1 00:00:03,040 --> 00:00:05,560 Thanks for checking out the Anchor Faith Message podcast 2 00:00:05,560 --> 00:00:06,920 from St. Augustine, FL. 3 00:00:07,520 --> 00:00:13,920 Now enjoy this message. We are called as a church, just 4 00:00:13,920 --> 00:00:17,200 not the pastors. We are called as a church. 5 00:00:17,200 --> 00:00:20,600 So every vision partner of Anchor Faith Church is called to 6 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:25,920 ignite the city, impact the nation, and influence the world. 7 00:00:25,920 --> 00:00:31,000 Let's say that we're called to ignite the city, impact the 8 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:36,640 nation and influence the world. Today, I want to hone in on 9 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:42,080 igniting the city. That word ignite means to burn 10 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:45,480 with zeal, to set a blaze or set on fire. 11 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:50,600 And specifically within the night of the city, I want to 12 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:58,200 talk about family advancement. One thing that you will here a 13 00:00:58,280 --> 00:01:03,200 lot at Anchor Faith Churches, we are always advancing no matter 14 00:01:03,200 --> 00:01:05,600 what we're doing, igniting the city, impacting the nation or 15 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:08,640 influence in the world, we're always advancing in advance. 16 00:01:08,640 --> 00:01:13,560 You'll see the definition means to make progress, to move 17 00:01:13,560 --> 00:01:19,160 forward, to accelerate and move to a higher rank or level. 18 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:22,880 And the Kingdom of God is always advancing. 19 00:01:22,880 --> 00:01:27,080 The realm or the territory where God is in charge is always 20 00:01:27,320 --> 00:01:29,080 advancing. That means there's always 21 00:01:29,080 --> 00:01:33,360 progress, you're always moving forward, there's acceleration, 22 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:36,440 and He wants you to move to a higher rank or to a higher 23 00:01:36,440 --> 00:01:40,760 level. 2023 may be good for you, but God wants to see greater 24 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:46,280 things in 2024 and even more excellent things in 2025. 25 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:52,120 So we are always advancing. Now I want to go to what Jesus 26 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:58,400 talked about and Jesus is the highest model of leadership that 27 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:01,440 we have. There is no greater person that 28 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:04,040 we could look to for leadership than the Lord Jesus Christ. 29 00:02:04,560 --> 00:02:07,680 So as you read the Gospels, it is awesome to see how He 30 00:02:07,680 --> 00:02:11,480 interacted and move with purpose in the Gospels, how He 31 00:02:11,480 --> 00:02:15,760 interacted with people and how you saw His mission that God the 32 00:02:15,760 --> 00:02:19,560 Father assigned him. Now in the Gospels, the Gospel 33 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:25,760 of Matthew, the last chapter in Matthew 28, this is when Jesus 34 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:29,560 has finished his work on the earth, but he he gives us what 35 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:32,560 we call the Great Commission. The word Commission means 36 00:02:32,840 --> 00:02:36,440 together, it's a mission, but the word Co means you're working 37 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:39,040 together. So as a born again believer in 38 00:02:39,040 --> 00:02:42,680 the family of God, in the Kingdom of God, we are Co 39 00:02:42,680 --> 00:02:44,520 laboring with him. That means God and his 40 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:47,600 sovereignty is not doing everything by himself. 41 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:49,880 There is a part that you have to play. 42 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:52,920 There's a purpose that he's assigned you on the earth. 43 00:02:52,920 --> 00:02:56,480 So this is a Co mission. We are working together with the 44 00:02:56,480 --> 00:03:00,080 Lord Jesus Christ and the anointing of the Holy Ghost. 45 00:03:00,640 --> 00:03:04,360 You know, God's gift to the world was Jesus. 46 00:03:05,200 --> 00:03:08,080 God's gift to the church is the Holy Spirit. 47 00:03:09,480 --> 00:03:12,000 God's gift to the world is Jesus. 48 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:15,680 God's gift to the church is the Holy Spirit. 49 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:19,960 So when we're doing this mission with him, we have the anointing 50 00:03:20,200 --> 00:03:23,400 the Holy Spirit upon us to accomplish what he's called us 51 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:27,720 to do. So in Matthew chapter 28, verse 52 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:34,280 #19 and verse #20 says this. Go therefore and make disciples 53 00:03:34,640 --> 00:03:40,480 of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father 54 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:45,920 and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe 55 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:50,400 all things that I have commanded you. 56 00:03:51,040 --> 00:03:56,600 And lo, I am with you always, even to the ends of the age. 57 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:00,400 So this is one of the great commissions that Jesus gave to 58 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:06,520 the church and he said go on to all the nation, all the all the 59 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:10,960 nations and make disciples. Now the word nations in the 60 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:15,000 Bible is where we get ethnos or ethnic groups. 61 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:18,880 So nobody's excluded from discipleship. 62 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:23,400 As a church, as Anchor Faith Church, our goal is not to make 63 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:28,200 converts but disciples. What is a disciple? 64 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:32,440 It's a person that's fully devoted to knowing the Lord 65 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:36,160 Jesus Christ. A disciple is fully devoted to 66 00:04:36,160 --> 00:04:39,960 knowing the Lord Jesus Christ. A disciple is a pupil. 67 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:43,840 That means you're a student enrolled in the Kingdom 68 00:04:43,840 --> 00:04:50,160 education system, having a great hunger and desire to be taught 69 00:04:51,280 --> 00:04:54,400 and listen, to learn. You must want to be taught. 70 00:04:55,640 --> 00:05:00,040 If you Once you think you know everything, learning ceases. 71 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:04,720 Matter of fact, if you think that you you, you know 72 00:05:04,720 --> 00:05:07,560 everything, then really you're still in a state of ignorance. 73 00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:14,320 You need to be like a sponge that's ready to absorb 74 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:17,240 everything that God wants to download and instruct us in. 75 00:05:17,840 --> 00:05:21,040 So discipleship never stops. This is a lifelong journey in 76 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:25,360 pursuit and a mission of God the Father that he wants all of his 77 00:05:25,360 --> 00:05:27,640 children to be lifelong learn learners. 78 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:32,160 In the Jewish culture, they had thing called rabbis, and a rabbi 79 00:05:32,160 --> 00:05:33,680 was a teacher. Matter of fact, you'll see the 80 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:36,840 disciples of Jesus, they referred to him as a rabbi at 81 00:05:36,840 --> 00:05:39,560 times. And the thing about the the 82 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:43,640 students of a rabbi, they wanted to know what their rabbi knew. 83 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:47,280 They wanted to do what their rabbi did, and they wanted to be 84 00:05:47,280 --> 00:05:50,640 like their rabbi. And as a disciple, we want to 85 00:05:50,640 --> 00:05:54,480 know what Jesus knows. We want to do what Jesus does 86 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:57,240 and we want to be like Jesus in the earth. 87 00:05:58,440 --> 00:06:01,400 So we are commissioned to make disciples. 88 00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:05,840 So my expectation and most importantly, I say God's 89 00:06:05,840 --> 00:06:09,680 expectation today is you are like, father, feed me a good 90 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:12,720 spiritual meal because I want to learn. 91 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:15,720 I need the the nourishment, the nutrients because I need to grow 92 00:06:15,720 --> 00:06:20,200 as a man or a woman of God. I don't know everything and we 93 00:06:20,200 --> 00:06:23,480 know that people perish because of a lack of knowledge. 94 00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:26,200 So download things from heaven to earth today. 95 00:06:27,880 --> 00:06:30,600 Even if I go to a scripture that I've heard before, it's going to 96 00:06:30,600 --> 00:06:33,480 be like the first time and I'm ready to receive. 97 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:38,240 I'm hungry, say I'm hungry, say I'm hungry, say I'm thirsty. 98 00:06:39,400 --> 00:06:43,480 Hallelujah. Now in Mark chapter 16, we have 99 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:48,440 another Commission that the Lord Jesus Christ gives, and He says 100 00:06:48,440 --> 00:06:54,680 this in Mark chapter 16 verse #15 He said to them, go into all 101 00:06:54,680 --> 00:06:58,400 the world and preach the gospel to every creature. 102 00:06:59,680 --> 00:07:03,080 Go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature. 103 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:05,080 What's the gospel? Well, we know it's the gospel of 104 00:07:05,080 --> 00:07:07,200 the Kingdom. If you've been with Anchor Faith 105 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:09,760 Church for any period of time, or you're more recently 106 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:12,720 attending, you're going to learn about the Kingdom of God. 107 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:14,920 And like I said, that's the realm. 