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welcome. Today we have on Tiffany Gibson,
she's someone I've been wanting to have on the podcast because
she's just such a poignant speaker and I love what she has
to say about so many things. She is the owner CEO woman in
charge of the new nurse academy. And this is her platform where
she works with coaching mentoring nurses Community, for
nurses as they are going through their career.
So she kind of creates a safe space for nurses.
They're just come and learn about what it is.
They need to do for their careers, and she is well versed.
She's a board, certified pediatric nurse, and she's a
board certified, nursing professional development
specialist, which I think was just really, really cool.
Tons of a, she called alphabet soup after her name.
So check out her all her accolades in the show notes.
Tiffany, welcome. Thank you so much.
I appreciate that. Let's dive in.
And what I always like to start is just kind of describing what
it is that you do. And kind of how you see your
role in day in day out life. Yes.
So I provide an ecosystem for nurses along the Continuum to
grow learn and have a safe space to be their authentic selves
within nursing. And I do that through the lens
of emotional intelligence. And that's not how I started my
business though, but that's where we are now.
And one of the things that I am learning even though I am board
certified, If I die as a nurse professional development
specialist is that professional development is personal
development. And so as I was learning about
being a business owner in doing that for me, personally, I
realized that it changed my outlook on how I do business and
how I provide business and how I serve and so that changed me
professionally and that's kind of where we are now.
Interesting. So, you began and I guess I
think it's funny because it's true as you start to develop
other parts of your self other things, begin to shift as well.
And you begin to kind of go. Wait a minute, I'm learning all
this knowledge and it's applying in every single aspect of my
life. Everything.
And it just begins to touch on everything.
And so one of the things that I was hoping that as you were
talking about emotion, I've heard you speak about emotional
intelligence and I feel like it's something that is very I
don't understanding what you want out of life and what you
want out of your career and whenever you start to become
really smart and understanding. Well, this is my priorities.
These are the things that I want out of my life, then you can end
up shaping the other areas to fit those priorities, right?
So, as you've been kind of owning your own business working
on that part, what made you decide?
Like, okay Tiffany, I'm going to go ahead and just launched my
business and I'm going to just do This thing big time no holds
bar, this is what I'm going for. So soon as 2018 is, when new
knife Academy was officially created and it just started off
as tutoring was a clinical instructor and my students
wanted me to help them after and I wanted to be paid for my time
and so to make sure there wasn't a conflict of interest of me
being there professor. And then paying me, I created an
entity that they can then book me through this entity and then
paid. If I had nothing to do with
school and my role as an instructor with the school, so
that's really how it started. And most nurses have a second
job at a hustle or something, because our schedules is so
flexible that we have the opportunity to do other things
outside of our main things. So, that was my side thing, and
that's why I started off as the name lunar.
If Academy, just I'm helping students become nurses and their
new and teaching. And so the name fits, and then,
as my students grew, ooh, and they graduated nursing school
and they became new nurses, then I had to show up for them in a
different way, right? So now we're talking about like,
tation and interviewing and what it's like to be a new nurse.
So now I have to provide different coaching and it's no
longer about NCLEX prep. Now it's just about like what is
your voice in this unit? How do you fit into the culture?
And then as those students then within the profession for about
two to three years but they wanted to be charge nurse and
preceptor. And travel and do other things.
Now, they're looking for me for more support that I have to do
something different. And so with each stage that my
client grew, I had to grow. And that's kind of where I'm at
now. And so in the process of
growing, I got a coach because I needed help with scaling.
I am an educator. I know how to educate.
I know how to speak running a business.
Is not what I know. That's it.
That's not it. It's so I needed help.
And I looked for help and my business coach is also a mindset
coach because to her you can't have one without the other.
And that's not what I was looking for.
I just wanted somebody to help me like with marketing and
Facebook ads and funnels in like freebies, I wouldn't that and
she's like I'm going to give you that, but let's also talk about
your limiting beliefs, your mindset.
How are you showing up? How are you serving?
What is your energy type? And I'm like, oh This, I like
this piece and so, I started incorporating what I was
learning about mindset and I honed in on emotional
intelligence because to me, that is the umbrella of everything
that we do as humans. Whether you are a nurse, whether
you are an entrepreneur, whether you are a mom, whether you're,
you know, whatever, emotional intelligence really is that
common thread in all those pieces.
And so, that's what I focus on, in my business, specifically for
nurses. Oh yeah, so if you were to take
a new nurse that's like, okay, I've heard this word emotional
intelligence. What does it mean?
