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On this episode, 2 edging 
challenges to bring into your 

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practice that'll help you 
develop a deeper relationship 

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with your cock and get more out 
of it. 

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Have better sex, have better 
edging sessions, all the things.

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Let's talk about it. 
This is the Holistic Alpha Male 

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Optimization podcast where we 
help you unleash your true power

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as a man. 
Hey, guys, welcome back to the 

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show. 
I'm Stephen Mathis. 

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Thanks for being here, being a 
part of this tribe. 

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no matter when you found the 

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show, what this show is about, 
what my mission is, what 

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Holistic Alpha is about, It is 
about US, me and you and all the

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members of this tribe. 
Lifting ourselves up, becoming 

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better men, getting more life 
out of our life on a foundation 

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of awesome sexuality, of sacred,
empowered, healed sexuality that

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we harness, that we utilize in 
our life, that we're not 

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controlled by, that we control, 
that we guide, that we get out 

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of what we want to get out of 
it. 

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Let's talk about a couple of 
challenges that you can bring 

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into your edging practice. 
And by the way, when I say 

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challenge, this is like just for
you. 

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This is not some comparing or 
sharing with other guys to 

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experiments might actually be a 
better word that you can bring 

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into your edging practice. 
First, a quick reminder or 

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primer. 
When I say edging, what I'm 

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talking about is mindful edging.
Meaning you have no screens of 

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any kind. 
You're not ejaculating at the 

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end most of the time. 
Most of the time it's edging 

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that's going to what's what's 
going to make it an edging 

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session. 
Now you may have a session every

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so often where you release and 
you edge prior to that. 

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For the most part, you're 
practicing some sort of 

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retention and it is mindful, 
meaning it is a journey of self 

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exploration. 
It is about primarily bringing 

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our awareness back within 
ourselves and actually what it's

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really about as we dive deeper 
and deeper into it, it's about 

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bringing our awareness deeper 
and deeper and deeper within 

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ourselves because in there, 
whether it's in your edging 

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practice, it's meditating, it's 
whatever it is within ourselves.

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That's where we find, that's 
where we find magic. 

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That's where we find the 
universe. 

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God. 
If you believe in God, if you 

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are a believer in God, then you 
are made of God. 

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God is everything. 
That means that's what you are. 

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That's what I am. 
That's what Jackie is. 

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That's what this tree is. 
So when we're on a journey of 

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mindful edging, whether you're 2
days into that practice or 10 

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years into that practice, if 
it's mindful edging, and I think

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in my view, the ideal approach 
to that, it is very much a 

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journey within your own being, 
within your own soul, if you 

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want to think about it that way.
That is the journey. 

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Now, of course, along the way, 
we want to have better sex with 

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partners and connect in that 
way. 

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And maybe we want to improve the
function of our cock along the 

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way. 
And maybe we want to have great 

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edging sessions just for its own
purpose, not for what it might 

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bring into the rest of our lives
because both of those things are

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very important. 
Along that journey. 

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There's a couple of challenges 
that you can do that you can 

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experiment with that will help 
you learn more about your cock. 

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Now, the more you learn about 
your body, the better you're 

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going to be able to connect with
it, the more you're going to be 

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able to harness it and work with
it in a way that feels good to 

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you in the moment. 
So learning about our body is 

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actually one of the most 
important aspects of this 

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journey of mindful edging of 
this journey of diving into your

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sexuality more to get more out 
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Because so many of us have been 
very, very habitual in very 

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limited and limiting ways in the
early years and sometimes for 

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many years of our experience 
being a sexual being. 

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We're often most guys are very 
habitual in a very limited way. 

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So if we're going to expand and 
get more out of our sexuality, 

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we got to we got to experiment, 
we got to do new things and 

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learn about our body along the 
way. 

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There's a couple of challenges 
that will not only help you 

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learn, they'll actually help you
develop skills of better 

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control. 
Because one of the things that 

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an aspect of having control and 
stamina, one way that we can 

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think about that is basically 
building a more well-rounded 

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cock, right? 
So a lot of us, all of us 

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really, we start out with very 
focused, limited cocks in terms 

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of the skill and heart 
understanding of it and our 

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ability to control it and to 
utilize the energy that feeds 

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through it and all of these 
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It's very, very limited. 
We can make it more well-rounded

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where you can go slow, you can 
go fast, you can respond to 

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different types of stimulation 
and dive into that energy in 

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different ways. 
It's not this very limited slice

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of what stimulation looks like. 
So the first challenge is 

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edging, only touching your 
shaft, no head stimulation 

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whatsoever. 
Now you may try a whole session 

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start to finish, or if you have 
like a longer edging session, 

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typically you might do this for 
a part of it, but do it for a 

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meaningful part of it for a 
longish kind of chunk. 

