I know that today couldn't be a challenging day, right?
As mothers, you know, some people have lost their mothers
and they no longer have their mothers with them today.
Maybe some of you have been, you know, separated from your
mother's because of situations, trauma, dysfunction in your
life. So there's many emotions I think
that can happen on Mother's Day and also Father's Day because of
different things that has happened in our life.
But I do want to say that no matter what has happened, that
God is a restorer and he is a Redeemer and he can redeem any
broken relationship, He can redeem your heart.
If your mother is no longer here, He can comfort you and he
can be the one to help navigate you each and every year when you
encounter again, when the world celebrates mothers, Amen.
So we know that there are many different emotions.
And, you know, with that understanding, we understand
that not everybody feels that it's a Happiest Mother's Day,
but that's the way it should be. Amen.
It should be a happy Mother's Day because of the fact that
none of us would be here without a mother.
So be thankful that you are even brought into the earth.
Amen. That you were brought into the
earth so that then God could use you to be a mother to others, a
mother to others. And that's kind of what we're
going to talk about today, that maybe you don't have a great
example of a mother. Maybe you again have been
traumatized, rejected by a mother.
You know that is not God's design and was never God's
heart. But because of the fall of
humanity, we know that we have to pick up the pieces of sin and
what is remained in the earth, right?
And with that that comes different scenarios and
different situations. But again, if we we can allow
some other women or other mothers to begin to speak into
our life and bring the nurturing side of what the mother was
supposed to bring into your life.
And not just nurture, but many other things that a woman can
bring forth. Amen.
And my scripture is because this year the Lord laid it on my
heart to speak to our women in this house to be Deborah's, and
for Deborah's to arise in the earth.
And we know the the story of Deborah.
If you don't, you can find that in the book of Judges, Chapter 4
and Chapter 5. But God used Deborah as a woman
to help deliver a nation. And he she was many things, not
just a woman. She was a judge.
She was a prophet. She was a psalmist and an
intercessor. She was a deliverer, but she was
also what Judges 5:00 and 7:00 called a mother to Israel, and
it said this. It says the pheasantry ceased
and they ceased in Israel until I, Deborah arose until I arose a
mother in Israel. So what does that mean?
That she was a mother in Israel or a mother to Israel during
that time? What does that mean?
So we see this woman that God wanted to use to give strategic
military plans to be able to help overcome in that nation
once again as those people were rebellious once again and the
people were being oppressed by the Canaanites and they were
suffering. And here God rose up Deborah at
as she was just doing what she was doing as a judge but she he
specifically gave Deborah a plan to be able to help the nation,
to help the nation. So it wasn't just about her.
It was about her being able to help.
Be a blessing to a nation or bring deliverance to a nation or
be able to speak into a nation of what God wanted his
ordinances and the things that he needed to say to the nation
and to bring them back to him. And so here she is as a mother
of Israel, right. And it says here that she was a
judge for over 20 years. But I like as I was reading
through this and this stood out to me today is that it said her
heart was with the the leaders of Israel and the volunteers.
Her heart was with the leaders of Israel and the volunteers.
And the reason why God could use Deborah is because she had her
heart involved with the leaders. She had her heart involved with
the volunteers and a mother most the time is led by what her
heart, her heart and the reason why she was able to judge
correctly and be a prophetic voice in that time and bring
deliverance to the nation is because year after year as she
judged the people rightly according to God's ordinances
for 20 years, day in and day out at the gates as she was judging
what was she doing. She was winning the hearts of
the people. She was actually sharing her
heart with the people and the people were sharing their heart
with her and the leaders could trust her.
They could trust her. And if she was going to say to
barrack, let's go do this, get 10,000 men so that we can go and
start to win this battle, listen and he said I'm not going to go
unless you go with me. I believe it's because he
trusted her, he trusted her. He saw through many years of her
heart towards the leaders, of her heart towards the people,
and he could trust that whatever she said will happen.
But I don't want to go unless you, Deborah, go with me.
And if we could see the importance of a mother, the
anointing of a mother or what we would like to call as well, a
mother's heart and what God created within woman, then we
would see that there's some powerful things that women carry
and can give birth to. Not just in the natural, but
women can be a part of what God needs to birth in this realm.
