That we thank you and praise you for the opportunity to come
together and that the preparation and the different
things we've been able to accomplish in just such a short
time, you know, from meeting with pastor, I'm grateful.
And I just ask that tonight as we go through the lesson and we
look at the Scriptures, see in the Kingdom arena of business
where we're supposed to be, you know, launching ourselves and
and being able to take care of ourselves.
Thank you for those in attendance tonight.
Thank you. We're going to be able to
accomplish great things for your name and for the Kingdom and,
and along with bringing as many people with us as we can, we
want to give you thanks in advance for that in Jesus name,
Amen. We are going to be, we are going
to be having a meeting with pastor.
We first of all is going to be Seth and I OK, Seth and pastor
have been getting together on some things And, and then Seth
and I went in and had a meeting. Golly, I don't know remember
when that was. It's first of the year probably.
And you know, just talking about some things that we wanted to
add to king of first business alliance.
And so we, you know, we're going to we've got some things
planned. We've already got all the way to
the end of the year planned. And then we're going to be
getting with pastor on some new things that we're wanting to do,
which includes, you know, a podcast that we can easily get
to and you're not thumbing through the whole thing.
We're going to be consistent on getting something on the podcast
every month. And when you get your and most
of you, everybody got a text or an e-mail or both.
Everybody get a text, e-mail or both.
Bob, your Shay, Bob, Bill, did you get one?
OK, Hi, that might be a problem. OK.
And did you get it? You're going to get his data.
OK. I wanted you to have it more
than anything. OK was the reason why is that
you and I talked about the lesson from last week it he will
send you the link to get on it and that way you can get it to
your wife and have her, you know, be caught up with you.
OK, so that's that's the plan. And one of the things that we're
going to try to start doing is put the link on the
communications that we're going to do every month.
That's just something that we've not been able to do.
Seth knows how to do it. I didn't know how to do it and I
couldn't wait on media to do it. OK, You know, 'cause it's just,
they're so far out and now they're less handed than they
were when we started this whole deal.
All right? But so anyway, there's some,
there's some things that we're going to be presenting and
changing and encouraging you to just stay with us because it's
going to be go up from here. You know, I just felt like over
the last couple of years we've had some lols, you know, just
come here, listen, come here, listen.
And we're going to change some of that, OK?
I think it's going to be pretty exciting.
All right, get your Bible, get it open to Matthew chapter 13.
It's going to be a biblical scripture standpoint that I'm
going to go with tonight on communication.
And when we talk about communication, one, it's going
to be talking about speaking. And when we speak, there's
certain things that we have to make sure that we're saying, OK,
now this is the account of Jesus.
And, and I'm going to break some things down and I'm going to
just, I'm just going to keep going with it if I can to be
able to get a good flow with this.
But this is what it said. It said.
And the disciples came and said unto him, why do you speak thou
to them in parables? Unto them in parables.
And he said, And Jesus answered and said unto them, Because it
is given for you to know the mysteries of the Kingdom of
heaven, but to them it is not given.
I thought that was interesting. OK, that Jesus said, There's
going to be some in the earth that are going to be given some
secrets, and some that are not all right.
Then he goes on, and he says, For whosoever hath to him shall
be given, and he that has, he'll have more in abundance, and
whosoever hath not from him shall be taken away, even that
which he had. Verse 13, It said Therefore
speak I I to them in parables because they sing they can't see
and hearing they do not hear neither do they understand.
So one of the things Jesus is educating us on in understanding
communication that there's going to be people that are with you
and they're going to get it and there's going to be some people
wonder what in the world are you talking about?
And he tells us he said those that will spiritually try to get
in tune with what you're saying. All right, he said they're going
to get more revelation. He said more they'll have an
abundance. It's going to come more, it's
going to come more, it's going to come more, he said, but those
that really don't have, you know, any interest in hearing
what's going on, he said the very things that they do have
will be taken away from them. So when we when we see Jesus
illustration, you walk through his whole ministry with him in
his whole ministry, the the disciples asked that question.
They said, why do you speak unto them in parables?
So that must have been the way Jesus spoke to everyone in
parables and he and they want to know why, Why can't you just
speak plainly to them? And he lets them know, he says,
because you've been given the secrets of understanding the
Kingdom. And he said, but they haven't.
And I had to ask the question, why haven't they?
Why haven't they begin again been given that?
And it basically boils down because the way he explains it,
he said, he said those that have more will be given to him.
They'll have an abundance. Those that don't have, he said
it taken away. It's basically a desire to hear
what's being said. They followed Jesus, they wanted
to hear Jesus and and I believe that he did parables to one get
their attention. All right, there's so many
different, you know, in the Greek of understanding the word
parabola, which is the word parable, but it said it's an
earthly story. One of the definitions I learned
as a little kid and I even found it in your Bible app.
It said it is an earthly story with a heavenly meaning or
heavenly purpose. So Jesus is telling these things
and and they're saying, well, that doesn't make sense.
But if you've been given and understanding because you won't
let him and his word go, you're going to be the 1A candidate to
be able to hear what he's got to say.
And so when we talk about our own communication, all right,
one of the things that I've seen over the years is that the
people that we love to listen to are the ones that can give us an
illustration with what they're saying.
We may not remember verbatim what they say, but I tell you
what most people, and I'm going to give you some stories
tonight. You'll be able to tell anybody
else. All right, And people remember
stories and and we always have. Jesus knew that they're going to
you know, I mean, I don't how many out of the 70 that showed
up that he proclaimed as a disciples sent them out two by
two. How many of them one day woke up
and got it. Wait a minute.