What does it look like? How does it look?
What does it look like for me to understand my own emotional
intelligence? How would you kind of start her
down the road towards figuring that out?
The emotional intelligence is recognizing managing your own
emotions in a positive way so you can recognize and manage
other people's emotions, right? It's cool.
Being able to be the calm in the midst of the storm, NASA that
you can calm the storm. You can ride the wave, that is
what emotional intelligence is, right?
And so specifically, in nursing because everything we do is in
regards to someone else, whether we are direct patient care,
whether we are management, whether we are in
entrepreneurship, what we're doing is providing a service for
someone else. Right?
And so I can't be a good manager.
If I don't understand how to lead, I can't be a good nurse if
I don't understand that the Person that's acting out.
It's doing it because they don't have control of themselves, it
has nothing to do with me. Personally, I cannot ask
questions as a new nurse. If I don't have the confidence
in myself, right? And so that Common Thread is
emotional intelligence. But first, I need to recognize,
what a, my thoughts and my feelings in this moment, why am
I interpreting this moment like this and then what can I do in
this moment to manage me so that I can solve the moment?
It's more, I can strap them. That's really what emotional
intelligence is. I think a lot of times we
recognize what we feel, we may even recognize the why we feel
this way, like we know what our triggers are.
But then we sent her our emotions in the midst of this
problem, which is not the antecedent to the problem,
right? Emotions is just our
interpretation of what's Happening.
You can choose to react, we can choose to respond.
We can choose to let this person annoy me, but we can't Center
how we feel. Well in the midst of this
because then we don't get to the problem solving, we don't get to
the decision, making, you don't get to the critical thinking.
We don't get to the resolution and that's what emotional
intelligence is. Yeah.
And it's the understanding of yourself, right?
I think it's really sitting alone figuring out.
This is my trigger. This is why I feel this way
giving a name to those things. And then again, instead of
sitting there and either becoming a victim complaining
Focusing in on everyone around you holding you back, you can
then move into the empowerment phase which is how do I change
the situation for myself? How do I adjust the situation
for me? And I think that is so big
because this is as you said the crutch of or why people go into,
you know, I want to start a business but it's like.
Whoa, whoa! Whoa!
Hold on a second. We need to talk about the steps
up into that point and what you are trying to Prioritize by
starting this business and I've heard you say another podcast
before that, you had three domains that were really
important to you. And those were how you were
operating, the decisions you were making out of your life.
And I think that that is that has such a high level of
emotional intelligence that I think every nurse that's
thinking about starting a business wanting to like, how do
I get going needs to sit in and figure out what are the goals in
the priorities that I am moving towards begin with the end in
Mind and then work back from that spot.
And so I kind of wanted to know if you would walk us through how
you did that in regards to your business and what those three
domains were that you were like, all right, this is what I'm
focused in on. Now, let me walk the plan back
and incorporate my work into my life.
So I first want to say that entrepreneurship is not an
Escape Route. I think a lot of people say I'm
just going to go into business for myself.
Because tired of work at that sigh, whatever the case may be,
entrepreneurship is probably worse than working for somebody
else because you're working for yourself and is 24 hours, seven
days a week. And everybody is your boss,
right? So, you went from having one
manager to having every single client and customer you serve.
Now being your boss because you're providing service to
them. And the purpose of having a
business is to say, Answer a problem and so you need your
customers and your clients, tell you what the problem is and you
know, it's a never-ending job. It's so if you are not aware of
the role you play in the toxicity, you're running away
from that's going to follow you, no matter where you go and what
I've learned because I'm really being, it's a universal law.
I'm really big into human design.
What I've learned is the universe or God or A source or
whoever, your higher power is, it's going to continue to give
you the same lesson, if you haven't learned it.
And that lesson may not necessarily look the same every
time, but the meaning and the purpose behind the lesson is
going to be the same. If you have not learned it.
And so, while you were at work and you ignored all those flags,
the yellow flag, their orange flag burgundy flag before you
came red and you're like well I'm leaving, okay, well, those
things are going to show up as an entrepreneur.
You may do Statics really well but you may have a pissy
attitude and you had a pissy attitude at your other job, and
that's why nobody likes you. And that's why they treated you
that way. Not to say that it's correct.
But, you know, cause and effect and that's why you left.
But now you're here and you still don't know how to manage
your emotions and you still don't know how to talk to people
and you still a Negative Nancy and you still, you know, Center
yourself in the midst of other people's problems.
