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Today we have on Tiffany Gibson, 64 00:03:35,100 --> 00:03:37,300 she's someone I've been wanting to have on the podcast because 65 00:03:37,300 --> 00:03:40,200 she's just such a poignant speaker and I love what she has 66 00:03:40,200 --> 00:03:45,100 to say about so many things. She is the owner CEO woman in 67 00:03:45,100 --> 00:03:49,700 charge of the new nurse academy. And this is her platform where 68 00:03:49,700 --> 00:03:53,500 she works with coaching mentoring nurses Community, for 69 00:03:53,500 --> 00:03:55,900 nurses as they are going through their career. 70 00:03:55,900 --> 00:03:58,100 So she kind of creates a safe space for nurses. 71 00:03:58,300 --> 00:04:00,600 They're just come and learn about what it is. 72 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:03,900 They need to do for their careers, and she is well versed. 73 00:04:03,900 --> 00:04:06,900 She's a board, certified pediatric nurse, and she's a 74 00:04:06,900 --> 00:04:09,600 board certified, nursing professional development 75 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:12,200 specialist, which I think was just really, really cool. 76 00:04:12,500 --> 00:04:15,200 Tons of a, she called alphabet soup after her name. 77 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:17,899 So check out her all her accolades in the show notes. 78 00:04:18,200 --> 00:04:21,600 Tiffany, welcome. Thank you so much. 79 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:24,200 I appreciate that. Let's dive in. 80 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:27,400 And what I always like to start is just kind of describing what 81 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:30,000 it is that you do. And kind of how you see your 82 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:32,900 role in day in day out life. Yes. 83 00:04:32,900 --> 00:04:39,100 So I provide an ecosystem for nurses along the Continuum to 84 00:04:39,100 --> 00:04:44,300 grow learn and have a safe space to be their authentic selves 85 00:04:44,300 --> 00:04:46,700 within nursing. And I do that through the lens 86 00:04:46,700 --> 00:04:50,700 of emotional intelligence. And that's not how I started my 87 00:04:50,700 --> 00:04:52,900 business though, but that's where we are now. 88 00:04:53,500 --> 00:04:57,900 And one of the things that I am learning even though I am board 89 00:04:57,900 --> 00:05:00,200 certified, If I die as a nurse professional development 90 00:05:00,200 --> 00:05:02,900 specialist is that professional development is personal 91 00:05:02,900 --> 00:05:06,900 development. And so as I was learning about 92 00:05:06,900 --> 00:05:12,000 being a business owner in doing that for me, personally, I 93 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:16,100 realized that it changed my outlook on how I do business and 94 00:05:16,100 --> 00:05:20,000 how I provide business and how I serve and so that changed me 95 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:22,800 professionally and that's kind of where we are now. 96 00:05:23,700 --> 00:05:26,900 Interesting. So, you began and I guess I 97 00:05:26,907 --> 00:05:30,000 think it's funny because it's true as you start to develop 98 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:35,000 other parts of your self other things, begin to shift as well. 99 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:38,400 And you begin to kind of go. Wait a minute, I'm learning all 100 00:05:38,400 --> 00:05:41,800 this knowledge and it's applying in every single aspect of my 101 00:05:41,800 --> 00:05:42,800 life. Everything. 102 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:44,900 And it just begins to touch on everything. 103 00:05:44,900 --> 00:05:48,700 And so one of the things that I was hoping that as you were 104 00:05:48,700 --> 00:05:51,400 talking about emotion, I've heard you speak about emotional 105 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:53,800 intelligence and I feel like it's something that is very I 106 00:05:53,800 --> 00:05:57,400 don't understanding what you want out of life and what you 107 00:05:57,400 --> 00:06:00,900 want out of your career and whenever you start to become 108 00:06:00,900 --> 00:06:04,000 really smart and understanding. Well, this is my priorities. 109 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:07,900 These are the things that I want out of my life, then you can end 110 00:06:07,900 --> 00:06:12,200 up shaping the other areas to fit those priorities, right? 111 00:06:12,500 --> 00:06:16,000 So, as you've been kind of owning your own business working 112 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:18,000 on that part, what made you decide? 113 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:21,800 Like, okay Tiffany, I'm going to go ahead and just launched my 114 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:25,600 business and I'm going to just do This thing big time no holds 115 00:06:25,600 --> 00:06:31,000 bar, this is what I'm going for. So soon as 2018 is, when new 116 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:34,000 knife Academy was officially created and it just started off 117 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:38,000 as tutoring was a clinical instructor and my students 118 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:41,600 wanted me to help them after and I wanted to be paid for my time 119 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:44,300 and so to make sure there wasn't a conflict of interest of me 120 00:06:44,300 --> 00:06:47,300 being there professor. And then paying me, I created an 121 00:06:47,300 --> 00:06:53,300 entity that they can then book me through this entity and then 122 00:06:53,300 --> 00:06:55,000 paid. If I had nothing to do with 123 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:58,100 school and my role as an instructor with the school, so 124 00:06:58,100 --> 00:07:01,400 that's really how it started. And most nurses have a second 125 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:05,500 job at a hustle or something, because our schedules is so 126 00:07:05,500 --> 00:07:09,000 flexible that we have the opportunity to do other things 127 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:12,800 outside of our main things. So, that was my side thing, and 128 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:14,600 that's why I started off as the name lunar. 129 00:07:14,600 --> 00:07:18,100 If Academy, just I'm helping students become nurses and their 130 00:07:18,100 --> 00:07:22,100 new and teaching. And so the name fits, and then, 131 00:07:22,100 --> 00:07:26,100 as my students grew, ooh, and they graduated nursing school 132 00:07:26,100 --> 00:07:28,800 and they became new nurses, then I had to show up for them in a 133 00:07:28,800 --> 00:07:31,600 different way, right? So now we're talking about like, 134 00:07:32,700 --> 00:07:35,600 tation and interviewing and what it's like to be a new nurse. 135 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:39,000 So now I have to provide different coaching and it's no 136 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:42,100 longer about NCLEX prep. Now it's just about like what is 137 00:07:42,100 --> 00:07:45,600 your voice in this unit? How do you fit into the culture? 138 00:07:46,100 --> 00:07:49,800 And then as those students then within the profession for about 139 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:52,900 two to three years but they wanted to be charge nurse and 140 00:07:52,900 --> 00:07:55,800 preceptor. And travel and do other things. 141 00:07:55,900 --> 00:07:59,500 Now, they're looking for me for more support that I have to do 142 00:07:59,500 --> 00:08:02,400 something different. And so with each stage that my 143 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:06,100 client grew, I had to grow. And that's kind of where I'm at 144 00:08:06,100 --> 00:08:08,800 now. And so in the process of 145 00:08:08,800 --> 00:08:12,500 growing, I got a coach because I needed help with scaling. 146 00:08:12,600 --> 00:08:15,300 I am an educator. I know how to educate. 147 00:08:15,300 --> 00:08:17,900 I know how to speak running a business. 148 00:08:17,900 --> 00:08:20,700 Is not what I know. That's it. 149 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:23,500 That's not it. It's so I needed help. 150 00:08:24,100 --> 00:08:28,400 And I looked for help and my business coach is also a mindset 151 00:08:28,400 --> 00:08:32,000 coach because to her you can't have one without the other. 152 00:08:32,600 --> 00:08:34,200 And that's not what I was looking for. 153 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:38,000 I just wanted somebody to help me like with marketing and 154 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:43,200 Facebook ads and funnels in like freebies, I wouldn't that and 155 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:46,400 she's like I'm going to give you that, but let's also talk about 156 00:08:46,400 --> 00:08:48,700 your limiting beliefs, your mindset. 157 00:08:48,700 --> 00:08:51,200 How are you showing up? How are you serving? 158 00:08:51,400 --> 00:08:55,600 What is your energy type? And I'm like, oh This, I like 159 00:08:55,600 --> 00:08:58,900 this piece and so, I started incorporating what I was 160 00:08:58,900 --> 00:09:03,900 learning about mindset and I honed in on emotional 161 00:09:03,900 --> 00:09:07,800 intelligence because to me, that is the umbrella of everything 162 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:11,100 that we do as humans. Whether you are a nurse, whether 163 00:09:11,100 --> 00:09:14,300 you are an entrepreneur, whether you are a mom, whether you're, 164 00:09:14,300 --> 00:09:17,000 you know, whatever, emotional intelligence really is that 165 00:09:17,000 --> 00:09:18,900 common thread in all those pieces. 