2024 was the year of making so many new things happen.
The Queer Country Club was birthed, I met my future wife.
I got a home. There's just so much to be
grateful for, and let's just start this episode by sharing
what my goals are for this year. Topics and allies.
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Let's rise, let's rise, let's rise, let's rise, let's rise,
let's rise. Hey Lesbos, it's 2025.
Well, tomorrow will be. I'm about to be curled up with
my future wife side by side dreaming together and I wanted
to spill the life that we're mapping out together for the new
year to help you map out your life for the new year.
Whether your goals look like mine or if they look crazy
different from mine, I always am inspired by hearing what
someone's dreaming of, especially when someone is going
after it hard and really actually going to make it
happen. And if you followed me for a
while, when I say I'm going to do something, you know, I make
it happen. I'm making so many new things
happen. The Queer Country Club was
birthed, I met my future wife, I got a home.
There's just so much to be grateful for and let's just
start this episode by sharing what my goals are for this year,
which are very different than last year's goals.
The intention I'm setting for our relationship and our lives.
And as I go along, think about what you are intentioning for
yourself. For me, healthier habits are
really important Over the past couple years, if if you follow
for a while, you know, I was like a workout aholic.
I was very passionate about being in the gym everyday and I
was rock solid in my routine there.
But since building my businesses and managing a team, it's not
really even the business, it's managing A-Team and like showing
up and being a leader 1st for my team, which requires me to make
myself available at the very beginning of the day for them to
lead. And that sometimes cuts into my
natural flow of working out. And so I really want to develop
a habit with my partner of what our workout routine is going to
look like. And I'm having to get honest
with myself. And maybe you need to do this
too. Maybe the routine that you've
created for yourself in the past is no longer something that just
makes sense for your lifestyle. So for me, I find I'm so
creative in the morning. I just want to wake up and make
content. I'm excited about my work.
I'm excited about what's going on in the Queer Country Club and
it, like I said, I lead the team, so it's hard to Get Me Out
of the door and go work out. And then I feel like after I
work out, sometimes I'm not as clear immediate immediately
after. Like I'll have that clarity and
dopamine a few hours later. It's not always immediately
after for me. So I end up feeling like slower
after I work out. So I'm thinking I need to
reframe my, I think we like are hard on ourselves.
We beat up on ourselves and it's like, oh, if I can't work out in
the morning, I might as well just not do it.
And I get like frustrated. I'm going to reframe it as I
work out between I'll start my workout between 12:00 and 2:00
and I'll do an hour workout and then come back and do a few
hours of work that doesn't require me to be extremely
strategic or creative, just simpler work that I need to get
done. So that is one thing that I am
working on for myself, healthier habits and seeing what that's
going to look like for me and my partner to do that together.
Will we schedule our classes together?
Will we have different workouts? I love yoga, she loves boxing.
So those are only like literally.
And people are like, Oh my gosh, what are y'all?
How like are you? How different are you?
That's really the only thing I can think of that's different
about us. As she loves more intense
workouts and I love gentle workouts that are better for my
body and my muscles because my body needs different things than
her body does. So healthier habits is the
biggest thing that I want to change for us.
And with that comes not being hard on myself or just
completely throwing the baby out with the bathwater when it comes
to like, oh, I didn't work out at this time today, so that I'm
not even going to work out at all.
OK. The next thing is more work life
balance. I have learned that success does
not have to come from burnout, from pain.
Through the summer traveling, I realized a lot of my greatest
clarity came from me actually having fun and engaging with my
community and just seeing what would genuinely be needed there.
And if I would have been so focused on just work and the
things that came with me being solely a social media
strategist, I wouldn't have had my heart open and receptive to
founding the Queer Country Club. So because of the balance I
created, because of going to Italy, because of falling in
love, I was able to have conversations with my partner
that led me to have the ideas for Queer Country Club.
I remember existing in this space where I truly worked 14
hours a day pretty much for almost three years.