And you're wondering why you can't scale you wondering why
people aren't returning your calls.
You're wondering why your clients aren't coming.
Back and being loyal to the business because he don't like
you because you don't, you don't know you and you don't see you
in other people's eyes, right? And that's emotional
intelligence and that is, that's the big thing.
So, for me, it was first and foremost, how can I be the
consummate self-aware person ever like, how can I get to Know
Tiffany on a deep level and that included therapy?
That included breaking up? With my boyfriend multiple times
if I was going through stuff and he was like, what is happening
over here? Like, this is not what I signed
up for call me when you get yourself together and it went
through mom, guilt and went to alive with me.
Through me leaving my job as a nurse professional, educator at
the hospital and trying something different and
realizing, I don't like that. Let's, let's go back over here.
So I spend a lot of my energy and my intention and my self
improvement which is domain 1. Don't awareness self
improvement. How can I learn more about me?
How can I learn more about my triggers?
How can I learn more about just the psychology of human
behavior? How can I learn more about why
these things happen? Like, hey, that's like to spend
a lot of my personal professional development and
that self-awareness domain. Then the next is the management
piece. So now that I know what the
emotions are and I can name them and identify them and tell you
where they come from and all that other.
Good stuff, how do I manage it? And what does that look like and
manage it in a positive way? Drinking a whole bottle of wine
is not positive management that is masking.
But how do I sit there at the root and feel all the feels in
control my controllables and, and how can I do that?
Well, that that takes a lot of work and that takes a lot of
time and that's, that's where the healing is, you know, people
like Do the work. That's the worst part.
Yeah, that's the weird part. And so managing myself, also
meant identifying what, my boundaries are my
non-negotiables are and where my Integrity lies.
Mmm, because There could be an opportunity for me that I can
take because it has high position.
Hype Authority, High Authority, High salary, but if it's taking
away my peace, then why am I here, right?
And and so just realizing like this is a non-negotiable for me,
I'm not going to do it. These are my boundaries and
recognizing that boundaries are a commitment to myself.
Boundaries are not rules for other people.
We sometimes misconstrue that And then realizing what my
ultimate desires are, which I like to call my my values right
time, Freedom, recreational, freedom, and Financial Freedom.
To do what I want when I want how I want.
That's how I want to live my life and so being a nurse and
the education that I have and how I want to serve nurses, and
how I want to show up in the nurse Community.
But still be in alignment with my ultimate desires, my three
domains, what does that look like?
And in order for me to have the two intersect, I need it to
unleash the tradition and the conventions of what nursing
education should look like, and just do it on my own, which is
what I'm doing. Now, being self-employed working
from home. So now I can do what I want when
I want how I want, right? I can consult.
When I want, I can charge what I want.
I can do interviews when I want and show up in the world and
still prioritize family and still prioritize me.
And still take trips to Bali and not have to worry about PTO
being approved. Like now I've Encompass what it
is. That my ultimate desires look
like while still being a nurse But it just blows me away.
I get emotional, hearing it because it is so well, thought
through like, you can tell. You've done the work.
I mean, that is essentially what you were describing, as you were
talking about how you had to kind of sit alone and figure out
with with a lens of self-awareness with a mirror.
Like, who am I? Like, what?
What are my issues? Because my dad always said this
wherever you go. There you are.
Yeah, every you go, there you are.
And so just because you move into a different role, does it
mean at the problems of your job disappear?
They don't, they follow you because they follow.
You you are the part of the world.
And so as you sit alone and you figure out like, why do these
things trigger me? I do think to a certain degree,
sometimes entrepreneurship looks like this out.
Like, oh, this is the out that you want for your career and
it's not It's got to be something that you scale slowly.
But again, you've got to do that self work to figure out.
Really, what are you aiming for? What are you trying to shoot
for? What are you trying to solve?
And how does this bring something to others that?
Yes, helps me achieve my goals, but I've got to help others get
to their goals to, I can't can't just be about me making my best
life. It has to be about other things,
right? Absolutely.
It even if even if you go into nursing entrepreneurship, just
for the Honey, let's just say right going it to chase the bag.
I hate that term but you know, it's it.
Everybody said six figures and chasing the bag of the money,
the money, the money, which is very superficial right.
But there's still something underneath that.
Why that money is so valuable to me.
And so if the intent is to go into nursing or entrepreneurship
for the money because you have the ability to make a lot, Then
I would implore you to think about what are you going to do
with that money? Because it can't be about buying
bags and shoes and taking trips. Is it because you want to
experience life on a different level?