166 00:09:18,900 --> 00:09:23,000 And so, that's what I focus on, in my business, specifically for 167 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:26,200 nurses. Oh yeah, so if you were to take 168 00:09:26,200 --> 00:09:29,300 a new nurse that's like, okay, I've heard this word emotional 169 00:09:29,300 --> 00:09:31,100 intelligence. What does it mean? 170 00:09:31,200 --> 00:09:32,900 What does it look like? How does it look? 171 00:09:32,900 --> 00:09:35,400 What does it look like for me to understand my own emotional 172 00:09:35,400 --> 00:09:37,800 intelligence? How would you kind of start her 173 00:09:37,800 --> 00:09:40,200 down the road towards figuring that out? 174 00:09:40,500 --> 00:09:43,500 The emotional intelligence is recognizing managing your own 175 00:09:43,500 --> 00:09:46,100 emotions in a positive way so you can recognize and manage 176 00:09:46,100 --> 00:09:48,500 other people's emotions, right? It's cool. 177 00:09:48,500 --> 00:09:52,200 Being able to be the calm in the midst of the storm, NASA that 178 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:55,400 you can calm the storm. You can ride the wave, that is 179 00:09:55,400 --> 00:09:58,500 what emotional intelligence is, right? 180 00:09:58,600 --> 00:10:03,800 And so specifically, in nursing because everything we do is in 181 00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:07,600 regards to someone else, whether we are direct patient care, 182 00:10:07,800 --> 00:10:10,000 whether we are management, whether we are in 183 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:13,100 entrepreneurship, what we're doing is providing a service for 184 00:10:13,100 --> 00:10:14,600 someone else. Right? 185 00:10:14,700 --> 00:10:17,700 And so I can't be a good manager. 186 00:10:17,700 --> 00:10:21,900 If I don't understand how to lead, I can't be a good nurse if 187 00:10:21,900 --> 00:10:25,300 I don't understand that the Person that's acting out. 188 00:10:25,300 --> 00:10:28,500 It's doing it because they don't have control of themselves, it 189 00:10:28,500 --> 00:10:32,000 has nothing to do with me. Personally, I cannot ask 190 00:10:32,000 --> 00:10:34,800 questions as a new nurse. If I don't have the confidence 191 00:10:34,800 --> 00:10:37,300 in myself, right? And so that Common Thread is 192 00:10:37,300 --> 00:10:40,100 emotional intelligence. But first, I need to recognize, 193 00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:43,500 what a, my thoughts and my feelings in this moment, why am 194 00:10:43,500 --> 00:10:46,600 I interpreting this moment like this and then what can I do in 195 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:50,700 this moment to manage me so that I can solve the moment? 196 00:10:51,100 --> 00:10:54,500 It's more, I can strap them. That's really what emotional 197 00:10:54,500 --> 00:10:57,000 intelligence is. I think a lot of times we 198 00:10:57,000 --> 00:11:00,600 recognize what we feel, we may even recognize the why we feel 199 00:11:00,600 --> 00:11:02,900 this way, like we know what our triggers are. 200 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:06,600 But then we sent her our emotions in the midst of this 201 00:11:06,700 --> 00:11:10,500 problem, which is not the antecedent to the problem, 202 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:13,500 right? Emotions is just our 203 00:11:13,500 --> 00:11:15,500 interpretation of what's Happening. 204 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:18,900 You can choose to react, we can choose to respond. 205 00:11:18,900 --> 00:11:22,600 We can choose to let this person annoy me, but we can't Center 206 00:11:22,700 --> 00:11:24,600 how we feel. Well in the midst of this 207 00:11:24,800 --> 00:11:28,000 because then we don't get to the problem solving, we don't get to 208 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:30,800 the decision, making, you don't get to the critical thinking. 209 00:11:30,800 --> 00:11:33,500 We don't get to the resolution and that's what emotional 210 00:11:33,500 --> 00:11:35,400 intelligence is. Yeah. 211 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:39,700 And it's the understanding of yourself, right? 212 00:11:39,700 --> 00:11:42,800 I think it's really sitting alone figuring out. 213 00:11:42,800 --> 00:11:45,300 This is my trigger. This is why I feel this way 214 00:11:46,100 --> 00:11:49,500 giving a name to those things. And then again, instead of 215 00:11:49,500 --> 00:11:53,400 sitting there and either becoming a victim complaining 216 00:11:53,500 --> 00:11:58,200 Focusing in on everyone around you holding you back, you can 217 00:11:58,200 --> 00:12:02,100 then move into the empowerment phase which is how do I change 218 00:12:02,100 --> 00:12:05,800 the situation for myself? How do I adjust the situation 219 00:12:05,800 --> 00:12:09,000 for me? And I think that is so big 220 00:12:09,000 --> 00:12:13,700 because this is as you said the crutch of or why people go into, 221 00:12:13,700 --> 00:12:16,600 you know, I want to start a business but it's like. 222 00:12:16,600 --> 00:12:17,000 Whoa, whoa! Whoa! 223 00:12:17,000 --> 00:12:20,500 Hold on a second. We need to talk about the steps 224 00:12:20,500 --> 00:12:24,600 up into that point and what you are trying to Prioritize by 225 00:12:24,600 --> 00:12:28,000 starting this business and I've heard you say another podcast 226 00:12:28,000 --> 00:12:30,700 before that, you had three domains that were really 227 00:12:30,700 --> 00:12:33,700 important to you. And those were how you were 228 00:12:33,700 --> 00:12:36,900 operating, the decisions you were making out of your life. 229 00:12:36,900 --> 00:12:39,800 And I think that that is that has such a high level of 230 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:42,800 emotional intelligence that I think every nurse that's 231 00:12:42,800 --> 00:12:45,200 thinking about starting a business wanting to like, how do 232 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:49,700 I get going needs to sit in and figure out what are the goals in 233 00:12:49,700 --> 00:12:53,400 the priorities that I am moving towards begin with the end in 234 00:12:53,600 --> 00:12:56,500 Mind and then work back from that spot. 235 00:12:56,700 --> 00:12:59,900 And so I kind of wanted to know if you would walk us through how 236 00:12:59,900 --> 00:13:03,800 you did that in regards to your business and what those three 237 00:13:03,800 --> 00:13:06,800 domains were that you were like, all right, this is what I'm 238 00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:09,200 focused in on. Now, let me walk the plan back 239 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:12,100 and incorporate my work into my life. 240 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:16,700 So I first want to say that entrepreneurship is not an 241 00:13:16,700 --> 00:13:21,800 Escape Route. I think a lot of people say I'm 242 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:23,300 just going to go into business for myself. 243 00:13:23,500 --> 00:13:29,500 Because tired of work at that sigh, whatever the case may be, 244 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:33,400 entrepreneurship is probably worse than working for somebody 245 00:13:33,400 --> 00:13:39,200 else because you're working for yourself and is 24 hours, seven 246 00:13:39,200 --> 00:13:42,000 days a week. And everybody is your boss, 247 00:13:42,200 --> 00:13:43,600 right? So, you went from having one 248 00:13:43,600 --> 00:13:47,100 manager to having every single client and customer you serve. 249 00:13:47,100 --> 00:13:50,300 Now being your boss because you're providing service to 250 00:13:50,300 --> 00:13:52,400 them. And the purpose of having a 251 00:13:52,400 --> 00:13:55,700 business is to say, Answer a problem and so you need your 252 00:13:55,700 --> 00:14:00,500 customers and your clients, tell you what the problem is and you 253 00:14:00,500 --> 00:14:05,600 know, it's a never-ending job. It's so if you are not aware of 254 00:14:05,600 --> 00:14:09,100 the role you play in the toxicity, you're running away 255 00:14:09,100 --> 00:14:14,000 from that's going to follow you, no matter where you go and what 256 00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:16,900 I've learned because I'm really being, it's a universal law. 257 00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:19,000 I'm really big into human design. 258 00:14:20,000 --> 00:14:24,100 What I've learned is the universe or God or A source or 259 00:14:24,100 --> 00:14:27,400 whoever, your higher power is, it's going to continue to give 260 00:14:27,400 --> 00:14:29,500 you the same lesson, if you haven't learned it. 261 00:14:30,000 --> 00:14:32,800 And that lesson may not necessarily look the same every 262 00:14:32,800 --> 00:14:35,900 time, but the meaning and the purpose behind the lesson is 263 00:14:35,900 --> 00:14:37,900 going to be the same. If you have not learned it. 264 00:14:38,100 --> 00:14:41,900 And so, while you were at work and you ignored all those flags, 265 00:14:41,900 --> 00:14:45,000 the yellow flag, their orange flag burgundy flag before you 266 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:48,900 came red and you're like well I'm leaving, okay, well, those 267 00:14:48,900 --> 00:14:51,500 things are going to show up as an entrepreneur. 268 00:14:52,100 --> 00:14:56,700 You may do Statics really well but you may have a pissy 269 00:14:56,700 --> 00:14:59,900 attitude and you had a pissy attitude at your other job, and 270 00:14:59,900 --> 00:15:01,900 that's why nobody likes you. And that's why they treated you 271 00:15:01,900 --> 00:15:03,400 that way. Not to say that it's correct. 272 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:05,800 But, you know, cause and effect and that's why you left. 273 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:08,800 But now you're here and you still don't know how to manage 274 00:15:08,800 --> 00:15:10,800 your emotions and you still don't know how to talk to people 275 00:15:10,800 --> 00:15:14,200 and you still a Negative Nancy and you still, you know, Center 276 00:15:14,200 --> 00:15:16,400 yourself in the midst of other people's problems. 277 00:15:16,400 --> 00:15:19,800 And you're wondering why you can't scale you wondering why 278 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:21,500 people aren't returning your calls. 279 00:15:21,500 --> 00:15:23,300 You're wondering why your clients aren't coming. 280 00:15:23,500 --> 00:15:26,100 Back and being loyal to the business because he don't like 281 00:15:26,100 --> 00:15:31,400 you because you don't, you don't know you and you don't see you 282 00:15:31,400 --> 00:15:34,500 in other people's eyes, right? And that's emotional 283 00:15:34,500 --> 00:15:37,600 intelligence and that is, that's the big thing. 