1 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:10,560 Everybody to another episode of the Men's Sexual Mastery 2 00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:14,040 Podcast. This is Ben Timby here joined by 3 00:00:14,040 --> 00:00:17,560 your fellow Co host Ian Hawks. Welcome. 4 00:00:17,800 --> 00:00:19,600 What's up everybody? Thanks for being here. 5 00:00:20,360 --> 00:00:22,200 Yeah, we're stoked to be here today. 6 00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:27,320 We're going to have a drop in podcast today on the topic of 7 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:33,560 the nature of sexual energy and some of these deeper levels of 8 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:39,000 understanding that we can bring to ensure the best outcome as 9 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:42,680 we're practicing deepening in semen retention, semen 10 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:48,680 intention, Taoist sexual alchemy as it's called, these tools of 11 00:00:49,080 --> 00:00:53,680 transmuting sexual energy into new areas of our life and and 12 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:56,480 into deeper lovemaking and deeper orgasms as we talked 13 00:00:56,480 --> 00:01:01,160 about, but the whole gamut. And also not only transmuting, 14 00:01:01,160 --> 00:01:06,160 but also cultivating and generating more and more, but 15 00:01:06,160 --> 00:01:10,800 knowing that more isn't always better and understanding the 16 00:01:10,800 --> 00:01:14,560 nature, as you spoke to, of the sexual energy and how we can 17 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:19,600 cultivate that in a way that's truly beneficial for us and not 18 00:01:19,600 --> 00:01:21,960 destructive. Yeah, well said. 19 00:01:22,600 --> 00:01:25,960 Yeah, more isn't always better is exactly what we're diving 20 00:01:25,960 --> 00:01:27,840 into today. We're going to be talking about 21 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:31,280 how in traditional Chinese medicine, it's taught, it's 22 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:38,880 understood that sexual energy binds and amplifies whatever is 23 00:01:38,880 --> 00:01:42,840 present. So I like to think of this like 24 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:45,680 an accelerant. You know, it's like gasoline 25 00:01:45,720 --> 00:01:49,240 that you can pour onto a fire and you better make sure that 26 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:53,160 your fire is contained or else shit can blow up. 27 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:55,200 Shit can get a little, little squirrely. 28 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:59,040 And, you know, I often say it can be like turning up the 29 00:01:59,040 --> 00:02:03,000 volume knob as well, you know? So what does this really mean? 30 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:06,120 You know, when I first heard this expression, sexual energy 31 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:10,600 binds and amplifies, I thought, yeah, I I took me a while to 32 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:14,160 wrap my mind around it. But the more I've gotten into 33 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:17,880 this work and the deeper we've gone Hawks and then the 34 00:02:17,880 --> 00:02:21,800 trainings with all the men, I see it more and more and more. 35 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:26,440 So I'd love to pass it off to you a little bit to explain how 36 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:29,440 you see this show up or how you understand this concept of 37 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:31,600 sexual energy binding and amplifying. 38 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:37,520 Yeah. So something that comes up is 39 00:02:37,520 --> 00:02:45,320 this, this energy, sexual energy being somewhat neutral, it's, it 40 00:02:45,320 --> 00:02:49,280 has the capacity to greatly enhance and amplify our lives in 41 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:51,280 all of the generative positive ways. 42 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:57,640 And it also has the potential to burn the house down, as we see 43 00:02:57,640 --> 00:03:02,840 in so many relationships, so many, so many men and people in 44 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:07,160 general that are with this sexual energy in a way that's 45 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:09,960 that's not really supportive or generative for them or aligned. 46 00:03:10,000 --> 00:03:15,160 And learning how to cultivate and harness that sexual energy 47 00:03:15,160 --> 00:03:19,760 in a way that's truly beneficial for our lives and for the people 48 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:24,920 in our lives. And so you know what, to answer 49 00:03:24,920 --> 00:03:27,760 your question about how this shows up, one of the one of the 50 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:32,840 ways that we see this showing up all the time in the men in our 51 00:03:32,840 --> 00:03:37,800 community is an illumination that comes when we start to 52 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:40,720 build and cultivate more sexual energy within ourselves. 53 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:44,120 That binding and amplifying nature of it will start to 54 00:03:44,120 --> 00:03:47,560 illuminate the areas in our life where we're not fully in 55 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:51,160 alignment yet. If someone doesn't have a robust 56 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:54,680 community and social life, if they're inherently lonely and 57 00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:56,880 they start to build and cultivate more sexual energy, 58 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:01,160 that's likely to show them that. Oh, I need to get some more 59 00:04:01,160 --> 00:04:02,800 community in my life. I'm actually lonely. 60 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:06,360 Or if where the environment that someone is living in is really 61 00:04:06,360 --> 00:04:09,080 out of alignment and not for them that that will be revealed. 62 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:12,680 If there's patterns in life that aren't serving, that will be 63 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:14,600 revealed. You know, one of the another 64 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:17,920 common experience for men in our program is the realization like 65 00:04:17,920 --> 00:04:20,040 I got to get my physical health in order. 