Is it because you want to be able to afford tuition for your
child? Is it because you want to be
able to get out of debt and buy your first home.
Like there's still a root cause behind chasing the bag.
There's still something. Behind that, did you grow up in
private property? And so you were trying to rub
two nickels together. And now you have the opportunity
to make a lot of money in a short amount of time.
So you want to Revel in that, right?
And you want to wear clothes or drive a car so that other people
can see that you have reached this, this whatever Pinnacle or
level of success. That something there.
So that means you never felt validated.
That means you didn't you are recognized.
That means, you know, you were always quieted.
For you know so there's always something there it made look and
start off as superficial but there's something there.
So the work is figuring out what that root cause is because it's
not always what you think it is and then once you find out what
your ultimate desires of life's are like your domains and how
you want to operate, then every decision that you make should
fall into that. Every yes, in every no is
because I'm getting closer to my ultimate desires of Time,
Financial and recreational freedom.
I love that. And one of the things that I
always like to focus in on because I noticed that one of my
best listen to podcast episodes was someone who was basically
just spitting out truth on business and what he was Finding
were the best and the worst things to do and little tips and
tricks. But I wanted to know if we could
pivot a little bit and talk about in your business.
Enos what has been the most difficult aspect that you've had
to master in developing the new nurse academy.
Again, I heard you say constantly having to revamp
re-determine, what do people need for me?
Okay, let me build that so that I can solve that problem for
them. You were describing that
process, which is so tedious so much work, trying to figure out
the need. But even from like a business
marketing advertising SEO, Facebook ads, like What's been
the most difficult part? You've had to manage literally
being so arrogant that people will want to hire me just
because I'm good. And that I in that I don't have
to put out the work or the effort or the ads eilers to get
people to find me, right? So it's two things happening at
the same time. I don't know business, I don't
know. Advertising marketing promo.
I need to learn that but then also be very self-righteous and
say, I'm good, I know, I'm good. I know I'm Greeks, I'm going to
raising educator. And so the people will find me,
they're going to me, and they're going to work with me because I
am what they need. But then, how are they going to
find me? How are they gonna find you to
do? They even know that you're out
there to be found like so you can't have one without the
other. So also learning that I can't do
it all, I learn how to code. I did my own website.
I was learning just like, trying to take all these courses on how
to do Google ads, and Facebook ads.
And I'm like, if you don't hire somebody off of Up works and I
find somebody who this is their Ministry and this is their
genius and so that it takes time and stress off of you that you
can then do what it is that you want to do.
I can't be a CEO of my business and still work in my business.
I can't work on my business and work in my business.
I can't do both and I had to learn that the hard way because
I was stressing myself. How just trying to figure out
why the Jaguar hyperlink didn't work and the formed in upload,
and the conversions is not happening, and I put in like,
what am I doing? This is not what you want to do.
All you want to do is just talk to people to educate.
That's all you want to do, is teach so higher.
The people who are good at the things that you are not good at
that. Is how you're going to scale
your business. But for me, it may be.
This is other nurses to, we feel like we can do it all.
We feel like because we're so good, clinically That that's so
good. It's going to transfer
automatically to business and that's not what transfers, the
skill of being a nurse and the mindset of being a nurse.
And the critical thinking of being a nurse, is what
translates into business. The operations, and the
logistics of business is not the same as two operations in the
logistics of being a nurse. And so I was trying to do it all
why, cuz it's my baby and nobody is going to think about it the
way I think. About it.
It's in my head and I have a vision and I could do it.
Girl, if you don't go to fiver and hire somebody to do this
graphic because you were spending 20 hours on canva, try
to find the right hex code and try to find the right graphic if
you don't just hire somebody. And so that has been the most
challenging thing is like releasing control, but having
control is, it's a trigger for me.
But that's new. That's do too.
Past stuff that I still am going through, but understanding that
and doing the work I realized, where it comes from this need to
always want to have control right in that.
Let go of the reins because if it's going to mess up, it's
going to mess up because of something that I did not because
of something, you know, somebody else did and no one's going to
put in the same amount of time and effort like me and my baby.
That's not true. Yes.
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back to the episode that that has been the most company can do
it faster than you doesn't mean that they're not putting in the
same work in. But that's the other thing too,
man. It's like I feel like I slaved
over that therefore, I get like an award because I slaved I did
my own personal slave work on that and it's like, so the work
got done, either way like except for the stress part that you
just now where this little badge of honor, it just continues to
boost up pride and ego. And you think that like oh look
what I've done but in fact, Fact it's not really doing that.