108 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:18,160 It's the basilia, the realm of the territory where a king is in 109 00:07:18,160 --> 00:07:22,240 charge. The Bible's about a king, his 110 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:29,240 Kingdom, and his royal offspring, Hallelujah. 111 00:07:29,680 --> 00:07:33,240 And we're in the Kingdom of God. Matter of fact, in Luke 1721, 112 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:36,320 the disciples said, Jesus, when is the Kingdom going to come? 113 00:07:36,320 --> 00:07:38,800 He said, behold the Kingdom come with observation. 114 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:44,880 The Kingdom of God is within you, so as soon as you make 115 00:07:44,880 --> 00:07:47,240 Jesus Lord, you're within the Kingdom of God. 116 00:07:47,240 --> 00:07:49,840 You've been taken out of the Kingdom of darkness and 117 00:07:49,840 --> 00:07:53,200 translated into the Kingdom of God. 118 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:57,680 I'm out of that jurisdiction and I'm in the King's jurisdiction 119 00:07:57,680 --> 00:08:00,840 now. He said go into all the world 120 00:08:00,840 --> 00:08:03,640 and preach the gospel. That's good news. 121 00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:07,840 It's good tidings. We have great news for the 122 00:08:07,840 --> 00:08:10,360 world. There's hope for the world in 123 00:08:10,360 --> 00:08:12,280 truth. There's hope for the world in 124 00:08:12,280 --> 00:08:15,120 the gospel of the Kingdom. There's liberty, there's 125 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:18,320 freedom, there's healing, there's provision in the gospel 126 00:08:18,320 --> 00:08:20,720 of the Kingdom. There's purpose within the 127 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:25,160 gospel of the Kingdom. Now he said go in all the world. 128 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:29,120 So in one Commission he says make disciples of all nations. 129 00:08:29,440 --> 00:08:31,480 But in this one he says to go in all the world. 130 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:35,240 Now the world, if you look that up in the Greek, it literally 131 00:08:35,240 --> 00:08:40,760 means the cosmos or the systems or arrangement of the world. 132 00:08:42,039 --> 00:08:47,040 And what I mean by that you'll see on the screen in any society 133 00:08:47,560 --> 00:08:52,480 when we talk about the world in any society dating back to the 134 00:08:52,480 --> 00:08:56,400 beginning of civilizations, there's been seven things that's 135 00:08:56,400 --> 00:09:01,160 within any society that makes systems or arrangements or 136 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:04,240 order. And you'll say, see these I go A 137 00:09:04,240 --> 00:09:06,120 through G just helps me remember them. 138 00:09:06,760 --> 00:09:12,200 So there's arts, there's business, there's congregations, 139 00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:17,120 there's direct media, there's education, there's family and 140 00:09:17,120 --> 00:09:20,400 there's government. So within any civilization, 141 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:23,920 these seven characteristics can be found as structure. 142 00:09:24,320 --> 00:09:29,960 And Jesus said, I want you to go into these systems and preach 143 00:09:29,960 --> 00:09:34,480 what the gospel. So guess what, when you go to 144 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:38,960 work tomorrow, if you're an arts, if you're in business, if 145 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:42,720 you're in congregations, which is organizations or assemblies 146 00:09:42,720 --> 00:09:45,360 or boards, if you're in direct media, if you're in the 147 00:09:45,360 --> 00:09:55,200 educational field, if you're in families, which all of us are in 148 00:09:55,200 --> 00:10:00,120 families see law and in government, he said. 149 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:03,680 You're to go into all the world and preach the gospel. 150 00:10:03,680 --> 00:10:09,160 So there's an assignment and a purpose for your existence in 151 00:10:09,160 --> 00:10:12,800 the Kingdom of God. Today I'm honing in or taking 152 00:10:12,800 --> 00:10:17,760 one of these systems and it's called the family. 153 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:23,680 And this is family advancement. God wants you to make progress, 154 00:10:24,600 --> 00:10:30,560 accelerate, grow, and move to a higher rank or level in the 155 00:10:30,560 --> 00:10:34,760 family unit. I got 3 yeses. 156 00:10:36,760 --> 00:10:47,160 This gets me jacked excited because because if the family's 157 00:10:47,160 --> 00:10:50,360 strong, the church will be strong. 158 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:59,440 If the family unit is strong, then the church will be strong. 159 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:07,000 If you got a jacked up, dysfunctional family, guess 160 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:12,200 what's coming to church? Hallelujah. 161 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:15,520 Now, does God work in that and through that? 162 00:11:16,080 --> 00:11:18,240 Absolutely. But the things that you are 163 00:11:18,240 --> 00:11:23,360 learning at the church should trickle over into the family. 164 00:11:24,560 --> 00:11:28,200 Now this is sobering. You could sing, dance, shout and 165 00:11:28,200 --> 00:11:37,000 run at the altar, but if you go home and you're Freddie the 166 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:49,320 freak or you're not living it out, you become a hypocrite. 167 00:11:52,040 --> 00:11:56,880 And the things that you're being taught at Anchor Faith Church, 168 00:11:56,880 --> 00:12:02,880 these are to be applied. Truth is like soap, it only 169 00:12:02,880 --> 00:12:09,480 works if you apply it. So if you're a stinky spouse, 170 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:13,920 we're going to give you some truth today, some soap. 171 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:17,600 But you actually need to live these things out at the house 172 00:12:19,760 --> 00:12:23,280 between your call and your character. 173 00:12:23,640 --> 00:12:25,400 Gives you a thing called credibility. 174 00:12:26,560 --> 00:12:28,840 All of us are called to the Great Commission. 175 00:12:29,840 --> 00:12:32,400 Do you have Christ like character that you can conduct 176 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:35,360 yourself at in the home to give credibility? 177 00:12:35,880 --> 00:12:38,200 Your kids will not always listen to you, but they'll always 178 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:44,200 imitate you. I remember when Abigail, my 179 00:12:44,200 --> 00:12:47,560 oldest daughter, I was working out in the yard, she was talking 180 00:12:47,560 --> 00:12:52,080 to me and you know, she just talks a lot at that age. 181 00:12:53,120 --> 00:12:55,080 And I remember two things out of this conversation. 182 00:12:55,080 --> 00:13:00,120 One the Holy Ghost said look her in the eyes when she's talking 183 00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:04,080 to you. Don't have your back towards 184 00:13:04,080 --> 00:13:09,000 her. Give her the attention 'cause 185 00:13:09,000 --> 00:13:10,520 you're not. You need to set the standard of 186 00:13:10,520 --> 00:13:15,720 what a real man does. How many of you spouses know if 187 00:13:15,720 --> 00:13:19,320 you just look your spouse in the eye when they're talking to you 188 00:13:21,560 --> 00:13:23,560 instead of looking at notifications? 189 00:13:25,680 --> 00:13:26,840 I'm just going to throw this in there. 190 00:13:26,840 --> 00:13:29,000 If you have to text each other and you're next to each other on 191 00:13:29,000 --> 00:13:35,640 the couch, there's an issue. But I remember two things on 192 00:13:35,640 --> 00:13:39,760 that. That was one of them is to look 193 00:13:39,760 --> 00:13:44,200 her nice. Secondly was I spit when she was 194 00:13:44,200 --> 00:13:48,080 talking to me. I was outside work and then she 195 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:52,240 spit. I thought, Lord, I don't want 196 00:13:52,240 --> 00:13:56,280 her spitting. That's in ladylike so your kids, 197 00:13:56,880 --> 00:13:59,800 they're not always listen to you, but they'll always imitate 198 00:13:59,800 --> 00:14:00,960 you. Do you realize you carry an 199 00:14:00,960 --> 00:14:05,240 atmosphere with you and the atmosphere you permit is the 200 00:14:05,240 --> 00:14:11,120 atmosphere that's produced and God wants heaven filled homes at 201 00:14:11,120 --> 00:14:13,280 Anchor Faith Church because he wants a heaven filled church. 202 00:14:13,280 --> 00:14:17,800 What I mean about that by that Romans 1417 says, I'll say it 203 00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:21,680 this way, God wants Kingdom filled homes and a Kingdom 204 00:14:21,680 --> 00:14:25,560 filled Anchor Faith Church. Because in Romans 1417 it says 205 00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:28,040 the Kingdom of God is not meat and drink, but it's 206 00:14:28,040 --> 00:14:34,840 righteousness, it's peace and it's joy in the Holy Ghost. 207 00:14:34,840 --> 00:14:38,800 So when we come into our houses as a man or woman of God, you 208 00:14:38,800 --> 00:14:43,440 set the atmosphere in righteousness, in peace and in 209 00:14:43,440 --> 00:14:47,760 joy in the Holy Ghost. Now listen. 210 00:14:47,760 --> 00:14:53,400 Wisdom has taught us mastery of fundamentals is critical to 211 00:14:53,400 --> 00:14:57,200 success. In Proverbs 24 talks about 212 00:14:57,200 --> 00:14:58,880 there's three things that build a home. 213 00:14:59,800 --> 00:15:03,200 You can have a house, but the question is, is it a home? 214 00:15:03,520 --> 00:15:05,880 And you need wisdom, understanding and knowledge to 215 00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:08,760 build a home. But wisdom has taught us that 216 00:15:09,520 --> 00:15:12,240 mastery of fundamentals is critical to success. 217 00:15:12,240 --> 00:15:18,000 John Wooden, the great coach of UCLA basketball team back in the 218 00:15:18,000 --> 00:15:22,640 70s who won multiple national championships, never talked 219 00:15:22,640 --> 00:15:29,200 about winning to his players. He preached fundamentals, he 220 00:15:29,200 --> 00:15:33,600 preached the process, and winning took care of itself 221 00:15:34,360 --> 00:15:36,760 every season. Do you realize that John Wooden 222 00:15:37,080 --> 00:15:40,560 literally showed his players how to put on socks and shoes so 223 00:15:40,560 --> 00:15:42,920 they wouldn't get blisters when they're playing basketball? 