1 00:00:05,800 --> 00:00:08,400 Thanks for checking out the anchor Faith, Message podcast 2 00:00:08,400 --> 00:00:09,800 from st. Augustine Florida. 3 00:00:10,300 --> 00:00:21,900 Now enjoyed this message. Now, I want to continue in those 4 00:00:21,900 --> 00:00:24,300 laws tonight. Romans chapter 13 verse 7. 5 00:00:24,800 --> 00:00:27,500 It says a lot, but we want to key in on the last part of this. 6 00:00:27,500 --> 00:00:32,700 All right, says render to all What is due them and there are 7 00:00:32,700 --> 00:00:36,900 things here but I want to do the last one, honor to whom honor. 8 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:40,800 Okay, honor to whom honor is due. 9 00:00:41,200 --> 00:00:48,200 All right, so we want to render to all who honor to whom honor 10 00:00:48,200 --> 00:00:50,900 is due. And last week, we talked about 11 00:00:50,900 --> 00:00:55,500 God, he deserves the honor in first Timothy chapter 1, verse 12 00:00:55,500 --> 00:00:57,000 17. It says, now to the king 13 00:00:57,000 --> 00:00:58,400 Eternal. Is he a king? 14 00:00:59,500 --> 00:01:02,600 Most people know him as Savior Jesus, but Jesus is the king 15 00:01:04,099 --> 00:01:06,800 only because Adam fell from demean or ate the fruit. 16 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:09,700 Jesus had to show up as a savior prior to that. 17 00:01:09,700 --> 00:01:13,500 He's always been King. Lord, he's always been royalty. 18 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:18,000 And so that to the king, Eternal Immortal invisible, the only God 19 00:01:18,300 --> 00:01:21,500 be good honor and Glory forever and ever. 20 00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:24,300 Amen. And so we saw last week, you 21 00:01:24,300 --> 00:01:29,100 know, that God deserves all of our Glory can an honor with all 22 00:01:29,100 --> 00:01:31,500 that. He's done for us for Humanity, 23 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:34,000 right? And man, when you just think 24 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:36,800 about what God's done and we shared a head, few people share 25 00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:39,700 some testimonies last week because, you know, there was 26 00:01:39,700 --> 00:01:43,600 some honor towards God because what he has done in their lives. 27 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:49,700 Amen. And we did that, because to 28 00:01:49,700 --> 00:01:53,600 honor God, one way to honor, God is found in Psalms 50, verse 23. 29 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:56,700 It says he who offers a sacrifice of Thanksgiving honors 30 00:01:56,700 --> 00:02:00,000 me, And to him who orders his way. 31 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:02,600 A right. I will show the salvation of 32 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:06,500 God, so we should honor God with our words with our lips. 33 00:02:06,500 --> 00:02:09,199 Right? Obviously with our lifestyle and 34 00:02:09,199 --> 00:02:11,800 God deserves all of our. He is the first and foremost 35 00:02:11,800 --> 00:02:16,800 that we should honor first. Pride, Numero Uno. 36 00:02:17,700 --> 00:02:20,100 Correct? He is the one that we should 37 00:02:20,100 --> 00:02:22,100 honor the most. Now, in our kingdom is to class, 38 00:02:22,100 --> 00:02:25,600 we said last week and our class life of Honor, we teach this 39 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:29,000 honor is the key to submission, which is Hard to walk in 40 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:32,800 authority. Honor is the key to submission, 41 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:34,900 which is required to walk in authority. 42 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:37,000 If you're going to walk in any Authority, you're going to be 43 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:40,500 under something first. All right, on or simply means 44 00:02:40,500 --> 00:02:43,200 something. So valuable that it is held as 45 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:47,900 precious prize cherished, treasured valuable and very 46 00:02:47,900 --> 00:02:52,100 dear. In essence, if honor is given to 47 00:02:52,100 --> 00:02:58,400 something or someone it or they will be seen as valuable or Or 48 00:02:58,400 --> 00:03:01,400 Irreplaceable. And so we posed the question, 49 00:03:01,400 --> 00:03:05,700 well, how, how valuable is God to you? 50 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:09,700 How valuable right. And, you know, the Bible lets us 51 00:03:09,700 --> 00:03:12,200 know and ones instance. Jesus said the Kingdom of 52 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:15,600 Heaven, is like a man who found a field with a great treasure. 53 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:20,500 In it, sold everything he had to buy the field, right? 54 00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:24,700 So, in essence, when we honor, God, we've got a sellout in 55 00:03:24,700 --> 00:03:27,600 essence. We've got to give our all And, 56 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:30,300 you know, that takes some time to look at ourselves because, 57 00:03:30,300 --> 00:03:33,700 you know, sometimes we come into this relationship with the Lord. 58 00:03:33,700 --> 00:03:39,000 Not now, not an honor basis, but on a, get out of hell basis, you 59 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:40,900 know, I don't want to go to hell, for everything I've done 60 00:03:40,900 --> 00:03:44,100 wrong, and if Jesus Paid the price great, I'm glad he did it 61 00:03:44,100 --> 00:03:46,900 because I don't want to go now. It's not because we honor that 62 00:03:48,700 --> 00:03:51,800 Right. I mean you have paid meals for 63 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:54,700 people and they didn't honor you for it. 64 00:03:55,700 --> 00:03:58,900 I mean, I'll be honest with you, your kids sometimes don't 65 00:03:58,900 --> 00:04:00,300 appreciate the gifts you give them. 66 00:04:01,700 --> 00:04:03,900 You know, you buy it, you give it to him, and they're like, oh 67 00:04:03,900 --> 00:04:06,100 great and then 10 minutes later, you know that I'm playing with 68 00:04:06,100 --> 00:04:10,500 it. Right? 69 00:04:10,500 --> 00:04:12,800 Are they don't say this. Thank you. 70 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:17,200 What you got? Give me Dad. 71 00:04:18,000 --> 00:04:23,000 Wow, to the next one. You're like, where's honor in 72 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:25,000 this? Amen. 73 00:04:25,500 --> 00:04:28,600 So his honors something, you know, that's really lost in one 74 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:33,500 sense, because again, we love our individuality amen. 75 00:04:34,200 --> 00:04:39,400 We love our opinions and I heard one Minister just recently, say 76 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,300 that one of the biggest challenges with the, the 77 00:04:42,300 --> 00:04:47,300 generation coming up, is they hold too much value on their own 78 00:04:47,300 --> 00:04:52,300 opinion? In essence, they honor what they 79 00:04:52,300 --> 00:04:58,100 say more than what he says. Amen. 80 00:04:58,700 --> 00:05:01,800 And so we want to be able to honor the Lord, right? 81 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:06,600 So Jesus said in John chapter 5 verse 23, he says so that all 82 00:05:06,600 --> 00:05:10,700 will honor the son even as they honor the father, he who does 83 00:05:10,700 --> 00:05:12,600 not honor. The son, does not honor, the 84 00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:18,400 father who sent him. I say that because again, Jesus 85 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:21,600 obviously is dealing with people who are religious, people who 86 00:05:21,600 --> 00:05:25,100 say they're honoring the father but they are not honoring Jesus. 87 00:05:25,900 --> 00:05:28,300 At all. Which means they don't 88 00:05:28,300 --> 00:05:30,500 understand the father. Okay? 89 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:35,400 And last week, you know, a lot of times last week, we said you 90 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:39,000 can think you're honoring God and not be. 91 00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:42,600 And we want to make sure that there are things within the 92 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:47,500 Bible that talks about honoring that we are doing those things, 93 00:05:47,500 --> 00:05:52,600 because a lot of times we just, you know, individualize so much 94 00:05:52,600 --> 00:05:55,500 this relationship with God, that we really kind. 95 00:05:55,600 --> 00:06:00,100 Despise are brothers. I mean fact if I just be honest 96 00:06:00,700 --> 00:06:03,900 because you know, it's like I don't really care about you. 97 00:06:03,900 --> 00:06:07,500 I'm going to just be with me and God, that's all that matters. 98 00:06:07,500 --> 00:06:11,100 Well that's not all the what that matters it matters but it's 99 00:06:11,100 --> 00:06:15,800 not all that matters. It's not all that matters, but 100 00:06:15,800 --> 00:06:18,100 we want to kind of, you know. Well, I'm right with god. 101 00:06:18,100 --> 00:06:21,400 Well, I'm going to heaven. Well, God understands me. 102 00:06:21,400 --> 00:06:23,800 God knows my heart. Yeah, he does. 103 00:06:24,300 --> 00:06:26,600 And he knows every place that you can improve. 104 00:06:27,700 --> 00:06:30,100 Right? Because if your heart was like, 105 00:06:30,100 --> 00:06:33,800 he is then it would he, you would do what he does in 106 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:35,800 everything. Okay. 107 00:06:36,100 --> 00:06:39,500 So, Jesus, obviously, honor, the father by keeping his word. 108 00:06:40,400 --> 00:06:42,600 He said I don't do anything on my own initiative. 