284 00:15:37,600 --> 00:15:44,800 So, for me, it was first and foremost, how can I be the 285 00:15:44,800 --> 00:15:48,900 consummate self-aware person ever like, how can I get to Know 286 00:15:48,900 --> 00:15:51,800 Tiffany on a deep level and that included therapy? 287 00:15:52,100 --> 00:15:54,800 That included breaking up? With my boyfriend multiple times 288 00:15:54,800 --> 00:15:57,400 if I was going through stuff and he was like, what is happening 289 00:15:57,400 --> 00:15:58,800 over here? Like, this is not what I signed 290 00:15:58,800 --> 00:16:03,700 up for call me when you get yourself together and it went 291 00:16:03,700 --> 00:16:06,200 through mom, guilt and went to alive with me. 292 00:16:06,200 --> 00:16:10,200 Through me leaving my job as a nurse professional, educator at 293 00:16:10,200 --> 00:16:12,500 the hospital and trying something different and 294 00:16:12,500 --> 00:16:15,300 realizing, I don't like that. Let's, let's go back over here. 295 00:16:15,300 --> 00:16:20,200 So I spend a lot of my energy and my intention and my self 296 00:16:20,200 --> 00:16:24,600 improvement which is domain 1. Don't awareness self 297 00:16:24,600 --> 00:16:26,900 improvement. How can I learn more about me? 298 00:16:27,100 --> 00:16:29,000 How can I learn more about my triggers? 299 00:16:29,200 --> 00:16:32,400 How can I learn more about just the psychology of human 300 00:16:32,400 --> 00:16:35,300 behavior? How can I learn more about why 301 00:16:35,300 --> 00:16:38,100 these things happen? Like, hey, that's like to spend 302 00:16:38,100 --> 00:16:41,000 a lot of my personal professional development and 303 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:44,600 that self-awareness domain. Then the next is the management 304 00:16:44,600 --> 00:16:47,500 piece. So now that I know what the 305 00:16:47,500 --> 00:16:50,900 emotions are and I can name them and identify them and tell you 306 00:16:50,908 --> 00:16:52,000 where they come from and all that other. 307 00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:56,400 Good stuff, how do I manage it? And what does that look like and 308 00:16:56,400 --> 00:16:59,800 manage it in a positive way? Drinking a whole bottle of wine 309 00:16:59,800 --> 00:17:02,700 is not positive management that is masking. 310 00:17:03,200 --> 00:17:07,200 But how do I sit there at the root and feel all the feels in 311 00:17:07,200 --> 00:17:10,200 control my controllables and, and how can I do that? 312 00:17:10,200 --> 00:17:12,900 Well, that that takes a lot of work and that takes a lot of 313 00:17:12,900 --> 00:17:15,700 time and that's, that's where the healing is, you know, people 314 00:17:15,700 --> 00:17:17,800 like Do the work. That's the worst part. 315 00:17:17,800 --> 00:17:22,700 Yeah, that's the weird part. And so managing myself, also 316 00:17:22,700 --> 00:17:27,099 meant identifying what, my boundaries are my 317 00:17:27,099 --> 00:17:30,700 non-negotiables are and where my Integrity lies. 318 00:17:31,700 --> 00:17:38,200 Mmm, because There could be an opportunity for me that I can 319 00:17:38,200 --> 00:17:41,100 take because it has high position. 320 00:17:41,100 --> 00:17:45,300 Hype Authority, High Authority, High salary, but if it's taking 321 00:17:45,300 --> 00:17:49,500 away my peace, then why am I here, right? 322 00:17:49,500 --> 00:17:53,600 And and so just realizing like this is a non-negotiable for me, 323 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:56,500 I'm not going to do it. These are my boundaries and 324 00:17:56,500 --> 00:17:59,700 recognizing that boundaries are a commitment to myself. 325 00:17:59,700 --> 00:18:01,600 Boundaries are not rules for other people. 326 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:06,200 We sometimes misconstrue that And then realizing what my 327 00:18:06,200 --> 00:18:11,500 ultimate desires are, which I like to call my my values right 328 00:18:11,800 --> 00:18:15,700 time, Freedom, recreational, freedom, and Financial Freedom. 329 00:18:16,800 --> 00:18:19,400 To do what I want when I want how I want. 330 00:18:19,700 --> 00:18:24,400 That's how I want to live my life and so being a nurse and 331 00:18:24,400 --> 00:18:27,900 the education that I have and how I want to serve nurses, and 332 00:18:27,900 --> 00:18:29,700 how I want to show up in the nurse Community. 333 00:18:30,100 --> 00:18:34,200 But still be in alignment with my ultimate desires, my three 334 00:18:34,200 --> 00:18:37,000 domains, what does that look like? 335 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:43,900 And in order for me to have the two intersect, I need it to 336 00:18:44,500 --> 00:18:48,200 unleash the tradition and the conventions of what nursing 337 00:18:48,200 --> 00:18:51,900 education should look like, and just do it on my own, which is 338 00:18:51,900 --> 00:18:54,500 what I'm doing. Now, being self-employed working 339 00:18:54,500 --> 00:18:57,500 from home. So now I can do what I want when 340 00:18:57,500 --> 00:19:01,100 I want how I want, right? I can consult. 341 00:19:01,100 --> 00:19:03,200 When I want, I can charge what I want. 342 00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:07,400 I can do interviews when I want and show up in the world and 343 00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:11,500 still prioritize family and still prioritize me. 344 00:19:11,900 --> 00:19:14,800 And still take trips to Bali and not have to worry about PTO 345 00:19:14,800 --> 00:19:18,100 being approved. Like now I've Encompass what it 346 00:19:18,100 --> 00:19:19,900 is. That my ultimate desires look 347 00:19:19,900 --> 00:19:26,300 like while still being a nurse But it just blows me away. 348 00:19:26,300 --> 00:19:30,300 I get emotional, hearing it because it is so well, thought 349 00:19:30,300 --> 00:19:33,500 through like, you can tell. You've done the work. 350 00:19:33,500 --> 00:19:37,000 I mean, that is essentially what you were describing, as you were 351 00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:41,100 talking about how you had to kind of sit alone and figure out 352 00:19:41,100 --> 00:19:44,200 with with a lens of self-awareness with a mirror. 353 00:19:44,400 --> 00:19:47,000 Like, who am I? Like, what? 354 00:19:47,100 --> 00:19:49,900 What are my issues? Because my dad always said this 355 00:19:50,000 --> 00:19:51,900 wherever you go. There you are. 356 00:19:53,800 --> 00:19:56,500 Yeah, every you go, there you are. 357 00:19:56,700 --> 00:20:00,500 And so just because you move into a different role, does it 358 00:20:00,500 --> 00:20:02,800 mean at the problems of your job disappear? 359 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:05,800 They don't, they follow you because they follow. 360 00:20:05,800 --> 00:20:08,100 You you are the part of the world. 361 00:20:08,300 --> 00:20:12,300 And so as you sit alone and you figure out like, why do these 362 00:20:12,300 --> 00:20:15,100 things trigger me? I do think to a certain degree, 363 00:20:15,300 --> 00:20:18,400 sometimes entrepreneurship looks like this out. 364 00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:21,900 Like, oh, this is the out that you want for your career and 365 00:20:22,100 --> 00:20:25,200 it's not It's got to be something that you scale slowly. 366 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:28,600 But again, you've got to do that self work to figure out. 367 00:20:28,600 --> 00:20:31,000 Really, what are you aiming for? What are you trying to shoot 368 00:20:31,000 --> 00:20:32,700 for? What are you trying to solve? 369 00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:35,700 And how does this bring something to others that? 370 00:20:35,800 --> 00:20:38,600 Yes, helps me achieve my goals, but I've got to help others get 371 00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:42,000 to their goals to, I can't can't just be about me making my best 372 00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:44,800 life. It has to be about other things, 373 00:20:44,800 --> 00:20:46,500 right? Absolutely. 374 00:20:46,500 --> 00:20:52,300 It even if even if you go into nursing entrepreneurship, just 375 00:20:52,300 --> 00:20:56,700 for the Honey, let's just say right going it to chase the bag. 376 00:20:56,700 --> 00:20:58,500 I hate that term but you know, it's it. 377 00:20:58,500 --> 00:21:01,000 Everybody said six figures and chasing the bag of the money, 378 00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:04,900 the money, the money, which is very superficial right. 379 00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:07,500 But there's still something underneath that. 380 00:21:07,500 --> 00:21:10,000 Why that money is so valuable to me. 381 00:21:10,900 --> 00:21:15,300 And so if the intent is to go into nursing or entrepreneurship 382 00:21:15,300 --> 00:21:19,300 for the money because you have the ability to make a lot, Then 383 00:21:19,300 --> 00:21:22,500 I would implore you to think about what are you going to do 384 00:21:22,500 --> 00:21:24,700 with that money? Because it can't be about buying 385 00:21:24,700 --> 00:21:30,300 bags and shoes and taking trips. Is it because you want to 386 00:21:30,300 --> 00:21:32,700 experience life on a different level? 387 00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:38,400 Is it because you want to be able to afford tuition for your 388 00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:41,300 child? Is it because you want to be 389 00:21:41,300 --> 00:21:43,600 able to get out of debt and buy your first home. 390 00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:47,500 Like there's still a root cause behind chasing the bag. 391 00:21:47,500 --> 00:21:49,900 There's still something. Behind that, did you grow up in 392 00:21:49,900 --> 00:21:52,800 private property? And so you were trying to rub 393 00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:55,500 two nickels together. And now you have the opportunity 394 00:21:55,500 --> 00:21:57,700 to make a lot of money in a short amount of time. 395 00:21:57,700 --> 00:21:59,800 So you want to Revel in that, right? 396 00:21:59,800 --> 00:22:03,400 And you want to wear clothes or drive a car so that other people 397 00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:08,000 can see that you have reached this, this whatever Pinnacle or 398 00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:10,400 level of success. That something there. 