I think this is what he's talking about, you know, and
telling each other. Remember that parable he told
us, you know, about the woman that was sweeping the house and
she lost a coin and she swept the whole dirt floor, right?
And it swept it and found that coin and, and got all excited or
the, you know, the 99 sheep and went and go found the found the
one that was missing. You know, he's telling these
stories to get their curiosity. This is in communication.
We always need to keep a level of curiosity, not so much of
what you're going to say to them and hoping they catch it, but
you need to have curiosity of what someone else says to you.
All right, to be able to get it and get an understanding and
find out. This is a problem with a lot of
us, OK, Sometimes we act like we ain't got time for nothing.
Oh, we're just too busy. Somebody's trying to
communicate, you know, with this real important.
You know, there's a movie that I loved as a kid growing up called
Snowball Express. I don't know if you saw it was a
Disney movie. OK Dean Jones was one of the,
you know, highest paid actors for Disney back in the 70s and
80s. And it was so funny.
His in this in this story, he inherited a hotel in Colorado.
So he leaves his high paying job in New York and drags the whole
family to this hotel that they say is making money and stuff.
And it is empty cobwebs everywhere.
All right, furniture upside down with covers on it.
And they're thinking we got to live here, right.
Well, it was funny when it all came down to it.
There was a banker that wanted the property for all the
minerals and all the trees and all the stuff on the property.
And he he gave the guy some money to get started knowing he
wouldn't be able to pay it and he was going to foreclose on it.
And the kid kept, you know, wanting to interrupt his dad.
He just says, don't bother me right now.
I'm thinking about this. Don't bother me right now.
I'm thinking about this. Well, her, you know, it hurt his
feelings and the and the boy didn't say anything.
And mom said here was a note from the the boy.
And he said, you know, you want to make a ski resort out of this
place. And he said you can't figure out
how to get the tow rope up on the hill.
And he said, and why can't the tow machine tow itself up on the
hill? Well, he said, he's a genius
man. And they did that.
Well, then there the next opportunity, when they were
getting ready to foreclose on the property, the boys start
speaking up again. And the dad's going, hold on,
Richard, hang on a second. And he goes and he stops.
He goes, what would you like to say, Richard?
And he said, well, he said, I think that I heard that if there
wasn't a library or a hospital in the town that it reverted
back to the original owner, which was your uncle.
And everybody looks over at the banker and he says, you got an
aspirin, you know. So The thing is we're, when we
take the time, you know, to listen, you know, we that that's
the two parts of communication. So, you know, tonight, let me
give you a definition. This has always been my
definition for effective communication, just not talking
and, and, and somebody, you know, you hear people over here
doing this and doing that, but when you're really trying to
communicate, this is what you're going to do.
This is my definition. It says the ability to paint
pictures in the mind of others. Let me just read it.
It said to clarify a subject being discussed or bring a
desired world to result to a particular task.
So effective communication is being able to paint pictures of
the outcome you'd like to see, whether it's a, you're
discussing something about whatever or you have a task that
you're trying to explain. All right.
And, and you have to be a good communicator because if you're
not a good communicator, if you're not painting the right
pictures, I've had this happen. All right.
Yeah, I said it set everybody down.
This is what we're going to do, team.
This is what's going to happen. So when we had to get at the end
of the conveyor belt, this is what I want to see, right?
And I get, you know, I go about doing what I'm supposed to be
doing. They're all doing what they're
supposed to do. And I get to the end of the
conveyor, and it ain't nothing like we talked about.
Now, haven't we all played that game, you know, where we had the
whole front row filled up? And I go over here and whisper
to Seth and I say something to him.
And by the time he gets to the end, it is so messed up.
It is so far on what we originally said, it's hilarious,
OK, We don't want to play that game in real life.
It's too expensive. It takes up too much time.
All right, so there's some considerations that I want to
give you tonight. I have 4 of them that I want to
give you and with some with some scriptures and I want you to jot
these down to your interpretation.
OK, you don't have to go verbatim, but here's the first
one. The effectiveness as a
communicator will be the result of your heart.
OK, when it comes down to it, really what you're going to be
communicating is what's on the inside.
Jesus told us that, all right, He said, you know our heart.
And here's the thing we need to understand and we need to
understand about the heart. You know, we see the heart in
the Bible and we and, and, and very rarely does it point to the
pump or the organ in your chest that moves blood around.
That's not what it's talking about.
The heart has always been described, even though in the
language it is talking about that cardia is the Greek word
for heart and it is the Greek word for the heart that pumps
blood. All right.
But in Scripture, it has always been to the deep seated part of
man on the inside and, and, and it controls things like thoughts
and emotions and desires, affections, purposes, endeavors.
All of those are the heart. OK.
And so we've been warned about our heart because of things that
can happen now. Matthew chapter 12, jot this one
down 33 through 37. Listen to this.
This is Jesus talking in the Scripture and he says either
make the tree good and its fruit good, or else to make the free,
make the tree corrupt and its fruit corrupt, for the tree is
known by its fruit. Now you know Pastor said, hadn't
he recently even he said I'm a fruit inspector.
Now notice what it does not say. Anytime you see the word fruit,
it does not say you'll judge them by their fruits.
The word says you will know them by their fruits.
You will have knowledge of what they're about by what they're
saying. And he warns us in here.
He says, now you are generations of Vipers, how can you be evil?
