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us on this episode. How to strengthen your
relationship by practicing semen retention or even better, semen
intention. This is the holistic Alpha Male
Optimization podcast where we help you unleash your true power
as a man. Hey guys, welcome back to the
show. I'm Steven Mathis, Thanks for
being here with me. Let's talk about how practicing
senior attention can strengthen your relationship, why it will
strengthen your relationship when you practice it mindfully
and consistently over time, and exactly how to implement that.
But first of all, let's talk about the difference between
semen retention and semen intention.
I still will use both terms. They're fine, but I really like
the term semen intention because that's what it's really about.
See a lot of guys, when they first hear about this idea, when
they first start practicing it, even sometimes years into
practicing, it will still be of the mindset that practicing
semen retention means that somehow releasing is a bad
thing. We need to release as
infrequently as possible and just continually push those
stretches or they'll get locked in on sort of certain time
frames. And it's really not about that.
When it brings the most benefits to you as a man is when you let
go of the the dogma around it and you focus instead on merely
approaching this very important, very impactful, very
energetically impactful part of our life with intention.
Meaning you have intention around how often you're
releasing and under what circumstances you're releasing.
You choose a path, and what you will find is that when you
actually listen to the gauges in your body and you choose a path,
that path is going to be something other than just
constantly releasing all the time, under every circumstance,
right? Every time you masturbate, every
time you have sex. That path for 99.99999% of guys
is not going to put you in a position to thrive in your life.
There's no intention in that. It's just this automatic
linkage. Oh, if I do something sexual,
then I'm going to release. And it's all about that getting
there, right? So seeing intention is about
recognizing this is a very important and impactful part of
our life. It energetically, emotionally,
sexually, and in your relationship, it impacts you in
big ways. So let's approach it with
intention. And yeah, that probably will
mean ejaculating. Left less often, it will mean
ejaculating in situations that you choose to and at the
frequency that you choose to, but it doesn't mean never again
by any stretch of the imagination.
When you practice this, it absolutely will strengthen your
relationship, especially if you approach it with an open mind,
if you stay committed to it, if you're communicating.
We'll talk about some of those things in a minute.
But when you put this into practice in your relationship,
I've seen it over and over and over again in my own life and
from so many guys, this absolutely will strengthen your
relationship. It's a little bit of a change
for sure to practice some sort of retention or intention around
ejaculation, to practice it within our own being, and yes,
to practice in the context of relationship.
It definitely is a change. But one of the things that is so
important to experience, not to just understand as an idea when
I say it now, but to experience and that is that we're not
giving something up. What we're actually doing is
trading something in for something much better, right?
So we're trading in this Willy nilly approach where you just
release all the time under every circumstance.
We're trading that in for something much, much more
powerful and indeed more pleasurable.
It's going to lift up and light up your being and your
relationship in a lot of ways. Let's talk about how it does
that. One of the ways that practicing
retention will strengthen your relationship is it both builds
and bodies or allows you to embody discipline.
Discipline is very attractive. Discipline is magnetic.
It is attractive to your partner, especially sexual
discipline or including sexual discipline.
It's also magnetically attractive to the universe.
When we live with discipline, that helps draw in more good
stuff into our life, thriving and getting the most life out of
our life. It requires some discipline and
that doesn't mean we don't have fun or we don't experience
pleasure or we don't have freedom.
What it actually means is the exact opposite of that.
We have more pleasure, more freedom, more fun in our life
when we embody discipline. And I can tell you that when you
embody discipline in your relationship, it will be a good
thing for your relationship and it absolutely will strengthen
it, especially when you embody it in this way.
Now, again, a lot of women or your partners as well may have
some coming around to do and some perspective shifts that
happened over time. So it doesn't mean that they're
going to immediately think that it's awesome that it's
disciplined and that that's a very cool thing that you're
practicing this. They might, but as they
experience it, they will. So we'll talk a little bit more
about the communication and how to actually implement that.
But once you get into this, that embodiment of discipline will be
a very good thing for your relationship.
Another way that practicing semen retention or intention
strengthens your relationship is it keeps the biological primal
drive to connect strong. So on a very fundamental primal
kind of level, we have sex or we have the desire to have sex
because we need to procreate and continue the species.
And leading up to that or until that happens, there's that
strong drive, right? You felt that, of course.
And then in the immediate aftermath of release, that drive
goes way down. Right now, that's not a bad
thing. It's as it should be, right?
You've in the moment from a, again, a biological kind of
level, you served done your job in the procreation department,
right? So our bodies kind of shift and
say, OK, temporarily, that's not really that critical.
I'm not going to really give a lot of energy to that.
And what you will feel is that not only does your energy
sometimes go down in the aftermath of ejaculation, at
least in the immediate aftermath, your arousal and
excitement around your partner probably is going to go down as
well. Now, it doesn't mean that you
fundamentally feel differently about your partner.
If you've been married for 20 years, you're not going to all
of a sudden, as you very well know, you're not going to all of
a sudden not love your partner because you ejaculated.
But what will happen is your excitement and your kind of
draw, that magnetic, electric kind of charge between the two
of you that's going to go down. It's going to go down.
So when we practice approaching release with intention, we keep
that charge higher and it keeps that that like charge where if
you felt with a partner where you can't keep your hands off
each other and that kind of pull towards each other.