And I believe just as God rose Deborah up in that hour to help
deliver people, I believe that he needs a modern day Deborah
right now in the hour that we are living in the chaos that we
are seeing. When mothers have quit nurturing
to the fact that they can destroy their own children in
their womb, there has been a vacuum of what God created a
woman to be able to bear that nurturing that only.
And when that nurture is gone, we see the result of what man
has become, not just man. I'm saying mankind, what mankind
has become, because there's been enough vacuum of this nurture
that hasn't been there for humanity.
Who would have thought years ago we would start hearing of how
mothers would wake up and drown their babies, and mothers would,
you know, run their cars off in a in a pond with their babies
strapped in the car seats. Something has been twisted
within the mother in this hour that we're living so much so
that we don't even see a Society of women that are able to help
nurture young people to know who they are.
They are confused with their identity.
Well, when my daughter had two brothers and wanted to wear
underwear like her brothers that had Ninja Turtles on them at
three years old and four years old as a mother, as a mother, I
said no, honey, these are underwear and they're for boys.
But because women have even lost their minds actually that are
not telling their children how to become what God created them
to be, as even a species, we have quit nurturing what God has
given us to nurture. So a woman can bring forth
powerful things, and God designed her that way.
I love what Doctor Miles Monroe said about a woman.
A woman is a life giver. The third aspect of the female's
dominion role is that she is a life giver.
But the woman's dominion role of life giving is not limited to
just delivering a human child. The woman is an incubator
because her very nature reflects her inclination to develop and
to give new life to things. Her incubational ability
permeates all areas of her life, all areas of her life.
She has a physical womb, but she also has an emotional womb, a
mental and an instinctual womb, a spiritual womb.
And it is not only a matter of receiving, but it's also being
able to form what she has received, which makes the woman
an incubator. I can say it like this.
And he said it very well, and I'm going to read it in a
minute. You put something in a woman's
hand and there's going to be something that can be created
from it because that's what God's original design was for a
woman, for a woman, and what makes mothers powerful, what
makes mothers powerful? He says.
This doctor Miles, remember, whatever you give a woman,
whatever you give a woman, she's going to multiply it.
If you give her sperm, she's going to give you a baby.
If you give her a house, she's gonna give you a home.
If you give her groceries, she's gonna give you a meal.
If you give her a smile, she is gonna give you her heart.
If she multiplies and enlarges what is given to her, because we
can't help it, that's why we were designed and created.
And the bottom line is, is that it's not just for us being for
women, it is for us being for humanity.
Because a woman has something to give and bring forth to a man,
and a man can't do it without a woman.
And he also said this doctor, Miles Monroe.
He said this when purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable.
And when man don't understand the purpose of a woman, of a
mother, abuse is inevitable. And that's why we see men that
can't sit up underneath a woman. We see men that abuse women.
You see what I'm saying? Because they don't understand
her purpose and what she has to bring forth and to give birth
to. Hallelujah.
So I'm kind of jumping all over here, but it's I'm just going as
the Holy Spirit is leaving. Leading me says this we have to
understand why woman was created.
And we said that we see this out of Genesis chapter 2 and verse
18. We're talking about mothers who
are women. Amen.
So it's all the same. But in Genesis chapter 2 and
verse 18 it says and the Lord God said it is not good that man
should be alone. I will make him a helper.
One translation says a help me comparable to him.
So it is not good for man to be alone.
God said that God knew that there was something missing from
man that only the woman could bring forth for his life.
It's going to take us understanding that women must
understand their position too, and what we were created for.
We were created for man. We were created for man.
We were created to be able to come alongside and run with a
vision that that man would have, and us help incubate it and
create it and bring it forth. And if you don't have a woman,
guess what have you ever heard? I know this this saying, those
church mothers. There's some church mothers.
Why? Because what a mother can bring
and what a woman can bring, you still need.
If you don't have a wife or a woman in your life, there's
something that we can help speak into man and help bring forth
giftings and talents within their life.
This is what we were designed for, and if we understand what a
man and a woman's role is, it would be easy for us to be able
to function and flow together, knowing that what he has.