Speak good things. And he said, and out of the
abundance of the heart, and we get this scripture, out of the
abundance of the heart, the mouth will speak.
And he goes on. He said, now good man out of the
good treasure, you need to underline that good treasure of
the heart brings forth good things.
The evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth evil
things, Jesus said. But I say unto you that every
idle word that men shall speak, they will give account thereof
on the day of judgement. Now I'm going to, I'm going to
break a couple of words down in here to give you an idea.
One, I like the word idle. OK.
The word idle basically means unemployed.
OK, so in other words, Jesus saying the words that you say
when they go out of your mouth ought to be putting something to
work He says in there. He said, you know it also.
It also has the the meaning of uselessness and one that is just
lazy. OK, so you have words that are
lazy, words that do not produce anything.
He said beware of those. Do not be a partaker or do not
be a speaker of those kind of words.
Then he gets in there and he says, for by your words you're
justified and by your words you're condemned.
Now here's the questions that we have to ask about the
communication from our hearts. Here's the question, is your
heart full of good treasure or evil treasure?
Now he tells us real specifically.
And I thought this interesting and being as my boy Brandon is
here tonight, he won't remember this, but I tell this story
often outside of his presence. But one day we were sitting
upstairs. We were upstairs and he comes
and he's holding this book. He goes, this is the dumbest
name of a book I've ever seen. I said, what's the name of the
book? And he said, thesaurus.
And I go, well, that means you don't know what that means.
That's a Greek word and it means a collection or a a, a
collection of precious and valuable things.
A thesaurus. I know you don't remember it.
I remember it like yesterday. OK, All right.
And and I, I thought it was so funny because in the Greek, the
word treasure is the word thesaurus.
It means a place which are good precious things are collected
and laid up. OK, now think about it.
A thesaurus that he was holding in his hand was a collection of
some things. And in matter of fact, it is the
only thing that we call a thesaurus.
It was a collection of words, right?
OK, so you, when you think about it, that when Jesus talked
about, Jesus talked about, he said thesaurus.
He said, you know, it is a it is a collection.
It is something valuable, it's something precious, but it's a
collection that is laid up. Now when we take a look at that,
he said, he said for the tree is known by its fruit.
OK, And we could say your heart is known by the fruit.
And what did he say? He said out of the abundance of
the heart, we're going to hear it out of your mouth.
All right, so in Galatians Chapter 5, we find out what
good, good fruit looks like, don't we?
He said the fruit of the spirit is Lovejoy, peace,
long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness,
temperance. Against such there is no law.
So he tells you that if you have a good heart, the words that
ought to be coming out of your mouth are going to be that set
of words. All right, And they have songs
about it, you know, in our kids ministry and and everything like
that. But let's what about an evil
heart? Listen to this Matthew chapter
15 verses 18 and 19. All right, He said, but those
things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart and
they defile a man. For out of the heart precedes
evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications,
thefts, fault fault witnesses and blasphemies.
Notice in there. He said, I, I looked at the two
and I said, well, you know, as far as the word thefts, that
there's a lot of people that I know in business that have been
thieves with their words, such as tell you one thing and do
something different or say this is the quote and then make up
stuff to have the quote be higher than it was.
Oh, well, we forgot about this. Oh, we didn't know about this.
Oh, we did. You got to be careful because it
it it looks like you're lying. You got to be careful of that.
Know your stuff, all right, Know what's on the inside.
OK, now you know, here's another way.
And, and one thing that I I think that I could be as pastor
said it don't be proud. Be pleased with yourself, All
right, is that I have never had to communicate using profanity.
OK, now I've had a lot of Christians use profanity on me.
And then they would maybe apologize and call it French,
Pardon my French, OK? And it's just a cuss word is
what it is. And you know, I heard one time
one guy said they said don't worry about it.
If it wasn't in there, it wouldn't have come out.
And I said, oh, man, you know, But I've never had to correct
anybody, you know, I haven't had to be harsh.
I hadn't had to be critical or arrogant about them, all right?
I just basically set them down and we're going to talk about
this, You know, what you did wrong or what I'm doing wrong or
why were we not getting along all right?
But you don't have to use profanity on it because to me
that loses credibility if you can't communicate using the
English language in its pure form.
All right, then you know, I, I wouldn't call you a good
communicator. There's been a lot of public
speakers that I have not listened to any longer because
they just choose the word words of profanity, every other word,
just whether they think they're cute, whether they're trying to
make a point. You can do it without it.
So you got to watch out what's what's on the inside.
Now, here's one thing in communication that you can have
a reputation that when they see you, all right, they might have
just two thoughts. That's it.
When they see you coming, OK, One of pain and the other of
pleasure. I prefer that when somebody sees
me, they're excited to visit with me, whatever I got.
I mean, my reputation is one of a storyteller even among the
littles, OK? But it's kind of funny because
I've had people so excited for me to come into their office and
sit down. We going to talk about business
that tell me what happened lately and I'll have something.
I'll always have something. Oh, man, I was, you know, out
here doing this and I did this and fell out of this and tripped
over this and and all kind of stuff.
I mean, you know, not too long ago, Cassie, were you with me?
I don't know anybody else in here with me when I went
crashing over the the Dolly, you know, and, and, and it was, it
was horrific, man. I mean, and it was so funny.
I'm on the phone. I'm talking to Thaddeus, right,
about something we need to fix. Well, they had hung a drape in
the T-shirt shop, OK, in there. And I busted through that, not
realizing that my grandchildren had taken a 2, you know, a 2
Wheeler and pulled it out right behind that.