66 00:04:20,519 --> 00:04:23,120 It's really important for me that I start going to the gym, 67 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:27,040 that I go for long walks in nature or runs or get out 68 00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:31,080 outdoors or start lifting heavy stuff and nurturing my body or 69 00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:34,600 putting really healthy, good foods into my body. 70 00:04:35,400 --> 00:04:40,080 Because that sexual energy, as it builds, if it doesn't have 71 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:42,640 outlets, if there aren't patterns that we've already 72 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:45,840 instilled within ourselves to circulate that energy and to 73 00:04:45,840 --> 00:04:48,600 work with it in a good way, it's going to start to cause 74 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:51,560 discomfort. It's going to start to, to 75 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:57,480 cause, you know, just illumination of the areas where 76 00:04:57,480 --> 00:04:59,680 we're not yet fully in alignment. 77 00:04:59,840 --> 00:05:02,920 And so that's, that's a couple little pieces. 78 00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:05,800 And I know there's lots more. So pass the ball to you. 79 00:05:05,800 --> 00:05:07,640 What comes up for you with that question? 80 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:14,080 Yeah, I think about how so often, you know, ejaculation 81 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:18,600 porn sex can be an escape for a lot of men. 82 00:05:19,760 --> 00:05:22,400 And if you think about the nature of how like as you start 83 00:05:22,400 --> 00:05:25,800 to hold the energy, it becomes uncomfortable, like that feeling 84 00:05:25,800 --> 00:05:29,600 of discomfort is actually your reality. 85 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:33,440 You know and. Like you could continue to 86 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:38,960 ejaculate and release your own sensitivity to the truth of your 87 00:05:38,960 --> 00:05:44,360 reality, or you can allow it to build up and actually take an 88 00:05:44,360 --> 00:05:46,360 assessment. And This is why in module one of 89 00:05:46,360 --> 00:05:50,400 our training that we've got guys in, we, we focus on energetic 90 00:05:50,400 --> 00:05:52,120 leaks. We call it just all the areas of 91 00:05:52,120 --> 00:05:54,760 your life that are out of alignment where you're leaking 92 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:57,720 sexual energy. Because ultimately your cup, 93 00:05:57,720 --> 00:06:01,600 your vessel, if you will, of your life force cannot be 94 00:06:01,600 --> 00:06:03,280 filled. Like we can bring all the 95 00:06:03,280 --> 00:06:06,800 practices in the world, but if you have holes in the bottom of 96 00:06:06,800 --> 00:06:09,640 your cup, you can't fill water into it, You're not going to be 97 00:06:09,640 --> 00:06:12,280 able to fill sexual energy into your life. 98 00:06:12,280 --> 00:06:15,320 You're going to continue to feel depleted until you address 99 00:06:15,320 --> 00:06:18,040 what's out of alignment. And so that's why this is 100 00:06:18,080 --> 00:06:20,720 foundational and that's why we created that as part of our 101 00:06:20,720 --> 00:06:25,920 process before getting into any sort of sexual amplification or 102 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:29,280 building up of sexual energy, even semen retention. 103 00:06:29,280 --> 00:06:33,640 I really encourage guys to get your house in order, get your 104 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:37,160 shit together, get your containment in place so you can 105 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:40,280 cook a meal rather than burn the house down with this fuel. 106 00:06:41,640 --> 00:06:44,960 I say it's rocket fuel for our transformation. 107 00:06:44,960 --> 00:06:48,080 But if we're not clear and we're not intentional and conscious 108 00:06:48,080 --> 00:06:54,280 and aligned and in integrity with our our deepest knowing, it 109 00:06:54,280 --> 00:06:56,880 can actually be really destabilizing. 110 00:06:56,880 --> 00:07:00,960 And, and that also is fine. You know, ultimately it's for 111 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:02,880 the best. Like some guys, you know, 112 00:07:02,880 --> 00:07:05,760 another one I see a lot and you've seen a lot I know is 113 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:08,600 relationships being out of alignment. 114 00:07:09,520 --> 00:07:11,760 You know, guys staying in relationships just because it's 115 00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:13,760 comfortable or maybe the sex is good. 116 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:16,400 But deep down, you know, this isn't your forever partner. 117 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:22,360 It's unfair to you and to your partner actually to be staying 118 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:23,920 in something that's out of alignment. 119 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:27,720 That's a big one. And and the more the guys deepen 120 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:30,960 in this practice and in these tools, everything is going to 121 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:33,960 become illuminated. Like like you mentioned 2 Hawks 122 00:07:33,960 --> 00:07:37,240 like it's going to the noise is going to get turned up the 123 00:07:37,240 --> 00:07:38,800 longer you're holding on to your semen. 124 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:42,160 Yeah. And on that note of 125 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:47,760 relationships, not only our most intimate relationships, you 126 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:51,680 know, a partner that we may be with, but also relationships 127 00:07:51,680 --> 00:07:54,920 such as friends or people that we had hang out with and spend 128 00:07:54,920 --> 00:07:57,920 our time with. We see a lot of that as well and 129 00:07:57,920 --> 00:08:00,960 hear men speaking to the realization that, oh, actually 130 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:04,640 certain connections in my life are actually not in alignment 131 00:08:04,640 --> 00:08:09,240 anymore. And the calling back in of that 132 00:08:09,240 --> 00:08:12,840 energy, the realization of, oh, these, these connections, these 133 00:08:12,840 --> 00:08:15,160 relationships are actually energetic leaks for me. 134 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:17,160 They're not serving me. They're not generative. 