I'm there to help create and give birth to all the giftings,
all the talents. We as mothers are here to speak
forth those. That's why Deborah was the
mother of Israel, because she was able to bring forth wisdom
from herself and be able to pour it out into the people as she
was out and about with them on a daily basis.
She was able to speak into these people's lives and say, listen,
you can do this. Don't you see how God is
confusing you here? Come on, let's bring forth that
gift. Or let's bring forth that
talent. There is something about a
mother that can bring nurturing to an individual.
Nurturing to the gifts and the talents that only a woman can
bring. Hallelujah, Let's go to.
Genesis chapter 3, Genesis chapter 3 and verse 20.
It said Now the man called his wife's name Eve because she was
the mother of all the living. She was the mother of all the
living. As I said, a mother is a life
giver. She is actually a wellspring of
of life that is supposed to be able to pour out into people's
lives. Wisdom, direction, auction,
impartation. This is what we women are to do.
And we see that it begins to function if we're buried between
husband and wife. And then as you're married, as
husband and wives, then it's going to begin to function with
your children as you begin to give birth to children.
But not only is it supposed to be just your birth children, we
should have spiritual children. We should have other people that
God has put within our paths or within our sphere, within our
realm. That we are able to begin to
pour into motherly advice or nurturing towards people that
don't have that nurture, that weren't nurtured properly.
They weren't nurtured properly. They could have been nurtured
into the wrong things. And what are you now?
You're there as a mother to help nurture them back into the the
things of God like Deborah did, to bring them back around to the
ordinances of God, to what God really created them to be.
What does nurture mean? It means to care for, to
encourage the growth or the development of.
So as a mother we are here to care for and encourage growth
within people's lives so that they can develop properly.
We know parent or mothers that have not properly taken care of
their children. Their developmental skills are
off, right? They've not nurtured them
properly. And now we have children that
their developmental skills are off because they haven't.
They weren't nurtured properly within those formidable years.
And so therefore, what are we having to do?
We all if we are growing into the godly women that God created
us to be, then we should be able to pour that out within other
people's lives. Amen.
And it says this to nurture or it means the process of caring
for and encouraging the growth or development of someone or
something physically, emotionally, and spiritually in
all three realms, right? We have, you know, testimonies.
You've had heard testimonies of teachers, maybe somebody in a,
you know, school that maybe their mother wasn't caring for
them, but they had a teacher that noticed they weren't being
cared for properly. We hear this all the time in in
in schools, right? They weren't being cared for.
They weren't being nourished. They weren't being bathed.
They weren't wearing clothes that were being washed.
Right? Come on, y'all in the teacher's
world. You know what I'm talking about.
And yet we'll see this teacher come and begin to get them new
clothes, make sure they bring in them extra food during the day.
What is that teacher doing? She is showing some nurturing
For a child. That is absence to help them
grow mentally and physically. And you know, if they're born
again, hopefully spiritually, but if not, and how many kids
grow up to remember, I remember this teacher that only reason
why I'm successful today is because when I was in the third
grade and my mom was out on meth and I was living in a dump, my
teacher nurtured me, mothered me, poured into me.
You see that power that we have? And it was, it's not just, you
know, females. It may have been a a boy that
needed a mother's love that he wasn't getting.
Do you see that? And so therefore, we as
believers now, we see that we can begin to take on this call
to make sure that as mothers and women that we raise up to do
that for others, not just our own children.
It's not just about you mothering your own children.
It's about speaking into the lives of others and help bring
forth things within their lives that they never saw were in
there. They never saw it was in there.
But because you saw it, or because you encouraged it, or
because you spoke and said some little phrase, they grab hold of
it and it gives birth within their lives so that they can
take hold of it. Hallelujah.
Now look at first Thessalonians chapter 2, First Thessalonians
chapter 2, verses 7:00 and 9:00. It says.
But we have proved to be gentle among you.
This is Paul now writing first Thessalonians.
OK, a man is writing this, and he says, But we proved to be
gentle among you as a nursing mother tenderly cares for her
own children. Having so fond and affection for
you, we are well pleased to impart to you not only the
gospel of God, but also our own lives.
They're not just imparting the word, they're imparting their
own lives. That means you got to start
getting intimate with people, not disconnected from people.