It just realizing Sandra how much control you got in your
life. You don't have a lot, you really
don't. And the more that you realize, I
mean, having a baby is like the biggest lesson in like I have
absolutely no control of this is going.
You think that things are going bad?
And she comes out. She's like what?
I'm fine y'all freaking out a not going on.
And, you know, I love people, like you look so skinny, you're
not diabetic. I'm like, I'm diabetic, is I'll
get out. You have no idea what it's like.
Is have no control. And I think that's was, probably
one of the hardest lessons, and probably the most humbling
lesson that I learned through the birth of my son.
And again, just reverberates over and over again, I have to
remind myself. You are in control of none of
it. It is kind of going back to you
were saying, you know, like the universe for me it's God.
Like God is in control of what's Happening Here, do you?
Yes. The only thing you can control
it yourself. The only can control it
yourself. Come on, not even, not even the
kids that you breath. Can you control?
You can manipulate you can persuade.
You can bribe. You can wish and pray and hope
and cross your fingers. Did you get even controls up?
So true, you keep. Yeah.
So and and and I love when you feel like you do all this, but
it increases your anxiety and you wear this badge of honor.
And but, you know, the only person who that who that is
important. It was you.
Nobody else cares. No one else cares.
Who the who did they just want it done?
No, one else sees the badge of honor and you're not getting an
award for staying up. 18 hours. Getting it done.
No one cares. You did that to yourself.
And we do this to ourselves and as a lot of nurses are type a
alpha females. Because of the control that we
have in that environment you like them, we literally can
control the environment. And even when the patient
decompensates, we still there still a sense of organized
chaos. And the sense of control.
And if we try to bring that home, or we try to breathe that
in our business and it's like, ah, that doesn't work over here.
And that's why a lot of owners entrepreneurs.
Don't pass a three-year mark. Wow, there's a three-year mark
it business, new businesses. If you're going to fail, you're
going to do so within the first few years, wow, you're going to
end with lots of articles about that, right?
If you're going to fail you're going to do it within the first
the first three years. And so if you can make it past
the three-year Mark you have a higher chance of succeeding.
Wow. So the last question I want to
ask in regards again to business As if you could focus in on one
aspect of your business and just and say like this one is my
golden ticket. I mean, it's just the thing that
when I plug it plays, I mean, what would you say is something
that you've noticed in your career that at least in your
business, and in your new nurse academy business that's just
been like, yeah, this is, this is gold.
This one is really, really good for the nurse.
That's just like, okay, I'm kind of struggling.
Like I need an idea. I need something new to kind of
like, help step up but you know, pepper.
Stuff up around here. What would you recommend?
But me, it's like, how do you want to show up in the world,
right? And, and I learned through human
design, that everybody has an energy profile, how you were
genetically, determined to just be you, your authentic self for
me. I know that when I open my mouth
and I talk people go, listen, it doesn't matter where I'm at. if
I, if I can, if I have the opportunity to hold an audience,
It everything I touch is gold that that and that's probably
why my social media specifically my Instagram.
I have such a really good connection with the people who
follow me and I don't think that I'm a Creator.
I don't think that I'm an influencer, I'm an educator, but
when I speak it's authentic and people recognize that.
Even if I'm talking about what I'm doing over the weekend and
it's nothing nurse related people, enjoy how I store Ito.
And how I deliver messages and so, no matter what it is, we can
be talking about the Itsy Bitsy Spider.
We going to talk about this itsy bitsy spider, you're going to
love it at the end that works for me for other people.
Public speaking is not their thing.
They can't Plug and Play that. They're really good with words.
They're really good with copy, so blogging emailing,
newsletters is where they shine. I want nurses to understand that
as you pivot into business Yes, you don't have to use other
people's templates to Plug and Play.
You see someone and you see that they're successful, where they
appear to be successful or what, success looks like for you.
First of all, you don't know what's happening behind the
scenes, you're only seeing what they want you to see, but to
they're showing up as their true authentic.
Self based on how they were created by God or the universe
or scores, that is their energetic profile.
And that's why it hits for them. It's so you can't take somebody
else's Playbook and run your own play.
No, you got to figure out your own X's and O's.
Yeah, you have to figure out what works for you.