109 00:06:42,700 --> 00:06:46,900 All I do is do what the father says, but the father didn't just 110 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:49,400 have, Jesus come up to the mountain and sing to me. 111 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:55,700 Okay, Jesus did not go up and pray and stay and then come down 112 00:06:55,700 --> 00:06:58,300 to the rest of the people. Man, I just had a great meeting 113 00:06:58,300 --> 00:07:00,600 with the father. It's amazing, this personal 114 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:03,200 relationship. I have with him, if you only 115 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:04,500 could have been on the mountain with me. 116 00:07:05,900 --> 00:07:08,700 I mean I was laid out in the spirit for hours. 117 00:07:09,500 --> 00:07:10,800 I mean, I got so excited one time. 118 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:13,100 I just ran around the mountain. Y'all weren't there but it was 119 00:07:13,100 --> 00:07:16,000 awesome, right? I mean there's one night, man. 120 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:18,500 It's the power of God came on me and I just shout to the top of 121 00:07:18,500 --> 00:07:21,700 my lungs, but y'all were asleep. This relationship. 122 00:07:21,700 --> 00:07:26,200 I have with him is awesome. But notice, every time he went 123 00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:30,800 back the father had assignments. So I need you to do this for 124 00:07:30,800 --> 00:07:34,800 this person and for this person. So obviously this personal 125 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:36,900 relationship is not just about you. 126 00:07:38,300 --> 00:07:41,800 At all. Because if it was, Jesus would 127 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:45,400 have stayed on the mountain until it was time for the cross, 128 00:07:45,900 --> 00:07:49,200 okay? Think about it. 129 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:51,000 Why would he have to heal anybody? 130 00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:55,900 Feed anybody? Deliver anybody? 131 00:07:57,300 --> 00:08:00,400 I'll just stay up here, just me and my father got a great 132 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:02,300 relationship going and then there's going to come a day, I'm 133 00:08:02,300 --> 00:08:05,000 gonna just come down, they're gonna throw me on the cross. 134 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:07,700 I must shed my blood for you so that you can individually have a 135 00:08:07,700 --> 00:08:10,900 relationship with my father. And then y'all figure it out on 136 00:08:10,900 --> 00:08:14,000 your own. You and him, right? 137 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:15,700 If you need your mom renewed, he'll do it. 138 00:08:15,700 --> 00:08:17,100 If you need to be healed, he'll do it. 139 00:08:17,100 --> 00:08:22,800 If you need to be. Right. 140 00:08:23,400 --> 00:08:26,600 So obviously, he honor the father by doing things for 141 00:08:26,600 --> 00:08:31,100 others. So, there are some 142 00:08:31,100 --> 00:08:34,299 relationships, then that have honor associated with them. 143 00:08:35,299 --> 00:08:37,900 Right. So again Jesus said again, look 144 00:08:37,900 --> 00:08:44,100 at this John 5:23 so that all will honor the son even as they 145 00:08:44,100 --> 00:08:47,500 honor the father, he who does not honor. 146 00:08:47,500 --> 00:08:50,500 The son does not honor, the father who sent him, well, who's 147 00:08:50,500 --> 00:08:54,300 the son just to remind us John 1:1 in. 148 00:08:54,300 --> 00:09:01,200 The beginning was the word and the Word was with God and the 149 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:04,700 Word was God verse 14 to the same. 150 00:09:05,100 --> 00:09:09,200 And the word became flesh and dwelt among us. 151 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:13,100 And we saw his glory glory, as the only begotten of the father, 152 00:09:13,100 --> 00:09:16,000 full of grace and truth. So who is the word that became 153 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:17,700 flesh? What's his name? 154 00:09:18,100 --> 00:09:19,100 Come on. What's his name? 155 00:09:19,500 --> 00:09:22,900 His name is Jesus. Jesus is the son of God. 156 00:09:23,500 --> 00:09:26,400 So if we're going to honor the sun then we have to honor his 157 00:09:26,400 --> 00:09:33,400 word. And the word of God which is 158 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:38,500 Genesis 1:1 to Revelations, 22:21 was inspired by the Holy 159 00:09:38,500 --> 00:09:42,300 Spirit who does not speak on his own initiative, but only what 160 00:09:42,300 --> 00:09:47,800 Jesus tells him. So when he spoke or moved upon 161 00:09:47,800 --> 00:09:55,100 men to pin things accurate historical accounts, Right. 162 00:09:55,100 --> 00:09:57,600 I mean, there's all kinds of stuff contained within the 163 00:09:57,600 --> 00:10:01,500 scripture. There's geography, archaeology, 164 00:10:02,100 --> 00:10:05,400 there's poetry. I mean, when he had him pinned, 165 00:10:05,400 --> 00:10:09,600 these particular things and then we get into just things Jesus 166 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:13,100 said, prophecies, then we get the account of his own personal 167 00:10:13,100 --> 00:10:14,500 life. Then he talks about how the 168 00:10:14,500 --> 00:10:17,500 church all that was inspired by the Holy Spirit. 169 00:10:17,900 --> 00:10:21,100 They came from Jesus, which means than his word is to be 170 00:10:21,100 --> 00:10:26,600 followed. And so anything contained within 171 00:10:26,600 --> 00:10:32,200 scripture, then if we do that, it gives us the ability to begin 172 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:37,200 to honor the son. Cuz we're doing the word, right? 173 00:10:37,800 --> 00:10:41,700 Okay. So John chapter 12 verse 26, 174 00:10:41,700 --> 00:10:46,600 says it this way, if anyone serves me, Jesus says, he must 175 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:49,100 follow me. Well, we can't physically follow 176 00:10:49,100 --> 00:10:53,600 him, can we? I mean, physically, Jesus is not 177 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:56,700 physically present in the room where Jesus starts going this 178 00:10:56,700 --> 00:10:57,900 way. And I like, seeing and start 179 00:10:57,900 --> 00:10:59,300 walking with him. And I do, you know what? 180 00:10:59,300 --> 00:11:01,600 Jesus will you see the holes in his hand and his feet? 181 00:11:01,900 --> 00:11:03,600 I mean, I know it's Jesus, right? 182 00:11:03,900 --> 00:11:05,800 No. I mean, we're not physically 183 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:08,200 following him, so, how, what does he mean? 184 00:11:08,200 --> 00:11:11,000 He says, if anyone follows, he says, if anyone that's not 185 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:14,200 limited to, who was in the space of time, when he was walking on 186 00:11:14,200 --> 00:11:17,800 the planet, it's obviously following him at his word. 187 00:11:18,700 --> 00:11:21,100 If anyone serves me, he must follow me. 188 00:11:21,200 --> 00:11:23,600 Where I am there. My servant will be also 189 00:11:24,800 --> 00:11:27,100 Hallelujah. Because Jesus with the kingdom, 190 00:11:27,100 --> 00:11:29,700 if anyone serves me the father, what will he do? 191 00:11:30,600 --> 00:11:34,300 Well, honor him. So if we want to receive honor 192 00:11:35,500 --> 00:11:43,500 Then we are to serve Jesus. if we want the father to see us as 193 00:11:44,900 --> 00:11:50,300 Valuable and irreplaceable which means you got to change your 194 00:11:50,300 --> 00:11:53,200 mindset and quit. Seeing yourself as were unworthy 195 00:11:53,900 --> 00:11:56,700 and worthless. Now, again, if you're not 196 00:11:56,700 --> 00:11:59,700 serving Jesus that's probably why you feel that way. 197 00:12:00,900 --> 00:12:04,800 But when you serve him, then all of a sudden, the father honors, 198 00:12:04,800 --> 00:12:07,500 you and begins to talk about your value. 199 00:12:08,600 --> 00:12:13,300 Especially in Christ. And you realize how valuable you 200 00:12:13,300 --> 00:12:17,100 are to God. Now, you're not God, but God 201 00:12:17,100 --> 00:12:20,300 values you and there's nothing like being a relationship. 202 00:12:20,300 --> 00:12:24,000 When there's a shared value. Mean, who wants to be in the 203 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:27,100 relationship? Where the one person knows? 204 00:12:27,100 --> 00:12:31,000 They don't give a rip about me but they're my world. 205 00:12:33,000 --> 00:12:36,200 That's a lopsided relationship Ron. 206 00:12:39,200 --> 00:12:43,900 Amen. So again if we're like man we 207 00:12:43,900 --> 00:12:46,400 love the father. But what's why would he love 208 00:12:46,400 --> 00:12:48,900 anyone? Like me, he honors you you're 209 00:12:48,900 --> 00:12:54,300 valuable to him and he highly esteems you especially when 210 00:12:54,300 --> 00:12:57,100 you're serving the sun. Are you hearing me? 211 00:12:58,300 --> 00:13:02,200 So then there are other things within the Bible that they the, 212 00:13:02,200 --> 00:13:06,500 the scripture tells us that we are to demonstrate, honor mean 213 00:13:06,500 --> 00:13:10,300 we are to place value on. We should see it as precious. 214 00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:13,200 Yes. The problem is a lot of the 215 00:13:13,200 --> 00:13:16,100 institutions that I'm going to talk about in the realm of 216 00:13:16,100 --> 00:13:20,800 relationship has had such an attack on it that most people 217 00:13:20,800 --> 00:13:23,000 don't know how to function with honor in it. 218 00:13:25,500 --> 00:13:29,900 But if we're going to really allow honor to be a part of our 219 00:13:29,900 --> 00:13:34,100 lives and the sphere of influence we have and then have 220 00:13:34,100 --> 00:13:38,100 the father honor us, then we must honor these relationships 221 00:13:38,700 --> 00:13:41,300 and the first one is outlined in Exodus. 