves. 

1427
01:03:47,300 --> 01:03:49,700
You know like we have so many 
people in our lives and we see 

1428
01:03:49,700 --> 01:03:52,100
them doing things that were like
fuck if you just stopped doing 

1429
01:03:52,100 --> 01:03:54,400
this thing you'd be so much 
happier or if you started 

1430
01:03:54,400 --> 01:03:56,700
thinking this way you would be 
so much better off. 

1431
01:03:56,700 --> 01:03:58,600
We don't do it with our self 
enough, you know. 

1432
01:03:59,100 --> 01:04:02,200
Times we can be hard on 
ourselves with very specific 

1433
01:04:02,200 --> 01:04:05,400
things like, you know, I need to
lose x amount of weight, or I 

1434
01:04:05,400 --> 01:04:08,600
need to do this amount of like 
reading per day. 

1435
01:04:08,600 --> 01:04:10,600
I need to be very specific on 
these numbers. 

1436
01:04:10,800 --> 01:04:12,900
But then, when it comes to 
things that we need to take away

1437
01:04:12,900 --> 01:04:16,700
that are glaringly obvious like,
yes, reading, 15 minutes a day 

1438
01:04:16,700 --> 01:04:18,000
is going to help you. 
That's amazing. 

1439
01:04:18,100 --> 01:04:19,900
But when there's something 
that's glaringly obvious that 

1440
01:04:19,900 --> 01:04:23,800
you are doing, that is not 
helping you at all, like, try to

1441
01:04:23,800 --> 01:04:25,500
actually think about what those 
things are. 

1442
01:04:25,600 --> 01:04:28,700
And don't let yourself continue 
to have these vices in these 

1443
01:04:28,700 --> 01:04:31,400
crutches, Has consistently. 
It's okay to have things from 

1444
01:04:31,400 --> 01:04:33,400
time to time. 
It's okay to slip up but you 

1445
01:04:33,400 --> 01:04:35,600
want to have a routine where 
you're consistently making 

1446
01:04:35,600 --> 01:04:38,900
choices where you are showing 
that you genuinely, love, love, 

1447
01:04:38,900 --> 01:04:42,400
love, love, love and respect 
yourself because that is how 

1448
01:04:42,408 --> 01:04:46,000
you're going to grow self love 
and have a good relationship 

1449
01:04:46,000 --> 01:04:47,800
with yourself. 
You're constantly making 

1450
01:04:47,800 --> 01:04:51,100
decisions that put you last, 
you're gonna feel like shit 

1451
01:04:51,100 --> 01:04:53,800
about yourself and it is going 
to affect every area of your 

1452
01:04:53,800 --> 01:04:55,800
life. 
So it is worth taking the time 

1453
01:04:55,900 --> 01:04:58,600
to think about what are the 
things that I am doing that? 

1454
01:04:58,600 --> 01:05:01,600
Aren't It for me that are 
holding me back and how can I 

1455
01:05:01,600 --> 01:05:05,100
start to slowly, get rid of 
those things or potentially cut 

1456
01:05:05,100 --> 01:05:06,500
off cold turkey, if you're like 
me. 

1457
01:05:06,500 --> 01:05:08,700
And that's how you kind of have 
to do it with actual, 

1458
01:05:08,700 --> 01:05:12,200
addictions, and move away from 
those things because you are 

1459
01:05:12,200 --> 01:05:16,400
worth like, loving and taking 
the time with and actually 

1460
01:05:16,400 --> 01:05:19,500
pushing through with and being 
soft with yourself and like, 

1461
01:05:19,600 --> 01:05:23,700
allowing yourself to heal. 
Just a few quick tips on kicking

1462
01:05:23,700 --> 01:05:26,000
and breaking the bad habits and 
then we are out of here. 

1463
01:05:26,000 --> 01:05:28,900
So we're placing. 
The Habit is really helpful for 

1464
01:05:29,000 --> 01:05:30,600
Me. 
I was using these little ripples

1465
01:05:30,600 --> 01:05:33,800
sticks as an alternative to 
vaping, because it helped with 

1466
01:05:33,800 --> 01:05:36,100
the emotion of putting something
up to my mouth all the time. 

1467
01:05:36,400 --> 01:05:41,000
So we're placing it in some way 
even like I said, I like to have

1468
01:05:41,000 --> 01:05:43,600
a drink right away in the 
morning, that is not just water.