224 00:15:44,760 --> 00:15:47,320 You realize the first thing he taught him was not plays or how 225 00:15:47,320 --> 00:15:50,640 to slam dunk. He taught them how to dribble, 226 00:15:51,240 --> 00:15:56,320 shoot, pass, rebound for good. Good Lord, box out. 227 00:15:57,440 --> 00:15:59,640 Have me even watch the basketball game and think box 228 00:15:59,640 --> 00:16:02,960 out. You know, as my wife, she was 229 00:16:02,960 --> 00:16:05,200 coaching. I remember the the Washington 230 00:16:05,200 --> 00:16:08,880 girl, she'd always say, put your butt in the other player and box 231 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:14,240 out. It's a fundamental right get 232 00:16:14,240 --> 00:16:19,960 position, but wisdom has taught us that mastery of fundamentals 233 00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:25,920 is critical to success in Matthew chapter 16 verses 18 234 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:27,960 through 19. I'm just laying a foundation 235 00:16:29,160 --> 00:16:34,600 before we to get to some principles and keys that God is 236 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:38,000 going to give you today that unlock the Kingdom of God in 237 00:16:38,000 --> 00:16:41,000 your home and in your life. How many of you want the Kingdom 238 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:45,400 of God unlocked and operative and fully functioning in your 239 00:16:45,400 --> 00:16:47,880 life? It is completely up to you. 240 00:16:49,320 --> 00:16:52,160 It's his truth, but you have to apply it. 241 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:55,840 So in Matthew chapter 16, this is where in Peter has the 242 00:16:55,840 --> 00:16:58,320 revelation. You remember this story that 243 00:16:58,320 --> 00:17:00,280 they said, who do you say that I am? 244 00:17:00,280 --> 00:17:02,840 And some say this person, that person, he said, but who do you 245 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:05,079 say that I am? And Peter said, you are the 246 00:17:05,079 --> 00:17:07,040 Christ, the Messiah, the Son of the living God. 247 00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:12,119 He and Jesus said to him, You're blessed flesh and blood has not 248 00:17:12,119 --> 00:17:15,520 revealed this to you, but my Father, which is in heaven, He 249 00:17:15,520 --> 00:17:23,280 said, and I will give unto you Peter the not key, singular, but 250 00:17:23,400 --> 00:17:31,440 keys plural of the Kingdom. He goes on to say, whatever you 251 00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:32,840 bind on earth will be bound in heaven. 252 00:17:32,840 --> 00:17:34,680 Whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. 253 00:17:34,880 --> 00:17:38,000 You realize that? Put the responsibility into the 254 00:17:38,000 --> 00:17:40,080 hand or into the person that heard that. 255 00:17:43,000 --> 00:17:46,280 So whatever you allow in your house is on your watch. 256 00:17:47,760 --> 00:17:53,720 Whether it's functioning well or not is on your timetable. 257 00:17:55,600 --> 00:18:00,240 Keys lock and keys unlock, but the word keys in the Greek means 258 00:18:00,240 --> 00:18:03,440 fundamental principles and wisdom has taught us that 259 00:18:03,440 --> 00:18:07,680 mastery of fundamentals or keys is critical to success. 260 00:18:07,880 --> 00:18:10,360 So if you want to have a successful family or successful 261 00:18:10,360 --> 00:18:12,920 marriage or successful parenting, you better know the 262 00:18:12,920 --> 00:18:18,480 principles of the Word of God. God loves us so much there was 263 00:18:18,480 --> 00:18:23,280 no confusion. He gave us 66 books to learn 264 00:18:23,280 --> 00:18:26,080 from and that this is His love letter to us. 265 00:18:26,080 --> 00:18:30,400 This is instruction from the King to us so we could have a 266 00:18:30,400 --> 00:18:35,960 successful life. Hallelujah. 267 00:18:36,680 --> 00:18:42,080 So one key to success that I'm going to start off with. 268 00:18:42,680 --> 00:18:45,160 I'm going to give you 2 general keys to success. 269 00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:51,240 And then we're going to get real specific for women and then for 270 00:18:51,240 --> 00:18:54,320 men. So the goal of this is not to 271 00:18:54,320 --> 00:19:01,120 point to your left or right. I'm prefacing this the the goal 272 00:19:01,120 --> 00:19:08,280 is for you to point to yourself. So I don't want no elbows, no 273 00:19:08,280 --> 00:19:11,160 stairs. You look straight ahead. 274 00:19:12,960 --> 00:19:18,520 Hallelujah. So in Acts chapter one, and 275 00:19:18,520 --> 00:19:22,840 we're going to read verses one through 8, this is one general 276 00:19:22,840 --> 00:19:26,080 key that you need in the home. If we're going to ignite this 277 00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:28,720 city and we're to touch the world. 278 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:33,560 This is one key that you need in the house to experience success. 279 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:38,400 And we know this is the ushering in of a new dispensation. 280 00:19:39,200 --> 00:19:42,760 Some say the dispensation of grace, which is true, but it's 281 00:19:42,760 --> 00:19:45,040 also the dispensation of the Holy Ghost. 282 00:19:45,960 --> 00:19:48,800 So in Acts chapter one it says the former account I made, O 283 00:19:48,800 --> 00:19:53,760 Theopolis, of all that Jesus began both to do and to teach, 284 00:19:54,280 --> 00:19:56,480 until the day in which He was taken up. 285 00:19:56,960 --> 00:19:59,600 After He, through the Holy Spirit, had given commandments 286 00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:03,680 to the apostles whom He had chosen, to whom He also 287 00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:06,760 presented himself alive after his suffering by many infallible 288 00:20:06,760 --> 00:20:12,080 proofs, being seen by the disciples for 40 days and 289 00:20:12,080 --> 00:20:18,880 Speaking of things pertaining to the Kingdom of God, and being 290 00:20:18,880 --> 00:20:23,200 assembled together with them, He commanded them not to depart 291 00:20:23,200 --> 00:20:25,920 Jerusalem. But to wait for the promise of 292 00:20:25,920 --> 00:20:28,960 the Father, which he said, you have heard from me. 293 00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:34,440 For John truly baptized with water, but she shall be baptized 294 00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:37,040 with the Holy Spirit not many days from now. 295 00:20:37,760 --> 00:20:40,280 Therefore, when they had come together, they asked Jesus, 296 00:20:40,280 --> 00:20:44,200 saying, Lord, we at this time restore the Kingdom to Israel. 297 00:20:44,600 --> 00:20:47,800 And Jesus said to them, It's not for you to know the times or 298 00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:52,280 seasons which the Father has put in his own authority, but you 299 00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:57,360 shall receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you, 300 00:20:58,120 --> 00:21:06,560 and you shall be witnesses to me in Jerusalem, Judea, Samaria and 301 00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:08,640 the uttermost parts of the earth. 302 00:21:09,880 --> 00:21:14,480 Now I love how this is read and written because the 1st place he 303 00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:20,320 says is Jerusalem, the home base and how you going to reach the 304 00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:22,000 World if you're not reaching your house. 305 00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:26,720 And what man? What good is if a man gains the 306 00:21:26,720 --> 00:21:29,280 whole world but forfeits his soul? 307 00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:35,440 So there is a premium that God puts on the home. 308 00:21:35,920 --> 00:21:37,920 There's a purpose as a man or woman. 309 00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:41,120 Matter of fact, if you're not fulfilling your purpose as a man 310 00:21:41,120 --> 00:21:44,640 or a woman, it's hard to fulfill a specific purpose in the 311 00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:48,160 Kingdom of God. So he starts in the home. 312 00:21:48,160 --> 00:21:52,560 But he said you need power. You realize that marriage, your 313 00:21:52,560 --> 00:21:56,640 marriage needs the Holy Ghost. Hallelujah. 314 00:21:58,040 --> 00:22:01,960 You know, there's sometimes we call it intense times of 315 00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:06,520 fellowship, which is a, a political way of saying 316 00:22:06,520 --> 00:22:12,240 arguments, frustrations, breakdown in communication. 317 00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:16,320 And you need the Holy Ghost in that moment because you know 318 00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:17,520 what the Holy Ghost is going to do. 319 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:20,280 He said, John baptize you with water, but I'm baptizing you 320 00:22:20,280 --> 00:22:23,800 with the Holy Ghost in Matthew 311. 321 00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:27,000 He said, I'll baptize you with the Holy Ghost and with fire, 322 00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:30,440 with fire. So one of the things the Holy 323 00:22:30,440 --> 00:22:33,760 Spirit does in your life, he brings the fire. 324 00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:38,000 And a lot of people get divorced before they can get married. 325 00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:43,560 A lot of people get discouraged before the marriage grows. 326 00:22:43,920 --> 00:22:46,640 The word marriage in the Greek is gamayo, which means a 327 00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:49,920 blending together through intense heat and pressure. 328 00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:54,600 Hallelujah. You can say Amen. 329 00:22:54,600 --> 00:22:56,280 Or you could say oh me. But it's true. 330 00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:00,600 And what I say, most people get divorced because they don't let 331 00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:04,680 the pressure put them together. They let it pull them apart. 332 00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:09,880 When I was young growing up where there was Four Seasons in 333 00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:21,240 the great state of Ohio, I had a Mongoose bike with PEDs and I 334 00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:25,800 remember jumping that thing as a young man off the curbs and I 335 00:23:25,800 --> 00:23:27,640 end up breaking the frame on that thing. 336 00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:31,840 Well my father was an account for Worth and steel so after I 337 00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:34,720 broke the frame he took it to work and had won the welders 338 00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:41,480 Weld that part that was broken and after he got done putting it 339 00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:43,680 through the fire, he told my father. 