So that's me. So I like teaching, I like
teaching in different ways, I have Consulting, I have
communities, I have coaching, and that's how I show up to
teach. And when I speak the connection
that I make with people is just undeniable.
And so, that is something that I'm going to continue to do in
my business in all aspects, whether it's business apps, I
had were business-to-business. Put me in front of the room
coach. Yeah, give me the mic coach.
I got it. I got it from.
And how did you discover this about yourself?
Was it just something that again, through that
self-awareness through that? Emotional intelligence, you
begin to read how others were reading you, right?
So a great big part of emotional intelligence and I believe
self-awareness is how you're being perceived by others.
It's kind of seeing how you are the thermostat in the room.
How do I change the temperature when I'm in here, right?
Right? And so as you were kind of
learning about like, okay so I'm good at this.
How is that reinforced? How is that made aware to
yourself? Or was it just something that
you stumbled upon or was it just kind of like you had Tom or a
sister or a best friend that was just like you're really good at
this and just you need to do this more.
So I've always been stubborn and I've always been a leader That's
from the beginning, like, little bit you to like babies, he's
been like, this always been stubborn.
I've always been a leader and as and I've always been really big
into books reading education, knowledge.
And so As I Grew just as I got older and I and I had more
knowledge and more information. I was always the person that was
like, let me tell you about this.
Like oh, we just had useless facts.
That was something I've always had and become a nurse.
First degree is in public health.
So my first degree is not even in nursing.
And what I did with that degree with community health education,
like let me break this down to you on a level that you
understand. So you can make informed
decisions, right? And so I've always been kind of
just educating at some capacity in some way and it was in
college. I had to take a public speaking
class. It was like a requirement and I
was amazing in that class and that's how I was like, uh,
There's something here. There's some something here.
Yeah, you're so how can I leverage my innate ability
public speaking because it's an eight but then how can I hone
it? And in Foster it but then use
this information over here that I'm getting.
Just in the professional World, being a public education, Public
Health, educator being a nurse and then put the two together.
Yeah, funnel funnel into my natural innate abilities.
Becoming someone who's doing IV drips.
Because it's the fastest way to six figures would not be
something that I would be good at.
And not because I don't know how to insert an IV or don't know
how to mix vitamins together, it's because that's not what I
was made to do. My innate gift is public
speaking. So yes, cannot open up a
storefront and offer a concierge IV hydration, or, you know, do
whatever. I probably could.
I think it's interesting. I think it's fun.
Who doesn't want to make, you know?
- fifty dollars an hour and, you know, like that's easy, good
money but not a lot of heavy lifting involves, but at the end
of the day, would I be fulfilled?
So I would tell the nurses. What is your innate?
What's innate to you outside of nursing?
Take your nursing hat off. What's the Nate?
Are you the person that like shows up early to the party?
So you can help set up for you. The person that stays links you
can help clean up. Are you the person that's always
in the kitchen? That's cooking cleaning serving.
Like you're the hostess with the mostest?
Are you like, are you really good at connecting people
together, like you match made all your friends.
Like what? Is something that's innate to
you. Then, that is how you deliver
the skills that you get from nursing.
That's how you marry the two. So I have this education over
here, which is great. But then how do I deliver what's
the method of delivery? The thing that I'm good at?
And that's how you put the two together, but are you busy?
My mind right now. Yes.
If you don't know who you are, if you don't have that
self-awareness, if you've never sat down with yourself and be
like to, who are you, like, who are you two?
If you don't have that, then you don't know what that looks like
for you. And so, you plug and play other
people's template, you plug and play other people's horses.
And you see, you steal, you basically cut and paste other
people's stuff. You never Dude, you never do
this. Yes, yes.
There's a spark. There's a flame but it doesn't
turn into a fire and it will never turn into a fire because
you're you need to wait for the other person to do something for
you to see what they did. So that you can do what they
did. It's not a it's not a pentacle,
it's not genuine. People can read that people can
see that. And I think that's why you draw
people to you is through the genuine authenticity that then
people going to go like oh this person knows themselves.
And that's truly what we want is to be known and to be loved for
who we really are. And the only way that you can be
known is to know yourself and to spend that time doing the work.
And that's why I talk about all the time.
I podcast I encourage nurses to meditate to spend quiet time
Alone, figure out what's going on.
Am I happy here? Do I like this?
What am I naturally? Good at what is the stuff that I
do? That light me up and it's kind
of weird and maybe nobody else does this way.