1469
01:05:43,600 --> 01:05:46,000
I started doing that collagen 
drink instead of doing the 

1470
01:05:46,000 --> 01:05:48,500
coffee because I still feel like
I'm having a drink, but I know 

1471
01:05:48,500 --> 01:05:51,000
that it's something that's 
actually going to benefit me, 

1472
01:05:51,100 --> 01:05:53,400
right? 
Our brains love repetition, love

1473
01:05:53,400 --> 01:05:55,000
predictability. 
So find something that works for

1474
01:05:55,000 --> 01:05:58,100
you and stick with it. 
Secondly, remember that it's 

1475
01:05:58,100 --> 01:06:00,000
always going to be the Is at the
start. 

1476
01:06:00,000 --> 01:06:02,800
It's still conscious, right? 
It's still decision. 

1477
01:06:02,800 --> 01:06:06,300
Making, it's still Choice. 
It's still effort and that takes

1478
01:06:06,300 --> 01:06:10,300
more brain power, which it might
be more exhausting at the start,

1479
01:06:10,300 --> 01:06:14,000
which is why I again, encourage 
you to take things one thing at 

1480
01:06:14,000 --> 01:06:15,700
a time. 
So that you're not feeling 

1481
01:06:15,700 --> 01:06:18,100
extremely overwhelmed and you 
actually believe that this is 

1482
01:06:18,100 --> 01:06:21,000
something that is doable for you
number three. 

1483
01:06:21,000 --> 01:06:24,100
And this is actually a really 
big one is knowing your why and 

1484
01:06:24,100 --> 01:06:27,200
educating yourself. 
So, if you know that something 

1485
01:06:27,200 --> 01:06:29,600
isn't healthy for you just 
saying to Elf, well, it's 

1486
01:06:29,600 --> 01:06:31,500
unhealthy, that's not going to 
convince you. 

1487
01:06:31,500 --> 01:06:35,500
When you have a craving or you 
want to quit, you know, your new

1488
01:06:35,500 --> 01:06:37,400
plan that you finally set up for
yourself. 

1489
01:06:37,600 --> 01:06:40,700
But you know when you can say to
yourself well actually it's not 

1490
01:06:40,700 --> 01:06:43,400
just that it's unhealthy for me.
It affects my immune system. 

1491
01:06:43,400 --> 01:06:46,700
It causes me anxiety. 
It affects my skin, you know, it

1492
01:06:47,000 --> 01:06:48,900
affects my relationships. 
It Bubba, Bubba, Bubba. 

1493
01:06:49,200 --> 01:06:51,500
Then you're like, oh fuck. 
Yeah, that's motivating. 

1494
01:06:51,500 --> 01:06:54,400
Like that makes me not want to 
do that thing or makes me want 

1495
01:06:54,400 --> 01:06:57,200
to implement this thing in my 
life because I actually feel 

1496
01:06:57,200 --> 01:07:01,400
like educated and I have a On 
why having a strong, why having 

1497
01:07:01,400 --> 01:07:04,400
a strong conviction on why you 
are doing something or not? 

1498
01:07:04,400 --> 01:07:07,400
Doing something is so important 
for like, every area of your 

1499
01:07:07,400 --> 01:07:09,000
life. 
And this is going, I could talk 

1500
01:07:09,000 --> 01:07:13,100
about all day but I really have 
found that for me when it comes 

1501
01:07:13,100 --> 01:07:16,200
to my routines and it comes to 
my health it's like it's been 

1502
01:07:16,200 --> 01:07:19,400
the biggest thing that has 
helped me because yes you can be

1503
01:07:19,400 --> 01:07:21,400
aware exercise is important for 
me. 

1504
01:07:21,500 --> 01:07:23,300
Sure, love that. 
It's helpful. 

1505
01:07:23,300 --> 01:07:27,200
It's healthy, we love that. 
But why why do you actually want

1506
01:07:27,200 --> 01:07:29,800
to exercise how can you You see 
it. 

1507
01:07:29,800 --> 01:07:33,000
As more for me, I go to pilates 
not just because I want to 

1508
01:07:33,200 --> 01:07:35,500
maintain my weight no, fuck 
that. 

1509
01:07:35,500 --> 01:07:37,600
I go to Pilates because I want 
to feel strong. 

1510
01:07:37,700 --> 01:07:41,000
I go to Pilates because I feel 
so much better after any kind of

1511
01:07:41,000 --> 01:07:42,400
back. 
Pain and knee joint pain. 

1512
01:07:42,400 --> 01:07:44,800
Anything I had before like 
magically goes away because of 

1513
01:07:44,808 --> 01:07:48,100
pilates, pilates is amazing. 
I go because it helps my mental 

1514
01:07:48,100 --> 01:07:49,900
health. 
It gives me energy for the day. 

1515
01:07:50,100 --> 01:07:52,700
I'd go because it keeps me 
connected with like, a community

1516
01:07:52,700 --> 01:07:54,700
of people. 
And it's always fun and 

1517
01:07:54,700 --> 01:07:56,900
uplifting gets me out of the 
house. 