222 00:13:42,700 --> 00:13:49,900 Right, Exodus 20:12 which tells us that honoring God is our 223 00:13:49,900 --> 00:13:53,700 number one, but when you honor, God, you'll honor the other 224 00:13:53,700 --> 00:13:56,300 relationships. That's what I'm saying. 225 00:13:57,200 --> 00:13:59,100 And then I'll explain a little bit more because I've had a few 226 00:13:59,100 --> 00:14:01,900 people. Come up to me in years in the 227 00:14:01,900 --> 00:14:05,300 years that I've ministered here and they perplexed about this 228 00:14:05,300 --> 00:14:08,500 particular one, but we're going to set some things straight 229 00:14:08,500 --> 00:14:12,200 tonight. Okay, honor your father and your 230 00:14:12,200 --> 00:14:16,000 mother. That your days may be prolonged 231 00:14:16,000 --> 00:14:20,300 in the land which the Lord your God gives you. 232 00:14:20,900 --> 00:14:23,400 So we are to honor our mother and our father. 233 00:14:23,400 --> 00:14:27,700 We are deceived mom and dad as valuable precious to be 234 00:14:27,700 --> 00:14:31,100 cherished. Now, the minute I say that, I 235 00:14:31,100 --> 00:14:34,100 understand not everybody's father or mother for that 236 00:14:34,100 --> 00:14:39,600 matter. Functioned as Godly So again, 237 00:14:39,700 --> 00:14:44,200 when God begins to speak, he doesn't always communicate 238 00:14:44,200 --> 00:14:45,800 individuals. What do I mean by that? 239 00:14:45,800 --> 00:14:48,600 He says the nation of Israel is mine. 240 00:14:49,000 --> 00:14:51,400 Well, you know how many citizens have been in the nation of 241 00:14:51,400 --> 00:14:54,900 Israel and you know, there are some citizens that will be 242 00:14:54,900 --> 00:15:00,400 thrown into the Lake of Fire. Not because God wants them there 243 00:15:00,500 --> 00:15:03,700 but it's because they did not do, but as far as Israel's 244 00:15:03,700 --> 00:15:07,400 concern it is still exist. Well you understand fathers and 245 00:15:07,400 --> 00:15:12,700 mothers exist so we should honor that there's fathers and 246 00:15:12,700 --> 00:15:15,600 mothers. Now, your own personal ones, 247 00:15:15,600 --> 00:15:21,400 there is a way to honor them, even if they're unrighteous We 248 00:15:21,400 --> 00:15:25,200 are not to honor just because of righteousness sake but even 249 00:15:25,200 --> 00:15:26,700 more. So when the righteousness is in 250 00:15:26,700 --> 00:15:29,800 play, don't get me wrong. But there is even a way to honor 251 00:15:29,800 --> 00:15:33,800 even when those in those roles are not living as God designed 252 00:15:33,800 --> 00:15:38,200 them to live. Okay, we'll see a little bit 253 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:41,400 more here in Ephesians chapter 6. 254 00:15:41,400 --> 00:15:46,100 Verse 1, through 3, it says that this way children obey, your 255 00:15:46,100 --> 00:15:51,600 parents in the Lord For this is what this is, right? 256 00:15:52,500 --> 00:15:55,700 Honor your father and your mother, which is the first 257 00:15:55,700 --> 00:15:59,800 commandment with a promise, so that it may be well with you and 258 00:15:59,800 --> 00:16:02,000 that you may live long on the earth. 259 00:16:02,000 --> 00:16:04,500 Now, I want to leave this up here for a minute because this 260 00:16:04,500 --> 00:16:06,600 help explain a few things. Okay? 261 00:16:07,100 --> 00:16:14,200 So if your mom and dad are unrighteous, you can still honor 262 00:16:14,200 --> 00:16:19,400 them through and simple Act of obedience but the obedience is 263 00:16:19,400 --> 00:16:23,600 qualified. Obey your parents. 264 00:16:23,600 --> 00:16:28,300 How how, in the Lord? Now what does that mean? 265 00:16:28,300 --> 00:16:30,800 That means God who was the one, you honor. 266 00:16:30,800 --> 00:16:35,000 First you do not honor your natural father or natural 267 00:16:35,000 --> 00:16:37,100 mother. If they're asking you to obey 268 00:16:37,100 --> 00:16:42,000 something unrighteous, that's not honoring them. 269 00:16:44,100 --> 00:16:49,600 Because it's violating your first honor which is God at the 270 00:16:49,600 --> 00:16:53,200 end of the day, I cannot do what you're asking me. 271 00:16:54,600 --> 00:17:00,500 Because you're violating me. Honoring God, So God's never 272 00:17:00,500 --> 00:17:04,800 asking a child to honor his mother and father at the expense 273 00:17:04,800 --> 00:17:08,000 of sinning. Is that clear? 274 00:17:09,000 --> 00:17:12,599 Okay, this is very important. I just recently talked with 275 00:17:12,599 --> 00:17:15,599 someone who was like, you know, my parents, you know, don't 276 00:17:16,300 --> 00:17:20,000 really want me to engage in church, you know, because they 277 00:17:20,000 --> 00:17:22,099 don't really believe in it, you know. 278 00:17:22,200 --> 00:17:23,400 But so I'm struggling with honor. 279 00:17:23,400 --> 00:17:25,599 My mother and father, I said this is not a struggle. 280 00:17:27,500 --> 00:17:31,000 You go to church because you honor God first and you're 281 00:17:31,000 --> 00:17:34,400 honoring them by being righteous and holy and there's other 282 00:17:34,400 --> 00:17:36,400 things you can do for your parents. 283 00:17:39,100 --> 00:17:43,600 Are you hearing me? Jesus, kind of gives us a little 284 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:48,700 insight of things we shouldn't do, because when you did this, 285 00:17:49,100 --> 00:17:54,200 there was a result now, look at how Jesus kind of sum this up in 286 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:58,200 Matthew 15 for, he said it this way for God, said, honor your 287 00:17:58,200 --> 00:18:01,700 father, your mother, and, and he, who speaks evil of father, 288 00:18:01,700 --> 00:18:06,200 or mother is to be put to death. So, one way that you honor, your 289 00:18:06,200 --> 00:18:08,000 parents is never to talk bad about it. 290 00:18:12,600 --> 00:18:19,600 Even if they're bad. Hallelujah. 291 00:18:21,100 --> 00:18:24,900 One way to demonstrate honor is just a still serve them. 292 00:18:27,100 --> 00:18:29,300 Right, what can I get? Can I get you something? 293 00:18:29,300 --> 00:18:31,000 Do you need me to do this for you? 294 00:18:31,100 --> 00:18:33,300 Can I help you? Pick something up today. 295 00:18:33,300 --> 00:18:36,800 Whatever the case may be, whatever that situation could 296 00:18:36,800 --> 00:18:41,400 happen where you are trying to serve them, you're trying to 297 00:18:41,400 --> 00:18:43,700 help them out. But at the end of the day, if 298 00:18:43,700 --> 00:18:47,100 they're pressuring you and you know, doing you shouldn't be 299 00:18:47,100 --> 00:18:50,600 talking about them behind your back is spat behind their back, 300 00:18:50,600 --> 00:19:00,900 especially among your siblings. Now simple across the board. 301 00:19:00,900 --> 00:19:05,700 If they are asking you to do stuff that's not a sin issue, 302 00:19:05,700 --> 00:19:10,600 like take the trash out. Right. 303 00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:15,000 Then, that's just a pretty simple fact, easy thing for a 304 00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:18,900 child to be to say, yes, sir or if you're raised from a 305 00:19:18,908 --> 00:19:21,600 different geographical location, and yes, is fine. 306 00:19:22,400 --> 00:19:28,200 Yes, Father. I will take out the trash, then 307 00:19:28,200 --> 00:19:29,100 that's honoring. Why? 308 00:19:29,100 --> 00:19:31,300 Cause you're just doing the simple request. 309 00:19:32,000 --> 00:19:35,600 Amen. When we don't and we rebelled, 310 00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:42,400 That's not honor. Now taking out the trash and I'm 311 00:19:42,400 --> 00:19:46,700 just being a little example. Okay, doesn't take away your 312 00:19:46,700 --> 00:19:54,000 individuality. It's amazing how many young 313 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:57,200 people when I say young, I'm talking Elementary teenage and 314 00:19:57,200 --> 00:19:59,700 then young adults, that still live at the house with the 315 00:19:59,700 --> 00:20:02,700 parents. Okay. 316 00:20:02,800 --> 00:20:05,700 That all of a sudden want to take size over there on 317 00:20:05,700 --> 00:20:08,100 individual expression, and not be told anything. 318 00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:09,500 Come on. That's yeah. 319 00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:18,100 Remember when my oldest son was a little bit older and you know, 320 00:20:18,300 --> 00:20:24,700 he was had graduated and you know, he worked, you know, but 321 00:20:24,700 --> 00:20:26,700 he really didn't have to pay anything at the house. 322 00:20:26,700 --> 00:20:27,900 You know. I wouldn't ask him to pay me 323 00:20:27,900 --> 00:20:31,700 anything but you know it kind of came and gone and did you know 324 00:20:31,700 --> 00:20:34,300 really what he wanted to do is like free room and board and 325 00:20:34,300 --> 00:20:37,900 then doing what you want and I realize this isn't going to work 326 00:20:39,500 --> 00:20:44,900 so I was navigating my Transition relationship, where I 327 00:20:44,900 --> 00:20:50,100 realize I want you to make choices but you're still under 328 00:20:50,100 --> 00:20:55,900 my roof. And I'm not your slave that pays 329 00:20:55,900 --> 00:20:58,800 for all your stuff and clean your room. 330 00:21:02,700 --> 00:21:10,400 And takes out your trash. Right. 331 00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:15,100 So, if, if we need to go there where you can make your own 332 00:21:15,100 --> 00:21:22,400 choice, then it's time to move. I mean, there are certain areas 333 00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:25,000 that you're still going to be subject to. 334 00:21:27,500 --> 00:21:29,300 I'm not picking your clothes out every day. 335 00:21:31,400 --> 00:21:33,100 Right? There was a time that was done. 336 00:21:33,500 --> 00:21:37,600 I mean you're not losing your individuality in that but just 337 00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:43,700 common courtesy Man, I'm not the professional dishwasher. 