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I'm Effie, a life coach who 
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you feeling better for good. 
I teach people how to cut the 

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crap and live according to their
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It's a crime we don't learn this
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simpler than you think to break 
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life you want. 
Listen on to find out how. 

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Hi, my love. 
I am coming back after a little 

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hiatus, if you even noticed. 
But I feel like I feel like with

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the right friends, you don't 
even notice when there's been a 

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break or when there's been a 
lapse that you just fall back 

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in. 
It's kind of like riding a 

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bicycle, right? 
Like good friends are like 

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getting back on a bicycle. 
That doesn't sound quite right, 

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but I think you know what I mean
is it's like, yeah, you just, 

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you just fall back into the 
rhythm that you knew with them 

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and that you've always known 
with them. 

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So that's what I am feeling. 
That's what I'm betting on. 

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I'm so glad to be back. 
And I wasn't sure when I would 

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come back. 
And to be honest, I wasn't sure 

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even if I would come back. 
And I'm going to tell you 

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exactly why on this podcast and 
also let you know that I have 

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decided to continue. 
This is the last podcast that 

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will be in double digits. 
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this episode, we're going to be 
in triple digits and it's going 

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to be a completely new 
experience than it's been in the

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past. 
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a while and you're like, I love 
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I love what Effie's done. 
I love what she's doing with it.

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I bet that you will continue to 
love what I'm doing with it. 

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But it is going to be a 
different experience most 

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certainly for me and a more 
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overall in terms of production. 
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alive, more riveting, even more 
valuable experience for you. 

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So here's where I was at when I 
decided to take this hiatus as I

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guess I'm calling it a break. 
We, yeah, me and the podcast has

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this wonderful, amazing, loving,
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relationship. 
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I, when I cheated on her a 
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podcast or two. 
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was like, OK, I'm just honoring 
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And I have to say it felt great.
It felt great not to have the 

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podcast production be something 
that was in the back of my mind 

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working on me. 
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absolutely adored producing the 
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I have, and I have really 
knocked my own socks off in my 

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ability to be consistent with 
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It has not been 100%, but I have
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I mean, I'm on episode 99, 
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consistency in the past in my 
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know, working for myself, I 
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exciting that we've gotten to 
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And also the way that I was 
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way that I was approaching the, 
I guess, workflow of the podcast

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was not sustainable. 
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that when I started this 
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going to like, this is going to 
reach so many people. 

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It's going to be a marketing 
engine for my business. 

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It's going to help so many 
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It has, it's been a really 
amazing experience and my 

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listenership still is quite a 
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wanted or foreseen when I 
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into creating the podcast and 
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relatively normal. 
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more successful experiences in 
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And I cherish every single one 
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even though the numbers weren't 
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to be, I was like, it's a 
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It's a miracle that people are 
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And getting so much from this 
and that I'm getting so much 

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just from giving it. 
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could, this could help one 
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continuing. 
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effort that I was putting into 
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continue to do while while also 
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myself, OK, I'm not going to do 
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It's been 2. 
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this frees up my energy or how I
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that I'm showing up to different
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my business. 
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interesting. 
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like, OK, now I don't need to 
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because here's my workflow was 
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of time actually thinking about 
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outlining. 
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I'm perfectly honest, I mean 
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scripting out exactly what I 
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was saying it kind of like 
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or and then, you know, tighten 
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draft and then sometimes it 
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outline and occasionally I would
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And I think once or twice in the
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podcast, I've done like a just, 
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they say. 
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was an hour, you know, hour and 
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creative right. 
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actual recording and I would 
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what was outlined or scripted 
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And it was a fun experience. 
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about my story, you know that I 
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like I know there's magic in 
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sometimes, but sometimes not. 
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editing, publishing and writing 
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and stuff for this podcast, it 
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me to go to great lengths to 
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say the right thing. 
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was, you know, I was on message 
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when, when I was planning it 
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was placebo or maybe it was just
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enough that I feel like it is 
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listener. 
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hour and a half process. 
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whatever that, you know, I was 
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head or directing and editing 
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was speaking into the mic. 
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there was, it was just a longer 
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podcast, I could spend 40 or 
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which then because I'm recording
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of that, let's say it was it's 
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And then I needed to edit, which
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episode and how many takes I 
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internal dialogue was around my,
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take between. 
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less than an hour. 
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write the copy for it, which 
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between, I don't know, 20 and 40
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Let's say 2 hours average for 
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So let's say 5 hours, 5 hours a 
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entrepreneur that I'm spending 
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lower than desired listenership.
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I've questioned it several times
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point I realized, well, the, 
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really add up. 
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those five hours that could be 
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through paid? 
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And so you're probably saying, 
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Why Are you ready to turn those 
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courage to change the things 
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podcast in terms of my workflow,
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It was impacting people. 
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had wanted to, but it was making
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women that it was reaching. 
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sustainable for me ultimately. 
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committing to allowing my mouth 
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of it to be inherently valuable.
So in other words, what's inside