340 00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:46,960 He said that's the strongest point on that frame now because 341 00:23:46,960 --> 00:23:50,600 it just went through the heat. So what I'm saying is don't let 342 00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:57,040 the devil pull you apart. You need to come together with 343 00:23:57,040 --> 00:23:59,720 the help of the Holy Ghost. You know he's going to burn some 344 00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:01,440 things off of you and your marriage covenant. 345 00:24:02,640 --> 00:24:10,560 Listen, your role, listen closely is not to play the part 346 00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:12,040 of the Holy Ghost for your spouse. 347 00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:17,880 I'll say it on this side. Your role, husband or wife, is 348 00:24:17,880 --> 00:24:24,120 not to play the role of the Holy Spirit for your spouse. 349 00:24:26,120 --> 00:24:27,280 You know a lot of people are praying. 350 00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:30,600 Lord, change my spouse. I'm going to submit to you. 351 00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:32,240 You need to pray. Lord, change me. 352 00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:36,080 Holy Ghost, what do I need to do? 353 00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:40,280 When we come into marriage counseling, there's typically a 354 00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:44,400 list of everything the other person is or isn't doing. 355 00:24:45,120 --> 00:24:48,560 And we have to refocus that list when we're meeting with him and 356 00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:52,120 say, listen, what is your role within the marriage covenant 357 00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:54,520 'cause I don't care if he is Freddie the Freak. 358 00:24:56,960 --> 00:25:02,920 He could be and he needs slap spiritually, I get it, and put 359 00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:06,280 back in his place. But that doesn't mean that you 360 00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:10,240 still don't do your part. God is not going to judge you 361 00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:12,760 based upon what Freddie the Freak did or didn't do. 362 00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:16,200 He's going to base you on what did I call you to do? 363 00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:19,840 And you know, with the Holy Ghost, it's not natural, it's 364 00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:24,040 supernatural. With that anointing, you could 365 00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:29,160 help win and be solid and be stable in any situation. 366 00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:35,080 Hallelujah. So the Holy Ghost, the Bible 367 00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:36,640 says he's our helper. Guess what? 368 00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:40,480 He comes to bring help in the marriage covenant, He comes help 369 00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:44,040 in parenting, he comes to help the family. 370 00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:47,800 If there's brokenness, dysfunction, it says he's the 371 00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:51,840 healer. Acts 1038 said that how Jesus 372 00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:54,000 went about doing good healing, all that were pressed to the 373 00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:56,480 devil for the Holy Spirit was with him. 374 00:25:57,680 --> 00:25:59,240 There was an anointing to bring healing. 375 00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:02,480 Even if you grew up at transgenerationally and 376 00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:04,440 dysfunction after dysfunction, guess what? 377 00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:07,400 God can bring normality. It stops with you now and every 378 00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:10,120 generation after that it's going to be functioning in Christ. 379 00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:13,040 Amen. So you need the Holy Spirit 380 00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:16,560 operating to have a successful marriage company. 381 00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:21,400 He will lead you, guide you, remind you, and burn some things 382 00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:23,680 off. He'll strengthen you and He's 383 00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:29,800 the great God on the inside. Now second general principle or 384 00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:34,200 key, as Jesus said to Peter, I'll give you the keys of the 385 00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:38,080 Kingdom we can find in Corinthians, first Corinthians. 386 00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:43,360 Now first Corinthians. That's a messed up church you 387 00:26:43,360 --> 00:26:47,760 ever wrote. Read all 16 chapters, which we 388 00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:50,000 encourage an anchor faith church to read through the Bible. 389 00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:54,480 Amen. Hallelujah every year, but this 390 00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:57,400 is a spirit filled church. But they were a messed up 391 00:26:57,440 --> 00:27:01,800 church. In chapter one they had divided 392 00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:03,680 the church with their personalities. 393 00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:09,400 In chapter 2 they were operating in natural wisdom and not godly 394 00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:12,760 wisdom. In chapter 3, they're operating 395 00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:15,440 with a carnal, not mind and not a spiritual mind. 396 00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:19,120 In chapter four, they forgot who their spiritual father was. 397 00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:23,520 In chapter five, he had to deal with immorality. 398 00:27:23,920 --> 00:27:26,880 In chapter 6, they were bringing lawsuits against one another in 399 00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:30,440 the church. In Chapter 7, they had messed up 400 00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:34,480 marriages. In chapter 8, they had messed up 401 00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:36,280 their own lives. By operating in liberty. 402 00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:40,320 You don't have to do everything you have permission to do. 403 00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:44,160 The state of Florida has legalized a thing called 404 00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:47,840 marijuana. You don't have to do everything 405 00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:53,000 you have permission to do. So they had messed it up through 406 00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:56,440 liberty. In Chapter 9, they refused to be 407 00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:59,720 corrected. In chapter 10, they were given 408 00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:02,520 to idolatry. In Chapter 11, they messed up 409 00:28:02,520 --> 00:28:05,200 the communion table. In chapter 12, they messed up 410 00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:08,400 spiritual gifts. In chapter 13, they messed up 411 00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:11,280 love. In chapter 14, they had messed 412 00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:13,960 up public worship. In chapter 15, they had messed 413 00:28:13,960 --> 00:28:19,040 up the resurrection. This was a messed up church, but 414 00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:22,080 even in a mess, God can make a message. 415 00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:26,000 I think the most powerful thing is the apostle Paul was pinning 416 00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:30,080 this with the help of Holy Ghost is when we get to chapter 13 to 417 00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:33,720 cure the ill of the mess because that's the great love chapter. 418 00:28:34,320 --> 00:28:36,000 And I want to submit to you. If you're going to make your 419 00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:39,280 family effective and successful, you need to be operating the 420 00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:42,960 love of God. So I'm going to read you from 421 00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:47,520 the Amplified Bible, First Corinthians chapter 13, verses 4 422 00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:50,800 through 8. And if you need help in your 423 00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:56,080 home, this is a great chapter to chew on day after day, minute 424 00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:58,560 after minute, week after week, month after month. 425 00:28:59,880 --> 00:29:01,320 And the Amplified reads it this way. 426 00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:03,760 Love endures with patience and serenity. 427 00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:06,400 Love is kind and it's thoughtful. 