399 00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:12,600 So that means you never felt validated. 400 00:22:12,900 --> 00:22:15,500 That means you didn't you are recognized. 401 00:22:15,700 --> 00:22:18,300 That means, you know, you were always quieted. 402 00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:23,200 For you know so there's always something there it made look and 403 00:22:23,200 --> 00:22:25,400 start off as superficial but there's something there. 404 00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:30,300 So the work is figuring out what that root cause is because it's 405 00:22:30,300 --> 00:22:33,200 not always what you think it is and then once you find out what 406 00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:37,700 your ultimate desires of life's are like your domains and how 407 00:22:37,700 --> 00:22:41,700 you want to operate, then every decision that you make should 408 00:22:41,700 --> 00:22:46,500 fall into that. Every yes, in every no is 409 00:22:46,500 --> 00:22:49,600 because I'm getting closer to my ultimate desires of Time, 410 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:51,200 Financial and recreational freedom. 411 00:22:51,900 --> 00:22:54,400 I love that. And one of the things that I 412 00:22:54,408 --> 00:22:57,300 always like to focus in on because I noticed that one of my 413 00:22:57,300 --> 00:23:00,700 best listen to podcast episodes was someone who was basically 414 00:23:00,700 --> 00:23:05,500 just spitting out truth on business and what he was Finding 415 00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:08,900 were the best and the worst things to do and little tips and 416 00:23:08,900 --> 00:23:10,900 tricks. But I wanted to know if we could 417 00:23:10,900 --> 00:23:13,300 pivot a little bit and talk about in your business. 418 00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:17,200 Enos what has been the most difficult aspect that you've had 419 00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:21,800 to master in developing the new nurse academy. 420 00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:25,400 Again, I heard you say constantly having to revamp 421 00:23:25,500 --> 00:23:27,500 re-determine, what do people need for me? 422 00:23:27,500 --> 00:23:30,200 Okay, let me build that so that I can solve that problem for 423 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:31,600 them. You were describing that 424 00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:35,500 process, which is so tedious so much work, trying to figure out 425 00:23:35,500 --> 00:23:38,800 the need. But even from like a business 426 00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:44,200 marketing advertising SEO, Facebook ads, like What's been 427 00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:48,500 the most difficult part? You've had to manage literally 428 00:23:48,500 --> 00:23:53,500 being so arrogant that people will want to hire me just 429 00:23:53,500 --> 00:23:57,500 because I'm good. And that I in that I don't have 430 00:23:57,500 --> 00:24:02,100 to put out the work or the effort or the ads eilers to get 431 00:24:02,100 --> 00:24:06,500 people to find me, right? So it's two things happening at 432 00:24:06,500 --> 00:24:09,900 the same time. I don't know business, I don't 433 00:24:09,900 --> 00:24:11,700 know. Advertising marketing promo. 434 00:24:12,500 --> 00:24:16,400 I need to learn that but then also be very self-righteous and 435 00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:19,300 say, I'm good, I know, I'm good. I know I'm Greeks, I'm going to 436 00:24:19,308 --> 00:24:22,000 raising educator. And so the people will find me, 437 00:24:22,800 --> 00:24:27,000 they're going to me, and they're going to work with me because I 438 00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:29,100 am what they need. But then, how are they going to 439 00:24:29,108 --> 00:24:30,800 find me? How are they gonna find you to 440 00:24:31,900 --> 00:24:32,900 do? They even know that you're out 441 00:24:32,900 --> 00:24:36,500 there to be found like so you can't have one without the 442 00:24:36,500 --> 00:24:39,700 other. So also learning that I can't do 443 00:24:39,700 --> 00:24:43,300 it all, I learn how to code. I did my own website. 444 00:24:43,300 --> 00:24:46,000 I was learning just like, trying to take all these courses on how 445 00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:48,000 to do Google ads, and Facebook ads. 446 00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:51,300 And I'm like, if you don't hire somebody off of Up works and I 447 00:24:51,300 --> 00:24:54,000 find somebody who this is their Ministry and this is their 448 00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:58,400 genius and so that it takes time and stress off of you that you 449 00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:00,400 can then do what it is that you want to do. 450 00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:04,300 I can't be a CEO of my business and still work in my business. 451 00:25:04,300 --> 00:25:06,600 I can't work on my business and work in my business. 452 00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:10,400 I can't do both and I had to learn that the hard way because 453 00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:13,600 I was stressing myself. How just trying to figure out 454 00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:17,500 why the Jaguar hyperlink didn't work and the formed in upload, 455 00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:21,000 and the conversions is not happening, and I put in like, 456 00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:23,200 what am I doing? This is not what you want to do. 457 00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:25,500 All you want to do is just talk to people to educate. 458 00:25:25,700 --> 00:25:28,300 That's all you want to do, is teach so higher. 459 00:25:28,300 --> 00:25:31,500 The people who are good at the things that you are not good at 460 00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:33,200 that. Is how you're going to scale 461 00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:36,800 your business. But for me, it may be. 462 00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:39,300 This is other nurses to, we feel like we can do it all. 463 00:25:39,300 --> 00:25:43,500 We feel like because we're so good, clinically That that's so 464 00:25:43,500 --> 00:25:44,900 good. It's going to transfer 465 00:25:44,900 --> 00:25:49,100 automatically to business and that's not what transfers, the 466 00:25:49,100 --> 00:25:54,300 skill of being a nurse and the mindset of being a nurse. 467 00:25:54,300 --> 00:25:56,500 And the critical thinking of being a nurse, is what 468 00:25:56,500 --> 00:26:00,800 translates into business. The operations, and the 469 00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:05,600 logistics of business is not the same as two operations in the 470 00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:09,100 logistics of being a nurse. And so I was trying to do it all 471 00:26:09,100 --> 00:26:11,600 why, cuz it's my baby and nobody is going to think about it the 472 00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:12,500 way I think. About it. 473 00:26:12,500 --> 00:26:14,800 It's in my head and I have a vision and I could do it. 474 00:26:14,900 --> 00:26:18,500 Girl, if you don't go to fiver and hire somebody to do this 475 00:26:18,500 --> 00:26:22,700 graphic because you were spending 20 hours on canva, try 476 00:26:22,700 --> 00:26:26,600 to find the right hex code and try to find the right graphic if 477 00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:29,400 you don't just hire somebody. And so that has been the most 478 00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:33,900 challenging thing is like releasing control, but having 479 00:26:33,900 --> 00:26:37,100 control is, it's a trigger for me. 480 00:26:37,900 --> 00:26:40,900 But that's new. That's do too. 481 00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:46,600 Past stuff that I still am going through, but understanding that 482 00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:50,100 and doing the work I realized, where it comes from this need to 483 00:26:50,100 --> 00:26:54,900 always want to have control right in that. 484 00:26:54,900 --> 00:26:57,700 Let go of the reins because if it's going to mess up, it's 485 00:26:57,700 --> 00:27:01,000 going to mess up because of something that I did not because 486 00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:04,300 of something, you know, somebody else did and no one's going to 487 00:27:04,300 --> 00:27:06,900 put in the same amount of time and effort like me and my baby. 488 00:27:06,900 --> 00:27:10,100 That's not true. Yes. 489 00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:12,400 Hey guys. Guys, and thanks for listening 490 00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:14,400 to another episode. The doctor's podcasts 491 00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:17,200 unscripted, I would like to take this time to let you guys know 492 00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:20,600 about the doctor nurse podcast, website on this website. 493 00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:23,400 I have free resources for nurses that are looking to up their 494 00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:25,300 career, maybe start a side hustle. 