338 00:21:45,900 --> 00:21:49,800 That when you put your stuff in the sink that I have to come 339 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:51,400 behind now. Do I do it? 340 00:21:51,500 --> 00:21:54,200 Can I do it? Yes, but that's not the point. 341 00:21:56,100 --> 00:21:58,300 And you know what? With children as they get older, 342 00:21:58,300 --> 00:22:01,200 they've been served by their parents for so long. 343 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:06,800 They'd sometimes don't know how to flip the switch and say, man, 344 00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:13,300 I should be serving them. because it's, honorable, I said, 345 00:22:13,300 --> 00:22:16,200 it's honorable, is it convenient all the time? 346 00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:17,700 No. Now when you get out of the 347 00:22:17,700 --> 00:22:20,600 house and the parents start calling, that's not convenient, 348 00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:24,000 it's not convenient. All I know my mom when she 349 00:22:24,300 --> 00:22:27,700 lifts, you know, here in town, sometimes she would call me. 350 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:31,400 And I'm like, it was not a convenient time, but I would 351 00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:33,200 like navigate through it. Okay? 352 00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:35,000 What is it that we need? I remember one time. 353 00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:38,200 My mom call me for this. Can you get me a Coke? 354 00:22:49,100 --> 00:22:53,500 I mean I'm just trying to save the world right now, my mom. 355 00:22:54,100 --> 00:23:01,100 I'm like okay yeah well here's my schedule. 356 00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:04,600 Can I do it here? Yeah, that'd be fine. 357 00:23:04,900 --> 00:23:09,300 So now I get another thing but it's a small thing but in my 358 00:23:09,300 --> 00:23:13,300 mind I'm like well I'll I mean I'll do it for Mom. 359 00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:18,500 You know, she don't drink any more coats at my house, though. 360 00:23:18,900 --> 00:23:22,400 Cokes are gone, right? Amen. 361 00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:25,100 Maybe they weren't good for health. 362 00:23:25,700 --> 00:23:29,200 So, we're done with coax. So do not buy my mom, a Coke, 363 00:23:29,800 --> 00:23:32,200 you're not honoring your pastor, and we'll talk about that next 364 00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:40,100 week. All right, so we need to always 365 00:23:40,100 --> 00:23:42,500 speak. Well, now, that doesn't mean you 366 00:23:42,500 --> 00:23:45,400 can't have factual conversations about things going on with your 367 00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:48,300 parents. But if you're speaking with 368 00:23:48,300 --> 00:23:52,900 intent, your heart to cut them down to make them seem like 369 00:23:52,900 --> 00:23:56,400 something's wrong with them. They're beneath your speaking 370 00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,900 evil up, in fact, in the old Covenant, those people were put 371 00:23:59,900 --> 00:24:05,900 to death So the one reason why we lose an institution of honor 372 00:24:06,100 --> 00:24:08,500 is because we're not keeping it in the house. 373 00:24:09,100 --> 00:24:11,500 And let me just say it this way, you can't tell me. 374 00:24:11,500 --> 00:24:14,500 You're honoring a father. You can't see if you can't honor 375 00:24:14,500 --> 00:24:19,400 a father, you can period. You're a liar. 376 00:24:22,500 --> 00:24:27,400 You're a liar. You have to be able to honor. 377 00:24:29,700 --> 00:24:33,300 Naturally. Because they're in your face. 378 00:24:35,700 --> 00:24:38,500 And there's ways to do it now again, you are never to obey 379 00:24:38,500 --> 00:24:41,800 your parents into sin. Shouldn't do it. 380 00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:47,200 But you definitely can show other signs of honoring them in 381 00:24:47,200 --> 00:24:49,500 other ways, right? Taking them out to launch, doing 382 00:24:49,500 --> 00:24:51,300 stuff for them, cutting their grass, whatever. 383 00:24:51,500 --> 00:24:55,000 You know, and I've told my mom before, she's like, well, you 384 00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:57,800 know, she calls me, Earl Wayne. When my mental neck of my dad's 385 00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:01,300 name was actually Enoch. He didn't care for it. 386 00:25:01,300 --> 00:25:04,100 So he went by ew. And if anyone ever asks him 387 00:25:04,100 --> 00:25:05,100 what? Ew stood for. 388 00:25:05,100 --> 00:25:08,500 He said, Earl Wayne. So when I was born he didn't 389 00:25:08,500 --> 00:25:10,900 want me to have Enoch which would it be cool if he did on? 390 00:25:10,900 --> 00:25:15,800 I was a pastor. Right, cuz I could be another 391 00:25:15,800 --> 00:25:21,900 Enoch that was caught up. And never died on the earth. 392 00:25:22,100 --> 00:25:25,000 That would be like, super cool. But okay, Dad, I forgive you. 393 00:25:26,900 --> 00:25:29,500 So he said, I'll give you my initial so he gave me Earl 394 00:25:29,500 --> 00:25:32,100 Wayne. So obviously I was smaller than 395 00:25:32,100 --> 00:25:36,000 my dead as a child, so, you know, there would be Earl and 396 00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:40,400 Little Earl, but the problem with little Earl and I am little 397 00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:43,300 in one sense, right? But I actually have some family 398 00:25:43,300 --> 00:25:49,600 members on my dad's side that are little So they were called 399 00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:54,700 the little people when they grew up, actually the tallest male on 400 00:25:54,700 --> 00:25:57,200 my dad's mother side is 5 foot two. 401 00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:02,200 The tallest one. My grandmother was four foot 402 00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:04,800 eleven. Yeah. 403 00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:09,400 So my mom was like, well what if he takes after your mom's 404 00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:13,300 family? And I got some cousins that are 405 00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:16,400 smaller than I am. Right? 406 00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:19,300 And I'm not even big God, but I feel like a giant among my 407 00:26:19,300 --> 00:26:27,500 family anyway, so, you know, they just called me Earl Wayne 408 00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:30,600 instead so I am Earl Wayne to my mom, you're not my mom. 409 00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:32,400 So don't call me that. Okay. 410 00:26:32,900 --> 00:26:39,700 Anyway, So I don't know why I said all that, I had a great 411 00:26:39,700 --> 00:26:41,900 story. She said, Earl Wayne. 412 00:26:42,100 --> 00:26:45,200 She needs me to do something for I know and I'll figure out what 413 00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:46,700 that story is here in a bit. You know. 414 00:26:46,700 --> 00:26:47,800 Erlang. Can you? 415 00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:51,200 Yes, Mom, I'll do it. That's the moral of the story. 416 00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:52,500 So whatever it was, it was great. 417 00:26:52,900 --> 00:26:56,600 All right, so we need to honor our parents. 418 00:26:56,700 --> 00:27:00,200 Amen. She asked me to take her to the 419 00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:03,700 cemetery, the other day, my dad, my brother passed away already, 420 00:27:04,100 --> 00:27:07,700 you know? So we took a trip, you know, I 421 00:27:07,700 --> 00:27:10,400 mean I give you 100,000 reasons why I should not go there 422 00:27:11,300 --> 00:27:15,400 100,000 other reasons, you know. But sometimes you just have to 423 00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:20,500 say you know, just got to do it and it's honorable amen. 424 00:27:21,100 --> 00:27:25,700 And you know, the Lord knows that and if I'll honor whom God 425 00:27:25,700 --> 00:27:31,400 tells me to honor, then he's going to on Me, Hallelujah, I'll 426 00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:32,700 be honest with you. I'm Not sewing. 427 00:27:32,700 --> 00:27:34,300 So my kids have talked bad about me. 428 00:27:35,700 --> 00:27:37,200 What say that again? I'm Not sewing. 429 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:41,500 So my kids at talk bad about me. I'm not doing it. 430 00:27:42,100 --> 00:27:44,200 I just want you to understand the law of sowing and reaping is 431 00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:50,100 always in play, whatever, man, soweth that he will surely reap. 432 00:27:50,700 --> 00:27:55,000 So I recognize that. So I want a soul of compassion, 433 00:27:55,000 --> 00:28:00,500 Mercy, right? I want to show show show so 434 00:28:00,500 --> 00:28:06,200 honor to my parents, as they get older because at the end of the 435 00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:10,000 day, you know, I don't want to be left somewhere. 436 00:28:11,700 --> 00:28:14,400 All right. Amen. 437 00:28:15,100 --> 00:28:18,700 So we need to honor if we break down the into stitute sessions 438 00:28:18,700 --> 00:28:22,500 in the home, then it will affect how we honor, father God and has 439 00:28:22,500 --> 00:28:26,600 it not been attacked, right? I mean, there was a time mother 440 00:28:26,700 --> 00:28:28,800 mother and father was easy thing to say. 441 00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:32,400 But you know, in this in this room alone, many of you are May 442 00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:33,900 raise without one of your parents. 443 00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:38,600 Or step parents, you know, a dynamic that's different. 