428 00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:09,760 It's not jealous or envious. Love does not brag and it's not 429 00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:12,280 proud or arrogant. Love is not rude. 430 00:29:12,280 --> 00:29:15,880 It's not self seeking. Love is not provoked, not overly 431 00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:21,240 sensitive and easily angered. Love does not take an account a 432 00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:24,040 wrong, endured. It does not rejoice as 433 00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:27,400 injustice, but rejoices with the truth when right and truth 434 00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:30,000 prevail. Love bears all things regardless 435 00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:33,520 of what comes, believes all things looking for the best in 436 00:29:33,520 --> 00:29:36,320 each other, hopes all things, remaining steadfast during 437 00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:39,880 difficult times. Love endures all things without 438 00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:43,600 weakening. Love never fails and never fades 439 00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:47,600 nor ends. What a power packed scriptures 440 00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:50,720 to help us overcome. Amen. 441 00:29:51,240 --> 00:29:55,080 So if you're in a mess, if you actually do these things, apply 442 00:29:55,080 --> 00:29:57,800 it like soap, guess what? You're going to start to see 443 00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:02,120 success in the family. Now there's three 444 00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:07,800 characteristics of love, There's three provisions of love, and 445 00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:10,960 there's three evidences of love. Now, I'm only going to give you 446 00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:14,880 the three evidences of love, but I want to insert right now. 447 00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:20,880 If you're a man, if you're a man, if you are a covenant man, 448 00:30:22,200 --> 00:30:24,600 you can learn these other six characteristics if you sign up 449 00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:30,520 for 3/18. Every man, if he's going to 450 00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:34,520 grow, needs accountability. Every man, if he's going to 451 00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:38,120 grow, needs discipleship. I'm going to lean in real heavy 452 00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:40,720 right now, and I believe this with all my heart. 453 00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:44,400 If there's a problem in the earth, God comes to the man 454 00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:46,000 first. It's not that the woman doesn't 455 00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:49,840 have a part or she's not held accountable, but I get that 456 00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:53,440 pattern from the Garden of Eden. And listen, in the Garden of 457 00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:56,000 Eden, before the church was founded, the home was founded 458 00:30:56,760 --> 00:31:01,200 because God and his mastery of architecture and blueprint knew 459 00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:04,120 he had to build a family and then build the church. 460 00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:08,080 So there's two vehicles or organizations or ordained 461 00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:11,080 institutions that God has operating in the earth today and 462 00:31:11,080 --> 00:31:12,760 it's the family and it's the church. 463 00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:18,680 But when the family fell in Genesis, guess what God did 464 00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:22,440 first? He came to the man and said, 465 00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:27,360 where are you? And my answer is I was at 3:18, 466 00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:31,200 'cause I wouldn't have made the wrong decision. 467 00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:36,440 We know what Adam said. Well, it's the woman you gave 468 00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:40,000 me. But every man needs submitted to 469 00:31:40,280 --> 00:31:44,360 accountability other godly men. It's going to be an encouraged 470 00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:47,200 be able to encourage and sharpen them and then give them the 471 00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:49,440 discipleship tools to be successful. 472 00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:52,440 So I'll just double dog challenge you today. 473 00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:59,680 If you're considering thought about your wife's encouraging 474 00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:04,360 you to sign up for 3/18, take the challenge. 475 00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:11,160 The principles that I learned from Doctor Cole back when my 476 00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:16,200 journey began in 1997 revolutionized me as a man. 477 00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:23,160 It wasn't Arnold Schwarzenegger that set me free because there 478 00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:25,880 was a time in my life where I was looking at other men as 479 00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:29,480 mentors, but they weren't the man that I needed to emulate. 480 00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:33,800 It was the Lord Jesus Christ and he had an anointing and in a way 481 00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:38,000 of speaking to man, men that really set a foundation in my 482 00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:41,720 life. And I believe as the house is 483 00:32:41,720 --> 00:32:45,880 only go as well as the man goes, I don't believe if mama's happy, 484 00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:49,480 everybody's happy. I believe when the God says the 485 00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:52,640 man's in the right position, it gives the greatest propensity 486 00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:56,720 for the home. I'll say this as Jesus is a 487 00:32:56,720 --> 00:33:01,040 foundation to the church. A man is a foundation to the 488 00:33:01,040 --> 00:33:06,320 home and if the foundation is corrupt, the home is corrupt. 489 00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:12,680 So I was just kind of whet your appetite. 490 00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:16,600 If you're considering coming, it's going to be a challenge. 491 00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:18,200 There's going to be times when you feel like quitting. 492 00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:20,640 We've had men feel say we feel like throwing the books against 493 00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:22,720 the wall because it's challenging. 494 00:33:22,880 --> 00:33:25,320 It'll feel like it's stepping on your feet, slapping across the 495 00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:29,320 face, but it's a good, it's will do you good for your journey. 496 00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:31,560 To me, it's like the spiritual gym. 497 00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:36,640 There's only so much you can do by yourself if you're stuck on a 498 00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:40,680 lift, sometimes all you need is 2 fingers on a bench press to 499 00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:42,000 get you through that sticking point. 500 00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:46,520 And 318 could be those those spiritual principles and 501 00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:50,240 accountability to help you men get past some sticking points in 502 00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:52,720 your life. Amen. 503 00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:56,560 So the three evidences love are this because we're talking about 504 00:33:56,560 --> 00:33:58,600 First Corinthians 13 verses 4 through 8. 505 00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:02,160 Evidence means this is how I prove that I love you. 506 00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:05,880 You ever told your wife that you love her? 507 00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:12,320 Has she ever said prove it? Hallelujah. 508 00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:18,159 Don't answer that out loud. But this goes for anything 509 00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:21,920 general or specific when it comes to love. 510 00:34:22,600 --> 00:34:24,320 So the evidence of loves is this. 511 00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:28,320 Number one, there's selflessness, not selfishness. 512 00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:30,880 A child is selfish in the center of its own universe. 513 00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:34,679 A child, if he doesn't get its own way, throws a temper 514 00:34:34,679 --> 00:34:37,600 tantrum. How? 515 00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:41,120 If you're 52 years old and throwing a temper tantrum in 516 00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:44,960 your marriage, you're acting like a child. 1st Corinthians 13 517 00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:47,679 says, when I was a child, I thought like a child. 518 00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:50,400 I spoke like a child, understood like a child. 519 00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:53,400 But Paul said it's time to put away childish things and an 520 00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:55,360 evidence of love is selflessness. 521 00:34:55,639 --> 00:34:59,800 Selflessness means I'm there's a lack of preoccupation with my 522 00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:02,680 own interest, advancement and desire. 523 00:35:03,000 --> 00:35:07,400 I'm more concerned with meeting the needs and desires of others. 524 00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:15,440 Hallelujah. So if you're a spouse, guess 525 00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:17,000 what? I'm more interested in meeting 526 00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:20,960 the needs of my spouse than I'm concerned about my own emotions, 527 00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:24,320 thoughts, or desires. Now, the great thing about God 528 00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:27,240 and all of His infinite wisdom, as you give, you're going to 529 00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:30,160 receive. See, a lot of people are trying 530 00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:35,600 to receive and then give, but by faith we give selflessness and 531 00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:39,000 then we receive the benefit. The second thing about the 532 00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:41,960 evidence of love is the desire to benefit the one loved. 