495 00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:29,700 I also have my Etsy shop where I've created really cute digital 496 00:27:29,700 --> 00:27:33,000 downloads for nurse practitioners in regards to 497 00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:38,200 life, pregnancy planning, as well as portraits guys, check 498 00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:42,900 out my resources at the doctor's podcast.com On and let's get 499 00:27:42,900 --> 00:27:45,600 back to the episode that that has been the most company can do 500 00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:48,500 it faster than you doesn't mean that they're not putting in the 501 00:27:48,500 --> 00:27:50,200 same work in. But that's the other thing too, 502 00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:52,700 man. It's like I feel like I slaved 503 00:27:52,700 --> 00:27:56,500 over that therefore, I get like an award because I slaved I did 504 00:27:56,500 --> 00:27:59,500 my own personal slave work on that and it's like, so the work 505 00:27:59,500 --> 00:28:03,800 got done, either way like except for the stress part that you 506 00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:07,000 just now where this little badge of honor, it just continues to 507 00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:09,600 boost up pride and ego. And you think that like oh look 508 00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:12,700 what I've done but in fact, Fact it's not really doing that. 509 00:28:12,700 --> 00:28:16,100 It just realizing Sandra how much control you got in your 510 00:28:16,100 --> 00:28:18,300 life. You don't have a lot, you really 511 00:28:18,300 --> 00:28:21,200 don't. And the more that you realize, I 512 00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:25,800 mean, having a baby is like the biggest lesson in like I have 513 00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:27,600 absolutely no control of this is going. 514 00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:29,400 You think that things are going bad? 515 00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:31,000 And she comes out. She's like what? 516 00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:33,500 I'm fine y'all freaking out a not going on. 517 00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:36,500 And, you know, I love people, like you look so skinny, you're 518 00:28:36,500 --> 00:28:38,900 not diabetic. I'm like, I'm diabetic, is I'll 519 00:28:38,900 --> 00:28:41,000 get out. You have no idea what it's like. 520 00:28:41,300 --> 00:28:44,800 Is have no control. And I think that's was, probably 521 00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:48,600 one of the hardest lessons, and probably the most humbling 522 00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:51,100 lesson that I learned through the birth of my son. 523 00:28:51,100 --> 00:28:53,800 And again, just reverberates over and over again, I have to 524 00:28:53,808 --> 00:28:56,700 remind myself. You are in control of none of 525 00:28:56,700 --> 00:28:59,000 it. It is kind of going back to you 526 00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:01,600 were saying, you know, like the universe for me it's God. 527 00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:04,900 Like God is in control of what's Happening Here, do you? 528 00:29:05,500 --> 00:29:07,100 Yes. The only thing you can control 529 00:29:07,100 --> 00:29:10,700 it yourself. The only can control it 530 00:29:10,700 --> 00:29:14,400 yourself. Come on, not even, not even the 531 00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:16,400 kids that you breath. Can you control? 532 00:29:17,500 --> 00:29:20,600 You can manipulate you can persuade. 533 00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:23,000 You can bribe. You can wish and pray and hope 534 00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:25,100 and cross your fingers. Did you get even controls up? 535 00:29:26,300 --> 00:29:28,500 So true, you keep. Yeah. 536 00:29:29,100 --> 00:29:32,700 So and and and I love when you feel like you do all this, but 537 00:29:32,700 --> 00:29:35,500 it increases your anxiety and you wear this badge of honor. 538 00:29:35,500 --> 00:29:38,300 And but, you know, the only person who that who that is 539 00:29:38,300 --> 00:29:39,400 important. It was you. 540 00:29:39,500 --> 00:29:43,100 Nobody else cares. No one else cares. 541 00:29:43,100 --> 00:29:45,400 Who the who did they just want it done? 542 00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:48,300 No, one else sees the badge of honor and you're not getting an 543 00:29:48,300 --> 00:29:50,700 award for staying up. 18 hours. Getting it done. 544 00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:53,400 No one cares. You did that to yourself. 545 00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:58,700 And we do this to ourselves and as a lot of nurses are type a 546 00:29:58,700 --> 00:30:01,200 alpha females. Because of the control that we 547 00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:04,300 have in that environment you like them, we literally can 548 00:30:04,300 --> 00:30:06,600 control the environment. And even when the patient 549 00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:10,400 decompensates, we still there still a sense of organized 550 00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:12,900 chaos. And the sense of control. 551 00:30:14,300 --> 00:30:17,100 And if we try to bring that home, or we try to breathe that 552 00:30:17,100 --> 00:30:21,100 in our business and it's like, ah, that doesn't work over here. 553 00:30:21,700 --> 00:30:24,200 And that's why a lot of owners entrepreneurs. 554 00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:30,000 Don't pass a three-year mark. Wow, there's a three-year mark 555 00:30:31,500 --> 00:30:34,200 it business, new businesses. If you're going to fail, you're 556 00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:38,500 going to do so within the first few years, wow, you're going to 557 00:30:38,500 --> 00:30:41,500 end with lots of articles about that, right? 558 00:30:41,500 --> 00:30:43,800 If you're going to fail you're going to do it within the first 559 00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:45,800 the first three years. And so if you can make it past 560 00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:49,300 the three-year Mark you have a higher chance of succeeding. 561 00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:53,200 Wow. So the last question I want to 562 00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:59,200 ask in regards again to business As if you could focus in on one 563 00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:03,900 aspect of your business and just and say like this one is my 564 00:31:03,900 --> 00:31:06,000 golden ticket. I mean, it's just the thing that 565 00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:10,000 when I plug it plays, I mean, what would you say is something 566 00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:12,600 that you've noticed in your career that at least in your 567 00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:15,400 business, and in your new nurse academy business that's just 568 00:31:15,400 --> 00:31:17,900 been like, yeah, this is, this is gold. 569 00:31:17,900 --> 00:31:19,500 This one is really, really good for the nurse. 570 00:31:19,500 --> 00:31:21,000 That's just like, okay, I'm kind of struggling. 571 00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,200 Like I need an idea. I need something new to kind of 572 00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:25,500 like, help step up but you know, pepper. 573 00:31:25,700 --> 00:31:27,900 Stuff up around here. What would you recommend? 574 00:31:28,900 --> 00:31:32,500 But me, it's like, how do you want to show up in the world, 575 00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:36,400 right? And, and I learned through human 576 00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:40,400 design, that everybody has an energy profile, how you were 577 00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:44,700 genetically, determined to just be you, your authentic self for 578 00:31:44,700 --> 00:31:48,000 me. I know that when I open my mouth 579 00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:54,800 and I talk people go, listen, it doesn't matter where I'm at. if 580 00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:59,500 I, if I can, if I have the opportunity to hold an audience, 581 00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:05,900 It everything I touch is gold that that and that's probably 582 00:32:05,900 --> 00:32:08,800 why my social media specifically my Instagram. 583 00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:13,300 I have such a really good connection with the people who 584 00:32:13,300 --> 00:32:15,400 follow me and I don't think that I'm a Creator. 585 00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:18,600 I don't think that I'm an influencer, I'm an educator, but 586 00:32:18,600 --> 00:32:22,000 when I speak it's authentic and people recognize that. 587 00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:24,500 Even if I'm talking about what I'm doing over the weekend and 588 00:32:24,500 --> 00:32:29,600 it's nothing nurse related people, enjoy how I store Ito. 589 00:32:29,900 --> 00:32:34,500 And how I deliver messages and so, no matter what it is, we can 590 00:32:34,500 --> 00:32:36,500 be talking about the Itsy Bitsy Spider. 591 00:32:37,100 --> 00:32:39,200 We going to talk about this itsy bitsy spider, you're going to 592 00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:44,000 love it at the end that works for me for other people. 593 00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:46,200 Public speaking is not their thing. 594 00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:49,000 They can't Plug and Play that. They're really good with words. 595 00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:52,400 They're really good with copy, so blogging emailing, 596 00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:58,100 newsletters is where they shine. I want nurses to understand that 597 00:32:58,100 --> 00:33:02,200 as you pivot into business Yes, you don't have to use other 598 00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:04,200 people's templates to Plug and Play. 599 00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:09,000 You see someone and you see that they're successful, where they 600 00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:11,900 appear to be successful or what, success looks like for you. 601 00:33:11,900 --> 00:33:14,000 First of all, you don't know what's happening behind the 602 00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:18,200 scenes, you're only seeing what they want you to see, but to 603 00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:20,600 they're showing up as their true authentic. 