We are living in a society where there is a disconnect even in
our relationships, not just husbands and wives.
Major disconnect there. But I'm just talking about with
our children, there's a disconnect.
With our our Co workers, there's a disconnect where nobody wants
to get involved with other people's lives.
But to truly nurture, as we see Deborah did, to truly be a
mother, she had to get into people's business and begin to
say hold up here like those church mothers.
What you think you coming up in the church wearing a skirt,
looking like a hoochie Mama, let's be mothers.
That is inappropriate. Come on, those church mothers
didn't mind saying that. And some of us need to start
saying it again, 'cause I'm starting to see it.
And why? Why is it to condemn?
No, it's to nurture and mother and say, sweetheart, we're not
at the beach and you want to let this be a precious gift to your
husband one day, not everybody that can see it.
Come on, we can say things in love and nurturing to people,
right? How about all these boys that
just want to flirt with every woman I woke up to and you need
to quit what you're doing right now?
That's enough. You're not going to come up here
and flirt with every girl in this church.
Get on down the road. I've said it.
Come on, Will. You have to do these things.
You have to do these things because you love people and you
love holiness and you love godliness and you love what God
loves and you hate what God hates.
And because the church. And because we have kept our
mouth shut for so long, because we don't want to offend.
When he says my word will offend, but you can say it in a
loving manner. And one day they may not know it
now, but one day they'll come back and thank you and had that
a many a times. Thank you.
Thank you for loving me enough to tell me I shouldn't be doing
that. You mothered me.
You nurtured me when my own mother wouldn't, And she would
let me leave the house looking like that.
See what I'm saying? So anyway, Paul's speaking here
in First Thessalonians, and this is Paul saying that he said that
he proved among them to be as a nursing mother that tenderly
cares for their own children. He's he used that reference
there as a nursing mother because there's something that
can bring nourishment and nurturing to an individual.
And it's not just for women. As I said, a man should be able
to bring nurture and mentorship and speak into other people's
lives. But the reason why he said it
like this is because there was an intimacy, you know, most of
the time a nursing mother that's kind of intimate between the
child and the mother, right? Not in a negative sexual way,
but that's an intimate time of them building a bond.
And he's using a reference there that we came to you in this kind
of nourishing, nursing way, to an intimate way to build a bond
with you and and and a fond affection with you.
And it says, And we were well pleased to impart it to you, not
just the gospel, but our own lives, our heart, our heart.
And then he goes on to say, because you have become very
dear to us. For you recall, brethren, our
labor and our hardship, how working night and day, so as not
to be a burden to anyone of you, we proclaim to you the gospel of
God. So for us to be able to again, I
believe one way we can be a witness to other people is to
bring forth a tender, nurturing side of ourselves.
That we can get intimate with people and then begin to help
nourish and build them up. And then begin to what?
Speak into their lives and bring an impartation of godliness or
the word? Maybe they're not born again,
but yet you work with somebody that you have chosen.
I'm going to nurture this person because she needs some love.
You see what I'm saying? I'm going to start speaking in
and start giving birth to some things in this person because
she is ungodly at my work. She da da da da da da da.
But I'm going to begin to be a mother and bring some things out
of this person to be able to bring birth to her so that she
can actually receive from the Kingdom of God and get born
again. Because I'm willing to get
intimate with people I'm willing to nurture and get into a place
of nurturing Hallelujah. Look at Second Timothy chapter
one and verse 5. Again, this is Paul speaking,
and I thought this was interesting as I was studying
this out, because I see here that Paul was very in tune with
the nurturing aspect and what it would take to have that
impartation into other people's lives, because again, he was
very aware. Here he says in verse five.
It says. For I am mindful of the sincere
faith within you which first dwelt within your grandmother,
Lois and your mother, Eunice. And I am sure that it is in you
as well. So he recognized faith within
Timothy's grandmother and mother.
Well, why do you think Paul recognized that?
Because he was intimate with them.
He spent time with them. But not only that, I'm sure that
grandmother had much to say to Paul.
No doubt. No doubt, if they spent time
together, that grandmother was going to speak into the gift
that Paul was. And I guarantee you he was
encouraged. He was strengthened in his his
gift and his calling to continue his race.
Come on. I guarantee you.