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Because I think you'll find a 
couple of things. 

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One is that it may be a bit 
difficult because again, we're 

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so habitual, it might be kind of
difficult to actually stop 

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yourself from getting back into 
that almost automatic kind of 

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response, right? 
So that in and of itself, 

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breaking those automatic 
responses a little bit and 

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gaining a little bit of control 
over what you're doing and 

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actually come back to a place of
intention, that in and of itself

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is really good. 
You're going to likely learn 

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some things about how the shaft 
responds in different ways that 

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might be very beneficial. 
Another awesome thing about only

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stimulating the shaft is it is, 
as I talked about recently, a 

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lower intensity kind of zone. 
So when you're only stimulating 

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the shaft, it's going to give 
you an opportunity to 

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potentially have better control 
at higher levels of arousal. 

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So it can also be a really good 
builder of stamina for that 

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reason. 
So that's the first challenge is

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have an edging session only 
stimulating the shaft. 

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I would encourage you, even if 
you have longer sessions, 

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typically try like a 10 or 15 
minute session or whatever it is

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that feels good to you, set a 
timer and literally challenge 

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yourself that you may not touch 
the head from start to finish. 

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It's not like you have to do 
this on a regular basis. 

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We don't have to do it at all, 
right? 

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But there's probably not a huge 
need to do that kind of strict 

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test on a regular basis. 
But it might be an interesting 

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thing to F around with and find 
out about one time. 

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Here's the other challenge, as 
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stimulating only the head, the 
complete opposite. 

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Do not touch the shaft at all 
and only emulate the head. 

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Now, one thing to be aware of of
both of these challenges is that

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it is new. 
It's different probably, which 

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means your body might not 
respond in exactly the same way.

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In fact, hopefully it hopefully 
doesn't respond in exactly the 

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same way and that's almost an 
impossibility. 

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One of the ways it may respond 
differently is you may not get 

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as hard, you may not get it as 
aroused. 

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It's OK, right? 
It's OK to experiment and not 

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be. 
I think one of the habits that 

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again, a lot of guys need to 
break is the habit of getting in

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this like race to the finish, 
get to maximum power, maximum 

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arousal, maximum hardness. 
It doesn't always have to be 

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that way. 
We can draw tremendous benefit 

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and power and enjoyment and 
growth out of an edging 

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practice, even if you're not 
super duper aroused, even if 

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you're not super hard. 
So when you do these two 

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challenges, only the shaft and 
then only the head, be open 

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minded. 
Just allow for what is. 

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Now let's talk a little bit more
about that stimulating only the 

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head one, this is going to be 
very, very, very different 

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because the head is that for 
most guys is a hypersensitive, 

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especially for guys who are 
circumcised. 

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I think that's more often the 
case because the head sometimes 

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gets a little over stimulated. 
But regardless, for a lot of 

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guys, the head is going to be a 
very, very sensitive area. 

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So instead of having a shaft or 
maybe you're not going to be as 

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feeling as much stimulation, 
certainly inch for inch, right. 

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But just in general on the head,
it might be the opposite where 

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it's less overall stimulation, 
but it's very sharp, it's very 

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focused. 
It's definitely a different kind

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of stimulation. 
And both of these challenges are

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going to take kind of different 
forms of stimulation. 

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So the shaft only you might like
drop a finger off versus what 

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you normally use these one less 
finger, 2 less fingers, whatever

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it is, you might just make 
little circles. 

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One thing to experiment with 
only the shaft is take both 

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hands and kind of make like a, 
if you were going to start a 

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fire by rubbing a stick, that 
kind of motion that can be 

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helpful with the shaft. 
When it comes to only the head, 

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you might do that kind of thing 
even with only the head. 

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Also those little thumb circles,
finger circles. 

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This is a very kind of nuanced 
thing. 

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This is like, you know, again, 
not a lot of guys are actually 

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willing to dive into these sort 
of details and this depth of 

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expansion. 
But guess what? 

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There is a lot of magic. 
I know a lot of you guys are 

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already experiencing that. 
So try these two challenges. 

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Only the shaft, only the head. 
See how it feels. 

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I would love to hear your 
comments. 

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Leave a comment below if you've 
done this before, if this is 

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part of your practice right now.
Any other thoughts or questions,

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you're always welcome to fire 
those off to me. 

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listening. 

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options with me as well as our 
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