But I really like this and I was talking to a girlfriend of mine
and she was like, yeah, I was writing in clicks questions and
I really liked it. And I was like, you liked
writing class question. She's like, yeah, well, I did
and it's like that, like weird and I can mission of like, they
liked this. I can't believe I liked it that
it's like go do that like whatever.
Why that is that's for you, you got to do it.
Hey and yeah, I think that's just such great advice.
Tiffany and thank you so much for sharing that because I think
you bring a lot of clarity for nurses that are trying to get
something going and they are kind of plugging in playing
other people's, you know, methods and they're like, why
isn't it working? And it's like, no, no, we've got
to get this. We got to put the horse before
the cart like we can't just put this out there and think, oh,
this is going to just create all this Spark And fireworks and
it's going to be great. It's like no, no, no, no.
We've got to we've got to work on you and so give me a like a
like explain to me how you helped nurses in your programs
because I think that a nurse that's like, okay, Tiffany what
you got for me? How are you going to help me
work through, who I am to get to that core, to get to the center,
kind of describe to me, what your business does and how they
help and where people can find you and reach you and get this.
Yeah. Absolutely.
So, for invention liquid in this Academy is an ecosystem.
At this point provides, a whole bunch of different things.
But for nurses, specifically, who are looking to work with me
to grow in this capacity and their true authentic self.
I have three different coaching communities depending on where
you are on the Continuum of nursing.
So, starting from my student nurses, because I think a lot of
times they get left out, but if we can catch them while they're
still in school their transition into the pit, Action will look a
little bit different. And so for my, my nursing
students, I send out a text message every day to help them
with test-taking and NCLEX prep, but it's through the lens of
emotional intelligence. So I am not going to sit there
and regurgitate your lectures to you.
I do like that. I used to do that and it does,
it doesn't serve me. I don't like doing that anymore.
So we're not going to talk about abg's and we're not going to
talk about like, rhythms know, but we're going to talk about
like what is your mindset before taking this test?
And what is your home? Life looking like, as you
prepare to study and what is your study Style?
And what is your communication style and you're talking about
affirmations and manifestation? But do you even believe that
post that you reposted like it resonates with you.
But does every fiber of your being believe that to be true?
Because if that's not the case, then you're not manifesting
anything. You're just saying words, that's
all when. So those are the messages that I
send out Monday through Friday via text and then they have the
ability to text me back and we have a group coaching via Zoom
where we go. Over case studies in the
clinical things. And I do want to make sure you
pass. So you know, each go by a Bee
Gees, we will, but I don't want to regurgitate nursing school,
right. I want to start getting you to
into the mindset of being in tune with who you are.
Because if test taking is stressful to you, what's going
to happen when you have like live patients, to take care of.
So let's let's work on managing stress now and what that looks
like V emotional intelligence. So, that's one the text for
Success Community. Then the personal piece of the
club, which is my baby. I started this in 2019.
This is for student and new to practice nurses to help them
transition into the profession. But we focus on the five pillars
of Life, health, wealth, business, love and family.
And managing those five pillars because if you can manage that
Then being a nurse is going to be easy for you to navigate,
right? Because how you do, one thing is
how you do all things. As what I want these new nurses
to understand is you do not separate who you are on the unit
and who you are at home. Just because you clocked out and
took your scrubs off, that person is still the same.
So how you manage conflict in the house is how you're going to
manage conflict on the unit how how somebody talks to you.
And you take that, you know, being buried by the doctor
because they're a doctor, someone in your home or someone
before in your life, has talked to you the same way and you
Accepted it because they were an authority figure, right?
And so that's what we focus a lot there.
And then I have the emotional intelligent nurse Group, which
is for future and current clinical leaders.
So if you are charged precepting a supervisor, any type of
clinical leader role, we talked about how you can leverage that
role via emotional intelligence and everything.
We do in that group is literally taking Concepts from the
business industry. And from Psych Ecology and using
human design to create what you look like in your role as a
clinical leader. And so, those are my three
coaching communities and that's how people can work with me.
I love that. And I'm gonna tell you
something. I spoke with the cedar nurse who
describes, you as one of her mentors.
And I, oh, I literally cried in that episode on air.
I just like bawling because she's just so in tuned with
herself. Of that, it makes you
vulnerable, it just like opens up your heart and you're like,
oh my goodness. I am just Tinder who like
buttery soft gooey. Like because as she talks like
you see her heart and you're just like, this is so beautiful
and I know that you have done a level of work with her and it
shows it shows. So clearly that she is in touch
with exactly what matters to her.