So I didn't know. And I come through there and
flipped over the top of that, held onto the phone, finish the
phone call. I'm taking inventory 'cause I'm
hurting. And I got a couple places that
are ringing out louder than the other places. 1 was my elbow,
right? And when everybody, you know,
and the whole bit, I had the phone still in my hand, I called
Josh, Josh, come get me. I, I, I have fallen and I can't
get up. And he comes in there and I got
one leg up on the the cart itself.
I got the other ones and I'm twisted all up and he goes, what
happened? I said, I ain't blaming nobody.
I said just help me get up and get seated.
OK. So he gets me out, brings me in
one of those chairs right in front of your office, right,
Right in front. And I'm sitting there.
I got this, I got this golf ball growing out of my arm.
You remember that and I mean, it was big as a golf ball.
I'm not as it not joking. I mean, I got a witness.
She was looking at that. She's going, man, I'm going to
try everything I can to help you get over that.
You know, I'm walking around looking like Popeye, you know,
got that knot on my elbow. I had a skin on my I skipped my
knee up, you know, because there's no carpet or nothing.
It's concrete and I'm like, you know, and and you know, what is
the deal about that? You tell that story and people
start laughing and it wasn't that funny, but it is now.
It's it's every accident I've ever had in my life.
Because, you know, I've told you about Melanie.
That's how I found out how this relationships going to go.
Randy's going to come near death, OK, in an accident.
And she's going to laugh us all the way to the hospital 'cause I
did it one night. I hit my thumb with a hammer and
I look it up at her, 'cause she's sitting on the porch and
I'm putting stairs down it and it and it's getting dark and I
can't hardly see. And I hit that wrong nail.
I just, I just dropped the hammer, grabbed it tight as I
could. Blood's coming out everywhere.
And she looks and just bust up laughing.
And I just looked at her and fell over.
And I'm laying there in the front yard.
It's getting dark. I don't feel like moving every
every inch of my body is trying to work a plan that I don't want
to participate in. Like get you got to get up, man.
You got to get up. I don't want to get up.
I mean, until the pain stops, which pain ain't going to stop,
right? And I'm bleeding over
everything, you know, finally get in to see how bad it was
bad, wrap it up, you know, the whole bit.
But I mean, I don't, I can't tell you how many times I've
hurt myself. And she just thinks it's the
funniest thing. I just, I, I don't get that,
man. I'm feeling sorry for people,
you know, I'm trying to help them with the pain management
and stuff. All right.
So, you know, that's the thing that we, we want, we want to be,
is that when people see us coming, that we have something
that we know we're going to talk about, something that we're
going to discuss that, you know, and, and, and because you're a
pleasant person, the inside portrays how you're going to
talk, how you talk to your customers.
How do you talk to your vendors? How do you talk to them?
How you, are you having a good day?
You know, asking them. Those are important.
Let me give you consideration #2 all right, that we will
accomplish most of our expectations if we're consistent
with our communication. All right, now that you know,
consistent, listen to this. If you want to be consistent,
you need to be agreeing. You need to be compatible, not
self contradictory. That was my favorite definition.
All right, constantly adhering to the same principles, holding
firmly together. Let me read them again.
If you want to be a consistent communicator, you've got to be
agreeing, OK? You've got to be agreeing with
yourself mostly, all right, compatible, not self
contradictory, constantly adhering to the same principles,
holding the holding firmly together.
You know, when you're monitoring expectations and, and you see,
you know, someone taking a variation of what you've been
talking about, you know, you need to, you need to ask them a
question. And usually what this question
will be is that, you know, you ask them, OK, why did we do
this, this way? OK, you, you want to know what
is it that I didn't communicate? What is it that we're going to
do? And I, and I, and when I have
some of the young people working for me, whether it's in the, in
the, the T-shirt shop or whatever the case may be, I'll
give you another illustration from communication.
I mean, I, I showed one, one of our little team members how we
do certain things, burning a screen, getting it ready to go
to print and the different things like that.
Got it ready to go. And I'm sitting there, you know,
doing some calculations on some of the shirts and all the stuff
that we've got to have. And I thought it was interesting
is that she came in and she said, listen, she said, you
know, that film positive, that thing that had that we're
supposed to be shooting it is, is like rising up off of the
table. And I go, what?
I mean, I can't even picture this.
She goes, I don't know. It's it's it's rising up off of
the table. And I'm thinking, I've never
seen anything like this. And I go in there and she had
forgotten to put the plate glass on top of it to hold it down.
And the heat was making it turn into a piece of bacon and no big
deal. I mean, it's the first time it
ever happened. I call it an incident, not a
problem, all right, and we got a little incident, OK, So hey,
let's let's let's remember, let's put the glass on top of
it. It'll protect it, the piece of
plastic and the whole bit. You'll be fine, OK.
And so about 1520 minutes later comes in, said it's doing it
again, OK, So when you hear somebody, somebody, somebody,
somebody say it's happening again, it is just turned from an
incident to a problem. We got a problem, OK?
So I went back there and this was a time for communication,
all right, and continuous communication.
But I asked them, I said, tell me what can we do to make sure
this never happens again? What do we need to do?
Give me some ideas. Now be young.
To be young and inexperienced means that you really haven't
used your mind a whole lot. You might have used it in school
'cause we got a test coming, right?
But real life, everyday problems, all right?
I found it very difficult for their age group, which was, you
know, mid high school to come up with a solution.