604 00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:24,900 Self based on how they were created by God or the universe 605 00:33:24,900 --> 00:33:27,400 or scores, that is their energetic profile. 606 00:33:27,600 --> 00:33:31,900 And that's why it hits for them. It's so you can't take somebody 607 00:33:31,900 --> 00:33:34,200 else's Playbook and run your own play. 608 00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:37,600 No, you got to figure out your own X's and O's. 609 00:33:38,500 --> 00:33:41,500 Yeah, you have to figure out what works for you. 610 00:33:41,500 --> 00:33:44,400 So that's me. So I like teaching, I like 611 00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:47,200 teaching in different ways, I have Consulting, I have 612 00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:50,400 communities, I have coaching, and that's how I show up to 613 00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:54,700 teach. And when I speak the connection 614 00:33:54,700 --> 00:33:57,800 that I make with people is just undeniable. 615 00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:01,300 And so, that is something that I'm going to continue to do in 616 00:34:01,300 --> 00:34:04,800 my business in all aspects, whether it's business apps, I 617 00:34:04,808 --> 00:34:07,800 had were business-to-business. Put me in front of the room 618 00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:11,199 coach. Yeah, give me the mic coach. 619 00:34:11,199 --> 00:34:12,300 I got it. I got it from. 620 00:34:13,600 --> 00:34:15,600 And how did you discover this about yourself? 621 00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:17,699 Was it just something that again, through that 622 00:34:17,699 --> 00:34:20,199 self-awareness through that? Emotional intelligence, you 623 00:34:20,199 --> 00:34:23,199 begin to read how others were reading you, right? 624 00:34:23,199 --> 00:34:26,000 So a great big part of emotional intelligence and I believe 625 00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:28,900 self-awareness is how you're being perceived by others. 626 00:34:29,199 --> 00:34:32,100 It's kind of seeing how you are the thermostat in the room. 627 00:34:32,100 --> 00:34:34,600 How do I change the temperature when I'm in here, right? 628 00:34:34,699 --> 00:34:36,699 Right? And so as you were kind of 629 00:34:36,699 --> 00:34:38,900 learning about like, okay so I'm good at this. 630 00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:43,199 How is that reinforced? How is that made aware to 631 00:34:43,199 --> 00:34:45,100 yourself? Or was it just something that 632 00:34:45,100 --> 00:34:48,100 you stumbled upon or was it just kind of like you had Tom or a 633 00:34:48,107 --> 00:34:50,900 sister or a best friend that was just like you're really good at 634 00:34:50,900 --> 00:34:53,199 this and just you need to do this more. 635 00:34:54,000 --> 00:34:58,300 So I've always been stubborn and I've always been a leader That's 636 00:34:59,300 --> 00:35:02,500 from the beginning, like, little bit you to like babies, he's 637 00:35:02,500 --> 00:35:06,600 been like, this always been stubborn. 638 00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:09,800 I've always been a leader and as and I've always been really big 639 00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:12,200 into books reading education, knowledge. 640 00:35:12,500 --> 00:35:17,300 And so As I Grew just as I got older and I and I had more 641 00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:20,800 knowledge and more information. I was always the person that was 642 00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:22,000 like, let me tell you about this. 643 00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:23,900 Like oh, we just had useless facts. 644 00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:27,500 That was something I've always had and become a nurse. 645 00:35:27,700 --> 00:35:29,200 First degree is in public health. 646 00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:31,300 So my first degree is not even in nursing. 647 00:35:31,700 --> 00:35:35,200 And what I did with that degree with community health education, 648 00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:39,000 like let me break this down to you on a level that you 649 00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:40,900 understand. So you can make informed 650 00:35:40,900 --> 00:35:44,800 decisions, right? And so I've always been kind of 651 00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:48,900 just educating at some capacity in some way and it was in 652 00:35:48,900 --> 00:35:50,700 college. I had to take a public speaking 653 00:35:50,700 --> 00:35:52,900 class. It was like a requirement and I 654 00:35:52,908 --> 00:35:55,600 was amazing in that class and that's how I was like, uh, 655 00:35:56,500 --> 00:35:59,000 There's something here. There's some something here. 656 00:35:59,100 --> 00:36:03,900 Yeah, you're so how can I leverage my innate ability 657 00:36:04,200 --> 00:36:08,200 public speaking because it's an eight but then how can I hone 658 00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:11,600 it? And in Foster it but then use 659 00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:13,800 this information over here that I'm getting. 660 00:36:13,900 --> 00:36:17,900 Just in the professional World, being a public education, Public 661 00:36:17,900 --> 00:36:20,900 Health, educator being a nurse and then put the two together. 662 00:36:21,100 --> 00:36:24,400 Yeah, funnel funnel into my natural innate abilities. 663 00:36:25,300 --> 00:36:28,900 Becoming someone who's doing IV drips. 664 00:36:28,900 --> 00:36:31,900 Because it's the fastest way to six figures would not be 665 00:36:31,900 --> 00:36:33,300 something that I would be good at. 666 00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:36,300 And not because I don't know how to insert an IV or don't know 667 00:36:36,300 --> 00:36:39,300 how to mix vitamins together, it's because that's not what I 668 00:36:39,308 --> 00:36:42,500 was made to do. My innate gift is public 669 00:36:42,500 --> 00:36:45,100 speaking. So yes, cannot open up a 670 00:36:45,107 --> 00:36:48,800 storefront and offer a concierge IV hydration, or, you know, do 671 00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:50,700 whatever. I probably could. 672 00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:53,100 I think it's interesting. I think it's fun. 673 00:36:53,400 --> 00:36:54,800 Who doesn't want to make, you know? 674 00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:58,600 - fifty dollars an hour and, you know, like that's easy, good 675 00:36:58,600 --> 00:37:02,300 money but not a lot of heavy lifting involves, but at the end 676 00:37:02,300 --> 00:37:03,900 of the day, would I be fulfilled? 677 00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:10,300 So I would tell the nurses. What is your innate? 678 00:37:10,300 --> 00:37:13,200 What's innate to you outside of nursing? 679 00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:15,100 Take your nursing hat off. What's the Nate? 680 00:37:15,500 --> 00:37:19,200 Are you the person that like shows up early to the party? 681 00:37:19,200 --> 00:37:22,100 So you can help set up for you. The person that stays links you 682 00:37:22,100 --> 00:37:24,600 can help clean up. Are you the person that's always 683 00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:27,100 in the kitchen? That's cooking cleaning serving. 684 00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:28,900 Like you're the hostess with the mostest? 685 00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:32,500 Are you like, are you really good at connecting people 686 00:37:32,500 --> 00:37:35,200 together, like you match made all your friends. 687 00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:37,300 Like what? Is something that's innate to 688 00:37:37,300 --> 00:37:41,000 you. Then, that is how you deliver 689 00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:43,200 the skills that you get from nursing. 690 00:37:44,700 --> 00:37:49,400 That's how you marry the two. So I have this education over 691 00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:52,000 here, which is great. But then how do I deliver what's 692 00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:55,200 the method of delivery? The thing that I'm good at? 693 00:37:56,400 --> 00:38:00,000 And that's how you put the two together, but are you busy? 694 00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:04,900 My mind right now. Yes. 695 00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:08,200 If you don't know who you are, if you don't have that 696 00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:10,800 self-awareness, if you've never sat down with yourself and be 697 00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:15,000 like to, who are you, like, who are you two? 698 00:38:15,300 --> 00:38:18,100 If you don't have that, then you don't know what that looks like 699 00:38:18,100 --> 00:38:20,100 for you. And so, you plug and play other 700 00:38:20,100 --> 00:38:24,100 people's template, you plug and play other people's horses. 701 00:38:24,100 --> 00:38:29,400 And you see, you steal, you basically cut and paste other 702 00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:31,600 people's stuff. You never Dude, you never do 703 00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:33,800 this. Yes, yes. 704 00:38:35,100 --> 00:38:37,800 There's a spark. There's a flame but it doesn't 705 00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:41,600 turn into a fire and it will never turn into a fire because 706 00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:44,200 you're you need to wait for the other person to do something for 707 00:38:44,200 --> 00:38:46,000 you to see what they did. So that you can do what they 708 00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:48,100 did. It's not a it's not a pentacle, 709 00:38:48,100 --> 00:38:52,100 it's not genuine. People can read that people can 710 00:38:52,100 --> 00:38:54,400 see that. And I think that's why you draw 711 00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:58,100 people to you is through the genuine authenticity that then 712 00:38:58,100 --> 00:39:01,200 people going to go like oh this person knows themselves. 