444 00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:41,300 Okay. The majority of people are in a 445 00:28:41,308 --> 00:28:45,200 blended family, Right. So again when you say, honor 446 00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:47,700 your mother and father, and some of you can honor a father that 447 00:28:47,700 --> 00:28:51,500 didn't give birth to you more. So because of how they rate and 448 00:28:51,500 --> 00:28:55,800 there's nothing wrong with that. Because again, Jesus said this, 449 00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:58,500 who was my mother and my brothers and sisters, those who 450 00:28:58,500 --> 00:29:01,800 do the will of my father. So, he qualified some things, 451 00:29:02,100 --> 00:29:06,000 you know, it's amazing. How many people get bent out? 452 00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:11,300 I'm talking like, in Rebellion, because they're trying to find a 453 00:29:11,300 --> 00:29:21,000 donor A reproductive donor. That was never around to try to 454 00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:24,000 find their identity. Now, I don't have a problem with 455 00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:29,300 you if your heart is because you need to show them. 456 00:29:29,300 --> 00:29:34,600 God. But finding the person who 457 00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:38,600 helped create you naturally is not going to set you free. 458 00:29:41,300 --> 00:29:46,400 It will Echo rejection. It definitely will do that. 459 00:29:47,900 --> 00:29:50,200 Now again, if you need to go and Lord telling you to go up to 460 00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:54,300 tell him, I forgive you to help set something free, some things 461 00:29:54,300 --> 00:29:57,200 and get motion something great, but if it's like, you can't be 462 00:29:57,200 --> 00:30:02,100 complete till, you know, whoever helped make you or who's never 463 00:30:02,100 --> 00:30:05,000 around and you know who it is, but they don't ever call you. 464 00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:09,100 Well, I'm just trying to honor him. 465 00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:14,100 You honor them by not talking about and if you've reached out 466 00:30:14,100 --> 00:30:16,400 and they don't want anything to do with you, then you can go on. 467 00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:22,400 And you're not dishonorable by trying to do birthdays and show 468 00:30:22,400 --> 00:30:24,600 them your grandkids and your kids. 469 00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:29,100 Now, you don't have to do that. It's amazing. 470 00:30:29,100 --> 00:30:32,700 How many people will rebel against a loving family unit to 471 00:30:32,708 --> 00:30:34,800 try to find someone that's never been around. 472 00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:45,800 And that, like gods in that, I give you a case where God got 473 00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:50,100 into play to pull one of Marcy's, family members back 474 00:30:50,100 --> 00:30:54,000 towards her, and all she did was like, Lord, I'm praying for my 475 00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:57,200 family to get, right? And we didn't realize we had a 476 00:30:57,208 --> 00:31:00,900 particular family member, but God brought him around. 477 00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:04,200 Didn't even have to hunt him down. 478 00:31:04,300 --> 00:31:05,800 Didn't even know that there was a hunt. 479 00:31:07,700 --> 00:31:11,700 And that context. Okay, not the Hunts here. 480 00:31:11,700 --> 00:31:14,700 You understand him, Sam. All right. 481 00:31:15,900 --> 00:31:17,600 Amen. So let's honor our parents. 482 00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:21,700 Next one is marriage. Okay, come on. 483 00:31:21,700 --> 00:31:25,200 Stay With Me. Please stay with me, Hebrews 484 00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:28,500 13:4. I really want to just kind of 485 00:31:28,500 --> 00:31:31,600 press through these families and get to next week, okay, but I 486 00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:32,900 don't have to, we can shut it down. 487 00:31:32,900 --> 00:31:36,700 If we need to Hebrews 13:4, says, marriage is to be held in 488 00:31:37,700 --> 00:31:41,200 among all. And the mayor's bet is to be 489 00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:44,900 undefiled for fornicators and adulterers, God will judge. 490 00:31:45,800 --> 00:31:49,400 That's going to happen, Okay? So if you've ever fallen under 491 00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:54,200 the fornicator, adultery or category repent, so that the 492 00:31:54,200 --> 00:31:58,600 blood can get under it over it and we're past it and then keep 493 00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:01,300 yourself pure. Are you hearing me, okay? 494 00:32:01,600 --> 00:32:05,800 So the mayor's bed is to be are the marriages to be held in 495 00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:10,000 honor, among all. Now, the reason I go here, It is 496 00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:12,300 because you understand mother and father are married. 497 00:32:13,600 --> 00:32:18,100 So this why marriage has to be above, but most of us we Engage 498 00:32:18,100 --> 00:32:21,700 The Honor aspect nationally through our parent relationship. 499 00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:28,300 None of us come out of the womb married Okay, so there's that 500 00:32:28,300 --> 00:32:32,000 aspect, that we get to have an opportunity to honor something. 501 00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:34,500 But then and let me just say it this way. 502 00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:38,600 I don't care and neither does God. 503 00:32:39,700 --> 00:32:45,200 That you had crappy parents that did not demonstrate God kind of 504 00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:50,600 stuff because that doesn't Define you although it can put 505 00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:54,600 things in you that you're acting out. 506 00:32:54,700 --> 00:33:00,300 You're responding because it's kind of like subconsciously a 507 00:33:00,300 --> 00:33:04,200 part of your makeup because you've washed it be modeled for 508 00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:08,900 years. And you seek in your childhood 509 00:33:08,900 --> 00:33:15,500 that's normal but it's not when you find the word and the word 510 00:33:15,500 --> 00:33:20,700 is a tool enough alone to show you the right way to do it. 511 00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:26,200 Are you hearing me? There's a particular book that 512 00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:30,700 we had our staff go through and then I had some extended layers 513 00:33:30,700 --> 00:33:35,000 of leadership go through. It's very clinical book but it 514 00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:37,200 kind of takes you back to your childhood. 515 00:33:38,300 --> 00:33:40,000 And man it was rough for some people. 516 00:33:40,600 --> 00:33:43,300 Why? Because it uncovered some 517 00:33:43,700 --> 00:33:46,400 actions and attitudes. Now I had a lot of deniers 518 00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:49,700 initially when they go through the book, they like denying that 519 00:33:49,700 --> 00:33:53,400 ain't me but they can't point out their spouse or somebody 520 00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:54,500 else. Easy. 521 00:33:54,800 --> 00:33:59,300 So, I had a ghost, do not look for your spouse in the book. 522 00:33:59,300 --> 00:34:03,300 This is a inspection of yourself, okay? 523 00:34:03,300 --> 00:34:05,900 So, maybe how we can clearly identify everybody. 524 00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:10,800 I mean, we are clearly able to identify everybody else's 525 00:34:10,800 --> 00:34:14,199 problems and again, I don't have a problem with you identifying a 526 00:34:14,199 --> 00:34:15,500 problem. Even the Bible doesn't says, 527 00:34:15,500 --> 00:34:18,300 look if you before you go and take the speck out of your 528 00:34:18,300 --> 00:34:21,100 brother's eye, which he's not rebuking and saying you can't 529 00:34:21,100 --> 00:34:24,800 see the speck but there is a log that you need to deal with 530 00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:27,800 first. So let's deal with your lock, 531 00:34:28,199 --> 00:34:29,800 right? Because there's more to that 532 00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:33,400 spec then you might know. So let's get your log out of the 533 00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:37,199 way, all right? And so we took some Time to go 534 00:34:37,199 --> 00:34:40,600 through that. But I'd, it doesn't matter what 535 00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:45,000 your past is in Christ. You're a whole new species of 536 00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:48,900 being and the word will transform the way you respond in 537 00:34:48,900 --> 00:34:52,800 any situation. So you can't cop out and say, 538 00:34:52,900 --> 00:34:56,900 well, my mom and dad or my, you know, absentee father or my I 539 00:34:56,900 --> 00:34:59,800 was raised by my grandma or this, you can't do that. 540 00:35:01,300 --> 00:35:03,000 Well my dad treated my mom that way. 541 00:35:03,000 --> 00:35:05,900 Well, your heavenly father. Sure doesn't treat people like 542 00:35:05,900 --> 00:35:07,700 that and that's the one you supposed to go after. 543 00:35:08,700 --> 00:35:12,100 So at the end of the day, we can find ourselves in these pages so 544 00:35:12,100 --> 00:35:14,600 that we can function. The way God wanted us to 545 00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:17,600 function. But in that we have to come to 546 00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:22,300 grips with ourselves. Now it's amazing that I had a 547 00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:25,400 unequally yoked household growing up. 548 00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:29,100 I had a father that was not born again. 