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of me that wants to come out and
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subject, any particular week I 
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valuable to my people. 
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going to plan, that I'm not 
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not going to loose outline at 
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This is all just free flow. 

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What I wanted to say about the 
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coming back to this in a way 
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myself and I believe or I hope 
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than the way I was doing it 
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I used to have this acting 
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brilliant. 
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workshop in Hollywood, I think 
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Whenever I could, I would take 
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We would show up and he would 
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the script or the portion of the
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you were going to be working on.
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Like no time whatsoever. 
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memorize, you didn't have time 
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or beat as it's called. 
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really detailed character 
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teach you in, you know, acting 
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there's there's I learned a lot 
of that kind of shit in my 

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former career. 
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just going to, we're just going 
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That's what we're going to bring
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And the given circumstances say,
you know, you're playing a, an 

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attorney in New York City and 
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Angeles is like, OK, those are 
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are in the scene. 
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your partner who you just found 
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than more than the number of 
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circumstances. 
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the given circumstances into 
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We're just going to accept them.
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yourself. 
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We're just going to drop them in
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your bones, and then we're just 
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We're just going to read it. 
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script, but I had no plan for 
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how it was going to come out. 
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myself to have so much fun with 
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What genuinely tickled me, what 
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I was performing the scene, as I
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these workshops this way is the 
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or at least, I don't know, a 
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actors. 
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to feel like we're getting it 
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within an inch of its life. 
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creativity out of a work like 
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squeeze the life out of it. 
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meant to to circumvent or to be 
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inside of us to do it perfectly.
You know, we didn't have time to

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do it. 
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because over planning creates 
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like, OK, so you planned every 
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physic physical movement, every 
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going to say, every single line,
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body. 
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plan. 
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quirky, bizarre ways that it 
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about what we're saying or how 
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And so that's what drew me to 
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I had to do it. 
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different way for this to work. 
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so much more fun with it, to 
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just fucking go for it. 
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I'm not editing this at all. 
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any of it. 
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allow myself to start giving 
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this way on my podcast, AI will 
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Meaning if I spend an hour or an
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B Oh, what will this do? 
Is it will it will make the 

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process so much more fun. 
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it and hopefully you will even 
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what if he's going to say what 
if he's going to speak on this 

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week what we're going to talk 
about and I'll be really curious

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to see what happens from here. 
So this is me committing to 

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being courageous by, like I was 
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It feels like dropping my armor,
you know, and just being willing

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to fly by the seat of my pants, 
I guess, and be open with y'all 

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in a really different way. 
It feels good. 

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It feels, it feels overdue, to 
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this next iteration of what the 
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So thank you for being here. 
I'm so glad you're here. 

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I know I say that every single 
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that way, that it's a special 
gift to have your ears and to 

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have your attention. 
And I promise I won't let you 

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down. 
It's just is going to get better

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and better from here. 
So all right, I'm done. 

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I will talk to you very soon. 
I'm very, very excited because 

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as I'm coming back, it's May 
2026 and I am getting ready to 

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start talking more and more 
about my group, group coaching. 

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See, this is one of those 
moments where I would have 

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paused and gone back and said, 
you know, I stuttered over that 

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line. 
Nobody wants to hear that. 

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But you know what I do? 
It's human. 

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It's allowed. 
Somebody talking more about Feel

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Better for Good, the podcast 
namesake, my signature group 

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coaching program that I'm so 
fucking excited about is getting

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an energetic facelift. 
I will be talking more about 

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that in the coming weeks. 
We will be enrolling in May. 

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I promise you will be the first 
to know. 

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And yeah, let's fucking go. 
I will see you very soon. 

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OK, bye. 
Love you. 

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If you're ready to do the work 
to move forward on what you want

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and actually get it, I can help 
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Just visit effielevore.com to 

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