135 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:20,640 They're no longer in alignment. And actually it has become 136 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:23,760 comfortable to remain in them. And there's there's a death and 137 00:08:23,760 --> 00:08:28,200 a rebirth that's asking to happen here because we need to 138 00:08:28,200 --> 00:08:32,600 createspace in order to allow ourselves to be open to 139 00:08:32,600 --> 00:08:35,480 receiving the new connections, the new opportunities in life 140 00:08:35,480 --> 00:08:39,000 that are more aligned for us. And then there's patterns that 141 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:41,080 come along with some of those old connections and 142 00:08:41,080 --> 00:08:44,400 relationships as well. If you know, if, if someone has 143 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:47,400 been hanging out with the same group of Bros for years and 144 00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:50,600 years, and the pattern is to go out to the bar and have drinks 145 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:54,360 and engage in surficial level conversation or watch sports, 146 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:56,760 which is great, you know, some of the time. 147 00:08:56,760 --> 00:09:02,760 And for some people, and also as men, desire has been start to 148 00:09:02,760 --> 00:09:06,440 desire more depth in their life and, and might discover that 149 00:09:06,440 --> 00:09:09,040 actually alcohol or these certain patterns or substances 150 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:11,320 are no longer in alignment for me. 151 00:09:11,560 --> 00:09:16,200 And the relationships that I'm in right now are largely based 152 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:19,600 around the consumption of these substances or the practice of 153 00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:24,000 these patterns. There's, there's a letting go 154 00:09:24,040 --> 00:09:27,680 here that's required in order for me to open up to receive 155 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:31,200 some new connection, some new community, some new patterns and 156 00:09:31,200 --> 00:09:33,520 habits that are actually truly for me now. 157 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:37,640 And then one last thing that that came up for me is a 158 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:40,200 particular man in our program who not going to name, it's all 159 00:09:40,200 --> 00:09:44,040 confidential, but even, well, actually, not just one man, but 160 00:09:44,040 --> 00:09:49,960 the, the letting go of jobs like an old way of being in service 161 00:09:49,960 --> 00:09:52,960 or working that actually realizing, oh, my soul is asking 162 00:09:52,960 --> 00:09:55,400 for a new form of service in the world. 163 00:09:55,400 --> 00:10:00,080 I'm being called up and into a way of providing value in the 164 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:02,280 world that's different from how I used to. 165 00:10:03,040 --> 00:10:06,800 And so this is part of the transformation process in 166 00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:10,640 whatever means for transformation there is the 167 00:10:10,640 --> 00:10:14,120 transformation often requires many deaths and rebirths and 168 00:10:14,120 --> 00:10:18,360 shedding of old relationships or work or jobs or habits or 169 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:22,040 patterns or substances or ways of being with our self. 170 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:27,920 And, and to have that illuminated so prominently by 171 00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:31,880 the generation and cultivation of more sexual energy, it starts 172 00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:36,640 to become really clear, OK, I'm going to be required to make a 173 00:10:36,640 --> 00:10:40,280 substantial shift in my life. And that could be uncomfortable, 174 00:10:40,280 --> 00:10:43,760 but I know that I trust that it will lead to more alignment and 175 00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:47,840 more comfortability. And and what or more fulfillment 176 00:10:47,840 --> 00:10:51,000 I'll say rather than comfortability, but true deep 177 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:56,360 fulfillment. Yeah, yeah, well said. 178 00:10:57,120 --> 00:10:58,760 Yeah. And we've been talking all about 179 00:10:58,760 --> 00:11:02,520 the, you know, sort of negative things are, are the things that 180 00:11:02,520 --> 00:11:06,400 are out of alignment so far in the shedding processes that you 181 00:11:06,400 --> 00:11:10,720 know, will be accelerated by practicing holding your sexual 182 00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:14,160 energy and building it. I'd like to talk a little bit 183 00:11:14,160 --> 00:11:17,160 about the amplification that, you know, the binding and 184 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:20,040 amplifying of the positive things, you know, 'cause this is 185 00:11:20,040 --> 00:11:22,320 really what most guys show up in the work for. 186 00:11:22,680 --> 00:11:24,520 Can you speak a little bit about that, Hawks? 187 00:11:30,800 --> 00:11:34,800 The one of the most common things that that I hear from men 188 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:39,120 and that we hear is just the feeling of being alive. 