713 00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:05,800 And that's truly what we want is to be known and to be loved for 714 00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:08,900 who we really are. And the only way that you can be 715 00:39:08,900 --> 00:39:13,700 known is to know yourself and to spend that time doing the work. 716 00:39:13,700 --> 00:39:15,000 And that's why I talk about all the time. 717 00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:19,800 I podcast I encourage nurses to meditate to spend quiet time 718 00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:22,400 Alone, figure out what's going on. 719 00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:24,500 Am I happy here? Do I like this? 720 00:39:24,500 --> 00:39:26,600 What am I naturally? Good at what is the stuff that I 721 00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:29,300 do? That light me up and it's kind 722 00:39:29,300 --> 00:39:31,300 of weird and maybe nobody else does this way. 723 00:39:31,300 --> 00:39:34,200 But I really like this and I was talking to a girlfriend of mine 724 00:39:34,200 --> 00:39:36,900 and she was like, yeah, I was writing in clicks questions and 725 00:39:36,900 --> 00:39:39,000 I really liked it. And I was like, you liked 726 00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:42,200 writing class question. She's like, yeah, well, I did 727 00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:45,800 and it's like that, like weird and I can mission of like, they 728 00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:47,900 liked this. I can't believe I liked it that 729 00:39:47,900 --> 00:39:50,000 it's like go do that like whatever. 730 00:39:50,100 --> 00:39:52,900 Why that is that's for you, you got to do it. 731 00:39:52,900 --> 00:39:55,800 Hey and yeah, I think that's just such great advice. 732 00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:59,000 Tiffany and thank you so much for sharing that because I think 733 00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:02,700 you bring a lot of clarity for nurses that are trying to get 734 00:40:02,700 --> 00:40:05,700 something going and they are kind of plugging in playing 735 00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:09,200 other people's, you know, methods and they're like, why 736 00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:11,800 isn't it working? And it's like, no, no, we've got 737 00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:13,500 to get this. We got to put the horse before 738 00:40:13,500 --> 00:40:17,600 the cart like we can't just put this out there and think, oh, 739 00:40:17,600 --> 00:40:21,400 this is going to just create all this Spark And fireworks and 740 00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:24,100 it's going to be great. It's like no, no, no, no. 741 00:40:24,100 --> 00:40:27,700 We've got to we've got to work on you and so give me a like a 742 00:40:27,700 --> 00:40:31,600 like explain to me how you helped nurses in your programs 743 00:40:31,800 --> 00:40:35,700 because I think that a nurse that's like, okay, Tiffany what 744 00:40:35,700 --> 00:40:37,600 you got for me? How are you going to help me 745 00:40:38,300 --> 00:40:43,700 work through, who I am to get to that core, to get to the center, 746 00:40:43,700 --> 00:40:45,700 kind of describe to me, what your business does and how they 747 00:40:45,700 --> 00:40:49,300 help and where people can find you and reach you and get this. 748 00:40:49,500 --> 00:40:51,500 Yeah. Absolutely. 749 00:40:51,500 --> 00:40:55,700 So, for invention liquid in this Academy is an ecosystem. 750 00:40:55,700 --> 00:40:58,100 At this point provides, a whole bunch of different things. 751 00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:01,400 But for nurses, specifically, who are looking to work with me 752 00:41:01,400 --> 00:41:04,500 to grow in this capacity and their true authentic self. 753 00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:07,600 I have three different coaching communities depending on where 754 00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:09,800 you are on the Continuum of nursing. 755 00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:14,700 So, starting from my student nurses, because I think a lot of 756 00:41:14,700 --> 00:41:17,900 times they get left out, but if we can catch them while they're 757 00:41:17,900 --> 00:41:20,800 still in school their transition into the pit, Action will look a 758 00:41:20,808 --> 00:41:24,000 little bit different. And so for my, my nursing 759 00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:27,900 students, I send out a text message every day to help them 760 00:41:27,900 --> 00:41:31,100 with test-taking and NCLEX prep, but it's through the lens of 761 00:41:31,100 --> 00:41:34,500 emotional intelligence. So I am not going to sit there 762 00:41:34,500 --> 00:41:36,200 and regurgitate your lectures to you. 763 00:41:36,200 --> 00:41:38,300 I do like that. I used to do that and it does, 764 00:41:38,300 --> 00:41:40,900 it doesn't serve me. I don't like doing that anymore. 765 00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:43,200 So we're not going to talk about abg's and we're not going to 766 00:41:43,200 --> 00:41:46,600 talk about like, rhythms know, but we're going to talk about 767 00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:49,000 like what is your mindset before taking this test? 768 00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:51,200 And what is your home? Life looking like, as you 769 00:41:51,200 --> 00:41:53,600 prepare to study and what is your study Style? 770 00:41:53,600 --> 00:41:56,200 And what is your communication style and you're talking about 771 00:41:56,200 --> 00:41:59,000 affirmations and manifestation? But do you even believe that 772 00:41:59,000 --> 00:42:02,300 post that you reposted like it resonates with you. 773 00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:06,500 But does every fiber of your being believe that to be true? 774 00:42:06,600 --> 00:42:09,000 Because if that's not the case, then you're not manifesting 775 00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:11,000 anything. You're just saying words, that's 776 00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:12,800 all when. So those are the messages that I 777 00:42:12,808 --> 00:42:15,600 send out Monday through Friday via text and then they have the 778 00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:19,400 ability to text me back and we have a group coaching via Zoom 779 00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:20,900 where we go. Over case studies in the 780 00:42:20,900 --> 00:42:22,700 clinical things. And I do want to make sure you 781 00:42:22,700 --> 00:42:25,300 pass. So you know, each go by a Bee 782 00:42:25,300 --> 00:42:28,100 Gees, we will, but I don't want to regurgitate nursing school, 783 00:42:28,100 --> 00:42:30,400 right. I want to start getting you to 784 00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:34,600 into the mindset of being in tune with who you are. 785 00:42:34,800 --> 00:42:39,000 Because if test taking is stressful to you, what's going 786 00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:41,900 to happen when you have like live patients, to take care of. 787 00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:47,600 So let's let's work on managing stress now and what that looks 788 00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:50,200 like V emotional intelligence. So, that's one the text for 789 00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:53,000 Success Community. Then the personal piece of the 790 00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:56,300 club, which is my baby. I started this in 2019. 791 00:42:56,300 --> 00:42:59,400 This is for student and new to practice nurses to help them 792 00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:03,100 transition into the profession. But we focus on the five pillars 793 00:43:03,100 --> 00:43:06,300 of Life, health, wealth, business, love and family. 794 00:43:06,900 --> 00:43:12,300 And managing those five pillars because if you can manage that 795 00:43:12,900 --> 00:43:16,200 Then being a nurse is going to be easy for you to navigate, 796 00:43:16,400 --> 00:43:19,700 right? Because how you do, one thing is 797 00:43:19,700 --> 00:43:23,800 how you do all things. As what I want these new nurses 798 00:43:23,800 --> 00:43:28,700 to understand is you do not separate who you are on the unit 799 00:43:28,700 --> 00:43:31,200 and who you are at home. Just because you clocked out and 800 00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:33,700 took your scrubs off, that person is still the same. 801 00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:37,400 So how you manage conflict in the house is how you're going to 802 00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:42,200 manage conflict on the unit how how somebody talks to you. 803 00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:45,800 And you take that, you know, being buried by the doctor 804 00:43:45,800 --> 00:43:49,100 because they're a doctor, someone in your home or someone 805 00:43:49,100 --> 00:43:51,700 before in your life, has talked to you the same way and you 806 00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:55,800 Accepted it because they were an authority figure, right? 807 00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:58,300 And so that's what we focus a lot there. 808 00:43:58,800 --> 00:44:02,000 And then I have the emotional intelligent nurse Group, which 809 00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:04,700 is for future and current clinical leaders. 810 00:44:05,000 --> 00:44:09,100 So if you are charged precepting a supervisor, any type of 811 00:44:09,100 --> 00:44:12,900 clinical leader role, we talked about how you can leverage that 812 00:44:12,900 --> 00:44:16,000 role via emotional intelligence and everything. 