Guarantee you that. Eunice.
Is it Eunice? Yeah, Lois.
Lois spoke into Paul's life and was a mother to him and brought.
I mean, if anybody needed some nurturing, it was Paul who was
beaten How many times, left to die?
How many times? Come on, Paul needs some
nurturing, and he was able to get that nurturing from Lois and
Eunice. It wasn't just about faith.
It was about being a part of someone's life and helping pull
out what is within them and nurture the things that God has
put within their hearts and within their lives.
Amen. And having, of course, a mother
is gonna have more of a instinctual, you know, keenness.
Mothers have that instinct that just know some things about
their children. You know the way they cry.
You know that cry is for a poopy diaper.
You know that cry is for a hungry bottle.
You know that cry is for, come on, a sleepy cry.
There's some things that God put within us instinctually to be
able to recognize what people may need in the moment of what
they're going through in their life.
And for us as mothers today, God is calling for us to rise up and
begin to see that there are there is a vacuum in our nation
of godly mothers, of godly women, and of lives that need to
be nurtured, lives that need to be nurtured.
They need to be cared for. Amen.
And so he, it wants to be able to use us, Hallelujah.
He wants to be able to use us as mothers, to speak within
people's lives, as women of God. But not only that, again, to be
able to speak and carry forth things that men need, that men
need, that men need, you know, men can be very prideful.
And I've heard him say I don't need a woman.
No, you do need one. Because to say that you don't,
you're saying that you know better than God, 'cause God said
it's not good for man to be alone.
God said that. So for you to say that is pride.
It's lifting your thought up above God's thought.
That's pride, OK? And so men, you need godly
women. And I think because there's been
such abuse across the board with men towards women and women
towards men, there's been such abuse even in godly circles,
that we've put up a wall. And I'm saying today is the day
that the wall needs to come down, because there are some
things that men need that US women can only give birth to.
He said that you needed a helper.
You needed a helper. And so therefore you need our
help. Say I need your help.
Oh man, say I need your help. You know when we can actually
say that things can actually begin to turn around in your
marriages? When we realize we're not here
to compete or usurp, but we're here to come alongside and to
help accomplish the task at hand.
To help accomplish the task at hand, We're not here for any
other reason, but to help accomplish what it is that we
need to do as a unit. If we're married, right?
So we're not against each other, we're for each other, and we
actually are supposed to be a Co laborer.
We're Co laborers with Christ. But if we're married, we're Co
laborers with our spouse and we are to Co labor together to be
able to accomplish what it is that God has called you as a
married couple to do and be in the earth.
And so therefore to get that accomplished we can make it
happen. You give a woman $50 budget,
guess what she's going to do? She's going to milk every dime
of that $50.00, right? Every dime.
And we can make something happen with nothing, because that's
about what $50 is today. Nothing can buy you milk and
bread and eggs, and that's about it today.
Hallelujah. Anyway, we can make it happen,
but we can only make it happen when we are sold out to letting
God be our source. Letting God be our source.
It says here in Titus chapter 2 this I'm going to have two
scriptures and then we're closing.
In Titus chapter 2, verses 3 through 5, it says older women
likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious
gossips nor enslaved too much wine.
Teaching what is good so that they may encourage the young
women to love their husbands, to love their children, and to be
sensible pure workers at home, kind being subject to their own
husbands so that the word of God would not be dishonored.
So here we see that these older women or the older mothers of
the church are supposed to, again, here's an example, to be
able to help nurture the younger ones up in the body, to be able
to do the things that they're supposed to do.
We're supposed to help nurture them in that, you know, maybe
your mother. And I'm going to tell you, it's
in the society that we're living together today.
Nobody knows how to cook hardly, right?
But there used to be a day that moms knew how to cook until the
1950s, when TV trays came out or whatever.
What are those things? TV dinners.
Not trays. But you ate it on a tray.
Yeah, instead of the dining room table.
OK, so now we're living in a society that girls go to get
married and they have no clue how to cook because their
mothers did not teach them that skill, right?
They have no idea how to iron or sew a button on, you know, and
they've done away with home EC in this classes.
Can you believe, wonder why, 'cause they don't want anything
to do with, you know, whatever, it's all an agenda.