189 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:42,960 Like, oh, I'm, I'm so alive. I'm feeling powerful, I'm 190 00:11:42,960 --> 00:11:50,360 feeling energized. I'm feeling like there's more of 191 00:11:50,360 --> 00:11:54,880 me to give and to be with for myself and for everyone around 192 00:11:54,880 --> 00:11:59,440 me. And those the at the depth of 193 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:04,360 our being, I think is is inherently powerful, connected, 194 00:12:05,600 --> 00:12:11,560 embodied ways of being. And the amplification of those 195 00:12:11,560 --> 00:12:16,200 ways of being allows us to to bring more of ourselves online 196 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:23,840 and creates a feeling of well-being that's that's 197 00:12:23,840 --> 00:12:26,960 unparalleled. I mean, it's, it's part of the 198 00:12:26,960 --> 00:12:30,320 journey of, of being a human here, as I've come to understand 199 00:12:30,320 --> 00:12:34,600 it is how can I tap into the truth of me and bring more of 200 00:12:34,600 --> 00:12:38,920 that online? And so as we bring aspects of 201 00:12:38,920 --> 00:12:41,920 our life into alignment and engage in practices and ways of 202 00:12:41,920 --> 00:12:46,200 being and relationships and service that are really for us 203 00:12:46,840 --> 00:12:50,560 that are aligned, the amplification of those allows us 204 00:12:50,560 --> 00:12:54,840 to step further and further in and give and give and receive 205 00:12:54,840 --> 00:12:59,600 more and more of what we came here to, to give and receive and 206 00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:03,240 be. Yeah, I'm well said. 207 00:13:03,240 --> 00:13:06,840 I definitely would resonate and echo all of that. 208 00:13:06,960 --> 00:13:11,880 And you know, with the vitality, with focus, creativity, some 209 00:13:11,880 --> 00:13:15,200 guys even say like your intuition, it's almost like 210 00:13:15,200 --> 00:13:19,200 you're micro dosing, I would say is the best comparison. 211 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:22,240 You know, I would draw like for anyone who's microdosed 212 00:13:22,240 --> 00:13:25,160 psilocybin or something, it's just like almost like a slight 213 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:29,120 dose of that. And yeah, what you said, just 214 00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:31,680 this overall sense of well-being, this kind of 215 00:13:31,680 --> 00:13:37,200 abundant amount of energy. And when it's brought into the 216 00:13:37,200 --> 00:13:40,280 love making, of course, like this is then the final realm. 217 00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:43,760 And this is the cherry on top. This is the you know, what 218 00:13:43,760 --> 00:13:47,720 everyone wants above all, but we often say that your love making 219 00:13:47,720 --> 00:13:50,560 is just going to be a byproduct. You know, the relationships that 220 00:13:50,560 --> 00:13:52,880 come into your life and especially with a romantic 221 00:13:52,880 --> 00:13:56,680 partner is going to be the byproduct of your attunement, 222 00:13:56,680 --> 00:14:00,600 your alignment and the amplification of the truest, 223 00:14:00,600 --> 00:14:03,400 most heart centered, authentic version of you. 224 00:14:04,120 --> 00:14:07,240 You know, like we, we often say you're the quantum field is 225 00:14:07,240 --> 00:14:10,840 going to be rearranging around how who you are being. 226 00:14:11,600 --> 00:14:14,360 And it can take some time at first, you know, and that's why 227 00:14:14,360 --> 00:14:17,680 in our training, we do six whole months, like a lot of my 228 00:14:17,680 --> 00:14:22,440 teachers say it can take 9090 days of consistent state change 229 00:14:23,200 --> 00:14:27,440 for your reality to completely reshape around that new state of 230 00:14:27,440 --> 00:14:29,800 being. And so when we bring in sexual 231 00:14:29,800 --> 00:14:31,840 energy, we're actually accelerating that. 232 00:14:31,840 --> 00:14:36,480 We're accelerating the timelines in my experience, you know, and 233 00:14:37,800 --> 00:14:41,080 yeah, I think when it comes into love making, we talk about the 234 00:14:41,080 --> 00:14:44,800 attunement to your partner, the ability to almost read their 235 00:14:44,800 --> 00:14:50,320 body and intuit where they want to be touched, to feel their 236 00:14:50,320 --> 00:14:54,120 pleasure in you and to allow. And this is where we're getting 237 00:14:54,120 --> 00:14:57,040 deeper into the work of separating orgasm and 238 00:14:57,040 --> 00:14:59,880 ejaculation and these other things, which that's a whole 239 00:14:59,880 --> 00:15:03,040 nother topic. But with this increased sexual 240 00:15:03,040 --> 00:15:06,520 energy, these subtle neural pathways of pleasure start to 241 00:15:06,520 --> 00:15:09,480 open up, which I think are also connected to that overall sense 242 00:15:09,480 --> 00:15:12,920 of well-being we talk about that's just permeating all of 243 00:15:12,920 --> 00:15:16,800 life all the time. But especially in the bedroom, 244 00:15:16,880 --> 00:15:22,520 it's really turned up. And with that increase, with 245 00:15:22,520 --> 00:15:28,200 that binding and amplifying of love, it increases even more so. 246 00:15:28,200 --> 00:15:31,200 And this is getting to another level within, you know, the 247 00:15:31,200 --> 00:15:34,520 Taoist lineage, which is this is like thousands of years old of 248 00:15:34,840 --> 00:15:38,080 sexual technology, we like to say that was held by the elite 249 00:15:38,160 --> 00:15:40,840 of China. This is what built dynasties, 250 00:15:40,880 --> 00:15:44,280 you know, And these these teachings and techniques were 251 00:15:44,440 --> 00:15:49,320 secret, were very guarded for millennia, really until the 80s 252 00:15:49,320 --> 00:15:51,760 when Montag Chia brought it forward, my teacher. 253 00:15:52,520 --> 00:15:58,400 But in in their lineage, they say sex amplifies love, sexual 254 00:15:58,400 --> 00:16:02,000 energy will amplify love and love will amplify sex. 255 00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:05,320 And this is a whole nother level of amplification. 256 00:16:05,320 --> 00:16:09,680 So this is like essentially when you're with a partner who is 257 00:16:09,680 --> 00:16:12,560 your life partner and you are heart aligned with that person, 258 00:16:13,360 --> 00:16:17,560 there's a whole nother level of access where now it's almost 259 00:16:17,560 --> 00:16:19,880 like this echo Chamber of amplification. 260 00:16:20,560 --> 00:16:23,480 And that's when you can really reach next level states when 261 00:16:23,800 --> 00:16:27,240 when we come into contact with another who's aligned in their 262 00:16:27,240 --> 00:16:29,160 heart. And I know this may sound a 263 00:16:29,160 --> 00:16:32,000 little far out, but and you really got to experience it to 264 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:35,120 know it. But you know, I think we all 265 00:16:35,120 --> 00:16:39,000 know deep down that true love, like who doesn't want true love 266 00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:41,600 and what's standing in the way of that? 267 00:16:42,920 --> 00:16:46,600 And ultimately, when we can go through this process of learning 268 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:50,520 how to hold and build our sexual energy and let it be this 269 00:16:50,520 --> 00:16:54,960 personal transformation journey that we're talking to, to get us 270 00:16:54,960 --> 00:16:59,160 in alignment with who we really are and allow us to be self 271 00:16:59,160 --> 00:17:03,120 sourced and no longer extracting our pleasure or extracting our 272 00:17:03,120 --> 00:17:07,240 love or our sexual fulfillment from any anything outside of us. 273 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:10,520 When we can sit with all the parts that are uncomfortable and 274 00:17:10,520 --> 00:17:14,440 allow them to be transmuted over time and with the support, you 275 00:17:14,440 --> 00:17:18,200 know, we have this in our container with one-on-one guys 276 00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:21,160 and guys in Group training, but it is also accelerated. 