533 00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:46,880 And a benefit means something that's produced that's good or 534 00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:49,000 helpful. Did you know helping with 535 00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:54,880 laundry is helpful? Do you know a real man can 536 00:35:54,880 --> 00:36:00,400 vacuum a rug? A real man can help clean the 537 00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:04,720 home. A real man could help get the 538 00:36:04,720 --> 00:36:08,400 kids ready for bed. A real man doesn't leave dirty 539 00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:12,640 dishes in the sink and fight with his wife as molds growing 540 00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:15,960 for a week to see who's going to do the dishes. 541 00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:24,680 Hallelujah, Hallelujah. The third thing of an evidence 542 00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:27,000 of love, how I prove is a desire for unity. 543 00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:29,840 And this only comes through communication. 544 00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:33,080 You know, there's three big things in the marriage covenant, 545 00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:37,000 communication, sex and money. And the last two hinge on the 546 00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:39,920 first one, communication. If you can't communicate, the 547 00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:41,360 other two aren't going to progress. 548 00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:45,680 But you can't have unity without learning how to talk. 549 00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:51,080 But in evidence of love means I'm going to be unified, which 550 00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:53,360 means men, you need to learn how to communicate. 551 00:36:53,800 --> 00:36:56,280 Now you know the average man speaks a lot less words than the 552 00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:58,960 average woman. That's when That's why when you 553 00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:02,280 come home after 8 hours, 10 hours at work and your wife 554 00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:03,720 asked you, honey, how was your day? 555 00:37:03,720 --> 00:37:11,320 You say it was good one adjective to describe being gone 556 00:37:11,320 --> 00:37:14,800 8 to 10 hours. And then she'll start asking you 557 00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:19,960 some questions and you think she's nagging you when all she 558 00:37:19,960 --> 00:37:22,400 wants to do is be intimately acquainted with you and know how 559 00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:26,680 your day was. So men, we need to learn how to 560 00:37:26,680 --> 00:37:29,760 talk. Amen. 561 00:37:32,720 --> 00:37:36,160 Now I'm I'm going to bring this plane in for a landing. 562 00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:39,600 I'm going to give you 2 keys for the women. 563 00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:45,120 And to be have equality. I'm not going to do anything for 564 00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:47,640 the men. I'm just kidding. 565 00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:54,640 I'm going to give you 2 keys for the men. 566 00:37:56,520 --> 00:38:04,480 So Are you ready? Let's go to Proverbs 2715. 567 00:38:08,720 --> 00:38:14,920 Hallelujah. A continue dripping on a very 568 00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:18,560 rainy day and a contentious woman are alike. 569 00:38:20,720 --> 00:38:25,200 Well, this will make you want to run away. 570 00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:31,160 Now, the the keyword is continual. 571 00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:38,960 Ladies, when you practice something, that means you 572 00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:46,000 perpetually do it. So if this happens occasionally, 573 00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:48,720 it's not continual. Are you with me? 574 00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:54,080 So there's no condemnation, only conviction to bring you up 575 00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:57,920 because we're to advance always, right? 576 00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:02,400 So if you want to go to a higher rank or level, don't be 577 00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:06,240 contentious. And it says continually. 578 00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:08,840 So I don't practice this. This is why you need the Holy 579 00:39:08,840 --> 00:39:13,280 Ghost, because the Holy Spirit will tap you on the inside and 580 00:39:13,280 --> 00:39:20,320 say, my daughter, you are being continually contentious. 581 00:39:20,320 --> 00:39:24,480 Now, what's contentious? It means you find fault. 582 00:39:27,280 --> 00:39:29,520 It means you like to fight. You're a brawler. 583 00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:36,520 You're antagonistic. I'll say this way, you always 584 00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:44,080 put him down. Contentious means that you're 585 00:39:44,080 --> 00:39:48,080 against and you're a rivalry. Instead of completing, you're 586 00:39:48,080 --> 00:39:55,080 competing in the Garden of Eden. It was oneness, Adam said. 587 00:39:55,520 --> 00:39:57,440 She's bone in my bone and flesh in my flesh. 588 00:39:57,440 --> 00:40:02,040 They were to be one unit, harmony and concord. 589 00:40:02,440 --> 00:40:04,360 She wasn't competing against God. 590 00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:08,280 She was completing her assignment in God's picture of 591 00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:10,280 what the marriage should look like and operate like. 592 00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:13,640 But you can be a contentious woman when you're complaining 593 00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:15,760 fault finding you're always against your husband. 594 00:40:16,000 --> 00:40:18,760 You know, the Bible says, and I'll give this I was said and 595 00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:23,360 tithe and offering time that women you need to if you're if 596 00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:26,240 you're a single woman, one of the first requirements. 597 00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:28,720 Obviously they need to be born again, but they need to have a 598 00:40:28,720 --> 00:40:31,360 job, right, because God gave Adam a job before he gave him 599 00:40:31,360 --> 00:40:33,400 his wife. But do you know that the Bible 600 00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:36,680 says when he formed Eve, he made a woman that was going to be for 601 00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:41,480 him. So if you if for men, if you 602 00:40:41,480 --> 00:40:44,800 want to, if you're single and you're trying to get a candidate 603 00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:48,080 as a wife, you need to make sure that she's for you. 604 00:40:49,760 --> 00:40:53,520 And a contentious woman continually is always against 605 00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:56,680 her husband. Always fight, fight, fault 606 00:40:56,680 --> 00:41:00,600 finding, criticizing, complaining, putting down. 607 00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:03,920 And I'll say this is typically typically because she's not well 608 00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:08,720 with herself and you need the Holy Ghost to touch that part of 609 00:41:08,720 --> 00:41:11,800 your life so you can come alongside him. 610 00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:14,000 The Message Bible reads it like this. 611 00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:18,800 A nagging spouse is like the drip, drip, drip of a leaky 612 00:41:18,800 --> 00:41:21,360 faucet. You can't turn it off and you 613 00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:24,960 can't get away from it. How many men want to come home 614 00:41:24,960 --> 00:41:28,960 to that? Proverbs 2119 says this. 615 00:41:28,960 --> 00:41:31,760 It's better to dwell in the wilderness than when they can 616 00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:34,080 with a contentious and an angry woman. 617 00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:38,080 So listen, I'm going to give you an antidote, ladies. 618 00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:44,520 If you feel contentious, frustrated, fussy, disappointed, 619 00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:49,040 there's an antidote. What's an antidote? 620 00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:52,240 A lot of times we use that in conjunction when when you get 621 00:41:52,240 --> 00:41:54,120 bit with something that's poisonous, that could end your 622 00:41:54,120 --> 00:41:56,320 life. And listen, contention can end 623 00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:59,440 your life. What I mean by that it's not 624 00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:03,160 necessary that you'll be separated as far as death, but 625 00:42:03,640 --> 00:42:05,800 death means separation. You could be separated from your 626 00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:09,160 spouse and God never wanted to be like that because year after 627 00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:13,320 year, decade after decade, all you do is be contentious. 628 00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:16,560 But a lot of times we use an antidote as this, you've been 629 00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:19,240 bitten by something and they got to give you an antidote. 630 00:42:19,240 --> 00:42:24,400 What to cure what the poison was and in in Ephesians chapter 4 631 00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:31,520 verses 31 through 32, God gives an antidote for in this specific 632 00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:33,920 scenario, I'm talking about the wife to be healed. 633 00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:36,120 I'm going to read this from the amplified Bible. 634 00:42:36,120 --> 00:42:43,000 It says this, let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamour, 635 00:42:43,600 --> 00:42:53,560 perpetual animosity, resentment, strife, fault finding and 636 00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:59,160 slander be put away from you, along with every kind of malice, 637 00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:04,720 all spitefulness, verbal abuse. Now the listen to verse 32. 