But anyway, so we have now a whole society.
They don't know how to cook. They don't know how to sew a
button on. They don't know how to actually
change a diaper, raise up a child, anything, warm up a
bottle, right. If you did, if they did not have
a mother to help guide them in those things or nurture them in
those things. And so we see that it's so
important that we as older women in the church, or not even
older, maybe you're a godly person that's been raised in the
church. You've been nurtured.
You've been loved. You know how to actually parent,
which half of the world doesn't know, right?
You know how to parent. You know, to tell your daughter
at three years old, she's not wearing Ninja Turtle underwear.
She's going to wear little girl clothes because she's a girl.
OK, so we see that this society, there is a vacuum here and we
need some church mothers to rise up and begin to start helping.
What about some of these single dads today?
Come on, there's plenty of single dads.
We have them even here in our church.
They need their children, need to see godly women and and be
able to speak into their life. OK?
So when you when, when that's taken, we've got to be able to
participate and get involved with people's lives and quit
living so fast in our society that we don't have time to be
able to nurture some relationships and nurture and
mother some things that need to be mothered.
Amen. So we see Titus is encouraging
these older women. This is your responsibility.
And how many older women, even today they're living the
American retired life and they don't want to do a thing, they
just want to help their own grandchildren or whatever.
I'm telling you, there are so many children that need your
nurture today and we need to quit being selfish.
And we need to start saying coming up and saying how can I
help pour into another Instead of sitting at my table or my
couch looking at the TV all day long living the American dream,
especially as believers, there is a whole group of people that
need to be loved and nurtured and mentored and trained.
Hallelujah. No, that's what we were created
for. That's good.
No, that's what we were designed for.
To not just give birth naturally to, but to help bring forth
spiritual babies. Spiritual babies.
I wanna close with Proverbs 31 and I only had uh one scripture,
but I feel led to just close and reading this and challenge you
men to recognize the importance of having a woman within your
life to be able to speak things into you.
Proverbs. Oh, I'm on Psalms.
I'm like, where is it at? I'm in Psalms.
OK, Proverbs 31, verse 10, who can find a virtuous and capable
woman. I want to say not just a wife,
but a woman. A virtuous and capable woman.
She is more precious than Ruby's.
Her husband can trust her and she will greatly enrich his
life. She brings him good and not
harm. All the days of her life she
finds wool. Listen to this woman.
She finds wool and flax and busily spins it.
She's like a merchant ship bringing her food from afar.
She gets up before the crack of dawn to prepare breakfast for
her husband. I'm sure my husband wishes
that's how virtuous I was, but I hadn't got there yet.
I did make him breakfast this weekend, though, and plan the
day's work for her servant girls.
She goes to inspect a field and buys it with her earnings.
She plants a vineyard. I mean, my goodness, she plants
a vineyard. She's energetic and strong and
hard working. This is what we should be as
women of God, as mothers, as wives.
This is the goal here. So we have to ask ourselves, in
reading this scripture, is there anything in this that is missing
in my life? And the goal is, is that I'm
going to rise up as a Deborah. I'm going to rise up and begin
to start clothing my selves with Proverbs 31.
It says this She's energetic. She's strong, a hard worker.
She makes sure her dealings are profitable.
Her lamp burns late into the night.
Her hands are busy spinning thread, her fingers twisting
fibers. She extends a helping hand even
to the poor, and opens her arms to the needy.
She has No Fear of winter for her household, for everyone has
warm clothes. She makes her own bedspread.
She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.
Her husband is well known at the city gates, where he sits with
the other civic leaders. She makes belted linen garments
and sashes to sell to the merchants.
She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without
fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are
wise and she gives instructions with kindness.
She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers
nothing from laziness. Come on now.
Her children stand and bless her.
Her husband praises her. There are many virtuous and
capable women in the world, but you surpass them all.
Charm is deceitful, right? Deceptive beauty does not last.
But a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.
Reward her for all she has done and let her deeds publicly
declare her. Praise this woman, put anything
in her hand, and it's going to happen.
As a mother, as a wife, as a woman.
We were created to incubate. We were created to give birth
to. We were created to help not just
our own, but others. We were created as a wellspring
of life. That is what another is.