277 00:17:21,160 --> 00:17:24,319 When you have a support network, you're not doing it alone. 278 00:17:24,800 --> 00:17:28,920 But all this to say, when you go through this process, then you 279 00:17:28,920 --> 00:17:32,920 can start to show up in a way that is actually attracting the 280 00:17:32,920 --> 00:17:35,200 kind of partner that is your dream partner. 281 00:17:35,960 --> 00:17:38,240 And what happened for you? It happened for me. 282 00:17:38,560 --> 00:17:40,760 It's happened for many other guys who come through our 283 00:17:40,760 --> 00:17:44,960 training. That ultimately is the end goal. 284 00:17:44,960 --> 00:17:47,600 You know, I think for almost all of us, like almost everyone 285 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:50,920 wants to be with a partner. And that's that's when we get 286 00:17:50,920 --> 00:17:52,680 into the sheets. That's when we get into the 287 00:17:52,680 --> 00:17:56,560 sexual quote UN quote sexual mastery, which actually is life 288 00:17:56,560 --> 00:17:59,800 force mastery, which is across the entire spectrum. 289 00:18:00,440 --> 00:18:04,680 And this could be a whole nother podcast us talking about the 290 00:18:04,680 --> 00:18:08,360 deeper levels of binding and amplifying and building sexual 291 00:18:08,360 --> 00:18:10,600 energy. And I know our time is a little 292 00:18:10,600 --> 00:18:14,280 bit limited today, but I think it's really important to note 293 00:18:14,280 --> 00:18:18,360 the additional layer that love amplifies sex and sex amplifies 294 00:18:18,360 --> 00:18:21,440 love. And again, this isn't stuff we 295 00:18:21,440 --> 00:18:24,120 made-up. This is from the Daoist lineage. 296 00:18:24,120 --> 00:18:27,320 So is there anything, Hawks, that you would like to speak to 297 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:29,600 on that? I'd love to pass it over. 298 00:18:31,360 --> 00:18:33,400 Yeah. What something that comes up for 299 00:18:33,400 --> 00:18:36,920 me as you're speaking to that bring it specifically into the 300 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:40,880 bedroom and with a partner in the amplification of love 301 00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:42,760 through sex and sex through love. 302 00:18:44,520 --> 00:18:50,560 I think also of the the role that presence plays in all of 303 00:18:50,560 --> 00:18:57,920 this and speaking specifically to the act of making love with a 304 00:18:57,920 --> 00:19:00,840 partner and coming back to this nature of the binding and 305 00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:02,680 amplifying of what's already there. 306 00:19:03,120 --> 00:19:08,400 And so I'm, I'm, I'm thinking about a situation where two 307 00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:11,960 partners come together and there isn't a level of grounded 308 00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:15,240 presence in the man for this example. 309 00:19:15,400 --> 00:19:20,520 And so if he's coming into that sexual experience disconnected 310 00:19:20,520 --> 00:19:24,400 from himself, from his own body, and inherently then also from 311 00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:30,400 his partner, the act of physical sex can still happen. 312 00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:34,680 But that disconnection that's there, that lack of presence 313 00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:39,480 will be amplified as he checks out and if he's in fantasy or 314 00:19:39,680 --> 00:19:42,640 thinking of someone else or something else in his life while 315 00:19:42,640 --> 00:19:47,120 going through the physical practice of mutual masturbation. 316 00:19:47,120 --> 00:19:50,040 Essentially in this example, I feel like if there isn't 317 00:19:50,040 --> 00:19:53,560 presence there, if there isn't connection to the body and to 318 00:19:53,560 --> 00:19:56,880 the partner, then you're essentially using your partner 319 00:19:56,880 --> 00:19:59,080 to masturbate. It's not actually a true love 320 00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:01,160 making. And. 321 00:20:02,080 --> 00:20:05,920 So the sexual energy in that situation is amplifying that 322 00:20:05,920 --> 00:20:09,880 disconnection, and it will serve to actually amplify the 323 00:20:09,880 --> 00:20:11,920 disconnection between two partners. 324 00:20:12,200 --> 00:20:17,960 If this habit of disembodied, dissociated sex happens 325 00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:21,680 repeatedly, if the man isn't there and he's not present with 326 00:20:21,680 --> 00:20:24,400 his partner, she's also not going to be fully present there. 327 00:20:24,400 --> 00:20:29,840 She's likely to go into some experience of dissociation and 328 00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:34,600 her body will start to close up over time and contract and hold 329 00:20:34,600 --> 00:20:38,920 tension in the yoni. That is an indication that, hey, 330 00:20:38,920 --> 00:20:41,360 there hasn't been true connection here. 331 00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:44,920 And over time, if that pattern repeats, it will serve to 332 00:20:44,920 --> 00:20:47,280 further and further disconnect the two partners. 333 00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:51,960 And now if we flip that to the inverse and the man in this 334 00:20:51,960 --> 00:20:57,400 example is showing up in his body in in the moment, in his 335 00:20:57,400 --> 00:21:01,160 presence, and then therefore also able to be present with his 336 00:21:01,160 --> 00:21:07,880 partner, that in itself the the practice of presence greatly 337 00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:12,040 amplifies our energy as a whole. We have more energy to give. 338 00:21:12,040 --> 00:21:14,360 Wherever our attention goes, our energy flows. 339 00:21:14,360 --> 00:21:17,160 And so if our attention is elsewhere because we're not 340 00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:20,200 present, our energy is also going elsewhere. 