And this year it is finished. I physically can't do that
anymore. I mean, even right now I'm
sitting here recording with a little heat pack on my neck
because I had been like trying to get back into working out and
push myself too hard too soon on a reformer and Pilates.
And I just realize so much. I don't know if it's just like
hitting 32 or it's just for me, like hitting these roadblocks
and being like, damn, I need to take care of myself.
But what I've learned is if you do not schedule a rest the way
you schedule work, the way you schedule anything that's
important to you in your life, then your body will force you to
rest. Like I need to go get a massage
at 1:00 today because I literally am struggling to turn
my head And like that is that is something that I've learned I
need to do for myself before I actually have a worse issue come
about. OK, so instead of me pushing
through, I'm like sitting here with my little heat pack.
I've already called to schedule my massage and I'm like, I'm
going to have balance, even if that means in the beginning of a
day I've got to go take a little break or take a nap or whatever
is needed for my body and my nervous system.
I'm putting it first. For me, work life balance is
going to look like what is healthiest for my nervous system
right now. And I don't think that like you
can just answer that question for yourself and live your life
around it if you aren't extremely self aware.
For me, if I were to just put off things that needed to be
done, things on my To Do List, things that are like really,
really important and didn't have balance and went swung the
pendulum way too far into like, oh, I'm just going to be flowy
and feminine and never stress about anything again, that would
actually give me more anxiety. And that would actually be
really bad for my nervous system.
So I've learned that for me, having balance looks like
checking with my nervous system. Is it going to give me more
anxiety if I don't handle this thing right now?
Or is my body needing something different right now?
Is my brain, is my heart needing something different right now?
Finding balance is like what is actually healthiest for me in
every single moment, moment to moment.
Healthy is not just relaxing all the time and healthy is not just
working all the time. And that's a big realization for
me. So maybe that is something you
need to like own up to as well this year.
And the third thing that I really, really want to make
priority in 2025 is big, big adventures.
I want to plan a summer of travel, whether that's across.
Right now on our list, we have Europe, Paris.
I really want to go see Mary Magdalene's Cave of Eggs, I
believe is what it's called. And Mary Magdalene, I'm like
obsessed with her. And what's so cool is what I met
my beautiful future wife. She was really obsessed with
Mary Magdalene too and not everyone knows about her in
mainstream faith. They painted her as a prostitute
to discredit her. And I'm going to geek out for a
minute but I'm truly obsessed. I truly believe that her and
Jesus had a relationship as well as Jesus and John probably
having a relationship. No one can be sure, but I think
ruling that out is extremely homophobic.
And I think for Jesus to have been fully man, fully God, if
you believe in that, I mean, to be fully human would be to have
a sexual experience. So that's just my thoughts.
And I believe that Mary Magdalene and Jesus manifested
so much together. And Mary Magdalene was the first
person that Jesus was like, dude, go talk about all the
miracles. And he gave that authority and
job to share the love of God to a woman.
Sorry for geeking out. If you don't already know.
I'm inner spiritual and very passionate about uprooting all
of the sick shit that I was taught and evangelical
Christianity. And that was hard for me to
process as I was coming out of the closet.
And now I've been reconnecting with my spirituality and I'm
just very much cherry picking all the things from each faith
that make me smile and leaning back into the words of Jesus.
I wouldn't even say the whole Bible at all because not
interested in treating that like modern day law.
I think it was just a recollection of history and
beautiful figurative stories. And then there were the words of
Jesus, which are powerful and beautiful.
And I, I'm obsessed with Mary Magdalene, even though they took
her a lot out of the Bible. I've done a lot of research.
I've read her pieces of her book that are left that weren't
destroyed. They're only, I believe 6 pages
that weren't destroyed from her book.
And I got into this by reading Mary Magdalene Revealed by Megan
Watterson. And then I started like looking
up the actual like, scrolls of hers that were leftover.
And after all my research, I just, I have Angel bumps even
talking about it now. I really want to go see The Cave
of Eggs. And you have to like hike to it.