549 00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:33,700 All right. And I had a mom that was she 550 00:35:33,700 --> 00:35:37,000 took us to church. He did not, he worked and he 551 00:35:37,000 --> 00:35:40,600 drank and he smoked and he was in Rebellion. 552 00:35:41,900 --> 00:35:46,000 Okay, really to his own parents. Not to us now. 553 00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:49,900 He loved me like he thought he should love me. 554 00:35:51,900 --> 00:35:56,800 And I never feel like he did anything really bad growing up. 555 00:35:56,800 --> 00:36:00,700 Now when I put him to the word I'm like man, my dad was a mess. 556 00:36:01,900 --> 00:36:03,600 Right. But I don't have any horror 557 00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:06,800 stories about my dad. My dad with me, maybe 5 times. 558 00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:10,500 Didn't we ever want to get wet buying because they hurt more 559 00:36:10,500 --> 00:36:13,700 than my mom, right? And that was enough to know, 560 00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:16,400 don't want that? And when Mom said, I'm telling 561 00:36:16,400 --> 00:36:19,600 your dad, when he comes home, man, that was bad day, that's a 562 00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:24,200 bad day and you're like, asking for Mercy, right? 563 00:36:24,700 --> 00:36:27,200 They've em. I mean, in, he only had to do 564 00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:30,600 like one or two. That was it, you know, and when 565 00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:35,400 my dad get Too far over in his alcohol, he go to sleep. 566 00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:40,400 So I didn't have an abusive father and that context and the 567 00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:47,600 best drunk ever. I mean, I did, you know, my dad 568 00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:50,800 who, you know, drank took me to the bar. 569 00:36:52,900 --> 00:36:55,800 Okay, and I learned to play pool there. 570 00:36:57,500 --> 00:37:00,000 When I was only tall enough to get on one of those wood and 571 00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:05,100 Coca-Cola crates and stand on it to see over the pool table, to 572 00:37:05,100 --> 00:37:14,000 play pool, he drank beer, I drank you whose Amen. 573 00:37:15,100 --> 00:37:16,800 And there came later. Awesome times. 574 00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:20,600 That I drove home. On the side roads. 575 00:37:22,200 --> 00:37:26,500 Right. I knew my Dad loved me, how he 576 00:37:26,500 --> 00:37:34,500 knew to love me. but when I look at what he could have been, but 577 00:37:34,500 --> 00:37:39,000 that doesn't Define me and I don't resent him at the end of 578 00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:42,900 the day because he should have never defined me anyway. 579 00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:45,900 Now, my mom raised me in church but at the end of the day, she 580 00:37:45,900 --> 00:37:54,500 doesn't Define me either. Now, your story may be way worse 581 00:37:54,500 --> 00:37:56,500 than mine. That shouldn't Define you. 582 00:37:59,700 --> 00:38:03,300 Scripture should, so then you need to make sure your marriage 583 00:38:03,300 --> 00:38:06,500 is not a product of what you seen from your parents or lack 584 00:38:06,500 --> 00:38:13,000 thereof. Marriage is to be honored among 585 00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:15,900 all. And since God is the one who 586 00:38:15,900 --> 00:38:19,900 instituted it in the first place you'll find it in Genesis 587 00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:25,100 chapter 2. God brought the woman to the 588 00:38:25,100 --> 00:38:28,300 man. And he said that's a woman, 589 00:38:29,200 --> 00:38:32,100 right? He said they would become, he 590 00:38:32,100 --> 00:38:34,300 would leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife. 591 00:38:34,300 --> 00:38:37,100 Cling to his wife and they become one flesh, right? 592 00:38:37,900 --> 00:38:41,300 And it's to Hell among honor but we don't honor marriage. 593 00:38:41,900 --> 00:38:44,500 I mean, in our society, today not even among the church. 594 00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:50,100 Right. I mean people take the benefits 595 00:38:50,100 --> 00:38:52,600 of marriage before they ever say I do. 596 00:38:54,100 --> 00:38:56,200 But you're not getting the benefits of marriage. 597 00:38:56,700 --> 00:39:00,700 You're getting a thing called sin and it's a cheap substitute. 598 00:39:00,700 --> 00:39:02,700 I mean, when I do marriage counseling, I always have to ask 599 00:39:02,700 --> 00:39:04,800 question, have you been with anybody? 600 00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:10,000 I asked the question have you. It's kind of personal, I don't 601 00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:12,000 care. You know why? 602 00:39:12,100 --> 00:39:16,100 Because all the sex you had before you say I do the 603 00:39:16,100 --> 00:39:18,300 environment. There is different than the 604 00:39:18,300 --> 00:39:23,200 environment after I do. Because the environment of sex 605 00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:27,400 before marriage is called sin. That's an environment. 606 00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:35,500 There's something about it. That pool is it feels good, but 607 00:39:35,500 --> 00:39:39,700 there's an environment there. See, when you say I do now 608 00:39:39,700 --> 00:39:44,600 you're under a holy thing and the environments different. 609 00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:46,700 You know, what the devil to do, when the environment of holy 610 00:39:46,700 --> 00:39:48,600 comes in, when you don't recognize, you don't grow as a 611 00:39:48,608 --> 00:39:50,700 Believer, he'll start courting you back. 612 00:39:50,700 --> 00:39:53,800 Remember how it used to be and how it used to feel and how it 613 00:39:53,800 --> 00:39:57,200 used to? Well, you can only get a pre 614 00:39:57,200 --> 00:40:03,100 marriage six and barment after you're married in a Thing Called 615 00:40:03,100 --> 00:40:09,300 adultery, Now, all of a sudden we don't love our spouse. 616 00:40:09,300 --> 00:40:11,800 This next person, all of a sudden is giving me that 617 00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:14,300 environment I used to have when I was a fornicator. 618 00:40:15,300 --> 00:40:17,400 Okay, I'm preaching better and you are saying, but that's fun. 619 00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:19,800 See, this is why some people won't sleep with her husband's 620 00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:24,100 now. Or vice versa is because they 621 00:40:24,100 --> 00:40:26,600 are stuck in an environment that was ungodly. 622 00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:34,400 But now you're in an I do Under the Lord and he wants to bless 623 00:40:34,400 --> 00:40:38,000 that thing. I just tell you right now, I 624 00:40:38,000 --> 00:40:43,900 refuse to have a lost person. Be able to have sex more than a 625 00:40:43,900 --> 00:40:51,000 believer. Yep, it's crazy. 626 00:40:51,700 --> 00:40:59,000 I mean I am ordained by God. And the holdout that's happening 627 00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:00,600 in the marriage. Covenant is crazy. 628 00:41:02,700 --> 00:41:06,300 Okay, well, I don't feel like it. 629 00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:08,900 I don't feel like living by faith but I do. 630 00:41:12,700 --> 00:41:18,000 Cuz I don't go by the way. I feel Okay. 631 00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:19,500 Y'all don't want to hear? No, I want to talk about 632 00:41:19,500 --> 00:41:21,700 marriage. Y'all just want me to talk about 633 00:41:21,700 --> 00:41:23,100 something else. You don't me to come to your 634 00:41:23,100 --> 00:41:24,500 bedroom. That's what it is. 635 00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:30,800 See when a wife is doing something. 636 00:41:30,800 --> 00:41:33,300 When they don't feel like it there at like it's a problem. 637 00:41:33,300 --> 00:41:39,500 No, it's called honor. Just read First Corinthians 7. 638 00:41:42,700 --> 00:41:45,600 I mean, the minute you said I do it was an open exchange that no 639 00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:48,400 longer your body is yours and my body is mine. 640 00:41:49,300 --> 00:41:52,500 Now, I understand, it's crazy. I get it. 641 00:41:52,700 --> 00:41:55,800 Because, again, you listen to society instead of read the 642 00:41:55,800 --> 00:42:00,200 Bible, And because so many people have done it outside the 643 00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:04,800 marriage covenant, they think that feeling of wanting is like 644 00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:13,100 something's wrong on the inside. Okay. 645 00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:19,200 Hallelujah. I mean if you're a wife and 646 00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:22,900 you're like, look man, my husband's like all that you need 647 00:42:22,900 --> 00:42:27,200 to get it together and vice versa, he said, oh that's easy 648 00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:30,800 for a man to say they always what guys don't always want it. 649 00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:39,800 So that's a lie in and of itself. and again, if you track 650 00:42:39,800 --> 00:42:43,400 natural biology guys, Peak at a certain time when they're a 651 00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:47,800 certain age, and then women Peak later, Some of the men right 652 00:42:47,800 --> 00:42:48,800 now. We're going to please pick, 653 00:42:48,800 --> 00:42:49,700 honey. Please pick. 654 00:42:49,700 --> 00:42:52,800 I get it. But all of a sudden, here's the 655 00:42:52,800 --> 00:42:57,000 problem. The first part of your marriage. 