638 00:43:04,720 --> 00:43:08,320 Because this is the cure. This is the cure. 639 00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:11,920 Are you with me? Say this is the cure. 640 00:43:13,760 --> 00:43:22,080 Be kind, helpful to one another, tender hearted, compassionate, 641 00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:25,800 understanding. And I'm going to hone in on 642 00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:30,400 this, forgiving one another readily and freely, just as God 643 00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:34,880 in Christ also forgave you. Now forgiveness, if you want 644 00:43:34,880 --> 00:43:37,320 health and wholeness and you don't want to be a contentious 645 00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:40,160 woman, you need to make sure that you're in forgiveness. 646 00:43:40,160 --> 00:43:43,520 Forgiveness comes on three levels or three dimensions #1 if 647 00:43:43,520 --> 00:43:46,320 you don't done wrong, thank, thank the Lord that he's given 648 00:43:46,320 --> 00:43:51,360 us a key, a fundamental that we can run to if we blow it. 649 00:43:51,920 --> 00:43:55,920 And it's a thing called repentance and forgiveness. 650 00:43:56,120 --> 00:44:00,240 First, we go before God and we say we're sorry that we blew it. 651 00:44:01,240 --> 00:44:04,360 Secondly, we go before those that we've injured or harm and 652 00:44:04,360 --> 00:44:06,840 say, guess what? I'm, you know what that does in 653 00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:09,440 the marriage when you say I'm the one instead of you're the 654 00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:16,400 one boy that disarms and dismounts some arguments, but 655 00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:19,120 you go before the injured or the offended party, say please 656 00:44:19,120 --> 00:44:21,280 forgive me. And then thirdly, you need to 657 00:44:21,280 --> 00:44:27,480 make sure you forgive yourself. That's self help and self-care. 658 00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:29,480 self-care. When you say, Lord, you're not 659 00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:32,080 holding that against me anymore. I've asked, asked for your 660 00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:34,400 forgiveness. I've applied the blood and guess 661 00:44:34,400 --> 00:44:35,640 what? You're not holding that against 662 00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:36,640 me. So I don't need to hold that 663 00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:40,480 against myself. So listen, drop it, release it 664 00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:45,040 and let it go. That's the cure for contention 665 00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:49,480 is love in that dynamic. The second specific principle I 666 00:44:49,480 --> 00:44:51,560 want to give you as a wife and end on a positive. 667 00:44:52,240 --> 00:44:54,640 Listen, there's so many principles in the word of God. 668 00:44:54,960 --> 00:44:59,440 I'm just trying to Wet Wet your taste buds to two so you 669 00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:02,720 continue to read the word and find these truths so that you 670 00:45:02,720 --> 00:45:08,600 can be a success. Proverbs 1914 says this. 671 00:45:08,600 --> 00:45:14,800 Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers, but a 672 00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:19,040 prudent wife is from the Lord. Hallelujah. 673 00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:26,760 I like that the writer in this wisdom literature of Proverbs 674 00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:33,720 saw that there was more value in treasure in a wife than just 675 00:45:33,720 --> 00:45:37,320 gold, silver and riches. What a picture. 676 00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:41,120 Husbands, you need to look at your wife as a treasure chest. 677 00:45:43,080 --> 00:45:46,320 She's so valuable. And when woman you need to see 678 00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:51,280 yourself as that and be prudent. Cause a prudent wife is from the 679 00:45:51,280 --> 00:45:54,640 Lord and you want to have that in your marriage cover. 680 00:45:54,640 --> 00:45:59,640 Now prudence means this, to be circumspect, to have insight, 681 00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:03,160 wisely understand and cause to prosper. 682 00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:07,560 I'll repeat that to be prudent means to be circumspect to have 683 00:46:07,560 --> 00:46:11,840 insight to wisely understand and cause to prosper. 684 00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:18,960 So prudent wife has these characteristics of circumspect 685 00:46:19,240 --> 00:46:22,800 having insight wisely understanding her husband and 686 00:46:22,800 --> 00:46:26,840 causes the household to prosper. That's a prudent woman and 687 00:46:26,840 --> 00:46:32,000 really this all that gives a a picture or definition of a godly 688 00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:37,840 wife examines all sides and as insight or introspection and 689 00:46:37,840 --> 00:46:41,080 knowledge and skill and view into the interior of anything. 690 00:46:43,040 --> 00:46:45,200 A prudent wife means she sees everything. 691 00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:48,080 She examines everything. She has thorough knowledge and 692 00:46:48,080 --> 00:46:51,600 skill. She has view on the interior of 693 00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:54,520 anything. When I think of that, it makes 694 00:46:54,520 --> 00:46:57,840 me think that God, when you created woman, you pulled her 695 00:46:57,840 --> 00:47:02,440 from the inside of man. So she knows what's going on 696 00:47:02,840 --> 00:47:09,080 inside of you and you pulled her from a thing called a rib, which 697 00:47:09,080 --> 00:47:11,520 brings protection. So a prudent wife is going to 698 00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:15,840 bring protection and see things and discern things that are 699 00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:19,240 going on around the home in the home or trying to come against 700 00:47:19,240 --> 00:47:21,120 the home. And she's going to come and help 701 00:47:21,120 --> 00:47:24,280 the the house to prosper becomes she becomes an aide. 702 00:47:26,520 --> 00:47:31,040 So prudent wife is a great blessing and a prudent woman is 703 00:47:31,040 --> 00:47:33,040 wise. A prudent woman, when she sees 704 00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:36,640 her husband taking out the trash, she'll say freeze. 705 00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:47,760 He'll be like what? And she'll say, you look good 706 00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:56,480 taking out that trash. That's a prudent life. 707 00:48:01,360 --> 00:48:10,320 Proverbs 14 one says this, the wise woman builds her house. 708 00:48:11,320 --> 00:48:15,560 A prudent woman built her house, but the foolish 1 pulls it down 709 00:48:15,560 --> 00:48:21,680 with her own hands. Wow, that is a sobering but at 710 00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:25,560 the same time exciting scripture because the ability to to 711 00:48:25,560 --> 00:48:30,760 succeed is in your own power. Joshua 24 says this. 712 00:48:31,960 --> 00:48:36,240 Joshua said I've said before you life and death choose life. 713 00:48:36,240 --> 00:48:42,880 This verse teaches you women how to choose life and how to 714 00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:44,320 succeed in the marriage covenant. 715 00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:51,680 And a prudent woman will bring blessing, prosperity, goodness 716 00:48:52,080 --> 00:48:57,320 and growth to that home. Proverbs 31 is a wonderful book 717 00:48:57,320 --> 00:49:00,680 because primarily the greatest percentage of that is about what 718 00:49:00,680 --> 00:49:03,920 a godly woman looks like and operates with men. 719 00:49:04,160 --> 00:49:05,520 Women. You should be encouraged to go 720 00:49:05,520 --> 00:49:07,600 read that because it taught She was in business. 721 00:49:08,600 --> 00:49:10,560 She prayed at night. That's what I get out of because 722 00:49:10,560 --> 00:49:13,600 she said she worked at night. So she was like the psalmist 723 00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:16,320 that said even at night, my heart is meditating upon the 724 00:49:16,320 --> 00:49:17,480 word. She'll get up and cover her 725 00:49:17,480 --> 00:49:19,800 household in prayer. I plead the blood of Jesus. 726 00:49:20,000 --> 00:49:21,480 My kids are going to serve the Lord. 727 00:49:21,640 --> 00:49:24,800 My husband's going to serve God. We have peace in this house. 728 00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:34,200 Ain't no woman, loose woman or anything else going to come 729 00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:37,080 against my kids, My husband, she will pray. 730 00:49:37,320 --> 00:49:40,080 She'll be a woman of virtue. And you know what the Bible 731 00:49:40,080 --> 00:49:42,040 says? That her household will rise up 732 00:49:42,040 --> 00:49:43,760 and call her blessed. Why? 733 00:49:43,760 --> 00:49:46,120 Because she doesn't pull down the house, but she builds it 734 00:49:46,280 --> 00:49:48,720 because she's prudent. And what a prayer to pray. 735 00:49:48,720 --> 00:49:51,520 God, if you're a wife, I need wisdom today. 736 00:49:51,520 --> 00:49:53,520 Operate. Thank you for the anointing to 737 00:49:53,520 --> 00:49:57,680 operate in this role and be a great blessing and benefit to my 738 00:49:57,680 --> 00:50:00,280 household. Now we get to the men. 739 00:50:01,720 --> 00:50:09,000 Hallelujah Colossians chapter 3 verse #19 I find this verse 740 00:50:09,000 --> 00:50:12,040 interesting because this is written to the church at 741 00:50:12,040 --> 00:50:15,920 Colossae which is a spirit filled tongue talking Bible 742 00:50:15,920 --> 00:50:19,400 believe in church but yet the Holy Ghost by inspiration of 743 00:50:19,400 --> 00:50:23,840 Paul pin this in the Bible. So there's obviously something 744 00:50:23,840 --> 00:50:27,800 going on that need to be addressed with the men in their 745 00:50:27,800 --> 00:50:31,200 role and the Holy Spirit identifies it. 746 00:50:31,200 --> 00:50:36,280 He said husbands love your wise and do not be bitter toward 747 00:50:36,280 --> 00:50:41,040 them. This isn't a fleshly carnal 748 00:50:41,040 --> 00:50:43,000 person. This is a spirit filled 749 00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:45,920 believer. And yet there's a propensity to 750 00:50:45,920 --> 00:50:49,320 be bitter towards your wife. What does bitter mean? 751 00:50:49,720 --> 00:50:56,680 It means you're sharp, you're sarcastic, you're biting. 752 00:50:56,680 --> 00:51:00,920 You know what it means to bite. You give a quick answer because 753 00:51:00,920 --> 00:51:02,440 you're irritated. You're on edge. 754 00:51:04,880 --> 00:51:11,000 You could be angry, right? This word bitter means you're 755 00:51:11,000 --> 00:51:14,320 painful to the mind. What an indictment. 