1518
01:07:57,100 --> 01:07:58,900
That's why I go to Pilates, you 
know what I mean? 

1519
01:07:59,000 --> 01:08:00,800
And I took the time to think 
about what those things are 

1520
01:08:00,800 --> 01:08:03,900
actually doing for me. 
And that's why I stay so 

1521
01:08:03,900 --> 01:08:06,700
motivated to keep going, 
whereas, if I was just like, all

1522
01:08:06,700 --> 01:08:08,500
go to Pilates, because I don't 
want to stay fit in. 

1523
01:08:08,500 --> 01:08:11,100
Like, if I don't then like, I'm 
gonna gain weight. 

1524
01:08:11,100 --> 01:08:13,200
Oh my God. 
And I'm obviously, that's not 

1525
01:08:13,200 --> 01:08:14,700
gonna be motivating. 
And that's what a lot of people 

1526
01:08:14,700 --> 01:08:16,500
do. 
They think very like surface 

1527
01:08:16,500 --> 01:08:18,000
level and it's not going to help
you. 

1528
01:08:18,000 --> 01:08:21,399
So, take some time to figure out
your wise, figure out why you're

1529
01:08:21,399 --> 01:08:24,200
even doing this, what you want 
in 2023. 

1530
01:08:24,300 --> 01:08:27,700
You know, why you're still here,
why you're pushing forward, why 

1531
01:08:27,700 --> 01:08:30,200
you're still in? 
Maybe the Career in or why 

1532
01:08:30,200 --> 01:08:31,899
you're changing the career that 
you're in. 

1533
01:08:32,100 --> 01:08:34,899
Why you're studying the thing 
you're studying or why you are 

1534
01:08:34,899 --> 01:08:38,200
changing that thing and really 
start to ground yourself, and 

1535
01:08:38,200 --> 01:08:40,700
make sure that you are working 
towards the things that you want

1536
01:08:40,700 --> 01:08:44,399
because you deserve it, you 
deserve to have the dreams that 

1537
01:08:44,399 --> 01:08:46,200
you have in your brain come to 
life. 

1538
01:08:46,200 --> 01:08:49,500
Like you are absolutely capable 
one day at a time. 

1539
01:08:49,500 --> 01:08:52,500
You are making things happen, 
and I'm so excited for you for 

1540
01:08:52,500 --> 01:08:54,600
2023. 
So thank you guys so much for 

1541
01:08:54,600 --> 01:08:56,100
listening. 
I hope you liked today's 

1542
01:08:56,200 --> 01:08:58,000
episode. 
Please let me know if you liked 

1543
01:08:58,000 --> 01:09:01,300
it or What you liked about it or
anything, I just love getting 

1544
01:09:01,300 --> 01:09:03,600
feedback from you guys. 
It really does help me and it 

1545
01:09:03,600 --> 01:09:06,899
gives me good direction for like
where to go in the future. 

1546
01:09:07,399 --> 01:09:10,300
And if there are any episodes 
that you would like to hear or 

1547
01:09:10,300 --> 01:09:13,600
any topics you'd like me to talk
on, please feel free to DM me on

1548
01:09:13,600 --> 01:09:15,500
Instagram. 
My Instagram is Alyssa, Taylor 

1549
01:09:15,500 --> 01:09:17,700
Harbor. 
And my Tick Tock is also Alyssa 

1550
01:09:17,700 --> 01:09:19,399
Taylor Harbor. 
And that's it. 

1551
01:09:19,399 --> 01:09:21,300
You can find me there, I'll link
it all below. 

1552
01:09:21,600 --> 01:09:25,000
Also, if you don't already 
follow the podcast on Spotify or

1553
01:09:25,000 --> 01:09:28,000
apple podcast. 
Please follow on one of those 

1554
01:09:28,000 --> 01:09:30,800
apps where Were you listen? 
Because it really helps me helps

1555
01:09:30,800 --> 01:09:33,700
people to see the episodes. 
And that's it. 

1556
01:09:34,000 --> 01:09:37,899
Oh, also we have a Facebook 
group now as well. 

1557
01:09:38,000 --> 01:09:39,600
We have like almost 200 of us on
there. 

1558
01:09:39,600 --> 01:09:41,899
Now, I think it's very cute. 
Skill Community. 

1559
01:09:41,899 --> 01:09:43,399
We love it. 
It's called The she said what 

1560
01:09:43,399 --> 01:09:46,399
podcast group. 
So come join us because we have 

1561
01:09:46,399 --> 01:09:48,500
some fun on there. 
So thank you so much. 

1562
01:09:48,500 --> 01:09:50,899
Love you guys, and I will talk 
to you next time. 

1563
01:09:51,000 --> 01:09:51,700
Bye.