On this episode, 2 edging challenges to bring into your
practice that'll help you develop a deeper relationship
with your cock and get more out of it.
Have better sex, have better edging sessions, all the things.
Let's talk about it. This is the Holistic Alpha Male
Optimization podcast where we help you unleash your true power
as a man. Hey, guys, welcome back to the
show. I'm Stephen Mathis.
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members of this tribe. Lifting ourselves up, becoming
better men, getting more life out of our life on a foundation
of awesome sexuality, of sacred, empowered, healed sexuality that
we harness, that we utilize in our life, that we're not
controlled by, that we control, that we guide, that we get out
of what we want to get out of it.
Let's talk about a couple of challenges that you can bring
into your edging practice. And by the way, when I say
challenge, this is like just for you.
This is not some comparing or sharing with other guys to
experiments might actually be a better word that you can bring
into your edging practice. First, a quick reminder or
primer. When I say edging, what I'm
talking about is mindful edging. Meaning you have no screens of
any kind. You're not ejaculating at the
end most of the time. Most of the time it's edging
that's going to what's what's going to make it an edging
session. Now you may have a session every
so often where you release and you edge prior to that.
For the most part, you're practicing some sort of
retention and it is mindful, meaning it is a journey of self
exploration. It is about primarily bringing
our awareness back within ourselves and actually what it's
really about as we dive deeper and deeper into it, it's about
bringing our awareness deeper and deeper and deeper within
ourselves because in there, whether it's in your edging
practice, it's meditating, it's whatever it is within ourselves.
That's where we find, that's where we find magic.
That's where we find the universe.
God. If you believe in God, if you
are a believer in God, then you are made of God.
God is everything. That means that's what you are.
That's what I am. That's what Jackie is.
That's what this tree is. So when we're on a journey of
mindful edging, whether you're 2 days into that practice or 10
years into that practice, if it's mindful edging, and I think
in my view, the ideal approach to that, it is very much a
journey within your own being, within your own soul, if you
want to think about it that way. That is the journey.
Now, of course, along the way, we want to have better sex with
partners and connect in that way.
And maybe we want to improve the function of our cock along the
way. And maybe we want to have great
edging sessions just for its own purpose, not for what it might
bring into the rest of our lives because both of those things are
very important. Along that journey.
There's a couple of challenges that you can do that you can
experiment with that will help you learn more about your cock.
Now, the more you learn about your body, the better you're
going to be able to connect with it, the more you're going to be
able to harness it and work with it in a way that feels good to
you in the moment. So learning about our body is
actually one of the most important aspects of this
journey of mindful edging of this journey of diving into your
sexuality more to get more out of it.
Because so many of us have been very, very habitual in very
limited and limiting ways in the early years and sometimes for
many years of our experience being a sexual being.
We're often most guys are very habitual in a very limited way.
So if we're going to expand and get more out of our sexuality,
we got to we got to experiment, we got to do new things and
learn about our body along the way.
There's a couple of challenges that will not only help you
learn, they'll actually help you develop skills of better
control. Because one of the things that
an aspect of having control and stamina, one way that we can
think about that is basically building a more well-rounded
cock, right? So a lot of us, all of us
really, we start out with very focused, limited cocks in terms
of the skill and heart understanding of it and our
ability to control it and to utilize the energy that feeds
through it and all of these things.
It's very, very limited. We can make it more well-rounded
where you can go slow, you can go fast, you can respond to
different types of stimulation and dive into that energy in
different ways. It's not this very limited slice
of what stimulation looks like. So the first challenge is
edging, only touching your shaft, no head stimulation
whatsoever. Now you may try a whole session
start to finish, or if you have like a longer edging session,
typically you might do this for a part of it, but do it for a
meaningful part of it for a longish kind of chunk.
Because I think you'll find a couple of things.
One is that it may be a bit difficult because again, we're
so habitual, it might be kind of difficult to actually stop
yourself from getting back into that almost automatic kind of
response, right? So that in and of itself,
breaking those automatic responses a little bit and
gaining a little bit of control over what you're doing and
actually come back to a place of intention, that in and of itself
is really good. You're going to likely learn
some things about how the shaft responds in different ways that
might be very beneficial. Another awesome thing about only
stimulating the shaft is it is, as I talked about recently, a
lower intensity kind of zone. So when you're only stimulating
the shaft, it's going to give you an opportunity to
potentially have better control at higher levels of arousal.
So it can also be a really good builder of stamina for that
reason. So that's the first challenge is
have an edging session only stimulating the shaft.
I would encourage you, even if you have longer sessions,
typically try like a 10 or 15 minute session or whatever it is
that feels good to you, set a timer and literally challenge
yourself that you may not touch the head from start to finish.
It's not like you have to do this on a regular basis.
We don't have to do it at all, right?
But there's probably not a huge need to do that kind of strict
test on a regular basis. But it might be an interesting
thing to F around with and find out about one time.
Here's the other challenge, as you might have guessed,
stimulating only the head, the complete opposite.
Do not touch the shaft at all and only emulate the head.
Now, one thing to be aware of of both of these challenges is that
it is new. It's different probably, which
means your body might not respond in exactly the same way.
In fact, hopefully it hopefully doesn't respond in exactly the
same way and that's almost an impossibility.
One of the ways it may respond differently is you may not get
as hard, you may not get it as aroused.
It's OK, right? It's OK to experiment and not
be. I think one of the habits that
again, a lot of guys need to break is the habit of getting in
this like race to the finish, get to maximum power, maximum
arousal, maximum hardness. It doesn't always have to be
that way. We can draw tremendous benefit
and power and enjoyment and growth out of an edging
practice, even if you're not super duper aroused, even if
you're not super hard. So when you do these two
challenges, only the shaft and then only the head, be open
minded. Just allow for what is.
Now let's talk a little bit more about that stimulating only the
head one, this is going to be very, very, very different
because the head is that for most guys is a hypersensitive,
especially for guys who are circumcised.
I think that's more often the case because the head sometimes
gets a little over stimulated. But regardless, for a lot of
guys, the head is going to be a very, very sensitive area.
So instead of having a shaft or maybe you're not going to be as
feeling as much stimulation, certainly inch for inch, right.
But just in general on the head, it might be the opposite where
it's less overall stimulation, but it's very sharp, it's very
focused. It's definitely a different kind
of stimulation. And both of these challenges are
going to take kind of different forms of stimulation.
So the shaft only you might like drop a finger off versus what
you normally use these one less finger, 2 less fingers, whatever
it is, you might just make little circles.
One thing to experiment with only the shaft is take both
hands and kind of make like a, if you were going to start a
fire by rubbing a stick, that kind of motion that can be
helpful with the shaft. When it comes to only the head,
you might do that kind of thing even with only the head.
Also those little thumb circles, finger circles.
This is a very kind of nuanced thing.
This is like, you know, again, not a lot of guys are actually
willing to dive into these sort of details and this depth of
expansion. But guess what?
There is a lot of magic. I know a lot of you guys are
already experiencing that. So try these two challenges.
Only the shaft, only the head. See how it feels.
I would love to hear your comments.
Leave a comment below if you've done this before, if this is
part of your practice right now. Any other thoughts or questions,
you're always welcome to fire those off to me.
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