And it doesn't mean that it's to that point where you can't keep
your hands off each other, but that kind of energetic pull
together when you practice semen intention, it's going to keep
that charge higher. Another way the practicing
senior attention is going to strengthen your relationship is
releases mean more. When you're not releasing all
the time, every single time that you're together now, they're
going to mean a lot more, which is a very special thing, right?
And makes it a more meaningful thing.
And it should be a meaningful thing because it's a very, very
impactful thing. It impacts us as a being and it
certainly impacts the relationship.
Another way that practicing semen intention is going to
strengthen your relationship is you're going to have better,
longer lasting sex period. When you have the kind of
control that it will take to practice this, not only within
your own solo practice, but in your relationship, you're going
to be able to have better, longer lasting sex.
And it's not that every time having sex has to be a marathon,
but in general, when we have longer lasting sex, it's more
deeply connecting. That's it going to again, bring
you closer together, not only strengthen that intimate part of
your relationship, but strengthen the relationship
itself. Another way that practicing this
will strengthen your relationship is you're going to
be better. You're going to show up better
in your life. You're going to show up with
more confidence. You're going to be more
committed to stuff. You're going to be more
creative. You're going to have a higher
energy and stamina. You're going to be funnier.
You're going to you're going to have so much more life in you
that you're going to show up better.
You're going to get better results in your family life in,
you know, being a father with your friends in your business.
You're going to show up better and of course that's going to be
attractive to your partner and is going to again, bring you
together. So there are million little
nuanced kind of ways that practicing this in your
relationship can can strengthen it and will strengthen it.
Those are some of the big ones. I can promise you.
I've heard from man after man after man who's put this into
practice that once they sort of get over the humps that are
required to, to get to a place where this is really kind of
flowing and part of not only their practice individually, but
also part of their relationship. Undeniably it makes their
relationship stronger. I would love to hear, by the
way, in the comments below, some of you guys who are experiencing
that. Throw a comment below this.
Let's talk about how to implement this.
Obviously, that's what really matters.
We got to put this into practice.
So the first thing to putting us into practice is in your solo
practice, right? So if you aren't able to
effectively practice retention within your own body and being
and masturbating in your solo practice, you're not going to be
able to carry that in your relationship.
That is the required foundation is the prerequisite, right?
So the very kind of the simple way to practice this in the
beginning is if you're having some kind of regular sex,
meaning let's say anywhere in the multiple times a month kind
of category or more. If you're having regular sex, my
suggestion would be that you don't release alone or very
rarely release alone and you save those releases for when
you're having sex initially. That doesn't require any
particular communication, although it's great to
communicate with your partner about your edging practice and
to be open and, and to talk about those things.
Something I've talked about before that communication can be
really, really powerful, but you can start to put this into
practice without immediately needing to make any changes in
sex whatsoever. And when you do that, of course,
I know a lot of you guys have found when you have that
consistent mindful edging practice, you're going to start
to have better sex already and have more energy and have a lot
of these benefits already before you even make any changes in the
relationship itself or in the having sex And when you release
insects part. So that's the foundation.
The next thing is to start having the discussions, right?
You got to communicate and actually start talking about
this. Hey, I might start doing this or
I'm considering doing this or I've been practicing this in my,
in my solo practice. I want to practice and see what
it feels like. I want to F around and find out
a little bit what it feels like if I don't release every time we
have sex, right? Or if I go maybe a certain
number of times or if I start to kind of stretch that out.
So that communication and that's going to be very unique
depending on your relationship, depending on how much you've
talked about sex in the past, depending on how much you've
talked about retention or your solo practice, there's going to
be a lot of different nuances to that depending on the unique
circumstances that you're in. But having that communication,
having those discussions is a required next step, right?
So you have the foundation of the solo practice.
You start to have communication and discussion around it.
Because one thing you absolutely don't want to do is just like
not be willing to talk about it, but then try to not release and
just leave your partner in this place of wondering of like, why?
What will likely happen is if you haven't had any discussions
about this at all or minimal discussion and you just don't
release or you just say you're not going to, your partner very
well may think that you're not attracted or you're not turned
on or you didn't have a good time or whatever.
They, their head will very likely start to go to things
that are disconnected from what the truth of the situation is,
which which is that you're wanting to have some intention.
So the discussion is that next step then as you start to
actually put this into practice, insects itself, meaning you
start to have times where your intention going into it is to
have sex and to not release the most important thing as you
actually practice. That part of it is something I
talked about recently, which is active allowance, right?
So be intentional. Have choices about what you
would prefer. Set intention as you go into it.
Do your best to have things go according to that intention in
terms of releasing or not releasing, but allow for what is
right. As always, when we allow for
what is in the moment, it's much better.
It releases the tension. Things get more in a state of
flow. There is no need to force any of
this in any way, shape or form. You do not need to force rushing
this into your relationship. You do not need to force any
particular time frames. You do not need to force
anything in any particular time together with your partner or
even in your solo practice. Allow, allow for what is.
Yes, set an intention. Yes.
Be willing to try new things, to continually step into that, to
have the commitment and the discipline to practice new
things and to practice embodying a new way and experience it for
yourself. But allow for what is along the
way. It'll free things up, you'll
have a lot more flow, and you'll be able to actually experience
the benefits of this, which are massive.
Massive. I have felt such a difference in
my relationships when this has become a part.
I would never, I could never imagine going back.
It will seriously and very potently strengthen your
relationship. I'd love to hear your thoughts
or questions, your experiences. Leave a comment below.
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