656 00:42:57,100 --> 00:42:59,600 You weren't in Peak mode, in the husband was like, come on. 657 00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:01,000 What are you doing? Let's go. 658 00:43:01,100 --> 00:43:02,400 We're married, man. Come on. 659 00:43:02,400 --> 00:43:04,400 I love you. You're like all you listen. 660 00:43:04,500 --> 00:43:07,000 I mean unless you love me. Then why we have to do it's a 661 00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:11,600 natural progression. Right? 662 00:43:12,700 --> 00:43:16,700 It is a natural progression. You shouldn't feel ashamed 663 00:43:16,700 --> 00:43:19,500 because I tell you, I love you. I touch you. 664 00:43:19,500 --> 00:43:21,400 I clean. We do whatever your love 665 00:43:21,400 --> 00:43:23,600 language is if you believe in the love languages. 666 00:43:25,200 --> 00:43:27,500 Okay. Then at the end of the day, 667 00:43:28,400 --> 00:43:31,400 there can be a natural progression to that form of 668 00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:38,100 intimacy, which the Bible had as a type and Shadow of Christ. 669 00:43:38,100 --> 00:43:44,600 And the church I mean, I got husbands and wives wanting to 670 00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:48,100 get into the presence of God layout in the spirit, but won't 671 00:43:48,100 --> 00:43:49,700 lay out in front of their spouse. 672 00:43:50,400 --> 00:43:52,100 And you got to get over yourself too. 673 00:43:54,800 --> 00:43:59,300 Oh yes, we better go. You better go. 674 00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:01,000 We're gonna turn this into a marriage. 675 00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:03,600 Say, well, I'm single Pastor would then don't get married 676 00:44:03,600 --> 00:44:07,200 until you're ready because if you can't stand out and show 677 00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:08,900 yourself to your husband, say, come on. 678 00:44:09,900 --> 00:44:12,200 And you got a problem with that because all the lights of God be 679 00:44:12,200 --> 00:44:13,500 off. If you don't want, you got us a 680 00:44:13,500 --> 00:44:18,000 problem. Eve had to walk around in the 681 00:44:18,000 --> 00:44:21,600 day. I do not believe God brought her 682 00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:27,300 there at night. He's like, man. 683 00:44:32,500 --> 00:44:37,800 In fact, he only wanted her covered up after sin, but now we 684 00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:41,000 let in the world at like, you know they hanging everything out 685 00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:45,900 all the way down at the beach and then we got Sanctified, Holy 686 00:44:45,900 --> 00:44:51,000 Ghost, filled, people who like turn off all the what is wrong. 687 00:44:55,100 --> 00:44:57,700 the only things wrong is that you're insecure with how you 688 00:44:57,700 --> 00:45:05,000 look but your spouse isn't because again if we're that 689 00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:09,800 shallow that I'm only married for your skin suit. 690 00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:11,000 Well then I'm like the rest of the world. 691 00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:14,100 Anyway. I'm not saying don't take care 692 00:45:14,100 --> 00:45:17,000 of yourself. I'm just saying at the end of 693 00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:19,800 the day, boy, I'm telling you right now. 694 00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:23,500 I tell my wife, you know, because as we get older and then 695 00:45:23,500 --> 00:45:26,200 you hear of, you know, older guys failing with younger 696 00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:31,000 people, you know, she'll say, she'll say and I'll say, listen, 697 00:45:31,900 --> 00:45:35,500 there is no way on God's green earth that I would ever be with 698 00:45:35,500 --> 00:45:38,700 anybody. But you because number one, you 699 00:45:38,700 --> 00:45:44,600 have tested faith. I mean to waste Just the 700 00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:48,800 ministry on some tights. Can something that ain't pass 701 00:45:48,800 --> 00:45:52,800 one step of faith, that all hang on, through one trial, one 702 00:45:52,800 --> 00:45:54,500 trivia. I mean, that's like a waste of 703 00:45:54,500 --> 00:45:57,200 my time. I mean, it's a sin against God, 704 00:45:57,200 --> 00:46:00,200 first and foremost anyway, but at the end of the day, why would 705 00:46:00,200 --> 00:46:03,700 I risk everything on something like that? 706 00:46:04,100 --> 00:46:06,800 When the reality is, that's not even them. 707 00:46:06,900 --> 00:46:09,600 They're inside. That's who I'm looking at. 708 00:46:13,900 --> 00:46:15,700 My wife told me, I'll never marry after you. 709 00:46:15,700 --> 00:46:23,600 I know why. And I've said this a forget it 710 00:46:23,600 --> 00:46:27,500 I'm not not doing it. I think my my kids don't my 711 00:46:27,500 --> 00:46:29,500 wife. Does she like you couldn't do it 712 00:46:29,500 --> 00:46:31,500 alone? Okay. 713 00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:36,600 I just honor you that much. Because a lot of times, you 714 00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:40,700 know, when you love to be with someone love to be connected. 715 00:46:41,300 --> 00:46:44,100 I meant now when I was younger, it was very difficult to just 716 00:46:44,100 --> 00:46:48,400 hold her urine arms, do not want to go all the way through as I 717 00:46:48,400 --> 00:46:51,400 get older. That's easier. because, again, 718 00:46:51,400 --> 00:46:53,500 you've gone through stuffing realize, you know what, it's 719 00:46:53,500 --> 00:46:59,800 okay to not have to our go there, but if we did, we could 720 00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:04,300 because nobody's just sitting here holding back. 721 00:47:05,400 --> 00:47:08,500 Because that barrage is to be a honored above everything. 722 00:47:08,500 --> 00:47:20,000 And that's all that the mayor's offers Hallelujah. 723 00:47:22,500 --> 00:47:27,000 First Peter 3:7. Well, stop here with this one. 724 00:47:29,300 --> 00:47:31,600 Praise the Lord. Now my my wife's not here 725 00:47:31,600 --> 00:47:32,600 tonight. Okay. 726 00:47:32,600 --> 00:47:35,200 She's with my mom. So don't be talking to her on 727 00:47:35,200 --> 00:47:41,000 Sunday. Given half-truths and you know 728 00:47:41,600 --> 00:47:46,600 she can listen online and get full context. 729 00:47:46,900 --> 00:47:50,800 So don't be like, I know why you won't don't don't do stuff like 730 00:47:50,800 --> 00:47:54,300 that. How to be more mature than that? 731 00:47:55,700 --> 00:48:00,200 Amen. I'm just telling you as 732 00:48:00,200 --> 00:48:06,200 Believers, we should have the most thriving and I'm not 733 00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:09,600 talking about physical. I'm talking spiritual emotional 734 00:48:09,600 --> 00:48:12,700 everything, my best friend is my wife. 735 00:48:16,100 --> 00:48:18,700 Right, man, I can talk to her about anything. 736 00:48:26,400 --> 00:48:28,700 But just like to take long drives, that's fine. 737 00:48:29,100 --> 00:48:33,600 Whatever. Maybe she sent me on assignment, 738 00:48:33,700 --> 00:48:35,200 she's The Decorator. I get it. 739 00:48:35,800 --> 00:48:39,800 And so I'm like, I'm gonna get some trim for the fireplace and 740 00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:42,100 I said you going to go well no, I'll stay here and I said, well 741 00:48:42,100 --> 00:48:44,500 then you understand. I'm going to pick it out. 742 00:48:46,500 --> 00:48:49,400 Now, we had talked about a particular trim but there was no 743 00:48:49,400 --> 00:48:52,600 definite. I want this trim conversation. 744 00:48:54,300 --> 00:48:57,800 Was like yeah I see that that's nice and that's it. 745 00:48:58,100 --> 00:49:01,000 That doesn't mean by this tram only. 746 00:49:01,500 --> 00:49:04,200 So you know the gaps a little bit bigger and I was thinking 747 00:49:04,600 --> 00:49:07,400 you know, after the tile job so I'm like okay so I'm like you 748 00:49:07,400 --> 00:49:11,000 know, I like this it matches what I did up top and it had 749 00:49:11,000 --> 00:49:14,900 coverage is great. So I bought it came back, cut 750 00:49:14,900 --> 00:49:17,300 it, I mean I'm like I ain't playing around. 751 00:49:17,500 --> 00:49:21,300 I mean, if we don't finish this project Right? 752 00:49:22,400 --> 00:49:24,200 I cut it. Thirty six and seven. 753 00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:26,500 Eighths inch bam both of them. Stuck them up there and she's 754 00:49:26,500 --> 00:49:30,000 like what is that? Well, I guess the trim. 755 00:49:32,500 --> 00:49:37,000 Why did you get that one? I told you that if you send me, 756 00:49:37,000 --> 00:49:40,800 I'll get what I get. I mean, we didn't have a 757 00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:42,900 conversation. Well, it's covering too much of 758 00:49:42,900 --> 00:49:45,100 the tall. I said, what did you pick that? 759 00:49:45,100 --> 00:49:48,600 I said, look, it matches, what? We did up top. 760 00:49:48,900 --> 00:49:52,100 It even has the rounded corner right here the edge. 761 00:49:53,100 --> 00:49:56,300 I mean, I had pretty beautiful design guys, right? 762 00:49:56,300 --> 00:50:00,700 In my logic. I don't like it then it doesn't 763 00:50:00,700 --> 00:50:03,900 matter because we're getting whatever you want at this point. 764 00:50:03,900 --> 00:50:06,700 I just wish you'd had a me. Absolute, I'm going back. 765 00:50:06,700 --> 00:50:10,000 I'm gonna go back right now. That's right. 