I say, come on, give me something, communicate, talk to
me. I I just don't know.
And I said, you mean to tell me you can't tell me one thing that
you could do that would remind you never to forget the glass.
No, I don't have anything. I don't have anything.
And I said, go get me a Sharpie. I took that Sharpie and right
there there's a beam, wooden beam where the place that they
set all this and to the hot lamps that basically metal
highlight shop shop lamps. OK, that's what's cooking
everything, right? And I wrote on that wooden beam,
do not forget glass exclamation point.
I said, will that help you? I mean, it's like the last thing
you see before you turn that light switch on.
They go, that's a really good idea.
Well, the sad part was they didn't come up with it all
right, because if you here's the thing about it, if you come up
with an idea to solve a problem, you own it and and and I don't
expect anything different out of you from here on.
Now have they ever done it again?
No, but the next person in line did it.
I'm thinking, how do you guys come up with this?
All right, so when we, when we talk about, you know, as far as
being consistent, the the main thing that you'll hear when you
have to go, you know, say why did this happen?
What happened? What did we do?
You're going to hear 2 words basically I forgot, OK?
Those are the the most common Get Me Out of trouble words on
the planet is that if you mess up something, all you have to do
is say, man, I'm sorry, I forgot.
All right, now let me give you some things to help you with the
I forgot people, OK, All right, you got a meeting, you got a
project, you got something. Number one, is this all right?
Have everything that is going to be discussed in writing ready to
hand it out. We're going to make some
changes. I I'm not sure we're going to do
it before the end of the year, but definitely after the first
of the year is I want to go start doing handouts that you
can fill in the blank with me. OK, because you'll remember it a
lot better. OK, because not everybody's the
greatest, you know, note taker in in the whole world.
I understand that. All right, so I'm going to give
you something to take notes on. Now, you know, some of you may
have your only one guy. Anybody got a computer on them
tonight? Are you using your phone?
OK, and you're using the computer.
You guys are using your phones and that's great.
But I'm going to give you paper because we're going back to
paper, you understand. All right, OK.
All right, so think about this. It said that, you know, you
furnish an outline agenda, make sure there's enough space, you
know, on that. If you're having a meeting with
somebody, make sure there's enough space they can take
notes, they'll cram everything together.
Just make it big enough that they can jot a note because
there may be same thing. Jot this down.
I say it all the time when I'm teaching.
Jot this down, write this down. All right.
And, and you want to, you know, make sure that they they
understand you are treating this piece of paper like a contract.
There's things I'm going to do and there's things you're going
to do I need from you. All right, Treat it like a
contract. You know, I remember when we
were interesting with the boys and they're getting too big to
spank, OK. And we were trying to figure out
in our own way without having to go to a psychologist and try to
figure out how to discipline these two because they were
always trying to kill each other, but they wouldn't let
nobody else do it, OK? I mean, they cats and dogs all
day. But if one of them got in a
scruffy with somebody, you know, in the youth group or whatever
the case may be, man, it's like, oh, you're going to have to take
us both, you know, and, and just defend each other.
I mean, biting and clawing and whatever.
And so when you, when you take a look at, at, you know, the, the
importance of discipline, you know, when they get to certain
ages, we, we did a contract with them, OK.
And, and in the early years, as they were getting older, we had
a contract that said, talking back to your mother is five
swats, man. So go ahead and give it a shot
and see if it doesn't come to pass.
And we had everything, everything that law they could
break had a penalty, OK. Then they get into their
teenage, we're driving years, right?
What something becomes more important than anything else on
the planet is car keys and cash. OK, So we had another contract,
OK. And the contract was you violate
this, you come in late, you talk back to your Mama.
What, 5 bucks? 10 bucks, whatever.
Now Josh went broke in one fell swoop.
All right? Wait.
Totally broke, no money could do nothing.
I said man, I said I'm just training you for what happens in
the future. I said beside and I ain't even
arrested you. I ain't even locked you up.
But when you go to court, there's only one thing you're
going to be locked up and or pay a fine and if they can get the
money out of you. So just get used to it.
This is how it goes from here on for you.
All right? So, you know, I told him, I
said, listen, you know, I want you to know that to hang on to
the papers, OK? Why?
Because we may have some amendments.
I mean, you know, we don't go into everything.
I know it all. We're going to do it this way.
Nothing else is going to change. That ain't true.
You may have to add you staple something to it, right?
All right. Now, I, I learned this quote.
Listen to this. Write this quote down.
This is going to be good for you.
All right? Pale ink is better than the most
retentive memory. That's why we ought to write
stuff down. Pale ink is better than the most
retentive memory. That was by a literary mentor by
named Harvey McKay, and I learned that from him.
I thought, man, that that's got to be truth.
Even the dull pencil is better than the best memory.
All right, but he said pale ink. All right.
Now here's the second thing that that we can do on this
particular particular consideration, All right.
He says make sure that you have the thought process, you know,
processes out completely before starting to communicate them.
You want to make sure that you've thought it all out from
beginning. Then what could go wrong?
What could happen? What if they do this?
What if they do that? Because you're going to start
communicating how you want to see something done.
Now I think it's interesting because nothing.
And you remember when I said a minute ago in your communication
you need to be. And I and I had that one little
phrase and it was in there not self contradictory.
OK. One thing that is the
demotivator of all mankind is somebody saying this is how
we're going to do it and don't know what they're talking about.
You want to demote, you know, demotivate.