813 00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:19,400 We do in that group is literally taking Concepts from the 814 00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:23,200 business industry. And from Psych Ecology and using 815 00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:27,600 human design to create what you look like in your role as a 816 00:44:27,600 --> 00:44:30,100 clinical leader. And so, those are my three 817 00:44:30,100 --> 00:44:32,500 coaching communities and that's how people can work with me. 818 00:44:32,900 --> 00:44:34,200 I love that. And I'm gonna tell you 819 00:44:34,200 --> 00:44:37,800 something. I spoke with the cedar nurse who 820 00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:40,100 describes, you as one of her mentors. 821 00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:46,700 And I, oh, I literally cried in that episode on air. 822 00:44:46,700 --> 00:44:51,200 I just like bawling because she's just so in tuned with 823 00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:54,100 herself. Of that, it makes you 824 00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:58,200 vulnerable, it just like opens up your heart and you're like, 825 00:44:58,500 --> 00:45:01,400 oh my goodness. I am just Tinder who like 826 00:45:01,400 --> 00:45:05,200 buttery soft gooey. Like because as she talks like 827 00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:08,600 you see her heart and you're just like, this is so beautiful 828 00:45:08,900 --> 00:45:13,300 and I know that you have done a level of work with her and it 829 00:45:13,300 --> 00:45:17,100 shows it shows. So clearly that she is in touch 830 00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:18,900 with exactly what matters to her. 831 00:45:19,100 --> 00:45:21,600 Why it matters and how she moves through her. 832 00:45:21,700 --> 00:45:25,900 Her career with that mindset at the Forefront of everything she 833 00:45:25,900 --> 00:45:28,500 does and it is beautiful to watch. 834 00:45:28,500 --> 00:45:34,600 Someone again go from a violin, a clarinet and a flute to just 835 00:45:34,600 --> 00:45:38,500 going like no I'm an orchestra like the whole thing works 836 00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:43,400 together and it is beautiful and I want more nurses as they are 837 00:45:43,400 --> 00:45:46,400 moving through their career Journeys to have that same 838 00:45:46,700 --> 00:45:50,000 thought process and that's why again this is not traditional 839 00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:52,800 for me I normally do like career Isn't tell me about how you got 840 00:45:52,800 --> 00:45:57,000 from A to B to C to D. But I really wanted you for this 841 00:45:57,000 --> 00:46:00,700 series of the doctors podcast. I really want to start focusing 842 00:46:00,700 --> 00:46:03,600 on, but listing in more on the heart. 843 00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:07,900 The core like, let's get us to that spot where we are, so 844 00:46:07,900 --> 00:46:11,900 understanding of who we are that, as the journey is 845 00:46:11,900 --> 00:46:16,800 happening around us. We are as you said, riding the 846 00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:19,300 waves. We're riding the waves because 847 00:46:19,300 --> 00:46:22,700 we can't control the journey it It look like the straight. 848 00:46:22,700 --> 00:46:25,200 Beautiful wine is like food. We did you think me an excuse 849 00:46:25,200 --> 00:46:27,700 me? It's a biggie. 850 00:46:29,500 --> 00:46:33,800 It is a whole EKG and EKG flatlines. 851 00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:38,200 That means there's no more life. And so emotional intelligence is 852 00:46:38,200 --> 00:46:41,700 not devoid of stress because life is going to life.it's, 853 00:46:42,100 --> 00:46:46,600 literally, how do you manage it? How do you navigate that? 854 00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:52,000 Because you it's going to do with this going to do and Once 855 00:46:52,000 --> 00:46:55,600 you have no more challenges, you're no longer growing. 856 00:46:57,000 --> 00:47:00,500 And if you're still, if you are in, if you are no longer growing 857 00:47:00,500 --> 00:47:04,900 then what are we doing? So you actually want a beat, you 858 00:47:04,900 --> 00:47:08,200 want to beat you want that QRS complex. 859 00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:12,600 You want to get down in The Valleys because what it is is 860 00:47:12,600 --> 00:47:16,300 pushing you forward, its progress, its progress. 861 00:47:16,700 --> 00:47:21,000 And after every Valley there is a peak but you don't stay up 862 00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:23,000 there long because something else happens, because there's 863 00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:25,600 always something is always something, literally this 864 00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:27,200 morning. I was saying to my boyfriend, 865 00:47:27,200 --> 00:47:31,400 like, you know, like I woke up to this message and I'm, and I'm 866 00:47:31,400 --> 00:47:35,300 trying to self-regulate, right? Because I emotional intelligence 867 00:47:35,300 --> 00:47:36,700 is a journey, it's not a destination. 868 00:47:36,700 --> 00:47:40,100 And so there's times, when did, it's easy for me to do in times 869 00:47:40,100 --> 00:47:44,300 when there's not and this morning, it was a moment where I 870 00:47:44,300 --> 00:47:47,800 needed to be contemplative and I needed to self-regulate because 871 00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:51,100 I got upset because of what someone else did and then I had 872 00:47:51,100 --> 00:47:53,800 to say to myself. Well, what was my responsibility 873 00:47:53,800 --> 00:47:56,500 in this? Did I do everything? 874 00:47:56,500 --> 00:48:00,800 I was supposed to do to make sure that this was clear and I 875 00:48:00,808 --> 00:48:03,100 didn't. And so while I'm upset that the 876 00:48:03,100 --> 00:48:07,000 other person did this, really what it comes down to is it 877 00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:10,900 started with me and my communication wasn't clear and 878 00:48:10,900 --> 00:48:13,800 I'm upset at the outcome, but I have to take responsibility and 879 00:48:13,800 --> 00:48:17,000 ownership and so I just need a moment to sit with that for a 880 00:48:17,008 --> 00:48:19,700 second and I'll make breakfast when I'm done. 881 00:48:21,200 --> 00:48:24,600 I have that I have to I have to sit with this for a second. 882 00:48:24,900 --> 00:48:28,000 I have to process this for a second and then and then I let 883 00:48:28,000 --> 00:48:31,200 it go when I get over it and then I move on and that solution 884 00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:34,700 intelligence. Yeah, man, that is so good. 885 00:48:35,200 --> 00:48:38,900 So for every episode I do rapid fire and we're going to end it 886 00:48:38,900 --> 00:48:41,700 on that because that is just the perfect point and that is 887 00:48:41,700 --> 00:48:43,900 emotional intelligence. I mean, I couldn't do any better 888 00:48:43,900 --> 00:48:45,800 if I tried like Oprah moments. Beautiful. 889 00:48:46,000 --> 00:48:49,300 So, I want to just do rapid fire. 890 00:48:49,300 --> 00:48:52,400 These are fun, 5 IC to your parents, just get ready. 891 00:48:52,600 --> 00:48:56,000 Let's Note 2 to Gibson. And just are you ready? 892 00:48:57,400 --> 00:49:02,100 Okay, to you, what's the best age to be 35? 893 00:49:02,500 --> 00:49:04,900 35. What do you say that? 894 00:49:05,500 --> 00:49:09,000 Because you're adding your twenties, which is crazy, but 895 00:49:09,000 --> 00:49:12,200 you're you're in and and I'm only 39 right now, but I think 896 00:49:12,200 --> 00:49:15,300 35 was a good age where I was still young and I can still act 897 00:49:15,300 --> 00:49:18,200 like I was in my 20s but understood like you know I'm 898 00:49:18,200 --> 00:49:20,500 mature enough to know better and to do better and and 899 00:49:20,500 --> 00:49:22,900 responsibilities are a little bit more real and I have more 900 00:49:22,900 --> 00:49:25,800 life under my belt. So 35 Okay, good. 901 00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:29,000 And what are you most grateful for in the whole world? 902 00:49:29,600 --> 00:49:39,000 Oh, my self awareness. To say, I'm tired. 903 00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:45,200 Come take these kids. I need to sleep, or I need a 904 00:49:45,207 --> 00:49:47,700 vacation or, you know, like my self awareness. 905 00:49:47,700 --> 00:49:51,800 Yes, yes. And if someone could play you on 906 00:49:51,800 --> 00:50:10,300 TV, who would you choose? But she plays the lead role 907 00:50:10,300 --> 00:50:14,800 Jacks and that. That Hulu series, man. 908 00:50:15,800 --> 00:50:19,800 I don't remember the name of the who Reasonable Doubt and carry. 909 00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:24,500 One I said, Kerry Washington, that's her project and it's the 910 00:50:24,500 --> 00:50:26,900 league. The role of Reasonable Doubt. 911 00:50:27,100 --> 00:50:30,700 And I don't know that actress's name, but I would want they 912 00:50:30,700 --> 00:50:32,400 need. I want her to. 913 00:50:33,000 --> 00:50:33,800 Yeah. Okay. 914 00:50:33,800 --> 00:50:35,700 You would cast her in the role of you. 915 00:50:36,400 --> 00:50:38,200 Yes, I would. Absolutely. 916 00:50:38,300 --> 00:50:44,900 I will cast her in the role of her name on TV is Jack Stewart 917 00:50:45,100 --> 00:50:47,700 and her. Real name is I'm a yahtzee 918 00:50:47,800 --> 00:50:48,700 Carmen's. Ellie. 919 00:50:49,500 --> 00:50:52,300 Oh, and that would be, who you would cast. 920 00:50:53,000 --> 00:50:55,500 Interesting check it out because I don't know, I don't know her. 921 00:50:56,200 --> 00:50:59,600 Hey, I love her presence. She's a brown girl like me. 922 00:50:59,600 --> 00:51:01,900 She's Tight. Hey, she's a lawyer and I'm 923 00:51:01,900 --> 00:51:04,000 like, yes, it's the same. There's some correlation 924 00:51:04,000 --> 00:51:05,500 between, being a lawyer, being a nurse. 925 00:51:05,500 --> 00:51:06,600 Yes. Yes. 926 00:51:11,100 --> 00:51:14,300 Well guys, you heard it here first, thank you for coming to 927 00:51:14,308 --> 00:51:17,800 the doctor's podcast and chatting with my audience today. 928 00:51:17,800 --> 00:51:20,600 Tiffany. 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