766 00:50:10,000 --> 00:50:12,000 That's what how I felt motivated. 767 00:50:12,000 --> 00:50:14,000 I'll go back right now. I didn't go back right then 768 00:50:14,100 --> 00:50:16,400 because doing the saint was more important. 769 00:50:17,300 --> 00:50:19,100 But at the end of the day, we got the trim. 770 00:50:19,100 --> 00:50:21,500 She wanted. And you know, she was right. 771 00:50:23,300 --> 00:50:26,600 I meant I was the one who suggested it first anyway, I 772 00:50:26,600 --> 00:50:28,300 didn't follow through with that design. 773 00:50:30,500 --> 00:50:36,400 Right. Amen. 774 00:50:38,900 --> 00:50:44,600 So you do it. I mean we could get over 775 00:50:44,900 --> 00:50:50,200 differences like that. Yes, hard to replace. 776 00:50:51,800 --> 00:50:54,800 It took years of growing in the word. 777 00:50:55,300 --> 00:50:59,300 Geez. Anyway, First Peter chapter 37. 778 00:50:59,300 --> 00:51:00,600 I mean close. I got to get you all out of 779 00:51:00,600 --> 00:51:04,000 here. Your husband in the same way, 780 00:51:04,000 --> 00:51:07,500 live with your wives in an understanding way as with 781 00:51:07,500 --> 00:51:10,600 someone weaker since she is a woman. 782 00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:12,900 Now, please don't get offended ladies, when I say that because 783 00:51:12,900 --> 00:51:14,500 some of y'all are stronger than most men in here. 784 00:51:14,500 --> 00:51:21,000 I get it but not every person and again biologically, they're 785 00:51:21,000 --> 00:51:22,800 different. Okay. 786 00:51:23,400 --> 00:51:26,400 So obviously that's what the Lord means in that context and 787 00:51:26,400 --> 00:51:28,700 he created a woman for a purpose, he didn't create you to 788 00:51:28,700 --> 00:51:33,100 be a man. So for you, trying to do things 789 00:51:33,100 --> 00:51:36,100 better than a man is misplaced priority. 790 00:51:38,100 --> 00:51:40,200 You should just want to thrive as a woman. 791 00:51:40,500 --> 00:51:44,600 That doesn't mean you can't be strong, you know physically 792 00:51:44,800 --> 00:51:46,400 right. At the end of the day I'm just 793 00:51:46,400 --> 00:51:50,100 saying your goal is not to see how many men you can dominate. 794 00:51:55,200 --> 00:52:01,500 Okay, since she is a woman and show her what honor, as a fellow 795 00:52:01,500 --> 00:52:05,200 heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be 796 00:52:05,200 --> 00:52:06,800 hindered. Now, reason I brought this 797 00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:09,600 scripture up about honors because the first one is says 798 00:52:09,600 --> 00:52:13,100 marriage is to be held and honor which implies both husband and 799 00:52:13,100 --> 00:52:15,400 wife should develop honor towards one another. 800 00:52:15,900 --> 00:52:18,900 But then Peter specifically says now husband is honor your wife. 801 00:52:19,800 --> 00:52:24,100 Which means husbands have been told to honor his wife twice. 802 00:52:27,600 --> 00:52:29,700 Now, why is that? Because Jesus says when it comes 803 00:52:29,700 --> 00:52:33,400 to a mayor, is that a man is to love his wife like Christ. 804 00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:35,400 Loved the church. He gives that as an example then 805 00:52:35,400 --> 00:52:37,800 he gives another example. A man should love his wife like 806 00:52:37,800 --> 00:52:43,700 he loves himself. Because what happens is a man 807 00:52:44,300 --> 00:52:50,100 because of the fall of humanity. And the fact that Eve did was to 808 00:52:50,108 --> 00:52:53,800 deceive and ate the fruit. And because sin entered in the 809 00:52:53,800 --> 00:53:00,500 planet, instead of them being specifically code Dominion, all 810 00:53:00,500 --> 00:53:04,100 of a sudden Adam now is over as wife, although he was still 811 00:53:04,100 --> 00:53:07,100 over. In the sense that he was given 812 00:53:07,100 --> 00:53:08,700 the command, not to eat the fruit. 813 00:53:09,700 --> 00:53:12,900 Okay? And when I say that, I'm just 814 00:53:12,900 --> 00:53:14,500 saying he's the head of the house. 815 00:53:15,000 --> 00:53:16,600 All right? But that being ahead of the 816 00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:18,700 house doesn't mean, you shouldn't listen to your wife 817 00:53:19,600 --> 00:53:21,000 because God will speak to your wife. 818 00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:25,100 So many times and make your head spin as you see because you're 819 00:53:25,100 --> 00:53:29,600 not listening. Anyway, But what happens is men 820 00:53:29,600 --> 00:53:34,100 began to take this role of being over to their heads. 821 00:53:35,800 --> 00:53:38,000 They begin to dominate their wives. 822 00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:45,300 Not like they're not smarter than them. 823 00:53:45,300 --> 00:53:49,800 They're not better than them. They can't do it better than 824 00:53:49,800 --> 00:53:55,000 them. So is like, you need to honor 825 00:53:55,000 --> 00:53:58,300 and here's the thing. If you're not doing it right 826 00:53:58,300 --> 00:53:59,700 then, I don't care how much you pray. 827 00:54:02,000 --> 00:54:05,700 Because that's the problem. Now, God is answering your 828 00:54:05,700 --> 00:54:07,800 prayers. In proportion to your, honoring 829 00:54:07,800 --> 00:54:11,600 your spouse. So if my wife ever talks to me 830 00:54:11,600 --> 00:54:13,800 about, I might need to change my attitude. 831 00:54:13,900 --> 00:54:19,500 I have to listen. I got to know is that perception 832 00:54:19,500 --> 00:54:21,200 or reality? Because of this reality, my 833 00:54:21,200 --> 00:54:22,400 prayer lost fixing to be hindered. 834 00:54:22,400 --> 00:54:26,200 And that's a problem because I can't have my prayer life. 835 00:54:26,200 --> 00:54:28,700 Endured, can't have my relationship with God. 836 00:54:28,700 --> 00:54:33,500 Have something clogged up in it. When again, if I'm not honoring, 837 00:54:33,500 --> 00:54:37,100 my wife that I see every day, then how can I say? 838 00:54:37,100 --> 00:54:45,900 I'm honoring God, So Jesus said, if you want the father, honor, 839 00:54:45,900 --> 00:54:48,100 you number one, you're going to need to honor your mom and your 840 00:54:48,100 --> 00:54:51,300 dad wherever they're at and the Spectrum, right? 841 00:54:51,800 --> 00:54:55,900 Number two, you need to honor the marriage if you're married, 842 00:54:56,100 --> 00:54:59,700 and if you're single right now, They remain single. 843 00:55:00,800 --> 00:55:04,900 Meaning. I mean enjoy singleness at this 844 00:55:04,900 --> 00:55:08,700 juncture. Okay, don't try to be in a 845 00:55:08,700 --> 00:55:11,800 marriage relationship while you're single. 846 00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:18,200 You may be in a relationship or desire to have a relationship, 847 00:55:18,300 --> 00:55:22,300 but a lot if you want it to be the best them move towards 848 00:55:22,300 --> 00:55:24,800 godliness. Because at the end of the day, 849 00:55:25,100 --> 00:55:27,900 the minute, you marry, you have trouble. 850 00:55:29,100 --> 00:55:34,700 You cannot avoid it because you are, will they are a will and 851 00:55:34,700 --> 00:55:36,600 you've got to work this thing together now. 852 00:55:38,400 --> 00:55:40,900 And those Wills don't always come together every day. 853 00:55:43,400 --> 00:55:45,800 So compromise, has to take place. 854 00:55:45,800 --> 00:55:47,900 If you find yourself, I won't compromise for nothing. 855 00:55:47,900 --> 00:55:49,600 Well, then you're not ready for marriage. 856 00:55:52,500 --> 00:55:54,300 All right. I want to get married so they'll 857 00:55:54,300 --> 00:55:55,900 serve me. You're not ready for marriage. 858 00:55:57,600 --> 00:55:59,400 If you want to get married, just have sex all the time. 859 00:55:59,400 --> 00:56:01,900 You're really not marry ready for married marriage. 860 00:56:01,900 --> 00:56:04,500 But the Bible does say is better to marry than to burn in your 861 00:56:04,500 --> 00:56:07,400 lust. It does say that. 862 00:56:09,000 --> 00:56:12,300 All right, so we want to honor so husband's. 863 00:56:12,300 --> 00:56:16,800 I'm gonna give you a assignment. I want you to find five ways. 864 00:56:16,800 --> 00:56:18,300 You can honor your spouse this week. 865 00:56:20,900 --> 00:56:25,200 Five ways. Wives, I'ma give you an 866 00:56:25,200 --> 00:56:28,900 assignment. You need to find 4 ways. 867 00:56:32,900 --> 00:56:36,600 Now, why is that? Cause when he honors you, you 868 00:56:36,600 --> 00:56:40,000 would return it when he honors. You you to return it when he 869 00:56:40,000 --> 00:56:42,100 honors. You return it, right? 870 00:56:43,300 --> 00:56:44,800 But he should get the last honor. 871 00:56:46,100 --> 00:56:47,800 He should never let you get the last. 872 00:56:52,200 --> 00:56:55,800 Because Christ is always doing for us beyond what we could ever 873 00:56:55,800 --> 00:56:59,900 do. So, no matter how much I want to 874 00:56:59,900 --> 00:57:03,400 honor him, he's like, does exceedingly abundantly far 875 00:57:03,400 --> 00:57:06,100 beyond what I could think of. Imagine I'm like cheese. 876 00:57:10,300 --> 00:57:11,800 Wow. Lord, you're awesome. 877 00:57:15,200 --> 00:57:18,200 For all of you in the room, find a way to honor your parents this 878 00:57:18,200 --> 00:57:22,500 week, whether it's just call them, maybe go and have 879 00:57:22,500 --> 00:57:24,300 breakfast with him if you can do that. 880 00:57:25,600 --> 00:57:27,800 I mean, whatever the Lord lays on your heart. 881 00:57:29,100 --> 00:57:32,700 But just exercise it and watch what it does in your life. 882 00:57:39,200 --> 00:57:41,300 Thank you so much for listening to this message. 883 00:57:41,400 --> 00:57:44,800 If you want more subscribe to our message podcast on iTunes, 884 00:57:44,800 --> 00:57:47,900 Google play Spotify and SoundCloud rating and leaving a 885 00:57:47,908 --> 00:57:49,500 comment. Will go a long way with helping 886 00:57:49,500 --> 00:57:51,300 our messages. 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