OK, people, go ahead and just cut, throw these plans out off
of your hip and see how well it gets done.
You want to make sure you've got everything thought through.
You don't want to demotivate people.
You want to inspire people to get to the the team goal.
All right, so he said, you know, one of the things I said, if I
hear someone say this and you've heard it all said, we need to
all get on the same page. Yeah, we do.
And the reason that they're saying that is somebody hadn't
explained the page. And so you've let them try to
determine whatever it is on their own.
And you're thinking, no, I just, you know, I don't want to, I
don't want to be able to be somebody that communicates like
that. I want it.
I want it to be that we're all on the same page.
We all have the same page. We don't have cartoons drawn on
the page. All right?
We want to make sure we've got the accurate data that we want
to have. OK, here's the third thing is
understanding this, OK, And, and I learned this and, and one time
completely blew my mind. Flexibility, OK, is a key to the
success of in, in any endeavor. OK, flexibility is the key to
the success of any endeavor. All right, you've got to be
flexible because sometimes things don't work out like
you've exactly planned. All right, throw in a fit, you
know, pulling on stuff on the inside that haven't, having a
custom fit, having whatever should never come out of us as
Kingdom citizens ever, OK? I mean, I had it when I was
early in my screen printing commercial career.
Had a guy that played at the, the station KXOJ everyday KCFO.
These were Christian stations and he played them all the time.
OK. One day, you know, we were, we
were working and he's been witnessing to the boss's son,
you know, trying to tell him, hey, you know, you need to
believe in Jesus. You need to, you know, I said I
agree. I mean, you know, I'm a, I'm a
believer. I'm, I'm going to church and,
and I have my whole life, I've never had a time in my life
where I wasn't going to church. I didn't think it was an option.
I considered it as part of my duty as a Christian to be
involved in a church. And I was.
And so, you know, everybody in the place knew it.
And and then one day this guy that, you know, preached it real
loud and put on a radio real loud, you know, messed up
something and went into a cussing fit.
And I just felt like somebody gave me a black eye, you know,
I'm thinking, oh, great, now this is going to be a hard one
to explain. And sure enough, I had to
explain it because the boss's son says, now look at there,
that's why I don't want to be a Christian man.
He said, you know, he talks about this and all this and he
made his life better and stuff. And he acts like everybody else
when something goes wrong. I said, I'm sorry about that.
I said, because that is not the way that we as Christians are
supposed to respond after we make a mistake or after
something doesn't go the way we plan.
You got to be flexible. I mean, we, we need to be the
most flexible people. And if we're not, guess what
happens? If you get something, you're
trying to flex it, and they don't want to flex, it's going
to snap. That's what he did that day.
He snapped and just spewed all kind of filth all over the
house. And I'm thinking, man, come on,
give me a break. All right?
You know, I said, we got enough problems as it is.
We don't need to be covering for you now, right?
And so, you know, every plan of pursuit that we have, it's not
going to be perfect. You know, most of us, you know,
we have the, we don't have the ability, we don't have the
ability to see into the future of every little thing,
especially when you have people around you that you're trying to
bring in on the same project. Everybody's going to come from a
different background. Everybody may have their own
opinion and you know, different things.
Now, I think it's interesting because, you know, I've had
times where I said listen and, and I've got my my team together
in Oklahoma and I said, this is how we do this.
OK. And I am open to ideas.
If you have a better way to do it that will save us time or
money, come see me immediately. I may give you an opportunity to
give it a shot, but know this, if it doesn't work, we're going
back to the way we've done it. OK, Always be flexible about
that. I remember one time we'd flown
back to Oklahoma and these guys were printing what we call right
of way markers and their pipeline companies that have
warning pipeline and they have a for emergency call number on it
has a logo on it has a do not dig logo.
You know what a do not dig is, you know, has a shovel and all
that 811 and all that stuff. And, and we were printing them
and they were like 3 different colors.
They had the logo of the company, the whole bit.
Well, usually we'd make a screen for each color.
We'd have to line it up, get it all going and I'm back there
and, and I'm watching them print them and I go, wait a second,
where's the other screens? They said, oh, we don't, we, we
don't do three color screens on this one.
We can actually paint out the image that we don't want to
print with this stuff and it dries and it prints.
And then we can take water and wash it all out and we keep the
same screen and we just wash out and we just paint out the other
section. I looked at that dude and I
said, you are a genius. I said, man, I would have never
thought of that in a million years because why?
I was always stuck in the way we always did it and and the way we
always did it always worked. So some people aren't, you know,
wanting to, when they have a, you know, a team they're trying
to create or whatever the case may be, is being flexible enough
to let somebody, you know, come in and, and, and, and suggest
something or try something. Because guess what?
If you come up with the idea, you own it.
So I didn't have to, I didn't have to beg him to do it
anymore. That was his that was his idea
gave them, you know, big, big applause, everybody you know,
and you know going from there. But here's the thing I'm glad of
second Timothy. Jot this one down.
Second Timothy chapter 3 verse 16.
You know the Scripture well, he said all Scripture is given by
inspiration of God and is profitable for doctrine, for
reproof, correction for instruction in righteous living.
Here's the thing about the word Scripture.
It's it. The Greek word is the word
graffe and the definition means document.
It does not have anything deity related to the word.
It is just the simple Greek word for a document.
Now notice this document lets us know what's available in it.
It tells us that we can we can use it and be profitable for
doctrine. We can reprove or we can
correct. But I love it.
Instruction in righteous living is in this document.
If you want everybody on the same page, use that document.