756 00:51:14,320 --> 00:51:17,320 You don't want your wife to think of you as being painful to 757 00:51:17,320 --> 00:51:21,760 her. When you go home, she should 758 00:51:21,760 --> 00:51:24,040 want you home. When you go home, she should say 759 00:51:24,040 --> 00:51:27,400 my husband's home. There's stability, there's 760 00:51:27,400 --> 00:51:31,840 security, there's identity. When my husband come homes, he 761 00:51:31,840 --> 00:51:36,800 brings an atmosphere with them of peace and righteousness and 762 00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:39,400 joy. You don't want to come home as a 763 00:51:39,400 --> 00:51:41,200 bitter man. And she's thinking, I wish he 764 00:51:41,200 --> 00:51:44,840 would have stayed at work. Hallelujah. 765 00:51:46,440 --> 00:51:49,960 A Kingdom man is well received in his house. 766 00:51:51,080 --> 00:51:54,760 I'll say it again, a Kingdom man is well received in his house. 767 00:51:54,880 --> 00:51:58,320 He's not sharp, he's not sarcastic, he's not body, he's 768 00:51:58,320 --> 00:52:02,960 not painful to the mind. That's because we operate in a 769 00:52:02,960 --> 00:52:06,000 thing called love, man. It says love your wife. 770 00:52:06,000 --> 00:52:09,000 Don't be bitter or acidic to them. 771 00:52:10,960 --> 00:52:12,640 The word love. I want to give you one 772 00:52:12,640 --> 00:52:16,080 definition, definition of love to cure bitterness. 773 00:52:17,160 --> 00:52:19,760 And you know the Bible says in First Corinthians 13, as we read 774 00:52:19,760 --> 00:52:21,800 it already, love is long-suffering. 775 00:52:22,200 --> 00:52:24,240 One translation says love is patient. 776 00:52:24,840 --> 00:52:27,480 Patience means I have a long Wick. 777 00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:33,280 You remember Wild Coyote and the Roadrunner? 778 00:52:35,760 --> 00:52:38,960 And he's always trying to blow him up with dynamite. 779 00:52:40,880 --> 00:52:44,000 And every time when it didn't explode, he would go look at the 780 00:52:44,000 --> 00:52:48,200 Wick, right? And it was right there going to 781 00:52:48,200 --> 00:52:52,040 explode. But don't be explosive. 782 00:52:52,040 --> 00:52:55,240 Have a long Wick, man. This isn't you. 783 00:52:55,240 --> 00:52:59,080 This is the supernatural power of God working inside of you. 784 00:52:59,280 --> 00:53:01,520 That's why you got to say I got patience. 785 00:53:02,080 --> 00:53:03,800 I got the love of God on the inside of me. 786 00:53:04,160 --> 00:53:06,160 I have a long Wick. I'm long-suffering. 787 00:53:06,200 --> 00:53:09,400 I can, I like this. Patience means I can't endure. 788 00:53:10,080 --> 00:53:11,800 I'm just not built for a good time. 789 00:53:11,800 --> 00:53:15,760 I'm built for a long time. And this journey is not a 790 00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:20,000 Sprint, it's a marathon. And so for me to come to 318 and 791 00:53:20,000 --> 00:53:22,320 be around other godly men and have accountability, I'm going 792 00:53:22,320 --> 00:53:24,400 to learn a thing called patience, which means I got 793 00:53:24,400 --> 00:53:25,800 endurance. I can do it. 794 00:53:25,800 --> 00:53:28,840 I'm not going to grow weary in well doing, even though she's 795 00:53:28,840 --> 00:53:35,520 acting like someone who sits on a broomstick right now. 796 00:53:39,160 --> 00:53:43,400 I got a thing called endurance and my love is going to conquer 797 00:53:43,400 --> 00:53:48,760 her crazy Cray Cray right now because she acting funny. 798 00:53:50,280 --> 00:53:53,560 But guess what? Patience Trump's that weirdness. 799 00:53:56,720 --> 00:53:59,440 Hallelujah. You know, there's certain times 800 00:53:59,440 --> 00:54:00,880 of the month. I'll keep this real general. 801 00:54:04,920 --> 00:54:08,280 That'd be good for you men to notate on your calendar. 802 00:54:11,280 --> 00:54:16,800 So a week prior to that date, you can practice a little more 803 00:54:17,360 --> 00:54:21,840 patience instead of thinking what is wrong with this woman? 804 00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:27,440 This is the woman, she's what's going on. 805 00:54:27,440 --> 00:54:31,960 The emotions are all and God's saying, listen, long Wick 806 00:54:34,000 --> 00:54:38,240 endurance, listen. Patience means you're constant 807 00:54:39,440 --> 00:54:43,400 and you're steadfast. You know man, if you're going to 808 00:54:43,400 --> 00:54:45,160 overcome bitterness, you need to be like Jesus. 809 00:54:45,160 --> 00:54:49,640 Jesus was the same yesterday, today and forever. 810 00:54:51,640 --> 00:54:54,960 Instability in the man creates instability in the home. 811 00:54:55,520 --> 00:54:58,720 Jesus was never in stable or unstable with the church. 812 00:54:58,920 --> 00:55:01,080 He got. He got great. 813 00:55:01,320 --> 00:55:04,360 He brought great stability to the church, and men should bring 814 00:55:04,360 --> 00:55:09,480 great stability to the home. I know this is kind of a graphic 815 00:55:09,480 --> 00:55:12,400 picture, but I'm, I'm going to plant this in your mind. 816 00:55:13,280 --> 00:55:15,920 When you talk about constancy, endurance and steadfastness, it 817 00:55:15,920 --> 00:55:17,680 really gives a picture of a statue. 818 00:55:19,560 --> 00:55:23,000 And a statue doesn't change no matter what happens to it. 819 00:55:23,680 --> 00:55:27,320 And my wife, when we used to live in Oklahoma, she was taking 820 00:55:27,320 --> 00:55:30,200 the Turnpike back from Norman, a Broken Arrow. 821 00:55:30,320 --> 00:55:31,720 And you got to stop there to pay. 822 00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:37,040 And when she reached out to pay, there was a bird that Pooh 823 00:55:37,040 --> 00:55:42,080 poohed on her arm. Can you imagine the timing just 824 00:55:42,080 --> 00:55:45,080 like that? And it hit her. 825 00:55:47,240 --> 00:55:51,160 Matter of fact, it happened to my daughter at Washington DC 826 00:55:51,160 --> 00:55:54,040 trip, right? That's a curse. 827 00:55:54,040 --> 00:55:56,560 I cursed that bird poop off a family. 828 00:55:59,880 --> 00:56:06,240 But I think of of a statue. If a statue gets pooped on, it 829 00:56:06,240 --> 00:56:10,680 stays the same. So if you're getting that in 830 00:56:10,680 --> 00:56:15,080 your marriage, men, just be steady. 831 00:56:15,640 --> 00:56:17,840 You realize if you freak out, she's going to freak out. 832 00:56:18,720 --> 00:56:24,400 You realize if you react and not respond to the emotions, come 833 00:56:24,400 --> 00:56:25,760 on, man. You're like, man, if I would 834 00:56:25,760 --> 00:56:27,800 have just handled that better, it wouldn't get dragged on for 835 00:56:27,800 --> 00:56:31,080 four weeks. Be honest. 836 00:56:31,080 --> 00:56:34,640 If I would have handled that better, I could have been a cure 837 00:56:35,200 --> 00:56:39,360 and I added to I've been there before. 838 00:56:39,920 --> 00:56:45,920 I thought, OK, I'll learn patience steadfast, right? 839 00:56:46,680 --> 00:56:52,120 I want to close with this Ephesians chapter 5 verses 25 840 00:56:52,120 --> 00:56:57,600 through 27. I'm going to read this from the 841 00:56:57,600 --> 00:57:00,920 amplified Bible. It says, Husbands, love your 842 00:57:00,920 --> 00:57:07,160 wives, seek the highest good for her, and surround her with a 843 00:57:07,160 --> 00:57:12,520 caring, unselfish love, just as Christ also loved the church. 844 00:57:13,120 --> 00:57:18,960 And he gave himself up for her so that Jesus might sanctify the 845 00:57:18,960 --> 00:57:23,160 church, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the 846 00:57:23,160 --> 00:57:26,680 Word of God, so that in turn He might present the church to 847 00:57:26,680 --> 00:57:31,880 Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any 848 00:57:31,880 --> 00:57:36,320 such thing, but that she should be holy, set apart for and 849 00:57:36,320 --> 00:57:40,600 blameless. What a great scripture. 850 00:57:41,520 --> 00:57:43,520 I want to take one principle out of that, though. 851 00:57:43,520 --> 00:57:46,680 He said that He would cleanse her with the washing of the 852 00:57:46,680 --> 00:57:51,480 water by the Word. Men, what are you saying to your 853 00:57:51,480 --> 00:57:55,440 wife? Men, what are you constantly 854 00:57:55,440 --> 00:57:58,760 communicating to your wife? We were in a counselling meeting 855 00:57:58,760 --> 00:58:03,720 one time and my wife and I and I remember this. 856 00:58:04,600 --> 00:58:07,000 The husband literally said she's a small ball and chain. 857 00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:14,880 Do you know in Proverbs 1821, it says life and death are in the 858 00:58:15,440 --> 00:58:17,520 power of the tongue. Those that love, it's going to 859 00:58:17,520 --> 00:58:22,160 eat the fruit of it. That speaks of bondage. 860 00:58:24,560 --> 00:58:29,240 Why in the world would I want to confess with my words that have 861 00:58:29,240 --> 00:58:31,400 creative power? You're, you're made in the image 862 00:58:31,400 --> 00:58:35,360 of God and in his image He's given us creative power on the 863 00:58:35,360 --> 00:58:38,640 inside also. So in Genesis, guess what God 864 00:58:38,640 --> 00:58:42,680 did when he created the world? He spoke it into existence. 865 00:58:42,680 --> 00:58:46,680 God said it, He saw it and he saw that it was good. 866 00:58:46,680 --> 00:58:50,800 Notice, notice a pattern. God said it, then he saw it, and 867 00:58:50,800 --> 00:58:54,160 then he saw that it was good. Husbands, if you would say it, 868 00:58:54,160 --> 00:58:57,640 then you would see it and you would see that it is good. 869 00:58:57,640 --> 00:59:00,760 Too many times though, men are wanting to see it and then say 870 00:59:00,760 --> 00:59:02,320 it by face. Say it. 871 00:59:02,800 --> 00:59:05,840 Call her a woman of God. Call her anointed woman. 872 00:59:06,440 --> 00:59:08,480 Call her bless. Call her full of peace. 873 00:59:08,480 --> 00:59:12,840 Call her full of prosperity. Call her what God calls her. 874 00:59:18,600 --> 00:59:20,720 Thank you so much for listening to this message. 875 00:59:20,800 --> 00:59:24,160 If you want more, subscribe to our message podcast on iTunes, 876 00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:26,280 Google Play, Spotify and SoundCloud. 877 00:59:26,480 --> 00:59:28,920 Rating and leaving a comment will go a long way with helping 878 00:59:28,920 --> 00:59:30,640 our messages get better circulation. 879 00:59:31,160 --> 00:59:33,480 If you'd enjoy watching our weekend messages, visit 880 00:59:33,480 --> 00:59:37,520 youtube.com/anchor Faith. We'd love it if you'd subscribe, 881 00:59:37,520 --> 00:59:39,360 leave a comment or a like on the messages. 882 00:59:39,680 --> 00:59:42,000 If you'd like to find out more information about us and how 883 00:59:42,000 --> 00:59:44,280 we're influencing the world and help support the work we're 884 00:59:44,280 --> 00:59:47,000 doing by giving, just visit anchorfaith.com.