So that's my dream with my partner to go to France, go to
The Cave of Eggs, go shopping at the original Chanel store in
Paris, and to go to Disneyland Paris.
These are my biggest dreams for 2025 and if for some reason we
wouldn't travel out of the US or out of North America, then my
dream would be to explore. Canada.
I've heard there's really good wine country there, so I would
love to experience that as well as see the city of Vancouver and
of course, go to Disney World. I am obsessed with Disney World.
Oh, and go to New York for a Broadway show, at least one in
New York City. So those are my like North
American big adventure desires. Oh wait, one more thing.
I would love to go to Canyon Ranch for a spa weekend together
where we all so like turn off our phones, tap out.
And from what I researched, they have these incredible, like,
detoxing for couples experiences and you get like your meals
prepared for you and you're just in a very serene state the
entire time. I would love to do a phoneless
experience. And I think I am at the point
where I could do that for a couple days.
So yeah, that's the goal, although I literally can't
imagine turning my phone off for that long because I'm always
yaming you guys, I'm always posting new content, but it is
something that I think would be healthy for me and necessary.
So those are my dreams of travel.
Again, I don't expect to do it all, but if we would go out of
the country, out of North America, I would want to do all
that in Paris. And if we were to stay here,
definitely Canyon Ranch, Disney World, New York City for
Broadway, and then heading out to wine country and Vancouver
and Canada. Sounds like the things on my
bucket list for this year. That's a lot, but I have been
calculating. On average, I travel every two
months, whether it's something I plan or my partner plans.
But I've been looking at my like I documented in my journal for
the past three years, I go somewhere every two months.
And it doesn't mean it's somewhere fancy.
It could literally be like driving to a beach that's within
a few hours away. It could be visiting New Orleans
for the weekend. Everyone thinks that I live in
New Orleans or near New Orleans because when you hear the word
Louisiana, all you think of is New Orleans.
But I actually live 2 1/2 hours away.
It can be even more with traffic.
So I don't go often. I probably visit New Orleans
once or twice a year, usually twice at some point.
And I just would love to do that more.
I would love to go on more weekend trips to New Orleans and
enjoy the food and the culture that's there.
It's just so rich and so much more diversity than what I have
in my small town. And I think like from hearing
these three goals, I can pinpoint, I just really want a
softer way of living, a more balanced way of living,
committing to success without hustle.
My partner is also going really, really, really big this year.
She is an entrepreneur as well. And we both have really, really,
really big goals. But she's extremely balanced.
Like, she's been extremely successful but does not stress
about anything and always makes time for fun and relaxing.
And there's a word she uses. I wish I could remember it.
What is, what does she call it? Productive downtime.
Yeah. We both love to be productive,
but like having productive downtime together, like where
we're doing something we know we need to get done, but like it's
very peaceful. Like I want productive downtime
of like making vision board together.
I want productive downtime of us having like dates where we plan
our vitamin infusions together or go and get our nails done
together or taking a walk together because we needed to
get our movement in for the day. So I'm hoping that our
productive downtime really aligns.
And we can prioritize that together so we can have a softer
way of living. And I want to learn how to cook
a little bit. She can cook.
I've never taken time to learn how to cook.
It makes me sad. I am not complaining about
anything. I'm grateful for the life that
I've created, but I got here from hustling and I just want to
like, scale it back just a little and enjoy cooking in the
evenings and like truly turning off my phone at a certain time.
Like that's just the goal. I'm curious, what is your
biggest thing that you want to manifest in your life in 2025?
For me it is not even like, oh, making more money.
Oh, manifesting my future wife. Like I've done, been there, done
that. Like I want to manifest a soft
life, like having it all and getting it all while having a
soft life. And I'm curious what is the
thing for you? Maybe you're in the stage or
you're like I'm manifesting the most money I've ever made.
I'm manifesting my art blowing up on the Internet.
I'm manifesting my music career success.
I'm manifesting getting a new promotion.