341 00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:23,480 But if we're fully present with our partner and ourselves and 342 00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:27,000 the act of lovemaking, then all of our energy is there as well. 343 00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:30,520 And then that sex, that sexual energy is going to greatly 344 00:21:30,520 --> 00:21:32,480 amplify that. It's going to amplify the 345 00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:34,600 presence. And if there's eye contact and 346 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:40,040 that feeling of really like being attuned and understanding 347 00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:42,200 what your partner is experiencing because there's 348 00:21:42,200 --> 00:21:45,480 such a level of presence that you're reading and picking up on 349 00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:50,120 all of the subtle cues and the breath is synced up and the eyes 350 00:21:50,120 --> 00:21:54,000 are engaged and gazing into each other, that presence is so 351 00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:57,320 greatly amplified. And it's serving to deeply 352 00:21:57,320 --> 00:22:00,360 nourish that connection between those two people and amplifying 353 00:22:00,360 --> 00:22:03,880 then their love. And so I would say like sex 354 00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:07,800 amplifies love if and when there's presence there. 355 00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:13,080 And if there isn't presence there, then the energy isn't 356 00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:14,520 there. And then it's actually serving 357 00:22:14,520 --> 00:22:19,120 to amplify the disconnection. Yeah, Yeah, I love that you 358 00:22:19,120 --> 00:22:22,640 highlighted that. And you know, I I love the whole 359 00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:27,240 idea of sexual energy just amplifying presence in general, 360 00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:31,200 like outside of the sexual act. And this is something that you 361 00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:33,640 also will find like your meditations are going to be a 362 00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:34,840 lot. Deeper. 363 00:22:35,280 --> 00:22:38,920 Your Qigong, you know, I notice it when I'm gone quite a while, 364 00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:41,840 building up my energy. I can feel, it's like static 365 00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:44,080 moving between my actually, I feel it right now, just like 366 00:22:44,120 --> 00:22:46,800 this little tingling between my fingers. 367 00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:51,960 There's, you know, I had a conversation the other day or 368 00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:55,400 some comments on Tiktok with someone who was asking like, 369 00:22:56,200 --> 00:23:00,000 I'm, I'm so connected to my meditation practice and I'm so 370 00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:03,400 in bliss. Like, why would I need to change 371 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:05,080 it? Or like, why would I try to 372 00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:06,840 integrate sexual energy into that? 373 00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:12,280 And I, it's hard to, to tell guys, it's like, if you know, 374 00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:16,280 you know, this is basic synergy, you know, like, well, why don't 375 00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:17,600 you just try it, See what happens. 376 00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:20,280 See what happens when you practice holding onto your semen 377 00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:25,720 for a while or practicing self pleasure or sexual pleasure with 378 00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:29,560 a partner with deep presence and not ejaculating. 379 00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:31,920 That's going to amplify your energy quicker. 380 00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:38,120 And then notice changes in your meditation, notice changes in 381 00:23:38,120 --> 00:23:42,720 your Qigong and all the other areas we've talked about, you 382 00:23:42,720 --> 00:23:45,320 know, your workouts. That's another giant one people 383 00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:47,800 know. And I've spoken to it before. 384 00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:52,160 Like it's very known in the MMA space and boxing space, like not 385 00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:55,560 to have an ejaculation the week or so before your your big 386 00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:58,880 fight. This has been held for a long 387 00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:00,680 time. Like a lot of this stuff is so 388 00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:03,800 hidden in plain sight. But yeah, coming full circle 389 00:24:03,800 --> 00:24:07,960 into the awareness that sexual energy is going to bind and 390 00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:12,000 amplify everything. So whether you are in coherence 391 00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:15,440 with yourself, if you're using it in a very contained, 392 00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:18,120 intentional way, it's going to be rocket fuel. 393 00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:21,840 And if you're in dissonance with yourself, if you're not in self 394 00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:24,320 love or self acceptance, if you're out of integrity with 395 00:24:24,320 --> 00:24:28,160 yourself or your inner guidance, it's going to shed, you know, or 396 00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:30,840 your relationships or your job, all the things we've talked 397 00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:34,960 about, it's going to shed that or it's going to make it so 398 00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:38,000 uncomfortable until you shed it. It's going to bring up the dis 399 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:41,440 ease. And ultimately this is kind of 400 00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:45,840 what's at the core of our entire being is, are we vital and are 401 00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:49,240 we healthy? Are we in ease or are we in dis 402 00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:50,920 ease? Are we deficient? 