You know what I'm glad about? I'm glad that God didn't think
you know what I'm going to tell him one time and they better get
it. No, He moved on men, to record
it for us for thousands of years so there'd be no variation or
deviation from the original plan.
He let us know how everything went down in the garden.
He let us know how he got everything headed back the right
direction. Let us know about all of our
patriarchs and matriarchs and, and how you know they were all
precursors and getting ready for the king to come back to buy it
all back for us and buy us back. I'm glad that he had it, the
plan and the outcome written down.
Amen. All right, consideration #3 all
right, jot this down. There is not one of us that is
as good as all of us, all right, When we're trying to communicate
our team, we need to realize this.
We have two ears and one mouth and that we need to be
listening, OK. I, I think that listening to
others is a key of achieving, achieving any desired goal.
We have just listening to others, you know, and making
sure that, that we give the people the chance and, and, and,
and and and making sure that they understand.
We, we heard what they said. Some people are just want an
opportunity to be heard, OK? They want somebody that cares
enough to sit down and listen. You know, I've jokingly told
people before, you know, I said be careful when you come up to
somebody at church and say how you doing unless you got time to
really hear it, OK, You know, because you know, they they can
lay it all on you. And I've had it, I've done it.
I would not follow my own advice.
How you doing? Oh man, and go on.
Here we go. And I'm not leaving them until
they're done. I mean, you know, and if I need
to get with them, I say, you know what you need to go see or
we need to get together and we can, we can work this out and
see if we have any challenges that we could work out, you
know, in there. And the, and The thing is, is
using everybody in the body of Christ.
What am I looking for? I'm looking for somebody in my
mind that has gone through what they're going through that I can
get them with. Now, if you failed in what you
were going through, I'm not going to put them with you, OK,
I'm going to put them with somebody that been there and did
it and made it and it was good. All right, That's what you want.
That's like going to, you know, a a divorce counselor that's
been divorced full time. Well, you know, I'm sure that
you might have some advice on maybe not what to do or what not
to do, all right, But I don't know that I would put my entire
life into their hands. OK, so it's, it's the same thing
as that. We've got to we've got to depend
on each other. Another scripture, Proverbs
11/14, you know, and throughout Scripture it it it bears out
1114 says where no counsel is the people fall, they fail.
OK, he said. But at a multitude of
counselors, there's safety. You know, the importance of each
other. You know, also comes first
Corinthians chapter 12. Write it down.
First Corinthians chapter 12. All right.
And in verse 20, he said, but now there are many members.
You can say team members, but only one body or one team, you
said. And whether they're one team
member suffer, all team members suffer with it.
If one member be honored, then all team members rejoice with
it. Now you are the body of Christ
and a team member in particular. I added the team.
OK, All right. He lets us know how important we
are to each other, that not one of us as good as all of us, all
right, because of experience and opportunity and the things that
we want to accomplish. You know, we just got to find
those people that have that same desire, the drive.
They don't want to just sit around and watch the world go
by. They want to be part of making
the world OK. And so when we we talk about
that, I love that whole passage because it even talks about
weaker members, that there's some weak members that come in
and they looking around and they see all these people that
supposedly look like they have it all together.
And they say we won't make it. And we grab hold of them and we
make them part of our team. We make them part of what's
going on and we help them grow to their level instead of, you
know, saying, aye, no, you know, too bad, you know, And they look
at it. They look at people.
And he said, no. He said Jesus took those people
in and welded them to us, is what the Bible says.
They're welded to us just like your little toe.
You don't want to function without your little toe.
In fact, you don't want to injure your little toe, which
I've done many times, always at the foot of the bed.
You know, I mean, I don't know what the deal is.
You don't want to mess up with your foot.
You don't want to, you know, accidentally step on a bunch of
Legos in the middle of the night.
He'll wake everybody up, you know, serious.
I mean, you know, Yeah, little, I don't know if you remember,
the ones that got me the most, the embedded in my foot were
called micro machines, OK. I mean, you can run one of them
up Plumb to your neck, stepping on it.
It just like leaving them around, you know?
And I'm thinking, no, your body knows.
And and when it said when one member suffer, we all suffer.
It's just like a team. I mean, you know, Kansas City
lost the Super Bowl, right? Everybody was sad on that team.
They I mean, think about it. We all suffered all together,
every one of us, you know, and that's the thing he said, have
the same care one for another, you know, don't be so concerned.
Paul talks about it all the time.
Don't be so concerned about what you got going on, you know,
because we're going to talk about that in the future is and,
and, and we're going over some lessons on your why.
Why are you in business? You know, the why shouldn't be
for you. The why is for the same reason
God's in business people. I mean, if money was such a big
deal, we'd get to take it with us.
But guess what? We don't.
There's only one thing we can take with us.
It's each other and how many others God wants in the Kingdom
that we've got to be ready for. OK, let me give you
consideration #4 we'll wrap it up tonight, all right?
Poor communication usually will result in misalignment of team
goals. Poor communication will usually
result in a misalignment of team goals.
You'll have things shooting off over here and over here and over
here, you know, says. And, and here's the thing that's
very important, all right? Is everybody on your team,
everybody you're dealing with OK?
They need to. If you're the head, if you're
the leader, they need to be speaking like you speak.
We don't have no rogue speakers. You need to through these
meetings and I'm talking about giving them papers and you're
going to have to, you know, say, listen, you're communicating.
And this is what we want communicated to vendors, to
whoever it is we're talking to. We want you to communicate like
this and make it very clear right now.