I'm manifesting getting my future wife, meeting her and
falling in love. If that's you, let me know, DM
me. I would love to hold space for
your dreams. I would love to cheer you on and
see what incredible things in New Year's going to bring you.
Because if you claim it, and if you keep your focus on it, it
will come. I literally write what I want on
my bathroom mirror and I thank God for it every single day.
Every single day, Oh, I'm so relaxed.
I'm even yawning. I like this.
I'm already manifesting. That's off life.
I just hope that by listening to my story, by listening to this
podcast, by seeing how queer women can rise and fall in love
and find success, that you don't think of it as me or the women
telling their stories is bragging.
It's only showing what is possible for you.
Whether it's love, whether it's better health, whether it's more
work life balance, whether it's a grand adventure, every single
thing is possible. And if you're looking for your
future wife, golly, here's my shamus plug for the Queer
Country Club, my lesbian dating platform, or as I like to call
it, relationship platform. Because I'm not interested in
anyone being on my platform who isn't looking for their lifelong
relationship. And I do have goals for that
This year. I, I am so grateful for the
Queer Country Club and how quickly it developed and how
quickly it became a success and how quickly women are finding
love inside of it. But my dream is to make it even
more aligned with the high quality intentional space it was
built to be. And I'm not really interested in
like making a lot more money this year and money grabs like
most apps that let every single woman in This morning I was on
it's TikTok live and people were just asking questions about the
queer Country Club and what's it like to be matched with women
inside. And I said it's, it's different
than regular dating apps where you're swiping through hundreds
of thousands of women that you're not interested in that,
to be quite honest, just look like shit and don't have their
shit together. And I'm very interested in
creating a space where women know when they come in, they
literally are getting handed the Rolodex of all the most
incredible, brilliant, beautiful lesbians in the world.
I don't want it to be a place for noise.
This is a swipeless app. It is a true community.
There's no swiping fatigue. This is not contributing to
dating app addiction where you're swiping all the time.
It's about real aligned, meaningful connection and as
your founder, know that I'm focused on quality over quantity
of women because you deserve a space where you meet the right
woman, not just get lost in chaos.
Seriously. That's why when women come in,
we've had women meet their life partners and as soon as two
weeks to two months, because the women inside are ready.
They're they're there because they're there for their life
partner, they're ready to settle down.
Oh, oh, I wanted to share this for the next three days, you
guys can unlock a special half off initiation fee rate using
the code 2025 love. That's 2025 love all one word
and that will get you into the club at an initiation fee less
than $24.00. That's half off the initiation
fee. The Queer Country Club works
with initiation fee, typically a $47 and then you choosing your
subscription of 17 a month or 97 for the year.
And if you use that code 2025 love, you'll get in your
initiation fee for only $24.00 and then you'll choose a $17.00
subscription per month or just pay 97 for the year.
I really want everyone to stop hunting and find your future
wife because love could be, could be just days away.
I'm praying it is for you because this little life, the
soft life that I want to create for 2025 with my future wifey is
everything I've ever prayed for. Everything.
I'm so grateful. I'm so grateful for you, I'm so
grateful for her. I'm so grateful for this life,
and I pray that you feel the very same.
I'm wishing you the most beautiful, soft, abundant 2025
and I hope to see you inside of the Queer Country Club.
If you're not already a member, join for the next three days
only with half off the initiation fee rate at using
code 2025 Love. You can join by going to
queercountryclub.com and apply or you can go to the link in the
show notes or you can DM me on Instagram and we could have a
chat if you have any questions. But I'm wishing you the most
beautiful, most abundant, most filled with love 2025 ever.
And I want you to have faith because so much can change in
such a short amount of time. If you haven't listened to my
podcast about last Christmas Eve begging for my lesbian X versus
this Christmas Eve being in my new home and being so happy and
at peace, you should go listen to it.
So much can change. I am evidence of that for you
and your 2025 is going to be amazing.
Are you in full agreement as clear women?
That's women with an X Because of course we are inclusive here.