403 00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:55,160 And our thoughts, our emotions are. 404 00:24:55,960 --> 00:24:57,640 Yeah. All these different areas of our 405 00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:00,640 life are just going to be generated from our state of 406 00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:03,960 being ultimately. So that's why we say it's so 407 00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:07,000 hard to encapsulate these understandings of like what 408 00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:10,800 sexual life force energy really is and what it is we're doing in 409 00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:13,760 this work. But this is it, you know? 410 00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:17,920 And This is why I call this like holistic men's sex Ed 'cause 411 00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:20,640 this is a holistic program. The flower doesn't bloom in 412 00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:23,440 nature until the roots are solid, the stem is solid, the 413 00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:25,880 leaves are green, there's no disease, there's no past. 414 00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:30,440 Sexual reproduction in nature is the final stage of development. 415 00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:33,960 It is the byproduct of a healthy, thriving Organism. 416 00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:37,280 And you can be having sex. You can be having what you think 417 00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:40,400 is a lot of great sex. And you know what I call like 418 00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:43,120 porn reenactment, which is most of our sex education. 419 00:25:43,120 --> 00:25:45,520 And that's fine. Lots of ejaculations, lots of 420 00:25:45,520 --> 00:25:49,640 penetration and primal energy. I, I love that myself too, but 421 00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:53,240 it's almost like a flower that's only partially bloomed. 422 00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:57,680 Like you may only be 1% opened in your sexuality and you may be 423 00:25:57,680 --> 00:26:02,240 missing out on 99% of the pleasure that actually you're 424 00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:04,800 capable of. And not just for you, but for 425 00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:08,240 your partner and not just for the bedroom, but for your entire 426 00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:10,360 life. You know, your vitality. 427 00:26:10,360 --> 00:26:15,080 This is your vitality. So we're here to spread the word 428 00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:16,960 and educate our brothers in this. 429 00:26:16,960 --> 00:26:20,440 Just yell it from the rooftops, as we've said before, you know, 430 00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:24,560 just to, to really educate and inspire brothers to try this 431 00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:28,880 out, try this out first hand and, and just see what happens. 432 00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:32,840 And you know, one final note here I'll just say is if you are 433 00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:35,400 just trying this out for the first time, part of the reason 434 00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:38,600 we share this is just as a disclaimer and we share this 435 00:26:38,600 --> 00:26:40,440 with all the guys in our training. 436 00:26:42,120 --> 00:26:46,720 Too much too fast is 1 definition of trauma and it 437 00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:50,840 takes time, just like gardening, you know, tilling the garden, 438 00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:54,360 you know, you got to work on the wedding and planting new seeds. 439 00:26:54,360 --> 00:26:57,400 These are new neural pathways, new behavioral patterns and all 440 00:26:57,400 --> 00:27:00,400 the rest. And with consistent repetition 441 00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:03,000 and with you know, we're going to stumble as we learn to walk, 442 00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:06,400 as we say all the time, This is why we have daily accountability 443 00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:07,880 for guys. And I encourage anyone 444 00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:10,640 listening, if you have someone you can get in daily 445 00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,960 accountability with, share your commitment, share what's going 446 00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:16,600 on every day. Send these messages every single 447 00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:19,120 day. This is how it changes. 448 00:27:19,120 --> 00:27:20,760 It's not, we're not a light switch. 449 00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:23,360 It's not fixing something suddenly. 450 00:27:23,360 --> 00:27:27,080 It's this binding and amplifying and raising of the energy needs 451 00:27:27,080 --> 00:27:32,760 to be done mindfully and slowly. And This is why, you know, we 452 00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:35,560 also created the training program to to give guys the 453 00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:39,400 tools and the framework and the support to deepen in this work. 454 00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:43,920 So yeah, that's, that's everything I wanted to say on 455 00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:45,560 that. Is there any last thoughts you 456 00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:51,640 have, Hawks, before we sign off? Sure, just that as you were 457 00:27:52,120 --> 00:27:56,360 speaking to it can. The journey can be a little 458 00:27:56,360 --> 00:28:02,120 uncomfortable as we start out and that and that discomfort is 459 00:28:02,120 --> 00:28:03,880 indication that change is happening. 