Why it matters and how she moves through her.
Her career with that mindset at the Forefront of everything she
does and it is beautiful to watch.
Someone again go from a violin, a clarinet and a flute to just
going like no I'm an orchestra like the whole thing works
together and it is beautiful and I want more nurses as they are
moving through their career Journeys to have that same
thought process and that's why again this is not traditional
for me I normally do like career Isn't tell me about how you got
from A to B to C to D. But I really wanted you for this
series of the doctors podcast. I really want to start focusing
on, but listing in more on the heart.
The core like, let's get us to that spot where we are, so
understanding of who we are that, as the journey is
happening around us. We are as you said, riding the
waves. We're riding the waves because
we can't control the journey it It look like the straight.
Beautiful wine is like food. We did you think me an excuse
me? It's a biggie.
It is a whole EKG and EKG flatlines.
That means there's no more life. And so emotional intelligence is
not devoid of stress because life is going to life.it's,
literally, how do you manage it? How do you navigate that?
Because you it's going to do with this going to do and Once
you have no more challenges, you're no longer growing.
And if you're still, if you are in, if you are no longer growing
then what are we doing? So you actually want a beat, you
want to beat you want that QRS complex.
You want to get down in The Valleys because what it is is
pushing you forward, its progress, its progress.
And after every Valley there is a peak but you don't stay up
there long because something else happens, because there's
always something is always something, literally this
morning. I was saying to my boyfriend,
like, you know, like I woke up to this message and I'm, and I'm
trying to self-regulate, right? Because I emotional intelligence
is a journey, it's not a destination.
And so there's times, when did, it's easy for me to do in times
when there's not and this morning, it was a moment where I
needed to be contemplative and I needed to self-regulate because
I got upset because of what someone else did and then I had
to say to myself. Well, what was my responsibility
in this? Did I do everything?
I was supposed to do to make sure that this was clear and I
didn't. And so while I'm upset that the
other person did this, really what it comes down to is it
started with me and my communication wasn't clear and
I'm upset at the outcome, but I have to take responsibility and
ownership and so I just need a moment to sit with that for a
second and I'll make breakfast when I'm done.
I have that I have to I have to sit with this for a second.
I have to process this for a second and then and then I let
it go when I get over it and then I move on and that solution
intelligence. Yeah, man, that is so good.
So for every episode I do rapid fire and we're going to end it
on that because that is just the perfect point and that is
emotional intelligence. I mean, I couldn't do any better
if I tried like Oprah moments. Beautiful.
So, I want to just do rapid fire.
These are fun, 5 IC to your parents, just get ready.
Let's Note 2 to Gibson. And just are you ready?
Okay, to you, what's the best age to be 35?
35. What do you say that?
Because you're adding your twenties, which is crazy, but
you're you're in and and I'm only 39 right now, but I think
35 was a good age where I was still young and I can still act
like I was in my 20s but understood like you know I'm
mature enough to know better and to do better and and
responsibilities are a little bit more real and I have more
life under my belt. So 35 Okay, good.
And what are you most grateful for in the whole world?
Oh, my self awareness. To say, I'm tired.
Come take these kids. I need to sleep, or I need a
vacation or, you know, like my self awareness.
Yes, yes. And if someone could play you on
TV, who would you choose? But she plays the lead role
Jacks and that. That Hulu series, man.
I don't remember the name of the who Reasonable Doubt and carry.
One I said, Kerry Washington, that's her project and it's the
league. The role of Reasonable Doubt.
And I don't know that actress's name, but I would want they
need. I want her to.
Yeah. Okay.
You would cast her in the role of you.
Yes, I would. Absolutely.
I will cast her in the role of her name on TV is Jack Stewart
and her. Real name is I'm a yahtzee
Carmen's. Ellie.
Oh, and that would be, who you would cast.
Interesting check it out because I don't know, I don't know her.
Hey, I love her presence. She's a brown girl like me.
She's Tight. Hey, she's a lawyer and I'm
like, yes, it's the same. There's some correlation
between, being a lawyer, being a nurse.
Yes. Yes.
Well guys, you heard it here first, thank you for coming to
the doctor's podcast and chatting with my audience today.
Tiffany. It's been an absolute joy to
talk to you. And I know nurses are going to
get something out of it. So thank you so much for your
time. And yeah, guys, don't forget to
enjoy the journey, the EKG journey of your nursing career
and thanks for hanging out guys. Have a good rest of your day.
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