I think it's interesting because I had an example on this one.
Somebody very close to us was in line getting something to eat.
And I guess it was the woman in front of her.
She said, got up to the counter and said, yeah, I'd like to
order this, this and this. And the lady just kind of
snapped at her youngster, snapped at her and says it is
not, it is breakfast time now. It is not lunch time.
And the woman said, well, I come in here every day at this time
and it's never been a problem to make.
And it was salad or something. And then she goes, I'm sorry,
you're just going to have to come back.
A woman left. I wonder if she's going to come
back or not. I wonder if that was the last
straw on the camel's back. Now, if I'd have been in line, I
would have called the owner because I know him personally.
And I'll just ask him the question.
I said, hey, I saw this at your store and I just wondered, is
this the way you want your people to talk to your
customers, OK. Because apparently somebody went
rogue and decided that they were going to tell them whatever it
is that they needed to. But I don't think that being as
I know him that he would want that, you know what I'm saying?
So you have to be real careful. And I am going to do a lesson
eventually on talking about, you know, handling problem people.
OK, people that, you know, customers.
I got 1 illustration left for that for tonight and I'll give
it to you. But you know, The thing is that,
you know, we have if AI get a photo, if I get a, a note or I
get a phone call, even living down here and somebody says
we're, we've got a situation we think you need to handle.
All right, I immediately know they have done everything they
know that I would have done and I had this one customer and they
were reaming my help up and down over a little order, a little
order. We met, we were, we manufactured
decals for American Airlines, OK.
They made air, air travel cases, real high dollar vacuum formed
and everything and they had to have this sticker on it.
This company sold about 100 of those a year is all all right
and we've provided the sticker. Well, we printed the wrong
sticker, 100 a year. It was just 100 stickers fit in
a glad snack bag in your hand. And they they said you might
need to call her. She is irate.
We've never dealt with anybody. I said over that little sticker.
Did you tell her that you'd do them again?
And she said, yeah, we tried to and and she just, I don't
understand how you can let something like this happen.
I don't even believe. What are you guys doing down
there? I said, OK, I'm coming back to
the office. I need you to print 200 of them
stickers, get them ready for me because it wouldn't take a
second. They printed them, gave me the
bag. I went over to the place.
I walked in the front door and she started in on me and I just
let her go. Just come on, let me have it.
Every bit of it. You hate my guts.
I know. Let's go.
Finally wore out. Standing there, like what are
you going to say? Like I'm going to get in a fist
fight with you, lady. I'm not going to get in a fist
fight. I said, I can't ask you enough
to forgive us for this mistake. I have in my hand the correct
stickers, not just 100, but I have 200 of them.
And I said, and I wish you'd do me a favor.
And she said, what is that? I said well the next time that
you all have an HR meeting to hire people and you find
somebody that on their application you write the word
perfect and you can't hire them, send them to me because I tell
you what, I don't have one perfect person in my company.
But boy, they sure try. She couldn't say nothing.
She said as a matter of fact, I'll never forget what she said.
As a matter of fact, we don't have any perfect people.
Here I go, OK, so will you accept our apology?
Yes, I'll accept it. Gave her the stickers.
Now there was a plan in 200 stickers instead of 100 that I
wouldn't have to come and see your face for another year.
There's always a plan, all right.
But you know, the Bible's true. It said a soft answer turns
away, right. So I could have got up in her
face. And, you know, I, I could have,
I I could have said, well, you know, I've never seen nobody an
adult body whine and carry on like you're, you know, I could
have gone on, man. I could have just let her have
it all. But that's not what I wanted to
do. I wanted to make.
We made the mistake. I went up to it.
It's OK. I'm here.
I've got more than what you. I want you to be glad we made it
because now you don't have to pay for 100 of them for a whole
year. It's good, right?
You know, but The thing is, it's in communication.
It's how we carry ourselves. What's on the inside?
You nasty? You mean you want to be mean,
like Pastor, you want a piece of me?
No, I mean, I don't personally. OK.
All right. So, you know, when you talk
about you, you, you discuss those things.
I just, I want to remind you as we close that, you know,
comprehension. Comprehension is what we're
looking for. You know, we get our kids to
read and they can pronounce the words and they're going, but we
don't know if they're comprehending what they're
reading. Like the story, what we want to
do is we want to be able to communicate in a way that they
comprehend what we're saying. And then when we all get down to
the end of the conveyor belt, we see exactly what we want to see.
So let me give you the last phrase.
Pictures in our communication assist with a comprehension of
words. If you want them to comprehend
what you said, paint them a picture.
Hopefully I tried a little of that tonight.
All right, everybody good. All right, we got 2 minutes.
I'm going to pray and then you got anything.
OK, we're good. All right, Father, we thank you
and praise you for the opportunity to just communicate
tonight. Hallelujah.
And that we just take note of those things on how we're doing
in the world because we're probably going to be in these
last days ready to communicate like we never have been before.
So we want to be able to to bring up those testimonies and
bring up those things that you have done for us so that we can
let people know that we do are witnesses of yours because of
what you've done for us. So Father, let us be good, good
communicators. Let us paint pictures.
Let us be sensitive to your spirit to paint the picture that
you need painted to to make it convincing in the lives of those
around us. And Father, we want to give you
praise because you are the great communicator and we're thankful
that you did and that we understood what you were talking
about and accepted your call, Father, that we'd be able to
make Jesus Lord. And we thank you for it in Jesus
name, Amen.