460 00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:07,600 And that's where sticking with it, being committed, having that 461 00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:10,920 consistency to continue to follow through because on the 462 00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:13,120 other side of that discomfort is a whole new you. 463 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:17,840 It's a whole new chapter. It's it's a shedding that can be 464 00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:20,040 uncomfortable. Change is typically 465 00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:24,480 uncomfortable, but when we're aligned and when we're 466 00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:29,320 supported, that change is orienting us towards something 467 00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:33,120 that's even better. And so stick with it and know 468 00:28:33,120 --> 00:28:36,080 that it's perfectly normal to be a little uncomfortable at the 469 00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:41,400 beginning, but that's what we're here for, you know, that's what 470 00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:44,440 that's what this is about. It's not all meant to be 471 00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:49,280 comfortable all of the time, but as we come more and more into 472 00:28:49,280 --> 00:28:53,600 alignment, build our energy up more and more in our life force, 473 00:28:54,320 --> 00:29:00,920 things do become just naturally more blissful, which is is where 474 00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:06,400 we're ultimately headed. Yeah, that's it, man. 475 00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:07,800 Yeah. We always say in our training, 476 00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:11,920 it's like we're learning how to Make Love and not war with the 477 00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:15,920 resistance because what we resist persists when we can 478 00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:19,760 learn how to slow down, breathe, penetrate with our 479 00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:24,320 consciousness, with our smile, with our breath, smiling at our 480 00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:27,160 demons, you know, and not running from them. 481 00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:31,520 This is this is the way. The only way in is through. 482 00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:35,160 And just like Hawk said, I want to double click on that and 483 00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:38,080 highlight that. Like there is so much waiting 484 00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:40,360 for you on the other side with just a little delayed 485 00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:43,080 gratification. It's uncomfortable for a little 486 00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:47,480 season, but once you've tasted this, it's like, it's like a kid 487 00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:50,880 who's addicted to eating Skittles and then, you know, 488 00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:55,240 introducing them to creme brulee or like these extravagant, you 489 00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:59,520 know, desserts. And it's almost like letting go 490 00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:01,520 of the known to open to the unknown. 491 00:30:01,720 --> 00:30:03,760 Yeah. Or or fruit. 492 00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:07,680 Yeah, or fruit. Something that's actually like, 493 00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:11,440 once we allow ourselves to sensitize again to what's, 494 00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:15,760 what's actually natural, we can fully appreciate and savor 495 00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:19,720 what's, what's there. What, what, you know, God has 496 00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:24,520 given us just inherently here to nourish us and to bring great 497 00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:27,120 pleasure and bliss. And, you know, for myself, 498 00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:31,480 having gone through that process of eating refined sugars for 499 00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:37,480 much of my early life and then removing that stimulus from my 500 00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:40,360 experience, now I bite into a fresh piece of fruit and I'm 501 00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:43,080 like, this is better than any piece of candy I've ever had. 502 00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:48,000 And it's also nourishing me in ways that that candy never did. 503 00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:52,720 And there's no going back. It's just, you know, it's, it's 504 00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:56,840 not even a, a question anymore at this point on my journey. 505 00:30:56,840 --> 00:30:59,120 And, and there's a process to that, you know, there's often 506 00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:02,720 the process of coming up and out of engaging with that stimulus. 507 00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:06,320 And then we might dip back into an old pattern and be like, oh, 508 00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:08,640 this tastes really good in the moment. 509 00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:12,280 But then 5 minutes, five hours later, we feel awful. 510 00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:14,680 And then it's that reminder of like, oh, yeah, this actually 511 00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:18,200 wasn't ever in alignment. Let me remove this again and get 512 00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:21,400 back to the really nourishing generative practices or ways of 513 00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:26,360 being or foods that that actually feel good in the moment 514 00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:31,240 and serve me in the long term. Yeah, yeah. 515 00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:35,280 Well said, man. All right, Well, we'll close out 516 00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:37,440 with that. Thank you so much, Hawks, for 517 00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:39,920 joining me today. And thank you, Listener, for 518 00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:42,360 tuning in. I'll see you on the next one. 519 00:31:42,520 --> 00:31:43,760 Sending lots of love your way.